by Ray Karam, Goonellabah, NSW
I have read a lot that has been said about Serge Benhayon; some truth and some just outright rubbish.
I would like to share how my life is at this moment, in fact today. I came home this afternoon to my family after working an 11-hour day. I was greeted in the driveway by our three young children, all eager to share their day and themselves with me.
After a while it was bedtime for the children and I lay in bed with my little boy. I cuddled him and he cuddled me. He rubbed my head and he cuddled right into my shoulder… I just lay there with him, watching him. He told me about his day and he just kept smiling; I knew he was just happy to have me in bed with him. To me it was just amazing, to have such a connection with a little man. We just lay there together for about ten minutes… I put my open hand gently on his chest and he fell asleep. I climbed out of his bed and pulled the doona up over him – I kissed him on the head and whispered, “I love you, little man.” Simple.
I know you may think that is not that special or unique, but this is a typical or ‘normal’ night at our place, not a one-off here and there. Each day I can see the children growing: not only in size, but in how they are, in and out of our house. Our children are really amazing.
Serge Benhayon has never told me to do anything, but has shown me more than anyone ever has, just by living simply in the way he lives. Serge is no different to me, and I am no different from him.
What I am and how I am is because of me and how I choose to live, and not from following anything.
From experience, it is much easier to write something off or criticise it, than see it for what it truly is. I am not looking for anyone to like or agree with how I live. I can see from how I am, and how my family is, that I am amazing at one thing – being me.
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
Doug, what a blessing to know that it is never to late to be ourselves and to bring this to all those around us.
When we hold a willingness to see the truth, we also hold a willingess to take responsibility on a deeper level. Should we resist either, then we need to call in a different way of seeing things that then blinds us from the very truth we were seeking, and makes us see things in a completely different light, a view to be fooled by for so long as we choose to see it that way.
The quality relationships we hold with each other and with ourselves remains as one of the greatest riches that we carry in our hearts.
Criticism rolls easily off our tongue when we are disconnected and hardened to life and those around us. However, when we are connected and hold onto our sensitivity, we get to feel what works and what does not work and there is no need to put down another, just simply a willingness to be and to let be, live and to let live, to love and to let love.
“I am amazing at one thing – being me.” Today when I was driving something similar came to me, I don’t have a flashy University degree or other accomplishments, I’m not particularly learned in terms of history or knowledge, but what I am amazing at and what brings me true joy and contentment is simply being me. That’s how it is for all of us, and those accolades in life can actually be placed before the simple joy of being (and knowing) ourselves.
A beautiful sharing of you having an intimate connecting moment with your son, these moments are so precious.
Lovely Ray, your everyday is something you choose, and the choices we realise we can make can sometimes be inspired by others. “From experience, it is much easier to write something off or criticise it, than see it for what it truly is.” This line is true for me at the moment, instead of making a snap judgment or assumption just allowing situations to be received in all they are. Criticism is a bit like junk food, it’s everywhere but it doesn’t truly nourish us.
I agree – it is much easier to write off and criticize things and stay in comfort (of discomfort) but when we allow ourselves to really feel that tension, it’s actually not as bad as we thought it might be but rather liberating.
A normal day with-out any hype just sharing what has transpired is such a blessing for any family as it can become too easy to get caught in the imaginary world of T.V. and not consider how amazing it feels to simply connect with our family and friends.
‘being me’ how simple this is and how this extends to our whole live when we allow ourselves to be and the simplicity that comes forth from being.
What you describe here is so very much needed in this world, everyday loving connections wherever we are.
Yes to loving connections, no judgements or expectations, just sharing our love with another.
Being present with our children with no expectations is so beautiful. It is special because it is your normal.
To become a follower of someone, you have to make a full body commitment to ignore your own heart.
“What I am and how I am is because of me and how I choose to live, and not from following anything.” And knowing Serge has simply shown by someone else’s living way that there is a way to live, if I so choose, that brings greater harmony and joy compared to before I knew Serge Benhayon. It’s not a following in the sense that I take up everything that Serge Benhayon says but what feels true for me to do so.
We are indeed amazing at being us, it’s our job, and the one job no-one else can do for us, and the one thing the world needs for all of us, to simply be us.
I like the simplicity of what you are presenting Monica – no one else can do the job of us being ourselves.
Ray, I love what you share about lying in bed with your young son. It feels that there is a real love and intimacy between you both. And how beautiful is it for him, to drift off to sleep in the vibrations of “I love you, little man.”
When you follow the impulse of your heart, you are free to place your hand on the heart of someone you love. It is all there.
Beautiful sharing Ray, from my own experience Serge has taught me to be me, not from any direction but by presenting the truth and leaving me to discern my own truth.
Yes and Serge reminds us that being ourselves is vital for our health and wellbeing, but also for the health and wellbeing of our children because they can see adults who are living well in the world and not run down, ratty or checked out.
What a beautiful and simple normal you have in your home Ray based on decency and respect – which undoubtedly is an inspiration to all the homes who are struggling with various levels of abuse in their own homes, abuse that unfortunately far too many call their normal.
Beautifully simple Ray! And this is what it’s all about…that connection we’re all hanging for and go about getting it in the most messed up ways possible…but here you are showing us how it’s done…naturally…without trying! Derrrr!
The beauty of a few moments between a father and son as you describe is immensely loving and special beyond words to me.
In life we champion many things, achievements, money, material goods, getting recognition, etc, but we don’t necessarily value how we are living. But, it’s the way we are living that is truly what brings that sense of joy and contentment, simple things like sharing time with a child, and as you say Ray it’s not one ounce in the doing, it comes from being able to be ourselves and bring that unencumbered to life.
This article is coming up to being nearly 5 years ago and while it doesn’t seem that long ago the amount that has been done in that time is astounding. The end of the day ends still that quality and the sharing’s seem greater as the children and i grow older. A highlight of the day is always from simply seeing and chatting with people and an extension of this is seeing and chatting with the children.
And that is everything – being ourselves. In really knowing who we are, we know truth, and it is our inner-knowing that guides us to live in a way that honors the love and truth of our essence. In living this way we discover that true empowerment and fulfilment can only come through living in connection to who we are first. Thank you Ray for sharing this inspiring testament of what you have chosen to live for yourself, and all, and of the work of Serge Benhayon and his unending and limitless love and dedication to ignite humanity.
This is a beautiful testimony Ray to yourself and to Serge Benhayon – this is how we are truly inspired. Serge Benhayon has also inspired me in this way. We are more inspired by another’s living way than by any empty words of wisdom for if they are not first lived they are nothing but nice sounding ideals.
I had spent most of my life wondering who I was and through the teachings and presentations of Serge Benhayon I am reconnecting to the truth that I am love and learning to be the love that I am.
Beautifully said Ray. When I read this I am reminded that it is my quality that is important, not what I do or have.
This is so true Leonne. There is no real value or appreciation in what we do or have if we feel discontent within ourselves.
This is so beautiful Ray, ‘to have such a connection with a little man. We just lay there together for about ten minutes… I put my open hand gently on his chest and he fell asleep. I climbed out of his bed and pulled the doona up over him – I kissed him on the head and whispered, “I love you, little man.” Simple.’ What a blessed little man.
Simply gorgeous that you tell so much about Serge Benhayon and what he has shown you without going into much details by telling us what your normal day looks and feels like. In the world today where ‘being ourselves’ seems like one of the hardest things to do, being able to say ‘I am amazing at being me’ is such a giveaway that there’s something totally stupendous and extraordinary going on in the ordinary life you are choosing to live.
It’s such a cute line “I am amazing at being me”, and it highlights how we normally associate our value with skills, talents, or achievements, etc.
It is simple and it is everyday and in this it is extraordinary though so very ordinary but something if we all lived it would change the world beyond our imagination. Thank you for sharing this most loving and tender everyday being-ness.
I agree, if we could make this extra-ordinary our daily ordinary our world would be far more loving, kind, considerate and connected.
‘I am amazing at one thing – being me.’ Beautifully said and very true I have known you for many years Ray and I can say this is something you do very well and consistently you offer a reflection to others they can trust and be inspired by.
That is gorgeous Ray like it or not. When you have something in your head that you don’t like or trust it is a hard act to change because that voice in your head is not honest. It does what it likes. It likes to dislike. The only way I have changed this voice is to be honest.
Living with simplicity, and a richness of love as the bottom line – who in their right mind would want to criticise this? Serge Benhayon, like no other I have known, has inspired me also Ray, to deeply appreciate the love and loving relationships in my life, and foster and cherish them.
Serge Benhayon has played an important role in bringing back to us the meaning of true family and real love – your blog is in its utter simplicity, a testament to how we can all live our lives – filled with love and appreciation for ourselves and each other. For in the end all the riches we really hold are based on the quality of relationship that we have willingly embraced with people (little or big ones). Thank you Ray for this simple and powerful reminder!
And what a beautiful reflection you are offering your children and every one who knows or meets you Raymond. It only take one person to reflect there is another way to live that is simple, loving, honouring and cherishing to name but a few, for there to be a change in what is considered ‘normal’.
I find it truly gorgeous to be offered a way of being through your words that reflects the love that is possible to live and embrace. The depth of connection you have with your family is truly beautiful and a gorgeous way to live… and without doubt a testament to the power of being and embracing you and all the love you have to share.
Well said Ray. It is super simple isn’t it. Being ourselves is what we are here to reflect to the world and children can feel it when we do so. They feel the integrity in simple beingness that is ‘home’ for them.
Imagine what the world would be like if we focused fully on growing our qualities and not just our size?
I love that Ray, your straightforward way of saying it, that you are amazing at being you. And it’s those simple things in how we do things which sum it up – we’re all born with one job to be us.
“I can see from how I am, and how my family is, that I am amazing at one thing – being me” – This sounds so simple and easy, but for me I can say it was not so easy to become aware and live who I am, before I met Serge Benhayon and started to study with Universal Medicine. I was a bit lost, even though I looked quite fine in a common sense. But the way you connect with your child and family in general Ray is super sweet. This way of living is possible with or without Serge Benhayon – in any way it is gold, for you and them. And in fact for all of us, I would say.
Yes, so simple and so ‘there’. No need for an outcome, no push, no drive, simply being you and sharing this you-ness with everybody else. This brings connection and harmony.
” I am amazing at one thing – being me. ” I just love these powerful words Ray , thank you.
Ray you wrote: “Serge Benhayon has never told me to do anything, but has shown me more than anyone ever has, just by living simply in the way he lives.” His living example is what made me open to feel about myself and it helped me to trust my body again – how beautiful is that!
So simple and beautiful. Thank you Ray!
A very heartwarming read Ray with the tenderness shown to your son and your willingness to be you.
Beautiful to read how you are with yourself and your family Ray and how all others you meet inside and outside the home get to experience someone just being themselves… especially in a time when dis-connection and numbing out is rife. Serge Benhayon lives consistently what every one of us can also.
All to often in the world we focus on what we achieve and what we do or get done. Wether that be at work or big life mile stones but its not often enough that we stop to appreciate the simple things with our family and friends, beautiful, thank you.
The truth that we live and the love that we stand by are super powerful and need no justification nor defence – this is essentially what you present in this blog, Ray – the simplicity of a man and a family who live the love that they are and are simply there to reflect to those around of what can be by choice. Thank you for always being there and holding this reflection so solidly – no different to Serge Benhayon who also lives a simple truth every day, not asking anything of anyone, just simply there to reflect that this is indeed possible in a world where there is so much violence and disharmony.
Wow Ray, this blog simply says it all. “Serge Benhayon has never told me to do anything, but has shown me more than anyone ever has, just by living simply in the way he lives” What an inspiration Serge Benhayon is to many. And what an inspiration you are Ray, simply by being you.
“What I am and how I am is because of me and how I choose to live, and not from following anything.” This brings a whole new meaning to ‘being true to yourself’. Thank you Ray for sharing the tenderness you live with your family, with us all.
A great message, Ray – to just live you, simply and lovingly. Not slavishly following anything or anyone. ‘Being me’ is more than enough – in fact, it’s everything.
A beautiful sharing Ray, thankyou. “Serge Benhayon has never told me to do anything, but has shown me more than anyone ever has, just by living simply in the way he lives. Serge is no different to me, and I am no different from him.
What I am and how I am is because of me and how I choose to live, and not from following anything.” I agree Ray, I love Serge’s presentations, that just remind me of what I already know and has inspired me to choose a different way of living, so the same goes for me also.
Very beautiful Ray, I love what you’ve shared. What a gorgeous way to wind down, to be fully with your family, your children in such a loving and supportive way is very inspiring. After 11 hours of work, most people would want to find something to disconnect, zone/veg out, whereas the way you live is full of love and deep connection. What a blessing it is for your family and for us to read such a beautiful connection is possible even after a full day at work. This is incredible Ray, you are a role model for many parents.
Said like a real man Ray.
A very beautiful sharing ❤
Beautiful Ray, you are amazing at being you and your relationship with your children is deeply inspiring – thank you.
What a beautiful start of the day for a kid. Being held in love whilst falling asleep. Thanks Ray for your tender expression.
I bet this night time ritual will be one of the good childhood memories your son will have, but somehow I feel this connection you have with each other will carry on into adulthood as well.
One thing about kids Ray, is that they keep you real. I have no children of my own but I do have nieces and nephews that I love very much and they are a great reflection to me.
Yes, you can say that again Lindellparlour, children are definitely great reflections for all of us. I have recently started to appreciate this more and more and with knowing that they too carry deep wisdom and truth. Having them constantly reflect this to us can sometimes be a challenge but when we embrace what we are offered we then realise children are our heavenly gift, what a true blessing?
Such simplicity in truth. Beautiful Ray
Ray thank you for sharing your simple, loving life. It makes a huge difference to all those around us when we are being ourselves, and we live from the inside out, rather than the outside in.
To spend 10 minutes in stillness being you with your son in connection is pure gold Ray. No wonder the little man was smiling, who would not enjoy being held in such glorious joy and love? Beauty-full.
“We just lay there together for about ten minutes… I put my open hand gently on his chest and he fell asleep.” This is so very beautiful Ray. Why would one ever choose to miss these exquisite moments of deep love and connection, yet we do. Precious moments like this, simply being together in love, are the foundation of an amazing life for all. In the simplicity of living love, the love we truly are, the ordinary becomes extraordinary.
The simplicity of what you share Ray is so beautiful – just by living in a way of who we truly are in all that we are – shines. No ‘doing’ just ‘being’ For a child to receive this is a gift indeed – a true gift of love, and returned twofold.
Thank you Ray. What you share with your children is magic – I recall as a child the joy I felt when my Dad returned home from work, and loved the playfulness he would often bring. For a child to be met each evening by a father with the energy and willingness to share himself with you is magic indeed.
Thank you Ray, so true Serge Benhayon has shown us the way back to ourselves, and that is the greatest blessing you could ever give someone.
Ray, you are so absolutely beautiful and you make family life something, that can be lived in simplicity. You encourage me to build a family, too.
What you have shared is so beautiful and so ordinary at the same time Ray. You have painted a gorgeous picture on the joy that being committed to life brings.
Thank you Ray, so simply and yet powerfully put. The little moments all add up to make the whole. It feels like you are doing a great job bringing your children up as well.
This is beautiful. Thank you, Ray. I feel your steadiness in your words and even though I have never met you when I read “I can see from how I am, and how my family is, that I am amazing at one thing – being me” – I just went ‘Yes’.
Thank you Ray, this is so simple yet so profound. How many of us are too stressed out to enjoy these little moments with each other.
So true Judith, I have certainly experienced this. Now I am learning connecting with people is the best therapy ever.
Thank you Ray what a beautiful claiming of you and reminder to all of us ‘I am amazing at one thing – being me.’
Beautiful sharing Ray about the simplicity and depth of life from LOVE.
By you sharing how amazing you are at being you reminds me that the most important thing for me to be amazing at, is just me being me too. Awesome blog Ray.
This blog is so beautiful, thank you Ray. I agree in full “I am not looking for anyone to like or agree with how I live” because every day I have examples that confirm that living with connection to the love I am, just being me, is a quality that everyone I meet wants to be around. From the lady at the supermarket, to the school mums I chat to, to the butcher, my work colleagues, my husband and children everyone wants to know that love exists and that there is a way to live that supports us to feel truly well, vital and settled in our bodies. The quality of the way I live now is what the presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have supported me to choose for myself.
I loved this simple yet profound blog. When my 5 year old son opens his arms to give me a kiss and a cuddle it is amazing…nothing big or special…just a simple act, but gosh it feels awesome! Moments like these are precious and something to appreciate and celebrate!
What Serge Benhayon has consistently shown over the years I have known of him is that there is a way to live life that is simple and normal, but that that normal-ness contains the qualities of love, joy and harmony in oneself and with all those in ones life. And that all this can be achieved by being ourselves, more and more I see and read accounts from others such as this one it shows that Serge is nothing special. Warranting attention so the whole world knows? Yes this is needed in the world but not the lies being spread that are anything but normal or simple. What you shared was beautiful to read Ray and it just goes to show how powerful being ourselves can be, Thank you.
That is special and sounds like a beautiful way to live your life. It’s simple and loving and the world is craving that.. I think some don’t see that they can have that too, but I believe it’s available to us all.
“What I am and how I am is because of me and how I choose to live, and not from following anything”, this for me is the marker of this article. Ray Karam, your love and understanding of yourself is so beautiful it is heart melting. Like Serge Benhayon you are inspiring others to honour the simple moments with loved ones and this is to be celebrated.
Thank you Ray for such a beautiful reading, how great for your children to have a dad who is amazing at just being himself.
Very beautiful Ray. The image is very very tender. There is a lot of love in your writing. This is what you follows. You are a follower of your own love.
Simply beautiful.
Thanks for sharing this beautiful example of true love and appreciation Ray. Lovely to read.
Reading this blog inspires me to appreciate these amazing moments and connections with our family too.
That was just an honor to read Ray – a beautiful glimpse into a deeply loving relationship with you and your son that will inspire many as to what should the norm. And to those who cannot see it for the enormity of what it is, well bad luck to them – you are indeed amazing at being you and living that is a blessing to us all. Gorgeous.
Love it! Truly inspiring to be able to live that way everyday with such consistency.
Just gorgeous Ray, thanks for sharing you.
Love it Ray. A simple but truly important message you have shared here; the power of being yourself.
You are right Ray; a lot of what has been said about Serge Benhayon is absolute rubbish. You are also right in saying it is much easier to write something off or criticize it, than see it for what it truly is. So thank you for sharing here your relationship with Serge and your family, it is so very beautiful it cannot be criticized or ignored. It is a natural loving way what every body is yearning for.
Thank you Ray and Bernard, “a natural loving way” will always find a way of expressing and it comes through in this blog.
Inspiring Ray. You ARE Amazing.
What stood out for me this time rereading this simple but powerful piece is the line ‘I am amazing at one thing – being me.’ This is the most valuable thing I have learnt to do – to live who I truly am and live it really well. Not perfectly but well. I have Serge Benhayon to thank for supporting me to reconnect to who I truly am and to live that everyday.
I loved reading this again, what comes across is the steadiness and commitment to your children and the fact that you know who you are, so there is nothing to prove to anyone. This is a recipe for a simple life.
Beautiful article, Ray. I loved reading about a typical night at your place.
Beautiful to read Ray, thank you. And you are right, Serge Benhayon is no different from the rest of us. He doesn’t tell anyone what to do or how to do it, he just presents how he lives and how simple life can be through making different choices which can then inspire us to make similar choices.
This is great what you share here Ray Karam about you and Serge Benhayon. I am big into keeping things simple and have a very simple life. What just came to mind is our friend who helps us with the cleaning who said she has never met anyone who can live so simple yet have so much. I asked her what she means by ‘so much’. Her response today was “you are consistently content with what you got and you don’t need more or go out of your way to get material possessions”.
What Serge Benhayon has given me personally is how to keep my life simple and practical and it really does work. I am no longer bored or looking for distractions to fill up my time and the spending addiction has gone forever.
Gorgeous blog Ray which brought a smile to my face and tears to my eyes; because this little routine you have described with your Son, is also a daily routine in my household and one that I treasure very much. It is one the favourite parts of my day, cuddling up in bed with my kids and hearing them tell me about their day and kissing them good night. These moments are so precious and so easy to underestimate and not appreciate. Serge Benhayon has inspired me very much over the years to truly appreciate and be aware of the quality of these moments and the power that they can have on building and sustaining some of the most important relationships we can have in our lives, with our own children.
Yes Andrew, I too have been inspired by Serge Benhayon to truly appreciate the quality of moments like this… And all the little moments seem to be joining together as my rhythm strengths throughout the day. My relationships with my children have deepened and this is so precious. I feel blessed. ✨
Thank you Andrew Mooney, it is great to appreciate the smaller things and people that are around us. You’re comment is testament to the man and father you are, your children are blessed as are the people around you. Thank you again.
Beautiful sharing Ray, I can feel the steadiness you live in your words and how much of an influence that has on the joy in your kids.
Gorgeous Ray, so simple and full of love.
Truly beautiful Ray – I could just feel myself melting away. The depth of love and presence you write and live in is deeply felt…like a big warm hug. You are very inspiring and deeply beautiful. Thank you for sharing the simplicity of living love. I too have been inspired by and am deeply grateful of Serge Benhayon and his living ways.
Simplicity and Appreciation – thanks for sharing Ray
How beautiful, simply expressing your love and appreciation for each other.
So beautiful Ray. Thank you for sharing.
Ray this is a great testament to how life can be when you keep it simple and loving. I am very inspired by what you have shared. The key here is inspired – you have inspired me, you haven’t told me what to do; you have shared, presented how life is for you. I can feel what you have shared is true, it is not a ‘put o’n or an ideal you would like to live and that is why I am inspired. Pretty simple really and yet this is all that Serge Benhayon has ever done, and like you state some people have found a way to make that somehow malicious and dangerous. That says more about the accuser and the way they live.
Absolutely vanessahawthorne, I too am inspired by what Ray has shared to keep life simple and loving and appreciate it. His reflection like Serge’s is super powerful and for some this is obviously too confronting and they react and lash out verbally. This is a reflection of the choices they are making in their lives and the discomfort they cause.
Lovely Ray, what appears to be a small moment in your little boys life will build self worth in the years to come and he will pass that on with his relationships. Thank you for sharing this small but huge moment.
This is beautiful Ray – what an amazing way to raise children – such a blessing that you have shared a little snippet with us.. thank you.
Ray, I love it how you so naturally captured the pure simplicity of love… and that you chose to share it with us all.
Oh, sooooooo tender…
I hear you Ray, no one needs to tell you what is beauty-full, it just feels that way and you want to be like that all the time. Our children are amazing if we let them beeee. Thankyou 🙂
So lovely Ray, a pleasure to read!
Beautiful!
It is that simple Ray, as you make the choice to make it so, thanks for the inspiration.
Utterly beautiful Ray!
Simply beautiful – thank you Ray.
This is a beautiful post, Ray, and shows how precious each and very moment of the day is. Your recognition of your own amazingness and how you express that with your family supports them to live and feel their own amazingness. What a glorious way to live!
Thank you for sharing Ray the connection you have with your family and your children. I feel honoured to be able to read and thus share in this connection also.
Absolutely. Beautifully expressed Ray.
The simplicity is beautiful Ray.
You and your family are amazing to see… continue being the amazing that you are.
Beautiful.
This IS special and unique Ray , Simply beautiful!
Isn’t it amazing how simple love truly is? Thanks Ray.
Just so beautiful Ray.