The Body speaks Loudly, but am I Listening?

Recently I woke from sleep naturally, without the usual ringing of the alarm to tell me to wake up and get ready for work. As I lay there on that gorgeous Saturday morning, all snuggled up in bed, I began to contemplate the rather enjoyable activities I had scheduled for the day – until such time that I noticed how tired my body actually was; clearly it was not interested in my plans for the day at all.

I continued to lay in bed and questioned what was going on for my body to be speaking to me so loudly about what it needed.

It made me consider how we plan our days with activities to be completed, appointments to attend, dates with friends and family and jobs to be done. I couldn’t remember the last time that I had nothing planned, where I could allow the day to unfold in the moment, attending to what my body felt at the time.

I lay in bed and decided to connect to my body purposefully to see what it was communicating with me. I felt a mild sickness in my stomach area and there was an uncomfortable pressure in the middle of my chest, although my feet and wrists were tingling like little stars emanating. I realised there is so much information about my body that I miss in my day-to-day life because I don’t tune in and see where it is at.

For many years I lived such a crazy life that I never heard my body’s wishes until I became ill. Illness is a big stop for many of us, where we can no longer override our body with our mind’s desires. But why let it get that far?

The next day I experimented with how my body would run my day should it be given a say… not my mind, which was already trying to take control and provide all the options of fun, as well as duty, that could fill the hours. My body was asking me to take my time; it still did not want to be pushed.

We (my body and I) went for a walk along a path that I always enjoy as there is farmland, trees and a bubbling creek. We purchased groceries, did some housework, some writing and cooking – all with both my body and mind in connection. It felt fabulous not to be overriding my body but going along with it as a guiding light.

So many years have been spent ignoring or detesting my body and here we are now, after years of developing self-care, the best of friends.

Just prior to this particular weekend I was being asked a number of favours from a friend. This was fine, but the last request did not sit well. My head was busily trying to accommodate the request, to put my own needs second, to find a way to make it work out and to comply, and yet when I connected to my body it was clearly saying ‘No’. This time I honoured the specific wishes of my body, and when I talked to my friend about my decision, it was not a problem at all – it was only my unfounded fear that there would be a problem that was holding me back from speaking up.

The next stage became – could I keep this connection with me during the working week where the reality of my employment requires me to attend to appointments, deadlines and the requirements of work? The answer is ‘Yes’, but there were more distractions for sure.

On the days where my body wanted to take it easy, where it was feeling more dense or fragile, I worked more tenderly and in a way that honoured that need. I realised I could renegotiate a deadline for work if it was needed, and didn’t need to force my body to work harder than it actually could. And funnily enough, that period passed and the body became more naturally energetic and able to perform tasks with ease, going from one matter to another. What wasn’t done on one day could be picked up on another day when there was the energy to do so. This felt like a very natural way of life for me and, perhaps, for all human beings.

We are not robots designed to perform each day as consistently as the day before.  We can react to people and problems, we get illness, we become upset or frustrated in life – all of which needs to heal. So as we unfold through this healing process, we must attend to the needs of our physical body and support it to do what it must do, naturally so. Of course, this is not what the world demands, but it is what the body asks and it speaks loudly if we listen to its way of communicating.

If I could fast forward my life another 10 years and look in a crystal ball, if I had not learned by then to listen to my body with more astuteness, would I be nursing myself with breast cancer or chronic fatigue or some other illness, which would bring me to a stop? Maybe learning to listen to my body that weekend was the point in the road where I took another path, a path that did not lead to illness, but to true health or some other destination altogether. We will never know for sure, but the message to listen to my body has been heard loud and clear and, in fact, allows me to feel more lovely throughout the day, as I am responding to life as a ‘whole’ person – body and mind together.

Self-care is certainly about eating foods that support our bodies, enjoying regular exercise and limiting stress in our lives, but it is so much more. Self-care also includes listening to the needs of the body and learning to honour the wisdom that it has to share. It is the voice of the body that can be trusted to care for us, so much more than the jittering monkey mind that tells us all sorts of things. It perplexes me why we so often run with the monkey mind and override the body rather than honouring it, and instead, ignore the onslaught and messages of our many passing thoughts.

Recently I visited a friend and was talking through a problem; how to deal with it in a healthy way. He said, “How do you feel it should be dealt with?” I stopped, knowing he was not going to give me the answer, and connected to my body, feeling the delicateness of my hands and my feet on the floor. I immediately and calmly explained how the problem should be dealt with and then stopped, as I realised that I had known the truth all along: I had only needed to connect to the steadiness and the wisdom within, instead of allowing my mind the freedom to cause the complexity and complication that it was creating.

Connecting to the body is a deeper level of self-care that is necessary for us to live a true and harmonious life. And when we live in this way, there is no confusion or chaos, as life is so simple, all clearly known and understood.

“The body is the marker of ALL truth.“
Serge Benhayon, The Way of Initiation, p 602

By Maree Savins, Australia

Related Reading:
The Body Knows
Listening to your body
Letter to my Body

580 thoughts on “The Body speaks Loudly, but am I Listening?

  1. Gosh I love the freedoms of not thinking and just letting it flow. There is a magic in this when it all flows so effortlessly and naturally in perfect timing without even much forethought or planning.

  2. Maree I enjoyed the section about how you were able to be extra caring of your body despite the limitations that a work day required. We can tend to sacrifice the body in favour of what needs to be done, which is not necessary at all.

  3. Self-caring as a Livingness for me has come from the understanding that I had to start with gentleness, for I was so of the rail when it came to my body and true self-care.

  4. I have so often got carried away with the momentum created by the crazy decisions of the mind without consulting how the body was feeling or in a drive to get something done or to get somewhere. Sometimes big stops have been needed like broken bones, crashes or more lately just being able to reign it in with self caring moments, listening to the groans of the body without ignoring it. Life would be great if we could take a day off to rest if we need it but we can easily carry on if the gentle and tenderness is there in our movements.

  5. I really love what you have shared here around self care ” Self-care also includes listening to the needs of the body and learning to honour the wisdom that it has to share.” We so often go to the practical doing things that we think relate to self care like eating foods that support our bodies, regular exercise, limiting stress etc. But it is all about self honouring what the wisdom our bodies know and share, too true.

  6. Maree, this is really helpful to read, ‘I realised there is so much information about my body that I miss in my day-to-day life because I don’t tune in and see where it is at.’ I can feel how often I have my plan for the day and expect my body to go along with this no matter what it is feeling and that I can push through if something needs doing. And so I can put work, family and chores ahead of what my body actually needs and thus can end up feeling achy at the end of the day.

  7. How beautiful to acknowledge that we can all feel what is needed when we truly connect deeply within. So simple.

  8. What I am learning is that consistency is not about repeating the same action like clockwork no matter what, but it is about keep choosing the energy that we want to move from. I can be like a robot in self-care by repeating what has once worked before and not listening to what my body is asking for.

  9. I usually have lie down at lunch time to check in with my body and see if there are any messages I have not read. Often I connect to something, drop into a deep sleep and wake up fully recharged and it is only 10 minutes later. One moment of connection is deeply rejuvenating.

  10. The body is a marker of all truth says Serge Benhayon. I love the quote and i love him.
    With this quote he confirms how all we looking for is within ourselves. All answers are found if we listen to our bodies. And the sad thing is that most do all to NOT listen to there body. Ready to do anything to solve a problem except this. The question we can ask ourselves is why? Why we went a way form this connection? And what will it be when we connect again. I cam tell you its gets better and better. It is the way to our home.

  11. Over the years I have had to listen more and more to my body, learn to take it easy when necessary and be much more gentle as this has been a natural progression since my first course with Universal Medicine. I have still needed stoppers along the way as the listening may have needed some fine tuning but without this self-care I feel I would be a total mess by now.

  12. Through listening to what the body is communicating, self-care becomes a natural and loving ritual that supports us to deepen our relationship and awareness with ourselves and with others.

  13. Your words here Maree make me think of our political world – where we moan about the parties on offer, but continue to elect those who offer yet another flavour of the same thing. We talk about changes in own lives but ultimately we let the same cynical dictator stay in charge – our mind and our spirit. A truly evolutionary step would, as you show, be to instate our whole body as governor of the whole show. After so many years of despotic mental rule – it can be confronting to live free from these constraints, I know. Like a prisoner freed after years in the darkness we can want to go back – but boy is it worthwhile stepping forward and letting your eyes adjust to the light.

  14. We are made to work and our bodies love to work if doing so in true connection. What hurts and exhausts us is when we bring in emotions, little me stuff, absorb rather than observe or are run by ideals, shoulds and beliefs. When I am working without any of that and in true connection I find myself recharged and rejuvenated by work. Yes there are occasions when rest is required but it quite amazing how much we can actually do and how joyful it is.

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