by Ben P, Australia
I found out about Universal Medicine (UniMed) about 4 or 5 years ago when I was still going through university. At the time I was living the typical student life of drinking most nights of the week, eating junk food and staying up till 3am with occasional cram sessions in there so that I wouldn’t fail my classes. I thought I was having fun and doing what we were supposed to do as students but I was never really happy. As soon as the alcohol wore off, or the thrill of whatever escapade we’d been up to had died down, I was left feeling miserable and lacking any direction.
When I looked around me, everyone I knew felt to be in the same situation. No one was really sure whether they actually wanted to do what they were studying for and so we were all constantly looking for any reason we could to escape back into our drunken stupor. It was the only place we didn’t feel that life was a burden, being dragged around by all of these conflicting expectations and pressures – conditions that were coming from ourselves and our families back home.
In my 4th year at uni I was lucky enough to have a session with Kate Greenaway because my mum was taking part in her study on the effects of craniosacral therapy. Going into the session I had no idea what to expect. I’d only ever thought that deep tissue massages or painful treatments would bring any results, but with the gentle movements and realignment she took me through I walked out of their feeling lighter and better than I could ever remember feeling. After feeling that for myself, I wanted to find out as much as I could. I was almost going to drop my studies so I could take up physiotherapy because of the change I felt from that one session.
Soon afterwards I went to my first Universal Medicine course. I was full of anxiety and hesitation about going along to this course that I had no experience or any background in, it was like preparing to head off to another planet for me. My experiences as a child of sitting in a church room with a dull seminar dragging on around me did not make it easy for me to go, but there was a call inside me from my earlier session that I had to follow and see where it would take me. The first time I met Serge Benhayon, he really didn’t make any kind of impression on me – we both said “hello” and then stood silently together for a little while before he was called away. He seemed nice, but pretty much just like anyone else.
I still had some doubts as he started presenting but then he had us do some simple exercises. The ones I remember most were massaging someone’s shoulder in a clockwise and then anti-clockwise direction, breathing gently and being with them. I felt immediately such a clear difference between each of these. Serge hadn’t told us what to expect or what to look for, he just said try these movements and see for yourself what it feels like. After that, I thought to myself, how could something so simple have made such a huge difference like that?
I’d never really thought that there was anything in life apart from the daily slog of work with the brief relief of drunken weekends, so those exercises opened my eyes up to the fact that there was something more in life. I saw that, with a focus towards conscious presence and gentle breathing, the whole world seemed to change around me. I could feel amazing without the drinking, without the escapes, just by being dedicated towards looking after myself.
After attending two courses that year I went overseas to complete my studies. A year away was an opportunity for me to go crazy, partying even harder and pushing myself to the limit, however, from those few experiences I’d had with UniMed, I had decided that I wanted to be responsible for my own well-being. The simple act of being present with myself, feeling how my actions affected me, and being dedicated to myself was what supported me to live in whichever new culture I was immersed in that week. I was moving around a lot, but this was something I could take with me everywhere I went.
By the fact that I was caring for and felt connected to myself, I felt I was open to connecting with everyone and anyone, regardless of their culture, age or background, equally. Being from a small country town, I’d never really had much interaction with people from diverse backgrounds.
In my year abroad, I had little contact with anyone or anything from Universal Medicine. It was only from the principles that I had picked up in my brief exposure to it the previous year as well as my own choices that had supported me throughout the year. Before coming to Universal Medicine, no-one had ever truly told me it was okay to love yourself, or that honouring yourself is the most natural way we can be. I didn’t realise it could be any other way than the hectic way the world seemed to impose on me, where I’d be constantly exhausting myself just getting through the day.
I’m grateful to Serge for loving us enough that he was willing to put himself under the spotlight and share this with us, even when it may be controversial or make him enemies for saying it.
In the end though, it isn’t Serge or even Universal Medicine that keep me coming back. It is my dedication and commitment to loving others and myself as best as I can.
Both Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have always been there to offer me the space and support as I go through the process of re-learning this and they offer such a full and complete support and loving way in everything they do.
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
This statement is so true, “no-one had ever truly told me it was okay to love yourself, or that honouring yourself the most natural way we can be”. We grow up that caring for ourselves is either selfish or not even in our radar because the people we turn to haven’t been given this gold either. So the cycle continues and humanity becomes more burnt out.
Serge Benhayon presents the absolute truth that is within us all, it is that simple. And for some, it is too hard to fathom so it is challenging for them. I would probably have been in this situation years ago. But deep down inside something would have resonated and I know it was that very thing that was missing in my life.
Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine certainly “offer the space and support” and allows you to grow in your own time, space and everything.
I so appreciate what you have shared here
“I still had some doubts as he started presenting but then he had us do some simple exercises. The ones I remember most were massaging someone’s shoulder in a clockwise and then anti-clockwise direction, breathing gently and being with them. I felt immediately such a clear difference between each of these. Serge hadn’t told us what to expect or what to look for, he just said try these movements and see for yourself what it feels like. After that, I thought to myself, how could something so simple have made such a huge difference like that?”
This is what I find so fascinating it’s giving ourselves permission to be a natural scientist again, it’s almost as though we have given our power away to the scientists because we compare the level of education they have to what we have and feel less. But they are guided by what they say based on how they see life via their experiments, and the peer pressure they feel to get things right, or are paid to make something look as though it is true when actually it is false information. There are so many examples of this it’s getting quite ridiculous. To me these simple exercises show us that our bodies do not lie, but the mind does.
I agree Mary such simple exercises bring us back to our bodies. There is nothing fancy, gruelling or magical, just keeping it simple is all it takes to come back to yourself.
It’s always so deeply touching to read this. To me it highlights the simplicity of Serge Benhayon’s work, that you could travel overseas and continue loving and caring for yourself and find a new way to be in life – without any need to constantly attend workshops or sessions. Seeing any person blossom from their own care and love is very beautiful.
What Serge Benhayon presents is simple yet because it is so simple it seems too simple to be true, yet it is.
What a difference it makes when we start to care for and connect with ourselves as you found out, ‘By the fact that I was caring for and felt connected to myself, I felt I was open to connecting with everyone and anyone, regardless of their culture, age or background, equally.’
“In the end though, it isn’t Serge or even Universal Medicine that keep me coming back. It is my dedication and commitment to loving others and myself as best as I can”. This is spot on. Once you know what life can be like when you care for yourself and listen to your body, there was no going back and it keeps you wanting be and love more love.
Yes, spot on and that is what makes Serge Benhayon and what he presents so profound and enduring as one is just presented with something and then it is up to the individual to with as he/she wishes.
When we realise those ‘typical’ lifestyles we immerse ourselves in are not normal and actually harmful, it feels like the life’s greatest secret has been revealed, but the thing is we have known it for ever, and that re-connection with truth is only just the beginning of our ignition into the path of return.
Student life versus student of life. Two options.
So many things students of a university do seem normal to do at that time, but are they really? In a conversation with a close relative about the amount of alcohol consumed during your studies we both concluded that both of us simply couldn’t cope with it. Our bodies just didn’t like it and communicated so loud and clear NO, that we listened. And the great this is that both she and her partner started questioning other things about uni as well, as the extreme hours that medical students have to make to become a surgeon and how you are looked down upon as a new student. Why do we ever consider these things to be normal?
How fortunate were you that you changed university life. For some students that go on into their careers continue their late nights and alcohol benders and wonder what’s missing in their life. The simplicity of it all is to make some loving choices that support ourselves and it doesn’t matter where we are in our lives, whether studying or working, it is the best support we can give to ourselves and for ourselves.
Love what you have shared here Ben, taking responsibility and giving ourselves permission to love ourselves, and as we do we quickly realise what supports us and what doesn’t, and we begin to make small changes in our life, and we are amazed how differently we feel.
So often when we are feeling overwhelmed we have a drink or two to drown our sorrows, but what I found was that the next day I felt even worse because not only was the overwhelm still there unabated but now I had a groggy body to deal with, so I had actually made the situation worse not better. As there is a very limited relief or respite when we drink alcohol to cope with life, is this why we become heavy drinkers to drown out the feelings we cannot cope with?
Yes, and this applies to life as such, we are very used to medicating ourselves with alcohol, food, entertainment and the likes, but as you say it does not take that away that we do not want to feel or do not know how to cope with, so we are exhausting our bodies even more.
What you have shared here Ben is such a testament to the power of the modalities of Universal Medicine.
“I was almost going to drop my studies so I could take up physiotherapy because of the change I felt from that one session.”
What an indictment of our society that anyone would not know that it is okay to love themselves, and yet very few people do know that not only is it ok to love themselves, but that at essence they and everyone else is pure love.
This blog reminded me of just how ridiculous my University experience was in regards to doing anything to not feel the pressures I had put on myself to get good grades. This included drugs and alcohol in copious amounts. But what amazes me now is just how much I had bought into the ideal that this is normal behaviour and just because I didn’t even feel connected to what I was studying and was unsure of working in that field, that was not enough to snap me out of continuing down that self-destructive path to not deal with this now obvious fact. What I have learned from Universal Medicine now makes this all very clear and simply listening to one’s body as taught by UniMed would have saved me and thousands of others a lot of pain and suffering through the party lifestyle at Uni.
The concept of what does it mean to have fun at our own expense, says much about us all.
It will be so wonderful when self love and care are held as just as important as getting good grades. Having one void of the other is what is making our world so intense and out of kilter.
Yes, because by leaving self-love and self-care out of the equation we start to leave ourselves out and this is the end of a loving world and brings more and more tension and problems.
In society is very common to associate alcohol with fun. What I’ve come to understand by my experience when I was a uni student too, is that alcohol was in fact the devastating tool I used to numb myself and keep hidden the isolation, loneliness and disconnection I was truly feeling beneath those apparently ‘fun moments’. After some situations in which I got drunk and really frightened by the effects of alcohol in my body, I realised that fun was another very different thing as self-destruction is not fun at all. It was easy for me to let go alcohol, however it has taken me some time to embrace myself again in the love I knew it is within me. I deeply appreciate every Universal Medicine workshop and treatments received that have supported to me to re-connect again with the love within and re-discover true fun.
‘As soon as the alcohol wore off, or the thrill of whatever escapade we’d been up to had died down, I was left feeling miserable and lacking any direction’. All emotional highs of life regardless of what particular consciousness drives them are always brought back to balance with the lows.
We keep coming back to love when we appreciate how love feels in our body. Thank you for this reminder Ben.
True inspiration leaves a lasting impression. Amazing Ben that you have then decided to make changes for yourself and feel the benefits…
What a turnaround Ben… yet, so natural and simple once we are reminded and observe someone living it. “I didn’t realise it could be any other way than the hectic way the world seemed to impose on me, where I’d be constantly exhausting myself just getting through the day.” I also didn’t think life could be any other way because racing around, doing a hundred things at once is actually encouraged and looked at as being super efficient in society.
I have been spending some time with university students lately and although some don’t appear to be leading a life of drinking and partying, what I am observing is how tamed they are in a way that they wait for others (parents, teachers) to deliver and line things up right in front of them so that they can open their mouth and they may even need to be told how to move their jaws to chew or have them moved by someone else – they appear to be totally passive, complacent, and apathetic even. Clearly a consequence of generations of parenting and educating with no true love and purpose. I can totally understand how amazing and supportive it must have been for you to encounter Universal Medicine as a university student.
Sometimes we become so accustomed to things needing to be a certain way – big, impressive, emotional etc. that when presented with the simple truth, it almost registers as a disappointment to that part of us that thrives off all the complexity and drama we can create for ourselves. It is so very humbling to feel the simplicity with which true love speaks, asking nothing of us in return.
There is awareness here that where love is concerned it starts with self and from there we connect to a new foundation. What you say here Ben, about your own commitment and dedication to loving yourself is very important.
This is what it is all about for me. So often we look at the world and want it to change or talk about what needs to change in a way that speaks about it changing and nothing for yourselves and yet, “I saw that, with a focus towards conscious presence and gentle breathing, the whole world seemed to change around me.” In other words, we make a change and that changes the world. It’s not the other way around.
It does seem crazy that the world of academia, eg at universities condones, encourages and accepts as completely normal the highly abusive and destructive lifestyle that students follow – so that for students it gets harder to connect to the body, to feel what is actually true, so that it is easy to lose confidence in ourselves and what we innately know – so instead choose to align to the mental constructs that we are fed, on how we are to succeed in a society and we then choose to play that game, sometimes for the rest of our lives, but deep down hold the misery of the emptiness from being lost to ourselves and the truth of who we are.
What you share here is enormous in the way that you were able to experience the Healing Modalities of Universal Medicine and were willing to take the steps for yourself that were needed.
Great sharing Ben of such a life-changing simple message; It’s Ok to take care of and love ourselves. I was brought up to believe that this was vain and selfish and found this way of being to be of great detriment to my health and well-being as for many years I was very depressed, withdrawn and needy of love from others. After realising the difference it makes to my life to care, nurture and love myself, thanks to the teachings Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I have found that what I was brought up to believe to be a crime against humanity for if we cannot take care of and love ourselves what good are we to another and to society at large. I know and can feel the profound difference in myself that self-love brings.
Thanks Ben your blog describes where our true intelligences lies and that it is not something that comes from outside of us but from a connection to our bodies and respecting what they are communicating with us.
Universal Medicine offers a way through life that supports a connection to who you really are (as opposed to the constructed version we think we need to be), the ability to feel what is true for you and to honour it, an understanding of life, people, yourself and interactions that allows us to observe life rather than getting constantly caught up in it and swept along by a current that is not necessarily of our making or preference.
To be able to apply this throughout any part of life is profound in my experience and observation, and to support getting through University without being a complete wreck at the end is quite something.
The day to day lifestyle of the average Uni student you described Ben was exactly how I was at Uni. It reminds me how on the edge we lived, numbing ourselves with drama and alcohol and just getting the passes we needed to get through – which in turn merely set us up in a survival mode that wrapt itself like a choking vine on all aspects of our life. But what is worse it is a survival mode that we can also carry on into the workforce and continue there, just doing enough but not letting ourselves truly step up and shine. What is the quality that this accepted uni mentality really preparing us for?
“No one was really sure whether they actually wanted to do what they were studying for” – That sums up my university experience. I found university was used as a delay before having to deal with what being an adult in the world meant. You could have a bit of both with university – still be a kid and when you chose to you could be an adult. It definitely does not need to be this way and university is a beautiful offering.
What Serge Benhayon presents we all already know – it’s just whether or not we want to connect to what we know or play dumb to what we feel is truly going on. Serge dares to speak the truth in a world that masks it at all costs.
Yes Rachael, we all already know everything, we can either resist or again walk the truth of who we are. I thank God, the Universe that Serge Benhayon never holds back and always says what is needed.
Thank you Ben, University students would benefit from reading your blog, and how gorgeous that, ‘I saw that, with a focus towards conscious presence and gentle breathing, the whole world seemed to change around me. I could feel amazing without the drinking, without the escapes, just by being dedicated towards looking after myself.’
This is beautiful Ben and I totally agree with every word you share ‘Both Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have always been there to offer me the space and support as I go through the process of re-learning this and they offer such a full and complete support and loving way in everything they do.’
Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine present the teachings of The Way of The Livingness, teachings that are universal to all whatever subject may be studied in a university course.
It is interesting how something we buy as having fun is in truth hurting ourselves. Hurting ourselves is fun??????
Ben P I just love the honesty and truth of what you have shared. Great blog.
We are suppose to learn from our parents how to love and honour ourself. I didn’t and there is not many in truth do.
What a breath of fresh air. Students do have a certain reputation that has been hard won through a dedication to partying hard so to hear such words of wisdom and responsibility is really breaking the mould. I see it like a domino pattern – now Ben has knocked over his domino ie. exposed the partying and irresponsibility for what it is, the others will also fall eventually from the arrogance of believing it is every student’s right to behave irresponsibly.
“Before coming to Universal Medicine, no-one had ever truly told me it was okay to love yourself, or that honouring yourself is the most natural way we can be. ” These are basic truths that we are not taught how to nurture and bring loving care to our bodies. A beautiful sharing Ben of the loving choices you have made in your life to live with responsibility and commitment along with the loving support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
What a great blog Ben, it is very odd that Serge Benhayon is criticised for encouraging people to love themselves, to care and be tender with themselves. Really, it shows how far away from ourselves we have gone that self care pushes buttons in the way it has. The point is, your experience, my experience, these cannot be taken away from us. There is magic in what he presents, the most logical, simple and straightforward kind that has the potential to change the trajectory for some of the most difficult non-communicable diseases. You found yourself changing your way of living once you connected to valuing yourself, you chose to step away from some of the behaviours that contribute to many lifestyle illnesses. This is something that should be shouted from the rooftops!
There is nothing more delightful than experiencing something that breaks you out of a paradigm you didn’t even know you were in and to have your eyes opened to there being another way to live… and it being extraordinary….. An absolute blessing for which I too am deeply grateful to Universal Medicine for.
It just goes to show it is the realness of experiencing connection and truly being met by Serge Benhayon and other Universal Medicine Practitioners confirms for us that all that were searching for out there in the world we innately know exists within our bodies as our bodies remember everything our soul patiently waits for us to return.
Beautiful wisdom here Ben. It really is ok to love ourselves and even more so, it is vital to do so if we are to reconnect with the life we are born to lead. I wonder how many other young people are ‘doing what they are supposed to..’ rather than what they truly feel is loving, supportive and nurturing for themselves. It was certainly true of me, looking outside to meet the expectations of the world. As you share here, coming back to our innermost wisdom is what really works.
Ben I love how you write… ‘In the end though, it isn’t Serge or even Universal Medicine that keep me coming back. It is my dedication and commitment to loving others and myself as best as I can.’ It’s so true, that it’s our choices that make the difference, no one else can do it for us.
Thank you Ben for a simply powerful blog, connective tissue is an amazing modality in bringing us back to feeling the love we naturally hold in our bodies, Love this line Ben. ” Before coming to Universal Medicine, no-one had ever truly told me it was okay to love yourself, or that honouring yourself is the most natural way we can be. ” I can attest to the same happening in my life.
“I’m grateful to Serge for loving us enough that he was willing to put himself under the spotlight and share this with us, even when it may be controversial or make him enemies for saying it.”
Yes, this needs to be appreciated as it is one of the main things that holds people back doing the same, openly sharing about what they feel and not hold back to discuss this.
Thanks Ben, this is great to read, how you could get so much out of these brief encounters with Universal Medicine. This really shows how empowering the tools are that they offer and yes they never leave you. They are available to you anywhere in the world, even if you forgot about them, once you remember and you choose to use them they are gold in your own hands.
This sharing is so profound, Ben, and so true. I love this . . . . . “Before coming to Universal Medicine, no-one had ever truly told me it was okay to love yourself, or that honouring yourself is the most natural way we can be.” This is a simple and yet life changing revelation! I can vouch for that myself.
How crazy is this – we create a way of living that cannot truly support us, for it is void of true love and true care, and then we create the ‘remedy’ for this loveless way of living which is to obliterate ourselves into numbness so that we can’t feel that lack of love we are choosing to live in the first place! Serge Benhayon has been instrumental in my life also simply for reflecting by his simple lived way that there is another way to be that is true to who we are and not to what we are not. Thank you for sharing your experience Ben, it makes perfect sense.
Hi Ben, one of my favourite blogs, it’s simple and captures the essence of what Universal Medicine truly offers people. Today you have really highlighted to me how self care is the foundation for staying connected to me and how beautiful life feels when I lovingly take care of myself.
“I had decided that I wanted to be responsible for my own well-being”. Bam, It’s all there, in this one sentence. This is the inspiration that comes from the smallest of contacts with Universal Medicine and its practitioners. And then from there, it is entirely up to you how responsible you want to be. And Serge Benhayon and his family keep presenting the truth of this and show practical and simple ways to live responsibly and are also stunning examples of the joy that can come from that (which smashes the picture of responsibility being a drag and a burden). But it is entirely up to the student how they choose to live that (if at all). And that is why there is no magic cure nor pill for life because it is up to us.
From that ‘daily slog of work with the brief relief of drunken weekends’ to now knowing that ‘honouring yourself is the most natural way we can be’ is a massive turnaround and goes to show just how much we know truth from the illusion of conformity. A really inspiring story.
The stereo type lifestyle of a uni student and the doubt of is this really what I want to do can bleed out into your adulthood and work profession. Hence the partying continues throughout your 20’s and as you get older you find yourself having a few quiet drinks at home. Work then becomes an inconvenience in your life and something you have to do in between annual leave and public holidays. If we were given the opportunity at school to feel and connect to our bodies our choices in life would be a lot clearer. We would have a lot less people checked out at work and less sick days which costs businesses/companies thousands of dollars each year.
‘it isn’t Serge or even Universal Medicine that keep me coming back. It is my dedication and commitment to loving others and myself as best as I can’. Great line Ben, I feel the same way. The things that Serge and Universal Medicine present, allows me to apply them to my own life which has expanded my self love, allowed me to trust again and my self confidence has grown enormously. These personal growths have given me the opportunity to look further than myself and start seeing people for who they truly are and to be more aware of what is happening with humanity in regards to illness and disease.
I love reading stories such as yours Ben, people being inspired by Serge Benhayon to make true and lasting changes in their lives.
Beautifully said Ben. I too remember my first experience of a presentation by Serge Benhayon and being amazed by “how could something so simple have made such a huge difference like that?” Like you, it changed my life as I have attended many presentations and workshops and discovered a different way of living that honours me and everyone and everything around me.
Ben what a beautiful tender honest simple sharing you have offered us. I was really moved by reading it this morning. Particularly this line – ” I had decided that I wanted to be responsible for my own well-being.”. There was such power and claiming of you in that line. You looked at the way you were living your life and decided to be responsible for you within it. This blog is a great testament to the simplicity of how Universal Medicine presents and how it can be so easy to over-write it because it is so simple yet so incredibly profound if you choose to embrace it and live it – in your own way.
There are simple tool I use from Universal medicine often too.
I use the gentle breath meditation whenever I feel rushed or out of sorts.
http://www.unimedliving.com/meditation/free/free-gentle-breath-meditations-an-introduction.html
‘Both Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have always been there to offer me the space and support as I go through the process of re-learning’. I feel exactly the same way Ben. I also love the student body and the support and friendships they provide.
“I’m grateful to Serge for loving us enough that he was willing to put himself under the spotlight and share this with us, even when it may be controversial or make him enemies for saying it.” I agree with this in full without the presentations and workshop presented by Serge Benhayon I would not have known as much about caring for and loving myself at university. Which is the antidote to the unhealthy student lifestyle you described in the beginning of your blog.
Such a beautiful blog Ben. I love how you shared that from only a few experiences with Universal Medicine you were able to choose to care for yourself even in a year abroad. It proves it is not something you get at the courses but really something you have to live and choose for yourself. This is absolutely also my experience.
‘Before coming to Universal Medicine, no-one had ever truly told me it was okay to love yourself, or that honouring yourself is the most natural way we can be.’ It is not only that nobody tells us we are literally trained not to do it it is put as something very unimportant, we are constantly told that everything else matters more than our selves. So it is a blessing to have an organisation like Universal Medicine that brings self-love and self-care back to our lives.
“It isn’t Serge or even Universal Medicine that keep me coming back. It is my dedication and commitment to loving others and myself as best as I can” – I can relate to this very much. I used to think getting drunk and being silly was fun; then moved onto being more healthy and spiritually conscious and thought I had it all sorted – so, to realise that I was still using something outside to define myself and I was in fact as wobbly as ever before and with far more arrogance was huge.
With all the different modalities that I have looked at or been a part of, no-one ever spoke about energy or the importance of connecting to and caring for the body, I always suspected something like that was the case, but it wasn’t until Serge Benhayon put it all together, making perfect sense, that I knew I had at long last found truth and the true meaning of love. 6 years later, it is still all up to me..
Beautifully said Ben, I couldn’t agree more, it has only always ever been me who makes the choice to treat myself with true care or not, and the appreciation of this is one that holds for me the greatest worth.
Ben I agree that Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine are always there offering support and a true way forward for us all.
I experienced a very similar university/college life. The party hard, study hard, stress realieved with some crazy adventure lifestyle that study life is full of. If this was supposed to prepare us for a sensible, secure life and job then it seems like an odd way to go about it.
It was cool to read how such a few interactions with Universal Medicine had such an impact that then traveled with you wherever you went. Because really, like you say Ben it’s not whats in Universal Medicine or Serge Benhayon that has such an affect or power over/in our lives but actually our own choices and that we can and do make choices wherever we are.
Yea agreed, if Serge didn’t put himself in the spot light a lot of lives would be different- and not for the better. Thank you for sharing Ben.. I hear a lot of stories about Uni and it does seem like what you have described.. feeling pressured, burdened and unsure. That’s kinda what puts me off about studying- it seems as though they find the most complicated way to do things and it just burns people out. Its great to have support and a knowing of yourself to support yourself as well.
Serge Benhayon has offered us all a far more responsible and self caring way to live, thanks Ben for highlighting this in your article
I love your blog Ben, very honest, inspiring and true. I particularly love the part where you said it was the commitment to loving others and yourself that kept inspiring you to attend more of what Universal Medicine offers. This is so true, I can relate to this so wellas the ssame applies to me too.
Yea I agree Chan, It was a very honest blog and a great one to read
Upon rereading this blog, I am fully reminded that life is about deepening our love for self and all others equally so.
Ben, that was a beautiful blog, so bridging for anyone to read. I could feel the beauty you have found in discovering self-care, and how the truth you have always known is now being lived. Great blog Ben.
Ben I actually find it quite remarkable that someone in the middle of Uni and partying would be able to step out of that lifestyle and into one of self love and self responsibility. I don’t think that I would have been able to do the same. It does however demonstrate the pull of the truth and what we know deep down in our bodies. It’s also testament to where you were already at when you went for your first session.
I love this blog Ben, I love the way you felt the healing and connection offered by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine in a couple of experiences and then made it our own, traveling alone and continuing to love and care for yourself because you honoured what felt true for you.
‘By the fact that I was caring for and felt connected to myself, I felt I was open to connecting with everyone and anyone, regardless of their culture, age or background, equally’ now this is TRUE education. Thank you Ben for your inspirational blog.
Thankyou for sharing so honestly Ben. Your sense of ‘feeling miserable and lacking any direction’ is something I would hazard a guess is felt by many in the hussle and bussle and empty way that we live today. I have to also agree that I too was surprised that ‘I could feel amazing without the drinking, without the escapes, just by being dedicated towards looking after myself’ (still work in progress on the last one). Universal Medicines presentations and modalities shows that there is another way to be and live. I for one am eternally grateful that I found Universal Medicine and the wealth of truth it has brought to my life.
This is a great sharing of your introduction to Serge Benhayon. I am grateful to Serge Benhayon for always saying what needs to be said.
Thank you Ben, I agree all we have to do is choose love; no one can do that for us!
Well said Ben. I work in a University and your account of your student days is an accurate description of what I see in many students around me. Your dedication & commitment to loving yourself and others now is awesome.
Thanks Ben for reminding me that it is in the commitment to being love that keeps us returning to the truth we know deep within.
I enjoyed reading your well writtten article Ben. Taking responsibility for your choices and your “..dedication and commitment to loving others and myself that keep me coming back as best I can”, is an inspiration to others. You provide a beautiful reflection to your fellow students.
Thanks Ben! What I really like about your blog is that it reminds us that enlarging our world has nothing to do with getting to know new places in the world, but feeling energy.
My feeling with what you share Ben, in that you’re a natural healer just dying to get back to what you love the most.
I love what you present, that there is another way. Another way to be and connect with ourselves and others, another way to live our lives. Truly a wise Uni student.
Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine’s simple tools to take into our life if we choose to, alongside their unwavering dedication to loving and supporting others, has inspired many to also commit to loving ourselves and others as best as we can. The affect of this in our life and relationships has been profound and is deeply appreciated as you so beautifully captured. Thank you for sharing this, it was just gorgeous to read.
Just knowing that we are worth self-loving makes a huge difference in what we choose for ourselves in life. This is so simple, yet as you say, we are not being taught, not even at Universities.
Such a beautiful and clear example of what is presented very simply through Universal Medicine. Through ‘caring and connecting to ourselves’ we open ourselves up to make much more loving choices for ourselves.
Stories like yours, Ben, leave me in a state of joy and confirm, how Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine don’t bind or capture. They offer a perspective and one is totally free, what to do with it. There is no judgement, if I choose this or that angle. And this freedom invites me to stay committed to the work with Universal Medicine.
Beautifully said felixschumacher8, “Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine don’t bind or capture. They offer a perspective and one is totally free with what to do with it.”
Me too, l love the transparency, openness, truth and love. Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is all about presenting absolute truth. What you choose, as in to take it in or not, is entirely individual, never imposed or forced upon anyone. I love that it is always about unity and equality.
Ben, I could feel your connection in every word you wrote – wunderbar. Your sentences: “In the end though, it isn’t Serge or even Universal Medicine that keep me coming back. It is my dedication and commitment to loving others and myself as best as I can.” is very spot on for me as well. My feeling is we can write and talk about it but the best thing is that people see for themselves what we mean.
I love this – “By the fact that I was caring for and felt connected to myself, I felt I was open to connecting with everyone and anyone..equally.” This is my experience too – that looking after myself helps me to be more open with others and more caring to them as well.
Me too fiona55, “looking after myself helps me to be more open with others and more caring to them as well”. Conversely when I dis-regard and do not look after myself, I can be grumpy, ill tempered, sharp and undermining of others around me, especially those closest to me, the list is seemingly endless – it is horrible when I catch myself having an argument with or putting someone down, yet I can always relate it back to unloving choices I have made which have not been caring for myself.
An inspiring blog, which highlights the benefits of taking responsibility for our own wellbeing. Thank you Ben for your expression.
Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine offer me markers of what I have come to accept as my potential. No where else do I have these markers or reflections and therefore I am constantly inspired to discover more about myself and what is truly possible.
It is the realness of what can be experienced with Universal Medicine that reveals to us something we already know but need to be reminded of. That way it comes back to life in us and it becomes our own truth and not just something someone else claims and we are left to believe or not. And when we apply it in daily life we put it to the test, and everything true, of course, will be confirmed naturally.
Well said Alex, to feel naturally confirmed by truth make perfect sense. Otherwise we can get caught up in the layers of falsities that delude us but are never truly confirming. To live in joy and harmony is confirmation every day!
Thank you Ben for sharing your story with us. Your realisation was so simple yet so profound: that choosing to be loving to yourself and others has changed your life.
A gorgeous and confirming blog Ben. It was so lovely to feel how open you were to the opportunities and how the whole process felt really simple. Like you I also was aware that what Universal Medicine was offering me was unlike anything else I had encountered – “no-one had ever truly told me it was okay to love yourself, or that honouring yourself is the most natural way we can be”.
Another beautiful demonstration of what is possible when we farewell the disregard of the body and the neglect of our true inner being and take that with us everywhere we go. After all, we are wherever our body is, so it makes perfect sense.
So true Gabriele. Farewell to the disregard and neglect and welcome to true connection and self care.
This is a great blog, thank you Ben. I am only just beginning to study at university and can already feel the sense of purpose that I am bringing to it, for a while I felt why on earth would I want to be a part of the seeming highly stressful culture that I have always observed it to be. But by bringing my simple gentle breath and my deepening love of myself and of others, I am now really beginning to appreciate that there is a totally other way to be with me, with others and be with university – embracing my own way of living with it all.
Yeah Ben, me too!
As in, I too keep choosing to come back for myself and humanity.
Serge Benhayon alongside Universal Medicine practitioners and students provide an amazing reflection that I can always be inspired by because of their eternal committment to Love and evolution. They (We) will never sit back and say ‘this is it, this is as loving as we can get!’
So, for this reason I can always continue to grow and evolve along side these amazing people! You and I included!
What an Amazing blessing to be a part of.
I loved reading your article Ben, it feels very simple and humble. I can really relate to what you have written here, ‘Before coming to Universal Medicine, no-one had ever truly told me it was okay to love yourself, or that honouring yourself is the most natural way we can be’, it feels like this is the first thing we should learn, the most basic and important way of being in life, but it seems like it is not something that is ever really mentioned.
Thank you for sharing this Ben. It goes to show that deep down we know truth and once this is felt it can never be forgotten no matter how hard we try. Your commitment to allowing yourself to see and express truth is inspiring. Thanks for sharing,
Thank you Ben for your beautiful blog. I too am so deeply grateful for Serge Benhayon presenting another way of being though the way he lives. To be aware that there is another possibility to life is truly inspiring and to feel the immense love that we are is Heavenly and YES very natural.
This blog is simply profound and would be of great benefit to any University student.
I love what you say that before coming to Universal Medicine no one had truly told you it was okay to love yourself and that honouring yourself was the most natural thing to do. That is huge and I agree Ben. Imagine if were raised with this simple way of living at the core of our foundation.
Serge Benhayon really does present simple stuff that can make a life changing difference and he never stops sharing his wisdom. I keep learning and my awareness grows by the day and there is no longer a pressure and tension of living in my daily life.
This new way of living as presented by Serge Benhayon is real and feels very natural.
I had an identical experience of University… a lack of any real commitment to what I was studying, partying hard to fill the hole in how I felt about myself and my life. Its such a common theme, and a wasted opportunity…
Its great to hear you got support, and interesting that even with such a light touch (a session and a workshop) you carried the esoteric principles you learned from Universal Medicine with you when you were very much ‘out in the world’ on your travels.
It is amazing to feel how simple it can be.
I can personally relate to this.
Not that I have been through the exact experience you had with University, but more just feeling how the drinking/partying lifestyle does not work.
And that nothing can compare to the amazingness you feel when you allow yourself to connect to you.
I really enjoyed reading your blog Ben and to read how you quickly accepted that there was a different way to look after yourself.
Your description of your university years seems pretty typical in how we view student life to be and just accept that’s how it is. Your sharing shows us that there is one extreme to another and that the expected way does not necessarily have to be followed; that there are other choices that can be made.
Imagine the outcome in our society and work force if the typical University student life was not as Ben initially experienced, and students were offered the support that he had.
Ben, It is really incredible to see the shift you made toward yourself from just one session…and then one lecture.
Its as if you were just waiting for someone to stand out and say “its OK to be yourself, to take care of yourself and to make loving yourself and other people a priority”.
..what a relief to hear the truth and see it lived when we are used to a world which surrounds, influences and coerces us to do things at the expense and in denial of who we are!
Universal Medicine presents much needed role models indeed!
I actually feel a bit like I was just waiting for someone to show me it’s ok to not go with the normal self destruct behaviour that is so rife in our society. It’s like we already know how to best take care of ourselves, but we’re just stuck in a cycle of not choosing that. When you actually see others making different choices (not just talking about it) and the difference in them, it is genuinely inspiring.
Laura this is so true. Giving ourselves permission to make a different choice is sometimes all it takes.
Absolutely Laura, I felt the same way. Giving ourselves permission to feel our truth.
Ben, thank you for a great article about the different way you approach life since the inspiration of Universal Medicine and I loved this line “It is my dedication and commitment to loving others and myself as best as I can.”
Beautifully written. A great point was made when you said “I’m grateful to Serge for loving us enough that he was willing to put himself under the spotlight and share this with us, even when it may be controversial or make him enemies for saying it.” There are many people that feel what is going on in the world, that are aware of the atrocities of leaving ourselves and the effects this has on others around us, yet very few who are willing to stick their neck out and do something about it. Serge Benhayon is incredible for doing this, at a time when many would pack their bags, Serge stands firmly committed to delivering truth and love always, despite the accusations against him.
Ben this is a great blog. I did my first Universal Medicine course just before I went to uni, and I found university so hard – while there I did make some fundamental decisions, such as not drinking alcohol, but I really struggled with what I felt was true fitting into what was really happening around me – basically I did not want to be there. I know that if I do ever go back and study it will be with so much more care and understanding and with a true purpose. You are right there is a totally different way to do it.
I also became a Universal Medicine student whilst studying at university. I was a typical student, partying hard, going to the all-famous toga parties. In my first year I came across UniMed and all its practitioners. I attended courses and workshops presented by UniMed and it just felt right.
I used to look at the world through my beer goggles. Now what I have personally learnt and chosen through reconnecting to my feelings, has changed my life. I changed the way I studied and the goal of my studies. I was so outcome driven that my focus was only on getting good grades. Why? To make my parents happy, especially my Dad. I realised that I was at university to please my dad, and that I wasn’t even studying what I enjoyed, I was studying for the sake of studying, and to figure out what I wanted in life. It was awesome to realise this, it gave me freedom of choice, to actually choose to study and what to study. So I changed degrees and never looked back.
I had chosen my degree as something I wanted to do and that could be of service to human kind, not as something that defined me.
I learnt a new way to study where I didn’t burn out, where I didn’t need coffee, red bull and V to keep me awake, or chocolates to reward myself for completing an assignment. University was no longer a chore, studying was enjoyable, and all my friends noticed! At exam time, fellow students would always comment on how relaxed I was, and asked what is your secret, why are you not stressed, my answer, well it was a long one because I love to talk (ha-ha, just joking) but, I did explain it was a lifestyle choice, that I listen to my body, I didn’t over do it. I didn’t stay up to 4am to finish an assignment; I would go to bed at 8pm and wake up early to complete it (just one example).
Universal Medicine really just reminded me what I already knew, and gave me the support and courage to stop hiding from the world, but to embrace it in all that I am and continues to do. I just gave myself a chance to feel me, the real me and I just love it!!
Ben and Kylie what you have both written is so profound, University is seen as a time to go crazy and let your hair down after years of being at school. I am sure many feel like you did Ben, the emptiness the next day after a night fueled by alcohol and having fun. What I love about what you have both written is that you both chose to change how you were living from feeling the difference for yourselves. Universal Medicine was there to support you but did not impose what you should and should not do. This line from Ben sums it up, “Before coming to Universal Medicine, no-one had ever truly told me it was okay to love yourself, or that honouring yourself is the most natural way we can be”. So true Ben and it changes everything about how we feel about ourselves and ultimately everyone else.
‘Universal Medicine just reminded me what I already knew’ – this is what I love about what is presented: that it’s not rocket science or really difficult, just accepting and embracing what our bodies have always been telling us, but that we haven’t always been willing to listen to.