Alcohol & My Kind of Friday Night

by Harry White, Gold Coast, Australia

My kind of Friday night is one that Saturday will thank me for.

There is a saying that, “The best nights are the ones that you don’t remember”. Well I have had one of those nights before, and if I didn’t remember it, my body certainly made sure that I did with the constant vomiting, headaches, stomach cramps and un-easiness.

Are those big party nights really worth it?

I mean, alcohol is expensive and it makes you do things that you will regret doing, like:

–  taking drugs, trying cigarettes,

–  lowering your standards and ‘hooking up’ with complete strangers, and

–  engaging in behaviours and doing things which are dangerous to yourself and others.

It takes you away from your-self, it gives you a hangover, dulls your senses, kills brain cells and causes undeniable damage to your heart and liver.

As a seventeen year-old young man there is an enormous pressure to go to parties, get wasted and ‘have a good time’ with your mates. I felt this pressure from my school peers and let myself succumb to it. I guess I attended the party to be seen as ‘cool’ and to be accepted by my peer group. I had no interest in drinking alcohol so I played the game of “I’m the designated driver”, but never expressed my true feelings of “No, I don’t want to drink alcohol” from fear of not being accepted. This fear of rejection would get me every time.

More recently I have felt this pressure from friends who ask me if I “want to go out”, meaning go out to pubs or nightclubs and get ‘plastered’.  As a young musician, I have played in many pubs and clubs and have experienced first hand what this ‘getting plastered’ may be like; I know I would not like it at all. From behind the drum set I have observed many troublesome things, which have confirmed my feeling that I absolutely do not EVER want to dull and numb myself so much. The thought of being in such a state brings horror to my body and it almost makes me sick.

Now that I have realised that it IS okay and should be considered the ’norm’ to be self-loving and express your true feelings, I have been shining within myself and allowing that shine to emanate outwardly. It is so rewarding to honour your body and your feelings and let them guide the way you live and the choices that you make.

So what IS my kind of Friday night?

My kind of Friday night is one where I can cook dinner with my family and be in their company.

My kind of Friday night is one where I can wind-down with a cup of chamomile tea and be in bed by nine.

One where I can joke around with my sister.

One where I can have a laugh with my Dad about our day.

One where I can give my Mum a foot massage after a big day at work.

Where I can draw some pictures or write about my day.

In my kind of Friday night I can dance joyfully to music without being intoxicated.

My kind of Friday night is one that my body loves me for, because I choose to love it.


262 thoughts on “Alcohol & My Kind of Friday Night

  1. It’s like we do feel some things are not really ok, but we push on through with that choice to turn the volume up so that we cannot hear ourselves any more. We are already feeling the after effect of our choices, we know what’s going to come.

  2. Powerful message Harry.
    “In my kind of Friday night I can dance joyfully to music without being intoxicated.”
    Of course, so should this be our normal. There is no flood that needs explaining this fact. The more we allow and accept love , the more we will bring.

  3. This is such a great point you raise here Harrison, that regardless of what our minds can remember or tell us or not our body will always reflect the truth of impact of our choices and the degree of harm we cause to ourselves. It is crazy that we have normalised self-abuse to be something that we champion and that getting drunk is even considered to be a form of ‘initiation’ into adulthood. I experienced this when I was young and in my adult life, but never did it offer a deepening of me living with power. I question the purpose of it all as where is the honouring of the being and empowerment in this?

  4. There have been a few articles in the press recently reporting that young people are not drinking
    The research, published in the journal BMC Public Health, found more than 25% of young people classed themselves as “non-drinkers”.
    University College London’s researchers said the norms around drinking appeared to be changing.
    They studied data from the annual health survey for England and found the proportion of 16- to 24-year-olds who do not drink alcohol had increased from 18% in 2005 to 29% in 2015.
    It will be interesting to see over the years if this trend increases.

  5. Harry, your Friday nights feel so nurturing and are a direct reflection of the love and care you offer to yourself which is not only of benefit to you, but also to those around you.

  6. Yeah! I love this celebration of how you choose to live and how joyful and loving it is, this article reads with a real commitment to life and an appreciation for yourself and those around you and at the time of writing this you are 17 years old. This is inspiring and you are an absolute trail blazer..

  7. Gorgeous and what a great example of how our Friday night can be — in absolute joy and connection. Were alcohol would be the disturber of this greater joy. Love that Harry.

  8. I love my life without alcohol. It puzzles me that so-called friends are so concerned about what liquid another has in their glass and even try to convince those who are not drinking to ‘go on, just have one’. Why, when there has been a clear choice not to?

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