Currently I have been working with a highly qualified and very well renowned Esoteric Practitioner and Physiotherapist Kate Greenaway-Twist on a Connective Tissue Exercise program.
Each month we have an online session where Kate shares different Connective Tissue Exercises to support my body. I have made the choice to commit to do these exercises every day and night, when I wake up and before I go to bed. I have found this to be an incredible support, and also the changes and expansion from these simple movements in my body is immense. Until last night I didn’t realise how much, as I tend to brush aside the grandness of things, thinking it’s no big deal.
Kate asked how this past month had been and I shared what has been going on for me. Lastly came a question about my pelvic floor area, an area I shared the previous month I was completely disconnected from; that I couldn’t, or in truth, didn’t want to feel.
This whole area I actually looked at – and have looked at – with disgust for around 20 years. Why? Because of the level of abuse I have allowed in my body by having sex with people I didn’t want to and when I didn’t want to, purely through a lack of self-worth, a need, and growing up thinking I would find love outside of myself from someone else or in a relationship, rather than inside me, and my relationship with myself.
What I shared with Kate was huge; through the simple choice to connect to my body and move, doing two Connective Pelvic Floor Exercises for a few minutes every day – nothing else – I actually feel absolute love in and for this whole area.
It feels a joy to connect to and feel this part of my body, and to be honest when I look down I now smile; there’s a warmth, a tenderness and a love there that I have never felt before, or at least not for a very long time. I can absolutely say I love this area of my body, it feels precious and I want to take care of it deeply.
To feel this, I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.
If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.
I have always heard and known the fact that everything is a choice, but until yesterday I have not felt this so clearly, simply and deeply in my body.
Inspired by the incredible Kate Greenaway-Twist and my pelvic floor.
by Gyl Rae, Teacher, 38, Scotland
Further Reading:
Listening To Your Body
Claiming Back My Body
Self-Care And Learning to Respect My Body
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
“It doesn’t have to be a big deal” But, the response from our body is huge and changes the way we move with every step we take.
Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy is the simplest of techniques but delivers the most astound results.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.” I love what you’ve shared here, it’s taking out the drama to allow our love to be restored very simply. Love is actually our natural way so it makes sense that we can actually easily discard unloving patterns, even if they’ve been there a long time. I am also learning at the moment how key it is to work directly with the body to bring about change.
It is a simple and wise choice to let go of all that is not loving and supporting to our bodies, ‘ I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me.’
Recently I have taken up changing one thing in my life and have noticed how it’s spreading to other parts of my life. Seemingly ‘small’ moves have a huge impact on our lives.
Gyl I can feel just how much I do this
“I tend to brush aside the grandness of things, thinking it’s no big deal.”
I have made the extra-ordinary, ordinary and life is not ordinary at all. We have as a collective made it so dull and monotonous because so many of us have lost the magic of God that surrounds us always.
When I relax, and take time for me, unwind and chill I feel my whole body relaxing, though when I am stressed I can go hours without connecting to the intricate parts of me.
‘What I shared with Kate was huge; through the simple choice to connect to my body and move, doing two Connective Pelvic Floor Exercises for a few minutes every day – nothing else – I actually feel absolute love in and for this whole area.’ This is huge! When we connect to love the power of it can blow us away, especially if we have been in contraction or have denied it, and once in connection to it we wonder why on earth we disconnected from it in the first place!
… ‘growing up thinking I would find love outside of myself from someone else or in a relationship, rather than inside me, and my relationship with myself.’ I have probably commented on this before but it still shines out because it’s something I’ve lived in all my relationships and am still uncovering more layers of seeking love through others.
I have tried to fulfill what other people have needed me to be in exchange for gratitude, company even. I felt such an emptiness growing up I remember consciously working out how to make it so I had friends. It wasn’t all false because I cared about people and couldn’t drop standards towards them- though I shied away from saying something that needed to be said for fear of offending the person and losing the friendship.I have a multitude of examples revolving around me being the perfect solution to someone’s needs at the expense of feeling my needs and hurts, Physically it’s unsustainable to live this way. As I am appreciating my qualities I am able to say when there is something I cannot do for someone, and able to be ok if people aren’t interested in me because I am no longer useful to them in the way that they want me to be.
I love the re-connection that can be felt with the connective tissue movements, I experience a deeper relationship and awareness with my body throughout the day.
The vast majority of us have become disconnected to the grandness of life and instead have reduced life to a tick box exercise, our heads are down and we just seem to plough through the day and reward ourselves with chocolate or alcohol or both for making it to the end and then we start all over again the next day. Just writing this I can feel the utter futility of our lives the lie we are living and yet we make it everything.
The body is quite simply magic… yes we can shut it down, ignore it, abuse it. However, its always there trying to communicate and just a little bit of attention and it comes alive again with a rich background of data, feelings, information about the way we are living. It just requires us to listen and to love.
Re reading your blog gives me the inspiration to commit to the Connective Pelvic Floor Exercises as I know and can feel how powerful they are.
Absolutely brilliant, so glad I read this it is the simplicity I love and the power of committing to one supportive thing for the body. Amazing.
Simply beautiful Gyl, it is in the loving connection with ourselves that the all can be felt and appreciated.
Having a loving connection with self, supports us to have that same connection with other people.
Your comment about it not having to be a big deal is spot on and exposes how much we are addicted to making things a big deal. I know I can, and when I choose not to, it feels so much lighter in my body.
Absolutely! There are whole industries devoted to issues and how to fix them by talking more and more about the issue, understanding is great but what is shown here is the deepth of healing that can occur by focusing on loving acts to the body.
Yes keeping things loving simple saves energy and money 🙂
Bringing more love and support to our bodies is such a wise choice.
Often I feel tension in my pelvic floor muscles but I love what you share and I noticed how just feeling the area whilst reading this blog changed the area completely, Letting go of the tension in the muscles can actually be very easy, just a constant commitment and choice.
This is quite incredible: could changing the way we move change the way we feel about ourselves?
I know and it is true for me, I would say the only way to change how I feel about myself is to change my movements.
Yeh even in the smallest movement, from slouching to sitting up straight or being more delicate with our hands – all these movements count and add up to the summation of how we feel at the end of the day.
I catch myself thinking at times it is not ‘enough’ and it ‘won’t work’ or ‘can’t be that simple’ but these things you describe do work and moving delicately is a great way to do this.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.’ Yes so true and how inspiring to hear it is always possible for healing.
“there’s a warmth, a tenderness and a love there that I have never felt before,” Connecting and feeling the delicate tissues of our body is to appreciate how precious we are.
Very true Mary, its quite a big difference when we allow ourselves to feel the depth of delicateness we are.
From my own experience of Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy it gives you an opportunity to reconnect to your body to feel and realign areas that we have for whatever reason lost connection with. ECTT is a modality that not only helps you reestablish that connection but also makes you feel more vital too.
Not only a beautiful testimony to Kate Greenaway and Connective Tissue Therapy but also, what bounced out for me, was the word ‘precious’ – to transform our relationship with our body (any part) from abuse, disregard and disgust to being able to use the word ‘precious’ is properly remarkable.
As you say Matilda, and yes one of the treasures found in Connective Tissue Therapy, explored and brought to us by the gorgeous Kate Greenaway and Serge Benhayon 🙂
The Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy is a deeply healing and powerful modality, I felt my hips adjust in a session once and it made such a difference, it was like my body had a complete grease and oil change.
It is amazing the healing, we can receive joy becoming more loving and caring in our thoughts and moving in a different way.
Gyl when we come to this realization, this understanding that you share “I have always heard and known the fact that everything is a choice, but until yesterday I have not felt this so clearly, simply and deeply in my body.” It is an incredibly liberating feeling, like we go from feeling we are the victim of life, like its not our fault to understanding and appreciating the power we actually do have.
Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy is so gentle yet powerfully initiates the body to release long held traumas, patterns and believes that are configured and stored in the connective tissue.
Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy is a very powerful and at the same time gentle modality, ‘through the simple choice to connect to my body and move, doing two Connective Pelvic Floor Exercises for a few minutes every day – nothing else – I actually feel absolute love in and for this whole area.’
There is a natural power and authority within our body that is only a choice away from activating. Whilst we are stuck in our heads this choice will seem like an impossibility but thats exactly that point the choice is to choose to listen to the body not the head!
When I let the ‘natural power and authority within our body’ to be my lead, my days and decision making are so much simpler and more respectful of what truly serves.
I love what you present here Gyl, how we can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure the ingrained patterns we have lived with in our body that are not supporting us but has been there because of what we have created by false ideals and beliefs. And Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy is super simple and divine in how it assist us to let go what is not love.
Letting go of old patterns and behaviours, ‘growing up thinking I would find love outside of myself from someone else or in a relationship, rather than inside me, and my relationship with myself.’
I am currently doing an Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy course and am finding it truly amazing in how it supports the body to come back to harmony. We cannot help but know God when we experience the flow that is present in the connective tissue of another.
Esoteric Connective Tissue exercises help bring the body back to harmony, and feel so divine.
What I find absolutely astounding about all of the Esoteric Modalities is complete and utter reconfiguration it offers us. My body has changed so much due to the discarding of stagnant negative energy. Wow are we blessed to have such modalities.
If we ‘brush away the grandness’, we leave little space for more of it to enter the equation.
It is impossible to sing the praises of ECTT too much… it is so simple, and yet so profound, and can move those mountains inside of us that we thought were impossible to climb.
It simply helps us to shift our perception so that what we saw as insurmountable mountains, are exposed for the molehills they in-truth are.
Depending on the light, the shadow of a molehill can look like a molehill. Instead of focussing on the molehill and its shadow we only need to live that light.
It makes so much sense what you present here, because all the ingrained patterns that we have are not there because we have done them once or twice but because we have been doing them over and over again. So it is our dedication to repeating things that lets us be who we are and thus the very important factor here is the quality we do things in, whether it is with love or not love for ourselves that we move through our day.
Amazing to feel how movement can be used to reconnect and reactivate our true essence no matter how much and how long we might have disassociated from it. It makes so much sense to pay attention to the quality in which I carry and move my body in my everyday activity.
When we have been supported to be more loving to ourselves this opens up more awareness of what is abuse and what is not. Sometimes we confuse abuse with love because there is a lot of false love circulating in our world.
Being more loving with our body, allows what is not love to come up and be seen, ‘I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.’
A really huge transformation. It makes me consider how as a woman, I have not wanted to the feel that area as I too have given my body over in the past to men who had no respect. So it is a huge reflection of how important it is for us to want to feel and heal what may have happened in the past.
What is true about us, we access through the body. What is true about us, gets revealed to us when we are willing to leave behind the abusive way of connecting to ourselves that we had chosen.
Everything is a choice… And every choice that we have made is registered in our body.
It certainly does and every single one of our choices not only affects us but also affects everyone around us and beyond.
Absolutely, there is a ripple effect from each of our choices.
Thank you Gyl – this brings up a lot for me as I can relate to giving my power away to men in the past and wanting something from them to make me feel loved. So there is still a disconnect from my pelvic floor area because of how I had allowed myself to be treated. Your sharing is really huge and I love where you have come to – a point where you no longer have to associate that part of your body with the abuse you once said yes too.
I would say the vast majority of us grow up living the lie which we are fed from very young which is to look for love outside of us rather than knowing that there is a deep well of love within each and everyone of us.
It is really lovely to read about you, embracing a relationship with your body that is not based on projecting hurts and agendas on to it, but rather appreciating it for the support and innate qualities that it has.
We grow up feeling that life is dished out to us and that we have little choice in the matter, when we do come to understand that we do indeed have choice, it seems amazing that we lived with so much disregard when we didn’t have to, all because of the choices we made. Change our choices to be loving ones and we change our lives to be so much more self honouring.
I’ve been stuck in some old patterns for a while now, this is inspiring to read today, thank you.
I personally have found each session I have had in Esoteric’s Connective Tissue therapy absolutely powerful and super beneficial. The impact It has had on my movements, choices and relationship with myself and others is profound.
Until I had read this the first time, I hadn’t even considered what my relationship with that part of my body was like. Like you say, there’s a complete disconnection… I wonder how many of us go through our lives in this and considering it a normal.
This is a beautiful testimony Gyl on the power of the Esoteric Connective Tissue therapy, these modalities bring so much awareness to our bodies and can bring true healing to any abuse we have allowed to impact on our bodies.
How is it when we want truth bad enough it will present itself? Its a confirmation that we are more than how much and how often we sell ourselves short. And, the more you do know this in your body the more you can hold and, come back to it.
It can be as simple as shared here, connect with our bodies, move them in a way that is tender and suddenly we find we have a whole new relationship with them, and with ourselves. Movement is so powerful and moving in presence and with quality changes everything.
I am starting to wonder if the more we analyze our past choices and wallow in our woes, the more we indulge in the controlling emotion of them which stops us from healing and letting them go.
Such wisdom flies in the face of the paradigm of needing to delve into our hurts to get past unpleasant experiences in our life.
Love this article. How powerful to clear past experiences, choices and behaviors by the simplicity of choosing to connect with our body.
Sometimes even for a moment we may get a nudge from a force that is not supporting us to try and make us feel that we cannot overcome what is there or see the grandness in something that is to be helped by us but this in truth is a lie for the beauty, strength and knowing is there in every movement and all we have to do is tap into and connect to it making life in every moment, not such a big deal as we may have first thought.
Gyl, I love that you are sharing your experience of being aware of your pelvic floor and that you now feel a warmth and love for this area. Very inspiring, thank you; ‘I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way,’
When we allow physical abuse our bodies become, as someone said to me recently, the scene of the crime. It is no wonder we struggle to connect with our bodies as we don’t want to connect or engage with this. How amazing therefore that in connecting to the body through connective tissue exercises, not only can we heal but we can completely expunge this energy from the body, opening up again to feeling precious and wanting to look after it!
I agree Gyl, what a clear example that every moment we have a choice and how very strong and life changing every choice has on our well being and state of being.
Very well said Esther and I would like to add that our choices also impacts on the well being of our world and all of us as a race. This shows how powerful our choices are and if we all align to purpose our impact would be phenomenal.
I can attest to the simple, yet profound nature of the connective tissue exercises as presented by Kate Greenaway-Twist, as I have also been working with her and practicing these as part of my daily rituals. It was amazing to feel how much more fluidity and spaciousness I have felt in my body when comparing the beginning and end of a session with Kate, which allows me to feel how I have been moving my body up to that point as a marker. So it is no surprise to me what Gyl has shared here regarding the clearing of an old issue of abuse in her pelvic area, because what Kate provides is an opportunity to tune into various parts of our body, gain a greater awareness of what is going on there, and release stored tension and hurts that have been buried in the connective tissue for in some instances a very long time. A truly powerful modality in so many ways.
When we recognise that it is ourselves that have abused our own body we are able to feel the love and sacredness within that is always there calling us to reconnect.
What movements can do! Showing us simply by connection what areas we have been avoiding not wanting to feel.. by virtue of this expose, we are offered to actually let go and re-imprint it with a new. Something that is truly supportive – connection, more of that.
Wow, I had never considered that I may be in disgust with my pelvic floor. Yet, when I read what you have shared my pelvic floor began speaking. In my teenage years I was under the conviction that sex is just sex, and if you don’t let it get to you, it will not. But what I was actually doing by “not letting it get to me” was building a wall to not feel how deeply hurtful it is when I sought after the opposite sex and allowed the level of abuse you are describing here.
The love is always present, it goes nowhere. We simply choose to disconnect from this and reconnecting is as simple as a movement. We do know how simply this is, which must be why we complicate everything so very much.
There is much we hold in our bodies but not until we truly connect to it can we feel it. Whatever we hold needs to be felt before we can let go and make a different choice. No wonder the Connective Tissue exercises have such a profound impact as they support us in truly connecting with all parts of our body.
I can feel changes in my body from consistently doing connective tissue exercises, they are so simple gentle but so powerful in healing by reconfiguring the patterns held in the body.
This is so empowering Gyl – it is so easy to let things pass by without pausing to to confirm the grandness of a moment, however insignificant it may seem. This is the gold in our awareness and expansion.
“I didn’t realise how much, as I tend to brush aside the grandness of things, thinking it’s no big deal”.
A profound teaching sharing with us that we are capable of reconfiguring the energy of abuse at any time.
The simple choice is loving ourselves. As we build that love, abuse can no longer be stored in the body or accepted.
Thank you Gyl for sharing so openingly your experience of abuse and your journey through healing. Our bodies can tell us so much we just need to be willing to listen, the healing starts when stop ignoring and instead start listening.
Abuse is everything that is not from love and therefore not connected to our essence.
Gyl, this is very gorgeous to read; ‘I actually feel absolute love in and for this whole area.’ I love how you make it clear that it is simply a choice to love our bodies and our different body parts and that we do not need to be critical of them or in disgust, it’s great that you went there and looked at this and have now changed the relationship you have with your body to one of being very loving – super inspiring.
A beautiful healing Gyl, surrendering to the flow of the body.
The fact is that all of us, well everyone that I know, has been subjected to abuse and has abused others and themselves in some way and to varying degrees in their life. We are all hurt by it and yet what you bring to light here is the power of making simple choices and the healing effect they can have. It’s deeply inspiring.
I too have had Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy sessions with the amazing Kate Greenaway-Twist, I also do the exercises every single day and also like you Gyl “the changes and expansion from these simple movements in my body is immense.” I often amaze at the simplicity of the exercises but from the incredible changes in my body and my life I cannot deny the power of them. I know without a doubt that they will be exercises that will be part of my daily living until my last breath.
So very true Elizabeth, the body is a great mirror or reflection of all our choices…. maybe why we do not really and truly look at ourselves in the mirror, like the body, the mirror never lies.
I love your commitment and your willingness to clear and heal the self-abuse and to reconnect to that part of a woman’s body that most are not connected with. I have also found the connective tissue excercises a super support for my body.
What you share here is very powerful Gyl. You have shown us precisely how love can transform us, when we are open to being honest about and healing our hurts, freeing us from living with pain be it physical or emotional, and allowing our real selves to emerge and be brought to life.
We move around every day like our body is a stranger, a random collection of organs and bones we picked up along the way. It ‘does the job’ until it doesn’t any more. Then we get disappointed and angry – but do we ever truly connect to the tissue and cells, appreciate the job that they do and cherish the way we can express and move? Your words illustrate the amazing power every small movement of ours has Gyl. Thank you.
Thank you Gyl, sharing such profound truth with us of what the energy of abuse is and so what actual love means – how it can play out and how we have the authority to stop it by our very willing movement of choice.
Our body responds to deep care, the love and nurturing we bring to it and pays us back in kind, to the degree that it is physically and physiologically possible.
so true Gabriele, I know of little that is more beautiful then to feel my body respond with warmth, surrender and space when I make a choice that is in line with it.
Taking responsibility for the abuse we have allow into our body is deeply loving. Blaming ourselves or others is never healing but this simply perpetuates and feeds the abuse even more. Once I understood this, I started to let go of abuse in my life.
This is such a huge learning and needs to be so appreciated. In this, we call a stop to the rot and halt the endless cycle of blame and recrimination. Not only does taking responsibility for the abuse we have allowed important for our own evolution, but it supports others in that we are not dumping our emotions and frustrations on them, giving them space also to feel where they are at. In that space, we are inviting them also to step up and take responsibility for their hurts in turn.
” I have always heard and known the fact that everything is a choice, but until yesterday I have not felt this so clearly, simply and deeply in my body.”
What a huge learning , and what a wonderful way of re-claiming your power back thank you for sharing.
How seemingly easy it would be to simply continue holding that abuse in the body. We don’t want to go there because it is so uncomfortable yet the result being that we walk around storing abuse and pain. As you shared, going there need not be a big deal. It can be uncomfortable but need not be a huge deal. Then we are left free.
It certainly is a trick of the mind that has us believing that honesty and truth are more painful than living with our hurts. As when we are honest about and heal our hurts the game is over, and we are freed to live from the essence of who we are, rather that being owned by the hurts that we so are not.
Unfortunately whilst we may say we don’t want abuse in our life it can become a familiar way of existing, and in that familiarity it can even feel ironically safe to be abused. This is a topic worth exploring as a society…
I love the reminder that it dosent have to be a big deal when we make changes, it can be super simple when we are ready and willing to choose differently.
The beauty held in the pelvic area is too grand so to allow it (and us) to be (ab)used by another. Reconnecting to this area, clearing what remains as pollutant there is of utmost beauty.
I have been doing these Connective Tissue Exercises too. I find they are hugely supportive and helps me strengthen my lower back, supports me to feel my body and develop more body awareness.
I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal. Time for me to make a few changes that support me in moving forward.
There are many forms of abuse, and what is abusive to one may not seem like it to another. Creating struggle in my life has been one of my favourite forms of self-abuse and has been how I deny myself of living my joy.
Same here Thomas, creating struggle is for me a very old pattern and has crept in again for me to look at, because I can feel this tension and heaviness that is there and I feel anything but joyous.
Beautiful Gyl, connecting to our body and feeling all there is to be felt is deeply healing.
Gyl how much of our lives is filled with abuse can be quite staggering when we actually stop and reflect on it, what I love in your sharing is that its through the simple everyday movements that we heal that abuse and bring in a depth of love that is ever deepening.
It is so true Gyl, nothing needs to be a big deal as it is simply a change in movement. We just need to address the way we walk, talk and the thoughts we allow ourselves to be influenced and entertained by.
This shows the power of our movements in that by changing these we can bring about a deep healing for both ourselves and others.
Gorgeous as by reconfiguring our body simply by our movement, the quality of our movements ( (which is an alignment) we can change the energy that we walk with.
So how we move, in which way, magnifies energy: so when we open up to see what energy is moving us and wether this is actually a quality love or lovelessness- we can confirm that which is loving and change when our quality needs to be more loving.
When we are in intense situations it is often hard to believe that a simple exercise or change in movement can bring you back to feeling amazing and yourself again. But it is true and I have experienced it many times, my thoughts are not always true and a change in movement always makes me feel different in myself.
I too love Connective Tissue exercises, very gentle and tender exercises that are extremely powerful and healing for our bodies.
This is awesome, feeling the consequences of what abuse you have allowed in your body and addressing the numbness that you subsequently have created there, only to find a tender sweetness that was living inside all along.
This is a beautiful sharing, Gyl. Making a constant choice every day to exercise in the way that you do can only be supportive and healing for the body.
Gyl, you have reminded me of how beautiful it is to connect to all areas of our bodies as often as possible.
To feel the depth of connection with the body and express from this, brings the quality of speaking from a true authority that can be felt by other as a resonance in the body.
How great that you can now feel love for more of your body, it is indeed precious and very wise, ‘I love this area of my body, it feels precious and I want to take care of it deeply.’
We can never fall out of love with our body or parts of our body, but we can tolerate abuse or disregarding behaviours which introduce a foreign energy and this is then what we reject and don’t recognise as ‘us’.
To fall in Love with an area of your body is to reclaim yourself and part by part which was separate, becomes a whole. Reclaiming our body, from misuse, ideas and hurts is critical to true healing.
Connective tissue movements are so simple they seem they won’t change anything, but in complete contrast, they change everything.
The pelvic floor is one of the most neglected parts of a woman’s body. We often disconnect from it as it holds the abuse we have allowed. It is a beautiful process getting to know it again and discover that it isn’t heavy or numb, I had just made it that way! When I now feel my pelvic floor, my body opens up and feels light and spacious.
It just shows us how when we consistently and lovingly do something for ourselves and our body, even just for 2 minutes a day what changes can happen. Awesome.
Gyl I feel that what you have shared is huge, the layers of abuse are very subtle, we know about the obvious abuse, but I am discovering the subtle abuse that happens constantly because there are layers of a lack of self-worth in as much that we do not love and fully appreciate just what magnificent beings we are. We have reduced ourselves so much we have entirely forgotten the grandness we come from, how devastating is that?
I can say that when I’ve (allegedly) wanted to get to the bottom of and clear my unloving behaviours and the way I go about it is sitting in the issue. But that doesn’t work and this blog reminded me that in moving with my body I get another angle on life without it being cathartic.
What ever our age it is never too late to change the patterns that have been keeping us held in a certain way. That is why Esoteric Connective Tissue is so powerful, it re-aligns the body so that we can release these patterns and it often exposes behaviours that we may not have fully seen before.
The power of Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy is amazing, I love what you share and how even with remote sessions you’ve been able to heal all the abuse through the quality of energy you now choose, and the support your body has in how to move in that way to keep that quality of energy.
Many years ago Kate Greenaway supported me with her love, care and wisdom, in helping me with my back problems… or should I say establishing a relationship with my back. I still do the exercises we worked to this day, but more importantly it was understanding the relationship of how I move, how I use my body (especially when moving to a new house like this weekend) that has seen an enduring health and strength that I could only have dreamed of 10 years ago.
If Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy (ECTT) exercises were able to support you to change your body image and self loathing issues, then I feel there is enormous potential for ECTT to support children and people worldwide with their body image and self worth issues also. ECTT could become part of psychological treatment plans.
When we reconnect to and start honouring our body, major changes that could otherwise only be described as miracles happen naturally, to the degree that the physical body can still accommodate and support them.
Absolutely, and most of the time it reveals something completely different to what our mind has conjured up. As in, it simply wasn’t like that or simply didn’t affect us in the way we thought it did.
Many of us look at our problems or issues as insurmountable and I put my hands up for making things bigger than they actually are. It’s almost saying this thing is bigger and more powerful than me, and we contract and hide from it…. yet, as has been shown in this blog, nothing that we have done or that has happened is more powerful than us reconnecting to love…. it is as simple as that.
I love the simplicity of this and how you didn’t have to go into the heavy analysis of your past choices to feel something, but just to decide to pay a bit more attention to that area of your body, and move in a different way.
We are so deeply supported within and without to return to the truth of who we are, this process is deeply joyful and inspiring.
It’s funny how we all know that everything is a choice, but because we don’t really want to be 100% responsible for those choices, we pretend that sometimes things are out of our hands, or we sneak a little blame in, here and there. At least, this is something I know I have done. But we constellate all that goes on in our lives and we are solely responsible for our choices and what comes of them. It’s incredibly powerful to accept that.
Connective tissue exercises in my experience are very powerful, what a great commitment to yourself to practise these on a daily basis, ‘It feels a joy to connect to and feel this part of my body, and to be honest when I look down I now smile; there’s a warmth, a tenderness and a love there that I have never felt before, or at least not for a very long time.’
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.” This is so empowering Gyl. We have chosen our bodily changes and feelings we have, so we can reconfigure them to undo them too. We are amazingly powerful beings when we don’t give our power away.
I love this Gyl, when love is lived consistaintly true healing is on offer.
Thank you for sharing Gyl. This writing shows us the power and command we have over ourselves if we want to implement the power of free will with ourselves. Just lovely.
I love what you’ve shared Gyl, the impact of a simple choice and how this can change an old pattern of abuse which was stored in your body just like any other pattern is. And the simple choice is the practical one but also the choice to deepen the love for yourself and take care of your body, this is why you could commit to this supportive connective tissue exercises program in the first place (I guess).
When we choose to connect with our bodies we get to feel parts of ourselves that we have forgotten or ignored. In the re-connection, there is much joy and confirmation as it’s like all of those little cells are saying, yay, its time to celebrate.
The simplicity of connection to our bodies uncovers much in regards to our choices, consistency and surrender. To then keep uncovering more and more of who we truly are is simply magic unto itself.
Yes change is as simple as moving in a completely different way.
There is much we can learn from within when we are willing.
Every part and area of our body that we do not shun but rather embrace has a lot to reveal and from that connection, many lasting changes are possible.
Being more connected to our bodies, allows us to feel so much more, I have had opportunities to really begin to feel the relationship I have with different parts of my body. It has ben surpassing what has been uncovered, fingers, arms, eyes, feet, my female areas, the front of my thighs…I have had an opinion about them and have been judgemental of them…this is a disconnection, acceptance and care is connection.
It continues to fascinate me that making one change to our daily routine can have a massive impact on the rest of our lives. This has certainly been my experience, and demonstrates to me that life changing choices can be simple and achieved one small step at a time.
Great what you share about how we can reimprint or shift energy, patterns in our body through movement and awareness, without the ‘wallow and woes’, very liberating to consider healing in this way.
Thank you Gyl for your blog. I can feel the power of your commitment and the healing that it brings with your daily Connective Tissue practice. This is very inspiring!
Your blog reveals how we’ve made life so complicated by not listening to our body and to connect to the truth it shares. The power of some simple movements reconfiguring what has been there for years and years is incredible and to be appreciated as you do.
Beautifully said Gyl, re-connect with our bodies in a gentle and caring way and make self loving choices, so much power and healing is available.
Consistency is the key definitely.
Thank you Gyl for the reminder of “I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way,”
I too have experienced this and yet not appreciated or valued it’s power to the depth I am today.
The absolute and utter simplicity of what we are here to do and how actually, it is very easy and straight forward to heal, contradicts everything we walk around with inside our head. The tortured path, elusive answer and holy grail, these traditional ideals fly in the face of the sweet and practical steps you show we can take Gyl.
The only trouble we find realizing things, what holds us back, is the actual fact that we have to admit that it has not worked what we have done. By ‘done’ , we can refer to how we have lived, what has seeded our current existence forth and how much we have created away from the Soul. This honesty has only not been there for most of us so far as it is a painful truth. But more so a far more painful experience to any longer deny. We have to give up our creation – stop creating further and ignite with the truth of love – that is God, and we do not belong here.
To bring a deeper level of awareness to the body and then make the choice to re-connect to the quality of movement that is possible, although appears so simple, it is profoundly life-changing.
“To feel this, I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.”
‘I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body’ AMAZING! Like thats HUGE! You have inspired me to contact Kate Greenaway-Twist and book some sessions as well, not for this reason but I feel to connect and love my body from a deeper level than I currently am.
I have come to love the fact that in every moment we always have a choice, to change or not; it is always up to us. Kate introduced me to her Connective Tissue exercises a few years ago and I made the choice to continue to do them at least once a day. Now this is a choice that I am so delighted I made for as a result of doing so the debilitating sciatic pain that I had lived with for many years is now a thing of the past; a very welcomed healing from one simple, self-loving choice.
I love the consistency you are bringing in the way you allow yourself to do your exercises every day and not with the goal to bring your body into shape but to feel your body more, to be more aware of your body, to get to know you/your body better.
When we make loving choices that truly support the body, the old patterns and behaviours eventually drop away, without any fuss or any big deal. The key is consistency in self-love and appreciation for all that we are willing to heal and clear from our bodies.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me.” What if our choices and the way we move are infinitely more powerful than we realise? And what if they can change absolutely everything? This makes every move we make super important…
Truth is simply and deeply felt when embodied.
What this shows Gyl is that it is only through having a marker of love in the body, are we able to make a true choice to say no to abuse, which in effect is to recognise it as that. Abuse of any sort stands out when the body knows the movement of love. Thanks for your honesty, it’s a great example and one many women could potentially relate to.
I love this Jenny as I am discovering this too: ‘abuse of any sort stands out when the body knows the movement of love’.
Yes Jacque, it is a far cry from the foot stomping, fist pumping women’s liberation – style movements we have gotten caught in over the years, thinking that is empowerment and how to say No to Abuse! The very act of that stance is self-abusive by way of movement in the body… and it is only when we have a true marker for the love we are and come from within the body, that abuse stands out as something the body says no to, not the head along with our indignation.
What you have expressed here Gyl is so wise and inspirational with so much to appreciate;
“I have always heard and known the fact that everything is a choice, but until yesterday I have not felt this so clearly, simply and deeply in my body”.
Women are so good at separating their body into parts. Some parts we like, some we don’t and others we are completely oblivious to. Feeling ourselves as a whole body and moving with that in appreciation of who we are in essence is extremely healing and reflecting something very inspiring to other women.
Great point Rachael, the world needs to see more women living and moving in Sacredness, when we make this a ‘normal’ movement to express in this way we offer a powerful reflection for other women.
Wow, Gyl. It’s incredible that such massive changes in how we feel about our body and particular areas of our body can come about so quickly when we change the way we move/look after ourselves… Your example is relevant to everything; even a disregarded, ‘ugly’ pinky toe can turn into a glorious and appreciated part of us if we change the way we walk, look after our feet etc.
Exiling parts of our body because of past choices is not a sustainable choice – what a blessing the Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy is.
This is awesome Gyl, what I could feel is that if we let go of any judgement and abuse that we give to ourselves from past choices we allow love to flow and reconfiguring happens.
Well said Kim – it’s not like we need to try or fix ourselves because nothing is ever truly broken.
That’s amazing Gyl! I love the statement that we don’t actually have to dwell on past choices or events, we can simply make a choice to move differently and connect to our bodies to re-imprint old patterns. No drama necessary.
Gyl, I love the honestly that you brought to your pelvic floor area and how you let yourself be aware of the abuse you have allowed in that region. This really is where true healing occurs. The body responds so well to us being honest and truthful.
This is great what you share, we can change everything that is not not loving. “If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal. “
This is a beautiful testimony of the power of the Connective Tissue Therapy that offers a true healing to the body.
We look around, high and low for the ‘answers’in life, conduct years of advanced testing and research, but all the time never seem to consider that the root cause may live in the way we move. So simple, so beautiful and with no limit to the depth we can feel – these exercises and approach you describe Gyl inspire me, to bring the same awareness to the way I am with me.
Are’nt our bodies amazing…! After literally decades of abuse our bodies will respond to the simplest of things and help us to feel again who we truly are
Very true Chris, the body responds beautifully when we offer it love and deep care.
There is a great alchemy that happens through simplicity as there is a great retarding that happens through its counter – the complexity we drown ourselves in to not live the love that we are.
Firstly, thank you Gyl for writing this
Secondly, what is shown is that we are vehicles (bodies) that are designed to emanate love. Hence, when we disconnect and ask it to act without it – this is where the problems will rise – the body will not be able to stay and work in harmony, as without love, it is like removing the heart, it loses its nature (its designed movement). Very simple.
And so,
When we align to something else than love (evil, lovelessness) this is allowing absolute abuse. Abuse to our body. Abuse to us.
When we have lived in such way for many many years or whole life(s), it is simply and stands out that we need to undo it by being love choosing love again.
This is huge Gyl – you show us the power of choice, change and that we can basically change anything in our lives even if it the biggest struggle or past , hurt or issue, we can heal it. By our own choice. Thank you for sharing – this is Huge. What an awareness of choice this brings. We can by our true Will to let go.
What you share here is really quite profound and something that every woman can consider.
No indeed Gyl it doesn’t need to be a big deal. How very inspiring to read your story of making a simple choice to heal the energy of abuse through simple connective tissue exercises. A gorgeous blog to read, thank you.
I’ve been introduced to similar by Kate and it was equally a revelation for me too – and a beautiful opportunity to change my formerly abusive movements to something far more honouring of this delicate area of my body, and of me as a woman. It makes me wonder at the lengths our cultures worldwide, in their various ways, go about keeping women separate from their most intimate selves – be it via overtly damaging practices such as female genital mutilation, or encouraging identification with what one does rather than who one is.
” It doesn’t have to be a big deal.” This one sentence says it all. Sometimes it’s not the initial abuse that gets us but the choice to beat ourselves up or wallow in guilt over the ‘mistakes’ we have made. If we are willing to feel the impact of our past choices in full we can leave them behind and live the gorgeousness we are.
This is amazing and it shows it does not take much to bring love to the body or .. reconnect to the innate love within the body and change the relationship we have with ourselves ‘through the simple choice to connect to my body and move, doing two Connective Pelvic Floor Exercises for a few minutes every day – nothing else – I actually feel absolute love in and for this whole area.’
The more loving I choose to be the definition of abuse changes. I can see how I’ve held back claiming what I feel is abusive because others do not see these actions as abusive and that I am ‘too sensitive’ or ‘overly critical’ but taking that stance doesn’t make the tension go away, only accepting what I feel and changing my choices releases that tension.
Such a great example of how powerful we truly are in that we can reconfigure patterns of abuse that has owned us for 20 years in any given moment. Through our willingness to be honest the truth will set us free. Our willingness to know the truth is a choice, to be the love we are and no less. And this choice is what allows the truth of who we are to come to life in an instant and reclaim our true way of being – that is for me is awe-inspiring.
Wow Gyl, this is so deeply inspiring as I know for me, I did exactly the same. Engaged in sex with men when I was younger to seek love and attention outside of myself, wanting attention but never getting anything or feeling that I was worthy of anything but what i was getting. This i know is stored in my body and I resist going deeper in feeling my body, especially in the pelvic floor area. Loved what you have shared and look forward to exploring this more for myself.
Our body is great at showing us that every choice and action has an impact regardless of what we choose to believe, and also wonderful reminder that it is never too late to re-introduce a loving pattern to our life.
Just moving our body differently, so much can change, it really can be that simple. I start every morning with some gentle connective tissue exercises that support me for the day ahead.
I have been feeling a coldness around my pelvic floor and your blog is really inspiring to not go and avoid being aware of this area but being aware of it and feeling it can change and feel lovely and warm and lovely.
It is amazing the level of abuse we are willing to put up with when we are seeking love from outside of us, and expecting others to full fill our needs – this simply does not work.
This is so refreshing Gyl. You are right – it really doesn’t have to be a big deal. Change and healing can come through simply choosing to move differently. Beautiful.
Life offers lots of opportunities and not all of them are loving and because we have not been encouraged to see how precious we are from the inside first and constantly being played off against society’s expectations much of who we are is overlooked and undervalued. I know growing up there was no sharing about the more intimate parts of my body or becoming a woman and what that meant. Much of my attention was about what I could do and how well liked I was. This was an open ended invitation for abuse. The body is a whole and without even one small working part every part does not flow with the loving intent it was designed for. Opening to this understanding of how I care for and lovingly hold myself as a woman has changed. What has been shared here feels so common and widespread for women, opening this for discussion is important.
That everything doesn’t have to be a big deal, is the BEST thing to hear and feel.
It is one thing to know something as in it being knowledge and a completely other by having this sense of knowing vibrating in one’s body, as if allowing the particles to be felt. Moving in and with this changes everything.
After being introduced to the Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy I have become more aware of my body and like you Gyl, when I do now connect to my body I feel a warmth and tenderness that I did not ever felt before. This connection with my body that is now very precious to me as it does make me to register any moment I hurt or abuse my body during the day and with that deepening this connection on a daily basis.
Such a gorgeous reminder of the healing we can claim when we connect with our bodies with deep tenderness and care. The Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy is a heavenly sent modality to help re-awaken us to the heaven that resides within our very own physical bodies.
So awesome to read this again Gyl, I am inspired to bring back a couple of exercises to my daily routine.
Gyl, I had a similar experience growing up, ‘growing up thinking I would find love outside of myself from someone else or in a relationship, rather than inside me, and my relationship with myself.’ This never worked and in relationships I would feel lonely and in self doubt, in the last few years I have been building a relationship with myself and now love myself which feels very steady and solid and I know that this love will always be there if I choose to connect with it.
Reading this blog helped me to understand that everything is a choice and that every choice ever made not from love can be changed by making another more loving choice and that is to not hold on to that what we even have done ‘wrong’ but to allow ourselves to feel from where we made this choice and leave it by that, not going into any self loathing or whatsoever. As our present life is a result of all our past choices, being aware of the choices we make in every moment of the day is so important. Ast he more aware we are of these, the more we can understand the current situations we are in and appreciate life for what it bring to us, a contant offering to enjoy life in full.
I start my day ( still in bed) with some connective tissue exercises which supports my body to slowly awaken.
These gentle exercises support me to feel my body from the inside, and often afterwards, I take a few moments just being with myself and feeling how light and delicate I am feeling. Great way to start my day with me in my body!
Gyl this is a beautiful sharing on the power of Connective Tissue Therapy and through the connection to your body you were able to heal the energy of abuse from previous choices – no need to go into the details or the story just simple nominating this and changing our movements to be more loving allows the body to truly heal.
I love the absolute transformational power of just 2 Connective Tissue techniques in reconnecting you to this area and allowing you to love and appreciate the preciousness within. Definitely nothing short of deeply inspirational.
so great to read this Gyl, because it goes beyond the kind of abuse you speak of to encompass every form of recklessness, neglect, and disregard we visit upon our own bodies. This affects everything we can then live and express, as it comes from a body that has borne the brunt and damage of the harshness of our living. what if we were to truly embrace, appreciate and confirm our bodies through every movement and expression, and bring back to it the experience of love that is so natural to us as a young child. This cannot but affect our thoughts and quality of living, and how we interact with, see and understand the world every day.
Great that you didn’t make it a big deal, just saw it as a choice you made, resulting in the huge change this brought for you after 20 years. This really shows the power of our choices. Thank you Gyl.
I can vouch for these exercises too as I have been practicing them for sometime now, they seem so simple and they are, but they have a profound affect on your body. I would highly recommend a session with Kate to support you to re-connect with areas of your body which you have previously not been aware of.
I still often get caught up in my head, in complication of trying to work out how to sort an issue out or how I feel – when really it’s all very simple – i just come back to my body.
What a shift Gyl. From not wanting to feel this area of your body to loving it and using Connective Tissue Therapy to support you in this.
‘I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices’ – this is a huge one! How many of us think or have thought we have to spend years in our head analysing all the unloving choices we made, to go over them with a fine tooth comb – when really this is just keeping us from our sacredness. Many people make huge money out of this, think of therapist who love indulging in a persons issues – or a person themselves – this can go on for years. With nothing being healed, simply just going round and round in circles adding layers instead of clearing them.
Awesome to read how you went from numbness and feeling disgust for yourself to being more aware of your precious body. Rejecting parts of body can only lead to stress and illness.
Being committed to these exercises has clearly made such a difference in your life, it just illustrates the changes that can be made when one puts in time, love, dedication and commitment for oneself, amazing things can occur.
The error of our ways seem to be that we give far more focus to what is supposedly wrong with us, rather than focussing, appreciating and confirming what is right about us. That is to say, we give more voice to what is not true – the loveless momentums we get caught up in – and then begin to not only focus on these but allow the thoughts and behaviours that comprise such momentums to shape who we are and guide us on an ill course through life. This is how we have come to lose sight of what is true. Truth is not something that ever goes away but simply gets buried beneath many layers of a false way to be that we impose on ourselves by not living true to who we are.
It’s saddening to feel how much we choose to abuse our bodies. Purely through not wanting to take responsibility for loving ourselves.
Kate is an absolute gem whose care of her clients is deep and profound… After my last round of operations my orthopaedic surgeon asked who my physiotherapist was, as my recovery was literally the best he had ever seen. When I told him it was Kate, and that she actually does much more than physiotherapy, he was very impressed and said he would have to start sending patients to her.
Esoteric Connective tissue therapy is so divine it literally feels like it is heaven sent. I absolutely love it.
Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy offers us the opportunity to feel the flow and movement inside our body and deepen our connection to every particle of who we are.
It is incredible when we do something simple and daily that is supportive for us as you have done, without realising it, the healing affect it has is in fact huge.
Wow you really have to love the power of our movements in each and every subtle moment and how one little choice to change any movement can reconfigure our bodies in oh so amazing ways. Thank you Gyl.
Hi Gyl ,
Thanks for your sharing and honestly about the importance of connecting to all areas of our bodies and then ,shining the light and love to to parts through conscious connective tissue exercise. These simple exercises of feeling ,connecting and activating muscle /tissues are very healing and help us to integrate the whole body as part of the whole naturally .Having a great loving relationship with our bodies and all there parts is so important .
it is one thing to recognise patterns of abuse and self-abuse, but even more powerful is to be able to unlock the configurations we hold in our bodies with tools such as the connective tissue exercises that help us to bring even greater awareness to what we are holding and what is influencing us in every moment. it is this deeper awareness that allows us the true freedom of choice.
We only make things a big deal when we get stuck in our head. . . reconnect to the body and it is a whole different story, in fact there is not longer a story. It is the story that holds our stuck in time and old patterns.
‘If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.’ – Thank you for sharing this Gyl – it puts things into perspective and also shows that at each moment we have the simple choice to say yes or no to love. I really appreciate you sharing how you have broken a cycle of abuse that you now know is no longer a part of your body. It shows that we always have an opportunity to let go of things.
It’s awesome when we can feel a choice being so tangible in the body -rather than hearing it as a mental knowledge. It’s then that I get I really do have a choice!
What stands out from reading this blog is the fact that we have these negative relationships with parts of our bodies and in order to not feel we ignore that part, and for most women and men we just accept that this is how it is and give no further investigation. So what you have written here Gyl is huge and so simple – who would have thought that a simple Connective Tissue exercise could change the relationship with your pelvis and then have you move in a more self loving and supportive way.
Gyl, your blog got me feeling how when we haven’t lived lovingly with ourselves we avoid feeling any love for our bodies, so to avoid having to feel how far from love we have been from it. It’s like an illusionary wall that we must break through in order to bring the love and healing our bodies needs.
Great timing to read this again, I just finished up an session of stretches and connective tissue exercises and came to the same conclusion about issues, that “It doesn’t have to be a big deal.” Just choosing to be with the body in a more loving way, with the specific connective tissue based exercises, brings forth both the clearing of the old non supportive ways, and the new level of healing and love that is there for us in how we relate to ourselves, and in how we can live.
So cool, reconnection is only a choice away if we allow ourselves to let go, be honest and truly appreciate who we are.
Summed up beautifully Benkt! Everything comes back to what we choose, we can choose love or we can choose everything that is not love. And how we treat our bodies reflects what we are choosing, for example we have a daily routine of self-care and self-nurture in place which constantly refines or the opposite, we neglect and abuse our bodies. And we are all equal in ‘free-will’ of what we are choosing.
This is so inspiring Gyl and a great sharing as in it’s showing us how we can bring our body alive by tuning in and connecting to it. This sounds weird I know but the sad truth is most of us are only half there because we are in our heads and totally disconnected to the rest of our body
Re configuring the energetic patterns in our body by the type of exercises you describe in this blog is so much simpler, cheaper and more effective then years of counselling.
Yes great point marylouisemyers these types of exercises would save years of counselling.
The more we care for ourselves the less abuse we are likely to accept, but also less likely to be abusive to another too.
I love how Esoteric Healing can be so instant and how it holds no judgement….20 years one way??? open to healing and getting to the truth/core of the matter??? OK…let’s heal and with the commitment, energetic quality and integrity and openness, true healing can begin. It is the magic of God.
It’s interesting as abuse can change from what we feel or felt to be abusive in the first place. For me to not wear my glasses even to write or read one text on my phone is abuse, or speaking when I don’t feel to.If you asked me this years ago I probably would have thought or looked at you like you were crazy. Amazing the levels we go to to avoid the fact we choking abuse and not loving, listen to, holding or honouring ourselves or each other dearly.
Interesting how we can reject ourselves and our bodies if we’ve made abusive choices, because this just keeps the abuse going. To be loving, nurturing and replenish the care we deserve is to begin the healing process of knowing that the strongest abuse is the neglect we inflict on ourselves.
Do we abuse ourselves because we have a lack of self worth, and if so where does this lack of self worth come from? Is it something we are born with or do we develop this lack because we are not held in the amazingness we truly are? Isn’t interesting how we can put a value or a sense of worth on jewelry, houses, cars etc. And value and take pride in their worth above our own sense of worth.
It is kinda painful to read about you having sex with people out of a need for love. But I can relate to it, and that is what makes this all the more devastating to read. I love that we can heal ourselves from all these hurts, that we have the power to do so, that we have the will and the conscious choice to do so. And that there are people here in this life who can help and support us to do so.
The biggest highlight in this blog for me is the commitment to our own wellbeing.
Connective Tissue is an amazing therapy however without the commitment to follow through little changes.
We can often give our power away or not want to take responsibility for our choices, by saying or thinking we have no control over how our life can be and is. But truth is, it’s down to every single choice we make, in every moment, ever thought, every food we eat or don’t, how we communicate with people, do we shut them out because of hurts ( that often have nothing to do with them) or do we let them in. All this adds up to how our day and sleep will be, and then the next day and on it goes. We can chose to wallow is our woes and
have a miserable day or we can choose ourselves and choose not to.
Its amazing you can have experiences like this over the Internet! Goes to show we do not need to be there in person at all as we are all connected energetically anyway.
This blog says it all, the fact that it’s movements that change everything. A movement doesn’t have to just be with our body, it can be what we eat.
Movements can be our thoughts and expressions, too. When we make a commitment to change one of these, it supports other areas to change, too. It’s easy to get caught in old patterns, but when we recognise them as residue, and not who we truly are, not the core of our being, they start to lose their grip.
One day we will see Connective Tissue Therapy as a recognised medical therapy, and all the revelations that come with it.
My relationship with abuse changes almost on a daily basis. What I once considered ‘good’ can now be described as abusive. And of course, this is always my choice and totally up to what I allow.
I agree with you whole heartedly Gyl, being aware of and resolving our past hurts does not have to be a big deal. Simply making a choice to self-love and nurture is the key, as you have so wisely pointed out.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me” This is absolutely huge what you write here Gyl, what ever our patterns, how ever long they have been there we can choose to let them go.
Who would have said that by having sex to please others would still be remembered within the body and acting out in this way is being abusive to ourselves and actually dis-honouring of the other person – this is huge.
Thank you Gyl, Kate is a most amazing woman!
“To feel this, I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.” Gyl this is so huge, one day this will all be studied and confirmed and the energetic impacts of Universal Medicine’s modalities such as Connective Tissue will be seen for the true healing it offers.
To know we are everything already, untainted by life’s choices is profound… so despite however we’ve lived, we can always access the truth of who we are and the divinely gorgeous essence that is.
‘I simply made the choice’ this is our answer to all life’s woes. Life doesn’t have to be mundane, miserable etc – it can and is an absolute joy to be here – but no one else can make it so, it’s up to us, to me, it’s my responsibility and my choice in how every single moment, day and lifetime will be.
The line that stands out for me is ‘ I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices’ thus is huge a deeply profound. How many of us and therapist world wide sorbs hours, days, weeks and if we are honest years, indulging and playing over our past choices, which in truth just embeds them even more into our body. When the simple fact is we can let them go so easily, and move on. If the world knew this, the whole therapist practice would come crumbling to its knees, as people would be more empowered and take responsibility. But there in maybe lies the key – is it that we avoid responsibility?
It is beautiful when we can feel our body and the tenderness in which we can hold and support it, simply by making the choice to do so.
When we listen to our body and respond to what it needs, then miracles can happen so easily and simply. Thanks for the inspiring blog Gyl.
I have recently also had sessions with Kate and have found the connective tissue exercises very effective in connecting me to my essence, which feels totally awesome
“I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal”. I agree it does not have to be a big deal but most of humanity do not choose to change, so remain in their disregarding and unloving ways much to the dismay of others.
What a joy to deepen in love with ourselves over and over again. Let us reconnect and begin the love affair with each and every part and particle of our body and being.
I agree Gyl it is miraculous that you re-connected to this whole area of your body through doing pelvic floor exercises and making the choice to remain in the connection through out the day.
It is interesting to explore how we refine what is abusive as we start to care for our bodies and observe and feel what it is constantly communicating to us.
Love the way you honour your body at the end there as a great teacher. We all have this resource, and like all good teachers we just have to remember to listen to what they are communicating (and not wait till they start shouting with a disease).
This is so true, I for one go into my head to try and work things out or indulge in things when really this helps no one and just makes an issue that is not there in the first place . It’s like having your own tv drama playing out . But the simple fact is as soon as we bring it back to our bodies, how I / we move, the very simple acts of taking care of myself / ourselves – how I walk, drive my car, sit, move from class to class this changes everything.
What is profound is just how simple, spending a few moments a day, reconnecting to our body in gentle exercise, how this has such a roll-on effect to our health and wellbeing. If one person can take this kind of responsibility towards their body, from which ensue physical and emotional benefits, then can you imagine how much the demands placed on our health care system would reduce, raising the status of health in society if we all took this kind of responsibility towards our body.
When I read this I humbly feel that wow what you share here could actually be the answer to the world not going bankrupt on medical care bills. Being honest about what is going on and having the will to make the leap ourselves is all we need. Then there are many great esoteric practitioners that can help us along the way.
What struck me in rereading your blog is how spending even a few minutes a day connecting with or supporting ourselves through an exercise or practice builds a foundation for so much more. I’ve done this with a few small exercises in my daily routine and I feel that it has helped to build my self awareness in so many other ways and parts of my day. No matter what, we all have time in our day – even if it’s five minutes – to connect to ourselves.
Every moment we choose to observe and remain in the spaciousness of our own body, we can see, feel and therefore choose to say no to the multitudes of abusive ways that surround us.
The title of this blog says is all “Reconfiguring the Energy of Abuse – all by a Simple Choice” this doesn’t have to be within our own body this can be saying no to abuse directed at us by someone else. We don’t have to take their stuff on. If they choose to be miserable, angry and hurt that is their choice, and will rot their body, but it is something we can simply say no to, and not allow to affect us, and hold our joy.
I have observed how when I choose to dismiss my connection with my body I then dismiss appreciating the richness and interconnectedness of life and the grandness of who I am and all that I am integrally part of. When we dismiss this we allow ourselves to be reduced, moving in a way that accepts less and settles for lovelessness, and as such magnifying a quality of energy through our bodies that is abusive as it is not who we are. Every moment we have a choice, to move in way that is in harmony with the absolute grandness of Love that we essentially are within, or not.
So simple and so true, is how I would describe this powerful therapy. I have found with the simplicity come the most profound results
It’s really simple to come back to our bodies, it’s all about movement, in the sense of stopping feeling where the tension is in our body and moving it.
Due to something happening I have been feeling very unsettled for a couple of days, the events had triggered a very old memory from a past life. All it took to come back to my body and myself was 2 mins of Esoteric Connective Tissue Exercises and it was cleared. Then the solid and steadiness I was able to take to this situation was immense.
I can still learn a lot form this blog, in the sense of not being self indulgent.
It is so inspiring to hear how we can let go of the negative way we speak and feel about our bodies simply by making space to connect more deeply. The connective tissue exercises sound like such a gentle way to start and end the day – a great healing in itself.
The relationship I have with my body has completely changed since integrating the Esoteric healing modalities into my life. Now I can feel when a part of my body hardens, seizes up or start to feel ‘dead’. Now, I don’t override this feeling and carry on as I used to. I bring my awareness, tenderness and love to that area and everything I have learnt through the Esoteric Healing modalities including the beautiful Connective Tissue Therapy.
My feeling is the same Jenny, all the esoteric modalities work harmoniously together and there are now nine that I am aware of!
It’s such a travesty that we grow up looking outside ourselves for love, but that is the way it seems for most of us as we are pushed down that road and often do things that harm us in the search for love. Connective Tissue Exercise and Therapy just got even more interesting than before, what a revelation to be able to heal old choices this way.
Amazing honesty Gyl – thank you!
“I have always heard and known the fact that everything is a choice, but until yesterday I have not felt this so clearly, simply and deeply in my body.” Our bodies will always make the best and wisest choices when we use the mind we can get lost in our own illusion.
I remember when I studied anatomy and physiology and learnt about different kinds of cells and tissues and I was fascinated that one of them – connective tissues were actually everywhere in our body connecting and binding all kinds of things – and they can all be broadly identified by this certain configuration of molecules. Our body is just amazing. I am very interested to learn more about Esoteric Connective Tissue therapy.
It’s funny how you mentioned brushing aside the changes in our life and the grandness of things, in fact appreciating this is how we evolve for life is always giving us opportunities for growth and when we recognise them it really is magical.
Yes Gyl, we can indeed move forward effortlessly into new loving choices without having to look back in a self punishing manner, or make it harder than it needs to be. A big part of this for me has been in allowing and receiving support, and truly appreciating the changes I am making. Spending time celebrating the love is much more fun than looking back in anger, regret or sadness!
Esoteric Connective Tissue exercises are very simple and powerful in my experience, I love how they have helped change your relationship with your body, ‘It feels a joy to connect to and feel this part of my body, and to be honest when I look down I now smile; there’s a warmth, a tenderness and a love there that I have never felt before’.
‘To feel this, I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way…’ I too have been finding this – it’s like I’ve lived in this goldmine of love and wisdom and not realised it. I do still return to my head a lot but more and more I’m building a relationship with my body and realising how shallow I have been living compared to the richness I hold within.
I can relate to being numb in certain areas of my body. Of taking on things that didn’t fit with my true nature and carrying them like they were me- I am working on bringing more love and focus to these areas and learning to allow them to be, without judgement and letting go of what no longer supports me.
Sometimes we are overwhelmed by things as they feel so much bigger than us. But look how gracefully and quickly you changed a 20 year old pattern. If only we were taught as kids how to connect, or stay connected to our bodies and how to move in honour of every part of them we would save an enormous amount of angst throughout humanity and God knows how much better off we’d all be.
“What I shared with Kate was huge; through the simple choice to connect to my body and move, doing two Connective Pelvic Floor Exercises for a few minutes every day – nothing else – I actually feel absolute love in and for this whole area.” Wow, Gyl, that certainly is a great example of the power of the Connective Tissue exercises. How beautiful for you that you came to actually love that part of your body, and why would we not, we women hold so much sacredness in that area. Wonderful that all the abuse that the area had experienced dissipated with just a couple of Connective Pelvic Floor exercises practised for a few minutes each day.
A beautiful testimony of how through the quality of our movements, what we choose to surrender is what we magnify through our bodies. This highlights the importance of being aware of what it is we are choosing to surrender to. Thank you Gyl.
Gyl this is hugely confirming, I too have been practicing some super simple daily pelvic floor exercises. I have been amazed at how clearly I have been able to connect with my cervix, these small movements have not only strengthened my pelvic floor muscles but also been profoundly building my relationship with myself as a woman.
Today I have been reconfiguring the energy of disregard, which is abuse by attending to things that I have neglected for a while such as clearing out cupboards, getting rid of things that are no longer wanted etc. I can feel the difference already in my body just from making that a simple choice. The body knows love and welcomes it every time we allow ourselves to be loving towards ourselves.
The simplicity of what you are sharing here Gyl is profound. It really is a case of just allowing ourselves the grace to know that all we have to do is to change how we choose to think about something, and then put it into action, and the effects on our bodies can be enormous. This begs the question, if it really is that simple, then what is running us to make us think otherwise?
Connective tissue therapy and exercise is the way of the future as the results are simply astounding, and a true way of releasing the shackles of past choices and patterns.
It is amazing how just through a simple choice to connect to our bodies we can reverse old patterns very quickly.
This is great as it tangibly shows how we can truly address and reconfigure disregard and levels of abuse we have lived simply by conciously being aware of this and working to reconnect and heal the body at a true an deeper level. Kate Greenaway and Esoteric Connective Tissue are the perfect practitioner and modality to support this. A second blog I have read about how a few minutes exercise consistently everyday lovingly supports us in more ways than one. I feel this is telling me something ✨
Bringing an awareness and focus to any part of our body and then re-introducing and new way of moving and connecting with it is going to bring some miracles that we never thought were possible. Being open to the fact that there is possibly more to what we have settled for is the key to self-initiation.
Love rereading this Gyl, it is fascinating how we can totally block areas of our body out because of not wanting to feel past choices. When we truly listen, connect and bring awareness to the any part of the body we can let go and allow for deep healing.
” The body is a marker of Truth’ SB . Our truth is held in our body and until we connect with the disregard we have allowed. When we reconnect through our connective tissue with self love and honouring the body can clear the abuse. Such a simple modality that heals profoundly.
I love the simplicity of this Gyl. The simplicity of re-connecting with our body allows all that doesn’t truely belong there to drop away.
‘it doesn’t have to be big deal’ – it is so refreshing to see our ability to choose in every moment without the weight and struggle I have applied for so long… and that every moment is a fresh opportunity.
What a simple yet powerful answer to an ill way of living, feel and move in a different quality. I too have felt the supportive platform that Esoteric Connective Tissue movements can offer.
Thanks Gyl for the reminder of how important our movement is and esoteric connective tissue exercises are in awakening the divinity within and re-imprinting the body from old patterns of disconnection ,trauma or abuse . Simple and seamless and there for all to do .
I can absolutely recommend a program of Esoteric Connective Tissue Exercise. If I remember correctly I have participated in over 5 courses and the learning never stops and when the next course presents itself I will do it again.
I really appreciate feeling the connection of how simple the choice became to let go of the old. A choice of a long pattern let go of with willingness and a truly loving appreciation and awareness of caring for yourself, with the support of a great choice in practitioner. We can initiate miracles in our lives when it comes to healing old behaviours and hurts, if we are willing to to open ourselves up to our own truth with loving understanding for who we truly are in our essence.
The greatest pleasure I received on re-reading this blog is that I get to feel all the places you have discussed as I reconnect to different parts of my body with Esoteric Connective Tissue Exercises
Our relationship with our bodies reveals the truth about our choices. Even the simple act of lying down with my eyes closed and feeling each part of my body reveals so much. I have also found connective tissue exercises incredibly powerful as they have allowed me to develop a relationship with my body that cannot be misinterpreted or denied.
Dear Gyl,
On re reading your article this evening this sentence stands out to me and is also a guiding light for me just now.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.”
As I am finding myself at a point where a choice in movement has been the major instigator in stopping myself from enjoying the magnificent life I now have, I know that changing this movement is what is needed, but as you share, it is no big deal. All it takes is the committment to move the way I know will release this each day, thank you.
Allowing ourselves to be gentle with ourselves and in our movements is such a blessing when we have been hard on ourselves for so long. Our relationship with our own bodies mirrors our relationship with life.
I am sure there are still parts of my body that I am as yet unaware that I avoid feeling. What I do know though is that I am willing to develop to the point that I can ‘hear’ everything.
“I can absolutely say I love this area of my body, it feels precious and I want to take care of it deeply” I can relate to wanting to take care of this precious body after being woken up from a slumber seeing my husband very sick recently, and it really has been a blessing for both of us. Our bodies really are so amazing and I want to support my body now rather than abuse it.
I can absolutely recommend a program of Esoteric Connective Tissue Exercise. If I remember correctly I have participated in over 5 courses and the learning never stops and when the next course presents itself I will do it again.
The esoteric way of being is all about quality of movement before it is about anything else. For it is through the quality of movement, which starts in its most very simplest form with being gentle as a mere starting point, that we eventually realise that the quality of our lives and our thoughts stems from the way we move. Whilst it would be true to say that our thoughts dictate our movements, it would be more true to say that our movements dictate our thoughts first, which then reinforce the movements we have already chosen, which then reinforce the thoughts etc etc. This is why positive thinking on its own is a flawed teaching and actually changes nothing.
I have noted how quickly my body can become hard and how deeply it is registered in my body when I make an unloving choice. An anger is sometimes felt and if I don’t acknowledge it it can stay there, which can then impact the next choice I make. There is a deep knowing as to what love is and if this is compromised quite often we can go into reaction. It takes an honesty and conscious choice to let go of this and to still be loving and nurturing. I can totally relate to what you are sharing Gyl about the disconnect from your body because it is hard to feel the level of anger and sadness that we carry as a result of the self abuse. However if we can simply connect to the awesomeness that is underneath all that tension, the tension is no longer the focus and the self appreciation grows as we get to feel the depth of the love that is already there, which hasn’t been touched.
The mind likes to bring in all sorts of complications and sometimes I get carried away, but when I do there is a reminder to feel…to stop and observe, and when I do feel I know everything will be fine and starting again from this place in my choices is much more supportive.
It is true that when we simply connect with our sacredness, it is just there…so deeply precious and warm. And we have been running around most of our lives trying to find something that is always there and just waiting for us to connect back to.
I so grew up looking for love outside of myself as well, and since only starting to realise that it is actually within me (or actually me because we are love!), I have realised how fragile and tenuous it is to seek for love outside of you. It can leave you like a dog without a home, standing on the footpath, waiting for someone to love you and pick you up and take you home, and devastated when that does not happen. But when you start to live the love you are, the world changes. You are less reliant on others for what we can so deeply crave.
Hi Gyl,. . . the more we care for our self the more we find our selves in more caring situations Everything comes back to how we are with ourselves and how connected we are to our body. Connective Tissue exercises bring us in communication with our body. This is massive as our body will always ask us to be more responsible and when we are we can no longer blame others or judge and shame our self.
This is a profound sharing Gyl! To think we hold these energies of abuse within us for so long ,and yet through gentle and loving exercise and connection to our body or body parts, we can clear the abuse and bring in love that heals.
All of which means that we are ourselves the ultimate scientists and doctors.
The more present I become with myself the more deeply in-ground is the understanding of the importance of feeling energy in our bodies and reading what the choices stemming from mind and emotions allowed in of a harming energy. This reading comes from the consistency of presence, all in an instant, without any analysis or recall. It is a truly remarkable wisdom that calls the energy to the fore, calls it ‘out’ so to speak and lets love enter that part of the body to fill the void. It is what ‘connection’ that allows true healing is about and it keeps coming back to the simplicity of, ” am I here or am I not?” with my bodily movements.
I also have found the Connective Tissue Modality to be an amazing support in reconnecting with my body and releasing held configuration associated with past trauma in my life leaving me feeling lighter and free of the burdens I was holding in my body. As a result I can be and naturally connect with and express more of the love that I truly am to the world.
We spend most of our life choosing to live in parts – this blog confirms what is available when we claim the parts we overlook and the affect on our whole being. We are meant to be one unified in self and one unified as Humanity. Thank Gyl.
Just spotting the title of this article this morning stopped me in my tracks. Our choices today have the power to reconfigure past patterns and behaviours that we might think are there for good – this is huge – thank you, Gyl.
Learning what is behind or underneath what is going on in the body, is so deeply healing. What you have shared here Gyl, is another example of what is so simple, that when we connect and listen to the body, miracles can happen.
Doing ‘Pelvic Floor’ exercises has helped my prostate gland!
Thank you for this great reminder Gyl .. paying attention to all of our body, leaving nothing out, in fact going to and embracing those areas we may be avoiding.
I agree Jenny – there are parts of my body that I am only discovering now through the amazing modalities brought though by Serge Benhayon. The movements within the connective tissue exercises are so intricate and fine yet the outcome is transforming.
After reading this article I feel to embark on a connective tissue program, thank you Gyl
Playing with the energy of abuse brings abuse to our body and the body acts silently upon it going into numbing mood. How many more processes that would make a lot of sense like this one happens and we are not aware of? It would really help to pa attention to this because it ill help to unlock, the body from what we do to it.
I truly appreciate your sharing Gyl, simply reading this offers me the choice to connect more deeply to my body. There is so much innate loveliness in all of us and when honouring this knowing by simply connecting and appreciating then there is more to love and appreciate. Past choices simply don’t come into a loving connection with the essence of who we are. This is also true and real when we connect to the essence of another.
Making the choice to re-connect to a part of our body that may have appeared to have laid dormant for years is quite extraordinarily beautiful Gyl. Of course, no part of our body lays dormant, we just choose to ignore it, taking it for granted until something comes along to shake us up. I have been doing the connective tissue exercises for the pelvic floor too, and I agree the warmth, tenderness and spaciousness that now emanates from this area feels sublime and I am wondering just how deep we can connect to our body when we make the conscious choice to feel that is going on right underneath our eyebrows and how amazing our bodies truly, are and how much wisdom it contains within.
We think that we are doing the right thing by pumping weights or doing heavy physical training but this is just another form of abuse which hardens the muscles and forces the body into movements that are not harmonious.
Re-reading this blog is a beautiful reminder of how absolutely amazing the body is – returning to move in a way that is honouring and natural to the body with the Connective Tissue exercises, it can re-configure itself and let go of past trauma held in it. Our posture changes and we can stand taller and straighter without effort.
A confirmation of the fact that everything stems from the quality of our movement.
“I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.”
“To feel this, I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.” Wow, Gyl, this proves just how powerful the Connective Tissue Exercises are, and how powerful it is for us to change the way that we move. Movement is key to making huge changes in our lives, moving in a loving, connected way for a very short time can completely change our whole outlook on life. When I am feeling a little down, or disconnected, I am finding that moving that way for just a few moments completely transforms how I am feeling.
Thank you Beverley. I appreciate being reminded that movement can help us to change our thoughts and the way we feel. Sometimes it is very difficult to stay connected to this fact but the more I develop a relationship with my body the more inclined I am to change my movements when I am off track.
What you have shared Gyl, is such proof of the power of the connective tissue therapy and exercises. It is amazing how much can change when we are willing to use these exercises every day. Thank you so much for the great reminder of this, I had forgotten just how great they are and feel to also choose to do some of them regularly, daily, it is time to be far more in touch with all parts of my body. I realised just today during a stretching exercise class that there are some areas that I have not been in touch with for a very long time, it feels as if they contracted when I was quite young.
Thank you Gyl for sharing.
Gyl this is great stuff you are sharing, not having to go back an analysing the past,but just through true movement and the quality in those movement with your connection you was able to heal so much. This is a really powerful confirmation that we can clear so much in our body through choice and connection.
This blog confirms the power of true movement. If we move in a certain quality then we can move mountains. No need to spend a fortune on self help therapies, simply move consistently in the quality that is in line with your natural rhythm.
I have just started a connective tissue exercise program with Kate also and the changes I have felt in my body and my general emotional state have been profound. Just simply being more aware of how I hold my self, my posture has changed the way I feel during the day and allowed me to be much more open to others, less guarded and protective and therefore less hard in my physical body.
“I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.” Moving from this point of connection is hugely powerful, we can then have awareness throughout our day as opposed to compartmentalising this for a designated time. Connected our body is offering us constant support.
I love and deeply appreciate the absoluteness in your sharing Gyl. You’re spot on regarding the no big deal as there isn’t even the tiniest hint of this, it’s simply the claiming of the realization and being open to what is true.
amazing what we have stored in our bodies that we don’t realise, yet affects everything we do in every moment, outside of our awareness. and amazing how powerful connective tissue exercises and our own reconnection to our bodies allows such ill configurations to release, and so we can be lighter and free to be more of who we truly are.
I appreciate Gyl what you have brought to the connective tissue exercise that has allowed you to feel and understand its significance. It is not only the movement, it is what we bring to it, as shown in your understanding and honesty about your part in the choices you made in past relationships.
By making the choice to commit to something we change the energy we do it in so it is far more beneficial to the body than if we were to do the same thing reluctantly or with resistance.
Simple movements done with awareness can awaken muscles that we have long forgotten. This gentle awareness supports the body to let go of abuse imposed on it by ourselves or others.
So true Gyl. What we have allowed to occur, what we have let in to our lives and our body, what we ourselves have perpetrated has led to any self loathing an worthlessness that we may carry. The beautiful thing is that these are all our choices, and we can stop, and take that turn around – a new choice in every moment – and the tenderness, delicateness, Love and joy that pours in heals all that feels so insurmountable.
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I love that it can be this simple to chose to run with a story of abuse and not being worthy, or you can chose to move and connect so that you are free of the abuse!
The power in bringing a gentle quality to our movements is bigger than I have yet to fully appreicate. But from experience it keeps working, when I feel flat or unsettled in my body if I move in a more loving way I feel more energised and willing to care for myself again. Even something as simple as stroking the back of my hand tenderly can snap me out of a funk. Whereas if I feel flat and just carry on and don’t care about how I move it compounds the feeling.
What you describe Gyl is revolutionary, the path of true healing is re-connecting to our bodies and hearts and feeling the devastation of our hurts and disconnection. No need to endlessly re visit and retell our ill choices but certainly feel what has been avoided.
Such an open article, a real honour to share in it. I can relate to feeling disconnected with certain areas of my body. I have noticed that my arms have at times have a life of their own, they way the move and hold things has been hard, where as I could be more gentle and caring with myself, through moving my arms in this way. Connective tissue exercises and treatment is deep supportive to reconnect and re-imprint how we move and feel.
Beautiful blog Gyl. Although our whole body is important and it all must work in harmony together to support our true health and wellbeing there is a particular preciousness associated with our pelvic area …which ironically one of the parts of our bodies that we women most ignore until something is wrong there.
I love how you have highlighted the level of responsibility needed to heal the energy of abuse; in fact any hurt that we feel. I so much appreciate you sharing your experiences, your knowledge and your wisdom, thank you. As you say it is not a big deal however it is deeply responsible.
With such dedication to the body, and reading how differently these Connective Tissue exercises have made such profound changes in the relationship you now have with you and your body, it seems to me that the energy of abuse has transmuted.. literally gone, removed, disappeared from your body, enabling more loving choices and behaviours to be there. A very inspiring read, showing us how energy precedes behaviour.
I find it interesting that we can be so disconnected from our bodies. When I first came to the work of Universal Medicine, I could not imagine it possible to feel my kidneys, my uterus, my ovaries, etc. Just by being willing to connect, and as you share Gyl, make different choices, I now have a relationship with my body, which communicates so much back to me.
Reading this blog instantly invites me to consider my body and how I am sitting while I read. Naturally I can feel where there is tension or awkwardness in my posture. The very small adjustments it requires to release these pockets are so simple vet very supportive. Connective Tissue Therapy is a truly supportive modality that becomes part of our daily life by increasing awareness to our movements.
We are all very familiar with the energy of abuse. We all have our strategies to cope with it. They are all based on disconnecting from our body (or from parts thereof). The beauty of seeing it in this way, and understanding how it affected you, is the fact that what got disconnected can be reconnected back.
this is an awesome illustration that we are not condemned to live a life stuck in an identity of who we believe are, how to be with oneself and with others, It is such a wearing thing constantly monitoring and gauging other people to measure or gauge our response – this is hugely imprisoning way to live. Through Serge Benhayon and the presentations of Universal Medicine I have learned the power of simply expressing what is felt in that moment… and learning to express without any need for another to ‘get it’, no investment in another understanding, and no concern of the reaction of what might come back, it is deeply freeing, and revealing of a deeper wisdom we all carry within if we but choose to connect to it.
The pelvic floor is often an area where we harbour some form of old hurt and so we cut off from it as you did Gyl. Once we can honestly admit that “I couldn’t, or in truth, didn’t want to feel” this area and are willing to go there we are then able to release the hurt and then we can feel the warmth, tenderness and love that is naturally in every part of the body.
We usually take our bodies for granted until a part starts to speak to us with pain which forces us to be aware of it. However, if we choose to connect with our bodies we awaken the parts that we have ignored. With an open focus, not a fixed concentration, we awaken not just the part we might be tuning into and we restore its relationship to the whole body. Many pelvic floor exercises isolate the part further because we focus on it by tensing and clenching and by bringing in a sense of having to do something. By bringing awareness to the connective tissue we connect with the whole body while tuning into the part.
What a miracle.. and sets a whole new standard for making love.
What you share here in this blog is great – that every thought and movement has an immediate effect on how we feel and how empowering this can be. That if we bring a loving focus and dedication to our body, appreciate how intricate and gorgeous it is then we start to feel something quite special.
Thanks for sharing so candidly here Gyl. There is much I can relate to here as a man and am very much inspired to work with.
We often talk about the marvel of the human body but, in truth, my understanding of what it actually offers us hasn’t even scratched the surface. Blogs like this and my evolving appreciation and acceptance of what my body is telling and offering me, are totally re-writing how I have used and abused my body for thirty five years. My ignorance is humbling and I am deeply grateful to my body for putting up wth the assaults that I have imposed upon it. Sorry body…but fear not, the next thirty five years will be a very different story!
Just taking a moment to do a quick body scan reveals to me the areas of my body I dismiss, ignore or gloss over. There is always a revelation in this – tension in my knees, shoulders around my ears, ‘absence’ of my pelvic floor – and then an opportunity to attend to this. I do some simple exercises along with bringing attention to the quality of my breath and it is remarkable how quickly my body responds. As you say, Gyl, it is simple and in my experience only hard when I make it so by resisting.
Every time I say no to some form of abuse that I may have been allowing, I notice that less abuse comes towards me. If it does, it is so loud and ugly that it is very easy to see that this person is deeply hurting and that they have their choice to express like this but that I don’t have to take on one bit of it.
So true Gyl, change doesn’t have to be a big deal. It can be as simple as changing our posture which instantly changes our attitude which in turn changes our day.
Saying no to abuse is a monumentally huge decision to make, and especially when you say it from your body. We can after all, say all sorts of things in our minds, making huge claims and sweeping promises to ourselves, but the body never lies and will tell the truth at all times. So to address this particular quality, the energy of abuse in our bodies is really taking that step to go deeper, to delve even, in to the very core of your light and see the beauty, the grace and tremendous person that you are, and how you have remained intact with out any pain or violence ever having touched the very deep and meaningful core of you at all.
There is a simplicity and undeniable gentleness with the Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy and Exercises. The simple techniques have brought the most profound results in so many areas of my life.
I’m always amazed by the power and the massive effect connective tissue exercises have on my body – who knew such small movements could change the WHOLE world?
This rewrites medicine also, for we don’t need to spend hours indulging in our past hurts to let them go, we can, as Gyl shows, nominate an old pattern and then move in a way that reconfigures and unlocks this from our bodies.
Indeed Gyl, my understanding of exercise and movement is shifting dramatically. Recently I have begun to practice some very small movements, observing the impact a small movement such as lifting my heel has on other parts of my body, areas I never even imagined would be engaged. This has humbled my understanding of the power of movement and blown much of what I currently understand as physical exercise out of the water, for in many ways I feel more toned and supported by these minutiae movements than I do from any dynamic stretch.
This is a huge shift in consciousness, Lucinda: from the stressful demands of a ‘no pain no gain’ model, to the intricate awareness of the significance of our every movement and how that can develop our physical strength. Supported by this awareness I know I am fitter and weller than I have ever been… and nearly 50!
The responsibility to discern energy is ours and what I have learnt is it started with learning to love myself enough to be present with myself and feel my body and though allowing my hurts to be felt and released I naturally deepen my nurturing and level of responsibility for the loving way I treat myself and with that naturally the way others treat me.
There is true joy in turning our attention inward and putting a stop to the reliance on outward responses and reactions to our every expression. It is simply not possible for another to be an expert on ‘us’ for they do not live in our body, or live our life.
Super blog Gyl and wonderful to share how these connective tissues with Kate Greenaway-Twist have supported you to let go of old behaviours/beliefs and movements without the need to sit and talk for hours and hours, but to simply move the body differently. I too have had sessions with Kate and every morning start my day with some gentle connective tissue exercises which is a great start to my day and to which my body greatly appreciates…..
‘ growing up thinking I would find love outside of myself from someone else or in a relationship, rather than inside me, and my relationship with myself’, and how many of us grew up with this old belief and looked for love outside of ourselves, is a trap we all fall into until we reconnect with our bodies and start listening to what they communicate with us.
Yes, the trap of desperately seeking the missing ingredient outside of ourselves, in life or in another person is huge, and keeps us distracted, sometimes for years, from the fact that our completeness is within us and from this place we can then engage with the world and true relationships.
We can only be whole when we accept the whole of us. In this acceptance we are then able to face the fact of whatever we are presented with rather than trying to control the situation or jockeying our position to avoid being hurt.
The body has an honesty which shows us where we are and how we are treating it. However, we often do not want to see this so we ignore the messages it gives us and we can go on for our whole life ignoring parts of ourself. This is another form of hiding.
It is amazing to make such changes Gyl and reconfigure our bodies, and what I find is shown, is that there is layers to peel away, that letting go of one pattern allows us to look at and feel the one underneath. Caring for myself in my movements is such a basic, very simple way to love my own body.
I love how you say that changing choices doesn’t have to be a big deal but that even the smallest and simplest changes can affect enormous shifts.
Gyl I also had similar experience to you the other day in which I came to feel the truth of the concept that everything is a choice and that everything includes all the negatively impacting choices as well.
It is so true, it is all but a choice away. When we make the choice in full we can change patterns in a single second.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.” How powerful is this? It really is simply a choice.
There really is nothing more spectacular than feeling great within ourselves.
True movement is such a powerful healing modality taught by Universal Medicine. When we move differently to how we have been previously moving, simultaneously changing the way we hold our body, we can change our thinking and change patterns and behaviors. Much more productive and effective than counselling.
To hear and know something and fully understand it is one thing, but to really feel it for ourselves takes it to another whole level. Once we have felt something in our bodies, we cannot doubt what we know is true for ourselves, regardless of what anyone else may tell us.
What you share here is the power of our choices and how when we honour what we are feeling is super important. Making that choice and then confirming it with a movement or action is redefining of what is true for the body and our expression of Love. There is always the opposite to this and it pays to be aware of this, because when we are in a pattern of choosing unloving and harming choices to remember it is only a choice supports us to be self empowered to make the Loving choice out of the two.
“This whole area I actually looked at – and have looked at – with disgust for around 20 years.” When I consider how tender and responsive our bodies are to everything we think, it is quite shocking to realise that when we feel this level of disgust towards our selves or a part of our bodies, what the real impact might be. How can our bodies remain healthy if we regard them with such loathing? There is an exquisite tenderness in Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy that gently brings us home to just how delicate and beautiful our bodies are. It has supported me to make friends with my body again and to stop regarding any part of myself with such loathing. Learning to love our selves again is such good medicine.
Gyl, ‘I can absolutely say I love this area of my body, it feels precious and I want to take care of it deeply.’ This is gorgeous to read, it makes me realise that I do not feel this about my body, I have noticed that I do not have the disgust and shame that I once had for my body, but I do not adore my body, something to work on and as you say it is possible to change how we feel about our body.
Connective Tissue Exercises for me are the missing link! There is nothing else that I find as supportive to allow my body to let go and relax…offering me a deeper surrender of calmness and stillness in my body.
Truly inspirational Gyl. With many thanks for the work of Kate Greenaway-Twist and the presentations by Serge Benhayon about Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy!
Somewhere along the journey in my life I learned to stop being kind to my body. Now I am on the path of relearning what this truly looks like and feels like.
“I have always heard and known the fact that everything is a choice, but until yesterday I have not felt this so clearly, simply and deeply in my body.” This is so true, but one that can be plagued with complexity, if we allow it to of course. The unloving patterns and behaviours that we so want to hold on to, not purposefully, but they can be a challenge to let them go. As you say, those new choices, have to be felt in the body, come from the body, not our heads, otherwise, there isn’t the opportunity for true healing and change.
The commitment to working with the body on a regular schedule, offers such an opportunity to deepen the relationship with yourself, with love and the relationship of you in the world.
Wow that’s so powerful to release old unloving patterns of abuse and reconfiguring your body through the choice to be more of the love that you naturally are.
interesting really isn’t it just how disconnected we can be to one part of our body although for me I was very disconnected from my femaleness and females parts of my body but at the same time knowing that I didn’t realise just how disconnected I was to my body as a whole.
I am learning more and more to feel the quality of my movements and to observe how it affects my whole body when I move tenderly. My movements includes my thoughts and they are becoming more appreciative and less critical. My voice, in the past hard and uncompromising, can be, when I focus on it, deeply tender. This is all a work-in-progress but makes such a difference and is so simple to do.
I can relate to this. To speak to myself like a new born tender baby. I would never allow anyone to speak to me the way I allow thoughts to come in at times, so it’s knowing these are not me, but also to take responsibility for the energy I am choosing which allow these thought and not indulging in them. To come back to the movements of my body – and my thoughts either go completely, as in I’m not in my head thinking or they completely change to loving. I come back to feeling me, super cute, joyful, content and playful – just like a little girl and I love being with me -there’s no need or looking outside myself for anything.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.” How inspiring is this Gyl. There is such a strong belief that once we get ‘stuck in our ways’ there is nothing that we can do to change them, and these habits and behaviours will just get more and more engrained in our bodies. But what you are presenting here is that this doesn’t have to be the case, and that it comes down to a simple choice to change what no longer supports our bodies. And this is only one step away.
Disconnection from our bodies causes all sorts of problems, physical and mental. There are actually areas like you say Gyl that we can walk around with whilst being completely disconnected to. How sad it is we all have these amazing bodies all different shapes and sizes and yet if we don’t like a part or we have let abuse in we shut off from it. Thank you Gyl for sharing.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.” This feels like a supportive and loving way to approach the changes you are making. An inspiring sharing – thank you Gyl.
Learning the power of my body and its movements… . It is profoundly powerful in simply changing how I am moving and the quality of that movement, changes the quality of thoughts, arresting the negativity and self-destructing or sabotaging thoughts and behaviours. when we choose conscious presence we give ourselves a huge gift, the potential for mastery over how we will be with each moment, no matter what life brings.
Connective Tissue exercises are extremely simple, yet profound in the support that they offer the body and the whole of our being. They are an opportunity to stop, reconnect, feel and move the body in a very simple, tender and loving way where held patterns of energy can release from the body.
This is powerful Gyl, thank you for sharing. Connective Tissues is such a powerful therapy I just love how it works with the body, the tissues, the lymphatics. It allows flow of connection through out the body.
Connecting with my pelvic floor is like being child like again in the wonderment of discovering something about myself like a baby discovers their fingers and toes. It is such an innocent feeling to know their is a very special place deep with in that holds such great wisdom and power. Unseen but not unknown if I simply stop and bring my awareness to the area in a sense of appreciation and innocence for all that it is.
I can choose to connect to or to disconnect from my body, a simple ‘yes’ to this or ‘yes’ to that. What follows the yes is simple in one case (connection to the body) and complicated in the other case (disconnection to the body).
Gyl I love what you have written here, the keys of which for me are: that everything is a choice, and that it is a simple choice to re-imprint past choices that do not support us. I love the connection with your body that you have established. This is a daily practice of mine, to refine and strengthen my connection to me.
What a depth you bring to simple exercises.. it is outstanding what our body shares with us when we connect and listen to it.
I have been noticing that every layer of abuse I remove from how I treat myself also then ripples out to how I then treat others. This also shows itself in what I am willing to say yes and no to in my relationships.
Thank you Gyl. I loved reading this again. How simple it is to change an old pattern by moving our bodies in a way that reconfigures it.
Dear Gyl this feels so inspiring to me. I’d love to connect to that part in me as you did and let it go as no big deal as for me it always seemed such a big deal.
Wow if we look back over the course of our life, there is so much that happens that doesn’t feel right. Imagine how that accumulates and affects our body? I have found as you describe Gyl that the simplest exercises you could imagine in the world, Connective Tissue Exercises are actually like keys for unlocking this energy. It may sound too basic to be believed, but why don’t we give them a go? We may see then the absolute power our body has to heal itself.
Wow, just a few minutes of movements each day can release patterns of abuse spanning decades. Just so confirming of my body’s constant pull to return to harmony, the quality it naturally and innately is. And yes, if this can be changed with such ease then all abusive patterns can too. A choice between choosing our bodies or choosing beliefs and ideals that run us into the ground including the one that it has to be hard to return our lives to harmony and love.
I still find it amazing how little simple acts we do that honour and nurture ourselves have such a big impact and effect. It is also not surprising how many women feel shut down in the pelvic area as it has been so sexualised in the media if I were a women I would probably find it hard to fully embrace the area.
“To feel this, I didn’t have to go into analyzing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way,” and what a breath of fresh air this is to read Gyl thank you. What I have come to realize that when we go in body first so to speak, it fast tracks the whole process, empowering us to connect to what we have buried and feel it, which can be uncomfortable, but enables us to release it. The Esoteric Connective Tissue is such a tender and extremely powerful way to achieve this. When we focus on quality of movement and what is actually happening in our body when we ask it to move in a particular way affords us an observation platform from which we can then assess the quality of our relationship with our body, the quality of mobility, aches, pains and attitudes towards ourselves. And like you, this tender healing modality has revolutionized my relationship with dealing with my stuff and shown me a completely new way to appreciate, honour and nurture my physical body as the inseparable best friend that it is to me.
Thanks Gyl. What you have shared here flies in the face of a lot of counselling approaches, where the focus is to identify and analyse hurts from the past. It is amazing to feel the shifts in the body through presence and movement, without even needing know the story behind the contraction or protection that is being released.
This makes complete sense to me Gyl that if we have for a period of time felt distain for negatively about a certain part of my body then to actively choose to get support and make those changes to connect past those thoughts that have been so ingrained. To bring a loving relationship and moving differently then we have every chance to be who we naturally are designed to be.
This is beautiful Gyl a pleasure to read and know for myself as is the profoundness of our choices committed to with consistency and love. Connective tissue therapy is so supportive for the body as it can change life long patterns and configurations in our body and makes so much difference to ones life allowing a flow and harmony inside from our connection to ourselves. I am also finding that Connecting to this sacred part of our body as a women is very healing and confirming allowing our true awareness to be accessed and lived.
I am experiencing a lot of changes in my life as I develop my respect for, and awareness and care of, my body. Behaviours and patterns rooted in past hurts and ill choices are coming to the surface and shifting… at times this feels pretty miraculous.
The years that some people spend to change abusive patterns is and has always been a simple move away and as you have found Gyl, it starts with having a relationship with yourself.
I get more and more aware of the energies which are at play and the choice I have to let myself be drawn to an energy or consciously choose the energy. The realisation is when I choose the energy I am still often in my head and thus am not filled with the true energy and there comes in the pictures I have of something, or the ideals and beliefs I still carry which hinder me to truly be open to choose the truth. The beauty in this is that this process exposes the ideals, beliefs and pictures being an energy which is disconnecting me to the truth inside of me.
This is so true Gyl; that we so often “brush aside the grandness of things, thinking it’s no big deal.” We seemed to have been ‘programmed’ to think that only the biggest production numbers are worth taking the time to celebrate, whereas you have shown so beautifully that finally being able to make a loving connection to your pelvic area is worth celebrating for its absolute grandness.
Amazing Gyl that a shift in the body can happen so fast! It really highlights how we build up this tension within our bodies every day and carry around so many unresolved burdens which are unnecessary. What I get from your article is that the body has a natural state of sacredness.
Our bodies get configured by our ideals and beliefs and by experiences that we hold onto. This blog shows that by choosing to become aware of the body it is very easily able to let go of any internal dis-figurement and as the energy re-configures we can reconnect with the warmth, tenderness and love that resides naturally in the body.
Gyl, your blog demonstrates how vital it is for us to connect to our body. We all have areas in our body that we are unaware of and once we do connect to them we reawaken the feeling and so it does feel precious just like the body of a new born babe.
The timing of your sharing is very appreciated Gyl, thank you. I have an appointment with Kate Greenaway-Twist this afternoon which I made about 2 months ago. The sessions are always amazing, insightful and very supportive and today I’m really appreciating that I will ask for support with deepening my awareness and support with my pelvic floor. This is a part of my body that I turned by connection off to many moons ago and now I know ‘I’ choose to simply turn it back on.
Something I found very important for us to consider from this blog is how our body can be completely changed, but if we don’t allow ourselves to stop and feel what it actually feels like, we completely miss out on feeling and appreciating this. Our belief that we don’t like a part of our body can keep us in blinkers, avoiding and unable to see what has changed. This has really highlighted how important it is to keep feeling with openness, not expecting it to feel a certain way, so my body can let me know how it actually feels and support me to grow in my relationship with myself.
It was wonderful to read this blog, as so many of us don’t like certain parts of our bodies and believe that the way they feel is fixed and unchanging. How amazing that a few minutes morning and night can completely change the way the body feels. Better than that is how we can feel about our body, as a negative feeling towards ourselves does so much harm. I find it so lovely when I feel lovely from inside my body. It is almost impossible to treat myself with any harm.
Disconnection from a part of the body is something i find interesting. I mean we are literally very connected to all parts of our body – we do walk around in and with them 24/7. So I always find it interesting that I can disconnect and live in such a way that I think I’m disconnected. But once the connection comes back I realise I was never actually disconnected, just pretending as all along I could feel what was there once I make the choice to be conscious of what I’m feeling.
Wow, this is really powerful. I know I can go into thinking that in order to heal something I need to go back to what it was, analyse it and work on it in order to heal what is there. You blow this out of the water. Choosing to move in a different way is all that is needed and then we allow that body to heal.
It is our choices that determine how we will feel in any given moment at any time during the day. Life is a accumulation of all the choices we’re making. The more loving choices we make, the more we become aware about both our body and the truth of the world. Both can feel very unpleasant to connect to at first, but soon after we’ll feel how much love can possibly flow through our body, into our lifes. And we’re the master of that life as Gyl so beautifully portrayed.
My thoughts often try to convince me of the fact that a simple choice to move in a different way or to feel myself for a moment will not change anything about how I feel, but my experience is that it does. A simple choice to move differently in the way we feel is true, can change us from feeling down to feeling beautiful.
My whole life began to change when I realised that my choices have an impact on how my body feels.
The power of Connective Tissue Therapy, is that it is working tenderly and most directly with the body that is carrying every thing we have lived. “Your body is real and it is always truth-full. This is because it is with you in everything you do.” ~ Serge Benhayon (Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, p 591).
Even though life is full of choices it is unwise to mistake choice with willpower to overcome a judged bad behaviour.
‘…the changes and expansion from these simple movements in my body is immense. Until last night I didn’t realise how much, as I tend to brush aside the grandness of things, thinking it’s no big deal.’ – I too am learning the immense importance of simple movements, it is never about how much or how big the movements are, but the quality and the consistency of how we choose to make the movements.
Connective Tissue Therapy is a remarkable modality purely because of the simplicity of the minute movements which are so subtle you hardly even feel them, but which have the most profound effect on the body. I have not come across anyone who has experienced this modality who cannot say they have never felt so deeply relaxed and in tune with their body after having a Connective Tissue Therapy session.
Susan, I can feel in your words you live that absolute truth. It’s not knowledge but absolute pure lived body experience.
This is so powerful, Gyl – “If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.” Bringing conscious movement to any short or long term holding pattern in the body really does shift things, creating more space and flow as well as continually bringing us into greater and more subtle awareness of what is there to be discarded that prevents us from being our amazing true selves.
Very true, Janet Williams, I can feel how the way I walk is continuing to alter through being consciously aware of it. I use to stamp up the stairs, I regularly had bruises on my thighs from bumping into things. More care and aware has meant that I am being more gentle with myself and I can feel more of a natural flow and grace emerging through this commitment.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me.” To reconfigure the unloving patterns can be so entrenched that they feel such a huge task that to do so is overwhelming. Yet as you share so well, Gyl, “It doesn’t have to be a big deal.”
So powerful. Thank you for sharing how profound our movement and connective tissue is Gyl.
Allowing an energy in that makes us abuse our self, and our body is endless. It is that free will thing! Who has not tried something and after thought that was not that bad? Are these not just the baby steps to full blown abuse on an industrial scale, that we have come to be known as normal life? And as you have expressed Gyl… it is possible with a simple choice of how we move.
Gyl I was just considering how your story, your sharing of abuse, is something that for most people, myself included in the past, I would not even have registered as abuse. I would think of it as life, and that’s making me consider. What else do I consider part of life that is not at all part of the true way of living?
I too had completely numbed out my pelvic floor and hip region and had never realised this until the esoteric healing modalities started thawing it out. What a revelation and now connecting to this area of my body is quite literally a heavenly feeling. This is such a precious part of us, we have so much to learn about truly honouring it.
The way we move is a choice. We can either do this with total love and care for our body and ourselves or not. We can either be connected totally, mind body and soul or not. We can either be ruled by our head or not. These all come down to the one choice to honour who we are, knowing we are more than just flesh and bone and that the spirit is but part of the soul. Because we do not honour ourselves it can take some time to realise the abuse that we have allowed and as we deepen our awareness and the abuse becomes more evident we have an opportunity to let go of any judgements we might have around it and release the energy it has been holding us in for so long. Changing our movements to true movements does this all for us. How great then is true movement including, of course, the Connective Tissue Therapy movements that you mention.
I have attended some Connective Tissue Exercise workshops with the deeply inspiring Kate Greenaway also, and found this work to be deeply rejuvenating and offering a wonderful platform for connecting with my body in my everyday activities. To move and honour the body in such simple and deeply honouring ways completely changes one’s energy levels, focus and response to the tasks and activities of a day – going to show that it is most certainly possible to feel quite harmonious with our own bodies, if we simply give them and ourselves the care we deserve. Amazing.
How absolutely brilliant Gyl – to simply connect with your body, bring awareness and attentiveness to it, and re-establish a connection that sounds as though it was just waiting for you to let it in 🙂
It’s been my experience also, that our bodies respond amazingly to such simple, loving presence and connection. This should be education 101 – from the very outset.
‘through the simple choice to connect to my body and move, doing two Connective Pelvic Floor Exercises for a few minutes every day – nothing else – I actually feel absolute love in and for this whole area’ – what a gorgeous testament to the extraordinary power of this modality combined with our commitment to using it. Thank you, Gyl.
What is clear here, is the fact that self healing is the truest form of healing… “to connect to my body and move, doing two Connective Pelvic Floor Exercises for a few minutes every day – nothing else – I actually feel absolute love in and for this whole area…” A commitment to our body certainly brings about everlasting change or transmutation of an energy that once makes you think one way about the body.
I loved your comment – ‘If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me’. This is the choice we live with everyday and often blame a pattern we have as being too ingrained when all we need to bring to it is commitment and self-discipline. It is about being deeply honest with ourselves and choosing to love who we truly are and to honour that.
We can make it seem that to change anything in our lives is ‘too hard’, ‘too complicated’ or simply ‘impossible’. But what you are sharing here Gyl is that it is possible to change anything in our lives by being fully aware of our bodies and a simple movement. This is groundbreaking and very very inspiring.
True, Sandra. We identify with our holding patterns, not realising that by introducing new and true movement, any old ways can be let go of.
This is an amazing account of the way we can hold ill feeling in parts of our body and the most subtle, tender movements can heal. Healing then becomes living with deep sensitivity, care and love of our bodies. Very beautiful and simple.
Truly transformative to be able to work with the body in this way and yet have such a profound and healing effect on what has happened in the past. Connective Tissue Therapy is a most tender yet deeply active form of body work.
This is living proof Gyl that simple choices made day after day can and does move mountains.
I love the combination of both appreciation and dedication to yourself and – in this case – your pelvic floor. What is very clear is that your commitment and consistency build such a solid foundation in actually a short period of time. This is beautiful to read and feel. As well as inspiring and confronting.
It is amazing how different a day can feel when holding steady to our connection of love and appreciation for our selves and everyone equally. Whatever the sticky, awkward or uncomfortable feeling that may arise, holding us all in the absolute knowing that we are truly divine beings first, the out plays of our human responses, behaviours or reactions hold no power over us and we can choose to let go.
What you share is HUGE. It reveals the simple fact that by movement we can change how we feel and think. Why are we then trying to tackle the mind, instead of first looking at how the body is and being moved?
I have been doing pelvic floor exercises too and am beginning to build a relationship with that part of my body that I have disregarded for a very long time. And I have much appreciation for the opportunity to re-connect to my pelvic floor, which now is beginning to feel tender and spacious and the beginning of my re-connection to me as a woman.
I am always inspired by the fact that when we choose to feel what is going on in our bodies, rather than fight the tension by trying to dull, ignore or numb, how much healing is then possible. The science behind all of this is something we all need to know as this revelation is a game changer for us all.
Connective tissue allows us to deeply feel and appreciate every part of our body. Many of us have never had this level of awareness in our bodies before. I am amazed when I can feel what i have not felt for such a long time.
This is amazing Gyl. I love that you didn’t go into self-abuse about the abuse that you had previously allowed in your body, this would have made the abuse worse. Thank you for sharing that making the simple choice to connect to your body and move it in a different way was what was required to re-imprint the previous abuse. This is very powerful.
The beauty is the simplicity and the movement of a choice. The results speak for themselves.
‘I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way,’ and this is what connective tissue exercises offer us to move in a very subtle and gentle way connected with ourselves with any area of our body. Very powerful, as each movement counts in allowing space and love in our lives.
‘Reconfiguring the energy of abuse – by a SIMPLE CHOICE’ tells already what is key to stopping abuse. It is simplicity, the simplicity of choosing what is loving and love is always simple. We could even go as far as concluding that every complication is already abusive to our true nature and being.
Connective Tissue sessions always leave my body feeling very open and expanded and everything inside feels like it is working together in a harmonious and fluid way.
How programmed we are to huff and puff about things and make a big drama out of making changes. As you share here, so beautifully Gyl, it is all about true choices and the quality we bring to our everyday and by bringing conscious presence to our body, old abusive patterns can be healed.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal”.
It is amazing what happens when we commit to a program. The connective tissue exercises themselves offer such an opening and ease to the body that is quite exquisite. However I have also found the commitment to a program, and therefore to our evolution plays a huge role energetically in the changes that occur. Commitment is saying yes to yourself, to caring deeply for your body and being and to being willing to grow.
Bringing more awareness to our choices, and the impact these have on our bodies is profound and is leading me to realise that through choices it is possible to live life feeling beautiful everyday. Beauty from the inside out.
It is an amazing and simple thing to focus on bringing a beautiful quality to our movements. Yes there is much tightness or tension or unpleasant things we might feel, and these certainly need to be acknowledged. However, when our focus becomes the silky quality that we all essentially hold deep within, then life changes completely because of the quality that we can choose. The key is to be aware of this quality and know that even if we cannot always feel it ourselves, it still lies within each and every one of us, and nothing can essentially take it away from us. Our essence simply is. And it is for us to connect to this and build a relationship with it, and allow it to express through the way we move, speak, blink etc.
This is so incredible to read Gyl. I salute you for being willing to share so openly and honestly so that we all might learn and evolve from your experience. The beautiful way you have shared has allowed me to feel why I have avoided pelvic floor exercises and it has also allowed me to feel that healing is simple if I choose it.
You have presented how simple it can be to connect to ourselves and effect change with out it being a big deal Gyl, and which is in fact monumental 🙂
‘…purely through a lack of self-worth, a need, and growing up thinking I would find love outside of myself from someone else or in a relationship, rather than inside me, and my relationship with myself.’ – The sad reality is that not many of us grow up with the understanding that we all come from love, i.e we ARE love, we simply need to re-connect to what is already naturally within us – yet we learn from a very early age that ‘love’ comes from the outside when we behave in a certain way. It is the sure path to a lack of self-worth.
What a great revelation Gyl, that through the movement of Connective Tissue exercise you were able to reveal how you had disconnected from your pelvic area because of something that had happened more than 20 years ago.
A powerful blog highlighting the changes that are possible in our body when we choose to change our movements. I have found it’s important to truly appreciate such changes and not ‘brush them aside’ as I have tended to do in the past.
I use to look for answers outside of me for a long time but I know now everything I am looking for is already within me.
It is like a breath of fresh air to know that abuse can be reconfigured by a simple choice. How many people go through a life time suffering from the affects of abuse? It is carried in the body as a scar that can influence behaviour and dominate emotionally. How amazing that it is possible to heal these very real scars by being willing to love ourselves in the way that you have, using very real and tangible tools for healing.
It is incredible how if we choose to wallow in our negative choices this can have a devastating impact on how we feel and move in the world. So to bring a loving focus to something that in the past was abusive choices and to not focus on this but to feel new loving choice can totally change the way you relate with ourselves and how the body communicates with us.
Gyl, I love what you are sharing here, ‘If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.’ I can feel how its easy to have a fixed idea of who we are and how we are and have things we do not like about ourselves or parts of our body that we do not like, what you are sharing here shows how we can evolve and make loving changes and that we do not have to live with certain ways of thinking or certain behaviors that hold us back and also that we can adore our bodies completely.
It is true we don’t have to live with residues of past abusive behaviour still held in the body, it is possible to clear them using simple but profound modalities like Esoteric Connective Tissue. Your blog Gyl will inspire others to not merely accept things as they are and to make the choice to seek help and healing.
An amazing realisation and healing shared from a simple choice to choose to be honest and heal ourselves and our body through the esoteric healing modality of connective tissue therapy and the program you set yourself. This is very inspiring and such a beautiful sharing and knowing to feel thank you.Inspirational !.
How many lifetimes have we carried around with us self-abusive ideals and beliefs? The choice to change these old patterns with new movements that come from within us is so simple and powerful with what we discover about ourselves.
For a very long time my pelvic floor was a foreign area of my body until I had a regular practice of Connective Tissue exercises. Now they are an integral part of my day, supporting me to connect to the sacredness that lies within. When I first started doing these exercises regularly, it also brought up lots of feelings of shame and sadness from past experiences. It has been incredible to offer myself the space to feel through what it has been that I have been holding and through this reconnection allowing these emotions to release and let go.
‘Reconfiguring the Energy of Abuse – all by a Simple Choice’, what I love about what you have shared Gyl is that it demonstrates that energy can be shifted. When something has happened to us we are not shackled for life by the event, it can be shifted, the key is to shift it through changing the way that we move and interact with our bodies. So simple and oh so powerful.
The belief that we find love outside is very common and often dominates our behaviours and the intention of our action. It can be obvious but also very hidden in the so called ” good doing.” Often we do not realize and grasp in full how harming and self destroying this is. I still find myself in situations allowing abuse in not truly choosing to be connected with me in full and feeling the effects of it later in my body.
It is amazing what the simple techniques of the Connective Tissue exercises do offer us. I also found that I was not connected with my pelvic floor when I was asked in one of my sessions with Kate to connect with it. What I found there was so precious and profound that I cannot imagine myself anymore that I would live in disconnection with it.
One of things I have discovered from my healing journey with Universal Medicine is the power of making a seemingly small change in my life. Just making a true commitment to change can be transformative. It does not have to be complicated! If you truly want the truth it will be delivered! Thank you Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for presenting another way of living that works for me.
Reading your blog again Gyl, reminds me to take more care of my body, to listen and understand how important it is to connect to it. Our body reflects so much of our choices and when we choose to connect to it and listen we are always lovingly guided to live according to its natural rhythm, whereas if we override what we can feel in our body it can cause a lot of discomfort and eventually may lead to dis-ease.
Such a simple modality that is deeply felt within, and which our body is always willing to release and heal when we connect.
Hello Gyl and while I have had Connective Tissue Therapy in the past and it’s been extremely supportive. Reading this blog makes me want to go and book a session for this reason. Kate Greenaway-Twist is a master at it as well, she’s a great practitioner and I look forward to my next session.
Gyl, how awesome! This would have to be my favourite line ‘ It doesn’t have to be a big deal.’ It’s so nice to hear you/anyone say that. Of course it doesn’t have to be a big deal. I’ve been avoiding connecting to parts of my body for a very long time. In fact it’s probably most of my body that I ignore when I think about it, because I simply don’t want to feel what’s there. But reading you say that it’s not about dwelling on the past and that it doesn’t have to be a big deal is very encouraging! Thank you!!
Awesome blog Gyl. What you share is simple but incredibly significant – by allowing the space to connect with our body, deep healing naturally occurs. I have found this too, and my mind still struggles with the fact. Taking a moment to reflect on what has occured is important too – I can be dismissive of the effects of incremental change unless I allow this time.
What you’re offering here is a big deal – that it’s possible to by-pass the emotion of picking over our familiar hurts and stories and instead achieve significant healing through simply making a dedicated connection to our bodies.
I agree Cathy – I am blown away by the way that movement can truly support us to heal.
Changing a pattern that is 20 years old and re-configuring it to one that is loving, beholding and confirming exposes the old beliefs around ‘can’t teach an old dog new tricks’. Everything is a choice and this offers an opportunity to go deeper in exploring the moments when we want to hold on to something that is not life-giving. Comfort and disregard are big in the society we live in but you have shown here Gyl that to deeply connect and to consistently practice connective tissue exercises does support us to change long held pictures and lifestyles that do not support us.
Thank you Gyl for a really great sharing, I know how powerful connective tissue exercises are in connecting us to what is going on in our bodies. I have to smile, while you are going across the seas to Kate I am going across the seas to Jane, and what we are both receiving the opening up and healing of our pelvic floor area is immense.
It is true, when we abuse ourselves or abuse a part of our body like the pelvic area or the digestive system, we would rather not feel the consequences of that abuse even though feeling the depth and impact of our behaviour is the easiest and one of the most powerful ways to heal the consequences of the abuse.
How truly inspiring you blog is Gyl, a very special sharing. This is such a loving lived wisdom for us all to connect with, that we can choose simply to re-connect with our bodies and feel the loveliness of who we truly are in our essence. Past choices of external actions don’t alter our beautiful essence that is simply, patiently, tenderly waiting for us to feel that is all there ready to radiate the depth of the love we innately are.
How beautiful and inspiring to read the possibility to re-connect with simple exercises. I can feel some hesitation in me taking the time each day, but I can feel the benefits you’re experiencing. The resistance and ignorance I’m feeling is something for me to be honest about and deal with.
Gyl, it is quite miraculous your experience of Connective Tissue Therapy and highlights how healing the Universal Medicine therapies are. People really need the support that these therapies and its practitioners offer.
I also can relate to what you share Gyl it is really inspiring what you have shared.
It is amazing to realise that even if we have a momentum of something for a long time it can always be reversed by simply choosing to stop feeding it with our movements.
What I love feeling from this blog is how it shows that emotion is not something that naturally comes from the body. The body is naturally very delicate and delicious and very yummy when it is truly met, so everything else we feel is introduced to the body.
Incredible point Joshua. I feel this every time I really get in my body (out of my racy head); how alive, yummy sensitive and never emotional my body is and subsequently my life is when I am living in touch with/in harmony with my body.
What Serge presents, represents and has shown me has helped me choose to stop and feel that the body/my body is my key to my true life, my connection to myself and everyone else.
The more I get in touch with my body the more I know that Truth feels amazing with no need for stimulation, distraction or elevation.
How precious this blog is in showing how powerful it is to get in touch with parts of our bodies we have disassociated from on one level or another.
We have all taken abuse in one form or another and allowed it to continue for many different reasons. But what you are presenting here Gyl is that we are literally just one step away from changing that, if we are willing to first be aware of it, and second willing to say ‘no’ to what does not feel right in our bodies without any shame or guilt, by choosing to stay connected to who we are.
The pelvic floor is an area women often relate to e.g. around and after pregnancy, for men it is rather rare to relate to it until particular medical conditions occur. But that doesn´t mean it isn´t a very relevant area as it holds in men and women equally several issues and emotions around e.g. sexuality, anxiousness, control. Bringing a loving awareness and developing a sensible relationship with the pelvic floor for sure is a healing way of attending to such issues.
The Esoteric Connective Tissue Exercise for the pelvic floor is a great way to restore feeling and has helped me connect to my prostate!
The exercises you are doing sound wonderful Gyl, as is your commitment to yourself and the love you now have for your body.
Taking time to connect with the different parts of part and understanding how they support me not just physically but energetically has given me a whole new way to live and understand my daily movement.
Beautiful Gyl – how we are able to re-imprint all of our life time habits, behaviours, with true healing techniques , with Esoteric Connective Tissue therapy we are able to heal and let go of all hurts, pains and patterns in a truly beautiful way.
Love it – everything is a choice; and to consistently work on it and give yourself permission to change something, especially if that thing feels age-old, stubborn, or too hard, the fact that is there always niggling at you it is probably very important that you focus on it and give it the quality it deserves. Consistency is the key.
We have all experienced re-configuring energy in our homes when we clean it.. you can feel if it was a quick ‘clean it up for because we have guests arriving’ or a more love filled clean to bring more regard to our abode. It makes sense that if we can reconfigure the energy of our home, then we can also reconfigure the energy we hold in our bodies.
Brilliant Gyl – your honesty and directness is so refreshing it’s got me wondering about how I really feel about this area of my own body. The pelvic floor feels like it holds everything in place, like a foundation where everything else can be and live from. More attention to this area is certainly not a time waster.
‘If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me.’ This is profound when I stop and think about it. We often think we have to put up with our hurts and they are part of us. We do not think it is even possible to heal our hurts in a moment. Yet, if you can heal something that big by connecting, nominating and moving in a way that the abuse held in this part of you body is reconfigured, what else is possible?
Gyl, what you have shared got me pondering on how much abuse we all partake in, in one way or another. It may be very small, it may be self-inflicted, however, while we are still holding it in our bodies, we numb ourselves through food, TV, gaming, whatever our penchant is so we don’t have to feel the hurt. It isn’t who we are, it doesn’t belong in our bodies and, as you have shown, it doesn’t have to be a big deal to let it go, we just have to love ourselves enough to want to make the choice to do so.
What you’re sharing here, Gyl is huge ….. abuse isn’t something that we have to carry around with us in our bodies. As with all hurts, we have the choice to let them go, it’s a choice to do so and a commitment to how to best support ourselves in the process with honesty and openness, taking full responsibility for our part in the hurt.
Yes, we have the choice to be fully aware of our past self abuse and then to let the abuse go. It is quite liberating.
It’s as if we reconfigure ourselves with love and set a new benchmark for what is acceptable and what is not.
This article comes very timely as I just had a session with Kate Greenaway and the support of her instructing exercises done with gentleness and gentle breath is amazing. To bring this into a daily rhythm is confirming and healing.
As most will know it is really hard to change habits and behaviours just because you choose so. Choice is definitely part of the process but doesn´t do the change as such. We want to do something in a different way, therefore we need to put into practice that what we want to change – this needs a change of the quality we move in to be truly successful as only through movement we clear the ingrained pattern configured inside of us that produces and sustains the unloving behaviour. This is a science everyone needs to discover and practice one day as it is the only way to heal ourselves and come back to who we truly are.
Hear! Hear! I have felt it is true that when I have built a loving rhythm the results I get are confirmed back to me. Also I have found that the ‘choice’ to be connected to my divine aspect is what makes all the difference! Now my choice is to continue to slowly chip away at my resistances so I can build a ‘consistent’ rhythm so that I can stay connected to my divine aspect.
It’s a beautiful thing how we don’t have to go back into all the story and ‘figure stuff out’ regarding past abusive behaviour that we may have had, but merely focusing fully on the part of the body that has been neglected (as Gyl demonstrated here) and moving it in a more loving and gentle way can clear the issue that has been stored in the body for so long. Alex has described this very well in the above comment.
Great point Alex that a decision to change something is not enough, as I know often I have wanted to change something only to find I keep going back to the old ways of doing something. I have found that when I support my choice to change with a commitment to a practical change in how I move my body then it is much more likely to stick.
Simplicity, in it’s grandness:)
Thank you, Mary what you have shared here makes so much sense and is really beautiful, I am smiling 🙂
Thank you Gyl, this simple connection to a part of our body and or whole of our body and commitment is what builds our consistency and is so much more powerful than we realise as I have found it ripples out to other areas in my life.
Thank you for your honest and down to earth article, especially as many would not see having sex in a relationship as being abusive to our bodies, but when we are looking at another to fill a need or having sex because we want to be loved, then that is abusive to ourselves and the other person. So it is not surprising that we then start to feel numb and check out from those parts of our bodies, and then get to the place where we cannot feel that area any more.
Gyl, I love this, ‘I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.’ So simple, I can feel how its easy to think it is a big deal to make changes to our behaviour and how we feel about ourselves, whereas in fact it is simply a choice and we can make changes, things don’t have to stay the same, we can evolve and change if we are open and willing to do so.
This is a powerful realisation, Gyl, one which I have also found to be true in my personal life and in my work – “I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way”. Movement and body awareness bypasses the mind and goes straight to the truth of the matter.
Gyl you share here a completely different way to deal with things in life, bringing it back to the body and not trying to fix anything, espeically by over thinking it. It’s also amazing how there can be parts of our body we disconnect from and then somehow block out, no wonder we can get sick if we don’t want to feel the choices we’ve made against our true nature and body. I recall partying hard and trying to ignore the signs of exhaustion until one day I could not get out of bed due to the pain in my kidneys. That lasted a week but I knew I was pushing myself for many many months before hand.
The power of the connective tissue work that Kate Greenaway offers is stupendous. This is such a tender, respectful modality that enables the body to re-claim its natural rhythm and harmony and from therein, cleanse everything that is not in harmony with the body’s own delicate pulse. Your testimony Gyl is proof of the immensely beneficial healing that Connective Tissue Therapy delivers so simply and so easily, a few minutes a day on a regular basis can change our entire lives.
This blog really does bring home to me the power of choice in every moment and how one self-loving choice can change everything. I can be feeling racy but what I am finding is that by clocking it, feeling and surrendering, in no time I am back with me and then I can build on the momentum of self-loving choices.
Wow Gyl that is very inspirational what you have shared. Imagine to connect with our bodies in a loving way can change the world so to speak.
Within the connective tissue of the human body, lies the answer to understanding the flow of the universe and the flow of life. I have found the more I am able to connect with my connective tissue and live in a way that supports the freedom in its flow, I feel part of the Whole, not separate or individual, but one with humanity.
A simple and yet profound example of the absolute healing power of Connective Tissue… and of committing to loving and supporting yourself knowing you are worth it.
How awesome are the changes in our lives, and within our bodies, when we deeply and lovingly connect to our bodies and honour ourselves.
Gyl your blog is a powerful confirmation of how one simple choice can lead the way to making an enormous change in our lives.
What I find very powerful in your blog Gyl, is the making time for yourself everyday to nurture, care and self-heal. Dedicating time in our day for self healing is perhaps the key to putting a halt to behaviour patterns taking over the body that then initiate the person to just be a recipient of life and repeat wayward habits.
It is quite incredible how all the pictures we carry of how life should be can affect us so deeply for so long, and yet to make changes is easy. It really is all about the choices we make – we can resist change and make it a complicated, extended and draining process…or… we can simply make a choice in a moment and continue to honour that choice and our lives change forever – no big deal!
We can be so hard on ourselves for our past choices, shameful, regretful and abusive and we can take this out on our physical bodies for a very long time; but deep down we do love our bodies and the preciousness we carry within them and as we learn that life is about choices and that this is our first responsibility, we can actually go much easier on ourselves for what takes place thereafter. When we give our power away to anything outside of our absolute wisdom that is within, we are choosing an energy that runs our body in a way that is not loving, but rather than bashing ourselves for this we just need to be aware of that initial choice and choose responsibly our next choice from there.
Cherise, as I read your description of how hard on ourselves we have been, regretful, abusive, shameful… and then you follow that by saying that ‘deep down we do love our bodies’ I felt a release in my own body; the relief of realizing that I really do love me and that my body is my key back home to love. I have tears of joy as I reconnect to this truth. Thank you.
And Jo as I read your comment it became apparent to me just how relentlessly abusive most of us are towards our bodies, not just physically but emotionally and psychologically as well. Knowing that our bodies are the gateway to God, this really makes it clear why we are so far from connecting to the God within, because we abuse the very vehicle that delvers us to his doorstep. It’s like wondering why we can’t drive home when we’ve slashed our own tires!
Awesome blog Gyl… love the honesty and simplicity you offer, and I can so relate to all that you share here.
Thank you Gyl, by experiencing this for yourself in your own body it becomes a known and absolute lived experience for you and not just words on a page or spoken by another. You now have a living connection with your pelvis, female body and thus a deeper connection to your entire body and this is so exquisite and profound, much more than we can possibly fathom and as you share, it is simple not hard and comes about by an initial choice to choose such an openness and connection with you to begin.
It is awesome to know that our body is very receptive to loving choices and can repair itself after many years of abuse. You are testament to this Gyl. Very inspiring blog.
I have recently been in a 6 week pelvic floor class online and I am astonished by the amount of healing I have experienced as a woman simply by connecting to this part of my body and taking loving care of this area. I had some pretty negative feelings stored in there, these released fairly quickly and what was underneath was the pure essence of me as a woman. To say ‘working with the pelvic floor is powerful’ would be an understatement!
Wow Melinda this sounds amazing and its something I would like to explore some more myself. My relationship with the connective tissue of the pelvic floor has been all about function, and worrying about keeping it functioning, but what you are sharing seems very different…. I would love to explore this for myself.
CHOICE is something that we do every moment, whether we are aware of it or not, even down to crossing the road, what will I eat, and in that choice, we bring our bodies to it. What comes back to us in life can it be said is because of the choice we had previously made? But to stop and really look at the choice and when we choose what will truly support us, we will find life will offer us the support we need.
Great comment Karoline. I have found, often I know what is a loving choice and what is not but then I often find myself choose the unloving choices. So, I feel by being aware of our choices is great and what supports us as well is to connect to our body. When we truly listen to it, combined with our awareness that we do have a choice, it can be very powerful in supporting us through life.
Connective tissue is a powerful modality, very simple yet can completely reconfigure and change what we hold in our bodies.
Connective tissue within the body holds all parts as equal. If our hand or arm was not being felt or cared for we would quickly become aware to this, yet we can so easily overlook or ignore one to the most sacred parts of our body and live with these choices or discount the depth of sensitivity of the pelvic floor because it is being of service in a different way. I love Gyl how you have identified the power of connective tissue and the quite and gentle healing power it brings to every part of our body equally.
A little effort for a big reward, we couldn’t ask for more! Thank you Gyl .
The power of a simple movement you could say. But what if life is all about the ‘how you move’, the quality of each movement. What if we are so use to just getting somewhere and neglect to see how we are in every way walks with us all the time. It’s like the big stage is in every step. I have found the more I dedicate and watch ‘my every move’ the easier things have become. It’s not waiting for the big moment to perform but more realising there are more little moments in a day, like you every move and the more quality you bring to them the more prepared you are for what ever is in your next step, big or small. Everything is everything, there is no big stage, no small moments, no closed doors and life when you keep living it with this awareness becomes a lot more.
‘If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.’ Absolutely Gyl, you are an inspiration.
Reading your comment Arianna and Gyl’s blog made me realise how often I brush aside the grandness of small things and live in disregard instead of love and appreciation. Wow, how powerful is appreciation? I know when we stop to appreciate everything, even the small things we can bring so much joy into our everyday life. It is so simple yet at times I find it incredibly difficult to connect to and I understand and know that this is also a choice to not embrace the grandness and power that God and everything around me reflects. Huuummmm time to appreciate, appreciate and appreciate, God is in everything.
I would never have believed that my pelvic floor could feel so delicious as it does today, all through doing some very simple exercises and taking much better care of myself. Changing deep seated abusive behaviours does not need to involve radical solutions, all it needs is consistent loving actions that gently re-introduce us to the most amazing love inside, a love that has always been there buried under a lot of misguided beliefs that we are not worth loving. Its is quite awesome just how a few minutes each day can bring such immensely beneficial change.
Wallowing in past woes never solves anything it just keeps us going round in the same stuck cycle. I have had sessions with Kate Greenaway-Twist she is so lovely and super supportive. I really get that how if we stay consistent and do something to support ourselves and bodies even just 2 minutes a day it changes. For me currently it is the daily (consistent) part I am not so great at.
Wow, awesome blog Gyl and great timing for me to read because I have recently been aware of my lack of care for my pelvic floor area. I too have been ignoring this part of my body and the result of this is asking me to pay attention. Your blog has inspired me to look deeper and ask myself why I have made these choices to disregard certain parts of my body so I can learn, grow and reconfigure the energy of abuse.
Gyl, I absolutely love what you have shared here – it is the power of simply choosing to be loving, to move with that tenderness that brings the change in us and for us, rather than us trying hard to work through what has happened or is going on etc. This is key: “To feel this, I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.”
I too have experienced this kind of situation – I used to find it very hard to touch my breasts or have them touched by my husband without feeling awful thoughts and images come into my head. But over time I have really learned to wash my breasts and put cream on them tenderly and keep being super delicate with myself and now my breasts feel like a joy to have as part of my beautiful body. What a process, but super simple – no need to analyse and wallow in past stuff, just learning to bring back tenderness in how I am with myself. Thank you for this wonderful reminder and inspiration to keep connecting to how I move.
It’s actually quite a shock to feel how much we hold onto in our body, which is why we tend not to feel. It’s beautiful to know through consistent connection and gentle or harmonious movement that all of this can be revealed and cleared ever so easily, leaving a free and open body. Moving in a hard and disconnected way is the way we trick ourself into thinking that things are hard to shift or behaviours are hard to change. Knowing this, all we need to do is move ever so delicately and everything that doesn’t belong will go!
It’s such a fundamental lesson in self love to honour ourselves and not settle for anything less – if this was nurtured from young, women would then be with partners in a loving way, and not from trying to fill a feeling of emptiness and lack of worth.
I love how connecting to this part of your body you feel a deep care for it that didn’t come from any mind over matter stuff – analysing etc. It came from the simplicity of moving in a way to reconnect to the wisdom we all have within that is always with us.
I love this, the simplicity and practicality of movement and connection, its a winning formula!
This line made me giggle a bit…”To feel this, I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way,” I am doing a bit of wallowing this morning so a nice reminder that we don’t need to do it and we have a choice to connect and move our bodies in a way that halts the wallowing and encourages connection.
“…growing up thinking I would find love outside of myself from someone else or in a relationship, rather than inside me, and my relationship with myself.” This is such a falsehood that so many of us are fed through so many aspects of our lives including the media. The searching for love, but this is rarely, if ever, presented as an inward search or journey. I have found that the more connected I am to myself, and the more I love myself, the more I am able to share this love with others.
It is indeed a miracle how responsive our bodies are to a little bit of true love. It is very strange that we live in these masters of wisdom and instead of delighting and learning from all they have to offer we so regularly numb and abuse them in one way or another.
I love learning and understanding more and more about my body and how it is always working to support me – an absolutely amazing vehicle.
It goes to show that changing the energy we align to changes the behaviour.
I have found that when I choose to connect to my body , my body responds in the most loving way possible.
I can relate to the disconnection with my pelvic floor. Reading this beautiful blog makes me wonder if I can re-connect as simple as Gyl’s sharing here. As I’m writing this, my whole body is starting to be very warm. I’ve also been under the (strong) believe that I have to heal first, before I can re-connect to any part of my body. How simple and gorgeous is it when this isn’t necessary at all. Thank you Gyl for sharing your personal and intimate experiences.
“I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.” So simple – how the quality and consistent commitment to one small part can make such a huge difference to our body.
I love that this blog is “inspired by my pelvic floor”. All this wisdom and strength and power from one small area of your body. Thus imagine what the whole body can deliver when it is aligned and listened to and nurtured in the same way. Our bodies are the vehicles of God.
Participating in an on-line pelvic floor exercise class brought new awareness of my pelvic floor area. It was lovely to reconnect to this area of my body, whereas previously I had ignored it. Now, I practice the exercises, a little every day and enjoy my newly found closeness and connection I have with my pelvic floor area throughout my day.
We don’t realise that having sex can be an abuse of our bodies – the energy of the attraction, the power games we play, the thrill that someone finds us attractive, sexy, all these are momentarily fulfilling but that doesn’t last because they are not true, not love as our bodies are designed to experience. It’s no wonder that we are disconnected from our natural stillness, and for so many of us, ‘Down There’ is something we don’t talk about let alone feel. There is a revolution happening and more and more women are feeling the truth of who they are and the stillness they naturally bring, and waking the world up to the true power of women.
Gyl, I so love that we are talking about loving our bodies! This is to be truly appreciated! Thank you!
” I have made the choice to commit to do these exercises every day and night.” That choice to commit is the powerful first step of true commitment. So often I have said that I am “committed”, but haven’t actually truly and fully claimed that choice. Thus the “commitment” falters. It’s subtle semantics that I am talking here, but the difference is definite. The awareness that it is a choice and then the choice to chose that choice, are the foundations that need to be laid if the commitment is to be built.
This shows me the power of connective tissue therapy – how it heals the entire body and allows the body to bring things to the surface that can no longer be in our bodies. The more we clear, the more space there is to fill this with love rather than hurts.
Connective tissue is so responsive to how we move and I love how we have the option to choose exactly what we do, and how profound an impact this has and is a joyful discovery of the simplicity of life.
Re-introducing connection to an area of the body that I have numbed through lack of regard or abuse has been super powerful for me also. It blows me away how different the quality can be just by consistently bringing focus to parts of the body, and the subtlety of feeling continues to deepen. It is never to late to develop a truly intimate and loving relationship with the physical body and re-acquaint ourselves with its constant messages.
Gyl, only the other night I felt the lack of acceptance I have had with my pelvic floor area. Lots of old abuse through my past choices. I am so inspired by your experience, the warmth and love you have for yourself in this area when once you didn’t feel this way. Really beautiful and so gorgeous to have this in a world where so many men and women don’t appreciate this area for the sacredness and healing it brings.
Confirming our True quality – the natural harmony that flows throughout our body is deeply important, for if we do not, we may easily confirm a false way and an incongruous flow as our so-called ‘normal’.
I can also brush aside the grandness of things, Gyl. When I feel into how I now understand how everything comes with an energy, it is so much easier to understand how things go awry. Bringing up our awareness of the energy of abuse all around us, and feeling the difference within us allows us to make those choices you describe and choose the energy of love instead.
Exercise and stretching is a great way to connect more deeply to our body when we do it in a way that honours the body.
“To feel this, I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.” This shows us how crucial our movement is, and particularly the power of moving in connection and with the intention of being loving. It’s a great example that can be applied to any part of our body specifically, but moreover that our movement at any point can build the warmth, tenderness and love that Gyl describes.
It is incredible the extent to which each of us have chosen to cut off from the loving connection with various areas of life. And I have found this gets revealed when, like you did with your pelvis, I spot an aspect that I react to and choose to start investing care, tenderness and loving attention in that area. Otherwise it stays buried until some incident shocks me and brings it all into the open much later.
Every area of the body relates to certain experiences we have made in life, they are stored not just as a memory of the past but are an active energy that plays out in the present as behaviours, emotions, sensations, our attitude towards life etc Some of these experiences are incomplete in the sense that they are not healed or whole so that often they influence us consciously or subconsciously until we attend to them with care, understanding and love to get completed. This can not just happen intellectually but needs movement, tangibility to make it a healing experience felt in the body like with the gentle connective tissue exercises.
“Until last night I didn’t realise how much, as I tend to brush aside the grandness of things, thinking it’s no big deal.” Appreciation is so important. Without acknowledging the shifts we make it can become very easy to think and believe we are not progressing, resulting in feeling depressed, not good enough, ‘not getting anywhere so what’s the point’ and give up. Appreciation builds the foundation of self-love, self-worth to keep evolving.
Gyl, this speaks of the power of love for yourself. Instead of wallowing in past hurts you have simply focused on the love, and the rest unfolds from there. Simply lovely.
I love this simplicity of this blog and what it reveals. I am fascinated by the fact that we can live in disconnection, in denial and accept abuse feeling heavy with it all – and yet clear it so quickly, naturally and easily with a change of focus and a commitment to self. Not only can we do all this by making a simple choice but this choice supports us to connect more deeply to joy and love.
When we break down the days into minutes, it is quite exposing how much time there really is in a day – I would be fascinated if someone charted my full day minute by minute to see how many of them where wasted – for it only takes a few minutes dedicated to something, to ourselves to make huge changes in ourselves.
The way we move determines how we relate to ourselves and to life. I too have found this to be true in practice as when I feel emotional there have been built up over time set solutions to cover up what I am feeling, it often comes with a feeling of rigidity. By moving in a different way and focusing on the qualityof the move, even if its only slight that no one would outwardly notice it completely changes how I feel in that moment. Flexing my toes, changing cutlery to opposite hands, changing my walk, leaning on one leg to the other are all ways I’ve found changed how I can feel. No over-eating, tantrums, negative thoughts or tears in reaction required when we can simply move differently.
Often, it is encouraged that in order to find the root cause of a condition and to heal or get rid of it, there is a need to delve in to the past, to analyse it, talk it over, and come to some kind of resolutive state where life can begin again, this time free of the hurtful burdens from the past. I love that what Gyl Rae presents here is the truth as it is presented in our bodies, which can heal without heavily delving in to the past. She shares how our bodies are simply always in the moment and it is up to us in how we choose to treat that moment, in what we choose to bring in to that moment. I can feel that Gyl Rae has re-discovered the truth of her body, that it is divine and beautiful, because she has re-connected with it through her dedication and commitment. You are a very inspiring woman Gyl!
This is inspiring Gyl as you say if one choice to commit to connecting and moving your body in a different way has this much power and it came with ease it certainly does open the doors for many more choice to be the same. No big deal as you say, just making the choices.
Thank you for sharing this Gyl. This shows the power of connecting to our our body, all of our body, even the bits we try to ignore, and truly feeling what is going on. Thank you for the inspiration.
No more wallowing…Yeah! I can wallow as good as any, but isn’t it awesome that this is not in anyway part of service; true change comes from a choice to feel and read how we feel honestly “To feel this, I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.” Connective Tissue Therapy is deeply supportive for this choice to develop and build a foundation of movement, a lived knowing of another way to be.
I have been noticing how I can drop my arms after a task, it feels like a dismissiveness of my gentleness and tenderness, I drop them heavily and do not complete the task / movement with theatre grace and care that I could. This repeated, impacts on how I feel about myself, when we become aware of the movements in our body and how they feel, we can really empower ourselves to make different choices. Finishing a task and resting my arm gently through choice has altered how I feel about me in relation to the task, if feel more honouring of who I truly am. I feel confirmed for who I truly am not the roughness and hardness thats not really me.
If we learn to truly listen to our body and honour what we feel, we will naturally be impulsed to adjust our movements. It can be a very subtle change and sometimes almost un-noticeable, but nevertheless super powerful.
Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy is a vastly underrated modality that has the power to change not only physical symptoms, but also our perception of ourselves and our relationship with our bodies.
The Universe, God and the stars.
‘I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises…’ The power of healing is profound and far simpler than we may think. No intensity needs to be involved.
Gyl I love your honesty and openess to share, it is amazing how much we can heal by being honest about what we are feeling. I have been doing some Esoteric Connective Tissues exercises and I love the simplicity and ease of the movements, they are so supportive in bringing and awareness to different parts of my body.
Gyl, this is super supportive to read, ‘I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way’, I love how easily you explain this and how simple this feels, I can feel that there are areas of my body that I do not like and that I kind of ignore, so I love what you are sharing about connecting more to these areas.
We think of our body like a train that pulls or carries us from A-B but perhaps what we don’t consider is that like any vehicle there is baggage that gets stowed away and forgotten, junk that slips down the back of the seat, and rubbish underneath our feet. So what if we don’t just go from A-B but we also pick up and carry a C, D, E and F all inside, compartmentalized? If you consider this is the case, then doesn’t it make perfect sense that through gentle, loving exercise we can gradually unlock the doors and open up the cabins of our vehicle to clear it out and have a spring clean? It certainly makes sense to me. I love that you are a teacher Gyl and you allow us to observe how your body is teaching you in its way. Thank you for this inspiring sharing.
It really is profound how much of a difference we can make to how our bodies simply by bringing our focus to one small area for a few moments every day. It is the consistency that supports everything. Pondering on this recently I became aware that we seem much more willing to be consistent with things that don’t support us than with things that do, as in eating or induging in certain foods, watching too much TV or going to bed a bit too late. Crazy when a few slight adjustments here and there would make such an enourmous differenc to how we feel and how much more vitalized we would be if we paid more attention to the messages from our bodies.
I also started a program with connective tissue exercises led by Kate Greenaway. They support me to feel my body in a more deeper way. And like you have shared Gyl, the tenderness these movements are done in can bring up past abusive behaviours we had.
The power that each of our choices have, no matter how seemingly insignificant. Each choice can either lead us to healing and letting go of our long held hurts or keeps us holding on to them. Reading your commitment to this Gyl is very inspiring.
Through your choice to honour your body by moving in a way that feels true, you are able to feel the beauty of what has been there all along.
‘Until last night I didn’t realise how much, as I tend to brush aside the grandness of things, thinking it’s no big deal’, you are certainly not alone here. I know I have had a tendency to focus on what is ’wrong’ rather than appreciating all that is there to appreciate in all it’s magnificence, including myself 🙂
It is amazing that you have been able to claim your body back with these simple connective tissue exercises after being so disconnected for so long. I know what you mean when you talk about amazing things happening and we don’t clock them as amazing. I feel it is because deep down we know that we are far more than we live and deep down we know that amazing things are possible.
It is amazing the difference a simple choice can make. Recently my body has become quite heavy as I was eating to not feel what was going on in my life. I became quite bloated and would reach for sugar whenever things got too intense. For the past few days I have started to eat one meal a day – it is making a massive difference – I am now feeling what I have been burying – I feel much lighter and quite raw – but its great.
Re-imprinting this sacred part of a woman’s body through Esoteric Connective Tissue exercises sound amazing, What an inspiring approach and new development for preventative and women’s health this is offering.
Gyl I used to avoid doing pelvic floor exercises because of the physical irritation I used to feel when I was doing them, also I couldn’t keep the rest of my body surrendered. For several months now, I have been consistently doing a few minutes a day of pelvic floor exercises and gradually over time I have got to the point that not only can I keep the rest of my body surrendered without any hint of irritation but there is a sublime deepening that is taking place and I can glimpse the more that I am entering into.
To re-imprint with love is to transform something back to it’s original nature.
What is clear is your commitment, I feel really inspired by the fact you actually do the exercises night and day! I really want to do my exercises but I never seem to have time, I know this is just a trap and that I must be avoiding feeling something, reading this article made me realise that there could be emotional things to realise from my body that I am avoiding, as you explain beautifully though, its no big deal, just get down on the floor, keep feeling, move your body be consistent and the rest takes care of itself.
Your honesty is this blog is an inspiration Gyl. And a timely reminder for me to bring more awareness into the power of gentle movement – and to notice more when it is not – it is so obvious really!
That is pretty cool and inspiring Gyl. I love how just two simple exercises can change so much! And love that you can have skype sessions so it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are, the support is there for if you need it.
I am finding the world is no longer caught up with do I have the time to get to a class as the class will come to me – all I have to do is be willing to allow the space in my day for a Skype session, how simple. When I add the value of an Esoteric Connective Tissue Exercises to that space it is gold for my body!
This really does get you to reflect on how what comes up for us when we are contemplating a change in our lives whether it be a relationship, a job, what time I wake up or go to bed or how I get in and out of my car. Do we view any change as a big deal and something that will take enormous effort and time? Do we put off making changes because of the perceived struggle it will give us or because we think we will fail before we even begin? However this gorgeous blog presents that by doing some simple movements that honour and bring tenderness to our bodies change is able to take place with no struggle, pain or relived experience. It would seem that most of us have in fact fallen for the illusion of change being arduous and challenging which sets us up to fail before we even begin making the change.
There is so much power in movement and how our choice to move with ourselves can be monumental for our bodies health and for everything that we do/say. All of those energised little cells doing a conga dance inside us every time we move in our grace.
“It doesn’t have to be a big deal” . . . but at the same time it is big deal as everything changes for us when we commit to ourselves. Beautiful Gyl.
Absolutely inspiring Gyl. When we clear the patterns and configurations that have allowed the abuse what we uncover is the stillness and sacredness that has always been there. Our choices in every moment, and therefore movements, in every sense, are more powerful than we tend to accept.
The power of simple everyday choice – ‘it doesn’t have to be a big deal’. I used to think a big change needed big investment – like moving to another country, or spending a huge amount of money – the more efforting, the more fruit. This is amazing. Thank you for sharing, Gyl.
I love your mention Gyl of not having to go into analysing past choices, or go into to any wallowing of what had been, but you simply chose to reconnect. The body very naturally re configures when we bring loving awareness to it, and then the quality of our movements naturally follow. The connective tissue movements are so supportive and honouring of the body, such a beautiful rhythm and flow.
This is quite a blog. We can’t force these changes but when they happen, such a change can be huge, the way it is for Gyl here.
You make it sound as simple as it can in truth be – we make a choice, we follow up, we build consistency and the results can’t but confirm us back.
Thank you for sharing Gyl.The choice to re-connect with the body and the power of choice is always there for us, and in my experience can be truly transforming. Moving in a loving way can bring numb areas of the body to life again.
There is so much to learn when we bring our attention to a part of our body. It stuns me as to how much as to how much we actually do feel and what our body shares with us. And what also stuns me is how quickly we can change our relationship with that part of our body. Your blog is a great testament to this! Thank you Gyl.
This is great to read for me now, it shows the power of choice, and that we can change the relationship we have with a body part, or with life by a simple choice. Seeing that the love is there within, letting it express to that what we don’t have allowed ourselves to feel.
‘This whole area I actually looked at – and have looked at – with disgust for around 20 years. Why? Because of the level of abuse I have allowed in my body by having sex with people I didn’t want to and when I didn’t want to, purely through a lack of self-worth, a need, and growing up thinking I would find love outside of myself from someone else or in a relationship, rather than inside me, and my relationship with myself.’
This is such a hugely important paragraph Gyl and thank you for being so honest as to express it. A lot of people will react when they read the word ‘abuse’ here, thinking what you suggest is an extreme, and that abuse only belongs with obvious cases of child abuse or domestic or other forms of overt violence. Yet it is important to name the many abuses we allow within ourselves and perpetrate on others in order to realise the degree to which we have accepted and normalised it. We cannot see it until we get to feel it for ourselves, at the individual and societal levels. I know it took me a long while to recognise the many ways I had been abusing myself, with sex, relationships, food, over-work and more – in short behaving in any way in which was less than 100% loving and gentle.
Within the pelvis lies our connection to our sacredness as women. Through Connective Tissue exercises with a focus on the pelvic floor I too have come to reconnect to this area of my body that up until the last 12 months or so has laid very dormant, with very little awareness or connection. It has been like a waking up, to feel the depth and beauty that lies within the body, that has always been there but I had closed down to due to choices that I had been making.
Gyl I can relate to what you have shared. I too have found the Connective Tissue Exercise sessions with Kate Greenaway-Twist to be super supportive in developing a deeper relationship with various areas of my body including the pelvic floor. These exercises are so simple, yet so powerful, that I incorporate into my day. They offer me a full stop moment an opportunity to reconnect back to me and to connect to areas of my body that at times may have felt stagnant.
Thank you Gyl. What you are sharing here is absolutely huge. Recently I discovered that I often force myself to be physically intimate with others. I’m not referring to anything sexual here, even things as simple as hugging can be done in a way that is abusive if it is not true for me. As I have come to realise this I have also realised that I have had sex when I did not want to but at the time I told myself the way I felt was just nerves etc. I can feel that the energy of this abuse is stored in my body. Your choice to clear this energy and connect to your body is truly inspiring.
Gyl it’s powerful to realise we can reconfigure the energetic patterns we hold in our bodies, by a simple choice to connect and move in a different way. Not having to go into the details of the abuse but simply moving in the quality in accordance with our self loving choice to reconnect via our connective tissue
Movement with the responsibility to know that we have a choice, is life changing. My movements have changed so much from feeling how my body feels and being honest about it. We can often go into our head for resolution of unease and repeated habits that do not support us,however our bodies say it all, they communicate where we are at and so if we honour what we feel, we can make the choice to make new choices.
The tension we feel in our pelvic floor area is such a beautiful barometer for the way we are living, I love what this area of my body communicates with me.
Choosing to reconnect back to our bodies and accept our grandness if full is the only way forth, within that it is important to renounce of the old abusive patterns and deeds we have done in the past which is no longer who we are.
Francisco I love that line, ‘which is no longer who we are’, it really emphasises the fact that we are not our behaviours and yet so many of us not only identify with our behaviours but actually see them as who we are.
Gorgeous Gyl, amazing how simple it can be if we allow the body to speak rather than the mind to dictate.
You have clearly shown how the choices we make can instantly impact our bodies and how we move through our everyday lives. This alone begs to question; would it not be wise to be aware of the choices we make and pay attention to how they feel in our bodies? As the quality of our movements determines the quality of how we choose to live from one moment to the next.
Hello Gyl and very forthright blog on you and your body. I’ve used Connective Tissue Exercises in the same way, “I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.” The quality of movement we choose is hugely important when it comes to connecting to our body. So often we can find ourselves on autopilot and then at that point who is making the choice how to move? It seems to me the world we live in is often trying to split things up and the Connective Tissue Exercises are something we can do to bring it all back.
Thank you Gyl for sharing and bring to light how when we connect to our bodies we can feel the delicateness that they are and hold, through which we feel the Love we are is essence, that never actually leaves us as it is always present. It is only us that chooses to shutdown to feeling the sensitivity of our bodies and the truth that it never fails to share with us.
This is really amazing Gyl and shows the power of love through movement and the choice to reconnect to the body.
This is brilliant Gyl, thank you so much for sharing it! There is great power in the way that we connect with our body (or not) and the way that we move.
Wherever we’ve been we can bring love, and I’m learning right now that in an instant no matter what has been before I can connect to my body and when I do I have a choice how to be with it, and that loving choice now builds forward without any need to indulge or relive my past choices. It’s a huge lesson and one that I’m so appreciative of – I’m loving that my body is showing me all this and I”m learning to respond with love and without judgement.
When we get to feel our bodies in a more loving and present way it allows us to make different choices based on this deeper connection we are experiencing. I have felt the numbness in my pelvic floor area in the past- thank you Gyl for bringing this to my attention again as it is an area of my body that I sometimes disregard.
Dear Doug, that’s super inspiring – I will.
It is amazing that by bringing our full and loving attention to any area of our bodies, it is possible to change the way it feels and how we feel about it.
Very true. And this can be felt with any part of ourselves. I know that when I stop, feel and just bring my focus to how my feet or hands or one part of my body is feeling then I feel my whole body surrender. Truly this is magical and so natural.
“a few minutes every day – nothing else” It’s worth stopping and pondering this. A tiny, tiny investment of that thing we treasure so much – time. Imagine the “few minutes every day” that we so willingly waste on other distractions – that do absolutely zilch for our evolution. Yet here we have this most simple of offerings, offering such riches. And yet we choose the distraction…
Yes, behaving responsibly has vast rewards.
Yes and it makes you wonder how amazingly grand we must naturally be that we have to invest so much time and energy distracting ourselves with things that take us away from developing who we are.
A great point Otto. It’s so simple and so little time really that one needs to dedicate to building and allowing the expansion of this investment to unfold. Yet the patterns and even the comfort of staying in distraction to not feel and connect, will always be there till we willingly choose to change.
There is some important detail in what you say here. The impulse and intention behind the choice is so crucial. Many times I have made changes to the way I live or move but they haven’t had the foundation of a really true and committed intention behind them, so whilst they might look ‘good’ on the surface they don’t support me and also don’t become part of a regular rhythm – i.e. they can easily fall away and I revert back to my old ways. But if the changes have come from an absolute knowing, feeling and then actioning, then the experience is very different and I can feel them drop into my body and become my new natural way.
Great point Otto.
Otto you are so right. The world is swamped in distraction, literally swimming in the stuff and as you say we shirk the things that offer us evolution. I feel a lot has to do with the hurts that we are so desperately trying to cover up; we would rather cover up something unpleasant momentarily,rather than feel pain for a relatively short period and have the hurt gone forever. This choice keeps us on the treadmill of distraction.
You have nailed it Alexis. And nailed me! This is the responsibility that I am still ‘shirking’, which is a great word to use because it absolutely encapsulates the fact that it is a conscious and informed choice that I am making to, at that moment, not choose evolution.
An honest and open account about a topic and part of the body many would shy away from or prefer not to discuss. Gyl, it’s an awesome sharing and a powerful reminder that we can all make changes through simple choices, no matter how old the pattern or habit may be. Awesome post.
This inspired me to take far more care and embrace an even deeper level of my own connection and awareness of and with my own body. To build a deeper understanding of what it shares and the wisdom of what it has to say. The very fact that we can disconnect and ignore a part of our body and in fact live with little awareness of the fact shows that there is more stored in our bodies than just flesh and blood. And whatsmore is the fact that no part of the body is in any way disgusting or not beautiful regardless of its age it is there to support and live with us in full till we pass, never to be on our backs or against us in any way.
I’ve also been doing pelvic floor exercises with a group of women and it has been amazing to feel how much I had ignored or more honestly avoided this area of my body. And just because I have avoided this area doesn’t mean the years of disconnection can’t be reversed. I’ve been learning that like anything if we bring a loving movement and awareness back to an area of our bodies or life the quality and connection is going to change. A lot of control, anxiousness and sadness has come up to feel but the beauty is I’m feeling it and healing at the same time.
What you write about here Gyl is so true, many women do not want to talk about their body parts let alone connect to them and then admit that they love them. For many women the pelvic floor is ignored until something starts to highlight as a problem, but never do you read articles such as this one, not even in the women’s magazines.
Thank you Gyl. You show just how simple it is to make changes in life by making a different choices, the old beliefs and patterns just dissolve. I did the connective tissue exercises once at a workshop with Kate and you remind me how powerful this subtle form of exercise is. An inspiring blog.
The changes that are able to be made by reconnecting honestly with our bodies are nothing short of profound. Recently i heard someone say you can’t change I was shocked…. In actual fact people change all the time it just depends on whether we become more insular or more expanded.
It is amazing how the body can show us love when we make the commitment to take a little more care with it.
Very timely read. Just last night I was talking with a group of friends (women) and asked how, in a very practical way, I can learn to let go of the tension in my pelvic floor. Now I know! Thanks Gyl.
As presented by Serge Benhayon self-love starts in the mind but then it needs to be activated by movement, ie. literally as a quality and in every way of expression and behaviour. It is the activation that becomes the experience felt in and through the body for the mind and being to return to union with Self.
I love what you are saying here Gyl about how making more self-loving choices doesn’t have to be a big deal. We just have to connect to the fact that we want more love in our lives and then consistently choose more love.
Gyl, your sharing the difference in how you feel about just one part of your body, is beyond amazing, it is the answer that so many spend years and bucket loads of money to find, yet don’t because there is no suggestion to change the way we move. What you have shared is the key to truly healing from our bodies the held traumas we have from life. No head shrinking needed, only a loving dedication to move our bodies differently, with the deepest care and love for the body we have, as it is right now.
Making a different choice, is as simple as making it. A great confirmation of how simple it is Gyl.
This statement highlights the power of movement “ I didn’t have to go into analysing my past choices, or wallow in my woes, I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.” This is gold, Gyl and you saved yourself a fortune in counselling.
Amazing Gyl – incredible how so often the subconscious unwillingness to not address an area which has caused us much hurt is actually no big deal at all; it is actually the lack of honesty and not dealing with it which is the greatest harm. Wonderfully supportive blog; thank you.
It goes to show that we need not carry our past ill choices and abusive patterns with us until the end of time….we can choose to let these go and lighten our load in a big way.
Love how Gyl was willing to go there too – her self awareness and honesty brought up a 20 year old hurt…and because she was willing, it presented an opportunity to heal. Beautiful.
How many of us have ‘numb pockets’ in our bodies? Those places where we store our pain, our self loathing and disgust, hidden away in a ‘no go zone’ awaiting that time that we have the support and the love to go there and heal what has been buried deep.
Ha! You read my mind, Liane. I was just thinking ‘hmm, where’s my 20 year old spot?’ I know I’ve healed some areas but it’s very cool (and revealing) to ask myself to go deeper.
I love this super simple and powerful share that we CAN change anything in our life that is not loving or supportive and how our loving connection with our body is a perfect start.
Thank you Gyl so much for your open and honest blog. How healing for anyone to read this and understand how simply we can shift the ill imprints in our body from just connecting to the body and moving in a gentle smooth rhythmical way. Imagine a world where people came back to loving themselves and their bodies as you are now, there would be no domestic violence, disharmonious relationships and our communities would be truly supportive rather than separative.What a world that would be ……
In every moment in every day we have the opportunity to re-imprint all that is not love, with love. All it takes is a choice and then a continual choosing every moment thereafter. In this way we replace our old and loveless momentums with a true and loving way of being. Thank you Gyl for a very simple yet profound example of this.
Re-configuring old patterns that are seemingly stuck in our bodies doesn’t have to be a big deal, as you say Gyl. Most often it’s our reluctance to see and accept, without judgment, our past choices and ways that we have been living, that gets in the way of making changes to better support ourselves. It’s only when we’re prepared to get honest with ourselves that we can begin to make changes that last.
Having had many sessions with Kate over the past few years I can appreciate the difference the wonderful exercises she has tailored for me have made to my body. Thank you for a great sharing Gyl.
It really all comes down to the choices we make, and one seemingly small choice plus consistency can change everything; thank you for putting it so simply and making it practical.
That’s it Gyl – we don’t have to beat ourselves up for our past choices or serve a penance. It’s as simple as making the choice to treat ourselves tenderly and with the love that we deserve that assists the healing process.
If we taught all young men and woman to have this level of respect and care for their bodies from a young age, would we have less of a battle with attempting to instil in them the need to have safe sex, not sleep around dangerously, use protection and care for themselves.
What if we treated ourselves the way we treated a baby? Gently with tenderness, love and care. A simple reminder.
Movement with grace and connectedness changes everything. It is amazing how I feel my body re-align to the beauty of the true woman I am when allow myself to move in this way… energy first.
Imagine that, being able to clear something you have held on to for such a long time just clearing so simply with connective tissue exercises. I have so much to learn about the power of this modality. Thank you for sharing.
Lack of self worth plays a huge part in a women’s life, and what you bring here Gyl is gold. It is really our choices we dislike, and not our body, but somewhere along the line we start to blame our body rather than our choices. Esoteric Connective Tissue is amazing at bringing an awareness to the body and to areas that we have dismissed, totally ignored and often abused.
Gyl it is beautiful to read of your willingness to connect to your pelvic area and how by doing so you reconnected to the love that you feel in and for this part of your body. I am working on building love for each and every part of my body and appreciating how this is shifting my internal dialogue and I am starting to feel that I am not just enough but more than enough.
Better to live a truth than remember one.
So true, nothing like the livingness to make things real and practical.
Who hoo – Practical all the way!
Gyl, this is inspiring. Pelvic floor exercises will be on the menu for me morning and night and I’ll also re-commence the connective tissue exercises. They are an incredible support to reconnect with our body and essentially fall in love with ourselves deeply, beautifully – that is with ALL of us, with every part of our tender body.
Putting aside the chance of sounding weird, I too am inspired by your pelvic floor! How amazing to develop so quickly and simply, a relationship with a part of your body you had shunned for so long. Very cool. Thank you for sharing, Gyl.
Wow Gyl – what you share here is huge and what a massive step forward it is to clear some 20 years worth of disconnection. The power is in when we take ourselves out the way how we can deeply heal, and also the very topic of disconnection from the pelvic floor is one I relate too.
When I was little I had a weak bladder and everyone told me about pelvic floor exercises but it was a chore I had to abide by, and then yes I certainly threw my body at people and felt very numb in that area. Since recently having a baby I’ve been asked to strengthen my pelvic floor again but now I have an opportunity to do this in appreciation for my body and not because I’m told too. Your blog has inspired me to connect to my body on a much deeper level.
This is a truly affirming blog about appreciating what is already there inside us beneath the hurt and pain of abuse. Letting this emerge to be felt through a change of movement in the body is a profoundly different way from all the hard contracting exercises in current practice for strengthening the pelvic floor. It has to be movement from a source of love and wisdom of the body, knowing how it works energetically. Thank you Gyl for the reminder that we do not have to wallow in our stuff about the hurt of past choices; it is important to recognise why we cut off from feeling, but know the choice to connect to the love that is always there is now, in this present moment.
This is inspiring Gyl. Thank you for sharing.
What a great example for how our choices not just influence but make our day and way of living! I know this, having sex without wanting it or to get something else out of it – it was abuse to myself. And than, I do not want to feel ‘this area’ what holds the experience and the choices I made. And than I am disconnected to a part of my body, missing a part of me. What is in general a sad story, but also it means that I am disconnected to my wholeness, my divinity. And this is the way I am living than every day, bodily partly numb and always missing ‘something’ in my life…
How many times are the most complex problems solved with a simple choice?
It also shows how it is possible to heal hurts we have carried for a long time.
Absolutely Gyl what potential there is for self healing and how empowering this is – connecting to & being responsible for the energetic quality of our bodies is the medicine that will change the state of illness and disease as we know it today.
Gyl, your commitment to yourself by bringing attention to one area of you body that called for healing, and consistently devoting yourself to connect and practice brings new awareness to the process of healing. Keeping things simple is a re-curring theme.
There are many things in this great blog. The main one for me today is the fact that it highlights very well the options: we can either admit that there is something that is not right with us (even if we resist to share something is very intimate) and work on it; or we can keep it to ourselves, pay the consequences of keep going with it …. and die with it. The key to going for the first one is to really embody that whatever it is, it is not us.
This is what I see healing to be about. It is profound to simply allow ourselves to feel the energy we hold in our body. I have had similar experiences where just bringing my awareness to an area as a first step lead to a letting go, such as you have experienced being left to feel your natural purity.. a purity we all deserve to feel everyday.
This is powerful reading. I too am beginning to really see this. I had always thought that an ‘issue or hurt’ had to be cleared first in the mind/emotion or wherever…and then the body would follow. What I am seeing more and more is that through these deep connections and commitments with the body, these issues and hurts just naturally self-correct, clear or disappear. It’s an incredible science.
‘If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.’ This is profound Gyl – the fact that we can reconfigure old patterns by a simple choice, a movement, goes to show we are more powerful that we have ever grown up to understand. What you are sharing is also that it is never to late to change.
As an Aqua Natal Teacher it is an amazing opportunity to be sharing this connection with other women, to cast out this idea that we need to squeeze and tighten our pelvic floor but to bring our awareness to its consistent support throughout our movements, naturally so.
Being disconnected from or even hating parts of our bodies is such a common thing especially amongst women. I have experienced it with different bits of me, and even as I type this I can see how impossible it is to feel whole if there are parts of us we reject. Who would have thought doing simple exercises would bring about such a huge healing? I can feel how joyful you are about reconnecting to this part of your body.
Gyl this is really inspiring to read especially “I simply made the choice to connect to this part of my body and move it in a different way, following the Connective Tissue Exercises with a very loving quality, every day.” as it applies to all of us in so many different ways. No drama simply connecting and moving in a different way with consistency.
Gyl this is a super confirming blog as I have recently attended an “Pelvic Floor awareness Porgram” with Beverely Carter.
http://www.itstimetoshine.com.au/pelvic-floor-awareness-on-line-workshop.html
Connecting to my pelvic floor area through the consistency and delicacy of my breath has been profound.
I can well relate to the disconnection from this area through repeatedly dishonouring myself in the belief that i was fitting in and then later on having had 3 children believing that i needed to tighten and squeeze this area of my body as if punishing myself back into shape in order to be sexually active once more. Through giving myself permission to feel the tiniest of movements in my pelvic floor I have felt a letting go of these old beliefs and a surrender to the exquisite power of what is right there available to us all.
Yes, Gyl when we suddenly begin to feel into what our body is telling us it feels awesome, and as though we have let go of a great burden of abuse that we have been carrying around with us for many lifetimes. For so long I have ignored any connection with the pelvic region and only seen it as functional. With support from Pelvic Floor sessions both in the UK and Australia I am beginning to feel the potency and beauty that we hold within. For me it is an ongoing revelation as I learn to honour my pelvic floor and realise that it holds my body together and in place – these wonderful muscles feel so expansive as I can feel them stretching from side to side and from my pelvic bone to my sacrum. As I walk down the street I can feel this amazing support and a connection that continues to deepen and expand as I meet others throughout my day. As we honour ourselves as women we inspire others to stop and ponder.
Hi Gyl, I can relate to brushing aside the grandness of things. I am very good at picking up on the negatives, but don’t actually stop to fully appreciate the many wonderful things I initiate, am part of or observe in my daily life. Since committing to changing this pattern, I am seeing the value in appreciating all the simple little things that used to go by unnoticed.
The power and simplicity of making a different choice beautifully expressed. I can spend so much time procrastinating because I make something into a ‘big deal’ but all I am doing is delaying my return to love which as I type it feels ridiculous – why would I do that? Is there a comfort in old patterns? No need to analyse this just choose different starting from now…
How often do we allow ourselves to be discouraged from making positives changes because we feel it will be ‘hard work’? Thank you for sharing how powerful making a simple commitment to move differently and treat your body with love has been, it is truly inspiring and the perfect way to address abuse one movement at a time.
It’s incredible how easily we can turn things around if we pay attention to our movements and the quality of how we are with everything, not just one body part, relationship etc… By moving differently as a whole we naturally heal the entire body.
A beautiful example of how a simple change of focus can heal and clear past choices.
So profound Gyl, that by simply nominating exactly what it was you were holding onto it started to clear right away. What is even more profound is how we train ourselves to hold onto things, such as you have described and push forward as if it is gone.
This is really powerful to awaken a deep feeling within us when we have chosen to be closed off from it in the past. I know, because I am experiencing the same feeling Gyl, We had decided to switch off from that connection and when we choose to feel it, there is a deep love within us waiting to be found again.
A beautiful blog Gyl. The simplicity of re-connection with consistency with our body is very powerful medicine. The body holds deep wisdom and once we choose to observe and respond to its call, true deep healing is possible.
The simple act of feeling our bodies can lead us to recognising the glory that walks with us every day. It truly does not have to be more complicated than that!
Thank you Gyl, I love the simplicity of all you share :). I have found that in reconnecting to my body as a whole in the last 10 years my relationship with myself has changed and how I now want to move and look after myself because I feel worthy of this self care and self love. However when I bring focus to one area of my body there is always much more to learn than I realised and this then deepens my connection with my whole body.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.” So true Gyl. Choosing to make simple daily changes with consistency enables a real change – that seemed an impossibility – almost miraculous.
Connection and conscious presence are truly self-healing. We can bring this quality to any part of our body and feel the changes, when I practice this it feels like the part that needs this loving quality is brought back to life, which of course it is. It’s being delivered harmony.
I saw a picture of the pelvic floor muscle group recently that was shown to me to deepen my understanding of this area and I was in awe of the patterns and the structure. I had never considered my pelvic floor as something that precious, it was an area I preferably ignored for similar reasons you share in your blog, but can feel now how deepening my connection to it supports me greatly in my self-honoring and worth.
Absolutely Judith, I agree with you 100%. I did the same when on an Esoteric Yoga Program for women the words cervix, uterus and ovaries were mentioned and I didn’t know exactly where there were – I knew roughy, but not exactly – so I looked them up. This was super self loving and gave me a greater understanding and connection to my body.
Isn’t it interesting how the body is there, doing its thing and we often don’t even know what organs we have and where they are located and what they are doing. How amazing is this body of ours, that can function without our so-called intelligent mind even knowing what is going on?
Yes, Gyl, I have been finding this too with myself and clients, that by introducing even the smallest movement in an area where there is tension, protection etc with presence, the holding pattern can shift and our relationship to that area can change completely. Such a simple yet powerful way to re-connect to every part of the body and release what has been held there that no longer serves us.
Such a simple but oh so great sharing Gyl. With the word abuse we often think of rape etc. but what you share is that every time we have sex when we do not really feel like it but feel the need for it and thus still do because we feel not good enough in ourselves is an disharmonious energy we let into our body which is abusive to our body.
I recently did a Pelvic Floor Awareness program and was surprised how much released from this muscle group just by feeling into this area and allowing myself to feel how my breath moves these muscles naturally so.
Gyl that is awesome and goes to show it is not about flogging ourselves for our past choices but rather changing our movements and appreciating the love that we are.
How beautiful that you got to feel and be aware of more of you through this program. Connective Tissue exercises and Connective Tissue Healing is the most beautiful of modalities that supports the body like nothing else I have experienced.
Thank you Gyl for this amazing sharing and realisation it is very powerful and shows the choices we can make that makes so much difference to our lives with simply connecting to our body in honouring and love . To know this is one thing but through our consistent gentle movements to really feel this in our body is another thing altogether and makes all the difference and is life and body changing as you share so beautifully.
Not focusing on what we have not done and leaving that behind us and focusing on the present moment and the choices that we have is very powerful. Each moment we have a choice to connect deeper with ourselves and our bodies, honour what it is communicating with us and feel the Grandness of who we are.
Hi Gyl, amazing sharing, I loved reading every word you wrote. And I am inspired to be even more aware of this part of my body, something that I have already started.
Thank you Gyl, this is very inspiring and shows that change does not have to be hard and arduous but just requires consistency and the willingness to care for ourselves.
Thank you Gyl, you bring to us the simplicity of change and just how, by committing to moving in a new way, a loving tender way, we can re-imprint a life time of abuse and find the love that lies deep within our bodies.
A great and simple sharing of the profoundness of how changing our movements alters our state of being.
Gyl, I love your articles, they are so simple and practical, what you are sharing here is huge. It makes me aware of how much abuse I have also allowed in this area of my body in the past and how I tend to avoid feeling this area, its great to have this awareness and as you say, ‘I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.’
This is so very beautiful to feel because we have the choice to make a new movement for our living way in any moment at anytime. Awesome thank you Gyl what you share here is a perfect confirmation of how truly beautiful our bodies are and how surrendering to what they share we can make such positive changes to our whole lives.
An amazing change Gyl, truly. It shows that our past experiences are held in our body – that makes sense, right, because it’s the body we’re in that goes through them. So to have some simple exercises that ‘undo’ or deconfigure a part of the body is simple, yet remarkable.
Esoteric Connective Tissue Therapy brings an awareness of the movement and flow of energy though our body. A beautiful recent quote I heard that sent vibrations tingling through my body: “movement or vibration is the connective tissue of the Universe.”
I am continually amazed that by making the choice a few years ago to begin to commit to the Connective Tissue Therapy exercises shown to me by Kate Greenaway regularly throughout my day, that today the way my body moves has changed beyond anything I thought was possible. I walk in a much more balanced and steady way, my hips flow with a grace I did not know I had, and even everyday movements like sitting down and standing up come with a beautiful ease. These exercises are part of my day, just the same as brushing my teeth, an absolute daily must.
Connection – the things we do in search of it and end up causing deeper disconnection….its crazy. Thanks for highlighting this through your story Gyl.
Gyl, thank you for the gorgeous simplicity with which you write and share your experience. It is deeply inspiring to feel the change that naturally presented by connecting more deeply with your body and how you choose to move.
The changes that are possible through Universal Medicine therapies are beyond measure. There are few people so far who allow the simplicity of those answers. There is the false belief that hard things must be hard to work on.
“If I can make a simple choice to change and reconfigure a more than twenty-year-old pattern of abuse in my body, then I can make a choice to change everything that’s not loving or supporting me.” Its true. What a power-full revelation Gyl. I love how you now love an area you once abused. The power of love through movement and what it can deliver, and, more power-full it is the commitment from you that brought this change. You had the support of an amazing modality Connective Tissue but the choice was yours to act on it.
Choosing to build a body that is aware and taking responsibility starts with these simple steps each and every day. The commitment to the foundation allows us to realise what is no longer needed as you have shared with this blog Gyl Rae.
A great confirmation of how when we commit to looking after ourselves, particularly in relation to how we move it gives us so much back in our bodies. I love to practice connective tissue exercises and it is very interesting to feel how much there are old patterns in the way I move that are not supportive to me at all and that have started to shift my staying on track with the programme that Kate Greenaway-Twist offers.
Yes – just how we are configuring our lives and bodies to be in every area and also know that we can reconfigure through our movements if we so choose.
I too over the past month have been doing with a very simple 5 to ten mins session everyday connecting to my pelvic floor area, feeling my breath and consciously knowing ini that with every breath all of my pelvic floor muscles are naturally working doing their very own harmonious syncrincy with the rest of my body. Playing with some very gentle and connected movements each day has allowed me to feel the magic and delicacy that is always in my body.
What a gorgeous realisation to know and feel in your body Gyl. ‘I have always heard and known the fact that everything is a choice, but until yesterday I have not felt this so clearly, simply and deeply in my body.’ it really does say an immense amount about the power of surrender, connection and repeating something very simple everyday – just goes to show the depth we can feel and go to.
Gyl-So beautiful and inspiring to read your findings re the powerful effects of connective tissue exercises, on your pelvic floor area, from experiencing selfabuse to now feeling tender, loving and precious. Awesome change over I month.
I feel that we can be our own worst enemy. Everything that is true in life is actually constellated to support us in living a love-filled life with each other. We actually have to work very hard to stop this from happening. We create obstacles for ourselves with our ideals, beliefs and judgments, which hold us ransom if we allow them to. However, our natural way is to be love, it’s a choice that is always there for us to make, without judgment, a commitment to doing so will bring with it the support of the entire Universe.
Thank you for your gorgeous blog, Gyl. It was so beautiful to read your words this morning and to feel the depth of love that you are allowing through your whole body, without judgment. It was very special indeed to read what you shared and to appreciate how simple it actually is to shift things when we are committed to doing so.
I agree, Alison, it is amazing to realise how simple things can be when we set aside our aptitude for complication and resistance.
Wow Gyl, you express beautifully, the simplicity and power of connecting to parts of our bodies that we have forgotten about, or do not wish to feel into, a common problem with women I feel. We are so used to operating from the mother, fixer, doer, caretaker, and so on, that we can’t then connect to what is innately gorgeous and deeply sacred within us.
Amazing how connection brings appreciation and ultimately love
The power of choice! If we knew it worked that beautifully, we’d all do it. Through your love comes inspiration for others.
Much of the esoteric philosophy is based on the revelation that it is the way we move that leads to the quality of our thoughts. This is upside down to conventional thinking and the modern psychological approach. Think positive, they say. The problem with the conventional approach of course is that as human beings we are much smarter than that. Stand in a mirror and say “I am beautiful” 10 times, and you will actually be confirming the opposite – for you will say to yourself quietly in the background of your consciousness, if I need to stand in a mirror and say positive things to myself, it must be because I am actually Not beautiful, otherwise, why would I need to make such silly affirmations.
Now, simply practice moving in grace, with reverence to yourself – whether you feel like it or not – and you will discover in time that you start to have a completely different perception of yourself, based on the movements you have chosen over time. Similarly, in you want to think aggressive thoughts, cross your arms, frown, tense your forearms and see how long before angry thoughts enter. Then hold that posture for a day and see how you end up.
Moreso, practice moving gently for a week, and you will suddenly realise just how tense your body truly is, and just how aggressive your movements have been. When you try this, and start to understand how movement can change your quality of thought, then the revelation in this blog that the pelvic exercises assisted the author have an awareness about herself she had previously never realised starts to make a lot of sense.
An amazing sharing and you absolutely truly nailed it Adam. Society is backwards in this area and it is how we are with our bodies that change our thoughts.
I always remember years ago when I was doing martial arts (because I falsely fell for the belief that I needed to be tough to protect myself ) and being told just think you can ‘mind power’ and you can do anything – I was told our mind can over ride what our body is telling us, we can get past the pain and do the intensity. Now yes part of this is true that we can override our body because people do it everyday by not listening to the body, however the body gets very hurt when we do this and we cut off our innate wisdom and become machines. Our body shows is all the consequences of these harming choices. So this in itself shows the amazingness of the body and how much it does know – do it makes complete sense that if we listened to this knowing the body would actually keep the mind in a balance and harmony. It is through the quality of our movements that change our mindsets and also heal the harm and imprints from the past.
Having started a similar programme myself, I’ve become aware of how when I move without awareness, my movements can be sharp, heavy, abrupt. Changing the focus of my attention to movement, not thought has made me more conscious of where I am and how I move. And as I write this, the quality of my movements just changed: I became aware of how I touched each key on the keyboard, and when I changed was present with how my finger tips touched the keyboard, the quality of my body and expression changed with it.
Gyl, thank you for sharing this. I have been on a similar solo program of reconnecting with this area of my body after sessions with Kate. The simple yet gorgeously profound exercise she showed me has been similarly revolutionary in terms of healing the abuse I have allowed, and in deepening my connection to myself as a woman. I would say as a result I am now more ‘woman in waiting’ than ‘woman in denial’. Embracing being a woman means connecting with being the woman – and from the body first as it is here our sacredness dwells.
Gorgeous Victoria ‘more ‘woman in waiting’ than ‘woman in denial’. ‘ very well put.
I love this Victoria – more ‘woman in waiting’ than ‘woman in denial’.
I love this Victoria – moving from ‘a woman in denial’ to ‘a woman in waiting’ is not an overnight process and takes dedication and commitment to be with ourselves, and all that we can feel, 24/7 – but is so worth it. Once we start to lose the judgment and accept ourselves, as we are now, and not where we think we should be, simply by connecting more deeply to our body, then we can start to feel from the inside out what it means and actually feels like to be a woman, instead of acting out how we think we should be as a woman.
Every-thing is contained within the body, all of our history and the expanse of our future.
Gyl I love how you show how adding one simple thing to our day can have such a huge impact on our lives.
Totally – when these ‘small’ things become lived as part of our daily rhythm it’s remarkable how our lives can change.
Your blog Gyl is a confirmation that our bodies are not as fixed as we think they are, which is a testimonial of the truth that “everything is because of energy” (S.B.). There have been many times when my body changes, such as differences in tightness, the way how I walk or sit, subtle physical features appearing or disappearing all because of the changes in energy. There is a saying in the chinese culture which translates to “how you are at 3 years old determines how you are at 80 years old” is a false picture that keeps us in our rigidity, from first a choice (energy) that we do not want to change.
I really appreciate the simplicity of how you chose to heal this part of your body( and therefore this part of your life.) ️Thank you for showing how easy it was, I feel inspired to consider your approach.
The beauty of it is we don’t need to work anything out – we just need to commit and feel for ourselves then after a little while (especially in comparison to the length of time we’ve been abusing or ignoring our bodies) we feel the beauty of us that has always lay waiting underneath.
It is beautiful to be reminded of this johanna08smith. Our beauty and preciousness cannot be touched or wiped out, it is always there waiting for us.