From the Seriousness of Life to Joie de Vivre

As a young girl I would spend a lot of time observing people’s reactions and behaviour. I’d observe the people around me and wonder who they were and what they were doing, and I couldn’t help but notice that they seemed to be taking life very seriously. Everyone seemed to lack any ‘Joie de Vivre’ for life!

As a child I soon learned from others’ reactions when it was OK for me to smile and when it was OK to laugh. Most of the time it seemed like I was expected to act serious but what I truly wanted was to shine and to show the world the natural joy living inside of me.

However, I started to live my life with this same intensity and seriousness. While I imagined my life as an adventure, in reality it was such a serious matter, and before long, living became something that I endured rather than enjoyed. I went to a Catholic school and life became even more serious, and it felt like the expectations of how to act, how to behave, intensified.

In this environment I learned how to ‘do’ things, how to get recognised for my achievements; it was all very serious and controlled.

It was only when I was by myself in my bedroom that I could really enjoy myself as I would imagine a world where everyone would be smiling and laughing and connecting with each other with such joy. Whilst this was my secret life, I felt it was the true me.

I had a similar experience with the Catholic Church, a place we would faithfully visit every week as a family. It was all a very serious matter – nothing to laugh about, and very few opportunities to be joyful, let alone shine when I felt to celebrate myself: no, I had to be serious in life and behave myself.

However, there was one part I remember enjoying: I loved sitting near the church organ when my mother sang in the choir. Later on this inspired me to sing in a choir as well. It seemed like it was one of the only places in the church where you were allowed to be joyful, but only if the joy was dedicated to something or someone outside of oneself. How could you be joy-full about yourself?

As a teenager I recall acting out with some rebellion in an attempt to reclaim the joy I felt I had lost in my earlier years. I moved out of my parents’ home and lived on my own, earned my own money, and did whatever I wanted. But this was all a bit of a disappointment really – lots of alcohol, one night stands, and a lot of hangovers were the result of having so called fun, but there was definitely no joy in any of it.

Then I met someone I felt I could trust. He was very playful and a perfect match for the joy I felt on the inside, but seriousness entered this relationship as well, especially when we got married and had children. We deliberately tried to raise our children in a different way…. but in truth, it was only a slightly different ‘flavour’ of seriousness, when compared to the experiences of my youth with the Catholic Church and their education system.

For our children we chose a Rudolf Steiner school and as a family we took on what they dictated, a way of life and how to act with our children.

At first we felt we embraced their philosophy, but in truth we were limited in the expression of our true selves and with taking on their ideals and beliefs, the seriousness of life was there again.

Now upon reflection I can see how I allowed the seriousness I felt in church and in the education system to pervade every part of my life in order to fit in and survive. This brings up much sadness in me as I know that seriousness in my life is the opposite of the joy I feel on the inside.

I have discovered that in each moment I have a choice to connect to the natural feeling of joy inside me, or to the seriousness outside of me.

Eight years ago I met Serge Benhayon – a living example of someone who is living his true self and shares the joy he feels inside with all equally. One thing I learned from him was the Gentle Breath Meditation, a simple tool to connect and stay with myself. Whenever I feel my joy is being suppressed, I choose to breath gently and connect with what I know is true.

Looking back on my life now as a 54 year old woman I can see that the big bubble of joy I feel inside me has been there all along and has been patiently waiting to come out and to be expressed in full in every minute of every day.

And I can say that I am ready, more than ever before, to show the world my joy – my Joie de Vivre! This joy is there to reflect to everyone in the world, to offer the serious people in this world an opportunity to connect with what is living inside them. Maybe they will choose to forget about their serious role or image and just allow themselves to be, just as children are when they are living in their natural joy and playfulness.

So on reading this blog if you suspect that you feel there is a seriousness in life, or that you can’t find the joy in living and it doesn’t feel quite right, have a look inside yourself – what is bubbling inside of you?

Perhaps, like me, there is a vast spring of untapped joy just waiting to be felt and expressed. Live in your fullness, in your ‘Joie de Vivre’ to feel and show the world all of who you are. The choice is yours!

Thanks to Serge Benhayon and all the many Students of The Livingness for reflecting who I am, and inspiring me to live in full every day.

 by Annelies van Haastrecht, Warnsveld, Holland

Further reading:
Time to Play

949 thoughts on “From the Seriousness of Life to Joie de Vivre

  1. As I was sitting in a café yesterday I was observing the people around me and noticed that so many seemed so serious, some looked decidedly unwell and others were simply buried in their mobile or laptop; ‘joie-de-vivre’ was definitely not in attendance in that moment in time. I then wondered if others would see me in the same serious light, or if the twinkle in my eyes when I looked at them would get them smiling too. Unfortunately no one looked up so I could smile at them, but that didn’t stop me from smiling; there is always something to smile about.

    1. There may be bright lights and music to excite us but it can never replace the joy from within. I was observing casino goers last night and no one looked like they were en-joying themselves instead it looked like the elusive carrot was being dangled and a desperation to grasp it. This leaves us driving forward instead of feeling within.

  2. Much to share with the world even if no one seems to have any interest in what we are willing to share. It is up to us that the ‘much more’ does not contribute to the limited and limiting way.

  3. What if we made a commitment to life, increase productivity, dedication to love and bucket loads of laughter and playfulness our way of being?

    1. Life would be absolutely overflowing with joy, we would be forever smiling and fueled by all the smiles and all the joy, I am very sure that our productivity would go through the roof. Now is one life that I am definitely signing up for!

  4. I found that even when I realised that joie de vivre is my true nature and who I actually am I still have plenty of momentum for seriousness, in part because it gives me an individuality that joie de vivre doesn’t.

  5. Beautiful Richard, it is about letting go of all the falseness, (only recently i felt how all the imposed rituals from the church were in the way to truly feel what it is to have my own rituals coming from inside) and surrender to what we know is true inside ourselves, ‘to reconnect to the depth of love and joy within.’

  6. “As a child I soon learned from others’ reactions when it was OK for me to smile and when it was OK to laugh” – I had to read this line a few times for it to really sink in – that the impact we can have on a child can shape their whole life and how much joy they feel on a daily basis – it’s time for us to take much more responsibility for the way we live and understand that we are actually impacting everyone non-stop.

  7. It is so true when we have to endure life or put up with things it sucks all the playfulness and enjoyment of life right out of us.

  8. Th joy i see in the twinkle of your beautiful blue eyes Annelies. And in that twinkle I also see the divine.

    1. Annelies definitely has that twinkle in her eyes, I’ve noticed it too, it’s invites everything to know we are much more than we think we are, and to open up to the joy within. The twinkle says “Let’s play!”

  9. Such a shame that Church too – supposedly the foundation of our relationship with God, turns out to be such a serious place as well. And this can be used to our advantage, knowing that God is full of joy and therefore exposing what is or is not held by his divine presence.

    1. I agree – it’s interesting that the church is such a solemn serious place. I remember getting told off as a child for laughing when in actual fact there is an abundance of joy in knowing God. Perhaps this is one of the first ways the church reveals itself as following it’s own path rather than being a true expression for divinity.

  10. Kids are full of joy and don’t take life too seriously. This seems to infuriate most adults who had their childhood joy squashed out of them and now unconsciously don’t see why anyone else should be allowed to feel joyful if they aren’t. Life is such a pleasure when we keep it light and playful.

    1. Maybe that’s why we have made schools to be the horrible place where children have not a lot of space to move their bodies and express the joy that they are. We have made these systems to crush whatever is true in ourselves. Of course within the systems there are teachers that are gold and encouraging children to stay with themselves and express what is true.

  11. It can be really eye-opening to consider how much we might be calibrating how we are, our expression, according to what we think will please those around us, rather than being true to who we are deep down..

  12. I wonder if the seriousness of the church and temple is actually a bastardisation of stillness.

    1. Yes, that is a good point. We know on some level how important stillness is and the seriousness can distract us a long time from that natural state before we realise that stillness is the true part and seriousness is definitely not.

  13. It is always inspiring to read how someone has turned their life around and reignited the spark that has always been within just hidden and held back from the world. No seriousness just playfullness and the knwoing we are here to learn and so will make mistakes but not bash ourselves when we do rather see them as an oops moment and move on.

  14. You only have to be in the presence of young children to feel their natural joy and exuberance for life, somewhere along the way we can leave this and get caught up in expectations, ideals and pictures of how we think we need to be. It is very empowering when we take steps to let go of all this and reconnect back to our natural joy and lightness.

  15. When I sit in classrooms it is obvious what joy is and it is obvious that as adults we have lost touch with our natural joy.

  16. Totally agree Elizabeth it is a fine line as a parent to know you are to be responsible and bring a child up to be harmonious with others and natural laws but it is easy to slip into dictator and controller rather than loving inspiring absoluteness of adhering to life’s actual harmony. I am not surprised we fall far from this as most of us adults are rebelling the natural laws of energy in every moment.

  17. I definitely can feel I am giggling more and feeling more playful, there is a way to go to really feel joy but I have tasted it and know it is within.

  18. It is brilliant to go through life joyfully, and with an ability to take things lightly. This is not to say that full love, consideration and dedication is not there in our approach, as that too is a responsibility and part of true joy, but it is a lightning alignment to live this way, rather than a heavy, serious, dragging kind of alignment.

  19. Joy is such a rarely used word nowadays, perhaps this indicates how much we lack it and how buried it is under the intensity and seriousness. The last time I saw the word joy it was on a Christmas card “Joy to the world” – that’s a confusing use of the word also! Joy is definitely very naturally there in children who are allowed to simply be themselves and express the joy we all innately have within. The lack of joy reflects the way human beings do not allow themselves to be who they naturally are.

  20. Annelies, it is amazing that you kept your smile and laughter. I did no such thing and I didn’t enjoy it as a child.

  21. Annelies beautiful to read about your return to joy, and how life whilst full of challenges, doesn’t need to be so serious.

  22. Seriousness is a great indicator that we might not be accepting everything the world is offering us right now. Evolution, our learning and others learning is a serious matter but it also feels amazing and comes with the understanding that while we make mistakes we’re here to learn and grow and step forwards – and that is a super joyful process.

    1. “Seriousness is a great indicator that we might not be accepting everything the world is offering us right now.” – Well, this sentence felt like a huge key for me Meg, as I have come across this blog today while feeling oh so serious and not willing to go there when it comes to being joyful. So after reading your comment it became evident to me just how much I have not been accepting some things that have come to the surface recently in my life to move into. Namely, accepting myself fully without self-judgement or critique and what I have to offer the world, because I know deep down how truly joyful and playful I can be as I was living proof of that just yesterday! This just shows how much it really is a choice to be joyful or not, as Annelies has written above.

  23. Love that you feel a bubbling joy! How many people can say that? Very few and even less if we take it to pure joy. I remember having a laughing fit at church once and how much trouble I got into for laughing. Suppressing the natural effervescence of a child is not religion!

  24. True Elizabeth and I love how joy can be contagious, even with serious people they won’t not always admit but when you look in their eyes there can be a spark for just a moment as joy is innate in us all.

  25. “He was very playful and a perfect match for the joy I felt on the inside” Definitely, knowing you both intimately I know how gorgeous and playful you both are.

  26. I used to think these joyous moments were fleeting moments of happiness I could only experience in random cases in my life. Now I know it is a simple way of living from a connection with my body that brings this into my everyday.

  27. I love joie de vivre! This afternoon a young man at the service station helped me fill up my tyres with air. We had such a lovely joyful, lively conversation, and when I thanked him for stopping and helping me with my tyres at such a busy time ( 2 days to Christmas) he said, ‘Oh no worries at all, we should never be too busy to stop and help each other no matter how busy it gets’.

  28. The world needs more people who are prepared to show how joyful it is to connect with our essence and live from there.

  29. Oh dear I am laughing again! Every time I read the title of this blog I start laughing for some reason. I came across this blog once before and the same thing happened and I probably wrote the same comment – maybe this will be a new habit for me 🙂

  30. ” Perhaps, like me, there is a vast spring of untapped joy just waiting to be felt and expressed. Live in your fullness, in your ‘Joie de Vivre’ to feel and show the world all of who you are. The choice is yours! ”
    This is beautiful Annelies and its so wonderful you have made the re-connection.

  31. What an awesome blog. If we wait for others to be joyful before we can, we will have almost no chance. So best to be the one who starts the trend of joy.

  32. When we become serious and intense about something it means that we have disconnected from the one thing that can actually help, which is our soul.

  33. “Looking back on my life now as a 54 year old woman I can see that the big bubble of joy I feel inside me has been there all along and has been patiently waiting to come out and to be expressed in full in every minute of every day.” This is the beauty, that joy is inherently ours, we just have come to believe that it is only happening in certain moments if at al, all the while it is a natural way of our beingness.

  34. Even in the most serious situations our joy can be present and in fact the more it is present the less we will get bogged down in the situation.

  35. I am learning that it is all there inside me and it is simply about giving myself permission to let the joy out. This is a huge revelation as we can feel joy at any moment in any situation!

  36. So true it looks like we socialise the joy of simply being, out of us. Fortunate it is a simple return to choose to connect to the quality of love and joy within.

  37. ‘Live in your fullness, in your ‘Joie de Vivre’ to feel and show the world all of who you are. The choice is yours!’ What a beautiful reminder, to not get caught in whatever is happening around me, to not go in overwhelm but to stay connected to what I know to be true within myself. Whatever I have chosen in the past, or even yesterday is no longer there, everyday is a new opportunity to embrace life in full and share the joy that is in me and you!

  38. When I was younger, I always felt like needed permission to shine. I allowed myself to feel a control over me from many around me. This impacted how I viewed myself growing up. I have since learned to truly connect to myself and people and let them in. This enables a very naturally joyful way of being, which I find encourages others to join me in my joy.

  39. Go for it Annelies, our world certainly needs joy, ‘I can say that I am ready, more than ever before, to show the world my joy – my Joie de Vivre! This joy is there to reflect to everyone in the world,’ and by this reflection remind others that they too can choose to be joyful.

  40. Yes lets show the world our joy, ‘This joy is there to reflect to everyone in the world, to offer the serious people in this world an opportunity to connect with what is living inside them.’

  41. Thank you Annelies, I enjoyed reading your blog again and could relate to this line “I started to live my life with this same intensity and seriousness.” Just walking down the street I can feel the intensity and seriousness everyone lives in, it’s very much the norm, and it’s almost like a rite of passage to adulthood that we cut the joy, silliness, and playfulness to earn the title of adult. I have read that there is now a trend for kindergartens to remove play based learning for a more structured academic style environment. This shows how we value a rigid, controlled, knowledge based learning environment, not just in education but throughout all of life.

    1. Yes, I have heard about this trend too and it only shows we value the intelligence of the brain more than the intelligence that is innately in our body and thus learn to override our feelings from a very young age.

  42. It’s hard work trying to be something you are not, hence the seriousness we get bogged down in when we are not living true to who we are. Ever seen a small healthy child be serious for long? It is not in their nature as they are too busy just being themselves and joy is a big part of this as it is an innate quality of who we are and is one of the 5 qualities of our Soul along with Truth, Stillness, Harmony and Love. What this means is that this bubble of true joy we have each felt, albeit fleetingly at times, can never pop, it simply gets buried beneath a mountain of seriousness that we pile on top of it when we do not live in connection with our true self – our Soul.

  43. “Everyone seemed to lack any ‘Joie de Vivre’ for life!” spot on thats how I felt as a kid, I wonder however as I grew up why I then fell into that same lack of Joie de Vivre and what reflection I provided kids growing up. Today I am re-connecting to my Joie de Vivre and am super inspired by kids including my daughter.

  44. I can relate with what you share in that I too had become serious in life and had to behave myself, ‘In this environment I learned how to ‘do’ things, how to get recognised for my achievements; it was all very serious and controlled.’ I can feel and know I am naturally playful and joyful, but still can be serious, thank you for reminding me it is as simple as connecting to the natural joy inside of us.

  45. This blog is so relatable to me. For much of my life I have measured how much joy I will be off the reactions of other. In this I have viewed the world as hard and built my body up just as hard in order to protect me from the harshness. Which to me now seems crazy, it’s like when we tell kids not to hit back for it never solves anything. The same goes for hardening ones self against a perceived hard world. We never solve it, we only enjoin.

  46. Annelies, your writing ignites the one and same joy within me. Joy is a confirmation of the energy we have expressed returning back to us. When this energy is true love, the joy that is felt is two sparks of light in full ignition. And yes – the world is hungry for this because it is our innate expression and we have withheld it for too long.

    There are some great quotes and audio on Joy here:

  47. One has to ask and wonder why we have accepted and allowed it to be normal to be serious when when you are serious all you feel is a tension of wanting to be light and joyful because seriousness is not actually a very plesant or natural feeling to feel. Perhaps the power and wisdom of this untapped joy would naturally expose how so many pleasure in the many unnecessary complexities and dramas of life?

    1. Some people enjoy being serious, some people love misery and heaviness – these can all give a feeling of importance and identification. There is a big difference between being serious and being sincere or committed. Equally joy is not about happiness – we have bastardised the meaning of words and very often lost connection to our awesome essence!

  48. Thank you Annelies for expressing so beautifully the bubble of joy that we all have within us. For me the skin of my bubble is so thick it needs constant pricking, as it still not fully burst.

  49. Like a magnet being pulled back to the north, when we feel vital and great, it’s like there’s an opposite force that comes in to drag us the other way. No matter how sweet we are, it seems it’s only a matter of time till we get pulled down. It seems so hard to be joyful and light. But isn’t that the greatest trick Annelies? For the truth is we are all being pulled up every moment of every day to live in a loving way.

    1. True Joseph, we are all being pulled up constantly but when we are caught in the illusion of what life seems to be and not look beyond and find our true purpose as in making life about light, a joyful energy we can choose 24/7, it seems hard (and sometimes even impossible for a lot of people).

  50. I like the reminder that the joy we are seeking is not far away. It’s bubbling up inside just waiting to be connected to. Thank you Annelies for sharing how you went from serious to joyful.

  51. I simply love being in nature and always find that this gorgeous sense of wonderment and joy just encompasses me and reminds me of when I was a little girl playing in the garden picking flowers and talking to the fairies and gnomes in the back of my garden. The joy and vitality of our younger years is always there it just takes one simple choice to stop and enjoy the world around us with an open heart and the innocence of a child.

  52. A pertinent read for me today as I have felt a bit too serious lately and joy has been lacking! Thank you.

  53. Recently I was pondering on just how light and joyful I was as a child and how much ease I felt in my body. This was great to feel and I really get what you are saying here about joy naturally being inside of us and seriousness is outside of us and not who we are but we can choose to take it on.

  54. We are naturally joy-full – to not experience and express our joy is a disease and a very serious dis-ease at that.

    1. Yes, and the sooner that is generally acknowledged then the sooner it will be taken seriously (with joy).

  55. Oh yes, life can be far too serious, as we get caught up in making a living and surviving or getting by. This describes how I used to live and be – being serious was the face I adopted. I am much more aware of this but still this shadow of being serious can so easily creep over me again when I drop my awareness. It is a constant choice to stay present in my body.

  56. I am very joyful, I naturally enjoy connecting and appreciating and this has grown the more that I been observing life and not reacting to everything I thought was not right. There is so much support, sweetness and playfulness in everyday life if we open up to it.

  57. In the search for recognition and achievements, we compromise the very thing that can fulfill everything we could ever want- that being the essence of who we truly are.

  58. I used to get annoyed when people around be were being playful or silly. Such was my need to keep everything within me capped and to be serious. These days I am feeling the tension of serious much more and how releasing and freeing it is to be playful, joyful and silly. Reading this blog has me appreciating what those moments bring and how much they break up the dull, miserable seriousness so effortlessly.

  59. Thank you Annelies for you unfettered expression of the joy that is innate in you and in us all equally – a very beautiful sharing that reminds us all that we have a choice.

  60. I do not think as adults that we consider just how deeply young children observe the world. There is the mistaken belief that they are lacking in intelligence, and if you abide by the precept that intelligence is based on the accumulation of knowledge, then you would be correct. But even science has shown that our greatest capacity for learning, or intelligently discerning life, is actually when we are young. It is, of course, when we are also most impressionable to life’s experiences. The point is, part of the mistake we make in raising children is that we treat them as children rather than as discerning human beings.

    1. Very truth Adam I used to get so frustrated with adults when they treated me like people treat a puppy. There was times as a child ,when I used to look at adult and think whats happened to them.

      1. I still look at adults and wonder what’s happened to them sometimes! But on a more serious note (joke intended) it feels to me that adults talk to children in that ‘puppy voice’ or patronising way as a form of control or to give themselves a false sense of superiority. Perhaps adults who have become all too serious from playing the game of trying to be right and look for external recognition and confirmation of themselves feel threatened in a way by a wise young child who reflects to them all the joy and freedom to be themselves that they have left behind long ago?

  61. “While I imagined my life as an adventure, in reality it was such a serious matter, and before long, living became something that I endured rather than enjoyed.” Umm this is something I can recognise I did too Annelies, I thought I was having fun because I was independent and free and single with money to spend but there was an emptiness I felt that would not go away and I can see now I was filling my life by seeking things to fulfil me rather than just enjoying me and all that I am. Nowadays there are no highs and lows just an enjoyment of life in everything I do.

  62. Annelies, this is beautiful to read and reminds me not to be too serious. I have a very joyful and playful son who reflects to me not be too serious, he shows me that in any task or situation there can be joy, connection and fun; from washing up and going to the supermarket to walking down the street.

  63. Indeed Annelies the choice is always ours. I love the simplicity and truth of what you have expressed here, thank you;
    “I have discovered that in each moment I have a choice to connect to the natural feeling of joy inside me, or to the seriousness outside of me”.

  64. ‘So on reading this blog if you suspect that you feel there is a seriousness in life, or that you can’t find the joy in living and it doesn’t feel quite right, have a look inside yourself – what is bubbling inside of you?’ What a great question. What is bubbling inside you?

  65. I used to call my self a serious person, but lately I am seeing my seriousness was a choice and with any choice, you always have the option to change it.

  66. I know all too well the seriousness you speak of – I can be very serious! But what’s lovely is that in recent years, inspired by Serge Benhayon, I have begun to let out the natural joy within me. I can still get caught up in being serious, but less and less the more I choose to just be myself.

  67. “I had to be serious in life and behave myself” brings back memories of being told to sit still, behave and be quiet! (basically stop shining!) which feels so rigid in the body. An experience that brings about so much tension and suppressing of a very natural outpouring of Joy that naturally emanates out to all.

    1. True Marion, we are asked to stop shining from a very young age and I still sometimes feel how my posture can be one of an apology to take in space, when I notice this it is just choosing again what I know is true, to shine and feel the joy of being here.

  68. I have always experienced joie de vivre and my great trouble has been in suppressing it to make others comfortable and not overwhelmed. I did go through a stage of wanting to be ‘cool’ in my twenties but that soon passed as I realise that I could not master cool and that joy kept on popping up its head. Now I am learning to deepen this joy so that it is a true emanation of the divine.

    1. How much do we suppress to fit in and to be nice so other won’t have something to complain about us. I love what you say here Lyndy how you tried to be ‘cool’ and how joy said ‘hello there’ every time to remind you about your divine nature.

  69. How about seriously joyful…I take life more seriously than I ever have, I feel that serious, although it can be connected to something heavy as can the word responsibility, for me, seriousness is about an earnestness and a commitment, and yet I am more playful, light and joyful than I have ever been. Taking life more seriously has meant for me more responsibility and a whole lot more appreciation. I love what you say about the joy of life, no more heavy, but light on our feet!

    1. I love what you have said here Samantha. You have voiced exactly what has been welling up in me about this subject of ‘seriously joyful!’

  70. It is interesting how you share that you felt your choices in parenting were simply variations on a theme. And I love your end paragraph is a delightful reminder of where to look for a perspective that is true!

  71. Thank you Annelies, I can really relate to the observation of seriousness in adults as a child, as opposed to my natural lightness and joy. I also joined the seriousness brigade for some periods as I grew and became an adult but it did not feel natural to me, it felt quite heavy and suppressive. I have also noticed being serious seems to be related to being an adult and is almost a requirement. When I look back I see that joy was my natural essence as a child, and as I learn to reconnect to that essence within me joy is a natural part of my day to day life again.

  72. When we change our choices and feel the joy from within ourselves, and express from that love and joy we feel, we are able to equally share that joy with everyone.

  73. Joy, as well as love and harmony is our natural expression. We have to spend a lot of energy to put a lid on these. No wonder so many of us are exhausted most of the time.

  74. Annelies – thank you for this wonderful reminder to have fun and not be so serious! I have been allowing too much seriousness to creep in lately…it is time to allow our natural fun and joy to come out and express itself, for this breaks up so much heaviness that can creep in. After all if there is any seriousness and heaviness, then it cannot be from the Soul, for our natural way of being is light and caring with much laughter together.

  75. It’s so easy to choose something like seriousness to avoid being the innate playful person you are. It’s like any ‘type’ of personality we buy into, it’s all a distraction, an opportunity to ignore our essence and be vulnerable.

  76. One of the many wonderful things I have learnt through the joyful and loving reflection of Serge Benhayon is not to dim my joy and light because of the reactions of others or because I think it might upset them. We often bring ourselves down when others are miserable thinking how can I be so joyful when they are so miserable? But the most loving thing we can do is to be and express all the love, joy and truth that we are in full without making it less and inspire others as that is who we all are in essence.

    1. This is so true Nicola, the moment we dim or dull our light and lightfulness, then we are playing into the game of seriousness and allowing another’s way of being to dictate how we ‘should’ be. I have experienced that so many times where another is very angry or serious or upset and as a result I dim myself down so as not to make them more upset – in effectI have ‘enjoined’ them in their anger or misery! If we do this, then it is at the detriment of ourselves and them too! We cannot dim our light just because another is upset. This is of course with all due respect to whatever the person is going through (experiencing the death of a loved one, a family feud etc) – but it is about holding ourselves and this in turn can be very ‘infectious’ and support the other person out of their misery or heaviness. There is no need to compromise our light at any point.

      1. Thank you, our joy is indeed from our soul and to express that is to return to our oneness, to not express that joy (or any quality of the soul) is to be less than who we truly are, we then stand out separate to the oneness and are both identified in that expression and individual.

    2. Misery loves company… I have been around many a person who has not only fought to hang onto their own misery but also acted in a way that said they expected others to join them and become miserable also. Why would we choose for misery for self and prefer it in others when joy is on offer?

      1. We love misery because we love identification. Joy is not about self but all.

  77. Yes Annelise – ‘…there is a vast spring of untapped joy just waiting to be felt and expressed.’ And this joy is ever-present and possible to live through our choice to live in connection to our love that naturally resides within us all.

  78. Joy is infectious in our world as there is little of it! Making this part of our way of living not only brings us closer to what we know life can truly be but also a great reflection for all that we met along the way!

  79. Annelies this is a beautiful example of choice and how we can change our lives by making a choice to move from our joyful inner expression or to move from an age old belief or image that we have held for a long time and may no longer allow us to be all of who we are? When we explore our movements even if its just a small adjustment to our walk or even how we pick up a glass, we can completely alter the flow and quality of our bodies and that brings the joie de vivre to the forefront of our daily living.

  80. ‘I have discovered that in each moment I have a choice to connect to the natural feeling of joy inside me, or to the seriousness outside of me.’ And I am experiencing when I change my movements, so how I sit, stand or walk either supports the choice to let my natural expression of joy out or to supports to stay in the seriousness.

    1. So true Annelies, sometimes I observe how my body has become almost rigid as I have not moved it when I was impulsed to move it, and instead choosing to stay longer on the computer for example and over-riding my body at the same time…. Bringing awareness to my posture and making any refinements however small truly supports to bring me back to myself if I am ‘out’.

  81. It is a very powerful moment when one realizes just how much ‘control’ we have in our lives, and the affect that this has on our bodies, nervous systems, our relationships and each other.

    1. Thank you Cjames2012, there is a lot to reflect on in your comment, control indeed has a powerful effect on our health etc as you say. Joy would be a much better choice with equally powerful effects!

  82. It is deeply empowering and life changing to come to a place where you truly know and can embrace the fact that each moment is a choice to either connect to the joy within, or give our power to and be controlled by the seriousness outside of ourselves.

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