Being a Black Woman

Shevon Simon | Being A Black Woman
Shevon Simon “I am coming to know myself again as a woman, beyond being a black woman…”

Being a black woman… what does it mean, and is there any difference to being any ‘other’ kind of woman?

Looking at my life I never thought I had an issue with being a black woman. From a young age I held the strong view that there was nothing that was a barrier for me, and nothing that I couldn’t achieve being a black woman. There was no glass ceiling for me… or so I thought!

What I have come to realise however, is that I have held a solid belief that as a black woman I had to work hard to prove myself, to be seen and accepted in the world. It’s interesting that the very thing that was propelling me forward in life was actually a belief that has been harming me the most.

You see, whilst all can look good on the surface and one can be seen to be doing well, holding such a belief leaves a very hurt and frightened person inside, where…

  • I stopped opening up to people
  • Work became my world and my focus
  • I developed an arrogance that I knew it all and didn’t want to be seen as vulnerable or lacking in any way, especially with other women of a different race
  • I was always on guard for being exposed as imperfect.

One thing I have known from a very young age is that we are all the same, and even amongst this belief and effort of trying hard, there has always been a part of me inside wanting to understand life and people at a much deeper level.

Since having sessions with Universal Medicine practitioners and speaking with Serge Benhayon, what I am beginning to feel in my heart is that inside we are all the same, regardless of the colour of the skin on the outside.

It is one thing to know this is true, but to feel and accept it is another thing and is much more poignant.

There are times when I feel the love of God in my heart so strong and the connection to all of mankind, but this has only come about through the loving support of the Esoteric Healing Practitioners not treating me any differently because of the colour of my skin, but seeing me as an equal. Somehow with that acceptance, over time I am starting to open up and let go; to see this belief of needing to work and try hard as one of the biggest ills in my life.

It keeps me away from people and from love: life becomes a lonely and very heady and mind-calculated place where my body becomes hard and defensive as if ready to do battle, and in this way I become unapproachable to others as I struggle to interact under a veneer of ‘niceness’. People don’t get to know who I am and I don’t get to know who I am either… it’s all about ‘being nice’, trying and working hard.

However, through the Esoteric Healing modalities I am coming to know myself again as a woman, beyond being a black woman, and feeling the love, sensitivity and deep understanding that comes from this true connection of being a woman which is the same in ALL women regardless of whether they are a black woman or not.

Inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

By Shevon Simon, Housing and Support Advisor for Young Homeless People, London, UK

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514 thoughts on “Being a Black Woman

  1. ‘Same ,Same, no different’, as we all are returning to our Soul-full home in Heaven ,and anything else is causing some sort of reaction in us as you have shared Shevon.

  2. We create our own differences and build protection to what we perceive is keeping us separate from others.

    1. Holding onto these false beliefs does leave a hurt and frightened person deep inside, I can relate this to a young white person at the moment, ‘where… I stopped opening up to people. Work became my world and my focus. I developed an arrogance that I knew it all and didn’t want to be seen as vulnerable or lacking in any way’, and they are also on guard for being exposed as imperfect.

  3. When we feel not being accepted or somehow less compared to others, while all kinds of discrimination do exist in this world, I have noticed for myself that I might be going ‘Oh, that’s because I am Asian/woman/old etc. etc.’ but in-truth, there was something deeper than those obvious ‘differences’ that was already saying to the world to back off, and the obvious ‘differences’ were actually very convenient alibi for me to justify my posture in the world.

    1. Great Fumiyo, and adding two or three layers to what you are sharing as we all are in our own ways carry baggage that we feel is telling others to back off as I am different and this is “actually very convenient alibi for me/others to justify a posture in the world,” and thus not walk and talk the True Me/Us.

  4. What you have written Shevon is very interesting because you are using the belief that being a black woman made you work harder to prove your self. And there are many women who feel that just because they are a woman they also have to work harder to prove themselves in a male dominated society. This shows me that our lives are saturated by the ideals and beliefs that we take on at an early age that then govern the rest of our lives.

    1. And many men too that have exactly the same beliefs, and think they have to work hard to prove themselves, our lives are indeed saturated with ideals and beliefs.

  5. “I am coming to know myself again as a woman, beyond being a black woman…” We are so much more that we see on the surface. When we use our eyes to receive all that someone is (including ourselves) we will see it all.

  6. There is no such thing as a ‘black gene’ – the fact is that actually throughout history black skin came before white skin, and the color change is an adaptation of environments. It is beautiful to see how our DNA shows we are so similar, and it is our choice if we then feel we are different just by looks.

  7. Thank you for this gorgeous photo.I cannot feel any of the hardness or niceness that you say you used to have. I see a woman who knows who she is and is loving it.

  8. We are souls first that are en-housed in a body as such we are in essence no different to another, it is only that our bodies are uniquely constellated through which we can uniquely express and reflect the vibration of love in the world. Once we begin to define who we are by our physicality alone we are missing the greatest aspect of who we equally are in essence, and the Godliness that we are here to live and reflect.

    1. When we use a reductionist view, we get a reduced reality: “Once we begin to define who we are by our physicality alone we are missing the greatest aspect of who we equally are in essence, and the Godliness that we are here to live and reflect.”

  9. It’s amazing that you are not identifying with your skin colour – I’ve seen so many articles and movies about “being proud to be black” – but why not be proud of who you are and the choices you’ve made? Your skin colour or the length of your legs or any other physical attribute is such a small part of what makes you amazing.

  10. That is a great point, Shevon. There may or may not be a glass ceiling outside of us but there definitely seems to be one or even several inside of us.

  11. Your gorgeous photo Shevon brings such a warmth to my body and smile to my face, in feeling the oneness that we all come from as an equal part of the divine.

  12. When we come to really know ourselves as the essence of the women we truly are, we discover there are no physical attributes that can make us lesser or more then another – a women in her essence knows she is an equal part of divinity.

  13. I find it very interesting that you describe an experience that I have also had – of not feeling good enough. I wonder how universal that experience is and whether any differences to others have an influence?

  14. Such wise words, Shevon. We can appear to be unaffected by something when in fact we had already armoured ourselves to buffer its impact, or have set ourselves up to avoid or fend it, and in that we have already validated it so therefore are already affected by it.

  15. When are we all going to accept that no matter what our skin colour, gender, marital or job status we are all innately equal as we have the same potential to live our own qualities that although in many ways are unique to each of us, contribute to make the collective whole work in harmony.

    1. Yes, much relaxes in us once we realise that we are equal and our actions do not affect that equalness.

  16. “People don’t get to know who I am and I don’t get to know who I am either… it’s all about ‘being nice’, trying and working hard.” this was what I was told life was about too, niceness that I once thought was a badge of honour is now being seen in its true light as such an ugly coverup, hiding my true self, a dishonesty of what is really going on inside. There is no way to get to really know ourselves, our true essence, and be real if niceness is anyway our identification.

  17. To teach our children from a very early age that “inside we are all the same, regardless of the colour of the skin on the outside” would be the biggest and most healing gift for them and for the world. For knowing this, how can we live in separation to others when we know that we are all connected, that we are all family. Living in this connection, in brotherhood, is the way the world can finally heal from the pain of the past.

  18. Unless we sense a truth from within our body then it is only words and words becomes knowledge. I am not inspired by knowledge but through another living truth, moving in a way that supports them to be who they truly are regardless of whether they are black or not.

  19. So many of us are living under this thin veneer of ‘being nice’ and we think it is hiding what is truly going on for each and every one of us. But whilst it may look like it on face value, the reality is that it is not.

  20. When we are distracted by what is on the outside we are missing the gem on the inside. The outside of a car is simply the shell that holds the engine and the fuel. If we think the sum of the car is the paint, the shape or the shine then we will end up buying a car that looks AMAZING but doesn’t actually drive! Humbly, I have been there and done that with a car and it has been a life lesson!

  21. The colour of our skin or the colour of our eyes makes no difference to who we are in our inner-most being – love.

  22. Any form of separation whether it be to identify ourselves or each other as black, fat, tall, gay, green, clever, stupid, disabled, blonde, Jew, Muslim, Arab, American, this sports team, that sports team, this country that country – is very harmful and not true to who we are at essence – all one!

    1. Yes, and we are more than even the best of Nicola’s list put together so identification will always be less than who we are.

  23. when we hold a belief that something of ours is not a problem because we will work hard just to make sure it does not become one, this only confirms that we hold it as a problem .. and we feel that management is the way to go.

  24. It is very interesting how what we think is our strength is our own ingrained long held belief that actually keeps us from our true strength, that of living with the delicate natural nurturing that a woman holds.

  25. Beautiful Shevon, inspiring for all women (and men) what you have shared here. Amazing how one belief can drive our entire lives and therefore when we identify it and choose to let it go, enormous change occurs in deepening our quality of life.

  26. Shevon I love reading your blog because it reminds me how harming and irresponsible it is to treat anyone as though they were more or less than another (and this includes myself). The subtleties of racism are more damaging than rape, murder, genocide and horrific violence hate crimes we see in the media almost every day as the toleration of ‘the small’ is actually the pathway to these horrors.

  27. Great inspiration and beautiful to read how you now know and accept yourself as an amazing woman, that you truly are.

  28. ‘Since having sessions with Universal Medicine practitioners and speaking with Serge Benhayon, what I am beginning to feel in my heart is that inside we are all the same, regardless of the colour of the skin on the outside.It is one thing to know this is true, but to feel and accept it is another thing and is much more poignant.’ so beautifully said Chevon

  29. Shevon I so appreciate what you say. However I can add as a white woman I have had an identical struggle! Is it perhaps a lack of self-worth we feel as women full stop? Though I feel certain too there will be scores of men who would say the same. Perhaps we are all equally hamstrung by an inherent lack of self-worth and self-appreciation.

  30. It can be devastating to feel the consequences that have played out in our lives due to unconscious biases, beliefs and ideals we hold when we start to get absolutely honest with ourselves.

  31. How many of us are doing the same but with a different belief, ideal or expectation? ‘It’s interesting that the very thing that was propelling me forward in life was actually a belief that has been harming me the most.’ And I wholeheartedly agree with what you have shared here about us all being equal ‘it is one thing to know this is true, but to feel and accept it is another thing and is much more poignant.’ We can say it (we are all equal) until the cows come home so to speak but when we know it, feel it and live this that is when it is truly confirmed and felt within our bodies and lifes.

  32. I can relate with parts you share, we have so much in common, and are all equal as you say, ‘There are times when I feel the love of God in my heart so strong and the connection to all of mankind, but this has only come about through the loving support of the Esoteric Healing Practitioners not treating me any differently because of the colour of my skin, but seeing me as an equal.’

  33. Gorgeous Shevon. Your words remind me that any perceived inequality including the perception that we are ‘more’ than another is deeply harming and separating.

  34. The key is to look at our skin not as a marker of difference between us, nor simply an encasement that keeps us protected, but more so an organ that allows the love and light of our Soul to radiate out through every pore. When we know the truth of this, we can never judge another for the colour of their skin nor mark them as being different because of it, due to the absolute knowing that we are each the equal sparks of light that come from the one heavenly body of our Father, the Universe we live within.

  35. We have more in common with each other than differences, and yet we focus on those differences and give them a lot of attention. We are all equal and many of us say those words but as you so beautifully express, ‘It is one thing to know this is true, but to feel and accept it is another thing and is much more poignant.’

  36. Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and all that is associated with them are the most amazing support in enabling one to embody and live what we know is true.

  37. If there is a curtain in the way when you want to look in the mirror then our reflection to what is there is gone. Beliefs are like that, they become a barrier that stops us from seeing what is there and appreciating the depth of love within us no matter who we are. We are one humanity and can reflect to others as they can also reflect to us the true beauty that lies within.

  38. “It is one thing to know this is true, but to feel and accept it is another thing and is much more poignant.” This is significant, as only once we truly live what we deep down know is it embodied in our every move.

  39. It is truly freeing to uncover beliefs like these – things we may have been unconsciously obedient to that have a big impact on our expression and the way we live our lives and interact with everyone. And when we can clearly see them it gives us the opportunity to change and free our expression up to come from our essence and not from trying to fit a certain picture.

  40. Shevon, beautiful to read and feel how you have come to know and accept yourself as the amazing woman you are, and your photograph is a reflection of this for all the world to see.

  41. What I find interesting through reading this article is how no matter our ethnicity, the very same beliefs capture us and hold us in the needing to prove ourselves. This has certainly been my experience.
    We may have different triggers, or reasons, but underlying it all has been the inability to feel our own unique worthiness. A scourge on the world that is now beginning to change, all women deserve to feel their beauty, uninhibited by the thoughts of not being enough as we are.

  42. To feel the essence of another before our eyes make a judgement, confirms the truth that we all come from the same source. When a person walks claimed in this truth all others get the reflection that they too belong together in brotherhood.

  43. Great blog Shevon, no matter where we are from, the colour of our skin the language we speak we are all equal, and when we drop the being nice to one another, and have the confidence to express from an equalness the world starts to change and understand life from a deeper more respectful place.

  44. Isn’t it crazy that sometimes we are our harshest critics, and how often our biggest opposition comes from ourselves. It’s amazing to read how you have come to love being who you are.

  45. I agree that it is one thing to know something (like we are all the same) and another to actually and bodily accept it. The common practice of only knowing something that we think we have accepted, can make us blind to quite self-harmful patterns that are still running in the background. The one I see commonly that was highlighted in this blog, was women not wanting to be vulnerable or needing to appear to be on top of everything. This is a harmful force against the true loveliness and delicateness of a woman and choosing it is stopping us from bringing nurturing and stillness to our workplaces and homes.

  46. Thank you for sharing something very powerful here Shevon about feeling who you truly are v’s accepting. Acceptance is a huge marker of whether we are still holding on to ideals and beliefs that the joy we can feel can not be real as we have allowed ourselves to be conditioned in how we respond.
    This blog not only applies to the colour of our skin but also the religion we may have been raised in. Being raised as a Catholic I was taught from a young age to feel less as a woman and accepting levels of guilt for all the wonderful experiences I was having that deep down I didn’t feel that I should be enjoying or deserving. It was through the support of Esoteric Practioners that I have been supported to come back to the realness of “why not?” Understanding now the games I played for many years to be less, think less and show less.

  47. Differences in people are only as big as we are willing to allow them to be – the reflection you are bringing to the world Shevon by claiming and living from within can be felt – in our essence we are all the same.

  48. Our society today is run by a huge and imposing consciousness that has us falsely believing that, what it means to be a woman comes from outside of us. Yet that fact is we have tried living in this way for many lifetimes now and today woman still are at a loss in knowing and living in the true power of who we are. For within us all we are equal, as in essence we are all love. Through our connection to our love within we discover a sacredness that is ever-present and awaiting to guide us to live in a way that honors the grandeur of what we all have to offer this world, through the way we live.

  49. Your sharing here exposes how we can act as though we are not touched by a certain belief or consciousness, and we may appear to be nothing like the stereotype that is being cast out, but in fact we are very much in reaction to it therefore pretty much owned by it. Being totally ok and accepting of who we are is something that arises from within, and not an ideal or belief that we put on or keep telling ourselves so.

  50. “It is one thing to know this is true, but to feel and accept it is another thing and is much more poignant.” Very true, and it takes some time to let go of the pictures we have collected how we think the world works and is and how we are to be in it.

  51. A beautiful sharing that shows us that we are all the same on the inside . That we may be from another nationality makes no difference to the fact that we are all here to see that we are all equal Sons of God and the evolution of humanity back to where we came from. Thank you Shevon.

  52. Shevon, I love how you deeply appreciated Universal Medicine, and yourself, for opening up your heart and your innate wisdom. Overcoming physical differences can be a challenge in our modern society; I appreciate how you know and feel the equal-ness of everybody, despite the overt (and covert) differences, this is inspiring.

  53. I love that you have exposed that some of the beliefs that we hold in fact can be deeply harming due to the behaviours we adopt to achieve them… denying the truth of who we are and the untainted expression of that.

  54. Feeling different because of some physical aspect and moving with that in life is very easy. Feeling equal to all other beyond physicality and moving in such equal-ness is a learning that brings grace to this world.

  55. I understand what you are saying here about ‘niceness’ and ‘trying’ and being driven Shevon and I have been shut down from my feeling ability too because of that, no space left for feeling, being real or truthful. Niceness and trying, both poison to anyone no matter what race, colour, gender, size or shape. You have broken that mold beautifully.

  56. “I am coming to know myself again as a woman, beyond being a black woman, and feeling the love, sensitivity and deep understanding that comes from this true connection of being a woman which is the same in ALL women regardless of whether they are a black woman or not.” Beautiful Shevon. Labels do not make us who we are – as we are all equal in essence.

  57. Great understanding here Shevon, How often can we play the ‘less than’ card to drive ourselves in life from a mission of trying to prove ourselves and be more? Being black is such a clear example of the skin depth images we can take on of who we are, or allowing them to be imposed on us. It has also been my experience to be met by Universal Medicine healing practitioners in a way where I have felt they have looked at me from my essence and treated me with that care and respect.

  58. I get the feeling that it doesn’t matter what label we give ourselves – black, overweight, underweight…..etc. they are all the same in the sense that they just give us a reason, an excuse, to not accept that we are all absolutely equal. And why would we do that? So we don’t have to take responsibility for our choices and our power.

  59. Being in drive does not allow for those check-in moments to clock what is actually going on around you

  60. The thing is too Shevon is that these pictures we are trying to live up to have no expiry date as such (until we let them go) and they can just keep changing and morphing into more extreme lovelessness and pressures. The beauty of knowing we are all the same inside is that we can access and feel that in others before we see the outer manifestation of how they live.

  61. When we just look at the surface we notice the difference but when we choose to feel the person on the inside we realise that we are all the same and all equal, we are all love.

  62. When I feel people we are all the same, it is only the energy that some people chose that brings about a force that starts to set them on a path of separation. The more loving I have become the more I notice that everyone around me also becomes more accepting and race or nationality does not make any

  63. There was a period of my life when I was brought up by the colour of my skin and that because of that I had to work harder than others. This was through out my school days. So through out my education that was a belief in my body. Which took me into my working life. It is only recently I am coming to understanding that its not about working hard, but working smarter in life. At the same time letting go of the belief that because of my skin colour I have to work hard.

  64. What I love about The Way of the Livingness teachings is the words ‘we are all one’ or ‘we are all his equal sons’ but what I love more is that these are not just words or throw away lines that sound good, there is a livingness to them. Racism can come in many forms but in the end its aim or design is to separate us. If that separation is subtle and only lives on the inside of someone as a belief that they need to prove themselves more than the next person due to their skin colour then the energy of racism has still won. What is felt in this article is the choice you are making to heal racism/separatism from the inside out, which is truly liberating, Universal Medicine brings a lived way to this element of self healing, they are leading the way, for the teaching ‘we are all his equal sons’ truly is lived.

  65. Could it be that we can often hold perceptions of what other people are thinking about us that aren’t even true, whether it be the colour of our skin or any other feature of our physicality or personality. If we truly value, accept and appreciate ourselves without judgment others usually follow suit and if they don’t the fact that we are connected to ourselves closes the door on this concern about what others are thinking and we are far less likely to then go into the people pleasing behaviour.

  66. When I was a teenager there were few black people around and I never gave race a thought, except when I heard about how the whites treated the blacks in South Africa, which disturbed me greatly. I thought that racism was rare and only occurred in distant places. Then I read a book called “Black like me” – “In October 1959, before the Civil Rights movement would spread across the United States, John Howard Griffin underwent medical treatments to disguise himself as a black man. He then travelled through the segregated Deep South of America, exchanging the privileged life of a white man for the disenfranchisement of the black man, and experienced the racism that was endured by millions on a daily basis. From the threat of violence to the simple indignities of being unable to use a drinking fountain or buy food from a particular shop Griffin documented the experience of racism and opened the eyes of white America to the abuses going on in their country”. This book opened my eyes and I started to realise that racism was everywhere including to some degree inside me and not isolated to some distant land.

  67. The most humbling part of this for me is how if we are completely honest with ourselves about the belief, ideals, expectations we have, we can see them for what they are and discard these harmful ways of being.

  68. Great sharing Shevon – it’s so revealing that even when we believe that we are not affected by society due to any characteristics that in fact we can be – goes to show just how insidious ideals and beliefs can be.

  69. I remember when I was a child and hearing people speak in a racist way really upset me, I could not understand how a person could speak about another as being less because of their skin colour, or because they were Asian or Greek etc. and this was considered quite normal in the community where I grew up. As a child I could feel how deeply harming and hurtful this was to others because in truth I could feel we were all equal and the same and that everyone deserved respect and decency no matter what their skin colour was or where they came from.

  70. The idea of being ‘ready to do battle’ has been a big momentum in my life. I have been in the habit of having my defenses ready or justifications pre-planned because I am constantly expecting rejection or a rebuttal of some kind. 99.9% of the time my expectations of a battle never materialise, but its been an energy draining habit that has kept me wary of others and so always a little distant. This is slowly changing with the support of healing sessions with great practitioners plus the Esoteric Women’s Developers Group that I attend each month in London. These have helped me reconnect with the woman I am, and also develop a relationship with myself.

    1. I can relate to this Debra, I also was always ready for attack, so I had judgment and ways of dealing with situations even when they never eventuated. Many thanks to Serge Benhayon and his presentations for over the last 12 years I have slowly chosen to undo all these controlling patterns that held me from re-connecting!

  71. I used to be proud of the fact that I fought for equality for others but all the while I was feeling less than and afraid of being found out so I was actually living a lie and fostering the very thing that I had innately felt needed to be addressed i.e. our separation from each other. Until we accept that we are all equal and that means starting with myself and that there is nothing I need to prove about myself as a woman, parent, co-worker, friend etc we are adding to the ills in the world. For me one of the things that has turned this around is not only starting to appreciate myself but also share that with others, this has been a powerful tool in confirming that I am an equally valued person and it challenges all the judgements that I have/have had about myself and dissolves the comparison that I would routinely go into to make myself feel less than others. There is no need for me to do anything to be equal to you or anyone else just a choice to accept that I am a Son of God and shine forth my essence and love without holding back.

  72. A beautiful read, Shevon. It strikes me that we’re also all equal in the way we choose to negate the truth of who we truly are through our striving for perfection, the trying hard, the missing out on real connection with people and with ourselves.

  73. Shevon, your beautiful article also highlights how we can create a world very different to what we would naturally choose once we start to live in protection, and how hugely important it is to bring understanding when meeting every person – seeing first their innate beauty and quality and then what behaviour they have taken on to survive in the world, but which is not truly a part of them. This understanding and allowing is what brings another person to the possibility of trusting once more, as they no longer feel judged.

  74. Thank you for sharing Shevon, this is huge for everyone to read, and see that we are all struggling from some kind of ideal or belief that we have set up and then try to live up to, but in fact we have set up for failure right from the start. and then we create greater complication as we compensate to cover up our feelings of inadequacy and insecurity, and so the spiral goes. I too found Universal Medicine practitioners live and treat everyone in absolute equality, and from feeling and understanding that equalness, we can see how we may subtly hold ourselves inferior or superior to others and how this erodes the connection and intimacy we can grow between each other.

  75. The depth of love that holds us exactly where we are and allows us to see, if we are willing, how we are not being fully love ourselves is priceless. This is what I have encountered in the esoteric community of Universal Medicine.

  76. I can relate to being “nice ” and polite for a large part of my life , people did not get to know me and I did not know myself also. I too, am grateful to Universal Medicine for me being able to open up myself to the deeply caring and loving woman I am, there is a me now emerging, that I can share with my self and others.

  77. Its quite fascinating to realise that despite looking very different on the outside of our human bodies underneath all that exterior in essence and internally all our bodily systems and functions right down to our cells are the same. And yet we still think we are different.

  78. I love how you describe the ‘veneer of niceness’ that so many of us use to cover up whatever is really going on inside. Its a tool I have often used in my life to try and be accepted, and if I am completely honest, still do on occasions, especially when I am scared to speak my truth. However, this is lessening the more I realised I have no need for a veneer and that being my true self without holding back is the only thing that counts. Even though I am still learning how to do this, I can feel how much less tension there is in my body at the end of the day when I haven’t been trying to hide behind a false smile.

    1. So true Eleanor, hiding behind a false smile and ‘veneer of niceness’ is very distracting and draining for all involved. Regardless if you are on the giving or receiving end of being nice when you realise that not everything is as it seems, you start to sense the sickly sweet fakeness it. You then realise nice is not actually so nice at all and realising this fact makes you feel quite empty and icky.

  79. I love what you said about how when you were young you always knew everyone was equal, but as an adult it was from having sessions with Universal Medicine practitioners that you started to feel this truth in your heart. It shows how when we are born we innately know these things, yet somehow that leaves us, it is not truly confirmed in us as we grow up in this society of separation. This is also the beauty of Universal Medicine. Ideals of equality, pure acceptance and love become a reality that can be felt throughout the whole body. They no longer remain beliefs that we remember feeling as children, but tangible truths that we can start to live and breath.

  80. Thank you for you open and honest blog Shevon. I can relate to in how I grew up with my belief of what it was to be a woman, and the expectations that were held around that. My belief was that being female meant being weak, pathetic and not to be taken seriously, so I hardened up at a very young age to counter that and thought that by being more boyish, I could survive the world more and would be much more accepted. However, since having Esoteric Healing sessions these silly beliefs have crumbled around me and I am finally understanding what being a true women is and how there is such power and strength in that… so far from my original ideas. What is great is when we can finally see these beliefs for what they are as we develop our true knowing of ourselves and the world.

  81. Believing that we have to prove ourselves to be noticed and recognised is very demoralising. It is VERY empowering to feel Love for oneself and with that a deep respect of others. As the Love AND acceptance of feeling worthy of that Love grows, the focus become less of what’s happening on the outside and what others will say, but our point of reference and focus is more on how we feel from within.

  82. I loved re-reading this blog Shevon and the claiming of who you are in full, very inspiring and your words are beautifully expressed in this line and is a great reminder for us all thank you -‘ feeling the love, sensitivity and deep understanding that comes from this true connection of being a woman which is the same in ALL women regardless of whether they are a black woman or not.’

    1. Thank you Anna, I used to hold the belief that I could not be beautiful as a black woman, BUT now I know that is non-sense because EVERY DAY I feel and walk with my inner-beauty. It’s beautiful to be me.

      1. I love what have said here Shevon. It is very inspiring to see how you are claiming your true beauty. No longer is it about the outer appearances but the love that you hold in your very being. Thank you for this reflection.

  83. Looking at your photo Shevon, it is just gorgeous, you are just gorgeous, yes we can know something, but to feel and accept it, is certainly another matter at a much deeper level. No need to work harder or put on politeness to be accepted. In the being human, regardless of colour or shape, we are all equal.

  84. This is amazing. It’s true that we have variations in skin colours in all human beings and it is true they are often attributed with certain characteristics and/or stigma, but we do not have to be owned by it. We just happen to come in different packages, but trying to prove that we are beyond the obvious physical differences without knowing and accepting ourselves in essence feels empty. You are an inspiration, Shevon.

    1. Beautifully said Fumiyo, being owned by what we look like on the outside sells us out to an external force that in essence is not loving nor true.

  85. Shevon, I loved reading your blog, we hold back from showing the world who we truly are, often because we are afraid of getting hurt. We base our life often on one or two hurts, and our whole life is then lived with the expectation of getting hurt again, and as a matter of defence we close down to protect ourselves, until we free ourselves of those hurts that hold us back.

  86. Shevon a lovely honest sharing, we all hold back for various reasons, ideals and beliefs, fear of being judged, a form of protection, and when we do this we are denying the world of the beauty and truth we all hold equally within ourselves.

  87. ‘It’s interesting that the very thing that was propelling me forward in life was actually a belief that has been harming me the most.’ Shevon it is interesting how we maladapt to society in order to survive and thrive. How sad that we have created a society where superficial differences such as colour or ethnicity define who we are. However as we tell our stories and understand the impost we have been living under we will free ourselves from evil notions such as these.

  88. If our society understood the depth and breadth of our separation is inculcated in us from our earliest days at school, and even before, and the effect that this separation has upon society, then Bridges would start to be built between us all, so that we could feel that truly we are one and there is no separation.

    1. Even before cjames, even before! In a scientific research they found out that we treat baby’s different because of their gender. The way and how long we hold a baby, in which way we move them and how we speak to them differ depending on their gender. Our education in separation starts in the moment we arrive. And I agree, this is good to realize so we can start to build those bridges between us and claim back our connection and oneness.

      1. Sandra, this is so revealing of how far we have come from our true oneness and how much separation has become such an ingrained part of our world…so much so that babies are treated differently depending on gender. Once we start claiming back our own love and truly feel the equality that we all hold, this will start to change.

  89. Knowing what is true from our minds often I have found lacks any solidarity, as such that knowing isn’t claimed as a set boundary or quality we hold in life. But knowing based on feelings, now that makes a difference in life! Reading this blog again makes me wonder – what are the ‘knowings’ I still carry on the assumption that ‘I know’, have I felt these as a truth or going on hearsay, because another said so (even Serge Benhayon, always presenting to never just blindly accept but to feel what is offered) or because the quality of these ‘knowings’ has been made to appear acceptable?

    1. It’s so important to feel how something feels for us and whether it feels True. So many times I’ve got myself into trouble by blindly following and accepting something presented to me. It’s very irresponsible to behave this way as it lacks Love and if an action lacks Love, it is not coming from the real me. PERIOD!

  90. Shevon and iljakleintjes I relate to your comments. I always thought and felt myself as different from the people I associated with. The inadequacies and feeling of worthlessness resulted in keeping away from others, living in a silo with a very limited number of acquaintances, yet full of arrogance and pride in the few things I could do well. Universal Medicine has open my eyes and my heart. Our outer shell is just that, a shell, while our inner core is there for ever and the same for all of us.

  91. This blog is about equality in that no matter what we look like – hair colour, colour of our skin, height, weight, gender, whether we have a physical disability or not, in truth, none of it matters as when we are connected and feel into our hearts – we are from the same essence and that Love of God is there inside untainted and untouched and is equally the same in our neighbour. Living from this place is what brings true equality to society and not any act of trying to change ourselves through our physical appearance or social status.

  92. ‘It’s interesting that the very thing that was propelling me forward in life was actually a belief that has been harming me the most.’ We do that a lot don’t we? I prided myself doing everything alone, never needing or asking anyone else for help. I believed that not needing any help was a sign of strength and all the while I was losing out big time shutting myself off and estranging myself from other human beings, afraid to let anyone in.We are all the same and have so much in common, no matter what colour, culture, background or gender.

    1. Thank you for sharing this iljakleintjes as this shutting myself off from people has been the greatest harm and crime I have done to myself and others. When I have felt hurt this has been the very thing I have done all my life, but it has kept me in a cage. To choose another way of saying how I feel, no matter how silly I feel or whatever fears I may face about whether I will be judged and meeting people that I trust through Universal Medicine really has been and still is the greatest support in me sharing, blossoming and opening up to the beautiful and very sweet woman that I am. I now have the most beautiful relationships with people that are developing everyday. Relationships that I never even dreamed were possible.

      1. “shutting myself off from people has been the greatest harm and crime I have done to myself and others”
        This is such a revealing statement for everyone to read , for I would say just about everyone thinks that its a solution to an aspect of life when in truth it only acts to increase the hurt and increase the separation from each other.

  93. Loved your blog and honesty Shevon. Listening to what you have said it is interesting that your skin colour was what drove you to achieving, to proving your worth when deep down you are just perfect. For each of us male or female it is different, some it could be size, some family background, others a physical disability, the one thing we have in common is that we are not seeing the magnificence we are. We are not seeing the love, beauty and tender ‘Beings’ we are. The truth is that we are all the same ‘Son’s of God’, so time to sidestep the hiding and celebrate.

    1. That is also the way to God. To feel the unity together even our physical picture is different. It helps to break the illusion while feeling the stillness within us all the same with different outer looks. That shows it is so much not about the way we look. We made life about pictures because we are so drifted away from ourselves, so much focussed on the outer world. The way back is through the inner heart and there is no difference what color or form we appear. ““`we are so much bigger, we are huge beings of light.

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