The Power of a Pause – Lessons from a Garage Door

I had a huge lesson about the power of pause a few months ago, and from a garage door of all things: definitely not your normal classroom situation.

A few weeks before I had read a most wonderful blog about ‘Those little Moments of Pause’ and as a result had made a commitment to bring more of these moments, which I was coming to appreciate as being very valuable, into my everyday life. Previous to this I had been one who often used to get to the end of the day only to realise that I hadn’t had a moment of pause in any shape or form, from the moment I got out of bed in the morning to when I placed my very frazzled head on the pillow that night. I also had begun to identify that the days that I didn’t take moments to stop, to pause whatever I was doing, led to nights where I struggled to go to sleep, or I would wake up after a few hours and not be able to return to sleep. This was a very important realisation indeed.

So, to set the scene. My garage is about 80m from my house and in the morning after walking down the path, I would arrive at the garage door ready to head to work, handbag over my shoulder and my bag containing my lunch and other necessities in one hand and maybe a coat as well. On other occasions there would be a lot less baggage but I was still carrying the same feeling as I pressed the button to open the door: “Let’s get this door up and get going as fast as possible!”

Fuelled by this feeling, when I pressed the button I would feel my impatience rise as the door always seemed to rise very slowly, so more often than not when it was about half way up I would find myself bending down to get under it: definitely not a comfortable or honouring move for my body, with my bags usually going in all directions.

But this particular morning with the words of that blog in my mind I decided to press the button and take a moment to pause, close my eyes and check in with my body.

Even though I felt that I had not rushed to get ready by giving myself plenty of time, what I felt in my body surprised me. My shoulders were up higher than they are supposed to be, my hand holding the bag was clenched tightly, my jaw felt a little tight and my breath wasn’t flowing as easily as I know it could have been. Not a great state in which to get into my car and begin to drive. As I stood there, which felt like a very long time, but which turned out to be only 15 seconds, I could feel the old urge to bend down and get moving to my car, but I was determined to resist the temptation, and I did.

When I heard the door stop I opened my eyes. For a moment I didn’t want to move as I had connected to a most gorgeous feeling of stillness and I didn’t want this to end. With this exquisite feeling throughout my body, the next step I chose to take was in this stillness so when I got to the car door I realised that I was going to get into the car in a very different energy than usual; and I sure did. Every movement felt so gentle as I went through my usual preparation for driving, taking the time to adjust my seat, my mirror and how I was sitting, moves that were all supported by how I was feeling.

I then backed my car out of the garage and stopped to close the garage door with the control in my car. I drove away with the loveliest feeling in my body, a feeling that I know kept on flowing into my day and to everyone I connected with.

It didn’t take any effort at all to continue this beautiful new morning ritual, and so on the third day I felt to add another element. I decided not to drive away until the door had gone down. So, I backed out, stopped, pressed the remote, closed my eyes and another 15 seconds later the door was down. I was feeling so still and so connected to myself as I drove out of the driveway – it felt amazing.

As I drove off I could feel how taking that pause had changed the way I began my work day, or any other day for that matter; how there was no rush in my body, no tension and all from two pauses of 15 seconds that took up a whole 30 seconds of my day. And to think that previously I considered that I didn’t have the time to wait that long! So, it got me to contemplating on how many other areas of my life I have the same “I don’t have time” attitude – and I discovered quite a few. Now they too are a wonderful work in progress and becoming easier the more I commit to my precious stop moments.

And what a valuable 30 seconds this has continued to be with the garage door opening ritual becoming firmly settled into my way of living and offering me such a precious moment in time at least once a day to pause and connect to me. These moments of pause have now very naturally flowed into other areas of my life: when I am waiting for my computer to ‘wake up,’ the traffic light to go green, the kettle to boil – in fact in any moment there is the opportunity to pause and, in that moment, I am offering myself the wisdom of a very valuable lesson – from a garage door.

By Ingrid Ward, West Auckland, New Zealand

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Connection to self through conscious presence
Esoteric Yoga – The Yoga of Stillness
Returning to our body – The wonder, beauty and science of our body

621 thoughts on “The Power of a Pause – Lessons from a Garage Door

  1. These moments of pause are magic Ingrid. When you added the magic moments up and they were only 30 seconds, it made me realise how many of these moments we can have throughout our day to support us to feel the fullness and yumminess of the amazing quality of stillness we can access from within.

  2. The surrender in life is not a submitting but a yielding to a universal flow, there is stillness and strength in it. A pause can allow us to deepen into that.

  3. A moment of ‘pause’ gives us the opportunity to re-gather and re-focus if needed on the quality in which we’re approaching life and the impact from this can be truly profound.

    1. A pause, of any length, is a most wonderful opportunity to check in with ourselves before we move to what is next. And by stopping we have the space to listen to what our body is communicating to us – and it always is – and then respond, or not; there is always a choice. In the past I would not have chosen to pause, let alone listen, and the subsequent quality of what came next was always compromised. But now I know that 15 seconds can change my day and possibly someone else’s as well.

  4. I just realized I have an equivalent to this garage door every working day. My work computer takes what seems like ages to run through its configuration routine when I turn it on in the morning. There are those days when I feel settled, can wait, or I naturally spot something to get on with while the computer is starting up. Yet there are those days when I am agitated, want to hurry the process, often because I have arrived later than I could feel was required that morning, and I am just looking for something to blame. A fabulous call to observe such behaviour and also witness the impact it has on everything else that follows.

  5. My internet connection is very slow and I am beginning to take an advantage of this – to stay with me and breathe – rather than feel impatience and my ‘wanting to get on’. Time for a pause and to be with me in my body.

    1. I too have discovered that taking a pause, of any length, goes a long way to dismantle any impatience that I have been holding onto. It feels so much more spacious and harmonious in my body when I am pausing than when I allow the impatience to rise, so it follows that the more pauses I take throughout my day, the more spacious and harmonious my day is; such a simple choice but with a very power-full outcome.

      1. So true Ingrid, I am starting to explore this too and my relationships are becoming more harmonious because I am less likely to react due to feeling more spacious and able to observe instead of feeling compressed.

  6. “But this particular morning with the words of that blog in my mind I decided to press the button and take a moment to pause, close my eyes and check in with my body.”… Its amazing when we really stop and take a moment to feel our body how tense it may be, that we have ignored in our constant busyness of life. great post!

    1. I have not experienced one pause moment that did not lead to me feeling very different from how I felt the moment before the pause. Even the briefest pause changes the energy I am in, simply because I have honoured my body and paused. In that moment everything changes, and therefore the next moment has this beautiful foundation supporting it “to be all that it can be”.

  7. Our breath is with us 24/7. It’s the most basic, simple yet powerful tool we have to remain steady, connected and calm. Considering the bombardment of life, it makes sense to make it our constant focus that supports us in our day.

    1. Checking in with how my breathing feels – as in the kind of rhythm and flow of it and how the in-breath and out-breath are in comparison with one another gives me a great insight into the quality in which I’m living life and it doesn’t need to take long, just a few seconds even..

  8. We really have to clock the pocket of time it took Ingrid to come back to her connection… 15 seconds! It’s really a profound reminder of what we can do with every part of our day when we make it about the quality of our presence and the kind of day we choose to be in. Imagine a day when we are with ourselves connected to our inner love and stillness for 24 hours, and we simply repeat that? And any momentary few seconds pause of that is back to disconnection!

  9. I just to have to see the title of this blog now and I am immediately checking in with myself and deepening my connection – thank you for a continuing inspiration Ingrid Ward.

  10. This is huge Ingrid – just 30 seconds – and it transforms your day, week and the rest of your life. That is a very powerful 30 second pause as you choose to re-connect to what is true within you.

    1. Ariana it shows how amazing and powerful our true inner being (our soul) is because a short pause to connect to it can profoundly change ones day. Imagine living consistently in connection to all that yummy stillness.

  11. I find that during my day when I am caught in the rush of time, I keep missing some very important signals and signposts. What an amazing reflection these situation like the garage door and red lights are to stop and allow the space for reflection and greater awareness. The crazy thing is that at times I can still override that by busying myself with a stream of thoughts e.g. planning my day, or even at times my iphone.

  12. This was a nice and unexpected read. I was looking for the topic garage door when I ran across your blog post. I work on garage doors and you reminded me it is Friday night and I need to give work a rest and relax and spend some time with the family. Thank you.

    1. How very lovely to read your comment and to see that somehow you found your way to this blog. And I am very sure that your family were delighted to see you arrive home, maybe earlier than usual. Taking the time for ourselves and our family is absolutely price-less.

  13. All my life I have been in a rush to get things done work wise and now that I am getting older I am finding this more exhausting. After reading this blog for the first time I knew how much this 30 second pause throughout my day would help me so I gave it a try and it worked great but I realise now how easy it is for me to let the drive sneak back in so it is a matter of perseverance until it becomes more of a rhythm than the drive was.

    1. I too have found it can take time to bring something new into my life so that it naturally becomes a part of my daily rhythm and not something I have to continually think about. It is so natural now for me to take a pause when the door goes up but I often have to remind myself to take that second pause as it goes down. But why would I want to not take this very brief time to pause when I know how valuable it is for me and for my day?

  14. I love your garage door and the valuable lesson it provided – I had been pondering along the same lines recently and made changes to the way I am with it, enjoying the extra space those stop moments provide. Thirty seconds is a cheap price to pay for that wondrous feeling of stillness and timelessness.

  15. I find it so crazy when I have something as valuable as the moments pause and know how great it works to create space and stop drive and rush and yet I let it slip and over time forget to use it. Oh well never mind, back on the horse.

  16. Great to come back to this blog for a re-read and have a word in my own ear about how I have completely forgotten about the power of a moments pause even though I was forced to have a three hour pause the other day before work when a car accident at the end of my street blocked me from leaving. I had all this time waiting impatiently huffing and puffing until my wife said what is the reading on it and I realised I have been too much in rush mode and totally forgetting to have a moments pause before I do something.

    1. Ha ha! I wonder if it still would have been three hours if you had stopped to understand it sooner? I have spent so much of my life rushing and closing down any space that was there for me. I am starting to grasp how time imprisons us.

    1. We keep on cementing our misconception of time, thinking if we run faster we might eventually catch up with it. Quite ludicrous, really.

      1. Yes we have been sold a pup and willingly chosen to live in complete illusion. It is ludicrous because there is a part of us that knows this very well but we keep ignoring it so that we can indulge a bit longer in this mess that we have created.

    2. Great words Doug about how we “compress everything down to being about time”, effectively squeezing our own being out of the picture also.

  17. Its incredible, that those 30 seconds of extra time allowed can transform the whole day and its bigger than even that because how many other people’s days get transformed from meeting you in this energy?

  18. What a beautiful lesson you received from your garage door. I love stopping to check in with my body and see where I at, and allowing those moments to re-connect if I have strayed a little too far. They are certainly valuable moments that I now treasure because I know they support me with how my day is going to be. As soon as I do, the rushing and needing to get things done just disappear and the day starts to flow again.

  19. Some of us yell at our little ones to hurry up, get dressed, brush their teeth etc. or some ask little ones to slow down, take a moment to tie your shoes before running outside to play. I do both with myself, like not allowing myself a pause to go to the washroom or have a drink of water. We aren’t just affecting ourselves we are also showing others, like our young people, what’s important and what is not when it comes to their body.

    1. Yes, children are incredibly observant. One of my grandchildren noticed my pause while the door was going up and asked why. So, I gave them the blog to read and they loved it. A few days later I was driving them somewhere and they naturally paused with me as we waited for the door to go up, and then when I had backed out they asked if I was taking a pause as the door went down. I was about to overlook that part but their honest question brought me right back to me. I definitely appreciated the loving pull-up.

      1. This is such a gorgeous example of the gift and blessing of reflection…for both you and your grandchildren. We are all always looking at each other to see what is genuine and love.

  20. It is possible to turn these many small irritating moments that can happen like this into beautiful pauses in the day and the difference it makes appreciating a pause instead is tenfold more powerful by bringing us into connection with the flow of the day.

  21. I find that when I rush things- what gets effected is the quality. I compromise and try to fit everything in. This blog highlights the absolute gems we can find in taking just a minute to check in- to feel our toes and hands and just appreciate that. It’s something we don’t welcome enough in this fast paced world.

  22. I can often rush and want things done quickly but on reading this, I can see and feel how in fact those stop moments are offering me a moment to pause, to feel my body and feel how I am and to give myself space, for in the rush we cramp ourselves, we compress ourselves and we ignore the space in and around us. A great reminder to embrace pauses and space.

    1. How you describe what happens in our body when we rush, is spot on Monica; it feels horrible. It seems crazy now that I lived with these ‘cramped and compressed’ feelings in my body for such a very long time, so long they simply became normal. Coming to the realisation that they are in no way normal has brought me to a place where rush no longer has a place in my life, and if it does try to sneak in I grab it before it takes me over. A much more grace-full and spacious way to live.

  23. Since reading this blog I too am making use of those pause moments and wow what a difference they make to how I move, my thoughts and how I express myself. Plus it is so lovely to sit and feel yourself from inside out – no words to describe, apart from inner harmony and a deep stillness.

  24. “The Power of a Pause – Lessons from a Garage Door” – when we start to read life like this corresponding and waltzing with its communications…life becomes so much more [meaningful and purposeful].

    1. The knowing we can always read life like this Zofia, changes the way we live, as in every moment we are being offering lesson after lesson. It could be from a child sharing with absolute honesty, to a bird landing on a branch of a tree, and yes, even from a garage door. I have learned that it pays not to discount where the next lesson may come from as I may just miss out on the magic being offered.

  25. I had the experience of having a pause today when I drove in a car that when you come to a stop at the lights, the engine turns off, and then starts again once you need to drive – sitting at the traffic lights with the engine off, waiting was such a great pause, a moment of settlement during this driving period – It reminded me of your blog, and the power of a pause.

  26. Love this blog Ingrid. It’s cool to imagine all the people who have read this who will be stopping much more for a moment of pause as they open and close their garage doors!
    I am enjoying the time and the space it allows in an everyday thing I do.

    1. I must admit having this image of many people pausing as their garage doors go up and down makes me smile often. And it also ensures that every time I open the door I too pause, as I can imagine them all watching to make sure I am walking my talk!

  27. So beautiful it is to stop, even if it is only for a short while and feel our connection to the stillness within, and what a difference that short stop can make to our day and our relationship with others.

    1. Love it Otto. A very simple reminder of the everyday pauses we are being offered; in this case by nature. One of my favourite pauses is also to take the time to appreciate all the shades of green there are, and how many there are never ceases to amaze me. Now I will add the observation of the palette of browns to my pauses! With the beauty on offer why wouldn’t we want to pause and appreciate?

  28. Taking time to check in and feel our bodies instead of getting caught up in where or what we are doing is the best tool to support with lack of stress and tension. Being ahead of ourselves means we are leaving ourselves behind. So at the end of the day we can feel exhausted and flat and need tv, food and drinks to numb the detestation of not being with ourselves.

  29. A pause is a moment to feel the appreciation of what you have been living or an acceptance of what you haven’t been living. Each feels very different, but both are vital ingredients of our journeys.

  30. I’ve set myself a programme of not multi-tasking. Completing one thing before moving on to the next, staying very present and focussed with each task but it’s amazing how hard I find it not to get pulled away by something and thus add to the buzz and complication. It’s the same as resisting pauses.

  31. Yesterday I was sorting some stuff out in my house. I had lots to do and a deadline of when I felt I need to get it done by as I had an appointment later in the day. My daughter was helping me and being completely amazing in the support that she was giving; and then she stopped to make herself some breakfast; she took the time, made something delicious, sat down and slowly and quietly ate it. Meanwhile, I was still rushing about trying to get it all completed. But then I saw her, saw the pause that she had taken, and finally came to my senses and realised that it didn’t need to all get done that day. I could come back to it another time and so I dropped the dead-line, the tension immediately evaporated and the rest of our day flowed beautifully with the added space meaning that I was arriving at other appointments with plenty of time. A beautiful, simple lesson from a very, very wise soul.

  32. A great example of the opportunities we have throughout the day to stop and check in with ourselves and how our body is feeling, refining the quality of our movements opens up a spaciousness and flow and a lightness to our movements so that pushing the body in any way feels unbalanced and disharmonious.

    1. Even though I am bringing more and more pauses into my day, I am still so delighted by the spaciousness I feel in me and around me each time I do. And then of course when I take my next step, in whatever form that takes, there is definitely “a flow and a lightness” to my movements. It is so clear that making the choice to pause is the most priceless gift to myself and to all those around me; the gift that keeps on giving as long as I keep pausing.

  33. The beauty of when we share these little moments from our life is that everyone can feel how true and very enriching they are, and so they stay forever with us pulsing through us reminding us of what is possible.

    1. And the most wonderful consequence of taking these price-less pauses for ourselves, is that it is not just us who benefits from them – and I certainly have – it is the quality of how we move from the moment of pause which benefits everyone. All our pauses have a huge ripple effect on everything and everyone else. No movement is ever separate from another.

  34. If we are open to receiving the teachings, every part of life can show us something new. But the way we normally carry on is as if we are sitting in the classroom with our hands over our ears and our eyes closed tight.

  35. Who would have thought that a garage door would offer a stop moment? What occurred to me while reading this is that there are numerous moments during the day when we could stop, and yet we tell ourselves we are too busy and yet this example has proven that we only need 15 seconds.

    1. The revealing of the “I’m too busy” excuse has been well and truly exposed in me from this wonderful lesson. For some months now, I have been clocking it, not just in words, but also through in a feeling in my body. So it has had me wondering why I have chosen to live in a way that tells me I don’t have 15 seconds to stop and take a pause from what is unfolding around me, and to simply be with me in my body.

    2. Yes, it is remarkable at how easy it can be to be swept up in feeling the need to get something done, and then the push to get it done by a deadline, which then opens the flood gates for many other, ‘things to do’ to come flooding in to our thoughts. The pause definitely gives you the space and awareness of how you are going about something.

  36. These pause moments throughout my day are certainly making a difference to the quality in how I move my body. I move it gently and with more presence which feels true to how my body wants to be moved.

  37. I have noticed that when the traffic lights are red, I get a little impatient, as sometimes they seem to take forever to change, and I have felt the impatience in my body. However, since reading the blog, I am now using this space to become aware of how my body is feeling, and immediately, my posture adjusts, my spine straightens as I sit more upright in the car, and I take a few gentle breaths in and out, instantly, I feel connected.

    1. I used to hate it when the traffic light went red as I was heading towards it, usually because I was running late, again! But these days, like you, I absolutely love them and often when they stay green feel a little disappointed; what a change around that is. As you share, it is the perfect time to check in to see how your body is feeling, adjust your position on the seat, and maybe even close your eyes and take a few gentle breaths. It’s amazing how much you can do in a few minutes. Definitely a powerful pause moment.

  38. It is so valuable to stop and reflect on any situation that occurs that slows you down – a garage door that wont close, a slow driver, or someone taking longer than they need to in the supermarket queue. All moments to appreciate and learn from rather than seeing it as a time to get frustrated or irritated by.

  39. This blog reminds me of repetitively pushing the return button on the computer, as if this would make the internet go faster. Each moment contains the whole so it makes sense to be as present with it and complete it before rushing to the next moment.

  40. Great transformational article Ingrid. The trick being to create many stop moments during the day, because almost every action, everything we do can take us out of our connection. Because we are so used that the doing gets us recognition. So also after this comment I stop, breathe and connect back to me.

  41. 30 seconds… I realise the madness of resisting the opportunities offered in so many moments during every day to develop and deepen my relationship with myself, others and life; having a relationship with space rather than allowing myself to be governed by time. Thank you, Ingrid.

    1. But, resist them we often do Matilda. It really doesn’t make sense in the least that we would not check in with this amazing body of our several times a day, after all it is the precious and price-less vehicle which transports us through our lives from day one until our last day, often with very little appreciation.

  42. I have spotted many times since first reading this article that sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t give myself permission for a 15 second pause; two breaths and my day can change or I can deny myself this simple act of true engagement with life.

  43. There is an world of unending majesty to appreciate through our connection to our Soul and the more we embrace the opportunities offered to appreciate this the more we naturally live moved by a beautiful rhythm of deepening and expressing this divine quality through our living day.

    1. Absolutely Gill, and it is this rhythm which supports us when life gets somewhat challenging, holding us steady as we navigate our way through what has been presented to us. It definitely is so important to keep in connection with ourselves, and committing to taking a pause at regular times during the day is a very simple way to do so; simple but very powerful.

  44. Garage doors or moments to just stop and listen as another starts a conversation allows us to feel what is needed in the moment or become a catalyst in offering a deeper connection and quality with another that is felt far beyond the words.

  45. I love this blog and ever since I read it I have not left the driveway until the garage door is completely closed. Thank you Ingrid for offering a new awareness and a day-to-day example of bringing a pause moment into life.

  46. I agree Ingrid – our body is offering us so many pause opportunities all the time and once we begin to observe they do, as you say build. My pause moment that began my relationship with deepening my connection has been traffic lights – those ones that seem to turn red just as you arrive – until you sit and connect and begin to appreciate this God given moment. The funny thing is that usually when I am feeling flowing the lights are more often than not green…….no coincidence I feel.

  47. I bought a full – length mirror a couple of months ago, it is hanging on the wall just by my front door, and each day as I leave the house, I stop and take a pause – to look at myself and connect more deeply within, it is only a minute or two but in that time I allow myself to deepen and expand and smile beautifully back at myself – then I am ready to take the beauty of myself out into the world, I have grown to love this pause.

    1. Thank you roesemaryliebe. I have a full length mirror in my hallway too but I really don’t make the most of it. I hardly ever look at myself before I go out and if I do it is rather a cursory look at that. You have inspired me to pause before leaving home to connect with myself, appreciate myself and love myself before walking to the car or going for a walk or going to see the neighbour…whatever it is.

  48. I like this for the detail that it brings. Because if nothing else, all of our lives are made up of all these tiny little moments that collectively create the experience we experience as our daily lives.

  49. If I don’t check in with myself through out the day then what’s running the show at the end of the day doesn’t want to surrender its dominance and its free reign at the end of it. After reading this I’m really going to observe all that takes place so I can learn the mechanics of what I get up to! – and feel the consequences and make the choice of how I truly want to live.

  50. A true pause is a moment of re-establishing a quality that then is taken into the next movement or action to be more of the same quality, in that sense it is not actually a pause as it is part of a ceaseless movement of repose and motion.

  51. Life is a constant motion around and around in the same spot – there’s no race to be won or way to get ahead, and sometimes we all need to stop to remember that ~ it’s the grace we travel with not the end of the line, that is divine.

  52. Old habits of rushing and having to get things done can be somewhat ingrained and embedded in our psyche, so these 15 second pauses are a wonderful way to stop the old momentums, and reconnect with our bodies and the volumous space within and around us.

  53. Very such a long time, I held the attitude that I didn’t have time, and guess what, I didn’t have time, go figure. But now, I have stopped saying that, and just get on with what needs doing, and I find I have more focus, and much more space to get everything done without a drive or a push.

  54. I have found that any tension or tightness in the body reduces my capacity to move more freely and hence feel more of what I am feeling in all that is happening around me. The stop moments help me first to feel the tension and tightness without trying to change this at all. This alone is already a blessing.

  55. When I feel myself getting revved up or racy or reactive (irritated or angry), I get to realise that I have not had enough stop moments in my day to feel what I am feeling and to acknowledge what I am feeling. The garage door stop is a brillant idea of how we can bring these simple stop moments into our day at any point. Thank you Ingrid!

    1. I absolutely agree Henrietta, that the ‘revved up or racy” feelings are a great marker as to the choices we have made up to that point in time. And unfortunately, at times they are allowed to flourish as we continue to feed them by living in total awareness of how we are actually feeling. I was looking at my now ‘famous’ garage door the other day and had a chuckle on realising that the message I needed to hear was from such a large object. Obviously, I hadn’t been listening to the smaller messages so a much grander one was called for, and this time I listened. Note to self – don’t ignore the small ones!

  56. There is such an incredible expansiveness that can be felt when we truly pause and connect to the stillness that is within us = space. Many of my behaviours in the past did not allow for this depth of connection, which is why it can be challenging at times to truly pause. If our bodies are over stimulated with coffee, sugar or stress etc we first get met with this momentum.

  57. If the space around us is communicating all the time, the more we are present in each moment the more we are likely to be able to respond to what is being communicated.

  58. I absolutely love those moments in my day/week when I just stop and be with my body and my breath knowing that it is enough and there is nothing else to do or nowhere else I need to be in that moment. Priceless.

  59. We can either wait in expectation of eventually getting on with what we are wanting to do or happen, or we can simply be while we know the future to come to us without any waiting on our side.

    1. Beautifully said Alexander – as in our beingness there is a settlement in knowing the future is being lived through the quality in which we move now, and whatever comes our Soul will guide our way with what is next.

  60. It is so worth taking a moment or two throughout the day to make sure we are settled, connected and avoid the disconnected rushing around. Whenever I fight the opportunities such as the garage door to do this my day goes and the impatience and disconnection just builds, but when I honour those moments the added quality is invaluable.

    1. You make a great point here Golnaz, about your “impatience and disconnection’ building when you don’t take the opportunities that are offered to pause and be with yourself. I know that if I ignore one I will probably ignore the next one, but all the while I can feel my body becoming quite loud in its request for a simple moment of pause. These moments of frustration are now beginning to lessen the more I say yes to the precious moment I am being offered.

    1. I had a big chuckle with the image of God asking himself – ‘what can I use to get their attention, nothing else has worked so it better be something very unusual, and big!’ And in my case must have been one of those, so he brought in the garage door! So, all I can say is – thank you God, the lesson has been huge and deeply appreciated!

  61. A pause to reconnect can be very powerful making the difference in how we respond to a circumstance. It can change the energy of a situation affecting all involved, possibly for the rest of the day, or perhaps shifting something in yourself or another completely.

  62. ‘My shoulders were up higher than they are supposed to be, my hand holding the bag was clenched tightly, my jaw felt a little tight and my breath wasn’t flowing as easily as I know it could have been.’ – It is amamzing to what detail you were feeling what was going on in your body in this short moment of pause.

    1. Yes Eva, this was one big lesson to the fact we don’t have to sit and mediate for long periods of time to be aware of how we are feeling. Those initial 15 seconds of pause were such an important gift and one that I absolutely appreciate, as this gift has had such a huge ripple effect in my life and seemingly in the life of others as well. In fact, it’s now impossible for me not to pause when the garage door is going up as I know if I do I will be squandering a golden moment.

      1. God is so generous, humorous and spot-on, he knows exactly how to get to us; if we are willing to see/feel, the gifts given can make huge changes in our lives. I agree Ingrid they truly are golden moments.

  63. The more moments of true pause we take during the day the less time is left of a quality we need a pause from. At some point the focus then becomes to not take a pause from the beautiful quality we live that once was only known to us when taking a pause.

  64. Yes moments of pause are so important, it allows that moment of re-connection and honouring what truly lies within and know that the temporal world truly has no command over.

  65. ‘I decided to press the button and take a moment to pause, close my eyes and check in with my body.’ – This is such a beautiful example of how simple it can be to stay connected and present in our body.

  66. It is in the grace of ‘the pause’ that we can to feel the momentum we are caught in so we can then take the necessary steps to arrest it.

  67. So often I catch myself getting annoyed or irritated because something is happening slower than I expected, or there is a so called ‘hold up’ along the way so this is beautiful to consider that these hold-ups are actually pauses with purpose that I can appreciate and accept on a much deeper level.

    1. I agree, this blog is a great reminder of the real reason these ‘hold ups’ are happening and the opportunity it offers and not getting annoyed thinking that we are ‘accidentally’ held up.

    2. I caught myself in this same irritation just this morning when I was doing the most simple job of taking hooks out of two large curtains, but the moment I clocked it I remembered your comment Andrew and it brought me to a halt. So, I closed my eyes, felt my body, breathed gently and in doing so could feel the need to get the job done quickly dissolve in the beautiful space I had offered myself. Once I opened my eyes any irritation had gone and the ease in which I completed the job was amazing.

      1. Getting ‘caught’ in a traffic line up is good practice for staying with oneself and not ahead of the moment we are in:). I actually like these times and observing all around.

    1. I have felt the awesomeness of the expansion you can get to when I give myself time to pause and connect deeply with my body. Those moments feel timeless and deeply restful and sometimes I can feel that the energy within my body and the energy without is the same so that there is no demarcation between the energy running through my body and my body itself – it’s like my body no longer has physical walls. This is not like bliss and checking out but an expansion of space in the body as the particles re-align and expand.

    2. I so agree Johanne. In that moment of pause the space around me and in me is tangible; in fact it feels endless and full of possibilities, as it offers a platform of stillness for whatever my next choice will be. And I have found that if that next choice is not a loving one it creates a huge disturbance in my body as that stillness is lost.

  68. What a powerful realisation that the days when you don’t pause at all, you have trouble getting to sleep. It sounds like your body is still wired from the overactivity. I find when I have a pause or two in my day, it’s an opportunity to check if I am running my body ragged in the drive to get things done. With a pause I can feel what that drive is doing and start afresh, and have so much more energy when I get home.

  69. The Universe is forever pouring wisdom and awareness through for us. Greater awareness calls for greater responsibility. Perhaps that is why we have so many ways of rejecting this stupendous gift offered to every single one of us constantly. So many ways of blocking it, and yes resisting the power of those pause moments is one of them.

  70. Since reading this I have noticed myself taking more of a pause in certain moments like having a hug with someone, or just being with myself and feeling whatever is there to be felt. I have also shared the essence of this article with others to illustrate a balance and the required foundation of stillness before life’s time efficiencies overtake us.

  71. I’ve recently come to feel how being early and having moments where I just stop during the day create space in what would otherwise be a never ending stream of activity- and what that then offers. It actually takes commitment to stop, because we’re so used to being in the momentum of continuously doing things. But when we allow space, there is the potential for more expansive and deeper conversations, ideas, projects to flow and come together- without us having to seemingly orchestrate things.

    1. It is becoming more obvious to me that we are addicted to the momentum we have built in our lives, a momentum that says loudly that we don’t have the time to stop, we have to keep on going even if we eventually collapse with exhaustion. No wonder exhaustion is the biggest plague that is facing humanity today and from this exhaustion flows the many illnesses and diseases that are highlighted in the escalating statistics of our global ill-health. Yes, it can be challenging to bring this momentum to a stop and it takes a deep commitment to the well-being of ones’ body to do so, but it is so very worth it.

  72. I have also noticed that when those little moments of pause or calm or stillness present themselves or suddenly appear in my day, I can easily fight them or try and over-ride them. There is a strong thought process that kicks in often that says I need to be doing something or I must ‘crack on’ and that pausing and just connecting with me or the moment is a waste of time. Sounds ridiculous but it is true.

  73. The power of a pause is so much more than imaginable it offers us so much being able to feel where our body is and feeling our stillness inside is the best gift we can give ourselves which changes everything allowing true quality space and flow in our lives.

    1. Yes, I often spend moments connecting with my body before getting out of bed and it is amazing the level of detail than can be felt in different areas of my body. If there is tension it is magnified and by simply bringing awareness to these areas they start to release. Even though in pause it may look like not much is going on our whole body can be re-configuring.

  74. To see the natural stop moments we have in our life as an opportunity to check in with our body, is something that will totally change the quality of what we contribute throughout the day, whether that is in expression or movement.

  75. “The Power of a Pause – Lessons from a Garage Door” – whether it’s a garage door, an open shutter or door, or unclosed cupboard drawer .. at every level we are being messaged or communicated to and it’s how we live life in this understanding that we choose to know how life is no random sequence of events; that there are no coincidences and that every thing messaged in our life is contributing towards the evolving of us.

    1. So true Zofia, when you say that “at every level we are being messaged or communicated to”, and those messages are not just once in a while, but endless. Everything is here to offer us the opportunity to learn and to evolve, but whether we choose to listen is totally up to us. I can definitely say that listening is absolutely worth it, even to the message from a garage door, as from the lesson that is being offered the quality of how we live our lives cannot but be changed.

    1. We have space around us, within us and through us that is not ’empty’ at all but a vast field of communication that is constantly relaying the wisdom of the universe to us and through us. How much we can access will depend on how we move through space and how we allow this space to move through us.

      1. Yes, and can we feel at ease with this spaciousness and not automatically want to fill it up, therefore crowding the space from the natural flow of communication to be accessed?

      2. Developing a relationship with space or certainly becoming more aware of the space within and around us, supports letting go the whole time concept and pressure of never having enough time.

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