729 thoughts on “Time, Life and Me – Now One and the Same”

1. This is such a great observation, ‘Nobody ever questioned why life was like this, living in a state of overwhelm, a constant feeling like there was never enough time in the day to get things done, all part of life, a cycle you could say that was never ending. Accepted by many, including myself for a very long time, albeit begrudgingly, but nonetheless we seemed to partake in it, using any opportunity to complain but never actually doing anything to change it.’ Especially the words but never actually doing anything about it, the martyr in us that then seeks the reward because look at all we have accomplished. That is until Serge Benhayon came along and showed humanity that there is another way to live that is not in the overwhelm of life in general. To take on board and make the changes that are suggested is to open up life to be free of the drudgery of the doing and the exhaustion that goes with this and really live life to the full and enjoy every moment of what the day unfolds.

2. I agree with you Ariana the stress lingers in our bodies and builds up so that we get exhausted and then use coffee, sugar, drugs, and alcohol to get through the day which puts an even greater strain on our bodies. They were not made or designed to be in constant nervous energy.

3. Saying ‘no’ was something I even not consider in the past. Life was all about ticking the boxes, being there for everyone every time was needed with no consideration of how I was feeling. Now, by deepening in my relationship with my body I can feel the number of rules, expectations of demands of the outside world. However, I’m the only one responsible to choose the way I deal with everything around me.
   Saying ‘no’ to everything that is not honoring to my body is very key, my days feel more spacious and joyful in this way. This opens me up to a new possibility of honoring myself more often, by feeling what’s the natural pace of my body instead of being good and ticking the boxes based on the expectations of others.

   The beauty of this is that there is no ending point to be, no aim to achieve but a constant deepening with the quality of Love we can bring in to our everyday life.

4. Life is about the energy first and foremost, ‘Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.’

5. Henrietta I am just starting to appreciate the quality of what I do rather than just trying to do everything that is required of me. If I stay with the quality of being me with everything I do it seems to open up more space and so more gets done without the trying.

   1. The quality we do things in is super important for all, ‘ticking the boxes and getting everything done, never stopping to consider the quality in which things were being done, and how I was in each moment or the impact this had on my body.’

6. Nicole, I was talking to a friend recently and by being honest about how I was feeling I discovered that I work hard running around trying to be all things to all people as a way of valuing myself, after all I must have some value after all look at the work output. Running around trying to be all things to all people is exhausting and it means I’m not really taking care of myself and if I don’t really care for myself then the care I give others is compromised.

7. No wonder so many get exhausted, when we go at jobs without considering how our body feels. Life becomes a struggle rather than a flow. What energy do we choose to align to?

8. ‘It was more important to get the job done than to consider how it left me feeling.’ This took me back to how I used to do and achieve things, with little regard for my body and how I felt. Such a difference to nowadays when I know what serves me – and thus everyone – and what doesn’t. Quality is more important than quantity.

9. When we drop the clock, and switch off all the distractions it becomes simpler to listen to our bodies and rest deeply when required, as you have shared Nicole.

   1. When we stop ticking the boxes and listening to the tick of the clock we come back to the truth of all we already are.

   2. Listening to and honouring our bodies is such a wise choice.

10. There’s this energy that comes in that has us believe that the more we do, as fast as possible makes us more productive thus more valuable. What it leaves us with is feeling drained, empty and surrounded by a mess of rushed finished tasks or loads of started, but not finished tasks. Compare that to feeling what is needed in the moment, completing it and then moving on to the next thing. What I’ve found in the latter is I have greater energy, am not drained and can work more than when I rush.

    1. Feeling what is needed in the moment, and letting go of drive and push really supports our health and wellbeing.

11. People are fascinating to observe and I have had an opportunity to closely observe some people recently and can see how the way we are raised has a huge impact on our adult life. In many families more attention is drawn, as you say Nicole, to get the job done than it is to consider how it left us feeling, so we can feel that it is more important to have everything neat and tidy and become a martyr to cleaning and being busy all the time, with little to no consideration to how this actually feels in our bodies; our self-worth is then gauged by how busy we can keep ourselves, busy attending to and looking after other people. So it is not surprising to me that we fall into this habit of not thinking or looking after ourselves at all.

    1. Our values really are back to front, many of us being brought up to push ourselves and get as much done as possible, totally disregarding our body/ourselves in the process, ‘ Looking back, my days were gauged by how ‘good’ they were based on how much was achieved or completed.’

12. It’s an interesting journey breaking this down, this previous month I’ve found I’ve gone back into ‘doing’, and underneath that I suspect it was because I was facing some painful hurts coming up from my past that I didn’t want to feel. I also dropped the honesty of how my body was and kept going into the busyness. To me this confirms how much our whole being can impact on the choices we make, because even being busy can be to numb or distract ourselves from something painful that needs to be addressed.

    1. ‘…being busy can be to numb or distract ourselves… ‘. I know this one well, having been taught it at boarding school, to distract me from feeling the sadness I was feeling at the time. It was a pattern I took into everyday life, not allowing myself to stop and just be me. Universal Medicine Courses and therapies have enabled me to turn this around. Such a blessing, to allow myself just to be, not constantly do and feel that’s ok.

    2. What great awareness Melinda, understanding why you were going back into an old pattern that no longer served you, something for all of us to look into, ‘even being busy can be to numb or distract ourselves from something painful that needs to be addressed.’

13. Yes this time factor serves us not and when we constantly live with this, it gets us no where and like you have shared, exhausted and drained.

    I got rid of my wrist watch many years ago, however my work requires I have a fob watch, only because of the second hand for counting. Otherwise that is it and I love it. It is mastering to live without time and live in a place where time is not the leading factor and not about achieving things, it is about completing things and then we move onto the next.

14. Common sense, or not so common – how many of us stop and recognise the impact our choices have?

15. We have things so back to front, placing time before ourselves, instead of the quality of our being before time. It’s an inspiring read Nicole because breaking such a pattern is not easy, it’s deeply entrenched in so many people, in fact the “doing” non-stop is a bit like an addiction. Once we bring our true selves into the picture we begin to realise the preciousness of who we are and our value to the world, and expressing our inner quality in what we do is much greater than the amount we get done.

    1. Melinda I loved that the quality of who we are has an impact on time, as time isn’t the pinnacle of life then. And spot on, we get caught in the doing and when we let go of this, we are completing more and not in the achieving. The two qualities are different, time and doing and completing and space, where the latter offers us more and of us.

16. Nicole, I remember these days of not so long ago
    “Looking back, my days were gauged by how ‘good’ they were based on how much was achieved or completed.”
    There is such a deliciousness to my life now, I do everything with me and this has brought a whole difference to the way my day pans out. As long as I am with me nothing matters and I get just as much completed as I did before but I’m not drained or tired at the end of the day. I go to bed complete with the day and me; I have to say it is such a beauty-full way to live. People would tell me of their experience with this but until it is actually felt in our body words cannot adequately describe the feeling.

    1. Mary I feel you’ve tapped into something important here, and it’s the sense of completion and contentment at the end of the day from simply being ourselves. When we are separated from that and focused on doing and achievements the completion is never there – and it can’t be, but we can often then try to take on more in a mistaken attempt to feel contentment, which actually adds to the feeling of emptiness and again repeating the cycle of doing.

       1. If we can feel that sense of completion and contentment at the end of the day then surely we should stop and fully appreciate that by being ourselves is something worth celebrating as our current way of living constantly pulls us out of the contentment we may be feeling. Everything is set up for us to feel discontented and so wanting more and more to fill the emptiness we feel. I feel this is the opposite to contentment.

17. Nicole this is a great sharing that many women can relate to including me – I call it the busy woman syndrome: “As a woman who loved to be busy, slowing down was not easy, taking time to prioritise, feeling what was needed and learning to say no took a long time.”

18. This blog just reminded me of how I used to make to do lists upon waking up – I would start with the least priority ones so that I knew I would then have to complete the list no matter how tired I was as the top priority ones were obviously ones that could not be left for the next day. This approach would exhaust me but then I felt pleased about what got done without considering the quality of how it got done.

    1. Henrietta is that when the need for a reward sneaks in? Because we feel pleased about what was ‘got’ done so therefore I deserve a reward, if it was the end of the day for me it was a glass of something alcoholic because I felt I deserved it.

19. Choosing to bring quality to all I do means there is purpose and this changes every thing, it also supports me to be present and not scattered lost in the past or lost in the future that hasn’t come which is exhausting.

20. I was in that whirlwind of trying to get everything completed doing several different things at the same time always feeling rushed. Now I take great enjoyment of just being with me first and if I find myself going into the motion of having to get something done I stop and give myself a breather. Life doesn’t have to be got through at such great speed as it can make us feel very racy and out of control and that’s when we go to caffeine and sugar etc., to try and keep up with the false pace of life we have set for ourselves.

    1. When I go into the doing and catch myself and pause I have to remind myself that achieving all this will not end a world crisis, as at the time it all feels so consuming and serious, almost panic stricken at times to get it done. I have also asked myself to check over my shoulder for lions or bears, such was the level of intensity and drama in getting things done and the stress on my body! I find it’s really supportive to lighten up around intensity, it helps cut it for me without any great effort, and see the silly side of it all.

    2. Yes, I allowed my life to be super busy, and I often was in drive energy when I was already feeling exhausted, ‘I now stop to feel how the choices I make impact my body and the flow of my day. Considering if there is a flow – or a drive, a push to achieve, complete or tick the boxes.’

21. “I now stop to feel how the choices I make impact my body and the flow of my day.” Taking responsibility to choose what is appropriate to support myself and the quality in which I do things rather than the focus to complete the task has brought a whole new breath of life to my life.

22. Wow Nicole this is one very powerful testimonial. You have managed to extricate yourself out of the hamster wheel of time and into the truth of space. If one person can do it then we can all do it. Imagine how different the world would feel if we were all operating in space as opposed to being trapped within the confines of time.

23. Having been shown a different way to relate to time has been a huge blessing and support. Less and less now does Time drag me through a hedge and more I work with it or it is no pressure whatsoever.

24. Focusing on the quality of a job rather than its completion I have found to be so much more fulfilling, and in doing so finding I am having ‘more time’.

    1. Interesting time warps happen when we let go of time. Of course there is a practical aspect to completing tasks and getting to work on time etc, however, when we are in the flow of things then it is not an effort and we get so much done without much effort and the body feels this to the bone and appreciates this approach as opposed to the forced approach.

       1. Yes, and when we are in this flow it is what is known as ‘being at-one’.

25. I am learning to prioritise to give myself space to sense what I need to do. It is a far cry from the autopilot ‘doing’ I have been so used to living.

26. “Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.”- and what a knowing to have!

27. Last night I let go of any pictures and went to bed when I was tired at 7pm. I prepared myself for sleep and woke fully refreshed this morning, it feels like I’m letting go of the nervous energy I am so used to be running on by honouring the time and way I go to sleep.

    1. Anon the word honouring is an interesting word to use because how many of us honour ourselves in the true sense of the word. If we even respected ourselves that would be a great step, but life shows us that we allow so much abuse towards ourselves and others that it seems we have forgotten how to truly honour ourselves so that we treat out bodies as a temple of delicateness and sensitivity because that is in true just the beginning of who we are.

28. Working against the clock and trying to fit everything in is exhausting and brings illness and dis-ease to the body.

    1. When we don’t honour our body, we create disharmony, and a lack of well-being.

29. It’s quite ironic really when you hear people say – “there’s not enough time in the day”, for they are already exhausted by the hours that make up their day, but still trying to fit more and more into an already crammed life. More hours, less hours, it all comes down to the quality of how we live and work; the deeper the quality the easier the flow and the less exhausted when we become, “the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me”.

    1. Ingrid, I was watching a broadcast of a live event regarding sales and everyone wanted more time in their day to accomplish all they wanted to do. But they all look exhausted and really in need of some deep rest. When we are young we think we are invincible it’s not until our bodies start breaking down from the over work and stress that we realise that trying to cram everything into a day has taken its toll on our bodies. I feel that every company from the top management down to the shop floor should take the time to visit their local hospital so that they can see for themselves the effects of stress and over work has on the physical body it is not a pretty sight. Men I have found find it especially difficult to come to terms with their illnesses and how it will impact the next 20-30 years of their life.

30. Slowing down is one of the helpful things that we can do to support ourselves. We can still do a lot but just at a pace that is more supportive for the body.

    1. Slow down, get more done goes totally against what we are led to believe of speed up, get more done.

31. That judgement that we place on ourselves due to the most ridiculous expectations we have based on pictures of what we should be or shouldn’t be doing is an absolute killer. Not once do we ask or allow ourselves just to be the precious women that we are to emanate first and then go about our lives. Its all about our doing. Somewhere some how we have taken the wrong turn so we can’t actually feel our power we are and what we offer everyone in this beauty.

    1. We have definitely ‘taken the wrong turn’ and wandered off in many different, and often destructive directions, losing who we are in the process. But how wonderful it is to have inspirational sharings like this one to offer us the way to return home to our beautiful selves.

32. Judging ourselves is one of the most exhausting things we can do.

33. “…in the past I used to squeeze as much as possible into a day. Looking back, my days were gauged by how ‘good’ they were based on how much was achieved or completed” – totally Nicole I was the exact same, … I recall recently doing rather a lot in one day going here and there fitting everything in and feeling time-squeezed and in this noting the quality I was already in which was mild irritation and a speeding up of myself in everything i did in that day. It felt absolutely dreadful being in this quality and needless to say I literally lost my footing whilst walking at speed and tripped bringing myself, my body and the energy I was in, to a stop. In the past, I would not have noted the (ill) quality and how life messages us a ‘way out’ or rather a ‘way back’ to ourselves and to the naturalness of space over time – a quality I got to thoroughly enjoy the following day!

34. Yes that’s so true and then there is the realisation that the energy we are in is what is also in everything we do…we have a responsibility to honour our bodies and then everything comes from there. Everything is also honoured.

35. I find getting behind, having a mountain of work that won’t shift… these things tire me out. Yet there is always the choice to get up early and with a little bit extra to clear so much of it and then our whole relationship can change with what we are doing.

36. There is no use complaining about not having enough time in our day to complete our to do list; we’re in the driving seat, not what is to be done.

37. When we live in a rythym that is not our natural rythym – be that busyness or idleness – there is always a tension.

38. We forget that the quality we do something in or hold ourselves in, is what others receive at the other end once we have completed the task or their interaction with us – this either heals or harms. Are we willing to accept this as the truth and thus take responsibility for the outcome? The beautiful thing about bringing ourselves in our fullness to everything we do means that the level of vitality we have and the amount we complete is increased – healing for all.

    1. How important then is the quality of energy we allow to run our bodies, and complete any task in.

39. As I am sure most have mentioned, the key is always the quality of your choices that define the end result and relationship with time. I like many used to think it is all about what you do and trying to get it all done. But this is not bringing all of me to what I do. Hence perhaps it is the quality of how we are within ourselves that defines the quality of life that is lived ??

    1. I forgot I had a choice Joshua I felt life was in control and I had to go along with what it offered. It wasn’t until I met Serge Benhayon by attending the workshops and presentations that I discovered we all have a choice and we can change how we have been living by empowering ourselves to make those different choices. I now lead a completely different life that’s not perfect, but I’m using less nervous energy and I feel I’m in control rather than feeling out of control.

40. It is so easy to go into overwhelm when there is so much to do, but then I remind myself that I can only do one thing at a time and I am often surprised how much I actually manage to do, and then other things simply need to wait.

    1. Prioritising what needs doing is something I have had to bring into my life.

41. When we are disconnected from our beingness, doing is the only meaningful gauge we can use to know ourselves and it is pretty self-destructive, I find. We either do too little and feel not good enough, or do too much and go into overwhelm. There is no true marker within us to let us know that we are doing just fine.

42. A lot of us get our sense of self by what we do, what we achieve, how successful we are and what we have. But just looking at a celebrity’s life will expose that it’s not all it’s cracked up to be… people that seem to have it all are still unhappy with life, they still commit suicide (Robin Williams example here) and they still have broken relationships and family lives. We are so much more than what we have.

43. Thank you Nicole, I needed to read this again today and the reminder that life is about the quality we live in, not what’s there to be done. There is something about a to-do-list that hangs over a person like an ominous cloud, we give so much power away to completing things without regard to the quality we are connected to in ourselves. It’s very reflective of how life is structured for doing and not our being (our quality).

44. Slowing down and taking more time to feel what to do can be a challenge when you have lived with a self-critical whip constantly telling you to do more or that you are only worthy when you have done something. The good thing is that these beliefs can be very easily exposed as a lie when we do actually stop, become still inside and feel our body. That’s when you get to feel your real worth and the importance of tasks falls away.

45. Time is often equated with getting as much done as possible, not the quality we bring to each activity. We become headless chickens when we could be as still as the stars deeply enjoined with each moment.

    1. Kehinde I love the possibility of being as still as the stars and deeply enjoined with the universe. I have witnessed this movement within people so know it is possible even if I am not choosing to live this way myself at the moment.

46. When we get caught in having to do everything on our own, being superwoman who cannot be missed, we will always be exhausted in life and still feel we are not doing enough, it is an endless trap. When we ask for help and let ourselves feel tasks in life need to be shared (as we are in it together) life becomes more playful and simple – a quality that cannot be dismissed.

47. With the way most of us live at the moment, having more time or an extra hour wouldn’t be used to do something to nurture ourselves. Instead it would be to push our bodies a bit further and squeeze a few more jobs in. Since I rediscovered my body, instead of living in my head, I find a moment of gently closing my eyes or feeling my breath resets the crazy doing clock and gives me back space in my body and day.

48. “Looking back, my days were gauged by how ‘good’ they were based on how much was achieved or completed” – yes Nicole and even if i was exhausted from how much was done in a single day I and those around me would say it was “a good exhaustion” to have and a badge of honour. How ridiculous it is to assault the body through what is ‘good’.

49. In a new job I am learning so much about the flow of tasks and moving around people and rooms… it is like there is a constant reflection for me to see where I am at and if I am at ease with the flow or clunky and resisting.

50. Taking a moment to feel into our body before we do something can and does save us an enormous amount of stress in the long run. It also supports our health and wellbeing.

51. Asking for help or support truly lets people in and builds relationships. It confirms for us too that we are not an island and that we have way much more in common with others than we think.

    1. Beautifully said, Jennifer, thank you.

52. Our relationship with time can be used as an indicator of our relationship with our beingness; the less we are connected with ourselves and living who we are in and from our essence the more time becomes something that bothers us as in either having the sense of not having enough to too much of it, ie. never managing to do enough to feel complete and fulfilled or being bored and lost in the meaningless of it all.
    In being who we are time becomes a space in which we express and expand that beingness.

    1. When we expand the way we are living around time its true – we can settle more into who we are and we move and express in our natural rhythm, and not a forced one.

53. “It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.” Well captured, the deeper our own connection becomes the greater our quality and it is through this constant building of quality we find space and not time.

54. ‘Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live’ This is the key I feel. When we allow the quality of our movements, our voice, how we comb our hair, anything and everything, to continually deepen, we can’t help but have a more spacious and beautiful relationship with ourselves and by extension all those with whom we come into contact…not perfect of course, it is a process after all with much to learn along the way.

55. We learn to measure ourselves against something. Time is a possibility. When we resort to it, we start racing against ourselves. We compete against ourselves day in and day out. In so doing, we exhaust ourselves.

56. “Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.” This is gold Nicole. It goes against everything we are taught in school and even at home, where quality is usually not considered, yet it is the truth.

57. “Old age was looking pretty dismal,” which it always will if we do not understand the cycle of life and reincarnation. When connected to our essence it allows the “developing and deepening” so that life becomes one of completion, which takes away any regrets. Then passing-over is looked foreword to with the understanding what our next incarnation will bring.

58. Learning to prioritise and feel what is needed is a loving commitment to oneself sensing those moments and working with them when there is a resistance and delay; not pushing through but having the willingness to go deeper into looking at where I am at and feeling what is going on. Having moments in my day to reflect, support me to work with the distraction and not ignore and check out from what is being asked of me.

59. This sentence stood out to me, that you were “the envy of all women”. We as women look at productivity and what we are doing and we clock someone who is very good at doing things and compare ourselves with that. Yet we don’t look at the whole picture, often we don’t know how the other person is truly feeling inside themselves and how tired or vital they are really feeling. Therefore it is so important to start looking at the whole picture and not at the part we like or don’t like so we can be more real with ourselves and others and not bash ourselves because we can’t do it all or are not perfect.

60. It’s been great to experiment recently with feeling what to do, and when to do it, based on a sense from my body, and not a picture from my mind about what I think I ‘should’ do. When I live life like that, things naturally flow and fall into place, with no push, drive or subsequent numbness, and life feels a lot fuller, richer – because I feel connected to what I feel, and so also to others.

61. When we live in drive, constantly chasing time exhaustion is always chomping at our heels and sleep and shutting down seems really appealing. I have noticed there is a much greater propensity to giving up just so we can have a break.

62. As I sit here quite tired and drained from a very busy time at work, this is a timely blog to read. I will sit with this and see what support and no’s I may need to do.

    1. When we race against the clock we are racing against an arbitrary number. We’re going head to head with something that doesn’t exist in the way that we think it does. When we re-connect with our bodies and commit to keeping our bodies relaxed and stress free then the hands of the clock simply melt like candle wax and we step into the realms of space. When we’re in space our perception of everything changes.

63. Walking in the spaces between our stories frees us from the dictates of time.

64. I once considered my home to be my sanctuary, where I retreated to at the end of each day for peace and tranquility Now my sanctuary is harmonious body that is with me regardless of where I am.

    1. Beautiful Kehinde. And we take our body with us wherever we go – so much more stillness and vitality this way – and no checking out….

65. I remember a time when I worked full-time, was in overwhelm, in the doing and fast forwarding constantly. It was brought to a head when I crashed into a underground car park barrier, A big stop, I didn’t even see it.
    When we’re in our heads and rush of busyness, life passes us by and we miss much of its treasures.

66. “Looking back, my days were gauged by how ‘good’ they were based on how much was achieved or completed” – totally Nicole, and I/one would feel a sense of accomplishment or success. Today and having explored the issue of inner quality [over quantity] and sustaining this essence, the feeling you receive when what you do is done in that quality that has respected, not exhausted you or left you ragged and un-satiated, but instead vital, full, complete and with more capacity and energy than before – is unbeatable.

67. I realised reading this that when I am completely fixated on getting things done (box ticking), forgoing connection with my body and connection with others, it is no different to a business person making their work all about money and not people. We are all getting something out of it… whether it is a reward, the illusion of self-worth, acknowledgement, a badge of honour, an excuse, to hide or get ahead. It’s competing against time, other women or men, pictures, beliefs and ideals without realising how damaging that is to our bodies that are pure love. This way of living is foreign to our body but we have made it completely normal even expected and championed.

68. Life is certainly different when we don’t race against time, staying connected to the body and be present with everything we do we get to experience a feeling of space and simplicity that doesn’t drain or exhaust the body in anyway.

69. I find I lose the time in the day when thinking about past moments and/or future possible moments that I don’t recognise the space I have available to me right now.

70. Simply feeling what is needed in every moment, rather than running myself ragged, pushed on mercilessly by an endless to do list that runs in my head, is showing me how I can live a full life without feeling like I am always playing catch up whilst on my knees in exhaustion. It feels like an ongoing and inspiring change.

    1. Yes, and there are layers of this awareness I have found, as I unpeel the ‘normal’ way of doing things and learn what deep rest feels like.

71. Its so interesting when I take the drive out of the day, forcing things at a pace that is unnatural. It’s exhausting!. Bring a little bit of space in to the day, a chance to wind down before bed and some self care in the morning before everything gets underway and suddenly the day ahead looks like a sea of endless opportunity!

72. Wow, this is wonderful. Simply being so clear and open to see what is going on and what has come between you and time.. Or better said; what we have used to tear us down and not evolve us. Gorgeous reminder of what we are capable of when we stand in our own power.

73. It never ceases to amaze me how much I can get done when I move in connection with my body and don’t have endless to-do lists rattling around in my head. It is as though I have switched over into another dimension – and in truth, that is exactly what happens.

    1. I love this, Gabriele. It is my experience also and it makes no sense when I try and work it out in the confines of our current understanding of time.

74. Allowing ourselves to receive life rather than running after it brings a whole lot more space into our day

    1. Beautiful Elizabeth. To pursue life is fraught with problems, brings complication and exhaustion, not space.

75. ‘How good’ something is, is a measure based on time. Whereas ‘how true’ something is, is a measure based on space. We live in the tension of wanting the ‘good’ over the ‘bad’ and thus become slaves to time, when we could be living more of what is true and thus opening up more space through which to express this.

    1. Summed up beautifully Liane, when we run ourselves on time we’re continually clocking ‘have we done enough’ or ‘that’s nothing, there’s so much more to do’. Are we not just self-bashing ourselves every time we think we have done something good or bad? We think good is good but if there is a good then there is a bad, so they are the same. Feeling if something is true engages the body, whereas measuring if something is good or bad keeps us mentally looking at life and in our heads.

76. This is a very ‘timely’ read for me and definitely a blog that I could easily enjoy reading again and again.

77. We were not born with a watch on our wrist as we are not designed to fit into time in any way, but rather to be guided to live by the quality of our Soul, where the steps we take are in the fullness of who we are knowing that every step made is one that is not only honouring the Soulful light for who we are, but in honor of who we all are in essence. As such the way we live is truly purposeful as we are moved by a quality that represents that quality we are from, and our movements are precisely what is called for to bring and reflect the absoluteness of love that is needed in that moment.

    1. Beautifully expressed Carola.

    2. I love this Carola. Interestingly, the traditional watches we wear mark the movement of a hand across a circular dial indicating that we know we live in cycles and thus are bound by the universal (and not human created) laws that pertain to our spherical nature. However, then came digital display and this suited our more lineal perception of life that counts a movement from A to B, and not B returning to A, thus giving us an excuse to ‘leave it all behind’ and ignore the fact that we carry it all with us until we are able to live free from it. The ‘it’ here being the baggage we carry when the movements we make (the way we live, think, speak and act) do not come from our innermost self, a source that is pure love.

    3. I love how you say we are not born with a watch. It shows so clearly how we are made into the human being we then become, but in truth we are already all that we are when we are born and simply need the permission and support to unfold that who we are into human life.

78. The resentment of doing everything for everyone else is do draining on our body and so unpleasant to be on the receiving end of. It is better to walk away and not ‘do’ for others if it cannot be done without the bitterness and resentment that builds up from trying to offer others what we are not doing for ourselves.

    1. Very true Lucy, and when that bitterness and resentment goes into our activities what do we think we are sharing with those we interact with?

79. Looking for alone time or ‘me time’ is one of the biggest traps I see in the way we live these days. For many of us there is no ‘me time’ as we are either at work with colleagues or at home with the family or friends. Me time has to be a way of living all the time. It is putting your body and what it needs first and getting everything done in your day with consideration and respect of your body. Then you don’t become drained exhausted and overwhelmed.

    1. I find the scramble for the me time or the trying to catch up with life after me time is exhausting more than being with people. When I want to be an individual it takes a lot of energy.

       1. It helps to not to separate me time and life. When we hold ourselves fully and are present with ourselves it all becomes one, we are the same regardless of time and place.

       2. ‘Me time’ is often considered as somewhere we tuck ourselves away from the rest of life. But when it is a part of life then it all works out.

       3. Yes Leigh, it’s an illusion to think we can hide away from the rest of life, we carry all life within ourselves.

80. Being busy is a way of life that we choose to escape from ourselves and what is to be felt within ourselves. If we are always on the move we will never be still enough to be confronted by how we are, what we are missing and the tension inside that is calling us back to who we are.

    1. It is very true Carolien, that we do actually seek an escape in busyness, and being honest with this is what exposes the big lie that we subscribe to that it is all about being good, being acknowledged and appreciated and even that we are loved more. Not always something that we want to admit and feel, however our bodies always do tell the truth of how we are living, with the tension that presents as a result and with good reason. The beautiful thing about this, if we are willing to be open and honest with what is presented, is our bodies will also always guide us in how we can return to live in honor of the love we already and naturally are within.

       1. If we get to stop for just a moment, really stop, arrest the striving for love and acceptance as you say Carola, then the voice of the body can be heard once again and if this happens long or often enough we may start to listen and from there the way back is lit from our hearts

81. This is amazing Nicole, so refreshing to read about your experience. Not many people can claim to feel the way you do and it is truly worth celebrating when we feel incredible in life, we need more people like you in our world to reflect how natural it is to feel amazing, vital and loving.

82. Time is a real hook, as is the idea we can race against time to fill up the day with as much as possible. Changing this pattern to making the day about the quality I bring, instead of how much I do, is something I am working on, and what I have uncovered is the huge amount of anxiety that can go with the to-do list.

    1. True Melinda, with a to-do list anxiety is guaranteed and a to-do list will always be a to-do list in the sense of there is never nothing on it so why not get away with this list and do things when they come up, so we don’t have to think what is next but that it is given to us.

83. A very good example this blog is for showing us that we live on energy and that this energy is determined by our quality of choice : connected to our body or not. So it shows that with connection we are actually naturally more vital and instantly feel more of ourselves by truth (that is love).

84. No longer running against the clock is an instant stress buster, as it is so different to being connected and moving with your body, being in the flow, moving on easily to the next thing, all in a harmonious way, so that come the end of the day, one is ready for bed but not exhausted.

    1. It is amazing when we are no longer being governed by time but living the spaciousness and simplicity that supports our whole being and everyone around us.

85. “I was absolutely exhausted, completely overwhelmed and at times enormously frustrated”. This is what happens when I live based on time and trying to tick as many boxes as I can. Trying to fit everything into neat boxes to feel good about yourself is the illusion that keeps you on this hamster wheel. On days when I am not attached to what I get done and instead feel the space and quality within me, I enjoy my day and it doesn’t feel so rushed or tired.

86. I remember when I was young and working 60 to 80 hours a week and always being in motion. When I had to stop and rest it was virtually impossible for me. Today I see teenagers with the same problem, they are trying to stay busy every waking moment to their absolute detriment. It is high time 😉 that we relearn what it is to just be with ourselves again and do what we have to do from there so that the generations that follow us are not forced down the same path.

    1. Staying busy indeed seems to be the norm, for me back then and what I see around me now. The way out is indeed by going in: re-learning to be with ourselves again, re-connect and from there feel what is truely needed. I can now feel when the busi-ness takes over. Through the connection with my body I can stop myself and then feel what is going on and then ask myself: what is needed?

       1. Yes and in the connection I actually get so much more done then when I adjust being busy or in the ‘so much to do’ mode. It is not about how much we do but the quality we do it in and like you Caroline I am now able to distinguish one quality form another giving me the choice.

87. We think we are all squeezed for space but my experience is we are actively fighting simplicity and letting life be as it is. We embellish and enlarge tasks when there is no need but most of all when we live in an energy that is not true it causes extra complexity whatever we do. Quality is the biggest issue then that we have, not time.

    1. SO true Joseph, we often think time is our enemy but it isn’t really is it? It is the quality of our movements and expression that is what is causing us to feel stressed, overwhelmed, exhausted and feeling lifeless.

       1. “It is the quality of our movements and expression that is what is causing us to feel stressed, overwhelmed, exhausted and feeling lifeless”. Exactly Chan. We put our bodies into dreadfully contorted and compressed positions in an attempt to race against the clock. It is our disconnection from ourselves that then reinforces our compressed way of being and our age old struggle with time. And we become ‘locked’ into this way of being. But by re-connecting to our bodies we get to feel the quality of our bodies and through that increased awareness start to make different choices. We feel how awful our bodies feel when we are pitting ourselves against the clock and so change how we treat ourselves. We start to safe guard our bodies from self harm. Slowly over time our relationship with time starts to change and we feel ourselves operating more and more in space and less and less in time. Eventually the race against time gets replaced by the quality of us in space.

    2. It is my experience too – fighting and resisting simplicity and the need to be in control however life need not be this way as I learn to just be with me and my body in everything I do.

    3. Yes when we live with quality and flow, time seems to expand and we can accomplish all we need to do without the need to race against the clock. It feels amazing.

88. I am quickly understanding the difference I feel when I am living in a way that pushed me – from a drive to do and get done and put my feet up at the end of it. A very exhausting tail chasing experience – or infact to do things in a way where there is a flow and a quality and not governed by time but with no delay. Which sounds like where you are Nicole, and shows the amazing difference we can bring to how we live just by how we are.

    1. There are lots of down sides to racing against the clock to get things done. The effect that this way of living has on our food and drink choices is just one of them. We tend to eat and drink things that will help to ‘get us through’, as in sugary snacks and caffeinated drinks. We will also eat and drink things to reward ourselves for having ‘got that thing done’, as in ‘that’s over now I can relax with a big meal and a glass of wine’. Time kids us into believing that there are start points and stop points all throughout our day, which is part of the illusion of time. Space on the other hand lets us know that life is one continuous thread, it’s simply a question of how we’re being within space that really matters.

89. Dear Nicole I am very much inspired by what you have shared as I am also a person who have no time. Therefore I love this quote form you: “It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.”

    1. I love that too Ester as it reminds me that if time is my keeper i no longer am. And so to let go of time is to return to me.

90. How wonderful it is to change such a strong momentum of disregard, to turn around something to so many people is never turned around and simply ends up with the body really copping the effects.

91. Allowing ourselves to be consumed by thoughts is a real time killer detrimental to our health and well-being as one is literally consumed. Living and moving from feeling rather than thinking what is needed next is effortless and opens the space to fit all that needs to be done in our day.

92. Overwhelm is a killer as it scatters my energy and this is very much like handing my power over to time, so that time owns me and is able to totally stress me out. Connecting back to myself and knowing who I truly am turns this all around.

    1. This is a knowingness that comes from physically feeling that expansion in our body isn’t it kathleenbaldwin? Our body then has a marker for what impacts our bodies or not and shows us that overwhelm does not own us, time does not own us. Building a level of consistency in how we do what we do offers space to know the difference.

       1. Yes, that’s a great way of saying it Lucy as the connection I am talking about is to the expansive space within where there is no time. From this space, one can feel what impacts on the body. Overwhelm is a stress that we at times use to get a blast of adrenaline running through us so we can push the body around to do the bidding of the mind rather than allowing things to unfold as they need to be addressed. It is a form of control as the mind is saying that it knows best without any consideration for the body whereas to work effectively we need the body and the mind working together with the heart leading the way. This is the consistency we need that offers the space to break away from the dictates of time.

       2. Oh thank you kathleenbaldwin, what a gem of a summary

    2. Yesterday I definitely went in to overwhelm and in that stress and tension my usual standards of how I work through the day to day experiences and issues that challenge me correspondingly dropped. It was interesting to reflect on and discuss what happened with a couple of friends afterwards and in those conversations much was learnt.

93. This is such a relevant topic Nicole because this is largely how we are now as a society, constantly on the go filling up every space with ‘doing’, even kids are super busy now with many after school activities. We don’t allow space to just be, or value ourselves above what we must attend to in life. I have found Esoteric Yoga so supportive to help me change these patterns in myself so that I am in connection to me as I move about and gently take care of myself as I attend to work and home chores. It is a constant learning as the patterns of getting things done at any expense are deeply ingrained, they are even fostered in education where the exam or end result is put before the child or teenagers wellbeing. There is a lot to undo to return to a loving way of life that supports our health and wellbeing.

94. Nicole this is such a great blog to re-read, so many of us are ruled by how much we can achieve and complete in the day and based on that was the reward at the end of the day, with such things as alcohol or chocolate because we deserved this treat. Bringing an understanding that it’s the quality in which things are being done is huge I have found that when I am just with me while I’m working there is more time and I don’t need a reward at the end of the day as being with me is such a reward in itself. Being with me is such an amazing feeling there is nothing I have experienced quite like it.

    1. While I can be particularly obstinate in keeping it about how much I do in a day and that defines me, I am realising more and more that it is the quality that can be felt, by everyone, and can be a true reflection of us in what we then go to do.

95. We all have the ability to feel that living and working at 100mph is not a sustainable way of being, and plenty of people do question it, but most of us just accept it as ‘the way it is’, and some of us thrive off it, enjoying the stimulation, regardless of the impact on the body. What I have come to appreciate is that it’s really not about the number of hours work I do, but how I am with work, how I am in everything that I do. It’s this quality that either rejuvenates me, if I’m with my body and simply responding to what’s needed with acceptance and ease, or depletes me, if I’m resisting or reacting to it.

96. There is an interesting little aside in there – ‘old age was looking pretty dismal’. Ouch. That really is a knowing that how we are living is not the way, and if that is the approach then we can 100% guarantee that we have not evolved along the path of this life, but rather survived in a much reduced version of ourselves.

97. ‘Looking back, my days were gauged by how ‘good’ they were based on how much was achieved or completed.’ That was the case for me too, and sadly I still measure my days by how much I have done, but I am less anxious to do so much and there is more a quality of stillness in everything I do whereas before everything was always done in nervous energy. These days I can catch the busyness and slow down, which is great. I like to feel useful and am learning that the quality of my being is more helpful than any amount of work that I do.

98. ‘It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me’. This is pure gold…. Time has always dominated me which I have allowed, always in rush mode, never having enough time etc. But the key is in the quality of what I do and not how much I drive and push to get things done with very little quality like I did in the past.

99. The way in which we do things makes a big difference to everyone – whether it be from a quality or flow that we can feel is harmonious or if it is going against that, there is an impact on our body and on everyone else.

100. It’s true Nicole… I used to be absolutely dominated by this drive, this anxiety that reduce the day to a series of worry driven steps. So much has changed, as I now have the opportunity at least to know, to recognise that this is not the way it has to be.

     1. I used to be the same Chris and I was very much dominated by this drive. Now, when I occasionally go back into this drive, I can feel how devastating it is to me and to others around me. It brings in complications, drama and disconnection. I am learning to fully let go of this drive thanks to having more awareness around my choices. I am also peeling away layers of lovelessness to reveal the love that is within and to support me to live love more consistently.

        1. Same here Chanly88, when this old pattern creeps back in, I feel the tension and the stress in my body, which is great to feel, as then I can stop, take stock and change my movements which brings me back in my body…

        2. Yes… Just imagine a life without drama 🙂 my gosh… How would people amuse themselves and imagine all the spare time we would have :-).

101. We have always been ‘celebrated’ for what we do rather than who we are or the quality in which we do things! But when you turn this around the other way, then then magic happens…as Nicole has shared here…though I am still working on this formula! 😉

102. I think I am still learning to not run against the clock…especially this week, I have really struggled feeling like I have been on the back foot all of the time! But it is a great reminder to know that there is another way, that is does not have to be like this, and though I feel like a fool for saying this, I know I am the one doing this to myself rather that stopping and gathering myself first. OK…so let’s begin now…;)

103. “I was a martyr, a superwoman, the envy of all women, all at the expense of myself.” This is exactly the type of role model that women do not need in their lives. Having unrealistic images presented about what we should be able to achieve in a day, without seeing the impact on other aspects of their lives, confirms that we need to do more and that we are never enough.

     1. Yes we exhaust ourselves by trying to live up to so many ideals and pictures, instead of knowing that we are more than enough when we live who we truly are.

104. Thank you Nicole. I remember registering many times in my younger life that although I enjoyed life in general it seemed like a pretty futile exercise. I watched people working hard day in day out only to drop dead and I used to wonder what the purpose of it all was. Now that I deeply understand that the purpose of life is to return to being the truth of who we are and live harmoniously and truly lovingly on earth so that all can return too, the futility of ‘do, do’ and ‘achieve achieve’ can be exposed for the self-punishing activity that it is – and all to keep the human spirit individualised and separated from its fellow brothers.

105. We need to set constant markers in our life of that which is held and established – our true foundations. And so work from them onwards and deepen the quality of our lives through our every moment, daily movements. To not stand still but move in a way that supports you and once that works to not drop – but hold the quality of movement as your basis.

106. “Time, Life and Me…” – thanks to Serge Benhayon and the “purple books”, it wasn’t until i began to understand that life is essentially about space and making life about space that i began to lose my hold and demand of time being the measure of anything or of myself. Living in space, with space … is living.

     1. Yes Zofia,I too have much more awareness of space thanks to Serge Benhayon and now I love making space in my home (less is more), as I can feel how much this supports me in getting a sense of what is coming to me and knowing my next steps.

107. I can so relate to this Nicole and love your blog. You can’t fault what things look like on the surface, but deep down focusing on function and doing doesn’t enrich our lives in the same way deepening our quality does.

108. It is crazy how many of us wreck our bodies in the pursuit of recognition wealth or whatever. Ending up with a wrecked body as we get older so we can’t enjoy life and all the things we may have accumulated doesn’t make a lot of sense when we stand back and look at it.

109. There is no greater confirmation of who we are that can be found, than that of our connection to our essence within. A timeless, ageless and deeply beautiful quality that can be lived, enriching our lives wherever we are, whatever we do, regardless of what age we are at. Thankyou Nicole for sharing just how possible it is for this to be lived.

110. I know that when I stay in my rhythm and focus on being settled in my body I am able to go from task to task without an erratic change in movement or energy. I find that I am much less tired and much happier. From this place I am then able to spot the times when I leave this rhythm due to an outer pressure or stress. These moments stand out like a sore thumb, and are getting less and less.

111. Quality over quantity – I like it. Feels like the antidote to this modern-day plague -“It was more important to get the job done than to consider how it left me feeling,”

112. You sharing this shows us that time in fact does not exist as an image or strict way, it is reflecting us something. How to be with time is up to us, and how much we are in our own space is up to us too. We can not blame anyone. Only making change ourselves..Now, tomorrow and every day.

113. Coming to a deeper understanding about the difference between time and space I am starting to see that on most of the occasions that I say that I don’t have the time I actually do have the space to do what is needed. It has been my approach to time that has been the problem, always feeling like I was running out of it whereas in truth it was the way I was living in constant rush and drive that was the real issue. Now that I have slowed down the way I live my life I am finding that I have plenty of space to do what needs to be done at that particular moment.

114. Nicole I can so relate to what you have written here
     “I was absolutely exhausted, completely overwhelmed and at times enormously frustrated: ticking the boxes and getting everything done, never stopping to consider the quality in which things were being done, and how I was in each moment or the impact this had on my body.”
     I have lived most of my life like this it’s like surfing the crest of a wave, I just had to keep concentrating on staying on the crest which took a lot of physical and mental energy. Then recently I had a bout of the flu which laid me low and I fell off the crest of the wave, when I got back up again the wave was far ahead of me and I was in calm water and actually it is such a relief to come back into my body and not have to strive to achieve or prove myself. I am enough as I am.

115. My body tells me very plainly when I am in the ‘doing’. .. and yet sometimes at work when I feel under the pump I still do it. Bringing everything back to connection and multidimensionality has been so amazing, and yes, miracles occur in my day when I make life about energy first rather than function.

116. Reflecting on ‘being the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me’ I recognize that it makes perfect sense but is not my everyday choice and thus experience, so it is a work in progress to make that my consistent way of living. It is so tempting to look outside of myself, get lost in what there is to be done, allowing time to set my rhythm and only as the last thing on the list to check in with myself – in other words to be identified with what I do. To turn that around, by a simple choice and shift, instantly empowers me and gives me authority over my life in a way that is not available as long as I hold on to looking outside of myself before knowing myself.

117. How many of us try to keep something under control or pull themselves together, and at times it may be somehow necessary, nevertheless it means to compress oneself, and that is literally as the body and being contract. No wonder then that we have no space to be, not even enough to still know who we are.

118. Defined by time we are reduced by fitting into a picture, defined by space we are free to be ourselves.

119. Drive has been a much praised and championed way of behaving in our society. This has made it all the more difficult for us to see how destructive it is to our health – and the only way of truly knowing the damaging nature of the force of drive is to re-connect to the body and feel it (another level of awareness that has been resolutely knocked out of us as children).

120. Thank you Nicole, I appreciated reading this today as I often have drive or time stress in my day, so it was great to read of your experience and how it has changed for you from drive and push to flow – and time coming to you.

121. “I was a martyr, a superwoman, the envy of all women, all at the expense of myself”. I know this pattern very well and grew up thinking this was the normal way for women. When a woman does this functional way of life so well as was the case in this blog, they become a role model but it has the devastating effect of being one that actually causes harm. It sets other women up to compare, feel less and never feel they are doing enough, even though the superwoman herself never feels like she is ever enough.

122. Commitment to life has to begin with a commitment to self first otherwise we burn ourselves out. I am committing to all areas of life like never before taking myself to places and doing work that I would not have truly considered had I not come across Universal Medicine. What I am realising is that the newly commitment life can expose where I am at if I am not taking a loving approach towards myself but I know that what comes my way and I say yes to I am more than equipped to deal with unlike the uncertainty in the past which nudged me to avoid committing to life. It is a question of giving to me first and not to that which is outside of me in all that I do and wherever I go.

123. It is a huge shift to not measure our value on how much we do in the day rather observe how much did we bring of ourselves each day.

124. I have found that listening to my body really does provide me with the space to choose for myself what will support me in my next movements and hence how I nourish, nurture and love myself. This is not only a fun exploration everyday but a deepening awareness too.

125. I notice that since I have passed middle age and now into elder energy my body lets me know very loudly, if I don’t listen, that I need to stop!

126. It is certainly very refreshing to hear you talking about quality rather than quantity Nicole in terms of how we live our days for everything around us seems to be geared towards how much we can do, produce, create, re-create, reproduce and make without much consideration given to the energetic quality of how these things are done. I can really feel the difference when I stop, slow down and really focus on the quality of how I am doing something rather than just getting it done.

127. I certainly had the idea (and hope) for a long time that how much I did, the busier I was the more worthy I would be. Then I realized how running around and always being busy was the perfect excuse to never connect to and deepen the stillness inside me which determines the quality I live in.

128. ‘As if it was a reward of some kind, the harder we worked and the busier we were, the more complete our lives, our days and perhaps, we were.’ And yet we did not feel complet in ourselves and complaining was just a cover up for how sad we really were about abandoning our bodies, better to complain and blame someone else than feeling it was our own choice from the start.

129. When we can let go of the burdens we have taken on true vitality will be restored in our bodies

130. Gosh, this way of describing yourself as bloated, drained and with a head full of thoughts about all the doings of your life is very poignant, because it makes me realise just how normal this has become, to live like this, constantly distracted by thoughts with a body that is bloated and drained. And it makes me appreciate how important the body is, how important my body is, to listen to and to care for with sweetness and grace.

131. When we gauge success on our output, physical, mental or otherwise, we live in the denial of our true nature and run ourselves ragged, as the saying goes. The consequences? Aches and pains, dissatisfaction if not resentment or anger and a definite lack of joy and vitality.

132. Until we learn to not ‘shrink space’ by filling it with constant motion with no pause to draw the necessary breath in, we will continue to live life at break neck speed and end up an exhausted heap at the end of it. For it is in the pause that true stillness is felt and from this space we are given all we need to move forth with this quality and thus get the job done at no expense to ourselves or anyone else.

133. “Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.” Yes, as I am slowly learning. Rather than ticking off my to-do list i now realise that my quality is what is important. What is the point of doing many things if my energy is not aligned to love and truth? My vitality improves as well!

134. Nicole, I can very much relate to living in the ‘busyness’ of life, this feels exhausting and is making life about quantity and not quality, I love what you are sharing here; ‘with the new choices I now make, by learning to be aware of where I am at, not taking things on unnecessarily, asking for support, and feeling what is needed, my body feels lighter; it no longer carries the burden of “what’s next.”

     1. It can be a hard thing for our mind to fathom that when we surrender to the ‘now’ and are completely present within it, the ‘what next’ naturally unfolds unto us without any need to push or drive ourselves towards that point. By putting this into practice, we are much more able to understand how this actually works because we then have a physical lived experience that informs us it is so.

135. Having a busy day feels great when I am connected to myself but when I am not, that is when stress and exhaustion can creep in. I have been learning to not set expectations as to what has to happen but be open to the flow, and plan my day without any expectations feels much more supportive.

136. “Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live” – this is the key Nicole, and also the focus too if life is to be lived truly, spaciously, enjoyably.

137. I find that bringing myself back to how my body feels and checking in if I get a sense of a true flow in the way I’m doing or approaching things helps me to come back to the quality in the way I’m living rather than living from a drive to meet a certain picture in my head. For me too it is something that I can keep developing with – developing more consistency in the quality that I choose to be in and opening up to doing things differently.

138. I used to live my life in a way where it was frequently, ‘more important to get the job done than to consider how it left me feeling, overdoing it, straining myself or pushing myself past the point of exhaustion purely to make my day look like it was a ‘good’ day’. Totally disregarding, these patterns and beliefs that we have to achieve, instead of it being about our quality and honouring our body, can be very strong.

139. We use time as such an excuse to not bring focus to what is truly needed…which is to live our true qualities such as our joy, playfulness and lightness of being.

     1. Very well said Thomas, this feels so true. I can get so serious when I think I have no time for anything else and this immediately cuts off my playfulness and joy.

140. “My body felt like it could only run like this for so long.” Our bodies are so patient, loving, supporting until a point, as you rightly point out, they can only operate at a certain frequency that is not in harmony to its natural state for so long. Then it sends us those niggles, aches, pains, illness and then if we don’t listen to those, the messages can escalate. It is up to us to look at how we are living in our bodies as to what effect our lifestyle is having on our dear patient bodies.

141. I want more time in the day as I love what I do, and I want to do more of it. It’s a far cry from the days when all I wanted to do was have nothing to do. But it’s how I approach the doing that makes all the difference – am I trying to achieve and get through things or am I allowing things to unfold and giving my fullness to each moment?

142. Living trapped in time is a harming choice justified in the name of getting things done without fully realizing that we do not just do things that are outside of us; we also do harm to ourselves as part of the package.

143. When we live life always in anticipation of, and thinking about, what’s next, we miss out on the enormity of what the present moment is offering us: there is always a greater depth to explore in any moment, when we’re fully committed to being in it.

144. I can completely relate with what you have shared over the last few weeks .. or even months life/work seems to have intensified and got very busy. I got caught up in this however, my body soon told me a similar thing if I carried on like this my body would not be able to cope so now I am starting to discern more what I am saying yes to in my life along with taking stock of the quality, love and care I have for myself.

145. I now appreciate the awareness I have within my choices made and how each new choice not only offers me a pause to feel if it will support me moving forward but also if my next movement will then show if I am moving in rhythm with my body or in drive. It’s really beautiful to be able to feel the quality of our movements when we are flowing from our choices and our bodies natural rhythm too.

146. What a turn around Nicole – this is such a difference in getting caught up with time which is so common in how we are choosing to live. I used to be very caught in time and thought that was how it was going to be. But once we start to factor in quality – then things really shift, because the focus shifts. It is no longer about how much but rather just about the how.

147. I can definitely relate to the mindset that squeezing more into a certain period of time is a measure of greater success, when actually this completely ignores QUALITY; the defining factor of whether all of the activity and work we do during the day is truly contributing to our community or project.

148. I am learning to let go of this once very strong pattern, ‘I placed a level of judgment and criticism on myself, constantly taking on more, never saying no, forever wanting to complete yet another round of ‘doing.’

149. ‘to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.’ is something to always keep with us. When we are the keeper of time we are with ourselves and go for quality, the moment we let the outside world determine what we should do and all our ideals and beliefs that come with that, time becomes our keeper and we will never feel we have done enough.

150. There is a deep satisfaction to knowing your day has been spent with you, regardless of what you are doing.

151. To let go of the chase of doing more and more to feel enough, to focus on the quality of my movements is indeed a relief and the antidote to being exhausted.

152. We really have got it all wrong haven’t we, we are all judge on how quick we can do something its all results driven yet we miss the most important thing – Quality.

153. Nicole that is great. I know for me I get caught in time when I am wanting something, or things to change without actually 1st taking the steps myself. The moment I project out that I want something my focus narrows and it is all about that which means not only do I miss out on everything around me I also get impatient and the tension builds with the desire to attain it. Whereas when I stay with myself, deepen my connection within then what is next comes to me without me needing to go out and grab it!

154. It makes sense to me to put the quality in what we’re doing as the priority otherwise what is it that we are getting done? As in what kind of imprint are we leaving behind that ripples out into the world and affects us all in one way or another…

     1. I’m still working on this one, but spot on Fiona. The volume of output is pretty irrelevant if the quality is not there in any of it. And similarly if you do one thing with an absolute quality, then that is worth pure gold.

155. ‘ Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.’ And our body is the great marker of the quality that we are living. To feel my body harden when I am not being and living Love, and then expand and deepen when I connect and surrender to the infinite Grace and Love I truly am is the greatest learning.

156. I find that I can slip into trying to fulfill the expectations of others even if they are unspoken and/or unrealistic. The moment I do I feel exhausted. When I stay in my rhythm and flow I am no longer at the mercy of time.

157. Last night I spoke to a friend who was in a different time zone that was one hour behind. I said how I wanted another hour in the day. This did not come from me feeling tired and needing more time to do things, it came from there being so much to do in life and a joy in being in life, that I wanted more of it. It was a lovely moment to feel how committed I am to life.

158. Nicole I find it fascinating that we never seem to question our lives and how we are living them. We just seem to go along with what main stream society tells us is the way. A sort of ‘heads down bum up’ attitude.
     I was totally lost in this way of living. With the support of the Benhayon family and Universal Medicine I have totally transformed how I live. I live the way I want to live which is quite simple and uncomplicated. This way of life has given me more space and I’m no longer rushing around trying to fit everything into a day and wishing I had more hours. I have so much space and everything gets accomplished just without the stress of rushing. It’s so worth the effort to make those changes in my life to get to this way of life. I wish I had done this sooner.

159. “I now stop to feel how the choices I make impact my body and the flow of my day.” Yes I find the power in a stop moment can not only bring great awareness to how we move but also in what quality am I then bringing to my movements thereafter. Awareness can offer so much food for thought and an opportunity to deepen our connection and explore what it means to move with love and care as our foundational path.

160. I started off today wishing that I had more time but by the end of the day I feel that I have been able to create the space that I needed so that time became irrelevant.

161. We can still be superwoman or superman, but this doesn’t mean completing the most tasks or being the most ‘productive’, and is instead all to do with our quality. Do we bring the super-us into EVERY relationship, task, moment and day?

162. “Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live” – so true, and although i always knew or connected with [fine] ‘quality’ I connected it with being a ‘quality over quantity’ in regards to ‘less being more’ no to excess through cheapness of quality and so on… and related quality all to things, like clothes, food, items, product brands, education and so on. Connecting to quality in the most recent years as something that comes from within the body first to infuse what is then bought, consumed, eaten, worn etc. has totally changed my life – i.e. quality is not purchased, but lived first to then purchase that will then be of quality.

163. ” It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me. ” Wow this is awesome , going from been the doer and under the command of time , to been the master of time, so wonderful, thank you for sharing Nicole.

164. It is sad to see that most people live in the exhausted running against the clock way that you describe Nicole. I certainly did. We create the war zones within ourselves well before any war zones take place outside of us in faraway countries – and not so faraway ones. The overemphasis on doing and achieving at the expense of the quality of our being takes a huge toll on the human body that is not made to be a functioning tool that ticks as many boxes as possible. We are made to live and be in a harmonious flow, swimming with the tide of time and not against it. And ironically when we do, we feel so much more vital and alive, so much more clear and focused and as you say, we do actually get so much more done. But without the attachment and glorification of how much we get done.

165. The ‘to do list’ is always there to keep us striving onto the next task and feeling less for not achieving the chores listed. Many years ago I used to have a ‘to do list’ but soon realised that there was always too many things on this list and if anything came up unexpectedly I would feel stressed. So now I don’t bother with lists.

     1. I have to have lists at work otherwise I’d be constantly trying to remember everything I needed to do. What I realised relatively recently was that there was a constant anxiety within me because I was always driving to get to the end of the list. But this can not and will never happen for as soon as one thing is ticked off, more get added. It was in the moment I realised I need to accept that there will always be things that need to be done and if I focus on the quality of how I do something instead of trying to just tick things off, that is all that is needed.

166. Judging our day based on how much we get done is a common one for most of us. I sometimes catch myself feeling that I am ‘not getting anywhere’ just because I am not powering through my ‘to do’ list! The crazy thing is we are never getting anywhere, we just keep spinning round in the same cycles.

     1. Yes Fiona… very true. We can give ourselves a pat on the back or a bash on the head depending on how much we get done or not – but all along we are simply going around, and around and around. How pointless the bashing and patting actually is….

     2. So true Fiona. I find it fascinating quite how many pictures and ideals I have about what and/or how much I should be doing. As soon as I let these take over what I end up doing usually has to be redone or mistakes have been made so problems come back later. Whereas when I let go of needing to do anything I find suddenly everything somehow gets done!

167. I am forever discovering just what can be achieved in a day if I allow he day to go with the flow of it. Not only are the things completed that were there to be done, but others will present and be done with no stress or bother. This is so different to how I too used to live and to live this way feels so supportive, not only of my self, but also of others.

168. I feel stressed when I think I don’t have enough time. But when I am connected to myself and what I do, time doesn’t seem to matter so much anymore.

169. The concept of time is challenged when we experience spaciousness. The moments are full and there is no drive or need to fill what already is complete.

170. In the past I always made it about time and never the quality in which I would be. There is a world of difference when we choose and express our true quality which is a powerful reflection for others to choose that for themselves too.

     1. I was the same and sometimes I get caught up with the pressure of time instead of connecting to the quality of what I do.

171. I often wonder where the belief that “the harder we worked and the busier we were, the more complete our lives, our days and perhaps, we were” came from. It is a belief that so many of us allow to run our lives but as you, and I, experienced it often ends up simply running us into the ground. If we were to make the choice to live in harmony with our body and listen to its very wise messages there would be absolutely no way we could live and work like that but as you have discovered, we can still get so much done, and our body will not be harmed in the process

172. This really needs to be global headline. Woman finds true answer to doing too much. I reckon almost every women in the world would read it.

     1. Yes… and to realise it is in the way we are being with ourselves, the quality we are in that allows more space. Our movements are powerful.

        1. Our movements are quite literally everything. As in every-thing is either a movement that is in step and in keeping with God or a movement that is out of step with God. Every movement is therefore a movement away from God or a movement that is in sync with the Him that we already are.

173. “It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.” It is in the deepening and understanding of energy and its quality that we also let go of perfection and make life more about growth and understanding, which then makes life more about surrender and not tension too.

174. A former ‘stress head’ I now know what is feels like to live without the fear of how things should be or we wish them to be. By allowing myself to be less judgmental and hard on myself was the biggest stepping stone in the right direction that now allows me the joy to feel and trust that all will be done and what is needed at each moment.

175. The one thing I know about me time is the more I get it, the more I crave more, but still never feel like I have had enough me time…. I also now know it is about being me in all I do and then all my time is the new type of me time….

176. The more self-love, or having a love for oneself the more vital the body – it’s really as simple as this.

177. It is amazing when you start to honour your body more through the day without compromising your other commitments just how much space begins to open up.

     1. I find that the moment I try to fit everything in or do things quickly because of not enough time my body goes racy and I usually end up making mistakes and what I am doing therefore takes a lot longer. Whereas when I stay with myself space opens up and I have the time to do what is needed. It is amazing the difference when we stay with our bodies and do not compromise the quality of what we are doing.

        1. True James, with a racy body I make mistakes and then it takes a lot longer plus I end up being frustrated as I know so well in my body to do it loving and honouring me and my surroundings. When I choose to acknowledge how racy I am, it is just a matter of changing my movements and thus come back to the truth that I can so easily connect to in my body.

        2. It really is that simple, I agree and as you say it 1st starts with acknowledging where our body is at, how racy we are etc. and then changing our movements to come back to who we truly are and then the body naturally adjusts and realigns to the love we are.

     2. Yes Abby I love this too and little miracles start happening everywhere.

178. After pushing my body over the last fews days I am really feeling it is about quality and not quantity (e.g. how much we can squeeze into the day).

179. time being the keeper of us rather than the other way around that is huge and I feel the depth offered here, that it’s about the quality of how we are, and the flow and if we go beyond this we become exhausted and overwhelmed. At this point surprisingly or not I’d have to say thank God for exhaustion for it’s a way for us to see and consider that we’ve left the flow, that we’ve left our quality, and why would we do something without either.

180. Our bodies show us everything and stress totally drains us. So we have a choice of how we deal with ‘busy’ – and how much we take on board. What we seem to do is load ourselves with added stress and time pressures that just dump on our bodies – when we can actually take a step back and choose what we put our energy into.

181. I can really feel the difference of some days when time runs away and there are so many things I had aimed to do but not managed to complete, compared to days where I allow everything to flow and there seems to be more time at the end of the day. It shows how false our perceptions can be and by focusing on the quality we do anything in, the space is there.

182. “Considering if there is a flow – or a drive, a push to achieve, complete or tick the boxes” – agree Nicole, yes the beauty is first in the understanding of the difference in the quality.. and then choosing the harmonious option.

183. It is so worth being consciously present in the body as it is when we are lost in our heads that time whizzes by. Taking life moment by moment slows this down and opens up space for us to actually do more than we could ever imagine as we haven’t wasted the endless energy as we do when we are in our heads.

184. This shows us that we are often living in a way that is fully runned by time.. What Universal Medicine has brought together are tools that take us back to who we are — our being — before any doing and — space –. Hence, this has offered many hundreds if not thousand(s) a new way of living life that is more free of the drive of life’s demands – but more in connection to who we are truly.

185. Do, do, do to tick the boxes is a modern day form of slavery that goes nowhere but just in detriment of our body. We are slaves until we feel how abusive this is running around with this energy – that is never enough- and say ‘no’. Nicole what you present here is very inspiring and revolutionary at the same time as it breaks the old rules to approach work, a business or a simple daily task at home, it can be applied for everything. By reading your words I can feel how limited is the timing energy and how much space there is at the end, where you make the choice to stay with yourself, feeling your body and caring about the quality of everything you are doing. Feeling complete in the whole process…How amazing it would be if every person in this world worked in this way?

186. My perception of time is like an external pressure that pushes me to do things without taking myself into account. Time from this perspective has limits and, so me too. Space, on the contrary, comes from within and the more I feel and honour myself, the more it expands in the inside and out. Space has no end, so me neither. The difference between them two resides in the quality of my movements, which depends directly on my connection. Just a mini stop moment allows the shift to happen.

187. “Looking back, my days were gauged by how ‘good’ they were based on how much was achieved or completed.” I can relate to what you have shared here Nicole as I too used to gauge how big my to do list was and how much I achieved on it in one day as a success and found I was always running around with anxiety and waiting for the recognition that the success brought me. But the one missing ingredient within these never ending lists was how my body felt and how did the anxiety and drive then effect everything I was doing and also everyone around me too? When we stop to consider how we move and how the micro details then effect the whole we can see that when we move in a way that supports who we are, we begin to connect to a rhythm that provides space, love and true care which feels so very far away from the anxiety, rush and stress we felt earlier.

188. Thank you Nicole for a great sharing I can relate to the doing, I loved doing and getting a lot done in the day it gave me a sense of self worth in my accomplishments, but I was left worn out and tired and there was always more, more boxes to tick. These days I am much more loving with my body no loading my day with lots to do, filling a picture of how my day should be. I find all that needs to be done gets done in a much slower and gentler pace with no worn out feelings in my body at the end of the day.

189. ‘It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.’ I find that when I attend to things straight away i keep buoyant. I also have to watch those emails that come barbed and literally allow more space in my body through my breath and movements so as to reply from a centred, loving yet firm place where I am connected to the authority and power that comes with the absolute truth.

190. Is it that we are busier in our minds than our body can ever be and that is why we need more space? The body can only do so much in a day and I feel the exhaustion and overwhelm certainly does come from doing a thousand things in the mind while the body is doing another. Perhaps there is always enough ‘time’ or space to do things, it’s just a matter of focusing and being with the body in each process and move.

191. I have just had the most interesting experience with space and time. I went to bed early as I was tired from a long drive in extremely heavy traffic. And when I woke up it felt as though I had been asleep for hours but it was only 2 hours since I went to sleep. So I went back to sleep again and again felt I had been asleep for hours but it had only been for a short while. I could feel the expansion that was there the space it feels limitless. This is showing me how we short change ourselves in how we limit our awareness to what is there to be felt.

192. “It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.” This is so true and my experience too, when we work on deepening our own quality and moments, time expands, we have more space in the day and more is done.

193. There is such a deep level of anxiousness that is running though the human frame as life becomes more and more intense. And having the tools to deal with this is life changing, but many of the tools available today seek to overcome the body with the mind, whereas Universal Medicine presents the possibility that we are all deeply loving beings and this anxiousness and the tension we can feel with time itself is simply the result of movements by our bodies which we have each made that are out of kilter with that love that we are. And so, to return to the simplicity of love and, to develop a different relationship with time, all that needs to be done is to look at how we move and to see, without judgement, if there is space to introduce perhaps a more loving way to carry our bodies through the day.

194. A beautiful understanding of time and how it opens up when we allow it leaving us with space, and how it disapears when we don’t and go into anxiety and rush.

     1. That is the simplicity of it, when we let go of push, rush, anxiety of having to get things done or go some where. The space around expands and time just fits in, it just all seems to flow beautifully.

195. ” My body felt like it could only run like this for so long.” indeed, there is so far we can push our bodies before we are offered a correction, one that makes us stop and take into consideration the true nature of who we are.

196. ‘Time now comes to me….’ what an amazing revelation and how cool is that. As I stay more open to and connect with my innermost I notice that space opens up. The rush ‘to do’ has gone, yet I can accomplish just as much as I did before but with far less effort.

197. I still do this … say I do not have enough time in the day! Tasks and things I have to do at work and at home are steadily increasing more and more and what I can feel is although I am just about on top of it this … just, it is not coming from a space of me holding me first and then flowing with all that needs to be done .. if that makes sense! So yes this is still very much work in progress for me. What I do have though is true role models in my life with with regards to this in the Benhayon family.

     1. I agree Behayon’s are a true role model and the show us so beautiful through the livingness, that when we bring it back to conscious presence and our movement of flow then space expands and time beautifully slots in.

198. As soon as we are outcome based we lose any true quality in our movements. Such a great revelation for we want the end goal but it is actually a distraction to avoid taking responsibility in the moment.

     1. A great point Thomas. Having picture and expectations as to how things should be is a killer. Responsibility in the moment – yes definitely.

199. ‘So what if time does not exist?’ This question and all your blog presents Nicole shows how wrapped up in reality we have been. We moan and complain about time but as you show it isn’t even real or working the way we think it is. And isn’t this the thing: living aligned to principles that are not true will drain and demoralise and stress us out. So rather than looking for more time in our day perhaps we should be feeling and considering life in a totally different way.

200. “With the ongoing love and support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I have been given the tools to make different choices, to be more loving, to not be afraid to ask for help, or to say no, building a level of consistency in my day, my life and my body.” This line really struck me today about the power of love and how it can change our lives.

     1. ‘To not be afraid to ask for help’ , this line resonated with me strongly too. I used to think I had to go it alone and sort myself out. I used to also think that showing my vulnerability was a weakness. So much in my life- and my ideas about living – have changed since coming to Universal Medicine presentations – all for the better.

201. We can take it very serious as time is making us sick, or actually not necessary time itself but how we use it. We seem to give time the power of being it the wheel on our boat, but what if we are the sailors? Absolutely profound blog that shares a different way of how to in relationship with time – it’s not something big, it is part of life in its current way.

202. Working in my natural rhythm, with purpose and commitment gives me the all the vitality I need, and the time to complete what is needed in my day – ticking boxes exhausts and drains me.

     1. Jenny I can completely relate to what you say, staying focus with the purpose and staying committed, there becomes a natural rhythm and there is a beautiful vitality of energy felt in the body, the more you stay in the flow the more vitality felt. When I going into the doing and trying to complete I get exhausted and drained. Key what I am finding is to stay in conscious presence in the flow.

203. Time is such an illusion, I heard recently about someone who gets more done in a day than I already thought that was humanly possible, had taken on so much more which just blew my mind. Does this person sleep at all? And she is as fit as a fiddle and as vibrant as a room full of vibrant people at a convention for the vibrant. It just shows there is no end to what we can do if we can connect and live in a true way.

204. I spent years valuing myself on what I achieved in the day, feeling great if I had ticked things off my list with little or no concern to the quality I did it in and how it left my body feeling at the end of the day.

205. When we focus on time we create unnecessary tension that dissipates when we bring our focus to the space we have instead.

     1. Time is limited, space is expansion. Simplicity of science, when we connect to that it feels and becomes more clearer.

     2. When we focus on time we distort our perception of life, when we enter into space we start to see life as it really is. Being ruled by time leads to a very contracted view of life whereas being in space leads to a very expanded view of life. Contraction brings distortion and expansion brings truth. Our choices lead to choices of a similar ilk.

206. Beautiful when you make your own day and don’t let a construct confine your quality and flow.

207. A great sharing of how we can look totally differently at time and space. There is so much on offer here to allow a fullness of space and not feel we have to ‘do’ all the time. The cycles of motion and repose have been a huge support for me to introduce a balance in my life – and to realise that completing things is just as important as starting them.

208. In Germany now they actually have clinics that are called burnout clinics… It has become so common. What an extraordinary indictment of our society that it has come to this, and yet, there is no one looking at the whole picture and saying this is where it starts, and this is where the whole education process must transform.

209. I know I am enough. And today I will take this to every detail of my day.

210. Rap Poem Comment enjoy……

     Time can be a prison or a spacious gift
     Depending if you are pushing or surrender to it
     If you try to control it and live by the clock, your body will suffer, it will harden like rock
     You can try to escape it on a tropical island, or send yourself off to a mental asylum…
     Some of this, may seem like your free from its grip
     But it only delays, so here is a tip
     Don’t give your power to the tick or the tock, silence the sound of your grandfather clock. Take stock of your choices, take a moment to breathe, let your body feel everything
     Even dis-ease, soak up the moment, know your enough, move with a quality
     Do not be rough and in this clarity, your surroundings may all look the same
     But you are clearly playing a different game
     As your particles adjust to space you create
     Time will never be a thing outside you, that you chase.

     1. This is a song Sarah that definitely needs to be recorded!

211. If people only knew how important it was to stop and to feel our whole relationship with our bodies and the consequent reflection of our well-being and health would be enormous

212. Working to time will never deliver us the space we have access to in every moment.

213. We tent to struggle with the notion of time, always wanting to squeeze more in of what we think has to be done and this is the illusion of life where we end exhausted from the constant pushing through. When we can simply make life about a certain quality of movement that is aligned to our soul creating space around us for what needs to happen in a flow that reflects our multidimensionality with the all.

214. “My body felt like it could only run like this for so long”. The body is so incredibly wise and ‘knows’ so much and continually and lovingly shares this wisdom with us ALL the time – even when we choose not to listen, it keeps on sharing it with us. It is the best friend we could even want.

215. When I consider time, I look at ways to fill it – I get sucked into time being the be all and end all of what can get done. But space is different. When I allow space, it isn’t about trying to fit things in but rather taking a step back, completing what needs to be completed and appreciating where I am at.

216. ‘Ticking the boxes and getting everything done’ – must be one of the most common traps we fall for as human beings. Is it the neverending need to know that we are ‘good enough’?

217. It is great to re-visit this blog today, as I got caught in a stressful moment of ‘how am I going to get everything done?’ I can stop and remind myself that it is a choice to go into that way of thinking, and that when I connect to my body and the flow again there is no issue.

218. Nicole, this article is gold, having recently started a new job I can feel how easy it would be to burn out and that looking after and honouring myself is key, my body is clearly showing me when I am caught up in the busyness and overwhelm. What you are sharing here is great to be aware of; ‘I now stop to feel how the choices I make impact my body and the flow of my day. Considering if there is a flow – or a drive, a push to achieve, complete or tick the boxes.’

219. We have made time linear concept, continually rushing from A to B, putting things behind us and focusing on what is to come…yet we measure it with a circular clock. Does this not give away the fact that deep down we know that time is a cycle we are bound to in order to address the quality of movement we make in a certain space to support us to return to our true Soul-full expression by way of ensuring that our every move is eventually made in and with the love we are and not all that opposes this love.

220. Looking at our choices and learning to say no rather than doing things begrudgingly is a great start to do life rather than being done by it and what we deem to be the constraints of time.

221. “.. the burden of ‘what’s next’…” this sums up drive so perfectly and also helps me to see how much drive I choose on a daily basis. Your life is proof that this pattern can be healed so thank you for sharing Nicole.

222. I have been having lots of conversations with people at work about how we put out to-do list before ourselves and our well-being. Its a habit that is not easy to break, especially in pressurized work environments where deadlines come thick and fast, and you never feel on top of things. However it is possible to make small changes that have a big impact, one little step at a time.

223. It is a total switch to move from seeking recognition and validation from what we do and achieve to bringing all of ourselves to life and feeling the purpose in that.

224. ‘I now stop to feel how the choices I make impact my body and the flow of my day.’ This is so simple but potentially life changing. This morning after I felt the impact of going to bed late, of avoiding myself at a time designed for surrender and deep rest, I choose to really feel my body and not run away by going into my mind and thinking about what I needed to do next. By not running I cannot but feel the consequences of my self-abusive behaviour. But the real pain is getting to feel just how precious I am and therefore how abusive my choices have been and how crazy much of the abuse was to cover up this pain rather than treat myself with the absolute care I deserve.

225. ‘Time was constantly eluding me and I felt like I was never going to catch up.’ – The pressure we put on ourselves to live up to our own expectations and to fit it all into a certain time frame, is relentless and a sure path to disharmony in our bodies.

226. It is so easy to fall into being a slave to time. But in fact it is all about allowing the space and then we have the time that flows from there.

227. Creating space and flow in our day can only be done by changing the way we are moving from moment to moment.

228. Wow, you have seen things from both sides and it is very inspiring to hear about how you have made
     adjustments to your life that have opened up space and time in a way that is yet to be discovered by most people.

229. There is a drive in this world which is not about getting anything done its about being in a drive to keep a person in motion so they do not have time to observe whats really going on. All the illusionary importance of getting things done, meeting deadlines and so on are all brought to the reality of illusion , when a person is hospitalised and they are capable of doing nearly nothing it is then that they truly see they have loads of time.

230. When you think of it do we really want to race through our day, which really means racing through our life, ticking all the boxes along the way? And what exactly are we racing toward? . . . .”Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.” . . . seems a much more evolving way to go!

231. We can do do do, and what I am learning is that it is not about doing more, but rather about the quality that I do things in – and this then feeds me back the time and space to get more done without pushing or trying!

     1. I find it interesting that when I was young there seemed to be a lot more focus on the quality of what we were doing and producing, one simple example is electrical equipment, which back then seemed to last forever and nowadays we need to replace the items after 2-3 years. What happened?

232. Box ticking is a draining experience at it triggers the nervous system and prevents us from enjoying what we do. On a practical level there are things we all have to do, but the question is do we do them all in function or can we bring the joy, the fun and the spunk into all that we do?!

233. This is fantastic what you share here Nicole – “No longer running against the clock, time now comes to me; I am able to complete more in a day than ever before, with more vitality and Love.” – I know so many people and I would have been one of them not that long ago really when the thought of being free from the clock and feeling more vital was something that was not possible or even something that we would consider. Serge Benhayon and the teachings of Universal Medicine support to see and feel that there is another way. A way of living that connects and feels the body and being as one and a quality of living from the choices we make.

234. It is common sense that when we try to fit as much as possible into an hour, a day or a week and are constantly run and controlled by time, it has to happen at the expense of our own wellbeing – yet, we often seem to be taken by surprise when our body breaks down and says NO.

235. The more we think about time and attach our daily event Ma to time and work to that the less we are present with where we actually are – which allows us to tune into how to be with whatever is needed.

236. ‘How often do we say “I don’t have time,” “If only there were more hours in the day,” or “I need time for me, everything I do is for everyone else”?’ – Common expressions indeed – if we are in a hamster wheel and constantly pushing through life, there is never going to be enough time.

237. “I now stop to feel how the choices I make impact my body and the flow of my day.” a beautiful reminder to live and appreciate the quality in what we are doing and the honouring of this is in our lives.

238. ‘My body felt like it could only run like this for so long.’ – Thank God for the body’s ability to let us know the state of affairs, the trick is that we have learnt to override it. It takes true dedication to ourselves to start to truly honour what we feel once again and to live that consistently.

239. So many of us live a life of abuse that is considered normal, but totally unnecessary, we overdo it and try and be supermen/women when it seems we can get as much or more done if we start self caring and being more present with ourselves and what we are doing at the time.

240. It is such a deep healing when we realize that doing more is not it and that we have been subscribing to living a total lie at the expense of our bodies and that the only thing that matters in life is the quality that we live in as it is the source of our true expression.

241. “…It was more important to get the job done than to consider how it left me feeling, overdoing it, straining myself or pushing myself past the point of exhaustion purely to make my day look like it was a ‘good’ day: I was a martyr, a superwoman, the envy of all women, all at the expense of myself…” This is a very important aspect of the modern day woman to bring awareness to, and the next thing to consider is how much these behaviour patterns have an effect on a woman’s health and wellbeing..

242. ‘I was a martyr, a superwoman, the envy of all women, all at the expense of myself.’ – Haha, I can very much relate to this Nicole, having come from a similar reality. Today I could absolutely not live like this, nor would I want to.

243. The more I let go the more exhaustion comes up from my body to let go. And then I have to be very gentle with myself not to go back into the drive which for me is the cause of the exhaustion as I am asking my body to work in a way that is disrespectful to it and it has to work harder hence the resulting feeling of always being tired. When I let go and work with my body my energy levels increase!

244. Taking some time in the day – when I wake up, when I get in the car, at my desk or when I go to sleep, just to check in and ask myself how the day has been, how I feel and how my body is doing is a very simply way to break up all the doing – am i slightly anxious, what is my breathing and heart rate doing, do I feel warm and myself or cold and on edge. All these small gauges give me a sense of the quality of my day beyond what I have physically achieved.

245. Being in the momentum of the superwoman trying to tick off every box often disregards and dismisses that precious inner quality within.

246. It’s absolutely no surprise that as long as women look for their self worth in ‘what they do’ we will have woman-kind drained, exhausted and not knowing who they are. This shows another way that is evidently worth exploring.

247. Because I am an action woman as well, I know this pretty well from my past as well. We are so trained to achieve things, without really checking how the quality of our body and our expression is. I used to have a lot of nervous tension in my body- luckily through the teaching from Serge Benhayon I could bring a stop to this momentum. That does not mean that every now and then it tries to sneak in again, but the pain that it causes in my body is too much and so well looked after from myself, so that it has no chance for a long time of sneaking in luckily. And like you are saying, there is never a finish, I look after the flow of my day everyday.

248. In the past, every moment of the day for me used to be dominated by time and I prided myself in how much I could squeeze into the day. But then I would get exhausted and have periods of inactivity and beat myself up for being so lazy, blaming my body for letting me down. Thanks to Universal Medicine I now have a different relationship with my body and with time, and am much better at allowing the day to flow and unfold as it needs to.

     1. I remember having even a challenge with myself and time. It felt like succeeding at the end of the day, what I managed to do or how less time I needed to travel by car to somewhere. How wired I was, because of this, I did certainly not celebrate 😉

249. Nicole, it is really helpful to read this blog, it helps me to realise that I can get caught up in busyness and focus on how much I can get done and trying to get everything on my list done, rather than making life about quality, it’s great to have this reminder.

250. I am being asked to deepen with myself and to let go of the false worth that I take on when life gets busy. Because no amount of busyness can compare with the deep feeling of ease and fulfillment I have with myself if my day was lived in my full expression of love with myself and everyone I come in contact with.

251. This blog highlights how much our way of living impacts our health. The way we are with ourselves (even if we are considered ‘healthy’ by the way we eat, exercise etc..) can be harming and a negative impact on our health. Even talking to yourself harshly has a negative impact on your body.

252. “Old age was looking pretty dismal and painful if I continued to choose to live in the overwhelm and busy-ness of life” – Old age can be an incredible time of life, and I’ve met some inspiring people in their 60s, 70s and 80s as vibrant as ever, learning different skills and never ceasing to be involved in the community. We have a say in the quality of these years based on how we choose to live and look after ourselves in all the years before.

     1. And even if you missed looking after yourself in the earlier years of your life, you can still choose differently, no matter what age. It is never too late to start new or better said, make different choices. ” I am too old for that/ a change” is just an excuse to stay in old habits.

253. Connecting with how my body feels and how I’m feeling in myself helps me to recognise if I’ve taken myself into a driving, hard or racy way of doing things, as something just doesn’t feel right and that is a marker for me that I’m not truly listening to my innermost impulses but attaching to things being a certain way out of a drive from self, rather than encompassing everyone.

     1. Very important also, if you realize not being in the body and maybe fallen into drive or maybe the opposite into dullness, that you just observe and don´t get harsh on yourself. Sometimes we tend to use our awareness when things are not as you know it should be, to get frustrated or hard on ourselves. It does not change anything then, because the exact same energy plays itself out.

254. If I am rushing around with not enough time to complete things, it can reflect that I am indeed out of the natural flow of things where space emerges the more I am truly present with the moment.

255. Great blog and something I am sure everyone can relate to, it was also no coincidence that I read this and for me what I needed to take from it was this to ‘stop to feel how the choices I make impact my body and the flow of my day’ as lately I am seeing I am saying yes to everything and not stoping to feel in my body if it is true or okay for me to say yes to it.

256. I so relate Nichole to how I would push my body, so that living in a way where everything was done in overdrive at the inevitable warp speed, to the detriment of my health! In all honesty I am still learning to go more on impulse so the drive of wanting everything completed is not pushing me into agendas that do not serve my body, which is allowing more Love to flow in my day. Listening to the body so that I can honour what I feel is allowing more time and space to not get caught in fast lane.

257. When saying the words “I don’t have time” if I stop and feel, my body is in a terrible state. Even if I have too much to do, does it matter when it gets done? Something yes, they do matter, but not everything. I can flow and do what is needed when, or I can think about all that I need to do, take myself out of that flow and put myself into tension. It’s all a choice.

258. To relinquish my head to head with time (always fighting to stay ahead) and let my days unfold step by step has and continues to be life changing. There is a deepening knowing that all is well.

259. We have lied to ourselves about what time is. We say it’s linear. Science says its the same cycle repeated over and over again.

260. There is a very unhealthy and unhelpful attitude that if you are not pushing yourself at work then you must be slacking off or this is the only way to meet deadlines. It is only in the last decade that I started to contemplate that I don’t need to work this way. Since then I have found that my work is done in the same time with a lot less stress and strain if I do it according to how my body feels and take care of me while I work.

     1. Very true – the space that opens up when we are present with what we are doing and stop pushing to do it faster, better or controlling in any way, is something to be aware of and to truly appreciate.

261. Living with energetic responsibility is not only recognising what there is to be done, but also being very aware of the energy in which we are doing it in, thereby taking care of ourselves in the process.

262. ‘Accepted by many, including myself for a very long time, albeit begrudgingly, but nonetheless we seemed to partake in it, using any opportunity to complain but never actually doing anything to change it.’ …. and in so doing we are all guilty of feeding this false reality of what is not only possible, but normal for us to do, all the time raising the bar on how much we can fit in, without stopping to consider the quality in which we are doing it all in.

263. The mind as task master pushes and pushes us to be endlessly ‘doing’, thus setting us up for it never being enough. Our worth is then measured only by the volume of what we do and achieve. Serge Benhayon’s presentations have given me the opportunity to be aware of this cycle and make new choices to ‘being’ in more presence with my body and surrender to the innate stillness within. To move from this place feels like harmony in motion and a long way from the old way of striving and doing.
     “It was more important to get the job done than to consider how it left me feeling”.

264. Looking around me today at clients and colleagues, a high state of anxiety is now accepted as the norm. Thank you for sharing your learning here, Nicole, as it cuts through the illusion that this state of being is inevitable and demonstrates that there is in fact another way.

265. I have recently started putting my feet up for 5 minutes when I come home from work. Now and then, I wont, because I say I’ve got no time, but actually I can take 5 minutes out of my day to do this self loving act. I still tend to put my tasks above my self care, but I am catching this habit and slowly breaking it.

     1. Debra, I too have been taking a moment to sit down on the outdoor lounge to stop and look at the view and feel the sun on my skin. I am finding these moments are equally as valuable to everything else.

        1. They add to the depth we bring to the next moment.

266. It is interesting to note that a huge part of commitment to life is in saying yes to what we can see needs to be done. But if all this generates is a lengthy to-do-list that leaves you feeling drained, then perhaps it was not in response to the call to action at all in the first place but a desire to achieve something worthy of attention, something seen as worthwhile while all the while your actual and real purpose is going unexpressed, because this real genuine purpose would never drain you but actually give you more energy to give more to the world whist forever holding you in its loving embrace.

267. One of the biggest traps about being super busy is that we tend to put ourselves last and disable ourselves from attending to those things we do for ourselves, be that an exercise class or some quiet time, the connection with a friend, our partner even. Running ourselves ragged is a self-perpetuating vicious circle that creates forevermore tasks.

     1. Well said Gabriele, and even Students of the Way of the Livingness step in that trap in being super busy, because they then get the feel of being a good student. Obviously it is the same energy playing out, although it is only for a great purpose what you are producing or being part of. The moment you are not doing it for the all/ you want to get something out of it, and being recognised for it, it can never have the true quality and it does smash your body. We really need to learn that being in appreciation and surrender first is the only healthy way to do things.

     2. Very true Gabriele and when we are asked how we are, our answer is busy. Being busy has become an identification, a protection and a way to avoid how we are feeling.

268. “It was more important to get the job done than to consider how it left me feeling”. When I read this I was struck by how many people could relate to this, and do this as well. Then I got thinking about how many work places subscribe to this – placing profit and output before people, and often we can ‘blame’ the work place culture/management team for this but if we really honest, are we not also doing this in our daily personal lives?

269. What you say about being aware of where we are at makes so much sense, over stretching ourselves or not exploring what we are capable of comes from us not paying attention and being really connected with where we are at. How can we choose what is needed next when we are perpetually in a race against time or walking through mud. There is a natural flow that we all have within us that we can align with when we give ourselves some attention.

270. ‘but I continue to look back on my life, where I was and where I am today, how much more alive, vital, gentle, tender and loving I am with not only myself but also with everyone around me’. This was exactly what I was feeling yesterday – and that wow I had so much to appreciate, and with this deeper sense of appreciation I feel I am preparing for what’s next.

271. Perhaps there is more to the physical process of ageing than simply increasing in age, and that actually our relationship to time, looking after ourselves, purpose and so forth are all contributing factors to how our body changes over time.

     1. And this so beautifully exposes how our relationship with time can either come from an expansiveness and grace or from the constraints of time that we create for ourselves. Every line and every wrinkle on someone’s face will tell the story of what trajectory we embarked on, whether we battled with time, or surrendered to the simple fact that time is going around and around as are we.

     2. Very good point Susie. For if we had a set of twins who lived in different qualities – one honouring space and time from their body and the other working against themself then surely there would be a vast difference in how old each looked and felt.

     3. Absolutely from my experience there is more, when we build a relationship with ourselves and to self care , nurture and appreciate. We allow space to expand around us. Our body responds to this space and there is more vitality felt within. I have noticed I feel and look a lot younger.

272. Being in overwhelm I thought the only option of addressing it was to stop completely. But how often I and I hear other people going on holiday or even the weekend and after a day or so after returning to work, feel like they never went on holiday in the first place? What’s here is another way. A way of living that isn’t exhausting that I am learning little by little. Fancy observing the world, seeing the support it’s calling out for and being able to deliver at no expense to one’s vitality? This is amazing when the world does seem to becoming much more intense whatever we do or wherever we live. It’s turning it around from the norm of burnt out worker which has almost become the accepted inevitability in many professions.

273. We can certainly feel like life is so demanding – if it is not work demands, then it is family demands, and if it is not family demands, then it is friends or pets demands etc etc. and then there are the demands of making sure one takes care of oneself, with the right foods and exercise. And life becomes a CHORE.
     Even writing this above sentence feels heavy and like a chore…and so it is exposed that it has everything to do with out outlook on life and our perception of things, which of course comes from the energy that we are in which in turn is governed by the way we move and our movements. Now that’s a lot to swallow in one go – but as Nicole has shared in her blog, the key to making lasting change is to tune in the body, and how we feel. Our body is our best friend and can support us along the way in so many ways should we simply just listen to it and care for it along the way. Making friends with your body and deepening this relationship really is the key to transforming the ‘chore’ aspects into the joy of doing what we do by underdstading the why we do it!

274. I still have days where I think about the amount of stuff that I got done, and I cannot help but feel great when lots got done, and a little bummed when I did not get all the things I had planned on done. But what I am learning is to not be so hard on myself if I have a less productive day, and also to appreciate more the quality in which I can get things done. In fact these days it is beautiful to feel my capacity overall – how much I can actually get done whilst having fun, doing it with quality AND feeling energised by it all! The problem with this (as a pun) is that it keeps setting the standard higher and higher – in other words if I know I can have such an amazing day, why not then make every day like that! And so it is, but also of course realising that there is a cycle and a timing for things, and that not every day can be nor should be the same. And that nor is it about everything going smoothly all the time, but more so about how I am in each moment and how I handle things through the day.

     1. A great point Henrietta – if there is a ‘picture as to how the day should run’ and it isn’t then it is easy to get caught up trying to arrest the changes rather than staying with ourselves and observing what is going on.

        1. Not to mention how completely exhausting it is to meet all these pictures, ideals, expectations and outcomes. I’ve found it far more supportive and productive to listen to my body and the how I need to complete something.

     2. Thank you for sharing this Henrietta. I have the same issue with expecting to be highly productive every day and getting disappointed with myself when it appears I haven’t ‘done’ much. Allowing myself to go with the flow and rhythm of each day is something I am adjusting to, whilst appreciating that my days are becoming more about quality rather than quantity.

     3. Quality Rocks! But we need to know what quality and as you say that is a constant evolution and there is never an end point.

275. A beautiful sharing and joy to read Nicole of the expansion of time by our Quality and presence and this really does happen bringing a whole new way of being to our lives magically.

     1. It is beautiful how time expands with the quality of our presence. I have been experimenting with my quality of presence, and I can feel I get more done and have time to complete other things and its simply bring quality to the presence of my movements.

276. How much the drive to ‘achieve’ comes from a lack of self-worth. Learning to love myself and life increasingly becomes a harmonious flow.

277. The whole world is definitely addicted to doing! And I too am working on being a reformed doer!

278. I feel this is how we are conditioned from young, we base our lives on how much we achieve or complete at whatever the cost. The cost when I look around me is that everyone is exhausted in overwhelm and using some sort of stimulant to get by and this has a huge detrimental effect on the body which is why we are living with such high rates of illness and disease. It seems to me that no one has stopped long enough to clock what is going on and to ask the question why are we pushing ourselves to such limits, what does this achieve and has this insatiable drive improved our lives?

     1. A truly important question Mary and how I feel it would change the present state of the world if more people addressed this question.

279. When we allow joy in our lives everything opens up and with our commitment to staying present miracles happen as in we can accomplish a huge amount in a little time because we are absolutely connected.

280. It is deeply important to not seek outside ourselves for the perfect version of who we should be – rather, let us accept in full who we are and where we are at rather than striving to be everything other than who we innately are.

281. Keeping an eye on the time as a simple practical check in, rather than being enslaved to time, constantly paddling like crazy as we check the time automatically and almost as another whip lash… it is brilliant to bring awareness to our relationship with time.

282. Time becomes very present and or burdening to us when we strive to get things done as we are continually pushing ourselves and running against our natural flow of movement. It is only when we allow ourselves the space to feel what this does to the body and then respond and or shift our movements to work with us not against us that we can shift the paradigm of always chasing time to feeling and surrendering to the natural flow of life, where we can then make a new choice and refine our movements one step at a time.

283. The way we live from moment to moment determines whether we are squeezed by and for time or expand into the spaciousness that is likewise on offer. Conscious presence and listening to and obeying the body are key here.

284. ‘Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.’ In a nutshell – thank you Nicole.

285. Oh wow, the idea of time coming to you sounds like a busy persons dream!!! But, I totally understand that if we don’t allow the space and continue to keep our head down and bum up, then we will never be able to see what’s actually been offered.

286. Time theft: we rob ourselves of the purpose, reflection and teacher time is when we make it a linear movement whereby life seems to run through our fingers and passes away and we try to be ahead, keep up or catch up on it.

287. It’s very true that we are incredibly sensitive beings. I have spent the last 4 years listening to the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom and applying them to my life to see the amazing changes unfold – with more consistency, clarity and joy a loved way. But what is presented to me is that there is a still a tension with every day, and sometimes days feel more tense than others or are full of anxiety even when it is just a day of going to work. So the level of honouring of our sensitivity is vital, and a relationship with ourselves, our conscious awareness and the aspects of life we choose to engage with are ever so important.

288. It is those moments of reflection when I consider how I used to live, just coping, just keeping overwhelm and frustration at bay, that I can, like you, Nicole, really marvel at the transformations (ongoing) that have occurred in my life and that these are because of choices I have made, and a willingness to explore universal medicine and the support and inspiration it offers.

289. I have been pondering the difference between drive and commitment over the last 24 hours, I love the feeling of fully committing to everything that needs to be done and that it’s possible to keep setting a higher and higher marker for ourselves. But there are times I definitely have to push through something, or drive myself on to finish everything I’ve set out for myself to do which results in super intense tiredness… it’s an ongoing learning.

290. Yeh this is spot on – busyness can be a modern day addiction, it’s great to live a full and committed life but you are so correct in saying that what we do in a day should not ever define us, the magnificence of who we are was there at the start of the day before we even got out of bed.

291. And when we make it about the quality we are in in life then there are no self worth issues.

292. This morning I got in a rush and almost ended up having an altercation with my partner. Tracing it back I could see that I had chosen to ignore what I felt to do, and tried to squeeze things in all because I thought it would be ‘better this way’ and I could still achieve what I want. But in all of this there was no place for the truth and the quality I imprint in the world. Being honest I can see that I didn’t prepare for the day lovingly and so put myself in a jam – which I then tried to speed my way out of. Well it certainly doesn’t work but comes at the cost of our love with ourselves and all those around us. Deeper than this I can see I arranged the rush to avoid feeling what is headed my way today. Thank you Nicole for helping me join the dots between upsets and fights and racing against time and what we feel every day.

293. Overwhelm is serious issue, many of us feel perpetually in a rush and trying to catch up in life. Our bodies are suffering, neck and shoulder, and back pain are big issue, alongside stress and nervous energy issues. It is time to reflect on our relationship with life and ask ourselves some questions about why we live as we do.

294. That level of drive that we can get into never provides a foundation for us to live from the fullness of who we are and bring so much more to life and others than the completion of tasks and the performance of duties.

295. There can be such a confirmation within when we say no to something that we are doing out of the need for recognition as well as a space created to bring more of who we are to life.

296. We have made it our truth to push and drive , an accepted normal, that is far away from what should be accepted. Serge Benhayon brings back the truth and awareness to life of simple another way that is in truth very helpful (supportig oneself fully) to come back to what this true new normal is – and that is far far far from our current accepted reality. Are we truly being real, or wanting to see something that suits our needs?

297. This ‘nose to the grindstone’ way of existing is so common in our society that its almost like we can’t conceive there could be another way. Yet like a hamster in a wheel running around endlessly, isn’t it clear that if we keep going nothing will change? I love what you have highlighted here Nicole and Serge Benhayon has presented – that our whole relationship with time is based on a lie. The way we misconceive how the world works puts me in mind of one of those travelators at the airport and trying to walk in the opposite direction. If only we stopped we could see that this is a huge waste of our energy. We don’t have to push on, just be still and connect to the natural flow and bigger plan that’s there..

     1. More and more I appreciate the days when I’m honest and sit with the tiredness that comes with pushing on – ‘wasting’ energy that can actually serve humanity in a bigger plan. If I let go of the concept that I’m the one that has to do it all along a line of time that in truth leads nowhere as it all is repeating over and over, then I’m open to being in true service.

298. Living in a city that gives us huge recognition and acceptance from being busy, I am learning to listen to my body and live in a way that respects myself but not feel out of place. When in many cultures children going to bed at 7 or 8pm is considered very normal, and even adults sleeping at 9pm is also not impossible, the comments I hear frequently is these things just happen in other places, as if it is cultural. But our bodies are the same, we have the same organs and we have the same blood, there is no difference. Whether something is possible or not possible is our choice. No matter our culture, no matter are lifestyles, our bodies function the same, so whether something is possible or not is up to us in connection with ourselves.

299. Nothing runs us unless we give it permission with expectations that we are super human. Knowing I’m divinely human is totally different and with this I am discovering appreciating and honouring the other worldly beingness of me and apply this awareness to benefit humanity equally not feather my own nest.

300. Inspired by a line from a Rolling Stones song: Time can appear to slip through our fingers, pass by, stand still, stretch or run but how about time is at our side?

301. My whole life and understanding about Time changed after I read the book by Serge Benhayon “Time, Space and All of Us, Book 1 – Time. It is a wonderful book that completely blows all the lies that we have been fed about time out of the window. Can’t recommend it highly enough.

302. Yes I very much agree with your last sentence. Since I stopped or at least greatly reduced being caught up in time I have heaps more space and actually get lots more done and enjoy it.

     1. And I love that this equation is beyond our understanding really, and therefore requires a willingness to go with the flow, relinquishing for me a tight grip of control.

303. So many women are on the treadmill you describe, it is becoming more and more the norm. Knowing there is a different way and having a roadmap is extremely helpful and supportive.

304. “As if it was a reward of some kind, the harder we worked and the busier we were, the more complete our lives, our days and perhaps, we were.” This is how I worked, when running my own teaching business. It seemed like that was my only way to get everything done. It was a choice of momentum I put myself on and I am so happy to be off it. I will take a different step, out into the world of teaching, when I return, as I know there is another, more loving way forward, as you have described here in your blog.

305. Creating just a little more space in our day or taking the time to look after ourselves can have an enormous ripple effect. The quality of 16 hours (our waking day) can be completely different based on how we put ourselves to bed, wakeup and HOW we address work, tasks and relationships.

     1. Absolutely – how we live and move throughout each day will determine the flow of this day and the next.

306. The ‘merry-go round’ is not so merry in truth, quickly turning into a bit of a nightmare and something we want to remove ourselves from.

307. It is draining and more when we are striving and pushing to be something, to get somewhere and to achieve and end. To understand that we need not put such constraints on ourselves and pressure ourselves incessantly allows for great understanding of ourselves and lives and a resurrection from struggle to true freedom – our natural flow.

308. The reality for many (myself included) is that we tend to fill our days with as much activity and busy-ness as possible, in order to avoid feeling any disconnection we may have with our bodies and thus our soul. But when we allow ourselves more of these moments to not need to do anything but feel what there is to feel, we can reconnect and start to let go of many distracting ways of avoiding that beauty within us.

309. “I now stop to feel how the choices I make impact my body and the flow of my day.” Stopping to feel and to check in with our bodies offers us a moment to appreciate our value and how amazing we are because it is within these pause moments we simply connect with who we are and make a choice to continue to choose what feels supportive and loving in each moment and that is a true surrender to the what is: the absolute essence of love within.

310. “As if it was a reward of some kind, the harder we worked and the busier we were, the more complete our lives, our days and perhaps, we were.”

     This to me shows why so many of us feel disillusioned by life – that we hold this notion and at the end of the day, there is no reward as we quite often feel drained, tired, exhausted and frustrated.

311. Running on time feels like trying to fit into the constraints that society has placed upon itself, whereas working with Space feels like you just do your own thing in the space given, and from that, more space will be given for all that’s needed!

312. If we gauge our life on the quality we choose to live in instead of what’s completed at the end of the day it’s provides a very different outlook on life. Life is no longer measured on our physical output but our energetic output, and I would add the more quality in that output the more efficient we are.

313. From an early age, and increasingly in today’s education, one learns that quantity is more important than quality resulting in lack of appreciation of oneself and a constant drive and stress or a given up approach to life. The antidote is quality as you express so well here, Nicole.

314. There is a conclusion to this craziness – we run faster and faster on the hamster wheel pretending that we are getting somewhere but all it really does it have us wanting more and more, to get bigger and bigger. We keep pushing and pushing until….. our body finally says ‘enough’. Whether that is a big or a small stop – we are intelligent beings, and it’s not hard to see this cycle at play.

315. This is a big one I feel … making it about the task/job we do and how quick we can do it in and completely leaving/forgetting about the quality of it and how we are within ourselves when we are doing it; which is the most important thing .. the quality we do something in and how were are with ourselves. I can also relate with what you have shared in that today I have had more of an awareness in being asked to reflect and re-evaluate what I am saying yes to and the choices I make and are they honouring me or not.

316. Elizabeth that’s so true, the quality of our being-ness is being ignored as the pressure on the quantity of what is being delivered is the key. This busyness in delivering the quantity keeps us in separation.

317. First step: recognise that you have a relationship with time that defines how you live your life
     Second step: ask yourself if that relationship serves your and everyone else´s well-being or not
     Third step: realize that you can change the relationship with time being a friend, not a foe

     1. Yes, Alex, the idea that there is a ‘foe’ out there is quite strong amongst us. The tool of observation cuts through all this fiction and we let complexity go and become whole again in seamless brotherhood. The identification of a foe and making something out there a foe is very self-destructive!

     2. Wise advice Alex. These are great practical steps.

318. Yes Nicole when we make that change and not let time dictate to us what we can do in it but allow ourselves to be us and let time come to us it is a completely different way of living. The spaciousness and freedom of not looking at the clock stressing out but simply taking each moment as it presents itself. Making sure I am fully present and there are times when I am not and I can feel how my body changes and things feel different, I feel heavier and a lot slower than what I am when I am fully connected to the moment with my presences.

319. Doesn’t it just… in that we have a drama to tell and a drama to get caught up in…

320. This one is a big trap for many people..”the busier we were, the more complete our lives”.

321. I spent most of my life not feeling worthy unless I had pushed myself to the max and achieved a lot each day, but then I would get exhausted and feel angry with myself and my body for being such a let down. This irregular pattern of activity and inactivity did not give me any sense of rhythm or flow in my life, but thanks to Universal Medicine that I am now learning to trust my body’s cycles, feeling when to truly rest and when to be in motion.

322. I was just thinking of the crocodile in Peter Pan – the tick tock of the clock there to worry and concern us. Time worries some and rushes others – I’m sure we’ve all been there before. Letting time come to us takes the crocodile out of the equation.

323. Well I just love how you end this piece – I certainly haven’t mastered it, but I really do relate to it. And life is simpler this way. “No longer running against the clock, time now comes to me; I am able to complete more in a day than ever before, with more vitality and Love.”

324. Time is a real killer, and we spend all our lives trying to kill time. Also the feeling of that is not worth my time especially when it come to words that have been completely bastardised and thus we suppress the true meaning and go to war to fight and kill in the name of ill words!

325. Your relationship with time is very inspiring. I know that my own relationship with time needs to be looked at as a lot of the things you describe in your past are an everyday reality for me. Thank you for sharing your story and offering insight into how we can change our relationship with time.

326. I love this, Nicole – “It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.” The perpetual anxiousness of not having enough time has dominated most of my life, but now I can feel the pressure is off because when I am present and connected time and space open up.

327. It is amazing how spacious one day can be and how full it can be.

     1. And we all know the difference between that spacious day where lots gets done, and the one where we run like a mad thing all day pretending we are getting lots done!

328. Doing and striving to achieve goes hand in hand with time being an enemy or competitor we have to beat – time in that context always has the upper hand and we will exhaust ourselves in the game. We have made time something that harms us more than it serves us, i.e. we have turned its meaning and purpose upside down.

     1. So true Alex, may I add that if things were reversed and we started to look at everything in an Anti-clockwise direction things will shift dramatically!

        1. Could it be that we have everything “upside down” as you have shared Alex, so we are simply returning to our True “Purpose” and when we are illuminated with this truth time becomes mastered?

329. “No longer running against the clock, time now comes to me; I am able to complete more in a day than ever before, with more vitality and Love.” So true Nicole the clock seemingly runs backwards or anti-clock-wise!

330. “Letting go perfection and judgement is the key”, I agree this is a big thing, if we get caught in this we keep just spinning. When we begin to let go we are able to deepen our quality and space expanses.

331. “I was a martyr, a superwoman, the envy of all women, all at the expense of myself” I know what this feels like I was the same, constantly busy, on the go leaving me exhausted and tired.

332. I have recently taken on more responsibility in life, I have done so with a walk in the arms of surrender, knowing what I will need will be there, in terms of space and time…this is very different from the past where I used to feel like I was clock watching.

     1. It will be scientifically proven one day, if not already, that when we rush we get less done.

333. On reflection on this blog I keep coming back to the self-criticism and judgement and getting a sense of just how harmful this is. Pursuing something outside of our own rhythm and then beating ourselves up if we don’t measure up to something which is not in accordance to what is natural for us. Setting ourselves up to fail basically and then punishing ourselves.

334. Time is not so much a focus when the determination and self-admiration of the quality in which I live is what I aspire to live. I know this to be true when space opens up and the outside pressure is lifted reflecting back to me that the quality I live is ‘controlling’ the time.

335. It’s very interesting that focusing on getting things done is a present with a feeling of over whelm when bringing our attention to how we do something and the quality in which we do it is not associated with a feeling of being overwhelmed.

336. ‘by learning to be aware of where I am at, not taking things on unnecessarily, asking for support, and feeling what is needed, my body feels lighter; it no longer carries the burden of “what’s next.”This is so different to the thinking behind there isn’t enough time in the day overwhelm. What I’ve noticed is that the thoughts of overwhelm don’t actually want to admit that checking in, coming back to oneself, actually dissolves the overwhelm.

     So why would I choose to carry on trying to do 1000 things all at once when I cannot deny how loveless it is – it will not stop until you get sick and have to stop? Perhaps it is that I don’t want to stand out from all those around me in the same energy. Perhaps I don’t want to feel the anger aimed at me for not choosing to be in overwhelm because that is what others would like to do themselves but aren’t.

     What I’ve noticed about overwhelm is, it’s a very effective defence/protection- it says don’t come near me, don’t ask any more of me because I’ll explode. Perhaps by choosing it I’m saying I don’t want to be responsible for anything more in my life. So the I’m too busy to stop is very convenient. But what if actually being more responsible is simply being more present and accepting the awareness this brings is actually all that is required.

337. When my mind says that I don’t have time to do something, I often choose to do it anyway, as I know that it is what I convey with my body that is the key. Therefore to the best of my ability I will try to stay relaxed in my body as I do that additional thing. This is the process that for me, helps time to morph.

338. It is really quite amazing how when we connect to the quality of our being and go with that flow how we seem to have more time to get things done in our day without much effort than we would have had if we had rushed and gone into drive to try to fit more into our day.

339. “It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.” – awesome sentence here Nicole! And one I am still working on cracking and making real in my life, for I still find myself getting caught in time!

340. “Looking back, my days were gauged by how ‘good’ they were based on how much was achieved or completed.” – I used to have a list of things that had to be done through the day, as well as a list of things I would like to get done. I always felt bummed to get to the end of the day and not have completed my list of things I’d like to get done so I decided to work the list in reverse, doing the less priority things first with the philosophy that I would then have no choice but to do the whole list because the priority things could not be left out! I thought I was being smart, but then I would get tired and resentful by the end of the day and would rush and cram the stuff in. It was a no win situation as I got the stuff done but smashed myself in the process! Thankfully I have learned that is it not worth smashing myself, and so I do stick to the priority things first, but I still do struggle to feel like I can get as much done as my head would like me to do, as the body can only do so much at a time! In the end this still feels like the next step for me – to realise that it is wonderful to get done what I can and appreciate that already about me, knowing the quality of how I do something matter more than how much I get done in a day!

341. I just recently heard a report about indigenous people on a remote island when presented with the notion of celebrating one´s birthday by counting the years as we in the west, they didn´t understand what was talked about as they don´t have the concept of years. It made me aware that the concept of time as we know it is not a God-given thing but a construct that defines a great part of life. But we can change the relationship with and or concept of time as presented here.

342. I was on a speed awareness course today as I had been caught going over the limit. When I reflected on how this had happened, it was because I had been rushing to get somewhere. So today really highlighted the consequences of my actions. And in the workshop, I brought in space and responsibility and how we all have the choice on how we use our time. But it is my responsibility to allow enough space so I don’t have to rush. And actually – why do I feel there is this need to be busy in the first place, which comes back to what you share here Nicole.

343. The quality of our day is governed by the flow we choose to flow with. We can flow with ourselves connected with our body and living less attached to what needs to be done but more about bringing our all to whatever is there to be done. Or we can live with a feeling of being behind time and trying to catch up or with some made up race before the day ends. It’s all a choice.

344. Overwhelm is an awful feeling in the body and I find at these times the best thing to do is to stop moving (because moving when I am in overwhelm seems to definitely make it worse) and reconnect with my breath and my body, which then tells me what to do next and how to do it.

345. Thanks, Nicole, this blog has inspired me to reflect on my own punishing drive from the past which was fuelled by self-loathing, and appreciate how my days are now fuller than ever, but much more joyful and energising.

346. There will always be 24 hours a day. There is a short list of things we should do, like sleeping eating and removing waste products, but we can to our detriment ignore them! Deadlines can be the death of us if we let them. They are lines in the sand someone outside us has decided must be met. What about the crazy ones we set ourselves. These are all time bound. I have found that time is full of moments and has no time boundary’s that allows things to flow.

347. It is never worth it to be so busy in the expense of relationships, especially the relationship we have with ourselves and with evolution. Of course life is always full, things are always happening, but when we leave ourselves (our relationship with ourselves) and be controlled by the pace of how life wants us to be, we will be working in the control of life rather than in the respect with ourselves. When I truly respected myself, this respect would not appear in the form of frustration or checking out, it would simply be equally respectfully expressed to people around me, and it is in this mutual respect that other ways are then opened to be explored.

348. Placing any level of “judgment and criticism on ourselves, constantly taking on more, never saying no and forever wanting to complete yet another round of ‘doing.’” is totally playing the game of energy and time wasting. This sets us up to fail, be exhausted and to never ever have enough time.

349. Yes Nicole this is the most important thing of all – quality of life: ‘It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.’ In the end it is life-giving or life-taking a ‘choice’ between living true love and craving recognition.

350. I was feeling a while ago how I tried to squeeze time by placing so much pressure on myself in what I wanted to achieve in a day and then if I managed to get through all that trying to fit something else in, leaving me rushed, stressed and feeling the tension this created in my body. No wonder I was becoming so exhausted believing that the more I did the better I was. When I remain with my movements and how my body is feeling, without going into my head and thinking what’s next to do, then there is a flow and an ease within my body and it feels lovely. I love what you have expressed Nicole “It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time the keeper of me.”

351. When we don’t value who we innately are and the quality that we can bring to whatever it is we are doing then I think we tend to look towards quantity instead and give ourselves brownie points for ‘how much’ we accomplished in a day without appreciating the Way we were doing things and connecting with others…

352. I reckon I said ‘there aren’t enough hours in a day’ about 5 times this week alone!! I do have an old pattern of busying myself and getting caught up in go go go. I’m far more aware of it these days however, and whilst I could always do with an extra 5 hours, I’m working on being more trusting of time and not looking at it as if it’s slipping through my fingers…because ultimately, there is as much as there needs to be of the stuff..

353. Taking the time to look at time through new eyes and see that there is much more to time than meets the eye creates an opportunity for turning time on its head.

     1. Great point you make Heather, we do need to look at time through new eyes and see that there is much more to time than meets the eye.

354. I caught myself the other day, when asked how my day had been, responding that it was good because I got a lot done. In that moment, I really got to feel that if I took the amount of work done out of the equation, I wouldn’t be able to tell you it had been a good day for any other reason – what I did that day was the sole basis of the days’ worth and it was really a clear exposure of how little connection I had to the many other amazing things that probably totally passed me by because I was not looking out for them.

355. It is amazing to be able to say “now one and the same” when thinking about ourselves and time. Often people look at time as something external that they have to fight and beat. No wonder humanity is so exhausted. Literature is full of tales of those who fight imaginary demons of their own making.

     Wonderful to be able to return living in a way that flows in alignment and harmony with life and Universe we are a part of. No fighting required.

356. Bringing time back to us allowing expansion and space by the quality of how we live in every moment and changes everything . What a very real and honest sharing showing how we can change our life by taking responsibility and loving self care with ourselves, it is very inspiring and beautiful to read.

357. I have noticed that I can make myself very exhausted by the way I choose to do things, not just what I do, it is something that many of us do not register, the quality of our movement…it makes a huge difference how we feel.

     1. Samantha I agree if we loose the ball on our quality of movement we will feel the tiredness and exhaustion as our body is not moving from our connection but from a drive of doing, this is my experience.

358. “Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.” If we were all taught this from an early age how different the world would look. I love the Sunlight Ink children’s books that also convey this message.

359. ‘…not taking things on unnecessarily, asking for support, and feeling what is needed, my body feels lighter; it no longer carries the burden of “what’s next.”’ reading this the three words ‘asking for support’ really stood out – it feels to me that I and maybe we all take ownership of what we do in a way which is not healthy or in fact what is required.

360. I agree that it is so possible to push past all of the body signs and keep generating activity and achievements when actually it is time to stop and rest.

361. As I understand it, time is simply the measurement of how many ‘times’ the earth revolves around the sun on its axis. All that is left is whether we align to contraction and complication (nor space) or Spaciousness itself in which is held divine intelligence. It is a simple alignment and then we can be the masters of this Time Machine.

362. With more vitality and love … these are key work Nicole and one’s that speak to the quality of how you live. And I love the way you consider your choices ‘I now stop to feel how the choices I make impact my body and the flow of my day.’ … I feel how you value yourself in this, living in a way that allow you to consider all around you and how it impacts on you and them. It’s about knowing our worth no matter what we do.

363. I have been a super woman and done way more than I need to for a very long time. I think I did it to be good enough, or to prove that I can…. now I am learning and practising doing nothing and its actually hard because I have all this self talk that comes up like I am lazy, I should do this or that.. and the list goes on but I am learning to hear it and not act on it. I am also learning that when I actually let go of any ideas or pictures that things need to be done by a certain time or rule… that there seems to be more time and enough time for everything. I have also had to let go of things that I really didn’t need to do in my life. That is great… its interesting what we can get caught up in and waste our time on.

364. ‘…feeling what is needed, my body feels lighter; it no longer carries the burden of “what’s next.” Living with, in and for the moment brings the future to us.

365. We can become easily caught up in getting things done without stopping to the quality in which we do them – suddenly I am more conscious of how I type these very words…

366. In every life we are presented with the choice to either live life along a straight trajectory rushing from A to B, ticking boxes, getting things done and feeling some sort of triumph when the desired outcome is achieved, no matter if we fall in an exhausted heap at the end and seem to have compressed space in the process, or we can live more spherically in the sense that we make life about space and not time, meaning that it is not how fast we get to the end result but the movements along the way that matter and that these movements, if made in and with the love we are, will affect the quality of the end point we reach, which when we ‘get there’ reveals itself to be not an end at all but the beginning of the next cycle as onward we go continually evolving and expanding and living in accordance with the great cycle of life and not losing breath in the process.

     1. Ooooh I enjoyed reading that Liane – a huge space opened up as I read it and time fell away…. love the movements along the way – that is The Way!

367. This was me a couple of years back. An endless merry-go-round of motion, basing my worth on what I achieved. Saying yes to more, hooked to believe that it would mean I was more. Come to the current days and I am re-imprinting what true value is within myself. Embracing my worth for being me without doing anything physical, just emanating the love I am.

368. There is definitely a reward in being busy and being able to complain about not having enough time. It seems like a very inadequate compensation for the drain and strain this causes on the body, but one I to willingly accept. When I only had this role modelled to me, I couldn’t see another way. Now feeling the loveliness of not being caught in time or needing to be seen to be busy is its own reward.

     1. Beautifully shared Fiona – there is an absolute loveliness that can be felt that no amount of external reward can match.

     2. Great point Fiona. The reward is the identification it brings. Busy can also hide how we are actually feeling and the drain this creates on the body.

369. Obviously we have the feeling of needing time for ourselves when we have not been with ourselves before otherwise, no such need exists other than sometimes in a very practical sense where we may need to do something that requires being on one´s own.

     1. Absolutely – and herewith the lie around ‘me’ time is exposed. If I am with me I bring me to all that I do, so why would I need to shut the doors on the world to be with me? ‘Me’ time is the lie we are fed that keeps us in the illusion that we need to shut the curtains and withdraw to come back to ourselves. We will only know the real us by being in the world and sharing who we truly are with it.

     2. Very true. Because every minute in the day no matter what we are doing – we are already with ourselves.

370. I have felt I was on the hamster wheel, so to speak, getting faster and faster until I tumble in a heap and loose my balance. I have come to understand that it is my choice if I start going into that energy or not. Even when I perceive myself as busy, which I am most days, there is no reason to switch on the nervous energy and step on the turbo pedal. Things still get down, even when I am not trying to race time. There is lots to learn concerning our ideas and relationships with time.

371. “but with the new choices I now make, by learning to be aware of where I am at, not taking things on unnecessarily, asking for support, and feeling what is needed, my body feels lighter; it no longer carries the burden of “what’s next.” This really is in simple steps how we can free ourselves from the constant going and doing and never feeling like we have enough time.

372. When we focus on the quality of those movements, we start to bring that same consistency and steadiness to everything we do.

373. The other day I pushed myself to complete everything, and instead of the satisfaction of having ticked all the boxes (something I thought I thrived on for many years), all I felt was an emptiness – a disconnection to myself, having lost myself in the doing. Every day I’m being reminded that everything I do in life is about quality, not quantity.

     1. Agree Bryony, once we experience getting things done by being present and delicate with ourselves, anything that is not done in this quality feels empty, ticked off only.

        1. I agree Priscila you can feel the difference when its not done in the quality of being present and delicate. The body responds so quickly and speaks volumes.

     2. Yes, even when we are seemingly successful we may find ourselves not being truly successful at all.

        1. True Success is determined by our quality and how we are in life and with people.

374. I can feel the consistent flow of time, life and you Nicole, it is so beautiful when everything drops into place in the rhythm we allow, when we give it the space. It reminds me of the racy car driver who overtakes in a big hurry to meet them again at the red traffic lights, one car in front of you for all that effort of rush and force. And as you arrive, the lights turn to green.

375. How often do I look at my to do list and begin to stress over not having the time to get it done – but as was wisely pointed out to me, I always do get it done, so rather than constircting myself in the stress and going into the overwhelm, stay in the spaciousness of knowing it will get done – the end result is the same but I get there feeling totally different.

     1. Spot on Rebecca – it is funny how we can make it an issue to have a to do list, yet we will always have a to do list! And it is double exhausting thinking about how much energy and time it will take to complete, rather than trusting that what needs to get done will and that if we have fun with it then it actually works to energise us!

        1. I agree – life could be seen as one constant to do list or as a flow from one thing to the next as a natural, normal part of life.

376. It is quite something that so many people find that when making it about ‘quality’ rather than ‘quantity’, not only is there more joy, vitality and empowerment in their day, but that they also “complete more in a day than ever before” with that greater ‘quality’. It is a no brainer. Making it about quality is the way to go.

     1. And with quality far more space I find, is created in my day and with how my body feels and glows through the day.

377. Being honest about why we create dramas in our lives is fundamental.

378. Yes, we tend to do our time management in our heads so it’s no wonder they feel clogged. When we allow our bodies to feel what needs to be done next, it is amazing how much we get done.

379. It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me. I love this Nicole, I think I will make this my daily mantra.

380. Time is not fixed at all, it is in fact a very malleable substance.

381. It’s such a common comment to hear ‘I wish I had more time’. While we can’t add extra hours to the day we can become more present with our bodies so that we don’t feel so tense, can think more clearly and enjoy what we are doing. Time then can literally ‘stand still’.

382. I’ve noticed it is the quality I live in (the choice/s I make) that determines how I experience life. As I develop and deepen this, my relationship with time and life becomes more fluid and flowing.

383. When we say “we don’t have time” we are actually telling the truth for we do not own nor possess ‘time’. What we do have is Space. Endless, expansive Space.

384. From reading the book ‘Time Space and all of us by Serge Benhayon I am coming to the understanding that time is there as a marker for us to get our act together and get out of here. This plane of life is not where we come from and we have and will continue to go round the sun going no where literally until we realise this fact and start the process of living in a way that will expedite our true evolution. And to me Serge Benhayon and his family are living what our future will be as we start to evolve back to who we truly are.

385. There would be no need or desire for a reward if we are surrendered in each moment to divinity and moving in this quality, as there is no reward that could beat the glory of what we are connected to.

386. I realised when we are critical and judgemental of ourselves, we are more likely to be this way with others. We often think nothing of judging ourselves but this impacts on others too. This understanding has helped me a lot in not reacting when someone is being judgemental towards me.

387. “time now comes to me” – Creating space in our everyday life changes time from a racing opponent to a partner in crime/companion. We can work WITH time and actually benefit a lot from it’s routine, cyclical nature and rhythm.

388. ‘No longer running against the clock, time now comes to me; I am able to complete more in a day than ever before, with more vitality and Love’. Same here Nicole, I am feeling exactly this too and makes life very simple and clear.

389. This sentence again sits with me today as something that I am loving to ponder “Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.” The quality is first and foremost the real gold as it allows everything else.

390. Making life about quality brings whole a different dynamic to life.. making it about all of us.

391. Absolutely love this line: ‘No longer running against the clock, time now comes to me.’
     Time comes to us regardless – but most of us live in a constant wrestle with time as a result of a constant wrestle with ourselves.

392. Nicole, I love what you are sharing in this article; ‘Considering if there is a flow – or a drive, a push to achieve, complete or tick the boxes.’ When I go into ticking boxes and drive I get a really achy lower back, drive and push feel awful in my body and not sustainable ways of being, so I am now checking the quality with which I do things and if I feel myself go into rush then I come back to feeling my body and moving more gently and with care.

393. ‘No longer running against the clock, time now comes to me; I am able to complete more in a day than ever before, with more vitality and Love.’ Proof that everything we have ever needed already lies within – it is simply making choices that allow us to connect with this.

394. It seems completely mad that we can slow right down and be more present in our bodies but still get as much done in a day, as racing round like a mad thing with the added bonus of wiping out exhaustion in the process and giving our nervous systems a break. I am now able to feel more what it does to my body and nervous system if I go into overdrive, something I used to do on a daily basis to get what had to be done, done. Now if I feel how that feels it feels horrible and totally unnecessary.

     1. I agree Kev. Learning to say no to raciness, exhaustion and going into overdrive is not always easy but I now know it is the most supportive thing to do.

395. “With the ongoing love and support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I have been given the tools to make different choices” The empowerment offered by Serge and Universal Medicine is enabling many people to make miraculous changes in our lives, so much so that after a few years of intent application, it is hard to recognise our old selves. True education in a world that is intent on wasting our energy and denying our inherent absolute knowing.

396. If we don’t have the time to do something correctly and do it just so it works now, when will we have the time later to come back and fix it?
     When we multitask, we are rushing everything. Some get really good a juggling, but gravity has a way of injecting catastrophic fails into our performance! Why live a life against the clock, so much more can be accomplished when we are not chasing it!

397. ‘It no longer carries the burden of “what’s next.”’ I know that feeling well and although it has changed a lot over time it still happens when I am tired and I start to rush and race to get things done (and in doing so making myself more tired) so that I can finally stop and rest which is crazy when you think about it, as if I let the concept of ‘time’ go, become present in what I am doing then I can enjoy what I am doing and space naturally opens up.

398. What I have come to realise is that time is not what is really in question, what is really in question is whether I am fully connected to myself or not.

399. When I can hold to the truth that I am already and always enough, what lies ahead of me in terms of my responsibilities, unfolds and the anxiousness around ‘not enough time’ subsides. When I don’t hold to this truth, overwhelm descends. To stay still, observe and respond from my connection is a lesson I am learning every day – no perfection, just loving practice.

400. I can still gauge my day by ‘how much was achieved or completed.’ It was only after doing loads that I could relax and take the time to come back to myself – or, more often than not, because when I am in this mode of living I ‘reward’ myself by checking out in some way – TV, food, surfing internet, etc. How wonderful to completely change how I live and come from quality, return to quality and stay connected with living this way.

     1. I can so relate here Karin, seeking rewards and relief always came and still does sometimes, from the tension I was holding to start with!

401. Society runs to time, rarely do we consider ourselves as the keeper of time but slowly this is what is healing so many of my ill-patterns of behaviour. You have offered yet another re-set this morning. Thank you!

402. Love your sharing Nicole and so great to hear how your relationship with time has changed. I am sure a lot of people can relate to your sharing, myself included. I remember years ago reading a blog on the Women in Livingness blog where a woman was sharing how she perceived as a ‘comfort’ being able to tick all the boxes on her to-do lists. That stayed with me ever since and it is something I have been exploring. Similar to your sharing, I used to see my days as ‘good’ based on how much I could do. And this was never enough, always there was more to do or something that would not fullfill my expectations. In the recent years I am seeing my days accordingly to how I felt during the day, how open I was to other people, how gentle, caring and delicate I was with myself and others, how committed and dedicated I was with myself and with life. And it happens a lot that the to-do list is not conplete or a specific task does not get completed. However I finish the day feeling completed with myself knowing that I did it with care, dedication and attention to detail. And feeling less worried, anxious or running against time.

403. “It was more important to get the job done than to consider how it left me feeling” – I know this well. I placed a lot on what I achieved and got done and in many ways I still do, only now I have more awareness around it. I am blessed to work with people whose priority is energy first – meaning that how things are done and the quality in which they are done is far more important that what is done. It’s not about outcome but about quality of energy. What does not make sense to my rational mind when I’m in drive and getting things done is that I get far more done when it’s all about quality.

     1. Yes, putting the quality of the energy first while being pragmatic about it, not precious as the word is used conventionally, brings a whole new quality and effectiveness and joy to life.

404. I went for my morning walk today and as I finished it I thought to myself this level of care and purpose is how I should walk everywhere today. I did clock several times that I was but out of a whole day there are many gaps to the quality that is possible.

405. “Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.” Over and over I need to hear this, live it, allow it and appreciate it.

406. Perhaps instead of trying to fit it all into our day, we should be looking at what we are still holding on to. So in fact the space comes from letting go.

407. “I was a martyr, a superwoman, the envy of all women, all at the expense of myself”.
     We can never be enough with this attitude of being superwoman – another form of comparison being fostered to always be more.

408. Even if we plan our days meticulously, there will always be something happen that rocks our plans, so way better off to plan from the knowing of what needs to get done rather than to ideals or beliefs to feed us recognition for getting things done. In other words being un attached and going with the flow, knowing ourselves in full.

409. I find it interesting that we don’t question life more readily but just ‘get on the treadmill’…until something makes us ask the question. In my experiences, such prompts are usually what we might call ‘bad experiences’ – but where would we be without them? Still treading the same old paths?

410. “Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.” This if learned and prioritised by all would change life on the whole planet drastically.

411. I love feeling time coming to me – it happens when I am committed but not attached to what I do.

412. Every single part of our life is interlinked. We can never think that one area is not affecting another, because it is all with us all of the time.

413. I now stop to feel how the choices I make impact my body and the flow of my day. Considering if there is a flow – or a drive, a push to achieve, complete or tick the boxes. Such great markers to look out for Nicole, that tell you everything and enable you to come back to the body and feel your way through life.

414. it’s quite a revelation to come to, to realise that we can influence our relationship with time by altering our relationship with ourselves.

415. I love this blog, the life you describe is one I think many could identify with, the constant drive and need to be doing and proving ourselves – and yet if we have no appreciation for ourselves beyond what we do, what happens when we stop at the end of the day and our just with ourselves? Do we feel complete and content and able o lay ourselves down to surrender, or is there a tension?

416. I have noticed with this kind of attitude that there is not enough time and I have so much to do I can get caught up in lots of little things that are not high priority and leave the big things that really need attending to to last so I carry this big cloud around with me pretending it’s not there and avoiding the responsibility of major life decisions.

     1. Agree Elaine. I have been learning recently to prioritise what is important at each moment, especially when a day does not run as ‘planned’ or when unforseen circumstances happen. Whilst I am writing here I noticed that what I have been prioritising is staying present with me, with the quality of gentleness in what I need to do. Also I have been more aware of not doing things only to ‘get the job done’ as it feels terrible and incomplete even if the job gets done.

     2. It’s possible to take something that could really be quite simple if we are willing to feel the responsibility of the purpose and turn it into a complicated and heavy burden while we avoid what is unavoidable.

417. That’s it Elizabeth – once we make life about a series of movements and how we are in those movements we give ourselves more space and time is not so limiting.

418. Doing is draining without the being. Once we establish actively ‘being’ in our bodies there is no limit to what we can achieve.

419. ‘Old age was looking pretty dismal and painful if I continued to choose to live in the overwhelm and busy-ness of life.’ I feel like we get to a certain point or age in life where we go ‘hold on I can’t live like this anymore’. How awesome would it be that we come to this understanding when we are young or in our teens .. that would mean we would have a whole life without overriding, driving, pushing, trying to be accepted, rushing, stressing and struggle instead of finally/maybe figuring this out in our 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and 70’s!

420. Being afraid to ask for help is a extremely common in our society, thinking we have to ‘go it alone’ without any support… but with over 7.5 billion people in the world and that number rising each year, why do we shut everyone else out, and what do we put ourselves through in order to achieve this distance?

421. I had the experience recently when going on a 10 day holiday that it felt like about 3 weeks! This I feel had a lot to do with how I was approaching every day and every moment and the presence I had in each moment and feeling the flow of what was next without push or drive or the usual pressures of time. A lot of space opened up!

422. When we replace that judgement and criticism on ourselves with acceptance and appreciation we stop striving to be more and enjoy all that we are.

423. This could not have been more perfect timing, thank you. This is a wonderful line “who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.” I was feeling today how I have a momentum in my body that rushes from one task to the next, and in so doing I squeeze out my presence – I do not feel me moment to moment. It’s a great new awareness and realisation that each moment I can be with me, no matter what I am doing.

424. Learning to keep my mind focussed on the job in hand has at times and still can be a challenge, a bit like training an unruly Jack Russell Terrier. However the more my mind and body come together the more I find I can tackle all kinds of things that previously my mind would have made a great big fuss about prior to the event. When I allow my body to lead the way, everything is achievable.

425. Connecting to space, not time transforms our understanding of the world. When I focus on time its about quantity and getting things done, when I connect to space I’m more aware of the quality I move in and bring to each moment.

426. Why push and plough on to complete a project without taking breaks or listening to how the body feels? Less is more and building in breaks takes care of us, and is not punishing. Pausing, walking away, doing something different often brings new insight when we resume our work and is way more enjoyable.

427. Yesterday I did a job that I had been putting off because it was quite hard physically and had in the past taken quite a bit of time. I connected to myself before I started gave myself all the time in the world to do it and before I knew it I had finished the job in record time and I didn’t even find it that hard. By being in the flow and not hardening and rushing it was far less of a chore.

     1. Well done Kevmchardy, that’s an experience that can for ever be drawn upon. Given the opportunity our bodies always know the way.

     2. I have found the exact same thing kevmchardy as I do a lot of manual work in my job too – the quality of how I move during the day and whether I harden in my body or not can make a big difference to how my body feels at the end of the day. Also the attitude I take to work with me effects everything too!

428. Learning to say no and also learning to ask for support has been a game changer for me, I was always one to offer support, but always said I was ok, thinking I was somehow less for asking for help. It can be quite amazing how our days can open up if we are not racing against the clock and trying to cram things in.

     1. Might I be so bold as to say that there are few things cuter (and healing for all in this world) than a man asking for help.

429. To think that we are able to do things solely for ourselves or for another is all part of the grande illusion. This false belief is based on another mis-truth and that is that there is such a thing as individuals. Sure our eyes tell us that we are all separate people but the truth is, we are all one glorious batch of God. Therefore what I do for another, I also do for myself and what I do for myself, I also do on behalf of everyone else.

430. Quality is not something that I ever considered, quantity was my aim, to keep working through my ‘to-do’ list and to get as much done as possible. I used to sit down at the end of the day and go over all the things that I had ‘achieved’, never realising that all I had really achieved was to add stress and strain to my body and to contribute more of the ‘what-is-not’ energy to the already voluminous global supply of it. Quality of being is the only thing that really achieves anything in truth because it is our quality of being that brings the ‘what-is’ energy into the world, which off sets the ‘what-is-not’ energy and hence restores love, harmony and truth to a very out of kilter world.

431. What I have found is that the more compressed I feel the less time I seem to have and conversely the more spacious I feel the more time I appear to have.

     1. Yes Alexis, I would say that is a very good marker for whether we are the keeper of time or time is the keeper of us. It tells us what quality we have brought to our day and everything we have done in that day.

432. What you are sharing in this article Nicole is gold – to make life about the quality in which we do things and not about how much we get done completely makes sense, I have so many lived examples of both ways of living, making life about the quality in which I do things feels great in the body and makes life joyful.

433. Such a common thing you describe here Nicole, I hear versions of it all the time. The drive to push through life with a focus on getting things done and achievement is enormous for most of us. The insight you offer here in how to begin halting that momentum and the result of doing so is very helpful.

434. The push to do more is one many can relate to. Your post had me pondering social media and the way that it almost encourages people to compare their lives to others. If we let our bodies lead the way we will have an opportunity to lead a truly rich life.

435. ‘Nobody ever questioned why life was like this…’ It seems extraordinary, doesn’t it, that we’ve never questioned all this ‘doing’, even though we regularly fall ill and even develop life-threatening conditions as a result. I know I didn’t feel good living like this but it was almost as if 1) I’d been conditioned to be this way, and 2) didn’t have the wherewithal to change it. Thank God for Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon both of whom have presented and continue to present, and live, a different way: one that honours the beingness of women before all else.

436. Brilliant Nicole – when we live in a constant state of doingness it’s like we are stuck in a perpetual maths exam. Every question we strive so hard to get ‘right’, while we drive on to the next, hoping the end to this ordeal is in sight. No wonder we get shirty – the stress is never ending. Contrast this with completing each task knowing our rightful place in space – that everything is one. Then there can be no race, just humans truly being. Everything is important – but is equally deserving to be delivered with all our Love.

437. When I look back on the Time Management courses I used to run it makes me laugh – and feel sorry for the participants – we used to talk about priorities, and create systems for getting done what needed to be done, and all the time in my own life I was simply doing what I felt to do in each moment and then running out of time at the end of the day or staying up late to complete what needed to be done before the next day. I certainly wasn’t walking my talk! I’m learning more and more now about the illusion of time and how, by creating space, we can get so much more done.

438. When we cease pressuring ourselves and accept ourselves in full, for where we are at, in any given moment, life becomes a flow and our body feels at ease rather than in constant tension.

439. Measuring success based on output and quantity and at the expense of quality is the foundation of raciness and a profound disturbance to the physical body which lives in and ticks to moments.

440. The constant whir of my life from doing, taking on, not dealing with how I truly felt and keeping that all in created a life of silent anxiety and discouragement about life…though thanks to Universal Medicine [Therapies] and in particular the modality of Esoteric Yoga/The Yoga of Stillness I learned the choice to just stop. To just feel. To declutter the junk taken on and open up space inside my body to see the real-me. Feeling the spaciousness of myself, my life, my work, has been the greatest gift I’m treasuring beyond measure.

441. “I need time for me, everything I do is for everyone else” ….. yes, I definitely felt this way for many years, hence, it’s been the most amazing gift to understand that it’s our choice to be with ourselves in each moment, by that I mean, feeling the connection with our inner heart and the loving warmth that follows. Therefore, it doesn’t matter what we are doing, the enjoyment is always there in feeling how amazingly gorgeous we are, and, we’re bringing our love to everything we do, which is then deeply felt by everyone else – a gift that keeps on giving.

442. The resentment I felt making life about achieving and how many boxes I could tick off my to do list in a day, had such a destructive effect on my body. One of which was swollen ankles from standing in resentment when I was working in a shop – it was physically pooling in my body.

443. When I read how your life used to be I feel so tired! It’s interesting how we try to fit so much into a day without a thought for ourselves. No wonder we need a holiday!

444. Time in truth leads nowhere, yet this can be very difficult to understand when we are living within the construct of it. In space everything just is.

445. The distraction of living in time does not allow us to feel the space that is within us and all around us. Talking to a friend yesterday we were discussing how getting caught in life’s busyness we avoid what there is to feel and therefore do not give ourselves the opportunity to truly connect with what is there for us to respond to.

446. Living in this busy and driven way led me to exhaustion and then thyroid issues many years ago. I was simply chasing my tail and savagely biting it at the same time. I have come to see that whenever I allow this way of being back in my daily life I am simply avoiding being with myself and what is there to be addressed that I obviously dont want to feel or know about. Stopping and feeling introduces a space where understanding and accepting can naturally occur and then allowing what is next rather than forcing it becomes the norm and the simplicity is beautiful.

447. Part of not having enough hours in the day was the excuse to be able to moan about it with other people. The spirit actually gets off on running our lives that way and, at the same time, ruining our bodies and well-being. Very clever.

448. Time is an illusion. We do not move forward, we move in circles. We move in space without beginning or end.

     1. This needs to be understood by us all for there is enormous anxiety that comes from trying to beat time and giving our power away to something that is false. Remaining connected to ourselves is key.

449. “Nobody ever questioned why life was like this, living in a state of overwhelm, a constant feeling like there was never enough time in the day to get things done, all part of life, a cycle you could say that was never ending.”

     Until Universal Medicine entered my life, I did not truly question this either – apart from the odd ‘there must be a better/another way’ moment. It feels very engrained in our thinking and our doing that life is a continuous state of overwhelm, never enough time. It is all around us.

     So it is a welcome breath of fresh air that Universal Medicine are breathing into life, inspiring people around the world to bring more self-love and self-care into their lives. As they do that, naturally we start to look at how we are living our lives and ways that we can be more present to stop this ‘race against time’.

450. ‘Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.’ This is life changer. It’s like we can have ostensibly parallel lives but one is where activities are done in the quality that essentially feeds us back and the other is done in a quality that ruins us.

451. ‘Time was constantly eluding me and I felt like I was never going to catch up.’ We are alway chasing our tail in the illusion of ‘catch up’.

452. I feel like I am at a verge of moving more into this. Of late I have been feeling how much raciness I constantly living in, always looking to the next thing instead of being with myself in each moment and allowing things to unfold. I find that when I am more connected and with myself, I know what is needed in each moment, however with the raciness I am always trying to predict ahead and work things out before they happen which then brings control to situations as I already have a picture of what is going on and what I want to happen which may not be what is actually going on and what is really needed.

453. Serge has been the first to talk about the illusion of time and introduce instead the relationship with space – where it is very possible to experience completing tasks without the limitations ‘time’ imposes, or consequent overwhelm from running life by time.

454. We do seem to value ourselves on what is done, or achieved rather than placing greater value on the quality we do something in… isn’t it time we celebrated ourselves because of who we are not what we do?

     1. Yes it is! I have always identified myself by what I do and how well I do it. Letting go of this and the judgement of myself and others can actually feel a tricky sometimes. But the more I connect with my essence and feel how beautiful I am and what I bring by just being me, the more I am able to see what I do isn’t who I am or who anyone is.

455. As we consider ‘time is running’ we have adopted an attitude of also running as if we could win a race or something or get most out of it. We may ask where to time is running and if we need to get there too?

456. Our relationship with time in this ‘modern’ times is the fastest way to have no time for what really counts in life, ie we don´t have the spacious feeling of being but only the tension of doing and never being enough.

457. I have just spent several days pushing it, and all along dissatisfied with everything that is still to get done.
     It is a gorgeous reflection reading this blog. As I read, I felt the tenseness and the despair with which my body was held and realised I wanted to cry. I love the reminder: “I now stop to feel how the choices I make impact my body and the flow of my day. Considering if there is a flow – or a drive, a push to achieve, complete or tick the boxes.” Thank you.

458. In fact this reminds me of a quote by Serge Benhayon “Your daily deeds and chores do not add up to your worthiness, for the loveliness was there at the birth of the day.”

     1. Very true Susan, when I forget this – but then remember how easy it is to reconnect to that loveliness, it reminds me each time; that it is ALWAYS and forever there, never disappeared, or ruined or devalued, simply there inside, a fullness that can be shared.

459. This is key for all of us as we let go of the idea that the more we do the more worth we must have. This is simply not true. So, “by learning to be aware of where I am at, not taking things on unnecessarily, asking for support, and feeling what is needed, my body feels lighter; it no longer carries the burden of “what’s next.”” is a wonderful example of how to let go of those false beliefs about what worthiness is.

460. Taking regular moments to check-in with the body and how we are feeling, leads to adjustments in the way we go about our activities. These gradual adjustments over time would introduce new ways of self care and deepening of self love that would have a positive impact on our health and wellbeing.

461. I used to be a very busy person too Nicole, chasing my tail all the time. This understanding that you write here is so confirming that it is about the quality of what we choose to do and the energy we choose to do it in that is so important. We can continuously deepen how we can be the keeper of time, and then there is plenty of space.

462. ‘Doing’ and ‘Completing’ are two very different actions.

463. ‘As if it was a reward of some kind, the harder we worked and the busier we were, the more complete our lives, our days and perhaps, we were.’ We love and settle for the recognition we get from pushing and hard work but this is only a substitute for the love that we are really craving.

464. I love it when I come across blogs it feels like i could have written “It was more important to get the job done than to consider how it left me feeling, overdoing it, straining myself or pushing myself past the point of exhaustion purely to make my day look like it was a ‘good’ day: I was a martyr, a superwoman, the envy of all women, all at the expense of myself” – this line made me smile I relate to it so much, when the idea of quality was introduced to me in what I did, it was a totally foreign concept – so long as I got the job done why did it matter how I did it or how it left me feeling? But I am realising that it is only when we live and act from a place of quality it totally changes everything

465. We need to place less value on busyness- too often it is a marker of how efficient we are and this is often admired by others. If we looked more closely we would probably find someone who is exhausted and carrying a high level of anxiousness. I know this is true as I have lived this way in the past.

     1. Me too Anne and for what purpose? It is no wonder why we seek “me” time when we feel that we are not the ones living the life we want to live. In truth that “me” time is a time of relief and escape from a life one has thought they have to live.

     2. I agree Anne – busyness is how we create a constant set up to be measured by the volume of what we do rather than the truth of who we are and the qualities we bring.

466. So many people tend to think head down, work hard and running ourselves to exhaustion is normal but what you’ve shared Nicole exposes how abnormal exhaustion is.

467. Not being afraid to say No, so many of us feel we have to say yes when really we feel to say no. I have heard many people say this including myself, so many beliefs around this.. should’s and got to’s.Thank you for sharing how you honour yourself and what you feel in saying No.

468. I agree that having stop moments in the day where we can review how our body feels is so important. From these stops we can make adjustments, and halt the rushing and anxiety we may have been running with. One way that I do this is to focus on my breathing and bring awareness back to how I am walking and how I am moving.

469. It is true, sometimes the getting the job done becomes more important than what the body wants to do, and how it wants to do it, which leaves us exhausted. So it is a common misconception that we have to go into drive to get things done, when in fact if we do not go into push mode we accomplish so much more.

470. What I am learning at the moment is no matter what we do, what is going on or where our focus is, the only thing that is truly matters most is the quality in which we are and in which we do what we do. Then life and each moment is complete, if we go through the tick box exercise we are certainly missing out on feeling complete and therefore always looking for whats next to make us complete instead of bringing a complete us to whats next.

471. When you are in the spin of doing things it can be hard to feel anything, so you could say that everything is fine, until you really stop and feel what is going on. Sometimes you get the surveys where they want to measure the life quality of a population and quite often you get pretty high results, and at the same time the mental and physical status of the same population does not show the same results so there might be something wrong with us really feeling how things really are. And perhaps we are not fully honest here.

472. Nicole, this article has been really supportive for me to read, I had my sons birthday party yesterday and in the past I have been trying to get as much done as I could before everyone arrives, I had made it about quantity rather than quality, this time I felt that the most important thing was the quality in which my family and I prepared for the party, there was no push and rush and so when guests arrived I felt calm, open and loving and ready for them to be there.

473. As someone who spent years either teetering on overwhelm or wallowing in it what has changed for me is introducing stillness to my body and my mind by practising the Gentle Breath Meditation. Overwhelm reappears when I allow my mind to take over and run into the future about how much there is to get done in an unrealistic timeframe. I was appreciating this morning when I woke up how much stiller my mind is and how I was looking forward to my working week despite a challenging week last week where I slipped back into feeling there was too much to do. I completely agree that this is because of the choices I now make to look after my body that it is so much more vital and resilient and ‘no longer carries the burden of “what’s next.”’

474. By bringing our full presence and grace to all that we do, time literally opens up and allows the opportunity for so much more, as it is not laced with the issues that we would normally have about time.

475. It’s quite amazing to be in a flow during the day, not thinking or anticipating with angst what is ahead and taking each step with grace. It’s so different to running a day with the constant attachment to the clock -having no settlement in ourselves or no sense of completion/achievement at the end of the day.

476. I can so relate to the sentence here that it was more important to get the job done then the quality of how it was done. So often we define our worth by what we have done, created, achieved in a day or a lifetime rather than feeling the energetic quality we have done it in and therefore acknowledging the real impact our actions and deeds have had on the world.

477. For me it is increasingly becoming the quality in which I do things that determines how I feel about it. One thing done well is far more valuable than the hundred before it done chasing my tail. And the simple difference is allowing myself the space to complete that one thing with everything I’ve got.

478. Thankfully, the universe has ways to bring us to a stop when we can’t do it for ourselves. When I worked full time, I reached a stage where being driven and in a rush was the norm. It accelerated and I began to speed inside, until one day I drove into a barrier at a supermarket car park. I didn’t see it because I was absorbed in my head, thinking about the next thing to be done. This forced me to a stop, look at what was going on and changes I needed to make. Today, being present with myself, focusing on one thing at a time, brings more flow and expansiveness to my life.

479. “Time waits for no man”. It certainly doesn’t…but space is always there for all of us.

480. We tend to blame outside forces when we feel overwhelmed or exhausted, constantly chasing the clock. The moment we stop and turn the mirror inwards and reflect honestly on the relationship we have with ourselves, things begin to change. Slowing down, choosing quality not quantity, becoming consistent, asking for support are all markers that allow spaciousness to enter our lives.

481. “stopping to consider the quality in which things were being done,” this is a powerful lesson I have learnt from the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom presented by Serge Benhayon. When I am aware of the quality in the way I move during the day then I am prepared for whatever is the ‘What’s next?’

482. Learning to say no has been such a liberating thing for me, I used to feel a bit of failure or less of a man if I said I couldn’t do something but now I weigh things up and if it is going to be too taxing I simply say no can do. I was asked to cover another guys work last week and in the past I would have said yes and pushed myself to exhaustion but the answer was a firm no and the outcome is that I start this week feeling just fine.

483. We work hard and play even harder! This phase was always a rallying the troops to complete what ever! How many people, is this just the way they live all the time! Where is the body in this mantra?

484. This is so beautifully said Nicole – “It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.”

     It seems we abuse time to avoid space. That is, we keep ourselves in raciness so as not to pause and truly feel all that is on offer when we connect to a deeper place within ourselves and work from this space.

485. It is a process of constant learning how I facilitate the space I have been allowed – with what activity, in what quality, for what purpose.

486. Thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon I am coming to the understanding that it is not about time but space. The more space that I give myself the less I have issues around time.

     1. Amazing Elizabeth, this makes so much sense. Next time I have issues with time I know I haven’t given myself enough space, this is something I do a lot and space seems to shrink when I am in a rush.

487. Whilst chatting to someone who works as a therapist recently, we realised that quite often those who sometimes have profound change in sessions have little or no appreciation of the fact. We considered whether this was because their identity is for example so embedded in life being a struggle, or in being a martyr that they are unsure of who they are once they have experienced such a change. ‘ Who am I without my issues?’ is a very real question it seems. Well maybe we are deeply harmonious beings with an abundance of joy and time to be all that we are – and we need to learn to live that way.

488. Lovely writing Nicole and relevant to most of us. The difference between a day lived with thoughts overwhelming, and a day where you just say, no, all in good time is amazing. I have found today I am not pushing through and as a result getting lots done. The work and the whole of life always comes to us if we are open to receiving it.

489. The keeper of time and not time being the keeper of you really struck a cord for me – to choose to slow things down and bring everything we are into the moment we are in, is a loving investment in self and in everyone and everything around us.

490. Your blog is a great sharing for women, as the ‘busy’ and ‘push’ and ‘doing’ way of ticking boxes is quite a common way how women get through their day. Reading how you have ‘U-turned’ this around and changed focus to be more with the quality of you, is inspiring.

     1. 100% the same for men!

491. Inspiring post Nicole that confirms the presence and grace of (self) love as the ultimate game/life changer.

492. Driven by the emptiness inside, I filled my life with more and more activity, like you, draining myself in the process. I am learning that the quality of my being is far more important than how much I am doing and am letting go of many activities and dealing with the exhaustion that is caused by how I am with myself. As I develop self love, the emptiness is disappearing and I don’t need to fill my body with food or my life with activity. I simply need to be.

493. An inspiring sharing Nicole once again. I love how you share your everyday revelations and so many can relate to these including myself, therefore reminding us to slow down and stop and smell the roses once in a while!

494. Very beautiful Nicole. I’ve noticed that I do not enjoy life when I am acting in drive. When I am present and doing what is needed there is a flow and a grace to what I am doing and there is no need to get anywhere.

495. The way we see time turns us into desperate marathon runners, racing despite everything to set a record time. If something gets in our way or threatens to cause a delay, we lash out with such force that it can come as a shock to everyone around, but we don’t stop but just keep on running ahead. I had an experience like this yesterday Nicole, and despite how ‘good’ I thought I was going the truth came out in how harsh I was with my partner. We are not designed to race in any way. No matter how many gold medals you think you can win – running your body ragged just isn’t worth it. And the fact is the race isn’t real but just a device we use to not have to feel.

496. The constant thinking of what needs doing next, is extremely tiring and leads to overwhelm because there seems to always be something that needs to be done in a self imposed time frame.

497. So often I have wished for more time…it’s totally ridiculous and what an absurd waste of energy and effort! If there is one thing I am very sure of it is that no matter what happens, every day of the remainder of my life will be made up of 24 hours. 1440 minutes. 86,400 seconds. That is not going to change; no matter how much I wish, beg, push, strain, rush, panic or drive!!! So – ridiculous to give it use even one of those 86,400 seconds, thinking about it. But what I can change, enormously, is the amount of space that I have in that time.

498. We have indeed allowed ourselves to be the victims of time… somewhat controlled by it in all moments until of course we realize we do not have to succumb to the power it seemingly has over our lives. I love that you have found a way to stop and feel the impact that ticking boxes, driving and pushing to achieve or complete things has on your body and now choose to not allow these in… instead bringing quality through consistency and love and when guided by this as your foundation, to do to what is needed in whatever time it takes. The rewards of this way of moving are boundless.

499. When we value and live quality before quantity our body sighs with huge relief as it knows it is being honoured and cared for rather then bashed around and abused in the constant flurry of what needs doing next.

500. As a film-maker I know that the easiest way to create tension in a scene is to add a sound effect or music score that simulates a ticking clock. Says it all really!

     1. This is so true Otto. If I have a deadline and keep looking at the clock, it gets me more tense and anxious. Using my time wisely and not procrastinating has helped me with this issue.

        1. ?! And does the clock ever slow down..or speed up? Has it ever? Time is an-changeable constant that is totally outside of us and is of zero relevance to the bigger picture of who we are. We created it and now we use it to cap ourselves from seeing and feeling the glory of space. Quite a self-imposed set-up!

501. I know very well all you have shared Nicole. It seems the more we contract from our true selves the less space we have to do things, our world becomes small and any space we do feel we fill it with emotions and ‘things to do’. The more we expand the more space is offered, time expands we feel how there is infinite time to do things and we do them as they come.

502. Most of us live our lives looking forward, to the future, head of ourselves. But what if life isn’t actually about living from A to B? What if B actually comes to A, and thus what we live at A determines what B will be? Which is exactly what your blog is all about. It’s a stunning piece of science that totally flips the way I have been living.

503. How wonderfully inspiring to see that the return to our true flow and inner harmony is restorative and allows us to simply be without the needing to be anything or anyone other than us.

504. So true Rosie, when we get into the being it is like we are timed-out, which brings time to us as we allow life to flow around us. Being is the simple connection to our inner-most or essence, then being-connected provides the space for us to live in a harmonious way so that all that goes on all around us places time in a true place.

505. Our minds make it all about the end result, the outcome, the ticked box, and ignores the quality of how things are done. On the other hand, if we focus on connecting to our body and the quality we are in first before moving, our bodies will naturally want to move in a harmonious way which creates a natural flow in life, an ease in how we are and what we do.

506. When we go into drive or a push to get things done we harden our bodies causing all sorts of physical issues. However, when we move in a flow, our body flows and our life flows, and so there is very little impact on our bodies.

507. Our day, and our life, can be very different when the impulse to do something comes from our body rather than our mind.

508. You have documented a very prevalent, widely used pattern of behaviour here Nicole – a behaviour that we have used as a way of not embracing life in all it s rawness. We have adopted this blind approach to this most precious life and use the busyness/drivenness as our fortress. We may as well go around with our fingers inner ears yelling ‘blah blah’ at everyone wants to communicate to us. This way of living certainly blocks out the communication from the universe that is continuously being emanated from God’s Love – in other words it dulls our awareness. So how can we ever get to responsibility and power?

509. Quality allows for space and in space there is always enough ‘time’. Life is not a lineal progression as such and we are not really going anywhere, yet everything about how we have set life up makes it appear so. We are cyclic beings and completion can be in every moment.

510. ‘It was more important to get the job done than to consider how it left me feeling…’ Nicole I absolutely relate to all you’ve shared and am left wondering why it is so many of us women take on the dis-ease of doing, doing and more doing. In a similar vein to you, I had an innate sense I was a breast cancer case waiting to happen if I continued on in this manner. Also like you, it took me a long time – and a thyroid condition – to reverse out of this state but it’s been the best move ever, with more to come as I deepen my relationship with my body.

511. Its a very hard pattern to break for a lot of us this time thing, and feeling like you don’t have enough time in the day to do what you want to do. When you focus on the quality of what you are doing, this naturally brings space around what you are doing and frees you up to then feel more what is next and not be driven by the mind which only has one agenda and that is to just get something done.

512. If you wrestle with or are out of time you would have to be interested in how this is possible,”No longer running against the clock, time now comes to me; I am able to complete more in a day than ever before, with more vitality and Love.” As the article presents it comes to not how much you do or has to be done but about the true quality you are in first. From here anything done is of and from this quality and in that flow time changes.

     1. It is definitely draining when we are pushing agains our natural flow and striving to be anything.
        Takes the pressure off for sure to realise that our living quality is everything and it pays to make it true.

        1. Just the awareness of the ‘pressure’ itself is already a step into seeing what else is there. Life at this point has a focus on a part that isn’t the whole thing and hence from there isn’t actual true but a version. We can walk through life feeling all of this but not being able to physically touch it. When we bring the focus or dedication back and always back to quality then everything begins and continues to change.

     2. Agree Ray when we put quality first we are so connected to our bodies and present with the task at hand there is no thought about what is next until the task is completed and then the impulse is felt as to what next, this creates a beautiful rhythm and flow to your day which has nothing to do with time.

        1. I understand it’s difficult to get your head around and I am still unwrapping the time package myself but I know there is a flow where life changes or you change your focus. There is no longer a hold on important days or important meeting or important people, it’s all important and the quality you live in each moment expands into the next. No stop start or up and down just all a part of the same flow. This is where life comes down to the quality of the being first and not the size or output in doing, you could say it’s magic.

513. It’s kinda strange in a way that when we push ourselves and our bodies to achieve ‘great things’ and completely override our bodies and its needs (even being too busy to go to the toilet!) , we then get upset/angry/let down by our bodies when they finally say ‘enough is enough’ and get sick, or frozen back/shoulder. It’s like we disconnect from the fact that they are both connected.

514. Nicole, I can very much relate to putting pressure on myself to get all things done in time. Time is then the keeper of me instead of choosing quality first. My body has been giving me clear signs it doesn’t want this driven and pushing way of life with holding my breath any longer. Learning to breath gently has made a huge difference and honouring this quality in my body more and more is already a start of being the keeper of time.

515. Why is it we don’t stop and question the incredible chase we pursue with time and performance measuring, until our bodies eventually run out of steam? How incredible would it feel to realise this acceptable so called normal behaviour is not natural and has no truth of honour.

516. I have learnt more recently when to say no and not take on more and this came with an understanding that even if I was just being a mum and working, that was already enough. I realised that a lot of what I was doing was to prove or make me feel like I was enough because I hadn’t realised that I am enough without any of my activities or doings.

     1. I have realised that because I do more and am more committed to my work and life in general these days, I actually make use of time better than I have ever done in the past.

     2. This is a great point Rosie, we can become so identified by what we do as a way to prove we are worthwhile and yet this is in re-action to our lack of appreciation and connection to who we truly are…. so much more than enough.

        1. Yes because when we are connected, we don’t need any recognition, or anyone to tell us we are this or that, or enough as we can feel the fullness and all that we are here to bring and reflect to others. Our grandness!

     3. You have touched on a mayor key to making more space in our lives, it’s about accepting and appreciating we are enough as we are, without the doing.

        1. Lets make it about Being rather than Doing!

        2. and from the connection to the being first what needs to be done gets done without the push or drive. Connection creates space and flow.

517. Reading this I can appreciate how I no longer base my self worth on what I do. Very cool.

     1. This is great Vicky and as with the comments below by Rosie I feel that our simple connection to our inner-most or essence, then being-connected provides the space for us to live in a harmonious way so that all that goes on all around us places time in a true place. “Very Cool!”

518. “I am able to complete more in a day than ever before, with more vitality and Love.” – This is something I could have only ever dreamed of when I was choosing to make life about being busy and in overwhelm. One of the biggest shifts has been not placing deadlines upon myself and allowing a flow to be there in the way the jobs are completed… I still catch myself making judgements around certain things (ie I haven’t done enough), but when these come in I know there is a deeper appreciation needed of what exactly has made up my day.

519. We are not bound by time, as many of us believe, but truly we are bound from our hearts.. From there we belong and walk life with all its demands. Not the otherway around. We should live in a way that allows us to have space and create more space between us and time, until we come to a place where we understand what time truly is and naturally live with it – no longer at the cost of it.

520. I think that the way we ask ourselves ‘What’s next?” makes a huge difference – if it comes from a lack of self-worth, self-punishment, trying to live up to an ideal or out-do others or seek recognition then it is very draining and most certainly a burden. Or we can ask ourselves “what’s next?” from a place of not needing to prove anything or get a return on what we’re doing (like recognition) but from valuing what we have to offer the world and being committed to life. Thank you Nicole for sharing how key the energetic quality is in the way that we live and are in relationship with ourselves and all others.

521. The constant chase to be better is very relatable and something I kept doing until I realised that all I need to do is to be all of who I already am, not by chasing outside of myself but by connecting inwards. If I ever step into the old pattern I now have the awareness that helps me to let go.

522. “Life was and still is full, but with the new choices I now make, by learning to be aware of where I am at, not taking things on unnecessarily, asking for support, and feeling what is needed, my body feels lighter; it no longer carries the burden of “what’s next.” I can really relate to what is shared in this sentence in many ways Nicole, and have noticed just how powerful it is to simply ask for support when I need it, instead of accepting struggle and difficulty as a norm in my life, where I would in the past look for recognition for overcoming that struggle. Also, not being concerned with “what’s next” and merely staying focused on what I am presently doing has taken a load of burden off my shoulders when I am able to stay with that way of being, since looking ahead feels like my body is doing two things at once and is double draining to it.

523. Nicole I love this article on time and life, the fact is I often try and fill my days to complete and be on top of everything yet what shines out in your blog is what if I choose to equally allow my day to be full but to work with the flow, not anxious of what is next or what I have yet to do. In effect putting quality ahead of outcomes, which when I do this always surprises me with endless amounts of time.

524. This is so lovely to read Nicole – as someone who was also living with a race against time, it really resonated with me – the fact that your day is still full but it is not draining. It is funny as I just got to the airport to find my flight 2hrs delayed. And my first reaction was to sigh – but then I realised what I was doing and asked why I was feeling like this when the 2hrs gave an opportunity for me to complete some outstanding tasks. So actually it has worked out really well and it is only by me appreciating the space I have that I can start to live in a way that is not stressful or rushed. It is all a choice.

525. “It was more important to get the job done than to consider how it left me feeling” this is so common and actually celebrated as well in society. It is like we have to produce and that is then rewarded like a university degree but the quality in which this degree is attained is not examined. This would always get me and made me often try to outdo myself, do what I saw other students were doing, trying to do as much as possible so I would be seen as putting in effort so I would get great results. Yet this is not how life truly works, sometimes doing more does not equal better quality, there is a science to how much, when and what we do to achieve something like a degree that is at this moment not valued. But we can value it ourselves and our bodies do really love that. There is more contentment in caring deeply for ourselves while we do what we do than in getting everything done at the expense of how we are feeling.

526. Gauging self worth by how much has been achieved in the day is well known to me. It’s a hard one to shake but I’m gradually letting go of this, and the more my self worth increases and deepens due to me bringing more love, care and respect of myself into my daily life, the less my worth is dependent on how many boxes I tick in the day.

     1. Interesting – when its all about how much that has been achieved in the day it can quickly become another means by which we compete with others. However, make it all about quality and its not about the quantity any more, and we all have the ability to bring quality into our lives to enrich them and everything we do.

527. “my days were gauged by how ‘good’ they were based on how much was achieved or completed.” This is so well put and is such a killer for many… this is how we end up putting function before quality.

528. We need to make life about quality and not quantity and when we do life changes for the better.

     1. Elizabeth you have just summed it up beautifully in one line.

529. These words to me are everything
     “Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.”
     And I would add that knowing I am enough what ever I do, its such a relief that I don’t have to justify my existence any more.

530. How often do we hear after asking someone “how are you?” do we hear busy? We have become not only so busy but unaware of how we are in that busyness. There is nothing wrong with working hard, we are meant to, but when we numb ourselves so much that we can’t see or feel how we do all that we do, then we are lost in the busy.

531. Running against time is utterly exhausting as it is a mental construct and thinking about something and doing it is like you do it twice . . . or however many times you spent worrying about getting it done . . . . and racing against time is futile as it is a race you can never win for even if you make it in time what are you bringing besides a racy body full of stress?

532. “my days were gauged by how ‘good’ they were based on how much was achieved or completed.” Wow, so much wisdom and only a few sentences in, this sentence just hit me because it is so what I do! How much of my tick list has been completed, how productive have I been, did I get lots done, was it busy – this is how I determine not only if the day was good but also my own worth – like somehow without having something to show at the end of the day in terms of having done things, i wont have any worth. So what happens if I have a day where I feel i need to rest and take things easy, I often find myself feeling on edge and uncomfortable, anxious because I am not seeming to achieve anything.

533. Thank you Nicole I feel your title sums it up so well – when we let go of seeing time as the enemy that we are always fighting then our bodies and time expands and we are able to do so much more whilst still honouring our bodies. For me this is a work in progress – when I am able to do it life flows smoothly but when I get caught up in achieving then things quickly go pear shaped and my body suffers.

534. ‘…never stopping to consider the quality in which things were being done, and how I was in each moment or the impact this had on my body.’ This is the awareness we need to unlock life. We have put function very much above quality but it is very much to our detriment. When we start to make our quality our primary focus it changes our relationship to everything creating a lot more space in the day and a deeper relationship with ourselves.

     1. Moving with our body’s rhythm I find there is a natural flow and timing which is spacious and on purpose.

535. Learning through the example of Serge Benhayon, support of Universal Medicine and my commitment to The Way of The Livingness to focus on the quality rather than achieving an outcome I experience time very differently, I am now my own time keeper rather than being kept by time.

536. Wow Nicole I can so relate, I still find myself pushing and striving not listening to my body, but overall this has decreased significantly since I have started attending Universal Medicine workshops. Learning to re- listen to my body is one of the most valuable lessons I have ever had.

     1. Me too Samantha. I’ve still a long way to go, but the Universal Medicine workshops and presentations have completely changed my relationship with, and my appreciation of, my body.

537. It is very easy to relate to this article. For many years, living in an energy of busyness and drive was never questioned by me, even when my body was feeling drained, overwhelmed and often exhausted. In fact, I thought that was being ‘perfect’. My head was leading the charge and my body’s messages were ignored, mostly. Attending courses and reading books by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine gave me an opportunity to listen to my body and to reconnect to my innate wisdom, not by ‘doing’ but in stillness. What joy, vitality, love and appreciation I feel when I do things in a different quality that supports my body to be active and engaged in various activities each day. This quality of energy is possible with gentleness, stillness and conscious presence in my daily activities. No perfection, but a choice to accept what my body is revealing to me about the quality of my day.

     1. I agree Janice it feels very different to do things in the day in connection with my body then it does if my head is running the show as you mention – there is far less tension, stress, anxiety and exhaustion.

538. I am finding that when I allow myself to feel the flow, it is quite beautiful how things do flow. I am dropping the attachments to the lists of ‘must remember to do’ , and ‘have to do’ and going with the ‘what do I feel to do ‘ and everything that needs to get done does get completed in a flow.

539. I have found that the fear of time running out when we feel we are getting older is purely related to the quality of life we live and what we make life about.

     1. Yes. Regret is just a reflection back to us of what we have not lived. Thus, if we live a life of fullness and connection, there will be no regrets and no fear of time running out.

540. I was feeling really cold while reading this, exhausted from my last couple of days. Before writing this I stopped, sat and did some moments with my body with the sole focus being on moving gently rather than doing something. I now feel brighter, warmer and less exhausted. And this is achieved the more I be rather than the more I do.

541. It’s interesting that you are now able to complete more in a day than ever before but in an entirely different quality. It’s not about stopping life. It’s about stopping the push and the drive.

     1. I agree Rebecca. How is it when we stop being rushed we have more time to complete all we need to complete? We may very well waste less time, but strangely enough time itself almost changes or is it our perceptions of it?

542. The body and our being hate being rushed and the constant busy- and raciness take their toll on our health.

543. ‘Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live’ This is huge and what is so amazing is that we can choose to continue to deepen this quality with every choice. There is no end point and the pace is entirely up to us, connection being the name of the game.
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544. ‘It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.’ Wow, Nicole this is very inspiring, we live in a world where we allow time to be the keeper of us. What you’ve shared shows how we can empower ourselves by honouring who we are, choose to live in a quality that truly supports us to evolve and not join the world of exhaustion, false success and constant drive to seek recognition.

545. This is such a wonderful and much needed topic you have shared in this blog. The constant comments of ‘not having enough time in the day’ has become our everyday expression that leads us down the spiral of one of our current surges on society – exhaustion. Thank you for sharing how this is a work in progress as like yourself Nicole there are many of us that are looking from within to make the changes that in turn bring more quality and vitality to the outer.

546. ‘It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me’ – we don’t have to be the slaves of time, that is our choice if we are, choosing to fill our days with more than we can feasibly complete – but why? This relentless pushing feels like a punishment, could it be we feel hurt from our lack of connection with our selves? That to is a choice. By choosing to re-connect with our inner heart and bringing all of our gorgeous selves to whatever we are doing the quality of our movements changes completely. We are physically unable to push and drive, or do anything which negatively impacts on our body. There is a rhythmical flow to how we do things and somehow time seems to expand around us like a bubble.

547. ‘It was more important to get the job done than to consider how it left me feeling,’ – oh my goodness, two hands and feet in the air for me on this one. I would push my body relentlessly just to get something done, in place of enjoyment, feeling tension and frustration and ultimately even resentment. Whereas, if I had given the same consideration to me and the quality in which I was doing the task, how different things would have been. Not only in terms of the end result, but the physical effect on my body and the joy felt in spending time with me.

548. I ‘do’ more than I have ever done but I am more clam and relaxed than I have ever been and I do feel like I have space i my life. And it is with huge gratitude that I thank Universal Medicine for sharing the amazing wisdom concerning self-care and personal responsibility in their presentations and workshops. Thank you for highlighting this issue, many o fun feel that we do not have time, but it is so much about how we care for ourselves and our perspective on makes the difference.

549. It would be an interesting experiment to see how much our relationship with time actually governs our lives, how many times a day are we aware of the time and that something needs to be done before then? How many times do we feel not on the pulse but behind time? And how many times does time come before quality? How does time really affect our lives?

550. What I find is important for me, is to not try to stretch the day after 9pm to complete something. I anticipate on the following day instead during the early hour(s), and it usually works quite well, my body feels more energetic that way.

551. Time is relative as Einstein shared with us all, and I have experienced this time and time again. When I am with myself in my thoughts and movements I have space and time when I am focussing on what needs to be done next, where I need to be next week, etc I literally notice time disappearing and that feeling of overwhelm is horrible. I have days that feel like weeks, it is amazing.

552. Nicole, this is really supportive to read; ‘Knowing my life, who I am, is not gauged by what I do or complete but by the quality in which I choose to live.’ I can feel how it is so common to want to get through our ‘to do lists’ and that getting as much done as possible seems the most important thing rather than checking what quality we are doing things in.

     1. Sadly it is very common to choose quantity over quality.

553. It’s great to feel how you allowed space in to your life rather than being dominated by time. This feels inextricably linked to coming out of living from our minds and connecting more deeply to our bodies instead.

554. “It is this quality I am forever developing and deepening that has allowed me to be the keeper of time, and not time be the keeper of me.” When we live with this quality it is indeed quite astounding how time literally seems to expand and it is possible to do so much more.

555. Gosh, just reading the first half this puts me in a whirl! But so true Nicole, what I found was that however fast I moved time just kept pace, if I rushed then time rushed with me. Learning to focus on quality, putting myself in the equation too has altered my relationship with time and following the same steps as you have brings a surprising spaciousness and vitality that lightens our day, even when the work load remains the same.

556. Another great blog Nicole. An exposure on the pressure of living with time as the master – it is relentless until we appreciate there is another way to live with spaciousness through connection to our body and the quality we choose to bring to every single thing.
     “A merry-go round that felt like it was speeding up, with no end in sight”.

557. I know this pattern well, and at times it I was running around like I had 10 kids yet I only had 4. Sometimes I could just cry I was that exhausted by trying to do everything I thought needed to be done! I can remember adults in my life going and going until they were ill, and being the martyr, and saying I do all of this for you… I remember thinking I never asked you to. When I asked myself as a woman, wife, mother, colleague etc. who asked you to run yourself into the ground to get xyz done? I realised no one did, it was the many beliefs and ideals I was running with that I gave so much control and obedience to instead of listening to my body and what felt true.

     1. I agree with you Aimee, its as though we have someone sitting on our shoulder saying unless we run around getting xyz done then somehow we have completely failed as women. These thoughts are so negative and as you say wrapped up in ideals and beliefs that we have taken on from others. The more I connect to the real me the less traction these thoughts have in my mind to the point that if they come in I can brush them to one side as no longer relevant to the way I live now.

        1. This is so important to share Mary, as most believe that those constant negative thoughts are them and allow that negative doing energy to keep pushing them along. When we see that they are not us, as in we are divine, so how can they be if they are making us out to be less, then as you say they have no traction at all.

558. “No longer running against the clock, time now comes to me; I am able to complete more in a day than ever before, with more vitality and Love.” So beautiful Nicole – an inspiring read.

559. “Looking back, my days were gauged by how ‘good’ they were based on how much was achieved or completed.” I still have this to some degree – having had a ‘keep busy’ pattern running throughout my life. But when I stay present with myself with every task I do, time opens up, because I have given myself space. Then there is no pressure to achieve – and I do what I can do in my day in a more measured way. This feels very different in my body.

560. Time really is bizarre when you think about it. There is the saying ‘time heals’ but how can it heal if it can also ‘get the best of us’ or create ‘time pressure’? Whatever the case time does need to be respected in many aspects of life and may we never forget that life and nature live in rhythms and cycles – a much bigger and natural picture that time operates in.

561. Asking for support is something very few of us do, we tend to believe that life is about coping, managing to get by and that if we ask for support we are in some way failing or weak because we have an image that we want to portray to the outside world to say ‘I’m fine – look at me, I can do it on my own’.

562. It is so easy to get caught up in all that needs to be done, but fact is that we can only do it one by one anyway. And all that we do is life so it makes sense to allow ourselves to enjoy whatever we are doing simply by feeling our movements and feeling and enjoying the company we have through others.

563. Amazing Nicole how the most subtle things we do, say, move and think affect our being in a very big way.

564. It was not that long ago that I used to live life just like you describe Nicole and I had done for many years. But like everyone around me I rarely “questioned why life was like this”; if everyone was doing it then it must be the way life is. My body too was showing signs that it was struggling to deal with the unnatural pressures I was putting on it and the food and drink that I insisted on putting into. Meeting Serge Benhayon was my wake up call that this was definitely not a natural way to live as here I was finally being presented that yes, there is another way, a way that respects and honours my body which in turn shows its appreciation in many ways.

565. This is a powerful blog for so many women Nicole, the treadmill you describe is so commonplace. Knowing there is a different way and having a roadmap for what might be involved is very helpful thank you.

566. I find the more space I allow myself to feel and move in connection with my body in my daily life, the more spacious I feel and the natural rhythm or flow of my connection moves then with me too, taking away the anxiety and tension and replacing it with ease, simplicity and joy. Surrendering to our bodies movements and where we are in that present moment allows us to be open to so much more.

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