Choices: Weight Loss, Diet, Food & Health

I came into contact with Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine in 2005 when I was very overweight – twice the size I should be for my frame. I ate to bury all the things I didn’t want to look at, all the hurts I had felt and buried which I turned into anger against everyone. By attending the healing courses and having sessions with Universal Medicine practitioners I began to deal with the hurts and the anger, until I got to the point where I could see really clearly that the anger I felt and dumped on everyone was the anger I had against ME as I had not made the choices I could have to stop the hurt from happening in the first place. I was just scapegoating everyone else for my own choice not to look after myself!

So step by slow step I started to make choices to look after myself. Then, working with Serge, I made choices that lead to me losing half my body weight. I began to look at what I was eating in terms of how it affected me from day to day. I knew that what I was eating was making me feel less than good, so I chose to cut some things out of my diet to see how it went. I tried to re-introduce them after a time and listened to how my body felt as I did so. The results were impressive in terms of how I felt in my body (very awesome) and what happened to the shape of my body (also very awesome!).

But these choices I made were against what I had previously been told and educated in regard to food and diet. For example:

  1. ‘Bread is a staple and part of a balanced diet’ – Yet bread gave me chronic diarrhoea, bloating, cramps and candida.
  2. ‘Alcohol is a socially acceptable part of life’ – Yet alcohol gave me mid and lower back pain, nausea and a sense of not being me at all. This feeling of not being me would last for a day or more after I had drunk it, yet I grew up with the view that it is socially acceptable to be this way, and it’s sought after and laughed about, how does that make sense?
  3. ‘Milk, cheese and dairy are the building blocks for the body’ – Yet dairy products made my nose run constantly, gave me tinitus and yet more diarrhoea.
  4. ‘Chocolate is a treat we can give ourselves for working hard and being good’ – Yet after the initial three minute yummy rush, it made me feel like I didn’t have a body at all, I was just numbed out and so happy to be numb! I questioned how is not feeling a treat?
  5. ‘Fruit is a part of a healthy diet’ – Yet I had more diarrhoea and as much of a powerful sugar rush and fuzzy cotton wool head as I had from chocolate. A sharp green apple is all I could tolerate.
  6. ‘Rice, corn, potatoes, pasta and other carbs are necessary to keep us going through the day, they stop us falling asleep mid afternoon’ – Yet they rapidly turn to sugar in the bloodstream and made me sleepy by 3pm, they also gave me a sugar rush, bloating and more diarrhoea.

All of this made me realise that what we are told about health / food / weight was not necessarily the truth. If we reflect on the state of our bodies in this world today, what are they telling us? We live in a world where cancer is 1 in 3, diabetes is the fastest growing disease on the face of the planet, illness and disease are out of control and more people are getting obese than at any other time in our history. That says a lot about how we are eating.

Listening to conventional knowledge about food created my body to be the size it was. The consequence of my choices to eat this way were taking a huge toll on my body. I certainly fell for everything I was told by health experts and pharmaceutical companies because it was easier than having to notice what impact my food and drinking habits had.

The news today is exposing what is happening in the food and beverage industry and how we have consumed. For example:

  • Almost two-thirds of people rely on alcohol to relax in the evenings, the charity ‘Drinkaware’ has warned. Drinkaware warns that alcohol might appear to aid stress but often makes things worse. (1)
  • Dr William Davies, a preventative cardiologist who practises in the USA reports in his new book ‘Wheat Belly’ that wheat is so bad for your health that it should carry a government health warning. (2)
  • The Guardian newspapers reports ‘Sugar addiction is making our children fat. Smoking and alcohol dangers are known and regulated, so why are the risks posed by junk food not taken seriously?’. (3)
  • Why our food is making us fat? We are on average three stone heavier than we were in the 60’s. We have unwittingly become sugar addicts. (4)

I started to look at why I used food, alcohol, coffee, tea and cola, to bury and hide what I was feeling. I recall feeling scared of feeling, simply because it hurt and I worried I would get lost in that hurt and be stuck there. I found that healing the hurts did not mean getting lost, it meant getting myself back.

I did not do this alone, I had help to do this and it’s an ongoing journey for me to listen to my body. I had a lifetime of looking for a true way to heal. I’d tried everything, all kinds of spiritual ‘healing’ methods and nothing worked. Yet at the first course I attended with Universal Medicine I felt the truth in my body for the first time. It was here that I was offered a true reflection of what my life could be if I started to take responsibility for my choices. It wasn’t what anyone told me, it was always me feeling me. Before this I would never have admitted to the fact that I lied to myself and numbed myself out of existence.

I know that in my life I have invested so much of me looking for what the world was telling me – what I should do and what I should be. I constantly sought to ‘be something’ for the world. I ignored myself and any connection with who I truly am inside. If I didn’t meet what I thought the world wanted of me, most of the time I’d fall into self-loathing and beating myself up for not being enough. The demands of the world were always more important than me.

But by allowing myself to be me, means I can be with me in the world and not get lost in what the world demands.

I consider myself to be very fortunate to have stumbled upon Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon. He has supported me to change a life that was not serving me or anyone around me. He never told me to eat in a certain way or live in a certain way, there never have been any rules. I feel my own way to live.

Serge Benhayon has the highest level of integrity and it is this level of integrity that is unknown anywhere else in the world today. It is in all his work, whether it’s in the modalities he introduces in the courses or in the presentations or books he writes. He is a shining example in this world as he lives what he talks.

by Ariana Ray



171 thoughts on “Choices: Weight Loss, Diet, Food & Health

  1. “I found that healing the hurts did not mean getting lost, it meant getting myself back.” What words of wisdom, and it’s really highlighted to me when I do something like overeat to deal with something bothering me that I am just taking me further from myself, but what I truly need at that time is my own care, my own ability to listen to myself and to respond with self-love.

  2. Eat to fullfil a human need, feed an emptiness or build a fiery body equipped to be of service, the choice is ours.

  3. I read and re-read this blog because it speaks so much sense. “I recall feeling scared of feeling, simply because it hurt and I worried I would get lost in that hurt and be stuck there.” How many of us have had that perception about feeling? We have an opportunity to accept that those that purport to love us dearly are equally capable of hurting us and as hard as this truth may be to accept, when we bring understanding to why people behave the way they do it offers a freedom to release each other from the contracts that have bound us.

  4. “If I didn’t meet what I thought the world wanted of me, most of the time I’d fall into self-loathing and beating myself up for not being enough. The demands of the world were always more important than me.” This is a great summary for how the world is set up often beginning with education when outer results become more important than who we are.

  5. Having known you since 2007 it is beautiful to witness your transformation Ariana and what a powerful inspiration for others and testimonial to all that Serge Benhayon presents.

  6. I, too, have lost a huge amount of weight since meeting Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine (see A Picture’s Worth A Thousand Words – with a Few of the Words on Truth about Serge Benhayon). Although I did change my diet it was not a great focus, the weight just dissolved away over the following 4-5 years as I made different lifestyle choices and learning to love myself through the support of the Benhayon family.

  7. “… what we are told about health / food / weight was not necessarily the truth.” Finding the truth by our own experience is actually a healthy choice to do.

  8. These days I feel more confident than ever to approach what hurts me. Sometimes I avoid them but I have lived experience that when I do feel them they clear almost instantly. They aren’t as scary nor bigger than me than I can think they are.

  9. It is quite easy to talk about things, but to truly live them can be another story. Serge Benhayon lives what he talks and that is why his words are so powerful because they come from a living wisdom, that is beyond his own actually. The way he lives taps into a Universal Wisdom that is there for each and every one of us. When words come from a livingness they have much more power and are much more inspiring.

  10. “The demands of the world were always more important than me.” And that is what we get taught, that we need to fit in into the world instead of bringing our wisdom to it. Serge Benhayon has been showing that there is another way to live in this world, where we can be vital and strong and tender and still meet the demands of daily life.

    1. Yes, it takes commitment and a willingness to understand purpose. There is a very different way to live life than to feel ‘the demands of the world are more important than me’.

  11. Despite what we have believed for a very long time, weight loss has very little to do with the food we eat. It is an energetic shift that needs to occur before we can start to let go of the extra physical weight. Recently I have started to eat more but this has resulted in a weight-loss, the bloating in my face has started to disappear and I feel lighter and more free to move. I came to an acceptance that the body needs food, with this I am developing an understanding that food is important and cutting out meals can be very, very damaging to the body. It can leave us feeling weak and with this, life can seem like an uphill battle. Whereas when the body is strong, when we’re healthy and vital – dealing with life becomes a lot easier.

  12. There is no imposition but there is a cracking of the part of you that thinks you don’t have a choice and I love that! I love that I have been shown that I have a responsibility to others in what I choose for myself and I can see that as a positive or a negative. Count me in.

  13. ‘I feel my own way to live.’ What a beautiful thing to feel us and how we can live without any rules from without and to have support in living this way, what a gift. This is deeply inspiring and something that is needed for all of us.

  14. “The demands of the world were always more important than me.” I’ve been looking at this recently and when facing situations/behaviours from the perspective of feeling it in my body as Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon always remind and encourage the tension that would have just been stuffed down with food starts to come to light. Rather than eating or attacking myself for what I feel I can allow myself to feel the energy thats behind any situation or behaviour. This is far more supportive then using food as a cover up.

  15. It is clear that what we are told about what is a so called healthy diet is not working so maybe we should start listening to our bodies more and the wisdom they share.

  16. Learning to love ourselves is the one thing we are not ever taught to do and Universal Medicine the only organisation I know dedicated to bringing this awareness to humanity. Through Serge Benhayon I learned to love myself, my body and treat it with utmost regard and tenderness. This choice moves attention away from food to the quality we hold in our bodies.

  17. Newspaper headlines and journal articles on food are many and contradictory. No wonder people are confused and simply ignore what they read or hear. Many say “it’s my body and I can do and eat what I like” not realising we are all part of One human body and how we treat our body affects not just ourselves but every one else. The responsibility in lovingly caring for self has huge ripple affects for humanity. We all benefit.

    1. So true, because when we do not eat to support our bodies, how we move and what we do with that body when it is not optimal and fiery has a ripple effect.

  18. Most people I speak to say that carbohydrates make them sleepy, but then there is coffee to counteract the sleepiness –
    We have made food about what we want to eat and not about what is really good for us and supportive to get through the day / life vital and with true strength of the body.

    1. It’s true we use food like drugs, we have uppers and downers…we get very good at manipulating our biochemistry but this is so disrespectful and at one time or another the body is going to say enough is enough and we will have parts breaking down and many different illnesses manifest themselves.

  19. That statistic, that 2/3rds of people use alcohol to relieve stress / unwind, is a shocker. It still amazes me that alcohol is even legal given the number of deaths it is responsible for, the amount of violence and domestic abuse that gets amplified under its influence, that it is rammed full of sugar etc. The only reasons I can see that it is still legal is because its so normal, such a foundational crutch that is relied on by so many, and that the Government is making alot of money out of the extra duty. Way too much investment in something which is clearly bad for us.

  20. We often think it is easier to go along with what we are told is healthy and good for our body as it is convenient to be told what to do and not have to take responsibility for feeling what our body truly needs. But when we initiate little steps and pay attention to the detail we empower ourselves to change our choices that feel true and far more supportive for our body and our body responds to restore itself back to harmony and how it is naturally designed to be.

  21. Our body knows the truth. And it is our choice as to whether or not we choose to listen. If we choose not to though, eventually our body sends us louder and stronger messages until we are often humbled by being brought to our knees with an illness or disease. Then we start listening.

    1. Wouldn’t it be more intelligent to listen to our bodies rather than deny, negate and ignore till we are on our knees? If we are an ‘intelligent’ species, then I am not convinced, and have come to the conclusion that we perhaps have a warped sense of intelligence!

  22. We buy into so much about food we know is not true and we have a food industry to feed our demand in this hence our mess with how we eat, the obesity epidemic and our extremes with food. For many food is a drug of choice, and it provides comfort, numbness and a relief from life and how we are in it. Yet it’s just the end point – for we’ve chosen to numb or go into comfort long before we take a bite.

  23. ‘But these choices I made were against what I had previously been told and educated in regard to food and diet.’ It is interesting how what we choose to eat plays a great part in our health, and it has made me realise that the more we educate ourselves, and the more people choose to change their way of eating, that eventually food companies and education itself will realise that they too need to make changes in what they produce.

  24. Slowly my awareness has been brought to how I use food to block things out. As my eating has refined and I’ve allowed my self to feel more of what is going on inside me, the relationship has become even more obvious. When I get a knock, or have a wobble its fascinating to watch the thoughts come flooding in that make me want to bury those under a mountain of food, or the wrong aisle in Sainsbury! As the relationship develops I realise they are just that… thoughts, and do not require the action that used to so often be the next step in a downward spiral.

  25. Reading your list of the statements that claim milk etc is good for us make me cringe. Like you, Ariana, I was brought up to believe these things and now I have stopped eating dairy and drinking alcohol I am far more healthy – and slimmer!

  26. It is really a matter of 1+1=2. What we put in…we reap. For example, it is amazing that a known poison like alcohol is still promoted as it is. We still promote what we know kills our body.

    1. I’m surprised there is not more advertising on TV and in printed media with warnings about alcohol, and really there should be warnings on every alcohol product. If people still want to drink at least then they are more informed about their choice. I saw a video about a guy in England that has a terminal illness caused by alcohol yet he was only a moderate drinker.

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