Self-Doubt: It’s not a Little Problem

Recently I have come to see just how insidious self-doubt is and how it plays out. I once viewed self-doubt as something that was just there, that I accepted as a normal part of being a human being and that it was something that I couldn’t change.

I know there have been times in my life when I would feel the Truth of a matter ever so strongly. I knew exactly what had happened, what had played out and why – but I would not hold it. Instead I would hang on to something that was said about me, and it was this aspect that would have my full attention. From here I would be pulled into the black hole of confusion and doubt, swept to a place far away. I would so easily let go of the Truth that I had felt and would make things complicated, defer to another’s opinion or the majority view, become confused or upset, or even want others to feel it as I did, although they did not.

At times I found myself standing alone, where the Truth that I felt wasn’t confirmed by those around me and it was this aspect for a long time that I found most difficult. 

In the past few months I have been provided with many opportunities to feel the game of self-doubt in its true colours. These opportunities have been quite amazing in fact, but it was a situation between a group of people that provided me with the opportunity to observe and to understand in greater depth just how destructive self-doubt is in our lives. That was the light bulb moment that inspired me to give up the self-doubt game.

I was reading through a Facebook thread and noticed that initially some of the comments were very sure and certain – concrete in fact. Another person came in and planted ‘the seed of doubt’ – a person who is very much respected. As I read through the thread, I began to see how those who had commented initially became more and more wobbly and then other people commented in doubt as well. I was surprised at how easy it was for people to lose their confidence, their authority, their assurance in what they had initially felt. How easy it is for Truth to be buried when it comes to the surface, although it is never hidden for long.

Although for a lot of my life I have been a bit wishy-washy, never sure about myself, and searching for right and wrong instead of what is true, what I have come to know is that when I do feel Truth, I feel it in my body with an assurance and an unshakable knowing. 

Although there is often an opposing energy that comes into play at these times – to tip us over, to make things complicated and to bring in doubt – we must learn to back ourselves all the way and be mindful of our own false beliefs that are always at play.

One of the things that really stood in my way at such times is that I did not want to be irresponsible. I knew that I held hurts, and that at times those hurts tainted my view of things and so I quickly let go of my Truth. I did not want to be arrogant and hold on to what I felt was a Truth, just in case I was completely off track and was fooling myself. For instance, a situation that presented numerous times was where someone would verbally berate me, using particular words in their accusations. If they said I was controlling, for example, then I would bury what I felt was really happening in that moment and go into self-doubt.

It played on my knowing that in the past (or in my life) there were times when I was controlling in my behaviour and this was the very thing that would unravel me, as I began to unreasonably question and interrogate myself about whether I was being controlling again and not open enough to see it. My focus left the initial feeling or reading of the Truth and became all about me. It’s a tricky and underhanded technique, but on me it worked every time.

What I came to learn though is that Truth is a very solid aspect felt within ourselves – a place where there is no emotion, not an ounce. We must hold it firmly and if there is more to feel, life will simply present that to us and all we will need to do is be open for the ‘more’. This allowed me to honour my Truth, but allow expansion and greater understanding of any part of the situation that needed to be learned, should it be offered. In other words, if we don’t learn something in full the first time, there is always another loving opportunity offered, to have another go. This is the blessing!

If we don’t know who we are, if we don’t know that we are Love, then we are easily played with. If we feel we are not worthy, not gorgeous, not enough, not beautiful, not intelligent, not knowing, not graceful, not sexy – or if we simply do not appreciate all that we know ourselves to be – then we provide an opening for the game of self-doubt to play with us, enhancing the doubt in ourselves that already exists.

Honouring the Truth that we feel is not to be arrogant nor fight another with vengeance. It is about being open to hear what another has to say, to be honest about our own reactions, to consider and feel for its Truth in our body, and to be open to learn and understand what the situation offers us in our evolution. We must register the energy that is felt behind all that comes through us and to us. Whilst people can be very influential, charming in fact, and argue a good case, it is the energy in our body that is the marker of Truth.

Self-doubt flows out to affect not only ourselves, but others around us, people who have the tendency to play with self-doubt too. From this, I can see the level of responsibility that is offered. Self-doubt is not a silly little thing that we do and cannot stop – it’s a choice.

From here it is clear that staying steady in the tension, connected to ourselves, and backing what we feel all the way, has never been more important. Self-doubt is not a harmless little thing that we do – it has consequences; it opens the door to thoughts that are dripped in ever so quietly, only to spread through us and out to others too.

Self-doubt is not a little problem: it’s a big problem, and has big ramifications. Self-doubt is rife when we live a life from right and wrong, instead of what is true. It holds us back from expressing who we are, from voicing what we feel and from acting as is needed. A tiny seed of doubt can easily become a forest so thick that we cannot find our way, and that was once the nature of self-doubt for me.

By Maree Savins, Education Outreach Coordinator – Tertiary Education, Australia

Related Reading:
No Doubt
Self-Doubt, Ostriches and Clairsentience
The Importance of Expressing Truth

457 thoughts on “Self-Doubt: It’s not a Little Problem

  1. ‘Instead I would hang on to something that was said about me, and it was this aspect that would have my full attention.’ I don’t think there is one of us on earth that has not experienced that Maree. The presentations given by Serge Benhayon about honesty, openness and expression have hugely helped me with this one. I was recently told something that someone (person A) had said about me which was detrimental about my contribution to someone’s (person B’s) learning. So I said to person B ‘How would you be if I got together with person A and we work out a joint plan to help you?’ And she said ‘yes’. In the course of this I asked Person A what they had said and it was quite different from what had first been reported to me. We ended up with a great relationship, simply from expressing and asking, (without pre-judgment) and then moving on to what was needed to be discussed about the plan. There is no point to holding onto lies, or going into doubt about yourself or others.

    1. Thank you Lyndy, I enjoyed reading your comment and it’s helped me realise that I can choose to have a relationship to the truth of who I am and another is, instead of letting in the wobbles that doubt brings.

  2. Isn’t it self-doubt that allows our world to be as it is? Because we choose to doubt ourselves when we feel something is very accepted as normal is not true to us. In fear of standing out and getting reactions we choose the seemingly easier path of self-doubt yet it is not as innocent as it seems, because it is the thing that keeps lies and suffering at the same time going.

    1. That’s very true Lieke, how often do we feel a true impulse to care for ourselves in some way and then second guess ourselves and let doubt change our decision?

  3. It is great to expose self-doubt for what it actually does – how it in fact separates us from each other and makes us so much less than who we are. The antidote to self-doubt is something I’m still learning, but I have certainly felt how it is something that can only come from within me, from me backing myself to the core. In the solidness that I know I am, I cannot have doubt. I simply observe. So it’s about deepening that connection to that inner solidness so that this becomes the automatic default as it were, and not the choice to go into self-doubt and self-annihilating thoughts.

  4. When we get respect and decency towards our-self our journey starts as the self-doubt drops away. Then as our honesty builds we learn that we have a true responsibility to appreciate all we do. These are the stepping-stones on the way to absolute honesty, which will eventually deliver us the truth that we are all equally the Son of God without any doubts!

  5. Letting go of truth so easily really struck a chord in me, allowing doubt to run amock which when we think about us being a reflection to others. What do they get to feel instead of truth they get doubt and heady nonsense!

    1. I reckon the worst doubt is about our being and true selves, as we can constantly feel we are much less than who we actually are.

  6. Love this the more we know our selves to be love in our body the more easily we can stand in what we feel to be true.

  7. ‘what I have come to know is that when I do feel Truth, I feel it in my body with an assurance and an unshakable knowing.’ This is the marker that we can continuously clock, confirm and appreciate until it becomes our every day.

  8. How true it is that we need to love ourselves to the bone and then, there is no way in the world that self-doubt can enter let alone take hold.

    1. I love this idea to love ourselves to the bone, we all so deserve to do this for ourselves. Then self doubt would not exist as we would know ourselves to such a depth of understanding we would be rock solid in our foundations of truth. As when we are unsure of ourselves the seed of doubt can be sown.

      1. And how would our children be if we raised them this way, to know who they are and love themselves and care for themselves no matter what?

      2. Such a simple approach to life and so much for us all to learn to live it and embrace us all in our true beauty.

  9. “Self-doubt is rife when we live a life from right and wrong, instead of what is true.” How true it is that right and wrong is the door to doubt.

  10. Interesting that one of the thoughts that came up for you was: “I did not want to be irresponsible”. I know that one so well. In fact I seem to come up with many really good sounding ‘conditions’ that hijack my focus to simply express love. Each time the floodgates to self-doubt open because I have simply chosen to focus on an ideal over the truth presented in the moment.

  11. Building a foundation within you of who you are, and who you know yourself to be eliminates self-doubt. That is one of the many gifts of the work offered to humanity by Serge Benhayon.

  12. Self-doubt is like a crack in the pavement that widens and deepens, the more traffic it gets.
    If we build a solid foundation of knowing us in the first place, our concrete will be impenetrable..

  13. Maree, self doubt has affected me hugely for a lot of my life until recently, articles such as this are really supportive and make me realise that it is important to read the energy from another and not always assume that what they are saying is true and what I feel is false, so reading the energy and trusting what I feel as-well as appreciating myself feel key.

  14. Coming back to my centre and reconnecting, sometimes closing my eyes and focussing and dropping deep into my body is the only way i can keep self doubt at bay. If I am in self doubt I am undoubtedly in my head and have let the access to true awareness go.

  15. Dealing with our hurts is so important and being prepared to be honest about how we are really feeling, for otherwise so much ‘stuff’ gets in the way and sabotages our true expression.

    1. Here here Brendan – with self honesty and reflection we can continue to develop a relationship with our true un-tainted selves and not be identified as who we think we are through our hurts.

    2. Awesome wisdom here Rachael, “to develop a relationship with our true un-tainted selves and not be identified as who we think we are through our hurts.”

  16. Discovering that self-doubt is actually a falsity came as such a revelation when I first heard it. Plagued my whole life by it, and aware how debilitating it had been in justifying holding back in so many ways, it was quite liberating in fact to give it no further air-space beyond the nomination of it’s presence whenever I found it at play. Thanks to work presented by Serge Benhayon, this no longer has the sway it once had. Instead I look immediately at where it is I had chosen to step back from being all of myself in a given situation, as it is always in that moment the self-doubting thoughts would begin.

    1. Thanks Jennifer, I liked the term “to give it no further air space” and that you had noticed self doubt comes in after you step back from being all of yourself.

  17. I find when we live from right and wrong we are boxing ourselves in and stopping the natural flow of movements that can then enable us to not only deepen our understanding of a particular situation or behaviour but also halt our evolution. Self doubt can knock us around and tip us off track but it is our presence and connection to self that can brings us back on track and evolve our movements thereafter.

  18. Backing ourselves is important – in the sense of accepting what we feel by just feeling what we feel and not doubting it… there is then no wrong or right because it is about having a relationship with yourself and how can that be wrong on any level…?

    1. Yes Rachel the idea of backing myself is relatively new to me. From a place where I am now valuing myself and feeling that I matter, I like that I now can back myself, even when faced with opposing views.

  19. I find there are many layers to self-doubt, for you can be in the thick of it or it can be something that comes up momentarily and goes away, it is all the same as it delays our own evolution and those of others.

  20. ‘If we don’t know who we are, if we don’t know that we are Love, then we are easily played with.’ – and herein is the responsibility each of us have: to come to know ourselves, and to always be willing to deepen this most precious relationship so that there is an absoluteness in that knowing of who we are. When we take steps towards this, we take these steps for all.

  21. It seems important to know the difference when words are spoken with a desire to cause doubt, or when they are given to you as a confirmation of all that you know. And it is important also to know that no matter in what manner any word is spoken, we always have a choice in how we respond.

    1. Shami this is so true, assessing the quality of energy and intention of the person speaking is vital, as is claiming our ability to know the truth and be willing to stand alone if needed. We do in fact know when someone is not speaking with love and clarity.

  22. ‘A tiny seed of doubt can easily become a forest so thick that we cannot find our way, and that was once the nature of self-doubt for me.’ True Maree, if I let in one thought containing doubt it is spreading through every thought as I don’t choose, claim the quality of my thoughts and this is poisoning every single thought and has the same effect on my body.

  23. Searching for right and wrong instead of what is true, what I have come to know is that when I do feel Truth, I feel it in my body with an assurance and an unshakable knowing. I can relate to both of these sentences Maree, as right and wrong became my way of life until I was shaken from this false sense of how to be in the world and started to feel truth in my body, and then couldn’t deny the difference, as it was absolute.

  24. It’s far better to be sure of yourself and make a few mistakes than to self doubt and constantly be riddled with the tension of getting it wrong or worried about what others think. Within this there is of course discernment but ultimately we learn through our actions and our feelings then become clearer. Trusting in what we know and who we are, is a very powerful thing. If we know our bodies are loving and lovely then doubt becomes obsolete.

  25. Its true when we allow that gap of not being full within ourselves then it allows for something else to come in. Self doubt is an easy one, its time consuming like you describe and takes you into a worm hole so that you don’t focus on what’s needed.

  26. This is everything here.

    “Honouring the Truth that we feel is not to be arrogant nor fight another with vengeance. It is about being open to hear what another has to say, to be honest about our own reactions, to consider and feel for its Truth in our body, and to be open to learn and understand what the situation offers us in our evolution. We must register the energy that is felt behind all that comes through us and to us. Whilst people can be very influential, charming in fact, and argue a good case, it is the energy in our body that is the marker of Truth.”

    Can you imagine how many work place politics could dissolve if the above was applied to the work place?

    1. Hello Fiona, thank you for your comment, it’s absolutely true “It’s amazing the complications and dramas we can create for ourselves when we actually know the truth.” How steady and still we could be if we stayed with the truth.

  27. Maree I am loving your blogs, here is another complete gem. What you share is so timely – time to give up the self doubt for good.

  28. Self doubt is not good, I have found that if you give self doubt in inch, it will take a mile. This isn’t good for anyone and usually over complicates an issue, so agree, it is time to give up self doubt for good.

  29. Doubt is no doubt the played with button that we can so easily fall for when we choose to ‘think’ rather than feel what is going on for us.

  30. Having many experiences now of truth and many of self-doubt I am starting to appreciate truth far more. It has a stilling affect through the whole body whereas self-doubt makes my head spin and body harden!

  31. If I recognise that I’m in self-doubt it helps me to focus on doing something physical, and the way that I’m moving whilst I’m doing it, and then to come back to what I was doubting and re-assess it in a fresh energy.

  32. I only feel doubtful when I try and assess things from my head. When I let go of that and bring things back to my body, I am able to get clarity and feel sure again.

  33. I have been caught in the right and wrong belief system for lifetimes. Hiding behind the vail of wishy washy self doubt, it is a choice and it is a comfort. It might feel like a struggle but in this struggle you can coast and refuse to move through things, after all “you don’t know” or “your not sure” all the classic BS self doubt lines that we spew out in order to avoiding reading life to the depth we know we are capable of.

  34. Waiting for others to confirm us in what we feel will always end in tears. If we weigh so much on that confirmation from others to makes us feel a sense of worth then we would also be at the whim of criticism and judgement. In other words, it goes both ways when we make it about outer validation over the inner.

    1. It doesn’t make sense does it when our body and being is equal to anothers. The confirmation is already there in ourselves.

  35. When we get hurt by something or someone, we often do not want to feel the hurt, and so we bury it deeply within and in order to not feel it any more we must harden or react in some way. Sadly though this does not allow for the healing on offer. Our learning in this is simply to be honest with how it hurts, and allow it to be seen and give ourselves permission to be vulnerable…in this the hurt would remain at the surface and be expressed rather than burried. There is a simple healing in just understanding this alone.

  36. It’s a great term, “to back ourselves”, as this is exactly what’s needed when we feel doubt trying to edge its way in. When we feel the absoluteness of truth that’s our next move, to back ourselves and stay solid in it via the quality we feel in our body. Thanks Maree.

  37. Choosing to look at the basics of who we are and what we come from is a supportive tool when doubt sets in. Knowing we are love and choosing to be just love gives no space for the doubt to mask life when lived with a marker of love in all its movements.

  38. There’s nothing in this world that is less than anything else, yet we have passionately and determinedly manufactured scales where we try to measure ourselves. We think that winning a gold medal or getting an award is everything we dream to do, but from what you share here Maree I can feel it all flows from letting self-doubt in our lives. When you remove this from the picture you get to see the truth: we are all already everything and more than enough.

  39. When we at first feel the truth within our bodies it is our movements that then provide the true outcome or path we take. Backing our initial feeling with a movement that reflects this truth will be great clarity to our lives and also offer us a greater awareness to this knowing and how to back ourselves thereafter.

  40. When I look back on my life I can see how I have let self-doubt hold me back in so many ways and in so many things and I suppose this has been because I have compared myself to others instead of just getting on with it myself.

    1. I had the same experience in the past. Comparison usually took me away from the connection with myself. But there was something else at play , which was lack of responsibility. When I relied in other’s opinions or decisions, I didn’t have to claim myself. Self-doubt became the perfect excuse to not assume my part in life, avoiding both its challenges and blessings. Now I’m claiming the truth that I feel, more and more, and life is full of purpose. Responsibility is a great liberation and confirmation for me now.

  41. Put a room full of people together who don’t have self doubt, and moreover are also able to respect, appreciate and learn from one another, and you have the potential for some very special projects to take place.

  42. Thank you for reminding me that self doubt isn’t something we can dismiss or worse – wear as a badge of honour. I am left with no doubt that self doubt is a choice to be irresponsible.

  43. This is a great blog exposing the little thing that causes havoc in our lives. It’s like a weed that grows ferociously, some times consuming everything in its path.

    But this is the breaker, this is the confirmation or the antidote to it – “I feel it in my body with an assurance and an unshakable knowing” – then nothing can penetrate the truth.

  44. The self doubt ‘drip’ as you’ve described Maree is more insidious than we might think. An interesting question to consider is how many times in the last week alone have you told yourself you weren’t ‘good enough’ to do something, smart enough, strong enough.. Or how any times have you turned down an opportunity out of ‘shyness’, indecisiveness or worry about the outcome? These instances add up, and the insidiousness lies in the fact that we might think our personality is shy and put our potential into a small box of things we are competent at, but this could be a complete lie and something that completely diminishes what we’re actually capable of.

  45. ” Instead I would hang on to something that was said about me, and it was this aspect that would have my full attention.”
    This is a stop sentence, for self doubt cannot exist in one who has let go of living an individual life, instead allowing life to be one of equalness and service to mankind. So how important is it to watch where any aspect of comparison comes to our thoughts, for it is this that seeds self doubt.

  46. A powerful blog Maree. This is exactly the opposite of self-doubt. Self-doubt reduces the power and reflection of the truth we know.

  47. “if we don’t learn something in full the first time, there is always another loving opportunity offered, to have another go. This is the blessing!” – this is absolutely true until we embody it, we are more.

  48. Beautiful Maree, it gets tricky when we rely on feedback from others to tell us if we are good or not, but having no doubt in the body begins with an authority with self permission and acceptance, and then sharing our truth from there.

  49. To make a meaning of something which lacks truth, will not be true and requires more than 1 person to believe in it – otherwise it would be simply seen as what it is.

  50. Self doubt effects us when we doubt our body, our body simply is, and doubt first and foremost is attacking our potential to be universal.

  51. ‘Self-doubt flows out to affect not only ourselves, but others around us, people who have the tendency to play with self-doubt too. From this, I can see the level of responsibility that is offered. Self-doubt is not a silly little thing that we do and cannot stop – it’s a choice.’ I’ve also noticed that when truth is expressed with the absoluteness of knowing this inspires others to reconnect to truth too and a solid platform is built from which to step forth.

  52. Nothing ‘out there’ can deliver and give us anything that is not already ‘in here’. This is why self-doubt is such a game – how can we doubt when we have it all?

  53. Thankyou Maree, this has been a blog that I have come back to a few times and enjoyed the many gems of wisdom in the comments also. Today on my read I felt I could understand on a deeper level what you have shared about the link between doubt and being wrong or right instead of true. There is so much more depth to us than the surface judgement of wrong or right, and I can see if I haven’t taken stock of my own depths, of my being, then doubt can creep in.

  54. doubt affects us in the body first, and makes us feel smaller or reduced before it can enter our thoughts and make us express doubt.

  55. Right and wrong have ruled my world from the moment I left my childhood behind and begun the turmoil of my teenage years. It is a web that I have been now caught in for most of my adult life. I think being true scares the hell out of most of us, as people may not understand or you may be left alone. What I am discovering is that perhaps being alone and having truth, isn’t as bad as having everyone and living restricted in a man-made prison of wrong and right.

  56. The thing is when we live with self-doubt we actually create a life that we will never feel content with as it did not come from our true making. Our qualities are not something we think we want or even choose to have, they are innate – all genuine qualities are equally gorgeous and are needed to bring more care and love to the world.

  57. It’s the unshakeable knowing that we first feel that holds the compass for how we then move from this truth. It is only when we hold back that we choose to accept something that is not of truth and the doubt has time to continue to plant more and more little seeds which only holds us back for a time, because as we learn to appreciate and understand who we are the seeds of truth will prosper and our expression via our movements will mirror this also.

  58. I can relate to being never sure about myself and how right and wrong was my friend so I felt secure (in my head) but now when I connect to my inner knowing I know and feel Truth and it is the appreciation of what lives inside me that makes me more steady and standing up for what I know to be true.

  59. Perhaps our most ingrained seed of doubt is that we doubt ourselves as the true and everlasting Sons of God. To doubt this fact leaves us wide open to doubt, neglect and be naive to who we are and being confident in ourselves.

  60. The tiniest bit of self doubt absolutely erodes appreciation, once our appreciation is eroded our evolution becomes stagnant. As we can no longer feel the genuine beauty and love that is within us.

  61. No amount of justification can prove that self doubt is ok. We all do things that we regret, to adjust these behaviours requires understanding and then the acceptance of responsibility to put in place what is needed to begin to change our behaviour. Self doubt on the other hand absolutely guarantees that nothing changes and that we will repeat the same behaviours over and over again.

  62. Maree, this is really important; ‘We must register the energy that is felt behind all that comes through us and to us. Whilst people can be very influential, charming in fact, and argue a good case, it is the energy in our body that is the marker of Truth.’ I can feel that I have so often be tricked by nice and friendly and also that I have not read situations and appreciated that everything is energy, I have believed what has been said to me, taken things personally and gone into self doubt rather than reading the energy behind what is being said, stayed confident in myself and appreciated myself all the way and trusting what I am feeling and having an understanding of why something is being said to me, is it supportive and loving or is it not.

  63. What an absolute killer self-doubt is, it and second guessing creeps in whenever i’m not feeling connected or steady within myself…and have found the healing modality Esoteric Yoga essential in helping to bring back my self-confidence through developing the quality of presence via innate stillness.

  64. It is easy to see self-doubt as a normal part of being a person. This is because it has become the norm and also because we are not supported by society, education, parenting to know that everything is an energy and we can align to it or not.

  65. Im only just starting to realise how insidious self doubt is, a wise lady once said to me it should not be called ‘self’ doubt as in truth doubt is an energy that is feed to us and never does it belong to us. Doubt will only come in when we have said no to claiming the amazingness we really are.

      1. Well said, Samantha and Andrew. It is important to question what it is we have allowed in that has made us reduce ourselves in any way.

  66. Self doubt is rife if we live in a way that is inconsistent or erratic. It is through consistency that we can build a solid foundation and thus eliminate self doubt.

  67. I love the solidness you bring to self-knowing, that if there is ore and we are open to the more we will be given all the opportunities to feel it and know it fully. Backing ourselves all the way…. awesome

  68. “Self-doubt is not a little problem: it’s a big problem, and has big ramifications.” Oh, can I relate to these words as for so much of my life self-doubt was a constant and very disruptive companion. There would be moments of illumination which I could feel were true but it didn’t take long before the doubt started to niggle away. It was from taking the time to really get to know me and to understand my life that the doubt began to be slowly dismantled and what a huge difference this had made to how I live these days. It still creeps in, like for a moment today, but it doesn’t take me long to clock it, to reconnect to me and claim what it is that I am feeling, and that feeling is the truth.

  69. Perfect timing for me to read this today, Maree, so thank you – “A tiny seed of doubt can easily become a forest so thick that we cannot find our way”. One little seed planted recently is being nipping it in the bud, as I am not going to let it grow into something that takes over.

  70. Yes a virus that can seep in very quickly and before long you are struck down dimming your potential from shining bright.

  71. ‘what I have come to know is that when I do feel Truth, I feel it in my body with an assurance and an unshakable knowing.’ wonderful, and to have this as a marker it is easier to sense the doubt when it is there, however slight and catch it before it escalates.

  72. Self doubt has the potential to destroy us if we let it, as in order to indulge in Self doubt we have to override what we naturally know.

  73. Self-doubt is a killer. If we open the door to it we are gone, lost in indecision. It is much better to back ourselves no matter what as everything is a learning however it goes down.

  74. We often see self doubt as part and parcel of our nature, something that we cannot help but when we see it as something that we are choosing and not something innate in us it takes on a whole new meaning. It asks us to look at why we would want to choose self doubt, what do we get out of it and what are we avoiding by having it. This then becomes a journey in taking responsibility for our actions.

  75. I love your claiming of knowing truth, ‘what I have come to know is that when I do feel Truth, I feel it in my body with an assurance and an unshakable knowing.’

  76. It is an interesting self observation to feel into why we would choose what someone else is thinking rather than feel into what we ourselves feel to be true. From early school years, I remember having self doubt about my answers at school, and changing what i thought so not to stand out or appear dumb. It was a pattern that insidiously ran through my life, on important and less important decisions. We can all rely on what we feel to be true when there is no right or wrong.. it is very liberating, thank you Maree.

  77. The difference between right and true is enormous, but in today’s world they are treated pretty much the same. Doing the right thing is a badge of honour worn by many sincerely committed people who want to live a great life, but is the right thing the true thing? A question to be pondered.

  78. A great expose of self-doubt Maree, something that I have allowed to plague me. I do enjoy observing where it comes in though and more and more I see it for the mean little game it is. Love would never choose this game for us to play.

  79. Oh Boy this is so true
    “Although there is often an opposing energy that comes into play at these times – to tip us over, to make things complicated and to bring in doubt – we must learn to back ourselves all the way and be mindful of our own false beliefs that are always at play.”
    I felt this recently in a role play situation where the energy came through a person to knock me off, to go into doubt. But the steadiness I have built in my body is so strong now I did not waiver. I held to the truth of what my body knows and there was no way I was going to budge. And I’m allowing my self to fully appreciate this knowing I am reconnecting to in my body and it is as strong as the rock of Gibraltar and has always been within me, I had just buried it under layers of self neglect and self doubt.

  80. Maree what you have written here is ‘Gold’ because most of us are riddled with self doubt and I feel this comes from childhood experiences when we feel and know the truth of something but were not not back up or confirmed by our peers. It is a poison that is circulated in our bodies, which we can pass on easily to others just like the common cold.

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