Choosing Simplicity in Life Over a Complicated Life

Why is it that simplicity in life is the preferred option most would choose over a complicated life, but not always the option we choose?

I began to ponder on this, as I would so often override a choice of simplicity in life and subconsciously choose the complicated option instead. Of course the situation never felt great – at the end of the day, often leaving me feeling exhausted and overwhelmed.

I began to realise that even though I preferred things to be uncomplicated and simple, I was not used to it because I was in a pattern of complicating my life. Then I realised we as a society are generally not used to things being simple. I continually felt as though there were not enough hours in the day and never felt like I achieved all that I felt I should. But what if there were enough hours in the day? And you could get done all that was needed, and more? What if it is actually how we are approaching our day that makes us feel like we are fighting time? Or that there is never enough time?

I started to experiment with this concept, firstly starting my day without planning how it was going to be before I even got out of bed. I knew I had to get up, and yes there was a basic outline of what was needed, school lunches, breakfast, tidying up, showering etc., however none of this was done in any particular order: getting up was first, then from there I did what was needed, sometimes it was maybe to make school lunches first, other times it felt supportive to start with preparing breakfast and ‘talk time’ with the kids first.

What I began to discover was that if I was not attached to how the morning would go, and being present and focussed on doing one thing at a time, it supported me to have more space in my day and things would take less time to do because I was paying attention to what I was doing in that moment; then I could move onto the next thing once I was finished. My mind and my body were in the same place at the same time, doing one thing at a time.

This is only one example of how I began to choose simplicity in my life. Feeling and choosing things that would keep my life simple, even in the simplest of situations. Now I am able to be more discerning with the choices I make, preferring and accepting that I can have a life of simplicity.

I was amazed that I could get so much more done without the rush and chaos of previous times.

I observed that as soon as I started to think of “what’s next?”, or “am I going to have time to get all this done?”, of course things in my life would begin to go pear-shaped and things quickly managed to get messy. By messy I mean complicated, and the time and space that was once there quickly became filled with my going off in different directions trying to complete and achieve, rather than feeling what is there to be done in that time frame.

Gradually I started to feel how different choices created simplicity or complication. For example, I may want to check my emails but if the children had not yet had their breakfast before I started checking my emails, I would rush going through them; however, if I got the kids organised with breakfast, that would allow me the time to check my emails without the complication of trying to do two things at once, neither of which had 100% of my attention: taking the latter approach I don’t have to experience the stress and complication of trying to do too many things at once.

Choosing the simple option in my life began to create more time, getting done what was needed without the rush and overwhelm I used to regularly experience. I now have the time to do extra things that I normally would not have had the time or space to do.

Slowly introducing simpler ways of being in my life in the mornings began to expand out to my days, and then my evenings until eventually my mornings, afternoons and evenings all rolled around the same way.

The tools shared through the teachings of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have supported me in another way of being that has enabled me to bring simplicity into my life, making choices that are supportive of me.

By Nicole Serafin, age 41, Tintenbar, Australia

516 thoughts on “Choosing Simplicity in Life Over a Complicated Life

  1. ‘If I was not attached to how the morning would go, and being present and focussed on doing one thing at a time, it supported me to have more space in my day and things would take less time to do because I was paying attention to what I was doing in that moment,’ this is gold, it makes a huge difference letting go of the pictures we have about our day or for anything for that matter.

  2. I love what you are presenting here to consider, that being driven by time and the tasks that need to be done does not truly support us to truly live our true potential. It in fact limits the quality of what we can bring. If we focus alone on this we can move through our day void of love and true purpose, simply going through the motion and not bringing our rich quality to all we do. When we move with the simplicity of honouring what is true, moving in honor of the love we feel, we then move through the day with greater presence and not needing to know what is next but rather being guided by a truth that knows what precisely needs to be next.

    1. Super gorgeous what you share Carola; ‘moving in honour of the love we feel…’, yes from that space we are moving in the flow and the natural rhythms of the universe and as such we are continually impulsed of what is next, thus no need to think which comes from our heads.

  3. You present a great way of how to approach life Nicole, love it. At home I can relate to what you are saying, and put in practice pretty well. At work I am learning to apply this, but that feels like a child learning to walk, falling regularly : can I trust feeling what I need to do even though bosses are expecting different things, I may have projects with so called deadlines (who invented that word? Am I dead afterwards if I don’t reach the line in time with all the things done?) and promisses I have made to deliver things to a customer? Would love to hear things from you and other people on this topic within the work environment.

  4. Attaching to how things should be, look and feel can confide our ability to live with more simplicity and flow. The constraints we put on ourselves or championed from another are not really supporting ourselves to just be who we truly are.

  5. If we focus on what we are doing and are very present with ourselves then space opens up, we have more energy and don’t finish the day feel like we have been pulled from every direction.

    1. Absolutely Fiona, I also have experienced this know that this way of living and being supports my health and well-being and i can honestly say that my life is enriched in every way as a result.

  6. I recently got stuck in a situation whereby I had to renew my driving license, and I put it off for three years. Thinking that filling the long form in, getting photos and paying the post office to check it over was too much hassle and time-consuming – I could have done it a dozen times or more in three years. Anyway, I couldn’t find my old paper license and wanted to renew it once and for all and got onto the computer to see how I could get a new one. I filled in a form for a lost driving license which took minutes, they were able to use my passport photo, and my signature from when I applied for my passport and the license was with me in two days. It also cost me a fraction of the price it would have cost going the other route.

  7. A great sharing to read again Nicole, as I have been pondering on it. It can see that all the problems I have created in my life, making things complex, came from not choosing what to feel what to do, but what I think I must do. The mind can, as I see it, when not impulsed by the heart, make things very complicated.
    Though it is not a business article yet, I will publish this on LinkedIn, as this is also very valid in the work environment. How the business world makes things complicated, even making a business out of it.

  8. An important question to ask Nicole… “Why is it that simplicity in life is the preferred option most would choose over a complicated life, but not always the option we choose?” What is it that makes us go for the drama, emotion and false excitement of complication? Could it be that we are so exhausted we need this stimulation to get us through our day?

    1. Spot on Paula. Let’s be really honest: we just love complexity because it stimulates us and makes us feeling individual and heavy. From than point we start anew: feel how awful this complication feels and say this I don’t want anymore.

  9. “I was amazed that I could get so much more done without the rush and chaos of previous times.” It is absolutely amazing what is possible when we keep things simple and stay connected to the true purpose of what we have to do. Not only do we have more space to do what is needed, but we get supported in ways to do what is needed that is almost unfathomable.

  10. Love this Nicole, will experiment with this especially on work. So much to do, sometimes even noted down as a “to do list”. Could I work without to do lists? And trust my feelings in knowing what to do?

  11. We cannot hide when simplicity is chosen, simplicity makes truth obvious. Avoiding simplicity is avoiding truth and thus responsibility.

  12. It seems that certain situations trigger the complication and probably this is because the last time we were in that situation we chose complication. As an example maybe the way we look for work in a worried, frantic way or go into the story of having no money – the list is endless. So when that cycle comes around again what are we met with – more of the same.

  13. It does seem ironic, that the more we do, the more we can and do do when we are not in any kind of drive to get things done. When we approach things from a feeling inside us that feels true and has no doubt, it is quite incredible what can be achieved. It really is as though space literally opens up and time becomes almost insignificant.

  14. ‘if I was not attached to how the morning would go, and being present and focussed on doing one thing at a time, it supported me to have more space in my day and things would take less time to do because I was paying attention to what I was doing in that moment’ This is such a great example of how to build a simplicity into the fabric of our lives.

  15. “Choosing Simplicity in Life Over a Complicated Life” – the more simple we make something, the easier it is.

  16. I have learnt that if things are not simple than something is not true about them. This could mean what I am doing is not true at that point in time or the quality I am in is not what is needed there and then. Otherwise there is just this beautiful flow, almost dance, of movements that follow each other and keep building on each other.

  17. I find it fascinating that although most of humanity appears to live in complication everyone expresses that they want their lives to be simpler. Unfortunately, no one is going to wave a magic wand and turn a life of complication into a life of simplicity, that is something we have to do for ourselves, and it begins very simply by making different choices; the magic is ours to make.

  18. Yes it works so much more efficient to give everything we do all our attention instead of trying to beat time by doing two things at the same time or doing something just before we have to do something else even though there is no space to do it. Letting go of this battle with time is very lovely and it offers a whole different way of living life.

    1. Beautifully put: ‘Letting go of this battle with time is very lovely and it offers a whole different way of living life.’ It offers space and the opportunity to live from our connection with divinity.

  19. What we all hold as our wisdom is simplicity. When we make things complicated we fight against our simplicity, which is not needed. Hence coming back to our simplicity is actually serving us to let go of any complexity at that very time.

  20. When we are connected with our bodies, we wake each morning with purpose. Purpose gets you up in the morning, and is a great foundation for the rest of the day to remain focused, yet open to what is needed throughout the day – with purpose there is flow, with flow there is always simplicity.

  21. What I have noticed recently is that when I let go of how things should be done and when, there’s far less stress and I feel free to get on with whatever needs doing, and this is very much supported by understanding time as space rather than a lineal progression. Holding onto pictures and indulging in reactions is how I used to dramatises my journey.

  22. Yeah I have adopted some of these ways of being more present and it does pay off in feeling much less overwhelmed. I am yet to be able to maintain focus and purpose and can easily get distracted and get lost in something. It really is about dedicating oneself to the bigger picture, purpose and then allowing what is next to be forefront.

  23. Having always chosen complication in the past in my life I can feel how exhausting and time wasting this was, I now enjoy the simplicity of my life and feeling how space opens up so beautifully when we let go of this old pattern.

  24. ‘What if there were enough hours in the day?’ This question alone is enough to bring us to a stop and consider how we are relating to life, space and time. If we’re constantly running with this idea of ‘never enough’ then we always feel like we’re behind and catching up. Keeping things simple and letting go of pictures of what we think we need to do, by when, really does start to change this.

  25. We create our own canvas with the choices we make, that canvas can be of a simple and loving life, or it can be one of complication and struggle, whatever we paint, we are the ones holding the brush.

  26. Put in this logical way, it feels very illogical that we choose complication over simplicity. I find that delay also causes complication because we do something many times in our heads by putting it off, it is much simpler to go with the flow.

    1. I have found this too Gill, being in delay does contribute to complication because we are no longer in our natural harmonious flow that brings everything to us easily. Choosing to procrastinate and put things off, only harms ourselves plus it takes more time to go back and pick things come again.

  27. Complications and drama are often a go to feeling that will leave us looking for the next fix. What is interesting to feel in this blog is how simple living can make this a pattern of the past.

  28. What happens when you choose simplicity? In my experience it feels like you have space. And in that space what occurs? I find that I am able to feel more. So is it possible that the speed of our life is down to our feelings we don’t want to feel rather than it being simply too hard? Thank you Nicole for this powerful blog.

  29. We can choose to make things simple or complicated – but it is important to also note that anything in between also feeds the complication.

  30. I find when I am thinking ahead about what I have to do I find complication sets in with its drive and anxiety, When I can be present with what I am doing life becomes more simple as i am not taken out of my body into something else in the future.

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