Going To Bed At 9 pm Makes So Much Sense

by Jane Keep, UK

Ever since I was a teenager I always got so tired by mid-evening. I would see my parents fall asleep on the couch around 9pm, and I too felt very sleepy at that time. I would hear other parents joking with each other that they fell asleep around 9pm too, in front of the TV…  yet they would continue their evenings until 11pm or maybe later. In fact, my parents used to get a coffee and cake at 9pm so as to stay awake for a further few hours. 

As I grew up I found that most social things happened in the evenings, and as I got into my twenties, the social nights out actually never started until 9pm: so I used to follow the crowds and do the same. In order to do this I needed to use something to keep me awake, such as drinking tea or eating chocolate. I did, however, find that I was always struggling to stay awake after 9pm, even with chocolate, cake or tea. I even tried a little alcohol to keep me awake, but that didn’t help me either. I would sit watching my friends leaping about when we were out, while my whole body just felt like going to bed.

Then came my relationships, my two marriages. Again, by 9pm I was always struggling to stay awake, and my partners would say “but if you go to bed now we won’t have the evening together”, so I would override what I felt by using tea, chocolate or cake so that I could stay awake and keep them company – whether watching TV or going out to a pub or movie.

It was always a strange feeling for me to be up or out after 9pm; it was as though my body had begun to shut down, yet I was still using it. It always felt like the ‘twilight zone’ after 9pm – a kind of eerie feeling. I found it hard to focus, and caught myself on a number of occasions falling asleep while driving after this time. The push to stay up made me feel constantly on edge, and by the time I got to bed I was so overtired I often needed to eat something to put me to sleep. But this put me in a constant daily cycle of sleeping restlessly, feeling exhausted when I awoke, and over time feeling resentful towards myself and others for doing this.

During all of this I would often say to myself, why am I not going to bed when I am tired? Yet it kept on going; it continued to place a toll on my wellbeing, and I was irritable too. What I found was that, when I tried to stay up later, the quality of my sleep was always deeply affected, as was the quality of my day, and the next day.

Then one day, at one of the first presentations I attended by Serge Benhayon, he talked about taking care of ourselves, our bodies, and that the most natural sleep rhythm for our bodies was to be in bed by 9pm, this being the time when our bodies were able to rest and gain optimum healing during the night: being in bed by 9pm and then waking up when our body was ready. This for me was one of my life changing moments, and made so much sense. I could now feel that my body, since being a teenager, had always been asking me to go to bed around 9pm. My body sighed hugely with relief. What I had always known, but had over-ridden, I now realised was my natural rhythm – I realised I wasn’t the one who was abnormal, as there was a natural truth in our biological make up whereby being in bed by 9pm was normal.

From that day forward I gave myself permission to go to bed when I was tired, and in particular to go to bed around 9pm. At first, friends, relatives and my family would nag me, but over time they all just got used to me going to bed early. If I was going out for supper with girly friends they would meet me at 6.30pm, and when I went out for meals with my mum we would go for lunches, or when I went to the movies with anyone it would be a Sunday afternoon.

I absolutely love being in bed by 9pm, and I love taking the time early in the evening to go into a restful phase prior to going to bed. I love the mornings whether it is 4 am or 5 am; to hear the birds singing, or to hear the quiet crispness of the day beginning before all of the usual daily noise/traffic sounds. It really is the simple things that make a huge amount of difference. Nowadays, I feel so much less tired than I ever did, and my body so much appreciates snuggling up by 9pm.

I now absolutely know I would never change my now normal sleep rhythm. I am always appreciative of the inspiration I have had from Serge Benhayon in confirming my natural sleep rhythm, that which my body had been telling me for so long.

1,535 thoughts on “Going To Bed At 9 pm Makes So Much Sense

  1. It is so lovely to be up early and prepare for the day. It gives me space and it’s like it sets me up for getting an early night at the end of the day.

  2. The early morning has always had a certain feel about it. As young as four years old I would get up at 5 in the morning and enjoy the stillness until my family slowly emerged out of their bedrooms. It still feels the same today.

  3. Simply allowing the rules of society to be re-written; making choices for ourselves that truly support rather than going along with the statistical norms… going to bed early and therefore getting up naturally earlier really supports me and is a far cry from late nights and despair when the alarm went off in the morning.

  4. Oh my, if I didn’t go to bed early then I know I would be far less productive during my day. I work super long hours, and feel great most of the time, yet I know I would not be any where near as efficient and settled if I had later nights.

    1. I’m unwell st the moment and my body has been needing extra rest, I would feel completely out of sorts if I was going to bed late and still needing to get up and do all the things that need to be done.

  5. I absolutely agree with you Jane. If I allowed my body to direct I’m always off to bed at 9pm because it’s tired. I have lived this way for many years because I was shutting out the world so I do all that I desired. The world shut me out in consequence as well. It is not difficult to know what is true for the body but no one can do this all on their own and every day this is an amazing learning, understanding and respect to myself and others.

  6. So agree about going to bed “early” like 9pm. The older I get the more I realise the huge support to the body and mind that this is.

  7. To keep going when the body ask you to stop is a profound case of self-abuse and a clear message to your body: I do not give a penny for you. Even if there is the illusion of gaining something by keep going, in truth, we only confirm that our lack of self-worth and our incapacity to complete things and move on.

    1. ‘Even if there is the illusion of gaining something by keep going, in truth, we only confirm that our lack of self-worth and our incapacity to complete things and move on.’ When we keep going and are needing to stop what quality are we doing it in? I know when I have pushed myself I have to go into hardness to do it. This certainly takes its toll on my body and also my relationship with myself.

  8. Early to bed, and early to rise… it is quite interesting how, when in this routine, there seems to be more time and space to get things done. Its a great feeling of being on the front foot, that inspires more can be done.

  9. I am always so surprised the difference a half an hour makes to the following day when going to bed earlier, we set up the energy and space for what is to come when we support ourselves in this way.

    1. Yes, when we do go to be just that half hr earlier than we may usually do, I too notice that in the morning, my body feels so much more alive and is ready for the day. Its like you take one step towards supporting it, and it takes two steps in response towards you.

  10. I would have the evening lull and then override it by drinking coffee or alcohol to keep going and would then wake up for a few hours. But boy oh boy, the next morning, does the body give us the truth of how it feels when we abuse it.

  11. The nights are drawing in already in Europe as we approach September – a great reminder to everyone to wind down and go to bed, although I love going to bed around 9pm most nights even if it is light. A few times this week emails have been coming and going a bit later than usual and I can feel a call to get away from screen time earlier in the evening and contribute that reflection in the world. I really love my sleep!

  12. When you get the feeling of overwhelm, disorganisation, and the fatigue that comes with this, going to bed at 9pm is a great way to look after the body, to start and re-establish a new beginning and approach to dealing with everything.

    1. Absolutely agree. When we realise we are out of sorts, we can take some simple steps and soon start to feel a difference – e.g. going to bed earlier or when we are tired, allowing wind down time before going to bed, observing the food we eat and the effect it has on us, similarly for beverages, and even ensuring we go to the toilet when we need rather than holding on as we are too busy to go.

  13. Isnt it interesting how far we will go to override/ignore what our body really wants to do? Going to bed when we are tired or even feeling unwell is such a great example. But when we do respond to these messages, the return is enormous in regard to the benefits as its not only for us, but for everyone else as well.

  14. Going to bed at 9pm makes sense, eating food that supports the body makes sense, wearing warm clothes when it’s cold makes sense, focusing on what we are doing while doing it makes sense. So many simple, yet profound things make sense because we know them already but have stubbornly denied this knowing until it gets presented to us and we can’t deny it.

  15. Whether it’s going to bed at 9pm, or earlier at say 7:30pm or 8pm – what makes sense is listening and responding to the body in what it needs.. because it knows.

    1. I honestly don’t think I could live another way! When I was younger I used to stay up and watch TV until 10 to get some ‘me’ time, which to most people is still early, but I would always feel the impact of it the next day as my sleep quality wasn’t as deep. My desire to check out in the past in the evening was simply because I hadn’t connected to myself during the day and wanted to claw something back for myself, but this of course was empty as it was devoid of any quality. Learning to honour my body has been really important for my overall vitality and when I need to get to bed early then so be it. I don’t feel I am missing out because my day has felt complete as it was as there is a much more defined quality to it these days.

    2. Agree – and in that there is a knowing that the body belongs to a greater order – a greater rhythm in life, universality and through that there is a natural rhythm for the body each and every day – it knows exactly when to go to bed and when to wake up when we allow it to show us.

  16. I had always problems to fall asleep when I went to bed late, it felt like I had been overstimulated by the choices I made during a long day followed by a long evening, often accompanied by a slight headache. Changing this rhythm in going to bed early and raising early in the morning has changed so much, like you say Jane such a simple thing but making a huge difference. I feel more ‘alive’ than ever and enjoy listening to when my body says, it is enough for today.

  17. The way you are and quality of choices that you make add up to the life you experience. It doesn’t get more common sense than this yet we all fight to beat universal law.

  18. “I love the mornings whether it is 4 am or 5 am; to hear the birds singing, or to hear the quiet crispness of the day beginning before all of the usual daily noise/traffic sounds” – agree, it’s absolutely gorgeous Jane; the stillness of the mornings and also the stilling sense I feel inside of me too is exquisite and really sets the foundation for the coming day.

    1. Yes I love this too, and when I connect to this morning stillness and space, it stays with me throughout the whole day. There is a greater flow to the day and the focus becomes more on the quality and depth of connection, and less on the doing, completing and achieving.

  19. Simple things make a huge difference and while it may seem an odd question to ask ‘why am I not going to bed when I am tired?’ … if children asked us this we’d suggest that of course they need to sleep, yet as adults we buy into and idea of when we should do something and we’ve created a lifestyle and way of living which is not natural for us. I know from experience when I get to bed earlier and when I’m tired that I wake up more rested and my sleep quality is better. Those old wives tales had it too … I always heard as a child that every hour of sleep before midnight was worth two compared to the ones after midnight.

  20. I was talking to someone today about how as a society we are determined to have a longer and longer day, and in doing so determined to keep the night at bay by a myriad of ways; ways that are often detrimental to our bodies. But as you have shared, our wonderful and wise body has a natural rhythm and by 9pm all it wants to do is sleep and heal from the day. By ignoring this call, we have to bring in a huge force to counteract our natural tiredness, a force that usually leaves us even more tired the day after even though we may have slept for a while.

  21. When I need to re-establish routine and organisation in my day, I have found that the best way to start this is to re-establish my sleeping routine and pattern, and yes, go to bed by 9pm, then everything consequently in my day or week some settlement of order is re-established.

    1. I’m finding this too Johannebrown17. The preparation for bedtime and sleeping has a profound affect on how we are in our day. Someone recently suggested that when we prepare for bed we are preparing for God and what we can be given during our sleep time. I like this, it reminds me to treat this time with the preciousness it/I/God deserves.

  22. I’ve often resisted going to be when i’m tired, usually as I prefer distractions to avoid the unsettlement I feel from my day. What i’ve been working on is enjoying being in my body and having fun with myself during my day even when i’m on my own.

  23. I’ve known over time how that when the day feels complete then going to bed around 9pm is easy and i feel rested the following morning, and that it only becomes a challenge or issue when the day has been spent not in this [quality] and there is thus the want to ‘make it up’ through the extension of waking hours, going to sleep much later and waking up feeling less rested if at all.

  24. Going to bed at 9pm, sets the body up beautifully to reestablish a new rhythm of consistency and sleep-wake cycle… you really do notice the improved vitality in your body.

  25. The more I allow my body to take the lead, going to bed by 9pm makes perfect sense to me because my body is simply ready to rest and sleep, and this last week I have been particularly busy with work and have found 8.30pm to support me better a couple of nights this week. In the past I have overridden what my body asks for and the next day I have felt that I am not as aware as I normally am.

  26. I feel so wonderful now when I wake up in the morning and I have been to bed the night before by 9pm. The sleep is so much deeper, refreshing, and reviving, it sets me up for the next day perfectly.

  27. I love love being in bed early, making the most of the evening unwinding, deepening and taking time to appreciate the day that has been, is a gorgeous way to prepare for the day ahead.

  28. Hi Jane, I have to laugh…here it is 9pm and I am not in bed…yet! And so this blog is a great reminder for me to wrap it up and lovingly prepare for my new day tomorrow which really is a repeat of today, another cycle and another opportunity. It is never too late to make a change and support oneself deeper.

  29. “In fact, my parents used to get a coffee and cake at 9pm so as to stay awake for a further few hours” – i used to do similar Jane and on the weekends start watching a film with chocolates and a cup of hot chocolate too – needless to say i typically fell asleep whilst watching the film, though wanted to watch it to feel as if “i’d done something” for the weekend, to max out the evening for as long as possible.. and wake up feeling shattered the next morning and really quite dull. These days going to sleep by before 9pm has been one of the most rejuvenating activities, and waking up feeling truly fresh and alert is irreplaceable; I wouldn’t change this for anything.

    1. I agree – and we can think we are missing out if we don’t stay up as though being tired and pushing through in the evening adds something to our days – but what’s the point in pushing through? I find I can do things better when I am fresh in the morning in any case.

  30. I have always felt the natural call to go to bed by 9pm, I just used to override my feelings for numerous reasons in wanting to fit in with others and in wanting to distract myself from the feelings in my body that were coming up to deal with. Over time as I have learnt to connect and deepen my relationship with my body, and take more care of myself, I now listen to what my body is communicating to build a more consistent and steady rhythm for the day with what needs to be done and enjoy feeling more connected with myself at the same time.

  31. We have made late nights something cool, something normal and part of life, something romantic in a way, something rebellious or needed in order to have ‘your time’ in your day. But many people also have the nagging exhaustion that never goes away, and probably a sense that they should get to bed a bit earlier. I gladly give up a few extra hours of checking out with TV or a book or music or alcohol etc, in favour of a bed time that leaves me feeling like i have gotten enough sleep for my day ahead. I work on making other things in my life my ‘me’ time, but in the sense of actually being with myself.

  32. Our bodies are so much wiser than our minds could ever be… we just need to honour our bodies messages – they certainly never give up sending them!

  33. I love the steadiness that develops in the body and in the being from having a consistent self caring rhythm of going to bed when the body feels tired and ready to rest.

  34. We are so artificially stimulated that we have lost touch with our natural end of the day tiredness and as a result may need substances to assist us wind down and even go to sleep.

    1. So true, we are numbing our innate sense to know what is right for us in every moment with all the stimulations and distractions at hand.

  35. When I look back on my life I had pretty much an early to bed early to rise kind of life, not having a TV made a lot of difference also. If I did have visitors I would stay up late to be with them but always feeling like going to bed. My family know my sleep routine and interestingly enough their patterns of sleep are changing also.

  36. There was a time when I would think that anyone who went to bed early was really quite boring, and I would be very judgmental of them. How that has changed! Having done this for some years now, I totally understand why anyone would want to go to bed around 9pm as it feels so great to allow the body to rest when it naturally wants to and means you wake feeling refreshed and rejuvinated the next day.

  37. This blog needs to be given to all school children, I know many teenagers and university students who stay up most of the night on their devices only to wake up needing stimulating caffeine drinks before doing anything. Knowing the importance of bed time and it’s many benefits should be fundamental in our education. If we don’t get the basics right – what chance does a child have then?

  38. Jane, I too love the early to bed early to rise rhythm that you speak of in your blog. Living in this way I can feel how this rhythm supports the harmony both in my body and wellbeing and also as you say we get to hear the beautiful dawn chorus and feel the quietude of the early morning.

  39. Letting go of the need for stimulation and entertainment in the evening as an attempt to substitute what we have missed during the day – a lack of contentment caused by not being ourselves – was part of surrendering to an early night sleep. The key was in living the day differently and thus being able to approach the evening differently. Sleep is not just a night thing, it is part of living a 24h cycle.

    1. Absolutely Alexander. It’s beautiful how we can nurture and nourish ourselves by just bringing a deeper quality to our movements honouring our bodies and thus ourselves, building on this throughout the 24 hour cycles as we live them….there’s no doubt that what and how we do each day has an impact on our sleep and vice versa.

  40. Going to bed at 9pm has transformed my life. I used to be exhausted and hated to go to bed, mornings were a nightmare. Now I spring out of bed ready for the day ahead. What a difference in the quality of my life! It’s amazing.

  41. My story is very similar to Jane’s, when I was younger and was invited to go places with friends in the evening I would feel a tension in my body as soon as the night out was planned, as I would have preferred to stay at home and have an early night. I invariably overrode my own feeling as I felt there was something wrong with me because of my lack of enthusiasm in comparison to the excitement felt by my friends. Now, with my understanding from attending the presentations by Universal Medicine, about how our body is best supported by being in bed by 9 pm, I realise that the tension I was feeling at the prospect of a late night out came from the fact that my body already knew this truth.

    1. I too can relate to this Elizabeth. When we start to listen to our bodies it becomes so clear how much they are communicating with us all of the time.

  42. “I now absolutely know I would never change my now normal sleep rhythm.” I’m totally with you on that one Jane and I know there are many ways that I have changed due to the inspiration I have had from Serge Benhayon in confirming what my body knew – whether it was about food, relationship, sleep – in fact many many aspects of life, that boil down to one way of approaching all of these areas, by ‘listening’ with the body.

  43. Yes, Jane, I have noticed that the best way if we need to re-establishing a day-night routine, is to go back to the bed time of 9pm, as it feels it brings the body back to order.

  44. I was recently asked to help with babysitting while friends are away, meaning the bedtime routine will be my responsibility – I realised that I could not help out until I first worked on sorting out my own bed time routine. The child struggles to go to sleep and fights sleep, staying up late and not surrendering to the repose of sleep – but I know in many ways so do I. I cannot be a role model or expect any other behaviour from the child if I don’t first live it myself. The deeper I can go in stillness in my bed time routine, the more i can hold the child.

  45. I’ve been getting to bed early for several years now – usually by 9 pm. I love it. I feel so different and have much more vitality. And I sleep so much more deeply, rarely being awake at night thinking about things. Heartily recommended.

  46. It never ceases to amaze me at how much better I feel when I go to bed even half an hour earlier before 9pm. I did this last night as I was feeling a bit unwell, and woke up feeling so much better. The body is remarkable at how it can support us to heal when given the conditions it needs to work most efficiently and effectively.

  47. There’s nothing like the feeling of having a rejuvenating sleep and setting yourself up for the day ahead knowing that you have rested deeply. I find that the more present I am during my day, the deeper quality of sleep I allow at night.

  48. The body’s way of communicating with us is to give us very subtle messages – messages that are never telling us what to do nor imposing upon us nor enticing nor persuasive in any way. It is a simple message that is presented in a loving and supportive way if we are ready to listen. However, there are other external messages that we get bombarded by all of the time, which are hooking, enticing, persuasive, offering rewards etc – and we can often get so distracted hearing all these that we stop to take note of the messages coming from the body. But this is our lesson – to learn to distinguish which message comes from where, and to learn to heed the true messenger rather than the false one!

  49. Many things in our society are set up and configured to not support our natural rhythms with late night TV shows, screening of movies starting late in the evening not to mention that night clubs and pubs operate predominantly at night when people should be sleeping. There is very little out there in our society that encourages one to have a rhythm of going to bed early and working with our natural body clock. As children our body clock is often very difficult to over-ride as our connection with the body is still so strong, but as we age and disconnect more and more, it becomes easier to silence the messages that come from our body. Sleep being one of our foundational recuperative and supportive ‘things’ that we do, when we compromise on the quality of our sleep and the rhythms as offered by nature, we set ourselves up for all kinds of imbalances which in turn can result in illness and disease. It is time our society looked at sleep hygiene more seriously in terms of applying this more in our daily lives and educating people about this – and who knows how far reaching the results could be!

  50. Not the fisticuffs type of fight but a fight of our natural rhythm all the same (which can in fact leave you feeling just as ‘beaten up’!), I fought my body calling for an early bed time for ages. However I got to the understanding that to stay awake beyond 9pm, deliberately so, was usually because I’d had such a full-on day that I wanted some off-time, or because I was blowed if I was going to give up my day so early! Yet now I totally love to be able to climb into bed by 9pm, knowing that this feels very supportive for the full days I still have yet now embrace night time as the rest, repose and rejuvenation part of that same 24hrs. Ah yes, – true R & R (& R!). Every day.

    1. Oh yes Rosanna, I can relate to this wanting some time off at the end of the day, like a reward for working hard! But the benefits of going to bed by 9pm so far out weigh staying up late that I look forward to getting into bed as early as I can these days.

  51. People often look at me strangely when I say I go to bed at 9pm, But over time, people who are around me regularly start giving themselves permission to do the same. It only takes someone to claim it and others recognise what they could be doing for themselves, and they start to enjoy it.

  52. I am hopeless if I stay up after 9:00 pm by 10:00 pm my eyes are watering my nose is running and my whole body is in shut down. I enjoy my routine of going to bed every night and I love to hear the birds as they wake up and start their day. The first bird to herald the dawn is the Robin, followed by the Blackbird and I have a wake up routine that is just as important as the wind down at night. There is a natural stop here to appreciate the honour I give to my body that I have not allowed myself to feel until now.

  53. It is great to revisit this blog and be reminded of the importance of honouring the natural rhythm of our bodies. For me it feels amazing to start winding down around 5pm, and handing myself over to a different quality of rest and repose in the evening, even if I am still completing things from the day. I always wake up in the morning bright eyed and bushy-tailed when I have honoured this winding down process.

  54. I remember that as a child I would naturally go to bed early and wake up early feeling refreshed, vital and ready to live the day ahead. This was a natural rhythm that I did not ever question. It was only in my teenage years, when I began to seek acceptance and a sense belonging outside of myself, that I began to override this innate rhythm that in hindsight, truly support me to live in connection to the joy I naturally lived with when I was being myself.

  55. I have noticed that whenever life become ‘busy’ and even a bit out of sorts, that they way to re-establish a flow back into my day, is for me to go to bed by 9pm. Restarting this sleep cycle, brings a routine and settlement to the body, so this settled quality is what I take into the next day rather than carrying over the unrest disturbance into my next day.

  56. I love the early mornings when I have several hours to wake up gently and prepare myself for the day ahead, and then to come back and honour my body by going to bed when it is tired which is sometimes around 8pm.

  57. Yes, Jane. At the recent Universal Medicine retreat we learned how important it is to find balance between being active and resting, so we don’t fall into bed at the end of the day exhausted but actually live in a way where there is no need to crash, and honour our body’s natural ebb and flow throughout a 24 hour period.

    1. Sometimes I have done too much in my day and have fallen into bed exhausted…. and still the next morning I can still feel hung over…which affects my day ahead. This is less and less now, as I no longer push and drive my body to do more, and often take a cat nap of 10/20 minutes during the day when I feel to.

  58. I always found it interesting how going to bed early is almost perceived as weakness, like your two weak to stay up late, to battle tiredness and choose to be a part of the crowd staying up late. But there is something really caring and honest about just allowing ourselves to be tired and go to bed – is it possible the reason so many people struggle to sleep is that they push their body past its limits of exhaustion and then expect to just be able to switch off? Its like running a marathon at full speed whilst also think about lots of things and worrying and getting involved in dramas as your running and pushing past the point when your body is like ‘time out!’ and then skidding to a hault and falling into bed and wondering why your body is not ready to fall asleep.

  59. It is super-sweet to be tucked up in bed by 9pm, with a body that is all tired and ready for sleep, so that it may wake up the next day restored and feeling vital. I love this feeling and I love how day after day with this rhythm, it never gets boring.

  60. Its great to be reminded the basic nourishment our body needs, and going to bed at 9pm is one of those foundations that initiate one to reestablish a more harmonious flow and routine in our 24hr day cycle.

    1. I love how you say the basic nourishment that our body needs. We talk about nourishment when it comes to food but there is so much more we can nourish our body with in all areas of our life.

  61. The very best healing we can offer our selves is a rhythm in keeping with our body’s needs. My body loves to stop around 9pm. It never argues as it is always ready and willing as this is always the natural end to my day. And this is how it has been for the last 15 years. It was not always this way as I would fight my body to stay up later but due to having made many different choices that is now but a distant memory.

  62. I know from my own experience, that if my body is feeling a bit ‘under the weather’, and I take care of how I treat myself and get to bed before 9pm, by the following day I will feel restored and back to my full vitality. It is really remarkable how the body is able to heal itself when given the right conditions.

  63. I really abused my body a couple of days ago shovelling snow and I went to bed at 7 pm and slept for at least 10 hours. Very healing for my body. Even better to not abuse it!

  64. It sure does Brendan and what a difference it makes. The way I get out of bed I find has a massive impact on my whole day as does the way I open my eyes and this is reflective of the quality of my sleep. It is like starting the day fully charged rather than already feeling depleted and needing a kick start.

  65. I remember the first time I pulled an all nighter. I was aged about 8 or 9 and decided to stay up as late as possible at a slumber party. We kept ourselves awake by telling scary stories (I guess because we didn’t have access to any sugar). I remember feeling awful the next day and yet it was the first of many all nighters to come. I now treasure my sleep and the way I feel the next day when I’ve rested the way I need to.

  66. Refining on this point, the difference between being ready for bed a few minutes before 9, as opposed to just going upstairs at 9 is significant. Just that 10 minute difference seems to make a world of difference to the next day as we unwind and are prepared rather then just trying to fit in that one last thing. Rest assured the next day will come round again and give us another opportunity to live all that we are!

    1. I agree. Nowadays if I feel I am pushing in the early evening for something to get done, I actually get ready for bed earlier, go to bed earlier, and set my alarm earlier, so that bright eyed and bushy tailed in the morning I get it done far more lovingly and productively than I would have if I had kept pushing through early in the evening.

  67. I find that my body naturally wants to wind down from the day at about 9 pm and when I honour this I feel so much more vital the next morning.

  68. The fact that we tend to get a lot of satisfaction from our social activities at night even if the body does not, says a lot about our true feelings regarding the life we are living. What makes it worth (the night) is only a confirmation of the general feeling of worth-less we have in and for life. So we keep building worth-less through seeming worth.

  69. Funny that how we can keep over-riding how tired we feel, and not put ourselves to bed early as the body loves. It is one of our little ways that we sabotage our energy levels, our clarity of thought, out capacity to serve in full, and even our capacity to have joy and fun in life!

  70. How often are we disobedient to what our body is sharing with us? If we took a snap-shoot of our day as an over-view of things that are there to distract us from who we divinely are then getting to bed early, so that we are more vital to deal with life and the many variables, has to be at the top of our ‘bucket-list’. And, as you have share Jane, ”I love the mornings whether it is 4 am or 5 am; to hear the birds singing.” So that when we are getting to bed early we actually have much more-space in the day with a vitality because of our “natural sleep rhythm,” which deepens our divine connection.

  71. “Going To Bed At 9 pm Makes So Much Sense” – what ever makes sense to the body makes sense to the one, the being, who’s living inside it. When we ignore the former the latter forgets its own sense and how come we are largely living in a sense-less world. In coming back to the body we come back to our senses and to a world that makes sense.

  72. To me it’s not even so much about 9pm, but about, If I didn’t have any sugar or stimulants today what time would I go to sleep… After all if we can only stay up late with something to prop us up how natural is it really?

    1. It’s a very good point Michael. I often keep myself up by reading or flicking through mindless screens on my phone. I’ve started to stop this recently and I’ve noticed that I feel much better the next day. Us humans can sure use a lot of things to distract ourselves.

  73. If anyone has watched young children, you will see that most of them do not and cannot over-ride their body in terms of pooing, peeing, hungry to eat, and…tired and needing sleep. I recall my son falling asleep eating his dinner one night, nodding off in the middle of a mouthfull only to find his head on the dinner plate! I love this – not in terms of having to clean up the mess, but in terms of showing us how the body is our marker, is our guide and has the intelligence to know that when we are tired, we need to sleep! So simple and so wise!

    1. I love it Henrietta and so true when we are kids we just do what feels natural to us, no rules, shouldn’ts or can’ts. Our bodies are very wise if we simply choose to listen to them.

  74. Funny how we can over-ride so easily what the body prefers to do – such as pushing through the tiredness in the evening till we get that second wind, or having that second or third or forth serving of food that we really did not need. I know this, and yet I still catch myself doing it, both with the sleep and the food. And each time I do it I sit with the consequences – feeling tired in the mornings or feeling sluggish from the over-eating. And I say to myself I won’t do this again, and then….there I go again! It is a comedy of errors! Until such time that I begin to value myself more deeply and am also willing to look at why I might be doing this…perhaps there is stuff for me to feel that I am resisting to do, and so this is a way for me to delay feeling whatever it is. We are very sensitive beings and so often we do not like what we are feeling or we think we can’t handle what we are feeling, and so we can use behaviours such as over eating or over sleeping to dampen what we are feeling. This explains the merry-go-round of unsupportive choices, and begins the real forray into what is happening for us!

  75. I am on a couple of night shifts this week which throws out my usual sleep rhythm. Having done night shifts before and after choosing to have a sleep cycle that has me in bed around 9pm most nights, it is remarkable to feel the difference. Because I have developed a relationship and awareness around sleep and the quality with which I take myself to sleep, I am able to take care of and adapt myself very simply during night shifts. Working night shifts also really helps me to really appreciate sleep and its restorative benefits ☺️

    1. I love this Matilda. Honestly, I think bedtime is one of my most favourite times of the day – not because I get to collapse in a heap of exhaustion and numb out to my day but because of how restored I feel in the morning and how my rituals preparing for bed are an opportunity to really clock in and assess how I am feeling. Another reason why I love bedtime so much is that I have invested in a really gorgeous bed, mattress and bedding and so to settle down and snuggle in is really one of the most gorgeous of experiences and I get to do this night after night. In the morning I never feel the need to stay hidden under the covers like I used to, nor dread the start of the day but get up, ready to go.

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