Years ago, I started reading Serge Benhayon’s books and attending presentations with him and Universal Medicine. Over time much has changed for me and something that has particularly developed is a strong understanding of the importance of supporting and caring for each other.
A valuable source of assistance in learning to do this has been through reading blogs on the various websites by Universal Medicine students. These blogs have frequently highlighted what I have been feeling and thinking, but perhaps dared not express outwardly before, or the writer has given me new insight into a topic I hadn’t paid much attention to or didn’t know anything about previously. I have felt inspired and appreciative of those who have been willing to share their stories in writing and to readers for their broad ranging comments on articles.
I know I’m not alone in feeling daunted with honestly letting others know what is going on in my head and heart. Verbally expressing myself is often a big step; one filled with trepidation around how others might react. When I have spoken up, experience has taught me that often I have drawn surprising responses from others which has taken relationships to new depths. At other times, I’ve been challenged by reactions from the alternate end of the spectrum.
What I have noted however, is that written expression has its own set of self-imposed trials. While finding the writing of others, especially on the Universal Medicine student websites, often inspirational, I seldom contribute my own written material to such forums. Taking the time to honestly examine why this is the case has proved interesting with reasons including the following:
- Using the excuse of lack of time; telling myself I’ll get to it ‘later’, which of course, doesn’t happen.
- Comparing my level of writing skills to others; thinking that my writing style is boring for readers.
- Baulking when I feel a spark of enthusiasm by assuming the task will be laborious and unpleasant.
- Using negative self-talk to block further progress: “What if my views are deemed repetitive, nonsense, pathetic or just plain silly and therefore subject to ridicule?” or “Will others respond kindly and with interest or react aggressively to what’s been written, and I’ll end up humiliated and embarrassed?”
- Feeling concerned about the permanent nature of the written word with no control over where it ends up and the possible subsequent implications of this occurring.
When I stop and look back at what I have written here, it’s glaringly obvious that all my excuses are imbued with a desire to maintain the current status quo where written expression is concerned. Yet, if the writing scope is broadened from me in my individual self-protection mode to considering how my behaviour impacts on others, this avoidance seems indulgent, selfish and childish. It’s like I am expecting the world to support me while I go on a permanent holiday. However, placing writing in a compartment and treating it as separate from the whole, directly contradicts my values in terms of caring for and supporting others. I know that my behaviours impact either negatively or positively on others and therefore contribute to the overall quality of the world we live in.
At a societal level, our concern for the welfare of others affects how we care for our children, rates of illness and disease, how and where governments spend money, what’s legal and so forth, because collectively the standards accepted by the majority become the norm. While I can’t singularly change world environments, I know that it’s important that I play my part fully and that every little step counts.
The way I walk, talk, my level of openness and genuineness etc. all affect the quality of my relationships with myself and others. It can be a very warm, loving experience… or the opposite. When in reaction, the anger, defensiveness, blame, judgement, criticism etc. often feel like a physical blow to not just myself, but also for the other person. How can people stop to question the quality of the standards that are being set if there is nothing available to spark their awareness of how everything is interconnected to the whole, and that it’s up to us all to play our part in creating the type of world we would like to live in? Wouldn’t all this make it even more important that I made the time and effort to write and share it in the public domain?
The more I examined my excuses for not writing, the more I have learnt about myself and my relationship with others and the world. When I let go of this avoidance, including any attachments around the outcomes with the finished product, I now realise I am offering so much more than what it appears to be on the surface.
For instance, there is a level of intimacy and openness offered through a willingness to let others in, which is essentially what I am doing when I write something that others are reading. Readers can feel the quality in which I have shared my views; it’s like there is a certain vibration that invites a response from the reader. Of course it’s up to them if and how they respond, but the important thing is that I have offered an alternate ‘menu’ around a topic for others to consider. I have no way of knowing where others are at in their lives, so possibly what I write about is something they have been grappling with also. Perhaps this is the support they were looking for elsewhere but were unable to find? What might the ripple effect of this be? And what’s the impact of my holding back due to my own concocted box of beliefs etc.? Is that not irresponsible and simply adding to the current high levels of individual isolation for myself and others?
When I take this broader view and value writing as something that offers opportunity for both self-development and a form of service for humanity, I can feel the shifting of a self-imposed load off my shoulders that allows a spacious lightness and flow to enter. In the expansion my perceptions are sharpened.
This emerging capacity to take a helicopter view and consider things from this grander vantage point has undoubtedly been enhanced by the support offered through Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon, fellow Universal Medicine students and practitioners. The seeds sown by this group of fellow travellers, who have committed to writing and sharing their wisdom, just highlight even more to me how important our expression truly is compared to the defeated sounds of silence.
By Helen Giles, Social Worker, Townsville, Australia
Related Reading:
The Gift of Expressing from our Essence
My Relationship with Writing
Healing through Writing and Expressing
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
By making a fuss about anything we have reason to keep us from doing, expressing or living from what actually is naturally there for us to activate and thus refrain from the responsibility of contributing to the all.
“The way I walk, talk, my level of openness and genuineness etc. all affect the quality of my relationships with myself and others. It can be a very warm, loving experience… or the opposite.” Yes, the most important factor in our life, how loving we allow ourselves to be in every moment. When we allow for this that is where the magic starts with no end.
Is writing like the liquid that we fill our fountain pen with? Is it clear spring water or muddy pond water laden with all kinds of nasty bugs. What are we truly expressing?
We have been indoctrinated into a world of ‘average, better and best’, a league of rating and competition over how we express. This whole way of measuring is horribly wrong. Each of us has access to great beauty – however it comes out. We don’t need to be Shakespeare to have something wise to say.
When being honest we realize that we have a responsibility to express what serves everyone equally as by withholding the expression everyone is left less. That gives some perspective to our ‘issues’ of not expressing.
Yes, the perspective it offers is a big ‘ouch’.
When we express ourselves honestly we open ourselves up to the world and let the world really see us for who we are. Unfortunately we learn from very young that when we do this we often get rejected, so it is very healing and empowering to claim back our expression as adults and to honour who we are and how we feel without the need for approval or recognition from others.
“…collectively the standards accepted by the majority become the norm” – this makes so obvious that we have to contribute the qualities to societal life that we want to be the norm by living, practising and thus setting the standards that are truly serving everyone equally to bring out the best in us, in other words, to evolve back to the divineness we innately are but have not yet activated.
I agree that having an intention to write to support other people to have greater awareness or something deeper to consider makes a huge difference to how writing is normally done. Generally, I would say that writing is about getting your emotions and feelings out, which is effectively adding to the state of emotions and issues in society. Writing needs to be free of this, if it is to offer a hand up out of the mud we are in.
An internal voice can still criticise me with my expression, so there is always more learning to be had and an appreciation of how we are changing our patterns. It is really important that we express what we are feeling, for communication in relationships, for being open and intimate, for stating truth when it needs to be said. I have learnt so much from other people’s expression, and it feels like it is time for us all to write more for all to read.
Before we attend school, we have found our voice, which allows us to express everything. Then school requirements and standards require end products. Is it not dissimilar to the production of force-feeding the goose to create foie gras? Do too many rules kill our expression at a young age?
I agree Steve, trying to write the perfect essay, with correct spelling, and impeccable grammar, can kill our natural and heartfelt expression stone dead.
A great point Steve – we start out with something natural and end up with something manipulated and formed to fit into a box.
We make a fuss about writing because we are caught in self identification and recognition. This cripples us from expressing from who we truly are.
So true Kathleen….if we can get the “I” out of the way we make room for our natural expression to flow.
Thank you Helen for a great article, I too feel the same as you, reading the articles here has been so inspiring and expansive for me, we all have wisdom from our individual experiences to share and when we do the world is indeed blessed.
When we grow up with judgment not only of ourselves but of others, it’s easy to see how this stunts us. We hold back in the fear that others will think us stupid, uneducated, foolish or what we have written is not perfect – there are so many so-called valid reasons. In the end, everyone loses out due to this holding back of expression.
When I read blogs that are from people of all walks of life, sharing openly their experience of how their lives have changed with the inspiration of Serge Benhayon it is just another confirmation of what is on offer. The teachings of the Ageless Wisdom and how practical yet multidimensional they are simple nails it every time.
It is crazy to keep on as I have most of my life (and I am sure many lives) waiting for a sign that people are ready to hear and accept what I have to say before I say it. Because that ensures that there is nothing put forward to inspire a change maybe not in this moment, but sometime in the future. What a self-created stale-mate I have been realising.
Golnaz, I know its so much better just to say how we feel. For me this has been a gradual process of building more trust in myself until the point that I feel solid in myself and have now started sharing and expressing what feels true in that moment. What I realise is if I am being true to me then what I say is never too much.
Thank you Matilda for the understanding shared of our education system and each other in crushing our writing and natural expression and also for the knowing that we can change this and free ourselves to be and express naturally all we are and feel for humanity and to make a difference that is so much needed.
I had lived with trepidation for years, with just the thought of expressing in any form of writing. Six years ago the students of the Way of the Livingness started a collection of blog sites to communicate to the world our thoughts and how we have chosen to live our lives. I felt the pull to express and put my words in writing when it was announced that they were going to set up these sites and needed blogs. I put fingers to keyboard and submitted something that is now in the new Library of Alexandria the WEB.
So often we use the ‘I’ll do it later’ excuse, which avoids the science that there is a perfectly designed moment to complete things, initiate or start up a new project in. Fighting what’s on offer in each moment in our day is fighting our worth and maximum potential to be an agent of change.
It seems crazy that we should be scared of expressing at all. In an ideal world we would be able to express how we are feeling without the fear of being attacked or judged. This just highlights how much work we have to do in terms of accepting and understanding others and allowing our differences. We have a long way to go if we want true harmony.
I do agree, Rebecca. What I have experienced is that if someone does not like what is being said, they can use education to attack and concentrate on the words spoken or written to debase a person. It seems like the strict rules we have on grammar and constructing a sentence can be too complicated and can be used to squash our expression, if we allow it, that is.
I understand why people do make a fuss about writing; when it comes to writing our education system incrementally steals away the joy and confidence we naturally have to express. It is very inspiring to realise, from this blog and comments, that we can throw this caution and fear back to the wind and go for it. Thank you.
Thank you Matilda for addressing this simple truth, our eduction system indeed does not support the joy of expressing ourselves but full frontally crushes it. But this does not mean we cannot go back to the joy and ease we used to express that we knew as children and which was absolute and natural to us. Nothing is ever lost and all can be reawakened.
“Nothing is ever lost and all can be reawakened.” Wise words Esther… our Soul is always calling us back to our innate joy, to the love and truth we knew within us as children, that is equally within us as adults and waiting for us to reconnect to.
Oh, how true.
‘that we can throw this caution and fear back to the wind and go for it’ Thank you Matilda, very supportive to read your comment today. I have been all wrapped up in a belief about writing stemming from my school days, which very recently I have let go of and now feel inspired to write.
I so relate to “the sounds of silence” as it is opening our ears up to feeling the stillness that is there and always has been there for us to reconnect to.
Indeed, and that brings us back to ‘getting ourselves out of the way’. Letting go of the need to own that which we write or express.
When we are connected to our inner essence and write it is so healing for another to read because it shows us that we are all the same in essence.
And I can feel there is an inherent healing for the one writing from connection to their inner essence also.
Yes, when we are all connected to our essence everyone gets a healing, and when we are disconnected we are all harmed.
The excuses are very real to me, Helen (thank you for writing them down for all to see). I can feel how I want to squirm and run away because of being attacked previously. The pen can be mightier than the sword, and we can conquer how we use it.
‘Over time much has changed for me and something that has particularly developed is a strong understanding of the importance of supporting and caring for each other.’ – This is super important and something that goes against the trend in our society in general.
“Why Make a Fuss about Writing?” – I used to love writing having been a writer/journalist in my very first job. The last few years and now living with simple care, regard, love and truer understanding of myself has made all the difference to how I now write, express – where there is an aliveness that speaks and a palpable difference to before where I lived life the opposite to how I am today and hence the writing although it was good all those years ago missed that alive vitality. How we live, how we are with our bodies dictates the quality of how we write, express and is what makes the read/writing/expression what it is.
When the truth flows through us, it is favoured just a bit from our perspective at that moment of expression, which allows others to expand and build upon.
I love your approach here, by simply doing what you find you have have difficulties doing. A very simple and effective approach: learning by doing.
Helen, seeing writing as a means to support and care for others feel lovely and makes it, for me, less of a daunting task; ‘placing writing in a compartment and treating it as separate from the whole, directly contradicts my values in terms of caring for and supporting others.’
We make a fuss to avoid the simplicity of the fact that we all have equal access to truth.
So it is simply a distraction to wield the power that we have.
It is interesting how there can be many excuses or blocks for writing when it is simply another form of expression. With talking, a comment seemingly is invisible, but when this expression is put by pen to paper, it may feel like its etched in stone to withstand time… Responsibility of expression, be it verbal or written is something that we all know deeply, and that words, and choices of words, do matter.
This morning in a discussion with somebody I postponed writing because the editing process would be too slow therefore minimizing my enthousiasm. Basically blaming the system. She pointed out that she did not mind the slow editing process (which is a fact), because she realised she had been in delay for a very long herself, even lifetimes. I got the point.
It is with writing, just as in verbal communication or in expressing through actions and deed, often in life we have those moments when we observe or hear of something horrible, and we know deep down if we had done our part and allowed the loving expression that was ours to deliver things could have been different. It is a great “ouch” moment, but the beauty of life is that we are always given another chance to go for it and express the grace that our heart has to offer.
Holding back our expression doesn’t make sense, as there is always something to share that will be well received from others.
History has shown us that we all know what happens when the silent majority don’t say anything or speak up so it is great you are writing about this and knocking out this idea that somehow it does not harm to hold back what we know in our hearts to be true.
Thanks Andrew what you state is a shocking truth which is worth remembering again and again. So much evil has been wielded and taken root in the world on the back of the green light offered by the silent majority choosing personal short term security ahead of the empowerment and vitality of living true to their heart.
If we worry about how others will react or respond to our expression it can be really debilitating, draining ourselves with holding back or calibrating what we say rather than freely expressing what we genuinely feel and sense.
I get the exhaustion you talk about Fiona in the interrupting of a natural flow. Like damming water it is a constant effort to stop something that flows so naturally.
Whilst I have never really found writing to be hard I have found actually speaking out and expressing what I want to say challenging at time. I had a lovely experience recently when someone I know was struggling with an essay, struggling is a mild word here! Yet they are an amazing singer/song writer, so can express extremely well. Yet they had a block over an essay needing to do it in a certain way. For me it shows how we can constrain ourselves by knowing what we can and can’t do without seeing that it is all the same. Just like me with expressing and speaking out it is all there, as it is when I write I just need to give myself the space and give it a go. Universal Medicine has been great at supporting me rebuild and reconnect to my inner-most which has given me the knowing and confidence to express myself knowing that what I have to say and share is needed and wanted by others.
Writing can be; fiction, non-fiction, technical and informational but if the person who reads it and doesn’t understand what is being presented, it is not the reader’s fault. Writing is meant to communicate something to others, and there is no need to complicate this process just because you are lexacomic, a walking, taking dictionary on legs. The sign: road closed bridge out ahead, requires no embellishments☺
“It’s like I am expecting the world to support me while I go on a permanent holiday.” Now that is a great call to responsibility, I can feel how I have done this myself and its actually not on. Yes these blogs are super inspiring and very supportive in many ways for the readers and the writers..
There is a sense of entitlement that is bred from this expectation of the world delivering stuff to us while we abdicate responsibility. And this pattern leaves us in the chaos of the world today. One by one, as we embrace the part we all play in life, things will change.
Oh my Goodness Helen Giles, what a stupendous piece of writing, You have unleashed a beautiful form of expression from within yourself, and we are so much richer because of it. And so are you. Thank you, As one who also has had a resistance to writing for the various and similar reasons you have outlined, I feel nothing but inspired by your words.
The excuses I could come up with to not having to write, are beyond any reason and really makes no sense at all. Like it is a fixed idea that has previously owned me and that I still am constantly being asked to challenge and let go of.
When you read the words of another, it gives you an angle of life that we may not have seen or are ignoring. This is why we need others to help us to see a situation in full, otherwise, we can be blinded by our own pictures and not see the whole truth.
Yes, I so very much agree with you Julie, and this is something we all need to understand as it will help us to come out of judgement and see the true qualities in each other so we can really enjoy each others company and learn from each other.
When there is an accident, all the witnesses see different things because of their vantage point. Each view is like a puzzle piece that help builds a complete reconstruction of the event.
Yes, we need each others viewpoint, otherwise we are caught as an isolated spot in the grandness of the universe.
We intimately understand what occurs when we talk, write and express love. We all get the opportunity to expand. The simple fact is there’s a part of us that prefers to withdraw and stay back and have a comfortable life. But in effect this comfort is nothing more than a sordid, turgid pit of misery. Who’d truly want to stay in that?
We all have experiences to share, life lessons we have learned, and we all have different ways of expressing. When it comes to writing, we all have different styles so comparison is unnecesssary. It is our responsibility to share ourselves in full.
When I was young I was told not to speak up so I used that as an excuse, a hurt that then meant I didn’t have to speak up but boy oh boy did that not support me or others. Now I write and speak and some react and some thank me dearly. I don’t always get it right, and I am okay with that for it is in these moments that we learn so much and we also allow others to see that you don’t always have to get it perfect!
How dull and uninspiring would life be if we were all perfect! Imagine all the experiences of the lessons learned when we mess up, that we would not experience!
I just got a picture of a bunch of robotic movements, all perfect but with no life to them. Yes, very boring and uninspiring.
Writing is our responsibility. To share our lives and learnings with All is natural for us.
I was at a course recently on writing and what was interesting is how our own set of self imposed rules with whether we think we can write or not stem from school and of course the rules of correct writing that do come from school. What was highlighted that we can all write because we all have something to share and its just our previous hurts that we hang onto that prevent us.
My list for not writing was a lot shorter, I had chosen in school all those years ago the writing was the hardest subject in school, and I couldn’t get my head around all the rules, so I allowed my self to almost become illiterate when it came to writing. But at the same time excelled in fun classes like Chemistry and Physics, they both had rules that were black and white. Being silent for so long, I found that I do have a lot to express from what I have lived and not expressed. Writing has become fun because I am not hindered by the rules that in the past complicated my expression. Now, I give my fingers permission
express what is required.
There is something about the physicality of putting ‘ink to paper’ (finger to keyboard) that makes our intentions, thoughts, movements etc. manifest. That is, we draw out all that is being lived and mark a blank piece of paper with it so it is visible before our very eyes. Not all are so comfortable with this level of transparency, for you cannot hide your livingness in this way in the sense that if you do not live what you write, your words will feel empty on the page. Just pick up any standard text or tome that is written from the head and not the heart, to feel the devastating effect of this.
“The more I examined my excuses for not writing, the more I have learnt about myself and my relationship with others and the world.” This is the answer to the worlds problems I reckon. You can substitute the word writing for anything that you are not doing that you can feel in your body is something worth doing. When we take the time to get real, get honest, do some loving examining of what is going on, we can learn so much about ourselves and others, that life becomes less of a mystery and you are more active player in this world.
It is a great resource Helen, to read other people’s experiences and feel how similar they may be to our own experience. As children we all have so much to say, but we stop that expression for a variety of reasons. Returning to that expression can be very fulfilling and healing, so everyone benefits.
Helen, your article really inspires me to write. You have listed many of the reasons that I don’t write for these websites and it’s great to see that these are not valid reasons and that what I have to share is valuable and supportive for others.
When I think about the way I was taught at school to write, with all the rules and regulations and nothing about truly expressing how I felt, was a big factor in putting me off writing anything for years but that now is just another excuse. With all the beautiful inspiring expression I get to read these days there can be no excuses any longer.
‘What I have noted however, is that written expression has its own set of self-imposed trials.’ – Yes, the expectation and judgment of our own writing can be relentless.
I was at a writing course today and the presenter asked us what our relationship with writing was. It got me pondering and I realised that there is great power in expressing our truth through writing so my relationship with writing is the same as my relationship with power. Writing asks us to be in our power and in our authority and this means responsibility which many of us avoid at some level.
I am touched by what you write about ‘letting others know what is going on in my head and heart’. Why have we chosen to make it so difficult to naturally express that what lives within and instead live a life completely opposite to that? Not expressing at all or only that what you think is being acceptable for the situation you are in. It feels so measured, automated, like you play a recording over and over again, in a continuous repeat loop. While expression from our heart will be alive and never the same as it is not a fixture but forever evolving and deepening as we then share form the unifying universality we all belong to an one day will return to after we all have regained this ability.
While writing and sharing on a subject was not my normal, I have learned that this was simply because I held back on living and sharing the immense wisdom that lives within. Now however, I am rediscovering the ability that I can write and that what I bring with that is the way I observe and experience life, which is unique and not there to keep for myself.
‘a desire to maintain the current status quo’ … reading this today was a stop, to consider where I might have a desire to keep things as they are, and how I might live in a way which perpetuates that.
We all have such GOLD to share and re-learning to express it is a magical process.
Indeed Michael, we all have GOLD to share but the point is we are not always aware of this fact that it is equally in us all. Therefore it is important for those that do feel that GOLD that they put their pen to paper so the simplicity and power of the writing can be the inspiration for those that are yet unaware but have the power to do the same.
Such a cool expose – how many of us have felt exactly this when we come to put pen to paper? And yet it is only a tiny hurdle that stops us from everything that writing has to offer, both self development and so much more for us all.
When I write I am often surprised by what comes through. I can at times learn something new, something I needed to hear at that moment as we are but channels of energy; and so pearls of wisdom can come through us if we are willing to connect and allow ourselves to express.
‘The defeated sounds of silence’ was a place I inhabited and indulged as I hung onto making life all about me. As I begin to understand the full beauty of sharing this life with others I realise how much lighter and lovelier I feel and connection can heal the hurts that kept me stuck.
Something magical occurs when we physically write something down, the activation of expression goes out and it is transformative rather than thoughts circling your mind.
Years ago in school, I was told that taking notes was a good way to learn something by hearing, seeing and writing. What happens when we express through writing? We can at times see and read something that doesn’t come from our mind that can expand us and others.
If we consider that writing is a support for ones’ own self development and a support for those who read what we write the question arises… why do we hold that back?
Writing is an expression for all and when we offer more we ignite more in others.
“Feeling concerned about the permanent nature of the written word with no control over where it ends up and the possible subsequent implications of this occurring.” – Looking at this reason for not expressing oneself through writing, I can see another angle on this too, in that it is really amazing to feel how we can leave an imprint of love via our writing on this planet that ripples out and literally lasts forever to be a healing one for everyone coming into contact with it.
The writing we leave ‘out there’ on the WEB is not like our early efforts of cave drawings that took aeons to be discovered. Our truth can be accessed now and it is expressed by many.
A lot of people are scared more of the IDEA of writing than the actual writing itself… Once you put pen to paper, and start to get into the flow it’s amazing how much there is to say about life. Particularly if you don’t have an attachment to saying a certain thing or persuading an audience.
The dot points of what gets in the way of writing is a perfect snapshot of what goes on in our heads. With all this internal chatter and excuses, it’s a wonder anything is written. I find that if I write when I first feel the spark of the writing, it is energising, easy to write. But if I leave it and the original spark is dimmed, then the excuses have space to grow and flourish.
Fiona so true. I have noticed that about any form of expression. It seems that holding back the expression opens up a gap into which all these thoughts and excuses pour in, and the longer you leave it the more they seem to take hold. A wise move to just go for it without making it complicated.
Since making a dedicated space to read and write comments the difference in my commitment and expression elsewhere has grown. I can see there is an opportunity to see the potential to transfer that to other areas.
Why make a fuss? Writing is very important and allows us to enormously increase our reach.
Very true Christoph the spoken does not have the longevity and reach that the written word has. I wonder if this is why I have more difficulty writing as I am aware of the responsibility of the written word that can not be so easily dismissed.
When we write from our heart our words touch others.
The more we express, the easier it becomes, its like doors start opening from within and we are able to access our inner wisdom that has been there all along and just needed activated.
It’s so interesting to examine the ‘reasons’ we give for doing, or not doing things. These justifications always hide some truth that we are not wanting to see for ourselves. There may be an aspect of our ourselves that we don’t want to admit to having, forgetting that this aspect is not really who we are but something we have allowed to stick to an outer shell and is merely a convenient excuse as you say. Calling out these excuses and feeling what underlies them can break the spell they have had over us and frees us up to connect in a way that is loving and truthful, or at least a lot more honest.
Willingness and openness in writing is letting people in. Wow there goes the penny and it drop! I have had a similar experience like you Helen and hadn’t quite got that this point is actually part of why I haven’t fully embraced my writing expression. Thank you.
Expressing the impulses that we receive, and feel is the key in life and writing is a great way to do this…no more excuses.
Writing is a beautiful way to express ourselves. Often I find it therapeutic, as I am able to find ways to express things that I haven’t otherwise known how to express. It can take me a while to be honest with myself about how I am feeling about something, and writing often helps me to get to that. Once I have written something down I can become clearer about what it is I want to say.
It is really interesting to observe all the negative talk I have around writing and how often it still slips in.
Seeing the bigger and … True picture. Yep Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have been awesome in helping me and many many others see this to .. and it keeps unfolding. There is so much to learn and remember ✨
It is changing our approach that helps. Taking ourselves and our reservations out of the way and connecting to what others need to hear. This is a very honest sharing of all the complexity we can call in to not put pen to paper when in fact we all have so much to share and learn.
There are two sources of expression we can draw from. Am I seeking recognition, wanting to get something off my chest, anticipating what others might think or how they will respond? Or am I feeling loving and am holding everyone in that light and the expression is a natural expansion of that? A big difference.
Our resistance to doing something – created by ideals and beliefs – creates a great deal of angst and complication… and yet when we actually go ahead and do what is needed it is often very simple.
Yes, the resistance is actually a very forceful action even though nothing seems to be outwardly happening. A bit like stemming yourself against a breaking dam wall.
We are all unique and add our flavour to mix of humanity, what better way to add to the mix than our voice through the written word. The spoken word is the sound a bell makes; the written word is the bell.
In exploring myself in my relationship with writing I found that there is a pattern through my life, a pattern that was in avoidance of writing. Such as creating difficulties with Dutch lessons at school, actually not wanting to learn all about how to express myself in writing, my later study choice, to go to the technical school where it is much more about manual labour and working with formulas than in writing and learning languages. It is interesting to see how these choices have influenced my writing as from this I have developed the idea that I am not good in writing and that I have nothing to say that is worth putting it on paper. But boy oh boy, the truth is actually completely the opposite. I can write and my view on life is important to be shared.
What I found with writing is that it is actually very natural to me and that my view on life is worth being written and can at times be inspirational for others to read. So why should I hold back on this as I have done for a great part of my life is an interesting question I take with me today to ponder on.
When we get those ‘sparks of enthusiasm’ and beautiful impulses that feel so amazing we have the awesome opportunity and responsibility to follow through with them in the quality and absolute joy that they were delivered.
What a gem of a blog. This is for each and every one of us. Our voice is valuable and without it we step away from contributing the what we live in our homes, community, society and world. Without adding our voice we cannot complain about the state of relationships in our home, or the government we have.
Expression releases stuff from the body. This is more than just a theoretical statement, the well-known phrases “Get it off your chest” and “It’s like a weight off my shoulders” confirms that we know we harbour things in the body till they are expressed.
That resonates with me Michael, the body can contain a lot that needs to be shared but is hold back. Only when we give ourselves permission to give expression to that what we contain it feels as a relief because we have held on so long for it. Otherwise it would be a natural flow of expression directly expressed when we have received the information that needs to be expressed. And to me it feels as a continuous flow when i open myself up to it and stop holding back on giving expression to the love I am in continuous connection with.
Reading your blog makes me realise how writing is another way of expressing and deepening the relationship with your Soul.
It’s lovely that you are sharing yourself with whoever chooses to read your writing, Helen. You know, there have been quite a few times in my life that someone has said something to me and I haven’t really connected with it, then later, the same person or someone else expresses it in a similar manner and I’m right there with it and them. That’s the beauty of your words in writing. It can sit there quietly and then at the right moment the words you’ve penned are there for the next person to be inspired or confirmed by what you have shared. Best of all, they are there for people you may never ever have the opportunity to meet in person. How great is that!
Yes, it sits there waiting for when we are ready. Words matter and lay as an imprint for us to walk through. Written words are slightly more obvious than the imprint of the spoken word that has an equal consequence.
When I look at writing as a responsibility in the way that you have presented it, I can see that there really is no need for self-doubt or criticism. That we all really do have a voice in words on paper and a capacity to express ourselves that can contribute to the whole of life being lived, even if our words do not touch the ears or eyes of every person, they still contribute and this feels important in a world where harsh words and condemnation are prevalent in our global social media communications.
‘Using the excuse of lack of time; telling myself I’ll get to it ‘later’, which of course, doesn’t happen.’ This can be an excuse which prevents us from even trying to find out what is possible and is one that I have as a belief which prevents me from doing what is called for at times.
We have a very human fear of the permanence of the written word. We tend to look at something written down as if it were set in stone, immutable, unchangeable. Therefore it is understandable that we fear going there, for what if we ‘get it wrong’ etc. But what if words carried a living quality that does not age nor wither nor stand like rock untouched by the oceans tide, but more so grew with us and were subject to the ebb and flow of all that we live so that they become imbued with the truth of who we are, or alternatively remain empty of it? If we consider this then we are able to build a relationship with words that is enriched by all that we live and breathe that is forever deepening and never going stagnant. There is always something ‘left behind’ that we can build upon. We do not have to ‘get it right’ first go. By writing it all down, we leave a legacy, not of perfection, but one that tracks our progress back to our true self (Soul) that can help others also find their way home by understanding the various steps taken along the way. And while there may be slight variances from person to person, in truth there is only one path back to God and this we can all relate to.
Giving it a go and getting the expression out of our bodies is so important because the lack of expression builds up like Mount Vesuvius if we don’t. It will explode, it is only a matter of where and when. If we take moments like this to express what we feel then we build a relationship with expression that means we will start to build a new foundational normal when it comes to expressing our truth that will have a ripple effect into other areas of our lives.
I love this Liane. No right or wrong, just Truth.
Love what you have said here Helen: ‘For instance, there is a level of intimacy and openness offered through a willingness to let others in, which is essentially what I am doing when I write something that others are reading.’ Yes. I have experienced my body feeling hurt, almost attacked, when a piece of writing is not coming through a certain level of intimacy and energetic goodwill. So I really appreciate pieces of writing like this blog which speak with a non-imposing authority and do not hurt the body in any way.
I can feel that what would come up for me with writing, next to being transparent and wanting to control that, is a form of ownership and wanting to get recognition for what I wrote. From this energy it is difficult to write the truth and let the true impulse come through, for there are many blocks in the way.
I think we can all relate to this experience Monika. ‘Writer’s block’ is simply the self (the individual seeking recognition) that positions itself between the source of divinity we draw from and the human vehicle such wisdom can come through and express into this plane of life. Once the self is in the way, we get fed from the other ungodly source, either by way of getting stuck or by following a tangent that leads people away from the truth and not back to it.
Nothing beats getting into the flow of writing, and I love that you’ve really emphasised the CHOICE we have in this. We have writers ‘block’ but what if what was more natural was actually writers’s ‘flow’?
I agree I have often felt very inspired by other people’s words of wisdom whether that be verbal or written down. Words have a great power and potential to unite people and evolve them and also to confirm in them that what they have been feeling all along as well is actually true and perhaps common in us all.
‘Words have a great power and potential to unite people…’ I love this Andrew – suddenly there is a greater purpose to our choice of words and what we align to to access such language.
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‘How can people stop to question the quality of the standards that are being set if there is nothing available to spark their awareness of how everything is interconnected to the whole, and that it’s up to us all to play our part in creating the type of world we would like to live in? Wouldn’t all this make it even more important that I made the time and effort to write and share it in the public domain?’ These are such good questions Helen. We must provide a reflection of another way of living, otherwise people are surrounded by and inundated by, the devastating momentums that is currently running the world. We can share it simply being in our jobs, families, groups, shopping centres, and we can certainly share it in through the written word (if it is lived) in the public domain of writing, which also imprints the internet and ether.
It is interesting how we can ‘go into stuff’ when we put pen to paper… or for some it may be holding a microphone to speak and yet we can speak perfectly well in other situations. When we go into an ideal or feel pressure of having to perform in any way it immediately takes us out of our natural expression and everything stops flowing.
We can support each other so much when we write a blog and others can relate to it. Our expression is unique and many stories have been written about the same subject but the way something has been described gives a beautifully different way of explanation from how or what we have lived.
When I get myself out of the way writing becomes quite easy and the words flow on the page, but I still find that I interrupt the flow by allowing self doubt and wanting to get it right, get in the way of what should really be an extension of my verbal expression.
It’s beautiful to let the flow express through us – no complication, just a connection and an opportunity to share that written, spoken or simply felt.
When I write after I get that spark of enthusiasm it feels easy and light, a far cry from laborious. It’s like the whole blog is pre-written and all I have to do is sit down and write it. Serge Benhayon has been teaching that we do not think, we simply receive energy, which then determines the quality and range of thoughts we can have. Feeling how pre-written these inspired blogs feel is confirmation of that for me.