If someone had told me 15 years ago what my life would be like today I would never have believed them. Sure, everyone’s life can change – if you want it to – but never in a million years would I have believed just how much my life would change, and how absolutely incredible a journey it would be.
A life lived with drugs, alcohol, working long hours, a busy social life, disregard and disarray, constant stress, overwhelm and complication, was once all part of my day. This was considered and accepted as “normal” – or what I perceived as normal, and sadly accepted as my life – for a while anyway.
The way I lived was confirmed by those around me – all living with similar if not the same issues faced on a day to day basis. So with this confirmation, and having nothing else at the time to go by, I plodded along until such time as I began to feel there had to be more to life. I could not keep going the way I was.
My body began showing signs of exhaustion, no longer coping with the stresses and pressures of a failing relationship and a stressful yet successful business, along with the usual challenges of daily life. I was great at being able to forget about the day and my troubles over a glass of wine, a joint or a catch up with friends, all of which was only ever a distraction and a temporary fix. All the unresolved issues that I felt and lived with never went away – they were always there, only being pushed aside temporarily until the distractions I chose wore off and a new day began, always with the same issues still lingering.
Now, fifteen years on, after making different choices to no longer live in the avoidance and arrogance, I have instead chosen to deal with my issues and what I feel in every moment.
The choices I have made have come from a direct decision to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving – establishing a way of living that allows me to continue to develop a life of love and simplicity. I have made these life changes by:
- Making a commitment to myself to give up the alcohol and drugs
- Living a life of simplicity without the complication and disregard
- Taking responsibility for the choices I make and how I live, and honoring myself and my body
- Introducing self-care into my day – creating a rhythm that supports me to be able to feel how every choice I make affects and impacts on my body
- Looking at every aspect of my life – from the time I choose to go to bed, the food I eat, to the way I look after myself in every moment
- Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition.
It is through observing and feeling the level of love and integrity that Serge Benhayon and his family live with that has truly inspired me to commit to changing the way in which I live and the choices I make.
Yes, there are still things that come up (as there is for everyone, I would not be human if I said I was not challenged occasionally), however the difference now is the way in which I choose to deal with the challenges that lie ahead on a daily basis.
With all that has been presented and shared through Serge and Universal Medicine, I am now aware of the choices I make and how they affect not only me and my life, but all those around me as well. By constantly looking at and feeling what I have chosen and whether it supports me, I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too.
The appreciation I have for my life, family and those around me is endlessly deepening and one that I would not change for the world.
My commitment to myself is one that I am forever working on, constantly making sure that the changes I have made are supportive of the way in which I choose to live: honoring all that is felt in and around me, never taking for granted all that I am and all that I have, as I know that without the constant ongoing commitment and support from Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I would not be where I am today.
Yes, life can change – if you want it to.
By Nicole Serafin, Age 42 years, Tintenbar NSW, Australia
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Reading this blog again made me realise that, life doesn’t stay stagnant, it is forever changing and evolving. And when you feel or observe that you have mastered a something, another is revealed unto us that needs addressing, without making it into a to do list either.
Life cannot stay the same, because if it did our bodies would remain the same. Just like the seasons are essential, so does everything around it needs to evolve too…Then we appreciate that everything in life is our teaching – everything and not an ounce isn’t considered out of the equation.
‘I am now aware of the choices I make and how they affect not only me and my life, but all those around me as well’, is truly taking responsibility of life. When we don’t take care of ourselves, then what are we portraying to others? That it’s ok to allow lack of self care, disregard, abuse in. When we live more responsibly, we could be that beacon of light to others, shining that there is another way to live. The choice is then theirs to make, it is however offered to them as to which way they go.
And in every choice, there is an equal response. This response just doesn’t happen, contributing factors lead to it. That is the magnificence of life, if we are willing to see and feel it.
It’s true, there’s no point me ever moaning about life if I haven’t done anything to change the situation I am in. These days it is easier to feel into the quality of my choices and from there I have a clearer understanding on how to move forward with any issue.
Leigh how true, moaning about life gets us no where and feels all we are doing is regurgitating life. We then make it about others. When we take heed in how we live, then it makes us ponder further how every movement counts.
Nicole, I agree with you because I have changed the way I live so completely and I do not for a moment miss my old way of life. Humanity has been shown a different model of living and I feel that it is a model that we will all be living eventually, it may take some time for the changes to occur but it will happen.
We don’t often see how committed we are at all times, committed to our disregard – or to a loving and self caring way of being. It may be that our issue is not commitment just what we are committing too.
Very true, Melinda, what are we committed to? Are we committed to living a way that is supportive and loving… ‘Introducing self-care into my day – creating a rhythm that supports me to be able to feel how every choice I make affects and impacts on my body.’
That sense of ‘life cannot go on like this’ – is not a uncommon one, but when the world is full of distraction and numbing devices, it becomes harder to really want to put a stop to it, and in particular, as you say, when we look around and are somehow able to categorise ourselves within the ‘normal’ bracket. “I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it” – this is the only way to change it.
Life can change if we make the choice but sometimes it is the inspiration of another, as Serge Benhayon, to open our eyes and our heart to feel the beauty of a way of living that offers true joy.
The inspiration of another is very supportive, and shows us that there is another way of living. Serge Benhayon lives in a way that inspired me beyond words.
I love what is offered here about challenges, it’s not that life is without challenges, there usually are there, but it’s how we work with them, do we embrace them and allow ourselves the space to learn and be with them or do we react and harden to address them … they’re both ways of dealing with challenges but the first is very different and so much more supportive of us and our bodies.
Amazing to think how we just accept things being the way they are without challenging or changing it but it is super simple to start looking at our life styles and making little changes that make a big difference all by simply listening to our bodies and their infinite wisdom.
“All the unresolved issues that I felt and lived with never went away”. You are on the money Nicole, they never go away, no matter how much you try to bury them under a pile of overeating, drugs, alcohol, mountain of work, sports, binge watching etc….
What amazes me the most is not so much how much life can change but how we can be living and relating with ourselves in a way that is almost the opposite of who we are. In the Universal Medicine students, I have seen serious people come back to being playful, tough men and women become tender and intelligent people realise the only intelligence that matters comes from the inner heart. This is a beautiful process to observe and be part of.
With commitment and responsibility we can bring true change – your blog highlights beautifully Nicole how this is very possible with making simple and loving choices.
At the age of 55 I did not know or desire to change my life. However, when I was offered a whole different way of perceiving and understanding the workings of the world by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine – the difference between Spirit and Soul, healing and curing, technological advancement and evolution and much more – I discovered I did and indeed I did change my life. Twelve years from then I now live in a way that I could or would never ever have imagined and in doing so my life so much fuller, productive, joyful, loving and the list goes on. So not only “Life Can Change – If You Want It To” it can happen at any age.
‘By constantly looking at and feeling what I have chosen and whether it supports me, I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too.’ And then go on with so much joy and playfullness living a life that is simple and absolutely amazing.
Life takes care of us in so many ways, I’ve been in so many situations where I’ve had no idea where it was going to lead and at the time the situation seemed awful, but where it led to was amazing. We always have a choice in how we approach life, and if we approach it openly and willing to embrace it, what life gives us back is incredible.
Normal is not just something we accept; it is also what we walk (hence it is also how we move). Our ‘normal’ is as well, the result of the energetic configuration we hold in our body. This feeds our movements and is also confirmed by them.
I love the simplicity shared here, that we can feel each thing that arises and deal with it … it doesn’t need to be a drama but it asks us to take responsibility for who we are, what we feel and what we bring. It asks us to see that life is not just about us, but about all of us, and that each of us has a role to play.
If someone would have told me years ago that one day I would walk with a knowing of who I am and an inner steadiness, stability and confidence that, without any perfection, dealing with what comes up daily without completely abandoning myself, I would have thought it was a fairytale. But it is exactly what has happened and the years of anxiety, nervous energy and feeling like I was incapable of dealing with issues has all but gone, thanks to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon reflecting the truth of who we are.
I used to think getting a new job, relationships, moving houses, learning new skills meant changing life, but it’s really just the scenery that got changed. With those ‘changes’ came a picture of how I wanted my life to look like. But there is another way of ‘changing’ which actually is a confirmation of what already is, and I often do not know what that would look like and I get a sense that it is an externalization of what is within but have not really been applying it in full. I would like to explore that more.
Love the title of this blog for the simple truth it delivers, we all can change our lives at any moment, and in the willingness to change, the door opens to the path of honesty. From honesty we can change so much and I have found there is always plenty of support to do so.
One of the greatest things I have learnt from Universal Medicine presentations is to commit more to life, my life has completely changed because of this and my relationships have also deepened and become more loving as well.
Yes, true Anna, commit more to life is an important choice to keep making.
It is also our attitude towards change. Many are fearful of change because it is the unknown therefore we cannot plan ahead which can freak people out. I have found that embracing change opens so many doors within and without and as such there is a supply of unlimited support that greatly assists us through any challenges that may pop up especially the letting go of old beliefs and behaviours that no longer serve us.
Life can and does change, but first I guess we have to stop and access where we have arrived, what is it we want to change, and then making different choices that will lead us to the desired result.
When we live in the arrogance of taking our physical body for granted the ensuing exhaustion will always undermine our quality of life and quality of health and well-being.
It is all about choice and an openness to see what is unloving in our lives and then choosing to bring more love and support into our everyday livingness.
When it comes to reasons why one may feel tired and/or exhausted I’d say ignoring my feelings trumps if not is the root rather than overworking or stress. Feeling very tired recently I can’t blame work but need to review how I am with myself in what I do.
When we live with a strong foundation of love we are able to meet the challenges of life as an opportunity to learn more about ourselves rather than something to knock us off course.
Now that’s a different perspective Mary, we can learn and grow so much when we view life in this way and that life is on our side and not against us.
When one is able to clock the movements and the relation between them (how one relates to another one), one can only win.
I love the title of your blog Nicole, and it is not only that we can change our life if we want to, what you show here is that it is the quality we choose to live in and with that makes the biggest changes we could wish for.
How inspiring to read this blog – the commitment to choose change and live with responsibility to deal with things rather than bury them has made huge changes as you have Nicole is true in my own life too – thanks to presentations by Serge Benhayon.
‘fifteen years on, after making different choices to no longer live in the avoidance and arrogance, I have instead chosen to deal with my issues and what I feel in every moment’. In any moment we can change direction, we all are equal in our free will to choose.
Another great choice that Nicole made was to love herself and to not seek acceptance and recognition from the outside, ‘Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition.’
There is no coincidence to change – it is our will, and our ability to move next and let go of the past.. It is our very true right to choose to either resist or let go and surrender.. But this is up to each one, every single person. To feel that we are beyond physical and that we have a Soul, Spirit and Personality and much more with us wherever we go. It is then silly to say that we have only one life, we only exist in human form (within a physical body, we are just becoming sick by bad luck and so on.. It is our willingness to dig deeper and feel what is going on. The moment we allow ourselves to feel the truth of where we are at, we will see that it is simply a creation (deviation away from who we are).
Choosing to love ourselves is the best medicine to give ourselves. Practically how does that look? It can start with one choice to eat food that truly nourishes the body, this is where I started. Or to to go bed when the body is tired. To say no to others, to speak up and share your feelings and show your vulnerability. Or it could be changing jobs as the current one no longer supports you, or moving house etc – it is self loving to make the changes the body is calling for, we just have to listen.
My commitment to love, and to myself I have put on the table to review and essentially deepen and to just allow love out in the acceptance that I am love, have always been love, but not let it out!
As we are constantly making choices as a result of what quality of energy we are aligning to, it then can never be too late to change the quality of life we live. We only need to be willing to be honest with ourselves as to whether our choices are truly supporting us to live all that we are, and bring awareness to why we are choosing to live the way we are.
Yes, life can change – if you want it to. Such a positive statement, but absolutely true. My life changed as soon as I got honest in how I was living and that my life was not working and that actually I felt lost. I made many lifestyle changes, for example, around food; started to cook everything myself. Sleep; went to bed early and got up early giving me more time in the morning so as I did not rush… and many more. One simple change leads to the next and before you know, you are living a life that feels more true with simplicity, the icing on your cake.
Yes absolutely the quality of our lives can change if we are willing to let go of what is not truly working. Although the latter is where resistance can kick in, for how many of us are truly willing to give up all the pockets of comfort in our lives?
Oh those pockets of comfort…. mine lately has been with food, eating more than I need but not every day. So it is for me to look at why on certain days, do I eat more, what do I not want to feel?
As you say Nicole “I could not keep going the way I was.” So at 40 I stopped all drugs legal and illegal. Then by the time I came to Universal Medicine at the age of 50 my body had already shown me that sugar, gluten and dairy were not supporting me.
Finding I had simply used replacements such as fruits, honey, maple syrup; rice bread, corn bread; soya, almond, coconut milks, creams or yogurts all became apparent from the presentations by Serge Benhayon. Once I understood how our real issues and emotional disturbances were entwined in our ideals and believes, so that the foods we eat keep us tied and numbed to our emotions. Foods only buried our issues and emotions deeper in the pit of arrogance that was a set up to make us think we are doing better because we have moved on when in all honesty the ball was just been thrown in the air from hand to hand with no evolution. Thank you Nichole, because as what you have shared “honoring all that is felt in and around me, never taking for granted all that I am and all that I have, as I know that without the constant ongoing commitment and support from Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I would not be where I am today.”
It is amazing how quickly and dramatically our life can change when we make this change inside of us first.
Yes. I can relate to all of this. I have made gradual but significant changes over the years, and when I look back I can see the enormous difference it has made to the quality of my life, but more significant is the steadiness I feel within myself. It didn’t happen over night, but with a willingness to be aware of how life plays out according to the choices I make, I have naturally rebuilt a foundation that supports me more solidly.
Appreciation is an important part of our daily life, I am choosing to deepen my appreciation and it is beautiful, ‘The appreciation I have for my life, family and those around me is endlessly deepening and one that I would not change for the world.’
So true Linda – I tried for a long time to stop patterns that were abusive to my body, like smoking and drinking alcohol. But it wasn’t until focusing on self-love, nurturing and valuing myself as a woman did it start to change.
If someone had of told me 2 years ago that my life would have the elements it does today – I would have believed them but still been shocked! I can feel a gorgeous and enormous quality that is within me and this being lived more consistently allows for life to really take shape in a true and supportive way.
I agree Rachael – in fact, I probably would not have believed them – I would have likely freaked out. It’s astounding how amazing my life is today, and what I now feel within me, the quality I wake up with, take to my day and go to sleep with, and the environment that has literally shaped around me. The difference to where I was just a year ago, never mind a few years ago, is huge – bigger than huge. But in the grand scheme of things it is normal – we are meant to live in joy and in constant expansion, and when we do go there within, it reverberates in our outer life as well.
So true what you have all shared Nichole, Rachael and Katerina. What is it that keeps us in this deep form of illusion and arrogance about how we were living that we though was good but in hind sight had provided nil, zero, zilch to our evolution?
And evolve you have. Amazing it has been, to be part of and seeing your evolution!
Through The Way of The Livingness we have the power to live who we truly are and that is a huge blessing not just for self but for all humanity, breaking away from the struggles and complexities of life and embracing more of the love within.
Nicole I am also someone that deeply appreciates what I have been given by Universal Medicine and as a result what I can live today. It’s truly remarkable to resurrect out of stress, trauma, emotional hurts, etc to now live connected to stillness, love, harmony, joy and begin to feel and express the truth. Life will always have challenges but now the tools I can reach for to support myself are truly self supportive, not self destructive or offering temporary relief.
What a celebration, ‘ fifteen years on, after making different choices to no longer live in the avoidance and arrogance, I have instead chosen to deal with my issues and what I feel in every moment,’ and as you say to now live a life that is supportive and loving.
I agree Nicole. My life has also changed significantly. Before I used to avoid responsibility and distract myself from any tensions I would feel by eating way to much and drinking alcohol. The foundation of self-care I have built over the last 10 years means I am actually enjoying life rather that managing my way through it.
Yes, it definitely can change. My life has certainly moved around over the years, and I can confidently say that Universal Medicine has supported me to be aware of my choices and how they impact me and everyone around me. The awareness alone has allowed me to take responsibility for my life and including all the choices I make.
When it comes to the teachings and modalities of Universal Medicine, everyday miracles are an ordinary part of life.
Yes – love this Rachael, a beautiful reflection of the absolute majesty we naturally are and are here to bring to life.
This a really big one to work on “Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition.” It’s a very simple way to live to allow oneself to just be who they are – that already removes layers of complication out of life. How beautiful it would be if this was our foundation in life from an early age, supported to be ourselves in family, education, and employment.
The smallest of changes that are consistently chosen, then become a natural part of our daily lives and routine and then becomes a rhythm in the quality brought to everything we do. As that quality of self care deepens from acceptance and appreciation, there is the knowing that we are so much more than just our physical body.
This is a beautiful testimony to the Livingness Nicole and when truly lived it is very powerful and life changing on many levels – we can all make this simple choice to align and embrace to this immense love and begin to see the miracles that unfold around us.
Beautifully expressed Nicole. The way you speak of choices has no sense of ‘having to give things up’ and become a major challenge, only letting go of complexity and exhaustion to simplify the way of living.
“The choices I have made have come from a direct decision to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving – establishing a way of living that allows me to continue to develop a life of love and simplicity”.
The more we develop and commit to our relationship with self the more we realise that life is so much more and that our purpose of being here is to offer a reflection to another of what it is to live from an open heart and not the complications of the head.
Nicole I loved reading your blog and how you realised that there was far more to life than what many of us accept as the norm, beautiful to read your transformation and feel how much love you now hold yourself with.
The most valuable realisation I have learnt from Universal Medicine is how much power we have in our own choices, and that we are the ones that create change.
Choice, change, commitment to life = joy in full measure being abundant in your writing Nicole.
It is very inspiring to read and appreciate the changes you have made to support this beautiful way of living.
It is amazing how simply making more loving choices changes our life completely and often incredibly so.
So simple really… and shows what we need to create and put in the way for us not to make loving choices.
“Life Can Change – If You Want It To”, and this paired with the willingness to deeply care for and learning to love oneself brings a change of quality to life that no outside gain can give us. Nicole the simplicity of appreciation of the daily life you bring is so very solid and yet tender in its application.
It is the most humbling experience to feel just how supported we are when we decide to make changes in our life. The job appears, the house to buy/rent is there, the friends rally, all around
there is support. Simply because you have made the
choice, for it is the choice that comes first.
As we choose to engage more fully with life, staying steady with the commitment to ourselves we also begin to appreciate more and our lives start to change and become more full and yet more spacious at the same time.
I lived life in search of connecting to the world outside me to fulfill me, through lifestyles, work, friends to make me feel like I belonged, and part of humanity, but never did it truly hit the point as at the end of the day I never felt at ease with myself as there was still something greatly missing. In fact I mostly sensed that ‘this’ (whatever I was doing) is not it, and ‘this’ is not true but override this sense. The Ageless Wisdom Teachings as presented and lived by Serge Benhayon have reminded me that everything I could ever search for is already within me, and when I began to explore this world within I did discover the world in which I do belong to, my Soul, through which I can live the fullness of who I am within whatever I do and wherever I am, whoever I am with as best I can.
“I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect”. This is such a powerful message to those of us who have developed a way to avoid acknowledging what our lives are truly like and instead simply pretend we are ok, because to change the way we are living feels way too hard. But as you say, by dealing with the issues that need addressing and knowing that it is not about being perfect, change is not only possible but can happen in a very gentle and surprising way.
It is amazing that when we truly stop running and avoiding the choices we have made and instead lovingly choose to feel and address what is there, we have the power to transform our life into one that supports and embraces us.
The title of this blog really grabbed me – “Life Can Change – If You Want It To”. My life is not as full of drama as it used to be and there are many things that have changed for the better over the years but I cannot deny there being an element of coasting where I feel I am being lazy in making choices, and it’s not about making my life more comfortable and all that, but I feel I need to question where the motivation is coming from when I am making choices, and what is it that I truly want.
It is awful how self-destructive we can be in our lives and yet fit in and are considered ‘normal’ because everyone around us is doing the same thing. It’s a parallel for much of life’s games and falsities really, for as long as the crowd plays the same game, we can all continue with the charade that it’s all good. Underneath our bodies are screaming that it is not a true way to live. Once we re-connect to something of truth, the game begins to reveal itself though and we find ourselves with choices to continue playing the game, or to live something of truth. Thanks for the gorgeous example of having made that choice yourself… very inspiring Nicole.
Temporary fixes such as ‘a glass of wine or joint’ only serve to distract us from the hurt of our unresolved issues that will always linger and shadow all that we do until we fully address them and let them go.
It can be so easy for us to get into a momentum of just living life as it is each day and not question this even if we are not happy. It can sometimes take a major incident to wake us up out of this. It is great to choose to wake up from it and start to make changes without needing the major incident to do it.
“The choices I have made have come from a direct decision to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving – establishing a way of living that allows me to continue to develop a life of love and simplicity” beautiful to re-read your blog Nicole, Taking responsibility – not a word that many want to embrace – for our lives, is key to making life style changes that support us. Accepting where we are at and appreciating ourselves is important also.
“I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it” – this really stood out for me. For a long while, for me, life used to feel like a long stint of suffocation, and I so longed for its sense of perpetuation to cease and I sought the answer in withdrawing from it and not participating. That never worked. What was lacking was my commitment to myself, to love myself for who I was, and I am still working on it.
It is a choice to deal with our issues but what I do know is that those same issues keep returning and presenting themselves sometimes in uncanny ways which can be uncomfortable yet at the same time so supportive and healing to my body and wellbeing.
Just as your AMAZING before and after illustrated for us all!
I constantly hear people saying that they have no choice, and that it’s too late to change. If I have the opportunity I take the time to share with them that from my lived experience I have come to know that there is always another choice – we may just not like what it is -, and it is definitely never too late to change. In the last 11 years I have been making many choices and changes in the way I live, and now at 66 I know that there are still many more to come, and those I look forward to as the quality of my life is now so much greater than it ever has been.
I totally agree Ingrid. In the last 12 years I have completely changed my life and health totally around for the better and I am soon to be 67.
You and I, and many others of our age, are definitely breaking down the long-held belief that ageing is all ‘downhill’. It’s two years since I wrote that comment, and in this time, I have continued to make changes in my life, changes which are steadily increasing my vitality and joy of living. We are the living evidence the medical and scientific community ought to be studying as our lived experience has the potential to save lives, in many ways.
Very true Ingrid, we are establishing a whole paradigm as to what is meant by aging.
It’s only when we start to deal with life, head on, instead of avoid it, that things start to truly change – if we want them to. It all starts with us, honestly looking at how we’re living our life, and if we’re being and bringing all of ourselves into each situation. Even making a few simple choices, like taking more care of ourselves, has a huge impact on how we relate to ourselves and others.
I too share your inspiration by Serge – the changes I have made are life-altering for all!
I too have been inspired by Serge Benhayon and all his family to make choices that support me to live a simple and deeply loving life which has transformed my health and wellbeing and my relationships with everyone I meet. This is continually unfolding and the openness I approach each day with allows me to respond to what is needed – letting go of the stress and anxiety of the way I used to live has been huge and when I get reminder of how I used to feel most of the time it just confirms my commitment to addressing whatever issues come up and moving on with purpose.
‘I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it’, this feels like the key to changing our lives and for me it was only when I was willing to honestly look at where my life was as a result of the choices I had made that the possibility of living in a different way opened up to me.
“Yes, life can change – if you want it to” It is a choice to say ‘Yes’ to being and living who we truly are.
It may seem that when we become committed to living life in full, including self care and taking responsibility for our choices in full that we become really boring. Only because we couldn’t imagine anything else. But this is far from the truth. Life becomes much more enjoyable and fulfilling. You can feel this very much reading your blog too Nicole. Super inspiring.
I agree Jennifer, Nicole’s blog is super inspiring and I also find the comments that follow very inspiring as well.
Choosing to make many similar changes in my life, as you have made Nicole, has shattered any previous, long held beliefs that it is very hard to change, in fact sometimes it actually felt impossible even though there was a part of me willing to do so. And my life too bears no resemblance to the life of struggle I used to exist in, and even though challenges still arise it is how I “choose to deal with the challenges” that has changed dramatically. Gone are the moments of going into huge and often destructive reaction, to be replaced by the choice to stop and to take the time to respond when I can see clearly what is waiting to be expressed. At 66 I know for certain that it’s never too late to change.
We often hear stuff like, “if you don’t like your life change it”, “we are the masters of our destiny”…etc… but how often are these just hollow words that come from the head and not from a lived experience in the body? Words are so easy to say, and they might be well-intentioned, but if the intention is not followed up by a consistent commitment to actually choosing something different, we will remain on the hamster-wheel of existence. If we do commit however, we step off the wheel and into life, where although each day we complete a cycle and come back to the same point, we are no longer at the mercy of the illusion of life the hamster wheel of existence shrouds us in (by choice).
Whenever we get that feeling that there is more to life we need to open our eyes to realise this is actually true. We then need to move with that feeling and see where it takes us and be open to what lessons and blessings in life these feelings offer us.
“Yes, life can change – if you want it to.” Absolutely i can completely relate to you, my life was full work, long hours, socialising, eating, drinking just never stopped. Exhaustion had taken over my body and if i had not stopped and made changes when i did i would have burnt out. I am to so grateful for the continuous support and love from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
It’s true that we can change but only if, as you’ve shared Nicole, we truly want to and we have a commitment to doing so.
‘I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it,’ A great line Nicole and it reminds me how irresponsible and uncommitted to life I used to be and how drained and exhausted I felt all the time. My life has changed as well by becoming more responsible and committed and dealing with everything that comes my way, living in this way I feel lighter and have more energy and all my relationships have deepened as well with this simple choice.
It is amazing how changes happen when we take full responsibility for how we are living rather than doing what is perceived as being “normal”. What you have shared illustrates this beautifully, Nicole. I love how you say that it is not about perfection and that we can all make mistakes.
There is nothing wrong with simplifying an uncomplicated life. If feels freeing to be more of who you are. The other way of complications and distracting disregard feels like an entrapment of compounding dramas. One way allows you to respond to it. The other is a reaction to it. Nicole, so glad you have made better choices for yourself.
Your loving choices cant help but have a beneficial effect Nicole, they are beautiful. I love how you have come to the place of ; “its ok to make mistakes”. As one who has been hooked into the notion of perfectionism, and now actively breaking down that belief, those words have been like music to my ears and my whole being.
‘Living a life of simplicity without the complication and disregard’. If we embrace fully just this one aspect alone from your list, Nicole, the changes to our vitality and our bodies are exponential. Underneath it all however, lies a fundamental decision – a choice to take responsibility for the way we’re living, or not.
‘I am now aware of the choices I make and how they affect not only me and my life, but all those around me as well’. Our choices and how we live our everyday definitely has a ripple effect to the world around us and we should never underestimate or forget this fact.
Yes life can change if you want it to, the key here being if you want it to and are committed to the purpose and necessary changes. Committed mainly (and also) to changing and evolving our inner light and wisdom.
Thank you Nicole for a very interesting and inspiring blog.
this is great Nicole. You crack the long held belief that ‘change is only from what we do on the outside’ in two, showing us all that change, true change that is, actually comes from the quality of how we are within us first.
“Life Can Change – If You Want It To” – so simple, yet we very often overlook the fact that we do have a choice – sometimes intentionally, trying to forget/ignore the fact that we are responsible. So often we want the world/people to change and we just sit and wait for something to miraculously happen; and even when we think of ‘changing life’ it is often about changing the outer details of our life – like where we live, what we do for living, who we live with etc. and I know from my own experiences those changes really do not change anything. True changes can only come from within, and any external change is just a by-product of that.
What is magical about your blog Nicole is the power of the truth within communicating all of the time, no matter what choices we are currently making, it’s endless patience and knowing that we will return to who we truly are and live that. I also love the fact that no matter how separated we are from ourselves, it is only by the ‘measurement’ given by the world outside of us – in essence we are never separated. In appreciation and acceptance of God’s Plan.
‘I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too.’ I really had to learn to see mistakes as a part of life and I love how you connect mistakes with no longer avoiding life. Committing to life and taking responsibility for our choices is never about being perfect but to allow to learn from mistakes we make and go on with living.
Nicole , you have articulated clearly the way we all can choose to separate from the truth and that truth is found in the body. The perception has been that the mind/our thoughts are the directions we should take in living our lives but in my experience it is the body that holds the wisdom and guidance for life. Alcohol, drugs, being busy, etc are ways of blocking the body. The choices you have shared on how to come back to who you are and to self-care are so simple and available to us all. Thank you for sharing these life-changing choices.
Thank you Nicole for sharing the changes possible after meeting Serge Benhayon. It is always inspiring to read how these changes happen and are possible especially when we consider our destructive behaviours as normal and accept our lives as they are. This is where Serge Benhayon has made a difference to my life and many, many others as he helps the light came on and so I can see the areas of mess. My body then clearly showed me through diseases and continues to show me what needs addressing and where responsibility needs to be taken.
It is the understanding that commitment itself is the pivotal change, the fulcrum upon which our life can turn, and yet it is the attribute that is so very neglected in this world in this time.
“the difference now is the way in which I choose to deal with the challenges that lie ahead on a daily basis.” Making a different choice is a part of life that I had no understanding of before meeting Serge Benhayon in that I did not see how I was living and what I was choosing – e.g.. unsupportive foods, excess sugar, alcohol, reactive emotions, drama and stress was always to not be aware of the issues arising in my body and what it was saying thus continually choosing to deal with these feelings in the above ways and live in disconnection to myself. It has been through attending Universal Medicine presentations that I have learned to deal with challenges differently and deeply appreciate all that has been shared and that I chose to make that first step.
Yes Nicole life can change. I am only at the beginning of my journey but what an exiting one. Gone is the fear of what tomorrow might bring. Now that I have a stronger foundation in myself I trust that my choices will be the right ones when needed. A few years ago I could not have envisaged the transformation that occurred within me.
Every choice we make leads to the next choice, then the next. So the first choice of disregard and disrespect for ourselves takes us on a downward spiral. The first small step to choose to take responsibility for the choices we make can bring us to an understanding that we are responsible for the body we live in and the life we have. The choice I made to meet Serge Benhayon and listen to the words of wisdom was the best choice I ever made.
So too the more appreciation is introduced for each little or big change made, the more room it opens for yet another.
Life has truly changed for me since meeting Serge Benhayon and attending his courses where I have dealt with my childhhood hurts and now no longer keep people at a safe distance never allowing people in. Today I am very much impulsed to be with and around people with a deep desire to connect to all…. this is a huge shift and turnaround for me and something for me to deeply appreciate and acknowledge…….and then claim how amazing I am.
Dear Nicole your change you describe is a little miracle for me. I love the following sentence: “I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too.” This sentences is the best medicine ever . . . thank you so much for sharing it with us.
It is the best medicine ever, I agree esteraltmiks, and a loving reminder for me not to be so hard on myself when I get it wrong, when I make a mistake. I am becoming so much more aware of how hard I am on myself when I feel I get it wrong… this self-bashing has to go right out the door!
Taking responsibility for your life and being responsible for the choices you make is the only way to change your life or any situation. Once you begin the choices become more loving and your life begins to change and the people and your environment begin to change as well. The best part is we all have the power to change.
Nicole, It is amazing here to read how far you have come with your choices. For you to feel what was there to be felt and work on those issues that were coming up. It is very exposing to feel a level of living that is not supportive and your piece of writing gives me grace in a time in my life where I am truly starting to feel what my choices have been thus far. With my choices not being so loving, but with my awareness around this fact I am able to now feel how my body truly is, which gives an opportunity to really work on healing the ill and the denseness within my body.
I agree Brendan.
This is gorgeous Nicole. It is so true that we can change how we are living, at any moment, through choosing to commit to ourselves and honoring how precious we truly are. I agree that it is a constant journey of discovery and development, but one that cultivates and nurtures a deeper connection to our love within.
This part Nicole stood out for me today, ‘knowing I am enough just being me’ – this is a great reminder for me as having appreciation for who I am and not what I do is something that I can forget from time to time.
“I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it”
Like Gina, and you Nicole, I am welcoming and enjoying life instead of avoiding it; choosing instead to deal with whatever comes my way.
“I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it.” This is great Nicole. I am experiencing the same – and rather than the numbing and distraction of it for years like your self I now ask to actually bring it on – it’s almost enjoyable because now I know the changes and joy that occurs far outweigh the minor discomfort of looking at how I’ve chosen to live and behave in the past.
Commitment to self is an important ingredient in the road to living a truly vital and effervescent life, it’s not about what we do, but how we feel.
Really taking responsibility for our choices and accepting the consequences that flow; both healing and harming for ourselves and others; is the key.
It is up to us as to our level of commitment to make loving and healing choices.
As you say Nicole the ongoing commitment and support from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is stunning and so very much appreciated.
Choices make up 100% of our life, we should never discount the power we have to choose the life we can have.
The examples you have given are really good.
Because they are based on the quality we can have and not so much focused on the outcome. The outcome naturally follows the quality we choose to live.
Luke that’s a great summation of the consequences of our choices and the end results we get to live in and with.
Choices make up 100% of our life, we should never discount the power we have to choose the life we can have. Powerful words Luke.
Yes and least we forget it…
There is so much wisdom in your words Luke. It’s so true but frequently we overlook that choices make up 100% of our life.
Yes, true responsibility is simply true freedom
Thank you Nicole for your part of the story, and your developments with Serge Benhayon and all the family. I loved what you said at the end: ”as I know that without the constant ongoing commitment and support from Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I would not be where I am today.” it is the for me, I would have definitely not be here where I am today. I never felt so deeply content, loving, truly connected with people, enjoying work etc. etc. , If I had not met Serge Benhayon. He is the most absolute integer and loving man I met in whole my life, who is inspiring me everyday to explore my inner-power & wisdom and live it.
DannaElmalah I wholeheartedly agree with your comment to Nicole and this great blog – I too, have a deep level of appreciation for Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine – in my entire 60+ years of life I have never experienced anything like the love he lives and delivers in every word and movement he makes with equal-ness for all. It never waivers and Serge continues to inspire me beyond measure to keep returning to the truth of who I am in my essence.
”as I know that without the constant ongoing commitment and support from Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I would not be where I am today.”
DannaElmalah and Lorraine I am with you both in that I would not be where I am today if I had not met Serge Benhayon and the support from Universal Medicine. Much appreciation for Serge for his powerful reflection of his living way, of how he shows us how we can be our true selfs and live a loving life regardless of what stands in front of us.
There is a lot in the phrase ‘if you want it to’. Really wanting something to change,and taking the steps to make the change happen takes responsibility. I used to say, for years and years that I wanted to stop drinking alcohol, but that I just couldn’t, it was too hard. This was a lie. As soon as I really wanted to stop drinking, and was ready to let go of all that came with it, I found that the need and desire for alcohol fell away very easily.
I love this post Nicole. People say a leopard can’t change its spots, but committing to myself, taking responsibility for my choices, choosing love and care for myself and making life simpler – a constant work in progress – has enabled me to feel more vital and healthier than I did 15 years ago.
Nicole’s story shows for a fact that the ‘leopards can’t change their spots’ theory is way off when we apply it to ‘personality’. I have seen the truth of this is the rapid turnaround of my own life and the lives hundreds of other people. This alone has supported me to be far less judgemental and protected in my interactions with others.
The true ‘leopard that never changes it spots’ is our soul. This remains unchanged and is equally beautiful for each and every one of us. Serge Benahyon and Universal Medicine have simply and effectively presented this truth from day one and from this truth many have chosen to return to who they truly are.
Loving ourselves with absoluteness, as you write, feels super strong. Yes, no gaps to let CCJ in! So whenever C,C or J pops in, it is just an indication for ourselves to love ourselves deeper.
Life has changed since knowing Serge Benhayon, absolutely! I am more aware of how I can look after and nurture myself, my family and everything at work . Challenges I still have, yes , – but I address them in a completely different way than I used to. Every moment is an opportunity to grow, learn and bring more love to life.
No matter how much you can try to avoid feeling, you will always come back to the same spot- instead of wasting an amazing lifetime, I decided too, to look at my stuff and stopped numbing myself. Serge Benhayon was the first person I met, who made sense and my whole being deeply resonated. Since then I have changed immensely, thanks to my own openness to change or better said become me again.
‘A life lived with drugs, alcohol, working long hours, a busy social life, disregard and disarray, constant stress, overwhelm and complication’ was how I lived my life. It looked as if I was doing well, I had a financially successful career, lots of friends, a lovely house etc., but the reality was I felt dreadful on a day to day basis yet I accepted this as completely normal as this is what we were all doing. Looking back (and hindsight is very useful) it seems crazy that I accepted living such an intense and uncomfortable life. I am so thankful that I stumbled across Universal Medicine who presented a way of living that is free from the stress complication and overwhelm that I was creating.
Yes Fiona , and I find that what is accepted as ‘normal’ can change all the time. It is an ever-growing awareness of what we need as we develop in our lives.
I have just taken a moment to reflect on the many changes that I have implemented in my life, in the last seven years since being introduced to Universal Medicine and the biggest change is I no longer have that internal nagging feeling that the life I was leading wasn’t really my choice I was at the mercy of the highs and lows, the dramas the lack of Love and the missing intimacy I so craved! Now I have connected to that part of me that is truely loving and supportive of me and yes I am connected to that missing part.
Thanks again Nicole – for making me stop and fully appreciate how far I have come since making my own self loving choices in daily life. The joy of responsibility I have discovered with this is life changing and letting go the stubbornness and arrogance that came with my old ways is a blessing for all. In appreciation of Universal Medicine and the Benhayon family for inspiring in me the strength to choose a loving way in life.
An appreciation of life is one of the many gifts I gave myself through the teachings of Universal Medicine. So yes Nicole life can change when we choose to.
Thank you for your inspiring blog Nicole. Living the principles of true love certainly make life worth living.
That is so beautifully put Kate.
There is a real power in your words here Nicole, it feels claimed and lived unapologetically. An inspiration and affirmation. I can feel that its worth it.
Beautifully said, Nicole.
We have a tendency to paint ourselves as the victim of a story penned by one other than ourselves, to avoid taking responsibility and making uncomfortable decisions . . . to claim that we are in fact the author of the story is to also accept that we choose to keep ourselves on the path we are on just as we make the choice to leave a path of disregard and irresponsibility in favour of one of responsibility and truth.
Something that we often don’t want to see when on the path of irresponsibility is that responsibility is actually amazing to live, though it be frequently touted as ‘boring’ or ‘limiting.’ I am finding that the more responsibility I choose the better life is and the greater my ability to live my true potential.
Well said katemaroney1, choosing responsibility is choosing to be able to live your true potential.
Yes, life can change – if you want it to.
Thank you Nicole, it really is about us making a choice for ourselves but in the full knowledge that everything we do affects another. The impact of that is huge. TO know if from our heads is one thing but to know it from experience … that is a life changing moment.
In remembering we always have a choice – to love and let love, or not – one, or the other – simple.
Thank you Nicole for you inspiring blog. To not think you have to be perfect is a great thing to remember on the journey back to love.
Wow Nicole – I have experienced so many of the same things and it is so supportive to feel that the experience I have had with Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine has been very similar for countless others. So many lives have been transformed through the inspiration this man and organization provide to support us all to make simple and loving choices.
I can personally say that it can be easy to keep hold of the life we have, as it is familiar and safe. I now see that all I need to do is just give different options a go, and to feel what is right for me, to continually evolve to be more. Thankyou Nicole
It is hard to not be in awe of such change and so inspiring to know that it is not only possible but forever deepening and expanding through your commitment to choosing responsibility and a loving way of being.
Such a beautiful inspirational sharing that clearly shows that we all have the choice, in every moment, to make a change in the way we are living; we don’t have to stay stuck in the old, there always is an alternative. Choosing to take responsibility for my life, and to begin to understand what truly loving myself actually meant, were the two choices that have made the biggest, and most amazing, changes in my life; and every day I appreciate that I made the choice to change.
How amazing would be if people take notice of their body as the marker of how we do life. This would be life changing as people will start factoring in what they choose and their true well being.
This is such an inspirational blog Nicole, thank you
I enjoy reading it over and over as I am reminded that every moment there are choices to be made that either heal or harm; it is really that simple.
It is all the so-called littele choices of change in our lives that all add up to the big change. It requires commitment to life, making these choices and be consistent. And then, just like you, you wake up and can’t believe the big change that has occurred. And it feels like natural already, as if it always had been there. What a beautiful journey you shared with us, thanks!
I learnt at an early age that life is not static and if we don’t keep up with the future we are actually going backwards. So I embraced my ability to change and like you Nicole this has stood me in great stead and I give thanks to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon for showing me what I needed to change.
“Life can change if you want it to!” Lovely and very true: it’ a choice. Every moment. And the consistency of choosing love or a self loving way to walk builds up a routine that supports you to go deeper and expand. And get more stable in feeling what is truly needed to be done. Awesome Nicole.
Absolutely Christinahecke, consistency is a major key.
‘By constantly looking at and feeling what I have chosen and whether it supports me, I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too.’ I know how I avoid life or should I say how I avoid love; by trying to be perfect and not make any mistakes. By feeling how arrogant and harming this is I can make the changes that are needed, one after the other and love is returning back in my life. I am coming back to myself.
Life can indeed change when we are honest, call out what is not working and take responsibility for the parts that we would rather and very conveniently blame others for.
” I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too.” I love this, Nicole. I can so relate to it too. I used to really avoid life, never faced up to things, hid myself away in books, in a make believe world, and not a very happy one. Then one day I met Serge Benhayon, and Universal Medicine, and life has never looked back. It has been a very gradual journey, much has had to be discarded, but now I feel so much lighter and lovelier, and my life is now so full of love, joyful connections with others, and such a love for those others, and an absolute commitment to continuing this journey.
What you wrote is so simple yet amazing and profound, Nicole. It is simple to make different-loving-choices when we feel we can’t follow old ways of living any longer. Then there is a commitment. And tremendous support I can feel from Serge Benhayon, Universal medicine practitioners and all the fellow students. You, Nicole, and many others are living proof-yes, life can change-a lot!-and become healthy, more fun,full of connections, love and stillness.
I love the title of this blog, “Life can change if you really want it too”, it made me smile, as its really up to us which way our life goes, we always have choices.,
Serge Benhayon and his whole extended family are constant inspiration for how simple, loving and joyful life can be – whilst being in service to humanity as a joy and not a task. A blueprint that surpasses happiness.
That is so well said Jo, I totally agree: The Benhayons show how simple, loving and joyful life can be – whilst being in service to humanity as a joy and not a task.
I also absolutely agree. The way they choose to live is effortless. True inspiration.
My life has undergone a complete re-evaluation and the results are a discarding of so much that wasn’t what I chose to end up being. How and why this happens is mind boggling. Ah there’s a clue … My mind imposed a lot of images and ideals and beliefs that I thought I had to be but when I engaged my heart I was able to really get to the real me.
I agree, Merrilee. One of the main thoughts I had was that it was not possible to improve past a certain, pretty ordinary, point. The biggest eye opener was that it was possible. The second, big, positive surprise was that Serge Benhayon could show us how and that we can then do it for ourselves and the third one was that it works.
This is a beautiful capturing of everything you need to know, do and be to set yourself on a road out of the overwhelm, exhaustion and anxiety that’s now society’s widely accepted, well-entrenched norm. It’s a blueprint based on a lived experience, not a facile to-do list. What Nicole presents here is game-changing for anyone truly wanting to be more dedicated to their own self-care and to deeply honour the vessel they walk around in. Pure gold.
My life is also a million miles away from where it used to be, with the unfolding process of self love and care and coming to the realisation that I am enough just being me.
“Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me..” That is something very true. I can sense when reading this – that I used to feel not being enough and therefore did everything that was asked – no matter if it was ok for me. I never questioned that. But a true reflection can support to point out that belief to heal it. And your blog is truly a reflection!
I am continually being inspired by Serge Benhayon and his family and as well by many other students of Universal Medicine, and the way they live, as their lives have been profoundly changed by living in the way you express in your blog Nicole.
Nicole writes that it was upon meeting Serge Benhayon that she was truly inspire to change her life. And now it is possible that, with so many people being inspired by the integrity and life lived by one man, that we all can be the lights in the world that inspire such profound changes.
It is not just a possibility, it is a fact. And with that fact being accepted as a fact comes a deep responsibility.
Well said cjames2012. So many people are inspired by the life lived by one man, including myself. We all can inspire each other when we live from our inner truth and knowing, and from a deep acceptance of who we are.
Nicole, eleven years ago, I also made a direct decision to make different choices in life and ‘to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving’. Like you, ‘I am now aware of the choices I make and how they affect not only me and my life, but all those around me as well’. I can attest that living this way allows me to develop a life of love, simplicity and joy. This is available to all and there is no age limit to when one can start to make changes in their life – the choice to do so is forever there.
I love what you write here Anne, that ‘there is no age limit to when one can start to make changes’ in our lives. There are times that we can feel something is ‘too late’ but the saying ‘never too late’ springs to mind. It can surely never be too late to be make healthier and more loving choices in our lives?
I love what you write here Anne, that ‘there is no age limit to when one can start to make changes’ in our lives. There are times that we can feel something is ‘too late’ but the saying ‘never too late’ springs to mind. It can surely never be too late to be make healthier and more loving choices in our lives?
It takes a lot to make real changes. Thank you Nicole. I can feel the support that is all around us to help us to truly change. One big portion of that support comes through Serge Benhayon.
I used to feel the odd one out yet on the outside you would think I was living just like everyone else but that was only because I felt there was no support. I did not know how to support myself to live a life I knew in my heart to be true until I met Serge Benhayon and from that point I knew I was no longer alone. Although that first meeting has lead me to where I can now say I live in a way that is more supportive of who I am I cannot do it alone so while I deeply appreciate Serge Benhayon, I also deeply appreciate every member of the student body and the congregation of The Way of the Livingness whose dedication to coming back to who they truly are creates a body of support that reminds me I am not alone in knowing there is a way back to love and living within the confines of the status quo is most certainly not it!
I love what you are saying Suzanne and I give thanks to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon for assembling this amazing Student Body.
“Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition” is a journey I and many others share with you Nicole. Loving myself was never something that was in my realm of consciousness until like you I met Serge Benhayon and became aware that there was another way. Once one starts to take responsibility for their own choices including to embrace self-love, than as you say, ‘life can change – if you want it to”.
I love what you write here Anne, that ‘there is no age limit to when one can start to make changes’ in our lives. There are times that we can feel something is ‘too late’ but the saying ‘never too late’ springs to mind. It can surely never be too late to be make healthier and more loving choices in our lives?
Nicole I also “…know that without the constant ongoing commitment and support from Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I would not be where I am today”. Many others around the world attest the exact same and together we form the living proof, and we speaks volumes, regarding the truth about Serge Benhayon.
Very true Jeanette, the thousands of people around the world are a living testament to what Serge Benhayon presents. Apart from the drug taking, my life closely resembled that of Nicole’s and I know that my life would be in a bad way if I hadn’t started to attend the presentations of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon.
‘My commitment to myself is one that I am forever working on,’ – I love this line Nicole. It’s the consistency of the ongoing commitment that’s so important and so rewarding.
I agree Alison, without the consistency it is hard for us to appreciate how far we have come.
One word that stood out for me Nicole is ‘appreciation’. Through the Love and healing we have received to transform our lives is to be appreciated in full.
Again this morning I saw the title of this blog, and it just made me smile as it is such a simple truth. Life can change if you want it to, it is as simple as that. It just confirms every moment is a choice, that can instantly change, and I do mean instantly change, how you feel, think, express, engage, your body, way of living …. your whole life.
Well said Gyl and yes it is instant, even if the outcome is not always immediately visible as way may need to complete a cycle we have started, the difference in the quality of energy we are choosing is instantly there and feels so good. Maybe this is why we sometimes do not really want to know what we choose because we know we have the absolute power and thus responsibility to change our life at any moment.
So true Gyl Rae, we can change our life in an instant, with taking responsibility and choosing to make it about simplicity and love first. Complication and drama is a choice we have made, and that can be changed whenever we are ready to. Studying with Universal Medicine has truly opened up a more true way of being to me, and I’m forever grateful to Serge Benhayon and all his family for leading by example, living the fullness of who we all are.
So true Gyl Rae. It is all the little choices that I feel when I am present in my body. I can feel the effect of them so instantly. I am also finding that I have the choice and power to put a stop to one choice (even though it may feel very familiar or ‘normal’) and make a fresh loving choice. This is the way I can develop a commitment to myself and purpose in life.
Yes, your whole life can change if you choose so. And this has nothing to do with age, like some of my older friends and family members keep repeating so they don’t have to change.
Nicole I’ve just re-read your blog, and love how you talk about taking responsibility for yourself and your effect on others. It brings to mind that when we are living without appreciation and care for ourselves we often forget just how much this affects others – and then this lack of care and responsibility shapes our relationships in the most subtle ways. It is so much more fulfilling to truly commit to life and feel ourselves and everything and everyone around us flourish
‘Living a life of simplicity without the complication and disregard’ is very poignant in that I usually find that once life has become complicated because of the entanglement I have created by absorbing myself in what is going on all around me, either at work or at home, it can feel very difficult to come back to a sense of simplicity. The usual reaction is to want to run away or hide, and I see this same kind of reaction in my work colleagues and family. But what if we could remain with everybody and everything that is happening and not become overwhelmed, have plenty of vitality and actually enjoy all that life has to offer? Perhaps it does start with keeping things simple and looking after ourselves very very well.
‘Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition.’ This is something that I feel at the moment needs a constant refinement, going along the way of living love.
I agree Annelies. The behavior to find acceptance and recognition is so deeply seeded and I find it rearing its head in all sorts of situations. Being hurt, disregarding myself and checking out of life was one such way in contrast to the stereotype of this being materialistic success.
Very true Annelies, for me personally, having spent about 44 years of my life trying to please others and not being myself, doing the opposite was hard work at first. It is so much easier now but as you say, it needs a constant presence of making the true choices.
Constantly paying attention to making true choices is really what can turn around this pattern of doing things to please others and gain recognition: are we doing things for others, because we feel like we should or have to, or are we doing things because we actually feel like doing them?
I agree Annelies, reading the blog this time that same sentence stood out:
‘Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition.’ Also in the realization I have a CHOICE to love myself and accept myself just the way I am, nothing more and nothing less.
Totally Annelies Jinya and Tim, It is so ingrained, it almost feels hardwired in to always try to please, or do things to make everyone feel better rather than constantly staying steady and feel what is actually the true choice. And the ‘pleasing’ is not only draining to ourselves but is not great for the other and at some level they know this also… so we are doing no favours and not truly serving others unless we hold steady and choose without any need for something from outside of us..
It is indeed so ingrained. It requires a presence and awareness to notice it and stop it, when the pleasing pops up.
True Annie, and what I have come to realize is that what truly supports me also support others.
Well said Annelies. Simply knowing that we are enough exactly as we are is something I too am definitely a work in progress on, but nonetheless I am very aware that this feeling of my being enough imperfections and all has foundations that I can build on. Self doubt and not feeling enough doesn’t.
I just love the title of this blog ” Life can change – if you want it to”. The joy I feel in my body when reading this, just confirms it is true.My life has changed also, from choosing a more loving way to be and live, inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal medicine presentations. I now know and can feel in my body what true joy is. So often we say oh life can change, but there is no real follow up or commitment to that – and that is the key, it doesn’t have to be heavy or hard, far from it actually, but an amazing and joyful commitment to self responsibility in the choices we make. It is worth committing to love as it truly does change not only your life, but the life of many others too.
If we show true commitment to being ourselves, and knowing who we really are in this life, we are on the way to greater fulfilment.
So true Mike. I am really starting to appreciate that the more and more I commit to accepting myself and my imperfections as a whole package, the more I learn from them in everything that happens in my daily life – this is my greatest power.
Life can definitely change and it is the reflection that Serge Benhayon brings from his way of living and his integrity that is the game changer. I would also add that I have discovered how important it is to open up and how important my wife has been in gently guiding me to make the changes to how I live (no more whiskey and cigars). She just keeps getting on with it and explains things so clearly and with love. Lots to ponder on.
Cool blog….so simple….which can change many lives. I so agree….Life can change…if you want it to…definitely. I can’t believe how far I have come from where I use to be. I thank Serge Benhayon Esoteric Practioners and Universal Medicine everyday for all their support and inspiration.
It is a sad fact that the majority of society considers the busyness of life and the various coping mechanisms of getting through the day as normal. Thank you to Serge Benhayon for leading the way in self care, his lead has inspired many, myself included to change our lives from one of just getting through to a life that is actually lived.
This is so crucial, particularly in a world where we have come to accept the ways we live as the norm. There is another way, to truly live and enjoy each and every moment, as inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
It is great to see the bar that is setting the standard for our quality of living is being raised, inspired by Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and the many people that live by The Way Of The Livingness. Over time our standards have been gradually dropping and we are sinking to all time lows in how we accept abusive and destructive behaviours as our way of living. Yes, there is another way and it is great.
I was deeply touched by what you wrote and how you turned your life around. I remember one stage in my life I felt so lost, I doubted it was possible to ever change my life and the deep seated hurt I felt at the time. Fast forward ten years and I can say yes it is possible to heal all hurts and learn to love and live again. And as you say Nicole, this could not have happened without a commitment and dedication to self and making fundamental life style changes. Like you, I would not be where I am today without the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
Throughout life we all have built barriers, so no one could see the real person we truly are.
It was not until meeting and attending Serge Benhayon retreats, that my barrier started to come down, and what a shock I got, as I always thought I was perfect.
Life now is totally different and gone is my blinkered vision. Replaced by Light/ Love and Harmony.
Inspiring Nicole. There are many things you share of how you used to be that I myself used to choose. In reading all your changes and the choices you have made, and are making, allows me to appreciate how far I have come as well. You sum it up beautifully by saying – “My commitment to myself is one that I am forever working on, constantly making sure that the changes I have made are supportive of the way in which I choose to live.” And it really is that simple. Thank you.
It is hard to see there is another way of living when we are surrounded by friends and family living at the same crazy pace that we do. It’s like a cycle that just keeps feeding itself back. This is why Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine are such a God send. He lives in a way that is simple, with absolute integrity and responsibility. When you think there is no other way you need look no further than what Serge so consistently lives and presents to see this is not true.
My ‘old normal way of living’ is no more, occasionally a flicker of an old pattern shows itself – but knowing now I have a choice in how I work with what presents itself to me. As you so beautifully expressed Nicole “knowing I’m enough just being me” takes so much of the pressure away to me being something I am not.
It really does always come back to this Brendan from my experience of life, that being committed to taking care of myself has made the biggest impact to how I relate and connect with myself and others and I continue to develop this.
I have also made the same changes as you have Nicole. If someone had told me 8 years ago that the six items on your list would change my life totally I would not have believed them. Eight years ago I did not even know what self-care was and living a simple life would have clashed with my life of stresses and complication as the only thing on the daily menu. I truly like who I have become, since I found that the real me was always in me, just hiding behind the wall I had built.
What you once lived Nicole is indeed society’s “accepted norm” with all it’s disregard, props and vices. A far fetch from the “true normal” you now choose to live. You are a living example of the true beauty of what’s possible when we commit to no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and lovingly deal with it all.
Making mistakes and that is ok too……this gives life such a lightness and humbleness to it. The need to be perfect is a way of protection and it’s beautiful to allow oneself some space to explore and experience, knowing that eventually we will all return home.
You put it perfectly by saying that you were ‘plodding along’. The trap of believing that there is no other way is what had me enthralled in suffering. It has taken a lot of love building to change my ways, swallow my pride and accept that love is a choice every step of the way. No longer plodding, but consciously and consistently stepping forward.
It really is extraordinary how life can change its true… when most people of my generation are really just thinking about retirement ( or maybe they have been for decades!) there is a sense of unlimited possibilities, and a wonderful sense of not holding back… an excellent feeling!
Totally agree cjames2012, I am 67 and just realising how many choices there are out there, the major limitation seems to be my willingness to choose. My life is constantly expanding as I ‘retire’ from the restrictions I had allowed to dominate.
I can feel the love in what you have shared here Nicole – the love you have chosen and built into your life – it is deeply inspiring to see how this is possible. I too appreciate all that Serge Benhayon has offered us over the years – his insight is transformational provided we want to make the changes in our lives.
Another testament to the inspirational teachings of Universal medicine and living love of the Benhayon family. We have a choice in every moment, if we are willing to sit in the cockpit of action, ask questions, explore lifestyles and understand wellbeing then we can begin to make true change.
You’re life can only change if YOU commit to it changing and the steps are simple. Thank you Nicole
Living in a way that is supportive, I find is so very empowering and leads to a joyful life. Deep down we all know how we would like to live and what can support us to get there, but my experience is that we may not be willing, or we may not know how to do this. Universal Medicine has been a great support in sharing exactly how one can come back to living harmoniously. When I have stopped resisting and put all of my doubts aside and been open to trying out and applying the practical applications, I am amazed at how much richness there are in the teachings and how much wisdom and richness there is within me. Once we get a taste of what supports us to heal and grow, it’s the commitment to keep making those choices and adjusting where necessary, which will support us to continue to grow.
So beautifully described Nicole, when we change the quality of connection with ourselves, so does our life. It is indeed a false effort to change the details of our lives without looking at the quality with which we live our lives in. As any efforts that are done in our emptiness and lack of true connection will eventually fade and hold no true fulfilment.
An inspiration to many Nicole, thank you. Life can change if we choose for it to, and sometimes when it all seems to big to change all that is needed is to start with one thing, commit to one thing and that will ripple out to other parts of our lives and others as well.
Thank you Nicole – such a power-full sharing on how making loving choices in each moment can truly change our life. Your commitment to live this quality in your own life is very inspiring.
An overall great summary of how easy it is to change your life around, thank you Nicole.
Life can really change if we choose it and with the support and reflection form Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine we are shown the true way to change and seeing what is really going on. This is very empowering, honest and brings a deep integrity and commitment to life and true love. Thank you Nicole for your inspiring sharing of your life.
Well said, Nicole. I, too, could not have imagined the love and purpose I feel in my life now, even though deep inside I always longed for this.
We can choose change before change chooses us as ultimately what doesn’t support us will indeed make itself known. Why wait for a crisis when how we live is the medicine to the ailment we would otherwise have. Thank you for this simple and powerful reminder Nicole.
So true Liane and beautifully said. The wake up call of any crisis brings everything to our attention and scrutiny in a way that can be completely overwhelming. Choosing to change before change chooses us is indeed a much wiser and far more loving choice.
I have never felt so supported to make the changes that are now needed. The interesting thing is that I do know this support has always been there, waiting patiently for me to accept, surrender and basically get out of the way.
Agree Vicky, it is us who delay, the support is always there once we are ready to accept it and take more responsibility for our own actions.
I so agree Vicky – I feel that I needed the example of Serge Benhayon to shine a light and show me the way to connect to this inner knowing, and as you say gently ‘get self out of the way’.
Nicole it was great to read how you have become a living example of what is possible when you make the choice to look for more. Many live how you have in your past, and many would not believe that a change such as yours is possible for them. You inspire many around you and allow them to feel that miracles are obtainable.
The choices you have made are deeply honouring of you and your divine nature as a woman, you honour all women simply by choosing to be you. This has huge affect on all the people you come in contact with. Allowing them to see another way of being, one that deep down they also know to be true and familiar. Thank you for you awesome blog, Nicole.
“It is through observing and feeling the level of love and integrity that Serge Benhayon and his family live with that has truly inspired me to commit to changing the way in which I live and the choices I make”. I too have learned so much through the example of Serge and his family especially on choosing to put self-loving practices into my daily rhythm that have helped me build the level of love I now feel in my body. Committing to being with myself in all that I do (to the best of my ability) has brought about so much change to my whole way of life, it is so awesome.
Hi Nicole, wow you could be describing me too! and I am sure many others.. Appreciation, acceptance and commitment are becoming key for me in deepening my relationship with myself and those around me.
I really enjoyed reading this, thanks Nicole. Before attending workshops with Universal Medicine, the words commitment to self and responsibility did not exist in my vocab. I was totally lost and in a world of hurt, also avoiding what I was feeling by drinking a lot and taking drugs. Like you, I never thought my life would have changed this much, but thanks to Universal Medicine and also the students who have supported me along the way, I can easily say my life has changed for the better!
‘ I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too’. To make mistakes and take responsibility for what happened and not get caught in the, ‘Oh I have done something wrong, shame on me’ is such a lovely experience, it gives us the space to live who we are knowing we are learning all of the time.
Thank you Nicole, the six points you have listed about the changes in the way you now live are exquisite, simple and beautiful qualities that overflow with integrity and responsibility… Imagine the people in your everyday who meet you!… Imagine you in another 15years!… All this, in 15years of being inspired by Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon,
Completely agree Nicole, for without the unwavering support and love from Universal Medicine my life would be very different. Serge Benhayon and his family are a constant inspiration to me and my family, we feel truly blessed to have them in our lives.
Nicole, this is a great blog. I left it until I was almost 70 before I realised that I had to change, rather than me expecting things to change for me. It has been a huge journey the past 8 or so years, but so very worthwhile, thanks to all the sessions with practitioners and presentations by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
Sure is worthwhile Beverley it’s never to late. What an amazing foundation us older people are grounding for our next life.
This is so supportive and inspiring for others wishing they could get their life back on track. As you say, it comes down to choice. That choice to meet yourself, with love and appreciation for all that you are and then make choices that will support you moving forward in the way you are now choosing to live.
True Joshua, when we address the deeper issues under the surface we can make true changes. Very clearing and setting free our loving power.
“The choices I have made have come from a direct decision to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving – establishing a way of living that allows me to continue to develop a life of love and simplicity”. Gorgeous blog Nicole, thank you. We can make changes to our lives and the results are so worth it.
Serge Benhayon and his family reflect true love, respect and integrity at all times they are an inspiration on what true relationships are all about.
Nicole, I feel that having made different choices, I am now unfolding the true me, allowing myself to feel instead of bury what I didn’t want to feel in life. It’s feels so lovely to be coming back to the real me, unfolding and feeling how truly lovely that is and I am.
By change you mean a True Change Nicole. Not a change of scene with the same underlying issues but actually a change from healing and dealing with ones hurts, which can only be done with Love of self and of others.
This is beautiful and so true Joshua. Change as you and Nicole have described is such a great confirmation of self and a major step to brotherhood.
I love the fact that the true change that comes with commitment to self comes naturally and cannot be influenced by our own limited view of how we might like our life to look. The potential is glorious limitless-ness as we unfold more and more with each change.
Great distinction Joshua, how often is a change of scenery, jobs, air, maybe even relationship promoted as the panacea without mentioning that the underlying issues will just come with you?
Yes Josh, well said, What Nicole is sharing is indeed true change that comes from the inside out.
Awesome Nicole I love the simplicity of your bullet points this is really a great piece of writing that can help and inspire others to make the choice to come back to themselves if they feel to .
Absolutely Nicole. I am currently experiencing the power of the change I am making with truly expressing from me without holding back. In the past I gave my power away to those who used a force or putting down in the way they spoke. Now fear no longer dictates as I lovingly but truthfully express from my heart. This small choice and change has been really amazing and simple. I am also very tangibly able to feel the years of not expressing from me and how this has poisoned my body and tainted my way of being in life. Now I feel people get the true divine and lovingly powerful and encompassing ME!
Dear Nicole your story sounds so familiar and I love it to bits. Sure we can change if we want it, I have certainly made huge changes in my rhythms, the way I am with myself and others. Thank you for sharing your story.
Celebrate and appreciate just what you have achieved Nicole, it is wonderful!
True Matthew, and what a joy it is to celibrate with Nicole, knowing that what she has achieved is possible for us all. We just have to keep making the choice.
It is a choice Catherine as you say, a choice to be more love as Nicole has done and its that expanding love that supports our changes. Despite the old belief – we are never to old to be more love , so therefore we are never too old to change.
Celebrate indeed. Another living miracle.
Absolutely Matthew – it’s important to appreciate all of the choices Nicole has made that’ve gotten her to where she is today, and it is a joy to celebrate them with her!
Nicole this is the point I love…
‘Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition.’
Thank you for the reminder
Self acceptance and just knowing we are enough as we are, is the key. We don’t need to strive or achieve to get somewhere when the gold is already with in each one of us.
You have nailed it Johanna08smith. And the more we live this loving and simple life, we realize that there is more of that gold to discover each and every day.
Hit the nail of the head Johanna08smith. If we based all education around this fact we would be actively accessing the gold without the need to strive or achieve it.
Yes – agreed, this is always a good one to be reminded of – ‘I am enough just being me’ – isn’t that the klanger that has driven us all over the place trying to be something we are not to satisfy this society and our need for love when we just needed to look within and realize we are love!! Very weird really.
Hi Nicole, thank you for sharing you and everything you bring. What you have shared is my experience too and the appreciation I feel to see you and many other people making incredible new choices that are not easy, is great. A challenging thing for me has been learning to make mistakes, as I have been and I feel we have all been treated in not nice ways when we have made mistakes and often judged and not understood and often be very hard on ourselves. I feel this has had such a debilitating effect on a wonderfull oppurtunity to discover the real route cause of why things happen, and when you work it out – that it is actually something to appreciate and celebrate as an equally wonderfull part of life.
Hello Nicole, I loved this line “The appreciation I have for my life, family and those around me is endlessly deepening and one that I would not change for the world.” and if I could play around with it a little to read ‘The appreciation I have for my life, family and those around me is endlessly deepening and that will change the world.’ To me the appreciation of yourself and those around you is a key, a key to a door that does ‘change the world’ I know it’s changed mine, forever. Thank you Nicole, simple and true.
Thank you Nicole for sharing the changes you have made in your life and how they have impacted you. I really relate to knowing that there was more to life than this, but that when I looked around all I saw was everyone doing it tough just like me and coping with life best they could, which meant using alcohol, food, exercise and anything I could to try to feel better and dull the misery I felt inside. I had no other point of reflection to show me that there was any other way to live as after all this is what being a grown up was about. Yet the aching and yearning for another way kept me searching for answers and when I met Serge Benhayon 11 years ago I found them – not in the shape of being told do this, do that, but in the form of a man who exuded the joy and vitality that I remember feeling in myself as a child. The answers came by way of feeling that this was still in me and then making choices that nurtured and fostered that feeling, living in a way that allowed me to let go of anything that stood in the way of me connecting to that inner knowing and natural way of being.
One of the biggest changes for me is a constant awareness that there is always more love to experience. Feeling the ‘pull’ towards an ever expanding love is now there daily as less and less is used to not feel this very natural part of life. To allow for this continual change requires a very delicate balance of deeply appreciating where I am at now and staying open to the next ‘level’ so to speak.
‘All the unresolved issues that I felt and lived with never went away – they were always there, only being pushed aside temporarily until the distractions I chose wore off and a new day began, always with the same issues still lingering.’
This is a great reflection as it shows how we learn to cope in life, by distracting ourselves from what is really going on, by numbing our pain and inadequateness. But the ride stays the same because we have to keep numbing and distracting ourselves otherwise we start to feel and see that something is simply not right.
Nicole thank you for presenting the simplicity of choices in our day to day. It is refreshing to come back to.
Hi Nicole – this blog felt like you were writing my life. Thanks for sharing. It has supported me to take a moment to reflect on just how much my life has changed too.
So true Rebecca, we don’t stop to appreciate our daily lives nearly enough particularly when reflecting on changes we have made that have truly made a difference.
This is where it all starts – the commitment to oneself that in turn affects everyone around me and anyone that I meet. Thank you Nicole for the reminder.
Wow Nicole, what a more loving transformation for you. Thank you for sharing.
Knowing I am enough just being me; such wisdom and inspiration in these few words; thank you Nicole.
“The appreciation I have for my life, family and those around me is endlessly deepening and one that I would not change for the world.” Gorgeous Nicole. And this appreciation is so powerful and opens the way for more change…
“I am now aware of the choices I make and how they affect not only me and my life, but all those around me as well.” This is a beautiful line I can relate to as well. How I choose to live has an effect on the way I am feeling, this then has an effect on everyone I encounter. Feeling the bigger picture is for me very supportive to make sure I live in a way that does not affect me and thus everyone else, without perfection (reminder to myself). Thank you Nicole for sharing.
Thank you Nicole for saying what I would also like to say – “if you had told me 12 years ago that my life would be like it is today I would never have believed you”. Never could I imagine the wonderful life I live today, and the kicker is – I know 200 other people that would say the same thing. Now that is a testament to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
I also was inspired to change the way I live by observing the love that Serge Benhayon and his family live with for themselves, for each other and for everyone else too. I definitely want want what they’re having! And so I committed to loving myself but I didn’t bargain for it being such an on-going experience of forever deepening my connection to the love within me plus expanding my capacity to share this with others. I am beginning to sense the depth of our love has no limits.
It’s true Nicole that if we look around us and all we see is others in the same boat then it is natural to think that this would be normal and as good as life gets. But if someone comes along and shows that it is very possible and very normal to live another way without constant stress, overwhelm, exhaustion and a multitude of crutches, then suddenly what we think is normal completely changes.
Changing life can begin when one can admit that how the life is now is due to the choices one has made and when one is willing to take responsibility in his/her own choices. As written by Nicole, once you start to truly change your life, there is no going back. Thank you Nicole for writing this.
Absolutely agree Ryoko, to change we have to first admit that we have made choices along the way that have not been supportive of us and in fact have harmed us. When we arrive at that truth we can move forward and turn our lives around. So many people have done this through the inspiration of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
This is truly lovely Nicole and this time when I read it I understand how we can endlessly deepen and it all comes down to our choices. Choices to connect to ourselves, connect to our families and connect to everything around us within each and every moment. Very inspiring and very much promotes self responsibility and self honouring.
Great Nicole. It really comes down to our choices and taking full responsibility for everything, all the bad and the good.
“if you want it to” that is the key and a life of simplicity. So often we say we want change, but really how often are we prepared to make, and take responsibility for the choices we make that can bring about change. Something I am learning each and every day – it is really very simple, as is life when we choose to make it that way. It is all a choice, that only we can make, there is no magic pill or quick fix, just the choice in each moment to choose love.
Knowing I’m enough just being me; says it all really Nicole. Thank you
I was dancing with a friend last night in all our glory and we appreciated how far we had come since we met 10 years ago. It was the feeling in my body and the way I feel about myself and life that has changed so incredibly. Ten years ago, I never thought it was possible to feel the way I feel today and I too have Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine to thank for the inspiration to makes the changes.
Thank you for sharing this Nikki Mckee. I can feel the deep appreciation and celebration of your life now.This and Nicole’s blog is so refreshing, a breath of fresh air. I often hear people say that people don’t change and life doesn’t change etc but Universal Medicine is breaking the mould showing the world that by taking responsibility and by being deeply honesty about our lives and where we are at that true change is possible.
Ditto Nicole – the expansive changes made have to be celebrated – yet there is a man’s wise words ringing in my ear – There is more – and if we can do that – what else can we do. Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine supported me through great changes and these do not stop – everything becomes clearer and more amazing day by day.
Not changing the world but changing me in world and it stands out so clearly what is needed – love it!!
So true Jamie – I spent most of my twenties wanting to change the world and thinking I could make a difference. All of the actions I took to do this were external and at no point did I consider that the greatest change I could make, and one that would truly affect the world, was in looking at myself.
I came to re-read your blog. I read the first line. “If someone had told me 15 years ago what my life would be like today I would never have believed them.” And that is as far as I got, because there is so much just in that one line! This morning I have also read another blog on this site about “Expectations”. And the theme is similar. Isn’t it amazing how we choose to let life rule us, dictate where it might take us, what we might see, hear, achieve, complete. Like you Nicole, I too have chosen to hear the words of Serge Benhayon, attend the workshops of Universal Medicine and align my life to the Way of the Livingness. And like you Nicole, my life has changed beyond any fathomable recognition. For which I am ever-more-every-day deeply grateful. But what strikes me about what you say is this; Yes, my life has changed beyond recognition from 15 years ago, and yes I am free from all those expectations and pre-conceived paths that my life was on. But (combining your words with the “expectations” blog – which I appreciate takes your blog in a different direction from what you may have intended – but, hey ho!), am I still, in any small way, limiting what my life might be because I am still carrying any vestiges of the “I would never have believed them”. There is another saying, “the sky is the limit”, which is supposed to represent the fact that the possibilities are boundless. But what happens when you get to the sky?! Why the limit? So even in our most expansive expression, we are still putting a limit on our greatness. Fascinating to see how our lives control us even when we think we are free of that control.
‘So even in our most expansive expression, we are still putting a limit on our greatness’. Something to deeply ponder on here ottobathurst.
I totally agree Otto….and with the possibility of going in another slightly different direction, I’m combining it with my current work on what is ‘normal’.
I celebrate the numerous ‘magical’ moments when I just happen to be in the right place at the right time to meet the right people; when unwittingly I buy a card, present, food whatever just ‘because’ and then find it’s exactly what is needed; the traffic lights turn to the right colour, maybe green so I can proceed and maybe red so I can stop and safely take my eyes off the road….however supposing they aren’t special. which by default seems to suggest that the disharmonious way of living is normal and okay. Supposing this is the new normal, not because we expect it, but because we accept it. Would the rest then become abnormal, unacceptable?
So not having the sky as the limit would then become wonderfully normal.
I love this Ottobathurst, “even in our most expansive expression, we are still putting a limit on our greatness”. Yes, as we can only see, receive through the eyes of awareness that we have to date, and as that awareness continues to expand so does all that we have access too, as Nicole’s blog confirms. Being open to the possibility of an ever-expanding universe is challenging for the mind, but when I feel into what extent others and I have changed over the years, and we being an integral part of the universe, do we even know yet what is possible?
Yes absolutely Ottobathurst, and so what game have we subscribed to that confines us to believe there are any ‘limits’ whatsoever?
The Universe knows no limits – it is infinite and ever-expanding; and so why is it, that on this planet we have involution rather than evolution – and, accept it as normal?
Nicole, like Serge and the Benhayon family, you inspire me to continue to commit to the awareness you describe. What a world it will be when more and more people make this kind of change?!
In the 4 years since meeting Serge Benhayon I have dealt with so much that was previously on hold. No longer is my life on hold and with a skip in my step (which I haven’t felt for years) I commit to living with more awareness and love each day.
I love your title here Nicole, ‘Life can change – if you want it to’. It’s not about sitting back and expecting someone else to change your life, but taking that responsibility of making the changes you’ve described to support yourself here is a very active choice. It’s an inspiring read.
I felt you were writing about the last 15 years of my life too, Nicole! How my life has been completely transformed from one of self abuse and declining health, to self-love, self-care and vitality mirrors almost word for word what you have shared. A big part of that transformation for me has also been that ‘… a difference now is the way which I choose to deal with the challenges…’ of life when they come up. ‘Deal with’ is the key from my experience as opposed to avoid, deny, bury which just keeps them recurring in an ever intensifying pattern. How to do this, I too have learnt from the presentations of Serge Benhayon and the teachings of Universal Medicine.
A confirmation of everything I too feel as true support which I’ve learnt through the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. I could really feel your humble joy in these words, “Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition.” Beautiful.
Wow – just reading the title of this blog made me sit up in my chair! We can change our lives from the bottom up, all it takes is some love and dedication.
Absolutely Meg – it’s completely up to us to change our lives; it is our choices that make the difference – and although there are many people who will support us in doing so, no one can do it for us.
So true. It is possible to change our lives. But we are the only ones who can do that. A challenging but empowering fact.
Spot on – I couldn’t agree more. That’s a trap I’ve fallen for heaps of times – waiting for someone else to make the change for me, when it’s my responsibility alone to choose my life and that quality it will be.
Nicole,
I appreciate you sharing this as it is a precious example of ‘what is key in changing ones life’; Essentially what I see is that to bring love and fulfillment into life there needs to be a development in commitment to caring for one’s self… I have made this shift as well and it has transformed every area of miserable dysfunction in my life to a much more loving and harmonious way of living.
It’s taken a lot of honesty but it makes sense to me and is worth every tear. I will never go back to over-riding myself again.
Nicole thank you for sharing with us, the clear and concise list of the lifestyle changes you made, which enabled you to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving. Very inspiring.
I agree Elizabeth it is inspiring but as I read your words I am also realising how important it is to share with others the actual changes that we find so supportive in our own day so they may have that same opportunity of that same change and together we can break the monotony of the rat race we have created in modern day society just as Nicole has shared.
Thank you Nicole. I too have been and continue to be inspired by Serge Benhayon and the Benhayon family to make changes, take responsibility, commit to myself and live with self care.
Very inspiring Nicole. Your blog demonstrates just how one self caring choice inspires the next self caring choice and so on, until such a time everything about you and the way you live has that quality of care and love. Self care is true medicine I would say!
I am really appreciating the line, ‘Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition.’
Loving myself is a choice, a beautiful responsibility I have. It’s not bad luck that I don’t or good fortune that I see in others who do love who they are. It is something I can choose and be consistent with.
This week I’ve realised how never fully committing to loving myself 100% has allowed me to continue to chase what’s outside myself – whether it’s acceptance or recognition. Anytime I look outside myself I prevent myself from feeling I am all I ever wanted: that the ‘kingdom of God is within.’ Such stark contrast to how I and, I dare say, we are brought up – always expecting the world to deliver to us our true selves.
Very inspiring Nicole and I have to say I can report the same. I too lived as you did but was able to make similar choices – thanks to Universal Medicine and what I learnt there: I know I couldn’t have got there without that input. I’d tried other ways in the past but nothing would stick or last. Universal Medicine presents truths that make common sense and for me, have held up over time. 8+ years on since the first presentation I attended, the changes I’ve been inspired to make have held, and I’m continually inspired to make more. This is truly evolutionary!
Nicole this a wonderful and life affirming blog. Life has also changed for me too, and I now live with a quality not dreamed of before. Like you, I feel there is no limit to how much I can grow and change if I continue to apply the principles of self care as presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
What is interesting here Nicole is that your life changed as a result of you taking responsibility for your life and making ‘direct decisions’ to change things not waiting or wishing for circumstances to change around you.
This is a great observation Andrew, and one that I can readily identify with. So often we think our lives will change when circumstances around us change, but I now know through the beautiful teachings and shared life experiences of Serge Benhayon and students of Universal Medicine that this is not the case. Things only truly change when we start taking responsibility for our own lives and making different choices for the way we choose to live.
Indeed Sandra. Once we truly take the responsibility for ourselves and make choices that honour ourselves, we will be able to look at ourselves with love and from there deepen our relationship with ourselves and everybody else through choices that are not made out of needs or hurts but through choices that understand love and support – and that is really a game changer. Our lives will become more and more simple, still and joyfull with every moment we choose to truly live ourselves.
Yes, that feels really key. Wishing, hoping or waiting to win the lottery is largely fruitless. As has been said, ‘you make your own luck’. Making decisions and changes, empowering and taking responsibility for ourselves, is what creates that so-called luck.
Yes! I love this Victoria. Luck is also a choice and so if we are envious of another’s ‘win’ then we are not taking responsibility for our ‘loss’. The same cards are dealt to all and so it is how we play them that counts. That said, winning the lottery is not always the ‘win’ that it appears to be if we scratch beneath the surface. Likewise with ‘success’. ‘Luck’ is the by-product of a life lived with truth, love and integrity and there is not a drop of randomness in it.
Great comment Andrew and it is like a breath of fresh air to feel the commitment and focus in that choice to own responsibility for all those aspects of Nicole’s life that others would wait for circumstance to change. Nicole’s decision just goes to show what we can achieve when we stop putting our heads in the sand.
Great point Andrewmooney26. We can spend a lot of time waiting for the circumstances to change, all the while life is passing by and we are going nowhere. It can be so easy to blame the external factors.
Its so true Andrew, life indeed can change if you want it to. When we take full responsibility for our own life and all that has and is happening in it instead of waiting for the world to change around us we become our own catalyst for the change we so deeply crave and know is true.
I find it is so often our outlook on life that can change the quality in how we live, for me there has been a constant need to get more out of life and when I didn’t I would retreat into “poor me”. I can now see that appreciation of what I have in life and committing to growing that is the key to living in great well being. Thanks for sharing your appreciation Nicole.
Great Blog. It is amazing that the first stage in change is wanting to and being open to change. I have found then the key is to continue being willing to change and grow and not think there is an end point but continue to make supportive choices for myself in life
“The choices I have made have come from a direct decision to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving – establishing a way of living that allows me to continue to develop a life of love and simplicity” Thank you Nicole.
Such a simple and beautiful message – life can absolutely change.
I really connect to this quote “I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it,…” I used many different methods and crutches to avoid really living. Much of my young life was numb and hazy, because I was not present and living in full through those years. I too would not have imagined that I would be in the wonderful place that I am now, 10 years later…and the wonderful place is being me. living more in full everyday and it feels great.
That is a great quote. When avoiding life, you have no real concept that this is what you are doing. It’s an easy state to get lost in. It takes commitment to yourself and to life along with honesty and a willingness to take a deep look to begin to realise you are in that state and to make the necessary changes to come out of it.
It is lovely to re-read your article Nicole, what stood out for me this time was what you wrote about ‘Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition.’ This is something that I am learning and it is great to have the reminder that this is a way to develop a life of love and simplicity, thank you.
Reading your blog has helped me to stop and appreciate how different my life is today, after being involved with Universal Medicine for over eight years now and that there is the potential for me to evolve ever more so, depending on my daily choices. So yes, I would definitely say life can change if you want it to.
‘Yes, life can change – if you want it to.’ And we can only do it ourselves and the great thing you mention is also that we don’t have to be perfect. I was always striving for perfection and since I’ve met Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine 7 years ago I know I am okay just as I am, we are okay just as we are, no need for perfection. I learn the most from my mistakes.
Gosh Annelies ‘we are okay just as we are, no need for perfection. I learn the most from my mistakes.’ How huge is that!
…and how joyous to be with others who aren’t looking for perfection in us, just a willingness in us to be as much of the true us that we can be in that moment.
We think that in a state of tiredness and exhaustion, we need all the ‘pick me ups’ possible, but the real medicine is in a way of living, as there is a natural abundance of energy within that is waiting to be unleashed..
I’m down with that 🙂
So simple and so clearly the truth. But it is amazing how far we can stray from the simple fact that we do have a natural abundance of energy within and that often when living with exhaustion whilst we might think to go to bed early, we often don’t consider the deeper rhythm of how we are living.
Real medicine is a way of living… Nailed it Matthew.
Beautifully said Matthew.
Being truthful and connecting to the inner truth within our body, is true responsibility. When we connect this way, we can make choices to change our life.
It is truly life changing to once decide to face the truth of an undeniable responsibility we have for everything we do. Even things that may seem to simply “appear” in our life – we have an influence on – in a way of what we allow us to see and what we are willing to get – or not get! Beautiful blog Nicole! Thank you.
Thanks Christina, the undeniable truth of our responsibility for everything… love it.
Nicole, reading your blog I could feel how committed you are to living your life in an open, responsible, connected, self caring way. What a lovely way to express yourself each day! Thank you!
Same here Helen, there is a real steadiness and commitment that comes through and inspirers those that read the blog. The openness and self care really stand out and show what is possible. That it’s not a magic pill but a way we life and approach things that unfolds the life we truly want.
I agree, David. Nicole has cut right through to the simplicity that making changes in your life actually is.
As Nicole expresses, it all comes down to our choices and the degree to which we are prepared to take responsibility for our choices and as well as choosing to be responsible for the affect it has on those around us.
Well said katemaroney1.
I agree, Nicole’s commitment her self and self care stood out to me also, and how simple choices create great change.
And isn’t it awesome that each one of us has the opportunity to take responsibility to work on our issues and live life in the same way!
“The appreciation I have for my life, family and those around me is endlessly deepening and one that I would not change for the world.” I feel the same way, Nicole, and will be eternally grateful to Serge Benhayon who has shown me the way to make a true choice from the inner heart, and how, when I do, the choice comes back to me with love.
Nicole I agree 100% that life can change if you want it to. Recently I’ve been reflecting on how my life has changed since being introduced to Universal Medicine nearly 8 years ago. As I look around me and see how most people are living, which is similar to how you describe yourself and also how I was living, and consider how unhappy, overweight and disengaged I was from life, I sometimes find it hard to believe my life now. I am living a level of joy and vitality every day which allows me to fully engage in whatever is demanded of me at the time. I am working longer hours but with less stress, my relationships are richer, my body is in better shape than ever before and I no longer struggle with self-worth issues, but live in a self-loving way every day. I can feel from your blog how important it is to stop and appreciate that this is a result of the choices I have made in the last 8 years to change my life, with the constant inspiration of Serge Benhayon.
‘ I sometimes find it hard to believe my life now’. I am with you on this Michelle, as perhaps are all of the student body from all around the world who have changed their life by making different choices by the; ‘constant inspiration from Serge Benhayon’, and how he lives in service, in love, truth and integrity every day.
I love the appreciation you have Nicole, for how far you’ve come and the recognition that many people would dream for such a life. Your satisfaction and content in your life is enough for everyone to want what you have. It’s not that you are bragging or comparing just acknowledging that miracles have occurred here, and everyone should have the chance to know, so they can feel empowered to claim the same. No apology for how amazing your life is – I love it!
Yeah I love it too. You are an extraordinary role model for life Nicole Serafin.
I too feel “The appreciation I have for my life, family and those around me is endlessly deepening and one that I would not change for the world.” Thanks to Universal Medicine and its amazing practitioners for showing us there is a different way to live.
Nicole this is truly inspiring and real proof that you really can change your life if you make the choice and commit to it lovingly. I have really found too the enormous benefit of building a loving rythmn for myself which is flexible, real and amazingly supportive in helping me to commit to life more fully and this is forever building. Taking responsibility for everything that happens as you say is a key once accepted and the joy of appreciation is a way of living from this. Thank you for this beautiful helpful sharing. Very inspiring to make changes and take responsibility.
Yes, IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO CHANGE and as Elaine says The appreciation I have for my life, family and those around me is endlessly deepening and this is what brings joy to my life, the possibility to be more Love, more aware every new day.
Thanks to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon to be supportive in the enormous
change that humanity is making. Thank you to the students who reflect my own daily
changes.
Nicole, thank you I agree. this is a truly inspiring blog. I can still get caught in the looking out side of me, when in fact this is just a game to avoid taking responsibility. It is so empowering to live the fact, that all of our life is down to the choices we make – very simple fact. We can, I know I do, choose complication, by going into my head with this and that, but really it is the choices I make, no one else, that will change how my life and day is. The impact this has on everyone else is nothing short of amazing too.
Nicole I have a similar story of where I was and where I am now it is incredible the changes and that the inspiration from Universal Medicine only keeps on coming there is so much more to life than existing or functioning well there is the magic and beauty that is there always if we are willing to feel all that is there to be felt.
Nicole reading about your appreciation for life it shows me just how important it is to appreciate the steps we’ve taken. It can be easy to compare or to critique ourself yet whatever the steps we take that are caring, loving and true I can feel the real importance of deeply appreciating them. At the same time of understanding and celebrating the fact that we are ever learning and ever evolving and are by no means perfect, it feels like a healthy relationship with oneself to build.
I like the way that you have described life for you now as a constant support for yourself in amongst and as you live a normal life. Everyone deserves this level of support and so much more. Thank you Nicole.
The wine, the joint, the checking out in front of TV – these are all so familiar to me. They were an opportunity to forget about what had been going on in the day – a pause from the onslaught, before taking up the burden to fight again through the next day.
What a terrible way to live, and I’m delighted to have found an alternative where the focus is on living well in each moment. The benefit of that is it changes the emphasis of life, and while not perfect, I too am learning to appreciate the everyday. Thanks for your reminder Nicole – that there is another way to what society has taught us is ‘normal’
Nicole, my life was lived with doubt, questioning, not accepting, judgement, hiding, complication and a constant feeling of up and down.
I now also choose to live in a way that is truly supportive.
Choosing a loving way of being with myself and others.
Nicole thank you for sharing how you were inspired by Serge Benhayon to lead a life where everything is based on love.
I completely endorse this Bernhard. The role model that Serge Benhayon and his family is such an immense inspiration. For me personally it is a light that has illuminated a very dark way of living that I was in denial of living.
Thank you Nicole for your open and honest sharing. Your commitment to dealing with what comes up and honoring how you feel is inspiring.
I am responsible for everything that happens in the world and not just the things that happen to me personally. Yes, we all have the capacity to initiate change by simply acknowledging and speaking the truth of what occurs. Not just calling out the untruths, but also appreciating the greatness we see and feel in others.
Thank you Matthew. This is a lovely observation and reminder about our responsibilities and the need to appreciate the truth that exists.
Thank you Nicole, what you have shared about how you are living feels like the embodiment of simplicity and captures the beauty Universal Medicine is offering everyone as a way to live. At times I can be riddled with anxiousness so I loved the marker you shared near the end of the post about feeling enough and not needing to be anything else or more for anyone- as living with solidness what you had written preceding this is what got you to that point.
Nicole this is a beautiful blog. The transition from ‘just getting by’ in life to choosing to commit to making a choice as to how we live our life moment by moment is an absolute game changer and I have seen everyone who chooses this way to live transform before my eyes. It is never too late to change as Beverley tells us. I would never have believed this to be possible before I met Serge Benhayon, although it was always my deepest most hidden dream. I very much appreciate what Serge, Universal Medicine and the writers of these comments have offered by way of inspiration.
Nicole this blog feels full and appreciative. I am also amazed by how much my life has changed since Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon. It is extraordinary really and every day I have a moment of appreciation for my life changing choices. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
This is another amazing blog and it is full of inspiration. What struck me most about this one is the acceptance of self and the appreciation Nicole has for life and for those around her. I love ‘The appreciation I have for life, family and those around me is endlessly deepening and one that I would not change for the world.’ Wow!
Hi Nicole, you have presented a way to make a change in your life that truly sticks. So often you hear that people make a change for a while, but then just seep back into the old routines. finding out whats behind these routines and making a commitment to yourself based on how you are feeling rather then making changes based on what you think you should change seems like the way to go.
Thank you for this precious confirmation that it is never too late to change what is not working, and for the willingness to rise above what is widely accepted as ‘normal’.
The simple truths of love, self-care and responsibility are life changing. All is needed is our willingness and choice to go there rather than hiding in comfort or arrogance.
Thank you for getting the message out there Nicole.
Just when we feel things couldn’t get any better, it just goes and does. Appreciating our lives is one of those magical activities, the more you do it the more beautiful and special life becomes – It may sound a little corny but it really is the way it is.
I agree Dean, and not just for me, but for those around me….and for those around them…how great is that?
I think we also have a responsibility to apply what we have learnt and really appreciate whatever we have a lot more, knowing how much of a healthy effect it has on those around us.
Hello Nicole, a truly remarkable change for you in 15 years. I love the points or map of how you made your “life changes”. They are a very clear map or blueprint for people to take ownership over themselves and no longer be subjected to whatever the world dishes out. I will read these over and over as they are my blueprint to life as well.
It seems to be that so many people are not happy with their lives. They drink, smoke, take drugs, have jobs they do not enjoy, argue and fight on a daily basis and consider all this normal despite the disharmony it causes in their bodies. So putting to people that they can change if they want to, seems like a really important and simple statement to make. There are so many signs that people do want to change, yet they do not choose to. Perhaps this is because there are no educational or informational institutions out there who understand how simple change can be and how the psychology, philosophy, science and art of true change can be presented so it makes sense to the common, everyday person – bar one, that is – Universal Medicine.
I love this part…”to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving” – It becomes the basis for all things, if we so choose. Although uncomfortable at times, I would not choose it any other way. Thanks Nicole for another gem.
“The appreciation I have for my life, family and those around me is endlessly deepening” I could not say this truthfully before but I can say this too now even though it is very challenging at times. It is really my love for myself that allows me to feel love in me and to feel love everywhere.
Through the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine my life has also changed dramatically. I could not have imagined the huge turnaround so many people have made just by connecting deeply with the love that they actually are.
So beautiful and so true Elizabeth. I agree, my life has also transformed and as I feel my inner connection more the world too reflects that beauty. My appreciation is with myself for making the choices and to Serge Benhayon for living his love each and every moment so others may feel the power and possibility of Heaven on Earth.
Great Nicole. This shows me the importance of us taking responsibility for how we live, and make a choice to live in a more supportive way. And the fact that there is always something else to look at shows how amazing the body is – delivering to us what is needed to be seen when we are ready.
What a turn around Nicole. How powerful simple changes can be, to live lovingly with self care. I too chose to make changes, with the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, making a commitment to myself and to life and a choice to love myself, still a work in progress, but wow life really does change.
Love this, Nicole. It is amazing that we can accept life as being difficult for so long, and choose other things (work, booze, drugs) to cover up the fact that we are not coping well as a way to cope with it all. We are continuing to create a way which says that it is ok to abuse yourself, or be miserable, as long as you do all the things that society expects of you. What we are instead creating people who can cope really well, but not live life fully and joyfully.
‘Life can change, If you want it to’, simple yet powerful. A gentle reminder as I continue to learn and evolve that all those small, niggling habits I still hold on to can also be changed, but only if I want them to. At the heart of wanting to let them go is replacing emptiness with Love.
It is amazing Nicole how you have changed your life, and not by any radical program but just with the simplicity of self love and care, and taking responsibility for your issues. Thank you for sharing your journey.
Thank you for your inspiration Nicole it has been felt.
Committing to that which we are, truth and love, can only change our lives in unbelievable ways, and in so doing will affect everyone in our lives and everything we do. When I look back over the past eight years I am a completely different person to the one I once was, and my life bears no resemblance to the one I once lived. I can only agree as you stated Nicole that “without the on going commitment and support of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I would not be where I am today.”
This is a beautiful and very inspiring blog Nicole. I agree with what you say ‘Life can change – if you want it to’. Thank you for sharing how you have made loving changes in your life,
Lovely, honest and clear expression. I enjoyed your blog as it was very humble and simplistic in its delivery. As it is a commitment to not only seeing the physical things in your life change but the quality of your life in every moment as well.
And if you think about it they are both one and the same choice.
Our lives are not only supported, but encouraged by those around, so drugs, alcohol, stress and the complications of life become increasingly ‘normal’ and a way to be. Breaking away from the web of normality does have its challenges, but ultimately breathing your own breath and not the breath of expectations develops a life of love and responsibility.
The Truth about Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine has been nothing but a constant inspiration in my life over the past 14yrs. I could never have imagined how much change was possible as I look back and truly appreciate my life’s journey along with hundreds of others. Knowing Serge and his absolute love for humanity and that he willingly stands up shares how he lives his life is huge, everything he does, lives, presents and shares with humanity, there is never an ounce of self that gets in the way.
Dear Nicole, your article speaks volumes to me as I too, reflect upon some very significant changes I have made also in my life. I experience an optimism in my life that was simply not there previously. It is something that expands with each new day. I am equally grateful to have found the inspiring teachings of Serge & Universal Medicine. Thank you.
Committing to ourselves can really help change our lives. This is something I am forever working on and it is ever unfolding as my awareness deepens.
What’s interesting about choices, is that we can simply go one of two ways: either we continue making really crappy choices, which is seemingly easy, just following-along with a momentum we’ve created.
Or, we realise we’re making crappy choices and start to head the opposite direction (guided by the fact we don’t like what happens when we do make a poor choice). It’s a little bit like a bowling ball rolling down an alley with beginner bumpers on either side, nudging the ball back to the middle and down the straight and narrow.
Great comment Oliver – I like your analogy of being like a bowling bowl – as long as the commitment is there (when we put up the bumpers), then there is no way but forwards. Whereas if we take the ‘easy route’ and fall down the edges, we feel the consequences of those choices
“I have instead chosen to deal with my issues and what I feel in every moment.” A very important point Nicole – if our societies were taught this and people got to apply this level of responsibility in their lives, it would change the world completely.
I agree. Life can totally change if we want it to. We are in the drivers seat and have more power than we realise.
Yes indeed Rebecca, we sure do! I used to believe life and the problems, chaos, illness etc that I encountered just happened to me and I was the victim of them but realising that what happens in my life really is because of how I am and my choices was a major turnaround for me. I still want to avoid this at times but that’s only because I don’t want to take responsibility and therefore face what I’ve chosen. Lovely to read this this morning Nicole, thank you.
What I love about the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is the fact that the more you deeply care for yourself and take responsibility for yourself, the more you deeply you can care for others and can see how your actions have a great effect on those around you. And that this care for yourself has to come first and then the second is a natural flow on from it. It goes against most things that are presented about putting others first. Nicole, you blog is a great living example of how this can work. Awesome. Thank you.
It is great to hear and feel you claim all the loving choices you have made and continually make within your life. Years ago I ‘thought’ I was making loving choices for myself but in truth was just going around in circles with unresolved issues and many I could not (or did not want!) to see. Thankfully I met Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and as you say was shown by their reflection there is a different more loving way to live, and with the help and support of Universal Medicine Practitioners started to see issues I previously wanted to ignore in order to heal them. From making loving choices my life has too completely turned around, which is a good job too because the track I was originally one was one of disregard and lovelessness. The beauty is it doesn’t just come to a halt, it is a continuous learning, unfolding and evolving and I just get to feel more of the true me and more of everyone else as well : )
It’s really inspiring to read how you’ve changed your life around Nicole. With the commitment to living a life of love and simplicity and the willingness to deal with life rather than run away or numb yourself, you have shown along with many others that change is not only possible but totally awesome in every respect. Deepest appreciation also to Serge Benhayon and the wonderful reflection he and his family offer us in returning to simplicity and love.
Love the line ‘no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it.’ Then life doesn’t become a big deal. It becomes simple, it is us and our choices from moment to moment. Yes, a responsibility, but just like you, I have become more and more aware of this fact to a point there is no avoiding anymore, just a delay of a simple choice e.g.a choosing what is supporting me, my body, my life and all in it.
I also love this line Caroline. Simplicity in life!
I agree Caroline and I also love where it carries on to say ‘to deal with it lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too’. That removes the pressure, knowing it is up to us to make our choices in each moment. A beautifully inspiring blog Nicole.
What a difference a choice makes. In every moment we can choose to either take care of ourselves or to disregard ourselves. As you share the disregard requires constant distraction and numbing and you wake up everyday knowing you are holding onto your issues and never resolving or healing them. How much effort do we need to put into living in disregard! If we choose to take care of ourselves is any effort needed? other than just allowing ourselves to be who we naturally are.
Thank you Nicole. It goes to show the power of just being open to change and how much healing this can bring. It really is simple to change ones life for the better, we just have to be open to it.
Indeed Joshua. Once we are truly open, honest and willing to look at the choices we have made, we will make different choices that truly support us and by that the changes will begin. It is so beautiful to feel that this is a seemingly endless process of always being offered new chances to grow and expand in ourselves and with others.
Agree with you 100% Michael.
This is so true Joshua and the beautiful part is we all do know how to do this for ourselves, as we are each the creators of the life we currently have. We can choose self- loving, honouring and caring choices that truly support who we naturally are. Our bodies and our lives will always reflect our choices.
I too avoided life, and got very good at it! But like you, Nicole, through the teachings and presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and ‘By constantly looking at and feeling what I have chosen and whether it supports me, I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too.’ Wonderful sharing.
Hi love this blog Nicole. So much in it. The commitment you have to life is so inspiring and fun! ‘Living a life of simplicity’ feels so refreshing.
Yesterday I noticed how I believed life to be complicated and found myself creating this as a reality. It was wonderful to notice how I’d done this because I could then drop that approach to life and the tension it brought me.
I can feel how being open to living simply is a loving choice I can give myself everyday.
So true Karin, I can feel how I complicate my life and the nervous tension it brings, usually because I have an ideal that life is a struggle.
Thank you Nicole for sharing the joy in how you are now living. It’s such a pleasure to read and leaves me with a smile on my face.
I can so very much relate to what you have expressed here Nicole. When I came to Universal Medicine my life was in a very fast downward spiral. Thanks to Serge Benhayon, his family and the esoteric practitioners, I too have had the opportunity to make major changes to how I am living. How lovely to be on this path and to have found our way.
Gorgeous to read Nicole, this is exactly how I have changed my life as well. It is a continuous process of observing myself, allowing myself to make mistakes and learn and then to appreciate it deeply.
Life can most certainly change through such commitment and the willingness to look honestly at what isn’t in fact ‘working’, Nicole. I agree in full.
When I look back, at how my life was prior to being a student of Universal Medicine, and then since… when I truly stop to take stock and appreciate the depth of change that has occurred – I am staggered by how I feel now in myself, the richness of love that is in my life today, the vitality I feel (amazing!) and how beautiful I feel as a woman. I am staggered by my commitment to my relationships, my clientele, my community… And I am blown away by the clarity I have (the vast majority of the time) to meet all that occurs in my day, with a steadiness I never knew in my younger years.
I am not the woman I once was, and as you’ve shared Nicole, I know absolutely that this sense of the deepest connection to life, to joy, to purpose, will only unfold all the more deeply as time goes on.
Thank-you to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, from the depth of my amazing heart.
We have the power to change through our choices in every moment. Thank you for sharing this inspiring blog Nicole and definitely making a commitment to myself, and appreciation are a big part of these changes.
A great blog Nicole. The line that stood out for me was ‘making different choices to no longer live in the avoidance.’ I have been the queen of avoidance and its amazing how you can avoid something for years, but it does not ever go away. My decision to face major issues I had been avoiding have really changed how my life is today and ‘knowing I am enough just being me’ had been and is an ongoing life changing learning. My life today is full of more joy and love than I could have ever imagined. I now have a deeper understanding of what it means to have love in my life and the thing is, there is no end point, it can keep expanding. I too have been inspired to make these changes by the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
An inspiring testimony Nicole. Thank you for sharing how you have committed to supporting yourself.
Beautiful Nicole, I can relate very well to your article. It is not until one meets someone who is living in a completely different paradigm that one has an opportunity to stop and assess the current lifestyle and wonder if it is the right path of action. Serge Benhayon and his beautiful family are those people who offer us another way. It is clear from your choices and actions that you have been truly inspired to make radical and loving changes in your life about how to deal with life, i.e not avoid but deal with it head on, with a clear head and a very definite choice to properly care and look after yourself with astounding results. Thank you for your candid article and showing us all that there is definitely another way to live life that brings true joy without any stimulants or escape tactics!
I love reading what you write Nicole I always find it confirming and always encourages me to carry on doing more of the same with improvements all the time.
As others have mentioned and as you have shared Nicole it’s as simple as our choice to commit and be willing to change our lives is what changes our lives. Anything we focus on and repeat from an outside perspective results in no change. What I am getting to feel lately is that the quality that is within us that can be connected to in ways such as the Gentle Breath Meditation is a quality that naturally wants change but never changing what it has for something ‘better’, only building on what is already there. How this plays out in my life is that I make choices to be more self-loving/self-caring, I get to feel more of me, that more of me then asks for more changes in order to sustain it. But holding onto ideals or beliefs of getting somewhere then resting, having ‘done enough’ for now or being faced with a deeper level of disregard or more strongly held onto hurts from the past I have only now been able to see and feel as the more obvious levels have melted away and thinking it is too much to handle (when actually it has been there all along, just hidden) all of these situations are not supportive of change, thus not supportive in and of life.
Thank you Nicole for sharing: “I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it”. Something I have also found has supported me hugely, it is so easy to let things go, to turn a blind eye and to ignore what is going on but it builds up a tension in the body. By choosing to be real, feel it and then deal with it is the only way forward. The world is full of distractions to make us not feel what is going on, it is inspiring to read your story and how you have said no to the distractions and yes to truth.
Thank you Nicole for a great blog confirming that anything is indeed possible. It is possible to live a healthier, more harmonious, more joyful and more truthful life if we commit to it. Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have shown me the way.
You make some great points here Nicole and what really sticks out for me is –
“I have instead chosen to deal with my issues and what I feel in every moment.”
This is key if we are truly committed to changing our life. Dealing with your issues takes time and commitment and then to make sure we don’t ADD to the pot of issues, we need to take responsibility about how we feel in every moment as you say.
This then stops the blame game and puts it all back onto us as the individual and life really does change once you got the commitment and self responsibility going on.
Thanks to the work of Serge Benhayon I certainly know what I need to do and not do to continue living this way.
Thank you Nicole, like you I had my fair share of ways to numb myself from living a life of getting by, without realising that it didn’t have to be that way. But I always had the feeling that there was more but just didn’t know how to find it, that is until Universal Medicine came into my life.
” everyone’s life can change – if you want it to – but never in a million years would I have believed just how much my life would change, and how absolutely incredible a journey it would be.” I’m with you Nicole, never in a million years would I have thought 10 years ago I would be where I am now. Huge appreciation for Universal Medicine – and to me for choosing a different way of living and being! As a previous commenter mentioned ‘living our preciousness is the new normal.’
Thank you Nicole for sharing here. Life can surely change and meeting Serge Benhayon was the game breaker for me as he shared the responsibility of self care and self love. The choices in every moment count and your commitment to these changes is inspiring.
A great blog Nicole. One that states very simply how it has been for most of us (myself included). The simplicity is in making the choice to no longer live a life of being drugged and numbed out, stressed from work and family, anxiousness and total disregard for ourselves. Choosing instead to live our lives and love fully. An ongoing process for most of us (myself included), but truly a choice, no more and no less.
Thanks Nicole, “My commitment to myself is one that I am forever working on”…this is the key for me…not trying to establish a fixed way of being, but forever adjusting as my awareness adjusts.
Absolutely Joel I used to think once I had the key to how to live life that I would be home and dry but now realise that it is an ever evolving process that needs my ongoing commitment.
Exactly Helen, Joel – likewise it’s a commitment that is ongoing and ever deepening. It’s feeling my own steps to take rather than following some ideal or dogma of how to be in life. The more trust I build in taking steps that I feel are true – the greater my awareness and hence the more refined my next steps can come if I allow, accept and choose the truth.
So true Joel and Helen, the key is to allow myself to enjoy that process. Not taking it seriously, but rather playfully serious. I am forever learning in that…
Thank you Nicole. Self appreciation is an important ingredient in the change process. No one else is responsible, but ourselves, in initiating a return to an amazing life of true service.
Committing to ourselves has such powerful effect on our lives and those around us. Thank you for your blog Nicole.
That is a beautiful testimony Nicole. The way of life that you used to live is considered as normal by the world, but when felt, it is far from normal. Our bodies are suffering and we do not live in joy or vitality. But how transformational to know that with taking back responsibility and being truly honest, we can make a true change–one that does not just cover up or gloss over our pains from seeking for a solution outside of us, but that truly works and because of the level of love we feel in our bodies from this change. It then becomes inconceivable to go back to our old way of life, we are too precious. Living our preciousness is the new normal.
Well said Adele, when we truly feel the love within ourselves, then we can no longer gloss over what is not loving our lives, the choice to face up to and deal with our issues becomes the only way to live. As we do, as we take responsibility and claim back our power, we no longer need to turn to the usual means of distraction or relief, taking proper care of ourselves, looking after ourselves with the same care and attention we would give a baby, becomes the normal way.
Love what you hae said here 1heart1love1earth – knowing and LIVING how precious we are is the new normal.
Thank you Nicole. Definitely yes, ‘Life can change if you want it to’. It is empowering to accept that change comes from us making loving choices. We are each responsible for our own choices, it is impossible to try and change another person. We hold the key to change what is not working in our lives. Your blog is inspirational for people who may feel that they are powerless to change and step out of their comfort zone or vicious cycle of living. You have inspired us that there is another way.
Living the ‘norm’ – in today’s society is about stress, competition and deadlines and increasing ill-health. In previous generations it was about being at war and a part of the struggle for ‘world peace’. Before then it was the struggle of life in the renaissance period – travelling to unknown lands to begin whole new communities of existence etc etc.
Thank fully through the presentations of Universal Medicine I am able to re-connect to and live the norm of our future to be, with honesty, truth, love, stillness and joy being the markers of my everyday living.
Beautifully said Greg, we live in what is the easiest of times and yet war still rages around the world and disease rates are spiralling. Living the norm of our future to be is love indeed.
What a blessing to be reminded of and supported to return to our natural qualities – truth, love, stillness, joy and harmony with one another. This is a norm worth rebuilding in our lives and in our world.
I love it Nicole! Once again, another power piece from you. I love how you talk about your constant choice to observe your life and see what is supporting or not, both as a responsibility to yourself but to all those around you too. This was a powerful reminder for me today, so thank you!
Commitment and effort to not only you but others is the true catalyst for realising that you can change your life so that others can see different.
Thank you.
Nicole such an inspiring blog. I am more aware of needing to re assess my Life and realise that to constantly re assess keeps me in touch with my body and what it is telling me. Thank you to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for the teachings of the Ancient Wisdom.
The love and appreciation you have for yourself and how you have changed your life can be clearly felt in the way you have written this blog. I cannot but stop and look at my life and feel to deepen my relationship with me, self love, appreciation and acceptance. Very inspiring. Thank you.
Such a beautifully expressed piece Nicole, and I couldn’t agree with you more Beverley. We are all making our extraordinarily ordinary lives the new normal just by being us and living that day to day to the best of our ability thanks to Serge Benhayon and his inspirational family. It is nothing short of a miracle that we have turned our lives around from one of uncommittedness and just existing, to living the love that we all naturally are, more vital and alive and truly enjoying who we are and sharing that aliveness with others.
Yes, life can really change. When I stop and take stock I am amazed at how my life has changed in the last five years since my exposure to Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon and his family which has inspired me to make different but simple choices. I am now living in a way I never thought possible with more love in my life than I ever imagined and life expanding on so many different levels – and knowing that this is a never-ending process I look forward to expanding until the day I die.
Hi Josephinebe2012, I like the way you are looking forward to learning and expanding right to the end of your life. Its inspiring and it’s a refreshing change to prevailing attitudes where people often give up on life when they get older or retire and feel its too late to make changes. Its never to late for more love in your life.
So true Josephine, in all the seeking of truth I have done looking for what is the real meaning and purpose to life and Who am I, it was not until my exposure with the teachings of the ageless wisdom that I realised that all I needed to do was to come back to myself. And as Nicole has so beautifully described the steps of this process for her have been similar for me and allowed me to rest in the never-ending expanding process of connecting to myself and life more deeply.
I agree with you Nicole it is never too late to change the way we are living. This sentence also relates so much to me, “It is through observing and feeling the level of love and integrity that Serge Benhayon and his family live with that has truly inspired me to commit to changing the way in which I live and the choices I make”. I did not get into drugs, never drank very much and did not get into so many of the other behaviours that so many people do, but because of my awful lack of confidence, I absolutely contracted myself, my whole body. I put myself into a position of being controlled, and made myself as small and inconspicuous as possible for so many years. Feeling how awful this was, I was looking for another way to be with myself when I came across Serge Benhayon and the teachings of Universal Medicine. I know now that I am a completely different person to that of 8 years ago. I wasted nearly 70 years of my life, but no, it is never too late, the past 8 years has been such a rewarding journey.
I loved to read your honest share Beverley, and what a powerful reflection and inspiration you are showing that no matter what age you are, it is never too late to learn and to make different choices that support you to live a truer and more honest life. Look forward to hearing more from you Beverley!
What a testimony to your choices, Beverley.
Nicole what you say here is fundamental “I am now aware of the choices I make and how they affect not only me and my life, but all those around me as well”. So fifteen years on you are feeling amazing and have therefore positively contributed to those others around you also.
Nicole, I loved reading your blog & can relate on many things you have shared. Life surely can change if you want it to & commit to yourself to make that change. I used to live in the cycle of distraction to not feel & deal with what needed to be discussed,,expressed & healed. Going to presentations by Serge & observing living examples of a different more loving way of being lived around me showed me a more honouring loving way. Now I am aware when I am choosing to be distracted & then there I can make choice to either heal or stay distracted! Your commitment to life & changing it to be where you are at is truly inspiring. Thank you.
There was a time when I viewed making ‘big’ changes as something overwhelming and almost out of reach. In becoming aware change is constant, I realised my resistant to it was the overwhelm. Through becoming a more proactive participant in my own life, to now embrace the natural course of change, has been for me one of the best choices I ever made. Without the ceaseless, immeasurable level of love and support I continually feel and am inspired by Serge Benhayon, his family, and Universal Medicine, change would still be something that ‘happened to me’.
Awesome blog Nicole. As you said, your way of being before Universal Medicine is widely accepted as ‘normal’ in society, but that doesn’t mean we need to settle for it. The choices you have made are really quite simple, and as all the blogs on these pages share, hundreds of other people who have made loving changes in their lives are also experiencing how amazing their lives can be.
“without having to be perfect’ simple enough words, easy to gloss over. But when I am honest with myself, I can see how this is the expectation I have had on myself in the past, and hence, this same expectation was held against others. The inevitable imperfection led to criticism of myself and others. How miserable an existence. Thanks Nicole, like you, the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have changed my life immeasurably.
Mark this is so true – perfection is poisonous, and it keeps us hiding who we truly are, as it is all about what is seen on the outside, the facade.
I can really relate to this one mark, holding onto the perfect picture of how I should be, my life should be, my relationships, work, home, how others should be around me are all judgements, investments and expectations. It all takes focus away from the very basic and simple that that I can be love, that I am love and when I choose to stop holding onto perfection I get to feel that love for the fact it is. What is great about Nicole’s blog and as summed up so brilliantly is that life can change if we want it to – life meaning the whole of our lives, not just a short moment but it can be changed more consistently with consistent choices in how we live.
“Yes life can change if you want it to.” Many people are aware that life just isn’t right, there is a lacking in it, but many are not prepared to be committed to changing and living in a way that means we are responsible for our actions.
As the saying goes – the proof is in the pudding – for you Nicole your life is a living example of this. Thank you for your blog.
Yes Alison and this goes for many others who have chosen responsibility and commitment to life and living with vitality.
as you share where you come form Nicole i was inspired to really deeply appreciate what i have left behind and the road i have travelled thus far. I can see so much that is still ahead but looking over my shoulder every now and then is sure worth a moment of my time to see how far i have come already and how incredibly much my life has changed.
It is so easy to go round and round in life, mostly disgruntled, managing the underlying pain and disilusion with alcohol, drugs, entertainment, missions or whatever becomes our prop to numb ourself. It is great to read that we can at any point choose to turn this round and that you are a living proof of that.
I agree Golnaz, it is great to have examples of people who have turned their lives around and that no matter what you have done or where you may be at it is never too late.
Yes, life can change and change it can – enormously. We have a strong belief in society that the way we are and our habits and patterns are hard to change, if at all, and that the older we get the least likely it is that we will change, in fact we have very much resigned to the thought and the living proof of many that these habits and behavioural patterns will only get more ingrained and unchangeable. But this is simply not true, it is only an old way of being we need to let go of and simply make different choices. And then there are, as you have described Nicole, changes in our lives that are beyond our dreams.
I love what you share about the appreciation you have now for life, the people around you and your family. I feel that same appreciation and with that appreciation, I feel so much joy being here and knowing that everything is here for us to learn and grow.
Thank you for sharing your experience Nicole. I made the same changes 6 years ago and very likely more changes to come. It is amazing when we look back and appreciate.
I agree – it is great to look back and appreciate (!) and for me, I would add that I experienced some pretty amazing changes when I simply started taking responsibility for my choices and to begin to self-care and to start to listen to my body…
Thank you for this beautiful sharing Nicole. Indeed a wonderful reminder to take a stop and appreciate how far we have come and that it is a choice everyday to live a life of love.
Life can change very quickly. The question for me has been: Are the changes supporting me or am I fooling myself? With Serge Benhayon I learned a great amount of tools and understanding about the mechanisms of choosing directions. Life for me since then has not been about improving things anymore. It’s more about the quality of the moment. Am I loving? The rest unfolds.
This resonates with me too Felix – all those tools do support developing a greater awareness.
“I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too”.
This is awesome Nicole, and such a lovely blog too. It is possible to change our lives, and if we make a mistake, don’t dwell on it, just learn from it and move on, it is a choice. This knowing has helped me immensely to not indulge and hold onto any ‘mistakes’ that I may make, and that I have a choice in the next moment to let them go. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you Nicole for sharing your deeply felt appreciation of the commitment you have made to lovingly choose to take responsibility for the way you live your life and the amazing transformation this has brought about for you with the support of Serge Benhayon and the Universal Medicine family.
Gorgeous blog Nicole. You shared something very important towards the end – no one is perfect, and we are always going to have things to work on, but by taking it one step at a time, and dealing with them each day when and how they arise – life no longer becomes overwhelming.
I agree Nicole, life can change so much more than we can imagine. There is so much love inside us, waiting to burst out if we are let it by making choices to change our lives.
You could say how strange it is that we humans keep encountering the same problems over and over and over again. It may be everyday: running late for work, run-ins with the boss. It may be every month: falling behind on finances, menstrual cycle problems. It may be every year: late with tax, Christmas day argument with dad/mum…….whatever the problem or the cycle it seems that we either just do not learn, or cannot escape the grip of the pattern. Far from being strange, the recurrent cycle of problems, from all I have observed, is normal.
And the solutions and “band aids” seem to be all we have got.
For so many of us it took an encounter with Serge Benhayon to see that there is another way in life, and that the way to access it is just so simple – choices.
I love that you have spelled out your choices Nicole. So simple, and gracefully expressed – a series of stepping stones that lead back to the only true “solution”, connection to the innermost of ourselves, our true essence, the full embracing of life and breaking of those cycles that held us in an invisible prison.
Thank you Nicole for sharing the way you committed to living the true you. This is a very beautiful read.
Thank you for sharing this Nicole – It is a great reminder of just how far I have come,
My life is no longer a rollercoasters of drama and highs and lows, I live form a completely different place thanks to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, consitnely and unwaveringly reflecting nothing but love.
Thank you for sharing your life changing ongoing experience Nicole. It is acutely re-markable how much your life does change when you truly want it to change. The challenge is to be fully committed and responsibly consistent, and continually being open to more change as the opportunities are constantly presented, and to deal with them as lovingly as possible. To reflect to the world your life can be filled with love ongoingly in each moment forward. There will be challenges, and claiming each moment with Love, is what is with You in the next challenge. You have more love to deal with whatever is the next thing! Superman over and out !!
..and for me it’s great to know that the chance to change offer doesn’t have an expiry or ‘best before’ date, it’s there for every next minute of our lives.
Awesome and very inspiring, thank you Nicole. My life has changed too because of the presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. I have much appreciation for the loving choices I make and the support I have received.
The presentations by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have supported me to take greater care of myself and to open up to caring for others too.
A powerful blog and statement Nicole. Your story of the simple choices you have made offers every one of us the chance to grow. So you yourself show the amazing ripple effects of us making a single choice. You illustrate how we bring the change we truly want to life in choosing the energy and way we live.
There are so many “you can change your life” strategists out there but they always seemed more like recipes for success that you can end up feeling you failed at when they don’t work for you. The Way of the Livingness presents a way of living that is a religion, science and philosophy all rolled into one. I am inspired by all the students of this work and how life is unfolding for them in amazing and joy-full ways. There are no failures ever!
Your blogs are very awesome to read Nicole. I think I have read them all but then I find another one to read and learn from. This one I love because I feel how much my life is changing and can feel how much it will continue to change the more I choose self love in my life over disregard. Thank you for your sharing.
Change is so readily possible, it just has to be chosen. Thank you for a beautiful blog Nicole.
“Taking responsibility for the choices I make and how I live, and honoring myself and my body” This is huge, because once we do this we soon realise that, every choice we make also affects others, so that is then another level of responsibility. Accepting this level of self responsibility for our bodies and how we feel about ourselves is something remarkable and takes true humbleness and honouring. I really enjoyed your blog.
Thank you for sharing and providing confirmation for me in a way to life that is based on love and truth. Life can change and I constantly deepen my commitment to true change. This is supported by Universal Medicine and people like you.
Oh how life has changed, I wouldn’t have it any other way though. I love that I am now taking responsibility for my choices, not always easy but definitely worth it. Thank you for sharing your story a lovely reminder to appreciate that I am making changes to my life.
My life has also changed in the most wonderful ways I could never have even imagined and still it keeps evolving. Serge Benhayon reflected and continues to reflect to me a different way to live and also has provided me with the tools to be able to make the different choices that allow these changes.
Thank you Nicole for sharing the honesty and truth of your past choices. We all can reflect on our past and not accept the responsibility that it was our choices that placed us exactly where we ended up but we can create miracles if we want to by bringing love back into our life and stopping the love-less activities that we participate in.
I myself have had a very wayward life of drugs and distractions and very much consider the way I live and whom I have become today, to be nothing short of a miracle and this journey began with wanting change and with the help and support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, it happened.
So often we end up living our lives for the moments that we think that we enjoy, a glass of wine, a holiday, sport perhaps, but in fact are these just moments that enable us to keep on plodding through what is otherwise a pretty miserable existence? This sentence summed it up, ‘All the unresolved issues that I felt and lived with never went away – they were always there, only being pushed aside temporarily until the distractions I chose wore off and a new day began, always with the same issues still lingering’.
Dear Nicole, what an awesome blog and I whole heartedly agree. This is something I have been feeling lots recently just how much my life and changed over the last 4 years, it is huge and I know there is way more to come. It has been and is such a blessing to have met Serge Benhayon and his family, and constantly be so inspired, loved and supported to choose a way to live for me, and all others that is true, loving and life changing. I cannot but help express my absolute joy and love for this man and all he is willing to stand up and share, it huge, so much bigger than at times I actually allow myself to realise. Absolute love for humanity. Everything, absolutely everything Serge Benhayon does, lives, presents and shares is for humanity, even those who have never met him before, there is not one ounce of self that gets in the way.
Very inspiring to read your blog Nicole, and it has allowed me to reflect on how much my life too has changed over the years, in the process of allowing myself to take on board more responsibility of myself and what happens around me. This too has been a gradual process and much of it has been inspired by Serge Benhayon and his family, and also from people like you too. So I agree, life certainly can change if we want it to.
Thank you Nicole for sharing the choices you made. Yes, these are really inspiring because they show and remind us that nothing is for ever and we have the strength and capacity to make the changes we need to achieve a loving life.
The changes you have made to turn your life around Nicole may sound impossible for many people, but as you have explained, when you meet one person who is living in a way that you know is truly living, it inspires us to start making more loving choices. As well as Serge Benhayon, you are an inspiration!
Beautiful thanks Nicole & to everyone who has commented. It feels to me that your/our way of being in this world is becoming the new normal, making ordinary extraordinary – inspiring
Indeed Beverley, the writers on this blog are redefining ‘normal’. One would consider that ‘normal’ would be what is also ‘natural’, yet the accepted ‘normal’ in today’s society is moving further and further away from what is our natural way of being. As you say, blogs such as Nicole’s are inspiring. . .
What an inspiring sharing Nicole, thank you for claiming it, I’m going to take a moment myself now.
In my room at my parents home I had put a sentence, when I was I guess about 11 on my wall with big letters:” everything is possible, if you want”. I might have put it there to achieve things, but I know, that it supported me in many different ways too. I felt the power in me and my decisions and that I am indeed the one that can change it all.
I love that Steffi – it shows that even from a young age you knew just what a powerful and incredible woman you were going to grow up to be!
Thank you Nicole a beautiful sharing with us all. As you mention we all get those daily challengers but it is the way in which we choose to deal with them that makes a very big difference – for me too it is ongoing. Once we choose to commit and realise that we do all make a difference not only for ourselves but to all around us – the outcome is amazing. Having that support and inspiration from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is so appreciated – Thank You.
Another great article Nicole, it is amazing and inspiring to read about the changes you have made in your life, thank you for sharing them. ‘My commitment to myself is one that I am forever working on, constantly making sure that the changes I have made are supportive of the way in which I choose to live.’ It is lovely to feel what you have written here and is a reminder to me to make choices too that are supportive to the simple, gentle, loving way that I am choosing to live.
A lovely sharing, thankyou Nicole. ” It is through observing and feeling the level of love and integrity that Serge Benhayon and his family live with that has truly inspired me to commit to changing the way in which I live and the choices I make.” I too have been – and still am – inspired by Serge Benhayon and his family. Making new choices does result in a new way of living and a new attitude to life – a no-brainer if one feels there is more to life than the usual humdrum existence.
Very confirming of the fact that we can change, of course we can. If we choose to, and as far as I know now, it is through a constant commitment and dedication, as you say: honoring all that is felt in and around me, never taking for granted all that I am and all that I have.
True Julia. Your words make me ponder, if we have this power, why we resist and fight change when change seems to agree with us so well.
Thank you Nicole for sharing your story. What big changes you have made in the last 15 years. It goes to show that when we take responsibility for our choices and not live in a way where we think we are at the mercy of what life serves us, life can change.
Thank you Nicole. It is inspiring to read how your life has changed. Your list of choices of how “to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving ” is very powerful, practical and confirming.
Nicole like you I never imaged how my life would change, whilst I was exhausted and a regular user of anything to distract myself from feeling what was going on I actually thought I had a great life. Yet the changes and way I feel today are so far from anything I ever considered to be a way of living or what life was truly about. I knew something did not make sense before but could never pin that down. Your words are lovely to read as they allow me to feel the appreciation you have for the choices you made/make and people who supported you there. Thank you.
Thank you Nicole beautiful to read and feel the lived known changes in your body and your life. shared with such simplicity and knowing. Thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal medicine I am learning what true changes are and to make them too from a depth of responsibility and honesty I knew inside but did not choose to live before and this is forever exposing and deepening.Beautiful.
I agree with you Tricia when you say that we know what it is to live lovingly in responsibility and honesty – it’s just that very few of us choose to go there. When I first met Serge Benhayon I recognised that this exactly how he chooses to live (I could recognise it because I knew it) and he showed me that it is possible to live with a level of love and integrity that I thought was lost to the world. I was living life making compromises as a result and was not very happy with myself or the world, but now I am learning to deepen my connection to what I know to be true and to live it. My life has changed enormously as a result. I view myself in an entirely different light and now have more clarity on how/why the world is as it is and it has transformed the overwhelm into understanding.
This is Beautiful and what speaks to me is the ‘appreciation you have in your life and those around you endlessly deepening and one that you would not change for the world’ wow that says it all, you are an inspiration Nicole thank you for being you
Indeed a moment to take stock and appreciate – and enjoy the choice made to live a life where love rules.
I agree Alex, the shift from avoidance of life to an absolute love of life and all things is extraordinary and cause for pause and celebration. Thank you for your sharing Nicole.
A brilliant blog Nicole. Thank you for your honest and clear sharing, super practical and the level of appreciation you have along with the commitment to yourself is truly felt.
“Yes, life can change – if you want it to.” This is such a simple and powerful statement and begs the question of ‘Why don’t we make the choices to change?’ It has been the inspiration and words of wisdom from Serge Benhayon that has shown me that by making simple choices for myself I can change my life.
Yes, Nicole, life can change, I agree. I can relate to many points in your blog and recognize similar changes in my own life. I am endlessly appreciative to Serge Benhayon, – and I am for ever inspired by him, and other students, to commit and connect to the love we all come from. Like you say: “My commitment to myself is one that I am forever working on” – it is an ongoing process. Thank you for expressing and reminding me that it’s about “to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving”.
I agree Nathalie. I have done many things in my life where I was totally committed for three – 15 months and then couldn’t see a point in continuing as it wasn’t worth going further. Here the ‘rewards’, i.e. the sustainable changes for the better are so strong that after 11 years it feels like it can go on and on and on. Amazing.
Yes, life time (or should that be life times) of change and to change, always something else to explore and unfold, I am so grateful that I found Universal Medicine to give me a purpose in my ‘later’ years
Commitment to life and oneself is the game changer. A few years ago, I had no awareness that my lack of commitment to life was the base for all my struggles and complications. My life has totally transformed by my commitment to develop and deepen the relationship with my body, to honor and listen to all it has to tell me.
Beautifully said Jacqueline. It is a daily choice to be with me and my body, feeling the impact of every choice I make on my body and how I feel.
An inspiring read, Nicole, thank you. A big wave to the power of appreciation, reflecting how much life has changed since meeting Serge Benhayon, and a call to loving action too. I am appreciating all that has passed, learning all the way and open/ready for all the opportunities that every next moment brings.
Beautiful sharing Nicole. Your life changes and choices are truly inspiring. Thank you for staring so honestly and I can totally relate to fully appreciating the unending reflection of Serge Benhayon and his family.
Thank you, Nicole, for taking this moment of appreciation for your commitment to living a life of love and the changes that then have been brought forward, and share it with us. It’s absolutely gorgeous to feel, and inspires me to take a moment as well.
The loving changes you have chosen to make Nicole are palpable reading your blog and inspiring. A part that stood out for me and I’ve been appreciating lately is how worlds apart my life is now living without the constant need for complication and chaos. Its not all gone, and sometimes it creeps in but because its not the norm anymore I usually spot it quickly. Life is so much more simple and enjoyable. Thank you Nicole – “…. life can change – if you want it to.”
So true Nicole Serafin, that life can change if you choose so. I also have found, through the presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, that I can make the choices in life, choices that are taken by me in full consideration of everything I know is true to me, instead of following the choices that are presented to me by society. I am suprisesd by what a beautiful journey life lived in truth is, compared to the life I lived before. Making my own choices in life, based on what I feel is true, is so liberating for me, because everything that I am and that lives within, I allow now to find its way out and is not held back anymore. People are getting more of who I truly am, a living son of God on earth.
I love how you express here ‘I am surprised by what a beautiful journey life lived in truth is, compared to the life I lived before.’ Life lived in truth truly is a beautiful journey, nvanhaastrecht. A beauty to behold and enjoy!
Thank you Nicole for the simplicity of your expression about change and taking responsibility for our choices. It is a constant commitment and I too would like to express my appreciation for Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. The support that is offered through both is a true gift to humanity.
So much of what is shared here is very similar to my own life and the journey of rediscovering me. It has been great for me to read this as it is a reminder of the unloving previous choices to today where I work at every day being a new day and how I can be more of me.
So inspiring and beautiful to observe the changes and choices you have made in your life Nicole. I can feel the love and care you now live with in every word.
The key words you share are….life can change, if you want it to.
I was also living with disregard and a lack of true self love and care, although I had the picture in my head of my life to be as it is now. I just couldn’t find the true recipe.
I was doing all the things that seemed like they would bring love, harmony, joy and truth. But after a few decades and still feeling sad, exhausted, angry and in pain, it was time to let go of – well, a lot of ideals and beliefs and ways of living that had not served me at all.
I would have been considered one of those health-freak types, eating the right foods, home grown greens, doing my daily yoga/exercise etc, reading all the new age books and don’t forget the home made stout/beer and organic champagne.
It was Serge Benhayon who was presenting a recipe that made sense to me. As soon as I chose to connect to myself, I could instantly feel what needed to go. This was not always comfortable and I am continuing to let go. And I feel more amazing in my body than since I was a young child. I know that I am enough, even if there is some sadness, I still feel my joy. As you say Nicole, we are human and it is not about striving for perfection, but making choices on a daily basis that are about true and loving self care and support so as to bring more of ourselves to every situation we are in throughout our days.
Like you Marylou, I was doing all the ‘right things’ and while I knew there was something more, life was pretty much ok and I didn’t see the need for great change – perhaps just a bit of tweeking. Then I heard Serge Benhayon and made a few simple changes to my diet and sleep pattern, and wow, that exposed how dis connected from myself I had become, how arrogant that self satisfaction was. So without beating myself up about it, I let it go, and changes I could not have imagined took place naturally. I am so much more aware now of how my body is, so much more open in my relationships, and so much more committed to my own loving self care. I look forward joyfully to the future changes and evolving. Gone is the roller coaster I used to live on, I travel under my own steam now, and take time to stop and enjoy the view.
“It was Serge Benhayon who was presenting a recipe that made sense to me. As soon as I chose to connect to myself, I could instantly feel what needed to go. This was not always comfortable and I am continuing to let go.” I have to echo this sentence Mary-lou as it is so spot on and you are correct the process of feeling what needs to be let go of next and letting it go, is not always comfortable but so worth it as we have everything to lose and our self to gain.
“I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it” – this is a beautiful claim Nicole, there can be a sense that this is a hard or difficult thing to do but once we begin to make the small choices it becomes apparent that it’s in the avoiding of life and it’s lessons and learnings that drains and tires us more than anything. Inspirational blog, thank you.
‘Honoring all that is felt in and around me’, is one of the greatest teachings that I have ever been taught.
I agree Madeline. If this was the one thing that everyone was taught and supported to know, imagine how different our relationships with ourselves and others would be. The world would be a much different place for sure.
What a great celebration of you and your choices Nicole. The line ‘I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it’ was pivotal for me in choosing a different way in my life. My whole life had been about avoiding and numbing so as not to deal with life whereas now, as you say, I choose to feel and deal. It is not always easy but it is very simple and so incredibly natural.
Penny, I like how you say you choose to feel life and deal with it, that it is not always easy, but that it is simple and natural. It is so very natural to deal with things, why is it that such a natural thing has become such a complicated affair? Could it be that we are living only for ourselves? Could it be that it becomes simple to deal with stuff when we realise that the stuff that needs dealing with also impacts on others, so that we then make the dealing with about healing the issue and not about blaming any one?
Well said Nicole. Your life can change if you want it to and that means you (anyone who wants to change their life) needs to take responsibility for their choices and start choosing to live in a way that is supportive to their body including, working hard, eating well, and committing to all areas of their life because it is reality and it’s how it works!
Thanks Nicole, I fully agree and am a living example of life can change if you want it to, no matter what your past is.
I like how you shared: “I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too.”
In the past when the going got tough, I would want to bury my head in the sand and hoped that it all just went away. These days I am learning to be with whatever comes my way and take responsibility for my part in it and also learning not to blow anything out of proportion or go into drama with it, and instead just see each thing, incidence or event as it is.
Blogs like what you have shared here Nicole are the bible to all in today’s society. I too have changed much in my life over the past 7 years, changes that also wouldn’t have happened if I had not chosen to receive healing sessions with Universal Medicine practitioners and also attend presentations by Serge Benhayon. We can all change our lives, from my experience as you have shared it is through loving ourselves and caring deeply for our bodies that inspires change. this is a way of living that deepens for me every day, the challenges that I am presented with are simply gifts, offering to me a choice to deepen my relationship with myself and to deal with each challenge presented with my love and understanding. What I am also discovering is that when I fully accept my choices and those of others and truly let us all be, then the challenges become simple.
When you look at the changes you have made they appear to be quite simple e.g. more self care, taking responsibility for your choices, looking at every aspect of how you live etc And yet I can feel how enormous the change has been as a result of these choices. All of these changes don’t cost anything. No paying someone else to do something. No buying a new gadget or going off to visit a foreign country. Just self deciding you are worth knowing and honouring the way you live in this lifetime. Beautiful.
I love this reflection, Gayle, that it does not cost anything to take responsibility for, and care of, ourselves – deconstructing further my history of relying on (and paying for) other things to fix me.
So true Nicole, life can change and does change if you want it to. It is great to have the support of Universal Medicine to break through the challenges that change presents. Breaking out of our comforts zones is quite a process as no matter how painful or damaging they are, they are the ‘known’ and therefore comfortable to us. Change always asks more of us. It is about taking responsibility for all we do and for what we have created. It is getting to know just who we really are and dropping the protection and the ways we medicate ourselves so as to not feel the need for change itself ; the overwhelm, the overload of un-dealt with feelings, the exhaustion this brings.
Basically most of us prefer to pretend all is ok no matter how messed up we are and would rather ignore what we are putting ourselves through and all that happening around us. Crazy really.
Kathleen, you summed up with great understanding, how I can resist change. See like you have described, makes such resistance feel like ill health or a disease in itself and leaves no space for more excuses.
Nicole your blog was written with such deep deep appreciation of where you are now due to the choices that you have made about life. The words “there had to be more” rang true for me as I was searching for the answers and like you found many distractions to lead me far from the quality of life I lead today. Serge Benhayon and the work of Universal Medicine showed me the ‘more’ that was and is still coming from within me and I am eternal grateful. Thanks for the inspiring reminder that the way we live now needs to be appreciated daily and is written in your inspiring blog.
Your words, ‘the ‘more’ that was and is still coming from within me..’ struck a chord with me Natasa! It is profound to appreciate the deep well of wisdom and understanding that we have within and have been shown by Serge Benhayon.
Gorgeous sharing of your transformation Nicole. I love, “I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly”.
Such an inspiring article Nicole from the way you were once living to present. Drugs, alcohol, working long hours and daily pressures that were relieved by the end of the day to only do it all over again the following day. I can so relate to all that and the amount of abuse to keep it all going that seemed all very ‘normal’ – until we get reflections in our lives that their is another way.
I love the detail, honesty and responsibility with which you’ve expressed here Nicole.
All too often we can remain in the pain of our daily choices, staying stuck in the belief that a life full of true love is unattainable, possible for others perhaps, but not ourselves.
The power of change lies within us, all for us to do is to choose it.
What a beautiful offering for anyone wanting to make changes in their lives but unsure of where to start.
I too thank Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and associated practitioners for the loving support I have felt that has seen me make similar changes as described in this gorgeous writing.
Thank you Nicole, this feels like a breath of fresh air. The time we take to nurture and love ourselves for who we are in all we do, is an inspiration.
I’m right there with you Nicole. I too could not have seen my life being the way it is now 10 years ago. I have always felt that there was something missing, no matter how much I ‘participated’ in life, I never felt truly vital or never really felt the joy of just being.
Feeling the natural vitality in my body is still very much a work in progress, as I undo some of my old patterns of a go go go life. However, having discovered the missing link, which is simply that I matter and that being me is actually enough, which ps: to anyone who doesn’t know this, is THE actual secret.
I started a new job 2 days ago. My attitude toward starting this job has been completely different to the past. I didn’t try to know everything, or try impress anyone. There was no fear around people thinking they had made a poor decision in hiring me. I just turned up, listened to what I was being taught (and felt fine about not getting or remembering everything), I got to know the team, and trusted that I’ll know what I need to know all in due course. As a result, I had a great couple of days, slept calmy with zero anxiety and actually really enjoyed it.
The lack of anxiety over the last few days has been an enormous marker of change for me. This has really all come down to building a more supportive rhythm in my life based on the choices I make every day.
Lovely sharing Elodie, it feels like your new job was a powerful reflection of how much you have evolved through your consistent daily loving choices and rhythms and something to deeply appreciate.
Thank you Elodie for sharing the differences you have experienced starting a new job particularly the lack of anxiety which as you say is such a huge marker of the benefits of building a steady rhythm in your life.
Nicole another deeply inspiring blog.
How incredible what you have embraced in your life. I too now look at my life and it is unrecognizable from six years ago. The love, support and inspiration of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is a gift that keeps on giving.
By this incredible journey you have chosen now of loving regard for yourself and others, you are an inspiration for all those you come into contact with Nicole. It’s amazing the changes we can make, if we are willing to honestly feel how we have been abusing ourselves by the way we have been living, which as you say, we accepted as being normal. Like you, I have been inspired by Serge Benhayon, his family, the Universal Medicine Practitioners and the student body to make huge changes in my life, to now living a life with far less complication and self abuse to a more honouring, loving way of caring for myself and I know that I will continue to change as I discard more of the things that are not truly supporting me.
So simple and true, it is but a choice we make to live as we have been or to reclaim the true us. Thanks for sharing this Nicole.
That is beautiful Nicole, an inspiration to see that it is all about choices and that at any time we can turn our lives around by listening to our body and making self-loving choices.
Great blog Nicole, celebrating the power of choice. Avoidance and arrogance can be huge, when we play this game with ourselves where we say we have no choice and yet when we stop and truly take responsibility for how we feel and what is needed to support us then things change, it’s easy to blame but it does nothing, as you finish so beautifully with, life can change if we want it too.
I love your title Nicole, “Life can change – if you want it to.” I know I have sought change only to find out later that it was never true change because there were bits that I was not willing to let go of, so it may have looked like things had change but really it was the same thing dressed differently. It was only through the teachings of Universal Medicine and the practitioners that I got to feel and understand what true change meant and that it included commitment, honesty, responsibility, self love and appreciation, in each of the changes I made in my life, without this, the changes I made did not last because they were not made from a true foundation, but from a need to fill the emptiness and voids in my life.
Love this line here Nicole that sums up everything so beautifully: “The choices I have made have come from a direct decision to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving”. It is that simple.
I love this. Iife really can be that simple. This in itself is a huge revelation.
Nicole I can feel your level of truth and commitment singing to me in this blog. Absolutely amazing. The committment to self is one to continually build and helps us evolve and expand our love from within. There is nothing better.
For me too seeing the consistent level of integrity that Serge Benhayon lives with, in all areas of his life and with everyone he comes into contact with, has motivated me to develop and continually develop the level of integrity in the way I live and choices that I make throughout my day.
I can feel your honesty and sincerity Nicole, yes we can change our lives as I too have found just by being open to implementing self care and self love for ourselves in our bodies, that Serge Benhayon presents and it exudes from all Universal Medicine events.
Yes, I agree, life can change if we want it to, with truly loving support to guide us. The kind that Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon offer consistently and without imposition.
Another hugely inspiring article Nicole. Thank you. Life is indeed the product of the choices we make. Realising this awakens us to the responsibility we hold for our lives, shifting the blame away from circumstances and others impact on our lives. The learning and expansion gained from this is deeply enriching. A forever magical and inspiring learning process. Your life is indeed an amazing example of this.
The saying ‘You can change your life’ has become one of those comments uttered flippantly, with no conviction or real meaning anymore, as so many of us have resigned to the doldrums of life as we see it: the good days and the bad days. That that is ‘life’. But that way of going through life is not true to us as human beings. Hence the tension and stress that abounds which we have also accepted as being ‘part of life’.
Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have reminded and inspired me, along with countless others, that living our lives day in day out with vitality and joy is so very normal. And so my life has also changed dramatically in the last 5 years where I have been attending Universal Medicine workshops and events and sessions by esoteric practitioners. So I completely agree with you Nicole — Life can change, when we say yes, this is what I want, this is what I choose. And the support that is there when we make this choice comes to us in bucket-loads in ways we would never imagine. When we choose love, love is returned to us a hundred-fold.
I’m with you Nicole…there was no chance for me to make changes to my life until I had a deep desire to do so. Also what helped me to make many changes to live a more satisfying and healthy life was that I had a great role model to reflect on in Serge Benhayon along with support from my wife. Both are quite inspirational.
Without the ‘wanting’ the odds of changing are extremely limited. And once we ‘want’ to make the changes it’s then about the choices we make (and an inspirational mentor certainly helps).
A great sharing Nicole Serafin. I can relate to your story and completely feel the same. If you’d asked me even 3 years ago if I would be where I am today – I would have said NO WAY HOSAY! The seemingly impossible has become a reality. And, there is not a chance I would have done this on my own without the loving support and inspiration of Serge Benhayon, his family and the other Universal Medicine practitioners and students. As you have said, the choice is yours – you can change your life and the support is there if you want it.
The moment we choose to start to feel into and connect to who we are and how we are living, what we learn and then know as the truth can never be ‘not known’. The quality of our choices and the responsibility we choose to take become an active living momentum that washes over everything in our lives. This has always been the case but the beauty of this new awareness is now we know it. An amazing and inspiring life for all those connected to you to be blessed by. Thank you Nicole
This is beautiful Nicole. It’s the difference between being owned by life and at the mercy of all that goes on…and actually choosing to take responsibility and see that we do have the power to change through our choices in every moment.
Nicole, your blog is a reminder to me to look back and appreciate how much my life has changed since I started attending Universal Medicine presentations. Something I can certainly relate to is how differently I handle problems that arise in my life, which in the past would have had me reaching for a cigarette or glass of wine now only mildly ruffle my feathers.
Wow Nicole, your story is inspiring. It highlights how it only takes one person to live in truth and show us that there is another way to live that goes against what everyone else is doing and that we perceive is normal. That person for many of us is Serge Benhayon. And so now with the way that you, I and many others live, we become the reflection and inspiration for people around us to make changes in their lives, if they want to – that feels like true evolution.
Great stuff Nicole. It’s wondrous to on-lookers perhaps, in terms of the changes that can be observed in a person making inner change and better choices; but, really there’s nothing to wonder about, if you’re the one making the choices 🙂
Thank you Nicole. So True. Life can change… It’s up to each and every human being to choose different. What I love about your blog is the commitment and honesty that it is indeed the willingness to look at EVERY aspect of your life. Often there are parts that we want to look at, and others we keep a blind eye on. Even though somewhere deep inside we know. Incredible how we can choose ignorance and arragonce over the very nature that we are, love. And the beauty I am currently realising and start accepting is that there are no rules, no dogma’s, no beliefs, no ideals, no images. Yes we all create them, but that actually doesn’t really exist. We can let them go and live a very joyful, light and appreciative life, yet a very responsible and commited at the same time. Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom Nicole.
Beautiful Nicole and incredibly inspiring! I recall not so very long ago how I used to bury my head in the sand and avoid truly feeling what was going on in my life. Choosing to see my old patterns and feel what’s there hasn’t always been easy but committing to being really honest has made such a difference to my life. Without Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine my head would still be firmly planted in the sand!
Thank you Nicole for sharing such inspiration, yes life can change if we want it to , its just a choice to drop all that behaviour that we know does not uphold who we are-LOVE- And to rejoice in who we are and know our brothers are equally so that same love . Thank you Serge Benayon and Universal Medicine for supporting us in the awareness we are all love.
This is Beautiful and what speaks to me is the ‘appreciation you have in your life and those around you endlessly deepening and one that you would not change for the world’ wow that says it all, you are an inspiration Nicole thank you for being you.
“Yes, life can change – if you want it to”. It seems so ‘comfortable’ to continue in the stress and overwhelm of life and live in hope that someone will come along to save us or that we win the lottery, etc. We have to choose to let go of the comfort (that is truly not comfortable) and ‘save ourselves’. The level of commitment and responsibility you have brought to your life is inspirational!
I can so relate to everyone around you accepting overwhelm and stress as ‘normal’, Nicole. It takes courage to make the changes you have listed and to bring self-care, love and simplicity back into your life. This reflection to all those around you is so healing for them, more than you probably know. Simply awesome.
Thank you Nicole for sharing your life changing journey. I too have had this experience and can recognize similar situations as you have. A life that I felt was overwhelming and a feeling that this is not it. No real role model to show differently. The lack of appreciation and coping for me was disconnecting and not wanting to see. Your life has changed with the reflections that Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine present, as has mine. Appreciation and acceptance for myself and others is more in my life and a true sense of purpose is replacing obligation.
The normality of the hectic, drama filled life that we can live was something that I endured as well. I believed that life was simply like that and that was how it was always going to be no matter how much I whinged or whined. We choose life and what it dishes out to us by the quality in which we live consistently. Thank you Nicole.
Nicole,when you started with ” if someone had told me 15 years ago,” I thought I was about to read my story. I can feel how my life has also changed because of the choices that I have made, no longer a roller coaster of ups and downs. But building on a commitment to choosing a more loving way of being with myself and then with others. I know that I have come to this way of being because of Serge and his family living a way of life that inspires us all.
Hi Nicole this is a powerful reflection and confirmation of where you are today. So worth taking stock and expressing our appreciation for the choices we have made and the inspiration we have been given to make them. I am going to do that now : )
Thank you Nicole. As I was reading this it felt like I was reading about my own life. So confirming and so beautiful to feel how your life has changed.
This should be ‘viral news’ Leonne, Mary-Louise and Nicole. It it such an inspiration to feel the depth of the strength and the gratitude towards Serge Benhayon. You took on the inspiration that he’s offering. And I only have to look at the photo’s to see you’re all blosseming. True blosseming without putting an act on. Which in itself is inspirational for so many women and men in this so called ‘modern’ world.
Same for me Nicole if somebody had told me 15 years ago that I would be loving my life, healthier then I was at 40years, traveling the world supporting other women with their health, and well-being, having loving relationships with my family and friends. As well as being alcohol free, drug free, caffeine free, cigarette free, diary free, wheat free I would have laughed at them, as my life was one of misery and indulgence in distraction. It is a modern day miracle how my life has changed with the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. If not for this man I would be dead or seriously ill from the totally disregarding way I lived.
Same for me Mary Louise and Nicole – I am now inspired by Serge Benhayon for 10 years and thats the reason why I am still alive…and the reason why I am living joyfully instead of existing emptily.
Awesome Mary-Louise, how you have turned your life around is indeed a miracle.
Nicole, it’s inspiring to read how your life has changed. I’m one of those people who has always striven to change and evolve myself, but I never experienced such a joyful and sustained level of transformation as I have since learning from Serge Benhayon how to change choices and make my new way ‘stick’!
Yes me too Dianne, true and sustained change is definitely possible, something to celebrate for sure.
Wow Nicole, you really break it down. With the way you explain things it is impossible not to see how our lives are is a direct reflection of what we are choosing for ourselves. I too never would have thought I could have as much influence as I have today on my life and state of mind. I used to want to change but did not have the tools or know how to do this. Universal Medicine, Serge and Michael Benhayon where huge supports to supporting me in discovering how I could make the changes possible in my everyday life, the changes have produced an amazing life with myself, my family and all those around me.
Beautiful and inspiring Nicole. Thank you for sharing this.