Self Esteem is no longer an Issue – Appreciating, Celebrating and Loving My Body

Self-esteem is something most people work on in their lives. But what if everything you already wanted is already within you? I was lying in the bath the other night, washing my legs, feeling super sexy, appreciating and loving my body, when I suddenly realised that “Wow, I no longer have the thoughts that I used to have”. Thoughts that had run with me from my teenage years, such as;

  •  I hate my body,
  • I wish I was thinner,
  • I wish I had someone else’s body,
  • I want longer or thinner legs,
  • I wish I had a six pack or a flat tummy,
  • I would prefer a more muscular and athletic looking body,
  • I wish that my breasts were smaller.

But now… I love my body just the way it is!

I love…

  • How my tummy has a beautiful gentleness to it and a little feminine curve,
  • That my legs are no longer hard and muscular; they may not look like a model’s, but to me they feel long, awesome and slender and are exactly the way they are meant to be,
  • My bum; it’s sexy, curvy and amazing, not pert or ‘perfect’,
  • How delicate my fingers are and my cute little toes,
  • My breasts are amazing and I wouldn’t change them for the world,
  • The graceful and playful way that my body moves.

Then I thought about other times I have felt this way, for instance when I’m in the gym and I move with such playfulness and grace and with a huge smile on my face. Long gone are the days where I’d push my body hard, training to extremes and being obsessed by the perfect body image.

A big support for me has been that I now listen to my body and have such fun in doing so. For example, I leave the gym when my body feels it’s had enough, rather than just staying another twenty minutes when my body is clearly tired. So I leave feeling full of vitality, full of me, full of joy because I have honoured my body; there’s no adrenaline buzz, exhaustion, or pain.

When I eat now there is no form of control, no obsession, no thoughts about calories, no worrying about fat, or whether I can eat this or can’t eat that, or if I eat this then I’ll skip a meal, or not eat tomorrow. I simply eat now to celebrate, appreciate, nourish and love my body, and me.

I have so much fun in doing so. I love going food shopping and cooking now, feeling what foods to buy and eat, whereas before it used to be such a chore. That’s not to say there’s days where I don’t eat things that aren’t the most nourishing and supportive, but every day is a learning – I know what I’m choosing now and most of the time I know exactly why. Before I would give myself such a hard time, which only prolonged the way I was feeling.

Now I simply say:

  • Okay – what are you doing?
  • This might taste good in my mouth but how will my tummy and body feel about it?
  • Why are you really eating it?
  • Why do you want to put this in your body?
  • Why do you want to make yourself feel awful?

… when you are worth so much more than that: learn from it and move on.

Even the way I choose to get dressed now is so different: no longer do I just put on whatever, but I take my time to choose what I really feel like wearing. Sometimes it may be to celebrate how sexy I am feeling, and this can be in jeans, a vest top and trainers, or at other times it may be to nurture me and keep me warm on a cold day; it may simply be that I feel to wear a certain colour, or it may be to honour how beautiful, feminine and delicate I am feeling. I feel so much joy in honouring this – I dress for me, not to impress or entice another. Even when I put make up on, it’s not to build my self-esteem, look better, cover up or hide what I don’t want others to see, but all of it is in celebration of me.

I can now stand in front of a mirror and claim that I am beautiful and damn sexy, whereas not too long ago I would avoid looking in mirrors as I would be quick to pick out all the faults that I thought I could see instead of seeing the true and beauty-full me.

And the amazing thing is that this love that I feel is not from anything I can do on the outside, it is something that is within me: I just need to allow myself to stay connected to it, to myself, and be present in my body.

I’ve tried so many things to feel lovely but they simply didn’t work as they came from something outside of me. They may have relieved me of feeling my hurts or emptiness for a little while, but it never really allowed me to deal with them and know that I am already more than enough. I used things like getting a new haircut, buying clothes, a new nutrition or diet fad, a thinner or fitter body to feel better, alongside all the self-help and new age stuff, but there was always an un-full-filled feeling there.

The love I now feel for myself and for my body comes from within me. There’s a fullness, a celebration, a deep feeling from inside that simply, play-fully and joy-fully wants to emanate and radiate. It is the loveliest thing and it doesn’t stop with me.

When this love and joy is felt and embraced, I can’t help but share it and feel the love in others, for in truth it’s not mine to keep and hide away. Re-connecting to myself and allowing my love to be has been a support for me to appreciate myself. There is no longer a need for me to work on self-esteem, to look a certain way but to just accept, appreciate and celebrate that I am already enough – I am amazing.

It is with love, thanks and deep appreciation of Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and Caroline Raphael, for the absolute love and truth they present, live and share, and the constant inspiration, love and reflection from other practitioners and the amazing student body.

By Gyl Rae, Student and waitress, Scotland

263 thoughts on “Self Esteem is no longer an Issue – Appreciating, Celebrating and Loving My Body

  1. How gorgeous Gyl. The beliefs and behaviours that most of us have about working hard to get ‘the body’, wearing ‘the right’ clothing, being a part of a ‘scene’, to fit in, stand out or even hide away are all designed to keep us from connecting to the absolute gorgeousness that we are. What you have shared shows the very simple way, but profound effect of honouring our body has on how we feel about ourselves and our ives.

    1. I have experienced the simple ways, but profound effects that honouring my body has on my well-being and how I feel about myself. i used to get frustrated with my body when I felt tired, now I sit or lie for a few minutes, do some gentle stretches, and accept that I am fragile and delicate, and I love to appreciate myself in this way. Thank you for writing your gorgeous appreciation Gyl, It inspires me to maintain consistency.

    2. Thank you Jenifer, and all who have contributed comments to Gyl Rae’s blog. When we meet you your beauty is so natural and at ease with your surroundings we might think you have always been that way. It is very lovely for us to read how you learned from your experience of trying to live up to a false image, or battling with low self-esteem. There are so many ways we can relate your experience to our own lives and learn from what you share.

  2. So true Gyl, “And the amazing thing is that this love that I feel is not from anything I can do on the outside, it is something that is within me: I just need to allow myself to stay connected to it, to myself, and be present in my body”. It was very empowering for me to grasp that by re-connecting with ourselves from the inside we find something so precious, true and supportive, Love.

  3. “The love I now feel for myself and for my body comes from within me. There’s a fullness, a celebration, a deep feeling from inside that simply, play-fully and joy-fully wants to emanate and radiate. It is the loveliest thing and it doesn’t stop with me.” Yes I can so relate Gyl thank you for sharing how many years of our lives have been wasted wishing to be and look like someone else! How awesome that with self appreciation and acceptance of ourselves we find the gold we have always been searching for – right there under our very noses!

  4. Gyl I have a joyous grin on my face right now. “A big support for me has been that I now listen to my body and have such fun in doing so. ” Your words are bright, sexy and full of love. Thank you.

  5. Dear Gyl,
    Just tonight I realised that I have said a resounding yes to the truly amazing beautiful woman I am and that nothing but full acceptance of this is now in order. Re reading your article has confirmed no end that the joyousness that I feel in my life is to be celebrated and fully surrendered to.

  6. I am having a chuckle … I was just relating to all the abuse I hurled at myself for not being enough. Now, like you Gyl I have a connection to my inner most self and I appreciate and Love the body I am in. Now with this appreciation I have a true voice that lets me know how my body is, what It feels to eat, what clothes to wear even, my part in it all is to stay tuned and listen up and I know if the voice is not loving it is not coming from me, it’s interference that is always wanting us to feel less and be distracted away from our Glory.

  7. Lately I have noticed that I have become a bit fuller and I can really feel that it does not come from me eating more, but from me being more all of me and being more in my body. What I also noticed is that I am not going into a oh no, I have gained wait but that I can actually feel that my body is changing and that it feels really true. I am also working out more and I am really letting go of all the beliefs that I have to look a certain way to feel good about myself. I have always been so focused on needing to be thin and needing to have a certain body shape. But what is most important is that I feel at home in my body and that I can fully accept it. That is still work in progress but there is so much more love and appreciation for my body and this feels absolutely wonderful.

    1. Thanks for sharing Mariette. I too have noticed that the love and appreciation I have for my body is growing. Nothing has changed except me being more gentle with myself while I dry myself off, put cream on my body, get dressed and stay with me and not drifting off while I am caring for myself.

  8. I loved reading your story Gyl, there were words that I once read that said “the greatest joy is in being me”and you certainly have expressed that to the full , thank you.

  9. I had quite a remarkable experience the other day, I was driving in the car going to a destination I wasn’t sure of and I wanted a pee, and my body just told me to get off the motorway at the next service station that was just coming up, so I did. Which was just as well because there wasn’t another service station for the rest of the journey which was another 2 hours on the road. I was really appreciative that my body seemed to have clocked that service station before and knew it was the last one to stop at. I’m blown away at what my body can tell me if I listen to it.

    1. Thank God you did listen to your body Mary. So many times we choose to ignore it thereby quite often missing many opportunities and then we beat ourselves up.

  10. Thank you Gyl to read how you appreciate and celebrate yourself is deeply inspiring and reminds me to also make this simple yet power-full choice everyday.

  11. I love reading your celebration of you Gyl, Unshakeable and a true foundation. It is quite profound that with a change of heart and some true healing, we can be in the same body that we were so unhappy with and still become content, joyful and even celebratory and in love with that same body. We can be beyond the influence of the negative voices, inside and out and beyond fashion and expectation. What an awesome freedom that is.

  12. The truth found in this quote is awesome, a woman has altered how she truly feels about herself…“I can now stand in front of mirror and claim that I am beautiful and damn sexy, whereas not too long ago I would avoid looking in mirrors…” And this change has occurred because of learning to self care and self love and so a miracle, a true miracle has occurred. I remember looking in the mirrors and feeling disappointed with myself or yes ‘avoiding’ them, I no longer feel this. I also confirm how beautiful I feel when I look in mirrors, what a transformation. What is going on here to enable such changes…true love and true connection has been established within ourselves and self worth has been built, we are all beautiful when we express from our inner heart.

  13. Gyl this a great blog. The beautiful simplicity that you now live your life from feeling from your body what works and what does not, compared to the complication of trying to figure it all out in your head. Secondly that maybe self esteem is actually not something to be worked on or trained in but actually just re-discovering and being your true self? We could/should rename self-esteem as self-connection or self-awareness perhaps?

    1. There is such a difference to feeling like I have to have the three square meals a day (never understood why they need to be square?) and getting panicky if I was going to miss one, to now feeling what my body needs, or how it responds to certain foods. It is this approach that has helped me to refine my diet to what my body finds easy to digest and sits well with me.

  14. Beautiful Gyl this awesome blog is so inspiring for all. You described so simple what you have chosen to change. This sentences said it all:”There is no longer a need for me to work on self-esteem, to look a certain way but to just accept, appreciate and celebrate that I am already enough – I am amazing.” That is true.

  15. What a revelatory moment to come to Gyl, thank you for sharing. I’m noticing more and more how vital those stops are, to appreciate how far I have come or where I am now and take that moment of reflection to appreciate the choices I’ve made in building a more loving foundation with which to support myself with. The more appreciation I have the more solid my foundation.

  16. “When this love and joy is felt and embraced, I can’t help but share it and feel the love in others, for in truth it’s not mine to keep and hide away.” Thank you for sharing your love and joy Gyl, when we stop old patterns of hiding or criticism and replace them with appreciation, others like myself feel inspired to build this consistency into our days.

  17. I love this Gyl – ‘And the amazing thing is that this love that I feel is not from anything I can do on the outside, it is something that is within me: I just need to allow myself to stay connected to it, to myself, and be present in my body.’ And it is so true we can be sexy anywhere anytime with whatever we are doing or wearing. It is something that is not determined by what we are wearing or how we act but rather a quality of being that naturally comes from our connection to our essence within.

  18. “I simply eat now to celebrate, appreciate, nourish and love my body, and me.” I cannot say I do this all the time but I love the feeling this brings. I love preparing food lovingly and sitting down with myself, if I am alone, and taking time to appreciate the food I have chosen and taking time to be with myself after I have finished eating. Slowly slowly the element of celebration comes into my mealtimes even when I am not sharing them with anyone else.

  19. I really enjoyed reading your blog Gyl. It is lovely to feel the joy and appreciation in which you are now truly taking care and nurturing yourself. Thanks to the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine practitioners there are many women and men who are learning to reconnect to and embrace the love that they are within.

  20. When the love that you have for yourself and your body comes from within, there is no need to look outside of yourself at ideals of what a woman should look like. There is no need to be accepted or loved by others when you accept and nurture yourself. Gyl, the love and joy you share is inspirational.

  21. Just love the compilation of self-talk questions for those moments when we find ourselves with our head in the fridge, eating for any reason other than hunger. They’d make a great fridge magnet and would serve a great purpose – that of providing us with a moment of awareness which would give us the potential for making more self-loving choices.

  22. Soooo wonderful to re-read your blog Gyl and to appreciate myself in this very moment how far I have come and how much I am loving and caring with myself…

  23. It’s a gorgeous blog Gyl. I saw your photo on another blog and your beauty and warmth was plain to see. Reading this allows me to appreciate how far I have come with appreciating my body and my beauty and the beauty of others. I used to want to be just “2 kgs heavier” or “1 shoe size smaller” or have lighter skin etc etc. Of course there is much more to accept of me but there is a freedom in letting some of these ideals go.

  24. So true Gyl ‘When this love and joy is felt and embraced, I can’t help but share it and feel the love in others, for in truth it’s not mine to keep and hide away.’ No time and no need for hiding anymore, love and joy can never be just for ourselves, it is too awesome to not feel and see it in someone living this.

  25. This is lovely to share Gyl Rae, “I’ve tried so many things to feel lovely but they simply didn’t work as they came from something outside of me.”
    All the beauty we have always wanted comes from our attitude and relationship towards ourselves.

  26. Its great when you can bring your attention back to the 99% gorgeousness rather than focussing exclusively on the 1% imperfections. I remember this right from school where looking in the mirror all I could see was the new spot that had formed, while to those around me it was barely noticeable!

    1. I love that Simon – bringing our attention back to the 99% gorgeousness rather than focussing exclusively on the 1% impferfections. You are spot on (pardon the pun).

  27. Your blog was so refreshingly lovely and uplifting to read Gyl – any woman who reads this and is not inspired to give it a go would have to be crazy!

  28. Yes, Gyl, you are amazing, and I also feel like that a lot lately. And it’s such a joy to share the love that I am with others by just being and expressing it.

  29. Thank you Gyl for sharing how you are celebrating and appreciating yourself through your connection with the love within you and bringing that quality of being to everything you do.

  30. I loved reading this Gyl, I could feel myself expanding as I read your blog especially with this line of yours -‘ There is no longer a need for me to work on self-esteem, to look a certain way but to just accept, appreciate and celebrate that I am already enough – I am amazing.’ – Such a beautiful reminder for us all, time to celebrate.

  31. “Self-esteem is something most people work on in their lives. But what if everything you already wanted is already within you?” this simple fact, something that I had not considered as possible when growing up, turns on its head everything about how we are with ourselves and the world. From young being taught to become more than we are, we erode our living awareness of the fact we already are everything we ever need to be. I love how through appreciation, celebration and taking loving care of the body you’ve provided us a simple explanation of regaining that absolute feeling inside of knowing we are already everything.

  32. Thank you Gyl, I loved reading your inspiring blog once a gain, the words that stood out for me were to do with food and eating, I am looking into my food choices and the whys of what I choose . ” I simply eat now to celebrate, appreciate, nourish and love my body, and me.”

  33. A very beautiful blog Gyl; to read and to feel the deep appreciation and love you have for yourself, coming from deep within, is powerful and inspiring.

  34. Body image is such a huge subject for girls and women of all ages! Girls are subjected to the ideals of society from a young age, and it must be awful to grow up feeling so much pressure and seeing a culture of “self loathing” to be so normal. It would make such a difference if girls were educated early on, by their parents and in schools that they are amazing!

  35. Self-esteem is an end result rather than a goal, arrived at through a series of consistently loving, supporting choices that eventually lead us to accepting and appreciating ourselves for who we are and to understanding that we are more than enough as we already are without donning a whole range of externally manufactured ideals and beliefs.

  36. Could very much relate to your blog Gyl…self-worth is not something you can buy, because it is a connection to the loveliness that already lives within. When connected to that it is amazing what the eyes will then see.

  37. I used to look in the mirror with a critical eye, wishing things were different, longer & thinner legs etc. Now when I look in the mirror I see & feel a gorgeous, sexy, delicate woman. Such a celebration now 🙂

  38. Thank you for sharing your amazingness and the joy that you now have in your life. I appreciate your impulse to share it because it is so lovely to read your story of exploration of your relationship with yourself and I celebrate with you the depth of the love you are and reflect so joyfully to others.

  39. It’s a work in progress – there are still times I am critical of the way I look, what I’m eating etc. but this is becoming less and less as my love and appreciation for myself grows.

  40. Thank you Gyl for this very inspiring blog. It reminds me that when we truly love and cherish ourselves from within it is impossible to not love and cherish our body and others in the same way. Nothing outside of us can make us feel this amazing until we choose to connect to love from within. From this our clothes, make-up etc. are simply there for us to use as a way to express how gorgeous we already feel and to share with everyone we meet.

  41. It’s so inspiring to see and feel a person truly loving, adoring and appreciating themselves. The truth is much of humanity struggle with thoughts and feelings of lack of self worth and lack of self esteem. One person choosing not to go into these thoughts and ways of being by changing their choices and their movements inspires another to feel how to do it.

  42. I realized how much I too have changed about how I feel about myself. I was at a dinner with a group of ladies. We had a question presented “What part we loved most about our bodies?” My dilemma was which part shell I nominate? Surprisingly others showed embarrassment and couldn’t think of one. Now these ladies were incredibly beautiful by the way! Thank you for sharing Gyl, this was great to reflect on.

  43. As women (and men!) our bodies are beautiful! It’s only in the way we treat ourselves and our bodies and the choices we make that don’t allow us to feel this absolute fact. Ultimately what I have come to realise is that self worth and self esteem is a choice and it’s our choice to make whenever we want to.

  44. This is a great reminder Gyl -‘And the amazing thing is that this love that I feel is not from anything I can do on the outside, it is something that is within me: I just need to allow myself to stay connected to it, to myself, and be present in my body.’ Making these simple and loving choices for yourself has been key to deepening the relationship with yourself and no longer experiencing self esteem issues – this is powerful and inspiring.

  45. It was my birthday today and I have celebrated and appreciated my age, 56 years old and my body. I have the feeling this is the very first time I am truly embracing myself, my body and how graceful it felt to celebrate the beautiful woman I am.

  46. What a lovely blog Gyl, and what you now live is nothing short of a miracle. When we consider how many women live in self criticism, self doubt, and self neglect your story stands out as a shining light. There truly is another way to be with ourselves and it doesn’t come from products, plastic surgery or ticking boxes, it’s right there in our own relationship to ourselves. This is another awesome testimony to how Universal Medicine supports women!

  47. Honouring my body has been an unfolding process, it takes much courage and love to show how we now value ourselves enough to consider how the body feels as important. This can be unending decades of self abuse. It is so cool to see the turn around moment and to know we will never be lost in such unconscious self abuse ever again.

  48. I agree that the relationship we have with ourselves is the most important relationship to get ‘right’. i know when i value how i feel inside far more than anything going on outside, my inner harmony is ensured.

  49. Thank you Gly for a delight filled blog, I love these words, “I simply eat now to celebrate, appreciate, nourish and love my body, and me.” Now this is a great recipe for me to follow.

  50. Reading your blog today Gyl, along with many of the comments I sense how big an issue we let our image of self be in our lives. The simple fact that we have an image in our mind of how we think we need to be makes for such a deluded way of living. For the image doesn’t ever reflect the truth of our beauty, our body and our delicate yet strong connection with our hearts. My feeling is it is paramount that we all live again from the truth of who we are from within our bodies and not from any preconceived ideal that comes into our mind from outside of ourselves. This completely wipes out the power that any image we may have has held over us and allows instead our natural essence to be our foundation for life.

  51. Gyl, your appreciation of all that you are is inspiring. It is so easy to fall into the trap of looking for all that is not quite matching up to your mental picture of how you ‘think’ you should be rather than glory in all the beauty of all that you are.

  52. Life is so much easier and more fun when we stop the self-bashing and start appreciating ourselves and accepting all of our imperfections. Accepting each day as another opportunity to learn, that there’s nowhere to get to, no perfect version of ourselves that we need to be. There are always things to learn, patterns to let go of, but in the understanding that at our core, we are already more than enough.

  53. You are a living inspiration Gyl, it is tangible how you live. When we are not feeling that gorgeous, if we have felt that, we should all stop and question: what is going on? Because low self esteem and not feeling absolutely beautiful is not OUR normal.

  54. This has been such a gem and inspiration to read today Gyl. It’s allowed me to see and appreciate the massive changes I have also made in how I see myself and how I feel about myself. Just as simple as how I now apply my make up is worlds apart from how are used to…slap some foundation on to cover up all my imperfections. I sit at my dressing table thoroughly enjoying looking at myself in the mirror, picking out what colours to put on my eyes for the day, blush and lipstick. And doing it not to impress or look better but expressing how I’m feeling.

  55. Self-esteem and self-worth, two words that are probably mentioned a lot but, from my experience, that we have little or true understanding of or how we ‘have’ or ‘get’ self-esteem or self-worth. There must be tons of books out there on this and I feel magazines always sell (literally) that if we buy the lastest make-up or hair product or get this ‘seasons’ wardrobe that will well and truly fix our self-worth and self-esteem issues. Thankfully I am slowly coming to the understanding that self-esteem and self-worth have absolutely nothing to do with the outside or the lastest product but our relationship with ourselves, how much we care for ourselves, appreciate who we are and what we bring and how much do we truly love our bodies. Yes growing up I had a tirade of things about my body, my appearance etc etc and sometimes this can feel bigger than us becoming a perpetual underlying and often subconscious programme of negativity about ourselves running whilst we go about our day. I am still healing the remains of this, but it is awesome with the true support of Serge Benhayon, Natalie Benhayon and Universal Medicine less and less I look for confirmation of myself and who I am on the outside and more and more build the relationship with me from within. Loving the new Women In Livingness magazine that explores and puts self-worth as the heart of this issues theme, definietly worth a read http://www.wilmagazine.com

  56. This is a contrast to the majority of girls and women I know, what an awesome sharing of how it IS possible to make a change in our lives

  57. Your blog is so beautiful to re-read Gyl. “I can now stand in front of a mirror and claim that I am beautiful and damn sexy, whereas not too long ago I would avoid looking in mirrors as I would be quick to pick out all the faults that I thought I could see instead of seeing the true and beauty-full me.” Not many women I know could writes this, as there is always something to find fault with. Appreciation of ourselves is so key to dealing with a lack of self-worth.

  58. “The love I now feel for myself and for my body comes from within me. There’s a fullness, a celebration, a deep feeling from inside that simply, play-fully and joy-fully wants to emanate and radiate. It is the loveliest thing and it doesn’t stop with me.” This is the beauty when we connect to the true love within us it resonates through out our body.

  59. It is really time that we start to celebrate and appreciate us in every way shape and form instead of making ourselves less or to bash ourselves. For me this is the best anti-depressiv ever and I only can recommend to give it a go what you so beautiful did Gyl with your amazing blog.

  60. I can relate to the experience of placing many conditions on myself and my body to feel self worth or acceptance. No true sense of self worth though ever came from a diet, gym workout or from an ideal body weight. We try to gain what feels lost within by rearranging that which is outside of us, but for true fulfilment it has to be from the inside out. When connection to our essence and to self love is central to every choice life can become beautiful and joyful again.

  61. I am grateful that I am able to appreciate myself now, thinking back to how I looked at myself in my teens and early 20s is very sad, I was luck enough to begin to study with Universal Medicine at around 22 and from there I slowly begun to unlock all the self loathing and truly feel the amazing woman I am, defiantly grateful for the mazing people that have inspired mw in my life too Gyl.

  62. ‘I’ve tried so many things to feel lovely but they simply didn’t work as they came from something outside of me.’ I know so well that this doesn’t work, it is following because of a lack of love for yourself, following and hoping that it will work, all the time avoiding to go to that nagging feeling inside because you miss yourself. It is about giving ourselves permission to truly feel how lovely we are and not shy away from it but appreciate and celebrate how awesome we are.

  63. Reading your list of things to worry and calculate about daily life that you mention you used to have before Gyl reminded me of how much I used to try and control my life and manage things to make it look good or better – so exhausting and stressful! It is so much simpler and easier to just live me these days too – which in practical terms means to listen to and honour my body in every moment. Takes a lot of the hassle out of it for sure!

  64. A gorgeous sharing and a delight to read Gyl… life is so much simpler and more joy-full when we live from that inner joy we all know so well.

  65. There are a number of books on the shelves and courses run to promote confidence yet from my experience that which I have participated in has not worked to end up continuing the search but in truth I would be searching all my life if I was expecting the confidence and an increase in my self esteem to come from outside of myself. My confidence is developing naturally and is a by-product of the forever, deepening connection to myself.

  66. We walk in life not realizing the extent to which we choose to harm and to bring ourselves down by our own accord. Being able to clock the games we play with ourselves and to realize that we have a choice of not going there is indeed life changing.

  67. Hello Gyl and while I struggled understanding some of the wording you used what I could see was how much what you think has changed as a result of treating yourself differently and with more care. You show the link between the way you move or live and your thoughts. If you are having self destructive thoughts, make a change in the way you are and the thoughts will change to align to you. I can see that appreciation has a big part to play as well as we often are so critical of a part but don’t often appreciate the whole thing. There is always something that can be appreciated and so if you are needing to be critical of something or of yourself then do this with a balance of appreciation as well. Everything around us in nature has a balance and so why are we thinking we are not a part of nature? We are nature and nature is us and so any law or understanding nature is showing us then this is naturally in us as well, maybe just not appreciated. Thank you Gyl.

  68. I can so relate to trying different things to make me feel better. And every day, I feel confirmed that it is not about what I do that makes a difference, but how I am in what I do, my movement, and it needs to come with ‘me’ in true essence.

  69. Gyl your sharing is very affirming, and I can see that I have come a long way too in the appreciation of my body. To love and value my body without criticism, is so freeing and I can feel the joy and naturalness that comes with that, going back to when I was a little child with no worries! I find it helps to remind myself that we are all equal and one.

  70. The sad fact is, that how you talk about yourself Gyl, is felt by only a small number of women in the world. The vast majority of women are on a constant search to subscribe to an image, to look better, to be slimmer or look younger. The more women can confirm themselves and connect with the true quality of who they are in on the inside, these images and subscriptions will change as they are only there in the first place to fill the demand of women feeling lost and empty. Being full from inside out is the way to go, and you have explained that gorgeously Gyl.

  71. Thank you for exposing that true beauty comes not from what we can bring to ourselves from the outside but rather a deep appreciation and expression of what we already possess within. This is something that needs to be taught and nurtured within us all from young so we do not succumb to the pictures we are all fed of what beauty really is as we grow up.

  72. To deeply enjoy ourselves in our body and feel how lovely it is to move from a beautiful quality in our body is the way to go. A new way for much of us, a complete discovery again of who we truly are and can live.

  73. I wonder how many multi-national or global industries are based on ‘helping’ people change how they feel, through changing what we eat, how we look, what we do, how we sound, the clothes we wear etc etc. Yet, here in this blog is the very heart of the matter, the very key to true change – self-love – and it was within us all along. How different the world would be if we all learned this lesson from day one and were raised knowing the love we are rather than trying to perfect our external appearances and expressions. Awesome, life-changing, world changing blog Gyl Rae, thank you.

  74. I love those moments of realising how I have let go of something I thought I would never let go of. It shows how our thoughts are not always true and can be very misleading. It shows too that moments to stop and take stock, see where we are at and then appreciate are very important.

  75. As I reflect and ponder after reading Gyl’s blog it has made me realise that I wouldn’t want to change any part of my body… I couldn’t do it. So how then does that make me feel about my body? I treat my body with the utmost of love and care when I have grazed or marked it in some way, I eat foods to support it although there is some refinement needed here, I exercise gently, I am learning to observe instead of react towards another and catching myself when I feel the need to rush, push etc. The list can go on but I can feel there is room for more love for my body; a deep honouring and nurturing of the body in the way with which I move.

  76. We don’t track our thoughts like this or track our movements. You can pretty much go on day after day or even lifetimes with an internal dialogue that treats you extremely poorly. In fact if it was a person and they did what they did to you I think you could possibly have them charged for domestic violence. Be aware of some of the things we say to ourselves inside our own head or some of the things we have accepted as we have grown and now think of them as ‘normal’ in our lives. Who is this internal character and why are they so abusive and relentlessly against us? What if every move you make, the quality of how you move adds either to expand what you naturally are or feeds this internal menace? We’ve heard the saying, “you can only get out what you put in” and our body is no different. The quality we do everything in then is the point or the quality that feeds us back. So if the internal menace is loud and abusive the reflection for us would be this and is the quality we are putting into ourselves via our movements. As difficult as it may seem once we consistently make a change to the quality that we are in every moment then this quality allows us or makes us more aware of what is going on already within us. It’s like to have more care you will need to live and bring that care to yourself. Just from how we self critique alone should have alarm bells ringing for most of us.

  77. We have so many ideals and beliefs and images around our bodies, which the media greatly contributes to, and we ourselves can be so harsh and abusive with our own bodies, thus, it is a real game changer when we can say, I love my body the way it is….

  78. Gyl you are an absolute inspiration for all who meet you, the world needs to see women appreciating and celebrating themselves in this way as it confirms the beautiful and loving qualities we all have within.

  79. When I was young, slim, shapely and wrinkle free, I didn’t like or appreciate myself or my body. Now, at 57 years young, I appreciate myself so much more than I ever did… and it grows more and more as I come into myself gracefully and lovingly. My inner heart shines and brings all my beauty from the inside out.

  80. I feel the same way as you’ve described here Gyl, having now developed a relationship with my body that is loving and a joy to be with. Reading this blog points out that even celebrating this relationship isn’t something I have to do more or be better at, the celebration of this union is instantly there in my connection with my body.

  81. Gyl, you touch on a great point, what we see in the mirror is a physical reflection, the interpretation of that reflection comes from within, not just what we physically see.

  82. The outside of us additions, makeup, clothes, jewellery will always reflect the way we feel about ourselves. A great dress will look and feel amazing if it reflects the self-love a woman has for herself, or if it is reflecting an inner self-loathing, it may still be a great dress, but it won’t feel great to see.

  83. Gyl I enjoyed reading about how you honour your feeling when deciding what to where. Loving the whole of me instead of only bits has been a real journey, but it now feels great not to be compartmentalised and fragmented, and to pay attention to how I feel first rather than how I look.

  84. It’s beautiful to feel that feeling of acceptance of yourself as you describe Gyl. It’s something I cherish and although it’s not always present – I do have critical thoughts about myself sometimes – when I do feel it it is deeply touching and supports me to make choices that mean it stays with me.

  85. We live in a world where the focus is on the outer perfection and this has us doubting our own beauty all the time, as you describe, criticising and trying to improve ourselves constantly. It is a blessing to have the presentations and many workshops and events from Universal Medicine and Esoteric Women’s Health that show that there is another way and giving us many supportive tools and examples how this is possible to live.

  86. What you share Gyl is far from the norm, I welcome the day we all feel this level of love and acceptance, ‘The love I now feel for myself and for my body comes from within me. There’s a fullness, a celebration, a deep feeling from inside that simply, play-fully and joy-fully wants to emanate and radiate. It is the loveliest thing and it doesn’t stop with me.’

  87. I used to be a great avoider of the mirror as most of the time I didn’t like what I saw, a woman who was struggling under the challenges of life with their impact visible on my face, my body and the way I held myself. How things have changed; today I love the woman I see reflected to me in the mirror and if any day I don’t look my gorgeous self it offers me a stop moment to check in to see how I have been caring for myself in the days beforehand.

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