Yearly Holidays – no longer Taking a Break from Life, but Enjoying Me!

Every year I get away with my family to an overseas holiday location: I have been doing this for so long that I have lost count of the amount of countries I have visited, the number of sites I have seen and the tours I have been on.

This yearly holiday was built up to be another exciting adventure that had been planned months before, even though I never actually read what I was doing and where I was going until the days leading up to my departure. All I remember was planning the trip to get away and take a break from life.

When I caught up with friends over the Christmas break I was frequently asked, “Are you going away for the holidays?”, to which I would excitedly reply YES and rattle off another exotic location or destination far, far away.

I calculated that, in my many years of travel I have logged up a great many miles and covered just about every continent in the world. Over time I noticed that my trips gradually decreased in length from two months, to several weeks, to a week, when I was often wondering why I was travelling in the first place?

Was it something to do with appreciating historical landmarks, natural wonders, meeting and connecting to the local people or was I trying to take a break from my life? These questions would often resurface and I couldn’t quite understand why.

Recently I returned from a short holiday trip overseas with my family. Whilst enjoying the sightseeing and connecting with the gorgeous local people, I just didn’t feel as though I was truly being or enjoying me. I engaged in all the tourist activities, relaxed by the pool, read a book, visited historical monuments… but felt as though my days were not being fully lived. I noticed I was getting very tired during the day, napping regularly and often looking for excuses to eat, even though my body was clearly showing me I wasn’t hungry. I could feel in my body that something wasn’t right.

The vitality that I know myself to have was gone. It didn’t make sense – I was on my yearly holidays!

I noticed that the typical tourists’ day consists of:

  1. Sleeping in,
  2. Heading down to a late breakfast with a smorgasbord of food and drink,
  3. Being driven around by a local tour guide to a tourist attraction,
  4. Returning to the hotel for lunch,
  5. Swimming in the hotel pool followed by more drinks and food by the bar,
  6. Afternoon nap,
  7. Shower and dress for pre-dinner drinks,
  8. Late dinner or an evening out in the city.

Although this was the rhythm of the holiday crowd, I felt as if I was missing my usual rhythm. I felt out of whack and wasn’t truly enjoying myself… I wasn’t truly enjoying me… I felt like I was putting the needs of others first as a way of not disrupting the status quo, to keep things light and happy on the surface and to keep up with the holiday spirit. Did I have an ideal or a belief about holiday etiquette and how a holiday should be?

But the question that kept repeating itself was… “What was I wanting to get away from and what in my life was I wanting to take a break from?”

I then realised….

I realised from my experience on my recent holiday that I was living the rhythm of the ‘yearly holiday’ and not the rhythm that supported me. I could now see that I was taking a break from me so that I could live the holiday rhythm. It was much easier to plod along with everyone and fit into their holiday rhythm rather than feel how great my rhythm was for me. Even though it felt great choosing what was right for me and my body (which was very different from others’ choices), I didn’t want to stand out and look like the odd one out. But then I question myself, “what was I actually wanting to blend in with?” Late-nights out? Overeating? Sleeping in? Indulging in food several times a day? When I looked at it like this I was able to break the craziness of ‘trying to blend in’ and I felt the power of my daily rhythm and the absoluteness it brings to my body – so why wouldn’t I want to let this shine out?

It became clearer…..

By day three of my 10 day long trip I got my STOP moment! I felt sluggish, heavy and there was a level of irritability that was slowly being felt. I realised then and there that I needed to stop following the rhythm of a ‘typical (yearly) holiday’, as it no longer supported me. I chose to come back to my natural daily rhythm.

I woke and felt to make this holiday not about ‘a getaway to take a break from life’, BUT about taking the full me on this trip. I brought back my natural rhythm in the day and went about living and enjoying me in each moment.

Once I claimed that the way I go about living my daily rhythm was truly about what felt great for me, things started to shift. I no longer felt the need to do what others wanted whilst on holiday. I spent more time listening to what felt right for me and how I wanted to enjoy this holiday. My holiday rhythm is actually the same as my day to day rhythm because there is nothing to take a break from or to get away from except me.

There was nothing to get away from as I was truly enjoying being me.

What did this look like?

I decided that I would choose what to do in the day rather than waiting to hear what others were doing. This meant that I didn’t feel like I was a ‘party pooper’. I joined my family on sightseeing trips, I also made choices to return to the hotel if I felt tired and needed to rest for a while. I made changes to the way I ate and waited to feel whether I wanted to eat instead of eating because we were heading out for a meal or everyone was getting the afternoon cravings for a sweet treat.

I carried healthy snacks and water for longer journeys in boats, trains and buses and always took an extra piece of clothing to keep me comfortable and warm. I honoured myself by going to bed when I felt tired. I noticed and appreciated that my hotel roommate would turn down the volume on the TV and respectfully turn off the lights to not disturb me. These simple adjustments during the day made me feel so much lighter as I was returning to my natural rhythm and playful self.

Yes, I must admit that it freaked out my family when I woke early (whilst on holidays!!!) to start on work projects on my iPad. I retreated to the bathroom as it was the only quiet space that would not disturb the others in the room whilst they slept. With a cushion as a seat and a blanket placed lovingly in the bathroom bathtub, I set to work: I felt at home even though I was miles away. Other days I would nestle myself into comfy couches in the front foyer or find a quiet spot near the pool for a while before returning to enjoy time with the family.

Yes, the family remarks came thick and fast as to why I was “doing any work whilst on holiday”.

  • You should be relaxing it’s a holiday.
  • Why are you doing that now?
  • We’re on holidays to get away from work.
  • You’re supposed to be having fun, not working.

All these questions had popped into my head well before they were asked of me. Yes, I did ponder on these but my body gave me the answer loud and clear; spending some time on the projects I am involved in actually wasn’t work at all and I realised from this holiday it actually supported me.

‘Connect to your rhythm and let the day unfold.’

If the day’s unfoldment included implementing my natural rhythm that supported me from home then I needed to look at and build it into my day and way of being while on holiday.

Taking this trip helped me realise that I don’t need to take a break from life when I am on my yearly holidays. I realised that when I am living the way I feel to live, it doesn’t matter where I am and what I’m doing – it’s about how I’m living in that moment. I came to appreciate how much I enjoy travelling and holidaying with my family and that there was no need to ‘get away’ or switch off or change who I am, even though I was miles away from home. I still enjoyed all that was on offer and by reconnecting to my natural rhythm I felt the same vitality as I did at home.

I now know how to avoid feeling sluggish whilst on holiday.

I have come to realise that:

  • My yearly Holidays are what I choose them to be.
  • Holidays can be a way to ‘take a break from life’ or ‘get away’ or Holidays can be an opportunity to enjoy what the world has to offer by bringing the full me to every day and moment of my trip… and therefore to fully enjoy being me…

Thanks to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I have come to know and feel the importance of living truthfully and bringing and ‘being’ the real me into each day… including my yearly holidays.

By Anonymous

377 thoughts on “Yearly Holidays – no longer Taking a Break from Life, but Enjoying Me!

  1. I love travelling abroad, but these days I prefer to do so if I have a purpose – like seeing relatives or research or for other work related reasons. Then take a day off to see the sights or just to rest and rejuvenate feels wholesome and not an escape.

  2. Beautiful Anonymous – you help us see with greater honesty that how we are is within ourselves is always with us, wherever we go. Although we can attempt to escape, how much greater it is to accept and develop a loving quality in our every day that we bring to any destination or country. It seems the only thing we truly need a holiday from is living in a way that is not loving.

  3. I can relate to what has been shared here Anonymous and I definitely used to ‘need’ holidays to escape everyday life. Except after I would go home and drive myself in the same way to then need another holiday! Now though, I hardly take them and the ‘need’ has gone. If we do go away for a few nights it is simply to enjoy another place and the people in that place as well as using the time to to reflect and do a stocktake on life.

  4. It is fascinating Anonymous how we can almost live a whole year, 6 months, etc.. waiting for our annual trip away. A time where we can escape the daily reality of life. But this is absurd as that means for the other 48-50 weeks of the year you are living in a miserable state not wanting to be there! Holidays are interesting for me as they always used to be an escape a time where I can just let everything go, but now the more I am enjoying myself the less stuff I take on and so I do not allow things to build up as I used to, this means my holidays now are more about taking time to confirm where I am at, deepen relationships and meet new people.

  5. It is very interesting to observe how we can quite easily lose our rhythm when on holidays, or any time away/off from our usual. The way you now spend your holiday by honouring your own rhythm – might raise a few eyebrows I am sure, but it could be very inspiring for your friends and family to see there is another way. Who knows – they might not have liked the default holiday ideals in the first place, but just didn’t know how else to do it.

  6. Taking a break from life when one goes on holiday, I can feel is one so many of us can relate to. I definitely have had that mentality on a holiday before. But what you have shared is really so important, that you can go away and not take a break from yourself. Sure, go to other place and experience all that you choose to, but you don’t have to abandon yourself in the process and all that makes you feel vital in your everyday life.

    1. I love how you have expressed this reagankcairney. We don’t need to take a break from ourselves or abandon ourselves on a holiday. What if we were to really support ourselves on holidays and then bring that deeper level of care to our normal routines?

  7. It is an interesting concept the we need to take a break from our lives and have holidays. Does it not suggest that we need to look at how we are living and working every day that we are tired, exhausted and need novelty, a change of scenery and a way to reward ourselves?

    1. Hear Hear Jenny – it sure does mean that! I find that keeping up my normal rhythm really helps and then when I come back I feel more refreshed, whereas when I let everything go I actually come back feeling exhausted.

  8. “Connect to your rhythm and let the day unfold”.
    This sums it up so well. And why on earth should I seek for a different rhythm when on holiday, when all the time I establish and deepen the supportive rhythm I already have.

  9. Great insights, Anonymous. Why would we choose to live each day in a way that we feel we need to escape it? How beautiful to live in a rhythm that supports you in each and every moment.

  10. I enjoyed reading this Anonymous. It’s so important for us to remain in our rhythm – it determines how we feel about ourselves and how we interact with others.

    1. I agree Deborah, I travel a lot for work and if I drop my rhythm I can feel quite tired and drained from my travels, if I stick to my usual rhythm my day and work flows with more ease and simplicity.

  11. A beautiful and inspiring blog . I have been very familiar with the detrimental effects of ‘doing the typical holiday list’ you write of – I now fully agree with your statements –
    “My holiday rhythm is actually the same as my day to day rhythm because there is nothing to take a break from or to get away from except me”.
    AND the opportunity that is there – “to enjoy what the world has to offer by bringing the full me to every day and moment of my trip… and therefore to fully enjoy being me…”

  12. Holidays, a big topic especially why we go on them. Many people go on holidays to ‘recharge their batteries’ and end up overeating and drinking; what you have shared here is how to first live in a way where your ‘batteries’ don’t need re-charging! You have broken a lot of preconceived ideals and beliefs not only about holidays but about a way to live on a day to day basis when not holiday that can support us. Reading your blog was also really inspiring because many times I have felt sluggish and just overridden this instead of stopping to really feel why and look at how I have been living and change this, however, Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have shown and reflected to me another way to live and tools to change this. What you show is listening to the body and living in a way that is naturally supportive is not a chore but instead a joy. Thank you for sharing.

  13. Thanks for this great blog, I could really feel the joy in how you described honouring your rhythm on holiday, and how the work that you did was actually supporting you. It’s interesting how we can have this ideal that to relax or have fun we have to not do any work!

  14. I just wonder what would happen if the Sun went on holiday? What about the stars, or even the Earth? What if they suddenly decided that they needed a break from their usual way of being in the Universe and declared they were off on 2 weeks annual leave to an undisclosed location? “I’m not shining today; I’m on holiday,” said the Sun.
    That kind of puts the whole idea of escaping from oneself, or from one’s rhythm, into perspective for me 🙂

  15. “But the question that kept repeating itself was… “What was I wanting to get away from and what in my life was I wanting to take a break from?” A great question to ask. It is so easy to get caught up in the holiday mode and see it as an escape from life and our responsibilities and go along with everyone else’s decisions, and doing things that would not be part of our normal rhythm at home. It is like a holiday is the excuse to do all the things you wouldn’t normally do, like get up late or eat more than usual and how this can throw our rhythm out.

  16. “‘Connect to your rhythm and let the day unfold.’ What a beautiful, completely natural way to live. I love how you expose how we do things and act in ways that are contrary to our rhythm simply for the sake of adhering to a set of beliefs about what holiday behaviour should be like. Why would we take a break from ourselves? Why would we get away from what we enjoy doing on a daily basis? I love the image of you sitting in the bathtub to maintain your connection with your projects: that’s dedication, Anonymous!

  17. This was great to read as I have felt as you have Anonymous on holiday, sluggish, tired, over eating and completely out of rhythm with how I live. On a trip with my family we all felt weighed down once we arrived at our destination, It was like we were being pushed to become the holiday tourist and conform to what everyone normally does on a holiday and that is to check out, indulge and distract oneself from life. Once we recognised this and stayed with our rhythm and set up our days to support us we no longer felt heavy, tired and sluggish.

  18. A great piece of observation on the traps we fall into when we go out of our daily rhythm for a period, particularly on a package holiday where you’re bound by an itinerary as well as hostage to those holiday ideals and beliefs that exist around food, rest and leisure. In such times it requires me to be fully dedicated and committed to what I know supports me in my wellbeing, regardless of raised eyebrows or looks of disappointment. I have too much experience to the downside to know that I’m not being at all selfish by sticking to what works for me, but that I’m actually being super responsible by ensuring I bring all of me to all I do and am with others as well as myself – both on the holiday and in readiness for when I return home.

  19. Living the rhythm of the yearly holiday – rather than your own rhythm – a great revelation. I have noticed that when I am with my family it can be all too easy to adjust my rhythm to theirs – (putting their needs first) something to be more aware of now I have re-read your blog. Thankyou.

  20. Thank you Anonymous, you raised some great points here about taking a holiday. It feels very similar to when we don’t live our own rhythm day to day, whether we are on holiday or not, when we loose our rhythm we tend to loose ourselves in the process, feeling tired and filling ourselves up with unnecessary food to keep our awareness at bay. It is important to keep our own rhythm and awareness at all times regardless of whether we are home or away.

  21. It’s lovely Anonymous, to read how you were able to enjoy your holiday by committing back to your rhythm.
    The weekend and holiday is not needed when we enjoy life and bring purpose to our work, rather than making it an obligation. Any areas that seem like ‘have-tos’ are often because of we delay addressing them due to lack of commitment to life. The more I commit to life the more I enjoy contributing through interactions with people, whether it be at work or on holiday.

  22. Dear Anonymous, a beautiful and inspiring blog; I feel we can need holidays to run away from our lives. Instead of looking at what needs changing, we escape and go straight back into it after the holidays. Even on weekends I actually love having an early night, waking up early and having all that day to do what I want and need to do, rather than sleeping it away.

    1. Yes Esther I feel the same. Having the time to work through projects, jobs around the house that you feel to do and spending time with friends and families feels like a holiday as I stay with myself and bring me to the day.

  23. I love this blog, because it reveals for what holiday stands for the most of people- an escape of their actual life. For me personally holiday means, having an amazing rhythm in my day and maybe being at a lovely place or not holding a camera in my hands. But never an escape – even the opposite, it is like making space to actually have time to ponder, to deepen my relationship with myself and my partner to think about what can be done next etc etc. It was not always like that, but I would never exchange how holidays feel now to me , to the old “dead”, “special moments” of a holiday.

    1. Great comment Steffi especially your last line – I would never exchange how holidays feel now to me , to the old “dead”, “special moments” of a holiday.

    2. I love the kind of holiday you describe here, Steffi: I also love to feel an expanded sense of space to connect with myself as week as the sense of having oodles of time to connect with people and just be with them, rather than having a job to do with them. It’s like being able to focus on the detail of both myself and others.

  24. Thanks Anonymous for sharing your experience concerning holidays. I can relate to it a lot. It started last year, when the summer holidays came up and I felt a shift in me relating to the ‘concept’ called ‘holidays’. I truly asked myself: what is it about? Do I need it? I even had a mini-crisis expressing this to my boyfriend a week before we were supposed to leave – that I was not sure if I wanted to go on holidays. No offense, nothing personal, but that I felt that I didn’t need it e.g. as a break from life. I went, but…..with a different mindset, just like you by changing my relationship to holidays. What was different? A lot, which showed even more clearly the weeks I traveled abroad this summer. I just see it not as a holiday anymore, but just me in full in my rhythm moving myself / my body to another country. The scenery is different, I meet new people, another language is spoken, but I don’t change. Ofcourse it is not like home, so it requires some creativity at some points with food, waking up etc. I just saw and still see it as part of the process of small adjustments to deepen my daily rhythm – wherever I am. Because it is in the end what you say: it doesn’t matter where I am or what I do, it is how I am living in that moment.

  25. This is a great question, Anonymous:”What was I wanting to get away from and what in my life was I wanting to take a break from?” I used to divide my life in two: work and play. So I’d be on a momentum to get the chores done so I could have time for me, or to get through the week’s work so I could take a break on the weekend, or to look forward to the holidays as a chance to rest from the momentum of my life that I was taking me away from being me. Putting into practice the simple tools presented by Universal Medicine I now find that this division is not so obvious, as more and more I am bringing me to whatever I do so I don’t need the ‘me’ time because I’m having it while I am working.

    1. Yes, we have all rather bought into the idea of split time, haven’t we, Sandra? Time for work and then time for myself and then family time etc etc: when I look at this, it seems a little niggardly, as though I am measuring how much everyone and everything is to be allocated. As you say, what is presented by Universal Medicine is that we bring all of us to all situations and let things unfold from there: this is certainly a more generous way to live than to be allocating how much of me people will be allowed in every situation!

  26. A great reminder that we take ourselves with us everywhere so why not our rhythms. It all makes total sense that to take a holiday to a different destination we would want to experience the culture and people of that part of the World, but that doesn’t mean we need to overindulge in food and excesses of anything else, but just enjoy the change of environment and people. Thank you.

  27. Very timely reminder thanks Anonymous as my daughter and I are about to go on holiday for a much needed break from work. Fortunately, we are both students of The Way of the Livingness so we are both on the same page which will make it so much easier to remember your words “There was nothing to get away from as I was truly enjoying being me.” Love it!

  28. It totally cracked me up how you described a typical holiday as moving from one meal to the next plus pool and site seeing of course as that is my experience too and I have always found it a bit of an odd concept. Its no wonder we come back from holidays needing a holiday! It makes sense as we run ourselves into the ground through over eating and drinking and disregarding whats important to us. I really love this expose’ on holidays, we can get so precious about them and end up losing any positives that may be gained from them. I haven’t gone away in a couple of years for a holiday and the kids have been asking “when are we going to take a holiday?” but I think I have been avoiding as I didn’t enjoy the way I was holidaying before. My dream holiday is having time off work staying at home to organise the house and do extra work as I find that so satisfying, the kids however seem to have a different view on the situation! Thank you for the great tips, my kids will be thanking you too.

  29. I love this blog Anonymous. I remember years ago taking a year off to ‘get away’ to go overseas and can very much relate to the wanting to escape from life. The interesting thing that I recall from that time is how much I missed my life, but how much I missed me. Living in close quarters with 20 other people for 6 months, there was definitely a feeling of ‘fitting in’ with everyone and lots of compromising. What your blog highlights for me is that it’s not necessarily what we do but how we are in what we are doing that’s much more important.

    1. So what is it we are wanting to ‘get away’ from? The thing is when we go on holiday we are still taking our self with us and this means that instead of it being a holy-day we bring all our momentums and habits into our holiday and focus on ‘having a good time’. We are still rushing off to find happiness out there instead of stopping to be with ourselves with whatever we do. So, as you say Jennifer, the important thing is ‘how we are in what we are doing’.

  30. I have practiced with an open trial and error approach over some time to develop a rhythm that truly supports me to live my life to its fullest and not just manage it. I travel a lot interstate and overseas, and wherever I go I find what supports me best is to abide by this very same rhythm no matter where I am and who I am with. As long as I keep the quality of my rhythm then I am equipped to face what ever is ahead of me.

    1. I love how your rhythm is held no matter what. The last line introducing the quality of how we live no matter where we are is gold.

  31. Totally brilliant Anonymous. I too have experienced this. Especially when I came to Australia from the UK for ‘a break from life’. What does that actually mean? I now know it meant I was not truly living in a way that was connected with myself, and I looked to the picture of a holiday to fill the emptiness. Standing on the beach at the mecca Byron Bay where millions before me have pilgrimaged to ‘find themselves’ led me to feel the loneliest and emptiest I have ever felt in my life. Holidays have always left me feeling like this. Your blog confirms we have to take us with us on holiday – for me I had not found what ‘being with me ‘ was – now when I go on holiday I shall make sure to pack ‘ME’ in my suitcase. Awesome blog – thank you.

    1. I can relate to this; I remember a beach resort in the Philippines where I stayed years ago and feeling so terrible and empty that it is hard to find the right words for it; it was more like a sense of utter desolation. What had I expected to find there? Whatever it was, I certainly didn’t and that was no fault of theirs, just my skewed perception at the time, looking for fulfilment from the outside.

      1. This is how I felt when I arrived from the UK to a tropical island in North Queensland – it was going to be the ‘fix’ to my woes but desolation is an awesome word to also share what I actually felt when I got there. I’d forgot to pack ‘me’ in my suitcase.

  32. Our rhythm is our strongest support, so why should we give it up just to be on holiday and not instead make everyday about lovingly caring for ourselves, so that a holiday in form of a consolation is no longer needed?

    1. So true Michael. ‘Our rhythm is our strongest support’ This blog beautifully illustrates this. Supporting us to live with vitality and bring all of us to life and in so doing there is no ‘holiday’ needed.

  33. This was a real eye opener of a blog for me Anonymous as it not only applies to holidays but to every single day. And I love, and can relate to, this realisation: “There was nothing to get away from as I was truly enjoying being me.”. I was always planning events, things to do, but now I realise that at that stage in my life I was not content to be with me, probably because I really didn’t know who “me” was. As I am learning to understand who I am and how important it is to honour the rhythm that supports me in a loving way, I simply love being with me no matter what I am doing.

    1. Agreed Ingrid, this should be in all of the aeroplane inflight magazines for people to read as they fly off to their holiday.

  34. The whole concept of having a holiday to get away from things/having a break is one of society’s biggest ideals. I love the way you have knocked this ideal on it’s head and shown what is really going on beneath the surface. We all know the saying “I need a holiday to get over my holiday”. This just proves holidays are not the solution, rather we can simply bring our awareness of how we are living with ourselves on a day-to-day basis and build a relationship with ourselves, this way we don’t need a break from ourselves, a holiday.

    1. Tonisteenson I had to laugh at your comment “I need a holiday to get over my holiday”. I have used that line often myself and have heard it from many colleagues over the years as well. It’s actually amazing to live in a way that I don’t need a holiday, it doesn’t mean that I don’t take them, but the whole purpose is very different. I even love going back to work when my leave has ended. Now that is something!

    2. Yes Toni, holidays are not the solution; if we push all year, so we then get the need to run away, it doesn’t bring what we want, which is more of ourselves.

  35. When we bring all of us to all that we do, there are no defined boundaries of ‘work’ and ‘play’ – just one seamless way of being that encompasses all and is never boring or tiring as it is our natural way of being so therefore not an effort. It is the compartmentalisation of our lives that leaves us feeling fragmented, exhausted and thirsty for a holiday because it goes against the flow of how we are in truth designed to live – being all that we are in all that we do.

    1. I so agree with what you share Liane. I love what I do and bring all of myself into each day and within each day I take care of myself so I do not get exhausted and ‘need’ a holiday. I do not see what I do as ‘work’, I simply see it as something that I love doing and it is a part of my everyday life.

      1. Mary-Louise and Liane what you have both shared is so important as nothing in our lives is separate. We live in one body and have one life, not sections of life. I can see how when I have had different expectations of myself to be a certain way at work and then another way at home, how exhausting that is. I can see how there is an element of that still there. It’s interesting too how the word ‘work’ is deemed to be something that is very heavy and a real drudge and ‘play’ is something that is our escape. I love being playful at work and can feel how it is just so natural to be that way and how being that way is me being me.

      2. So true marylouisemyers and Liane, I love what you share here, bringing all of us to all that we do… and how much fun we can have with that.

    2. I love your little summaries Liane, they are like little quotes I want to stick on my fridge, truly you are heaven sent in your expression. Such a delight when I scan down the page and have the pleasure of reading your comments as it simply adds that little cherry on top to the already amazing articles. Thanks for being you, love what you share with us all.

    3. Beautifully put, Liane. That division between work and play creates in us a list of acceptable and unacceptable activities that can be done at certain times and certain locations, but it does not allow us to be able to connect with what our body is feeling to do and when it is feeling to do it. Instead, we have an artificially imposed regime of: “Now do work”, “now relax like this”, “now play like this”, “now eat this”, “now drink this”, all of which has specific nuances depending on whether you are at work, at home, on holiday, etc. etc. etc. Thus, we are set up to be out of rhythm with ourselves and only exhaustion can come of that!

      1. I love your detailed description here Naren of what Liane has put forth – the compartmentalizing of our lives. I was trapped in that as well and it is so not supportive to do that. To bring all of me in full to everything I do without making it about work or play or this or that is really key to a fulfilling and vital life.

    4. Woa. I love this, Liane – “It is the compartmentalisation of our lives that leaves us feeling fragmented” – this is so true. This can be applied to any matrix of our life – be it our activity, location, relationship, time frame… This really is about how we choose to perceive and experience our lives – in sections, or as One.

    5. Your comment Liane has caused me to pause and ponder… more and more this is how I am living and I am wondering how this relates to children too, because they love to play and don’t very much like to work. For example, spending Sunday re-organising the house together rather than playing games. I feel there is more play to bring to the work for me.

  36. When you reconnect to your own rhythm you start feeling playful and vital again and then you can enjoy your holiday much more, and what I love in your blog is that by making sure you are not escaping from life but following your body and your needs, you can still enjoy fully being there with your family and the activities, you don´t have to retire or be away or give up those wonderful days and opportunities to share with them.

  37. I completely agree – I haven’t been on a proper holiday for some time, however the occasions I take a day or two down at the coast, or even have a day off work, it is interesting to feel a apart of me that feels the need to take a ‘break’ because I am tired or need to catch up on house work etc. The idea that if I can just make it to my next day off everything will be okay. But what it really highlights is simply that I am not looking after myself enough on a day to day basis, or living a rhythm that allows me to get all I need to do done.

    1. Well said Shirley-Ann – in no way is it a bad thing to take a holiday or break, when you do as you have described and make space for it as an activity that is needed to consolidate, rather than to escape the fact that in day to day life you might be out of rhythm

    2. Many people in my year at school including myself have the same method of thinking when you say “The idea that if I can just make it to my next day off everything will be okay.” Except for this would be a weekend or a school holiday. It is like being at work/education is so dreadful that they need a holiday to relax, but it is more a a craving than simply wanting a break.

      1. I agree – and often, it doesn’t matter what we do, or don’t do, on the weekend, or where we go or don’t go on our holiday, it doesn’t fully satisfy the feeling and so we wait for the next break and the next break, never stopping to consider what it is that is driving us to want a break from life?

  38. Finding our own rhythms within others choices can be a tricky one sometimes, and how lovely is it though when you can just stop and feel into how you are travelling and make choices that support you. Recognising that any one thing that is happening isn’t asking us to change or go into any kind of emotion or reaction, all that is required is our full loving presence.

  39. Thank you Anonymous for this great realization about the affects of using holidays or anything else for that matter to escape life. What has often struck me is how frequently people actually get ill while on holidays. It is like we push ourselves so hard to be able to go and escape from our normal routine and then the exhaustion catches up. In the end it comes back to how we are living on a daily basis that makes us want to “escape” from it.

    1. So true Elizabeth Dolan and everyone is aware of this. I have heard many people say ” I hope I don’t get ill when I am away”, without connecting the dots of how we push ourselves before our leave. I know I did exactly that.

    2. That’s such an interesting point; It’s like the macrocosm of the microcosm; when we push ourselves for a day, we end up exhausted that night. When we push ourselves all year, and then have a holiday – the body needs to clear the months of drivenness. This proves to me the body’s innate intelligence: the body knows when we ‘take a break’ and it can give us a virus to make us stop even more than we had intended to.

  40. I do holidays this way too Anonymous and find it far more enjoyable. Funny how people think we’re mad workaholics but as you describe it, we’re simply connecting to who we are and continuing to do life in the way that best supports us. The old way, as you have beautifully described it, feels like sheer indulgence to me now and impossible to stomach.

    1. Having said that, I just spent a few nights away on a working holiday with my husband. I enjoyed staying in bed longer than usual just being with my body. This felt like good and timely medicine.

    2. The word that comes to me is that I often use holidays for comfort – to give me a cushion I can rest on which yes it feels wonderful but is then almost painful to get up from. Your second comment nails it – there is a time and place when resting is absolutely the medicine we need. But its knowing when, and how much that is the thing to feel and honour – and that the resting is for learning and preparing for the next step.

  41. Thanks for sharing this Anonymous – it clearly highlights how we choose to live. When we feel the need to take a break from everyday life this suggests that everyday life is hard, challenging and not very pleasant. If we are living this way then it really is no wonder why statistics in illness and disease are increasing so rapidly! To use a holiday period to connect more deeply to ourselves and to deepen our relationship with ourselves rather than to check out sounds like the way to go!

  42. I realised that when I am living the way I feel to live, it doesn’t matter where I am and what I’m doing – it’s about how I’m living in that moment’ ….. beautifully said. You are then a gorgeous reflection for others to look at how they are in that moment and maybe make different choices. We can’t underestimate how powerful this is. There is a tremendous strength in living from our inner heart with grace and presence.

    1. Yes, whatever the place or situation its about how i’m living in the moment, so true, ‘by bringing the full me to every day and moment of my trip… and therefore to fully enjoy being me…’, how gorgeous for everyone.

  43. ‘I felt like I was putting the needs of others first as a way of not disrupting the status quo’ …. this is a biggie, especially in families.
    I have found that I’ve allowed myself to be quite affected by those around me over the years and it’s really draining. I’m doing myself a dis-service and everyone around me, as I’m dulling down who I am. That’s not serving anyone, especially me. I may think I’m doing everyone a favour by ‘falling into line’, but it’s not. It’s allowing everyone to continue in the same pattern of behaviour, however, if given the opportunity to do things differently, who am I to ‘pre’judge how they would react.

  44. This is great, it is very common for many of us, holidays is about getting away from it all, having a break, travelling and so forth anything that takes us out of our so called ordinary lives….but if we live as you so awesomely described, our full self from moment to moment, our holidays would just be another space where we can enjoy the richness of what it brings, actually what we bring, but it is no more than how we live each day as that is our rhythm and quality of life…a whole new meaning to holidays!

  45. “I realised that when I am living the way I feel to live, it doesn’t matter where I am and what I’m doing – it’s about how I’m living in that moment.” This is a fabulous realisation and the blog is an inspiring illustration of how to maintain one’s daily rhythm even when one is out of one’s usual rhythm of life.

  46. This blog has been on my mind today, and I keep asking the question – when we go on holiday, what are taking a break from? Because if I am already all that I ever need to be, then why go somewhere else to escape that? Could it be perhaps that we all know and can feel how intense and really out of sync much of life is and so we go to this escape which is all set up for us to indulge in so that we never truly have to feel what is going on, the choices we are making and the consequences of them.

    1. Hi Shami, I agree a lot of people go on holidays to check out, indulge and escape from what is truly going on for them. They do not want to feel the consequences of their choices therefore distract themselves with their annual holiday. I know for many years I did this and thought I was having a great time only to come home and be met by every thing that I tried to escape from.

      1. Exactly Shami and Mary-Louisemyers, in the past I used to do this too, and I never understood why it felt so depressing to come back home after my holidays – a distinct longing for something more. I thought I was longing for more holidays, but truth was I was longing for myself – who I was trying to run away from in the first place.

    2. Great questions you raise Shami and I will take the opportunity to ponder on these during my short ‘get away’ holiday coming up very soon.

  47. I enjoyed reading your blog Anonymous. That is also such a great example of – do I do what other people around me expect from me or do I trust myself and do what my body wants to do.

  48. Interesting what you post here Anonymous as taking holidays is such a normal thing to do in our nowadays society. It is holiday season now where I live and we are asked regularly if we have holidays already or if not, if we are planning one and where we go to. For me it does not feel right anymore to go for a holiday like I have done in the past and, as you say Anonymous, completely changing my rhythm of my everyday life. My rhythm is that important to me, it gives me the support to give the expression to my life, the free expression where purpose full work is one great ingredient off. So when we now plan for a holiday we am planning to make it purposeful and for sure we take our laptops with us so we are able to continue to work on the projects we are involved in.

    1. It is interesting to feel this more consciously after what has been shared. I agree Nico I haven’t had an actual ‘holiday’ for years and when I have felt into this I haven’t had a feeling of missing out. I can still rest when I want to but as you say, life now has much more of a purpose for me. I know some people live their life waiting for their next holiday or weekend there is so much more to who we are than just this.

  49. Anonymous I love what you say about bringing your rhythm to your holiday, and to continue working on the projects that support you, as you do not need a holiday from all activities that are part of you in the world. I too have experienced my family visits as a departure from my rhtythm so that I can fit in, but it simply doesn’t work for me, so now I am bringing me in full to them instead. Thank you for sharing your awesome observation.

  50. So true Anonymous when you say that “spending some time on the projects I am involved in actually wasn’t work at all and I realised from this holiday it actually supported me.” This has been a big one for me. As I struggle with delay and pushing all responsibilities away to have a relaxing holiday. Then I find I spend all holiday with niggling worries about the work I’m not attending to because I want to have a break form it all. If I build work into my rhythm as part of what supports me and embrace it by offering the fullness of who I really am to my work surely this is going to support me. Then when I do put it down to spend time with friends and family I can offer the whole me with them rather than the half worried me with one foot in my space with them and one foot in my head worrying about the things I haven’t yet completed. If I can attend to this detail then I find I can and will be able to, as you say.. ‘Connect to my rhythm and let the day unfold.’

  51. Anonymous, what you have shared here is gold. Being an intrepid traveller myself in my younger years, I was always looking for the next holiday or trip as a means of escape. Since attending courses with Universal Medicine over the past 5 years, gradually my need for a holiday has dropped off and the desire to travel overseas too is no longer there. This has been a huge change in my life and the reason is that I am no longer feeling the need to escape me which is what going on holidays was for me. I am sure I will enjoy holidays again at some point in time, but as you have beautifully discovered, taking my everyday rhythm into a holiday rhythm is the key to stay being me regardless of where I am at.

  52. Anonymous, I love this, you’ve completely blown out the ideas of what a holiday should be, getting away from our lives, when in fact if as you show we connect to our rhythms, and get on with our day, it doesn’t matter where we are. It’s like when we give into all those holiday ideals we leave us and attach ourselves to a rhythm which is not us and actually tires us – of course we’re not tuning into our bodies and what they need when we do that. So bah humbug to ideals, holiday ones too and listen to and feel the body, and choose to honour what is felt.

  53. I really enjoyed reading this de-construction of the ‘ideal’ holiday and it felt so true it was an escape from feeling aspects of life being lived when not on holiday. I loved how eventually, the ‘rhythm’ when on holiday stayed the same as when not, based on what was truly supportive for oneself and not so much what others wanted, yet being able to enjoy being with others. It was great how the holiday experience was re-imprinted and it was not required to give it up. I sense how this also added to the rest of life when not on holiday. This sharing seems to be important about all our life activity that we may use to escape from our lives, and indicates how we can bring all of ourselves to the activity rather than give up and withdraw from life.

  54. It is quite funny, I don’t particularly enjoy holidays as they always involve compromise. My life at home is so beautiful and everything is so much just right that I prefer not to travel when I have a choice. Once I am travelling I enjoy the changes and the exploring and the feeling of the different places but this is not something I need or look forward to. Quite interesting.

  55. I love the message of this story- it’s so true, we often take holidays to get away from it all, but what are we really getting away from? I love how Anonymous didn’t continue to ignore how she felt, nor did she abandon time with her family, she simply found a way to be herself, and have a routine and rhythm that supported her, and all that involved was her willingness to listen to her body. So simple and yet so freeing!

  56. How insightful – I too have realised that sustaining an early to rise and early to bed rhythm is so deeply supportive that you would not want to compromise it – even on holidays. Beautifully honoured and expressed for us all here – thank you.

  57. This is cool, I like how you break those ideals about holiday, but also the real effects it’s having. And the effects we let it have on us if we use it as a form of relief, excitement, or indulging. I used to actually go on holidays like that! But I came to my senses, I actually felt that this relief was from short value and that it was actually making me more tired after holidays then I was before. I felt not rejuvenated in the way I thought I would. This is where things changed. From this feeling onwards, I am now discovering how to have my loving rhythm, also when I am on holidays, just like this blog is describing. I am looking forward to be my full self, truly rejuvenating, & having truly fun without getting exhausted!

  58. Your holiday sounds amazing Anonymous and I can relate to it completely. During the short holiday I had with my children I kept my rythm as much as possible and the work I had to do on the computer daily was an enormous support in keeping that rythm. Me and my children climbed rocks together, played at the beach for hours if not the whole day, we walked around the city and when we did sit down, I sat down ín a present, acitve sort of way and my energy level did not drop. When I tried laying down at the beach for a moment, like I used to do for hours in the past, I started to feel slow, tired and not well at all. During this vacation I had this incredible amount of energy and spend every second with my children whereas going to the beach in the past would involve me lying down at the beach with a book all day because doing nothing was the reward I felt I needed and deserved. Looking back I realize that being lazy in fact made me feel tired and a bit down and spending all this quality time with my children has been the best break ever. It was great to be there and great to go home. It doesn’t matter where I am as long as I keep a constant rythm which is very supporting to me.

  59. I was recently having lunch with someone on a Monday and they asked me what I had been up to on the weekend. I shared with them some projects I had worked on over the weekend. They commented that didn’t I need a break, did I just work all the time.
    I realised that I still have these thoughts too at times, its the weekend I just want to kick back but on the days when I am not as focused, I actually don’t enjoy it as much. I realised that I actually love working especially when its working with others on a project or something. I love the purpose of work and I actually often enjoys the tasks too- I am coming to realise that it doesn’t need to be hard or a burden, that we can actually enjoy all the work we have to do.

  60. To get away, isn’t it ultimately a wish to get away from time? Thinking we can get away from something that moves on no matter our choices, isn’t that fooling ourselves we can stand still when time moves ahead?

  61. Choosing to live with our own rhythm consistently is choosing to breathe our own breath, it builds a solidity and foundation in our bodies that supports us in everything that we do, including our way of being when this rhythm may be different from the world.

  62. Anonymous I really enjoy reading your blog. What I like the most is that you were able to catch the downward spiral, understand what was happening, nip it in the bud and then remarkable changes. Certainly an extra-ordinary holiday!

  63. Isn’t it funny how we think we have to be doing something different, more or special on our holidays, when really we don’t. What I am realising and learning is that if I live life full of me everyday, ( this can be doing the dishes, going for a walk, working, cooking, driving, resting ) by listening to my body and honouring what I feel, then there is no need or want to have to ‘do’ anything, as I feel complete.

    1. When we feel complete there is an equality, a consistency and a fullness to all that we say, do and feel. Nothing is more important than anything else so there is no need to crave a variety of highs or anything different or special to lift and motivate us.

  64. This is a great blog Anonymous that I really appreciate reading, not so long ago I went on a trip across Scotland, not for a holiday but a job interview. It took me from one side of the country to the opposite side, through some of the most spectacular and majestic scenery, that people all over the world travel to see. When I got home I realised there was no part of me that had an urge or wanted to travel to these places again, as I realised I don’t need to, I have everything I need inside of me, and that I’m just as content in my garden watching a bee.

  65. Gorgeous Anonymous, thank you. This is such an important point. How often do we really return from holidays, rested, rejuvenated and in rhythm?? Often we can come home and think that we are relaxed, but really, we have just escaped the pressures of our daily lives, and so that rested feeling is gone within a day or two. The type of holiday you have described feels like an opportunity to deepen your rhythm and connection with your body, so when you return home you can bring even more of you to your life than before because you didn’t ‘leave’ YOU behind.

  66. Anonymousa, awesome words of wisdom, thank-you. Connecting to our own rhythm and going with that to the best of our ability through our day, not only sets us up for a truly supportive day, but also ripples out with those that we interact with. And let’s face, it, what’s not to enjoy if your spending the day within your own loveliness and taking that with you wherever you go. Basically a win, win for all.

  67. I can relate to this blog a lot – even though I don’t have a yearly overseas holiday! Your rhythm is so important, it is in fact everything and I love how when I go away, even if just for a weekend or a night, I keep my rhythm and stay connected with everything. I remember feeling like you, when having time off and being with my family and if i let my rhythm go i would become so depressed so quickly and then quickly have to come back to what is my normal.

    1. Yes Abby, brings a whole new meaning to holidays, with the consistency of our daily rhythm of living us each day as we would in our so called non holidays days!

  68. This is an awesome article and so, so true. Holidays are often taken as an escape from life, there are even TV shows with names that describe it that way. And the problem with making a holiday so different to ‘usual’ life is that it sets things up to be even more difficult when we get back – quite torturous really and sometimes creating a lot of resentment around being at work or having to do family life or whatever it is we have potentially decided is boring or mundane.
    As Anonymous fleshes out in her piece, there is actually nothing better than finding your own true rhythm life and it naturally will apply wherever you are be it at work, at home, on holiday or somewhere else. Finding your own true rhythm in life is a joy to beholden.

  69. There is no holiday away from life and so it makes sense to retain the day to day rythm no matter where you are. Great point

  70. Great to read this today Anonymous as I am going to be away for a few days at a course and I have been pondering on how I am going to keep my natural rhythm. It is not a holiday but still it has the potential for me to fall in to what others may be doing rather than stay with what feels true for me. All I need to do is as you have done, listen to my body and be myself in my way.Thanks, very timely.

  71. There is no such thing as taking a break from life. If we feel we need a break and therefor need a holiday, it seems that the way we live in between our holidays are not supportive. I see a lot of people going on a holiday who are completely exhausted and need the whole holiday to recover. Some people are still exhausted when they return to work. Now what does this tell us in how we live on a daily basis?

  72. This year’s summer holidays I spend at home. Just in this moment. And though there was a wish: ‘Oh I need the sea and the sun.’ I love my holidays at home. I have time to clean up things which where piled and I have time to meet friends, I have time to enjoy the walks with my dog and to connect to my daughter. And I have time to just do nothing, lay down and feel me and my body. And guess what, we have beautiful warm summer week – not always usual in Germany.
    Cooking and working on some projects are naturally involved my daily rhythm. I even have a look at my emails form work, as I am responsible for it, but not in a manic manner.
    I am not out of my daily rhythm but I enjoy it and consolidate it.

  73. This is a revelatory blog, many times I have had that free time and felt more sluggish and even a bit lost, it made me realise how unnatural it is to live without purpose and that there is never really an off switch that we hit. We are made to work and while recharging the batteries can be great a holiday is only refreshing if we can find the right rhythm with it. I now see that if I am desperate for a holiday then it is a wish to escape from something in my life that actually I might find more beneficial addressing head on.

  74. So so True Anonymous. Being with Ourselves is the Greatest gift to Ourselves. This is in and for every moment. This is what we’re actually craving for all days, every days. Sadly so, for most of us for the most of Our lives. The holiday ‘bubble’ (is what I call it) is a huge one. Drinking, partying, spending your well deserved money on anything but support to Our True selves is the norm, the standard. How lost have we become that during days off, we do the exact opposite of what is indeed Honouring to Ourselves? At holiday time to many along us are craving to find themselves stimulants to offset the misery even more… I went the other way and didn’t value holidays any more. Which is crazy too, because only now I’m starting to feel and realise how wonderfull holidays can be in regards to spending time with people that I love and having time to do what I feel to do. There’s so much Beauty for me to connect to around holidays. Your blog Anonymous has made me aware of that even more. Thank you for that and for choosing you regardless of the reactions from the ones around you!

  75. Writing this comment while on ‘holiday’ I can relate a lot to your blog, Anonymous. I have been going away for yearly holidays with my 2 children for quite a number of years. First fooling myself I enjoyed them, then realizing how much pressure the word holiday puts on us being together. It had to be great and we had to have an amazing time. There have been years I wanted to go home, to my own comfortable bed and nurturing foods after 3 days. Last year was the first year I really enjoyed every second of our week together. I love the reflection I get offered. This year we had trouble finding a destination and 3 weeks before leaving nothing had been booked. It wasn’t until we sat down with the 3 us and honestly spoke about was going on for each of us it cleared. And then it was booked within 30 minutes. When we took of 6 days ago I expressed: I don’t want a perfect time together, I want to spent time together and grow together, what is there is ok. For being together is not about perfection. We have had a great time this week in various ways and it felt very real.

  76. Anonymous, I have also experienced this sluggish feeling in my body when on holiday and found that it was actually coming from a lack of commitment to life. So when I decided to actually commit to being there – where ever I was – and that this was in fact an opportunity to make connections with people, the purpose of being away from home made itself clear and I felt a vitality and unwavering commitment to being with people – to being in life.

  77. This is so lovely what you have shared with us Anonymous. Last year the very same situation arose for me also – falling into rhythms/patterns to be with everyone else on holiday. Was so exhausting and draining. Then I decided one day to be the observer of all what was happening around me and, did not like what I saw or felt. Just as you share in your list of a ‘typical tourists day’. Taking responsibility for my choices, and returning to the self loving patterns that do work for me – connecting too and honouring myself is the best holiday ever.

  78. After reading this blog I realised that holidays should really be about regaining and recommitting to our natural rhythm not abandoning it.

  79. This reflects the importance of a rhythm. One that is consistent and that really confirms where we are. When we change our rhythm just because of a situation where we feel we should, then we are not honouring how our bodies feel. That in itself if quiet harming.
    So is it possible that we often complain about the ‘post holiday blues’ because actually it is our bodies reaction to having lived a rhythm that has not bees supportive whilst on holiday?
    The same feeling comes up for weekends, sometimes we have a tendency to live at a different pace because they are our days off, so Monday looks pretty grim because again, our whole rhythm keeps getting shifted to accommodate how we use weekends and holidays as ‘my time’ rather than a continuation and cycle of days.

  80. Beautiful sharing, bring the full you to your holidays. It is so true it is how we are with ourselves in every moment on holiday, staying connected to our rhythms. Like you I was on holiday last with my family and was up in the early morning working on my iPad. I also got from my family, you are crazy, what are you doing, you should be switching off. I did not allow it to bother me, as I continued to stay with me. I was able to enjoy myself more as I found staying true to my rhythm was more loving for me than getting caught in to the old holiday pattern I use to have before. They quickly respected my choices and I also honoured myself to go to bed early if my body felt tired. It was completely a new way of being on holiday for me, as previous holidays it was all about getting away from life.

  81. Thank you Anonymous. So apt to be reading your blog today. I am wanting to work on my daily rhythm more so as to avoid being sluggish and exhausted when I travel overseas next week.
    Great advice given in how to enjoy holidays more fully with family, without compromising what our body is telling us.

  82. What a great blog we have had a similar experience on our last few trips, I love the opportunity to experience different locations and connect with different people and cultures which generally confirms that we are no different no matter where we are or how much we earn – the issues are the same. But my rhythm is the one thing that supports me to stay connected to me and that is definitely NOT something i want or need a holiday from. Sure it is nice not to have to get the family out the door and off to school but after the first few days everyone starts searching for something else to do and the family finds a new rhythm as you said anon ‘it doesn’t matter where I am and what I’m doing – it’s about how I’m living in that moment.

  83. There are so many things we have just come to accept of life, such as work hard and then have a holiday to recover. I often hear people say “I need a holiday”, or “I just have to get through this and then I can have a holiday”. This is a cycle that keeps us in constant exhaustion, whereas I loved how you spoke about Rhythms anonymous, that if we maintain our rhythm no matter where we are or what we are doing we are constantly in abundance of energy and never in need of a holiday but simply in joy of one. Thank you.

    1. Well said Caroline ‘….never in need of a holiday but simply in joy of one.’ Changes the whole notion of holidays to be ‘living me days’!

  84. I agree completely Anonymous – I will often want to go away to have a break. BUT a break from what? It is for me to then look at what it going on? How am I living? What is making me exhausted? It usually means that my rhythms at home are out and need to be revisited in some way. Sometimes its a case that I have not changed my rhythms but I actually need to – as I change and go deeper so do my rhythms.

  85. It is interesting how most of the working population focus on their yearly holidays as the thing to plan and save for. Have you noticed how holidays can often be packaged as “the great escape”? Why do we need to escape from our lives, and if we do, the question we need to ask is how are we living? It’s great that you re-connected to your natural rhythm whilst on holidays and also realised that working on your projects is actually sustaining and not draining.

  86. Thank you Anonymous, great experience about how to not lose yourself on a holiday. I know what it is like to fall into someone elses rhythm, I have done this when my family visits from overseas, I feel like I am the one all at sea. When I have stopped doing the mum bit and connect to my own rhythm, I can be with my family on a much truer level, being me.

    1. Thank you Jill and Anonymous, this is so true – the dangers of falling into someone else’s rhythm at the cost of our own rather than living in what is true for us and by virtue of doing so, harmonising with another. Adopting the rhythm of another is like trying to
      breathe their breath instead of our own, it feels foreign to the body and is a particularly tricky stunt to pull off – one that leaves us more than a little short of air.

  87. Loved reading this Anonymous as I am about to embark on a 3-week holiday overseas. It was so confirming to read “Yes, I did ponder on these but my body gave me the answer loud and clear; spending some time on the projects I am involved in actually wasn’t work at all and I realised from this holiday it actually supported me.” as I have been feeling this clearer and clearer as well, that I love my natural rhythm and I don’t want to have ‘time off’ from it, whether I’m on holidays or at work.
    I could so relate to everything you experienced, the lethargic feeling, not really wanting to do much, looking forward to the next meal (because it was something to do), getting irritable and thinking I had to sleep longer. I found that when I started to live how I usually do, like look after my body, exercise, eat well, follow up on any work, I was more myself and ready for the day with my family. Holidays are great when we are ourselves in them!!

    1. For me what this highlights is that everyday is the same, no matter where we are or what we do. And also when we don’t live true to ourselves this is where we can go into blaming other factors outside of us or other people. But all along it is us not choosing to live and honour how we feel.

  88. Anonymous I love this. “‘Connect to your rhythm and let the day unfold.” This is true for every moment and every day of life no matter if you are on holidays or at work etc. Connecting to our own rhythm is a beautiful way to connect to the world around us, who needs a holiday from that?

  89. i have found this too. If I connect to another’s rhythm and live that I feel totally out of sorts, it’s like I have abandoned myself…given up on myself. I see how I have done this a lot in the past and kind of drifted through life rather than taking the wheel, as it were, and steered my own course.

  90. I agree it’s so easy to lose our rhythm on holidays which actually reduces the enjoyment of the time considerably. We are seemingly hard wired to think that over eating and over sleeping is somehow fun but the truth is it just feels like crap, good on you for listening to yourself and making your own way.

  91. This is a great ideal and beliefs breaking blog about holidays Anonymous. It is true that lots of people use holidays as a check out moment because daily life gets them feeling exhausted. I too believed this was relaxing but in truth it can never be relaxing to sleep in late, stay up late and over-eat, because you have to disconnect from your body to go into a rhythm that does not support you. It is important to look at how we are living in our day to day lives that makes us feel so exhausted. Holidays can be lots of fun and great to spend time together, but we should not forget that this only works if we truly honor ourselves along the way.

  92. I really enjoyed reading this Anonymous. I can relate to your experience of feeling sluggish and out of rhythm whilst on holidays. Connecting to my own rhythm and not the holiday rhythm or that of another makes a lot of sense.

    1. It does make a lot of sense Annie to stay in our natural rhythm no matter where we are or who we are with. Its very simple how Anonymous has shared how she came back and honoured her rhythm even though some around her may of felt uncomfortable or thought it was strange. I find though when the latter happens its often because the other person is still wanting to have a break from their life and having someone reflect another way to be on a holiday can bring up stuff. Awesome reflection, Anonymous has not only offered her family but anyone else seeing how working and holidaying with her family can be a joyful and normal experience.

  93. There is the general idea about holidays, weekends or simply times off (off what actually) that we only can be ourselves when we are free from the routines and demands of everyday life. So no wonder that we wanna get away from our lives. What about making our normal lives so delicious that we don´t want to escape them any longer? Delicious, enjoyable, fulfilled not because of heaps of outer things and circumstances that relieve or distract us but by enjoying ourselves by being ourselves in whatever we do. I guess it´s fair to say that here is some potential often overlooked as we are hypnotized by the things outside of us we are staring at.

    1. Absolutely Alex great question – what exactly are we wanting time off from? The drag of every day life? So why not look at why our daily lives feel like this and see if the way we live every day could be changed to be more enjoyable? Then we would not seek to escape so much. Is it even possible to not need a holiday but simply use holidays as an opportunity to rebuild and regather ourselves?

      1. It would seem what we want reprieve from is the vice like grip that we are held in when we choose a fixed routine we are slave to over a natural rhythm that holds and supports us. In this state, EVERYTHING is a chore because it goes against every impulse that tells us otherwise, hence the exhaustion. It takes more effort to resist our natural way than to live it. Something I am only just catching onto now

      2. I like what you are saying here Liane. The difference between a routine and rhythm. And that things feel like a struggle or a chore or a bore or exhausting when we are choosing to live against what we are feeling, our natural flow. No wonder we try to escape from this trap or prison not realising unfortunately that we are not really changing anything on holiday if we keep repeating the same suppression of our natural knowing but just doing it in a more exotic location!

    2. “What about making our normal lives so delicious that we don´t want to escape them any longer?” Absolutely Alex, its about living consistent harmony, not compartmentalising life into work and vacations. However blue the ocean is, however high the rollercoaster, true joy is found in supporting ourselves to be everything we are.

  94. I was reading another blog on how much someone was able to enjoy having breakfast with themselves… and the link is very strong here. When we are away, do we change? Do we give up all the things that support us? What both blogs present is that being ourselves, no matter what others think or are doing, is far more important and will lead to a holiday that supports the rest and relaxation that the body needs from time to time.

    1. Great question simonwilliams8 – “Do we give up all the things that support us?” I worked this out while visiting overseas in May this year. Not straight away though and I went off with the following others around and not listening to what I felt to do and overeating. But as my vitality declined and I started to feel yuk in myself and lacked any purpose to what I was doing then I stopped and would catch a taxi from where-ever I was and go back to the accommodation or did what-ever I felt to do…and I instantly felt more myself.

      1. That is so true, as soon we take care of ourselves and to what we feel is best inline to our body we get to notice the difference. From exhaustion and overeating to more vitality and joy.

    2. I agree Simon, staying with ourselves is the key in any situation and keeping our natural rhythms wherever we are is what sustains us. If we do this, we are unlikely to be affected by what others think or are doing, it just means that what we do choose to do will be supportive and enjoyable.

    3. ‘A holiday that supports the rest and relaxation the body needs from time to time’, I’m having that right now Simonwilliams8, dog sitting for my daughter in a lovely part of the UK, so I haven’t gone far. For me it is a space to devote more attention to my own rhythms. Far from being an escape from life, there are fewer distractions from other peoples lives, so I can fully engage in my own.

    4. And Simon I was reading another blog on what’s ‘normal’ and feel that that ties in with this blog as well. We are drawn out of our natural rhythms by what is perceived as ‘normal’ e.g when to sleep, when to eat, how much to eat, when to go out, hours of work, how to exercise, how to be on holiday? The list is endless but it all serves to pull us out of our natural rhythm.

  95. I can relate to giving up my rhythm and trying to fit in with another rhythm. I have done that a lot in my life and I actually thought that was the way to be. Once Serge Benhayon took me for a ‘walk’ around the room where I could feel how much I was waiting for someone to give me directions where to go and how to be. It was a true wake up call for me. Since then I have allowed myself more and more to stay in and trust my own rhythm and let it flow with other rhythms.

    1. “… trust my own rhythm and let it flow with other rhythms.” This is gorgeous Esther and reminded me of Vietnam. When you are in the what seem like chaotic streets of Vietnam you could be fouled into thinking it is chaos, yet each of them is in their own rhythm and as long as you are in yours each rhythm flows into the other. Break your rhythm and your break the flow for everyone. This can be difficult to trust at first but once you do it is very magical.

      1. So much to love and take in – in both Anonymous’ blog and both of your comments Esther and Caroline. Esther I can completely relate to the ‘waiting for someone to give me instructions/directions on where to go and how to be’. That really sums up what has been coming up for me at the moment. And it feels exhausting – truly! Thank you for articulating that. And Caroline, yes I love that about Vietnam – it is great analogy for keeping our rhythm. I am struggling to trust mine at the moment as it exposes the need to control….and when Anonymous wrote ‘connect to your rhythm and let the day unfold’ I love the simplicity of that but can also feel myself fighting it as well. But it is a loving work in progress to keep trusting my own rhythm because when I do, it is indeed quite magical.

      2. Yes, so true what you share here about Vietnam, it initially seems like chaos, but there is a beautiful rhythm to it, and as long as you are in yours it all flows into the other. Beautiful to experience and magical as you say Caroline.

    2. That is beautifully said Esther and I can relate to what you have expressed here. I feel I have been in the same ‘boat’ waiting for someone else to show me the way, not trusting myself. There is great freedom and contentment that comes with letting that go and trusting that no matter what – you can trust yourself.

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