Expression Could Save Lives

“How often do we consider the importance of our expression, and that expression is not only a natural part of who we are, but that ‘Expression is everything’?” (Serge Benhayon , 2011)

Whether we express ourselves, or not, or the way we express ourselves, has a consequence in our daily lives.

The BBC published an article entitled: ‘How speaking up can save lives.’ (BBC News 2015)

Pretty sobering given the article discusses two industries – aviation and medicine – and in both industries examples were given where lives were lost. In both cases the member of staff (co-pilot/junior doctor) did initially speak up, but did not make themselves heard. The Aviation industry has since been undertaking training for aviation staff and found in the simulations that “Co-pilots would rather die than contradict a captain.” (BBC News 2015)

This training is now being undertaken in the National Health Service (NHS) in England too.

These examples show that “Expression is everything,” right down to the matter of life and death, and yet these examples also show that the people here didn’t ensure, no matter what, that they were heard.

How many of us express what we feel in full, or ensure that we are absolutely clear in our expression during our daily lives – whether it is a matter of life or death, or a simple matter of communication within our homes or at work? And what gets in the way of us expressing?

In children there is a freshness and an openness in the way they say things out loud when they see something, and sometimes parents or ‘grown ups’ tell children to ‘be quiet’ because they may feel uncomfortable with what the child said as it exposes or unearths a truth. And whilst there may be occasion when ‘piping down’ is appropriate, telling our younger generations to ‘be quiet’ may be dampening down their innate, natural expression to say things as they are, to speak up, to say how they feel, or to talk about what they see in their lives.

During our education and in our modern day workplaces we have communication and presentation skills’ training which teaches ‘respect, politeness, courtesy and how to be polished, smooth, entertaining’, or how to tell the listeners/audience ‘what they want to hear’ and how to not ‘ruffle feathers’. And when we do speak up in the rawness of a situation, or give our feedback at work or in life, we can be seen as ‘negative’ or ‘out of line’… to the extent that we can fear for our jobs if we do speak up.

Yet in our lives today there are many ills and atrocities in society where we need to speak up, sign a petition, write a letter etc. There are many daily situations where we need to express clearly, whether in matters of urgency or simply in every interaction we have, as misunderstanding, error or conflict amongst people has arisen from unclear communication, or from something that is partially expressed or watered down.

Is it not our responsibility to express? If we expressed with the openness of children and allowed our innate, natural true expression to come out and we learnt together in our workplaces and in our daily lives that “Expression is everything,” our expression may just save lives.

Otherwise, as the BBC news article highlighted, we may be culpable (directly, or indirectly as bystanders) for many things that happen that could have been handled differently, where communication plays a key role – take for example the ‘never-events’ in the NHS:

“In 2012/2013 in England there were nearly 300 “never-events” – incidents that can cause serious harm or death and are wholly preventable.” (BBC News 2015)

The ripple effect when we re-awaken our expression in full, and when we speak up in our daily life, not only has the potential to save lives, it has the potential to change our world today.

Reference Sources:

  1. Serge Benhayon (2011:117), Esoteric Teachings & Revelations: A new study for mankind, Unimed Publishing
  2. BBC News (2015), How speaking up can save lives, 26th July – Health.

By Jane Keep

Further reading:
The responsibility of Expressing Truth
“Expression Is Everything” – How I Feel About Myself, The World, And Other People

Recognition is Nothing, Expression is Everything

870 thoughts on “Expression Could Save Lives

  1. The fact that we would rather die than speak up in particular situations shows how much we live in fear without actually realising it. We need to train our children how to speak up and give permission for them to get it wrong.

  2. It’s definitely sobering to realise that all those little moments where we don’t express could result in someone loosing their life. We’ve all experienced how someone’s words can change our whole day around, when someone says they love you, or that they appreciate how amazing you are – it really seriously count. We may not be a doctor or a co-pliot and it may not be a life-threatening situation but I suspect our lack of expression has the same impact on the world – and it’s something we urgently need to rectify.

    1. And I don’t know about you, but when I don’t speak up or express it also effects how I feel, I can get grumpy or irritable, and I find my jaw tightens up and feel frustrated. I wonder how the world would be if we each expressed to the best we can – maybe for instance we would have at least one ripple effect whereby we no longer have any ‘taboo’ topics like death and dying where we often don’t talk about those topics.

  3. How often has something happened that you already knew should happen beforehand, and yet we don’t speak out in case we got in wrong, there are so many things that could be avoided if only we didn’t hold back and we express ourselves in full.

  4. Many who speak up are labelled as ‘whistle blowers’. It would serve all if those who speak up were appreciated as ‘speakers of truth’.

    1. And sadly many ‘whistleblowers’ are not treated well – some of whom have had to leave their jobs or even leave their countries. Expression, transparency, openness, honesty, truth are much needed – why is it that we can resist expression, or listening to others who have something to express?

  5. ‘The ripple effect when we re-awaken our expression in full, and when we speak up in our daily life, not only has the potential to save lives, it has the potential to change our world today.’ Absolutely Jane, we inspire others to speak up when we don’t hold back our expression, it becomes easier to do the more we express especially when we don’t worry about getting it ‘right’.

  6. What stands out in this blog is that if we saw each other as equal in every single area of our lives then we would not have an issue with speaking up, ruffling feathers or expressing. This highlights the extremes of putting titles, names, age etc. above our essence and that we all have something to say, “Co-pilots would rather die than contradict a captain.” (BBC News 2015).

  7. So true – small children wouldn’t stop and think how they might be received by others, they just express. I can feel a degree of censoring that takes place in what and how I express myself, often wondering whether what I am about to express might be coming from reaction etc. and in one way, it sounds good that I put some care into this, but at the same time I can feel how there is this wanting to get it right that gets in the way of my natural expression.

  8. Isn’t it the case that the status quo in whatever form it is bureaucratic, family, whatever form it takes, has an extraordinary vested interest in not hearing true expression.

  9. Thank you Jane, your words have given me insight into some of the situations currently in my life that have been caused by lack of expression and clear communication. I have also been seeing clearly lately the power of conversation and how sometimes we can avoid this because it can offer so much growth.

  10. One of the worst things we can do is to suppress a child’s natural expression of truth as this teaches them to hold back the truth and express words to please others rather than honouring how they are truly feeling.

    1. Agree – we have a society riddled with the sense of not feeling to speak freely, seeking permission or fearing reactions when we do speak – which really doesn’t help society evolve in any way.

  11. When we dilute the truth by not expressing it in full it makes it harder to be understood as it is felt differently in the body. When we express or hear the truth from our body it pulls us to be more and calls for us to express from that same quality.

    1. I hadn’t realised the difference before making a focus of what truth felt like in my body and from that point there was a deeper relationship with my body and its relationship with truth because it was distinctly different from my heads relationship with truth. I would not have thought or understood this till it was felt in my body.

  12. This is a good way in which we can improve our true expression in life, that is made of feeling truth and the purpose of expressing our truth and love for the saie of humanity, our fellow brothers.

  13. The relationship between life and expression is absolutely intimate. Life is always an expression of our essence. Through life we get to play with our expression. Through expression we get to enrich life.

  14. Even something as simple as talking with a kid about the amount of sugar they put into some of the fruit drinks today could get them thinking, and save them a life blighted by Type 2 diabetes or obesity.

  15. “Whether we express ourselves, or not” as the quote says EVERYTHING is expression so never do we not express ourselves for not expressing is also an expression and a very loud one at that.

  16. As I read this it arises for me how we mould or change/adjust what we want to say thinking in our mind that the other person will understand it better if we do. But often this then makes what we want to say complicated and more difficult to understand.

  17. I know someone who is starting to express at work and it is quite difficult for them because they have not spoken up before and they are not someone who would normally speak up and so the co-workers are not used to this and there is resistance to what is being said. There are very few office environments where you can be heard without retaliation with the possibility that it could benefit the group going forward and actually be team building.

  18. Communication with purpose is one of the most important elements to my work. What guarantees it been successful is connecting to them as a person and deeply listening to not only what words they say but feeling where they are at. Meeting another and honouring where they are we both can work together for the greater good.

  19. Speaking up and being heard for many is a struggle, a far cry from childhood when we initially spoke without fear and in absolute truth. For many that changed in reaction to the reaction of those around them being presented with such honesty. But we have never lost this power of expression and to make the choice to reclaim it may not only save the lives of others, it may also save our own life.

    1. We have been trained to fear the reaction more that our expression may cause and with that have lost our awareness of how so much more powerful our expression is when truth is expressed than any reaction that comes towards us.

    2. Well said Ingrid, if the truth came out of how many ailments, illnesses, relationship issues etc. came from not expressing and holding back I wonder if we would then take it seriously and change our ways with expressing.

    3. Well said Ingrid – ‘we have never lost this power of expression’… and as we reconnect to that we may blurt or splutter as we begin to express once again in full, all the while we not only give ourselves space to express as is needed, we also inspire those around us too.

  20. “sometimes parents or ‘grown ups’ tell children to ‘be quiet’ because they may feel uncomfortable with what the child said as it exposes or unearths a truth.” Children have a natural ability to speak truth, by saying what they are feeling in the moment, often at the parents discomfort, which has resulted in children being told to shut down their true expression.To speak truth is an honesty we need to come back to.

    1. I absolutely agree Jill that “To speak truth is an honesty we need to come back to.”. But sadly so many of us have shut down our expression to keep ourselves safe from the reactions of others and in the process we have also shut down the truth of who we are. Therefore it is so important to listen to the expression of our little ones, and honour them for the wise beings they are and to become honest about why their honesty is often so very challenging to hear. Yes, it all begins with honesty.

  21. Evil exists today because we have held back our expression preferring to stay in comfort, the true harm comes from us not expressing.

  22. Let’s change our world by stepping up our volume of expression. Meaning that what we feel we express and what we know we stand for and with. Let us deeper connect to our purpose of why we are here on earth and re-unite, working together as we know it to be truly.

  23. Since 2008 I have been blessed to be part of the Universal Medicine Community (by choice) and I love how everyone is finding a deeper level of true expression from attending workshops and courses with Serge Benhayon. Of particular note is the joy observing children who have attended over the years who have not had their expression buried in any way – they are very aware of life and what is true and what is not and have a very clear and powerful expression. Very inspiring.

  24. “Co-pilots would rather die than contradict a captain.” (BBC News 2015) This is such a powerful reflection of the consequence of the upbringing of children not supported to express themselves and their opinion not to be valued as the saying goes the, ‘children should be seen and not heard’.

  25. I have been reflecting and pondering more deeply in my relationship with myself and speaking up, my purpose and what I am to bring to any situation. It is becoming clearer as I put myself in situations, attend meetings or simply be with my family, how I can easily be looked upon as being negative, a party pooper or ‘making a fuss’, but when it comes to important decisions such as the running of a school and everything associated with it, how can I not speak up. I may confirm another, make others uncomfortable or myself unpopular but I am beginning to connect more deeply in my body to my light, how this plays out and what it truly means to live in all areas of my life, exposing that which is not love.

  26. Wow, that ‘Co-pilots would rather die than contradict a captain’ just shows how deep our holding back can be and what catastrophic results can occur when we do.

  27. “sometimes parents or ‘grown ups’ tell children to ‘be quiet’ because they may feel uncomfortable with what the child said as it exposes or unearths a truth.” This exposes the learned behaviour of the danger of comfort in the world of aviation, medicine and life.

  28. This shows the danger of when we don’t express. And the responsibility we have to actually speak up. It is just as abusive to stay silent as to verbally abuse – in these situations – we have to consider the consequences that comes with what we hold back on.

    1. I wonder how many of the frauds, corruption, and atrocities such as sexual abuse, harassment, paedophilia, and so many more atrocities would not exist if we all spoke up as we felt to – as we often over ride what we feel, turn a blind eye or become bystanders when something is plainly wrong.

  29. Beautiful, for if we do speak up and express our truth the world gets lights up and expands, which is felt in the whole Universe. Hence we are all responsible for the expression we live or not live.

  30. This so brilliantly highlights and exposes just how much we have got it all so wrong, when the so-called pillars of our expected societal custom of being nice or polite, or what is deemed as respectful, actually undermines the truth, our true expression and as such hinders our true well-being and advancement.

    1. Absolutely agree Carola – we are raised and educated about being good, nice, thoughtful, and a lot of other custom and practice, including revering those more senior or older, or higher ranking than ourselves – yet, as in this blog, where has it got us? How different the world would be if we simply expressed what we felt needed expressing.

  31. There are many situations in life in which sticking to a pattern may kill us. Yet, many prefer to remained trapped in there than breaking free from it. Expression is definitely a crucial tool to leave behind these awful situations and to re-imprint our life.

  32. I totally agree that “expression could save lives” but I also know that expression, used in a negative way, can also harm lives. We see it daily with hateful words being spoken within every part of our society and also being written on the internet and then being spread far and wide. There are people who have taken their lives after vicious bullying with words, without a punch being thrown. So, to know that there is a power within our expression that can harm equally there is a power that can heal and this is the true expression that the world needs much more of; it will definitely be life-saving.

    1. And if we take expression as not just verbal, or written but in our movements there is much that has a ripple effect on others in the way we move too – we can harm or heal with our movements.

    2. So true Ingrid, unfortunately the internet has become a breading ground for this kind of harm you’ve shared about in your comment. It is very common for words to be used like weapons of destruction, especially on social media. The power of our expression can either heal or harm.

  33. I actually remember choosing to shut down my expression as a child, There was defined moment in the back of the car when as a result of not being listened to when I was expressing I decided to keep my feeling to myself….. it became easier to do this than to express what I really felt……….and this continued into adult life, I held the world accountable for my choices and held back expressing in full. I then further entrenched this by choosing to work with horses so that there was little to express.

    1. Love your honesty here Alison – many of us if we pondered for a moment may realise we too shut down expression in some way. I remember doing that when I was a very young child.

      1. I remember doing this too Jane, feeling shutdown by what I expressed and decided to not express so I didn’t have to feel what was going on as a child. It is only recently that I started to express without fear of being shutdown or attacked. It is the best feeling ever to express truth no matter what.

    2. How many of us have made the same choice – where it is too painful trying to point it out, so we internalise it thinking that is safer / less painful, and so start a long relationship with not expressing ourselves?

  34. Absolutely Jane, it is our responsibility to express, and to express with love, ‘If we expressed with the openness of children and allowed our innate, natural true expression to come out and we learnt together in our workplaces and in our daily lives that “Expression is everything,” our expression may just save lives.’

  35. When we allow ourselves to speak up we allow ourselves to be naturally ourselves and what we feel.. Hence holding back our expression is actually making us sick. We can never ever serve ourselves or each other when we do not express our natural selves.

  36. ” The Aviation industry has since been undertaking training for aviation staff and found in the simulations that “Co-pilots would rather die than contradict a captain.” (BBC News 2015) ”
    This is quite incredible, but consider how the whole life of the co-pilot has come together to be in this state . Consider how terrible our society must be for this to come to happen.

  37. All conflict, war and disharmony stems from lack of true expression. So, it make sense how important it is for us all to express in full, like you shared Jane, ‘Expression Could Save Lives’.

  38. Wow the force of suppression could be felt in your paragraph about the co-pilots who would choose death over speaking up. What energy are we wielding to not allowing another to have a voice. To me this shows the power expression holds if such force needs to be wielded.

    1. I agree Kim – we can be crushed in a system, but in the end somewhere down the line we chose to shut down or reduce our expression. How different the world would be if it were normal for us each to express in full.

      1. The world would be totally different, there would be no where to hide if truth was spoken as easily as we breathed. It would be a very confronting world but a world based on evolution.

  39. It’s interesting to consider that expression is more than that which we verbally communicate. From our body language to the way we walk, sit, sleep and live, we are broadcasting everything about ourselves all the time.

      1. Yes absolutely – what we express or don’t express is reflected in our bodies, our well-being and the quality of life we live as such we, our bodies and our world all are result of the quality of energy we are choosing to express. We are all responsible for what it is that we are expressing, is it truth or everything else that is not of truth?

  40. The recent Harvey Weinstein sexual abuse and harassment expose has prompted many thousands of women (and some men) to speak up about their own experiences of abuse for the first time. We have a tendency to silence ourselves when it comes to areas like this when it is the very opposite that is required.

    1. Its interesting that so many stay silent for so long about abuse and other atrocities. And as we are either bystanders or we deny, bury, don’t express, our society as a whole becomes less and less open or transparent.

  41. We can literally save lives by speaking up in potentially challenging situations but we can also save lives when we take the time to express our appreciation for others.

  42. Beautiful Jane Keep — so true, we save ourselves by our expression as everything is everything — so when we give up our expression (which is who we are) we give up our everything and so when we express we let everything be — which will increase love and awareness, serve us all.

  43. “How many of us express what we feel in full, or ensure that we are absolutely clear in our expression during our daily lives?” Very few I would reckon, yet if we don’t, people aren’t mind-readers….. Expressing how we feel is so important. It validates ourselves by nominating how we are doing and can then allow others to do the same, especially in times of vulnerability. I experienced this personally last week when caught up in the wild fires in Portugal.

  44. If “everything is expression” and ‘everything is energy’ could it be we are caught in a web where we are not understanding what to fully express is all about? If this is True then maybe then as Jane has shared True Expression, “has the potential to change our world today.”

  45. A great article Jane, I can feel in the past how my communication has been unclear, and watered down and not speaking up for fear of causing a reaction, learning to actually feel from my body and expressing from there is a continual work in progress, sometimes I am able to express honestly and that feels great in my body and other times I hold back which fills my body with tension and unease.

  46. How we express, and the quality we are when we express does have consequences in our, and other people’s lives.

  47. Yes something is seriously out of order when a person is willing to die rather than speak what they feel is true. A reflection of how far we have fallen from our natural way of being.

  48. ““Co-pilots would rather die than contradict a captain.” This says it all Jane that we would rather die and take down a whole plane full of people than contradict the pilot. This goes for so many professions especially those jobs where there is a strong Hierarchical archaic institution of working your way up the ladder, but this also happens in almost every job, that the fear of retribution and the bullying that can occur for speaking up out weighs the responsibility we have to make sure that what needs to be expressed is not pushed under the carpet or watered down so that the message is not clearly heard.

    1. It is interesting that in hierarchical structures to have power or be at the top we can see power as having control on what people can and cannot say to us. The truth is we each equally need others expression to support us to continue to grow as human beings. We shouldn’t have any position in life that means we are untouchable or exempt from the truth.

  49. A powerfull message that is showing us our way forth – expressing , but more so accepting and allowing ourselves to express, without restriction just as it comes out -naturally, as we are all born to express. Without our expression there is no truth. And where there is no truth.. There is no purpose. So what will be our plan next?

  50. Beautyfull reminder and great sharing. Yes I love what you express here and it inspires me to speak up more and listen more. I really want to listen to my upcoming child and learn from him to be so much more aware and share all I’ve learned with everyone around me.

  51. Thank you for taking the time to speak up and let us all know the benefit and true right of speaking up and that we must not fear it but stand tall – as our expression is needed in the world, we have all the right to live our true selves in expression in full. Day and night.

  52. It is also important to consider that we do not lose ourselves in speaking up for others and disempower them. As speaking up for others can be used to heal ones own issues of not be heard and listened to.

  53. This is a type of solution that we deliberately overlook, when in fact it is one of the most powerful. But, not the most glamorous, not the kind of approach that will win popularity and gain recognition from the world…no wonder we avoid it….but at what cost?

  54. I spent a lot of my childhood and adult life keeping quiet because it was what I felt people liked and I wanted to be liked. I also felt fearful that I might upset people. Unfortunately there is a huge price to pay when we hold back what we feel needs to be said. These days I feel its better for people to know the truth, even if they get upset, and I also know its better for my health to express rather than hold back.

    1. I can relate, as I came from the ‘be seen but not heard’ generation and remember many occasions when my mother would be talking, and I would have to sit on the floor next to her chair very quietly. I found that I then chose to hold back my words which harmed me and has taken years to reverse, in fact still working on it.

    2. True Debra and my childhood and most of my adult life I kept quiet too not so much because it was a verbal message but because I felt that holding back was needed to be liked and there was something in me that knew so well how to do this. I fooled myself that I was naturally quiet for a very long time but boy oh boy how frustration and resentment build up in my body. Letting out myself and letting people in has changed so much in my life and I get used to the fact that not everybody likes me but you know I love them.

  55. Perhaps the fact that many of us, as adults, struggle to be able to express, even if we see something that is potentially damaging, is a direct result of having our expression shut down as a child. I have worked with children’s voices in the years between five and seven and many of the children were already struggling to express. So, what happened to that beautifully natural and honest expression that they had as little children? It’s a question that we adults really need to ponder on honestly and then take the responsibility to begin to nurture and support our children’s natural expression.

    1. We need to redefine abuse because it is truly a terrible thing to shut down children’s expression, this is something that impacts their quality of life for their whole life and can lead to other issues and behaviours that are not supportive. For generations it’s been the done thing to believe “children should be seen and not heard” and that we are doing the right thing or doing good by telling them to be polite or quiet. We are not just shutting down their expression, we are telling them to not be themselves.

      1. Your last sentence – ” We are not just shutting down their expression, we are telling them to not be themselves.” – nails it Melinda. This is the truth of what happens when we shut down the honest and innocent expression of a child, just as our expression was probably shut down in the same way. Just imagine how society would change if we honoured and nurtured our children’s expression so that it stays with them as they grow into the adults of the future.

  56. Yes, our expression definitely ‘has the potential to change our world today’. We are part of the problem or the solution, just for keeping silent or expressing what needs to be expressed. No need for great statements, just communicate openly what we feel. Each and every opportunity is essential and always makes a difference.

  57. Thank you Jane, your blog inspires me to look at what gets in the way to express myself in full I am aware that when I hold back my expression or start judging I am adding to and equal responsible for a world where expressing the truth is not appreciated.

    1. I agree Annelies, we all have a responsibility to express the truth. Nothing will change if we hold back expressing truth. It is very common that we see people too afraid to express truth because often it is ignored or putdown. But no matter what the reactions we may receive, expressing truth and what we feel is what feels true and we know this deep down no matter how afraid we may be. The tension we hold in our body from holding back expressing ourselves in full is huge.

    2. It’s easy to see expression as a separate thing, as something we do, but it’s very much a part of being our full and true selves in the world. Whether it is spoken or expressed some other way, expression is simply us sharing from our essence, it is being who we are. That is our ultimate responsibility.

  58. It is very, very important to express in full. That does not always mean verbalising everything to everyone. We can start by expressing to ourselves ie allowing ourselves to be aware of and nominating what we are feeling, observing and know. Then we can discern if that needs to be further expressed in words, writing, via our eyes by our movements or in some other way.

    1. I liked what you shared here Nicola, sometimes when i open up to express it is not very clear, it may just be that i am not clear enough with myself first before I express, something more for me to be aware of in expressing, thank you.

      1. Another thing that I find useful is to not aim to be perfect and certainly not try and get things “right”. Also it takes awareness to be aware that we are not being aware or clear so we can appreciate that!

      2. And by expressing we can become clearer – but in my experience of bottling things up my expression then suffers and gets less clear, but my health also suffers when I don’t express.

      3. I agree Jane, I notice when I am not expressing I feel quite heavy and tired and I feel I lose my spark, my joy to be, live, and express me in the world.

  59. This blog spoke to me very loud and clear this morning. It makes me realise that the quality in which I` live, the standards that I set myself and am willing to follow are what support my clarity and depth of expression.

  60. As a child I was constantly told to be quiet and shut up and at school from day one we were never encouraged to express, quite the opposite in fact, it often meant the ruler if you spoke up. This is a great blog to come back to as we live in a time where expression is needed more than ever and there are a few things that I really need to express over the coming days.

    1. I had a similar experience Kev, and one at home where we werent told to be quiet, and got told off when we were talking – particularly at the dinner table. No wonder we can get used to keeping quiet even when we see things that need expressing.

      1. I relate to those situations as a child in which I was told to shut up… they are fixed in my body memory as markers of what I should or shouldn’t say. The good news are that even though those marks are there, I can embrace my true expression now again. I’m aware now of the responsibility of expressing or not, and how well my body feels when I honour its impulses of expression, as there is always a bigger purpose behind those impulses… and when I express it does really makes the difference.

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