Organising my Home – Choosing Order over Complexity

I have always loved watching nature documentaries as it never ceases to amaze me how innately in tune animals live with the land, the weather and with one another.  Recently I watched a documentary of a lion hunt where the level of coordination and organisation between the lions inspired me to look at my own orderliness, or as it happened, lack thereof.

In the documentary, three lions teamed up to hunt down a zebra drinking at a water hole. They organised themselves into a triangular arrangement, surrounding the zebra, and waited. For many hours the lions shifted their positions subtly and methodically, communicating with each other silently.

They appeared to be very well ordered and disciplined in how they worked as a group.

Eventually, when the timing was just right, one of the lions pounced and they got their dinner. It seemed to me their success depended on their ability to carry out the hunt with a high degree of order and precision. Without that, there was no guarantee of success, therefore no food, and therefore no more lions.

I decided to ponder on the level of order and structure I have had throughout my life.

I realised that growing up, my bedroom was always a mess. I had a chair in the corner that became a dumping pile for clothes not clean enough to return to the cupboard, but not yet dirty enough to put in the laundry. My wardrobe was also a mess, stuffed with clothes and shoes. Nothing was neat and tidy; I had no discipline in putting things where they should go.

I still seemed to know where everything was though, so I prided myself on living in organised chaos. But honestly, I felt quite messy, muddled and busy whenever I was in my room. I actually did love having a tidy room, when everything fitted into my drawers and cupboards, and I loved being able to see straight away where everything was.

Fortunately, every few months I was ordered by my parents to clean up my room. We always argued about it, but in the end I would spend half a day tidying it up.

I remember how wonderful and refreshing a tidy, orderly room felt, and I too felt open and clear in my thinking.

In those moments, I knew that the bravado at living with ‘organised chaos’ was rubbish and my parents knew I knew it too! I eventually felt grateful for being given the opportunity to feel how lovely tidiness, organisation and order are, instead of mess, chaos and clutter.

So what else happens when I am living an ordered life?

  • My life flows
  • My emotions feel stable and in balance
  • There is less that can surprise me (surprises take away my steadiness)
  • I am truly comforted because my surroundings support me
  • I feel no anxiety – the more organised and ready I am, the more equipped I feel to handle what life brings.

As an adult now with my own house, I know what it feels like when I clean out the linen cupboard, pantry, shoe rack, cutlery draw, shed, desk, or weed the garden. It feels amazing, and I feel 12 feet tall!

I have discovered that it is actually not hard to keep it this way, it just takes commitment and discipline to live like this, founded simply upon feeling how lovely it feels to be in a tidy and organised home.

I have come to realise that I am disturbed by disharmony, just like the lions, and that I like organising my home, choosing order over complexity.

I continue to be inspired and grateful to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for reminding me how to live simply with order in my life.

By Suzanne Anderssen, Brisbane

Further Reading:
Clearing Out the Clutter – The Room at the Back of the House
Simplicity
De-cluttering my Flat and Life: A Forever Deepening Amazingness

926 thoughts on “Organising my Home – Choosing Order over Complexity

  1. I find that the tidiness of my home is a direct reflection of my level of commitment to myself and life. When it is messy I hate it but there are times when I find it pretty difficult to do anything about. Then I know I’ve really lost the plot and its time to make some very different choices. A tidy, harmonious home on the other hand, feels supportive and magical.

  2. Suzanne, I love that feeling of tidying up and everything in it’s place and you’re right I am more easily unbalanced when I don’t have that support behind me. So more decluttering is now called for, I can feel the expansiveness it offers.

  3. It’s so true Suzanne. I too feel wonderfully refreshed after a good tidy up and or clean out and thoroughly enjoy the feeling of order and space that comes from doing it – it literally does clear your head and thought processes. I am also realising that if this how great we feel after cleaning up our home or workplace then applying this same principle of cleaning out and letting go of our old patterns and emotional hurts would work the same way and lighten the load of unnecessary issues we carry around with us too.

  4. I find it increasingly difficult to operate within any disorder. I used to always be surrounded by clutter and unfinished projects and I used to somehow be able to work with this but as I have gradually brought more order into every part of my life, I have noticed how difficult it is to do anything at all if there is an unresolved mess or simply a pile of papers undealt with which causes a tension within me. As soon as everything is tidy once more, I feel a gorgeous spaciousness in my body. Why accept a tension when I can have this?

  5. Harmony is our environment is very powerful, as is disharmony. But it is something that exists within us that is reflected in our envrionment and that we can express there. The mess in my room when I was growing up was revealling of how I was feeling inside.

  6. Thank you Suzanne for your blog, it is a reminder to me of how much I love order and simplicity in my life. I have had redecorating going on in my home for a period of time which has made me feel unsettled, it is only a matter of time when I can restore order out of the chaos.

  7. “I have come to realise that I am disturbed by disharmony, just like the lions, and that I like organising my home, choosing order over complexity.” I agree Suzanne – I’d choose order and simplicity over complexity every time and this is a timely read as I’m moving into my home soon and it’s going to be a great opportunity to clear out what no longer belongs and set it up in a way that feels spacious and simple and truly supportive.

  8. Yes Suzanne I agree, clearing our clutter certainly creates space, not only in our surroundings but also within us, this in turn brings simplicity and harmony to our way of living.

  9. ‘I have discovered that it is actually not hard to keep it this way, it just takes commitment and discipline to live like this, founded simply upon feeling how lovely it feels to be in a tidy and organised home.’ The spaciousness that has come in my life from developing detail and order is so freeing, and the feeling of forever ‘chasing my tail’ has disappeared, as the day feels complete.

  10. I love the simplicity and harmony felt in the home when I choose order, and the times when I drop the ball and the house becomes untidy or messy I find it harder to be steady and clear – choosing order is a great way to support ourselves and everyone else in the home.

  11. Nature is a great leader and an inspirational teacher in what ever subject you need a lesson on. I do function better in order, simplicity, and things in alignment and beauty. There is a routine and structure with timely respect to my way of life. These all help to not restrict, but free me.

  12. Suzanne, I can really relate to this. When I am a little chaotic in my thoughts I find that when i tidy up a part of my environment it is very settling for me as it brings me back to me. I cannot live in chaos and clutter now -I love simplicity and order.

  13. What I appreciate most about your article Suzanne is how you were able to make changes in your life from the simplicity of what nature has to offer. I see nature as an awesome learning opportunity from god

  14. Order over complexity any day. The state of our home is a reflection of our own steadiness and stillness so keeping it tidy, clear and organised is just another one of life’s ways of giving us feedback on how we’re living on a daily basis. Once we have felt how it is to live in complexity and chaos by comparison, from there it’s then our very own choice how, when and whether we deploy the commitment and discipline needed to maintain a quality of orderliness and tidiness that truly supports us.

  15. I know for me in the past my observations of my teenage children was that when they were in their heads with study be it school or uni pressure and expectations and their busy chaotic social lives their environments, their bathroom, bedroom and their cars reflected the way they were feeling. If I was to ask them to clean up during this time it just didn’t happen, if I cleaned up for them the mess was recreated very quickly. At the end of each term or semester once the pressure of exams and study lifted they naturally felt the relief and relaxed and re connected with their bodies they automatically couldn’t stand the chaos of their own environment and would clean it up.

  16. I love it when an order gets organically formed in response to what the moment is called for. When they get cemented as the definitive orders or rules as they often end up being in our society they feel constrictive and limiting and many of us react against them, but what I feel is that if each and every one of us was capable of being responsible consistently and constantly there probably wouldn’t have to be any need for enforced orders.

  17. When I see mess around me, it feels like I am surrounded by the residue of what has not been completed from yesterday, last month, a moment ago – which makes sense how it would affect the way I feel. This definitely feels like an area I would like to bring more refinement. Thank you for the inspiration, Suzanne.

  18. Ive recently realised how much disorder I’ve been living with and how living like this creates disharmony. In realising this I’ve found out how beautiful it feels to live an ordered life.

  19. Thank you Suzanne for sharing, I find if I don’t take care of things at the time, like putting things away when I have finished with them, or stopping for a moment to pull out the couple of weeds I see in the garden as I walk by, life starts to become out of order and this messiness leaves me feeling very unsettled in my self. When order is again restored I feel a sense of ease fullness and spaciousness around my home and within me.

  20. I love how cleaning out our spaces provides us with more opportunities for growth and clarity. Having recently cleaned out our study to see how amazing it is to have a clear and clean place to work feels awesome.

  21. This is the second blog I have read this morning about clearing clutter out and having more order in the home, I can feel how this is something I am being supported to change in my home as well. I agree Suzanne when the home is not in order it can feel disharmonious and brings in complications – time to bring more order and enjoy the spaciousness and clarity that this brings.

  22. A couple of nights ago I decided to clear away almost everything of my kitchen work top, leaving just the bare minimum and put away everything off that had accumulated on other surfaces. I felt so much lighter and content with how the space then felt that I’m going to tackle more this weekend.

  23. Growing up I could never understand why my now deceased mother would have us moving the furniture in the living room a couple of times a year, and then a couple of weeks later it would go back to where it was originally. Now it makes sense that it was the feeling of clarity that came with the deep clean which she could feel and felt was missing in her life. I now have the same appreciation for when furniture is pulled away from it’s usual position, so that the space can be cleaned thoroughly and the furniture replaced.

  24. I love cleaning when I am in connection with myself. The quality of how an area feels once you have done it in this way, brings such clarity to everything. It just feels beautiful. Its like a welcome invitation to our hearts.

  25. The world can impose on a person, that to be consistent, ordered, organised and committed to the way one lives, run’s their home and life is perfectionistic and unhealthy, What is important to me is to stay connected to is the quality of being I am in as I live and bring this ordered way of living to each moment and allow it to magnify and expand into every moment of my being. This can be carried over to the how and when I choose to start and finish the day, what Is eaten and how it is prepared, interactions with others – everything is a reflection and so bringing this to the whole of our lives and not allowing ‘Parts’ or ‘areas’ to develop where one one moment one is clear, ordered and flowing and the next is in chaos. To even consider the tiniest transitions from one moment or way into the next supports the ‘whole’. Returning to this blog has allowed space to deepen and bring more awareness to what is possible in the livingness of our lives.

  26. Being tidy and organised at home is, I agree Suzanne, very supportive and harmonious.
    Your blog is a gentle reminder for me to not become obsessive or controlling as to how I feel the house should be, very revealing!!

  27. Yes I had that piled high chair with numerous clothes on, not dirty enough to wash again yet not clean enough to put away. Just another excuse to not fold, replace and hang up. A ‘I’ll do it another day’ opt out. Just an excuse which then grows and expands into my everyday living. Reading this today Suzanne I still have that chair and yes sometimes piled with clothes but, on the clear days, when all folded and put in their place there is certainly more flow, and clarity to my day. Now to look into my wardrobe. That chair will always serve as a reminder of where I am at as disorder does bring about disharmony.

  28. Whilst I’ve read this post before, I’m still shocked at how identical my life has been to yours Suzanne. I did exactly the same thing growing up, and man did I pride myself on knowing where everything was. I’d even argue that when things were in order, I couldn’t find anything. It’s taken for me to be in my 30’s before really committing to order. I’ve always been an organised person, but always in a world of chaos, hence my anxiety has always driven the organisation rather than it coming from a place of calm. I love being in a neat and tidy space, it feels sooo much more open. It requires some discipline for me however, as the urge to want to be lazy and not put stuff away is often there.

  29. I too get effected by disharmony and it is lovely now to create an orderly home/life but much more in support of me and those around me than out of a need or drive “to look good”.

  30. When my space is ordered and tidy, I am not trying to escape from it and be somewhere else in my mind, I love being present in that space.

  31. Thank you Suzanne for offering me a ‘parental prompt’ to bring order to my surroundings. I know how lovely it feels when all is in its place but I have a habit of allowing ‘stuff’ to accumulate waiting for my attention and this causes a constant tension that my ‘stuff’ needs dealing with.

  32. Thank you Suzanne, I enjoyed reading your article, I love order and having everything in its place, it gives me a sense of spaciousness and harmony, the times when things get busy and things become untidy I can feel an agitation and sense of un rest. I am about to face my cupboard that needs to be put in order once again.

  33. Very interesting to read your blog whilst I am in the middle of a reconstruction / make over of my kitchen and the whole floor where I live. For three weeks I am living in a mess so to speak. Furniture and other stuff piled up in other rooms. What happened? Two things. I made a new order within the disorder. A new way of living with the essential things around be. A sort of ‘keep it super simple’ life style. A natural need and inclination to do so. And…..as the make over is taking much more time, the constellation of my house (disorder) is affecting me on a deeper level. As if my foundation is also going through a make over ánd feeling the un-easiness of not having the (new) order yet. I can’t find things, forget things, loose things…. I can feel it affects other areas as well. So….I am looking very much forward to my new order in my living room.

  34. The world puts so much emphasis on the intellect and the mental activity as one of the success indicators in life, doing well in exams, academic pursuits etc, and in this there is very little importance placed on basic things like the order around us… and many (who are not in their heads) instinctively know that to bring order and harmony, rhythms to our lives, brings a deeper sense of awareness and understanding of life – but this is lost to the average mentally-driven intellectual academic… but at some level many do know that something is missing from their equation, only their very intellect and mind is what is refusing to let them go there and truly understand. I have heard said that the worst prisons to be in are the ones you don’t know that you’re in, and this I have discovered to be true.

  35. It takes a lot of energy to function in a mess –not just because it’s harder to find things but because it reflects chaos to the body and makes it harder for the body to deeply rest. I’ve noticed for example, if the kitchen bench is clean that people are more likely to clean up after themselves but if it is messy then it encourages people to add to the mess and it’s harder to summon the energy to clean it up. It reflects a certain given-upness which can bring others down. Order on the other hand is uplifting and, as you say Suzanne, ‘my life flows’ and ‘my surroundings support me’.

    1. Order is uplifting. I have been living in my house now for five weeks, while my kitchen with the whole living area is being redone. This means a state of chaos and disorder. I started to notice that if I don’t create an order within the disorder, it effects me. So although it is still quite a ‘situation’ in my house, wherever I can, I make sure it is constellated orderly …..with a boquet of roses on the table amidst the plastics 🙂

  36. Dear Suzanne that was interesting to read your amazing blog because I am a person who was always ordered – even when I was young. For me it is not easy to understand why it is so difficult to put things back if we do not need them anymore. I love the order because it makes life very simple. There is something more beautiful in the order and you mentioned it: “I remember how wonderful and refreshing a tidy, orderly room felt . . . ” YES!

  37. How lovely to feel the change in energy when we sort out and tidy our own homes. There is a sense of accomplishment and pleasure in looking at and living with the changes we make in our environment. Inspired to do more clearing through your sharing Suzanne, thank you.

    1. I agree Roslyn, different areas of my house come to mind, which I need to re-visit. I too love the support I feel I give myself if I keep things ordered, lovingly.

  38. I have been (acting) chaotic and anxious most of my life and I realize that because of this I have made things more complex than they actually are. I used to believe that I am just not equipped to have order and discipline in my life. Now I realize that it is a choice I can make and commit to and that I can simply choose order over complexity. And having myself believe that I can’t might be just a way to escape having to organize my life. Thank you Suzanne.

  39. All of us are affected by the order or disorder of objects that surround us equally so, some people are onto this and can even go overboard to control the order in the environment around them while others become numb to the influence the disorder has even though most people will admit it feels better once order has been brought to disorder. There is of course a healthy middle ground- and healthy is the operative word here – who would have known before Serge Benhayon said it and gave it context that everything in our lives is either harming or healing and as far as health goes everything is either good or bad medicine? That every aspect of life is medicine including the order of objects around us is remarkable, we all have a sense of this but I know until I heard someone else say it I was not prepared to be honest that this is the case.

  40. It is incredibly powerful how order can support, some people are really on to this and don’t allow much disorder to accumulate and others can let it pile up, I also find it is something that can be refined. Such as something can have a place and be put in its place but the placement and angle might be disordered i.e. like tangled headphone wires. Or letting a clean pile of washing sit for longer than needed and telling myself I am ‘prioritising’ something else but this does not add up and is a symptom of underlying anxiousness and lack of presence when what is before us to be done is left to ‘pile up’.

    1. I relate very well to the something that is not in the right placement and angle Deanne! Many times I put my bra away or a pair of shoes away and if I place it in the cupboard without presence or connection to me, as I go to walk away, I am stopped, and I just ‘have’ to go back and fix the item into it’s ‘right’ position! It’s kind of funny, but a really strong marker how with myself I am as I go about the house.

  41. I agree with you Suzanne, order brings clarity. I have always been able to create physical order around me and yet this contrasts with the muddle in my head and your blog makes me realise that a big broom is needed to clear the clutter that resides there. Being in my presence every moment of the day I know is the answer. When I let thoughts and worries accumulate I simply stockpile rubbish unnecessarily. It is time to de-clutter.

  42. Yes Suzanne, it is the same for me too – “…that I like organising my home, choosing order over complexity.” I like it the same, a clear, uncluttered, tidy and harmonious space where I am at one with my self and everyone that enters my space.

  43. “I have discovered that it is actually not hard to keep it this way, it just takes commitment and discipline to live like this, founded simply upon feeling how lovely it feels to be in a tidy and organised home”.
    It certainly does feel lovely living in an organised and tidy home. Like you Suzanne I feel the disharmony and anxiousness when order at home is in disarray.
    I have learnt that this order and tidiness needs to come from a place of gentleness, tenderness, self love and support rather than just completing tasks and it looking “nice”.

    1. Shirl, you’ve made a good point here that order comes from within and does not have the same quality if it is imposed from some idea of neatness or tidiness. For example, when you have children it is not possible to keep a place tidy but the ‘mess’ has a very different quality when they are enjoying an activity that they are fully focussed on as against when they are working in disharmony. Stopping to put things away can even help bring them back to a sense of order within.

    2. I love what you bring in here Shirl; the tidiness needs to come from a place of gentleness, tenderness and self-love and support rather than just completing tasks so it looks ‘nice’ and we may get acceptance and recognition. The first one is feeding us back all the time, nourishing us, the latter is draining us endlessly.

    3. That’s an important thing to note Shirl. I do have a tendency to go the extra mile if I am expecting visitors. I catch myself doing this often and ask myself why I wouldn’t simply do this for myself first, then there would never be any need to rush around ‘tidying up’, because I’ve looked after myself, my place and my things naturally.

      1. How cool to expose this one Elodie, the tidying up so many (usually) women do before visitors come. The question why wouldn’t I do this for myself first and foremost, is important to see if there is an answer; could it be a self worth issue …

      2. This is great Elodie, I used to do the same thing where I would clean my space more thoroughly when there were visitors than when I was on my own, it was very exposing of the lack of self-worth and the images I had about how others should see me. I can truly say now this has all changed and now I enjoy order and cleanliness in my daily rhythm.

  44. “I remember how wonderful and refreshing a tidy, orderly room felt, and I too felt open and clear in my thinking.” I know this very well Suzanne. It is hard to get anything done when areas of the house are disordered. I absolutley love going into a room when I have decluttered, cleaned and reorganised everything. It is like a breath of fresh air wafting through the room and I love how it feels. There is such clarity and the light is able to reflect directly off objects and bounce around the room in a way that it couldn’t before because of the disorder and neglect. The order brings harmony and a stillness not only to the room, but to those who enter it.

    1. I agree Sandra, when my home is in order I feel in order and the harmony and stillness is there. When I am going away I especially like to leave my home in a way that it is open, clear and uncluttered, a beautiful space to return to as the world often takes me out and home brings me back. I now have a much clearer understanding of being in connection with self and how not being connected can be reflected in the space around me.

      1. Absolutley ch1956. Our suroundings are really a great reflection of how we choose to be connected with ourselves or not.

  45. My dad had a catch phrase at home when we were growing up, “a place for everything and everything in its place” This was often cited in an effort to get us to keep things tidy and put things back where we got them from. Needless to say many accumulated hours were spent in the frustration of looking for things that were not where they should have been. Living with a sense of order, a knowing that everything is in its ‘right place’, clean, tidy, clutter free, simplifies life and creates an ease and harmony, a lightness that then flows through our body .

    1. My boyfriend has a similar saying for me. Put things back instead of away. It is translated from Dutch, so I don’t know if it cathches the essence in English. Bottomline is that everything has it’s place, so put it back where it belongs instead of just somewhere. It gives a special feeling to put things back where they belong. It feel like completing a circle. Still work in progress, but very worthwhile to go for.

      1. This is great Caroline, and yes, it does catch the same essence in English! To put things back where they belong rather than away anywhere is such a simple way of putting it. I am really inspired by this little comment and shall remember it next time I go to use something ; )

      2. Caroline, how simple is that, but it does feel huge. And it feels like a completion. Worth pondering on and adhering to.

      3. Agree Caroline. An absolute work in progress for me too! I’m still working on making my bed each day.

  46. I always find how the state of my home, bedroom or car is, is a reflection of how I feel on the inside. If my bedroom is disorderly then I also feel disorderly and discombobulated. As you have so beautifully shared the difference is remarkable when we choose to care for and organise the environment we live in, our sanctuary.

    1. Absolutely Vanessa – I totally appreciate your comment. When I find that I am becoming unordered in our home, in my car or at work I have to question how I am handling my life as a whole – is there something going on under the surface that I am not allowing myself to be aware of? This can be a great indicator that I am not making choices to stay in a natural state of harmony and then returning order and harmony to my surroundings can be so supportive in making different choices in my life.

  47. I still find I let life and issues get in the way of simply doing what needs to get done in terms of organising my home. I feel that it reflects the lack of worth I feel in myself and the mindset I’ve had for many years that I’m just here for others – so I don’t take time just for me. Great to read your blog, thank you.

  48. “As an adult now with my own house, I know what it feels like when I clean out the linen cupboard, pantry, shoe rack, cutlery draw, shed, desk, or weed the garden. It feels amazing, and I feel 12 feet tall!” I agree Suzanne. Life flows and there is simplicity in the ordering and tidying up of things – something I am still working on.

  49. Thanks so much Suzanne this is a great blog for me to read and re-read, for the foreseeable future at least,as I still fall into the organised chaos category from time to time and it doesn’t feel nice and never did. It is that constant,committment and dedication to life that I stumble with but am working on.

  50. I recall as a young boy loving organising and ordering my room – some days I would measure everything and scale the furniture in my room on to graph paper – moving the shapes around and getting the next plan for my room organised ready for action. It would take me all day I loved it and I loved how it felt. These days I don’t rearrange on such a grand scale with regularity but I love to have everything in a certain place, it supports me to know exactly what is where. This is loving and harmonious for me and for those that live with me.

  51. Hi Suzanne, I felt like you were talking about me when you spoke about how your room was when you were younger, that chair of clothes not dirty enough for the wash and not clean enough for the cardboard, it cracked me up. I have gotten heaps better since I was young but I still have not nailed it in the clean and tidy department. I would love to know if you struggled like I have? I have 5 kids and I am a Mum now, so there is certainly no one to tell me to clean my room but I tend to keep my wardrobe clean for a period of a few weeks but then it slowly slips back to chaos. I love the feeling of a clean but seem to be unable to have it last? Any tips please feel free to comment below

  52. It is remarkable that our private domain (room, house) is usually pretty messy. What is this telling us? That we live in a way that we need to find relief from it constantly. We live in a way that segments our life between faces (the private face, the public one). We live in deep disregard in and out. Realizing that is about relief is a great starting point to start questioning how we live. Our disregard feeds this way of living. Embracing order provides you a foundation to live differently paying attention to details of how things affect us.

    1. Great comment Eduardo, it is disregard when we neglect the very place that is designed to support us and offer us a sanctuary that we can come home to and feel nurtured by. Really then it is also an expose of our lack of self worth when we let things go and shows where we are at. I’m very good at always having a messy pile or corner that needs attention, almost like a relief pile. It feels like I sabotage the supportive environment I could otherwise be enjoying.

  53. Oh yeah you are talking my language. I love a clean and ordered home. When I have got caught up in work and have things out of place I find it hard to sleep at night because the order hasn’t been there in my day and it feels like I am letting things close in on top of me. I love that feeling of when there is order and everything is clean and in its place.

  54. order and complexity.. oh how my room was so similar to the room that you described as a teenager. I feel like it always reflected the mess that I was living within my head and I now look around at my home and am so appreciative of how far i’ve come and how much love I have for myself in keeping my home clean and tidy.

  55. I also love order over complexity and like you Suzanne feel the disharmony when there is chaos and disorder.
    I enjoy the constant, rhythmical feeling of order rather than the occasional and spasmodic cleanups.
    Thank you for the reminder and the confirmation.

  56. My house is quite tidy even though I live with my three kids and a dog. I have gotten used to it being Off course there are moment that things get a bit messy but I can never allow for it for too long as I get restless. Reading your blog made me stop to appreciate the energy of my house and the regard we have for it, it is our foundation and it’s very supporting indeed.

  57. Having just read your blog and the comments, there is cupboard that needs my attention and I’m going to see to it now. Thanks for the inspiration Suzanne.

  58. I love the feeling of coming home to a place that I have left nice and tidy. I notice when things start to get messy its because I am feeling too tired or I’m out of my natural rhythm. Looking at how I keep my home is a great way of observing how I am doing.

  59. I love creating order out of chaos, It feels amazing to have everything in its place, and once its there the room and house feels amazing. I use to have a bedroom as you described as a teenager, I had a laugh as I read it. Thank you Suzanne a great reminder of how important creating order in all aspects of our life is, and how it affects our day to day.

  60. Order is something I also love and tidying up when things feel a little off or unsettled is a lovely way for me to regather, come back to me and to feel clear again.

  61. I feel exposed by your blog Suzanne and inspired. I love order to and I am much more ordered than ever before in my life. But I can tell that it’s always as if I’m testing myself. If I do really well, I’m creating (a little) extra chaos and am telling myself then that I can’t do it, can’t handle it. Where as you’re sharing, it just takes commitment and listening to yourself, rather than listening to the voice that says that I can’t do it. While writing I can feel the choice, listening to my heart which is still and letting me choose or listen to my mind that is telling me that I can’t do it… So here’s the choice…

  62. I can totally relate Suzanne. I too like to be surrounded by order and a clean home. I find it only takes a moment to create this space and often when the space isn’t in order or tidy, I can see raceyness reflected back at me. Creating order does take committment and time but I find it creates such a supportive environment and allows other moments around it to flow.

  63. For me my house reflects how I am, so when areas in my house are a chaos, then there areas in my life I need to look at. And it does not matter if it is in sight or not, you can still feel when an area is draining or you feel restless by walking in to the house or passing certain cupboards. Especially with a family it can be a challenge, but there is so much to learn about the relationship between our self and the house we live in.

      1. That is beautiful Katinka “When we choose to feel and see the chaos, without criticism, we give ourselves an opportunity to do something about it.”
        And I agree, when we criticise ourself about the chaos we cannot clearly see what is is showing us. I myself have to keep practicing this, work in progress 🙂

  64. Some great comments here on how paying attention to the little things makes such a difference, just tidying a cluttered corner feels great, as we let go of our mental clutter too. I love Suzanne’s line: ‘the more organised and ready I am, the more equipped I feel to handle what life brings.’ So true.

    1. Yes Carmel, I like to tackle one part of the house at a time. It might just be a cupboard or a drawer that needs sorting, but the feeling it leaves me with is priceless. I feel lighter and clearer in my head.

  65. “I remember how wonderful and refreshing a tidy, orderly room felt, and I too felt open and clear in my thinking.” Very true Suzanne. I am currently doing an online de-cluttering course and the difference I am feeling is tremendous. Going through drawers and cupboards and clearing out un-needed and unwanted stuff is liberating.

  66. I can totally relate to this. How much the state of my bedroom reflected the state of my teenage apathy and lack of care for anything! And If I am run off my feet and busy then the state of the house starts showing me I am not taking care of myself and feeling the pressure rather than being just in the flow and on top of things. There is so much we can read from something like this. These days if my office desk is messy I cant even start work until its perfectly organised!

  67. I’m feeling very aware that the magic felt from some ‘order’ doesn’t just apply to the inside of the house. It’s very easy to neglect the outside areas, once the front door is closed we can think it doesn’t matter if we can’t see it. That’s just an illusion, any disregard is harming us whether we look at it all the time or not. I’ve been feeling some heaviness as I drive into my house and I know it’s because I’ve been neglecting to take care of our beautiful garden. Time for some ‘outside’ TLC.

  68. I have been feeling very anxious about a situation that is totally out of my control and I have found it so supportive to feel the order I’ve started to bring into my home. Seeing all the plastic containers neatly stacked by size, with their lids!, made me appreciate that the love that I’ve been bringing into my home, through taking the time to lovingly create this order, is feeding me back. It sounds like such a simple thing, but just seeing the order that I’d created and touching the plastic, brought me back to the hear and now, to what’s important and it really does help to ease the anxiety.

  69. Thank you Suzanne, an organised and tidy home makes a huge difference to how we are able to live. I find that when the house is tidy, I am much clearer in myself, and I am able to make more loving choices.

  70. I can relate to being proud of “living in an organized chaos”, and also having rediscovered the absolute pleasure of having everything in order, and a place for each thing. I now continually dedicate time every day to tidy up, to decide things that should go and things that need a better place to live in. It might seem trivial, but actually it is essential for me, it gives me the space and the joy I need to have around, and not only me, I always think of people visiting and how much better they will feel.

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  71. It’s true Suzanne, but for many years I would not have believed you. I felt that chaos was a natural way of living, usually just winging it. But it actually is a way of not having to feel things that don’t feel right because all your attention is around dealing with the chaos and having to checkout mentally to ignore the disharmony of the disorder all around. What I didn’t realise was just how much the distraction that chaos provides actually was bringing me down and making me feel worse so that I’d want to shut it out even more. Now I am slowly bringing order to the chaos, and hugely enjoying the support that this brings back to me. And that support allows me to grow in awareness and in ways I would not have imagined before.

    1. Wow, Annie, you’ve shone a light on a common strategy – and how bizarre to create chaos to avoid feeling and then having to check-out further to ignore the chaos.
      What a lot of energy we waste in such behaviours.

  72. Susanne, I have always loved order and the clarity that it brings,even as a young girl I felt how order affected my life, but up until I met Serge Benhayon, my order was an up and down order, I was either super tidy and organised or things would start to slide. I never held this state of being. It was a reflection of my life in every way.
    Since meeting Serge I now have an order that flows, I look around and see the changes I have made and how now there is a natural order that is consistent in my life , another reflection of committment building and learning to appreciate that consistancy.

  73. Suzanne I was drawn to visit your blog once again and found it to be confirming by inspiration. I find I am able to more easily find that stillness within when my surroundings have some order, and by budgetting my time and energy output the resultant feeling of harmony when I have managed a ‘de-cluttering’ appointment with myself is so worth it.
    I have another appointment with myself this morning to attend to some of which cannot be seen on the surface – in those places that one puts off until another day. I feel the celebration and the joyful feeling of de-cluttering is coupled by that feeling of harmony and stillness within. What a lovely place to be.

  74. Spot on, Suzanne – to know I have an overview and know where everything is and that it is tidy and clean – is absolutely supportive and a big brick in my foundation of daily living.
    This does not mean that it does not happen that things get unordered – but this is a sign to me, something is going on in my daily rhythm which either needs to be sorted out our is an disturbance form outside.

  75. It has been beautiful receiving photos of Susanne’s land being prepared for there new home, each time I look at the pictures I see such an attention to detail in the ground work, this is very inspiring to watch. You are building from the foundations up. This home will be amazing.

  76. Order and simplicity allows great clarity. There is True Joy for me in finding a place for everything and living in harmony with natural order.

  77. I couldn’t agree with you more Suzanne, ‘I have come to realise that I am disturbed by disharmony, just like the lions, and that I like organising my home, choosing order over complexity.’ My home feels so different and i feel so different when my home is ordered and tidy, I grew up with a really messy bedroom and would also leave my mess around the house, now if I do that it feels awful, I love the house feeling tidy with everything in its place, I feel so much more clear, steady and calm when i have made the commitment and taken the time to tidy and order my house, it feels like a very loving thing to do.

  78. I also agree with you Suzanne, especially right after I have cleaned my rooms, the energy in the rooms has changed completely and it feels so nice and supportive, when everything is clean and in order.

  79. I had what I called ‘a lifeline pile’ for years, as I little by little decluttered my home and regularly took it off to the various charities. I only realise now at the same time I was actually’ decluttering’ myself on the inside. These days my home reflects the order I feel with myself and there is a sense of space today that wasn’t there before.

  80. I don’t think I have ever seen any image of the animal world in chaos. Even when there is chaos happening around them they seem to simply do what is needed to support themselves.

  81. Yes living simply with order and cleanliness…I find this super supportive too for all areas of my life.

  82. It’s true, I have always felt better and more able to do the things I want to do when there is order and harmony in my house. It feels so spacious when everything is where it should be. I have noticed that I feel more lovely within myself too.

    1. Yes Amanda, it’s not just spacious on the outside, it seems to create space within us too and everything flows more easily.

  83. I love all that you offer in this article Suzanne, This has been my experience as well, the more tidy and orderly my home is the better supported I feel throughout my day and night. The care, time and as you say the loving discipline and consideration I put into keeping things tidy (not perfect) but tidy and in order is so worth it as it continuously feeds you back.

  84. As without, so within as they say. I also find these little parts of the house that I look at and go, wow I’ve really let that go. Each time these spots are reclaimed it make a difference to how the whole house feels.

    1. So totally relate to that Joel! its a great reflection of how I am going and if I’m just managing to get through or really on top of things. If I’m struggling – the fist thing I do is clean and tidy and it makes such a difference!

      1. wow – i feel you’ve unlocked something quite big for me here Simon with your sharing around how you address any struggling with cleaning and tidying . I am putting this to the test for myself!

  85. Keeping our home environment tidy creates a nurturing space that is lovely to come home to after a busy day. When I’m feeling low, the state of my house reflects this so a few minutes tidying and cleaning can make a big difference.

    1. I find this timely to be reading this blog and your comment Carmel – and feel now that a little of the overwhelm-ness presently felt is as a result of my not factoring into my rhythm the time nor space to address those things in my home/cupboard/car and mind that are not providing the evidence of a clutter-free environment. Wow! I can hardly wait for the rest of the day to unfold – for today is the day I get back on track, realizing it it up to me to choose my uncluttered environment.

    2. I do exactly the same. I give myself a few minutes, I even say ‘now tidy up 20 things’ and that in itself makes such a difference. I do it now before I leave my work desk (I work from home) and go down to cook. The tendency to leave the desk as it is, is there, but…..it’s worth it to leave it tidied up. You should see the smile on my face when I walk in the next day 🙂

      1. I love the joy and lightness that can be felt in your comment Caroline. It really inspired me to deepen the joy, lightness and enjoyment around those “tidy up moments” already integrated in my rhythm. From there I can feel how it becomes so much easier to build up in my family rhythm the other “tidy up, clean up or declutter moments” that are needed however not fully honoringly attended to as yet.

      2. I too have found those few extra moments making sure everything is set up ready to go for the next day’s work so supportive. I love how it feels like a welcoming hug when I walk back into my workspace to start work again the next morning.

    3. Yes Carmel, I too have noticed that if I am feeling down, then just a simple tidying task like putting away the clean clothes or tidying my bedside table, can really lift my mood, and with a clearer space I can have clearer thoughts.

    4. So spot on Carmel. I can always tell how I am actually doing during the week if my room, office, car or desk are not organised. I find if I pay attention to that, and make sure I keep things organised and have everything set up well to support me – the week just flows so much better.

      1. I’ve noticed the same Simon, I know when things are not so great by the state of my flat. When I am on top of everything, my flat feels ordered and spacious and when I’ve been struggling I start to feel suffocated by the encroaching mess around me.

    5. I can so relate to this Carmel. When my house is in a muddle I can find it very hard to motivate myself and can easily go into overwhelm because there is so much to do and I don’t know where to start. But by keeping things tidied and orderly I can feel how my body is so much more open and spacious and I can get so much done. It really does feel as though my energy gets stuck when the house in untidy, whereas when everything is in its place, all else simply flows. And then, everything feels so much better.

    6. I also find having order at work very supportive for the ease and flow of my day and having clarity. It can be something as simple as filing things away where I know I will be able to find them again or de-cluttering the pen holder that can change the way myself and my desk feel.

    7. Yes Carmel, it’s true that the state of our house reflects our state of being. I can go for weeks with everything in its place and then suddenly it can seem hard to keep it tidy and the disorder usually starts when I’m tired or not connected to myself and then a stubborn part of me can’t be bothered putting things away and my normal commitment to order melts away. Once I clock this, order is quickly restored, or if I have trouble coming back, actually tidying up, as you say Carmel, will help me to reconnect.

    8. Agreed Carmel, it always amazes me the difference it makes to my day when I take the time to tidy up and move things around the house in a way that is supportive, it can be something small but somehow it creates more space to be more.

    9. I find this a beautiful reminder Carmel, how when we create order in our lives then we can live harmoniously. I feel now the way that I keep my home and belongings really supports me to live my fullness. It was not so long ago that this was a foreign thing to me and I can really appreciate now how the way I lived with clutter and disorder was affecting my wellbeing.

  86. This is a wonderful suggestion…”ponder on the level of order and structure I have had throughout my life.” to enable me to clear this one…”anxiety – the more organised and ready I am, the more equipped I feel to handle what life brings.”

  87. Thank you Suzanne for this beautiful writing and I agree totally with you the more organised and ready I am, the more equipped I feel to handle what life brings.

  88. There is nothing I like more than having order and structure, and when needed a well-executed plan like the lions. What I love about the lion analogy is their focus and their ability to understand their environment, the animal they are hunting and that it takes more than just one to execute the plan, most of all their honouring of time and space and how simple and yet very powerful that can be. I love what you have written Suzanne, I strive to keep everything as ordered, clear and simple as I can nowadays, and like the lions keep focussed on the task at hand, and calling in support.

    1. I agree Margaret, having been clearing my house out now for over four years, after having three house moves and accumulating three households worth of belongs from my daughters and my now deceased mother – finally we are down to just our own things, and I am very strict about what comes in from other people. There’s still more to go but every time a load goes I feel so much freer in myself, and then I wait for the next clear out to be felt.

      1. Yes Julie, it is an interesting process isn’t it. For me I often come back from a Universal Medicine event, a session with a practitioner, or have processed some of my hurts and let them go through a process at home.I feel the need to clean up re arrange and de-clutter my home, work environment or my garden. A big one for me is my bowels feeling free to let go after I let go of disharmony and emotional clutter I have held in my body.

    2. this is my experience too Margaret – it is a continual process indeed, and one that I approach with a growing sense of joy and responsibility

      1. When my thought are cluttered and unclear or my desk at work becomes untidy I know I have gone into my head to much and need to reconnect with my body and feel into what is coming up for me once I work through that and with my solid steady foundation of the love that I am things become clear to me again.

      1. That’s true Christopher the more we evolve the simpler life becomes as I connect with my steady foundation of stillness and love I don’t to feel the busyness and heavy feeling of clutter around me.

  89. Suzanne, I love the serendipity of the fact I’ve chosen to read your blog. I’m in the middle of moving and packing and it’s been amazing to feel how much more organised and methodical I am this time (all packed and labelled) and how I love it. I’ve allowed myself space to do it and it feels great. And I’m now considering those other places where I have a bravado that says I am fine with mess where it might be, when in truth I’m not, I work better when my environment supports me, and that word you choose bravado describes that rebellion I know well, when something doesn’t work for me but I cling to it just to prove a point. More to look at, and that’s great.

  90. What you share is so true Suzanne. It always feels great to clear out the clutter and have a place for everything. There always seems to be more space to breath and less anxiousness.

    1. Yes Suzanne, clearing out the clutter certainly brings space into any home, and feels so fresh. When I see clutter I feel unresolvedness everywhere, lots of things left incomplete around the home like dirty laundry etc. No wonder we can feel overwhelmed when everything is a mess!

      1. That is so true Brendan, we create a delay with chaos and that is the anxiousness and nervousness in the body because I am not able to look after myself, and there is so much to do when things pile up. Could it be that the chaos is just reflecting us that we don’t care about ourselves enough as we should deeply and that tiding up is good therapy for ourselves?

      2. I agree Brendan. I was often ridiculed as a child for being the ‘perfectionist” when I chose to keep my room or home in later years clean and orderly. I never felt comfortable to share that I felt out of sorts if my work and living space reflected this. This blog is a great confirmation that living with regard in your space is what allows me to move will less anxiousness. It has helped me appreciated now the comments made by friends and work colleagues that my space feel so warm and inviting.

      3. Yes Brendan I agree with no clutter a space feels complete and spacious. I feel our houses also show a great reflection for how we are living within ourselves too. A great opportunity to check in with what’s really going on.

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