by Jane Torvaney, Tayport, Fife, Scotland
Following the recent allegations about Serge Benhayon and how he has been portrayed in the media, I have been asking myself the following questions…
1. Has my life really changed since meeting Serge Benhayon and attending Universal Medicine workshops?
2. If so, what has changed for me?
3. What is it about Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine that has allowed any change to occur?
So, to answer these questions…
1. Has my life really changed since meeting Serge Benhayon and attending Universal Medicine workshops?
Yes, my life has changed – and infinitely for the better. Before meeting Serge everything on the outside looked sleek, ordered and smooth, yet on the inside, I felt a mess. I lived life feeling like a square peg in a round hole, using enormous amounts of energy just getting by. All the energy was put into keeping the façade of order on the outside, and yet the reality was the opposite – life was chaotic, stressful and disorganised. Needless to say, I was carrying all that disorder into my relationships too, putting oodles of energy into keeping the outside looking rosy while on the inside I was in turmoil and completely disconnected from those around me.
I had been looking for ages, without success, for something to help me. So when I first met Serge in 2006, when he came to Scotland, I remember feeling how extraordinarily ordinary it all was. There was no chanting or bell ringing, or feeling the need to ‘worship’ this man. All I felt, for the first time in decades, was that I could just be me. There was love and an ‘equalness’ between us, and it was simple and beautiful. It all felt very natural and just how it should be, and I left feeling simply me – something I had not felt in a long time. Not a blissed out, super-relaxed, ‘angels singing’ kind of state – just a practical, easy feeling of having been met and supported by someone who knew about love, who was living it, and who had inspired me to be the same.
Thus began the love affair with myself… and ever since that meeting I have been using the workshops and presentations as a way to help me let go of the destructive ways I had been living, and instead find ways to build something which cared for me and others so much more.
So, if my life has really changed for me…
2. What has changed for me?
Many things. For example:
- I feel that each day has an easier flow to it now; before it felt chaotic.
- I feel extremely healthy and energetic; before I felt constantly anxious, drained and exhausted.
- I laugh and giggle a lot more.
- I pay attention to how my body feels. Before, I would push myself hard just to get the job done, or to help another.
- I say no if I don’t want to do something (this has taken time – I hadn’t realised how much I like to please other people, but I am beginning to really enjoy saying no because it helps me!)
- My diet has changed and I am now enjoying food hugely!
- My relationships are easier, more rewarding and more enjoyable.
- I have lots of moments each day when I appreciate simple things around me.
So, given change has occurred…
3. What is it about Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine that has allowed these changes to occur?
My willingness to see that it was my responsibility to make changes in my life was the first step to making those changes.
By attending workshops and presentations I found lots of different ways to take care of myself deeply. It has not always been easy to change old ways of doing things, but it has been very worthwhile. Although there will be many who attend the classes using similar ways to take care of themselves, I feel my own ways are unique to me, and I find I am going through an interesting process of getting to know myself more and more as I try different things out.
Things are constantly changing and I am adding new ways to support me along the way, but for the moment, here are some of the things that have helped me so far:
- Going for a gentle walk each day and enjoying the feeling in my body as I do this.
- Being aware of my hands lots – e.g. feeling how gently I can use my fingers and hands to do things such as vacuuming, picking up the kettle or opening doors. I am having fun with this.
- Going to bed early.
- Being in a daily routine that suits me.
- Giving myself enough time to do things so I don’t rush.
- Giving people my complete attention when in conversation.
- Having my slippers at exactly the right spot so when I get out of bed in the morning I can just slip my feet into them.
- Constantly reviewing and, if necessary, changing my diet to suit how I feel.
- Always having flowers in my bedroom.
There are lots, lots more examples – these are just a few.
However I do, at the moment, regularly slip up. Sometimes I reach for a food that will comfort me whilst knowing my body will feel ‘yuck’ after eating it. Sometimes l rush at tasks to get them finished, or go into overdrive to try to get more than one thing done at a time, and I lose the consistency of my rhythm.
The wonderful thing when this happens is that I can instantly feel there is something not right; that I know there is a much better way for me to live and that I have numerous ways, both large and small, to bring myself back to be more caring and more loving. It is by being aware and being honest with myself at all times that I can still see it is my choices that really allow my life to flow easily… or not.
So UniMed taught me all about self-love, and from that I have developed how to care for myself in the way I live, with the food I eat, and how I interact with others. In caring for myself deeply I am finding my care for others and my connection to others has also deepened. I no longer see people as greater or lesser than me, but as equal. It feels like as I do this, I drop my guard and everyone gets to see who I am and what I am like. This then inspires others to do the same.
This feeling of equalness is at the heart of Serge’s teachings, and I can feel that equalness with Serge and his family when I attend workshops or listen to his presentations on audio. When a group of people come together in this equalness it is something to be celebrated.
If Serge Benhayon were a guru and I belonged to a cult, then surely I would be worshipping him – I certainly wouldn’t be feeling the sense of love or equalness that I do. I would feel separate, and deep down, if I were willing to admit it, I would feel disconnected to others around me. And yet all I feel is that we are all equal, and everything Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine do is to inspire, more and more, that equalness in us all.
So, a huge thank you to Serge. His love is a constant inspiration to me.
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
Jane your description of “searching for something” is felt by many, I feel for the majority of humanity. I could never follow one person but there was always that one that I wanted to find, that could never be found…Until one day I met Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and his family too. What an inspiring family, so loving, so supporting and to be seen as all equal no matter what credentials or status we carry is beyond words.
It is through self-caring for myself that my life has changed. It is far from perfect but a one life that I would choose any day than how I used to live in the past. The one life I will continue to build until I am walking the same footsteps as a master of life.
It’s true, to worship another I have to make myself and/or others as less than the one on the pedestal. But I don’t feel that with Serge, it’s not expected nor welcome to be less than equal.
I always use to give my power away to another who I thought had more knowledge or more wisdom then me and yet, I felt no more knowledge or more wisdom then them. It’s a no wonder I would become angry always projecting it upon another when I had to be honest, it was upon oneself.
There is no need to put anyone on a pedestal, as when we observe everyone as an equal then, we meet everyone as one.
It’s not just Serge Benhayon anymore; yes he was the catalyst to support people to make the changes always their personal choice of course. There is now a ground swell of students who support each other these people live all across the world. There is always a starting point but now it’s self-perpetuating as we all learn from each other and grow in our awareness it naturally follows that others by reflection decide to make more loving choices for themselves. This is how the world will change without the need to protest or march on masse.
Jane I love how you have broken up responsibility into simple terms such as looking after yourself and being gentle and loving. We think sometimes it is really difficult or complicated to be responsible but in truth it is simple and simply something for us to embrace and live rather than try to work out or get a degree in.
Responsibility is a key word in empowerment – when we take responsibility for ourselves and our body we empower ourselves.
Serge Benhayon does not ask to be worshipped. Nor does he ask anyone to give their power away to him or anyone else. He simply lives in a way that inspires another to empower themselves.
Actually one of the biggest reflection for me is that we are all equal. I have always known this however there is a difference between the knowledge of it and actually feeling it in my body. Now when I am talking to someone I look into their eyes and see that they to have this natural quality to love themselves and others deeply they are just not aware of it.
“I do, at the moment, regularly slip up. …… The wonderful thing when this happens is that I can instantly feel there is something not right ….” Developing the awareness to know when something is ‘not right’ and the tools to re-connect oneself, work out why one has ‘slipped’ is tremendously empowering as one can then choose to change one’s way of being with the result the consistency of being in harmony deepens. That is what Serge Benhayon presents and shows by his lived example.
“My willingness to see that it was my responsibility to make changes in my life was the first step to making those changes.” There is no truer starting point.
Lovely to read of the many benefits you are experiencing as a result of attending some Universal Medicine presentations, ‘ UniMed taught me all about self-love, and from that I have developed how to care for myself in the way I live, with the food I eat, and how I interact with others. In caring for myself deeply I am finding my care for others and my connection to others has also deepened. I no longer see people as greater or lesser than me, but as equal.’
“Thus began the love affair with myself…” I like what you share here about the inspiration Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine provided for you, it was the same for me. It is absolutely not true that we worship Serge… we are too busy getting on with loving ourselves!
You ask some great and at the same time obvious questions and I can say that since meeting Serge Benhayon and attending Universal Medicine presentations I have become a lot steadier and am able to accept a lot more than I used to as I’m coming from a place of strength, not given-up-ness. Although still quite anxious at times I am more understanding of myself and others, especially as I become more aware of the energies that are at play.
Understanding ourselves as a student, and that we are just learning allows us to just experiment and move in ways that may seem ‘wrong’ to the logical mind yet makes total sense somehow to the body, and it’s just a most beautiful and joy-full process that we can engage in, and in that, nobody can tell us what to do. Ever.
Love it Fumiyo – the allowing of being a student of life!
To me the gist of what Serge Benhayon presents is that we do not love ourselves and that actually if we start to look at the way we treat ourselves it is not very loving at all quite abusive in fact. That we have fallen for love in the emotional sense and not in the true sense of the word is because there are actually not that many people who truly love themselves so there are very few role models in our society.
There is something deeply settling in reading this, and feeling someone who has come to a place of understanding who they are and taken that to a deeper level in how they are with themselves, no drive, just a willingness to be themselves around others.
What I love about what I’ve learned from Universal Medicine is that I now know in me so much more clearly what supports me and what doesn’t as I’ve developed and continue to develop a way of being which allows me to more deeply care for and love me, and it feels delicious, and awful when I step away, and so each time I step back to me, get honest and feel those points where I can develop me … it’s an ever deepening relationship with me and all around me.
There is this myth or false belief that to change our lives we have to go OUT of our way, when in truth we can only change it if we go OUR Way.
That is a really great point Eduardo, and it exposes that it’s not hard, a drag, or difficult at all to self love, it’s more that we want to go in a way that is against our way!
This is an excellent question Jane and your answer is in practical detail.
I used to put people on pedestals those I admire musicians, sports stars, etc. It was a false admiration based on comparison (I can’t do that but I want to). It was always seeing myself as lesser and my idol to be greater. It was suggested to me that I couldn’t love or adore anyone unless I love and adore myself. Like Jane now that I am loving myself I Love everyone and I don’t love anyone else more or less because I know love does not work like that because love is for all.
To encounter something so deeply life changing which does require any kind of particular singular worshiping of another person is very profound. I love the practicality of how Serge Benhayon presents love in a way that is not designed to convince you to give your power away to him, but rather to simply live it for yourself.
Well said Shami – no worshipping required when we live the love we are as we can feel we are all equally magnificent.
Forget Casablanca, or Gone with the Wind…. “thus began the love affair with myself” – this is the greatest love story ever told!
Worshipping or following anyone is very disempowering for both parties. Within we are all the same and express with different qualities and ways that support the whole. When we put someone up above us, we don’t walk together but behind them, hence not getting on with what we are here to reflect.
Absolutely Aimee, we are all equal, and it is very disempowering to put another higher than ourselves, ‘This feeling of equalness is at the heart of Serge’s teachings, and I can feel that equalness with Serge and his family when I attend workshops or listen to his presentations on audio.’
From spending time at presentations by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I have found that when we hold each other as equals any judgment or comparison disappears, especially in the work place, it seems almost criminal now to even think of worshiping another or holding another higher than anyone else because we are all equal from the inside out.
” And yet all I feel is that we are all equal, and everything Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine do is to inspire, more and more, that equalness in us all. ”
This is so true Jane , the equal-ness of presence that Serge Benhayon and others stands in , lets one know the truth of the equal origins of us all.
Everyone Serge Benhayon meets is met in the same equal quality he holds for himself, there are no special people, no one that he puts higher than others and no special treatment for his family either, everyone is beautifully treated equally and that is a very inspiring thing to see and to be part of.
The changes that come with the Ageless Wisdom teachings are paramount. Yet, in simple words, it is all about working into the pattern of movement in life that brought you to where you are. Understanding it, healing what has to be healed and re-imprint it to walk in a way that is much truer to you.
Every time I make myself less I dishonour the fact that I am a son of God. Whenever I dishonour who I truly am and make myself unworthy I inevitably dishonour and lie to another as I am hiding and not bringing the true me to the world. With the enormous support from Serge Benhayon and Univerdal Medicine I am very gently uncovering the ‘real’ me, playful and full of joy to all that comes my way.
That’s an important, and lovely, point to share Caroline, ‘Every time I make myself less I dishonour the fact that I am a son of God.’
I too have discovered through the presentations and lived ways of Serge Benhayon that we are all truly equal. It is an equalness of essence, a pull up for us all to be who we truly are rather than an equalness of being less.
Isn’t it peculiar how the most extraordinary and longed for thing is for us to just be ourselves. How incredibly extraordinarily it is to meet an ordinary person who is simply themselves in a world full of people trying in one way or another to be everything but who they are whilst so deeply longing to be who they truly are – figure that one out if you can!
That is so true Nicola, and it does sound crazy where we are trying to be everything but who we truly are. So beautiful that we have met a man who has shown us how to live our extraordinary self in a most ordinary way.
Yes and not only is it crazy to try to be anything other than who we are but it is also exhausting and harmful to us and everyone else.
The love affair I have with myself is deepening every day. Who would have thought I could fall in love with myself? – certainly not me before I came across Serge Benhayon, in fact to even consider a romance with myself would have been out of the question! And the by-product is that I get to fall in love with the people in my life.
“If everyone is equal, how could I worship another?” – too right, Jane. And if esoteric is all about reconnecting with our own inner-most and live from that space to outward, how can we possibly follow another? I know there are so many phony teachings around that would say one thing and do another, but with Serge Benhayon, you get what you see. There really is nothing like it.
And in all the years I have known him he has never allowed me to give my powers away. He has always stood there completely equal and honouring my free will without an ounce of judgement. This has supported me massively with myself and others. When I find myself getting frustrated or annoyed I remember there is another way and there must be something for me if I am reacting in the way I am.
Thank you Jane, I enjoyed the simplicity and practicality with which you described the changes you have made. This was a great point for me “I pay attention to how my body feels. Before, I would push myself hard just to get the job done, or to help another.” This is something for me to really review, especially as it’s been a pattern to place others before myself. I find the body awareness wonderful, as it always supports me to feel exactly where I am at and make changes to support myself. This is particularly helpful when I’m in an old unhelpful pattern that feels familiar but is actually not good for me. The body expresses the truth about it all so clearly.
It’s great to come to a place where we see everyone as equals. For years I would put people either above or below me, depending on how confident I felt. Serge Benhayon has been an inspiration for me in that regard.
There is such an equality in what Serge shares with all he meets and he inspires that in others, and to hear your experience Jane and how that meeting rippled out and impacted on your life due to the changes you’ve implemented and experimented with over time is very inspiring. I just feel a deep settlement in you, in how you live and I feel that is what you offer to all you meet, a space to meet them as you’re more settled in you.
In my view it would be an odd thing for a God to create billions of children and then expect them to worship him. He would surely be quite a self-absorbed deity. Perhaps the truth is that worship is more about appreciating and celebrating the love that is innate within us all and hence supporting the expansion of it through our expression.
That’s very funny Richard about the self absorbed deity! It definitely doesn’t make sense at all. We are here to become all that we are born from.
Beautifully said Jane. Hearing Serge Benhayon talk about equalness for the first time was one of those moments when my whole being came into alignment and said Yes! I felt my whole self ‘sigh’ with an ahhh of appreciation for the truth spoken with no holding back. If we are to worship anything, rather than any one being in particular, it should be the Oneness that is all of us in pure equalness…as we were co-created to be.
It’s interesting that we put so much energy and emphasis on our image, what our life LOOKS like and how that fits into a desired picture – all at the expense of having a true relationship with our internal world, which at the end of the day we need to live with constantly, no matter what life looks like.
With laser like focus Rachel – you hit the bullseye. That internal world is there every day, every moment and while we might try to look away or create a picture of something else, nothing is going to work unless we first address this inside ourselves.
I can relate to feeling absolutely equal around Serge Benhayon and able to be yourself because of the deep love he holds you with, and there is no feeling of him being more, just a huge respect and appreciation for what Serge is bringing for us all.
I am discovering that true love never comes in a way I would expect it.
Inspiration is in bucket loads when you are at a Serge Benhayon presentation. Inspiration from what is being presented, but also in the faces and sharing of the other people attending. Their faces show that life is much more that most of us previously thought it was.
Appreciation of how far we have come and all the changes, growth and evolution we have chosen for ourselves in life is so important so thank you Jane for sharing your appreciation of yourself and your life with us all.
Reading this lovely blog it occurs to me that the more we love ourselves the more equal we feel with everyone else because we are not seeking anything from anyone as we are complete as we are. We simply share and express the love we have already inside us with all with no other agenda or imposition on anyone or anything. This is what is truly inspiring about Serge Benhayon in my opinion as he has mastered this.
Jane, you have captured how many of us felt and the changes that have occurred since meeting Serge Benhayon. I was also surprised by how ordinary he seemed when I first met him, as I was used to the ‘new age’ image of a healer. The fact that he allows people to ‘just be’ and feel at ease with themselves is massive and the ripple effect this has is not to be underestimated. If you think about how many people truly allow you to feel this it may be none or a few. We may feel superficially at ease with those we are ‘comfortable’ with, but Serge allows you to just be all of who you are, without any toning down or shyness. This allowing out of the true self is what is the real catalyst for change, as not being ourselves is hard work and draining to the body.
Jane you describe meeting Serge Benhayon as ‘…just a practical, easy feeling…’ and that captures it beautifully. Serge has never incited anyone to feel anything, and places himself on no pedestal. He has returned to who he really is, and at most encourages us to do the same.
Serge Benhayon inspires me to grow my awareness rather than to shut it down or tune out from it. As we all do feel everything all of the time, this is an exhausting way to live as you have to keep yourself distracted, numbed out with food or drink, or in a story pretending that you didn’t feel what you felt or as in my case take on being the ‘victim’ to the energy that was flying around. Serge presented how to observe and not absorb and how to discern energy and this has completely changed my life.
Serge Benhayon is a constant inspiration to deepen my awareness of all that is in the Universe and my responsibility for the part I play in it.
It’s always great to read what others use as a foundational support to live more awareness of who they truly are. There was a time when it was almost like I was standing on nothing, I simply didn’t know what I had, how to take care of it or how it all related to life. Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon continue to bring that understanding and support people to grow their awareness to what they are truly seeing and how this practically relates to life.
I totally agree with you Jane. The changes I have made in my life due to accepting that I’m worth it have been huge, and like you, I have only experienced inspiration from anything that Serge or Universal Medicine has presented and have never once felt to worship him or anyone else for that matter. The mere thought of worshipping someone makes me cringe, as I know that no one is higher than anyone else.
We are equal and it is lovely to feel that, ‘All I felt, for the first time in decades, was that I could just be me. There was love and an ‘equalness’ between us, and it was simple and beautiful.’ Gorgeous
This is really beautiful Jane, ‘Thus began the love affair with myself… and ever since that meeting I have been using the workshops and presentations as a way to help me let go of the destructive ways I had been living, and instead find ways to build something which cared for me and others so much more.’
It’s interesting how much attention and focus we put on the outside image of what we and our lives look like instead of switching that focus to our inner world, our beingness and realising that everything on the outside is simply a reflection of what is nurtured from within.
Interesting that someone could think that you or anyone might worship Serge Benhayon. He is a very extraordinary man but he is also a very ordinary man and he certainly does not give out anything that would encourage any adulation from anyone. Of the changes that you speak I have also made similar adjustments in my own life, purely from experimenting and finding out what works for me and what feels true. I do not have flowers in my bedroom very often and yet when I have I have loved it. I think I still am influenced by a belief that they will be competing with me for oxygen, as I was always told to take flowers out of a bedroom at night. My bedroom is big though and I feel that there probably is enough air for us (the flowers and myself) to breathe. I can see my next experiment in the making.
Beautifully said and I agree Jane, Serge Benhayon has never allowed anyone to give their power away to him or treat him like a ‘guru’, he is a man that lives his life with immense love and a deep wisdom that reminds us constantly we are equally this love too.
From a philosophical and practical point of view, reincarnation is the one philosophy that truly seems to make sense of the world, of why we are capable of equally acts of evil and acts of what we would call true good, for want of a simpler term.
Another life transformed with the support and lived experience of Serge Benhayon. Of course, it is up to you to make the choices, but Serge is a constant reminder and marker of what is possible for human beings to live on earth.
Jane this sharing is equally valid now as when you wrote it, if not more so. Without Serge Benhayon in my life and the everyday common sense of his presentations of the Way of The Livingness my life would not be the richly rewarding one that it is now and this continues to grow as I accept the equality and love that we all are. The Brotherhood of Man.
It’s amazing how much our lives can change if we begin to open our eyes.
So, so many people live a facade that everything is OK while inside they are a mess. As you share, Jane, it is possible to change and live without the pretence. What is presented by Serge Benhayon through lived example and the Universl Medicine Workshops is a guiding light to achieve this.
“If Serge Benhayon were a guru and I belonged to a cult, then surely I would be worshipping him – I certainly wouldn’t be feeling the sense of love or equalness that I do.” And if you read your words Jane and cannot feel that they resonate truth what have you aligned to that is not allowing you to feel it?
What has changed for me is to register and commit to what I have always known and felt and not be swayed by the environment, the media, my house mates, work colleagues, the public – all relationships outside of me but listen what is true inside of me and continually to commit to appreciating what I am feeling which is what I am equipped with. “It is by being aware and being honest with myself at all times that I can still see it is my choices that really allow my life to flow easily… or not.” – that choice is if you felt it you are ready for it!
“Thus began the love affair with myself…”, how extraordinary, a love affair with oneself inspired by another.
We are offered it all through Universal Medicine, it is up to us to use what is on offer.
Dear Jane,
I too felt the love that Serge Benhayon has for every single person, I have never felt judged by him, or put down.
I have been greatly challenged to let go of my own judgement of self, which was the catalyst as to why I was hard on myself and had an ideal of needing to be perfect. With out Serge’s love and support, along with support from esoteric practitioners I would never have known that this behavior I was choosing was infiltrating my sense of joy and wonderment in life.
We are all living in a busy fast paced world that is constantly trying to drag us along at the same unrelenting pace. By living in a way that cares for our bodies and considers our wellbeing equally we are (without perfection) in so many ways able to resist getting caught up in the complexities and momentum of the world around us.
Feeling equal to all is a very beautiful and deeply healing feeling, as it is so innately true. If we can accept that fact and allow ourselves to feel this our bodies can let go – it is like realising a tension that was there constantly and we only notice that it was there because it has gone.
This is a beautiful post Jane I can relate to much that you say here. I had no idea what self-love was until I met Serge Benhayon; the clarity I felt in my body through a deep connection with who I truly am was something I didn’t remember existed until I felt it again; with this came the overwhelm of just how much disregard and lovelessness I had been with myself. With this I knew I had to take responsibility for the way I live.
I love the simplicity and yet beauty in the little things you do for yourself such as the flower in your room or slippers by your bed… it is amazing the difference that each of these little things makes up as a whole in transforming how we view and treat ourselves and then take us out into the world.
Thanks Jane, and for the tip about the slippers!
Dear Jane,
Equalness, Serge Benhayon is the epitome of this word, and those of us that allow ourselves even the thought that we are equal to what Serge offers, opens us to the beginning of our own journey to live this principle in our own lives.
I very much agree with everything you’ve written here Jane, Serge Benhayon has shown me that we inspire people much more by the way we live, and what we choose than what we can ever say, he has one billion percent taught me what equality means, in that everyone should be treated the same, and it’s never necessary to look up or down at someone, because we are all essentially the same.
The title of this blog says it all. In equality there is no worship of one. I had never met anyone who lives equality with all until meeting Serge Benhayon. He holds none more or less than himself and inspires others to lives this for themselves.
Beautifully shared Jane, I can attest to having a similar experience learning what self love and self care was all about and learning to live this in my body. When i first heard Serge Benhayon speak, I knew as I listened to his voice I had at last come home, home to me and to my own love. To be met by Serge with deep love and equalness is so confirming that we are this love also.
Beautiful to read Jane. Being ourselves and allowing the world to see that is the greatest gift. And everyone of course equally can reflect who they are or not. It is a choice… we can be constantly inspired by another’s choices and the way they are choosing to live but all the while knowing we are all the same.
Jane your awesome blog showed it very clearly that to worship Serge Benhayon is nearly impossible – as it is so much more fun to love myself – that is why he is such a great role model for me – he lives what he is talking about.
Hi Jane and you are not alone with the changes in your life since meeting Serge Benhayon. Serge offers a way of living that requires us to take responsibility for our every thought word and deed. . . now that has to make a difference if we choose to act on it and also inspire others close to us to take responsibility in their lives.
Jane you make the indisputable point that if you were in a cult you’d be worshipping the leader and thinking them somehow superior to you,and yet you feel equality with everyone. I too feel this way.
I’ve been adapt at making myself less than others -less beautiful, less with it, less aware, stupid, missing the point etc. Serge Benhayon’s constant reflection that I am equal to him and to everyone, as we all are, has allowed me to no longer buy into this game including when others play it – either making themselves less or more. I know it’s not a truth but a game I make up to not step into my full power,beauty, glory etc. We are all equally awesome.
Serge Benhayon’s consistent love for humanity is deeply inspiring for me too. I feel so blessed to have the opportunity to learn from him. The wisdom he shares is absolute gold and deeply healing. Equality, love and truth is what I have felt in every presentation I have attended at Universal Medicine. My life too has changed dramatically from feeling exhausted to now feeling amazing. My relationships with people and work life is becoming more loving and joyful. With deep appreciation and thanks to Serge Benhayon for sharing all of who he is with us all. His love is always consistent and deeply felt.
Beautiful Jane, absolute true and solid. There is no such thing as a cult in and or around Serge Benhayon or Universal Medicine. Instead, there should be shared about the tons of love he brings and offers to the world. No word or book might be able to describe the fullness of this truth – but we can at least try. There is such richness and coming back to our body, mind, spirit and Soul – simply by the teachings and revelations book for instance. So everything that is brought to humanity by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine or equally his family (like Esoteric Practioner healing sessions) are showing the world that we can heal,love and unite with us All.
Thank you Jane, I’ve very much enjoyed reading your blog today. Your words are very true for me also in how life unfolds after finding Serge Benhayon’s work. Your words about falling in love with yourself really expose the media’s lie that anyone “worships” Serge, as students of Universal Medicine our focus is with ourselves and our own self love, and feeling inspired by the way Serge lives. And it is certainly about equality!
clear and simple – thank you Jane for sharing.
‘I no longer see people as greater or lesser than me, but as equal.’ this is a brilliant blog Jane. This along with many things have empowered me to live more connected to who I am and to people enriching my relationships. To live knowing that we are all equal is deeply empowering because it feels completely harmonious and loving to live from this wisdom of equality.
“My willingness to see that it was my responsibility to make changes in my life was the first step to making those changes.” Serge Benhayon presents that we all have responsibility for the choices we make that affect our lives and everyone else and there is an equalness in the true essence of love in the inner-heart of all and in connecting to our essence we feel brotherhood with all.
Serge Benhayon has enormous Love for humanity and this is the reason why so many people are inspired by him. He is pure and when you meet Serge or read the books he has written, we are reminded of True Love and that there is much more to us as a human race than meets the eye.
So many questions and such beautiful loving answers. So many loving ways to bring ourselves back to who we truly are. Yes we are not perfect – nor, looking for perfection, but “The wonderful thing when this happens is that I can instantly feel there is something not right; that I know there is a much better way for me to live and that I have numerous ways, both large and small, to bring myself back to be more caring and more loving. It is by being aware and being honest with myself at all times that I can still see it is my choices that really allow my life to flow easily… or not.” Self- responsibility – all is our choice, whether we live recklessly or with loving care – and our bodies show the result.
Equalness is not a word that computes in a cult. Indeed a major criterion is the dominant presence of a high-control self-made guru who all are required to follow – mindlessly and unquestioningly. For anyone who has ever met Serge Benhayon, it’s clear from the first moment that he is no more a cult leader than Winston Churchill was a seamstress. Both equally absurd to contemplate. Why is it that in society we love to mock what is true, sensible and more importantly rocks our own self-made boat of comfort and irresponsibility?
Hi Jane, I loved reading your blog and feeling the joy as you describe how you are getting to know yourself more and how self-love looks for you. Serge Benhayon and the Universal Medicine presentations inspire me greatly too in deepening my love. I totally agree that there is no worshipping Serge because he holds us all in such complete equalness, he walks his talk and in so doing shows us that there is another way.
Certainly Serge Benhayon acts as our equal brother. What I can say is that I don’t always act as an equal brother and try to follow something he has said or even try to worship Serge as someone who can guide me. Immediately I get stopped when I do that. It’s very clear that there is no space for worshipping Serge Benhayon.
The change in your life is indisputable. This reminds me to pay attention to how the small and simple things in my life are constantly changing as well.
Serge Benhayon has taught me to love, again. In presenting this way, starting with self love, it ripples outwards to everything and everyone else.
I have always appreciated the absolute equality that Serge Benhayon has always held everyone in that I have witnessed. He constantly presents the truth of how he lives but always leaves it up to each individual to decide for themselves if it feels true for them or not. This when you really think about it is the ultimate form of respect. To completely respect someone’s right to choose their own way or free will but at the same time to not hold back in any way. Very inspiring.
I agree whole heartedly, the inspiration, although huge in many ways has in part been to do with appreciating the ” equalness in us all.” I live and express more from this equal ness than I ever have before and it feels great to look into someone’s eyes and feel that metal connection through equality.
Great description of the equality that is offered for consideration by Universal Medicine and the fact that when you live in equalness, letting others in, people get to see the full , real you and can choose to be inspired by it.
Jane this is a beautiful to read and feel all the loving choices you make everyday that support you and inspires many others around you. I especially love this line -“Thus began the love affair with myself… and ever since that meeting I have been using the workshops and presentations as a way to help me let go of the destructive ways I had been living, and instead find ways to build something which cared for me and others so much more.”
Jane this is such a beautiful blog to re-visit as it reminds me of the fact that it was this sense of coming home to myself that I first felt when I attended a presentation with Serge Benhayon. No where else in my life had I felt such an equalness, or learnt the importance of self-love. The way I am now learning to live is much like you, playing with the way I move, creating a loving rhythm that supports me and listening more to my own body and the foods and choices that support me. I can see no better way to live the me I really am, than this and I like you appreciate the amazing awareness Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have brought into my life.
I agree this sense of coming home to what we already know is very beautiful and unlike many other teachers or philosophies where you are constantly seeking to know more because you are feeling you don’t know it or will never know it. Rather than trying to go somewhere or gain something outside, it is simply a return back to what we have always known but perhaps left behind.
Awesome Jane. I love how you have slippers at the exact right spot for when you get out of bed and always have fresh flowers in you room. Those bits were beautiful to read.
I love your simple explanation of Serge Benahyon and Universal Medicine: “…just a practical, easy feeling of having been met and supported by someone who knew about love, who was living it, and who had inspired me to be the same”. This too is my experience.
I loved the honesty in your blog as well. For some reason I was carrying stress about self care and “doing it right” or that there is this one way to do it, which came up to be discarded after reading that your way is different to others. It’s amazing the way in which pressure and perfection ideals hide away, and impact my ability to just feel and live my own way. “Getting it right” is still a big one as well.
I agree Melinda – it’s the same for me even though I know it doesn’t make sense. I have to keep reminding myself that my body does actually know what it is doing – it’s my mind that gets out of sync with all the ‘shoulds’ etc. Jane, you have touched on something big for me in your blog regarding self care – thank you for bringing it to my attention.
I Love how honest you are in your blog, bringing in points to show that you are not perfect by slipping up here and there, doing things you know are not supportive but it’s your honesty about those things and willingness to work through these things that would really make a difference. We are all people and none of us are perfect and I appreciate you bringing that realness to your blog.
Beautiful sharing of how you live your life Jane. Inspiring it is to feel the level of love you have for you and all you touch, in your everyday day to day. And you’re right there is no space for worship in equality!
When I first learnt about Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I adopted their ways as my ways, however, now I get that they were there as inspiration simply for me to find my own way.
Absolutely we are one in the Love that lives in us all, however it is a real delight to discover our unique expression of that Love for ourselves and all others equally.
“This feeling of equalness is at the heart of Serge’s teachings, and I can feel that equalness with Serge and his family when I attend workshops or listen to his presentations on audio. When a group of people come together in this equalness it is something to be celebrated” Absolutely Jane thank you for sharing your wonderful blog on how things have changed for you. Serge Benahayon is a truly amazing role model and will no doubt go down in history as one of Gods true soulful messengers.
Beautiful to feel the truth of this Samantha ‘Serge Benahayon is a truly amazing role model and will no doubt go down in history as one of Gods true soulful messengers’
Gorgeous sharing, Jane. I recognize a lot of what you describe. The line that stood our for me:
‘ I no longer see people as greater or lesser than me, but as equal. It feels like as I do this, I drop my guard and everyone gets to see who I am and what I am like.’
This is great foundation for love, for letting people in, for loving them and for each relation.
Thankyou Jane all that you have shared is truly inspirational. To have gone from ‘feeling like a square peg in a round hole, using enormous amounts of energy just getting by’, to living in a way that deeply cares for yourself and inspires others around you to do the same is truly awesome.
A great blog Jane, you have inspired me to appreciate all the loving and wise choices I have made since meeting Serge Benhayon. Thank you.
Thank you Anna, I agree, this is definitely how the Livingness provides such a simple way of living.
And what a beautiful love story about your love affair with yourself Jane. No bells and whistles but an immense amount of meaning and depth.
Absolutely gorgeous to revisit this blog again today dear Jane.
Along with the way in which you’ve shared about the loving steps you’ve taken ‘with you’ in your life, I deeply appreciate what you’ve shared here about equalness… That Serge Benhayon can inspire others so deeply, and yet not create some ‘false guru/idol worship’, says everything about the true nature of love upon which he stands. I have never, ever (in some 14 years) seen Serge allow another to give themselves away to him… never ever seen him personally lap up praise and approval from others. For a fundamental part of the way in which he presents and teaches, is that he knows that the wisdom imparted comes from far more than ‘he alone’. It comes from God, love, the soul… from a level of interconnectedness where we are all intrinsically ‘one’, and there can therefore be no notion of seeking grandeur or status (lack of equalness) over another. For in love, in oneness, we are all the same.
I absolutely second this thank you to Serge, and I agree, every cell of his body is about equalness, there is absolutely nothing cult-like or guru-like about him. He is just one ordinary man with an extraordinary amount of love and integrity.
“Thus began the love affair with myself…”
This is so cute Jane, and so true, in meeting Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I have begun to get to know myself much better and with their support and inspiration the love, appreciation, understanding and acceptance of myself is always growing and deepening.
Thank you, Jane. I really love what you present here so clearly. It has inspired me to take a moment and do a stocktake myself.
Your blog describes how it is all personal development of self love and appreciation, all inspired by a man that is exactly the same and does deeply care for himself and humanity.
Hi Jane, I love the way you have gone into the gentle enquiry about the truth of your changes and what the outcome of those has been. Feeling the difference in your life and body has taken you to a new quality and way of being, and feeds your everyday with a richness that wasn’t there before. Who wouldn’t want more of that. Beautiful.
Well said Jane – simple and straight to the point. I love the ordinariness in which you share here but how extraordinary the effect of the changes you have made – because of your “love affair with yourself”.
Beautifully said Jane, the simplicity and honesty of your expression was just so lovely to feel and read. It is so true that it comes back to feeling the love that we all innately have within and living from this in whatever way that is for each person. Thanks for all you have shared here.
I like the line “I remember feeling how extraordinarily ordinary it all was” at your first meeting with Sergen Benhayon, Jane Torvaney. I can completely agree with this and the way of living that Serge Benhayon presents is in a way ordinary since it is where we originally come from, so well known by all of us equally so. To the temporal word however the way of living Serge presents is extraordinary since not lived by many in our societies.
By the way I love the way you take care for yourself, “Having my slippers at exactly the right spot so when I get out of bed in the morning I can just slip my feet into them”. Although simple it feels such a loving gesture to take care for ourselves to the smallest details.
Thank you Jane for such a beautiful expression of love, love for your self, and all mankind equally so. Serge gives to us all the reflection of this deep true love.
through the inspiration of Serge Benhayon, I have also learned to be more self caring and nurturing. This meant that like you, I couldnt give people everything they need anymore, all I can simply do is be me. And its amazing that once we do this we dont feel more disconnected from the world, it actually feels like it is easier to connect with others on this basis.
A super delight to read this blog this morning Jane. Of all the things I have learned from attending courses and presentations by Serge Benhayon is the fact that we are all equal… all equal in love. This has transformed my life, as in the past I always kept myself small and made myself less than others. Thank you indeed to Serge and Universal Medicine for his commitment and love for humanity in presenting a way to live that has transformed so many people’s lives.
Great blog Jane. It highlights the importance of honouring our body with the choices we make, but also the need to establish a supportive foundation for our daily living.
‘Thus began the love affair with myself’ – I love that…. what a gorgeous way to live your life.
Great title and blog Jane! If we are all equal (as we are), worshiping other does not make any sense. That blows the cult and guru allegations out of the water.
Jane, just lovely. I love the ways you support you and, as you say, the ordinariness of it all and how it’s about making those choices for us in our own ways to support us in being fully us in a day by day rhythm of living.
Thank you Jane I love your questions and sharing your experience of learning to self-care: ‘I feel my own ways are unique to me, and I find I am going through an interesting process of getting to know myself more and more as I try different things out.’ Being inspired by Serge Benhayon to find our own ways to live the truths that he presents is the complete antithesis of being in a cult which feels to me is all about control. It is so inspiring to be treated as equal and take responsibility for turning my own life around one choice at a time.
So beautiful Jane. Everyone is equal and when we deeply feel this and express this … every single day is filled with amazing opportunites to evolve together. ✨
Beautiful Jane, a question worth answering, and you have done a great job of it. Very inspiring!
Hi Jane, you write that when you slip up you “can instantly feel there is something not right; that I know there is a much better way for me to live and that I have numerous ways, both large and small, to bring myself back” – I too have this experience and it is priceless. Before I met Serge Benhayon I didn’t know there was another way to live but now that I have discovered it (and it is sooooooooo simple) it has given me an enormous freedom to make my own choice as to how I want to be, live and feel.
It is so marvellous for the inner and the outer aspects of one’s life to be in harmony, as it now is, as you so lovingly express in your way of living having met Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
Reading this again I realise one of the greatest things I have found from Universal Medicine is in honing my awareness so that I can at any time be honest enough to know what kind of energy is running me…..and thus have a choice…..a true choice. And you have inspired me to have flowers in my bedroom too. Thank you Jane.
How beautiful how you express you, your care and daily routines – it feels lovely. And to know that it’s simply about being yourself and taking the time and care to honour that, something that’s missing in the world hugely – it’s such a celebration when someone is simply themselves, it’s why people melt with children, they’re simply them and as adults when we claim and live this as you have Jane, it’s a joy to see and feel.
Some great examples that you give of simple steps you have taken to start looking after yourself. They are not difficult, or complicated and yet the differences in your life have obviously been profound.
The truth is inside us all waiting for that inspiration, a spark of another to ignite the Love that we are to live and flow out into the world in our every interaction. Serge Benhayon has been that spark for so many, equally inviting all to feel the essence of themselves as he has done, and live from that place.
Beautiful Jane, what you express here is simple and the truth. There is no air of grandness, no ‘I am a teacher and you are the followers’, just an equalness. I love how you say he makes the ordinary look extraordinary, very true.
Dear Jane,
You describe so perfectly what I have experienced since meeting Serge Behhayon and the path I’m so joyous to continue on; learning to really take care of myself, to live in a way that makes loving sense to ME; To live from the inside out.
I searched long and hard too and to discover this incredible feeling of eaualness in Serge, in myself and in every person…is SO BIG, and I thank you for so beautifully putting it all all a page!
A great idea Jane to spend the time to sit down and answer those three questions about what has changed and how. I am inspired to do the same, so thank you.
Jane, what shines through in your words, is the fact that through Universal Medicine we’ve been given the tools and the support to make choices that we feel are true for us. With so much going on in the world, the pressures and the demands can be hard to cope with, and can often become too much. Instead of ‘managing’ this, for the first time I felt I had the support to approach life differently.
I agree David meeting Serge Benhayon I too felt this for the first time, that I had the support to approach life differently. It has not always been easy to make different choices, as Jane is sharing in her blog, it can be challenging – but it is very well worth it.
Hi Jane, this is a great blog. I love the questions and the love affair you began with you. I also love the ending, “And yet all I feel is that we are all equal, and everything Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine do is to inspire, more and more, that equalness in us all.” I totally agree, the inspiration is there for us all, as it is in this blog.
Thank you for posting these questions and sharing your findings. It highlights for me too how I have changed and where I am at. It is great to take stock every now and again and allow for the bigger picture that can sometimes get lost in the daily round. it is also lovely that you share how unlike a cult Universal Medicine truly is. One can only have deep respect for an organisation and it’s founder that are living a life of profound love and service to humanity; that treat everyone as equal with the same care and exceptional respect that they have for themselves.
Thank you Jane and Elainearthey, the way you have shared about the way you live since meeting Serge Benhayon is inspirational, and therefore should be heralded as the true revelation it is.
Jane. Such a beautifully written blog. Gives one great strength on how to make changes in life.
I agree Mike, and this is such an awesome blog to re-visit. The way in which Jane has shared about the changes she has made in her life does display true strength to me also…
It is a ‘strength’ that doesn’t come from pushing yourself to climb a mountain if you don’t have the capacity to do so, but rather a true strength that comes from listening to the body deeply, honouring yourself in all that you do (to the best of your ability), and committing to a full life. This is deeply powerful, as is the honesty with which she shares.
None of it is about ‘perfection’, but rather deepening the love we live.
“Thus began the love affair with myself” – Jane, this sentence made me smile. Beautiful article.
This is a beautiful clear and concise blog. It has helped me to realise and appreciate how deeply my life has changed for the better, since meeting Serge Benhayon. A lovely gift, thank you Jane.
Jane. A wonderfully written blog. I love the way you highlight your bullet points. It’s a great way of staying with yourself and achieving your goals.
I believe these simple changes are pretty universal for those that have committed themselves to honouring all that they feel. As you have so clearly expressed they are not monumental moving country style changes, yet simple, loving ones that support you. The difference seen and felt is monumental however and that speaks volumes.
Absolutely Jenny, I agree, simplicity like walking ever day and expressing the truth brings a livingness!
I loved your post Jane! It so beautifully described the beginning and development of ‘you’ falling in love with ‘you’. I could relate to much of what you have shared – and particularly that I too noticed when meeting Serge for the first time and attending Universal Medicine presentations, that there was (is) no hype, drama, angels singing etc. and no feeling like I was ‘out of my body’ (i.e. that state of bliss that takes us somewhere else away from ourselves). Quite the opposite – I felt a clarity and a connection to my body that I had never felt before, and a feeling that I knew was absolute truth, and so my own love affair (connection to my inner-most) with myself also began….
So beautifully simple the way you describe how you’ve built more love into your life, Jane. I could really feel a deep serenity in you while reading this. Great way to start my day. Also, loved the examples of ways to stay connected throughout your day.
I love the way you have posed yourself these questions and found true answers.
I can relate to most of what you say – my life experience before attending Universal Medicine in 2008 was deep anxiousness and inner turmoil and now I am enjoying the re-awakening and playfulness within myself more and more . Thank you for sharing you!
Beautiful Jane, well said. The last paragraph sums it all up, “If Serge were a guru and I belonged to a cult, then surely I would be worshipping him – I certainly wouldn’t be feeling the sense of love or equalness that I do.” It’s one of the factors that sets UM apart from anything else I have personally tried, that its not about worshipping anyone, it’s about loving self and consequently embracing the true nature of equality. Thank you.
Beautifully expressed, Jane, and “hear, hear”!
I love the simplicity with which you share about there being no ‘big deal’ (no ‘bells ringing’, etc) – no asking for ‘worship’ or any such rubbish (which many do find hard to comprehend). And then you so refreshingly share about your own life, and how lovely it truly is. I am inspired by the delicacy of all of your words – would love to see them read by many. Thank you.
Thank you so much Jane I love how you have shared the changes to your life from being more loving of yourself in such a simple, practical and relatable way. Especially that there was no blissed ” singing with angels ” when you met Serge Benhayon – just being left to feel your own love from being met by a man who lives his truth and love in complete equalness to everyone else. You and your body are living proof that listening to your body and choosing supportive gentle ways of moving and living in that body works!!!
Thank you Jane for so many beautiful reminders here, I have been brought right back in to my body reading what you have shared. Thank you for the healing. Mary-Lou
Oh Jane, love what you have written, such truth expressed with such love and simplicity thank you.