By Anne Malatt
For most of us, having sex and making love have meant the same thing.
In truth, we all know the difference, for we all know what love is, and that we are love, but we have given up on the possibility of ever being it and finding it.
Most men settle for sex, using it for release and relief. But men live in fear that they won’t be good enough and they will be rejected.
Most women settle for sex because they crave intimacy, and are desperate to be held and touched. Women know sex is not love, but they go along with what men want, because they fear men will leave them and many don’t feel good enough about themselves to be on their own.
Sex is an act, which we use for release and relief, because we crave intimacy, to bind ourselves together. We use it in many ways, but we are always using the other as an object to get what we want.
Making love is a state of being, a way of life. Love is a living stillness, so we have to be still before we can know love. In that stillness we feel who we truly are. Making love starts with loving ourselves, slowly letting go of what is not love, and letting ourselves be the love we truly are, and then sharing that love with others.
Making love can be taking a walk together, preparing food, sharing a meal, talking, cuddling, or anything. If we are making love, we don’t really need to do anything. To make love we need first to connect to ourselves and the love that we are. Once we are connected, we know that everyone else is that same love, equally so. So then it is easy to connect to another, any other, in and with love.
If we share our lives with another person and live this way, it is only a matter of time before our bodies want to come together, in love. The connection is what matters. In that connection, we are enough. There is no fear of rejection, no fear of not being good enough, no feelings of worthlessness or self-loathing, no need to do anything.
We can be still with each other, we can be gentle, we can be playful, and we can let our bodies come together.
Making love is whatever you like, as long as you are connected, in love.
My understanding of this has been inspired by the life and work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.