Reflecting On My Youth – Accepting More of Who I Am

by Greg Hall, Civil Engineer, Brisbane

Particularly inspired by the writings of Oliver Harling in a recent post titled: “Stitched Up“, I sit here reflecting on my days of youth and at primary school being referred to as a ‘Ladies Man’ (named after a popular TV sitcom of the time) – I didn’t mind being teased because I felt that the boys doing the teasing were really just envious of my choice to honour being me. I was friends with the boys at school but really did not like the way it felt to be acting up and playing rough games in the play ground to ‘jostle for hierarchy’ and prove one’s physical capabilities rather than spending time with girls who pretty much accepted me for simply being a gentle me.

By year 8 and the peer pressures of high school, I began to cave in to the pressure to conform. I hated playing rugby, always knew alcohol felt awful and tasted terrible too (chocolate is a far more insidious hook because it fools your taste buds!) and I found that the girls no longer wanted ‘the so-called’ me around (I wasn’t being honest about who I was, and they may also have begun to change their own ‘expectations’).

Spending the next 25 odd years becoming more and more ‘lost’ from who I am (that little boy who knew exactly who he was), meant that even alcohol and coffee began to taste good and I certainly only ever had any feeling of ill if I went drastically overboard – a long way removed from just a single sip warning me of the danger/harm by its taste…

Then a few years ago I attended a few presentations by Serge Benhayon that shed light on who I truly am and why I was so far removed from being me through the choices I’ve made throughout my life.

With all that gathered momentum, my life is a challenging ‘ship’ to make an about turn in, but I’m coming around and it’s with all these honest, frank, courageous blog statements and particularly Oliver’s recent post offered here, that makes it so much easier for all boys and men alike, to recognise they are no different – if only they choose to be, as Oliver (and others) has chosen.

… And to the younger generations reading these blogs – embrace the opportunity to choose to be you, it’s surely easier to swing an about turn on a ‘young jet-ski’ rather than in an ‘old ship’…

410 thoughts on “Reflecting On My Youth – Accepting More of Who I Am

  1. It helps bring so much understanding to our life and our choices, when you think of us each as these sizeable ships Greg. It’s a recipe for frustration and disappointment when we focus on small goals we want to achieve immeadiately. When we consider the whole trajectory of our life and those we have lived before, it’s then we get that each small step back to Love is a huge step for mankind.

  2. Thank you Greg for your writing, I can see how there comes a point when the journey takes its turn back on to itself and suddenly there before us is all the choices of our past. And with wisdom and experience this is when we turn to our youth and give all that we have, so that they may learn and be wise too.

  3. It is very hard for boys to stay truthfull to themselves as all around them demand to be tuff, cool, drinking alcohol and being interested in sex and communicate mostly truth social media on games.
    If you are tender open and senstive you get laughed about.
    The parents can support in this by living a true foundation of love which then is a reflection for the children to align with.

  4. Reflecting back supports us to see the cycles we are in and the patterns & momentums we can be tightly in for a longer time. When we look back we can learn and re-imprint that which we actually do not want to do again.

  5. …” And to the younger generations reading these blogs – embrace the opportunity to choose to be you, it’s surely easier to swing an about turn on a ‘young jet-ski’ rather than in an ‘old ship’…” Thank you Greg this statement is so true and for the older guys reading this , be assured a wise choice is never too late.

  6. I’ve read this blog many times Greg but keep coming back to it. I think it’s because I’ve been waiting to understand a crucial key: it’s important that we honour ourselves, but not purely through our lifestyle and taste but in the quality and energy that we move in space. The ship analogy is a great one here, for like anything else the momentum we’ve chosen for day after day has a legacy, so it’s only natural that like the tanker you describe it takes a while for us to change course. Ps thank you also to Oliver for inspiring you Greg.

    1. This is another powerful awareness Joseph – lifestyle + the quality and energy that we move in space is the key to slowly but surely change the ill course that we (the tanker) has been pursuing for aeons.

  7. The constant pressure teenagers are under to conform to what they know deep down is not true is why so many children have issues that affect how they grow up. Boys are naturally tender and it is this that is not being honoured either at home or school. Why do boys have to toughen up when they get to high school, why should we think they have to become hard to cope with the world?

  8. The way we parent and live our adult life is where kids can find their true support to stay themselves while growing up.
    The Way of the Livingness as a foundation in our life reflects a way that children can stay steady with. The new worldwide religion that shares how it is all found in the quality we choose to make our movements.

  9. Our main priority in life should be to never lose who we are but generation after generation seem to fall into the same traps and we get changed by our environment. I have a childhood friend who was a very sensitive person, grow up and get into cage fighting which just shows me how lost we can get when hurts and our environment change who we are.

  10. It would appear that we have all been programmed by a consciousness to live in a way that does not allow the truth of who we are to be remembered or expressed. I agree with you wholeheartedly Greg the blogs and comments written by students of Universal Medicine are profound and inspirational in breaking through the veil of illusion (the lie) that keeps us imprisoned.

  11. Wise words Greg. It is never too late to change the course we are on, if the course we are on is not true to the love that we are.

  12. When we look back on our lives it is so important that we do not judge ourselves. All that is needed is for us to recognise our mistakes and make different, more loving choices now.

  13. An old ship can go quickly as well once there is no drag , its important not to hold attachment to ill choices of the past , as this will for ever slow you down.

  14. I’m not surprised you were inspired by Oliver’s blog post. It was incredible and an enormous reflection for anyone, boy or girl who reads it. It really sheds light on why we may have made some of the choices we made growing up.

  15. We get trained from early in life not to be who we are and lose connection with ourselves. I see many young people who would just do whatever they get told by their teachers and parents and whoever is on TV, and would not even stop and question when they find themselves pushing very hard to study to get into higher education when they don’t even know what they want to do with their life. No surprise there really, if no one is showing them what it is to like to be and live who they truly are.

  16. I remember just how bad that first beer tasted and then marvelled at how quickly I got to like the taste. Same with Retsina, a foul tasting wine made with tree resin that after persevering with for three weeks as a student stuck on the island of Corfu with little money, it started to taste like nectar to me. So the lesson is that poison can start to taste good if we ignore the messages we first receive.

  17. ‘Accepting who you are’ can be related so often to the quirky habit you have – eg. an unfortunate inability to eat with a fork, this sort of thing. Whilst there might be some truth in this, what if who we are isnt actuality the things we do, but a vibration, a movement, a quality? And what if our natural state is grace, harmony and tenderness? Then accepting you, would be more about accepting this flavour in your body, in life, and not falling for the hard, frustrated ‘human being’ we can so often seem to be. Thank you Greg and Oliver for prompting this feeling in me.

  18. When we share both our experiences of life and our imperfections with honesty and humbleness its blesses us with the opportunity for us all to learn and grow.

  19. Thank you Greg for your words. I can feel the love and the support you offer to all young men.
    To stay themselves as much as they can as the price is high when you have to undo all those behaviors when lived for long.

    1. Yes I completely agree Sylvia – it applies to everyone boys, girls, men and women. In Australia last weekend we had the most amazing Girl to Woman Festival – which is there to support and honour young girls and women of all ages.

  20. Yes I completely love and was inspired by that blog Oliver wrote which I read yesterday and so how lovely to read your contribution today. What a shame that we impose upon our children, ourselves and each other in this way. Thank God for Serge Benhayon for living and showing so clearly that there is another way and also for you, Oliver and the many, many people who are increasingly living as their true loving selves and reflecting that it is not only ok to be your true self whatever that might look like but totally awesome!

  21. It feels so sad how we encourage young boys to ‘grow up’ and ‘man up’, taking them away from their tender sweet selves and harden off to be in the world. Is it because we have become so lost ourselves? I think it is, it is so incredible to feel someone be their true selves, knowing who they are, and not afraid to show it. And we can all return to this too, very simply, when we choose to.

  22. Great words of wisdom to choose to be you from the start, end the way we start! It is even harder for an oil tanker to turn around, from the sheer weight it carries, but it is still possible and worth the effort no matter how long it takes!

  23. We get divorced from ourselves at quite young age. Such traumatic experience shapes our lives for years to come. We become divorced, even if our civil status is single and we feel more like widows. That is why when we start to coming baack to ourselves, it feels like a resurrection.

  24. I love these words there is freedom in it ‘Choose to be you’ so often we try and be something we imagine or for someone else…let’s be ourselves naturally, no trying.

  25. What this tells me is there is much work to do in order that our younger generation can just be. That boys and girls can be the loveliness they know they are so they never have to ‘toughen’ up or be/do something that goes completely against what they feel just to ‘fit’ in. This also goes for the adults in the world and just goes to show you can turn ‘old ships’ around so they head back to the loveliness they also innately feel and know themselves to be within.

  26. Oh yes oh to be on a young jet ski rather than the old container ship I feel like a lot of the time! Taking 3miles to slow down to a stop or change course.

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