by Sue Kira, Naturopath, Gold Coast, Queensland
Many people search the world to ‘find themselves’. How weird is that, when you can never leave yourself? … Or can you?
This morning I was showering and thinking about my day ahead and what I was going to wear and all sorts of things and I suddenly realised I was somewhere else, being transported all over the place by my mind. I was not ‘with me’.
And then my body told me: “Hey, don’t leave me. I’m part of you, we’re supposed to be in this together.” So I continued to shower and feel what was going on without distractions… the water on my skin, how my body felt… it was beautiful and calming and made a huge difference to how I felt overall.
We don’t ‘need’ to travel, seek a spiritual guru, or do another course or workshop to find ourselves – it’s with us right now. I wonder how often our bodies must shout out to us: “Look at me! What are you doing, silly dodo, I’m right here!” But we don’t listen.
I used to think that I had to meditate to get my mind to shut up, but found it was an on-going struggle.
I learned from Universal Medicine that the mind never shuts down, but we can bring it to a place of stillness by just sitting and feeling what we are doing, such as breathing. Or we can simply focus on what we are doing, without thinking about the past, future, ‘what if’ or other distractions. It’s called ‘conscious presence’.
I began to test what I had heard and gradually brought conscious presence into my life – and boy (or girl), what a difference it made.
Then Natalie Benhayon revealed to me during an Esoteric Ovary Massage session that while I had become more present, I could also do so with joy, as sometimes we can be too serious about what we do instead of being playful. Since then I have brought more joy into what I do and even have silly moments… which are so much fun.
Years ago I was out there ‘looking for myself’ and I had become a chameleon, changing to ‘fit in’ with others to be liked and loved. I had forgotten who I was. In the early days of meeting Serge Benhayon, he said to me, “Just be you”. But who was that?
I didn’t know who I was anymore because I had travelled extensively and tried many different modalities and workshops to ‘find myself’: yet all this had done was to take me further away from me. If I’d continued seeking answers in this way, I would have continued to live in confusion.
The process of finding myself and being with myself has been, and continues to be, a very gradual process. The healing workshops, presentations and support from Universal Medicine helped me let go of ‘who I’m not’ and allowed me to unravel who I am.
And I found me… the little girl who loves to be play-full and laugh out loud (LOL) and speak honestly about what I feel, rather than hiding or becoming a chameleon to fit in.
Perhaps I should have titled this article ‘Finding Memo’… much more fun!
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
There are many many paths we can go down in search of who we are, meandering for a very long time and creating countless complications in the process. The simplicity of connecting to who we are from within is perhaps far too simple for many, yet this is exactly how it is.
Great point to be reminded of Aimee, as we are still that exact same Soul that was present when we were young.
In all the years I spent trying to find out who or what I was through what I did in the world, it was and still is a beautiful confirmation to re-discover and know that who I really am is defined through my connection to my essence within, a quality that as you have shared never, ever leaves us, remains true and is always ready to be lived.
Thank you Sue for the reminder to have fun in being with me.
Haha I can feel the joy and the playfulness in your writing Sue. It seems to me that Memo has been found!
Out there in the New Age and personal development circuit its more about being something, improving the self, or getting to the illusive higher self, as well as creating more wealth, success, and pictures of perfection in ones outer life. It wasn’t until I came to the work of Serge Benhayon that I heard “just be yourself”. That in itself was a revelation because even the process of education and it’s inevitable movement towards employment is about making you into “something”. It’s so incredibly healing to return to all that we are, to simply be ourselves, and value that as what we bring to life, not what we do. We are after all human be-ings!
So great that you mentioned joy and being playful in the blog as I have found the same experience of sometimes getting way too serious or hard with myself or others at times when I know my natural way is to be joyful and playful. Sometimes you have just got to laugh at the tricks we play on ourselves.
What a lovely light-hearted blog. I have also come to realise that the rediscovery of me is not an outward search but an inward reconnection with something I already am and an increasing awareness and commitment to let go of all the things I have put on top of the real me.
And doing it with joy is so important, joy is a quality that is often missed in our lives, it brings lightness and a deep appreciation.
It is awesome to know our body and give it the attention it deserves. Conscious presence brings stillness to our lives. Which is very much needed in our always racy society.
There is a lot of joy in expressing honestly what we can feel, because through that expression, we connect more deeply to ourselves and others, and there’s a spaciousness and expansive feeling.
How many of us, myself included have tried in the past to shut or quiet the mind, maybe in meditation, only to find it impossible for any length of time, how refreshing to finally have this confirmed, ‘I learned from Universal Medicine that the mind never shuts down, but we can bring it to a place of stillness by just sitting and feeling what we are doing, such as breathing.’
Self-doubt, confusion, not knowing.. exposes that we are using the mind as our tool instead of our body and acting the simple truth that it offers.
It is interesting to note how many times in the day I can disconnect from my body and go into auto-pilot, when I choose to be in conscious presence it’s a game changer and this definitely allows more space and lightness in my day.
Sue I can relate to what you have shared on so many levels. I travelled a lot as well and what I realise I was doing was running away from life not finding me as I thought and I was getting further and further away from me developing lots of interests in modalities. The beautiful thing about the esoteric work is that I don’t need to find me at all, as I have been there all along. But how I was living was keeping me from seeing this. Now I am gradually coming back step by step realising that the me and I meeting is true and exquisitely beautiful – just like everyone.
Even if we are sitting still, thinking a thousand things, the body is still being affected by our thoughts. Like thinking of an argument or worrying about the time can send the body into nervous tension very easily. So I agree with you Sue, in feeling how the mind can transport us all over the place away from the body and what it is doing, even if it is simply sitting still.
A dear friend once pointed out to me that we search high and low looking for ourselves only to find that we are right there in our own back pocket.
It’s sadly common to come across people who have spent so much time looking for themselves they have lost themselves in all the seeking and in everything they are not. How gorgeous to be able to unpick and unravel all of that to reveal the beauty and innocence that need not be hidden, or moulded, but rather fully embraced and expressed.
I love it, we really are much more playful when we reconnect to what has been inside us all along.
Thank you Sue i loved reading your blog and know your lovingness and playfulness no need for looking elsewhere for you have found you. It is amazing that we spend so much time out there looking for ourselves, it is an ongoing process staying connected when we do find ourselves.
Sue you made it popular and more interesting to stay present – thank you for sharing this wonderful words with us.
Simply gorgeous Sue – love your playfulness. It’s the best when we allow ourself to be just that.
Very cute Sue! Finding Memo! It is strange that we spend so much time ‘finding’ ourselves and even more time ‘losing’ our connection to who we really are in the first place.
I can remember finding “Just be you” very challenging as I was trying to find something outside of myself to give me the answer. Gradually through the presentations of Serge Benhayon I have explored and discovered the true me of my essence and the joy in connecting to this equal essence in others.
Me too Mary. In fact the words ‘just be you’ used to frustrate me no end. I thought “well how could I be anything else?” Soon enough I came to realise that the me I thought was me was not me at all but a poor imitation based on protection and hurts. What a joy it has been to find out who I really am and how grateful I am that Serge Benhayon has seen the ‘Memo’ in us all.
Gorgeous blog Sue. “We don’t ‘need’ to travel, seek a spiritual guru, or do another course or workshop to find ourselves – it’s with us right now. I wonder how often our bodies must shout out to us: “Look at me! What are you doing, silly dodo, I’m right here!” But we don’t listen.” Having spent many years spiritual searching, coming home to me and my body – thanks to presentations by Serge Benhayon – has been nothing short of life-transforming.
Yes we go round and around until we discover every tool we have ever wanted was right at home. Home meaning within ourselves.
Sue, I love ‘ finding memo’! and that you found your sense of fun and being you! What you wrote could have been for me. It is so simple to be with ourselves in conscious presence. It cuts away the confusion of not knowing “who am I” and makes living and being ourselves so simple!
” I didn’t know who I was anymore because I had travelled extensively and tried many different modalities and workshops to ‘find myself’: yet all this had done was to take me further away from me. If I’d continued seeking answers in this way, I would have continued to live in confusion.”
I am enjoying getting to know ‘who I am’ discovering in all the moments with me together mind, body and soul what my natural qualities are !
When I found me, it was like a tree loosing all its leaves in autumn, so light. Then new leaves grew and fell and grew again, so from the outside the tree looks more or less the same and does the same things, but the way is different. Its breath has changed, became gentle. And for those who choose to see, the branches have grown wider.
Spot on Rachael, if we have forgotten the joy than we know we have taken the wrong turn back to ourselves.
Beautiful Sue, it is true, we are the ones that have chosen to leave us and we are the only one who can bring ourselves back. Universal Medicine is an incredible support in finding our lost path home.
Yes, to what you share and especially to the playfulness. That makes such a difference in life. It influences the way we look at the world and guards us in taking things personal.
When we were asked as children, what do you want to be when you grow up? A great answer could have been, Even more of the truly amazing me I already am. But instead through our limited understanding we answered, a nurse, sailor, singer, dancer, doctor, etc. and opted for something far less, a role we could play with a costume we could don to become it. All the better if along the way we compiled a portfolio of characters we could portray on any given occasion, extending our appeal to a much broader audience. But what if we knew we had the choice, when small, to play a part but not ‘be it’. How beautiful to know, from an early age, that life is not about what you do, or the roll you play but being and expressing the stupendous, the truly amazing, the ineffable you from the pure brilliance of the light within, that far outshines any of the spotlighting or foot lighting on the empty stage in the theatre of life.
On ‘finding Memo’ yes I can feel the loveliness of finding ‘you’ as you share with so much beauty and simplicity, why go anywhere else
Is it really ok to be me? I’ve struggled with this one due to experiences in the past and ideals and beliefs I carry about how I should be in the world. But nothing comes close to giving me the fulfilment and joy that ‘just being me does’. I’m slowly coming out of my protective shell and relaxing into just being me again and it feels amazing!
The more we search outside of us, the more entrenched we get in the desires for more, more travels, more books, more movies, more… The movement inside leads to less and less things that I need and I feel more and more full of me.
Thankyou Sue, I just love all that you have shared because it is just plain true. Awesome blog.
Super cute sue. Loved reading this. You’ve made such a good point about how people try to find and discover who they are… When you have put it the way you have it doesn’t make much sense when all you have to do is stay with your body. So often I find my mind running off in all sorts of directions.. I find when it’s like this I have much more self doubt and I am a lot more unsure of myself.
I relate to every word you have expressed here Sue. Finding Memo indeed! I am still working out who I am … but I have a feeling that I am more wonderful than anything I ever imagined. The truth has been with me (in my body) all along, patiently waiting for me to reconnect.
Great point Sue! What we usually consider ‘finding ourselves’ is not. As you rightly say, if we are with our body all the time, there is nothing to find outside of us that you can say ‘this is me’. ‘Me’ is only inside me. What we usually call finding ourselves is finding something for ourselves that numb our body and talks to our mind. So ‘finding ourselves’ is perfect to guarantee not to find yourself and who you truly are. It cannot be otherwise when the body is left out of the equation and not recognised in its Godliness.
I can relate to this idea of being a Chameleon. I have rushed around trying to find answers from other people and its never really worked. What I’ve learnt is that the world leading expert on me, is me! So the best thing to do is to listen to myself, and build that relationship with me.
A great reminder of how easy it is to leave ourselves, but also the ease with which we can bring ourselves back ( if we choose to) and enjoy the fullness of every moment.
Beautiful Peter, a reminder that the simplicity is always there if we look and chose.
Joyful Sue reading your amazing blog was an absolut reminder for me – it was the easiness and the joy that got me. It is not so hard to be with yourself if you chose to be in the present – I have to admit that my body also shout out to me: “Look at me! What are you doing, silly dodo, I’m right here!”
A beautiful reminder to not leave ourselves and stay connected and to also bring joy and playfulness into our presence. Gorgeous.
Yes Samantha an absolute present to ourselves.
An awesome playful and simple approach to coming back to ourselves – love it Sue.
It is so true Sue, that we never have to ‘look’ for ourselves we only have to just ‘be’ ourselves, as we are it all. Thank you for the reminder to remain present with all that we are and to have fun with it.
Sue, I loved how you said – “And then my body told me: “Hey, don’t leave me. I’m part of you, we’re supposed to be in this together.” Conscious presence has really been a gift for helping bring harmony to my mind and movements, bringing me back to the present moment and helping my quality in that moment.
Thanks for writing this Sue, being made aware of conscious presence is such a gift.Before Universal Medicine I was always off ‘somewhere else’ or ‘living in a different time’ or I did nothing without listening to music – never present with me, even when driving. To be made aware of conscious presence and connecting to myself has definitely changed my life for the better.
Thank you Sue and Kevin, I agree, being aware of conscious presence as presented by Serge Benhayon is an a present for me to live with presence to the best of my ability.
Sue it’s so funny the notion of ‘finding ourselves’ and even stranger the idea we need to travel to ‘find ourselves’, when there we are all along 🙂
Wow Sue, you really have touched me with your gorgeous playfulness, I giggled at myself when you mentioned what Natalie said how serious we can get… how very serious I have been! And your words washed over me like a woosh of fresh light loveliness, come to say “hello, here we are together!” :> So lovely, thank you. If I lived nearby, I would probably invite myself over 😉
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Beautiful Sue, Thank you for sharing your essence with so much beauty and simplicity.
Your article made me smile so much Sue! I love your sense of fun in how you write and in your words! It’s funny since I had the exact same reply as you re “just be you”…which used to perplex me because I would think and reply — ‘but I am being me!’. ‘Being me’ becomes clearer and clearer the more I become aware of all those times and instances in which I’ve happily taken, used and accepted someone else’s words, thoughts, opinions etc as being my own to then influence my decisions and choices – which indeed just illustrates the not ‘being me’, but instead the ‘being someone else’. The more I learn to trust my own feelings, speak and express those minus the fear of ‘getting it or being wrong’, the more I discover not only who I really am, but also the distance traveled away from ‘being myself’ which only confirms that ‘being me’ is the only thing that really matters. Finding Memo. Love it!
Thank you Sue – yes to
a post-it note on my forehead as Rod suggests!
You feel truly lovely Sue, thanks for sharing such genuine thoughts and feelings, so light so present, a true gift!
This is so lovely to read Sue… The loveliness of ‘you’ you are finding, permeates every word. Thank-you!
Thank you Sue – so simple and playful, a great reminder how easy it is to come back to me.
I love your article Sue. It so speaks for all of us. What is beautiful is that you put in all the detail and don’t ‘broad-wash’ the detail out. When you say you met Serge and he said, ‘Just be you’, you then put in that next crucial detail ‘But who was that?’ This makes all the difference for me in the quality of what is said or written and makes it ‘real’ and true. Thanks for this care and precision!
“Finding Memo” – that’s so cute and yes, fun too 😉
Sue, I love your comment, ‘the mind never shuts down, but we can bring it to a place of stillness by just sitting and feeling what we are doing, such as breathing. Or we can simply focus on what we are doing, without thinking about the past, future, ‘what if’ or other distractions’. So simple, so effective – (I should post this on my forehead).
Very simple yes, and yet this is a wisdom that has the power to reconnect us to the most amazing place inside of ourselves.
This is sooo Awesome and beautiful Sue, I can really feel you through what you have written… I Love your playfulness and joy it touches me deeply, thank you Sue.