The Body speaks Loudly, but am I Listening?

Recently I woke from sleep naturally, without the usual ringing of the alarm to tell me to wake up and get ready for work. As I lay there on that gorgeous Saturday morning, all snuggled up in bed, I began to contemplate the rather enjoyable activities I had scheduled for the day – until such time that I noticed how tired my body actually was; clearly it was not interested in my plans for the day at all.

I continued to lay in bed and questioned what was going on for my body to be speaking to me so loudly about what it needed.

It made me consider how we plan our days with activities to be completed, appointments to attend, dates with friends and family and jobs to be done. I couldn’t remember the last time that I had nothing planned, where I could allow the day to unfold in the moment, attending to what my body felt at the time.

I lay in bed and decided to connect to my body purposefully to see what it was communicating with me. I felt a mild sickness in my stomach area and there was an uncomfortable pressure in the middle of my chest, although my feet and wrists were tingling like little stars emanating. I realised there is so much information about my body that I miss in my day-to-day life because I don’t tune in and see where it is at.

For many years I lived such a crazy life that I never heard my body’s wishes until I became ill. Illness is a big stop for many of us, where we can no longer override our body with our mind’s desires. But why let it get that far?

The next day I experimented with how my body would run my day should it be given a say… not my mind, which was already trying to take control and provide all the options of fun, as well as duty, that could fill the hours. My body was asking me to take my time; it still did not want to be pushed.

We (my body and I) went for a walk along a path that I always enjoy as there is farmland, trees and a bubbling creek. We purchased groceries, did some housework, some writing and cooking – all with both my body and mind in connection. It felt fabulous not to be overriding my body but going along with it as a guiding light.

So many years have been spent ignoring or detesting my body and here we are now, after years of developing self-care, the best of friends.

Just prior to this particular weekend I was being asked a number of favours from a friend. This was fine, but the last request did not sit well. My head was busily trying to accommodate the request, to put my own needs second, to find a way to make it work out and to comply, and yet when I connected to my body it was clearly saying ‘No’. This time I honoured the specific wishes of my body, and when I talked to my friend about my decision, it was not a problem at all – it was only my unfounded fear that there would be a problem that was holding me back from speaking up.

The next stage became – could I keep this connection with me during the working week where the reality of my employment requires me to attend to appointments, deadlines and the requirements of work? The answer is ‘Yes’, but there were more distractions for sure.

On the days where my body wanted to take it easy, where it was feeling more dense or fragile, I worked more tenderly and in a way that honoured that need. I realised I could renegotiate a deadline for work if it was needed, and didn’t need to force my body to work harder than it actually could. And funnily enough, that period passed and the body became more naturally energetic and able to perform tasks with ease, going from one matter to another. What wasn’t done on one day could be picked up on another day when there was the energy to do so. This felt like a very natural way of life for me and, perhaps, for all human beings.

We are not robots designed to perform each day as consistently as the day before.  We can react to people and problems, we get illness, we become upset or frustrated in life – all of which needs to heal. So as we unfold through this healing process, we must attend to the needs of our physical body and support it to do what it must do, naturally so. Of course, this is not what the world demands, but it is what the body asks and it speaks loudly if we listen to its way of communicating.

If I could fast forward my life another 10 years and look in a crystal ball, if I had not learned by then to listen to my body with more astuteness, would I be nursing myself with breast cancer or chronic fatigue or some other illness, which would bring me to a stop? Maybe learning to listen to my body that weekend was the point in the road where I took another path, a path that did not lead to illness, but to true health or some other destination altogether. We will never know for sure, but the message to listen to my body has been heard loud and clear and, in fact, allows me to feel more lovely throughout the day, as I am responding to life as a ‘whole’ person – body and mind together.

Self-care is certainly about eating foods that support our bodies, enjoying regular exercise and limiting stress in our lives, but it is so much more. Self-care also includes listening to the needs of the body and learning to honour the wisdom that it has to share. It is the voice of the body that can be trusted to care for us, so much more than the jittering monkey mind that tells us all sorts of things. It perplexes me why we so often run with the monkey mind and override the body rather than honouring it, and instead, ignore the onslaught and messages of our many passing thoughts.

Recently I visited a friend and was talking through a problem; how to deal with it in a healthy way. He said, “How do you feel it should be dealt with?” I stopped, knowing he was not going to give me the answer, and connected to my body, feeling the delicateness of my hands and my feet on the floor. I immediately and calmly explained how the problem should be dealt with and then stopped, as I realised that I had known the truth all along: I had only needed to connect to the steadiness and the wisdom within, instead of allowing my mind the freedom to cause the complexity and complication that it was creating.

Connecting to the body is a deeper level of self-care that is necessary for us to live a true and harmonious life. And when we live in this way, there is no confusion or chaos, as life is so simple, all clearly known and understood.

“The body is the marker of ALL truth.“
Serge Benhayon, The Way of Initiation, p 602

By Maree Savins, Australia

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The Body Knows
Listening to your body
Letter to my Body

637 thoughts on “The Body speaks Loudly, but am I Listening?

  1. Gosh I love the freedoms of not thinking and just letting it flow. There is a magic in this when it all flows so effortlessly and naturally in perfect timing without even much forethought or planning.

  2. Maree I enjoyed the section about how you were able to be extra caring of your body despite the limitations that a work day required. We can tend to sacrifice the body in favour of what needs to be done, which is not necessary at all.

  3. Self-caring as a Livingness for me has come from the understanding that I had to start with gentleness, for I was so of the rail when it came to my body and true self-care.

  4. I have so often got carried away with the momentum created by the crazy decisions of the mind without consulting how the body was feeling or in a drive to get something done or to get somewhere. Sometimes big stops have been needed like broken bones, crashes or more lately just being able to reign it in with self caring moments, listening to the groans of the body without ignoring it. Life would be great if we could take a day off to rest if we need it but we can easily carry on if the gentle and tenderness is there in our movements.

  5. I really love what you have shared here around self care ” Self-care also includes listening to the needs of the body and learning to honour the wisdom that it has to share.” We so often go to the practical doing things that we think relate to self care like eating foods that support our bodies, regular exercise, limiting stress etc. But it is all about self honouring what the wisdom our bodies know and share, too true.

  6. Maree, this is really helpful to read, ‘I realised there is so much information about my body that I miss in my day-to-day life because I don’t tune in and see where it is at.’ I can feel how often I have my plan for the day and expect my body to go along with this no matter what it is feeling and that I can push through if something needs doing. And so I can put work, family and chores ahead of what my body actually needs and thus can end up feeling achy at the end of the day.

  7. How beautiful to acknowledge that we can all feel what is needed when we truly connect deeply within. So simple.

  8. What I am learning is that consistency is not about repeating the same action like clockwork no matter what, but it is about keep choosing the energy that we want to move from. I can be like a robot in self-care by repeating what has once worked before and not listening to what my body is asking for.

  9. I usually have lie down at lunch time to check in with my body and see if there are any messages I have not read. Often I connect to something, drop into a deep sleep and wake up fully recharged and it is only 10 minutes later. One moment of connection is deeply rejuvenating.

    1. I agree Nicola a 10 minute lie down or sleep can be incredibly rejuvenating and I can wake feeling a different person. It is not always possible for me to lie down in the day, so I close my eyes for a few minutes and feel my body, breathe a few gentle breaths, check how my body is feeling and this can be enough to keep me from racing ahead during the day.

      1. Yes Alison, when I can’t physically lie down, I do something similar. I even find going for a 5 minute walk, and focusing on each step can feel very supportive in the middle of a busy day.

  10. The body is a marker of all truth says Serge Benhayon. I love the quote and i love him.
    With this quote he confirms how all we looking for is within ourselves. All answers are found if we listen to our bodies. And the sad thing is that most do all to NOT listen to there body. Ready to do anything to solve a problem except this. The question we can ask ourselves is why? Why we went a way form this connection? And what will it be when we connect again. I cam tell you its gets better and better. It is the way to our home.

  11. Over the years I have had to listen more and more to my body, learn to take it easy when necessary and be much more gentle as this has been a natural progression since my first course with Universal Medicine. I have still needed stoppers along the way as the listening may have needed some fine tuning but without this self-care I feel I would be a total mess by now.

  12. Through listening to what the body is communicating, self-care becomes a natural and loving ritual that supports us to deepen our relationship and awareness with ourselves and with others.

  13. Your words here Maree make me think of our political world – where we moan about the parties on offer, but continue to elect those who offer yet another flavour of the same thing. We talk about changes in own lives but ultimately we let the same cynical dictator stay in charge – our mind and our spirit. A truly evolutionary step would, as you show, be to instate our whole body as governor of the whole show. After so many years of despotic mental rule – it can be confronting to live free from these constraints, I know. Like a prisoner freed after years in the darkness we can want to go back – but boy is it worthwhile stepping forward and letting your eyes adjust to the light.

  14. We are made to work and our bodies love to work if doing so in true connection. What hurts and exhausts us is when we bring in emotions, little me stuff, absorb rather than observe or are run by ideals, shoulds and beliefs. When I am working without any of that and in true connection I find myself recharged and rejuvenated by work. Yes there are occasions when rest is required but it quite amazing how much we can actually do and how joyful it is.

  15. ‘…..where I could allow the day to unfold in the moment, attending to what my body felt at the time.’ This should be our ‘normal’ where ever we are we cannot control what will happen. And if we listen to our body, understanding its signs it will be and or is very simple.

  16. Our bodies really do speak loudly… And if we don’t listen, its voice will simply become louder and louder until everything else pales into insignificance and we simply will listen.

  17. We read everything constantly, and from our body we get the clarity or the re-interpretations of what we have already read, known and lived before.

  18. It is in fact so powerful to connect to the body first and not to the thinking mind and in that we will feel that we are always well equipped to face any issue that comes to us, as in fact for our bodies there are no issues as it only knows how to be and perhaps issues are just only a creation of the thinking mind.

  19. How amazing is our body and it’s constant conversations. It’s funny how consistent our body is with sharing it’s messages and how consistent we can be at ignoring them, until it is too late and sickness sets in. Allowing ourselves the grace of space to honour what our bodies feel and moving from there is a beautiful appreciation of the vehicles we are in and to then be able to share and express ourselves in full from there. Magic indeed, thank you Maree.

  20. It is so true, when the body is speaking – are we listening. Learning to really listen to what our body is saying to us is an ongoing and daily process. When you have negated, not listened to and completely ignored your body, it is definitely a process and one you have to make a loving one, to reconnect with love to listening to your body.

  21. What an amazing Blog. We quite simply pack our days with activities, and start plan them out in our heads but rarely give ourselves that extra space to feel how we should go about our day and what our body is communicating, such simple stuff but so bypassed on a day to day basis.

  22. Every challenge faced we can come back to a deeper care for the body, as what we are being asked of is–awesome that this level of love and steadiness has been reached, but now there is more, as love continues to deepen and unfold.

  23. When I was younger I was the master at ignoring my body. But eventually such a way of life had its price, and at 17 I developed chronic fatigue. It was a huge wake up call, but one that even then I recognised was asking me to honour what my body was capable of and what it was not.

    1. I can relate to that Adam. I was also the master of ignoring my body and considered myself a good thinker with clever ideas and great visions. All this brought to a stop when a doctor told be I was on the brink of a burn-out, because I was completely not feeling what all these visions and the life I lived to reach those visions were doing to my body.

  24. If I just connect to my body and surrender, then life feels easy. Things that need to be done come up, and there is no need to go into the future and think about or worry about things that are not at my door yet. This simplicity I am committed to, and it makes iife simple and easy. The only thing that gets in the way: my head, and it is a constant loving discipline to bring the focus of my mind back, first to my body or my breath and not to a future or past thing.

  25. I absolutely know that the body is the marker of truth, but at times, I question my listening awareness and commitment. I also know that the choice is absolutely mine, mine alone and always; if I choose to ignore my body it will be at my peril.

  26. “Self-care also includes listening to the needs of the body and learning to honour the wisdom that it has to share.” Self care is a series of movements we can make that nurtures our body and allows us to continually explore and listen to what is needed at the time and to either move in a way that supports or denies the true essence of God that we are.

  27. We cannot live a harmonious life without a connection to our body. Thank you for this reminder that connecting and listening to all the bodies messages is vital to living life.

    1. There is such rich joy in living our life in adherence to the bodies true impulses and rhythms. Wisdom awaits…

  28. “My body was asking me to take my time; it still did not want to be pushed.” I do know this feeling so well Maree, that my body is asking to be with it instead of getting distracted by the plans of my mind, which indeed feel pushy and pushing and try to contract my body into a smaller space then where it belongs and deserve to be.

  29. Thank you Maree! I have many times ignored my bodies communication, to my detriment but I am improving by recognising how important for my wellbeing it is that I do listen and act on that loving information.

  30. The point you make here about the simplicity that comes from living in connection to our bodies has become foundational to letting go for me. When drama and complication are so normal that they are not even noticed as being dramatic or complicated, it takes some harsh truths – and usually ones that physically stop the body, to bring the honesty and necessary humbleness to see there is, perhaps, another way to live.

  31. Absolutely – the wisdom we seek is within us…a pure, undiluted truth and seer that awaits our re-connection and adherence to our true rhythm and flow.

  32. Great reminder and confirmation to listen to the messages of the body, and that it is as simple as connecting our mind and body to whatever we doing at that moment.

  33. The bodies wisdom will always prevail whilst the chatter of the mind deliver us any interpretation of our choosing.

  34. I have had conversations with several people lately who say they don’t set their alarm clocks, but just wake up at the right time each day. I have had that experience of waking just before my alarm several times, but I don’t trust to not set my alarm in case I oversleep. Interesting.

  35. Absolutely we are not machines or robots processing life but living beings – it is well worth us establishing a deeply loving relationship with our body and appreciating its enormous value in serving us.

  36. ‘Self-care also includes listening to the needs of the body and learning to honour the wisdom that it has to share.’ I love this Maree, self-care is not just about ticking boxes and nurturing the body but a forever deepening relationship with our body that continually expands and offers us divine wisdom always.

  37. Maree this is a great example of listening to one’s connection to the body and allowing the space to choose what is going to be the next supportive and loving movement to one’s life. It’s also great to note that life isn’t always constantly at one pace. Something may come up that leave us feeling a little lack lustre or sick but to note, that we can continue to build a consistent feedback system with ourselves and what feels supportive and allows our awareness to deepen and continue to uncover more and more about our bodies and their wealth of wisdom.

  38. Connecting with my body sometimes including doing things which I could judge as strange but when I honoured the choices of my body, I realise it is all a part of the big picture. I am returning to the naturalness and truth of “the body does know”.

  39. Our bodies are truly extraordinary vehicles and when we listen and fine tune them to keep them humming and running at optimal, we can build a long lasting relationship that only grows and endures over our life span.

  40. I love the continual learning I get from my body and the wisdom it shares with me. I have gone from not wanting my body to deeply appreciating all that it shows me.

  41. Thank you Maree, you have helped me to see that I am very hard on myself if I can’t ‘perform’. Right now I’m feeling unwell but pushing myself to ‘get things done’. I’m inspired to stop, rest, connect to me body and feel what is next.

  42. “For many years I lived such a crazy life that I never heard my body’s wishes until I became ill.” I feel this is how most of humanity live, it was certainly the way I lived until I started to honour and listen to my body. I also feel this is why we have so many illnesses today because we are in constant motion, never stopping to assess what is really going on with our life and the body is the one that suffers. Taking a moment for our selves is not a selfish act as we are often led to believe, but the start of a love affair with our body and a connection to much more honest way of living .

  43. Thank you Maree. I’m often hard on myself if I have a day where I feel fragile or tired. I also find fear creeps in when I start worrying about how I will get everything done. You remind me that my body knows the plan and all have to do is Follow it.

  44. This morning I felt how the distraction of my mind thinking about past situations was very stimulating and distracting me from how lovely I felt as I showered. It wasn’t like scrubbing a car down but very tender and it felt lovely. Which then got me questioning-why do I value stimulation over sensitivity? And reading this blog brings the further question of – do I value the monkey mind because it’s a way of hiding in life? To this I’d say yes and – what would happen if I valued presence with my touch more than the stimulation of the mind? We’ll see.

  45. How beautiful to know that when we listen to our bodies we deeply self care and feel what is needed as the next step forward; so clear and simple.

  46. It has finally become so obvious to me that staying in connection with myself returns a simplicity into my life; a life, up until recently, I used to live in so much complication. It makes so much sense that when we disconnect from ourselves that the complication sets in as we are no longer connected to the source of the messages that we receive from our very wise body in every moment. Taking the time to stop and listen to our body is the first step to begin to dismantle that complication, and in my experience, so well worth it.

  47. I know when my head starts to accommodate something I ‘have’ to do, I did this at least a life long, I am disconnected from my body and exhaust myself by going over it again and again in my head to figure out a way I could do it. This for me is now a clear sign to stop and listen to my body and not compromise what is the message.

  48. Tuning into our body consistently opens up our awareness to our body’s sensitivity and when we are willing to listen allows the space to adjust our movements accordingly and deepen our level of self-care and self-nurturing.

  49. There is nothing more enjoyable than listening and honouring my body. Sometimes I think that this is not compatible with work and everyday life… this is when I think about it, instead of feeling it, because when I feel what I feel in my body, I clearly know what to do, how to move, behave or approach any activity in an easier way that can be adapt to my own needs. The only thing is: Am I allowing myself to feel it? Do I feel I’m worth of it? From now on I say a big YES!

  50. It is through our connection with our bodies that we can communicate with a deeper level of wisdom that resides within our heart, a higher level of intelligence equally available to all if we so choose to live it.

  51. When I stopped drinking coffee, I was able to feel how tired I was all the time. This them became an opportunity to look at how I was living and to make changes.

  52. My body said thank you in reading this today, A gentle reminder to my mind that the wisdom is in the body, and not in the mind.

  53. I must admit being a master of not listening to my body. But that actually means I am also a master of listening but then dismissing the information instantly for all kinds of so-called good reasons, but in the end it is just out of ignorance based on arrogance. The process of undoing the ‘lying’ by becoming more and more honest is the re-learning of listening to the body again.

  54. Just these days I am reflecting on how much we are not listening or actually free to listen when we are under an image, an idea, opinion or anything that effectively occupies space that otherwise would be a spaciousness to truly observe and receive/perceive without any preconception. It is the mental constructs we hold as convictions, opinions, views that are reducing our natural openness and ability to ‘listen’, listen to our body, inner knowing and or another person.

  55. I find I can go into my mind and fill my days without really feeling where my body is at and what it is actually feeling, until exhausted feeling from my body speak loud and clear calling me back to a more self loving and honouring way of being.

  56. ” I immediately and calmly explained how the problem should be dealt with and then stopped, as I realised that I had known the truth all along: I had only needed to connect to the steadiness and the wisdom within, instead of allowing my mind the freedom to cause the complexity and complication that it was creating.” I love this Maree. When we drop into our body – which is pure intelligence – its wisdom outdoes the mind – and gives us true and wise answers.

  57. “So many years have been spent ignoring or detesting my body and here we are now, after years of developing self-care, the best of friends.” Gorgeous Maree. At the grand age of 67 I have a better relationship with my body than I have ever had!

  58. How many of us take a moment to really tune in with our bodies and listen fully to what it is saying, what if our body is our wise best friend? ‘I realised there is so much information about my body that I miss in my day-to-day life because I don’t tune in and see where it is at.’

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