Inspired by an article from Simon Asquith where he wrote that:
“The hardest thing to deal with in the world is that we create our own reality,” I started to ponder on ‘our’ reality and ask the question, “What is it that we find so hard to deal with?”
So what is in fact ‘Reality’?
‘Reality’ can be so different between people and time. In our past it was reality for us that our world is flat, or that planet Earth is the centre of the Universe.
For some of us it was and is reality to feel (or be treated) better or less than others because of so called culture, skin colour, appearances, being so-called intelligent or having money or status.
- For a woman in the 19th century her reality was quite different to now (21st century) – be it the right to vote, the type of work on offer, to be seen as attractive or just the possibility to wear trousers.
- Or as a black person in America it is a quite different reality living in 1800, 1900 or in 2016.
Living at the same time or in the same house, the perceived realities differ enormously. For some it is reality to be in poverty and for others it is to live in abundance. You can also ask my husband – his view of situations, his ‘reality’, often has a large deviation from mine …
So we are living in different ‘realities’ depending on centuries, where and with whom we live, our position, what mood we are in and our point of view.
That our world is a spherical planet and not a flat disc is a truth, and it did become a reality for us in due course. The Greek philosopher Pythagoras for example, had the realisation of the world being a globe over 2000 years ago and this truth eventually became a ‘reality’ for the masses in the 16th century by Magellan sailing around the world, so proving the fact – over 1500 years later! Prior to Magellan for most of the people the flat world was a reality as this ‘fact’ was taught in schools and what we saw with our own eyes when we looked around.
However Pythagoras and his students lived on the same, flat world – but did look deeper, or beyond it, as it seems. So it looks like that truth is something that we discover by and by, and reality is what we create until the realisation takes place – or till we get proved via what others did realise ahead of the masses. For example, we did find out that the world we live in is a globe – but until then, we lived in a reality we created, like ‘the world is flat’.
We create as a society, as a group, and as an individual, our own reality, often involving others into that perceived reality.
As an example: growing up, my perception of ‘reality’ in regards to my family members has changed dramatically. As a child I sometimes suffered under the tense situation in my home and I was sure that it was my father who was the cause for all the disagreements and trouble.
Later, as a young adult completing a Psychotherapy Degree, I became sure my mother was to blame for all the family disagreements and trouble. And again later I felt certain that, if just my husband would change a bit here and there, my world would be much greater.
From growing up, learning, completing education courses and through my everyday living experiences, I changed my reality quite often but some things, some habits and beliefs did stay, like looking for someone else to blame.
Until I met Serge Benhayon… and through attending his presentations I started to consider the possibility that I am the one who created all my troubles and that what happens in my life is of my own making.
To learn that I am responsible for everything in my life – this ‘possibility’ is such a firecracker to me. Even after 10 years of dealing with and learning to accept responsibility of my choices, I am still not ready to live it in full.
But let us be honest and ‘real’ – if we create our own reality (what we do), our relationships, the choices we make, then everything that happens in our life is our own responsibility.
And sometimes nearly the whole of mankind is involved in a so-created reality – like ‘the world is flat’. However, my responsibility to feel the truth of a reality does not become less just because others believe a ‘reality’ as their truth. If we all would stay with the current view of reality – we would have no development.
It needs people like Pythagoras who speak up and present another way, people who challenge our ‘normal’. People who illuminate to us the way to the truth. For me, Serge Benhayon is such a human. He comes along and shows us another way, presents us a true way of living – and what is it that we do? We react.
“I am quite comfortable in my own little reality of what is normal, and don’t think I need to change – I don’t want to ‘rock my boat’.”
However, with everyone who starts bringing (or accepting) more truth into his/her life, my boat starts rocking, I can tell you!
To get exposed to how much I did create my reality that suited me is devastating. I have to look in a mirror and see all my choices which brought me to where I am right now and see what my choices have done to others, to us all.
In a figurative sense, would I have been one who supported the idea of ‘the world is flat’ and we are ‘the Centre of the Universe’? And if so, am I not in the same way responsible for everyone who was sentenced, suppressed, abused or even killed because they presented something else than the commonly accepted – even though I never met them personally?
I am responsible for my choices, for what I accept as truth and for what we as a society accept as ‘normal’ in our (created) world. By creating ‘reality’ I am responsible for everything that is going on in this world and what happens to every single one of us. I am responsible for every point where we do not have living truth, but believe in a created reality which is a bastardisation of truth.
This is what we get as a reflection by a man who is just living in full integrity: where we are at with our responsibility. And now I have a choice:I can ‘kill the messenger’, try to kill or neglect the reflection I’ve got and so try to avoid to feel and take my responsibility in life and on earth – but in fact I can’t really get rid of it.
The world will not become flat just because I think so and invest in it. By fighting against the truth that is presented by one or a few I just delay that it becomes a reality for us all – but truth finds it way, always, sooner or later.
I have started to be very thankful for the reflections I now have in my life – not just the reflection I get from the way Serge Benhayon lives, but also, through the reflections of my family and friends who are choosing a responsible way of living.
I am starting to see that to live in truth is connecting us as one again.
In the past by everyone living in their ‘own’ reality we lived as individuals, separated from each other.I am starting to see the beauty and grace in becoming exposed in my creations, challenged in ‘my reality’ (as long it comes with love and understanding) – becoming a reflection of truth to others.
“Truth: a reached point that unites all and thus lays to rest any argument that will separate human beings.” Serge Benhayon An Open Letter to Humanity, p 72
By Sandra Schneider, Licensed Therapist, Counsellor & Natural Cosmetic Store Manager, Cologne/Germany