Self-Care, Self-Love and Nurturing in University

Studying for exams or tests can feel quite intense and stressful, however I have found that through making time to self-care, self-love, nurture and study in my own rhythm, studying can be much more fun, natural and easy.

In the past I have fallen for the belief that you have to focus only on your study in the exam period to achieve the best results, and this had a huge impact on how my body felt after the exams. I felt sadness, not because the exam did not go well, but because I could feel that the way I had studied was in disregard of my body.

I also felt tired – because I had pushed myself as I thought there was not enough time, and I did not always listen to the little signs when my body was asking me to stop and take a break or do something else for a moment.

It was also about the thoughts I allowed at times whilst studying, and how I treated myself. I would have thoughts such as “I will never pass this”’ and “I have not studied enough so I am very bad,” instead of feeling that I am a very tender, delicate, joyful woman who needs care, love and nurturing as my foundation, to then be able to do other things like studying without going into disregard for myself and my body.

After realising this I asked myself; can I study, care for, love and nurture myself at the same time? Wouldn’t this be a much greater way to study?

I have found that when I care for, love and nurture myself first and foremost, I can study in a way that is much more efficient and fun. I do not need to study long, arduous hours just to have read and be able to recall everything. Instead, I gain more of an understanding of what is important to remember for the exam by studying the things that are important and making sure I understand the bigger picture of what is being taught.

This is very powerful. I realised that when I am present with myself, as in not thinking about anything else while I am studying, I ‘just know’ what parts are important and I do not have to know every little detail and every page from the inside out to pass an exam.

In this way I am able to do so much more, in and besides my study, such as chatting with my family and friends, listening and dancing to some beautiful music or working in my job. This leaves me feeling alive and connected to people around me.

So, what are the simple self-caring, self-loving and nurturing things I choose to do to support me in this way?

  • I make sure I listen to my body, for example taking breaks before my mind feels foggy
  • Making sure I drink enough water throughout the day
  • I keep myself warm whilst studying, with tea and warm clothes (especially in winter)
  • Wearing clothes in which I feel beautiful and are comfortable at the same time, even if I am not going out that day
  • I eat foods I know will support me and prepare nourishing lunches to take with me to University
  • Going for a walk or choosing to exercise each day, as I find exercise and walking help me connect more deeply with my body
  • I make sure I create time to spend with other people, be it in the supermarket, with my family or with friends
  • I also love deeply caring for my body with warm showers with delicious douche gels and painting my nails in the colours I feel like
  • Going to bed when I feel tired and waking up early
  • Not studying in the evening as that makes it harder to sleep

Living in this way and going to the university is a world of difference from how I used to live and study. By taking care of myself first, I feel more solid in myself and am much more able to see the requirements of the university, and make a choice how to work with them.

The most important thing I find about living life and studying in University is knowing that everything is equally important, so that studying is as important as for instance exercising, cooking, spending time with friends, doing the dishes and spending time with myself.

In all this I find the way I am with myself is key to support me through University and life.

I am forever inspired by the teachings and presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, who taught me to first love and care for myself before doing anything else.

by Lieke van Haastrecht, 24, Student in Dentistry, Ghent, Belgium

Further reading:
Surviving University
How to Study without Stress… Yes!

 

628 thoughts on “Self-Care, Self-Love and Nurturing in University

  1. I never went to university, but wow I am amazed how unloving it can be with what I read and hear from others. It will be a hard nut to crack but certainly we need to start chipping away to find new, more loving ways to educate ourselves – ways that do not take us into so much disregard and exhaustion. Who ever decided that disregard and exhaustion was something people wanted!? Its no surprise that people are getting sicker. Listening to the presentations by Serge Benhayon has inspired me to know that there is a way of implementing Love into Education that is inspiring and fun.

  2. To know that everything is equally important in our lives is a little gem of wisdom as so often in the past I placed more importance in certain areas of my life and not on others….. well that created much struggle….. When I stay connected with my body, it becomes so much easier to bring quality of presence to all that I do. Thank you Leike for this awesome blog.

    1. I’ve found exactly the same thing jacqumcfadden04! As soon as I begin to place more focus on one area of my life more than another, things start to go out of balance and feel quite stressful and complicated. The key as you say, and for me too, is staying connected with my body, and to bring this presence into everything I do.

    2. Great observation jacqmcfadden04 and Lieke staying connected to our body naturally brings greater presence to all that we do and as you both share we come to see that everything in our life is equally important, all parts making up the whole.

  3. Lieke you have to tell all students about your amazing experience about studying a “little different”! It would make so much sense so that not all students get trapped in these old beliefs. I love it so much that you break this old consciousness and I love it too that you are not holding back to share it with the world. You are really a student of life and knowledge – you are a powerful role model – wunderbar.

  4. “I have found that when I care for, love and nurture myself first and foremost, I can study in a way that is much more efficient and fun”.
    What an inspiration your blog is for people gearing up for exams in both Year 12 and university; in fact any body exposed to exams. I have 4 grandchildren preparing for exams with varying levels of stress and anxiety. I have chatted to them all about caring for themselves during this time; sometimes the choices they make are certainly not self loving, efficient or fun. A lesson for me in understanding and allowing!

  5. When you write, “I felt sadness, not because the exam did not go well, but because I could feel that the way I had studied was in disregard of my body”, it reminded me of the time when I used to feel an enormous loss after any big project that had come to an end. The project not being part of my life anymore used to bring up feelings of devastation because I had so completely identified with what I was doing, had been so totally focussed on getting it done and then there was the huge emptiness of not having that in my life anymore.

  6. Self care is paramount no matter what environment or situation you are in on a day to day basis and the state your body is in will determine the quality of what ever task or job you are required to perform

  7. To focus on only learning or working is not enough it might give your grade marks or more money but if your are not connected with how your body feels and able to connect to other people, to be open and loving, than you set yourself up for depression and exhaustion or other diseases.

  8. It is definitely worth challenging the current way that education is promoted in university, because it seems to go hand in hand with being neglectful of oneself at the needs of the university to show its own success, after which the student is expected to go out in to the world with their qualification and continue in the university’s claimed achievement, but when does the student’s well being become the paramount important subject? And what are we really getting a qualification in, if we cannot care for ourselves amongst the pressures of adult life?

    1. Great questions Shami. I have seen in my own life how I often chose to not care for myself over achieving or getting things done. The more I learn how great it feels in my body to be self loving and self caring, the more I am choosing this now every day over getting everything done. So I feel it is the same with the university, we are so used as a society to be focused on achieving and results that it is seemingly forgotten we can choose a totally different way with self love and care.

  9. Lieke on re-reading your blog I feel the super supportive tips you gave can be applied to anything we need to do in life. Thank you.

  10. Powerfully awesome to read this Lieke. What I will take home from your blog is that regardless of what we ‘do’, we all have the opportunity and ability to deeply value ourselves first and foremost – well and truly before and outside of any task, outcome or sought after achievement. And you’ve shown us, how through the way we choose to live, this innate value can be something that ever deepens.
    My foundation is strengthened and confirmed in reading your blog Lieke, along with the depth of my appreciation for the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, and the plethora and consistency of teachings which remind and awaken us to the very real possibility of living with such a solid and real foundation.

  11. I know that there was an idea that if you didn’t push yourself to exhaustion, or breaking point, then you hadn’t really done your best. This notion needs to be turned on it’s head.
    The more students who do well, have balanced lives and who don’t need a course of anti-depressants to finish their courses, the more self care will become the norm. How glorious it will be when the student who burns the candle at both ends is seen as the misguided one and the self caring, self nurturing student is the role model.

  12. reading your article Lieke is beautiful – it seems you have brought the natural joy and fun back into your life which is possible for all, but rarely experienced because of the multitude of pressures the world tries to pound us with. But the foundation of self-care and nurturing you have established is a powerful tool to remain unaffected by the craziness of the world, and a way to bring yourself back if things do get too intense.

  13. This is a very supportive sharing Lieke both for Uni Students and for life in general, how to have balance and keep everything as equally important whether it be studying or going for a walk, and staying aware of what I feel is needed next.

    1. I agree Shirley-Ann, students have so little experience of this kind of honouring of oneself – back last millenium, University was all about who could trash themselves the most, then pull the all-nighter to get the assignment in or pass the exam.. like a badge of honour. Drugs were fairly common back then, but are now completely ‘normal’ as a chemical boost to drag the body through to the end. but there were no students that reflected the wisdom of true self care, none to show that there was a way of living that supported themselves to stay true.. and there were so many students lost in the crazy lifestyle but deeply unhappy at the same time. So the reflection of a different way that is possible, is so important.

  14. We can often push ourselves, ignoring those little signs we get from our body, that are asking for us to take a break. I have found at work when I get to the point that things stop having a natural flow, if I take myself off for a ten minute walk its enough to refresh my connection with myself.

  15. What really struck me about this was the understanding you have brought to what is truly important and the bigger picture that is at play. With this understanding you are able to truly study what is needed without going into overwhelm around too much information. This is a great basis for truly bringing self love and self care to your studies and put aside all those false thoughts around not being able to study enough or not doing enough. To me this is true for all of life. If we connect to the bigger picture and what is truly important we are able to bring all that is needed without overwhelm or self doubt ever having a place.

  16. I love your blog Lieke ! I love that you wear beautiful clothes when you are studying, even if you are not going outside ! Thank you for sharing.

  17. Lieke I love how you have made your study part of your life instead of all of your life. You are breaking the standard that in study years you have to study hard, party hard and not take care of yourself at all till after. You are showing not only that it is important to take care of yourself while studying to prevent you from coming out exhausted at the other end but also that it makes you feel amazing while you do it.

  18. This is such a reflection of all of life Lieke, if I care and nurture myself I can feel what needs to be done right now and that might be simply resting rather than doing what my head tells me must be done because its on my ‘to do’ list. Great blog

  19. I feel what you’ve shared here Lieke is relevant to how we are with everything, whether we’re a student, a worker, a parent, home renovations…you name it. The way we care for ourselves determines how we do all these other things – the quality in which we do them. The more care we give to ourselves, the more care we can give to our work and other responsibilities…and it feeds us back…a cycle.

  20. Wow, this line really stood out for me “I did not always listen to the little signs when my body was asking me to stop and take a break or do something else for a moment.” How often I did this when I was studying, to not stop and listen to my body and what it was telling me. But actually I could say that in more general terms as well, not just when relating it to study, when working too long, pushing through tiredness, getting into ‘doing’ things just because. It is really a conscious choice to stop and listen to what the body is saying. I am stilling, every day, learning more about this, listening to myself. Some days I do and some days I still ignore. I then feel the outcomes of my choice and it very often feels awful. So it does help to recall these moments, to then bring deeper awareness to my next choice to self honour!.

  21. Lieke, you offer many invaluable study tips here, stand out was staying present while you were studying and this allowed you to better discern the subject and what was important for examination. The presence while studying you are applying also sounds two fold – focusing on the material without distraction and staying in relationship with your own body at the same time. Work or study it is easy to get so focused on the task it becomes more important than how we are sitting, if we are thirsty, need to eat or use the bathroom and when to take a break etc.

  22. There would be great benefit in all university courses having a module in self care and practical measures that can make the studying experience less of an ordeal and more caring. Self nurturing is an exceptionally important part of all our lives and it makes a lot of sense that we become experts at this in the most practical ways possible, becoming very aware of how we feel within our bodies within the University experience.

  23. You have nailed it to the point, Lieke: How we are with ourselves is the basis for everything else. For if we do not manage to see what we need, how on earth should we be able to see what is needed in any part of our lives.

  24. Lieke it is truly inspiring to read how you are managing the demands of university study, by making self loving choices that are honouring of your body.

  25. This is a beautiful sharing Lieke and I agree with :”I realised that when I am present with myself, as in not thinking about anything else while I am studying, I ‘just know’ what parts are important and I do not have to know every little detail and every page from the inside out to pass an exam.” Being present is absolutely the key and actually applies to everything in life.

  26. Lieke, I am not surprised by all these wonderful comments, you definitely are a role model for all students of how to study and not loose yourself in all that is asked by the University. “The most important thing I find about living life and studying in University is knowing that everything is equally important, so that studying is as important as for instance exercising, cooking, spending time with friends, doing the dishes and spending time with myself.’ ” This is very inspiring for all of us, thanks for this awesome reminder.

  27. “The most important thing I find about living life and studying in University is knowing that everything is equally important, so that studying is as important as for instance exercising, cooking, spending time with friends, doing the dishes and spending time with myself.”
    When we bring a presence to everything we do in our day, no one thing becomes more important than another, from sweeping the floor to sitting for an exam. What a concept to consider and feel in our body. This feels like true commitment to life Lieke

  28. “After realising this I asked myself; can I study, care for, love and nurture myself at the same time? Wouldn’t this be a much greater way to study?” I love these questions Lieke and yes this is a fantastic way to bring ourselves into study and life itself. I feel that your blog is very inspiring in the age of many students struggling with burnout and stress during exams and their schooling life in general. Sharing such beautifully simple and practical tips for students all over the world. That’s awesome thank you.

  29. I am seeing what happens to people at work when they don’t live in the way you have shared here Lieke. Not dissimilar to the pace of study and exams, I work in environments where there are peaks for extended periods of time with lots of unknown or unexpected factors to deal with, and yes they need to be managed and rectified. But what I see in this time, is people not looking after themselves in how they work, eat, rest, etc and to alleviate the pressure from the day or week, use sport, food or alcohol for relief. which doesn’t support them either. Productivity goes down as people lose their clarity, they are exhausted and wanting the project to be over (not unlike wanting exams to be over) and quite often, people get sick, injure themselves or have accidents. It is a pattern I see often in workplaces, and used to be in myself, until I changed the way I live and work as inspired by Serge Benhayon, that truly supports me to be in a very busy environment with constant demands without losing myself in it or not looking after myself.

    1. You have highlighted something so important Sandra – the peak and trough mentality. Exams breed this warped way of perceiving life. There is the tremendous push, with all effort directed towards a moment in time, then a trough on the other side. I recall feeling dreadful post exams, worse than in the build up. I always thought that there was something wrong with me, but now I can understand that in that low period I was feeling the repercussions of the intensity. It carries on into business, but nothing in life works like that. There are cycles to be sure but they are never frantic followed by a slump. The way Lieke has described study is in absolute keeping with life, nature and universal laws.

      1. Good point Dr Rachel Mascord BDS. Some cycles are intense but in that intensity we can still take care of ourselves, and importantly, when we know the intense period is coming (which we usually do – work deadlines, exams, etc), prepare ahead of time for it, so we’re more able to deal with it. And then following the intense time, give ourselves time to rest and work at a less intense pace.

      2. Great discussion! I find that whatever is going on if I drop my routine which supports me because of this intensity I will feel less well straight away or a little after. For example I had a very busy week last week and needed to stay longer at Uni. Which is fine but I could feel I overrode the feeling of having to have dinner and this I felt in the evening by feeling less amazing. Like Rachel said you have to stay with life, nature and the universal laws. One of those laws for me is listening to my body.

  30. A great blog, Lieke, I can remember that stressful time I had with exams because I never had a good memory – I was only ever good at subjects where we had to work things out, and interesting that you point out the self-defeating thoughts we all have about not having enough time or not being able to remember it all. I love that you allow the ‘knowing’ of what is important to study – we all have access to a far greater resource of knowledge than many of us appreciate and Universities don’t really tap into that.

    1. Yes Carmel reading your comment it is interesting indeed to notice that we all have these self-defeating thoughts. It seems like no body really knows how to study without these! I am learning more and more to not choose those thoughts as they are not true and not supportive of doing my studying.

  31. I love how you don’t leave yourself behind, so to speak, with the studying Lieke. It makes sense that we’re more present and efficient when we take care of ourselves and not just focus solely on passing the exam.

  32. It is so important to live your life in a naturally healthy way whatever stage you are at. It seemed when I was at university, that you were expected to throw yourself into studying at the expense of everything else then come out the other side and begin to live your life. But there is always going to be a reason to deny yourself the space to live well. We only have now to live. We should never live in a way that longs for another time to love ourselves and live better.

    1. Very true Amanda: “We only have now to live. We should never live in a way that longs for another time to love ourselves and live better.” I am starting to notice, in my 24 years of life experience, that if I think I will make time for myself to be loving and nurturing in the future, it never happens. I am now building love and nurturing moments into my everyday living and I find the more I commit to do something when I feel to do it at any moment, the more I stop delaying things.

  33. Lieke I love that you are embracing the education system to gain the qualifications that you need, but at the same time you are aware of the dangers of losing yourself within it and taking steps to care for yourself deeply so this does not happen. It would be great if self care was taught at University in this way to raise awareness about how others can do this for themselves.

  34. I can easily imagine how different attending school and university would be if we did as you suggest Lieke which is to love, care for and nurture our selves whilst attending to our studies. How much easier would it to be to learn if we were to actually take care of ourselves rather than disregard ourselves. This is so simple but life changing if applied.

    1. Yes I can feel Elizabeth that by living very gently with ourselves could make learning a totally different experience, and bring a sense of joy back to the process making it clearer what to take from your studies as worth being a part of your living or simply accept it as information available.

      1. Yes Elizabeth, the whole studying at universities is build on getting it done under pressure which results in doing things with stress and tension. Reading your comment makes me feel how this could be done in a completely different way when we would all make gentleness our first and foremost focus. No pressure needed as in gentleness I know I will do what is needed naturally – there would be harmony in universities.

  35. This is so awesome Lieke, it is extremely loving and supportive the way you choose to live and study. I remember when I was studying at University I always left everything until the last minute, rushing and staying up all night to get a project finished. I felt exhausted but I would repeat it again and again for the next project. Crazy to look back to see how unloving that was. Your blog is very inspiring and would be very supportive for other students to read.

  36. Everyone will be able to feel how you are being different from them, students and teachers alike will get your reflection Lieke. What amazing service you are bringing to your University.

  37. Not only is this relevant to students at University but also kids at school. The truth is kids can get totally stressed, sick and in a mess with their exams, even before exams – with levels of homework etc . It would be great for schools to run self- care / support groups, your well being at exam time. In saying that if this was generally presented all throughout school and life as we grew up, just something that was our normal each and everyday – then there would be no need, but as the world currently stands this is an amazing opportunity to start.

    1. This is where it all starts gylrae, at school. How can we expect to have adults in workplaces who look after themselves and support others to do the same, when from school age it’s been the opposite.

      1. Actually it really starts at home, being part of our love, care and commitment to ourselves and others and if this was the priority in our family, then every one of us will take this out to our bigger family in our daily lives.

    2. Yes well said gylrae, it would be not needed if the world would be organized in a totally different way, in which there would not be so much focus on exams as the most important thing. As you said for now it is very beautiful to start bringing self-care and love into schools and universities.

    3. Kids at school getting stressed is no longer reserved for senior years either. I met a ten year old stressed about the examinations that determine where she could go to high school. Self-care is a great start, fundamental to this is getting to know our essence, breaking down the emphasis that is given to what is done and achieved, and put into the perspective of the quality we do things in, if our bodies are looked after as we do something and if it’s also with respect to other people.

  38. Reading your inspirational list again Lieke I felt to share that this list should be given to each and every student who are studying no matter what age group. It is equally as important as the test paper itself. To have alert, joyful, healthy and inspirational students taking exams would be a shock to the educational system I feel.

    1. Yes Marion, having an introductory course on “self care” at the beginning of first semester would be so very supportive for students and have the potential to completely change their experience of university. What Lieke has outlined in her article is incredibly empowering.

    2. Yes very true the self-care and love is “equally as important as the test paper itself.” This would completely turn the education system around as how it is designed now is almost to get everything done, in whatever way.

  39. ‘I have found that when I care for, love and nurture myself first and foremost, I can study in a way that is much more efficient and fun.’ Thank you Lieke, I am studying for the first time in many years and found your article very inspiring.

  40. It is horrific how many students punish themselves through these years of learning at the expense of themselves. This is needed here the most, as if you don’t begin the self care here, it will only continue when you are working in a job.

    1. Gail you describe my experience here. I ‘punished’ myself through years of learning and continued this momentum though out my career. I then paid the price of allowing years of self-neglect with several serious illnesses. Fortunately I eventually heard Serge Benhayon present and became aware of the importance of self care and self-nurturing. This has been life changing.

      1. I was exactly the same Anne, punishing myself through my studies until such a point that I graduated a wreck. I am back at university now, having the opportunity to do it all again, but this time so very differently. What is very obvious is that courses are structured with an angst and tension built in to them. It is expected that you will feel stressed and anxious, that it is a sign of being a “good” student. Well to heck with that! I have no intention of being a good student, especially when it is to my own detriment. The administrators of this course are getting me, and I am taking care of myself, inspired by Lieke.

      2. Well said Rachel, they better be prepared! I just started my new term this year and can see this too, that the courses have tensions built into them. The time is if you look at it realistically way too short to do everything that is needed in a way that is of true quality.

  41. Taking care of our self first should be the new master plan for every one. Lieke’s list should be on every refrigerator door in everyone’s kitchen everywhere!

  42. Great that you have come to the understanding about living life and studying at University, ‘that everything is equally important, so that studying is as important as for instance exercising, cooking, spending time with friends, doing the dishes and spending time with myself.’ I love what a world of difference you taking care of yourself has made to support you.

  43. ‘The most important thing I find about living life and studying in University is knowing that everything is equally important, so that studying is as important as for instance exercising, cooking, spending time with friends, doing the dishes and spending time with myself.’ I found this paragraph very inspiring Lieke, for us all to apply to our lives, whether we study or not, as everything we do, and the presence, love and care we bring to it then lays that foundation for what we focus on next, making no task more or less important than another.

    1. Yes I heard that one quite clear as well. And it does not matter if it is study or any life event – there needs to be a balance otherwise we fall over.

  44. Lieke, what you have presented should be shared with all students. It brings back the joy in study and reminds one that everything in ones life needs to be held as equal and important as others. When we hold and treat ourselves with love we then feel our potential and know we are capable of achieving our tasks.

  45. Lieke I am sure there will be many students who will be so inspired by what you have taken the time out to share your ‘Study and Self Nurturing Plan’. Self-care in University should be a study of its own. Yet truly your commitment to study without compromising your body and how you feel, provides a reflection for others, in all aspects of life

  46. Wow Leike I wish I could have read this when I was studying at university, I found the whole experience so loveless and meaningless I left after the first year. If I had taken more responsibility for myself care and love I am sure I would have been able to be more myself within the campus life, rather than feeing very alone and uncomfortable.

  47. What a beautiful way to go through university Lieke. Developing a balance between study and everything else that is required to support you and not pulling the all night cram sessions before a big exam. I can feel in the approach you have developed that there is a consistency and sustainability, a solid foundation, that will serve you well, long after you have finished university.

    1. Yes I agree Lee – with such a beautiful studying program Lieke has laid the foundation on which to build a consistent and sustainable life that will be truly fulfilling and of service to everyone. I find the blog most inspiring and intend to build these qualities more deeply into my own life.

    1. True Michael Kremer, “the way we are with ourselves is the basis for everything” the choice of self-care and self-love or the choice to neglect our self is reflected in everything that we do.

  48. ‘I have found that when I care for, love and nurture myself first and foremost, I can study in a way that is much more efficient and fun.’ This is gold Leike and as a student very inspirational to read.

  49. When we go into exam time, or end of semester handling papers in time, we usually forget what that taking care of yourself is really important. You focus on what your body delivers, not how you treat it. It is not that we stop to study ourselves. The problem is what we do is we study how much we can push, how can we sustain the pushing, and we even dare to judge us for what our body delivers. We never study how to nurture ourselves, how to avoid getting all the stress on, how the body’s delivery quality could accordingly increase. This would be a learning for life. Instead, passing an exam is just that. Another box to tick in the journey somewhere.

    1. Very true Eduardo. Learning how to take care of ourself. To avoid taking on all the stress and other factors that limit and get in the way of expressing our fullness. And even more, how to turn around possible long term harming patterns. These are “learning for life”. The various studies and exams that we have at Universities and for learning a trade can provide useful skills and information to engage with society, however the ‘learning for life’ is what provides the actual foundation for our life.

  50. What great awareness you have gained by being present and honouring, caring, nurturing and loving yourself, ‘This is very powerful. I realised that when I am present with myself, as in not thinking about anything else while I am studying, I ‘just know’ what parts are important and I do not have to know every little detail and every page from the inside out to pass an exam.’ Far more efficient and freeing up of time for activities you choose.

  51. Lieke, this is a beautiful article. I love how you have transformed your time at University from one of disregarding to one where you have fun and honour yourself for the very tender, delicate and joyful woman you are. Truly inspirational.
    A must read for those about to go to, or attending university.

  52. ‘This is very powerful. I realised that when I am present with myself, as in not thinking about anything else while I am studying, I ‘just know’ what parts are important and I do not have to know every little detail and every page from the inside out to pass an exam.’
    I absolutely love what you share here Lieke. What you describe here shows how we can tap into the absolute wisdom that resides within us all, when we are living in absolute connection with ourselves and bringing that in full to what we are doing. Our perspective becomes much broader, we see far and wide, we are not limited to what’s right in front of our nose. Feels so expansive.

  53. “By taking care of myself first, I feel more solid in myself and am much more able to see the requirements of the university, and make a choice how to work with them.” Lieke I love how in this statement you bring it back to a choice about how to be within the system. I’ve worked (and studied) within universities for over 20 years and while the current system needs changing I too know there is a way to be me within it by as you say, taking care of myself. There is no care in universities as a whole as they increasingly become just another business so it is very easy to get caught in the push to achieve and the stress that entails. Most academics I know live on coffee and adrenalin in an ongoing cycle of doing what’s needed to meet the next deadline. Introducing self-care is very much needed in universities at all levels.

  54. I love what you have shared here Deborah, I was very unloving with myself through University. I drank and lot, stayed up all night doing assignments, drinking coffee all night and generally being very unhealthy. To have had the awareness, love and insight you have shared here, would have made my experience at Uni a very different and much more self caring and loving one.

  55. Trying to achieve results over listening to my body and what it needs was something I did when younger and only now since undertaking more study, am I realizing what you share so beautifully here Lieke. Giving all areas of life equal importance is my focus now so when I come to do my study, it is something that is not categorized or put into a box that changes it in any way, and just seen as something that needs my loving attention and focus.

  56. An inspirational blog! I see this even more broadly than just for study: It is possible to have a full life, covering all aspects of life at once, taking lovely care of ourselves first and foremost. I still fall into the illusion of thinking that I can only focus on a couple of aspects of life at one time, leaving the others in disregard. But the truth is that when we are fully present and engaged with life, it doesn’t need to be a struggle! And we can devote a little time to each area regularly.

    I love what you shared about not needing to know every detail but rather grasping the bigger picture and knowing what parts are important. Which then allows you to have more time for being with people and working.

  57. Every person studying should read this blog – it is awesome. I would focus on study at the expense of everything else and so there would be no balance in my life, not to mention it feeling boring… I love here how you have claimed the importance of all aspects of your life so that you feel nourished and connected to yourself.

  58. When we perceive we are under pressure concerning a specific outcome, a reaction to this is often to concentrate on that issue alone. This can often lead to exhaustion and dissatisfaction. What you say here concerning balance is very supportive “The most important thing I find about living life and studying in University is knowing that everything is equally important…” When I have something I feel requires my attention, I am now learning to make sure that it becomes part of my everyday life, I do not stop everything else to get one piece of work done. Treating everything in more equality really supports my quality of life.

  59. I had no idea how to handle the many pressures of university life, the studying, partying, social dynamics, needs for recognition etc etc. It was all a mess, but how was I living before I entered in to university? What understanding of life did I bring with me in the first place? These questions put me as responsible for the way that I approached the study, just like Lieke, except that Lieke is actually taking that responsibility, whereas I just fell apart.

    1. Schools are the center of life for not only the children, but for the parents also and all the people (teaches ) who work there. We all need to be role models for our children, as children learn by reflection. It only takes one person to be reflecting self-care which can have a ripple effect for so many others.

  60. This says it all to me “I make sure I listen to my body” it can be easy at times to overlook one area of life while focusing on another, and our body and health suffers the consequences as the mind can over rule yet the body in lovingly honest, thank you for what shared here Lieke.

  61. The way we are studying effects also the way we start than working once we finished studying. If you exhaust and disregard your body and yourself this will continue when you start working in the new field. I work in a clinic and see many patients who suffer under exhaustion because they have not listened to their body for a long time and suffer the consequences eventually.

    1. Yes that is a great point Janina. The way we are living whilst studying is not simply disappearing in thin air when we start working. It is something I think many people do not realise yet. I feel with how you are studying you set the foundation for how you will be working in that profession too. This is one of the things I remind myself of when I feel I get a little tensed and tend to drop things that are important too. It is not worth it to live with less love in a moment because we have to finish something. It is for sure a continuous learning for me to bring care and love to all that I do what ever is going on.

      1. I agree Lieke, for me this is also an ongoing learning process to choose love and care first and than do what ever needs to be done. And not the other way around. Yesterday being caught up again in function and doing i read an amazing quote from Serge Benhayon. It said through everything we do we can connect deeper with the love and divinity we are or not. I realized that i still hold the believe that only when i do nothing i can hold a connection with me. And when i do something i can’t hold the connection. This is how what i have lived in the past and know that this is not the truth. But a choice we need to make again and again to choose our loving connection and do everything in this quality.

  62. “This is very powerful. I realised that when I am present with myself, as in not thinking about anything else while I am studying, I ‘just know’ what parts are important and I do not have to know every little detail and every page from the inside out to pass an exam.” Once we not only spin in the wheel of making study as the most important aspect of life and forgetting ourselves and to self care, it has an effect on the way we are able to learn much more effective.

  63. There is so much in this article. I am a student myself and I can relate to much you have shared Lieke. What you have written here is so valuable and actually of great use and support. What you shared about: that everything is equally important. This for me illustrated and diminished the belief (lie) that we have fallen for.. that once we are a student – study is the most important thing in our life and deserves the most attention. As within this believe we seem to completely forget the truth and essence of who we are and the fact that we actually need to take care of ourselves – this is what your blog so beautifully reveals. The other point you shared, so beautifully: ‘..Instead of feeling that I am a very tender, delicate, joyful woman who needs care, love and nurturing as my foundation, to then be able to do other things like studying without going into disregard for myself and my body’. This is gold. I wish I could tell every student what you share here with us. Disregard is so common and especially amongst ourselves at the campus, studying hard and if we have some spare time left, we seemingly tempt to disregard our body deeper (drinking much alcohol, late night parties, fast-food), actually everything contrary to what you share here with us that is supporting you to feel your body and who you are while doing everything that needs to be done – and by even enjoying it! That to me is real gold, a freedom of the imprisonment that we as students can find ourselves in.

  64. Thank you Lieke, this is hugely important and changes our quality of life immeasurably – ‘The most important thing I find about living life and studying in University is knowing that everything is equally important, so that studying is as important as for instance exercising, cooking, spending time with friends, doing the dishes and spending time with myself.’

  65. “This leaves me feeling alive and connected to people around me.” This is a line that struck me Lieke, as it highlighted for me the ways in which I have been disconnected to people around me during exam period, for all the reasons of thinking I have too much to do in too little time and so relationships and connection with people completely go out the window. However what I have come to realise is, how this actually denies the opportunity to be open to a great deal of support that I could get from the people around me and that by being disconnected to people, I am also disconnected from myself and therefore the revision comes with a struggle.

  66. Thank you so much for this Lieke, it is so beautiful for me to see others who are now studying at University that know a different way of going about it to the norm. When I went through I definitely abused and compromised my body, as I did not know another way for the most part. I started receiving support by way of the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom and Universal Medicine towards the end of my training, and moreso when I started working directly after. The principles of self-care and the development of self-love and nurturing as presented have been key for me. I was exhausted by the time I finished university, and did not realise it. Then going into intense full-time work meant I needed a lot of support for my body. I have worked to rebuild a strong foundation for myself in my body, and now returning to study for further exams know I can do this in a different way. Thank you so much for your wise sharing here Lieke, it was very important for me to read today, and I am sure will inspire many others likewise.

  67. Wow, an amazing last line about caring for ourselves first, and then bringing that to the world in what we do. Thank you Lieke (:

  68. Lieke when I see, in recent experience, the way many work in University with the focus on the knowledge yet a lack of understanding about the care for the quality of person doing the work, its very eye opening. You’ve set a foundation for how students across the world can approach University in a healthy and supportive way.

  69. Very inspiring to read Lieke how you have changed the way you study, to a more balanced and loving way. Well done! To actually enjoy studying and make it just another part of your day, like working, interacting with others and having a bath… is a completely different way than how I studied and hear others talk about studying. This is something that would be great in any start up guide to studying.

    1. I agree Aimee. I remember when I studied Sociology, writing my final written work. For 9 month I focused like a mad person on that project and neglected myself, my relationship and my body. At the end I felt depressed, racy, disconnected and knew that something went very wrong…

      1. Thank you Janina, that is a very honest reflection. I can relate to that. I sometimes push myself too far. I can do a lot in studying but it is that moment when I make it the all important thing and choose to not care anymore for myself that it is really crushing to put so much effort in doing something.

  70. So simple, so accessible and so applicable to whatever it is we are filling our days with, be that study, work, caring for young children or resting. And the swing version of not taking care is, I know (lots of experience here!), a hamster wheel of treading water, coping and making do. Thank you Lieke for stating the obvious that is not our statistical norm!

  71. Hands and feet up for your point Lieke to put on clothes that we feel beautiful in while studying. Feeling beautiful while studying, simply because we feel beautiful, don’t we deserve to express it the same as when we have a date out and devote the same quality and presence while getting dressed? How often do we disregard how we look because other things are more important, and because we have first disregarded our body and therefore feeling the disregard, we are unable to express the same quality in taking care of what we put on (unless we put a force on to do it in drive, which is not true). But when we do feel the beautiful quality we are already in with caring for ourselves, and dressing as such, we can only then build the momentum to the same quality while we sit ourselves down to study.

  72. This point is pure gold—studying is equally as important as everything else in life, as life is a whole and everything is interconnected and interdependent. If we only focus on one area and neglect the others, the areas we disregard will equally affect the area we have devoted on. The culture in our city focuses heavily on studying, with a neglect on almost everything else in life, dismissing especially the connection with the body. The focus on the mind with a disregard to the connection with the body, creates a lot of stress and tension in studying, which then we have to further numb to not feel this stress and tension. If academia is seen to be only about marks, students come into society knowing how to compete and get to the top, but lacking in skills in life and connection, what kind of a world are we saying yes to then? This has given me a deeper understanding towards myself, life and people.

  73. Lieke I have a great smile on my face reading your blog–the smile is from knowing this reflection you are living is changing so many lives, simply by your choice to self love and self care. Not only does this make studying more enjoyable, there is a quality and presence in the process that allows us to deepen being committed to life. How many students have experienced truly enjoying being present to University life? How many students choose to numb and check out with partying, booze and drugs because it was hard to handle the pressure and stress in exams? And how different it would be for the world if students entered society by being present, responsible and committed to life ?

  74. How inspiring this is for others studying to read Lieke. I love the examples given by you of the ways you still deeply care for yourself and how this has supported you with your studies. “The most important thing I find about living life and studying in university is knowing everything is equally important”. A beautiful foundation for your future dentistry profession and a wonderful service offered to your future clients.

  75. Lieke, this is an important article for students to read. The university is not interested in the health and well being of their students so it’s incumbent on students to take care of themselves while they are studying, and the pressure of deadlines, assignments and exams makes this very challenging. You’ve hit the nail on the head when you say that “The most important thing … is knowing that everything is equally important”.

  76. Lieke I have no doubts your living wisdom will reflect on your fellow students. I daily see first hand the behaviour of students and their on going struggle with study: from slouching at their desk, drinking copious amount of coffee or red bull, eating stodgy food, studying late into the night (the doors close at midnight). It is no wonder that with the approaching exams the tension is palpable and arguments and confrontations arise from perceived slights. So Lieke continue on your way, there are bound to be some ripple effects.

  77. This is such a lovely reflection about how it is not necessary to go into the hugely disregarding and self-abusive approach most of us have to studying at university or in fact to any other task that requires dedication and focus. “when I am present with myself, as in not thinking about anything else while I am studying, I ‘just know’ what parts are important and I do not have to know every little detail and every page from the inside out to pass an exam.” This is a great philosophy to have in every area of life.

    1. This is true Golnaz. We don’t have to go with the masses if they are choosing ways without self-honour, love or regard.

  78. “After realising this I asked myself; can I study, care for, love and nurture myself at the same time? Wouldn’t this be a much greater way to study?”
    This is a lovely reminder as I was getting rather stressed about an assignment due next week. What if I love and nurture myself instead? I will get back to you next week with a report on how it goes…:-)

  79. ‘The most important thing I find about living life and studying in University is knowing that everything is equally important, so that studying is as important as for instance exercising, cooking, spending time with friends, doing the dishes and spending time with myself.’ There is so much wisdom in this sentence, to treat every area of your life with equal importance as each part supports the next.

  80. “The most important thing I find about living life and studying in University is knowing that everything is equally important, so that studying is as important as for instance exercising, cooking, spending time with friends, doing the dishes and spending time with myself.” Lieke, this is a revelation that all students would do well to take note of. In truth, “the most important thing . . . about living life’ in general is knowing that everything is equally important and hence this revelation is for everyone no matter what the activity they choose to undertake.

  81. Oh yeah, this rocks, I wish you could give a presentation at your Uni about this or make copies of this blog and put it on the notice boards… I would have loved to find this blog when I still was at Uni. So I’ll definitely share this on social media. Thanks, Lieke.

  82. Dear Lieke van Haastrecht, I love the whole blog, but I especially like the line where you say thank you to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine: “who taught me to first love and care for myself before doing anything else”. And what an amazingly profound teaching that is; nothing is more important than you, or us, so to speak. Thank you for all that you are sharing here, there is so much in this; especially for me, as I’m working full-time and doing a study course as well.

  83. The way Lieke is approaching her studies can also be the way a 6 year old approaches first grade. It has to start early, kids choosing to wear a jumper when it’s 10 degrees outside instead of toughing it out.

  84. I love how this most important subject – how to support yourself while studying is covered in such awesome clarity and simplicity.
    I know I used to be very grades focused when I was studying, trying to beat others at all costs.
    The least important thing was how I got there.
    Now I know that how I do everything, and this includes study is the most important thing.

    1. This is a great point, everything we do is of equal importance not just the studying we do which we can easily get caught up in believing is “everything”, the quality of preparation or stress that I can feel going into an exam is actually effected not by the quantity of revision done, but actually the way in which I was during doing that revision

  85. What a great blog Lieke and such great timing for anyone who is about to start University or go back into their next year. I could not agree with you more regarding taking care of yourself first and then studying.
    I have been studying this year and I never dreamt that at the age of 53 I would actually love it and that it really is not hard work. Like you Lieke I am forever inspired by the life and work of Serge Benhayon and a top tip he once presented about studying was we need to do enough and not try and push and do more than is needed. In other words you don’t have to get 99% to pass. What I have noticed is I can catch myself if I get carried away or think I need to do a bit more research which is coming from me not feeling enough in that moment. I also find that if I study without placing any pressure on myself in needing the qualification or a certain result, that way there is no investment in the outcome and it sure makes a difference. I am living proof having got 3 diplomas and now studying again so that I can continue to support more people through my work.

    1. That is indeed a top tip Bina. In university often doing effort is equated with being a good student. I am learning the same thing as you are, that I only have to do what is needed to be a dentist knowing what I am doing and why, no more and no less.

  86. A young person told me her chosen routine to get through medical school and examinations was to prioritise study at the expense of everything else, including herself. She passed with excellent grades. But a consequence of this choice was considerable weight gain, which she’s now trying to lose, all because she believed she didn’t have time to cook for and nourish herself whilst studying. You show through your blog Lieke that it can be done, if equal importance is given to everything we do.

    1. This is the message that Leike delivers, that when studying or indeed working, that we give ‘all’ areas of our life equal importance…. which is super important in order to have balance and clarity and well being, through deeply caring for our bodies.

    2. I have prioritised study and work at the expense of everything else too so the other day I gave consideration to why we do this and understood that it is the false meaning that is attached to things like survival i.e.’if I don’t have a degree I won’t get a good job’, or over working out of fear of losing one’s job. The self-worth we attach to things outside of us to confirm or reinforce ourselves can also be a significant factor ‘if I fail then I am a failure’ or ‘if I can achieve x,y,z it means I am okay’, so it might give an identity ‘be someone’ or a skill so we can feel okay about ourselves. The moving goal post is a well known analogy – ‘I will look after myself when….’, ‘I will feel better about myself when…….’ Despite when never occurring, since the ‘when’ criteria keeps changing, our culture of ‘success’ still glorifies goals setting and an ‘it does not matter what you have to do to get there’ approach.

  87. Lieke, I feel you have placed the most important thing we can do for ourselves at the top of your list ….” I make sure I listen to my body” by doing this we bring a flow and a harmony into our lives, and then all the rest falls into place.

  88. To bring self care, self love and self nurturing into our daily lives creates a beautiful foundation. The whole process you share with us Lieke makes so much sense and takes out the whole ‘stressful’ and anxious build up to wanting to do well and pass exams. To prepare ourselves with such tenderness first so no unexpected surprises will rattle our strong foundation. Thank you Lieke.

    1. Absolutely -to live with self-care brings joy to life and ensures that we are well-equipped for anything that comes out way.

  89. Lieke your approach to exams is very much similar to how I am beginning to approach and appreciate my own everyday Livingness. I am finding the importance of self-nurturing ways that support me in the morning, and throughout my working day.

  90. ‘In all this I find the way I am with myself is key to support me through University and life.’
    This is gold. So simple and so true.

  91. ‘I realised that when I am present with myself, as in not thinking about anything else while I am studying, I ‘just know’ what parts are important and I do not have to know every little detail and every page from the inside out to pass an exam.’
    This approach would be so supportive to all school students. Unfortunately, with our current system, schools are very concerned about their results and their ‘ranking’ position. Consequently, there is a lot of rote learning, to ensure that students are ‘groomed’ to provide their answers in ‘such a way’ to secure favourable results, for them and the school. However, I feel this approach has a very negative impact. It becomes a competition about who is willing to play the game, jump through the hoops and do what they are told. If students were given more space to learn more creatively, more collaboratively with each other, the space to be seen for who they are as individuals, it may invoke a lot more engagement, enthusiasm and …. better results.

  92. I love what you share here, Lieke ….. ‘The most important thing I find about living life and studying in University is knowing that everything is equally important, so that studying is as important as for instance exercising, cooking, spending time with friends, doing the dishes and spending time with myself.’
    I feel your message is so important, something that we can all reflect to the younger generations who are under so much pressure to perform. When I went to college, many years ago, about 12% of people went on to University. However, today, everyone seems to have a degree. In fact there are lots of young people feeling like one degree isn’t enough. Encouraging some balance, some stop moments feels very needed, rather than the all too present relief that so many seem to choose, numbing out with drugs and alcohol. Showing people that there is another way to ‘do’ Uni. Love it, thank you.

    1. I agree – this is such a gorgeous way to live life living with equal respect and importance for everything, especially at uni where there is so much pressure and you are told exams and assignments are all that matter, this is exactly what many people do need.

    2. When I see it in writing I am even more aware of the madness of the ever out of reach carrot that is our framework for life these days. One degree, one gold medal, enough money, this car, our kids…are never enough. We live with and accept a level of dissatisfaction that is more destructive than we can comprehend and all because we are looking and living away from a connection with ourselves, how we feel and what we truly need.

      1. Well said Matildaclark, and everything about our society we live in is geared to make you feel like you are never quite enough. The education and corporate world play on this ruthlessly to generate the drive be the super high achievers to be seen to be successful, or from fear to compete for the ever more tenuous job at the end; to make you seek higher degrees to fill their universities so they can make more money. Competitiveness between students is fostered by the exam system and the cut-throat course requirements which is deeply undermining and adds to the feeling of alienation and isolation so many students feel at university. All these things are designed to keep you from staying connected to yourself, or always in nervous tension or anxiousness, and feeling the lack – that you are not enough – to keep you constantly reaching for something outside of yourself to the detriment of connection and knowing what is true inside. It keeps the Universities in control of their income and students, keeps the corporations in control of their workers; it keeps the status quo of control in the world. In a sense we have exchanged the one time domination of the church with the domination of academia and the professional and corporate world, and the world of media. But at what cost.
        To subscribe to this paradigm means we will live in the constant chasing of something to confirm we are doing ok, which will only ever be a temporary thing, as in the process we are losing connection to ourselves and what we know is true inside. Many feel this but choose it anyway, because they can’t see there is another way. Many get burnt out, exhausted, disillusioned, but carry on. Many reach high positions in life, but become shut down inside, because they have settled for something less than the truth they once knew, and now have to defend what they have bought into. And in the end we all lose out because we have created a world that relentlessly drives these destructive patterns, and we all keep spinning harder to sustain them. And so now we have an unprecedented rise in mental illness, chronic exhaustion, cancer, and endocrine diseases all over the world. Is it possible there a connection? And is it time to take a look at how we live such that so many people in our communities and our families are destroying themselves through ceaseless drive or in silent hopelessness and misery?

      2. The carrot is always out of reach, it is out there, outside of ourselves, something to achieve, to keep us running after it. That way we forget that we don´t need all of that if we connect to ourselves, stop and feel our connection.

    3. Well said Alison, self care is not something that is talked about much and more and more pressure to do well and achieve. Isn’t it crazy that one degree is not enough!

      1. Self-care doesn’t appear to get a look in within our education system.
        It is important for young people to learn the importance of a balanced life and honouring ourselves in all that we do rather then living recklessly, just for today and treating our body as machines to spit out the next assignment or milestone. We fail to understand that the body we are ill-preparing in this way is the body that we then rely upon to do life.

  93. ‘It was also about the thoughts I allowed at times whilst studying, and how I treated myself. I would have thoughts such as “I will never pass this”’ and “I have not studied enough so I am very bad,” instead of feeling that I am a very tender, delicate, joyful woman who needs care, love and nurturing as my foundation,’
    I could have written those very words, Lieke. I also chose a pattern of disregard when I was at college, many many years ago. I only really studied right before the exams, and because I’d chosen not to put the work in, consistently, throughout the term, I could feel the disregard in my body which manifested in me feeling very negatively towards myself. I was also putting myself under a lot of pressure, trying to cram so much into such a small space of time and it was all such a game. Everything I learnt was only really retained for a short period of time, because I was cramming, rather than taking your, far more loving approach, which was to look at the bigger picture and bring understanding to everything I was learning, then it stays with you.

    1. I didn’t go to University but I can relate to all you have said Alison about how you studied. This is very much how I would study or get any assignments completed at school. There were the negative thoughts of ‘I’m going to fail anyway’ or ‘I can’t remember anything’… I felt like a lived in a fog and couldn’t retain anything. And then 20 years later doing some online study, the pressure and stress returned. When I shared this with some friends they really helped me to see, like Lieke did, that if I put all my energy and effort into one thing, everything else suffers.

      1. Well summarised drop of Gold Aimee – ‘if I put all my energy and effort into one thing, everything else suffers.’ When it came to studying and exams I would always drop everything else and I can do the same now and put all of my energy in to one thing, like work or a project. Even in the balance of one day I can lose the commitment to all equally and it is usually exercise that I forego. I make it okay with words like ‘it’s just one day and this has to get done’ but what this allows is an attitude of outcome before quality, result before self-love and sets up a cycle of living with less responsibility to all areas in life on every day. This blogs speaks for what it is to commit in full to life whatever that may include at the time such as parenting or study etc.

      2. Yes Aimee and Deanne, the ‘it’s just for one day’ is very illusional. What I realised is that life is not what we think it is about. We often think it is about doing things and completing things, but what I found is that it is first and foremost about deepening love, equally for myself and others. So yes I agree, not doing a self-loving activity in the day like exercising just to get something done is not the way. I do this myself too at times but I can see how this in truth is not working.

  94. The reminder to give the same weight to how I cook and clean, to how I work or study, is such a powerful one – thank you Lieke. We do give more importance to some activities over others, which inevitably gives way to inconsistent behaviour and presence levels. For example, by not thinking ‘I’ll be happy when I sit down and eat’ and replacing it with ‘as I cook, I similarly enjoying when I eat’, means: that there’s no longer a rush to prepare a meal and then trying to get from it extra enjoyment by over eating (for example).

    1. So true Oliver. I grew up favouring certain activities over others, hating some and therefore never doing them such as vacuuming my bedroom. By doing this life was always a bit yo-yo-ey, never consistent. Making activities about how I am when I’m doing them is a new way nowadays, no activity is terrible because I get to still feel me when I’m doing them and so being consistent in my life is far more likely. All made possible because Natalie Benhayon and Serge Benhayon shared how they live and love.

      1. Living with consistency feels loving, supportive and offers stability to not only myself but the whole household as well. I remember also going for certain activities Suzanne that I liked doing more than others. I would make the ones that I didn’t enjoy into some huge hard arduous hurdle but would find if I just did them it was nothing like I had imagined in my head.

    2. Great point Oliver, I love it; enjoying being with myself when preparing the meal, rather than racing though to then sit and finally ‘enjoy’ the food. I can see how that leads to over eating. I just realised today too, how much I can enjoy my daily drive, instead of wanting to be at my destination already. I really appreciated the time to drive, sing, ponder, navigate through the traffic, appreciating being in the flow with everybody else. And I arrive very joyful and ready to go. Funnily enough the traffic seemed to flow much better too…

    3. This is so true Oliver – how many of life’s activities do we ‘rush through’ to get to another. An example for me is work. If I am thinking ‘only one more day to the weekend’ I know to stop and check myself. What is it about the weekend that is going to be more joyful than me in a day of work? It exposes what I am doing to compromise myself, or not allow myself to be that joy every day in work.

      1. Yes I know that one too Amelia. As it is friday today it is a great reminder to feel why I do feel like ‘oh just one day to go’. I love how you connect it with compromising yourself in your day. I am going to have an extra loving day today.

    4. I love what you have pointed out here, Oliver. Not only may we give more importance to certain activities, there may be some things that we do in our day that are so regular that we fall into a ‘pattern’ when we do them, and loose our presence altogether. When there are things that I don’t want to do, such as studying, I find I allow myself to get very distracted and the whole process becomes very disjointed and un-rhythmical. It would be so much more supportive if I chose not to allow myself to be distracted, but instead gave myself very regular breaks, maybe a few mins sitting outside and then got back to it.

    5. Yes such a great point Oliver. I found myself a day ago coming home and rushing into making my dinner as it was already late for…. yes for what exactly? It is so interesting how my thoughts at that moment were already rushing when there actually was nothing to rush for.

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