Self-Doubt: It’s not a Little Problem

Recently I have come to see just how insidious self-doubt is and how it plays out. I once viewed self-doubt as something that was just there, that I accepted as a normal part of being a human being and that it was something that I couldn’t change.

I know there have been times in my life when I would feel the Truth of a matter ever so strongly. I knew exactly what had happened, what had played out and why – but I would not hold it. Instead I would hang on to something that was said about me, and it was this aspect that would have my full attention. From here I would be pulled into the black hole of confusion and doubt, swept to a place far away. I would so easily let go of the Truth that I had felt and would make things complicated, defer to another’s opinion or the majority view, become confused or upset, or even want others to feel it as I did, although they did not.

At times I found myself standing alone, where the Truth that I felt wasn’t confirmed by those around me and it was this aspect for a long time that I found most difficult. 

In the past few months I have been provided with many opportunities to feel the game of self-doubt in its true colours. These opportunities have been quite amazing in fact, but it was a situation between a group of people that provided me with the opportunity to observe and to understand in greater depth just how destructive self-doubt is in our lives. That was the light bulb moment that inspired me to give up the self-doubt game.

I was reading through a Facebook thread and noticed that initially some of the comments were very sure and certain – concrete in fact. Another person came in and planted ‘the seed of doubt’ – a person who is very much respected. As I read through the thread, I began to see how those who had commented initially became more and more wobbly and then other people commented in doubt as well. I was surprised at how easy it was for people to lose their confidence, their authority, their assurance in what they had initially felt. How easy it is for Truth to be buried when it comes to the surface, although it is never hidden for long.

Although for a lot of my life I have been a bit wishy-washy, never sure about myself, and searching for right and wrong instead of what is true, what I have come to know is that when I do feel Truth, I feel it in my body with an assurance and an unshakable knowing. 

Although there is often an opposing energy that comes into play at these times – to tip us over, to make things complicated and to bring in doubt – we must learn to back ourselves all the way and be mindful of our own false beliefs that are always at play.

One of the things that really stood in my way at such times is that I did not want to be irresponsible. I knew that I held hurts, and that at times those hurts tainted my view of things and so I quickly let go of my Truth. I did not want to be arrogant and hold on to what I felt was a Truth, just in case I was completely off track and was fooling myself. For instance, a situation that presented numerous times was where someone would verbally berate me, using particular words in their accusations. If they said I was controlling, for example, then I would bury what I felt was really happening in that moment and go into self-doubt.

It played on my knowing that in the past (or in my life) there were times when I was controlling in my behaviour and this was the very thing that would unravel me, as I began to unreasonably question and interrogate myself about whether I was being controlling again and not open enough to see it. My focus left the initial feeling or reading of the Truth and became all about me. It’s a tricky and underhanded technique, but on me it worked every time.

What I came to learn though is that Truth is a very solid aspect felt within ourselves – a place where there is no emotion, not an ounce. We must hold it firmly and if there is more to feel, life will simply present that to us and all we will need to do is be open for the ‘more’. This allowed me to honour my Truth, but allow expansion and greater understanding of any part of the situation that needed to be learned, should it be offered. In other words, if we don’t learn something in full the first time, there is always another loving opportunity offered, to have another go. This is the blessing!

If we don’t know who we are, if we don’t know that we are Love, then we are easily played with. If we feel we are not worthy, not gorgeous, not enough, not beautiful, not intelligent, not knowing, not graceful, not sexy – or if we simply do not appreciate all that we know ourselves to be – then we provide an opening for the game of self-doubt to play with us, enhancing the doubt in ourselves that already exists.

Honouring the Truth that we feel is not to be arrogant nor fight another with vengeance. It is about being open to hear what another has to say, to be honest about our own reactions, to consider and feel for its Truth in our body, and to be open to learn and understand what the situation offers us in our evolution. We must register the energy that is felt behind all that comes through us and to us. Whilst people can be very influential, charming in fact, and argue a good case, it is the energy in our body that is the marker of Truth.

Self-doubt flows out to affect not only ourselves, but others around us, people who have the tendency to play with self-doubt too. From this, I can see the level of responsibility that is offered. Self-doubt is not a silly little thing that we do and cannot stop – it’s a choice.

From here it is clear that staying steady in the tension, connected to ourselves, and backing what we feel all the way, has never been more important. Self-doubt is not a harmless little thing that we do – it has consequences; it opens the door to thoughts that are dripped in ever so quietly, only to spread through us and out to others too.

Self-doubt is not a little problem: it’s a big problem, and has big ramifications. Self-doubt is rife when we live a life from right and wrong, instead of what is true. It holds us back from expressing who we are, from voicing what we feel and from acting as is needed. A tiny seed of doubt can easily become a forest so thick that we cannot find our way, and that was once the nature of self-doubt for me.

By Maree Savins, Education Outreach Coordinator – Tertiary Education, Australia

Related Reading:
No Doubt
Self-Doubt, Ostriches and Clairsentience
The Importance of Expressing Truth

632 thoughts on “Self-Doubt: It’s not a Little Problem

  1. I can vouch that if any lack of self worth shows its face within me then I am an easy target for self doubt to enter. There is an area of my life that I am working with – feels old where a lack of confidence in what I do suddenly appears out from nowhere trying its best to diminish me. It brings up much sadness in how I have allowed it to have its wicked way with me but what is supporting me is feeling it bit by bit when it arises and letting it go, otherwise I sense it festering within my body.

  2. Maree love that phrase you said ‘self-doubt is a seed to a forest you can’t find your way out off’ – This is so spot on, the minute we go into any self-doubt it snow balls without you even realising it is doing such a thing.

  3. Self-doubt is massive and can and does stop so many of us from giving something a go incase it will not work, or in case we are not good enough. The more we appreciate that nothign is ever put before us that we are laready equipped to deal with the more we will let go of the notion of doubt thinking we cannot do it.

  4. The more I feel connected with myself and experience the quality of stillness that supports my confidence and capability, I find there is little or no space for self-doubt.

  5. When we know ourselves through our essence, and consistently live from our essence self-doubt cannot have a hold on us, however as soon as we fall for an image or a picture of how something should be we lose the connection to our essence and self-doubt steps in.

  6. “At times I found myself standing alone, where the Truth that I felt wasn’t confirmed by those around me and it was this aspect for a long time that I found most difficult.” We just want to be part of the collective, yet that ‘want’ can lead us away from the Truth and therefore being OK with standing up and standing out offers everyone a healing not just ourselves.

  7. Self doubt is indeed an insidious and self harming behaviour that we would do well to not engage with. By moving in a way that keeps us connected to who we are, we can start to build a body that has no space for thoughts such as self doubt.

  8. Not being able to see the forest for the trees, is a lack of clarity born from not confirming and expressing the truth of who we are and letting the seeds of self doubt enter and fester.

  9. I had not made the connection between right and wrong and self-doubt before, but it makes a lot of sense. Why else would we doubt unless we were terrified of getting it wrong, making the wrong decision or letting someone down. Instead of wrong and right, making decisions based on truth means it doesn’t really matter what happens, at the end there is either confirmation or a lesson well learnt.

  10. I often find myself with a feeling inside, a truth that is obvious to me, and yet the thing that holds me back is that speck of self doubt that says ‘are you sure? what if they disagree? or it hurts them to hear it?’ So many little voices that keep the truth from being shared, and when that happens everyone loses out.

  11. Self Doubt is the demon within that knows exactly when to pull the card out and dangle it in our faces. No matter how obvious or subtle it is Self-Doubt is a disempowering manipulative energy that thinks it is in the drivers seat. Remembering that we can open the door and get rid of it and say no to such thoughts is a matter of moving in a away that is precise and sure of who we are.

  12. Doubt and self-doubt especially is massive. It can be very inhibiting stopping us from doing things we naturally would do or say. I have found this not only directly affects me but also has major knock on effects for others. The more I honour myself and what I am sensing the more I trust the knowingness I have and the less reserved and willing I am to doubt myself. It makes a major difference to the way I feel when I simply express and honour myself and everyone else gets to benefit.

  13. There is no doubt that self-doubt is not a little problem. There is no doubt either that truth does not offer space for self-doubt. Self-doubt is a pattern of movement that originates in a body that expresses in time and not in space.

    1. I can feel the truth in what you shared there Eduardo – that is expresses in time and not space. I can also feel the need to control, which is also operating in time is an enabler of that self-doubt.

  14. We all have experiences of feeling things with an unshakable knowing. Are they fleeting and rare, or do we build up a reservoir and a relationship with our feelings where that becomes the bedrock from which we make our decisions?

  15. Closing the door through which self-doubt wheedles its way into our lives is a really loving and responsible thing to do… keeping the decks clear for us to expand into the full expression of the innate qualities we are.

  16. “Self-doubt is not a little problem: it’s a big problem, and has big ramifications.” Indeed it does Maree. Self-doubt is often perceived or associated with someone who appears to be meek or lacking in confidence and therefore exceptions can be made for their lack of clarity; self doubt in fact carries a much deeper and insidious energy that has far reaching effects and consequences on other people as well as ourselves.

  17. I agree with you Maree about holding onto a particular thought that was cursing towards yourself, instead of moving in a way that you knew how what the all-knowing of a movement in the body was — if you are doubting move in a way that is NOT.

  18. Other people’s comments that are not supportive can get to us when we are not 100% solid with who we are. If we hold a solid foundation and appreciation of ourselves then it is easier and clearer to see where that comment is coming from and what has instigated such a conversation from them, and then we can stay solid in ourselves and not get affected. So in effect any comment that is unsupportive, can act as a way for us to deepen our understanding of others, and/or offer us an opportunity to grow more as it shows where we hold a weak ‘spot’ in terms of how we can be knocked off. A very valuable learning in deed.

    1. Yes, Henrietta, I do love it when an apparently ‘negative’ event becomes a rich learning and understand that this happens when I stay open and do not react to what is going on around me.

  19. Self doubt is a common issue for many of us – and it is a strong form of sabotage. A way for us to hold back our full potential and really shine.

  20. The anti-dote to self doubt is awareness. With awareness we spot the tiniest tendril of self-doubt sneaking in to unbalance us and can choose to connect to what we know is true and unshakeable within ourselves.

  21. Hesitancy and self doubt go hand in hand and both equally destructive. To know something to be true from our inner-core builds an inner foundation that is steady and settled.

    1. And it is only by expressing it that we can build that relationship between what we feel and truth. Its worth taking the time, making the effort and expressing everything we can.

      1. Thank you Simon, it certainly is worth taking time and making the effort to express what has to be said even if it means going beyond limits we’ve placed on ourselves. The consequences of holding back, leaves the relationship problem unresolved and stuck in an ever revolving wheel.

  22. I can really see how self-doubt can be a choice when I don’t want to be claiming my truth when no one is feeling the same way. And in a world full of problems, complication and dynamics this happens often. It is great to be aware of this and that it is simple, it is about choosing to stay steady instead of choosing to get either recognition or to not stand out too much being different.

  23. It is interesting how self-doubt can be reinterpreted as meaning that one is being self-aware, or conscious of oneself and their actions, or humble. And so it is vitally important that the real quality of doubt is exposed as you have done, so that we can feel its real affects and not dismiss them under a false banner of humbleness. Self-doubt is destructive, whereas humbleness is a divine joy to experience.

  24. I’ll be the first to put up my hand and admit that I have self doubts…but really when you think of it, it is quite ridiculous for us to have doubts at all…for if we truly were to connect to the beauty and wisdom that we are within, then there would be no room for doubts. And just like a wise young man said in another blog, it is like imagining how crazy it would be if the sun and the moon or the stars were to have self doubts about shining on day or night…

  25. In those moments when we feel so lost, or so alone or so full of doubts, we are probably much closer to the truth than at any other time, and the energy is simply configured in a way to make us not see this hence the doubts, and the feeling of alienation etc. It helps to clock this and then just breath and know that the Truth lies within and it is simply for us to reach for this and keep deepening our relationship with it/with us.

  26. ‘self doubt…..holds us back from expressing who we are, from voicing what we feel and from acting as is needed.’ When we are in self doubt we have already lost ourselves, we have already stepped away from expressing the love that we are. Can we jump back on track by allowing ourselves to reconnect in stillness and start again ? I love how several have commented on our honouring of ourselves and how this builds trust and allows us to stay steady in our own knowing.

  27. This is a powerful blog Maree debasing the evil of self-doubt, the fact is we are not born with self-doubt it has been fed to us and can spiral out of control if we don’t catch it early on. Staying connected to my body is key as self-doubt cannot exist when I live and move in a true way, it is only when the mind takes over that it has an entry point.

    1. When I was little little I did not suffer from self doubt… there was a feeling and it was expressed (even if that was a tantrum!). While not pretty, this is at least a connected way of living to how we are feeling. However, over time I have learnt to control, submit, placate, act nice, pretend etc all of which remove me one step at a time from how I am truly feeling.

  28. Appreciate every little and big thing about ourselves and stand by it. What if we were not perfect and not absolutely true? I’d still stand by myself and get to learn the impact of such a choice, it is still learning from my body, I’d say yes to that and there is so much to appreciate just in this choice. Doubt has no room in a body where we take responsibility in our choices of what we feel. If we lose the awareness that we are amazing and grand but can sometimes make unloving choices, just look at nature and it’s simplicity is there to remind us what Truth is again and that Life moves in cycles.

  29. Instead of battling self doubt, a better question would be how to avoid self doubt, as it is not part of our nature. Very simply: be in the body, because while in the body confidence is a given. The body doesn’t doubt, the head does. What then helps me to build confidence is, for example, to go the gym or have a swim every day.

  30. I know that wobble you speak of Maree. When a seed of doubt is planted we tend to look outside of ourselves for approval or verification instead of reading and assimilating the situation from within and according to our own innate values. Great blog.

  31. Self doubt is not there when I connect in my heart.
    Then I feel the love for everybody too and know my truth.

  32. Being aware of how we can go into perhaps old behaviours such as right or wrong is huge. I immediately back off, let down my guard and respond with with an acceptance. It is not that self-doubt has entered, I present truth which is delivered with love and not with an arrogance and hardness associated with being right and the other wrong.

  33. To build a relationship with the quiet, sure, absolute knowing of truth when we feel it, means that when doubt tries to get a look in, our bodies show very clearly the chaos, waver and confusion this causes. I am very keen on giving truth its deserved air time.

  34. We think that self-doubt is part and parcel of who we are but it is not. The moment that I realised that self-doubt was a choice and not something that I was born with was a very liberating moment.

    1. For me too Elizabeth,… an absolute confirmation of the truth that we are by far so much greater and grander than what we are led to believe.

    2. So true Elizabeth self-doubt is definitely not a part of who we truly are. Yet we can live and walk in such a way that we are constantly putting ourselves down, let this go and it feels like there is nothing stopping us. We can then doubt thsi spaciousness or embrace it – the choice is always ours!

    3. Yes, so important to understand that self-doubt is not a part of us and neither are any emotions, it is something we choose to go into in reaction to what we are feeling, as we are not supported in just feeling what we are feeling and that there is no need of jumping onto the band wagon, but that it is absolutely fine and truly supportive if we stay the observer and just feel.

  35. You describe well how busy we keep ourselves with all the emotions that we think are normal in a human life. But what if emotions actually are not part of our natural state of being but we have made them so? What if feeling is what we are super good at and there is no need for going into what we are feeling but simply can hold ourselves in our stillness and feel what there is to feel without having to go into what is being felt, in other words the emotions around us?

  36. ‘Self-Doubt is a choice’. That line stood out like a rock. A reminder for me that when self-doubt creeps in I should check in with my body. What do I feel there? Often I find a reaction, a hurt and not trusting my own feelings anymore. What is here at offer, is a great question, both for me and the other(s) to learn. What helps me is this connection with my body ánd connecting deeper with the other as well. Then a meaningful conversation can turn the self-doubt into an evolving moment.

  37. What you have written here Maree rings true to me
    “Whilst people can be very influential, charming in fact, and argue a good case, it is the energy in our body that is the marker of Truth.”
    As so often I have given up what feels true in my body because I have given my power away to the other person thinking they know more than me.

  38. Maree, reading your article I can feel that there is always ‘the initial feeling or reading of the Truth’. This for me is very clear. I can either stay with this truth or go into my head – into self-doubt and make things confusing and self bashing. I am learning to stay with my reading and what I initially felt was true and this makes life and situations much more simple and clear. It is trusting and honouring these readings and feelings that is key.

  39. I was at a walking therapies group recently where we had to pick someone in front of us and catch up with them. Something that I noted with this exercise was that it was very clear of the people in front of me, who it was that I was catching up with. It wasn’t a mental process but a knowing. There was no self-doubt at all and no process of deciding. It was simply known. The other very interesting thing that I observed was that if I had any inkling of doubt or if I questioned my choice at all, I wasn’t able to catch up with the person in front. When I knew and went for it, no problem at all. Great exercise that presented much more that I could have ever thought.

    1. In a dream last night I was given insight on ‘hesitancy’ confirmed by what you say here, “if I had any inkling of doubt or if I questioned my choice at all, I wasn’t able to catch up with the person in front.” Self doubt is insidious it allows us to take our eye off the ball of self advancing and re-uniting with God.

    2. There is a purposefulness in the true practice of The Walking Therapy, introduced by Serge Benhayon, that knocks out any notion of self doubt.

  40. ‘ when I do feel Truth, I feel it in my body with an assurance and an unshakable knowing. ‘ – This is so spot on and what I have come to realise with the support of Serge Benhayon is that it is the daily choices that I make which supports the truth to be felt. Bringing it back to being really present in my body, and discerning what is in front of me. We do innately know exactly with precision what feels true or not, we just like to go into a game so we can make it all about us.

    1. ‘being really present in my body’. This is beautifully simple and super profound in its impact… a gorgeous invitation to deepen our awareness of our bodies as we go about our days.

  41. Beautiful Maree, shared from the bone, the deceit that doubt is.
    And so this shows us where honoring our truth is about.
    Another monumental quote of your blog:
    “if we don’t learn something in full the first time, there is always another loving opportunity offered, to have another go. This is the blessing”
    This takes away the deceit of – regret. Thank you for this clarity.

  42. Doubt is the greatest destabiliser to truth. For the moment we do not appreciate that we are a Son of God, we open ourselves wide up to all the whims that throw the son of man off the path back home to his/her heart and all the divinity that pulses there.

  43. Allowing ourselves to go down the route of self-doubt and always double guessing ourselves can be torturous and nothing short of abusive – it leads nowhere and in fact will become the norm if we go down that route. Going to what we know to be true will always combat the doubt.

  44. It’s true. Self-doubt is insidious. It can destruct an otherwise solid foundation within us, and can have an effect on how others see us too. If we wobble then people lose their trust in us. It is a clever game by the spirit to keep us small and unsteady.

  45. Yes indeed… As soon one sees the word insidious you know that there is a real problem… And there certainly is with self-doubt… A plague that affects so many people.

  46. If we let doubt play us we won’t be able to stand by our truth as with that we open the doors to right and wrong and then the possibilities are endless. But when we simply go by what we deep down feel to be true, we give ourselves a solid ground we can stand on and we get to know ourselves better or maybe deeper is a better word here, and with every step more we can build on this foundation, seeing and understanding more and becoming more aware of what is all at play.

  47. I love this every time I read it, so powerful what you share.
    “Truth is a very solid aspect felt within ourselves”
    Truth is an all knowing that confirms we are an equal part of the universe.

  48. I agree self-doubt is not a little problem by the mere and simple fact that so many of us carry it with us wherever we go. We let self-doubt easily creep in thus it is a big factor and influence in our lives.

  49. I find doubt makes me question pretty much everything I have felt and then I go to others to ask what I already know and basically want them to say what I have felt which may not always be the case, so I find things can get confusing and all that happens is I end up going in a spin of confusion. Whereas when I honour what I feel and go with it regardless of the outcome I get to feel and understand for myself and so can learn rather than simply being at the whim of others.

  50. When I remember that doubt is the very thing that comes in to knock us off from our sureness and knowing of truth, it has much less power over me and I am more understanding with myself (rather than adding self-critique onto the doubt 😐).

  51. ‘From here it is clear that staying steady in the tension, connected to ourselves, and backing what we feel all the way, has never been more important.’ It is getting used to the tension and to feel the power of our stillness, no reason to fight and or be challenged by ‘right and wrong’.

  52. Thank you for writing this Maree, if I could say I was a master at one thing it would be self-doubt and this has been great ammunition against an affliction I thought I didn’t have much control over.

  53. It is true self-doubt is not a little problem but we are not really honest with ourselves and willing to stop and question where the self doubt came from. We question the truth but we don’t question the self doubt

      1. We certainly do like to doubt Esther – I so agree. Taking the position of ‘doubt’ gives the human spirit its much needed prop of identification so that it can stay individualised and prevented from re-joining the Soul. Doubting looks like such a ‘harmless’ stance – who in this world would look at someone claiming to be in ‘doubt’ and say ‘that is abuse, on yourself and others’? Very few. But in fact doubt is very abusive and leads to a downhill slippery slope that annihilates true power.

  54. ‘when I do feel Truth, I feel it in my body with an assurance and an unshakable knowing’ this is true, we can all feel it but often use our minds to override it, giving more attention to what others say rather than trusting our inner wisdom and what we feel.

  55. Looking at the bigger picture usually puts me on track. I can get caught in the details and lose my way or begin to feel overwhelmed by how much there is to unpick but by taking a few steps back ironically the overwhelm usually subsides and different aspects present themselves and if I allow it they present to me a starting point where before I thought I had none.

  56. “We must learn to back ourselves all the way and be mindful of our own false beliefs that are always at play.” Backing what we know to be true is absolute paramount if we want to stand strong in a world that can often be vicious and complicated. Backing ourselves, knowing our selves and standing strong in our authority keeps life simple and inspires others around us to do the same.

  57. Every time we listen to what we feel and act on it, we affirm the truth of what we feel and build self worth and self confidence, closing the door to self doubt. It then becomes far less about needing confirmation from the outside – i.e. another’s response – because we’re more in tune with and able to read the truth we feel and know in our own bodies.

      1. Yes, not at all productive but very limiting. It is a wonder that we haven’t yet declared it as not of value for the human race. But then it shows how very much we use it to have something to stand in our way.

  58. When someone’s intention is being exposed and they are not willing to be honest about it, then they shift focus to the person that senses it and debases them by saying something to personally bring the other down. It then depends on if we react or not, to whether we come down or stay with the knowing we have.

  59. It’s easy to get wrapped up in knots in our head so to speak, thinking about what we consider to be the right or wrong thing to do or say but bringing our awareness back to what we are sensing in our whole body gives us marker for truth, a sense or knowing of the next step to take or awareness of what is needed from us in a situation…

  60. “I would so easily let go of the Truth that I had felt and would make things complicated, defer to another’s opinion or the majority view…” – I can very much relate to this experiencing of self-doubt Maree… so essentially the more we can hold on and trust what it is that we feel then the less we are swayed by adding metaphorically speaking ‘too many cooks’ in the kitchen that ultimately are adding in ingredients we really do not need to spoil the original version we’d been working on.

  61. “In other words, if we don’t learn something in full the first time, there is always another loving opportunity offered, to have another go. This is the blessing!” – This is a real key to allowing ourselves the space to come to a complete truth while we fully honour what we have felt from our body without needing to be right or have the whole picture immediately. Needing to know the whole dynamic of a situation or why something happened and I reacted to it based on some hurt has held me back in the past from simply trusting my initial feeling and understanding that even if I get it wrong, I will learn something in the process.

  62. If we lived a life that was consistantly true, we would never allow self doubt to be present. To not have self doubt in our lives, is a game changer.

  63. Maree, this is interesting; ‘Self-doubt is rife when we live a life from right and wrong, instead of what is true. It holds us back from expressing who we are, from voicing what we feel and from acting as is needed.’ Reading this I can feel how right and wrong beliefs are that are imposed on us, this can be from parents or from school or society in general, they feel like a set of rules that say this is ok, this isn’t. This is very different to feeling energy and using what we feel as our guide instead of trying to please and get things ‘right’.

  64. Self doubt occurs when we dishonour ourselves so whenever we go into doubt we need to go behind it and see where we have dishonoured ourselves. Doing this then empowers us to become more knowing of ourselves and when we know ourselves there is no place for self doubt.

    1. What really cut self-doubt for me was the understanding that if I am in true connection and then doubt it, really I am dishonouring God. For some reason that felt really awful whereas I had allowed myself in the past to dishonour myself. The more I connect to my purpose here on earth and my connection to Divinity, the less I allow or indulge in that dismissive and disempowering energy of self-doubt.

  65. It is so true that we set ourselves up for self-doubt in advance when we don’t hold steady in our knowing and our livingness and flow of a true way of being. It is a momentum but we can also choose to live a deeply confirming life in the flow of all that we are.

  66. I don’t feel as though I have ever felt not in this life time so clearly the energy of self doubt as I do today but I see that as a good thing to be able to observe exactly where I am in this moment knowing that from this moment onwards the energy of self doubt is dissipating and clearing leaving a greater sense of clarity within my body to take with me into my day. Everything is an unfolding from one moment to the next.

  67. It is so true, the living life from a position of right or wrong rather than what is energetically true is an invitation for self doubt to enter, and play havoc with the absoluteness of who we truly are and know ourselves to be.

  68. Doubt can come in so quickly and easily especially when we read or feel something we may not want to. And the may not want to simply comes because it does not fit the picture or ideal we have of another or the situation etc.. I know when it starts to come in and I stop myself and go ok so what have I really just felt then I get to see underneath it, the whole clearer picture and the doubt no longer grabs me. After all we are all Gods here on Earth and so we are all knowing which means in truth we cannot have any doubt just a denying of who we are.

  69. Knowing the truth of a situation is something that comes from my whole body I find – it’s not just a mental thing and so if I dis-regard my body in the seemingly smaller or less significant moments that lead up to the time when I really want to know the truth about something then it’s like I’ve undermined my ability to clearly connect with it in the way that I moved leading up to that time… And so really there are no insignificant moments…

  70. To live life from the positions of right or wrong not only allows an opening for self doubt but is a fertile ground for ignorance to flourish where we do not consider the whole and can’t feel the truth of things.

  71. It’s true Maree, in my case how I have let self-doubt be my 1st go-to in any given situation if someone comes back to me with seemingly more assurance and greater authority. In those moments, I haven’t backed myself and stood by what I felt was initially true letting myself think the other person knows more. But I have found the more I honour myself and what I feel the easier it has become to express what I feel. The beauty of this is that even if I turn out to be wrong, I find there is no sting because in that moment I allow a learning to take place.

  72. Recently, self-doubt was described to me as an energetic poison that enters your body when you engage in a certain way of conversing with yourself. And as I would not like to actively poison myself with energy, there has been an exploration in to what is there, or what would life look like without self-doubt. And honestly I do not know, which, if the energetic poison equation is true, means that I am very used to a certain flow of poisonous energy in my body, so much so that to be without it seems foreign. This is a very sobering realisation.

    1. Yes, the way we choose to converse with ourselves is definitely very important and way before we come to converse with anyone else, for that conversation and tone we take with ourselves can be 24/7 and so has a huge influence, it is so important to make that a true conversation that supports and confirms us to know who we truly are.

  73. It feels like self doubt enters through our movements, if we walk less than who we are then we can provide the opening for those thoughts to come in yet if we move with all of who we are then we close the door on this and walk in the knowing.

  74. It’s amazing how much we build up the idea of self-doubt and anxiety as just a part of who we are, something we have to put up with and live with because its just who we are. I have come to realise that actually these feelings are a choice, a reaction and not in fact who I am – when those feeling make themselves known, rather than just giving in and letting them take over I remember that there is an inner essence more true and solid within me I can connect to

  75. Living in a way where everything is “right” versus “wrong” is a complete set up for us to experience self doubt as we are constantly in the stress of knowing which is which. When we live from our body and allow ourselves to be guided by it we realise that we know what is true and this brings a great simplicity to life.

    1. It is very cool to expose the falsehood and superficiality of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ and how they keep us in an exhausting struggle as an individual, rather than in the grand truth of our learning and evolving together.

  76. It has been a very familiar behaviour of mine to abuse myself with self doubt and place what another says before what I feel especially when they are very much respected but this is changing as the people I once had respect for or in truth compared myself to I now feel equal to, a beautiful change where I now honour myself instead of allowing self doubt to enter what I know to be true.

  77. To honour what we feel is to honour what is true or not. When we confirm and keep choosing to live what is not true, allows the space for self doubt to enter and flourish.

  78. It is interesting how often we rely on outside influences whether it be what we think is the right thing to do because of what we have heard or are expected to do or what a person has told us. Yet we can all feel and innately know what is true to our bodies. Yet we so often find we lack the confidence to go through with what we have felt and know will be the best thing to do. But the more we honour what we feel and our body the more we develop and build the confidence simply by being present and aware to what is going on and saying yes to the body and what it has sensed regardless of what another has said. Building this connection within and honouring ourselves means self-doubt thoughts no longer have a bed to lie in, they can be there but do not plant their all consuming seeds.

  79. When we dishonour what we feel and ignore what our body is telling us then it is easy to be in self doubt. Honour ourselves and self doubt no longer exists.

    1. Well said Elizabeth. I have found the same that when I honour myself and what I am feeling then there is little or no room for self doubt to creep in. When I do not confirm and go with what I feel then either the thoughts can creep in or someone else may say something which can nudge me into the doubt, then it is like being in an eternal washing machine going around and around until I see the truth again.

  80. “From here it is clear that staying steady in the tension, connected to ourselves, and backing what we feel all the way, has never been more important” super wise words Maree and ones that I will take with me into my day.

  81. I am feeling a truth that has always been there but have avoided because of the responsibility that came with it. The truth feels solid and absolute and although there are avenues of self doubt to creep in it is the absolute knowing I am connecting to, holding onto and saying yes to. It is the foundation subtle yet strong that is set in place that supports my every movement to unfold and expand…

  82. Yes, I agree self-doubt is insidious. It can look like humility, and it can look like one is taking care not to be pushy or arrogant – in fact it can have the guise of many things . . . but it is one of the most destructive acts done to oneself on earth. The emotion of self-doubt sends lethal poison into one’s system as well as keeping oneself hanging (while hanging oneself!) It is time to say ‘no’ to self doubt, and also time to say ‘yes to the openness of observation – the observation of what is happening energetically in our lives.

    1. ‘It can look like humility, and it can look like one is taking care not to be pushy or arrogant’ I can relate to this Lindy, the perfect hidden excuse for self-doubt but inside building resentment of never been heard, blaming others but also myself for not expressing my truth.

      1. How well-spotted Annelies! Doubt is a false mask which covers a rats’ nest of emotions. And the funny thing is we all feel this every moment – we all know when these games are being played and what it feels like – how can the human spirit be so absurd as to run around looking like a rat and calling out to everyone ‘Look at me I’m a wonderful kookaburra’.

  83. I realise that doubt for me played a big part in childhood when I time and again I dismissed what I felt and didn’t honour what was true for me.

    1. I did this for most of my life, giving my power to others as a result. Over the last few years I have been building trust in myself and what I feel and so the doubt diminishes.

    1. Yes I can see how holding on to right and wrong goes hand in hand with self-doubt. We then look at things through the lens of right and wrong and it taints what is really going on and we don’t read it clearly.

  84. Even though it is very logical that it is either truth or doubt, doubt lets everything appear so very complex and complicated – so I love how you bring us back to truth. It is simple, we know the truth, and we must, otherwise we couldn’t doubt ourselves, but instead of staying with what we know is true we meander around and make things complicated.
    This was a very much needed read for me tonight. Thank you Maree.

  85. When we see and understand that self doubt is a choice it takes on a whole new meaning for us because if it is a choice then we can always choose something other than self doubt.

  86. Warning bells should go off when we start to feel or hear doubt in our minds. There is nothing unsure when you are connected to your body. Doubt is something we let in that takes us out of this solid connection and as you have shared, causes us to go into a black hole of complication and inertia.

    1. The alarm bells and clear and loud when we start to listen to them. I find there is a moment when it can catch me and take me astray but if i catch the doubt coming in I can immediately stop it. It feels so freeing to know no matter what happens there is always an opportunity to learn and evolve from whatever is before me, so why waste time doubting?!

  87. Thank you Maree, it’s true that self doubt, even in the smallest instance opens us to up a kind of poisoning energy, an energy that diminishes us if we do not confirm the truth, including the truth of the beauty we are within. A powerful line “Self-doubt is rife when we live a life from right and wrong, instead of what is true.”

  88. If we are not prepared to back ourselves we will inevitably doubt ourselves and probably look for reassurance and validation from outside of ourselves..

    1. Very true, the more we back oursleves and trust what we know to be true the stronger the feelings will be, so much so it is painful to ignore them and go against what we have felt, even if it may at the time like putting a lot of trust into the unknown I know for myself whenever I have fully let go and gone ahead with what I have known to be true I have never been let down and often very pleasantly surprised by what has come before me.

  89. The most effective way I have cut self-doubt in my life is by choosing to move my body in a true way, when I feel the quality of this I know that whatever I am saying or doing is true and no self-doubt exists.

  90. What comes to me after reading this is a resolve not to give my power away to anyone, but to trust in myself and keep building a solid platform within myself that I can trust in. Then I will not be hurt or react when someone I look up to or is close to me isn’t having such a great moment – knowing that we can all have ‘not so great moments’ anyway. With the more consistent I am the more I will realise when I too am having a wobble so as not to trust myself blindly. When I expect something from others I set myself up.

    1. Building a platform inside yourself is indeed the way to go Shirley-Ann. It is a platform inside your body where confidence is a given, because you deeply know you are beautiful, what ever you do or do not know.

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