A Study on Commitment and Energy

Lately I have made an in-depth study on what commitment truly is. Last year somebody shared with me that they felt I was completely withdrawn from life – not committing to life in full.

At first I resisted: “Who me? I have started up several companies, been successful in my career, have many friends, I was on television, radio, wrote columns in newspapers. How can you call me withdrawn from life?” But in truth I was. It took some weeks to fully admit this unpleasant truth.

Several things had happened in my life when I was young, then one final big tipping point event a couple of years ago and with that, I made the choice to withdraw from life. I decided that life was too painful to be in so I believed it was better to withdraw from life, even with little money to support myself, rather than committing to life in full. It was not a clear conscious choice, but I can see now it was still a choice.

In light of this revelation I decided to study how commitment really works, and return to leading a fully committed life. I had discussions with people about it, sessions with Esoteric practitioners and read inspiring articles like Commitment to Self –Commitment to Life  and A True Commitment to Work, Getting a Job… and Life.

 From here I started to re-commit to life, starting with some simple, practical things. One of the seemingly simple exercises I did to support all this was going for a ten minute walk every day. I began with focussing only on feeling my hands and my feet as I walked as a way to support myself to develop conscious presence. I also found that really paying attention to how I felt in my body when talking with people supported me to stay connected to myself – which was not my usual way as I tended to focus my attention on the other person or people I was with, or just lose myself in the story I was telling.

Another thing – and there was quite a list – was when I was sitting behind a computer, was to not ‘disappear’ into the screen. Always feeling my body, whatever part that might be.

 Recently I had a realisation of another way of how commitment truly works. I had an awful day at work; actually and more correctly, I chose to have an awful day at work by choosing to not commit. I resisted the work that was there to do as I thought of it as boring and arrogantly considered myself too good for it. I did not work with 100% dedication and I secretly started sending out and answering private emails and doing personal things for myself.

What made it worse was that I still believed I delivered good results. Basically I thought I could get away with this – and indeed management did not notice – but in truth I couldn’t, not with the energy I was allowing to run my body, which was definitely not commitment or love. I became slow in my actions, my body felt heavy, and it did not stop when I left work.

 At the end of the day I felt powerless and somehow a bit stupid as well. I walked in an unstable way and felt light in my head. This was not how I normally would feel, or who I knew myself to be, and with this I knew I had let another energy affect my body.

Later on with the help of a true friend I realised deeply how commitment really works.

I realised that when I choose to not commit to life in full, it creates an opening for ‘negative’, that is, unloving energy to enter. But when I choose to commit to life in full, the energy I feel in my body is very different – it is loving, solid and light. Therefore it is my choice that can seal off openings for this unloving energy to enter. This case at work was very huge and clear. But it also works with seemingly small things like doing the dishes, answering emails and cooking.

When I don’t commit to every aspect of my life in full, I allow unloving energy to enter. For example, when I choose to not commit in doing the dishes, but I do them anyway because I have to do them, but now slower and with an indulgence, this contains the draining and unloving energy that is not supportive to true commitment.

Therefore all of the choices I make, the quality of energy I choose to do them in, and whether I am fully committed or not, has an impact on my work, my energy levels, my relationships, my body, other people… on everything.

Leading a committed life now means for me to be fully committed to myself first, knowing there is nothing selfish about that. What this means is that I make it my priority to honour what I feel, treating my body with respect and care, as I would my best friend, and listening intently to what it is telling me. The commitment to the things I do is equally important, but always comes second.

With much appreciation to Serge Benhayon, his family and the many students of The Way of The Livingness, who show me what it means to fully and truly commit to life. Thanks for your reflection!

By Willem Plandsoen, MSc, sales professional and student of life

Further Reading:
The Ultimate Commitment To Life
Taking Responsibility and Making A Re-Commitment To Life
Commitment To Self – Commitment To Life

1,088 thoughts on “A Study on Commitment and Energy

    1. “Our body truly is our best friend as it always tells the truth”. Mary that’s very true but most of us would only consider our bodies to only be our ‘best friends’ when they are doing what we want them to and looking the way that we want them to. We believe that our bodies have let us down when they either become sick or are unable to perform in the way that we want them to. We also feel let down by them when they don’t look the way that we want them to and when this happens most of us go into feelings of dislike or even disgust. We really don’t respect our bodies let alone honour them.

  1. Willem this was beautiful to read, even though it caused an ouch whilst I read it. It kind of reminded me that commitment is subtle too and that responsibility to everything matters. When we resist, then everything that we come across, has that flow on affect with that attitude and energy – a domino effect.

    So reading this has asked me to step up in project I am part of. Not to allow the games being played out, play out.

    There’s another level of responsibility I need to go to now in my life, which in turn be reflected to others…

  2. We are taught from a young age to look at the teacher, eyes front, no distractions, so as the days and years slip by we have been trained to focus outside of ourselves. So when someone comes along and says actually we should reverse this trend because it is actually damaging our bodies and instead focus on our innermost or the essence of who we truly are. We think their nuts or some sort of ‘out there’ weirdo. But what if we do have this the wrong way around wouldn’t it go some way in explaining why our society is rotting away because we have put our whole focus on education which brings security, money, profit to the detriment of our bodies. Which despite the amazing medical technology, health service, medical professionals that we have at our finger tips this is not arresting the rates of illness and dis-ease that is affecting each and every one of us?

  3. This quote: ‘The commitment to the things I do is equally important, but always comes second.’ really helps me to see clearly that while my commitment to my relationship with God comes first, it is not more or less important than my commitment to life and everyone else. It is just that that primary relationship has to be assured to set the standard and foundation for everything else.

  4. It is beautiful to read of the honouring you have for your body Willem, ‘I make it my priority to honour what I feel, treating my body with respect and care, as I would my best friend, and listening intently to what it is telling me.’

    1. Agree Lorraine, it is beautiful to honour the body a lot more then just over the weekend or on days off. It’s a daily routine.

  5. I suppose we could call commitment completion, even if it’s not technically fully complete as a task, just complete to Where it needs to be for now. I know for me delay feels quite different to commitment, and it does bring in a lethargic energy. I notice that not committing to things (and committing to my essence first) is like creating an issue, lowering my energy and inviting something other than love in. Sometimes there is a worry in me of not knowing how to do something, but I realise it’s better to at least commit and get support, than leave it there open and unattended to.

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