Tension While Four Wheel Driving

I recently had a great experience of being aware of, and dealing with tension in my body. My husband had been driving our 4WD (four wheel drive) along a track on a beautiful sand island in Queensland with our friend following behind. Shortly into the journey, my friend’s car became bogged in the soft sand so we stopped and walked back to dig her out.

We had just un-bogged her when I noticed another car coming up from behind. My husband hopped into and started driving our friend’s car, while I ran back to our car upfront and started driving. There was no way around my car for anyone to overtake and it was likely the cars behind me would get bogged again if they stopped.

I had been a passenger on a few 4WD’ing trips, mostly along sandy tracks and had observed a lot along the way as to how to drive in very soft sand. However, I had never actually driven for myself. Now being in the driver’s seat, literally, was a whole new ballgame.

As I drove, I put into practice what I had learned from watching my husband drive. I found I quite enjoyed it, but after a few minutes I realised that when the track became more difficult – the holes got deeper and the sand softer – my shoulders, neck, arms and hands on the steering wheel tensed up. I also noticed I was leaning forward in my seat, with my body moving closer to the wheel, which was a sure sign that I was anxious and tense. The same thing happens at work. I am aware I can hunch up and move closer to the computer screen when my work becomes more complex.

I was bracing myself because I was in an unusual situation that in turn was making me even more tense. The internal butterflies I was feeling confirmed that when I’m tense on the outside, I am tense on the inside too and I can’t operate and/or make decisions as easily, or as clearly, as when I am relaxed and with myself. Tension takes away my decision-making capabilities.

So I listened to how my body was feeling and made a conscious decision to let go of the tension, to not brace myself, to relax my body, and to trust the car. I knew the car could handle the track no problems, but only if it was driven in the right way.

In trusting my capable car, I then chose – making a very mechanical decision – to loosen my grip on the wheel, sit back in my seat, release my shoulders, and go along for the ride. I was steering yes, but I was trusting and allowing the car to do the work. It felt very much like the car was an extension of my body and together we totally nailed the track!

The lesson I learned from all this is that I can make friends with tension as it is there to show me something first and then it is up to me to make choices that either help release the tension or instead work with it in a way that best supports me.

Universal Medicine, and specifically Serge Benhayon, have been integral in developing my understanding of how the body works and responds to situations and emotions in a very practical way. It is because of Serge Benhayon’s continued commitment to humanity and truth that I choose everyday to continue my relationship with my body so that I am the master of life, not the other way around.

by Suzanne Anderssen, Brisbane, Australia

Further Reading:
Connection To Self Through Conscious Presence
Anxiety – Unfolded

659 thoughts on “Tension While Four Wheel Driving

  1. A great reminder Suzanne ‘ that I choose everyday to continue my relationship with my body so that I am the master of life, not the other way around.’ I do a lot of long distance driving and continually have to check my posture and see if I am leaning forward or if my shoulders have any tension in them, it is great practise to get into with everything we do in life as it makes such a difference to how we feel in our bodies.

  2. Such a practical and tangible thing to do to really help understand our body. I can relate to driving with tension. I recently relocated to an area where a lot of driving is through the country and hills etc. There are many windy roads and because I’m unfamiliar with the roads I notice that my whole body tenses up as I take the corners, often because I’m feeling a pressure of someone behind me or because I place the pressure on myself to not need to brake, which is crazy. I catch myself at least 10 times in a drive doing this. Some days I let go of the anxiety I’m having about how I should drive and just let my car and my body do what it feels to do more effortlessly, and it’s so much more enjoyable that way, and my body isn’t all locked up and twisted. Other days I make the same mistake with every corner I fly around and seem to realise I’m doing it but stubbornly choose not to do anything about it. It’s all a learning.

  3. What you can be aware of in something so simple and everyday as driving is amazing. As the article is saying that at times we want to control things for what ever reason, we tense up and grab on tight. This is the exact opposite of what to do when driving a car. As is said once the tension was felt and let go of, “It felt very much like the car was an extension of my body and together we totally nailed the track!” The vehicle responds to the direction you give it and in the tension we perceive we are ready for anything but in fact we aren’t truly watching the road, only a part and this creates blind spots. The only way to be truly ready for anything and everything is to have your body ready to truly feel and if you are tense, it’s hard and you will feel less. Allowing your body to settle and let go when you feel you are holding tension is one of the first steps in bringing more awareness to what is really there, after all why did you go tense? What were you already feeling?

  4. Great sharing Suzanne. We brace ourselves because we think we cannot handle a situation. But once we start trusting that we are always equipped to deal with a situation, also meaning we could get help or decide that we will do something, we can let go of the hardening and the anxiety.

  5. Such a vivid account of the tension that can build in our bodies without our being aware of it until it has all but taken over. Great to remind us to keep our awareness in our bodies and allow a constant letting go.

  6. Thank you Suzanne this is a beautiful realisation you share that it is ok to allow ourselves to relax in tense situation as we are then more aligned with what is needed as opposed to tightly holding on and trying to control the situation, and how very much we are supported in any situation.

  7. I often feel my body go into tension and harden up and now I can understand how tensing up the body blocks me from receiving communication that is otherwise available – which makes total sense as our bodies are made of particles and energy pass through us constantly.

  8. Its amazing how often we can brace ourselves in life as if ill equipped to deal with whatever lies in front of us, yet it’s usually only the way we are choosing to face it that makes us ill equipped. I love that the body lets us know through the tension that there is another way to move that requires no bracing, just surrender.

  9. Tension is a common part of life and it is our relationship with it that we need to be aware of, we either live life reacting to the tension we feel by hardening our bodies or we learn to let go of the expectations we place on the way things need to be and surrender and trust that through the connection with our bodies we find a supportive flow to life.

  10. The key lies in developing the awareness of the body. Once we are aware of the tension or the tightness, then we can make the choice to let it go and allow the body to come back to a more natural way of being. Without this awareness, we continue on with the tension or the tightness which continues to affect everything that we do. Sometimes I find body awareness easy to hold onto, and other times I find I am so distracted by the things outside of myself that body awareness is the last thing that comes to me. However, the more I allow the body awareness to develop and the more I make the choices to let go and come back to a more natural way of being, the more I get to actually enjoy life and how I am in it, and so everything around me and what I do becomes a completely different experience. Thank you Suzanne for this wonderful reminder!

  11. I like the idea of making friends with the tension. Instead of making it the enemy to fuss and moan about, it’s a sign from my body to make a change. Staying connected to my body and how it feels means I can catch the tension early.

  12. It is amazing what we can do when we need to step up and do it. We are so much more capable than what we often think we are.

  13. I used to fight against any tension in my body and I now know that I have a choice to either let it go, or work with it, it also acts as a great guide to keep us aware of what is going on and how we can support each other as well, when we feel their tension too.

  14. If we hold the stillness within, like a butterfly flapping its wings through a deadly storm, we can not be touched.

  15. Our body has a great way of showing us that anxiety effects the whole body. When we are anxious muscles tense and we are in a constant state of flight or fight which is exhausting. Being aware of the tension and making a conscious movement to let it go and the flow returns to our body.

  16. Tension is all around us and it is through a consistent way of living and connection with our bodies that we can bring more awareness to the way our bodies are responding to what is going on around us without compromising our quality in any way.

  17. I love this sharing, I’m inspired!

    ‘The lesson I learned from all this is that I can make friends with tension as it is there to show me something first and then it is up to me to make choices that either help release the tension or instead work with it in a way that best supports me.’ This is absolute GOLD!

  18. It is so crazy how we allow tension to control our body and make us anxious. But like you shared we can be friends with the tension in our body and get it to work with us so to ease the tension and eliminate anxiety.

  19. Who would have thought driving a car could give us such gems but it is true “Tension takes away my decision-making capabilities.” We should teach conscious presence in schools so exam periods were less stressful.

  20. When we start to acknowledge we are not the tension and that we actually have a choice in how we deal with tension there is a change, although I must admit the bodily feeling of tension can be overwhelming from time to time. But connecting with my body and truly be present is the way forward and I love how you say ‘make friends with tension’.

  21. Going into tension, physically and mentally, is such a common pattern, a default position really when it comes to a tricky situation; and that can be in an office or out in nature, no difference. This is a great demonstration of how to not let tension and anxiety run the show but let go of the protection and hardness and harness what our body knows to do best, if given half a chance.

  22. It is amazing what we can do once we become aware of tension, we have a choice to let it go or continue to hold on to it. I like how you shared we can make friends with tension because it is there to show us something, instead of ignoring it and pretend it’s not there we can learn from it. This is an awesome reminder for me Suzanne, learn from what my body is telling me and allow myself to simply feel and then make my next choices with more awareness.

  23. just knowing and observing where and when tension creeps into our life can be the start of taking steps to reconnect with ourselves in such a way that we are not taken over with the consequent effects upon our body.

  24. Lately I am finding that if I am doing something that I haven’t done before and have doubts about my ability, it has a horrible effect on my body. I stop being open and at ease, allowing myself to know that I can deal with anything in my life. I feel small, worried and isolated, like the weight of the world is on me. The worry of not knowing also shuts down my access to my intuitive knowing and trust that I will be able to deal with whatever situation is before me.

  25. Your description of your posture as you became tense driving the 4WD made me laugh as I pictured myself doing the same at work at my computer. Then you said that it also reminded you of work! I find the changes in my posture are getting more subtle now as I am more aware of my body and level of tension. However I find it only takes a small change to really restrict the natural ease and flow in my body. It can be letting my chin come forward a bit (which constricts the back of my neck and head) or my shoulders rolling in a bit, causing hardening and contraction across my chest. I find it really important to keep checking and not letting this build up over the day, as this leaves me feeling exhausted by the end of the day.

  26. What a cool, real life example you share here. It goes to show that no matter what we do in life we are responding, learning and if we are willing, listening to our bodies. I found it really cool how you ‘made friends’ with the tension – I don’t think I’ve ever looked at it that way. What a great way to view that relationship. Thanks for sharing 🚙💨

  27. The way we drive our bodies in daily life can be likened to driving a car – and it is important to always be aware if we are the actual driver at the wheel of our own body or the passenger that is merely along for the ride.

  28. A priceless insight – letting go of the tension, anxiousness and tight control and becoming a master of life rather than being at the mercy of it.

  29. Like you Suzanne tension in my body also clouds my mind and in turn takes away my clarity and decisiveness in what I do. This blog is a great reminder of this fact.

  30. Great learning from this article, no matter how challenging a situation is we always have the option of re connecting to the body and letting that guide us

  31. I have started to love driving recently, it’s such a great opportunity to practice connection and being aware of what is going on in my body, such as my breath and my posture and the delicateness of my hands on the steering wheel. I’ve also learnt the way my hands hold the steering wheel can actually help my body surrender, and that my body never needs to harden – no matter what. Driving is such a great life lesson…

  32. This blog empowers us to stand for ourselves and surrender to who we are and what we are capable of. Being it driving a 4WD car or playing music. It is so important that with what we do comes surrender to ourselves – and trust that we are divine and are capable to trust our own power and authority. And to trust that we are held in love and that there are so many things around us to support that.

  33. After a plethora of speeding offences I have been forced by the Court of Law (quite literally) to finally totally re-imprint the way I drive my car. It has been astonishing. A short trip in the car now offers me an amazing opportunity for connection. If I commit to it I absolutely love it and it is a hugely supportive part of my day – totally changing how I am on arrival. Driving from A to B has never had more purpose!

  34. I love this sharing- I can remember a friend teaching me how to drive my car more relaxed. He showed me how to relax and let the car do what it is designed to do. It was an amazing lesson and really highlighted something bigger about the level of anxiety that I can approach life with.

  35. A great example of the impact our need for control can have on the body. With a clear purpose, an approach of ‘going along for the ride’ along with ‘trusting and allowing’ are far gentler ways of living life. And if as you say, ‘tension takes away my decision-making capabilities’ then just what quality of decisions and outcomes are we creating when we live our lives in a constant state of tension and nervous energy?

  36. Great blog Suzanne, making friends with tension! This is very cool, I could really relate to feeling the tension in my body, not only when driving, but also tensing up when in front of a computer. Bringing awareness to this process and then being able to make other choices, to let go of the tension, making friends with it, can be very helpful.

  37. I too have learnt so much from watching my husband drive. From driving down narrow lanes where I live in Mid-Wales, U.K. to driving in Central London I have observed my husband and simply had a go! Most certainly, I experienced tension and a lot of it at times along the way but it wasn’t going to stop me from driving in situations that were new to me. I feel there are always going to be moments in life as we move forward where we will experience tension but it is what we do with it that matters.

  38. “As I drove, I put into practice what I had learned from watching my husband drive.” We can learn so much from others simply from observing them. That is why it is imperative as a parent to live in a way by example that is true to me as much as possible.

  39. Last night we had a cow calving. The calf was dead but the cow had opened just enough to get the calving jack with the help from the vet to pull it out. I held the tail of the cow and could feel the tension in my body. My body was leaning forward and I could sense that I was frowning (which my nine year old daughter pointed out) a sure sign I was in anxiousness. As soon as I was aware of how I was feeling I was able to let go of the tension and I felt so much more solid in my body. The calf was very gently eased out and afterwards the cow got up, a great sign that the cow had not been harmed during the process. It goes to show that awareness is key… it is then a choice.

  40. It is an absolute gift to read this blog before I start work today. I have always felt that tension was something that made things harder and there is a part of me that resents challenges. Amazing to see that these challenges are simply opportunities to deepen my connection with myself.

  41. We are so used to holding tension in our bodies that we often do not ever notice we have tension. I noticed this the other day when I was out walking and a stranger walked towards me that my body became ever so slightly tense. As soon as I noticed this I let my body relax and the tension left. It was a matter of becoming aware of the tension and making a different choice.

    1. I agree Elizabeth, it is so normal for us to live our lives in tension and some would argue that they thrive and do better when they are tense and in nervous energy but I am realising that any tension I find myself in, if I choose to not let it go it will catch up with me usually feeling tired. It really does pay to be present and call out when we are tense so that we can make a different choice.

  42. The moment we clock the tension we can choose to remain tense or change how we are moving which changes how we feel. Thank you for this simple yet huge reminder Suzanne.

  43. ‘I can make friends with tension as it is there to show me something first and then it is up to me to make choices that either help release the tension or instead work with it in a way that best supports me.’ – Awesome point, Suzanne, your blog is a great reminder to stop and check in with your body. I sometimes find that I am tensing my body, especially the muscles in my legs, while just simply sitting. I will certainly pay more attention to this phenomenon and befriend the tension so I can surrender to it, and subsequently easy my body.

  44. I love this blog, it really shows the practicality and common sense of The Way of The Livingness. It shows how this religion is about everyday life and everyday situations and experiences.

  45. What I love about re-reading your blog Suzanne is the practical tips we can use in our own day to day living. Being aware of how we are in our bodies and learning from our connection is huge. Thank you for sharing.

  46. I love the idea of making friends with the tension for then we can choose to let go of the control and be in allowance – I can always know by the way my hands feel on the steering wheel of my car whether i’m in connection with myself or in tension with the driving conditions.

  47. This blog reminds me how often I wind myself up and go into tension unnecessarily – like holding a phone very tightly against my ear when I cannot hear very well as if that would make any difference, instead of asking the person to speak up. It all happens in a nano-second. I have become aware of how quickly I employ tension in my body in reaction to situations, and how much residue has been left in my body to form patterns. Thank you, Suzanne, your blog has been a perfect prompt for me to pay more attention.

  48. Suzanne I have also learned a lesson – I also like it very much to make my tension my best friend. A good friend will always help and so there is more easiness than a deep exhaustion.

  49. And, what would the quality be like of everyone arriving where they are going and then doing what they drove to do. That is what is so powerful about this – it is not just about what happens on the road…but ripples way, way beyond that moment into the rest of our day. Everything is everything and so that time spent in the bubble of our cars, even if we are alone, is no less important and impactful on the rest of humanity as when we are amongst other people. When I remember that and think big like that, then my presence, commitment and care are second nature. Forget that, play small or think only of self, and my driving changes completely.

  50. What I find fascinating is sometimes we don’t even know we are in tension and so we think we are getting on with things and the someone touches our back and its the ‘aha
    moment’ that makes us consider just how much tension we are actually carrying around with us!

  51. This is such a great example of the practical approach to life, Serge Benhayon’s presentations have, Suzanne. Yes, his work is Esoteric, Occult, philosophical, religious and scientific and it is so in its true form: connected to and supporting everyday life in our current societies.

  52. “Making friends with tension”, instead of fighting it. This has been a great insight for me especially when driving and needing to get to an appointment on time and then being held up by unexpected traffic on the way. At this point I am aware of tension in my body and the best I could do was be aware of what was happening, but reading your blog has supported me to do so in a different way. To work with the tension, feel it and respond.

  53. I have a developing relationship with tension where i am learning to appreciate what tension shares with me and where i am learning to accept and be with the tension presented and what is being truly offered.

    1. Beautiful Marcia, this really does change our perspective on how we view tension. It feels like there are many levels of tension from how we are simply sitting or standing with ourselves to experiencing tension on a stage in front of people or even expressing in disagreement with another but what ever the reason for the tension arising I am inspired to begin to embrace the tension by appreciating and accepting it for what it is truly offering me.


  54. Driving is so much fun and I have always enjoyed it. Driving has changed for me from the extreme of brought on tension and thrill of street dragging, which is very dangerous, to about staying with my body’s natural still-nature. Driving is about releasing the tension and being with myself and not what is going on around me outside the car or any thrill of racing or beating another.
    I drive now focusing on what is going on inside the car and inside me. I’m not perfect with this daily activity and can easily fall into bad habits but it is long way from how driving used to be for me. It makes such a difference and driving is confirming, relaxing and more enjoyable than how I used to drive.

  55. Making friends with tension and one’s choices with it is a great way to be and what an reflection – thank you . Having had a car drive into me from behind resulting in a bad accident years ago I usually find i get very tense when in a car driving or being a passenger and do not trust what may happen This is a brilliant sharing to try in my life.

  56. A great blog and I love what you took away from the experience, ‘I choose everyday to continue my relationship with my body so that I am the master of life, not the other way around.’

  57. I absolutely love the practical way in which you shared your experience about trusting the vehicle and allowing that to guide you and you work together. Surrendering in life and allowing the flow to be and do what is needed I too have been working on since being introduced to Serge Benhayon and it has simply changed my life completely. I feel more relaxed, at ease and enjoy life, even those tricky moments when I am still learning to just be me in them.

    1. I agree, the way we drive, how we feel while driving can be a very practical gage on our steps meter.

  58. “Tension takes away my decision-making capabilities.” I totally agree, Suzanne, and yet so much of life sees us being tense, or engaging in tense situations – including socially endorsed tension, usually called ‘excitement.’ but the truth is that this tension robs us of our sense, reason, and flow with life. Why, then, do so many consciously cultivate it?

    1. Coleen, this is a good point. Why do so many cultivate tension, when it leads to a rise of nervous energy which is not a nice feeling?

    1. Absolutely spot on Matthew. We either choose to be in the drivers seat and choose what runs us, or we choose to be a passenger in life and have life run us.

  59. It is not until I let myself feel the tension that I have the opportunity to let it go. My body is always more than willing to let it go – it knows how exhausting it is to be tense the whole time. In choosing to be aware of my body and its signaling, it is my choice to make this possible or not.

  60. This is the perfect blog for me to read today. After having a few tense days making decisions connected with travel and connections between different Public transport. I recognise what you are saying about letting go and relaxing and trusting myself everything will work out fine. If something goes wrong I will deal with it in the moment!. But while ever I hang on tight to the reigns there is more scope for error. Thank you Susanne.

    reigns”

  61. A great blog, Suzanne, you really explain the way to deal with tension in the body so you can relax and let things work out smoothly and effortlessly. “A great start, “The lesson I learned from all this is that I can make friends with tension as it is there to show me something first and then it is up to me to make choices that either help release the tension or instead work with it in a way that best supports me.” I can relate to your explanation of deliberately physically letting go of the tension in all the areas that we tend to hold it, as you described, ‘loosen my grip on the wheel, sit back in my seat, release my shoulders’, yes, those are the areas I would have to look at in a similar situation, can remember using that method when doing a long distance drive once or twice. Yes, then let the car do its work, with a little gentle guiding and awareness. Then something that was stressful becomes something we can really enjoy. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Beverley and Shirley-Ann your comments have got me wondering about the origins of some of the tension I feel. Referring to learning to drive opened me to the realisation of the pressure getting something “right” puts on the body. Whether it’s an exam or situation in life we can be so focused on the outer achievement with no focus on the connection to self, or putting the self first. Trusting myself and trusting the support all around me also feels like a big part of releasing tension.

  62. I like the example you have illustrated whilst 4 wheel driving, and what you have presented is true, we are so much more equiped to deal with lifes challenges when we are connected to ourselves

  63. It is amazing how much tension can take control of us unnecessarily if we choose to let it. I have been in many situations like you Suzanne and it feels so good to relax the body and let the tension go and take back the control.

  64. It is quite incredible how much I can tense up in reaction to situations, my whole body can feel hardened and stiff. I realise that this is actually just a protection, mostly just protecting a old hurt that I do not want to have exposed. But with an open trust in myself, knowing that I can handle whatever life brings, my body remains loose and kind of fluid, there is a grace to its movements and my voice has a sweetness to it. This is the beauty of not being afraid.

  65. I totally love what you have written at the end, Suzanne, about being a master of your life rather than the other way round and your car experience is such a great example of what the making of this choice looks like in action… thank you.

  66. So apt reading this blog – I’d never considered tension being a friend that was telling me something and once I have read the message I can then let go of the tension as it has no further use.

    I find myself hunching my shoulders when I am concentrating at work in front of the computer. I usually realise and then mechancially release my shoulders down. But what if I were to pause and feel what is it I am getting tense about, to acknowledge and choose to trust letting the tension go, feeling what is there beneath the tension that would otherwise be masked over?

  67. I love this sharing Suzanne, it is amazing how we can tense up and continue on in our day with that, or become aware of it and let it go. It is exhausting for our muscles if we do not become aware of it as we use a lot of energy to stay in the tension. I have found that the Esoteric Yoga classes have been great in supporting me to be more aware of my body and any tension that I may be holding.

  68. Thank you Suzanne, we experience tension all around us and developing a relationship with our bodies allows us to work with whatever is being presented without compromising the innate nature of our being.

  69. Dear Suzanne, this was very helpful to me to read again today to identify the feeling in my body that was actually tension. It cleared with the simple awareness of my body and letting go, especially of the “holding”, and a realisation of needing to lighten up! The amount of tension in my body was really not appropriate to what is going on – great to feel the dramatic over reaction and pattern of deep tension. This little lady plans to do more lightening up 🙂

    1. I can relate to what you are saying here, Melinda, I can find at times that I have tightened a particular area of my body, say in the thigh, or maybe having curled my toes up. Once I realise this, and feel the tension, I have learned to let go of the holding in that area, and what a relief it gives to the body. I find it is happening less and less now, as I become so much more aware of the patterns that I use to control things that I don’t like to feel. It becomes easier and easier to let this go as I become much more aware. Yes, it is a “dramatic over reaction and pattern of deep tension”. More lightening up for me too. How much more we can enjoy life this way.

  70. I have been noticing also lately that there is a varying degree of background tension often present in my body that sometimes is so subtle I don’t even notice it straight away. Yet this tension if I allow it to be there definitely affects my ability to observe and read and understand any situation in front of me clearly. I then use my intellect to make up for this deficit in feeling and well it starts to go down hill from there and I end up in situations that are not great and not how I originally intended them to turn out. All from allowing this tension in my body!

    1. Me too, Andrew: and what starts out as a 2mm chin jutting out can result in my whole spine going out of alignment – the chin is just the 1st step away from myself and the next steps unfold from there. It is so essential to be aware of the smallest of messages our bodies share with us.

      1. Thanks Coleen, great that you linked this tension to a physical change in body posture or position – it is another great marker we can use to detect this tension or energetic shift in our bodies.

    2. Such a simple thing to do Shirley-Ann and yet to lie flat and surrender into our bodies is such a brilliant way of connecting to ourselves fully and letting go of the tensions we hold in various parts of our body.

  71. We cannot ever master life, we can only master one thing and that is our connection, the rest is not up to us.

  72. I asked an exceptionally wise young man one day when the turning point for him came, as in, what happened to support him to choose to commit to living a life of love in full. His answer was when he accepted that tension never goes away. For me I can now feel that when I do this, there is no struggle in my body anymore. I accept the tension is there but can choose not to give it any power over me.

    1. Wow. Lucy, thank you for this precious insight. Acceptance is clearly the key and then of course the oh-so-important choice!

    2. Ah… ‘he accepted that tension never goes away’ – light bulb moment! Of course it doesn’t, it is always there. Simply being aware and accepting that it is always there is empowering. Once again, I am being reminded that it always comes back to me and my responsibility to be aware of the tension in my body and then what I choose to do with the tension.

  73. Wise words Suzanne, “The lesson I learned from all this is that I can make friends with tension as it is there to show me something first and then it is up to me to make choices that either help release the tension or instead work with it in a way that best supports me”.

  74. Hi Suzanne, as I read your article I could really feel what it felt like to be behind the wheel of that car and begin to trust your body, wow! What a great metaphor for life, thank you.

  75. ‘The lesson I learned from all this is that I can make friends with tension as it is there to show me something first and then it is up to me to make choices that either help release the tension or instead work with it in a way that best supports me.’ What a great reminder Suzanne. Yes, I too have found myself on the edge of my seat in a tricky situation, or with my face in the computer screen when the task is challenging … it’s quite absurd that we do these things … coming back to the body is a great way to notice the tension then choose differently.

    1. Hello Anne and I also agree a great and wise reminder for everyone. The choice just comes even just in the awareness of the tension and not walking past it. Without an awareness of even just having tension you can often think it’s normal, or it’s just how you are. Many of us walk around in tension year after year without even once seeing it. Articles like this are great because they bring practical everyday things we do into more awareness. Even right now typing and speaking to you I’m very aware if any tension comes up in my body, then just let it go (surrender), breathe and continue on.

  76. As uncomfortable tension may be, it is an ally of awareness if we so choose to and not just settle for seeking relief.

    1. Hello Alex and I agree it is always a choice. We are bombarded from left and right by the world that has only one thing in mind, to stop you feeling. If we take a moment when you sense a tension to just feel, even a small part, this as you say Alex will bring more awareness. It seems and reads so simple but yet we seemed to have made it all too difficult, tension equals stop.

      1. Yes, tension asks us to stop, feel and realize what it is that we feel and most often to then deepen our connection with what we know to be truth and thus support ourselves and others to not be taken by the tension (not react) but raise our level of presence.

      2. Essentially we are saying that if we choose then we can take the tension and the stop as an evolutionary point to deepen our presence and connection. If we live this way maybe we can begin to view tension not just as something uncomfortable but has a key to unlock what has been stuck or a integral stepping stone.

  77. I have been aware of tension whilst driving when I’ve been caught up in driving on a dual carriageway, especially in rush hour, and everyone is driving fast, I’ve got caught up in the rush home tension. I can feel the tightness in my forearms from my hands holding the wheel and the tension in the back of my neck. It’s great to notice it, let go of it and change our posture, and not join the hubbub energy of others, knowing how it affects our decision making capabilities. Being a master of our own choices is empowering, thank you Suzanne.

    1. Oh yes, gillrandall, I can relate to that description you give of driving on a dual carriageway, especially with huge trucks all around me, it is so easy to be caught up in the enormous tension that is being held by everyone all around me, as well as my own. Yes, the only way to deal with this for me is to really feel where the tension is being held in my body, and let it go, area by area and straighten my body gently. Once I am completely steady with myself, and deeply connected, it is amazing how I can then come to actually accept and enjoy the journey. Letting that tension go is so transforming in how I then perform the task in hand.

    1. Absolutely Steve, it is matter of trust, when we trust, space is created and in space their is God, we are forever being held in Gods love so their is nothing to lose.

    2. Hello Steve and I agree. It would seem to make no sense though. You would think that if you didn’t want to lose something you would hold onto it so so tight and that would be the answer but yet, as with so many things in this world, it’s upside down. There were many opportunities for me to see this when I was growing up. If something was really concerning me people would say, “just let it go”. I didn’t really know how to do this at the time but I would try. It wasn’t until Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon hit this on the head that I could finally see what that meant. As you say Steve, life is not what it seems and life isn’t something to hang onto but merely something to live, moment by moment. Life unfolds before our eyes if we allow it, or if you want it to look a certain way then life will repeat itself over and over until you ‘let it go’.

      1. Life is interesting how we are like a dog with a bone and will adamantly refuse to let go! Sarahrayne you have made me remember the other comments about letting go that others have offered advice on in the past; will anyone or yourself die if you just walk away, cut your loses while your still ahead, why spend time and effort on something that is never going to happen… and all we did was growl.

      2. We did growl Steve but what there is more to it than that? I had an interaction with my daughter yesterday, I told her something was going to happen and then it did happen. I thought to myself… why didn’t she listen? I realised after that it is common problem as a parent, an example is, you tell your teenager “don’t drink alcohol” but you have a glass of wine at night. We tell our kids one thing but don’t actually live it, we are then left wondering why they didn’t listen??
        I find that lots of people told me to ‘let go and things will flow more’ but I could not hear it until it came from someone that actually lived there words and that was Serge Benhayon.

      3. How many times were we told as children ‘do as I say not as I do’ and we wonder why teenagers don’t listen. I know I can hold my hand up to that one.

  78. Recently I drove through a snow storm at night . I found my hands tight on the steering wheel and my whole body on alert as I maneouvered through the winding lanes and other traffic on the road. I found the more tense I was the more I became fixated on the snow and the temptation to be mesmerised by it as it came crashing towards me. By dropping into my body and constantly checking how I was with myself, looking after the way I was with me and the car, the easier it was to navigate and not get drawn in by the storm.

    1. I can remember something similar here suddenly, elainearthey, when I was caught in a hailstorm, with quite big hailstones. Luckily I was in a big ‘troop carrier’, strongly made, many other drivers of smaller cars had pulled over to the side of the road, which was very windy and narrow leaving little room for other vehicles. I had no alternative but to continue driving, so I remember letting my body relax and just concentrating on the task in hand. I safely manoeuvred the vehicle the next few miles until I was free of the storm. By letting go the tension and really connecting to me I could feel that I was being guided by something deep within me as I completed the journey. It felt an amazing journey, which I will never forget, with no damage to me or the vehicle.

  79. I love what you express Suzanne “I choose everyday to continue my relationship with my body so that I am the master of life, not the other way around.” I agree our relationship with our body supports us to be the master of our life.

    1. Yes I agree Mary-Louise great pick up. While it may sound to some a little ‘pipe dreamy’ it is spot on the way to live. You can deny it, not believe it, rubbish it and or turn and walk away but in the end you will come back to the same point to see the same thing a different way. Your body will never lead you astray, it may not look how ‘you want’ it to look but it will always be inline with where you need to be, “our body supports us to be the master of our life.”

  80. The embodied understanding of tension being there to show you something Suzanne is superb and something for me to heed.

  81. Acknowledging when there is tension being held physically and physiologically is sometimes all that is needed for it to start reducing.

  82. As you have pointed out Suzanne, trust is the key to surrender. Through surrendering, we allow for space to be created in our body. It is in this space that we come to know God.

  83. What a great observation you had Suzanne and then chose to drop the tension whilst driving the truck, which made all the difference. ” I knew the car could handle the track no problems, but only if it was driven in the right way…” This is very much like the way we travel through life too, in the sense that when we are feeling at ease, connected with our body, we can handle ‘the track’ (life) with no problems either. A great experience that has quite a parallel on the way we travel through life.

    1. What a gorgeous comment Johanne, yes the more we build in love, trust and respect of the body by being connected to it, the more at ease we can be with life and what’s next. I can certainly relate to the tension and anxiety that comes from not being connected to my body and feeling unprepared for life.

  84. Suzanne Anderssen this is a popping blog – it pops because from my body I understood and felt exactly what you are sharing. Tension can grip the body and even the smallest invitation to let go and unravel ourselves can change our experiences.

  85. What a powerful reflection Susanne; going along for the ride, trusting your inner wisdom and letting go of the tension sounds beautiful to me.

  86. I loved reading this blog Suzanne, trusting yourself and trusting the vehicle was key to the tension you were feeling. It reminded me of the tension I used to feel in groups, and how it is a choice to let go of the tension that can be felt while working together, feeling the tension is a great marker, one we can either work with, or against.

  87. ‘Making friends with tension” – such a gorgeous phrase Suzanne, something I would have never considered a while ago. I would have felt it, not liked what I felt and went to get a massage to make it go away. I don’t do that now as I recognise that tension is just a result of the choices that I have made. Now when I feel it, I simply make a new choice and let it go.

    1. I loved that phrase too Jennifer – it’s something I am building a relationship with in accepting what I feel in the body and not trying to combat, fight or make it different. Where there is surrender there can be true healing.

      1. “Where there is surrender there can be true healing” – I am slowly learning this too Rachael as I gradually develop a different realtionship with tension – we’re definitely not best buds yet (!) but I don’t fight or try to ignore it as much as I used to 😉

    2. Are there two types of tension?

      The physical one that we can actually feel in our muscles and joints which is the one we can let go of to make our bodies freer and more spacious.

      And the inner one, which is the tension that will always be there whilst life is lived so far from our natural, loving and unified way. I see this second tension as an inspiration and impulse to be always evolving and developing to this way of life.

      1. That makes sense Matilda. I wonder would the inner tension play out physically as the physical tension we feel in our bodies and when we know we can allow ourselves to let go of this, then shows us that we can also let go of the tension we hold as we evolve. Either way it’s very beautiful as we can constantly feel we are more and that our body is the key to feeling this.

      2. Yes it feels to me that we can experience the physical tension when we do not surrender to our inner one and trust that our body knows exactly which way to go and what to do in order to bring us to this Universal Order. When we allow our mind to take over, it can easily jar our body in the process. This can lead to created situations whereby we compromise our body or move in a way that is not harmonious or congruous with its true way, and physical tension can result.

      3. Hello Matilda and yes there are many forms of tension but the way to approach them is the same, stop and feel. Many times when I say ‘stop’ I have a picture of this long winded thing but it’s not. A stop can be a second or it can be longer, a pause maybe. The stop should have enough time to allow the tension to settle, if it doesn’t the first time it may need a consistent check in or stop over a period, many little moments together to release your body.

      4. By letting go of the physical tension in our muscles it supports us to be able to recognise and feel the inner tension which although will always be there, can be felt as inspiration as you says Matilda and not a problem or issue.

  88. A very beautiful and practical example of feeling the effects of tension in your body and then making a choice of letting that go.

    1. Yes Jennifer, I find it so much easier to connect to something that is presented with such a practical example – so very real and relateable.

    1. Beautifully said Marcia, our bodies hold incredible truth always, it makes perfect sense to connect to the body and move from there.

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