Truth about Little White Lies

When I was a child I often heard the expression “little white lie”. It was used for justification when children caught and called out adults for telling lies. Adults often responded with “it’s a little white lie,” which was supposed to mean that adults could tell lies when the intention was somehow ‘good’, like not telling the full truth to a child in case it was “too much for them,” or doctoring the truth to an authority to smooth relations and not get into trouble…. How dreadful is that?!

I remember feeling angry and indignant. I remember feeling betrayed because the ‘little white lies’ were being told by adults who always sang the praises of honesty and telling the truth.

I felt the lie of the adult judgment that kids are too young to understand. I was even asked to tell ‘little white lies’ myself and that felt like an awful betrayal of my natural sense of truth too. I was being trained to force myself to be okay with telling lies and learning how to justify what I knew was wrong.

As I matured and understood more of life, I saw more and more lies. The lies that were not spoken or written, the subtle cunning lies, the lies composed of manipulations of circumstances, appearances and also communications such that everything was a lie, even if no-one could have pointed the finger at any individual component.

This latter technique is used globally by criminals, media, corporations, in fact anyone who wants to ‘stay clean’ while manipulating things to their advantage. Then there are the lies that are not spoken or written but are conveyed with body language – a particular movement of eyebrow or mouth – to sway another.

It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio. Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.

I remember once seeing an interview with a young politician who’d been caught lying on the job. His face looked slightly hurt and innocent as he said, without ‘batting an eyelid’: “Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.” Boy, oh boy, what do you say to that?

Have we fallen so far from truth that we need to have every thought, word, action and expression written down in a ‘job description’ of life before we feel compelled to tell and live the truth?! What happened to our natural sense of feeling lies when they are there and calling them out when they are felt, like we did as little children?

A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives. Truth is the bottom line.

From there, anything can be understood and worked out between people. There are no hidden surprises, no doubts and no ‘grey areas’. With truth, we are at home and we are safe. With lies, the foundation is always wobbly and shifting. Unfortunately the whole of society’s workings have come to rely on lies as the lubricant that keeps the ‘machine’ going – as the foundation upon which the entire house of cards is built.

What are we going to do to replace that shaky foundation with the solidity of truth – real, capital ‘t’ Truth?

Are we going to make the telling of lies illegal and arrest everyone who is guilty? There would not be enough people left free in the world to administer all the jails!!

What if we were to come back to using our in-built lie detectors to feel and call out lies wherever we find them? To widely share all we have learned about truly connecting to that part of us that knows lies from truth as naturally as breathing? And what if we support each other – family, friends and strangers alike – to do this; to express immediately without fear of retribution?

We CAN do this. We can turn our world around by helping each other make the choices that can clear the ‘grunge’ from our lie-detectors (our bodies) and give us a crystal clear feeling for truth and for lies when we encounter them. The best thing we can be is true; the most loving thing we can bring to another person is truth. Even when it is ‘tough love’ or ‘tough truth’ it is giving ourselves and others the whole of what is required to base choices upon, to learn, evolve and grow.

Denying any part of truth is to short-change us all, deprive us of our full potential.

How can we clear our lie-detectors? Our bodies are matter and matter obeys energy, the energy of consciousness. Therefore our material lives are also a consequence of the energy of consciousness and how it governs our choices. So we need to look to energy for the cause of our self-created problems.

Our inbuilt energy detectors are where we need to do the work first. It is our souls that we must learn to connect to in order to refine our detectors. The soul of each and every one of us holds and knows the truth, way beyond the consciousness of our brains and everyday thinking.

Since our consciousness governs all our thoughts, choices and actions, could it be that by connecting to our soul and allowing that to be our presiding consciousness, we can feel truth accurately and live every moment of life more truly?

I know I knew this even when I didn’t know that I ‘knew’ it. I am very grateful to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for helping me to bring the clarity of it right to the forefront of my understanding, and to inspire me to choose to clear my lie-detector and evolve towards expressing my soul’s truth as a consistent way.

Together we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.

by Dianne Trussell BSc Hons, Goonellabah, NSW, Australia

Further reading:
Truth – I Can Feel it in My Bones
Spirit or Soul? Learning the Difference through Serge Benhayon


913 thoughts on “Truth about Little White Lies

  1. Just imagine, as one got older and older, that truth became more and more palpable, that we were able to start to feel more and more and more. A fairytale? Quite the contrary this is exactly the way it can be, indeed the way it is.

  2. “Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.” With lies there is always something to hide but when we live with truth we are open with nothing to hide.

  3. We really need one another to identify the insidious lies we tend to live as when we are in the lie we are not able to see we are living in it and therefore really need that second pair of eyes.

  4. ‘I felt the lie of the adult judgment that kids are too young to understand.’ … this is huge and exposes how we parent and are with our children … we see them as blank slates to be moulded rather than the knowing beings they are, with (like all of us) and innate ability to detect lies from truth.

  5. ‘I remember feeling betrayed because the ‘little white lies’ were being told by adults who always sang the praises of honesty and telling the truth.’ I also found this confusing when I was growing up. So at one moment adults were being un-truthful, then later they would be explaining to me the importance of telling the truth always. But when I would explain that that was not what they are doing, it was not very well received.

  6. It’s interesting that people who tell the truth may be considered rude, imposing or intense, and those that side with the little white lies may be seen as easy going, likeable, and easy to get along with. Ouch! We have created a society based on the comfort of not sharing the truth, and as a result it could be said that are standards of decency have had a major drop. All those lies we collectively tell are the glue that holds together a very unreal society, a fabrication of the fullness we can all live together.

  7. When we allow ourselves to we can feel how uncomfortable those ‘white lies’ are. Trying to maintain bigger lies is exhausting but the little ones I’d say are worse as we accept more and more of them and they pile up, becoming our life. We basically then are living a lie.

  8. Living a lie has certainly become the ‘truth’ in this world, that is, the reality of what we consider a normal human life. Many are obviously living a lie whereas many more are living in a way that looks good but when properly examined are not actually living true to themselves. It is the latter that we ought to really look at for otherwise we will continue to have a world that functions but lacks any true purpose.

  9. White lies, what an expression. The English vocabulary has it ways. Perhaps white lies are even worse than “black lies” because they are so hidden. Could it also be that any form of lying effects our bodies? I certainly feel a really nasty, contracted feeling into my body when I lie and feel really expanded and spacious. So why lie anyway?

  10. Our body is the greatest lie detector there is yet from childhood we are taught, with the best of intentions, to trust in something else. How ironic is that?

    1. We are actually taught from a young age that to tell the truth is rude. By doing this we are setting a foundation for society based on lies. Just a little lie is no different to an outrageously big one – it’s either truth or it’s not.

  11. I am puzzled that we as adults, supposedly the wise ones in society, can place the words ‘little and white’ in front of the world lie and think nothing of doing so and the impact this lie has on others, especially our young ones. Children are naturally honest and know when they are being lied to, but it feels like they gradually get worn down by the reflection of the dishonest way of living from those around them and eventually adopt the ‘little white lie’ as a normal part of their lives. There is absolutely nothing normal about lying.

  12. It is the intention behind what is said that determines whether what we say is true or not. Much can be masked by the words that we speak and if we do not learn to read energy and discern truth from lie, then we leave ourselves wide open to be played by the forces that seek to veil such truth from us all. Also to note that truth delivered void of love is not true truth but a version of it designed to lead us astray.

  13. Truth is a much, much greater word than what we are taught. It is not about right and wrong, it is about a quality of being and expression that is based in love.

    1. So very true, Heather. In everyday practice truth is really an opinion, which may or may not be based on supposed ‘fact’ that in reality is relative and not a universal truth.

  14. There is a lot to consider here Dianne, including re-establishing a relationship with the truth and how that feels in our own body. We have become so clouded and polluted ourselves by allowing anything but the truth to flow through us.

  15. Little white lies are toxic, I speak from the experience of being a child and hearing the inconsistencies, feeling the lies in what is said by adults and feeling hurt and unsteady. As a child and adult I want the truth, however it comes, I do not want to be blinded with lies and unsure of what is reality. This can happen when adults do not speak straight and honest with a child. As a child we start to deny our inner knowing of truth when we hear adults we Love and care for lie, white or not. Love is not hiding the truth, Love is speaking the truth.

  16. I always hated when I was lied to, you know the truth and anything less than that feels terrible, ‘ I remember feeling betrayed because the ‘little white lies’ were being told by adults who always sang the praises of honesty and telling the truth.’ Pure hypocrisy.

    1. Well said Lorraine, children lose the trust and respect of the adults when they conveniently lie so much. To lead by example would be a far greater choice for adults so as children don’t feel confused by the mixed messages by adults.

  17. The little white lies (Father Christmas is a good starter) become bigger lies and these become a normal way of expression of our life – not a great foundation for honesty, responsibility and integrity towards ourselves or others.
    ‘His face looked slightly hurt and innocent as he said, without ‘batting an eyelid’: “Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.” ‘

  18. “Denying any part of truth is to short-change us all, deprive us of our full potential.” and not only that but is in itself a lie. Withhold the full truth is to lie even though we try to deny and justify it.

  19. White lies pervade so much of our lives. When I consider them, I always think of the lies we tell our children, particularly the ones about Santa Claus and the tooth fairy. What purpose do they serve?

  20. My body has always known that a lie is a lie not matter how small. To me it goes hand in hand with the saying ‘all in moderation’, which to me is a great saying if you wish to not take responsibility; as is a little white lie.

  21. This has been really interesting to ponder, because I know that I definitely tell white lies, I tell myself that It is to protect another person, not hurt their feelings etc. But in actual fact, what i realise is that telling white lies usually is to protect myself.

  22. We can only live the lies we are living if we defend this life of lies as being the natural way of how humans are.

  23. I am starting to unravel yet another layer of understanding around lies. There are just so many ‘suitable truths’ that we take as truth but are, in fact, lies. It can shake our very foundation to realise how duped we have allowed ourselves to be – or is it just me?!

    1. No Lucy, it’s not just you. I am shocked by the depths of some of the lies I’ve exposed that I tell to myself. They are devastating.

  24. Very true Dianne, a lie is a lie… and once this is felt in the body, it is impossible to express even the smallest of ‘white lies’ without feeling it instantly. There are times when the full truth, or a depth of honesty is not required, but this is discerned by whether or not another will be supported to evolve by the full expression, or harmed by it if premature or unnecessary for their needs. This can only be felt in the moment from a body that is clear of it’s own agenda to protect, hide or impose something from or onto another. The head can only attempt to calculate what is appropriate and can never truly discern from a clear and open place.

  25. Great you mention about honesty being in a job description! The implications of this is huge as there is so much corruption in the corporate world and in business in general. People are purely in it for self interest and that is the only thing lies can support – the covering up of your own selfish greed.

  26. Living truth takes commitment and dedication, as well as understanding and detachment. Living truth means constantly developing, being willing to discard and evolve, and knowing not everyone around you will like what you offer, but nevertheless living truth is the foundation from where all else comes.

  27. A lie is a lie but sometimes we can get so separated from our selves and the truth that we perceive a lie as the truth and the truth as a lie – and therein lies a big mess (pun intended).

  28. Great blog Dianne, I can and do still tell little white lies, I feel that as they aren’t hurting anyone that it is ok. Or i am telling the lie so that I don’t hurt someones feelings, or i do it so that i can get myself out of a bind in some why. But having read your blog i realise completely, that a lie is a lie. That it doesn’t matter how big or small, it all matters.

  29. Great blog Dianne. “Together we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.” It seems that telling white lies to children is more common, in order to ‘save’ them from the harsh realities of life, yet children can read energy and know when they are not being told the truth.

  30. An awesome blog Dianne exposing the truth about the little white lies adults use to free themselves from any responsibility or accountability for their behaviours. The more we learn to express the truth without holding back the more our reflection will empower and confirm to others to also make this loving choice.

  31. Just the heading of this blog brings a reaction in my body. I had many moments in my life when little white lies were told and my whole body knew the truth was being twisted. I still encounter people who try and pull the wool over my eyes and twist the truth, all in the name of protecting themselves. When we are living only for our own gain and not for the all, the value of truth gets diminished and we live with a lack of true integrity and responsibility of our words and actions.

    1. You touch on something here about your body having the reaction, knowing the truth was being twisted, for me this is the key. Our bodies know truth inside out, it can pretend it doesn’t but actually, the body is our marker of truth and that is what we have to re-connect with in order to ensure, we too, do not fall into the ‘little white lies’ way of living.

  32. It seems to me that many of us find it almost easier to lie than to tell the truth. I was one who learned by example to tell those “little white lies” and lived like this for many years although I am sure that there was a part of me that wasn’t too comfortable with this scenario. These days I can’t lie, it hurts too much, and it probably has always done, I had simply built a wall around that feeling so I didn’t have to face the truth, the truth that I have finally returned to and now choose to live in every moment.

  33. A powerful and very inspiring blog Dianne. You make it very clear that there is only one way for us to live and lies (however small), have no part of this.
    “Truth is the bottom line”.

  34. By this blog you bring truth, the understanding of what we possibly feel that is missing and – how we truly belong to truth and that when this is not lived or considered, we become unclear and emotional in life. As if truth is lived in full by all of us – life is a swimming pool of clarity.

  35. There cannot be a good intention behind a lie. The intention behind any lie is always to hide, to misrepresent, to manipulate, to create images in the head of another one that are false.

    1. It is true, the cognitive skill that champions telling lies as a cognitive skill, is differentiation. Yet differentiation clearly allows us to think as an individual and therefore create a reality that is able to manipulate, misrepresent and hide reality so that it is a reality that suits the individual better.

  36. I totally agree that If we were to connect to our souls – then we can only know truth and we can discern in an instant as to what is a lie. We seem to have learnt how to switch off from calling out even a white lie. And I can see and feel the harm in this and how it creates a hurt and a distrust in others.

  37. I love that we are all working on our IED’s, because as you say Dianne, without our Inbuilt Energy Detectors we are at the whim and fancy of all the illusion in this world

  38. Our lie detector, it’s the muscle that’s been left to go saggy in the back ground. A muscle that if it were strong, it would have to be responsible and do much work so others can feel their own sag. For many it’s the responsibility/work that will come that is the avoidance of building this muscle.

  39. ‘With lies, the foundation is always wobbly and shifting…’ this is so true and makes everything so complicated. I am still clunky with truth as I practise it over the pattern of lies that have been my modus operandi for a long time, but the even the clunkiness is refreshing as I get a sense of the unwavering simplicity of truth.

  40. If we examine a lot of human life we will see that behind a lot of actions and words are intentions which are not so obvious, sometimes we are living with already preconceived outcomes in mind and forget about the common expression of truth.

  41. Why is it that we try to pass off little white lies as being ok, because when we start to use little white lies, it teaches us that it is ok to not tell the truth, when the truth is what we should be building as our foundation that way we always know who we are, and at the same time who everyone else is as well.

  42. The hypocrisy of demanding children tell the truth when we want them to but then asking them to become complicit in ‘white lies’ and also shutting them down when it is uncomfortable to hear the Truth that they are expressing is staggering. No wonder children are confused and feel the only way is to shut up and enjoin the merry-go-round of lying that has become the acceptable way to function in society today. As adults we need to own up to our own level of dishonesty and support children to express themselves truthfully however inconvenient this may be.

  43. This is a great call to clear out our own in built lie detectors and come back to Truth. It is easy to feel overwhelmed by how much lying there is in society but we all have the power to connect to our Soul and feel clearly the damage that is caused by choosing a ‘little white lie’ to avoid rocking the boat. This is a deeply ingrained habit but one that I am committed to working on as I become aware of the damage not just to me but anyone that I try and ‘protect’ by being less than truthful. It is always felt and the lack of transparency has a detrimental effect on any relationship. If I am asked a direct question who I am to judge whether the other person is ‘ready’ to hear the truth or not? The arrogance in my judgement reveals the lack of equality in so many interactions throughout my life and has a horrible impact on my body so lots of excavating to do…

    1. It is not so long ago that I was still choosing to be blind to the lies that abound in life and, as I wake myself up to the pervasiveness of lies in all areas of life, there is a sense of inspiration in the seeing that makes me willing to do whatever is required to bring truth back.

  44. ‘With lies, the foundation is always wobbly and shifting. Unfortunately the whole of society’s workings have come to rely on lies as the lubricant that keeps the ‘machine’ going – as the foundation upon which the entire house of cards is built’. – love that Dianne! It is hard, yet gorgeous to imagine a world that is deeply and unwaveringly honest…that asks us to be more and address everything as we go… so you not only know where you stand but what is needed at any point. We have a long way to go but it should be a world that we should aspire to… but as you said it starts with us and our willingness to be nothing but transparent.

  45. There are conscious lies, and then there are sub-conscious lies. Then there is lying to another, and lying to oneself. So, yes, the world is supported by much that is not true, to the point where we do not even question it. And so the only way out of such a predicament is to be willing to be aware – energetically aware first and foremost, for that is the most potent indicator that what stands before you is not what you think it is.

  46. I too was taught that telling white lies was ok if it saved someones feelings from being hurt. It used to be so easy for me to be dishonest in such situations. Little – and some not so little – white lies are everywhere – nowhere more evident than in the politics of today, especially in the USA and UK currently. “Together we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.” Beautifully expressed Dianne.

  47. The lies we speak are the truth we are not willing to live. Once truth is lived and becomes part of our daily movements, it becomes increasing difficult to allow a lie to enter for to do so creates great discord to what is otherwise the natural and harmonious flow of truth (the light and love of our Soul) that we are able to express when we live true to our essence. In other words – lies create great disharmony within the Universal Order (love) we live within and that lives deep within us.

    1. The simplicity of this statement, ‘lies create great disharmony…’ makes so much sense of the discord and complication we live in, that are so far from our totally natural innate relationship with truth.

    2. Beautifully expressed Liane and a great reminder of the fact that even the tiniest white lie creates disharmony in the greater picture of Universal Order, thus affecting everyone, all of the time.

  48. Politicians are our elected representatives of whom i would expect upmost honesty, integrity and commitment to those that they represent and to support the very foundations of our ethical and legal fabric of our society. That one caught in a lie stated “Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.” is both appalling and unacceptable to me.

  49. ‘There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives’ – We have accepted little white lies in many areas of our lives and still today we are accepting them – what is it within each of us that we allow room for these and how are these little white lies keeping us in comfort?

  50. Just the heading of this blog made my shackles come up, one thing my body has always known is that any lie little or big was not right. When one stands in their truth before another, any lie is exposed, as the reflection of what is true can not help but be felt, exposing a lie for the evil it is.

  51. Lies seem to be deeply embedded into our culture. People can advertise products incorrectly, or embellish them with ideas of how they can change your life, we ourselves can ignore our body and keep eating when full (essentially lying to ourselves), politicians can make promises and not deliver, newspapers can present stories with an angle to blatantly or subtly insinuate lies…..the list goes on and on. It’s quite exposing to look at lies like this and consider just how many times per day I am also not completely honest or truthful. Lies have an image of being harmless and the norm of life but they are anything but.

  52. Our bodies know truth so why would we confuse children or anyone else for that matter with little white lies. Telling little white lies lead to children doubting what they feel.

  53. Imagine if job descriptions stated that “…honesty to the core was essential for this position…” imagine if this was the essence of marriage ceremonies, if children were nurtured to the point where they trusted life enough and were inspired enough to be totally honest.

  54. I had an interesting moment with a white lie situation with my son the other day. There was something he knew that it was important his friends didn’t know. I asked him to say something to cover it up and he wasn’t ok with it. He knew he had to keep it secret but he wasn’t ok with lying. He then suggested he would just not say anything. It was a beautiful moment as I realised his commitment to truth – be it big or small, truth is truth.

  55. I wonder how many lies are a result of people feeling they cannot make a mistake, or publicly be vulnerable? Ive noticed people can be ashamed about their imperfections and prefer to protect themselves by lying about their mistakes and covering up how they actually are. I feel it would be great for all human beings to understand that being perfect is impossible and being ourselves, mistakes, warts and all, is perfectly OK.

    1. I felt a small knot in my stomach while reading this, questions like “how honest are you really?” were coming to the surface and boy oh boy am I trying to avoid feeling it! Great read, thank you for this!

  56. As hard as it is to stomach, what you have presented here Dianne is 100% true. We cannot accept these subtle, insidious, self-driven lies and “part-truths” to continue to run riot in society. Of course, the only way to address this is by expressing in absolute truth… Something I am not yet doing – super irresponsible. Thank you for your ‘stop moment’ blog

  57. In all honesty this is the second time I have read this blog, its been a while since the first time but this round was completely different to the last read. I actually felt myself feeling a little defensive for the white lie, feeling like there are times that perhaps it is inappropriate to tell all. I have a unique situation with the father of 2 of my children as I have never told the kids how much their Dad and his friends have attacked me and my family over the years, when my kids ask about him I do not go into detail or divulge this information with them, is that lying? It doesn’t feel like lying, it feel like being sensible…not sure if others agree? Or if I am just kidding myself…but I think that truth is something that we move in, we know in our bones, if it is walked and lived words are a small part of what makes up this truth.

    1. Interestingly what you have shared here is one of the recognised reasons for justifying white lies, protecting others. I wonder if you are protecting your children but you are also protecting the father of your children because on some level you possibly know what he and his friends are doing is truly horrible and below them, they are bullying. Their father is not the man you would like your children to think he is. Yet I wonder if this disempowers them from making up their own mind and making a choice for themselves. as adults, we have to be accountable for our behaviour just as a child does, therefore what we teach if we can bring more honesty is accountability for our expression. It is a good question anonymous.

  58. “The soul of each and every one of us holds and knows the truth, way beyond the consciousness of our brains and everyday thinking.” I have a whole new level of appreciation for this blog reading it this time around. The quote I shared above is profound as it shows that we know each and every lie inside and out and we as a collective humanity are complicit in the facade. Lies for me have always been about protection and like all ‘protection’ they are in fact the thing that is truly harming us. When we connect to our soul there is nothing to fear and the lies dissolve around us.

  59. Great how you shine the spotlight on the way we manipulate our young to accept lies as an everyday part of life so that they perpetuate the myth. Depriving people of truth stifles their potential for evolution and with that being played out all over the world, merely creates global stagnation. Just as importantly, our own bodies eventually become affected by the lack of our own true expression, of saying how it is and what needs to be said. So everybody loses in this illusion of ‘playing nice’ and not rocking the boat. Truth is the only way.

  60. Honesty with ourselves is a great place to start, even with tiny everyday things. We then begin to see the extent to which we rely and need the little white lies to get through our day. “How are you?….I am fine” is a typical line used by most of us most days. The thing with these is that we all know that the “I am fine” is not fine at all, but we don’t make any moves to change it or support anyone to be honest either. Because it’s safe? What would happen if we all started to be honest? We would realise that we actually don’t need a safety net.

  61. Yes it is such a big picture that on one level it cannot help but be daunting , but if we start with the simplest steps, for example being truthful privately to ourselves, then the big picture can start to take care of itself.

  62. The hypocrisy in our world is staggering due, in part, to the overwhelming acceptance of ‘little white lies’; your blog highlights this beautifully Dianne. The summary you present here says it all;
    “A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives. Truth is the bottom line”.

  63. We live in a world with little to no truth and one of the reasons it is thus is because we have endorsed it. Every time there is an untruth, if we don’t correct it, we are endorsing it and confirming to the world that it is ok to live a lie. Speaking for myself, I avoided speaking the truth for most of my life because I preferred to be liked and considered nice, also I thought it would cause conflict to express the truth, when others were avoiding it, and conflict was not something I wanted to be the initiator of.

  64. It is beautiful to support each other to be open about the lies we are holding by the way we are living; to have the space to nominate our specific behaviors we do with the excuse that they are white lies. It frees us from the only true prison that really exists – that place where we can live lost from ourselves in lies.

  65. I have never felt comfortable with lying, it’s like rubbing a cat the wrong way, it goes against everything the body feels and yet your words really stuck with me “I was being trained to force myself to be okay with telling lies and learning how to justify what I knew was wrong.” We have practiced over time to allow, defend, justify and accept the tension that comes with expressing lies. And expression is not just what comes out of our mouths like you say body language can lie, even people who are trained can fool lie detector (polygraph) equipment. But we can’t fool our bodies and if there is a tension in my body – what lies are being accepted or their existence in my life defended or justified as being better than a compared alternative? Thank you Dianne.

  66. “I know I knew this even when I didn’t know that I ‘knew’ it.” I know exactly what you mean Dianne in relation to Truth. The moment you hear it you know deep within that it is so – that it is in fact a known and confirmation we already do know the moment it is presented.

  67. These little white lies are more harmful than we care to admit because they undermine the fact that we know truth by sowing seeds of doubt.

  68. Little white lies are endemic in our society today, so much so that many of us gloss over them and accept them as a normal part of life. It is a sad state of affairs that we have allowed this irresponsible behaviour to occur just so that we can remain in our comfort zones and thus avoid standing tall, and expressing our truth.

  69. That a politician who is elected to represent the people can claim after been caught out in a lie that “Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.’ is clearly a lie in itself and makes me wonder how many others in positions of power think in this corrupted way also.

  70. You have captured the feeling of what it feels like when you listen to a presentation or talk from Serge Benhayon…”I know I knew this even when I didn’t know that I ‘knew’ it..” Exactly! Its the common sense, the ‘yes, i know that’ thought, yet it takes someone (Serge Benhayon) to actually say it for the clarity and access to, understanding so much. It is an quite amazing experience, and, it shows that there is a one unified understanding deep within us all.

  71. I loved how you exposed the truth about little white lies Dianne, which always create a shaky foundation and can never compare with the solidity, power and loving profoundness of Truth.

  72. Yesterday I was swimming with kids in a public pool. You have to be over 9 years old to go in the hot tub. I had two of my kids with me (one of whom is only 8). The lifeguard came to ask me how old my child was. I said 9. A lie. Straight up lie. And it felt and still feels horrible. It’s irresponsible – if something happened, then insurance would be invalid. It’s selfish – if every eight year old got in the hot tub, it would be too busy so why does my child get special treatment. But the worst part of it was the separation it caused between me and the life guard. He could feel that it wasn’t true. He didn’t bother to challenge me, but he could feel it and so now the ball of lies is rolling. I lied to him, it becomes more of his normal, so he lies to another, or just accepts the hurt of being lied to as a part of life. You may say that this is a tiny lie. But what I felt yesterday is that the size of the lie is irrelevant. Anything that isn’t the truth hurts and separates.

    1. Yes Otto, so true. A lie is felt by another and there is a smidgen of sadness at the colluding. The child who witnesses the lying realises that truth is then conditional to what we get out of it. I remember us buying build up trainers so my daughter could make the right height for a whole load of rides at a theme park. On that day we taught her how to manipulate the system. Not my proudest moment as a parent.

      1. Or is it more that in these moments we are eating separation. One rule for one, another rule for others…or that they are just that little bit more special than others. And slowly this builds up.

  73. What I get from this blog is that we as a society have accepted so much lies in our lives that we do not even notice anymore how painful this is. Living anything less than the truth is painful, even the seemingly small little white lies.

  74. I agree, the ” little white lies” we used to hear regularly as children always felt dodgy. I love how it’s now being confirmed how off that approach is. I always thought Santa Claus was a form of parental control to mask the fact they don’t know how to get responses they can handle from their kids.

  75. Yes I agree and well said Dianne, When we are with deep connection to your souls we are not able to be fooled or swayed in anyway. When we are out of line we are confused and flippant with our decisions,options and behaviours.

  76. Thanks Dianne, it seems that the connection to our inner knowing is the key to discerning truth from a lie . . . in fact this is the only true tool in this world of half truths and little white lies that can never be fooled and totally be relied on.

  77. I remember one of my children feeling very hurt when she discovered that that tooth fairy didn’t exist and it was us all along putting money under her pillow. She was visibly upset that she had been lied to. It made me wonder about the reason we do this and the potential harm. I remember discovering as a child that Santa Claus was really my parents, but I went along with it for many years because I wanted to continue to get extra presents. It suited me to be complicit in the lie. Some would say it’s harmless, but I seriously wonder.

  78. I for one have certainly been guilty of many ‘little white lies’ to some not so ‘white’ or ‘little’ and by this I mean nothing that externally would even look like a lie, but nonetheless something expressed or not expressed (verbally or non verbally) that was not the full truth. This is the meaning of lies that we need to come back to – anything that is the absense of full and absolute Truth.

  79. ” Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.” you’ve pinned pointed this so well. our lives are a complete lie as we cover up who we are with all the things we are not. trying to hide away from each other.

  80. Diane, your forthrightness is palpable, as is your penchant for truth and nothing but truth. What you present here in this blog is how truth can be watered down gradually, like an escalation of sorts, till it turns into a complete untruth and yet is still heralded by some as the truth. But the original and untouched truth remains and cannot be completely hidden from the eye of the one who discerns with care. When we lie, even the smallest and ‘whitest’ of lies, it is the beginning of eroding our relationship with truth and with ourselves and those around us. It is the beginning of a compromise that holds no one as equal. It serves no one. So the sooner we can catch ourselves with this ‘game’ that we can end up playing without necessarily being fully aware of it, then the sooner we can make a choice to stop and instead bring the quality we deserve to ourselves and others.

  81. Connecting with the deeper inner part of ourselves is undoubtedly what Universal Medicine is offering to us all… And then to, from that connection, start to be able to feel, as Dianne says, where truth is and where it is not

  82. Dianne, life is indeed built on lies, and it all starts with those little white ones you call out here, and it builds over time so that another lie is used to justify the previous one, and it all gets very messy and complicated, hence our world now. Truth is so much simpler, and no requirement for any justification or need, it opens things up for us all and ultimately give all of us a spaciousness we lack when we live a life based on lies.

  83. ‘I was being trained to force myself to be okay with telling lies and learning how to justify what I knew was wrong.’ This is truly horrific – the thought of inculcating in every successive generation from an early age the art of lying. Because in doing so we take away not their innocence but their knowing and from then on, the new normal becomes an acceptance of low-grade lying and a requirement to do this well when you have to, because it’s expected you will have to. Lying would appear to be now firmly established as part of the required portfolio of survival skills for being human.

  84. There is no such a thing as a little lie. A lie is a lie. Calling something a ‘little white lie” reveals how much we try and get away with things, how deep it is within most people to avoid responsibility.

  85. Just imagine….. we are born knowing how to feel truth; it is innate within us. And then as parents and mentors and teachers, all trying to do our best really, start to expose even the youngest to untruth.. then we can actually grow up so surrounded by lies and distortions of truth that we can lose touch with this most basic of awarenesses.

  86. The opportunity to live with truth as our compass has been there for humanity for aeons… Once upon a time it seemed like this was only there however for a small somehow mystical group, as has been recorded for many thousands of years. Now this opportunity is as always with us, and it is now patently obvious that this is absolutely open for everyone to experience.

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