Misery, Sugar and Movement

I have been overweight most of my adult life, but since changing my diet to gluten and dairy free pretty much all of that excess weight dropped away over a period of five years, and stayed off for a further seven. I worked to kick sugar too, and mostly succeeded, and more weight dropped off. But recently I’ve been eating more sugary foods (including carbohydrates and dried fruits, which are all sugar in one form or another) and have started to put some weight back on.

I always know that when I crave sweet things it means I am exhausted or feeling low for some reason and if not addressed, can lead to a mild form of depression. The trouble with eating sugar is that it gives you a lift and then drops you down even lower, so there is a cycle of feeling low, eating sugar, a moment of feeling OK then a crash back down to feeling low again. We can get into a cycle we think we can’t get out of and fall into despair.

The antidote is to be totally honest with how the body is feeling because then we can choose to look after our bodies through self-loving choices. I know that for me, when I truly love myself I naturally don’t want to eat anything containing sugar – which can also include fresh fruit – because it makes me racy and I can’t feel what’s going on around me.

Question: But how can I love myself when I feel miserable?

Answer: Awareness and Understanding.

I have the awareness that there is a certain tension in my body that I really don’t want to feel and an understanding that overeating has been my ‘go-to’ numbing device, but it’s no longer working. All I do is eat more and more sugary foods with a kind of desperate addictive behaviour. My body is warning me it’s too much because I am putting extra weight back on, so I know that I need to bring myself back to me – to re-establish my inner connection.

Thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, we have been provided with many tools and techniques for bringing ourselves back into balance and one of them is the quality of our movements.

How are movements connected to being self-loving?

Our bodies are systems of delicate balance, yet we tend to treat them hard and rough even though they are really very fragile. By being especially gentle and tender in my walk, my touch, my breath, I am taking more care of my body, and that is the start to being self-loving through our movements.

When I move my hands with tenderness my whole body feels different: for example, when turning a doorknob, I have to allow my hand, my wrist and my shoulder to be gentle, which affects my back, my hips and my legs too.

Getting into a car is a challenge, especially when the seats have high sides. I do it as gracefully as I can and then close the door firmly, but not slamming it.

My voice is an obvious one because when I am racy it tends to go a bit hard, so I breathe gently and that helps to take out the hard edge.

There are many examples of ways I can be tender, and I can really feel it when other people are not being tender. For example, one I’ve particularly noticed is in ladies’ toilets – the way I hear some women attack the toilet roll or the paper towels makes me smile. It is something we do every day without thinking and that’s the point… when we do anything without conscious presence, we are not being tender.

So, coming back to the title of this piece, the way for me to feel less misery is to enjoy moments of tenderness with myself, because my body is beautiful and it feels beautiful when it is being tender: there is a stillness inside that does not allow for misery, and that stillness is shattered by anything that makes me racy. So… if I want to let go of misery, and enjoy the inner stillness, I simply have to breathe gently and move with tenderness. No sugar needed!

By Carmel Reid, Northern Rivers, Australia

Related Reading:
Are we Consuming Sugar or is Sugar Consuming us?
Quality of Movement = Quality of Life
The Dieting Misery-Go-Round

549 thoughts on “Misery, Sugar and Movement

  1. The way we eat is impacted on from the whole way we live our life – every moment and not just the time when we are directly buying/ ordering/ cooking/ eating and so it makes much true sense to me that making changes in how we live throughout the day will have an effect on our food choices rather than just focusing on the food in isolation…

  2. More and more I hear it being called “Food Manufacturing” rather than “Food supplying” – which says a lot about how our food is being specifically tailored to the demands we are making – demands that are a product of the way we are moving. This brilliant blog, starts to lift the lid on this subject. Thank you Carmel, for your lived wisdom.

  3. Coping with our misery through overeating, inevitably does not work. Over-eating and over stimulating the body does not bring it to a place of rest. Focusing on tender movement, tender understanding and getting real and honest brings the change we are seeking, otherwise we are in pure indulgence.

  4. “I have been overweight most of my adult life” – was just reading an article on how Type 2 Diabetes is rapidly rising in under 30 year olds. We are accepting such a low level of health in society that there are millions of people who are “overweight most of their adult life”. I would go so far as to say that many of us have entirely given up and accepted this way of being, which is a gigantic stress on the body and a denial of our natural vitality; and that is before we even get into the deeper causes of why our bodies are as they are. This is why articles like this, honesty like this and conversations like this are so vital. Dieting on it’s own doesn’t work. We need to get much more transparent and really dig to the root causes of why we are eating as we are eating and why almost every single shop on the high street is now a food shop, why every single work desk is laden with food, why sugar abounds in almost every single food and why the health systems are on their knees.

  5. Carmel, this is interesting; ‘My voice is an obvious one because when I am racy it tends to go a bit hard, so I breathe gently and that helps to take out the hard edge.’ I have notuced recently that if I overeat or eat sweet foods that I am more likely to be argumentative and talk in a harsh way.

  6. Carmel, thank you for your very practical support here; ‘By being especially gentle and tender in my walk, my touch, my breath, I am taking more care of my body, and that is the start to being self-loving through our movements.’

  7. Tender movements are so healing and powerful. In fact it is the only way that I have experienced to break through self-criticism and return to love when we feel its particularly challenging to do so. It’s like a very loving parent with their child – when we move tenderly we are saying that this body is made of love and worthy of love, no matter what.

  8. I love how you bring up the importance of awareness and understanding, it is like we become the adult in our own lives and with that we bring generosity and true compassion to our own process and growth.

  9. I love the example you have offered of how “When I move my hands with tenderness my whole body feels different: for example, when turning a doorknob, I have to allow my hand, my wrist and my shoulder to be gentle, which affects my back, my hips and my legs too.” Even the smallest living choice always has a huge and profound knock on effect.

  10. We might wonder how sugar could affect movements – but really as it spurs on the Nervous system it contributes to the movements being faster, jarring and harsher…wow!

  11. Sugar is one of the those ingredients in food that we can get addicted to…we can literally crave it, and find it hard to go without as we become dependent on it to feel a certain way. And thus is can take a bit to detox from sugar, in other words reduce the amount of sugar one is eating. When we stop eating sugar or reduce the amounts we normally eat, we can get sugar headaches, irritability or feelings of agitation and moodiness, fatigue or lethargy, brain fog etc. so it can be quite a challenge to cut back and reduce sugar, but it is well worth it for how much more clear, vital and settled one feels afterwards!

  12. “there is a stillness inside that does not allow for misery, and that stillness is shattered by anything that makes me racy.” So true and what a beautiful incentive to not go for sugar to feel better that only lasts for a moment and gets worse after, causing one to go for more sugar and so the cycle continues with the loss of oneself and ones inner connection… hence the misery returns. A great realisation to get to and feel Carmel and the beautiful dedication you share to being you and to moving all of you lovingly..

  13. I have found that movement indeed is the key for you can have a super healthy diet and be super fit and do lots of exercise etc but if your movements are not honouring of your body and your being than you will still be unwell and uneasy.

    1. Take a look at all kinds of sportsmen and athletes. They have the ‘best’ nutritionists and body/health consultants in the business – but over and over we see their bodies breaking down…so there must be something else at play as you suggest Andrew.

  14. I recently cut out sugar having gotten into the habit of daily pick me ups what was astounding was the level of exhaustion I was self medicating with the sugar, I can understand why so many people are using sugar and caffeine to get through the day. Now I am out of that cycle I feel so much better, clearer and steady the exhaustion has lessened – not completely by any means but it feels so much lovelier to not be in the raciness of sugar.

    1. Not to mention not having hangovers anymore from the excess sugar, there is no doubt in my mind that sugar is a drug just as alcohol is with all the horrible side effects.

  15. I read the title here and was unsure how misery, sugar and movement all were connected. But you show the many signs we have Carmel to notice when we are being racy, by our feelings, our movements , our voices, or when we reach for sweet sugary foods..So there is a connection with everything we think and everything we do that leads to our movements, it’s great to observe this thank you

  16. Dear God,
    Let me see the lie that sugar is in this world, not to fall to the depths of misery that the lie will take us to. Dearest God, thank you for the Fire in my body and the Love in my veins which reveals all lies for what they are – a creation to take us away from walking as the God’s we are on this planet, Divinity expressed.
    With huge appreciation for your endless support

    1. I agree Rowena, we are addicted to the misery and the sugar cements that misery even further. Which is crazy when you think about it because we are made of joy, love, harmony, truth and stillness. Misery isn’t what we really want, we are just addicted.

  17. Dips and misery pits are of our own making and we visit these dark spots from time to time, it is true. And yet, it is not the sugar that’s problem, but something deep within us that must be seen and healed. Tenderness as you say Carmel is the antidote to misery. Keep being tender with self, make each movement tender, this is what we naturally are.and what the body craves.

  18. If you want to go sugar-free without the use of sweeteners, it’s not that easy. Nearly every product on the shelf has some form of sweetener or re-named sugar so as to not sound like sugar. It seems that we are so used to having high levels of sugar that when we start to cut it out of our food, everything tastes so bland, and the same goes for salt. It’s as if we have to re-train our taste buds to get used to what food tastes like without it.

    1. “not that easy”. I’d say it was nigh on impossible unless if we buy any packeted food off the shelves of the supermarket. I was in a supermarket the other day; cooked chicken pieces – had sugar in them, packet prawns – had sugar in them, sliced turkey – had sugar in it – none of these foods have sugar naturally in them, so food manufacturers are actively sweetening them to appeal to our tastes. But they are just the suppliers…the truth lies in why we, the demanders, are needing this drug.

  19. Beautiful sharing Carmel – sugar and drepression is not a link I have heard discussed too much, perhaps because depression seems like a mysterious dead end to most of us. But when we see that depression comes when we deny our awareness, the conversation opens right up.

  20. “when we do anything without conscious presence, we are not being tender.” so true Carmel as soon as I am not with myself I make loads of mistakes, I bump into things and my movements are so much more harsher.

  21. What I am learning to look at is not the food addiction itself, but what happens after I have consumed the foods that I know crash my circuits. Learning to observe this in myself is enabling me to see that the food is by-product of a much deeper addiction to the aftermath, the struggle, crisis, drama or withdrawal that the food triggers in my body.

  22. We are so much more powerful and empowered than we like to believe.. it’s easy to think of ourselves as victims of life, of our own thoughts, feelings and energy levels, when in fact we are the very creators of it. A huge game we play with ourselves to avoid claiming who we are, what we feel, and moving forward in our life.

  23. ‘I always know that when I crave sweet things it means I am exhausted or feeling low for some reason and if not addressed, can lead to a mild form of depression.’ I can so relate. It’s when I’m not feeling my sweetness because I’ve taken on board the tensions and any yuckiness in life that I then crave sweets to take me out of there.

  24. For me sugar was a sure way that I could distract myself from the awareness of what my body was communicating to me about how I was living and how I had pushed and disregarded myself and truth through my day. It has been very empowering to realise and experience that when we allow our awareness to communicate the truth, and honour it with honesty, we then are free to respond in a way that honours the love we are and heal that which has permitted us to move away from our connection to our divine essence.

  25. “there is a stillness inside that does not allow for misery, and that stillness is shattered by anything that makes me racy.” I find my body will continue to deepen in stillness and it’s stillness that ‘calls me back’ when I get too racy or caught up in something, therefore I know that as stillness develops then so too do I become more sensitive to whatever it is that disturbs that sense in my body.

  26. What’s shared here is that developing quality in our movements leads to a natural weight-loss – These two factors are currently so far divorced in general understanding, but as we, on a global scale, continue to carry more and more weight in our bodies this blog helps to raise awareness.

  27. When we truly listen to our body it continually gives us clues as to how it wants and needs to move again to restore harmony in the body. Very eye opening when we see the amount of ways that we try and distract ourselves so to not get these clear messages.

  28. The sugar is a killer. When I have it (in whatever form) I’m usually in craving mode just wanting to shun something inside but afterwards I feel, like you shared, not aware of what is going on around me and it’s like a merry go round inside my mind. Stillness is so much more enjoyable even though I at times react to it.

  29. You so break the mould Carmel as to what is seen as ‘normal’ these days – your story here is testament to your commitment to making changes in your life – and reaping the benefits – and so much more than that too. This and some of the other stories you have shared would make a great and very inspiring book!

  30. I have also lost a lot of weight and bloating through changing my diet and looking at how I am living. When I started listening to my body more, gluten and dairy had to go and yes sugar in all its many forms is consistency but not completely out of my everyday, and how do I feel, so amazing, I used to be tired, low, lacking purpose. No perfect here and always more to learn, but I really recommend looking at how we are with food and emotions.

  31. Stopping that sugar high in it’s tracks is an important point we need to get to in order to get out of the ‘misery’ pit we think we are in. Sugar is so addictive and so damaging to our health and well being, it’s great not to make that a part of our life.

  32. When it is something as simple as the way and quality of our movement which can change the way we feel and experience everything around us we have to ask why we have chosen to overlook it for so long and embrace it now our awareness has returned to it for the full support which can be accessed.

  33. Carmel, I can really relate to the highs and lows from sugar, I loved this way for a number of years with my mother telling me that the sugar was impacting how I was feeling, I remember thinking I knew better because I definitely did not want to hear the truth.

  34. It is beautiful to read through this and feel how we can support ourselves during the day with these little attentions to our tenderness and movements.

  35. Sugar is like a circus fire eater! You put fuel in your body that doesn’t do a lot of good to the body. You have to burn it up outside of your body, and then you are left empty.

      1. agree – there is not on ounce of nutrient in sugar… how weird that we have foods like sugar whereby they are in almost everything in diets and yet they have NO nutrient or nourishment value whatsoever, whats more they deplete the body of its natural nutrients… doesn’t make sense does it?

    1. Indeed Sugar is one of those things that messes you up when you have it but then you are left wanting more and more, everywhere I go I speak to people who share their addictions to Sugar. Language barriers don’t get in the way of that addiction.

  36. The title of your blog is so accurate, because it is from the state of emotion we are in that then filters into the choices of food (sugar) we eat, that then precipitates into the body, making it move in a way that feeds back on itself in a perpetual cycle… Deal with the misery first and this changes everything.

    1. I agree Johanne, as with everything emotion precedes movement and choices. Our attention should be on primary cause, not secondary action. What Carmel shares is the unfolding nature of the journey. With patience and tenderness, not judgement, we connect back to the love we truly are.

    2. Spot on Johanne, and also posture and movement is key, for if you can support how you move you will be able to kick the craving faster.

  37. Feeling miserable is simply a mood we use to make ourselves feel less and in that we are the creators of this misery which in truth is not real.

  38. The tone, volume, pitch, timbre, vibrato are all qualities of the voice which we can express ourselves with and are the tools with which we can manipulate the way we want to express ourselves in the world or, when used for self healing, will show us if we are in harmony with ourself or not.

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