Cleaning my House: A Lesson in Trust and Honouring

A couple of days ago, it was Friday. On a Friday evening after work my routine has been doing the food shopping, washing the clothes and cleaning my house. I usually take my time with this, but sometimes I rush it or have a level of drive behind it because I just want to get it all done. Although there is a level of care behind my past actions, I realised I had a little bit of a rulebook approach when it came to getting through all my cleaning chores. This really means that even though I may have done things gently, I haven’t been completely listening to my body every Friday evening.

I like our house to be clean, to have things in their special place and to be organised with the many tasks that just have to be done. This helps me to not end up feeling overwhelmed with my list of chores, plus it feels nice to be in a clean and organised space.

Some of my thinking/mentality around doing the chores was along the lines of…

“I need to get this done – so I can have the weekend without cleaning chores”.

“If my house is clean, it’s one less thing to worry about”.

“If I get my jobs out of the way, I am free to concentrate on other things that a weekend may bring”.

I began to question the way of thinking that I had adopted and the beliefs I had around chores and cleaning my house… who would have thought that we could have so many ideals and beliefs about cleaning?

Then last week I chose to do my chores a little differently… I felt to do the clothes washing on the Thursday after work, leaving less chores for Friday. I left work a little later and actually questioned if I should do everything on the Friday afternoon. As I drove home from the school I felt pretty awesome and decided to strut my stuff around the supermarket while I did my grocery shopping. I decided that I would see how I felt about the rest of the house cleaning chores after the shopping was done.

When I left the shop it was 6.30pm. I checked in with my body and I felt that doing the other chores would be stretching it, as I was starting to feel a little tired. 

I realised that the world was not going to fall apart if I didn’t clean my house on the usual day in the usual way.

At this point I didn’t really know when I was going to fit my chores in with everything else I had to do on the weekend, but I knew that I did not want to rush the cleaning and… I wanted to honour what my body was telling me.

It just so happened that a little moment early Saturday morning presented itself, so I began to clean the kitchen cupboards. I thought I was going to do my whole house cleaning routine but at a more honouring pace, when a little sentence popped into my head…

“Slow down – you have to do it, so you might as well enjoy it!”

This sentence made me think: Enjoy It?… Why not?! What if I just did the dusting and wiping now? What if I cleaned tenderly and allowed myself to feel my tenderness while I was cleaning? The tenderness that I know I have in my touch. What if I used the lovely gift of ‘self talk’, appreciating myself as I clean with how I am cleaning, and how lovely I am re-arranging the things on the tabletops?

This took a huge pressure off me because I was no longer putting an expectation on myself that would cause me to potentially put my body into an outcome based driven-ness. I said to myself that I was going to wipe all the surfaces and mirrors in each room tenderly, then replace everything lovingly. This felt amazing; each movement and moment felt complete within itself because I was in connection with myself as I moved… I was aware of what my body was doing and how it was moving as I was cleaning my house. I completely honoured myself and enjoyed what I was doing. The feeling of each room was even more amazing after I had cleaned it with this level of care. I could see and feel the care and tenderness I had left behind in each room from my loving touch.

It didn’t matter that I had chosen to leave the hoovering and mopping to another time… what I had done was complete and clean.

A moment mid-Saturday presented itself for me to hoover, and then I mopped in the evening. My house cleaning chores no longer felt like chores but lovely little moments where I was able to spread my loveliness around our home.

Cleaning my house this weekend has helped me to further chip away at some small but still false beliefs and ideals I had around thinking that I had to get through in a task orientated way without any consideration to how I felt: some Fridays I had the energy to do all the cleaning chores but others I did not. These beliefs and ideals were in-truth stopping me from trusting and honouring myself and my body completely as the gorgeous and tender woman that I am.

I have felt a deeper level of appreciation in my ability to Trust… trust my body, trust my feelings, trust myself and the rest (including cleaning my house!), will fall into place.

Inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine

By Johanna Smith, Bachelor of Education, Perth WA

475 thoughts on “Cleaning my House: A Lesson in Trust and Honouring

  1. I had a little giggle when I read that you decided to “strut my stuff around the supermarket while I did my grocery shopping”. I am sure that the shoppers around you got to feel your glorious ‘stuff’ as you strutted and those who followed would have walked in your gorgeous foot-steps. What a wonderfully healing moment in time for all, whether they realised it or not.

  2. I agree with enjoying yourself . . no matter what it is your doing because it is you doing it. . It feels unreal sometimes when I do this only because it shows me you do not need anything. It also feels just how important you are feeling a whole lot more that there is to be done. This is when you keep enjoying what is that next thing and make sure you are completing it in full.

  3. When there is a joy to a purpose the task is effortless and leaves us feeling an ease within the body that supports our natural flow.

  4. I can relate to trying to get through chores or tasks in order to have “free time” and yet all the time I was probably rushing through things and not really bringing my full presence to the moment at hand. Unfortunately there is no true settlement in the next moment if we were not present in the previous one.

  5. Tidying a house in joy creates a completely different space to tidying a house in control. Both may leave the house looking clean, but only one will leave it feeling energetically clear because no drive was brought into the equation (e.g. needing to ‘get it done’) and therefore nothing was imposed on the space.

  6. I love that tou have fallen in love with cleaning! So incredible and so not how most of us feel about cleaning!! Inspiring oui!

  7. I also used to rush when I cleaned the house as I wanted to have time for other things, I have realised that cleaning in a driven and rushed way doesn’t really support myself or the home in any way, as I get to walk back through this imprint constantly. I now take my time and have had to let go of any pictures about the house needing to look a certain way.

  8. There is a way to do routine chores that do not make them a chore but something that is wonderful to do because they support the foundation upon which we walk.

  9. That thinking or mentality of getting things done so that we are free is total illusion. The sought for freedom at the end of it is not freedom in any way. Learning that life is never done is a valuable lesson.

  10. I just love finding this blog again to read, it has really supported me to have a different relationship with cleaning my home, I really value it and often feel how amazing the house feels when I have the level of care and quality. It becomes so enjoyable – this really is a miracle!!!

  11. We have been renovating our house and our new bedroom was recently completed. It took me almost all day to clean the room inside out and it felt so lovely to clean without drive. Waking up this morning I was appreciating how the room feels and our view into the trees and mountains is clear and fresh as the windows were sparkling.

  12. Great timing for me to read this blog. Today we are going to have a big clean and tidy in and around our house. There is a lot to do but your blog is reminding me to clean with joy and not go into drive and the mental attitude of ‘I have to get it all done’. I am looking forward to this big de-clutter and reorganising.

  13. We are made to cherish every single thing we do – for if there is something that becomes a chore it doesn’t just stay there but flows into every other part of our day. There is no task that’s separate from the truth.

  14. I am finding the more I let go and allow my body to impulse all that needs to be done, mountains of space opens up for me to do whatever is there to do. No stress, drive or push needed!

  15. By spreading your cleaning over 3 days you gave yourself the space you needed to enjoy the jobs that needed doing. I wonder how they would feel if they were spread over 7. Something for me to try.

  16. Love it! It is great when we revise what we do and why do we do it and re-imprint things. As I have found and as you have found it opens up a whole new space for us to actually En-Joy what we do .. even the house chores ✨

    1. I love it too Vicky. In the past, I used to clean in an energy of push and drive, and end up feeling exhausted and grumpy. Now, I re-imprint the way I clean with gentleness, love, and appreciation and the difference is huge. I can feel our space gets re-imprinted with love when I have been cleaning with love and it feels very nurturing and supportive. I now know when it is time for us to move we are handing over a house that has been re-imprinted with love.

  17. If our moving now is just to preempt moving further down the road, the quality of our movements suffers. If our move is to lay out a quality that will support our movements further down the road, the story is a totally different one.

  18. Clean what is needed at each moment rather than piling at the end of the week allows us to feel that its not a chore but how we move in every – day life!

  19. “My house cleaning chores no longer felt like chores but lovely little moments where I was able to spread my loveliness around our home.” A beautiful way to change our attitudes to cleaning – our choice – drudge or enjoy these necessary tasks.

  20. How often do we get into rigid patterns of doing things regardless of how our body is feeling? For me quite a lot and in the process exhausting myself and doing what I felt I had to do rather begrudgingly. Now I realise that is not a very loving way to do anything and the energy that comes with it affects not only me but what I am doing. Life is so much more simpler when I feel into what needs to be done and to honour how I am feeling at the time, and when I do everything flows so easily and when completed I can feel a loveliness within in me and all around me.

  21. I used to work in an energy of wanting to get things done but then I realised I would never get everything done because there is always more and it is not about getting it done but the quality (love / presence) we do things in. This changes everything and means there is a vital, joyful and ever expanding constant.

    1. Constant because it comes from the same loving energy and ever expanding because our connection to that limitless source is ever expanding.

    2. Beautiful Nicola, I love what you’ve shared here and it makes so much sense. I agree, with everything we do when we move with the quality of love and presence, we experience joy in all that we do and this can be applied to all areas of our life. Amazingly simple!

  22. Today whilst doing something I let myself slow down and enjoy doing it and it felt wonderful to honour myself in that way.

    1. Yes, I did this too yesterday Elizabeth focusing on my presence and quality rather than what I was doing. It felt lovely to begin with but I observed how quickly I went back into an old behaviour of doing rather than being because I didn’t want to feel what I was doing.

  23. ‘Slow down, you have to do it so you might as well enjoy it.’ I love this. Having been someone who often tries to power through to finish tasks I now enjoy slowing down and feeling my body as I move and do them, that gives a completely different take on many ‘chores’.

  24. Its great when we bust those old beliefs around house-work, where we ‘need’ to do the housework, to get it out of the ways so we can enjoy the week-end, makes housework a chore….whereas when we let go of time control, there is always the space to do some cleaning and tidying which is more enjoyable when we just flow with it.

  25. There are so many sneaky ideas in life that we think are just the way they are, and we do not question them. What you share for me really highlights how essential it is to develop a relationship of care and trust with our own bodies, so we respond from them and not from what we so called ‘have’ to do.

  26. An awesome reminder that we can “Slow down – you have to do it, so you might as well enjoy it!” in relation to doing my chores, because I was cleaning my floor this morning and I could feel how I started to rush, I just wanted to get it done so I can start on something else. I find when I rush, I harden my body and it is super difficult to enjoy anything when I am in this state. But it is also easy to snap out of it by doing what you’ve so beautifully shared Johanna.

    1. I can also very much enjoy doing things fast without it being a rush and also enjoy the completion – so as with everything it comes back to energy and not speed.

  27. Enjoy?!!?? Enjoy doing the chores??? But then they wouldn’t be chores.

    Definition of chore – “a tedious but necessary task.”

    But what you are presenting flips all of that for in fact if we are with ourselves and bring our all to whatever the task is then, absolutely, we can enjoy it. The more I do this then the more I find myself enjoying some of the most simple and seemingly mundane actions. And as soon as I check out or go into drive, then they become chores again.

    1. Brilliant Otto, this is exactly my experience. Once I go into drive or check out while I do anything, be it work, house-work, cooking etc. it wipes out the joy in what I do. It is awesome to understand this and even better to apply more joy into everything that I do. I am starting to practice this more and more. But when I slip back into drive, it is easier to snap myself out of it and be more present because of what I am aware of now and by being more observant of myself and things around me.

  28. The more I ‘trust’ my body and what I am feeling the more everything starts to fall into place and the less exhausting life is. It simply means I need to honour my body and attend to whatever is presented before me and not put it off until a later date.

  29. When I am in drive my body pays the price and often I will only listen when my body puts a stop to me through illness. There is nothing worth doing in drive.

    1. I can relate Leonne, when I am in drive, I am more likely to react to people around me and to my environment. It is a force that hurts our body and it travels further than we realise because the energy behind it can permeate through everything.

  30. Just goes to show when we actually take the time to listen to our body it knows exactly what is the true thing to do in any given moment.

  31. We can easily go in this mood in which we just want things to be done with the attitude that if that is done we can relax and have a weekend.
    This is a ill pattern as we do not care for the quality we put our body in at the moment itself.
    This blog shows us beautifully how we can do all this in a different way.
    A way that is loving in each moment.

  32. It is lovely to reread this sharing and to have actually changed how I am with my cleaning of the house, I do it all the time now instead of once a week, this has had such a positive impact on the whole house and I am enjoying the feeling of my home being more loved and cared for.

  33. Why not enjoy it indeed! The alternative is to turn it into a drudge, a chore, a thing that is joyless. I have done this often enough to know that I should never do this, but yet I can still set myself up in this way. It is becoming much much rarer though.

  34. If we’re locked into a belief about how we think things have to be done it stops us from sensing or connecting with what is really needed in that moment…

  35. When we trust and listen to our body things flow much better than when we listen to our mind alone that is just ticking boxes but ignoring the body. Doing things solely from the mind is like we let someone do all that is on a list but not checking if they are capable of doing it and if they need sleep etc.

  36. There is so much more to cleaning and completing other tasks when we move with a quality of presence and flow, honouring our natural pace and not allowing the mind to take control and try to push ourselves beyond our natural limit.

  37. ‘You might as well enjoy it’ I love this little piece of nugget! It makes such sense to actually allow ourselves to enjoy the daily tasks in our days rather than rushing through them.

  38. It makes such a difference when I clean my house from my body rather than what my head is telling me, there is a flow and a deeper quality in how I clean that leaves a loving imprint that feeds me back.

  39. Just allowing that little thought of I want to get the job done guarantees that all the joy will be gone from the moment and from the task at hand. It is actually not a little thing because it will in all probability also have removed the opportunity for joy in our next task, and on top of that, it will have offered a dose of joylessness to everyone we meet. All from allowing that first little thought, which of course wasn’t our little thought but rather one that was fed to us.

  40. There is no greater joy then being in the flow with life. Moving to the impulse of the universe, listening to the breath of our body and all it has to say. Cleaning in this was is total joy for me and it’s a great offering to all who walk the path after we have cleaned this way.

  41. I so love how practical and real your sharing feels. This is so inspiring as I can so recognise how I would have an image of how things should be done and at times how detailed they are and I often set myself up to feel defeated by it. Thank you, Johanna.

  42. Any picture or expectation is a perfect set-up for failure. It gets us focussing on something in the future we want to reach, lessens our awareness and mostly puts a strain on the body.

  43. The really cool thing is that when there is that level of care and self-honouring when we clean the imprint we leave behind in our house feel amazing, so it’s a win win situation – you’re cared for and the house is cared for and it’s like that care just keeps multiplying.

  44. This blog reminded me of how sometimes when I go to the gym and work out I find myself just wanting to be finished with the work out so I can feel good about exercising instead of enjoying each movement and staying present with my body in gentle movements that feel so nurturing. When this has happened, I instantly know that I have lost that connection with my body and fallen into an old pattern of focusing on end results instead of in-joying the moment.

  45. Cleaning with joy not in a push or a drive… who would have thought it possible but the loving practicalness of this approach is undeniable.

  46. Just imagine finding that place within us where by we did not tend to our chores, our work, so much in fact in a driven way, but rather in a way that celebrated… This is without doubt, the way of the livingness that is possible for all of humanity

  47. Thank you Johanna, I haven’t read this in some time. What a great line “My house cleaning chores no longer felt like chores but lovely little moments where I was able to spread my loveliness around our home.” And I also appreciated this line “These beliefs and ideals were in-truth stopping me from trusting and honouring myself and my body completely as the gorgeous and tender woman that I am.” I can relate to the idea of getting chores out of the way and being rigid in when they are done even though the body might be asking us to rest, but we push through to complete a task. By flowing with what you felt it opened a space to be free of those beliefs and express you more in full as you cleaned.

  48. Beautiful blog Johanna. There are many parts of life I want to ‘get out of the way’ but when I choose this I am robbing myself of the ability to enjoy being me and this will always be inefficient.

  49. There is more support and nurturing in one towel or tshirt folded with love than a million tasks ticked off in duty or obligation. We may not see it but the results of lovingly moving and doing what needs to be done revitalise our life. Thank you for this clearing reading Johanna.

  50. The more I have stopped to honour my body the more I have realised how we can get so caught up in the way all jobs around the house need to be done rather than feeling into what is needed at every given moment and then it no longer feels like a job but a way of living.

  51. Cleaning can be one of these jobs we just want to get done quickly so we can do more important things… Yet we miss out on enjoying ourselves in this way of cleaning, and why not enjoy each moment of the day because we are bringing ourselves to it?

  52. This is so funny in that I choose blogs to read randomly by month and in the same week I have come up your blog Johanna. Clearly the message to honour what my body wants to do next is being shown in bright lights to me! Note to self – Let go of the pictures and listen to your body!

  53. When we honour our own pace and rhythm instead of pushing and stressing out our body we naturally enjoy moving in harmony with ourselves and that brings a true quality to everything we do.

  54. I find it very helpful to find out why I sometimes do the chores with drive and other times harmoniously. What happened in the hours or even the day before as that seems to have a big influence.

    1. This is so true Nikki, and what a balancing act this can be until of course one finds the flow inside… And then everything starts to support everything else… And this is of course a great rhythm in itself.

    2. Thank you cjames2012 for your comment about finding the flow inside, it’s so different to the rigidity of beliefs and the “dogged routines” Nikki commented on.

  55. A routine that follows the lead of the body is much more enjoyable,a lot easier and more flowing whereas the mind takes its cues from a list of chores that have to be done, in a particular way and in a certain limited time, no matter what. The latter way of working is very draining whereas the one that is being informed by our body is very light and always joyful.

  56. Beautiful Johanna – your words here remind me that each action that we take, every move that we make is significant and of equal weight. The moment we see one as less we miss the opportunity we have been given to live with power and deliver God’s grace. If every moment offers us this, wow how many gifts do we refuse every day? And what would our world be like if we just started to open them up?

  57. I don’t plan or have a set day that I am going to clean. Of course I do the dishes after meals and clean up the kitchen daily, but things like hoovering or clearing the bathroom, when the moment is there, that is when I do them.

  58. In the past I would work all week and then on a Saturday I would clean all my house and the washing to do and the shopping, no wonder I was exhausted… so I changed my routine and started to do more during the week rather than leave it all do on the week-end. This felt much more loving…

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