by Rebecca Wingrave
I spent about 20 years of my life drinking, partying, trying to be ‘one of the lads’ and generally having a complete lack of self-worth. I got really ill as a teenager from overindulgence in alcohol, but just carried on as it was what I felt gave me confidence and was what all young people did; I didn’t know another way of being.
I began suffering from digestive issues and so decided to seek help. I was advised by a nutritionist to stop eating gluten and dairy and to cut down on my alcohol consumption; over the next couple of years I started to feel better. I noticed how sick the alcohol made me so decided to stop drinking it altogether – the problem was that my social life was based around drinking and my friends found it hard to understand why I wanted to stop… I really felt like the odd one out.
I attended a Universal Medicine workshop, and through listening to Serge Benhayon present and talking with other students there, I realised I wasn’t alone; I had finally met people who were also looking after themselves and who had chosen not to drink alcohol – I was introduced to another way of being.
Serge presented to us to feel for ourselves what our bodies were saying, which foods worked for us, and which made us feel bloated or heavy. So I began making changes; I refined my diet by feeling what foods and drinks worked for me, and three years on I no longer have digestive issues.
Serge talked about sleep times and how the body begins to rejuvenate from 9pm, so I began going to bed earlier and noticed that this made me feel so much better. He also presented about the tenderness we all have in our bodies: I had some Esoteric Breast Massage sessions and felt this tenderness, as well as a delicateness and beauty in my own body. This was amazing for me, and since then I have been allowing myself to feel this more and more.
I realised that I wasn’t ‘one of the lads’, I was actually a gorgeous woman. I began to dress differently, much more femininely, which I’ve really been enjoying; I take the time to massage myself and am much more gentle with my body – from not carrying heavy bags to driving much more gently and carefully.
Through this self-care and having the support of healing sessions with Serge Benhayon and other Universal Medicine practitioners, my confidence and self-worth have been increasing hugely… I feel much more of the real me and am letting go of the trying to be something or someone else.
I have found another way of being, a more loving, more gentle, more enjoyable, truer and more honest way of being; a way of self-care, nurturing and love.
266 thoughts on “From ‘One of the Lads’ to a Gorgeous Woman… Through Self-Love”
I read this again from nearly a year ago and I realised the changes within me. Alcohol is out, so I’m not worried by that. It’s the tenderness that is increasing. I had no choice as to what my body offered me but stop me.
So it’s like the tenderness becomes more tender. As the ‘lads’ continue to remain in us, until we completely renounce that, that is no longer us.
What a beautiful gift our body’s offer us.
Rebecca everything you have described here speaks volume about my story or background. It is far from perfect but I know one thing, I am less tired and I certainly have a healthier rhythm than before, when I thought I was healthy with strict exercise regimes and constant dieting.
For years I had been searching and finally met Serge Benhayon and I have never felt more at home. So thank you Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, my life is so much better then before, from inside out.
When we say life is so much better, its not about flowery-ness. Betterment is from discarding that that laden us down. Then we question life, and the meaning of it. What has polluted us for lifetimes that we think is our norm. When we make the choice to let go of this norm, sometimes we have to let go of the comforts and the drudge that is in our bodies. Sometimes unpleasant but boy is it worth being freed from its prison. Worth every discomfort, tear, or pain.
Rebecca I hear you, being a person trying to fit in, polluting our bodies to be accepted by others. And when you give up those things that no longer serve, the main thing being the drinking, people around you cannot cope or fathom why you are not social when it is the other way round.
From a very young age the so called norm is to drink as soon as you can and be part of the many that lose themselves in alcohol. And yet there is another way to live and still be social and it requires no stimulants.
I can totally relate to turning into a gorgeous woman as I have been taking these footsteps towards it, and I’m certainly loving this more and more as I discover more about me. I’m pondering on what is the next?…
Thanks Rebecca, isn’t it lovely to reflect on how much we have changed and how, as women, we are able to be more of our true selves? I grew up in a very masculinised culture and being a girl was considered second best, it didn’t exactly support me to be my natural, delicate and precious female self. Everything Serge Benhayon has offered in terms of workshops, presentations, modalities, etc, have all supported me to return to my true essence as a woman, I have never felt more like myself, more settled, and more sacred. I honestly don’t feel that what Serge offers women is available anywhere else in the world because women are usually kept separate from power in religion, spiritually, and even in the corporate world we can masculinise ourselves to ‘succeed’. There is a huge amount to appreciate in terms of what Serge offers to us all, and particularly to women as true healing and development of our power is absent elsewhere.
We are pretzeled from the day we are born, girls having to be a certain way and boys another. Boys/men do not need to be masculine, they are just as tender as women, so even they are not being who they truly are.
Along comes Serge Benhayon and presents to men and women that there is another way and ultimately the choice is ours as to how and where we take this…
Melinda it is good to reflect from time to time and see how we have evolved and for many of us, we know for the better. For many others, not. As often the reflection they are given brings up so much for them and that is ok. Till they are ready, we continue living our lives in this joy.
“I have found another way of being, a more loving, more gentle, more enjoyable, truer and more honest way of being; a way of self-care, nurturing and love.” – our innate, natural way of being and living…to have re-found it is a blessing and a joy we can give ourselves.
We are nurtured from day dot almost not to be ourselves; at every turn we are encouraged to look outside of ourselves. our society is based on this way of life. I can finally see the trick behind this way of living. There is an consciousness that is behind this trickery that we have all fallen for. This consciousness doesn’t want anyone to look within or reconnect to their inner most because if they do then the consciousness looses the tight grip of control it has on humanity. So then we have to ask the question is it possible that we are all missing out on a far grander life than the one we are currently living? What is it that the consciousness doesn’t want us to know?
Giving permission with oneself to be gentle and loving is something we all crave – both men and women alike, and it is such a gift we can give ourselves. And yet it is the most natural thing for us to do – and seen so beautifully in small children where the boys and girls are equally gentle with each other.