Appreciating Paying the Bills

I recently saw a post on social media for what sounded like an amazing free event about having a different relationship with money, which was run by the charitable institution College of Universal Medicine. I would have loved to go to this event, though that wasn’t possible as it was in Australia, but I did manage to speak to a friend who went. Now I can’t tell you what the course was about as I wasn’t there, but one thing my friend shared that she took away from it, was appreciating paying her bills. What???? I nearly fell of my seat with that. Appreciating paying my bills! I had never ever considered this in my life.

I have been someone who is like, “Oh no, here’s another bill come in.” Someone who dreads paying bills. Never ever have I once considered appreciating what paying a bill offers me.

So this was a whole new and huge revelation to me. It left me pondering on and thinking about things such as what do I get to appreciate from paying my phone and internet bill? Well for starters, I wouldn’t be able to read these blogs, share lesson ideas and plans, talk to my partner who works overseas, FaceTime people, talk to and connect with people all over the world, pay bills, share photos, talk to my parents, be able to look up information at the drop of a hat, use Google maps, answer emails, watch webcasts of workshops, book holidays, hotels, message my brother on the other side of the world, work with groups, study courses, volunteer on projects, buy clothes and other items… and so much more.

When I thought about this I started to think about more bills, for example the car repair bills and petrol. I got to feel, realise and appreciate what paying this bill offers me: the ability to travel to see my family, to go to the shops, to not wait for a bus on a freezing cold day in the pouring rain, to travel to my partner’s; it allows me to work, to go to schools, to see people, to teach, to buy presents for Christmas, to make dinner for my folks, to spend time with my niece, to drive across beautiful Scotland and see amazing places; it allows me travel to courses, workshops, meetings, go to the doctor, the dentist, to hospital, plus so much more.

The list is end-less. I looked at food bills, rent, electricity and gas, plus lots more. What I am learning is this is a totally different relationship to have with money, one that is full of appreciation, and is deeply self-caring as I come to realise what I spend money on may or may not support me, and all the things I can appreciate, which paying every single bills allows me.

By Gyl Rae, Teacher, 40, Scotland

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537 thoughts on “Appreciating Paying the Bills

  1. Appreciating anything about ourselves in our lives is worthwhile for the healing focus it draws within and to oneself as opposed to the insular focus of someone else we may be in comparison with.

  2. What I appreciate is not owing anyone any money. Having no debts is a joy that I had never spotted as a joy in the past, where I allowed the bills to pile up to be dealt with later. That procrastination in itself leaves a yuckie feeling and the pile of un-dealt with stuff exudes a very negative and contracting energy. And the bonus is that paying the bill immediately is a joyful experience that I had never guessed it would be.

  3. I have never minded paying bills I have nearly always paid them on time or early, I know people receiving the money appreciate bills being paid promptly and for me it shows appreciation of the work done.

  4. Almost on everything in life we put a negativity especially when it comes to deliver, to serve, to give, but with this we deny ourselves a true rhythm that lets us unfold and blossom.

  5. The reality is we need money to live, but the way you are approaching the appreciation of what the money is supporting you with is not how most people look at paying the bills. Many, including myself for a very long time until recently, and still have to watch the conditioning of pictures to trying to take over in letting go of survival mode and really see everything that is on offer. This different perspective is truly life changing.

  6. It’s great to come back across this blog because I have some major bills coming up; one being a huge tax bill which I wouldn’t mind paying if I knew the money wasn’t being totally wasted on building weapons or this Brexit fiasco.

  7. I love the idea of looking at our bills as first and foremost appreciating the service we are paying for and what opportunities that opens up for us. A much less physically and energetically draining way to spend money.

  8. I love this blog Gyl, it simply encapsulates the opportunity we have when presented a bill of any kind – nothing is more enriching then evolution.

  9. Money is a currency. What we spend our money on, we invest in. Paying bills is about bringing a conclusion to a transaction, giving us an opportunity to evaluate our investment. Sometimes I feel as though I am shortchanged and ripped off, but your sharing makes me stop and wonder if that was about the quality of goods/service, or if it was me holding back from appreciating and receiving the potential that was actually on offer.

  10. This blog gives you a real check in moment, because I too always dread the bills coming in always fearing I will not have enough left after paying the bills. To appreciate paying all our bills is a very different approach and makes a lot of sense, because with appreciating there is never truly a shortage of anything .

  11. Like with everything as soon as we choose reaction, nothing of any true good is achieved. No one benefits from reaction and we are blind to the entire truth of the situation because no understanding can ever be had with reaction.

  12. Delaying paying is hugely disrespectful and draining to everyone concerned including ourselves. It is the same with holding onto love, the more you flow with it the more it grows!

  13. I love how in appreciating paying the bills, a concept you had not considered before, brought you heaps more appreciation of all that you are able to do because of the services and products available. But then isn’t that how appreciation works, it just grows and grows as there is always something to appreciate.

  14. I love how you’ve brought a whole new dimension to something so practical as paying a bill. Most of us approach bills as an uncomfortable fact of life, without seeing that paying for our electricity enables us to have a beautifully warm house, or our car tax allows us to travel from a to b promptly or enables us to be able to work. A great lesson in appreciation – thank you.

  15. Bills are no different to what sunlight is to a plant or oxygen is to a fish; all are crucial to the survival of not only the organism but the entire ecosystem as a whole. We live in a gigantic system of human life and like any system, harmony and balance is essential for the good of all. And there cannot be balance if there is an ounce of selfish greed or gain at the expense of another.

  16. I have at times experienced great joy when making my online payments to different people and companies as the quality of their service was still resonating in me. I don’t want people to pay me reluctantly or with a grudge, so why do it to others?

    1. And for this reason I am much more likely to speak up when I don’t find the service as good as promised. When we do this lovingly and truthfully we are generally heard.

  17. It is actually a big responsibility for us to pay bills and have this as part of our rhythm. My approach to bills and money has changed hugely over the years as I appreciate that money has an energetic quality and relationship with our bodies – so the more I am aware of money and what I’m spending – I know it has a direct effect on my body.

    1. I can feel the difference in my body when I am on the front foot with my bills but it is also extraordinary to see how much I can resist this blessing in my life and then life gets complicated!

  18. Appreciating paying your bills has a ripple effect into a lot of other areas of your life that need to be appreciated. I actually found that I appreciated this the most when I had very limited income and it really built my self-worth and allowed me to prioritise what was important to me.

    1. Yes, there is a movement of appreciation into other areas of your life after becoming aware of the fact that there is more to functionally just paying a bill… appreciating what you have purchased for yourself feeds back in to your self-worth.

    2. It’s feels important to not contract when we have a period with less money than usual but to keep expanding and appreciating the services we get for our money and how they all contribute to the richness of our life.

  19. Also it is to appreciate to pay the bills for speeding with the car. When looking into the reflection we can see something to learn and from there pay the bill with that honor.

  20. I am noticing some other things about paying bills – if I don’t find it easy to appreciate paying for something then its good to look at whether it is really needed after all.

  21. Its interesting to notice how money – seeing the bank balance rise or fall – has an effect on how you may feel about yourself, and your vitality, confirming how everything is energy and inter-related.

  22. When we understand that everything occurs in our life – is because of our choices, we can see that the bills we receive of hurts vented or responsibility shirked – are huge and have been piling up in our mailbox, unattended for years. More and more though we are seeing for so many of us ~ it’s payback time.

  23. Just had my accounts finalised for the year and I appreciate the fact I had quite a good year the last financial year but I have to admit I am seriously struggling to appreciate the tax bill I have to pay.

  24. Sometimes I have fun appreciating the numbers and what they add up to in the science of esoteric numerology when paying my bills, and when invoicing others for that matter too.

  25. Gyl I love this and how you so simply yet so wisely offer us the opportunity to reflect on how much there is to appreciate in paying our bills and how powerful it is to discern what we are paying for and if it truly supports us to maximise our Livingness.

  26. ‘I got to feel, realise and appreciate what paying this bill offers me:’ This is where the gold is – when we see deeper into our behaviour and unpick those that keep us prisoner in our own lives.

  27. Resisting and/or feeling resentful about paying bills is a brilliant expose of us not taking responsibility for our choices… we do something and then get cross about the consequences… hmmm, not so intelligent, maybe?

  28. It is worth looking at our whole relationship with money, both what is coming and what is going out. If we consider that it is more than just the physical relationship we have with it and that it is energetic as well, this brings a whole other level of understanding to our personal finances.

  29. The beauty of appreciation offered here on paying bills and what they really offer us makes so much difference to making life about energy first and the reality and honesty this brings.

    1. Yes well said Tricia – when we observe and appreciate what is actually is energetically behind our movements we are able to then appreciate the great impact our loving imprints have.

  30. Sometimes we spend our money on things we do not need, emotional buying when we buy certain items as fillers, when this becomes a pattern, we can end up with too much stuff and too much clutter which is a drain on our energy resources. Far better to spend wisely, purchasing those things that truly support us.

  31. There is so much to appreciate in life and appreciation brings so much joy into the equation. How is it possible to live in a world that is lacking appreciation when it is the one of the most amazing and easy tools to apply? It supports us to connect to ourselves, to people, to the quality of joy and confirms how amazing we all are. Appreciation is one of the main ingredients that holds us all together, unites us and dissolves our difference and brings joy and harmony to life.

  32. We have many bills to pay on a daily, weekly, monthly, yearly basis and in a way that gives us the pulse of life that is energetically but now materialized in the bills that drop in this pulse or rhythm on our doormat.

      1. You can say it is our interaction or communication with the world, with other people. And you then can say that the way your money flows is an indication of your engagement. In other words do you consider there are other people in your lives to take care for or do you mainly spend the money only for yourself.

  33. When we are open to seeing how we with our money participate in our society, we would appreciate more or even come to the point that we love to pay the bills which are the physical manifestation of our commitment to life that actively living in societies is.

    1. Interesting that you mention, commitment to life, of course part of that is working and paying our bills, and its great to pay the bills on time appreciating the service that was provided, rather than avoiding paying the bill so that we go into arrears, which normally means interested is added and we end up having to pay more.

      1. Yes Jacqueline, I come to the understanding that it is not wise to not pay your bills, but on the other hand I do understand as well the movement of not wanting to pay these. For instance when you feel injustice or corruption in the system you are taking services from there can be a pull towards not wanting to pay these bills as you do not want to be part of it. But then we have to become honest with ourselves and pay these bills to finish the cycle as we have been willingly part of this system. We can only stop this by standing up and to not take these services any more or to address that injustice or corruption as a client that insists human decency and respect in the services that are delivered.

  34. A new concept here for me to appreciate paying the bills, but I can totally relate especially when we sit down and list all the benefits. I would be lost without my car, as I work in many different areas that would be a nightmare to get to with public transport. That said, knowing how much my car provides for me, I just got it serviced and was more than happy to pay for this.

  35. It is also nice to appreciate when others pay my bills too, it adds a quality that helps them to appreciate having paid me and what they paid me for.

  36. “Someone who dreads paying bills” – i find in myself that when we are committed to life, to working, there is no feeling of urgent dread but of completion in paying bills.

    1. Yes Zofia, and in paying these bills we actively participate in so much more than only living our life and doing our work. It is indeed that commitment to life but then too in all its nitty gritty ways like paying for a public toilet visit. By paying all the bills we confirm how much we are involved in the societies we live in.

  37. It seems like in general the world gets happy only when we earn money but with a deeper understanding I am feeling a deeper appreciation in seeing the moments when I manage money, which may be a gain or a loss, but in terms of learning and awareness, it is always a gain.

  38. There is a learning in every situation, a blessing if you like, and paying our bills is no exception. The energy in which we pay a bill comes back to us after it has resounded everywhere so why not make that a joyfull occasion?

  39. It’s far healthier to pay our bills with appreciation than it is to begrudgingly give the money over – what does this say about how we feel about ourselves if we do not value the support these things bring.

  40. There are so many things to appreciate in life – including ourselves. It feels so much healthier to appreciate what is going well in our lives rather than bemoan one’s fate when things don’t go according to plan. I’m learning that then there is an opportunity to learn and grow from so-called mistakes….. .

    1. I agree that we can choose to focus only on the negative things or faults in our life rather than all the aspects that are going well, and moan and complain about them, but this achieves nothing except making us miserable. So why not stop to appreciate all the little things that are there worth appreciating?

  41. Appreciating life, washing up, hoovering, putting the rubbish out, going to work, etc and absolutely paying the bills along with other jobs it is important to understand how we feel about these chores says a lot about how we we feel about life. Joy or grind? And so if there is grind….why is there not joy there….and is there something to look at – no perfection required.

    1. We have to do the everyday ordinary things like the hoovering and washing up, taking the rubbish out, washing the car, DIY, food shopping etc, much easier to enjoy all these things and add our sparkle as we go, because it costs more energy to do them with resistance, or in grind mode. And whatever energy we do them in, this is the energy that meets us when we do them again!

  42. When we like one part of life but not another it’s a signal that we’re in illusion and being deceived in some way – because life is one at the end of the day. So beauty is not actually reserved for one bit and not another. It’s just we believe that it is. But continuing on in this way comes at a significant cost.

  43. I paid my mortgage today and I stopped for a moment to appreciate what this meant for me and how it meant that I could live in a beautifully supportive home which feels so lovely to be in.

  44. There really isn’t any merit in being negative about paying for anything when I come to ponder it, everything is a choice on some level and deserves to be dealt with in appreciation.

  45. I love the fact here that you are turning the negativity of paying bills on its head. One of the reflections here is that we can bring appreciation to everything and in so doing enrich our lives beyond the mundane and simple function.

  46. I used to overspend quite recklessly, and wouldn’t be able to pay all the bills on time, But when we are more responsible and a bill drops though the door, we can appreciate when we have the ability to pay for it, knowing there is enough money in the pot, or there will be when the payment is needed.

  47. The appreciation and joy felt here is beautiful and a real marker for how we can live our lives with more simplicity love ease and contentment with all that we are and do.

  48. “I got to feel, realise and appreciate what paying this bill offers me..” – the opportunity to be responsible and to take responsibility.

  49. I always appreciate the tradesman that come to work at the house, the appreciation is that they can do something that I don’t have the required skills to do; but also it frees me up from trying to do something myself. I can instead concentrate on doing what I do best. I appreciate the fact that we all have these different skills that we can support each other with.

  50. It’s such a healthy way to be with our bills and expenses, the trying to hold on to money so you can be in control and look as if you have more is pointless and drains you big time. Appreciating what ever it is that is brings to your life is such a fantastic perspective to apply to everyday life.

    1. I can relate to trying to hold onto and trying to control money, never quite trusting that more would come! Took a while to break that old habit, and now notice how more at ease I am in my body as the stress I felt before is no longer there.

  51. So needed to be reminded of this, appreciating all that is gained from what is bought is so different to just focussing on what something cost! It’s such a glass empty way to be with life!

  52. Just yesterday I caught myself reacting to a bill a tradesman gave me, going into the shell of how high it was; it subsequently occurred to me that this was extremely dishonouring of the service this man had provided to our house and that I had tried to diminish him and what he brings.

    1. I know, even as a self employed person who knows very well all the costs incurred just to do our job with no sick pay or holiday pay I always baulk at how much work costs. The actual hourly rate of someone is normally very reasonable it’s so supportive having a tradesmen or professional to help us that appreciating thier service is honouring of the whole of life. Being tight, mean, etc is deeply dishonouring. Life is so much richer when you feel what is on offer.

    2. And this is a moment of appreciation, to not react and if we do to be honest about it and feel its effect. Even then, there is time to appreciate, for right or wrong doesn’t help us any way.

  53. Everything is energy and everything is because of energy – as said by Einstein and Serge Benhayon. Paying bills is an energy as is earning the money to pay the bills as is the benefits of having paid them. So what energy do we want working through us and coming back to us?

  54. When we see everything about money as an energy and that it needs to clear or to flow just as energy does through us everyday it makes sense to deal with all transactions whole heartedly or not make them.

      1. Paying of a bill can give me the opportunity to bring all of me to a transaction and consider what truly supports me at that time.

  55. We have so much just on tap – all we have to do is pay for it with the money we earn doing the job that most of us readily have too – taking a moment to appreciate all these things We have in life and how we fret about choices – shall I use gas or electricity, petrol or diesel without really appreciating how amazing that is when so many don’t have sticks for a fire or a pot of water to heat over it. How important it is to spend (wisely) so that the energy flows and others too may benefit.

    1. Yes, there is often resentment, frustration and blame when people pay taxes… and even anger around this too. What would it feel like working in these areas with all this energy coming at you?

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