Choosing Simplicity in Life Over a Complicated Life

Why is it that simplicity in life is the preferred option most would choose over a complicated life, but not always the option we choose?

I began to ponder on this, as I would so often override a choice of simplicity in life and subconsciously choose the complicated option instead. Of course the situation never felt great – at the end of the day, often leaving me feeling exhausted and overwhelmed.

I began to realise that even though I preferred things to be uncomplicated and simple, I was not used to it because I was in a pattern of complicating my life. Then I realised we as a society are generally not used to things being simple. I continually felt as though there were not enough hours in the day and never felt like I achieved all that I felt I should. But what if there were enough hours in the day? And you could get done all that was needed, and more? What if it is actually how we are approaching our day that makes us feel like we are fighting time? Or that there is never enough time?

I started to experiment with this concept, firstly starting my day without planning how it was going to be before I even got out of bed. I knew I had to get up, and yes there was a basic outline of what was needed, school lunches, breakfast, tidying up, showering etc., however none of this was done in any particular order: getting up was first, then from there I did what was needed, sometimes it was maybe to make school lunches first, other times it felt supportive to start with preparing breakfast and ‘talk time’ with the kids first.

What I began to discover was that if I was not attached to how the morning would go, and being present and focussed on doing one thing at a time, it supported me to have more space in my day and things would take less time to do because I was paying attention to what I was doing in that moment; then I could move onto the next thing once I was finished. My mind and my body were in the same place at the same time, doing one thing at a time.

This is only one example of how I began to choose simplicity in my life. Feeling and choosing things that would keep my life simple, even in the simplest of situations. Now I am able to be more discerning with the choices I make, preferring and accepting that I can have a life of simplicity.

I was amazed that I could get so much more done without the rush and chaos of previous times.

I observed that as soon as I started to think of “what’s next?”, or “am I going to have time to get all this done?”, of course things in my life would begin to go pear-shaped and things quickly managed to get messy. By messy I mean complicated, and the time and space that was once there quickly became filled with my going off in different directions trying to complete and achieve, rather than feeling what is there to be done in that time frame.

Gradually I started to feel how different choices created simplicity or complication. For example, I may want to check my emails but if the children had not yet had their breakfast before I started checking my emails, I would rush going through them; however, if I got the kids organised with breakfast, that would allow me the time to check my emails without the complication of trying to do two things at once, neither of which had 100% of my attention: taking the latter approach I don’t have to experience the stress and complication of trying to do too many things at once.

Choosing the simple option in my life began to create more time, getting done what was needed without the rush and overwhelm I used to regularly experience. I now have the time to do extra things that I normally would not have had the time or space to do.

Slowly introducing simpler ways of being in my life in the mornings began to expand out to my days, and then my evenings until eventually my mornings, afternoons and evenings all rolled around the same way.

The tools shared through the teachings of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have supported me in another way of being that has enabled me to bring simplicity into my life, making choices that are supportive of me.

By Nicole Serafin, age 41, Tintenbar, Australia

431 thoughts on “Choosing Simplicity in Life Over a Complicated Life

  1. The power of true simplicity is not to be underestimated! I love how you say Nicole that with being present and focussed on doing what you were doing until complete and then moving on to the next that space opened up in your day and you felt more connected as there wasn’t the background drive or rush to be already doing something else.

  2. We make dealing with complexity (the complexity that we create) a way of life that fills us, gives us identity and keep us very busy. So, complexity is a great way to avoid connecting with ourselves deeply and to feel life from there. And, the truth is that we can create complexity as much as we can and praise ourselves of how well do we deal with it, but if we do so we will miss every opportunity to feel what life has to offer us.

  3. I guess simple is this moment right now, not going ahead in our minds or recalling the past in our thoughts – just – what does this moment need right now?

  4. “My mind and my body were in the same place at the same time, doing one thing at a time.” A great reminder Nicole that the key to letting go of old patterns that bring in complication and struggle is to bring simplicity through our quality of presence in each moment and focus wholly on each task we need to complete.

  5. “What if it is actually how we are approaching our day that makes us feel like we are fighting time? Or that there is never enough time?” I could relate to this, I found I was approaching time this way and I was in a constant battle with time, just never had enough time and I would feel exhausted all the time, causing myself to eat food to keep me going. I was in a merry go round.

  6. This is such a great blog to read this morning as I can feel a little bit of complication trying to sneak its way into my day. This is a very old, and previously deeply ingrained, pattern that does not feel very nice in my body at all. I love the idea of “Slowly introducing simpler ways of being in my life in the mornings” and from there allowing this way of being to naturally flow into my day. This is going to be the one supportive tool that I will be taking with me from this blog; a work in progress that I am looking forward to.

  7. Simplicity is when we allow ourselves to go one step at a time. Through the thinking ahead and then worrying we create complications that need not be.

  8. I love how our choice to stay connected to our body offers us such simplicity in our next movement. When we are present and with one movement at a time there is space for expansion in our lives because we are not stretching ourselves in too many directions to get things done. Simplicity is the key to expansion and a flow to our movements which ultimately sets our rhythm for living.

  9. “Gradually I started to feel how different choices created simplicity or complication”; such a simple statement Nicole delivering such an important message. The choice is ours simplicity or complication. Sounds simple, however as you have pointed out, it is a gradual process of continual self awareness and learning.

  10. In recent months I have made simplicity the focus of many of my daily routines. If it gets complicated I have been stopping to take note why this is so. It is interesting to feel that in many cases I have ‘liked’ the complicated as the simplicity has been drilled for so long as not possible. The beliefs and patterns can often set up a roller coaster road of ups and downs when the simple path is always there for the offering. What is incredible to notice is how we can be more and the quality we bring to each moment is lived more!

  11. I have often wondered why I used to find myself living such a complicated life but those were the days before I came to the understanding that my life was created by me, and me alone, from all the choices I had ever made; I had created the complication I have found that as I take more and more responsibility for my life, let go of controlling everything around me and consider every choice I make very carefully, the complication is very slowly being replaced by simplicity, a way of living which I am absolutely loving.

  12. Oh Nicole you make it sounds so easy and it is! A simple choice to be 100% present at all times, creating space and the what is next to unfold. I love this and are inspired.

  13. When we think ahead we’ve already gone into complication by virtue of the fact that we are placing emphasis on something outside of ourselves rather than surrendering to the flow that’s already there that our body is in harmony with.
    In other words we lose presence and at the same time the simplicity that would be there too.
    It’s a big one to knock on the head as we’ve been conditioned to be constantly calculating and planning. But I am learning steadily that my body’s intelligence knows exactly when something needs to happen and that the best planning comes from me being super still in the simplicity of not trying, just enjoying being in the moment and the flow.

  14. There was so much in this blog for me Nicole. First point that woke me up was you talking about how being present in what we are doing saves time. I was finding it difficult to stay with the blog as my mind was wondering off to other things, it made the blog take a lot longer to read. What I was being distracted with was something that I had not expressed. It allowed me to see another importance of expression and how when something is not expressed we can use it to delay and distract us from being present. Second was choosing what was supportive in that moment and not following a picture that needs to be filled. Quite often I notice I have a picture of what I want the kitchen to look like before I move onto the next point. This picture brings in complication as I stop moving to an impulse and move to an images instead.

  15. The relationship between time, presence and simplicity is profound. You have inspired me to pay more attention to how I choose what to do and to stay present with what I am doing when I am doing it.

  16. I always love coming back to the fact that choosing simplicity over complication, in all aspects of our lives, provides an opportunity to live in harmony, love, truth, and stillness. How awesome is that; why wouldn’t we choose simplicity over complication?

  17. When we bring in complexity it’s like we’re pulling ourselves apart into different pieces – the mind distracted with one or many things whilst the body is doing something else rather than bringing the whole of us to the task at hand…

  18. This is so true Nicole, when I focus on one thing, and take that thing through to completion, whatever that point is for that day, there is far more space and efficiency in what I get done and how the day feels. I do find a very persistent impulse to complicate however, usually by way of distractions while l’m doing one thing, to start something else I see along the way also needs doing. It requires a solid focus sometimes to complete what l’m doing at the time, and not get waylaid. That is when complication sets in, things don’t get completed and the day starts feeling squeezed and as though nothing really got done.

  19. This is such an appropriate and needed blog post Nicole that I feel would support almost everyone I know, in particular myself! I’d very much like to practice doing one thing at a time more efficiently than doing 10 things at a time and forever chasing my tail. I have given it a go a couple of times, and realised that it’s an absolute illusion that you’re more efficient when you’re juggling. It’s actually not the case at all, you just feel like you’re more productive by virtue of the fact that you are racing around like a mad person.

  20. I feel I avoid simplicity because it is impossible to not feel the power that lies within and with that comes enormous responsibility but I am starting to appreciate that responsibility is actually a joyful process not a dreaded burden.

  21. Having lived as someone who regularly complicated life and made it very busy it has been life-changing to begin to stop all these unhealthy patterns that left me exhausted and start to embrace a life of simplicity and to feel the lovely flow and space that this choice brings.

  22. The greatest complicator I have found is the habit we have, of holding back. It leaves vital sentences unsaid, documents unsent and actions incomplete. It introduces doubt and hesitation, where naturally there is none. Reading your words today Nicole is a beautiful reminder to me to get things done, and move on, with no dwelling in or hanging on.

  23. Something that I’ve recognised in myself is how we can make ourselves an identity out of complication – it’s like by making things into a struggle or more difficult than they need to be we feel more defined as an individual with our problems so to speak but in true simplicity that is where I feel genuinely connected, and it’s not that there won’t be challenges but that I will handle them in a different way.

  24. Along with simplicity I also find that completing or completion takes away complexity, as it is so simple to move to the next task when I know I am completely finish the last, and completed it with all the love that I am to the best of my ability..

  25. ‘What if it is actually how we are approaching our day that makes us feel like we are fighting time?’ I can very much relate to this blog at the moment as this is what I have felt more and more over the last few weeks. That I am rushing to fit everything in and always lagging behind. However after having a few sessions with Universal Medicine practitioners in the last week and making an effort to change this I have noticed a slight change. Today I had a really intense day at work with unexpected situations plus a lot of work to prepare for the next day, I caught myself going into ‘stress’ mode and then instead of running with this made a choice to stop, be with me, and do one thing at a time and not go into the overwhelm .. and I really noticed the difference. The key is coming from and being with us in every moment and not allow our day to run us instead.

  26. I agree Nicole, it’s as if when things are too simple, I look for some complication because I cant believe life can be that easy. I too have changed my approach to how I do things. Simply not rushing myself and allowing a flow to happen has reduced my feeling of overwhelm to almost zero most of the time.

  27. It’s fascinating how much time we can waste complicating things, or having our mini ‘off’ moments during the day such as when we spend 10 minutes on social media, watch television or otherwise get distracted, and how if we bring PURPOSE to these minutes we create space to look after ourselves, others and enrich life.

  28. I needed to read this this morning! I have done what I felt was needed and it feels great to have completed that particular job but it means my usual routine is out and I was starting to feel pressured and stressed, reading this I am going to relax and know that I did what was in front of me and allow the rest of the morning to unfold, not with a list of what I need to get done but what is needed next. Lets see how it unfolds!

  29. Women tend to pride themselves on their ability to multi-task and I have been guilty of this myself. But I find it harder and harder and far less desirable to do, as I can now feel the strain this places on my body. However I’ve only arrived at this point after years of self-development work, investigating what it is to truly be a woman first – before I do anything. The more I know that, the more I feel in my body what needs to happen when – and when I push myself to ‘get things done’. The more spacious approach is definitely the way to go and my body loves me for it.

  30. We definitely have the tendency to over complicate life, and I agree with many of the comments above that our lack of completion is a big part of this. I find when I begin to have loads of incomplete things life begins to feel incredibly messy and complicated. And your blog also has me pondering that when life IS simple, do we cherish this and work to keep it this way, or is it in these moments we get distracted and bring in complication. It feels to me like simplicity and focus go hand in hand.

  31. Step by step un-raveling complexity even in basic things happens with a willingness to be aware and choose to let go of the existing patterns around the thoughts, push, momentum that drives the autopilot we can be on. Connecting to my body is a great way to check what is behind the intention; if I can’t connect then the mind is using complication as the source of action.

  32. I have found that when we have no order or rhythm in our day, we bring in complication and time just runs away with us, when we have an order things are simple and there always seems ample time to get things done.

  33. The truth is complication is a familiar momentum in the world, this is a momentum because collectively we have chosen complication. And the more we choose this, the more familiar it becomes, the more normal it is being accepted. But we can also choose to stop and not feed into this momentum anymore because we know we deserve much more. We can choose simplicity and repeatedly so, to make that our normal once again. It is very worthwhile to do so, because our life deserves to be awesome and amazing, because that is the truth of who we all are.

  34. I can very much relate to this. If I set out with a plan or an image and when things do not happen accordingly, I would experience it as a challenge and fight to put it back to how I think it should be. But if I were connected with myself, I would be in the readiness of whatever is there to be taken care of.

  35. Learning to master to live with, “My mind and my body …. in the same place at the same time, doing one thing at a time” is an ever on-going learning that is so rewarding.

  36. The simplicity of doing one thing at a time, so my body and mind are in rhythm with each other is a beautiful feeling. I agree it is a feeling that opens up space to allow all that needs to be attended etc. to be done. Why would I choose anything less than this feeling, particularly when the thoughts are much more complicated, let alone the outcome?

  37. We choose and whilst it is simplicity we want, it is ‘complication’ we make out of trying to make things simple!! Holding back complicates life because when we holdback we are going into a story or manipulation of the details of what is either happening or going to need to happen in our day. Bringing all of ourselves to each moment as it presents and following through on what feels true in that moment brings a natural unfolding simplicity in life. Thanks Nicole.

  38. I don’t know about you be when I was a child I was often told by my parents to stop rushing and do one thing at a time, and yet as I grew older I became aware that generally we are celebrated for multitasking, which as Nicole has so clearly exposed, means we do nothing well and feel rushed and anxious throughout our day. Could it be then that we do actually know that focusing on one thing at a time and being as present with this as possible is the way to live in harmony with ourselves, and so we are deliberately sabotaging ourselves in a way to avoid the responsibility of living our full potential.

  39. This is such a great awareness “My mind and my body were in the same place at the same time, doing one thing at a time.” It sounds simple and is simple yet to move ‘ahead’ with the mind while actually physically in the current place amounts to all sorts of issues some that may take a while to reveal themselves with their unpleasant effects.

      1. I love this Leonne, it would make a great post it note – perhaps a reminder message a couple of times a day to support coming back to ourselves.

  40. “Why is it that simplicity in life is the preferred option most would choose over a complicated life, but not always the option we choose?” What a great question Nicole, one I used to ask myself regularly, and I am sure that I am not alone in this. Living in complication feels heavy, sticky and is very exhausting but over time I found that it had became the normal way of living and was simply accepted as this is how life is. I absolutely love the fact that I have discovered that there is nothing normal about it and the simplicity I have always longed for is only a choice away.

  41. If life is not simple, then for me it is off track… the more complication, the more off-track it feels and I therefore am. It’s a simple equation I come back to constantly.

  42. This blog is an absolute Godsend. I thought the key was planning everything out but this often leaves me feeling distressed and hooked on outcomes. I’m going to change things up.

  43. The world is so busy all the time, to the point that busyness, and thereby complexity are valued highly. But truth be know simplicity is much more valuable than complexity.

  44. ‘What if it is actually how we are approaching our day that makes us feel like we are fighting time?’ This is a great question Nicole, and the key to living in our natural rhythm. When we are in that rhythm everything constellates.

  45. One tool I use is to be curious. In the past I have just accepted my way of doing things as given. When I started to be curious, I was then open to considering doing things a different way and this had led to the simplification of my life. I have realised that most of the complication came from allowing my head to rule rather than my body.

  46. Simplicity and the sense of space seem to go hand in hand. The moment we make time the dominating factor both, simplicity and space, are lost and everything becomes about solutions, achievements, management.

  47. I can relate to a similar experience simplifying my life in choosing to stay connected and present with my body as I move and do things throughout the day which opens up more space and allows me to build a natural rhythm, flow and ease to the way I move my body with everything I am doing.

  48. Bringing more simplicity to our lives is something everyone would welcome I imagine, your first example to assist this is great Nicole, ‘being present and focussed on doing one thing at a time, it supported me to have more space in my day and things would take less time to do because I was paying attention to what I was doing in that moment’.

  49. If the day is starting to feel a little like the pressure is on then this is a really good moment to stop. Just for a moment this stop allows me to ask “is this the simplest way to do something or am I making it complicated”?

  50. Imagine telling a friend what you have been up to recently, chances are they might say ‘hey stop – could it be there’s a simpler way to go ahead than that?’. The complexity we choose every day is never ending it seems. How beautiful then to take a moment to be our own best friend and simply stop anything that gets too far out of hand. The greatest things in life are simple, so if we want to feel awesome we know whatever we do, it’s got to be simple too.

  51. If we are present with all we do, then we discover that simplicity is what is there for us. If we choose to race ahead to what is next or later, or be anywhere other than in the moment which we are in, I find the tension in my body is instant and anxiety kicks in.

  52. Second blog today I have read from Nicole Serafin.. How simple can simplicity be “Feeling and choosing things that would keep my life simple, even in the simplest of situations.” and “Now I am able to be more discerning with the choices I make, preferring and accepting that I can have a life of simplicity.” When we read those quotes about simplicity are we willing to accept simplicity is that simple?

  53. Boy oh boy did I used to like living in complication, it was laced in how I spoke, how I lived, what and how i was at work, all of these things that I choose to keep me in complication, ensured that I wasn’t able to bring any simplicity. It ensured that I didn’t feel my true essence which is very simple.

  54. Thank you Nicole, this was great to read today as I can see how I use time to create rush and complication, instead of keeping it simple and focusing on being with my body and mind together equally, as well as on the task I’m doing.

  55. This is a fact we all already know and yet it’s not the norm. We have a saying for it, “keep it simple”, “life’s not meant to be complicated” etc etc and yet we do the opposite. How do we get there and then at some point almost wake up and realise we are at an opposing end of a point we can see doesn’t work? If it didn’t cause such destruction you may call it funny but we push ourselves into all manner of complicated places only to stop or be stopped at some point and shake our heads and wonder why and how we got there. For me this shows there is something else at the wheel and the mere fact of many people doing the same thing creates a consciousness or group think that allows this to occur. The way back from this is through our body, through our movements only then can we be aware of each step and in this awareness not walk down a road with a blindness that puts us at a point that doesn’t support us. They say that ‘life is simply here to live’ and in this way if you aren’t true living it then your mere existence becomes complicated.

  56. The moment we step away from simplicity the doorway is wide open for any complication to flow on in and once in it is often very hard to get it out as it has a way of weaving its sticky tendrils around everything. What I have found to dismantle the complication is to stop, come back to my breath and take one simple step, and from there the complication begins to dissolve; how long it takes will be totally up to us and to our commitment to that one simple step.

  57. Yes, I would also say that we all love simplicity but we hold a strong belief that life is complex and complicated.

  58. Simplicity is the language of our body – complication is the language of our mind – and since we live in a very mental driven society at the expense of the body, it makes sense that complication is our familiar way.

  59. As a society, we generally all crave more time, yet we all make our lives complicated by hanging onto issues and problems. Life actually isn’t that complicated – it’s how we live that makes it so, or not.

  60. Yep, a classic disease for this day and age…Busyness and multi-multi tasking. I feel like I’m in a circus sometimes, trying to juggle 30 things at once..only to crash and burn and hate everything and everyone and claim I ‘need’ space and alone time. But, I recognise the drive behind all the doing is where the draining of my energy begins…the pushing, the trying, the needing…So, gently gently gently, I adopt a new way approach, and simply experiment with that.

  61. A great question… we all love simplicity, its what we all want yet for most of us we don’t choose it, we choose complication. I like the idea of trying out for a day approaching everything and asking how simple that can be, can it be more simple.. am I complicating it. I have no doubt it would be very eye opening.

  62. From my lived experience living in complication is a most unnatural way to live, but this is how so many of us live and end up very exhausted as a result. In stark contrast living in simplicity is actually enlivening as it is free of the stickiness and heaviness that comes with the complication that weighs us down, holds us back and drains our precious energy in the process. Complication was part of my life for many years until I became aware that living this way was a choice and with this awareness it made sense that living in simplicity was also one choice away.

  63. Letting go of expectations of how we need life to be, allows us to break free from the constraints and complications of creation and to be more in the flow of what is needed at the time without compromising our quality within.

  64. I find when I end up in a complicated situation it is because I am too focused on an outcome instead of staying connected to myself and what I am doing. Complication seems to easily slip in when my mind is running a hundred miles ahead of my body.

  65. When life is full of complication, it is very hard to see how life can be simple, so it is a process. A process to let go of emotions and drama, the things that do create complication. Learning that when we simplify, we can free up space within us that can allow for other energies to be there, that are not taxing or demanding, but confirming and appreciative.

  66. I consider simplicity to be one of the most beneficial arts of life; it restores everything back to its essence and innate beauty.

  67. Lately I’ve noticed how addicted to making this completed I have been and continue to be — but now I’m actually ‘catching’ how it feels for me which is great! The more I clock how awful it is to weave a big messy entanglement around me, the more I’m also being how simple it is to keep things simple. Complication for me has been a way to hide – that’s been the big one to unearth and see. When i keep things simple, there is a vast spaciousness, and no hiding in sight.

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