Looking in a Mirror – Enjoying a True Reflection

Have you ever stopped – looking in a mirror to enjoy a true reflection – or is it just a glance to make sure your make-up or hair is ok?

I remember one day being asked just that; “do you look at yourself in the mirror, or is it just a glance?” Of course, I thought, I always look in the mirror ­– or did I?

Sure I would look in the mirror but never was I really looking at me – I was looking at a mere shadow of myself which was then presented to the world.

It was time to start looking past the facade that I had created to protect and hide myself from the world; to allow myself to see the true me. It was an awkward and at times uncomfortable process – making myself stop and look at what was being reflected back to me.

Funny really, as I worked as a hairdresser so I was in front of mirrors all day every day, and yet it was easy to avoid looking at myself, making it all about the client.

There was no admiration or adoration of myself. I would look in a mirror and not liking what I saw, I would instead choose to make every glance about something else. For example, when trying on clothes I never looked at myself but looked at and admired the clothes I was trying on – never once stopping to admire the person that was wearing the clothes. The body and person under the clothes were just that… there was no appreciation or connection to me, just an observation of the reflection of what I saw in the mirror.

So the process unfolded on many levels, keeping it simple to start with and taking time to actually look at myself when I was in front of the mirror. Not unlike what can be observed when a child looks at themselves in the mirror… you can see the way they admire and adore themselves with each and every glance.

Before long I was beginning to see the true essence of me coming through – the facade was beginning to drop away and I was no longer afraid of how I presented to the world.

I began to dress for me, not the world or the mirror; my make-up was applied to my face in a way that supported the natural glow that was now emanating.

As this unfolded I started to enjoy walking past a mirror and slowly began to appreciate the woman I was becoming – or what I should say is that I was now allowing the woman I had always been, out.

I did not stop to consider the amazing beauty I had concealed from myself and the world – I only knew that the hurt I had been protecting myself from was actually coming from me. I was hurt because I had been hiding this awesome reflection and every time I looked in the mirror the sadness was felt. I did not like what I saw – what I was looking at was not me and it hurt. The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me.

I have been nurturing, embracing and loving the person I am – without any expectations or comparisons to another.

Over time, with this nurturing I have blossomed and continue to blossom every day with more and more acceptance for myself.

It was this simple question from Serge Benhayon about the way I looked at myself in a mirror – or not ­­– many, many years before, that began my process of self-acceptance; a process that has been nothing short of a true transformation. No plastic surgery, wonder pills or diets, just a commitment to allowing myself to connect to, live and express me.

I now live each day appreciating the woman I am, continuing my expansion of self for all the world to see.

With the hurts falling away and the real me shining through, why would I not want to stop, and looking in a mirror, see a true reflection of glorious me.

Inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

By Nicole Serafin, Age 42,Tintenbar, Australia

555 thoughts on “Looking in a Mirror – Enjoying a True Reflection

  1. The way we use our eyes and the images we allow ourselves to see is determined by what we want to perceive. If we look at ourselves convinced that we are ugly for whatever reason, we see that picture in the mirror because we are looking in a way that confirms that.

  2. “…what I was looking at was not me and it hurt.”
    This makes so much sense Nicole, what we dislike about ourselves is that we have become someone we are not and it does hurt to realize that. The good thing is if we are honest about this fact, we can start to make different choices that bring us back to who we truly are and we can register that in our essence we are absolutely adorable.

  3. It is so true that we mostly all tend to not really look at ourselves in a mirror, we are simply judging whether we look ok for the world or not. What are we afraid that we might see or even feel if we were to have a complete stop and look deeply into our own eyes for a few minutes? Might we not start to get to know ourselves a little better?

  4. I love what you share here Nicole, when we look in the mirror are we taking time to truly appreciate and adore ourselves or using it to bash ourselves and point out and find flaws. I know the more I enjoy my reflection it feels expansive in my body and this supports me to shine throughout the day, and on the days I judge myself in the mirror how this can affect the quality of my day – time to choose the 1st option more consistently and deepen the relationship with myself.

  5. Great sharing Nicole. My relationship with myself and the mirror is ever evolving. I realized when I am connected with myself I love looking at myself in the mirror. When I am not I don’t like what I see. This can be in the same day.

  6. I never realised why I always avoided mirrors until it was pointed out that they were reflecting back to me my lack of appreciation of me and revealing my deep sadness for the lack of relationship with myself. It is only since I have started to appreciate myself and confirm this that how I am with mirrors has changed and I can now look myself in the eye and feel my connection to myself and how beautiful this is.

  7. “The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me” – I agree, and it is a self-inflicted one. There’s no one to blame, but us to choose another way of being, always.

  8. It’s so true that the hurts we believe we’re protecting ourselves from feeling are in fact of our own making. Our choice to hold onto them and to use them to avoid appreciating that we are not our hurts, to avoid appreciating the true beauty that we are, inside and out.

  9. It is amazing, Nicole ,that we can look in a mirror and only see what we want to see and often it is on the surface. I am now looking at myself with a deeper appreciation of “me” and am much more loving to my body with this process.

  10. It is only in recent years do I ‘really’ look at myself in the mirror and it gives me great joy. Previously I did not truly look at my image as I was in denial of how I was. Every so often the facade I held would drop and I catch myself unexpectedly in the mirror and be shocked for short period of time at how over-weight and unhealthy I looked. But I would put that aside, so to speak, and carry on as I was. It is with the deepest appreciation for Serge Benhayon for presenting a different, true way of being and my willingness to embrace the change that I now look with pleasure in the mirror at my reflection.

  11. Without doubt in the past the reflection I have looked for in the mirror was one of a surface level only, a how do I look for the world around me… I have never really considered that I could use these moments on a deeper level to value myself and confirm my essence – this will certainly change now! Your words of wisdom have been a breath of fresh air Nicole. What a thoroughly enjoyable and beautiful blog this has been to read.

  12. “No plastic surgery, wonder pills or diets just a commitment to allowing myself to connect to, live and express me” This is one that I will share with my mirror next time I look in.

  13. A blog I can relate to Nicole! What I’m finding for myself now is that the more I’m willing to look in the mirror and see and feel the true essence of me, the more I am also able to see and feel this in others. And thus we have the power of magnification and reflection!

  14. The deeper acceptance comes from ourselves and it could never be confirmed to us by the world, the only confirmation of it is in our own love. Working in the fashion and image industry, how we look and present ourselves is what most people judge us by, but none of how we look on the outside compares to knowing the solidity of who we are within ourselves first, and how that is expressed externally is a freedom that does not change with how we are expected to look.

  15. Thank you Nicole a gorgeous sharing and one that took a moment for me to really feel ‘how do I look at myself in the mirror’. I’ve come from a place that was only looking at the outside appearance. Not so much now as self-love has come into my life and a gentle gaze looks right back at me. No more ‘does my bum look big in that’ but a look that says thank you God for this gift as I’m now truly appreciating each and every day and that result is looking right back at me.

  16. Looking in the mirror is such a simple thing to do but how often do I do it and enjoy my reflection – well after reading this blog I can feel not enough. Your blog is a beautiful support for people such as me shying away from enjoying my amazing and glorious self, time to build this into my life more, thank you for the reminder.

  17. A great blog to read once again. Sometimes I still stop and see myself in the mirror, and then get I scared, because I see a man I don’t like, with dull dead eyes with no smile or not a true smile. And then I stop: and ask myself, what is going on? Fortunately when I allow myself a moment to stop, the beautiful man I came to know, returns pretty easily. I connect back to me, breath, or take a walk. For me, it is still moment of amazingness to be still in front of a mirror, and really see and appreciate a truly beautiful man.

  18. Beautiful Nicole, incredible change, what would we do without Serge Benhayon? Well, I would be even more further away from myself – not knowing who I am. In this stage of my life I am becoming more aware of who I am and have been developing this for the last 4 years – a connection with myself that is absolutely inspired by all the work that Serge has presented over the years and at the same time with all the true reflections of the family Benhayon. Gorgeous bunch of deeply loving people. I am glad that I am back – and have refound myself – for who I am – once and for all – I will never choose to lose this again – never!

  19. A friend who was staying with me, commented one day on how many mirrors I had in my home, I then realised how little attention I paid to mirrors or to me, in fact, I would glance in the bathroom mirror to do my hair or quickly my makeup but that was it. Slowly I am taking more time to be with me as I look in the mirror, I can now take the time to stop and smile, and even appreciate, the person who is looking back at me.

  20. I notice there is a big difference between the perfunctory glance in the mirror to check what I am wearing, my hair, or the utilitarian requirement for a shaving mirror… to really looking at myself in the mirror. I don’t mean this in a narcissistic way (which is perhaps what I initially reacted to), but to see what is truly going on. There is information there in how my body is, there is appreciation for me no matter what, and there is a recognition that I am, with no avoidance. Its well worth taking the time now and then to truly appreciate ourselves.

  21. Asking myself this question; “do you look at yourself in the mirror, or is it just a glance?”; my honest answer would have to be no I do not look at myself in the mirror, a cursory glance at best. On rereading your blog I am committing to look my deeply and tenderly at myself. Thank you Nicole for reflecting this to me.

  22. Revisiting this blog i found a complete new aspect that struck me Nicole. You gave me a clue to why I sometimes dislike what I see when I am looking in the mirror and that is the fact that when I do not fully appreciate myself for who I truly am, I am living my hurts instead and to see that is actually very devastating as deep inside I know I am not that. When I connect to this I can truly feel the hurt of not living who I truly am, a Divine being that has reduced his life to a mere sparkle of that. Thank you Nicole for bringing this clarity to me.

  23. ‘I have been nurturing, embracing and loving the person I am – without any expectations or comparisons to another.’ It’s so important to clock when we put expectations on ourselves of how we want to be or how we want to look – often by way of comparison with another or with an airbrushed ideal – and negate what is naturally there within us. Because it is that innermost essence that is our true beauty, beyond skin deep, that emanates out to the world. That is what people see and that is what, if we hide it because of our hurts, what people don’t get to see. Instead we show them our fabricated version that we hope will keep us protected from those hurts.

  24. Such a beautiful sharing Nicole, I just realised that when I look in the mirror I am often seeing the clothes but not often me in them. Thank you. I feel the joy of you, reflecting back to you, the truly beautiful you.

  25. Very beautiful to read Nicole, through deeply appreciating yourself you are able to look in the the mirror and see your true self reflecting back.

  26. Nicole, how beautiful that you are now seeing the amazing and inspiring woman you are. A very healing and loving imprint to take out into the world.

    1. I agree this is deeply healing for all women to read and begin to practice in their own lives, as self-worth issues are huge among women.

  27. When I am being critical of myself and just want to ‘glance in the mirror’, I focus on my eyes. When I look myself in my eyes, I can’t help but feel all the beauty that I am inside and my lack of self-acceptance melts.

    1. Yes Carmin, this is exactly my experience, I cannot walk away from what I see in my eyes, it instantly connects me to who I am and the grandness that comes with that. it is always this reminder that gives me the opportunity to step out of my hurts, my creations and to return to what is true in life and live this.

  28. It took many years and the wisdom presented by Serge Benhayon to finally get me to acknowledge that: “The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me.” – and the pain I carried from hiding me away from the world was huge. It has taken a long time to be able to stop and look at myself in the mirror for no other reason than to take the time to truly look at, and acknowledge the beautiful woman who is looking back at me, and there are still days it is only a passing glance. There are some days I still can only see the pain, but as my love for me grows deeper those days are getting fewer and fewer.

  29. Nicole this is a super powerful sharing – thank you. What you have reflected is how when we are honest about how we are truly with ourselves we can then begin to heal our hurts which hold us back from being who we truly are and expressing in full. Through which we can appreciate all the love that we are in essence and share this light with world. ‘The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me.’ – very true and beautifully said.

  30. Wow Nicole that was a revealing blog. What your shared here is gold. Your wrote: “. I was hurt because I had been hiding this awesome reflection and every time I looked in the mirror the sadness was felt.” How many people are not loving what they see in the mirror and are not aware that they only see their own sadness for not choosing the love they are? It is beautiful to read what you have experienced with being more self loving and self accepting – this is very inspirational.

  31. It is very true what you share Nicole. Once we start and commit to appreciating ourselves and others for exactly who we are as we are, a lovely warm feeling starts to come from inside. This feeling has all the potential in the universe for us the lovingly be all of who we are, without reservation. And this is the reflection the glass or world mirror reflects back to us.

  32. I can relate to your story Nicole as I used to always look in the mirror with critique about myself. The biggest one being about how I didn’t like the shape of my thighs and if only I was a bit taller! Thank god I don’t do that anymore and that the shape of my body is not the focus. I really do love looking in the mirror now and have started wearing tight skirts whereas before I would not dare buy these. Truly appreciating me instead of critiquing makes such a difference in my day. I have found that if I ‘feel’ good about myself and have a healthy self-worth, then when I look in the mirror this is what greets me…an appreciation of my inner beauty just beaming out.

  33. ‘ The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me.’ – Wow Nicole what a power-full and true statement. No one can inflict pain onto us, the deep hurt we feel is the pain of missing our true selves. Thank you for the beautiful reminder to look in a mirror and truly appreciate and accept the amazingness we are.

  34. ‘I now live each day appreciating the woman I am, continuing my expansion of self for all the world to see.’ Powerful and beautiful.

  35. This is an incredible process that you describe Nicole. Of appreciating, accepting and really seeing myself as I gaze into my reflection. I notice that I have glazed over in my eyes, not wanting to really see the World or have the World see me; which is I am sure why I am still marginally short sighted. A protection that kicked in when I was feeling the pressure of the World in Year 12.

    Nurturing and being with the Woman I am, in my early morning, as I shower and dress and as I do my hair and make up, I am seeing my eyes more open and allowing, more at ease. It is very beautiful. I am also adoring my body, exactly the way it is, appreciating it for the truth it constantly offers me.

  36. ‘The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me.’
    This sentence is very true Nicole, we all walk around protecting ourselves because we’ve been hurt by others, but what really hurts is our walking away from ourselves, so it doesn’t make sense that we don’t let other people in.

  37. You raise such a great question Nicole – how do we look at ourselves in the mirror? As I was reading I could feel the same as you when the question was posed to you – there are many moments when I glance in the mirror, but it’s only been recently that I’ve really looked at myself and received what was looking back at me. This has really supported me to build a loving relationship with myself and I take this as a time to confirm myself and appreciate who I am.

    1. ‘I’ve really looked at myself and received what was looking back at me’ – that’s it Brooke. The difference in how that feels is huge if a little disconcerting at first!

  38. Nicole, I love this blog. You touch on an issue that so many women must encounter and yet possibly not realise what lays beyond the selfworth issues that might be reflecting back at them. These following few sentences really resonated for me and they go wonderfully deep to show what might really be behind our inability to look, hold and enjoy our own reflection: “I did not stop to consider the amazing beauty I had concealed from myself and the world – I only knew that the hurt I had been protecting myself from was actually coming from me. I was hurt because I had been hiding this awesome reflection and every time I looked in the mirror the sadness was felt. I did not like what I saw – what I was looking at was not me and it hurt. The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me.”

  39. I’ve noticed that the greatest reflection that I experience is that of my thoughts. If I am present, the quality of my thoughts is a perfect reflection of my state of being. Am I thinking or being caught in the conundrums of everyday life or am I engaged in the awareness of living in connection. This plays itself out in front of the mirror as well, do I feel the deep sense of me or do I not give that a second look.

  40. I recall hearing one amazing lady who knows her own value inside and out share her love of mirrors and looking at herself (she has no less than six in her bedroom alone). And why wouldn’t you, if what you see is simply gorgeous and amazing? That’s where I want to get to.

  41. Nicole this article is a great ‘reflection’ in and of itself for us all, prompting us to examine our own relationship with ourselves. I noticed over the years that I too had fallen into the habit of making it all about checking my appearance rather than deeply admiring me. I’ve also noticed that I would apparently look different in different mirrors and at different times of the day – a very interesting phenomenon, and one that showed me how I received what I saw depended on what I was feeling in the emotional sense at that time. But most of all I came to see the judgment in each of those looks, the constant negative self-assessment and appraisal. Today, rather than looking at my image critically, I’m practicing looking at how I feel in the energetic sense – what I’m emanating.

    1. Victoria I often wondered why I look different in various mirrors. Your explanation makes a lot of sense to me, that it depends “on the emotional sense at the time”. I was never one to look much at my reflection, not liking what I saw, comparing and judging myself and coming short. Nicole’s blog opens up a new opportunity to learn to accept myself for who I am, not what I look like. I know there is more to me than what the mirror is reflecting back. So mirror, here I come, ready to explore and unfold the real me.

  42. The same goes for men:-) And even more, while women tend to look in the mirror more on a regular basis, men hardly don’t: but they should. But not a glance but truly look. It took me quite a time before I could see the real ME with all its love, power and tenderness. It was more: allowing to see. What was even more difficult and saying aloud: I love myself. Since then I spend more time in front of the mirror, because every time I really look it is like a celebration of ME.

  43. I lately walked across a mirror and I had to stop and walk back. I had to look in my own eyes. They was so deep, so deep warm blue. I could look for hours.
    This happened twice in one week and I noticed that both times I was doing something the same before. I expressed myself in full, without holding back, the truth with being not attached what the effect will be. Pretty powerful. That dept was shown in my eyes. For there I can see that how more loving I live to myself how more beautiful I become. It has nothing to do with the outside picture.

  44. I love this Nicole! You have shared so beautifully the difference between how we use the mirror to further cement how we feel about ourselves in the critical or negative sense or to truly stop and pay attention and feel who is looking back at us. This is such a wonderful example of how we can relearn to deeply connect and appreciate ourselves. It’s always fascinates me how accurately our reflection reveals how we have been living, when I feel amazing I look amazing but when I feel flat or off, then that also shows. The mirror never lies! But even when we may not feel quite ourselves, this is when we really need to look deep and see past the outer and connect to who is really looking back at us. Awesome blog, thank you

  45. The difference between the mirror as a tormentor and the mirror as a gift of reflection. That is the change that has occurred for me since working with Universal Medicine. The mirror has not changed – I have! And not on the outside either – no plastic surgery, just a little bit of ageing!

    What has occurred with the support of Universal Medicine is a breaking out of a prison of imposed (some by me) ideas and beliefs about how I should be and look in the world. Multiple roles taken on, along with various outer guises and appearance management. None of which supported me in truth and all of which were therefore unsustainable and a struggle.

    Alongside Universal Medicine I have been able to let a true expression of me emerge and to actually get to know myself. Therefore what I see in the mirror today is me – sweet, beautiful, vital and inspired – not a mask that is always just falling short of requirements.

    1. Love what you have expressed here matildaclark…especially the symbolism of the mirror being a tormentor or a gift of true reflection. Its amazing what we see through the filters of imposed beliefs and ideals…I was very much caught up in this growing up in the fitness and performing arts industries where ‘looks’ were the focus. The more I have connected to the true me, accepting the beauty within, the more my reflection in the mirror has changed. What I feel about myself then gets reflected to the world…and what a difference that is when one is accepting themselves as the gorgeousness that they are. Today when I look in the mirror I see a beautiful, stunning sweet sexy woman.

      1. So before we even approach the mirror we have chosen what we will see. Are we being loving, tender and appreciative or critical and harsh? So cool to ponder this and the power of our choices.

  46. Thank you Nicole, I will pay more attention to myself next time I am in front of a mirror and check the degree to which I connect to the reflection coming back or if I use it for the function it provides… I have a hunch it will show me a bigger reflection of how I interact with others as well.

    1. Great point Joel “I have a hunch it will show me a bigger reflection of how I interact with others as well.” Not only does the reflection we see allow us to feel how we feel about ourselves, but how we feel about others… So the question to me is not “Will we see?” or “What will we see?” but “How much do we allow ourselves to see?”

  47. ‘I started to enjoy walking past a mirror and slowly began to appreciate the woman I was becoming – or what I should say is that I was now allowing the woman I had always been, out.’ ….. love the point you make here, Nicole. It’s incredible how dismissive we can be about ourselves, how shockingly hard it IS for us to accept that we ARE in fact absolutely gorgeous. I recently found myself looking in the mirror admiring how my skin was glowing. I fleetingly thought, it must be the new face cream I’m using, but stopped myself just in time to quickly dispel that misconception and instead appreciated the fact that it was a reflection of the joy radiating out from within. The absolute joy I feel in finally ‘allowing the woman I am, out’.

    1. This is so beautiful to read Alison. Thank you very much for sharing this gorgeous moment with us all. Very inspiring.

  48. I too really related and enjoyed reading how you dropped this mask you used to hide your hurts from the world. It feels lovely to appreciate my inner beauty by looking at my own reflection and see how more and more I risk letting others in.

  49. I really understand this sentence, it resonated with me “The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me.” I got to the point where I made a decision that I would not turn away from being truthful, and speaking my truth was what I needed to do, I could not continue to be a ‘shadow’ it hurt so much, I cold feel tension in my chest, stress in my shoulders, sadness over my heart and now it has melted and nothing that any one can attack me with would ever hurt as much as me not speaking this truth.

  50. ‘The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me.’ I can so relate to this. And relate to what this looks like when I look in the mirror – I see a kind of ghost looking back. The pain of me not committing to fully being with myself in this world. I have seen this harm reflected back to me.

    But what is beautifully shared is looking deeper and seeing the beauty within and how accepting this is me allowing myself to shine.

    1. It feels strange that shadow could feel so normal. But thanks to Universal Medicine I have created markers showing me who I am truly. And that again is also a shadow of what is next. But it sure is a great start! And there is always more.

  51. Nicole wow and wow I so love your blog. It shows me I’m worth looking beyond my hurt of not seeing all of who I am to ‘I was now allowing the woman I had always been, out.’ I hadn’t appreciated this fully until now but having gone in and tried on some clothes I got the top because I loved seeing my skin through the holes at the shoulder. It felt so lovely appreciating me.

    Such a change from the other day where I lamented I didn’t have the body that looked good in the clothes – me trying to fit the clothes and not the other way around. It’s not about what I look like on a superficial level it’s about me wearing clothes that celebrate me.

  52. This reminds me of how i look at myself in the mirror immediately after having had a healing session. When I first began having healing sessions, the esoteric practitioner I saw had a mirror in her room. On getting off the table she would encourage me to look in the mirror. The reflection I saw was one that I wanted to continually look at in the mirror. I also think of my son. As a baby I had a mirror on the floor and he would spend hours in front of it looking at himself. At age six he often sits in front of the mirror looking at himself and playing. It is a beautiful thing to watch him enjoy his reflection and be so playful with himself.

  53. Nicole, this is a great blog. If everyone tried what you are suggesting it would save billions of dollars in plastic surgery and the majority of plastic surgeons could be freed up to work on real problems.

    1. Good point, Doug. The very notion of someone having plastic surgery to enhance their looks is such a sad reflection on our society. That there is such a lack of self worth, particularly amongst women, that we would rather go under the knife to alter our body, rather than choose to feel how amazingly beautiful we already are. That we ARE enough, we don’t need to undergo surgery to discover the perfection that lies within us all.

      1. That is so true Alison. Unfortunately few can see the truth of this living in a world that inundates everyone with what they should look like and one in which everyone compares themselves against these invented ideals and judges themselves to be less as a result.

      2. “…we ARE enough, we don’t need to undergo surgery to discover the perfection that lies within us all.” I love what you have shared here Alison as it rings so true to me.

    2. Great point, Doug. Our lack of relationship with ourselves in the mirror and in daily life is certainly fuelling the demand for plastic surgery. The increase in demand is a direct indication of how lost we, as a society, are becoming. But there is another way and Nicole has presented such a simple way to engage with ourselves on a much deeper level here in this blog.

  54. ‘I was hurt because I had been hiding this awesome reflection and every time I looked in the mirror the sadness was felt.’ Yes Nicole, how we used to feel hurt because we hide who we are, our amazingness, I can relate… I love how you turned this around and now celebrate, shine and appreciate the true beautiful person you are.

  55. Who is looking at who, when we look in the mirror. Are we looking from a place of truth, or is it from the outer existence that has been created from all around looking back on ourselves. Both provide very different realities.

  56. “The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me” I recognize this very much. Now I am also starting to see the true me, and I can say for the first time in my life – or is again – I really love myself.

  57. How we feel when we really look at ourselves in the mirror is a great indication of where we are at with our relationship with ourselves. I know for me this has been transforming from only glancing at myself or looking at the parts of my face that I am applying makeup to… to standing in from of the mirror admiring my amazing eyes, my smooth and shiny skin, my makeup that has been lovingly applied. Yes, it was uncomfortable to start with but now it feels amazing to have a date with myself in the mirror and to really see myself for the amazing beauty I am, inside and out.

    1. ‘How we feel when we really look at ourselves in the mirror is a great indication of where we are at with our relationship with ourselves,’ and can help deepen our levels of intimacy. A beautiful sharing Nicole and Robyn, and time for me to go further with this.

  58. This is a beautiful blog Nicole. I remember a friend once asked me if I ever look in the mirror and look into my eyes and know that I am a son of God. When this man asked me this I thought, wow that is a good question. The answer was no, I had never done that. and then the question became why have I never done that? I started giving it a go after that and was amazed at the different times of looking into my eyes and what I saw. Sometimes I could see all of me and others I could clearly notice that I was not there so to speak. It was a fascinating experience, and I could really relate what I saw to how I was feeling or how I was being in the day.

  59. I like to do a double take when I look in the mirror. When I look in the mirror, the habit of glancing is now followed by a deeper look into my eyes, to confirm myself, what I’m feeling and reflect how I am in the day. I can feel the glancing getting less and less.

  60. Wow Nicole, you have really inspired me to look in the mirror and not just glance at myself, I love how you adore and appreciate yourself now, so beautiful. It makes me realise that there is this idea that it is ‘vain’ and ‘big headed’ to look in the mirror and that because of this I did not ever want to be caught looking at myself in the mirror, let alone adoring myself, but your article shows me that it is not vain but very lovely to look at ourselves and that this is a great way to re-connect.

  61. This was a really powerful blog for me to read Nicole. “…when trying on clothes I never looked at myself but looked at and admired the clothes I was trying on – never once stopping to admire the person that was wearing the clothes.” This really hit home as I wasn’t taking in the full beautiful picture, I was ignoring me and loving the garments, ouch. Then, when I paused to think about how I look at myself in the mirror, well I only look deep into my eyes, knowing the precious being is there but again not taking in the full beautiful picture and seeing all of me – there is a hiding in this and a dismissing of the body and it’s expression and reflections that I’m not wanting to see and feel. There is much more to ponder on here for me.

  62. Looking at myself in the mirror, deep into my eyes has allow me to get in touch with another level of intimacy with myself I have not experienced before and now can share with those around me.

  63. The question was raised yesterday about appreciating me when I looked into my eyes in the mirror. So I did this when I got home. As you ask Nicole “Why would I not want to stop, and looking in a mirror, see a true reflection of glorious me”? It’s a beautiful loving choice to appreciate and celebrate that which we truly are, without model looks and perfection. Gently gently becoming lovingly intimate and 100% accepting of the reflection that comes back absolutely evolves the reflection into appreciation of who we are within.

  64. I love how you appreciate yourself everyday. I have been making a commitment to myself to appreciate my beauty, my eyes, my curves, my walk, my movements. By becoming more aware of how beautiful I am from the inside, I see how actually beautiful I am on the outside too and I am starting to appreciate that. Not to decide my beauty based on certain ideals or believes, but just on how I am feeling. The more beautiful I am feeling inside of me , the actually more beauty I can see in the mirror!

    1. What a great commitment you have made Danna, to appreciate yourself in many ways, and by, ‘becoming more aware of how beautiful I am from the inside, I see how actually beautiful I am on the outside too’, and then appreciate that too. This is not based on ideals and beliefs of how we should look, but from how we are feeling inside.

  65. Thank you Nicole for reminding me that the person underneath the clothing is what the world sees. I have often enjoyed admiring my clothing choices in front of the mirror but never to the depth that you have shared in your blog of appreciating the women in that body- ME!

  66. Thank you Nicole for writing this – It is something I have been working with myself and it is a deep exploration into the many beliefs I carry on how I should look in the world as a man that are surfacing. What you present allows me to go deeper with this process and that is to truly stop and make sure I am committed to first seeing all of me – not just my hair or my eyes or my clothes – all of me right down to my essence.

    1. When we take the time to stop and connect with our essence it is wonderful also to appreciate the beauty that is naturally there wanting to be shared with others.

    2. I know that too Lee, looking to how I look instead of feeling the beautiful and deep emanation of love that is reflected from my total image in the mirror. Nowadays the reflection of me from the mirror can sometimes completely stop me and make me amazed about the beauty I see.

  67. Re-reading your blog was a beautiful reminder to me Nicole, to stop and take the time to really enjoy my own reflection. I feel I too could do with being less hard on myself and actually start to see the woman who lives behind my eyes, as I feel she is a beautiful, loving and powerful woman who is just waiting to be seen by me.

    1. It is a beautiful reminder to me also, ‘to stop and take the time to really enjoy my own reflection’, to appreciate the amazing woman I truly am.

    2. So true Jade, for if we do not stop to appreciate and enjoy our own reflection how can we possibly begin to appreciate and enjoy another’s?

  68. Looking lovingly into the mirror – it is still a topic I can work on. There are still some days where I start to judge myself how I look. For me an important realization is, no matter how I feel and how I look, I’m a son of god. There was a time, when I gave my feelings more power than the fact, I’m already IT.

    1. Yes Alexander. Realization that we are a Son of God is step one. And then starting to feel it, first in moments and living it every single day. That is what Serge Benhayon is showing us. It can be done.

  69. It was a revelation for me when I discovered how the mirror reflects how I feel, and how much that influences what I see. These days I love what I see in the mirror and I know now that is a direct correlation of how I am feeling. So on the occasions I don’t like what I see, I know I just need to connect more to my inner yumminess and the truth of who I am 🙂

  70. This line really stood out to me “there was no admiration or adoration of myself”. It was the word adoration that really got me considering how much do I actually allow myself to adore myself. The answer is that I do not do it often enough and I can feel how essential it actually is. Thank you for the reminder.

    1. Thanks for highlighting that line Elizabeth. I had skimmed over that part in the blog. I can appreciate myself in the mirror but I don’t allow myself to adore me. I’m going to give it a go!

  71. Thank you Nicole, I love reading your blog as I am reminded how far I have come since the days I used to look in the mirror to look for the things that were not right with me as that was all I could see. Most of the time I would avoid mirrors so as to not be reminded of my flaws. It is only since being inspired by Serge and Natalie Benhayon has there been a turn around, and the relationship with myself and now as I look in the mirror I’m seeing my reflection as the beauty from within is shining back and I sometimes go back again to the mirror to allow pause, to acknowledge me , this always begins with looking deeply into my own eyes.

    1. I love it Yasmin when you describe how you “…sometimes go back again to the mirror to allow pause, to acknowledge me , this always begins with looking deeply into my own eyes.” This is truly beautiful and something I have also been doing lately.

  72. I am finding out quite a lot about myself with the awareness of how my mind runs when I look into the mirror, and it’s quite revealing. In a flash of a micro second, it can criticise me with a glance in the mirror as I pass it. In that moment, that flash confirms to me all that is ‘wrong ‘ in the day, I’m tired, or rushed, or late and so on. But when I stop and take a breath there, and a true look into my eyes, I can confirm all that criticism was not me; I get my reflection of all that is me, smile and move on.

  73. Our self talk when we look into a mirror is very revealing, whether we dismiss what we see or focus on the flaws or love what we see. I used to focus on the flaws as I perceived them, so looking in the mirror was just an extension of my self talk that plagued me in all areas of my life. So this is a good focus to understand how you are really treating yourself. To change that view and really look into the depths of your own eyes and to let yourself in to you is very profound. I have found it to be true that the more I love myself the more I love everyone else. I can feel there is truth in the idea that if I let myself into the beauty that is me then I will be able to let everyone else in.

    1. Well said Amanda Woodmansey – the mirror is indeed amazing to expose our self talk – “….whether we dismiss what we see or focus on the flaws or love what we see”.
      There was a time, in the not too distant past, that all I thought I was able to see were the flaws. Since attending presentations by Serge Benhayon I have been inspired to really see the truth of me in the mirror – in my eyes.
      Now, I can see instantly if I am a little ‘out of myself’ and with simply asking myself the question of “where are you?”, there is an immediate change in my eyes and feeling of presence again with my body.

    2. To look into the mirror and really hear how we talk to ourselves is an amazing step to uncovering just how we are with ourselves. This is a great point you have raised Amanda. It is also great for me to realise and appreciate that my self talk has shifted significantly from pulling apart all my so called imperfections to really looking at myself in the mirror and appreciating the power in my eyes, the glow of my skin, the relaxed nature of my face, how my jaw has changed, how the wrinkles on my face have lessened and so much more. So much has changed since I have been taking more loving care of myself and my reflection in the mirror is reflecting this :).

  74. Your blog is very refreshing to read Nicole. It is so common for women to critique themselves when looking in the mirror so to come to where you have is inspirational for women (and men) to read.

    1. And where does this destructive habit come from I wonder? It really is no the way to treat ourselves, critiquing instead of appreciating. Thankfully there are women around the world breaking this mould, those who have listened to and been inspired by Serge Benhayon, Natalie Benhayon and the many role models within Universal Medicine, to be loving and tender with themselves. Realising that we are totally worth it as well. This has made a high difference to my life just realising that I am in fact worth the Love and Attention I give to myself nowadays.

  75. After reading this Nicole I’m going to be much more aware of my relationship with myself and the mirror and being more open to really seeing and appreciating me.

    1. If we take the time to appreciate ourselves when we look in the mirror, it is interesting to notice that often the reflection we see is a perception of how we feel about ourselves.

  76. What a beautiful sharing and reflection of yourself and all you are. Your amazing beauty discovered is a message for everyone to truly nurture treasure appreciate and love oneself. Our reflection in the mirror is a great marker of how we see ourselves and our true beauty and true appreciation is something we all need to appreciate .This is one of the real gifts that has been brought to everyone by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine as a reflection and inspiration and loving way to live.

  77. Looking in the mirror for me has become a good check to see where I am at.
    If I just see joy and beauty I know I am fine and connected with myself.
    Should any doubt our dislike try to creep in, I instantly know that there is something to be looked at.

    1. This is a great tool to use on a daily basis, even more than once a day, Michael. Thank you for the inspiration.

  78. I had quite an aha moment in front of a mirror in a shop a couple of years ago now. I was trying on some pretty groovy and tight trousers, they had been suggested by the shop assistant and I was bit resistant with all kinds of ideas about why I couldn’t wear them: too old, legs too thin, they were too sexy, not my style etc etc. As I looked in the mirror all that dropped away and I simply saw what was there, me exactly as I was without an ounce of judgment or any other mental movement. It was a moment of complete self-acceptance and self-appreciation at the same time and yup I bought the trousers and some spell was broken that day – I didn’t have to be anything or look a certain way or hide any flaws I could just celebrate me. Incidentally I’ve enjoyed wearing the trousers heaps.

    1. Great Josephine, I too have seen some interesting changes in my attitude to myself in changing rooms, some deeply negative, but now much more appreciative. I find the unusual rear view like the back of my hair on a bad hair day rather challenging, yet when I feel lovely the clothes usually work out too.

      1. Yes, you’re right Shirley-Ann when I feel lovely the clothes reflect that. Actually I have to confess to being fascinated by being able to see my rear view when I’m in a changing room with a double mirror. I get to see and feel what my form looks like from behind and I can honestly say I love it with all the lovely, delicate and quirky details that make me smile.

  79. Nicole, it is true that once we start to pause and truly take note of ourselves when we look in the mirror it does not take long to see the beautiful being shining through. I love particularly to look into my own eyes as there is such a depth and beauty that reflects back to me which is timeless and true.

    1. Stopping and truly taking note of ourselves in the mirror can certainly be revealing. It can offer us an honest place to start with having a real relationship with ourselves. A relationship that is not just skin deep but one that comes from the depth within us.

      1. Great point Robynjones which breaks the common notion that mirrors are only there for the more superficial aspects of ourselves. I remember as a child being fed the idea that mirrors were to do with vanity (which was ‘bad’) and therefore one shouldn’t spend too much time in front of them!

      2. Good to throw that idea out now, Josephine! I love how this blog brings with it a true way of being with ourselves in the mirror and there is not an ounce of vanity in it! Great point that you have raised and a common misconception I feel.

  80. ‘ I was hurt because I had been hiding this awesome reflection…..what I was looking at was not me and it hurt’ Wow. This hit home. A deeply profound blog. My relationship with me and my mirror has just gone to a new level of awareness, respect and opportunity. Thank you.

  81. This is really supportive to read Nicole! I have a slightly different relationship to mirrors, but in essence I do a similar thing. Instead of just glancing at a shadow when I walk past one, I stop, turn and evaluate my face inside out and carefully pick out all the flaws that I see. This can range from spots, to oily skin, messy eyebrows, bad makeup, pointy nose, chubby cheeks and even that my pupils are too small and I look kinda crazy. Seems pretty unrealistic (which it definitely is) but it’s exactly what happens when I don’t appreciate myself and compare to the ‘perfect woman’ image I’ve created in my mind. Pretty horrible. I’m doing this less and less, and I realise that I do have the choice to NOT do this and do something different – i.e. look in the mirror and choose features I do love to name and appreciate.

  82. A Beautiful Letter of true appreciation of you and the amazingness that has always been there but the difference being it is all allowed out for the world to see. There was so much realised in your comment – ‘The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me’. The majority of the population in this Glorious world are holding back – How amazing if we all allowed ourselves to shine – what a world it would be.

    1. Yes, what a world it would be if we all let ourselves shine out all the beauty that we are! I remember a time when I first started to “see’ myself more in the mirror, and I often caught some very dark looks indeed. It was when I acknowledged them, like ‘alter egos’ and let them go that these masks seemed to lessen and I could see much more of the beautiful me underneath. The interesting thing is that when I was not clocking those faces they stayed with me much more.

  83. Nicole I loved your blog thank you, what you’ve shared is so true. Up until earlier this year…so some 50 years into my life, I always had a very subtle lingering feeling that it wasn’t ok to ‘like your own reflection’. That this meant you were ‘up yourself’ or ‘vain’. Following a presentation by Natalie Benhayon at one of the Universal Medicine Retreats, that little corker got exposed and cracked. Inherent in this was permission to love my reflection… which I notice I now do unashamedly, and if I don’t, is always reflective of something l’m carrying about myself that is not true. It’s now an amazing marker of how I am in relationship to myself… the most important one to start the day with I find.

    1. Yes Jenny that has been a huge one for me, that it is not ok to like your own reflection.. Though I do much more these days and as you say I can catch how I actually feel about myself at that moment in a mirror, and change it, which is great.

    2. I used to have that lingering feeling too! Similarly through Universal Medicine I’ve been blessed to have the reflection of seeing others unashamed appreciation of themselves and feeling how they weren’t putting themselves above anyone just appreciating their own beauty. Now looking in the mirror is a great marker of how I am in relationship with myself too. And the relationship that I have with me affects how I am with everyone else.

      1. So true Fiona, during childhood we are so often told never to appreciate ourselves – be it publicly or in private. Instead we should always strive to become even better.
        Seeing people who do not hide the appreciation for themselves is so very healing as one can realize the power appreciation has and that is has nothing to do with arrogance or false pride, but is just a joy expressing all somebody is.

    3. I used to avoid my reflection in public places for fear of not wanting to be seen as vain. I had a fear of being vain and I associated mirrors with vanity. When in public I would cast a quick glance at myself but nothing more or try and sneak a glance at my reflection in a shop window. I am much less sneaky about it now. I also enjoy seeing other women enjoy their reflection. Watching others appreciate their beauty in a gorgeous thing. But not as gorgeous as appreciating my own reflection.

      1. Your comment Nikki has reminded me of how I used to enjoy sitting in front of the mirror playing with different hairstyles when I was a teenager. I could be there for hours just enjoying being with me and experimenting. I also very much enjoyed looking a myself in the mirror… but I was told repeatedly that I was being vain and I allowed this lie to impact on my relationship with the mirror and I started to do what you have described and just have quick glances so I wouldn’t get criticised for being vain. What a tragedy it is to corrupt this innocent way of being with ourselves. Thankfully I am coming back to my former, unclouded relationship with myself and the mirror, and am once again enjoying seeing myself in the mirror… pausing (sometimes for awhile) to soak in all the glory and gorgeousness I see in the mirror again.

      2. That’s gorgeous Robyn. When we look at ourselves with appreciation how can it be vain? If we take the self out of it, we realise that we are looking at God’s creation. I didn’t make this gorgeous body. I am responsible for how I live, how I take care of it and what I allow into my body (including energetically). If I get myself out of the way, when I look in the mirror I see a creation of God. Thats is incredible to look at.

  84. For 7 years I didn’t have a mirror to look in, just a very small one in the bathroom, I didn’t have any real idea of what I was wearing, how I looked anything. Then at a Esoteric women’s group someone said something about looking in the mirror and I remember thinking I never do that look at myself in the mirror. I realised it was a case of me not wanting to see the reflection coming back to me so began a process of taking more care with myself and loving so that when I did look in the mirror I actually could start to appreciate the quality I was living in. Now I love looking in the mirror taking the time to put my make up on. It’s awesome.

    1. Wow Vanessa…no full length mirror for 7 years…I cannot even fathom that for myself. For me I needed the mirror to critique. Isn’t it interesting what we choose and why we choose it. I have changed the relationship with myself and my body image and now rarely use the mirror to critique, but to confirm and appreciate the loveliness that I see…but this hasn’t been an overnight process, but one that has developed over the years.

  85. Where and when did we lose it?: “what can be observed when a child looks at themselves in the
    mirror… you can see the way they admire and adore themselves with each and every glance.”

    I also see that children many times look at themselves with true curiosity, like it is the first time they see themselves, so curious and appreciative, not an ounce of judgement or criticism.

    1. Yes I remember babysitting once and the child continually looked at themselves in the mirror. I remember being a bit thrown by it – and if I am honest thinking they are quite vain and need to ‘get over themselves’. Fast forward 8 years and now I think I would join them and we could spend time appreciating ourselves because I realise it was not in vanity the child was doing that, they just thought they rocked! I see that when children watch videos of themselves – they adore it. Look at me here, isn’t that bit funny – aren’t I great here. We need more of this. For sure. Appreciate who we are and each other. That’s the answer.

      1. Yes we need more of that, everyone. Appreciation and even adoration, so now it´s having a look at what is in the way of me adoring myself and getting rid of it. Whatever it is, disorder, chaos, raciness, insecurity, thoughts, habits…getting rid of all that so that more and more each day I can look in the mirror and absolutely love what I see and feel.

  86. Could there be anything more beautiful than watching a woman begin the process of loving herself? There is such a joy in me reading this, and the beauty felt of a woman who is starting to love herself is massive. So, so beautiful.

  87. Nicole what a glorious article. I could feel the wonderful expansion of who you are and of who you continue to be. The glance into the mirror that you so aptly describe is one that I know well. In fact worse than that I remember feeling pretty disgusted in the past at the reflection of certain areas of my body. The way that i feel about myself has changed so radically that recently I have found myself seeking out mirrors to purposefully look at myself and often to look into my eyes.

    1. That is so cool Alexis, what I find fascinating about mirrors is that they can reflect back exactly how we are, no fog or lies simply the way it is. The more loving we are living with ourselves then naturally the more loving the reflection we get back will be. What I love about mirrors is that they give us the chance to see the reflection we are giving others, sure this may not be pretty at times but is worth stopping to see so then at least we have the opportunity to be honest with ourselves and make different more loving choices, otherwise nothing changes and the lie we have been living with continues unabated.

  88. All so true Nicole. When I look in the mirror my eyes dart harshly to my hips and mid area, i’ll either think ‘Oh I look slim today’ or quite the opposite. I have now been intently looking into my own eyes when I see my reflection and this instantly softens me and I melt into the who I am. Pretty cool. This blog is a reminder for me to deepen that and not shy away when I sometimes feel ‘woah, can I be this gorgeous’, absolutely!

    1. A while ago I noticed I was doing a similar thing – alway looking with judgement and looking at areas that I wanted to change. I put myself on a training program and when I would look in the mirror I would make sure that I looked at what I liked about myself. Over time this had a big impact. I stopped looking at my body harshly and with judgement and my appreciation of my body grew and grew. I now love my body and have a huge appreciation for it. I love this next step of looking past the body and to me. I do it sometimes but it is not a regular practice. And I love what you say Rachael about not shying away from how gorgeous we can be. If I can learn to accept and allow the grandness of my beauty, then perhaps I won’t hold it back as much.

  89. This line stood out for me – I did not stop to consider the amazing beauty I had concealed from myself and the world. My amazing beauty will be appreciated from today more than ever before thanks to this blog. I can’t wait to find a mirror!

    1. This blog and the comments are so inspiring, I am now going to start appreciating my beautiful self in a whole new way. Thank you everyone for sharing.

  90. “The pain of living a shadow of who I truly was hurt more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me.” Such a deeply humbling and exposing statement, Nicole. Thank you.

  91. Thanks Nicole for this blog- you have a way of writing and sharing your experiences that makes it easy to understand and consider topics that can be confronting. I too can avoid real-ly looking at my reflection with connection and even not make eye contact with myself – as you say – it is looking without seeing. What is great about this is looking in a mirror is something we already do, most likely at least once a day and it can simply be done with more presence- it takes no more time to look with connection than it does to look with glazed eyes.

  92. This is a great point that I can relate to a lot. When I consider it how often have I looked at myself in the mirror functionally but not really seen myself or connected to my essence. If we really stop and look into someone’s eyes or truly observe their face or posture (including our own) we can get a clear feeling of how they are feeling. There is a raw honesty in that. Maybe that is what we avoid wanting to see in the mirror and so we make it about functional things e.g. clothes, hair, weight etc to escape this responsibility we have to ourselves as you describe Nicole?

    1. The responsibility of true observation is exactly what we are avoiding when we only look for the shadow of our own reflection and in the reflection of others. Well said Andrew.

  93. I loved too, how you brought it back to the child that looks in the mirror, what a great reflection to be naturally appreciative. I will connect to it and even after making adjustment how I look in the mirror in rereading your blog it inspires me again to connect deeper when I look at me…how easily you can get caught into the outside instead of keeping the connection to the inside.

    1. True steffihenn … it is easy to get caught in the externals, and I find I have to consciously choose to take the time to look deeper and connect to beauty within.

  94. This was so much fun to read, Nicole – sweet inspiration for making a simple choice to open up, appreciate and commit to our natural beauty. My relationship with mirrors has been a fraught one over the years! Avoidance and cursory, critical glances being the norm.

    I do take time to really look these days and in so doing spot immediately if there is any disdain or disregard in my ‘attitude’ towards me. With the support of Universal Medicine I am swift to ‘kick this into touch’ and see beyond the physical, to the brightness of my eyes and the joy and delicateness I feel about being a woman; in other words my true beauty, which emanates endlessly from within out.

    1. Beautifully said Matildaclark. It has been a commitment over time to fully embrace myself and celebrate how amazing I am. Once past the original struggle with the mirror, I now am able to see more deeply who I am rather than cast the critical glances. Thanks Nicole for your blog.

  95. Nicole, you say ‘living a shadow of who I truly am hurts more than any hurts the world or humanity could ever impose upon me’. Actually, no-one can hurt us, we are responsible for our hurts – we choose to be hurt. And this is why we feel so sad because we know we made those choices for so long and delayed the joy of being ourselves and of being a true reflection for others so that they too can be themselves.

    1. So true Sandra, we hurt ourselves and thats what deeply hurts, not what goes on around us. That I have always been beautiful and gorgeous and lovely and it is me who has so often chosen to ignore that. I am off to see myself in a mirror now and offer myself some deeper appreciation, and to feel the reflections I also get from others around me.

  96. I used to look at my image in the mirror a lot but it usually was accompanied with judgment or some comparison with another image in my mind of someone else. Occasionally I would see the real me and it was a stop moment as I felt the beauty emanating from me. Living in the bush without any mirrors helped me let go of my preoccupation with how I looked and when I did see my image again I saw it as a reflection of how I felt within and I was not so caught in the image. I realized that I was still getting a reflection, not from the external mirror, but from the people I lived with, especially the children who provided a very honest refection of where was at.

    1. I too benefitted greatly from a period when I used a mirror much less, though I never had none at all. It helped me to connect more within myself, and I could feel how the outer image could at that time take me out of myself. Then I saw my whole body in a mirror over a bath at a friends house, and I truly looked and realised it was time for me to have a full length mirror again, but to stay with myself, accepting everything I saw. I started to enjoy ‘me’ much more.

  97. What a great pause you have offered here Nicole – how often we look but rarely do we see the beauty we try so hard to mask from the world. The mirror will always show us how we feel and not how in truth we look. What you are presenting here is a way to be with ourselves, that like a child, allows this natural grace and beauty to ooze forth uninhibited. A beauty we unashamedly once shared with the world when we were young but due to layers of inhibitions, insecurities, doubts, fears and self-loathing, we have often as an adult kept it ‘behind closed doors’. By meeting ourselves in the mirror and appreciating what is already there, we give ourselves permission to share this with the world once more. For it is by meeting ourselves first, that we trust another to meet us also. Thank you.

      1. What a lovely opportunity to appreciate ourselves and not only meet ourselves fully but others through a glance in the mirror.

      2. Beautiful words indeed. By meeting ourselves first we are also allowing ourselves out so that others may meet us.

    1. Beautifully expressed Liane. ‘By meeting ourselves in the mirror and appreciating what is already there, we give our selves permission to share this with the world once more’. I’ll take those words with me to the mirror.

    2. That is a key observation Liane: we first have to truly meet ourselves and see, and deeply appreciate who we really are. Then, or alongside with it, we can start to truly meet and let in other people.

  98. Nicole, it’s lovely to read how you are now appreciating the ‘true reflection of glorious me’. It’s there for all of us to see if we can look beyond the façade to what is always there beneath the image we spend so much effort to create. And Serge Benhayon is a very clear mirror who offers us this true reflection every time we look in his eyes or are in his presence. The question is, can I receive it?

  99. This is lovely Nicole: “With the hurts falling away and the real me shining through, why would I not want to stop, and looking in a mirror, see a true reflection of glorious me.” In the past I would have labelled this as arrogant but I’m realising the importance of bringing appreciation to ourselves.

    1. This is great. On the one hand we celebrate and encourage children to feel wonderful about themselves, yet when it comes to ourselves or other adults there is so much judgment and suspicion if we do this, and a collective cutting down at times. Yet we know we feel bad and when the steps are taken to simply feel great about ourselves we don’t allow it. Life is made so complicated and it doesn’t have to be.

    2. So true Annie, I can totally relate to what you have shared. Appreciating ourselves in the mirror allows us to build the value we feel for ourselves and as a consequence build the appreciation we feel for others. Why would we ever consider this arrogant? It just goes to show the tricks we can play on ourselves and how backwards we sometimes have it.

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