Taking a Gentle Breath

Have you ever been really busy and caught up with something that is all consuming and feels very important – to discover later that it was actually not that important at all? We can feel quite ‘taken over’ and energetically, it can feel like we are being driven by an energy and a force that is not us.

Can this be true?

I have been feeling recently how we can change this feeling of the forceful energy which is not us by simply taking a breath, a pause from whatever frustrates us, annoys us or sees us getting caught up in someone else’s emotions. We can easily get very caught up and become so involved in something, where it seems imperative that we are fully understood. Emotions and great angst can be overwhelming if we are misinterpreted and we can be constantly trying to prove a point, so we are not misunderstood.

I used to feel a great injustice if the outcome had not been what I had intended, and I realised that I could only ever sort out my side of the story and not actually control what others thought. A friend once said to me that what others thought of me was none of my business.

It is often easier to see the failings of others rather than the failings we have (which are often one and the same). When others get indignant, we may observe that they:

  • become quite imposing
  • act in a forceful way
  • blame others for what has occurred
  • grumble and moan about it quite negatively
  • swear or speak aggressively
  • exaggerate their story to fit their version
  • catastrophise the whole situation.

Could it be that I behave sometimes in the same way? I really did not want to feel this – but it was true. I decided to try to change it in a few ways that didn’t work too well either. I tried to reason with myself that this behaviour was completely unreasonable, and I should let the issue go, but it would simply niggle inside me if I didn’t express what I was feeling.

Then it occurred to me that as I breathed in, in a quality of my choosing – gentleness – then I could actually surrender to myself and let things pass. By simply breathing in and taking a gentle breath, this pause allowed some magic to occur. There were true physical changes in the body to connect to:

  • my clenched jaws released
  • the tension in my shoulders disappeared
  • my face relaxed
  • my indignation dissolved
  • the particles in my body wiggled and tingled
  • my mind settled and the issue diminished.

I found that Love for myself and Love for others was more important than any issue I was hanging on to.

Taking a pause and re-connecting to our breath, that breaths us out of any situation, feels a life changing lesson. Could it be that every time we react to something, or hold onto the tension, we are notching up an illness in the body for our future ill health? When we know this truth, why would we continue the same behaviour?

We can choose to take a gentle in-breath, (as presented by the Gentle Breath Meditation™) and surrender, so no matter what situation we find ourselves in, in the world, the pause gives us a moment to either continue in the same way and reject the lesson on offer – or to stop and learn from this and with that, we stop repeating the pattern and evolve.

By Gill Randall, Complementary Esoteric Practitioner, Physiotherapist, Wife and a Woman returning to who I am, Oxfordshire, UK

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767 thoughts on “Taking a Gentle Breath

  1. These days having an issue about anything is really exhausting. We can only keep having issues for so long before they wear us down. Life actually isn’t a drag and having emotional up and downs or dramas is certainly not normal.

  2. This is a great question
    “Have you ever been really busy and caught up with something that is all consuming and feels very important – to discover later that it was actually not that important at all?”
    I have done this so many times, I’m so busy trying to control me and my surroundings I get lost in the picture of how I want something to be rather than just sitting back and letting life unfold before me. A definite sense of a lack of trust that everything has already been worked out I just need to kick back and enjoy.

  3. ‘A friend once said to me that what others thought of me was none of my business.’ I have to be honest and I have found this challenging. I hated the thought I wasn’t liked or wasn’t thought well of especially if I felt I’d done things with the intention to support. But now I’m coming to understand what’s important is knowing myself. I know when I’ve done things that aren’t from love and when they are. Another can choose how they regard who I am and my actions, and whatever they choose I can carry on loving them and myself.

  4. Definitely found myself in a situation recently where I took on the frustration of being stuck in never ending nose to tail traffic for nearly 2 hours. What had started out as a great adventure quickly lost its appeal. When it was pointed out to me that I was indeed very grumpy and that was a choice I had made, I chose to come back to myself by breathing gently and when I got to the final destination a walk was very beneficial to the way we move can shift negativity.

  5. Whenever we find ourselves about to react against someone’s behaviour or words, it supports us to pause and take in a Gentle Breath. This works beautifully for it brings us back to a steady place where we simply observe what is going on and lovingly get on with our part, without being drawn into emotional reactions.

  6. When we get hooked into the busyness are we not allowing ourselves to be pulled along by something outside of us? The gentle breath is our reconnection to self that is always just a breath away.

    1. This awareness to feel whether we are in one energy or another can expose how we get caught up in a way of living that we might not like or want to do, and the gentle breath is so simple but so powerful to bring us back to ourselves.

  7. “I found that Love for myself and Love for others was more important than any issue I was hanging on to” What a great reminder, if we were educated about this and it was made a priority in our schooling we would have a very different society, one that truly cared and looked after one another.

    1. This education comes first from our parents to set that foundation, but it feels like most of us are behind the drag curve. There has been a huge delay which may soon be changing as our awareness increases and parents and schools start showing children how to hold onto the Love we all know inside us.

    2. This education comes first from our parents to set that foundation, but it feels like most of us are behind the drag curve. There has been a huge delay which may soon be changing as our awareness increases and parents and schools start showing children how to hold onto the love we all know inside us,

  8. One of the things I have realised recently with support from a great practitioner is that I am sometimes allowing the world and things around me to dictate how I breathe rather than breathing my own breath. To hold steady with my breath no matter what is happening around me keeps me steady.

    1. That makes sense Andrew I know I can get caught up in a movie or and audio book and find that I’m not myself because I have taken on the drama and emotion of the movie or audio book and when that happens it feels awful in my body. But how many of us are aware that this is what is occurring that our behaviours can change when we listen or watch something?

  9. When I found the Gentle Breath, the beauty of what I connected to blew me away – and put me to sleep – it is a very powerful connection to a vibration within us all.

  10. When I think about the power of the Gentle Breath, the simplicity blows me away. Just breath and connect- the power to transform our lives in in our hands.

  11. I have returned to being aware of the quality of my breath. I have been checking in with myself, simply to see where I am at. What am I breathing? Am I breathing my own breath and how does it feel? If I am caught up in something focusing on my breath gives me space, creates distance so that I am no longer “caught up” but can observe without emotion.

  12. It is my awareness of my breathing that supports me not to be effected by what’s going on around me. It’s such a powerful tool and one that would make such a huge difference to children in schools.

    1. The Gentle Breath Meditation is such a foundation that supports us, it would be incredible for it to be taught in schools to support children to stay with themselves. It will happen in the future for sure.

  13. When we get caught in the tension of a situation we breathe the tension of that moment and are no longer breathing our own breath. If, in that moment, we pause and consciously choose to breathe gently it takes us out of being caught in the tension, the emotion, and we can then have a more objective perspective of what is occurring. We thereby empower ourselves rather than being a victim to the moment all by choosing to breath one’s own breath. Simple, really.

  14. Focus on the gentle breath for a few moments is very healing and allows a stop to our thoughts running away with us, and brings us back to the truth of what is really going on. It is possible to run with a negative thought for years without realising the harm it is doing to our body and to everyone around us.

  15. Breathing is something we do in every moment so when we determine the quality we are breathing in we naturally determine the quality we go through the day.

    1. I know Esther, but it is weird, because we do it in every moment, how we can be so unconscious of it sometimes. You are correct, it definitely determines the quality we bring and it’s great to observe how that quality can differ sometimes.

  16. When I observe of my breath I notice how often I literally stop breathing by holding my breath, if I catch myself and reconnect to my breath the anxiety leaves and I start to feel stillness.

    1. I had a similar experience very recently Fiona. I got drawn into a situation and started to feel frustration about something, and then noticed I could not breathe normally. Once I focused on this, I could not go into the emotion. It is great to observe how when we hold our breath, we stop the flow in our bodies.

      1. I used to hold my breath without being aware that I was doing this when going into lifts and then someone pointed out to me that I had stopped breathing, I had no idea I was holding myself so rigid, with jaw clenched and very shallow breath. It was a great observation on the part of the other person clearly they did not want me to pass out on them!

  17. I used to think being emotinal was a good thing as it showed that someone was actually allowing themselves to ‘be in touch with their feelings’. But having felt the impact of my own emotional state on my body, and how to rarely have that anymore is so incredibly freeing. To be able to respond to another rather than emotionally react allows both people space to feel exactly where they are at, and enables me to not get caught up in anyone elses emotional turmoil.

  18. Taking a gentle breath, choosing a pause in our everyday activity is so supportive every single day – an opportunity to reconnect with our deeper inner self.

  19. In every moment there’s a choice to go harder, faster, stronger, or breath and observe yourself and the world. The former has been tried for many years, so isn’t it time we gave the latter a go?

    1. It seems to be the way of the world that constantly tries to be in the fast lane of life, always trying to improve and do things better. To stop and breathe yourself and feel the world is a great pause to observe.

  20. The Gentle Breath Meditation brings an awareness to whether we are breathing our own breath or the reactions and drama of another.

  21. When we are with ourselves, breathed by our Soul, we are with love, universal love and our movements thereafter are in honour of the love of God we are; as such our imprints in all we do creates the space for this love to be felt and known as the makings of who we all are in essence and our purpose of being here.

  22. “I found that Love for myself and Love for others was more important than any issue I was hanging on to”. A beautiful sharing on the gift of taking a gentle breath and the life changing moments this allows in our life to flow and evolve from all that is happening.

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