by Mick S, Tradesman, age 42, Australia
Let’s start by asking first, what is alcohol? …To side track just for a moment, let’s use our kids drinking water with cordial added to it as an example. Many of us have told our kids less cordial more water. (And more than once!) This waters down the sugar intake thus leaving us to deal with a lesser grade of sugar infused craziness and definitely no red cordial please. Is this making sense!
So we then move on to alcohol, which as many of us would know, is basically fermented sugar. But did you also know that the body actually treats this type of sugar as a poison to the point where we get sick if we have too much (that would be the hangover) or even really sick if we have way too much… (and that would be the vomiting). Not to mention the fact that alcohol is usually flavoured – requiring more sugar, to which we then add a mixer, which is even more sugar. So the end result is a drink made from sugar to which we then add a HUGE amount of additional sugar – and we’re worried about the kids’ crazy behaviour! …Are we really this crazy?
So could it be possible that any amount of conversation fuelled by this amount of sugar be nothing more than dribble? … Haven’t we all been to that party as the designated driver and watch everyone around us turn into dribbling idiots?… Here’s a thought. Give your child a whole bag of lollies to eat in a short period of time and watch what happens to them – how they behave and speak to you! …Hell, give them the whole cordial bottle with a straw! …What’s the difference? …Is this picture strong enough!
So back to the beginning – ‘hiding behind my beer can’.
I too for many years spent much of my time hiding behind my beer can, bottle, rum and coke, red wine etc. You get the picture? I had way too many delusional moments fuelled by an intoxication of alcohol and or drugs while sitting around with friends speaking a lot of BS – whilst seemingly solving the world’s problems. When all I was really doing was putting s**t on everyone around me. What a nice bloke! To make it even worse, and being due to my own stupidity at that time, little did I realise that I was fast becoming one of those world problems. Or maybe I had already got there. One to tick off the list. Isn’t it easy to be the big man and tell the big story about the one that got away after a few drinks?
But luckily for me something inside of me started to say, “…Hey, what’s going on here?” My health was in serious decline (evident by the many trips to the local doctor and hospital) and I knew that something needed to change.
At this stage of my life, I was extremely fortunate to meet Serge Benhayon. So let ME be very clear – from that moment which was about 11 years ago, Serge never ever told me what to do! …Mind you I did ask, but that was always met with the fact that everything is always MY CHOICE and it’s not for him (or anyone else) to tell ME what to do. I learnt through him there is no right or wrong – just me making choices for me. Pretty simple, don’t you think?
During our talks together I got to understand what MY choices were doing to MY body – the harm that I was doing to myself. Isn’t it a bugger when there is no one else to blame but You?
By that stage my body was not in good shape. I had serious organ problems, was very overweight (damn that take away shop) and boy-o-boy did I want the pain to stop.
What do you do when nobody is to blame and everything is about your choices?
SIMPLE – make different choices! So – I did. I took it upon myself to enrol in the very next Universal Medicine healing workshop. This decision – MY decision, changed my life forever, and not just for the good, but to (figuratively speaking) finding the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow… “ ME ”.
223 thoughts on “Hiding Behind my Beer Can!”
It is true how certain things change us and sugar is literally in most things we consume. If we really read the labels properly, it’s hidden and very addictive too and it is these things that our body become dependent on and withdraw when we attempt to remove it out of our bodies. It is no different to the stimulants we rely on too.
So who are we when we remove these things out of our lives? Do we ever get to know that person, or the fact that if we do then that reflection is too much for another? Then the jealousy and comparison comes through as they cannot withstand that reflection. And yet Tony you have clearly stated it is ‘MY CHOICE’ and no one else’s and you make that for yourself through free will, and that is ok to continue too for it is also the others to make their choice too. No judgment or criticism – your choice or my choice, same same, live how and what feels true for you.
The beautiful gift that Serge Benhayon brings is that he never tells you what to do but supports you to feel your body so that you know to make the choice yourself and hence be empowered in the process. Personally, I can say I would much rather learn the ‘how’ than have someone do things for me as the former offer us growth.
I agree Henrietta, Serge Benhayon never imposes he only presents the truth. Its how we deal with that reflection is the key and that is a choice too. The choice? We react or we respond, simple.
So simple – each choice we make impacts our body. Our body.
Mick, I love your hilarious analogy of limiting cordial intake for kids whilst adults binge drink on alcohol. This is a classic scenario where we find ourselves telling others to do as we say but not as we do. And meanwhile what role model are we really presenting to them?
Its interesting that we choose to put poison into our body, and pay in more way than one for this, ‘But did you also know that the body actually treats this type of sugar as a poison to the point where we get sick if we have too much (that would be the hangover) or even really sick if we have way too much… (and that would be the vomiting). ‘
We have a choice, but no one is going to make that choice for us, they can only remind us we have a choice. It is very wise to accept that we have always been making choices whether being aware or not, and will continue to do so, and start making choices based on that.
Lolly-water, sugar, alcohol, syrups, most fruits and even over indulgence in carbs which eventually turn into glucose in our body have all been felt by me as a racy-ness and a distraction from being connected to my essence! So maybe these substance should all be re-tested by the TGA to see if there is a safe limit when we have enough people who live without these mind distractions, so we can get a True test result?
I have found it a real blessing to repeatedly see my responsibility for what’s going on in my life, and also how blame, victimhood and apathy leave me stagnating in the same repetitive emotions, unhealthy behaviours, and cycles. Responsibility is very self empowering.
It can sting when we realise that there isn’t anyone to blame for our lives. Yet underneath the sting is the empowerment that says we can choose to change our lives.
So well said Leigh – it can certainly sting when we realise that we cannot blame anyone for our choices, and that we have to sit with the consequences. And so true that despite this hurt, it is a beautiful way to truly grow and change our lives. Thank you for this reminder!
That is true Elizabeth, hiding is what we have role modelled in life as well, hiding under stimulants, lots of doing and lots of complication. All that has become so normal, but taking responsibility we can be the change we want to see in our lives and that offers a different reflection to those around us.
Yes I love what you are sharing here, we see alcohol as the evil and wonder how children come to want it younger and younger, yet we have fostered the relationship with coping mechanisms and stimulants from young. This blog can start a much-needed conversation.
Fitting in publicly is the best way to hide. No one bothers (with) you.
Great article Mick thanks you for sharing, it seems to be that when we are confronted by a serious illness we are brought face to face with our own choices, so often we then go into blame until we come across someone who shows us the truth of our choices and how to change our lives, Serge Benhayon is one such person who presents the simple truth to us, that the life we have is the sum total of our choices.
When you point out what we don’t allow kids but adults do in full, it really highlights the craziness of it all. How preciously we can treat a new born and then slowly but surely that care disintegrates. And quite often we can blame the world around us for hardening us up, being too difficult so support these poor life choices. But it is not the world, it is always OUR choice how we respond to what is around us. And as you say – “Isn’t it a bugger when there is no one else to blame but You?” 🙂 Jokes aside, it is actually so liberating to realise that it is actually up to us.
Same for me to come from what seemed a no ending space of pure self-abuse to then participate in a hands on healing course Sacred Esoteric Healing Level 1 was a life changer. I remember leaving the course with my sister and her remarking how much Light was being reflected in my eyes. Every healing course you walk away going “Wow, that was life changing!”.
There are countless things we can hide behind to avoid being just you in the world.
Great point Eduardo – any excuse is sometimes valid to not shine in the world and so we make choices that dull us rather than risk the reactions of others or simply the empowerment that comes from loving oneself up. Choices choices choices.
What a great story, and I love how it resolves all around ‘me’, bu then in the true sense of the responsibility we have.
“Isn’t it a bugger when there is no one else to blame but You?” – totally. check. check. check. As the older I get, the more I realise that I am the common denominator in many situations, so it becomes harder to point the finger – and really thank God for that!
Yes, to that, and I love the upfront honesty and playfulness you go through life with, Sarah. Very refreshing and super inspiring.
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Life has gotten a whole lot simpler now the moments spent whinging and blaming have reduced if not gone completely.
The life we live is due to our own decisions, the only way to live a different life is to make different choices, it is interesting how blame shame and guilt keep us away from taking full responsibility which if accepted would change our life greatly.
Thanks Mick, I agree it’s all down to what we choose, however it wasn’t until I came across Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine that I realised I had a responsibility to myself and others and that through changing our choices there is indeed a pot of gold to be found.
“ ME ” is an amazing pot of gold to discover. I keep being surprised, however, that it is not just gold, rather all kinds of precious gems as well.
Eventually we all come to the realisation that we are completely responsible for how our life unfolds and therefore there is no one to blame but ourselves for any of our woes.
Your words – “There is no right or wrong – just me making choices for me … What do you do when nobody is to blame and everything is about your choices? SIMPLE – make different choices!” So simple and powerful. This is how we can be a student of our own life.
It feels like a ‘bugger’ when there is no one else to blame – but the resultant responsibility is less of a bugger and more of a true sense of empowerment. The world of blame is like a great fog that lacks any clarity – but when it comes to accepting responsibility, the fog starts to clear away and we start to see things more clearly.
Great point here about kids and cordial and one we can all relate to. However the problem is that we have yet to fully make the connection between sugar and changes in our behaviour when it comes to adults and children, from what I have witnessed at parties and social events. We seem to revolve all our gatherings and events around sugar and then wonder why children or adults lose it or we feel awful the next day. A subject definitely that needs more honest discussion.
More and more things are starting to come out about the harm sugar does to us and just how much sugar ends up in our diet and thats without adding alcohol. I know there is more to the article then this but there is a few points I didn’t know about alcohol and hang overs and so my awareness has changed there and also over how a hang over comes about. One thing is for sure I wouldn’t do to my children what I use to do to myself with alcohol and from where I stand now it makes no sense to drink it.
As you have clearly shared Mick, it is empowering, OK maybe a little confronting at first but ultimately empowering, to realise that we are the ones responsible for the quality of life we are living, the state of well-being we are experiencing all through the choices we make. In developing a loving relationship with our bodies, we discover a quality within that is quite exquisite – our being. We soon become very aware of how the choices we make affect us, and begin to naturally choose more wisely what will truly support us to live who we are with vitality and feel amazing beyond compare.
Yes and to realise that our pattern of blaming someone else just has to stop because the only person it is hurting is ourselves! If we make a start by simply considering how smart the choices we are making are and then considering how long we have been making them for, then we may find the reason we started making those decisions in the first place and find we actually would choose differently now – perhaps even choosing something that doesn’t add an impact on the body.
When we make the choice to be true to who we are then we no longer seek alcohol and other ways of hiding.
It makes sense really, that alcohol is simply adult red cordial. This totally asks us to stop and maybe deeply ponder just what we force upon others when our behaviour is affected by copious amounts of sugar.
Great example of how ridiculous alcohol is. When one is ready to truthfully look at what they are doing to their body, one comes to the fact that it is us choosing the abuse, we are left with the fact we are the ones to stop the abuse.
Its interesting to observe how many props we hide behind. A glass of wine, a beer can, our children, partners, the list goes on. When we start to ask ourselves why, that is the start of a pathway that can lead to true healing. Lovely how you found ‘yourself’ at the end of that rainbow.
When we finally decide to take charge and make changes to the way we live, its very liberating. It would be good if we could lead by example when it came to telling our kids what to do. I know I have not always done that as a parent. When we walk our talk, it’s the most powerful message.
A great article that exposes the the way adults behave, with no real consideration on what it is doing to another.
Very powerful if one decides to be responsible with how they do what they do.
This is well known, ‘alcohol, which as many of us would know, is basically fermented sugar. But did you also know that the body actually treats this type of sugar as a poison to the point where we get sick if we have too much (that would be the hangover) or even really sick if we have way too much… (and that would be the vomiting)’, so why with ill health escalating out of control do people continue to ingest this poison, and often in very large amounts?
I for years was hiding too. Fitting in was what I did best because that was all to do. I protected myself this way so me and my sensitivity would not be attacked. Everyone was like this, until I met sensitivity of Serge Benhayon and his sons Michael and Curtis. I finally found someone to relate to and I could be myself and not attempt to numb myself with alcohol or drugs. I was able to drop these addictions straight away and for good where in the past I struggled week to week.
I recall when I used to go out drinking I would come home and gorge on sugary food as well like a crazed woman – it’s like once I had opened that door there was no end to the amount of sugar I could continue to ingest and harm my body with.
Thanks Mick. I never really understood why I wasn’t allowed red cordial as a kid, I was never able to see any difference in my behaviour before and after but my parents sure did. When we are affected by alcohol it’s the same – it’s only when we are sober and surrounded by people that are drunk that we can see how ridiculous being drunk really is.
As you so clearly say Mick, there is one one person responsible for me and that is most definitely and absolutely Me.
Thanks Mick, from coming out from behind your beer can and making such a great contribution for the world!
I love that we can be the pot of gold we can find at the end of a rainbow if we choose to make different choices … and that everyday can be a rainbow worth appreciating rather than a struggle we attempt to avoid with unhealthy distractions.
We can search high and low for others to blame for our predicaments and discomforts but ultimately the onus for all our woes is always on ourselves. What a huge wake up call it is to realise this.
It is really the question of ‘do I want to make my existence bearable’ or do I aim to make my life sense-full and in service for all? No truly intelligent person would drink the poison which is alcohol if the intent is the latter – so, what is our intent in life? To make it better and comfortable or do we face the choices we made, the harm of it and bring a change here? Like Serge Benhayon I do not tell anybody what to do or not – but I reflect the truth of what is going on and the choices we make. As I was one of those who have drunk a lot in the past and now drink no alcohol at all for years without missing anything, in fact I am enriched with more of me, expanding me and my relationships, experiencing love in a deeper and more intimate way, I can say: I was in an illusion of life, not taking responsibility and trying to hide in comfort. But it does not work. In fact we have to drink more, strive for more money, need more and more and more… but even when we reach ‘it’ – we end up missing something still.
I did not ‘give up’ on drinking alcohol – I enriched my life with me, accepting, honoring and appreciating my sensitive and feeling body, appreciating my relationships and meeting others to develop together – I do not need alcohol anymore and do not miss it at all. On my way I did find other substances and behaviours which I used to hide and then I did, and do, choose a way of living that supports me in accepting my old choices and be able to make new ones.
When I studied in University I learned that people are not behaving in the way they think, which was a surprise to me. But now I see that we have to change our movements, the way we live first and then comes the wisdom with it.
Alcohol does not support this way, like many things in this world, even when it is called ‘normal’ to use it because ‘everyone does it’. But what if all the mess we are in these days is because of what we have accepted as normal and now we are trapped in a way of living that is fact like existing in a jail, with us being the prisoner and guard at the same time.
What helped me enormously was and is to see the responsibility I carry not just for me but for everyone I meet, my community and all. Like I should not drive when I am not fully myself (drunk) does reflect that we carry this responsibility. But we narrow it down to driving, the road and traffic – whereas it is in every second and every relationship of life.
Thank you Mick for so honestly sharing your experience, of coming to the point of realising that where we are is a result of our choices and only we can change our lives by choosing differently.
“During our talks together I got to understand what MY choices were doing to MY body – the harm that I was doing to myself.” This insight for me is the best medicine ever Mick and on top of it – it costs nothing.
Mick, great blog. I love how you break down exactly what alcohol is. I’d never considered it like this before that it’s sugar on top of sugar and as you say we would not let our kids do that, and yet somehow it’s fine for the big ‘kids’ to do so. We avoid this knowledge about alcohol being pure sugar because we don’t want to look at and address why we’re so exhausted, or dis-satisified with ourselves and our lives that we have to ‘drown our sorrows’ so to speak. Until sometimes our bodies say enough and then we have a choice and we can, as you’ve done, choose to heal or continue as we are. It’s always up to us.
Its really great how you point out that the fact we vomit after alcohol tells us it is a poison to our body.
So so simple yet so life changing powerful. Giving up alcohol is a massive step towards self empowerment and reclaiming our health and the life we truly deserve! Thank you Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for inspiring us to feel how it’s possible to regain self control and self care.
I love what you say here Mick about no right or wrong… only choices.
Gosh if we all took this type of responsibility for ourselves then the way we connect to each other would be very different indeed.
There is more and more debate about sugar worldwide now thankfully, the harm it does becoming more and more exposed. Love your common sense unmasking of sugar and alcohol here Mick.
A revealing connection to giving children sugary cordials and setting them up to move onto sugar based alcohol later in life.
Well said Mick, it all does come down to our choices, there is no one to blame, not even ourselves, and when we realise this, there is a pull for us to take responsibility for all our choices.
Yes, it’s the beginning of a whole new you – if you choose it – once you realise that you’re responsible for all the choices that have brought you to this point – you, and you alone.
Choosing you versus choosing to hide you behind the beer can. We all benefit when you choose you. Thank you Mick.
All of our choices have consequences and all we make them all. No-one ever makes us choose anything, although we like to think they do. But if we are into blaming then its us who does not want to take responsibility. Hard to feel, but it’s the only way forward.
Mick, thank you. I had no idea about the sugar in alchohol… Loved this point – “I learnt through him there is no right or wrong – just me making choices for me.” One choice leads to one thing, another choice leads to another.
It’s a real double whammy of sugar. Sugar is the thing that makes something alcoholic then we add more sugar to make it taste better. Sugar is not the innocent that has been made out to be. The question here though is why do we need it, considering the devastating effects it has on our body?
It is also because of the sugar content that people can often put on a lot of weight if they drink a lot. Not to mention all the other health issues caused because of the excessive sugar.
wow. I had no idea about the part sugar plays in alcohol…so true, Sugar and sweet really shouldn’t go together cause it is anything but sweet to our bodies 😉 why do we need it? and what are we getting from it?
Great questions to ask ourselves, “why do we need it and what are we getting from it” – If we really began to ask ourselves these questions, then we would see the truth of what these substances are doing to our bodies. But while we are simply enjoying something for its taste and relief we won’t see it.
So true Jennifer, until we stop relying on the substance and ‘enjoying it’, we wont even start asking the questions or seeing/wanting a different way.
Is it because we need sugar to numb feeling what is really going on in our life and in our world? Sugar is a huge comfort addictive most of us crave. Definitely not so innocent when we look at what it does to our body, our behaviour and our mood.
Great blog, and it reminded me of when I used to drink and how I would nearly always end up vomiting. A clear sign that my body could not tolerate it. My body does feel so good these days now that I don’t abuse it in that way.
It’s interesting Rosie how we deem that to be a good time, I know I certainly did. I recall heading to work one day vomiting on the way to work (I was catching public transport, throwing up in garbage bins). How crazy and the worst of it was I was heading to work to look after people who were sick. I did not do my job properly to say the least!
I am sure many can relate as many have done it…. but why… and at what expense to our body. I am so glad that these days its not part of my life at all. I don’t miss it, I don’t long for it or crave it. Its a thing of the past.
Beautiful what you share Mick, with your great sense of humour too! This is an important message for men in particular, but also women more and more. I love the Mick, in full view, no need to hide behind any beer can yey!
Thank You Mick this is worl lecture and should be read at any school just everywhere it is so honest, so true and so power-full.
“What do you do when nobody is to blame and everything is about your choices?
SIMPLE – make different choices! So – I did.” Yes, so simple – thanks for sharing Mick. Taking responsibility for our actions and making new choices – makes such sense.
Thanks for sharing Mick
Thank you Mick, we would not allow our children to drink neat cordial, yet we are not responsible enough to offer ourselves the same kind of responsibility, when it comes to alcohol.
Thank you Mick, pure alchemy!
I love how your whole life changed after attending a Universal Medicine Workshop, you put a stop to hiding behind your beer can and then embraced the real ‘you’ – a choice that rewards you everyday.
There is nothing more revealing than being the sober driver and seeing what happens to our friends which is just a reflection of ourselves when we are doing the drinking.
Well chosen Mick, not that you need me or anyone else to tell you that. Brilliant what you have shared and how simple it actually is to come out of hiding and live a life of love.
How simple. Yes true Giselle. A little bit to change at the start as the momentum carries with you, but simple none the less.
A blog written that speaks to millions Mick, thank you. Since you wrote this, a new website has opened up, giving even more support to anyone looking to change their ways. Take a look at: http://www.unimedliving.com/the-livingness/what-is-the-livingness/what-is-the-livingness.html
When you can blame no one else but YOU. Right in time for me to read.. Thank you for this great simple, honest blog Mick!
Love the blog Mick and how you bring this back to one simple thing at the end – CHOICE! We always have a choice in every moment, and the truth is we often don’t want to consider this because we don’t want to take responsibility for our choices… and yet not taking responsibility for our choices often keeps us trapped in a cycle of blame and abuse of our bodies. As you say – we always have a choice to make a different choice!
Taking responsibility for our choices is the most loving thing we can do. Not necessarily easy but necessary if we want to make true change.
Wow yes the demon sugar, not to mention the alcohol! We all need to know we do actually have a choice, we don’t need to harm ourselves in this way, and just because everybody else is doing it doesn’t make it ok. There is another way and we each have the opportunity to choose this in any moment.
We can hide behind a beer can, behind eating lollies, or behind the more hideous ones like being really successful and busy all the time, the list goes on. The question is, what are we hiding? Our little flaws? No, I’d say our power.
…and we avoid to feel the pain it caused and causes when we stepped away from the power and love we actually are.
Hmm, maybe, just maybe Felix ! We all have our ‘go to’ something to keep away from that, and in our comfort place.
Really awesome Mick. Great point about the sugar in alchohol, so much poison in one little glass ! It’s weird how we won’t let our kids have too much sugar but when it comes to ourselves we couldn’t give a hoot more or less.
Thank you, Mick – I love how you present this subject in such a seriously and ridiculously funny way, and with the oh-so-obvious common sense facts.
Thankyou Mick, I just love how you likened kids behaviour after ingesting sugar in its variety of forms with adults behaviour after they drink alcohol. Your analogy is just awesome and oh so true.
PS. Finding yourself at the end of a rainbow is by far superior to any amount of gold!
Thanks Suse. I have found that as adults we treat kids with the “do as I say – not as I do” mentality and this is so easily exposed when using sugar and alcohol consumption.
Good point out Suse. We wouldn’t feed our kids alchohol, yet sugar is okay …