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Appreciating Paying the Bills

I recently saw a post on social media for what sounded like an amazing free event about having a different relationship with money, which was run by the charitable institution College of Universal Medicine. I would have loved to go to this event, though that wasn’t possible as it was in Australia, but I did manage to speak to a friend who went. Now I can’t tell you what the course was about as I wasn’t there, but one thing my friend shared that she took away from it, was appreciating paying her bills. What???? I nearly fell off my seat with that. Appreciating paying my bills! I had never ever considered this in my life.

I have been someone who is like, “Oh no, here’s another bill come in.” Someone who dreads paying bills. Never ever have I once considered appreciating what paying a bill offers me.

So this was a whole new and huge revelation to me. It left me pondering on and thinking about things such as what do I get to appreciate from paying my phone and internet bill? Well for starters, I wouldn’t be able to read these blogs, share lesson ideas and plans, talk to my partner who works overseas, FaceTime people, talk to and connect with people all over the world, pay bills, share photos, talk to my parents, be able to look up information at the drop of a hat, use Google maps, answer emails, watch webcasts of workshops, book holidays, hotels, message my brother on the other side of the world, work with groups, study courses, volunteer on projects, buy clothes and other items… and so much more.

When I thought about this I started to think about more bills, for example the car repair bills and petrol. I got to feel, realise and appreciate what paying this bill offers me: the ability to travel to see my family, to go to the shops, to not wait for a bus on a freezing cold day in the pouring rain, to travel to my partner’s; it allows me to work, to go to schools, to see people, to teach, to buy presents for Christmas, to make dinner for my folks, to spend time with my niece, to drive across beautiful Scotland and see amazing places; it allows me travel to courses, workshops, meetings, go to the doctor, the dentist, to hospital, plus so much more.

The list is end-less. I looked at food bills, rent, electricity and gas, plus lots more. What I am learning is this is a totally different relationship to have with money, one that is full of appreciation, and is deeply self-caring as I come to realise what I spend money on may or may not support me, and all the things I can appreciate, which paying every single bills allows me.

By Gyl Rae, Teacher, 40, Scotland

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547 thoughts on “Appreciating Paying the Bills”

  1. Appreciation, of everything we touch is such an empowering tool when used to truly initiate or / which evolves us into deeper levels of love.

  2. It was great to read this blog, and appreciating paying bills. I get it. If everything was free for instance, I could feel the disadvantage in this, as people wouldn’t take responsibility. And in this, things would be taken for granted. It’s like that child who has everything and does not know how to put value to what has been offered.

    Another example, seeing a practitioner for instance. I would rather pay and have that service and undivided attention, than a free service where I could/would take everything loosely and not be responsible for my own healing. I have no problem paying for a healing session, as that payment goes way longer than the session itself… worth appreciating.

  4. Understanding that appreciation and what it brings to us is a simple part of our lived ways, with Joy being the precursor that is openly available to all, as we set the foundation for True-appreciative-ness, as a forever deepening part of our live wisdom as you have shared Gyl!

    1. Appreciation brings and provides us with more opportunities. In that appreciation more is offered, and that’s when we see appreciation even in a bill, because we see its reach than seeing it for something insular.

  5. We can either fill life with moans and whinges or fill it with appreciation. I know which I’d prefer to have more of.

  7. when we can appreciate a service (without making it all about the cost) we can not only begin to feel how abundant our lives are, but we can also begin to see the money we pay as an investment in ourselves.

  8. We can appreciate paying taxes as keeping the wheels of society turning so that health care, emergency services, refuse collection etc etc are there for all of us.

  10. Gyl this is a brilliant blog as I was reading it I could feel my lack of appreciation of the fact that by paying the bill of the central heating oil that keeps my house warm and toasty. I have just come back from spending 3 days in 3 different hotels that did not have adequate heating in the rooms, especially the bathrooms, which were very cold. I came home and walked through the door my body relaxed as I appreciated the warm welcome of my house. Yes it costs a lot to keep the house warm but oh Boy!, it is so worth it.

    1. Appreciating the heating in our houses as it gets colder in the UK is a great place to start with appreciating what we pay for.

  11. There is so much to appreciate in life – from the small to the bigger things, Yet we tend to focus on the more negative aspects, the things that went wrong or didn’t work out. Especially in the UK we like an underdog so may support them, rather than appreciate and accept those who do well – after maybe allowing them a small period of grace. The tables soon get turned – no wonder the tall poppy syndrome came into being. Paying our bills is just one area where we can bring appreciation into our lives.

  12. I am starting to do this more and more and it does feel good to pay the bills. Sometimes when an unexpected bill comes in I am a little hesitant but ultimately what I come back to is my livingness because I know it is how I am in every moment that affects my kidney energy which affects how money flows both in and out of my life.

  13. Thanks Gyl, it’s really inspired me to spend some time with each bill appreciating what the services I pay for provide for me. It’s fairly stock standard to resent bills, so it’s a good opportunity to examine this and change our relationship to money.

    1. I have just had a service on my car, now I can appreciate what that supports in my life. Definitely a different way at looking at bills.

  14. mmmm how often do we truly appreciate the bills we pay and think of the benefits we have received from that service? Great question and also awesome to flip it on its head like this and look at it with instead of a feeling of dread a moment of appreciation.

  15. The energy in which we buy and sell things remains and those items can either make us feel less or more connected to ourselves as we relate with them.

  16. This reminds me of a bill I received that often felt heavy and comes with dread when it arrives. Someone suggested that I should put money aside for it and I did, it made a huge difference. I find it takes the stress out of paying bills and I am able to appreciate paying it on time and with a lightness and ease.

    1. A reminder that the power is within our hands in how we feel just by changing the simplest things such as planning can make a huge difference.

  17. Watching your salary deplete over the course of the month can be a sobering feeling, even if you stay in the black. However, appreciating those bill payments and other payments as a support in life is a great way to counter this feeling.

  18. It never occurred to me to appreciate actually paying my bills. However I do appreciate the fact that I have sufficient funds to be able to do so, “….. what I spend money on may or may not support me, and all the things I can appreciate, which paying every single bills allows me.” And what I / we pay to utility companies, and in tax etc allows those companies to provide for everyone.

  19. When we spend money we are expressing ourselves – whether that is out clothes shopping, or in paying the rent / mortgage on where we live. Money is a constant stream of making choices, and its great when we are reminded of that (or rather we remind ourselves)… it changes things to us being on the front foot, appreciating the choices we are making, rather than life happening to us and the sigh when the bills come in.

  20. “How important it is to spend (wisely) so that the energy flows and others too may benefit.” So true Shirley-Ann. If one has an excess and does not use it then it is like having a blocked pipe while when we overspend it is having a leak.

  21. Having lived many years not sure where the money will come from to pay the next bill, it is a huge confirmation and feeling of achievement when one can pay one’s bills without stress.

    1. When we pay bills with stress, what energy do we feed back to the company, to the people and to ourselves? Stress. But if we pay them with ease and appreciation this is the energy everyone linked to our bills receives, appreciation.

      1. What is lovely that you express here Chanly is that appreciation fuels appreciation, so consequently it just keeps expanding.

  22. I really appreciate what you have shared here … and you didn’t even go to the event!!!! I never appreciate the bills I receive or reflect on what I have received the bill for has allowed me to do and definitely feel this is something worth giving time to.

  23. I love coming back to this post and appreciating all the things I pay for that are my foundation. It really does change my relationship with money and the purpose of it.

    1. I agree HM The expansion of the appreciation that Gyl shares with her example of paying the car repairs and petrol not only deepens my appreciation of paying my bills but how appreciation ripples out to so much more – how everything is inter-connected and everything matters.

  24. I’m going to be looking at my car payments in a new light from now on. After all, my car does give me the freedom to get about without having to wait at a cold bus stop in all weathers – now that’s to be appreciated.

  25. For many years my income was such that I was exempt from paying tax. When that changed there was a huge sense of achievement.

  27. It is so true, how we attend to all the details in life including paying our bills can reflect our levels of commitment, engagement in life and self care.

  29. I recently got a traffic fine and I was not impressed about paying it (but couldn’t refute the fact that yes I was at fault because I was). However it has asked me to look at how I am with my spending as I am now seeing it is a direct relationship with how I care for myself. Did I have the extra £65 to pay this? no. Having an understanding of my finances is something I am exploring at the moment in how it can best support me.

  30. That’s something I have never liked, owing people money. It lingers at the back of my mind for as long as it’s not settled. When it is settled that is one less stress I am creating for myself.

  31. Thanks to Serge Benhayon’s example of how he lives life, I too have started to notice that no aspect of life is insignificant. If there is an area that I consistently drag my heals on or have some other form of disharmony going on, it is well worth unpicking and working through the deeper issue, it will always be there to expose my relationship with life, as well as the level of awareness and responsibility I am willing to embrace

    1. So true, every area of our life can teach us something. I was aware I wasn’t great at completion, shown to me in the swimming pool when I stopped moving my legs just as I came up to the wall. Clocking that and making changes to finish at the end has had a knock-on effect in my life too. I am getting better at completing everyday tasks now too.

  32. Appreciating anything about ourselves in our lives is worthwhile for the healing focus it draws within and to oneself as opposed to the insular focus of someone else we may be in comparison with.

  33. I have never minded paying bills I have nearly always paid them on time or early, I know people receiving the money appreciate bills being paid promptly and for me it shows appreciation of the work done.

  34. Almost on everything in life we put a negativity especially when it comes to deliver, to serve, to give, but with this we deny ourselves a true rhythm that lets us unfold and blossom.

  35. The reality is we need money to live, but the way you are approaching the appreciation of what the money is supporting you with is not how most people look at paying the bills. Many, including myself for a very long time until recently, and still have to watch the conditioning of pictures to trying to take over in letting go of survival mode and really see everything that is on offer. This different perspective is truly life changing.

  36. It’s great to come back across this blog because I have some major bills coming up; one being a huge tax bill which I wouldn’t mind paying if I knew the money wasn’t being totally wasted on building weapons or this Brexit fiasco.

  37. I love the idea of looking at our bills as first and foremost appreciating the service we are paying for and what opportunities that opens up for us. A much less physically and energetically draining way to spend money.

  38. Paying our bills is an exchange for services received – this is worth appreciating.

  39. I love this blog Gyl, it simply encapsulates the opportunity we have when presented a bill of any kind – nothing is more enriching then evolution.

  40. Money is a currency. What we spend our money on, we invest in. Paying bills is about bringing a conclusion to a transaction, giving us an opportunity to evaluate our investment. Sometimes I feel as though I am shortchanged and ripped off, but your sharing makes me stop and wonder if that was about the quality of goods/service, or if it was me holding back from appreciating and receiving the potential that was actually on offer.

  41. This blog gives you a real check in moment, because I too always dread the bills coming in always fearing I will not have enough left after paying the bills. To appreciate paying all our bills is a very different approach and makes a lot of sense, because with appreciating there is never truly a shortage of anything .

  42. Like with everything as soon as we choose reaction, nothing of any true good is achieved. No one benefits from reaction and we are blind to the entire truth of the situation because no understanding can ever be had with reaction.

  44. Delaying paying is hugely disrespectful and draining to everyone concerned including ourselves. It is the same with holding onto love, the more you flow with it the more it grows!

  45. I love how in appreciating paying the bills, a concept you had not considered before, brought you heaps more appreciation of all that you are able to do because of the services and products available. But then isn’t that how appreciation works, it just grows and grows as there is always something to appreciate.

  46. I love how you’ve brought a whole new dimension to something so practical as paying a bill. Most of us approach bills as an uncomfortable fact of life, without seeing that paying for our electricity enables us to have a beautifully warm house, or our car tax allows us to travel from a to b promptly or enables us to be able to work. A great lesson in appreciation – thank you.

  47. Bills are no different to what sunlight is to a plant or oxygen is to a fish; all are crucial to the survival of not only the organism but the entire ecosystem as a whole. We live in a gigantic system of human life and like any system, harmony and balance is essential for the good of all. And there cannot be balance if there is an ounce of selfish greed or gain at the expense of another.

  48. I have at times experienced great joy when making my online payments to different people and companies as the quality of their service was still resonating in me. I don’t want people to pay me reluctantly or with a grudge, so why do it to others?

    1. And for this reason I am much more likely to speak up when I don’t find the service as good as promised. When we do this lovingly and truthfully we are generally heard.

  50. It is actually a big responsibility for us to pay bills and have this as part of our rhythm. My approach to bills and money has changed hugely over the years as I appreciate that money has an energetic quality and relationship with our bodies – so the more I am aware of money and what I’m spending – I know it has a direct effect on my body.

    1. I can feel the difference in my body when I am on the front foot with my bills but it is also extraordinary to see how much I can resist this blessing in my life and then life gets complicated!

  51. Appreciating paying your bills has a ripple effect into a lot of other areas of your life that need to be appreciated. I actually found that I appreciated this the most when I had very limited income and it really built my self-worth and allowed me to prioritise what was important to me.

    1. Yes, there is a movement of appreciation into other areas of your life after becoming aware of the fact that there is more to functionally just paying a bill… appreciating what you have purchased for yourself feeds back in to your self-worth.

    2. It’s feels important to not contract when we have a period with less money than usual but to keep expanding and appreciating the services we get for our money and how they all contribute to the richness of our life.

  52. Its interesting to notice how money – seeing the bank balance rise or fall – has an effect on how you may feel about yourself, and your vitality, confirming how everything is energy and inter-related.

  53. When we understand that everything occurs in our life – is because of our choices, we can see that the bills we receive of hurts vented or responsibility shirked – are huge and have been piling up in our mailbox, unattended for years. More and more though we are seeing for so many of us ~ it’s payback time.

  54. Just had my accounts finalised for the year and I appreciate the fact I had quite a good year the last financial year but I have to admit I am seriously struggling to appreciate the tax bill I have to pay.

  55. Gyl I love this and how you so simply yet so wisely offer us the opportunity to reflect on how much there is to appreciate in paying our bills and how powerful it is to discern what we are paying for and if it truly supports us to maximise our Livingness.

  56. Resisting and/or feeling resentful about paying bills is a brilliant expose of us not taking responsibility for our choices… we do something and then get cross about the consequences… hmmm, not so intelligent, maybe?

  57. It is worth looking at our whole relationship with money, both what is coming and what is going out. If we consider that it is more than just the physical relationship we have with it and that it is energetic as well, this brings a whole other level of understanding to our personal finances.

  58. The beauty of appreciation offered here on paying bills and what they really offer us makes so much difference to making life about energy first and the reality and honesty this brings.

    1. Yes well said Tricia – when we observe and appreciate what is actually is energetically behind our movements we are able to then appreciate the great impact our loving imprints have.

  59. Sometimes we spend our money on things we do not need, emotional buying when we buy certain items as fillers, when this becomes a pattern, we can end up with too much stuff and too much clutter which is a drain on our energy resources. Far better to spend wisely, purchasing those things that truly support us.

  60. There is so much to appreciate in life and appreciation brings so much joy into the equation. How is it possible to live in a world that is lacking appreciation when it is the one of the most amazing and easy tools to apply? It supports us to connect to ourselves, to people, to the quality of joy and confirms how amazing we all are. Appreciation is one of the main ingredients that holds us all together, unites us and dissolves our difference and brings joy and harmony to life.

  61. Agreed it makes us see first that life is about energy well before it is about the item, action or thing.

    1. Paying of a bill can give me the opportunity to bring all of me to a transaction and consider what truly supports me at that time.

  62. We have many bills to pay on a daily, weekly, monthly, yearly basis and in a way that gives us the pulse of life that is energetically but now materialized in the bills that drop in this pulse or rhythm on our doormat.

      1. You can say it is our interaction or communication with the world, with other people. And you then can say that the way your money flows is an indication of your engagement. In other words do you consider there are other people in your lives to take care for or do you mainly spend the money only for yourself.

  63. When we are open to seeing how we with our money participate in our society, we would appreciate more or even come to the point that we love to pay the bills which are the physical manifestation of our commitment to life that actively living in societies is.

    1. Interesting that you mention, commitment to life, of course part of that is working and paying our bills, and its great to pay the bills on time appreciating the service that was provided, rather than avoiding paying the bill so that we go into arrears, which normally means interested is added and we end up having to pay more.

      1. Yes Jacqueline, I come to the understanding that it is not wise to not pay your bills, but on the other hand I do understand as well the movement of not wanting to pay these. For instance when you feel injustice or corruption in the system you are taking services from there can be a pull towards not wanting to pay these bills as you do not want to be part of it. But then we have to become honest with ourselves and pay these bills to finish the cycle as we have been willingly part of this system. We can only stop this by standing up and to not take these services any more or to address that injustice or corruption as a client that insists human decency and respect in the services that are delivered.

  64. A new concept here for me to appreciate paying the bills, but I can totally relate especially when we sit down and list all the benefits. I would be lost without my car, as I work in many different areas that would be a nightmare to get to with public transport. That said, knowing how much my car provides for me, I just got it serviced and was more than happy to pay for this.

  65. “Someone who dreads paying bills” – i find in myself that when we are committed to life, to working, there is no feeling of urgent dread but of completion in paying bills.

    1. Yes Zofia, and in paying these bills we actively participate in so much more than only living our life and doing our work. It is indeed that commitment to life but then too in all its nitty gritty ways like paying for a public toilet visit. By paying all the bills we confirm how much we are involved in the societies we live in.

  66. It seems like in general the world gets happy only when we earn money but with a deeper understanding I am feeling a deeper appreciation in seeing the moments when I manage money, which may be a gain or a loss, but in terms of learning and awareness, it is always a gain.

  68. There is a learning in every situation, a blessing if you like, and paying our bills is no exception. The energy in which we pay a bill comes back to us after it has resounded everywhere so why not make that a joyfull occasion?

    1. True, there is always so much to learn in life, like now starting to appreciate paying the bills and what they have brought to us along the way.

  69. It’s far healthier to pay our bills with appreciation than it is to begrudgingly give the money over – what does this say about how we feel about ourselves if we do not value the support these things bring.

    1. I like that you use the word support here. For money is an exchange of energy after all and if we can exchange so that we feel support in that and appreciate the support there is – which is often greater than we might at first think – then we are free of the constraints we can so easily associate with that money.

  70. There are so many things to appreciate in life – including ourselves. It feels so much healthier to appreciate what is going well in our lives rather than bemoan one’s fate when things don’t go according to plan. I’m learning that then there is an opportunity to learn and grow from so-called mistakes….. .

    1. I agree that we can choose to focus only on the negative things or faults in our life rather than all the aspects that are going well, and moan and complain about them, but this achieves nothing except making us miserable. So why not stop to appreciate all the little things that are there worth appreciating?

    2. Absolutely, it does feel far more joyful to put our energy towards appreciating our life, rather than moaning about things we felt dissatisfied with.

  71. Appreciating life, washing up, hoovering, putting the rubbish out, going to work, etc and absolutely paying the bills along with other jobs it is important to understand how we feel about these chores says a lot about how we we feel about life. Joy or grind? And so if there is grind….why is there not joy there….and is there something to look at – no perfection required.

    2. We have to do the everyday ordinary things like the hoovering and washing up, taking the rubbish out, washing the car, DIY, food shopping etc, much easier to enjoy all these things and add our sparkle as we go, because it costs more energy to do them with resistance, or in grind mode. And whatever energy we do them in, this is the energy that meets us when we do them again!

  72. When the bills are settled there can be settlement from commitment to oneself and to being in this world.

  74. When we like one part of life but not another it’s a signal that we’re in illusion and being deceived in some way – because life is one at the end of the day. So beauty is not actually reserved for one bit and not another. It’s just we believe that it is. But continuing on in this way comes at a significant cost.

  76. Paying your bill is a harmonious exercise when we earn or have enough money to pay the bills.

  78. I paid my mortgage today and I stopped for a moment to appreciate what this meant for me and how it meant that I could live in a beautifully supportive home which feels so lovely to be in.

  79. I love the fact here that you are turning the negativity of paying bills on its head. One of the reflections here is that we can bring appreciation to everything and in so doing enrich our lives beyond the mundane and simple function.

    1. Absolutely Eva and appreciation is so important and hugely supportive, why aren’t we utilising this to the max?

  81. The appreciation and joy felt here is beautiful and a real marker for how we can live our lives with more simplicity love ease and contentment with all that we are and do.

  82. “I got to feel, realise and appreciate what paying this bill offers me..” – the opportunity to be responsible and to take responsibility.

  83. I always appreciate the tradesman that come to work at the house, the appreciation is that they can do something that I don’t have the required skills to do; but also it frees me up from trying to do something myself. I can instead concentrate on doing what I do best. I appreciate the fact that we all have these different skills that we can support each other with.

  84. It’s such a healthy way to be with our bills and expenses, the trying to hold on to money so you can be in control and look as if you have more is pointless and drains you big time. Appreciating what ever it is that is brings to your life is such a fantastic perspective to apply to everyday life.

    1. I can relate to trying to hold onto and trying to control money, never quite trusting that more would come! Took a while to break that old habit, and now notice how more at ease I am in my body as the stress I felt before is no longer there.

  85. A single transaction is never just a purchasing of items, but a move in a direction to support ourselves and our growth or to stunt it.

  86. So needed to be reminded of this, appreciating all that is gained from what is bought is so different to just focussing on what something cost! It’s such a glass empty way to be with life!

  87. Just yesterday I caught myself reacting to a bill a tradesman gave me, going into the shell of how high it was; it subsequently occurred to me that this was extremely dishonouring of the service this man had provided to our house and that I had tried to diminish him and what he brings.

    1. I know, even as a self employed person who knows very well all the costs incurred just to do our job with no sick pay or holiday pay I always baulk at how much work costs. The actual hourly rate of someone is normally very reasonable it’s so supportive having a tradesmen or professional to help us that appreciating thier service is honouring of the whole of life. Being tight, mean, etc is deeply dishonouring. Life is so much richer when you feel what is on offer.

    2. And this is a moment of appreciation, to not react and if we do to be honest about it and feel its effect. Even then, there is time to appreciate, for right or wrong doesn’t help us any way.

  88. Everything is energy and everything is because of energy – as said by Einstein and Serge Benhayon. Paying bills is an energy as is earning the money to pay the bills as is the benefits of having paid them. So what energy do we want working through us and coming back to us?

  89. I wonder how many of us truly appreciate money – let alone appreciating paying the bills.

    1. Yes, there is often resentment, frustration and blame when people pay taxes… and even anger around this too. What would it feel like working in these areas with all this energy coming at you?

  91. “Appreciating Paying the Bills” – there is nothing better than to be square with the bills because there is nothing better than to be and to feel committed in this world through this squaring.

  92. Appreciating how we spend our money, ofetn hard earned money, paying bills is actually paying for a service, which we often complain about, but its an exchange. If we brought appreciation to it, it would feel very different to when we resist or see it as a negative exchange. It does bring up the point that at times we may feel that the bill is too expensive and for some unaffordable as well. that cannot be denied, as it is the case in some situations, but if we appreciate, we can then explore how we could possibly support ourselves by looking at how we are living and if at times we are actually being considerate with how we use our resources that we pay for. In other instances, for example increasing power bills it can be challenging to appreciate if it is a big bill, but we can still bring appreciation to the warmth we have when it is freezing cold, the lights in the dark, the cooked meals, in appreciation we actually bring a sense of expanision and in not appreciating there is a sense of anger, contraction, emotions that make us feel worse.

  93. Paying a bill is like paying to be a part of the community, we all contribute to keep the wheels going. An appreciation for the exchange of services/money is natural in a true brotherhood.

    1. Which then applies to paying our taxes as well; yes, we may not like what the government spends the money on but then again, that is for us to influence and change rather than be quiet and furtive about.

      1. Oh yes, a big one Gabriele – paying our taxes. Do we ever appreciate that it is for the All that we are all part of?

  94. Bills… even the word itself feels loaded with dread. Certainly not something joyful and hence indicating that perhaps there is something here that is not true in our relationship with it.

  95. Appreciation is transformative… to deeply appreciate brings a whole new awareness and understanding to life.

    2. I agree with you Paula and I have experienced appreciation transforms relationships from being in conflict to complete harmony. It is like gold dust that is extremely valuable, effective and free to access.

  96. I recently had an electrician repair my electrics. He did such a great job and really supported me with rectifying some work that was done badly. I have never felt so pleased at being able to pay him every penny for the amazing job he did. It’s such a difference to trying to get a bargain which was what I used to be like. I have a sarong that I bartered for that I know the person who sold it to me was resentful about the price that was agreed. I have never worn it. Everytime I see it I remember the interaction that felt very unfair and that I was the one being forceful. I would like to go back and give them more money because it was worth more and I was being mean.

    1. It’s quite formidable how the imprint of a transaction sticks to the purchased item. It show that money, and the quality in how we purchased something is completely energetic – we literally do ‘wear’ it in one way or another!..

      1. Yes, and it very much shows that it is the quality we are in in every moment that counts. It is never the achieved deal or out come but the way we conducted ourselves and the truth we allow ourselves to live by that is felt in every move, transaction, deal, exchange, conversation that we do and have.

  97. Until I read your blog, Gyl I had not appreciated, ‘what paying a bill offers me.’ but now on considering I can really appreciate what this brings.

  98. Ok so, appreciation and paying bills in my experience up until reading your blog, Gyl, have not belonged in the same sentence let alone the same room. I have kept paying bills, money and finances locked in a safe in the darkest room of the house to be opened with huge amounts of resistance only when absolutely necessary. There are so many rooms in my house that I have brought appreciation to and reading your blog has opened my eyes to the fact that until all rooms are aired out and appreciated for the joy they bring to the overall flow of harmony in the house, the flow and the harmony will be lacking.

  99. The relationship we have with our money is directly connected to our commitment to life and all of our activity. I am becoming more aware of how absolutely amazing it is to feel the abundance of our own energy feeding us back through our earnings.

    1. Agreed Janet it changes our entire perspective on life when we are willing to embrace life and all that it means instead of go through life resenting each area, or indeed each bill we pay.

      1. And lets face it, it makes absolutely no sense to resent paying for something that we have chosen to purchase.

  100. Yes paying a bill can be joyful as we recognise that it is a way of communicating energy with one another. Lets me explain this a little. With giving our energy to our job we get back the same energy but now materialised. And it is the same with us in paying our bills. It is an exchange of energy for services or goods provided by some body to us. So how we are with money can tell us a lot about how we do engage in life, are we able to see it as an exchange of energy or not.

  101. How we are with paying bills is a reflection of our engagement with the world we live in.

  102. The appreciation of life and all its details in our world with money, flow and the quality we allow ourselves to feel is so expansive and comes with a beautiful responsibility and service.

  103. I got to feel just how much I appreciated filling my car up with petrol recently as from having half a tank of petrol when I started out, suddenly a warning light went off and there was no petrol and I was in the middle of nowhere with a GPS system that had taken me miles out of my way. When I eventually found a garage without the support of the GPS, filling the car with petrol was a sheer delight and boy oh boy did the car deserve it, how it kept going is a miracle it must have been sucking in fumes!

  104. I also found that when we don’t buy things we don’t need there is a balance in the money coming in and going out that is very steady. It is only when we buy things that are not needed that we can get tight financially. It never ‘just happens’.

    1. Indeed Lieke, there is a natural flow in life that is supportive to us when we appreciate its what it brings. It gives us space and not the tightness you are talking about when we move outside of this natural flow and do create our own flow within it.

  105. It is also because of what you shared very important that we know what you are paying for and why we get certain bills as when we don’t it can be feeling very useless to pay them and it becomes a drain. Having ourselves informed is therefore so important.

  107. What a great way to appreciate the flow of money and flow of life Alison. Also, being able to see the bigger picture instead of making it about ourselves is evloving.

  108. Most people dread paying bills and if we get to the point where we start to appreciate this part of life, it shows we are able to also appreciate everything else in life. We live in a society where appreciation is rare and you are reminding us Gyl to shift appreciation from being a rare thing to being so very normal.

  109. Thank you for bringing us back to the simplicity of life Gyl. We have made life very abstract where everything just revolves around the individual that we have lost the understanding of how things work and go hand in hand.

    1. So true Rebecca. Plus moaning about them uses up so much more energy than simply paying for them as they come in. Having unpaid bills hanging over you is exhausting as it just creates uneccessary stress and tension.

  111. I love what you are sharing in this article Gyl. I can feel that there is so much that we don’t appreciate and that we take for granted in life. We can so easily complain and not enjoy things such as paying the bills. What you are sharing feels lovely, I can feel that there can be joy and appreciation in the simplest and supposedly most mundane of tasks.

  112. It is such a great feeling paying your bills straight up when they come in, here we can actually take it to another level and fully appreciate what it is we have been supported with which in turn has supported us to serve in our own lives with ease and flow.

  113. A great blog here, making you realise you are not just paying a bill – end of story… you are actually paying a currency, a vibration into the pool of a business. When you are aware that everything is energy, a vibration, then quality of vibration is a responsibility that can make all the difference to those that receive it.

  114. Paying bills with appreciation is confirmation and appreciation for all that we have.

    1. Wow, jstewart51. Paying bills has just been taken to a whole other level with your wise words: ‘Paying bills with appreciation is confirmation and appreciation for all that we have.’ Power-full stuff.

  115. And imagine if we did not pay the car bills – to have a car and its expenses (insurance, upkeep, fuel etc) – you would have to walk everywhere or do public transport, it would take longer to get to places, and limit how far you could go with ease – and you would have less capacity to transport equipment…it feels like old time and we would have to get a horse!? There is much to appreciate with paying our bills and expenses!

  116. We were just imagining if you did not pay the electricity bill…we would not have lights, we would not have TV, we would not be able to use the oven, nor the stove top nor the microwave, nor could we use the fridge and freezer and so this would really limit our way of living! How much do all these things support us in our every day?

  117. The joy and appreciation from this article is beautiful to feel as are the ripples of quality and responsibility we have with our lives and the appreciation this offers us all.

  118. This brings definitely a refreshing change to money. I would say this is a very wholesome way to see money as it is not detached from life and just a thing but allows us to see all aspects of what money is.

  119. What is especially great about this article, is the ripples of appreciation that will go out in to every company you pay your bills to. In amongst a sea of resentment, your bills are paid with joy.

    1. I agree Shami, there is so much resentment in this world, not only when it comes to money but all the expectations we have, so appreciating what we have brings a completely different quality to life. We can all feel how willing or unwilling someone is towards us or something.

    2. Wow, Shami, this is so true and appreciating what we bring when we pay bills, work, clean our house, and cook etc. with joy is being communicated to the rest of humanity on an energetic level. This is very beautiful.

  120. Seeing bills as a burden or a curse is going to have the effect of weighing us down, but if you see them for what they are – bills that need to be paid and then they allow you to do so much more in life, then it is a road to freedom in the sense of free to embrace life and all it has on offer for us in terms of growth and evolution.

  121. The other day I was appreciating for the first time some work I had to do in the background, and the appreciation came from the realisation that as I worked this in itself was offering another an amazing support not just in what I was doing for them, but also in the way I was working and preparing something for them….they essentially were offered a double healing: the first with the work that was being done for them, and then the final product that resulted to be handed to them. This was an amazing realisation and reminded me of this blog and how much there is to appreciate about things we often do not appreciate.

    1. ‘….how much there is to appreciate about things we often do not appreciate’ can be applied to so many aspects of life but, for me for now, none more so than the loaded aspect of money, finances and bills.

  122. Your very wise insights in this blog have really supported me lately, Gyl, as I too commit to developing a new relationship with money which includes how I feeling about “paying the bills”. Not long ago I would not have even considered appreciating that I was able to pay the bills but these days I really am, and in fact, I am loving feeling the appreciation in my body as I do. Not only that, I know the appreciation that goes with the money being paid ripples on out to all those who are on the receiving end; the power of the ripple effect is huge.

  123. When we pay with love and honesty and appreciate the flow of return, we then can accept and appreciate the flow of paying bills.

  124. Paying my bills and debts allows me to feel free of obligation. I can take this to an extreme and will consider whether how much control also plays it’s part in my approach to paying bills?

  125. Why do we see bills in such an unfavourable light? It’s like we want to live our life for ‘free’ and avoid responsibility. We don’t like to be reminded that for every action we take there is an energetic cost.

  127. There are many transactions in life.How many of them do we bring appreciation to? I am doing a transaction by commenting on this blog right now….and sitting here there is much to appreciate. A warm bed, a computer to work on, inspiring blogs to read, a safe home over my head, work to go today, a supportive pillow behind my back, awareness that I am a bit cold and will put a jumper on. Thank you.

  128. Love this and only this week am appreciating what I get for paying my bills – contact with friends and family, everything. Money does make the world go around but that’s not a negative when I bring appreciation to it and the fact that people are benefiting from the money to do what they need to do. In the same regard, I can also appreciate I earn every penny from what I do and that’s wonderful too.

  129. When we value a service we have received there is never a problem with paying for it.

    1. Spot on, when we receive a service and we value what we receive there never is a problem with paying for it, it is often when we have an expectation and expectation is not met the we have a problem to pay.

  130. This article though simple and short ( my favourite type by the way) is immense, I have had a couple of huge out of the blue bills lately that would have normally rocked my world, and not in the good sense of the saying, but this blog puts bills and where they fit into life into perspective. Besides it is futile putting energy into annoyance, anger or any other negative emotional response to a big bill.

    1. Yes, I’ve had a few bills that have been big. It does happen a fair few times especially around fixing my car and ensuring it is road worthy. Without it I wouldn’t be able to do all the things that are important.

      1. Yep my biggest one was over £1000 recently and that was for my work vehicle and when I consider that last year I did about 17000 miles in it, all work related and how much money I earn because of it, it is pretty important alright.

  131. I am finding I need to keep returning to this relationship with money, as it becomes a set and forget thing for me when I am ’comfortable’ i.e. have enough to pay for everything. I see this as a great reflection of how I can cruise in life.

    1. That’s a great point – do we value every transaction made when we are in the comfort of ‘having enough’?

  133. ‘one thing my friend shared that she took away from it, was appreciating paying her bills. What???? I nearly fell of my seat with that.’ – Put like that, your response to her sharing is actually quite funny, but it is of course how most people would respond, because we have never truly learnt to appreciate that our choices comes with a consequence. We choose to buy something and then later dread paying for it… which really makes no sense at all.

  134. Spending £30 or £40 on something isn’t just spending £30 or £40, but it’s making a choice as to what we value in life and how we spend our energy.

  136. I was cleaning my car on the weekend and your blog popped into my head. I changed the way I was cleaning my car as I brought in much more appreciation for this vehicle that that allows me to go to and from work, visit friends and family, visit places, go shopping, attend workshops etc….Thank you for the inspiration.

  137. Absolutely. And it is vital that we take responsibility here. Did we truly express what we wanted? Did we set the standards very clearly? Did we support them through the process? It’s very easy to point the finger and blame, but what is our part in it and, in fact, is the resentment we feel actually a self-fury because we know that we didn’t take that full responsibility?

  139. Whilst I am always happy to pay for support with evolving my life – as I consider it money truly well spent, it is amazing that the College of Universal Medicine offered this event for free – that’s pretty extraordinary.

  141. Gyl, it feels great to be aware of what we spend money on and to question whether this supports us or not.

  142. I love the appreciation you have bought to paying the bills – something that is almost seen as a burdensome task. It makes me realise that we always have a choice; to appreciate or to not appreciate and that this results in us feeling very differently about life.

    1. Beautiful we always have a choice to appreciate or not, and when we appreciate we can feel the difference in our body.

  143. I have wondered at times some years ago, if we had all the money we wanted, life would be so much easier, pay all the bills, go on holiday, buy everything we ever wanted etc. Now, I understand that we can be millionaires but without love and appreciation, our life can feel empty, dull, lacking in purpose and zest. So, money is not the answer to life, love is actually our true currency and when we appreciate life and live with love, money is not hard earned but flows in as a support for the loving and committed way we work, live and socialise.

    1. “love is actually our true currency …” Yes, absolutely… as love and appreciation is what can be transferred along with money, and this imprint makes a transmutable difference.

  144. Every aspect in life has the potential to be appreciated, not because of the activity itself but who we are and what we bring to those aspects – what if paying your phone bill in a way that is aware of the fact that how you used that service in the first place, how you spoke on the phone, what you spoke about is feeding back into the pool for EVERYONE that uses that service? Theres a lot to appreciate.

  145. I enjoyed reading this, Gyl, as I am in the process of going to another level with the care and responsibility taken with my finances, my home and the little details that support me to go to a deeper quality of relationship with myself.

    1. Agreed Janet, so it is in the clean-out after we have spent time and money buy a new-out-fit, then as I used to say to my mother 1 in 3 out, which is making space, and thus co-creating a “deeper quality of relationship with myself.”

  146. The energy of how we pay our bill goes back to those that offer us the services we need. It is a relationship no different to any other in your life so it is important it is appreciated and held that way.

    1. Beautiful reminder Joshua that it is a relationship of energy like any other and we need to appreciate and hold it that way.

  147. I do view us as custodians of money, what goes round comes around, and I like to return to the bartering system sometimes. We all need to pay bills for sure but we can also swap skills so I can give a treatment to someone in exchange for support on the computer or a mirror put up on a wall.

    1. This is a particualrly great way to get support with something we cant do for ourselves when we dont had alot of money to spare. There is great value in sharing our skills in this way.

  148. Once I came to appreciating paying bills early, I also came to appreciate filing my paperwork in an orderly way too, rather than letting it pile up.

    1. I agree Rebecca and paying our bills early or on time is a sign of appreciation. When I invoice my clients, I notice the ones who appreciate my service always pay on time and as a result, I hugely appreciate their appreciation and it goes back and forth.

      1. Yes I agree paying a bill early or on time is a sign of appreciation. When we allow allow that appreciation of another, we also receive that level of appreciation back.

  150. We are brought up to dislike paying for things unless they are material – clothes, makeup, holidays, a meal out. Bills are seen to be an unwelcome depletion of our funds, rather than the supportive, foundational base of our everyday life from our house to our water and electricity.

  151. Our capacity to pay for the services that we utilise is something that supports our everyday living. Appreciating not only that we pay for these services is one thing, but considering that there could be a ripple effect on what we choose to purchase is something else. Every interaction matters, even if we are paying a bill on the internet.

  152. I like the simplicity in what you share. We have the tendency to make things complicated and say we have an issue with money, food, people, etc,, instead of just looking at what is there and what we haven’t appreciated enough yet.

    1. Esther thats true, we don’t have an issue with money, food, people, it is our movements and choices that are not in line with our truth that causes these issues and there fore lack of appreciation what we do have.

  153. Thanks Gyl for this timely blog as I have just got an unexpected very expensive bill to fix our car and stopping to appreciate just how much of a support our car is to our family has been a real antidote to this shock!

    1. Andrew that is indeed a great point, it’s those unexpected costs that I sometime balk at.. certainly worthwhile to appreciate what each one offers and if a bill is not like this, then to reflect on why we got to need that bill ?!

  154. ‘what I spend money on may or may not support me’ If we are uncertain about buying something what a good question this could be ” Does this support me? ” When I have done this it has been at times revealing and at others very confirming. It leads to more honesty with oneself.

    1. Thats so great to stop and ask one self “does this support me”, allow our selves the space to feel and listen to what our body is saying. Often we can just buy things on the impulse and it may not be supportive at all.

  155. So important to be aware of how we spend money, anything we buy or spend is an investment in one way or another, into that commodity or way of doing things. Bills are the completion along with the receipts of these choices, they show us where we invest and where our money goes. So what ever it is, are we happy to invest part of ourselves in it, be it our car, the supermarket we choose, the clothes, the water company we use, all of these are relationships and based on more than just financial transactions and do what are we offering, not just what are we receiving?

  156. I appreciate the amazingness and ability to use money in the temporal life to assist and facilitate the body to live in a true way that we know is natural. Space, connection, nature, health and well-being, relationships, warmth, transportation, protection of the body. All very amazing.

    1. I am too beginning to appreciate the flow of money in the temporal life and not get caught in the have too and must have the money kind of way of thinking I use to get caught up in. Now there is more a flow as I allow for the money to support in its true way for the temporal life.

  157. Without wanting to be too graphic – this is a bit like going to the toilet. When you are in tune with your body, it’s a pleasurable experience to feel your system is working well. When there’s obstructions or tenseness it’s terrible and can be painful. Money in my experience is the same.

    1. Interesting analogy Joseph, I must say, I wouldn’t have looked at money in this way but it makes sense. To me, money is also about the reflection of flow in life and with the example, you’ve shared Joseph, going to the toilet, is also about flow. When a system is working well there is definitely a flow, and money is the same.

  158. ‘I got to feel, realise and appreciate what paying this bill offers me’ – This is yet another area in life where most of us may not have an understanding of how important it is to bring awareness and appreciation to, another area where we may ‘get by’ on autopilot and miss out on the actual gift that is on offer.

    1. Sometimes we just pay a bill because we have to rather than stop and appreciate what we are paying for, it really is showing us to look at the finer details of how we use our money and where, another level of appreciation.

  159. What you open up here is looking at life as a whole and not just at one part (that we like). We learn to pick and choose what we like and what we do not like but with that we deny ourselves to experience life as a whole, where everything has a rhythm and works in cycles and is interconnected.

  161. What a beautiful appreciation of ourselves money and paying bills and all they really bring to us and allow in our lives . I love it and will remember this with a smile .

  162. One of my clients has a deeply respectful relationship with suppliers particularly small businesses and sole traders like myself. They commit to pay for services rendered within ten working days and always honour this. It’s supportive to be appreciated in this way and know when you will be paid.

  163. “Appreciating Paying the Bills” – is appreciating having a commitment to life through work and working.

  164. Money is one of those things that literally moves from one person to another, be it internet transfer into banks accounts, international currency transfer or simply cash physically passing through hands… its quite phenomenal how vast the ripple effect is. It certainly makes you become more accountable to the quality of the transaction of money that passes through you.

  165. Paying the bills are a reflection of the opportunities we provide ourselves with – as you write buy food, follow a course and the ability to travel to see a friend. As I write this, I realise that we can but appreciate this activity ‘paying bills’. It becomes much grander. And, as you add, we can also feel into each bill: is this supporting me or not? That brings in a whole new level of awareness and responsibility: where does the money go to?

    1. Well said, it is impossible to appreciate the different aspects of our lives if we don’t first and foremost appreciate ourselves.

  168. Everything is energy and there is an exchange in everything we do, whether its money or service. We need to look at all these opportunities to appreciate what is being offered to us.

    1. Knowing that bills are part of our cycles of earning and spending in order to support the body and what it delivers next.

  169. This is a great blog for us to stop and appreciate all the things we have available to us and how much we use then. Everything has to have a flow of energy, so are we valuing what we use and are appreciating all the bills we pay.

  170. Such a great way to look at paying bills and what actually you have been supported leading up to paying the bills.

  171. Our relationships with objects, with people etc are what we make them, but in these relationships is always an opportunity for a greater learning. For example we can come into a relationship with money that is governed by a belief or ideal that it is a hardship/a poverty mentality/a luxury/something to abuse or not value etc etc – and in the process of life these things get exposed and so this is an opportunity for ourselves to simply let go of these things, understand why we held onto them, and then allow ourselves to be more free and re-imprint the relationship free from these constraints. It is not always an easy process as I have learned, but there is much to reflect on and always deeper layers to access – deeper layers of being free.

  172. It’s confronting to see how we have ignored and avoided our responsibility. So our main tactic is to continue to turn a blind eye – all of which leads to a horrible surprise. It seems it’s not bills we have trouble with but responsibility.

  173. This also is worth contemplating “as I come to realise what I spend money on may or may not support me” as money is energy and whether we use it wisely or not can have a huge impact on our lives.

  174. Considering your idea of appreciating paying the bills took me full circle to appreciating the money I receive for working which gives me the ability to pay my bills, and the more openly and lovingly I receive the money and the more openly and lovingly I release the money to pay my bills the more it flows, and the appreciation flows with it out into the world.

    1. I agree Rosemary, love this full circle – we cannot appreciate paying our bills unless we equally appreciate the work we do and the money we make on it.

    1. Well said Rachel – all the little things that we can take for granted are things we can deeply appreicate and this allows life to take on a whole new and different meaning! So much more for me to consider in all areas, and not just about paying bills…

  177. I want to read this again and again Gyl, I love this – there is so much that can be said for appreciation.
    This is the kind of lesson we need our education system to be promoting.

    1. I agree we should be bringing lessons like this into our education system, valuing and appreciating money and how we use them to value and appreciate bills we pay.

  178. I was like that too, in annoyance of paying bills, and the one with the biggest amount on it made me even to go into a slight depressed state, a feeling of being a victim of life.

    1. What a turn around to be able to see paying the bills as an actual investment into building and expanding our experience and expression in life.

      1. Paying our bills is not different from chatting with some people on the streets. Life is about expression and paying our bills is one of these. How we are in all the different ways of expression shows how consistent we are in that and the areas where we still have something to learn.

    2. Incredible to read what you express here, Nico, that paying bills, especially the big ones, gave you ‘a feeling of being a victim of life.’ Oh dear, I feel my body going back lifetimes, not just my lifetimes, but the lifetimes of each parent, how deeply embedded the belief has been that victimhood goes hand in hand with paying bills. Time to burst that bubble, shed that belief and take that weight off my shoulders. Thank you for exposing.

      1. Indeed Brigette, it is time to shamelessly burst all the bubbles that we hold and by doing that are the reflection for others to do the same.

  179. When paying the bills gets us all the things we need in life, I can see how we can change our attitude towards paying the dreaded bills and turn it right around into a loving process.

    1. When appreciate all the bills be pay for what it gives to us in life, we are given more to support us through out our lives.

  180. What a boost to our energy when we allow money to be easily flowing in our life and then this revitalises us in many other areas of our life. So holding-back is not worth the effort as we pay the price down the track later in life.

  181. As with anything, when we deal with things as they come up, we do not then waste our energy on getting anxious or overwhelmed about what we havent done.

    1. Staying in connection in the moment allows us to reserve our energy and not waste it, therefore there is no space for anxiousness or overwhelm to come up.

  182. Gyl, thank you so much for writing this article, reading this makes me realise that I had not considered appreciating paying my bills, or for that matter there are also many other things that I have not appreciated. I can feel how much there is that supports me – from friends and family, my home, my work, to paying the bills, my car and the list goes on – there is much that I had not considered and had not appreciated.

  183. Reading your article I can feel that there is so much to appreciate that we take for granted.

    1. Sure it is Rebecca, there is much to appreciate when we pay our bills, we may allow ourselves to consider that it is our energy we have put in earning our money that then circulates back into our societies. It is our energy of love that then is send back into our society and with that slowly brings love back in every aspect of life.

  184. From the bank to the bank teller etc. we will find everyone gets the shared Love when we pass our money around as they all get a blessing. At the same time the true services that is invaluable from a true student, is gold that is delivered by way of Loving service and how can we place a true value that is recognisable on Love?

  185. If everybody pays bills through clenched teeth then the temptation is there for the provider to push things a little because everybody is complaining anyway. This temptation goes when we treat our suppliers lovingly or at least fairly.

    1. Christoph, I agree when we appreciate and treat our suppliers lovingly, then we receive that energy back from them, there is no push but and allowing by them.

  186. Learning to live and building a relationship with integrity and harmony when it comes to money , is very important . Money plays a big part in all our lives there is also so many ideals ,beliefs pictures etc that can lead us to an unhealthy relationship with money. Money has also through time been used to crush , disempower or manipulate others. To appreciate our ability to pay bills on time and be responsible for money and its use is a very simple but foundational part of the relationship.

  188. Relationship with money reflects our relationship with self. If we resent paying bills chances are we’re holding some resentment in out bodies. Rather than look at paying bills as a burden, look at how or why our life has become burdensome.

  189. Appreciation is fundamental to us really embracing everything in life, including our bills.

  190. It´s a good example of taking responsibility regarding the tiniest things and it being actually a joy and not a hard thing to do.

    1. That’s beautiful Andrew, it turns our normal relationship totally on its head.

    2. Beautiful what you share, it is so much about having a relationship with money, understanding it is a continuous flow which allows more to come through. Use money as a tool to bring more love to the planet.

  193. My car completely died on me yesterday Gyl and usually I would be like ‘oh no what a terrible extra expense’ where as I actually appreciated that my car has done thousands and thousands of miles with me and has to date been fantastic.
    Turning things round and looking at things from appreciation completely helps with what we manifest for the future.

    1. Yes, that is true. The scary thing for me was that a number of times in my life I suddenly had an impulse to appreciate my computer or my car and it then immediately broke down – as if I could feel that was about to happen.

  194. Money is needed and required and there is no limit to how much we can have of it… it’s what we do with the money that gives the us greatest return or dividend that either arises us out of the wealth of comfort, or keeps us well padded and protected in it.

    1. Absolutely, money is a flow of energy and there is no limit to it. It is what conciousness are we stuck in with money, do we appreciate it for what it brings and are we using it for its true purpose or is it all about self betterment or self gain?

  195. The quality in which we earn money is the same quality i what we use to pass on in payment too… In paying bills and purchasing things, we feedback this quality into the community, into the bank accounts, pockets and purses of other people. A great question to ask ourselves and to take stock on is .. ‘what currency (Quality) are we paying our bills in?’ A moment of taking responsibility check…

  196. There is much to appreciate in life when we open our eyes and expand our view.

  197. Love is infectious and once on the path of return is like a tsunami or space invader that Loving pervades the body. So paying Bill, Peter, Paul or Mary the expression is in the same Loving way that is equal for all.

  198. “Appreciating paying my bills!” also means appreciating the receiver for their service and or product and completing a cycle (transaction) for both to move onwards with what is next and not carrying anything unresolved with them that otherwise becomes an unnecessary weight.

    1. Alexander that’s beautiful what you share, “appreciating the receiver for their service and or product and completing a cycle (transaction) for both to move onwards”

  200. Great point to raise Elizabeth, the monetary system goes around and around so we are not only responsible for ourselves but for the greater collective too.

  201. Great sharing Gyl – I too have learnt to appreciate paying my bills, and what a difference it makes in helping me in discerning what is truly serving me/needed or not.

  202. Appreciation grows everything and everyone. Appreciating the services that we pay for appreciates the people who work in these services and the same with all clothing, goods and foodstuffs. Appreciating what we pay for also means that we value ourself. And when we know who we truly are what’s not to appreciate?

  203. The relationship we have with money either supports our well being or it does not. Spend money on something that supports us and we will feel the benefits; spend money on something that does not support us and we will have to bear the consequences in our body. Regardless of what we choose there is much to appreciation – the confirmation of what we spend our money on or the learning to support us to perhaps consider to not repeatedly make that same choice or movement again!

  204. Appreciating what we have and earn, large or small is a joy. I feel blessed each month to be paid for work I value and love to do.

    1. Kehinde, I can relate to what you share, appreciating what we have and what we earn, large or small is a joy. Absolutely blessed to be paid for the work.

  205. How do we view our finances and bills – with appreciation, or resentment and a holding on? Letting go of our pictures and ideas about how much we need, or the things we think we need to make our lives feel good, interesting or okay is an endless process and a rather lovely refinement. The things we once thought of as absolutely essential often drop away if they’re not needed, leaving the space and the resources to invest more in things that we once might have considered as boring, but are actually super supportive.

  206. These courses have a great role to play. There is a lot to learn about money and our relationship with it, or said another way we have a lot to learn about ourselves from our relationship with it.

    1. It is our relationship with money that we have to work on as we are blessed with abundance, it is how we appreciate, use and value money that determines the flow.

      1. That totally changes everything; that we already have abundance and we simply need to develop our relationship with it and hence with money, a symbol of that accepted abundance (or not).

  207. It’s a great question to ask when we spend money, whether or how will it support oneself or others.

  208. It’s great how with taking the time to clock more what you’re paying for you can appreciate more all that you’re getting (good or bad!).

  209. We used to trade our goods or work skills, nowadays there is money. If you receive something there is a natural cause to give something.

  210. It is interesting how there can be people with lots of money that are always wanting and needing more, and others with little money who are very satisfied with how much they have and how we can wax and wane between the two. I do appreciate how I am usually able to cover the outgoings and know there is much more than an exchange of money when we invest in paying our bills. There is an integrity and an honesty when we pay for what is due.

    1. There are also people with lots of money who have a respectful relationship with it, live simply and do not waste it. I’m very inspired by this.

    2. “There is an integrity and an honesty when we pay for what is due.” Yes Gill, it is also a monthly clearing. When we pay a bill a cycle completes. To delay, it creates a a drain in our energy (debt) which magnifies if left. The new cycle cannot begin until we do.

  211. It is very freeing to feel that you have supported yourself lovingly so to be able to afford to pay the bills and have money left aside for all you need to support yourself with other things. It feels way more loving to go about living this way than through the feeling that you never have enough and need to greedily seek more to somehow get what you want.

  212. I am learning a great deal about the value of money in this life time and how the choices I make impact so many others, it is not just about paying the bills it feels more about maintaining a flow so that the cogs keep working for everyone.

  213. Why would anybody be surprised that a man who works with the integrity of and as many hours as Serge Benhayon would be a millionaire? I have no idea if Serge is a millionaire or not and neither am I interested but it is not difficult to see that someone that is dedicated to his work might just be financially well off. The thing is Serge’s wealth is so much greater and grander than any financial figure put to his name that this is just a cheap shot at painting a negative picture.

  214. Many of us moan about our bills, what a turn around it would be to appreciate what we use our money for. Along with offering us the opportunity to take responsibility for what we buy that doesn’t support us.

    1. Yes, the responsibility aspect is huge – it may sound obvious but really it isn’t, not until we bring true awareness to this area of our life.

  215. Just caught that nugget right at the end… if we appreciate what we are spending our money on we can feel whether that expenditure supports us or not. Super simple, and an incredibly effective way to assist the decision making process of what to spend our money on.

  216. It really is a strange attitude and doesn’t make any sense when we dislike paying our bills; after all, we have used a service which supports us daily, like electricity, water, phone, etc. and then we turn around and don’t want to pay? How would we feel if the money was owed to us?

  217. Quite simply, appreciating paying our bills is about appreciating our true worth. When looked at in this light, why would we rob ourselves of that?

  218. It is indeed so important to become aware of what we put our money into and why. As this awareness can help with seeing when we use our money for things we actually don’t need because there is nothing that feels worse (to me) than knowing I am spending money on things I don’t need.

  219. I have recently had to spend quite alot on having some work done to my boiler. Instead of dwelling on how much it has cost me, what I have appreciated today is the knowing that it will all be working smoothly and more efficiently for when the weather gets colder, which will only support me.

  220. It is great seeing a list of all the amazing things paying bills adds to my daily life. It is empowering seeing each payment as a commitment from my part to welcome and put to use those elements.
    This has made me also reflect more on when I or any of us pay for something we have already clocked is not loving or of integrity. I am similarly giving my power to keep that in my life and in the world.

  221. There is much to appreciate about bills. One of the areas I’m still considering exploring is having so much appreciation for them that I look forward to doing monthly summaries rather than save them all up for tax time.

  222. Letting appreciation infuse our relationship with money will bring so much more grace and joy to all our interactions, blowing out the cobwebs of tightness and resentment.

  223. A beautiful relationship with money bills and the appreciation of ourselves and everything I love it . A joy to read and feel the freedom and expanse of appreciation and responsibility for money our choices and the ripples of everything in our lives.

  224. Equally important to recognising what we do spend money on that supports us in all that we do, is seeing the parts of our ‘budgeting’ that we have designed to bring us down, sabotage or self destruct. Why waste our energy and money on the addictions we have that reduce us?

    1. Yes, Susie. It is a real drain to waste money, to spend it on things to indulge, on things not needed. It leaves you feeling flat, the total opposite of boosting and supporting you.

      1. Well I’m just appreciating the extra money I put towards a cashmere jumper that is so worth the extra cost, not only does it feel beautiful and soft to wear it also keeps me warm. I could have bought a cashmere where the quality of the wool was so thin it would not have kept me warm at all but it was cheap. So this was a very supportive buy. But I also understand because I have done this where I have bought something that was not needed and I did feel deflated and left wondering what state of mind was I in I when I bought that?

      2. I love the confirmation of a ‘good’ purchase, of something that I love whilst it supports. Everytime I pick up, use or wear that object I am confirmed as it feeds me right back.

  225. What I felt instantly as I read through this blog was the weight that was being lifted from my shoulders if I chose to appreciate rather than resist. To resist or dislike bills comes with a weight and is very draining and as I too start to appreciate what is on offer I feel so much lighter – gorgeous revelation Gyl, thank you.

    1. It’s as though we want a free ride when we dislike paying our bills; it doesn’t make sense though. User pays and appreciates the service is the adage and makes common sense.

  226. We could also look at the tax bill in the same way, all the things we support out community with by paying taxes.

    1. Yes great point, there are many industries where it is common knowledge that tax is not paid, what if that avoidance of tax was a drain on your body and your well being and therefore left you feeling exhausted? It might make people reconsider what they are doing when they choose not to pay tax that is due.

  228. Something that comes to me when I read this is am I discerning which utility or insurance company to use or am I using the most convenient or cheapest company. This is a wake up call to be more aware of the way I am spending money and why.

  230. Paying bills with love and appreciation can only assist and enhance the flow of finances.

  231. I love conversations such as this that invite us to reflect and reassess beliefs about life which we might have been running with for a very long time without even questioning where they came from. Serge Benhayon is someone who through his conversations, books, presentations and even the way he simply lives always inspires me to reassess life like this. What a blessing that we have individuals choosing to share such insights, wisdom and the way they live with the whole world.

    1. I agree Golnaz, there is not much out there showing us or reminding us that there is a joy in every little thing we do in life. Before Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon who knew that work could be a joy and you could actually love working!

  232. There was once a time, where money was non existent – you payed in exchanging of services. Nothing was worth more than another, simply what was needed got exchanged. I feel the way money was used back then was much more connecting, compared to todays system where it is solely creating more separation among us.

  233. Sometimes when we replace white goods, like a washing machine for a new one, it can feel like there’s no difference, except a lot of money has gone out of the account. But the process can be hugely healing, choosing which one to buy, checking out the quality, meeting people to discuss the options, meeting and chatting to the delivery man, so many opportunities to connect with others while we support ourselves with a new appliance.

  234. Great point and very true, after all we do not just randomly get a bill. And as you say the way we pay our bills then feeds back into the company and society and so what quality of energy are we feeding back.

  235. A totally fresh way to be in relationship with money and bills. This blog is like a quick wake up call to review the way I manage and feel about my finances. Thank you, Gyl.

  236. I think this for me this is going to be a gradual transition as I am finding that something that I really hate like paying bills is not something I’m going to instantly love, it will take my movements and not just a change in the way I think about it to eventually get there, but bring it on it makes so much sense.

    1. I’m with you, that’s what I was initially feeling, like there is no way I’m going to appreciate paying bills but the more I feel into the purpose of paying a bill and how it feels to be on top of my bills then, it may not be so arduous after all.

  237. There are many things we exchange currency for that enable us to live our lives and learning to appreciate this is fundamental to us truly understanding how much beauty lies in the exchange and the gifts we give to each other through it.

  238. I love what you are offering here Gyl and feel it has been fundamental to me changing my relationship with money from being one of fear of not having enough to trusting that I will be provided for as long as I take responsibility for my choices.

    1. Yep this is the big one Helen I have been feeling this more especially with money or when I feel I have a lack of money, that I need to ‘take responsibility for my choices’ up to that moment/point in how have I been spending my money.

  239. There can be a beautiful and joyful relationship between the money we earn and what we spend it on. Every month when my salary comes in feels like an appreciation of all the great work that has taken place and then every shopkeeper, utility company, car loan company etc gets the blessing of that.

  240. It just goes to show how much we take for granted and that we demand and expect things to be readily available to us. Such a completely different relationship with money.

  241. So much easier to join the common consciousness of complaining about bills and rising prices rather than actually taking responsibility for the way we earn and spend money. The loved pattern of our spirit – point the finger at someone else.

    1. Interesting that, about the complaining, Otto. I often ponder about the complaints about the National Health, and the attempts of the government to give more money to it which is never enough. I ask myself, “Am I willing to pay more tax in order for it to function as it could if it was funded adequately? It is said it would only take a couple of pence from each person to balance the books, and why can’t those that can afford more subsidise those who can’t even afford that? This may all be a pipe dream, but what appreciation I would feel for contributing to a system that benefits everyone, and which has given me so many myself.

      1. It’s such a mine-field of corruption proliferated by the insatiable greed of the pharmaceutical industry who create drugs that don’t necessarily work, invent science and evidence to validate them, actively and viciously discredit any other path of medication and then charge revoltingly bloated prices for the drugs. And thus the NHS is crippled by these costs before we even start to look at the multiple other factors that are clobbering it to its knees.

    2. Very true, how we love to shift the blame so we can continue on with our irresponsible ways. I love how this blog shows us that by taking responsibility and changing our attitude towards money and it’s purpose, our spending can support us to live in a way that reflects and confirms the love that we are, as opposed to being the complete opposite.

    3. Yes ottobathurst, the subtleties of pointing the finger at someone else can creep in if I am not careful. Whatever situation we find ourselves in, a situation I/we have chosen I know there is a way round it and that way is always bringing it back to me and taking responsibility for the way in which I am with myself living life and that includes the way in which I earn and spend money.

  242. It makes sense that if we begrudging pay for the necessities of life like electricity, gas, car payments then it will also be reflecting back at us the relationship we have with ourselves.

  243. What you have shared Gly makes me ponder on the way we earn money, that is, what quality of workmanship we work in that we then get renumerated, that, this money and quality we have earned it in, is then spent, & passed on for our own requirements and also to others …

  244. This blog makes me wonder what the effect of emotions such as resentment, annoyance, reluctance, avoidance and bitterness have on the products and services that we spend our money on, when we feel this way about doing so.

  246. I love paying for services and do so as soon as a bill is issued. I know how it feels to provide a service and payment is delayed for weeks, months or worse not paid at all.

    1. There is so much to learn in our relationship with money and there is always greater care and attention to apply… I get that this will be one of life’s ongoing learnings and am inspired by this.

    2. Kehinde I’m getting to this stage! Not as enthusiastic as you are but certinly I can feel the delay if I don’t pay the bills for a few weeks and how it just becomes a thing to do!

  247. My relationship with money continues to evolve. I’m constantly refining and with new awareness now paying close attention to how much I spend each month, what I spend it on and why. Each purchase reveals an aspect of myself.

  248. All the elements of life we do pay our bills for are a reflection of our interaction with the world and to what level we do appreciate and commit to it. As we do see it as a way to evolve ourselves back to the amazing beings we all are, every penny we spend will be in appreciation of this fact.

  249. How come that we feel burdened by paying bills as the only thing they express is how much we are involved in the many aspects of human life?

  250. Any opportunity to have a real and honest relationship with money is amazing, I would always say yes! Money is something that a human being has to be responsible for in the temporal life, cash flow is something we need to take care of.

  251. I grew up saving up my pennies knowing that I could only buy what I could afford to spend from my piggy bank. I question whether the accessibility of credit has allowed us to become excessive in our spending and in the process, loosing an appreciation for what it is that we are buying. Sometimes having to wait a while allows us time to consider our decision and validate whether we really do want to part with our hard earned cash.

  252. Great question Alison and also have you ever felt a heaviness of energy in certain bills and not others?

  253. Amazing Gyl so glad you shared this ✨ It was lovely to see how I do appreciate on some level paying my bills. I appreciate having the money (particularly after a long time of struggling) to pay for my bills but I haven’t quite deepened this appreciation in what the bill for the item allows me to do. Very cool.

  254. Electricity bills are something to consider because in Australia they can be very high. Many companies try to make you switch to their supply by offering cheaper deals but I’m never convinced and stay with one supplier. Solar panels would be an option, but they can be so costly to install that I wonder what the payback period is. There is always a question of ‘Am I getting the best deal’ and the research can be quite mind boggling, but we also need to feel the ethics of the supplier so that we know energetically we are getting the best deal as well as financially.

  255. There is a big key to dealing with bills in a supportive way: Be on the front foot.

  256. What an amazing subject to open the floor up with; I have never truly looked at paying the bills from an appreciative point of view! This is something new to try and start understanding why paying bills is actually worth appreciating !

  257. If we didn’t have the money to pay our bills our lives would be so narrow and restricted, as all the things you listed are apart of our everyday life. I appreciate paying our bills, I was taught you payed our bills first.

  258. This really highlights that we do have a relationship with money and how we use our money and that we have a responsibility as to what we spend our money on.

  260. There is so much we can be inspired by when it comes to our approach to money and paying the bills – seeing it as equal to every other part of life, no lesser or greater.

  261. Even the most seemingly hum drum aspects of life have so much to reveal if we are willing to look beyond them. When we see the truth of it, nothing, then is mundane but simply a beautiful revealing that we can learn from.

  262. I attended the College of Universal Medicine money course a couple of years ago and it was quite profound. It was amazing to uncover how many beliefs and issues get in the way of us having an easy and responsible relationship with money.

  263. As a society we take so much for granted… bringing appreciation to the forefront of our awareness is a game-changer in life.

    1. Hear hear Paula, appreciation is gold and we can access this anytime and anywhere, so why not utilise it to the max?

    1. Awesome concept Otto… well worth considering how we are living on a regular basis – and monthly bills certainly offer us an opportunity to review our lives, to expose our mess and to consider true change.

      1. Or to deeply appreciate the fact that we have lived and moved in such a way that the payment of the bill is an easy flow that we can afford and are absolutely ready for.

      2. Very true Otto and Paula, we are given the opportunity to see are we living within our means, and what have we been spending our money on? Did we make unnecessary purchases? If so on what and why? They give us a stock take opportunity if we choose to use them this way.

    2. Very beautiful, Otto, an opportunity for us to go deeper, clearing away what does not belong or support and create space for more appreciation for what does, on every level.

  265. Gyl, ‘What I am learning is this is a totally different relationship to have with money, one that is full of appreciation, and is deeply self-caring as I come to realise what I spend money on may or may not support me’. It feels great to be aware of what we spend money on and how this supports us.

    1. And I am realising thanks to this blog that the attitude I have to every financial transaction is also part of whether I am supporting or denigrating myself.

  266. Gyl, I love this; ‘What I am learning is this is a totally different relationship to have with money, one that is full of appreciation’. Reading what you are sharing I can feel how negative we can be about money and paying bills and how we can take this granted. How gorgeous to bring appreciation to this area of our life and that paying the bills can be joyful rather than mundane.

    1. Absolutely this is a totally different relationship to money and actually appreciating what we invest our time and energy in.

      1. I feel in so doing, we are also valuing ourselves for who we are, rather than measuring who we are by how much we can afford to spend as a result of how much we earn.

  267. It’s amazing the flow and support of how money can be if we are not tight fisted about it, when we are hanging on and begrudging with it that’s what our focus is not what has taken place and where it has support you in your life. Great one to always be reaccessing for sure.

  268. There IS a lot to appreciate as far as using our money to support our lives. What goes out allows for what comes in…money is an energy exchange and how we use it reflects back to us. Just this morning I was on a group call with ladies from 3 different countries and was appreciating how technology allows us to come together.

  269. Money and possessions also bring up the question of what true wealth actually is. I have lived in an enormous house with beautiful cars and yet I didn’t feel rich, but disconnected from myself and from God. Accessing the wisdom of God, having loving relationships and living in a way that absolutely adores and honors my body offers something completely different what I consider to be wealthy.

  270. I used to shy away from the responsibility of paying my way but today embrace the fact that not only do I have bills to pay, I love the fact that I can and all that these services deliver, born of a renewed commitment to love, work and life in all its many and varied aspects.

    1. Beautiful and very inspiring rowenakstewart. I agree, our relationship with money can change throughout our lifetime but it is through the love and commitment to ourselves that change is possible. My relationship with money is also changing where I feel I deserve it. The more my self-worth increases and expands the more I welcome money into my life.

      1. “The more my self-worth increases and expands the more I welcome money into my life” Yes Caroline, important not to dismiss ourselves or the flow of energy we’ve been blessed with. Appreciating who we are and what we bring is essential of this.

  271. Money is an interesting thing…we need it in the world as things are currently set up so it makes sense that we look at our relationship with it and go a bit deeper with what it means to spend money and earn money.

  272. Definitely shows that paying one´s bills, ie. the flow of money is the flow of life we are living in the temporal world, our engagement with life and people and not just an obligation or something that needs to be done to be legal.

  273. Paying bills is a necessity just as is being committed to life and to people and to oneself.

  274. I did this course online already some time ago but it is still with me today in the sense that I became aware how usually we don’t seem to see money as a part of our lives but as something on itself, there is life and there is money but we cannot see them separately, they are inextricably connected. So the way you are with money says something about how you choose to be with how you live, every choice you make is related to how you are with money and that’s what your blog is so beautifully showing, if appreciation is part of your life you cannot but appreciate how paying your bills adds to living your life joyfully in every aspect.

  275. I love paying my bills as soon as I get them. This confirms how responsible I am with my money that I can always do this and never have to ask for an extension

  276. Thanks again Gyl for I have to admit paying bills does get me down, for at times it seems I spend my whole life working just to pay this bill or that, but this turns it all upside down. Seeing bills as joyous and appreciating what they bring us is a far better way of looking at it.

  277. Appreciation of paying bills also helps pull us out a poverty mentality and consciousness. You cannot feel poor or lacking in funds if you are appreciative of what you have paid for 😉

    2. Brilliant point Henrietta, this is so true and this is also related to our commitment to life. I notice it is common to struggle and resent paying bills when we are not committed to life.

  278. There is a lovely way of being that accepts that we always have enough for what we need in life: I have friends who have lived with very little money but always had an abundance that they appreciated. I have met people who get angry about money and think business is a very Bad Thing. Yes, it can be when it is full of corruption and only focused on profit, but a business that supplies a service that is genuinely needed and without greed is one that I like to support because it provides employment and income for people and people is what life is all about.

  279. Appreciation is powerful. Recently I had to use my credit card extensively for work. I hated this responsibility with money originally but then felt deep appreciation for the opportunity to have this relationship, responsibility and management of money. It was superb.

  280. This blog is all about us seeing life differently….paying bills can be seen as a burden, but as presented here by Gyl, we can appreciate all this represents. And likewise we can apply this to other things in life, espeically the things we tend to see as ‘chores’ or ‘work’ or ‘duties’ etc etc. We can make things heavy and burdensome and chore-some, or we can choose to see them for the activities that have the potential to evolve and grow us back to who we are.

  281. When we say yes to life we are always paid in full, in kind and beyond what we imagined. This is true secret to affluence we should be hearing about.

    1. I agree Joseph, we’ve lost the meaning of true affluence, beautifully revealed here in your comment.

  283. I find our relationship with money to be quite fascinating. I have always been quite careful with money, only spending when I can afford something, I’m happy to wait if I can’t as I hate the feeling of racking up large debts and being even more beholden to the bank. However, my partner is the complete opposite and can be quite impulsive and irresponsible – yet, in this, I can feel how supportive it is for us both to meet in the middle as both extremes feel equally restrictive!

    1. I do know that relationship too – me free flowing and my partner budgeting. But I found there is not a middle as these are both not from a true foundation. The only way is to be realistic and down to earth, but foremost is our connection to the body as this knows more about money and how to be with it than my limited mind can grasp.

  284. That’s a great point Doug it would be even more revealing to read! I too used to save up bills and pay them at the last minute now find if I pay as they come it is gone and I no longer have to worry about them. And realistically how much interest am I really going to earn by paying them at the last minute? It feels great paying for things at the time as well, knowing what I can and what I cannot afford.

    1. I find that too James. When bills are paid for straight away, it takes away any tension or anxiety that may otherwise be allowed to build because they have not been paid, and are just hanging over you waiting to be completed.

      1. It is so simple when we just do what we feel to do at the time. When we have a thought and just do it it means we do not waste energy thinking about it and then coming back to it and so allows more space for what is next to come rather than saying no because of the list of uncompleted things we have to do.

  285. ‘Not another Bill’ is such a common 1st comment I so often have heard and said at times. It is a big difference appreciating them; for me it comes to appreciating that I have earned the money to pay them and if I have not then it is a sting because i know I have over spent in one area or not put enough focus on work.

  286. Doing my tax is something I enjoy. I get to see how I spend my money. Was it spent in disregard and drained me or did I invest in a return that was not selfless.

  287. Paying a bill is just one thing of many many things we do. Here you have shone a bright light on how we can bring appreciation to this – imagine if we shone that light on a few others….I think the world would be a very different place.

  289. It is endless what we can appreciate in life, and I can imagine not a lot of people would be open to appreciating paying their bills. If we can bring appreciation to everything in life, down to the tiny details, we would feel very enriched in every way.

    1. I would like to add that being open and willing to pay bills is a sign of commitment to life.

  290. I can really see the worth in bringing awareness to what we are paying for – appreciating what we are getting and what we are spending money for and being more aware of if it is truly supportive or not…

  291. Sounds like the college of Universal Medicine are bang on the money! Imagine if we were all brought up to have this relationship with money, the world would be totally diiferent. Our appreciation wouldn’t just stop there it will filter into all of our lives. This is what true Power is with Money.

  292. I built a house that was powered by the sun, and heated my house with wood I cut off my land and raised sheep and grew a big garden.

    Our only bill was Telephone and Internet

    All this was fine, but it removed us from a part of society that is important. It allowed me contract into my own world, not dependent on people.

    Paying bills is part of the society we have created, It is part of our support system. It is important to embrace all parts of life

    1. Wow Ken, I just got to feel how money is threaded all the way through our society and therefore our relationship with it is incredibly important to society.

  293. Paying bills was something I hated – I always thought of other ways to spend my money. But reading this blog has also made me truly appreciate the purpose of bills and what it allows in terms of simplicity. And i found when I avoided bills there were massive consequences – I was tight on money, I was irresponsible, I was under tension from racking up debt. It was not a fun place to be.

  294. This sort of puts the world upside down and I can relate a lot to paying bills or purchases with joy and deep appreciation. Appreciation is such a game changer for me that focusses on what is there instead of what is missing.

    1. Beautifully said Monica – the beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say – what are you choosing to see and feel in the process.

      1. Yes, I once heard a friend say that what you focus on, will magnify or what you give attention will expand. So it is our choice how we live and experience our life.

  295. It is interesting to observe how natural it is for us to appreciate money, what we have and what we are able to do with it. I remember as a boy always valuing every cent I earned knowing how much work went into earning it. I was a bit obsessive about it but nevertheless valued it more than I tended to do when I grew older and took what I earned more for granted. This is what viewing life functionally does to us. We see money by how much we earn and how much we work and what we can do with it instead of appreciating it, and the quality we put into earning it in the first place.

  296. Most of us have a funny relationship with money that mostly stems from not realizing that money is an energy and has it’s own harmonious flow if we allow it. Bringing this fact into my awareness has greatly changed my relationship with money and how I spend it or save it.

  297. Awesome realization. I am sure many, like myself, are not enjoying paying their bills and I know I sure have not been taught to appreciate it. I am learning a very different way of being with money that is not only more responsible and aware but also much more appreciative of what I have and how it supports me in life.

  298. If we consider money as energy, as everything is energy, it is beautiful to feel that we feed everyone, every company with our energy with whatever we pay for. It gives a total new perspective also how much responsibility we have, what energy we put in the pool of products and services. If it is either evolving the company or holding back to expand.

    1. Good point, Stefanie. The transaction of paying our bills can be a blessing for ourselves and the recipient.

  300. Great blog Gyl. Several years ago I made a choice to appreciate paying my bills (even tax bills) and also paying some of them ahead of the time limit (for example, a credit card payment). This is far less ‘taxing’ on the body to do so as it always feels lighter and more harmonious as this is completed – no payments lagging behind and an offering of respect for the services the company has supported me with. A win-win all round as the currency of energy (money in this case) is circulating well.

  302. Yes, we want to have it all but it seems we don’t want to p(l)ay our part. It is great to understand that we all need to contribute to have all the things we want and that this is done by paying bills or tax or anything like that.

  303. I absolutely love this blog Gyl for its life changing wisdom. I will never grumble again about paying my bills.

  304. There really is so much to appreciate in our lives when we choose to take a look at all the details of our everyday life.

  305. Every payment we do in our everyday life has an effect in the whole, as each investment is serving something else after every transaction. Money is an energy that can feed brotherhood or exploitation, harmony or separation. So I appreciate now too the responsibility I hold in each action of paying by purchasing to companies that pursue evolution in their projects or businesses.
    When we are aware about the ripple effect of all what we offer and receive with money, we can use it with a wider perspective, as its impact goes beyond the immediate transaction.

  306. I love to pay invoices immediately and not wait for the due date. If the person has done the work and provided their service then it is my joy to pay them – why wouldn’t I? As an added bonus people love to work with us (they can feel the energy and appreciation we pay them in) and we get 5 star priority treatment but that is not the reason I do it just another bonus.

    1. I’m with this too. Pay the bill immediately. Beautiful for the other to feel the appreciation of the service and important to release ourselves from the tension or drag of delaying the payment.

  307. I run a couple of business and pay a HUGE amount of invoices. I have always loved paying invoices. We have the most wonderful people work for and with us and great suppliers. I love to pay them immediately as a way to express my appreciation.

    1. And they REALLY do appreciate it. It is so rare these days and companies, individuals and small businesses spend an enormous amount of time and energy chasing invoices. It’s deeply irresponsible and simply not fair. Would you walk out of a shop having not paid for an item? No. And this is no different – no reason why you should get to enjoy the benefits of the service without paying for it.

      1. I completely agree Otto it is almost incomprehensible to me that people wouldn’t love paying for what they have received (unless the job done was really bad) and why anyone would hold onto invoices because it is actually a drain on your energy as well as the energy of the supplier.

      2. I think it also has a lot to do with the connections that we make with our ‘suppliers’. Wherever possible I will try to connect with these people and treat them with respect and transparency and am always fascinated to hear more about their lives, skills, experiences…and then the payment of the invoice becomes a confirmation of this relationship (even if it was just a two minute chat). Sometimes amongst the busyness of life I find this a challenge or forget to do so and can always feel that gap when I come to pay the invoice – it feels like an empty transaction – a sure sign that the connection wasn’t made. And so, in these situations, paying the bills, becomes a marker for me.

    2. What I have also noticed is how people delay paying the bill for as long as they possibly can because they haven’t got the money to pay for it. People racking up enormous debts on their cards and with their banks simply because they are living a life that they have not made sufficient commitment or dedication toward; they are living ‘above their movements’ so to speak. Gosh – there is so much behind this – it’s a great subject to be talking about in this way and awesome to have your take on it Nicola – clearly someone who is deeply committed and very present with the flow of finances.

  308. Not wanting to pay our bills unravels that we want things for free but likewise want to be paid for the work that we do. But how can that possibly work? This is an equation that does not stand equal as it cannot apply to all.

  309. Years ago I remember that it was suggested that I be grateful for everything that I spent money on and I started to do just that and even wrote my cheques with a thank you at the end. Now I realise that being grateful and being in appreciation is different. Appreciation holds a different energy, it feels less detached from anyone or anything in particular and more all inclusive and wholesome. I have not carried over this gratitude into the appreciation arena nor do I feel it would be particularly helpful but I have over the years allowed more appreciation to feature in my life, appreciation, for myself, for others, for things and now I will place some focus on those bills and the way that money is asked of me. I will be more aware at any reaction I might have around money and let it go. This is a great blog Gyl supporting our relationship with bills, with money and with appreciation.

  310. It is such a common attitude to dislike bills, I am sure its something passed on across generations. My mother taught me to always pay my bills and if I couldn’t to telephone the company and explain and work out a payment plan – it’s been supportive and practical advice. I hadn’t fully considered though appreciating more the bills I pay based on what that service, or my car or home, etc, provides to me.

  311. I am amazed that no matter what my income or state of my finances, when a bill comes in, I appreciate I can always find the resources to pay it.

    1. Awesome Gill, this is very different from being stressed and in resentment when a bill comes in. What you’ve shared shows that paying bills can be a joyful thing and when we bring appreciation to it, it eliminates dread and allows us to feel how something so simple can be an opportunity to deepen our appreciation and commitment to life.

  312. Thank you for writing this blog, Gyl, it is good to appreciate the services that support us. Many people like to hold off paying bills like holding on to their money. I’m not sure which is true. Personally I prefer to pay my bills as they arrive, it feels less draining and honours the service provider.

  313. Great point, Gyl. I can feel how important it is to appreciate the financial commitments we are making each day to supporting ourselves to be more and bring our all to the world…very much worth spending our money on!

  314. It’s also a good opportunity to take steps back and to appreciate all that you have – the job which allow you to pay those bills, the friendships you’ll have at work, the support you offer to people and vice versa, the qualities you bring to work as well as the reflections you offer to others whilst there. And you can keep going!

  315. The fact that spending money is seen as such a huge burden, but so is the process of working or earning money, shows that life is way too much of a struggle than it needs to be and we are taking the joy out of the whole process.

    1. If you live and feel work as a burden it makes perfect sense, that you want to hold onto the hard earned money.

      1. And/or that you are so exhausted and feel so hard done-by, that you then spend that money on extravagant rewards that you can’t afford, just to try to make the merry-go-round feel better.

      2. That´s a great point- you spent it and get then the confirmation that the hard struggle to earn it was worth it.

      3. And now, after your holiday, that you couldn’t afford and that didn’t support you in any way, you are left feeling even less, which means you bring even less to your work, which means you find it even more draining and joy-less, which means you grumble even more, which means you long for your reward even more, which means that even if you can’t afford it there is no way that you ain’t going to have it…ad infinitum…until Universal medicine comes along and inspires us to re-connect to the joy and purpose of working and that if we live this commitment to its absolute full we would never need a reward because there is nothing more rewarding than living the God that we are.

    1. I love to look into corners I haven’t looked into, even knowing Universal Medicine for 10 years now and having done many courses. It never stops to look deeper into behaviours and situations we choose. That’s a true joy for me and the true sense of life – becoming aware of more and more things, where we are trapped into beliefs and don´t want to let go and surrender to a much greater all encompassing plan.

    2. So many angles to life Otto and each of them worth covering comprehensively, The College of Universal Medicine widening our understanding and appreciation in ways we clearly may not have even imagined or considered.

    3. The only college that I have seen or experienced that does this so well. Many equip you for the exam but rarely or never do they prepare you and your body for all that life presents and ‘throws at you’.

      1. Exactly Michael. I went to some of the ‘best’ schools in the country and my parents spent huge amounts of money on my education…but almost all of it was based entirely around knowledge gathering so that you could have successful life. But the marker of that success was based entirely around achievement, wealth gathering, maintaining that elitist status and some preconceived notion of what my life was meant to look like. The education that I am receiving from Universal Medicine is on a totally different level.

      2. And by no means can we diss the fact that the education system is very good at what it does: “achievement, wealth gathering, maintaining that elitist status and some preconceived notion of what my life was meant to look like”, but what of the person? What does their mental or physical health look like? What is their vitality like? What is their ability to read and deal with toxic workplaces like? What is their ability to handle people who are deemed family abusing in many different ways? To the stars I look and thank for being in a position where I am offered well above and beyond the normal realm of education and learning, and am prepped for not only dealing with life, but for advancing myself so that our creation needs not be the driving force, or perhaps even in existence, of and in this plane of life.

      3. Our education is designed entirely to keep us entrenched in the creation in life. Imagine if on the first day at school we were taught “we don’t come from here, we don’t belong here and we are going to give you the tools to get out of here”?!

    4. I agree Otto, the foundational support of these courses is game changing, by no longer accepting things on face value we are called to unpick our expectations and pictures and in turn re-set our relationship to every aspect of our daily lives.

  317. Gyl, I also love the fact that the idea conveyed in the course was so powerful that you got it so convincingly and were able to convey it to us. Thank you.

  318. Love it Gyl, I absolutely love what you have shared, it feels so gloriously expansive to shift our perspective from one of potential resentment to one of appreciation. And there’s no telling the extent of the energetic shifts that would occur as a result of this simple change in perception.

  319. Thank you so much Gyl for sharing what you have learnt about money and bills here with everyone. I am sure you are not alone in your aversion to paying bills! I know I have had a love-hate relationship with money over the years and so it is amazing to hear this different take on money and how we are using it and I will be taking this into my day today whenever I spend money!

  320. With this appreciation I can feel a deeper awareness of discernment for what I spend my money on.

    1. I totally agree, it offers a barometer for us to discern whether things are truly supporting us or not, equally, I love how allowing the space to deeply appreciate what we are paying for fine tunes our discernment even more, giving us a standard by which we can measure everything else.

    2. That’s true Jonathan for with awareness and appreciation for the loving things we do, so too do we get a sense of what is not loving or supportive.

    3. Yes me too. This blog has made me ponder that maybe it is not money that is the problem per se but how we spend it and what we spend it on that causes the problems?

      1. Yes, and for me it leads to questions like,’why am I buying or not buying ‘x’? Is it for recognition? As a reward? To compensate for a feeling of a lack of self-worth? Or will ‘x’ truly benefit and support my life? Will it enable me to be of greater service? – And so the list goes on. Discernment and responsibility are the watchwords.

  322. There is also the moves that you have made that have made it possible for you to pay those bills in the first place; the commitment and dedication to your work and thus to being equipped for life. So the bill also becomes a moment of appreciation of all of that.

  323. It does make a lot of sense as this has been shared. There a sense of responsibility, completion and commitment in paying bills and appreciating it. We can get caught in the drudge of life thinking of poor me, I have got to do this and they, but actually there are options in how we respond to everything that comes and we interact with.

  324. Quite Gyl. It is to appreciate us paying the bills because that’s us taking responsibility and there is everything to appreciate in this.

  325. I can feel how allowing ourselves to appreciate what we are being offered through the services and goods that we buy, it actually becomes a pleasure to hand over the money as it facilitates us being able to continue using the services, and as you share, Gyl, it gives us the opportunity to feel into whether something is truly supporting us, or not.

  326. Paying a bill is the completion of a transaction that you have chosen to enter into.

  327. Wow Gyl I love this, it opens up a whole new way of approaching and being with bills. What the service offers, the people behind the bills that I pay and certainly helping me have a different relationship with them and with money.

  328. What a beautiful re-imprinting of the way you spend your money, Gyl – and you didn’t even go to the workshop.

  330. I can say I have always loved paying my bills! The feeling of owing money would feel so uncomfortable in my body that when I came to pay the invoices I would feel a shift in my body. Immediately a settlement and contentment filled my body hence the reason why I have always loved paying my bills!

  331. When we pay bills, we are being asked to look at the investment we are making. What are we spending money on and how much. What has it brought to us? Is it a wise investment that we can truly appreciate and value, or not? And sometimes it brings up much discomfort in us. Money is currency. It naturally asks for a level of responsibility for it to serve in a way that can truly support us.

  332. Money makes the world go around it is often said. For some, more will never be enough, and others will have just what is needed. The rest of us fall in between.

  333. Thanks for sharing this Gyl as I always hate paying bills and I have a big one coming that is bumming me out, the flywheel bearing in my van is going and will be a costly repair but hey now I can appreciate all the good things my van brings like an income in the first place.

  334. This blog also leaves me to ponder on the fact that money is energy. There is a saying that money is the root of all evil. But in reality it is the energy and intent that we use it with that is the evil or not. Hence how we use money can be for evil or for truth and further to that our relationship with money is key in understanding how we use it, what motivates us and so forth. Looking at this relationship in depth is something that allows us to tap into our own power or deny that power and shy away from it.

  335. Awesome blog Gyl and a great conversation starter! Thank you! Appreciation instead of a groan when the bills arrive is a great way to begin change. I have also clocked that whenever I have paid a bill I often feel that much more freer – not in the sense of “phew I no longer have that bill hanging over my head” but more in the sense of appreciating that I am in a space that allows me to pay bills and deal with all the basic responsibilities of life. This already is amazing to be able to do, and so many people in life are not able to do this as they are either unable to hold down a job for long enough or allow distractions that suck up their money etc etc. And so I do appreciate deeply where I am at in life to be able to say I can do this. And this comes from me having been one of those people that did not work full time and having struggled to pay the bills to now being in a situation that is the opposite. But what you have shared here takes things to another level yet of appreciation and this is greatly appreciated 😉

  336. I always feel blessed to pay bills. It feels so honoring to pay for what has supported me that month, cut down or cut out on what hasn’t supported me, to review what I have been supporting myself with. The sometimes less than perfect situations with money that is calling me to be more connected with my body when in our relationship. To never underestimate our relationship as the same relationship with anyone else. To always come back to my body when I am spending and having to pay the bills.

  337. Paying bills is a completion of a cycle – what’s drawn out is paid back to enable everything to flow and proceed. The cycles are the basis of life yet so many of us think that we should just turn up and get things for free.

  338. Gyl, I have never looked at paying bills this way either and appreciating what I’m paying for. It feels like I focus what I appreciate on the high points rather than all the bits in between and what you have highlighted is that the bits in between that are equally worth appreciating.

  339. This is a very cute way of looking at paying our bills. I love the appreciation aspect as we do have so much to appreciate.

  340. Simply beautiful, I can fully appreciate that I would not get to read this wonderful blog if I did not pay for the internet and upkeep of of my computer.

  341. Love this sharing Gyl, and when you describe everything you get for your money it seems pretty cheap really, when you appreciate something’s full worth you don’t mind paying for it, it feels more like an honouring.

    1. Yes, we can choose a lot of times which services we use and therefore which bills will be coming.

  342. If we consider life is all about energy then it makes sense that how we feel about paying our bills will also energetically have an impact.

    1. So true Paula, as each step we take leads us into the next. What I’m feeling from this beautiful blog, is how by appreciating what we are paying for we dissipate the ‘struggle’ and any resentment for paying the bills, as we will naturally start to let go of things which aren’t truly supporting us, expanding our enjoyment and appreciation for those that do even further.

  343. Thank you Gyl, what a game changer to pay a bill in appreciation rather than in dread. It is also a gorgeous stop moment to really look at our relationship with money and ultimately our true worth.

    1. So true Liane… our relationship with money is very much tied in with our true worth. And it is beautifully presented here, and as we value ourselves more so we value money more.

  344. This is beautiful to read because it shows how much you enjoy and are committed to life itself, with your realisation about bill paying actually just fitting very neatly in to your already full and lovely appreciation of what is already there.

  345. Appreciating what our bills reflect to us – i.e. how we’ve spent our money and all the things that it has afforded us and enabled us to do, the connections made, the deeper relationship with ourselves and others – is also to appreciate the value of whatever it is we’ve invested money into: whether it’s a workshop, a car, a house or someone’s services – part of what we’re actually paying for is the value and qualities that someone is living, that has gone into that car, meal, services etc.

  346. There can be a flow with money which deeply supports us in our day to day, and to consider that we’re at a place where we have money set aside to pay for our bills, and that we’ve planned for them is huge, it’s front footing with our finances and setting ourselves up in a way which allows us to be supported in life.

  347. Thanks Gyl it is awesome to feel your appreciation for the benefits of paying your bills and the choices that these give you. Appreciation is key to transforming our relationship with money which for so many can be a rather tortured affair. What I get from reading your blog is the feeling of joy for what you are offered i.e. paying bills is not having money taken away but rather about offering opportunities in many different facets of life.

  348. Wow Gyl, what a beautiful blog of appreciation and understanding our relationship with money. I love the feeling of lightness when I pay a bill, it gives me a sense of completion and responsibility.

  349. I leant to really appreciate paying bills years ago when my relationship ended. We had struggled financially and so I was very methodical about putting aside money for all my bills and living within my means. I loved taking care of this and I loved paying my bills, because I could! It developed my self-worth and sense of empowerment and I actually felt like I had way more money, just because I appreciated what I had. I am realising now that I am more ‘comfortable’ financially that I have let this go and this blog has inspired me to re-look at this.

  350. Nice one, I like what you have shared Gyl as it offers us all an opportunity to look at how we are with paying bills and bring more appreciation into the fore.

  351. Thank you Gyl. It certainly does pay to bring our awareness and appreciation to what we are paying for and energetically investing in, as it is easy to overlook this and just go through the motions of paying bills without deeply appreciating and honouring what we are choosing to support ourselves with to nurture, live, express and evolve our Soulfulness.

  352. mmm, what a domino affect of appreciation comes from paying one bill! Building a front footed relationship with money has quite a profound effect on so many other areas in our life and it would be great if this is what we learnt from young as part of maths classes. Children are calling for it but education is having trouble keeping up.

  353. There is so much to appreciate, so many aspects of life which we haven’t considered.

  355. Appreciation transforms so many things in life. Lately I was on a big plane trip and I don’t really like flying or better said I don’t like the turbulence that is there at times. Yet just appreciation that these long haul flights allowed me to be with people I love and bring myself to other places hugely supported me in staying present on the flights instead of being in fear of having a crash all the time.

    1. Beautiful example, Lieke, Staying present in your body, not go into ‘what could go wrong’ and deeply appreciate the purpose of what you are doing is helpful for all of us.

  356. A friend had said that to me many years ago about appreciating the fact that you’re able to pay your bills and that’s something many of us rarely consider. It just becomes another thing we tick off but do we stop and appreciate all the things you’ve mentioned here? There is more of a fullness and expansion from inside out to what we are doing when we bring appreciation into it.

  357. You can only appreciate paying bills from the standpoint of self (what the good you are paying allows you to do/achieve). Yet, the true appreciation comes when you are able to link what you are paying with the journey out of self.

    1. Or by realizing that money is not ours to have or keep and that is there as a support for us in our personal growth as much as it is for us to be in service when the time is there. An all-encompassing way of looking at money includes the care for our physical being and the greater picture all at once.

  358. Wow this is a real turn around. It turns round the whole story from a place of being powerless, resentful and in lack, to one of empowerment, appreciation and abundance. Beautiful.
    College of Universal Medicine offer amazing workshops.

  359. That is a really beautiful and genuine way to look at paying bills and the benefits it offers – true support to make things simpler for how we live. I love what is shared here as a different way to look at money and what we spend it on and why.

  360. I am so glad you shared this Gyl as money has been a tension for me most of my life as it is for so many. The last thing we sometimes like to see is that unexpected bill or that higher than expected invoice we have to pay when we so want to spend money on other things. By how can we truly appreciate the things we do spend our money on if we don’t appreciate ourselves first?

  361. There is a saying ‘money is the root of all evil’ but what if we were to appreciate it… how would life be then?

  362. Appreciation is life-changing when we deeply appreciate what we are offered every day.

  363. Our relationship to spending money can be completely different depending on whether we appreciate what it is we’re buying, and also if we use money to do things which support us and feed back into our wellbeing and joy of what we do.

  364. This is a very interesting read as I have never stopped to consider this aspect of life but actually I have a deep appreciation of paying my bills and this comes from how much I love and appreciate the job I have. The fact that I get paid to do such a wonderful job is amazing. I feel very blessed.

  365. There is something very empowering about taking care of the bills – to me it is linked to taking responsibility for every facet of life as well as appreciating how the heat, light etc. supports us.

  366. So true Gyl. Money supports us to live our life and paying our bills is a part of that. It makes sense to then appreciate that which supports us to live our life.

  367. Thank you for sharing, Gyl, This feels as an important part of our lives to appreciate. It also gives you the opportunity to feel what the flow of your money, your kidney energy does when it goes somewhere else. We have the opportunity to put fiery energy into shops, companies, institutions and to other people. Like a wise woman once shared with me about paying close relatives for a loan every month: ‘you can give them a healing every month if the way you live has love as it’s foundation’.

  368. Gorgeous Gyl. I had never thought of it in this way which is deeply appreciative. What I have appreciated in recent years, though, is that on receiving a bill it is a confirmation of the abundance in my life for if I did not have the bill I would not have the things that it is payment for.

  369. What an awesome way to turn around on our relationship with bills, money and ultimately even our taxes, really love it and thank you for sharing Gyl. It’s true, we may begrudge the payments we have to make, but it actually each bill represents all our freedoms to live life in the best way we can, so appreciating the exchange is invaluable and definitely infuses such mundane things with a new sense of joy.

  370. This turns paying one’s bills on its head – from a dread into the appreciation of what the services we pay for offer and how much (or little, as may be the case) they may support us.

  371. I absolutely appreciate the timing of reading your blog Gyl, as what you have shared has been something I have been doing for a while, but now realise I am being asked for even a deeper level of appreciation. Yes, there is always so much to appreciate in our lives that we often don’t even consider, but to do so can bring a whole new perspective to life; a very valuable one and one to deeply appreciate.

  372. What you’ve shared Gyl is really obvious and yet not obvious at the same time.It shows how our perception shapes our reality and it’s not solid but can change. Just this morning I was looking at my bank account and cringing at the thought of my next direct debits coming out. Yet without them I wouldn’t be living where I am, wouldn’t be driving my car to work and family and all the other places. I have had a very tense relationship with money and bills recently but this has put in a pause to appreciate. Thank you.

  373. Wow Gyl. I too had never appreciated paying my bills, let alone being able to pay them – on time too. “What I am learning is this is a totally different relationship to have with money,” Yes I agree – something to ponder on deeply.

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