by Kyla Plummer, Bangalow, NSW, Small Business Owner
Accusations of sexual assault are extremely serious and should never be taken lightly. The statistics that follow clearly show that sexual assault, sexual abuse and sexual violence are currently major issues in modern society.
- 1 in 3 women and 1 in 6 men are abused before the age of 18 (Fergusson & Mullen. 1999).
- 1 in 5 women and 1 in 20 men have experienced sexual violence since the age of 15 years (Australian Bureau of Statistics, Personal Safety Survey, 2005).
- 93% of offenders are male (National Crime and Safety Survey, 2002).
- 82% of recorded sexual assault victims were female (Trends in Recorded Sexual Assault, Australian Institute Of Criminology, 2005).
On a world scale, we are unfortunately familiar with sexual abuse. However, I don’t need statistics to know this abuse is widespread… I have first hand experience of being sexually assaulted, as have many of my female friends: in addition, some of the men that I know have been sexually abused in some way during their lives.
When I was 19 years old and pregnant with my first child, a registered Osteopath indecently assaulted me. He was recommended to me by a prominent, progressive and highly reputable Professor of Medicine based in Melbourne.
When I was 11 years old, I remember one of my father’s creepy friends commenting on my breast development, when my Dad wasn’t in earshot. (Creepy [Urban Slang] – commonly used term describing sexually inappropriate or perverted behaviour and/or; to derive sexual gratification through dishonorable means.)
At 21 a well-known local businessman propositioned me to prostitute myself.
At 23 I woke up with a man having sex with me when I was too intoxicated to defend myself.
Many women have experienced men initiating sex with them when they are too intoxicated to resist.
A close friend became pregnant after being raped at 16.
Another friend recently told me that she had been ‘felt up’ (or indecently assaulted) by strangers in the street too many times to count…
These experiences are not isolated; there are millions of these stories…
We all know what a creep looks like: most people know what creeps feel like or what creepy behavior entails. Most of my female friends also have a sense of when someone is using their body to get off in some way – we get it every day, even simply walking down the street, or in the workplace, or with the extra special attention of a creepy uncle or family friend.
I do not and would not engage any practitioner, doctor, massage therapist, dentist or anybody else that is going to come in close contact to my body, who feels or acts creepy. Perhaps back then I got stung or tricked more easily, when I was not as sure with my convictions and my rights. That Osteopath managed to trick me into breast massage (he was a man!) by insinuating that it was for therapeutic purposes: he also suggested internal muscle manipulation! Yes… he attempted to get me to allow him to vaginally and anally manipulate my hip muscles?!? I left and never went back. Thinking back, even before these atrocious suggestions, the way he checked the alignment of my bones whilst I was in my underwear without a robe, was creepy enough to begin with – and unnecessary to my treatment.
Yes, I should have reported him, but like many victims of sexual abuse, I was humiliated, traumatised and felt stupid, like it was somehow my fault. I did have him blacklisted by his peers with the co-operation of the Professor who had originally recommended him, but I could have done more, and so should have that Professor. Due to my circumstances, at that time I could not face the ordeal of pressing charges; however, I did not keep it to myself and sought support of those close to me as well as relating the incident to the Professor. I would handle this differently with the strength and certainty that I now possess, and would never allow that to happen to me again: I could never be tricked in that way, belittled, made to feel inferior, prudish or immature, like I was made to feel if I did not allow the sexual advances of that man – actions he attempted to hide under the guise of Osteopathy.
I take great offence to anyone suggesting that I don’t know what sexual abuse is. Or that I am somehow too stupid or manipulated to know what sexual assault is – I KNOW, it has ACTUALLY happened to me. To suggest that 100’s, if not 1000’s of women who all have awareness about sexual abuse, and by the statistics shown above at least 1/3 may have personal experience of this abuse, are suddenly rendered unaware of what’s happening during their treatments at the Universal Medicine Clinic, is patently ridiculous and deeply offensive to these people who conduct themselves impeccably in their everyday lives.
The person or persons responsible for accusing Serge Benhayon or Universal Medicine of sexual misconduct clearly have had no experience with real abuse themselves, or they are very confused about what it means, or THEY HAVE AN AGENDA… but most likely, all of the above. The character and motives of these people require serious assessment and they should be held accountable.
Unfortunately, in a world rife with sexual abuse there are also those who attempt to ruin others’ lives and reputations by malicious accusations. They know that by doing so they will tarnish the reputation of the accused even if they can get no further with it than the initial complaint. It is a serious offence to wrongfully accuse someone of sexual assault or misconduct, and it is also a gross insult to the countless real victims of sexual abuse. That they attempt this smear by employing a social media site that is notorious for taking no responsibility for the sometimes dubious and outrageous content shared on various pages, is a definite indication that there is an agenda at play. To me these are not the actions of a genuinely abused person, but rather those of one on a mission. Furthermore, the image uploaded on this same site suggesting sexual interference with a client is laughable for its anatomic inaccuracy, betraying total ignorance of where ‘lady parts’ are located. (The image refers to ‘a young woman’ – how do they even know this?). Thousands of these treatments have been given, with no recorded complaints. EVER! Excluding this one anonymous exception.
My experiences with Serge Benhayon and practitioners of Universal Medicine are the dead opposite to these allegations. I have never felt any underlying sexual suggestiveness or behavior from him and/or them. NEVER. I was and continue to be always treated with respect as a woman. I have never been touched inappropriately. I always consented to the treatment I received from the Universal Medicine Clinic and these treatments were administered professionally, with client care of the highest standard.
In short, Serge Benhayon does not possess an ounce of the abusive energy that was described previously. So it seems to me utterly ridiculous to accuse this man of creeping… it is simply disgraceful. There are plenty of lovely and genuine men in this world who don’t find the need to objectify women, and just because some (men and women) behave this way does not mean that it needs to be normalised in any way, shape or form. As a woman, it is a true relief to be around non-creepy men – I prefer to call them real men – as I believe this is our true nature and that creepiness (amongst many other unsavoury behaviors) is a product of a civilisation that is clearly out of control.
I know plenty of men and women who are inspired by the way in which Serge Benhayon conducts himself professionally, personally, within the community and notably, the way he treats women with the utmost respect, equality and care. In my opinion and experience, Serge Benhayon is the epitome of a true Gentleman: what a terrible shame that a man of this quality would be accused of the very thing he is clearly not.
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‘…what a terrible shame that a man of this quality would be accused of the very thing he is clearly not.’ Accusing someone about something that is not true (in this case exactly the opposite of who they are) should be penalized.
When I read what your experience was growing up, this is all part of a world that is far from acceptable. The whole world needs a big shake up, and responsibility needs to be brought in for all.
Sexual abuse is a horrendous act; a very serious offense/assault against our being and integrity that the legal system recognizes as a crime under specific conditions. Sexual abuse, however, is only one kind of abuse which has a profound bearing on our integrity and our being. Not every type of abuse cut necessarily equally across gender as the sexual one. This means that there is a clear generalized acquaintance with abuse. Abuse is very difficult to eradicate because of how we live and what we consider normal. Eradicating it, not only includes what we have recognized as abuse, but also referring to it abusively or abusing another in the name of abuse.
I feel that these malicious accusations made up by two people in particular is definitely agenda based, it sticks out like a sore thumb. Revenge is a very unpleasant energy that is being directed towards Serge Benhayon, trying to despoil his reputation and business success is a extremely low handed callous move. But in spite of everything that these people have thrown at Serge Benhayon he goes from success to success because of the truth of what he lives. The teaching for me is that he holds them in the same love that he holds everyone else in spite of their poisonous actions towards him. This is an act of ultimate love.
To accuse the innocent of sexual abuse, driven in this case by a personal agenda and fuelled by jealousy, is a further denigration and slap in the face of all who have indeed been sexually abused.
Making a false claim of sexual abuse is a truly disgusting act. False complaints cast doubt on those who are courageous enough to make complaints about actual abuse.
Making a false claim of sexual abuse should be a chargeable offence.
The ‘anti-cult’ traders have specific rules of engagement. False accusations that create moral outcry is only one of the tools of their toolkit in their ‘fight for truth’.
Thank you so much Kyla for sharing your story. It really is shocking how common these occurrences are and how they seem to be getting more and more perverted in its enactment. If I had not come to Universal Medicine and got to know Serge Benhayon and other inspired men, I would have easily stated ‘men are creepy by nature’ as a fact, but what I have learnt is how much of human behaviour is a result of us not being who we truly are, and what I feel now to question is how we manage to either become ourselves or continue to bring up the generation after generation of those whose behaviours represent the complete opposite of what we truly are by nature.
Fumiyo I agree with you when you say
‘what I have learnt is how much of human behaviour is a result of us not being who we truly are, and what I feel now to question is how we manage to either become ourselves or continue to bring up the generation after generation of those whose behaviours represent the complete opposite of what we truly are by nature.’
We have managed to stray so far from who we truly are that we are unrecognizable from our true nature. Serge Benhayon and Universal medicine are a constant reminder that we are far greater than we could ever imagine ourselves to be. It has taken me a while to really feel this within myself but now that I’m getting a sense of this other part of me, I wonder why on earth I spent so much time resisting the truth of who I am.
I feel I have a greater understanding of why people are in so much resistance to what is on offer because we can feel how far we have strayed into animalistic behaviour which is the complete opposite to the divinity we belong to. To admit this, I would say takes a lot of courage and self love, as how many of us can admit we are playing a game of delay.
When people abuse their position of authority to abuse another their behavior is absolutely abhorrent and unacceptable.
If you doubt then just have a go and meet Serge Benhayon because creepiness is indeed something so very clear to feel and there is no ounce of creepiness in Serge Benhayon or anyone involved with Universal Medicine.
“It is a serious offence to wrongfully accuse someone of sexual assault or misconduct, and it is also a gross insult to the countless real victims of sexual abuse.” Everyone is harmed by those who intentionally wrongfully accuse someone of sexual assault or misconduct – including the perpetrator as they feed their own malicious energy.
Absolutely Mary, ‘Everyone is harmed by those who intentionally wrongfully accuse someone of sexual assault or misconduct’, and this heinous act needs to become a chargeable offence, so the perpetrator is held accountable.
You give a very blatant insight into our state of being as human beings and it becomes clear how blessed we are by Serge Benhayon and his living ways.
Reading this today shocked me to some degree as I felt how normal this has become for all of us … I too have been felt up and make little of it as I felt that well I must have been ‘asking for it’ … not true at all but at the time I didn’t have the confidence in me to say this is not ok, and how many of us have felt that way. And as I write this I can feel the devastation of all of us that we can live and have lived in a way that allows abuse and considers it normal, for no matter where on the scale it is abuse, and it’s not normal and if we do not call this out we allow the space for the greater abuses we know and see around us. It’s beyond time we all said no to this, and it starts with us truly valuing ourselves and allowing ourselves the space and the voice to say what we truly feel. And why can I say this now and not back then? Well I came across Universal Medicine and I was met with a love and care I’d rarely experienced, a care that told me clearly I was a beautiful, precious woman and that I could live and be that in the world. I would not have the understanding I know have of the abuse I’ve experienced without that care, that love, that integrity. Thank you Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon and myself for all that support and those steps.
What you beautifully show here is that we are lost without true reflections of the love and care we all deserve.
I would go further and say there is not a woman alive who has not been sexually abused – if not physically, then certainly energetically. We have all been objectified and used for sexual gratification in one way or another – as Kyla reports here, it is an everyday occurrence, and it can be as simple as a look. Learning how to hold ourselves steady whilst being aware of what is occurring (rather than blocking what we feel by whatever means possible – with alcohol, drugs, food, and so on) is key. I’m learning, slowly, how to do just that, thanks to my work with Universal Medicine practitioners and the ever-helpful presentations of Serge Benhayon.
Serge Benhayon holds the utmost respect and dignity for women, from the way he speaks to his unimposing posture and humbleness, there is nothing about Serge that could in the slightest way be dreamed as sexually abusive, and from the way he lives he has inspired many men to connect to their own gentleness which in turn inspires others.
Accusing someone of sexual abuse as a way to get back at them, any which way and especially one that will incite others, is not just a dirty trick but a crime. Furthermore, it makes a mockery of those who have been sexually assaulted and weakens their position by association and insinuation.
I welcome the day when every man and woman lives with the degree of integrity, respect and responsibility that Serge Benhayon lives every single day.
This says it all, of the integrity and love Serge Benhayon lives.
Lorraine, I too welcome the day when ‘every man and woman lives with the degree of integrity, respect and responsibility that Serge Benhayon lives every single day.’ Serge embodies heaven on earth to the nth degree.
Your experience with sexual abuse is a story that is very familiar to me, both in my own life and in the lives of many people I know both male and female. In my experience it is rare To truly get to know a woman without eventually being told of the sexual abuse she has experienced. Serge Benhayon is a man that presents the complete opposite of sexual abuse. He stands for honour and integrity and his treatment if both men and women is completely and utterly respectful to say the least.
There will be many who can testify that what you share concerning Serge Benhayon and his absolute integrity ! To share what you have experienced in the wider world is indeed important especially to those young people who may be unfortunate enough to come into contact with unscrupulous and abusive professionals. Thank you Kyla for your honesty.
It’s true Kyla, none us ‘need statistics to know this abuse is widespread’ or prove to us our present day society is being held to ransom by such abuse – and we can all see it with our own eyes when we actually open them up to this fact.
We do all know when someone behaves creepy yet because it’s seen as normal in our society to behave in this manner we override the feelings within ourselves. It took a friend to point out to me that a relative of mine was looking at her in a peculiar way. This was the way he had always looked at women especially young girls me included but I dismissed it even though I knew and I knew that someone close to me knew what she was saying was true. Communication and expression are key and as a parent creating space for my children to openly express how they feel and I with them especially in situations where we feel even a little uncomfortable is important in my relationship with myself and with them.
Thank you for sharing Caroline. A couple of years ago a family member repeatedly placed his hand on my bottom when hugging me. Each time I felt horrified and violated but I said nothing hoping it was an accident. When I finally told another family member I found out that this had been happening to many young women in my family and all of them had been told that it was an ‘accident’. Thankfully I had learned to trust what I feel and see the abuse for what it was. Silence is what allows sexual abuse to continue. Serge Benhayon’s presentations have encouraged me to speak up and honour what I feel and as a result I no longer experience or allow sexual abuse the way I used to.
What makes an expert these days? With respect do you need to study at Uni, work in a laboratory or be recognised by an association or similar? Or do you simply need to have experienced something in detail and walked out the other side. I would say the lady writing an article such as this is an expert on sexual abuse and what it looks like from a living perspective, a real and living expert. In this way and from what she has presented I trust she knows and is aware of what she is speaking about. I know Serge Benhayon really well and all that is written here I support fully.
It feels even worse in some ways when a health professional acts in this creepy way. We go to them trusting they will treat us with care and integrity and it is almost like you have to get through a wall of disbelief to realise that a professional can act this way. What feels key is to have a well established sense of abuse and what that is for you, then not allow anyone to cross it, health professional or not.
(Now) “I could never be tricked in that way, belittled, made to feel inferior, prudish or immature, like I was made to feel if I did not allow the sexual advances of that man”. I have realised how much we as young women feel we are not in a position to say no to the sexual advances of a man. It’s almost like we should be grateful that someone has paid us that attention! I can recall that it was very common for boys to talk about who was frigid or call girls that name when I was a teen. When peer pressure is so strong as a teenager, it takes a lot to stand up to this, and not see this as the normal way to relate to men.
An amazing piece of writing about a subject that absolutely needs to be discussed and not continued to be normalised by the normalisation and apathy which surrounds it. Any form of sexual misconduct or abuse is not okay and to accuse one of it for your own agenda when the opposite is true is not only deeply offensive but reprehensible.
Kyla shocking statistics – thank you for sharing your story. And I fully agree with you in no way is Serge Benhayon abusive of women or men for that matter. Many people in his place have in the past abused their ‘power’ over others but with Serge I have never observed him, over the 13 years I have known him, be anything but respectful of women and men. In fact he has treated everyone with the utmost love, care, decency and respect that is noteworthy itself. He always has time for you no matter what. And this is the story that needs to be told.
Serge Benhayon was the first teacher who has presented the energetic integrity of a practitioner that they could be impeccably attired and be professional in their practice but if they used porn/alcohol/drug etc. that’s what they are bringing into their practice energetically and will affect the client with. It is most ludicrous to suggest anyone of his high level of integrity and awareness to be sexually, or in any other way, abusive towards anyone.
No statistics get near what (mostly) women suffer under. And we allow this. By every not-reported assault, by every creepy glance we ignore and avoid – the moment we dull our beauty and light, we dim our power and try to hide, play safe….we are lost. And we support this kind of energy that wants exactly this: that women shut down. To free ourselves out of this cycles of abuse is our all responsibility. Women can learn to stay in their authority and grace and men can support them here. To learn to appreciate and honor ourselves and each other is key…and empowering.
In my personal experiences I found Serge Benhayon inspiring me to take responsibility and supporting me in empowerment. I know a lot of men now who do their best to get rid of the abusive energy which is so familiar for us. And I appreciate their way out of it and the choices which are made to clear. Serge however feels totally clear for me – no creepy, no abusive, no disgraceful or even just not-honoring energy is coming through him. I never before met a man with his integrity on every levels. He is a role model for us all. It is possible to live in grace with each other. Lets find out how and do it.
Interesting how the word ‘felt up’ has been toned down to excuse a behaviour that was once upon a time very common (just look at some comedies from 30 or 40 years ago). When you change that to a truer reflection such as indecently assaulted or sexually abused it loses its playful banter and exposes the action and the person to what is really going on.
“Unfortunately, in a world rife with sexual abuse there are also those who attempt to ruin others’ lives and reputations by malicious accusations.” This is also abuse and compounds the actual sexual abuse so many have been subjected to by casting doubt on what they have experienced. To say, suggest, hint or infer that Serge Benhayon is in any way creepy is profoundly abusive. He is a man of absolute integrity, truth and love of humanity.
Well said Kyla. I too agree that Serge Benhayon is a true gentleman and it is shameful that false accusations are made against him. When dirt can not be found, then they make them up. This should have consequences. As do the sexual inappropriate behaviors of others.
“I know plenty of men and women who are inspired by the way in which Serge Benhayon conducts himself professionally, personally, within the community and notably, the way he treats women with the utmost respect, equality and care.” And I am another woman who has been sexually abused and I also count my self as one of those who is inspired by Serge Benhayon and feels not an iota of abusive or inappropriate energy from him. To accuse him of sexual abuse is a malicious and unfounded lie.
‘Yes, I should have reported him, but like many victims of sexual abuse, I was humiliated, traumatised and felt stupid, like it was somehow my fault’. I find it absolutely fascinating why so many victims of abuse feel this shame you speak of Kyla. Far more clinical studies need to be initiated regarding this fact to expose why it is so.
Serge Benhayon is the epitome of a true gentleman, I completely completely absolutely agree, and it’s super super rare, but I notice his commitment to live with total integrity has inspired many other men to live with the same integrity, it’s amazing to see more and more men truly cherish women and live more tenderly and true to the amazing men they are, all thanks to the inspiration of one man. The rumours are crazy – the exact opposite of the truth of this man.
The use of the word ‘creepy’ and its definition in this article really brings focus to a critical factor in men’s approach and integrity around women. Yes, most of us have had first hand experience of creepiness relating to unwanted or inappropriate sexual behaviour in some shape or form and are therefore equipped with our very own protection antennae. And it’s this ability, this discernment that ensures the testimonials from female students who have received treatments from Serge Benhayon are based on a clear awareness of what is known to be honourable behaviour, full of integrity and what is not.
Thank you Kyla for your honest account of your personal experiences with Universal Medicine and in your life overall in regards to sexual abuse. The statistics are shocking and yet it’s a subject that is often not talked about because people find it quite disturbing. Finding people to speak up about the topic responsibly and lead the way through a way of living that demonstrates respect to all women is exactly what we need. Serge Benhayon is such a person and has inspired many other men to live likewise. He has also supported women to heal from sexual abuse. That the media chooses to distort and lie about those involved with Universal Medicine is a great disservice to men and women everywhere and does nothing to dismantle public understandings of the level of harm and prevalence of sexual abuse in our world.
Upon reading this blog again Kyla I feel to repeat what many others have stated that Serge Benhayon is the pinnacle of a true gentle and tender man with utmost respect and honour towards all women and men. Indeed through Serge Benhayons teachings and own livingness I have become more self-loving, honouring of myself and more aware that any, even what maybe classified as normal, form of sexual innuendo or objectifying of a womens’ body is abusive, totally unacceptable, and not to be tolerated.
“in a world rife with sexual abuse there are also those who attempt to ruin others’ lives and reputations by malicious accusations. They know that by doing so they will tarnish the reputation of the accused even if they can get no further with it than the initial complaint.” Unfortunately this is a common tactic used to abuse the system and the person who in their opinion has ‘wronged’ them. These are serious allegations and a criminal act that should never let be seen as an option or means of revenge.
Thank you Kyla for sharing your personal experience and standing up for the truth. I too have always had an inbuilt creep detector but that has not always protected me from inappropriate and unwanted behaviour. Meeting Serge Benhayon has restored my faith in humanity because to be around him is to feel the total lack of imposition and the love in which we are all held by him. There is so much appalling behaviour that needs to be called out and it is totally unacceptable that those with an agenda are trying to smear a true gentle-man whose integrity is second to none and reflects the way forward for humanity.
Thank you Kyla, what you share is very much how I feel “Unfortunately, in a world rife with sexual abuse there are also those who attempt to ruin others’ lives and reputations by malicious accusations. They know that by doing so they will tarnish the reputation of the accused even if they can get no further with it than the initial complaint.” It is incredibly wrong to foster fear and attempt to destroy another through malicious lies and never ever is it justified. It is very much time that this behaviour was brought to account and those who repeat this ‘information’ actually investigate to ensure that what they are reporting is true and accurate before they further the abuse and slander.
Thank you Kyla for your heartfelt and powerful blog. I too know what creepiness feels like and Serge Benhayon is the exact opposite – a true gentleman full of integrity and love as are all the practitioners at Universal Medicine. The statistics you cite are appalling and an action of true responsibility is way overdue on the part of many.
Your article is very inspiring Kyla, you name and say it as it is and you don’t hold back the truth, what would just feed the issue and allowing the creepy energy to have its play through men with un-respectful manners towards women. I can clearly and openly say and confirm that Serge Benhayon is a real man and he is total trustworthy in his welcoming and respectful way – a gentle-man in the true meaning.
He would never let one feel uncomfortable or playing out his position as a therapist. I know Serge Benhayon for nearly 10 years now and he is the real deal.
The statistics you state in your blog are quite appalling Kyla and clearly illustrate the shadow that is cast over our society by abusive behaviour in any way at any level. The hurts that develop as a result of abuse run deep and cannot but have a cascading effect that is felt in all aspects of a persons life. This also subsequently affects how they interact with others and their ability to have relationships with them. It is our responsibility as a society to unite and expose how unacceptable and unhealthy for all any abuse is – and actually correct it.
Thank you so much Kyla for this powerful article. Women do know and can sniff out any creep, even as a small child. I used to think all men had that kind of seedy energy that imposed upon women. However, by observing people like Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon, I started to understand the versions of men and women I had come to accept as normal were far from the truth. As a woman, I have a responsibility to allow absolutely no abuse whatsoever in my life – and this is the only way I can bring any change.
Yes absolutely agree with you Kyla. ” Serge Benhayon is the epitome of a true Gentleman” and he is a man that truly honours me in every way. He has inspired me deeply in what it is to honour myself as a woman and not allow any abuse in my life. To say he is a sexual abuser of woman is a crime, for it is not a light thing to say. It creates mistrust and that with a man who is the most honouring of women I have ever experienced.
Is it possible that men and to some extent women use sex as a way of expressing all of their hurts and issues? What goes on in a man that he thinks it okay to have sex with someone who is intoxicated to a point of sleep? How is this thought even floating around for someone to grab and act on? This says something for our whole world does it not – that potentially we are acting upon all of those thoughts we have all had and experienced. As people act them out they are grounded for others to act out and on and on. This is not new it is as ancient as the times we have all lived. Thank you Kyla for naming so clearly that there is no acceptable level of abuse of this kind.
It’s a great point you make here Lee, that there is no accepted level of abuse of this kind. Another point to make is that it is totally irresponsible to imbibe alcohol to the point of unconsciousness especially when others around you do the same. Anything can happen to people who are drinking. Best advice is don’t drink, stay aware, especially when there are lots of people around who you don’t know or trust.
It is not okay to falsely accuse someone of sexual misconduct – as you mention, this not only demeans the victim of the lies but also real victims of sexual abuse. Kayla, thank you for stating the truth with such honesty and strength.
This is so true Carmin.
Thank you Kylia for honestly speaking up about your experiences, I can really agree with what you have written as my experiences have been similar. Serge in his deep love, compassion and intrigity, is the true role model for all men.
Thank you Kyla, for a power-filled article. I completely agree in what you have experienced with the professionalism and care of Universal Medicine and practitioners, and that “I have never felt any underlying sexual suggestiveness or behavior from him and/or them”. From life experience, I also know what creepy men feel like – and in Stark contrast, “Serge Benhayon is the epitome of a true Gentleman”. Thank you for standing up against lies and false allegations, and exposing how this smear campaign is to hide the world from seeing the absolute role model Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is.
Wow, so well said!
This blog is amazing.
Thank you Kyla for speaking up and being such a great role model in a world where abuse seems to be normal.
I am aware that as I write, the statistics quoted have sadly, probably increased. It was a shock to see them and to feel how this is allowed to go on and is continuing to be supported in the on-line websites and media advertising out there objectifying woman. The ‘creepiness’ you mention Kyla, can be felt. I have never felt this around Serge Benhayon, if anything, it is the clear amazing love, acceptance and humility that is who he is, that can be felt. Being around Serge Benhayon has been an opportunity to know and feel what truth is and what we all are capable of ,if we all but only choose. What Serge has brought to the world is something that has been lost and is now returning in the many that have had the opportunity to know him. Thank you for your Blog Kyla and it’s honesty.
One of the most coolest & realest post about sexual abuse. It is time to speak in this way.
Growing up in this world, women and men all know personally what sexual abuse and inappropriate behaviour looks and feels like, most of have experienced it themselves. I agree coming from a life times experience of growing up where sexual inappropriate behaviour happens in our society daily I know without a doubt though my experience of meeting Serge Benhayon that “In short, Serge Benhayon does not possess an ounce of the abusive energy…” This is so rare and it is something to be appreciated.
Thanks so much Kyla for speaking out, firstly the stats at the start are shocking and outrageous and you are right, everyone can feel what a creep is like, it’s just a matter of trusting those feelings. To falsely accuse someone of sexual misconduct is one of the lowest things anyone can do especially because the people making these sorts of accusations know exactly what they are doing or should I say trying to do.
It is astounding that 1 in 3 women will experience abuse by the age of 18. As a society we have to face up to this fact and start having honest conversations like you have done here Kyla. Thank you.
The statistics in this blog show how prevalent this type of behaviour is and that tells me something is terribly wrong in society today? Why are women and men abused, we may have moved on in technology but It seems little improvement has been made in relation to how we care for one another. There are still many people for whom sexual misconduct is normal and who do not consider the other person in their quest for self satisfaction. Universal Medicine leads the way in showing a level of integrity and care for both all.
Beautifully and powerfully written. It is ridiculous to accuse Serge Benhayon of creeping when his behaviour couldn’t be further away from that and absolutely and deeply offensive to us, all victims of this obvious and unpleasant energy in our own way, of not being able to tell the difference.
Great blog Kyla, Serge Benhayon not only offers healing to students and the public of the psychological effects of rape and sexual assault, he also teaches the same to students and practitioners.
“Most of my female friends also have a sense of when someone is using their body to get off in some way – we get it every day, even simply walking down the street, or in the workplace, or with the extra special attention of a creepy uncle or family friend.”
This is actually a profound sentence, I’ve never looked at it like this but this is one of the major foundations of abuse, and worryingly it’s the same foundation used by advertising and music videos to sell. No wonder abuse has become normalised when we are surrounded by subtler forms of it which is considered acceptable because it’s looking and not touching, yet it’s no doubt encouraging and normalising sexual abuse and assault.
Thank you Kyla for your honesty and courage to share what has occurred in your life. Humanity must hear the call that sexual abuse is an abhorrent act that must not occur anywhere, to anyone, at anytime.
Thank you Kyla for stating it so clearly and which such an authority. The narratives on Serge Benhayon’s seemingly dubious characteristics are totally made up. They have not even an ounce of truth. Those that have made them up know this.
Kyla I love your openness and the way you do not hold back.
It is an ultimate experience to be in Serge Benhayon’s presence and to not feel any type of imposition of emotion or need coming from him. It feels so good that actually is exposing how protected I conduct myself and hold back me. It is because of “creepy” people I am protecting my openness and the love I have and feel for others. I’m fully responsible for not calling it out and being responsible for my openness.
Not until Universal Medicine I began to feel and know how much truth needs to be expressed and never to be held back for anyone.
I would like to further comment on the sentence said by Kyla: “what a terrible shame that a man (Serge) of this quality would be accused of the very thing he is clearly not.”
I absolutely agree, and can feel the utmost ‘craziness’ people are coming from to try to take such an image to the world, which in truth is only for those who do not know Serge Benhayon &/or Universal Medicine – it is a tempting sensationalised new pop-up story; yet to those who know Serge & Universal Medicine,it is known that these accusations are lies, and an ugly fantasy story – made up to slaughter that which is true and really evolutionary on this earth.
When we are young we know without a shadow of doubt which relatives or family friends have a sleazy energy, but unfortunately we do get tricked even as adults and when we look back the signs were always there. The ability to feel sleazy energy never leaves us and I have been around Serge Benhayon for over eight years now and I have never experienced an ounce of sleaze towards myself or anyone else for that matter.
Well said. Serge Benhayon is the complete epitome of the the true gentleman. It is completely and utterly ridiculous for these allegations to be made against him.
Thanks Kyla. I feel you have recounted a story of sexual abuse(s) that is familiar to many women, myself included. Like you, I know when a man is being sleazy and looking out for his own agenda where ‘any female will do’, in fact, they are really only interested in sex and self-gratification. Sad but true. Fortunately there are some men that can be termed gentle-men and Serge Benhayon is one of them. Time for some real re-education for the men and women of this world that intimate touching is only ok when permission is truly given. As for the behaviour of cyber bullies: hiding themselves in cyber space is cowardly, to me.
Thanks Kyla, this is very powerful! and yes, Serge Benhayon is a true gentleman and role model for everyone in the way he treats women and men with the utmost respect, love, equality and highest integrity.
The statistics of abuse, sexual violence, number of victims, etc. is really alarming. It is such a shame that the media has got it totally and completely wrong about Serge Benhayon whilst the real problem is not even being mentioned. Thank you Kyla for writing this.
Yes I agree Ryoko – we certainly need to ask the question ‘why isn’t the media writing the truth about the statistics of abuse, sexual violence etc and interviewing women such as Kyla. The media unfortunately are at the extreme opposite end of truth to make up the fabricated stories and lies about Serge Benhayon.
For the media not to report extensively about these alarming statistics they are supporting abuse to flourish, and not using their powerful role to educate and create change.
You are so right Ryoko; there is a huge story about the shocking levels of sexual abuse and violence waiting to be told by the media, or are many of them staying silent because as so much of this type of behaviour is now considered normal, that there is no longer any sensationalism that will sell papers etc. Now that is one normal that needs to be exposed for the evil it is!
So true – Ryoko – the media have completely missed the actual problem here – that so many women are experiencing sexual abuse DAILY.
There is a lot in this blog. It is becoming increasingly clear that whatever the hate-bloggers write about Serge Benhayon is always the opposite of the truth. So when they accuse him of sexual abuse that translates as Serge holding the opposite energy of that. In other words, he most definitely is not a sexual abuser, and he actually stands up against, and exposes, sexual abuse…which of course he does. Your presentation of the commonality of these sorts of abuse and unhealthy behaviour, Kyla, is powerful. The blatant, and more contrived, forms of abuse and assault are now shown in all their ugliness. It is now up to women and men to stand tall against such energies and identify that we don’t need to allow this creepiness into our lives at all (creeps included…)
Brilliant blog Kyla. We all have the ability to sense when something is not right. I also know and can sense any sort of creepiness in a male or female. I know from personal experience because I have lived with someone who has exhibited these traits and have watched their every move. I have been attending many presentations and workshops run by Serge Benhayon and I have NEVER detected any creepiness or misconduct from him or anyone associated with Universal Medicine. It has been a breath of fresh air and honoring to be in the presence of Serge Benhayon. He is a man of the utmost integrity, honesty, highly respected and loved. I feel completely comfortable and safe in every presentation and workshop I have attended and would highly recommend it to anyone.
Thank you for writing about the different ways and levels there are of sexual abuse, from being touched up on the tube to being raped – unfortunately all too common.
For me Serge Benhayon has set a whole new standard of respect towards both women and men and has made me realise that even though the behaviour is prevalent within our society, it does not mean that it’s acceptable.
Is there any law against being able to make accusations on the internet without any evidence to support these claims of sexual abuse? There is anecdotal evidence in thousands of comments from people, relating personal experiences which are the complete opposite to those claims. I would like to state from my own personal experience that Serge Benhayon conducts himself with absolute integrity, Universal Medicine Practitioners and the treatments delivered by Universal Medicine are administered professionally with the utmost integrity, and client care is without question of the highest standard.
Well said Kyla!!! Thank you for sharing your own experience of sexual abuse… I’m sitting here feeling how sad it actually is that this really does happen to so many women and even men! It’s a serious case not something we can keep pushing under the rug.
I felt the same arieljoymuntelwit and your right it is a issue to no longer push under the rug
Awesome Kyla! You’re such a powerful writer. I also know what creepyness feels like, and Serge Benhayon and all the Universal Medicine Practitioners I know are definitely not that!!
I completely agree with your account of your experience with Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon. I have never met a more genuine and caring group of practitioners and I have never before felt so supported to just simply be me and nothing else. To suggest that people who attend Universal Medicine courses, events and professional practitioner sessions are being coerced to do so is just ludicrous. We all chose to work on our hurts and make a daily choice to unfold to the love we know we are with the guidance and support of this amazing group of people. Thank you for sharing your powerful story and contributing to expose these horrible and hurtful lies coming from very empty people.
Unfortunately the world has many creepy people but by exposing them the way you have is to say the least – inspiring.
Kyla. What a powerful, open and honest account of what you have been through.
Men need to treat women as an equal human being, not to view them as sexual objects to be abused.
I agree Kyla and all the women who have supported your statement and experience, that Serge Benhayon has never felt to be sexually inappropriate, and quite the opposite, It is clear when with him that he has the utmost respect for you as a woman and all women. The accusations made about him are erroneous.
Kyla, your story speaks for itself and is valuable to men and women around the world. You clearly have a very strong sense of another’s behaviour in terms of what is appropriate and what’s not. It is very notable that there are so many people who have had contact with Serge Benhayon, yet no evidence of alleged sexual impropriety has ever come to light. Instead, people report the polar opposite in their experiences with this man.
Dear Kyla,
I re read your blog this evening and I whole heartedly agree with you. I to have had experience with sexual assault and know exactly what it is and how it feels. If the statistics that you quote are true, why is it that our society still sees it as normal? Why are there not more education programs, support forums and the like that expose creepy sleazy behaviour as inappropriate and unacceptable? One third of the worlds women have been affected by this, doesn’t this glaringly say that it is a huge problem and that it needs to be addressed? I can remember as a child being taught how to box, throw a punch, this was all in fun, yet I also know that it was also to give me skills to protect myself with. And in today’s world this is still the approach that many parents take in trying to protect their children from such behaviour. Hence the many types of martial arts and self protection courses available today. Skills that were so very ineffectual when I found myself in this predicament.
The skills that may have supported me would have been those that Serge Benhayon now presents. He presents for us all to feel and discern truthfully what we feel. With these skills, I may have been able to remove myself from the situation that I found myself in, I may also have been able to speak up about what had happened to me at that time. Empowering all women to value themselves and to discern what they are feeling and to say a resounding no to anything that feels in any way creepy is the only way to truly protect ourselves from this way too accepted reality.
Kyla, you bring to light so many truths in your article. I particularly appreciated how you told your own story and in doing so have become a powerful support for Serge Benhayon and all the dedicated healing practitioners he has trained in true service to others. Thank-you.
Thank you, Kyla, for sharing so honestly. I too experienced sexual assault as a teenager and young woman and can today sense ‘creepy energy’ from a man a mile away. Not only have I never felt a smidgen of that from Serge Benhayon, but I stand with you in stating (although words do not even suffice) with all my heart that, yes, he is the epitome of a true gentleman.
Thank you Kyla for your honest sharing of your sexual abuse experiences. You know what sexual abuse is and I deeply appreciate that you now stand for the truth and will never allow this to happen to you anymore.
Hi Kyla and thanks for calling it like it is.The statistics are quite horrifying. I felt powerless to speak up after being ‘felt up’ when I was younger. I have spoken up since but over the years I’ve wondered how it could’ve been different had I spoken out at the time. Apart from this experience, I felt I had avoided sexual abuse yet as I read your examples, I realised I had experienced sexual abuse and more than once! Somehow I’d written them off as ‘minor incidents’, yet as I read your descriptions I remembered how tainted and angry I’d felt at the time. That ‘creepy’ feeling has since then been on my ‘radar’, and I would imagine many, if not most women also detect that ‘creepy feeling’ very readily.
I am incredulous at the very suggestion therefore, that Serge Benhayon …. indeed a real gentleman in every sense of that word, could ever be accused of any sexual impropriety. I have never in the 5 years since I first met and had a treatment with him, seen him or heard of him being anything other than respectful and honouring of women. He is a true man, one of many, and one that I have been fortunate enough to meet and learn from.
Thank you Kyla for your powerfully truthful article. From the very first time I met Serge Benhayon I have felt completely safe. The total respect and integrity of this man is undoubtable.
Thank you Kayla for this very true and deeply moving article.
I for one in reading this blog, must admit that my understanding of the frequency of sexual indecency in our society, was rather lacking. It’s such an awful and deeply scaring occurrence, having had a relationship with a beautiful women who had suffered abuse of this kind.
As for my experience as a client of Serge Benhayon and many of the other Universal Medicine practitioners, I felt with all concerned, an impeccable sense of decency and respect.
Amazing Kayla – I totally agree with you here – Serge Benhayon and all the Universal Medicine practitioners I have had sessions with are completely respectful of their clients. They have care and intimacy that is supportive in every sense of the word. And those accusing him of being a sexual predator must have a very confused understanding of care – but more likely an agenda! How sad.
Thank you Kyla for speaking so powerfully the truth on behalf of many hundreds if not thousand of people who stand witness to exactly what you are writing. It is shameful and a sign of our times that it is so easy to cry rape to discredit someone. It is not only utterly disrespectful and deeply damaging to those who are falsely accused such as Serge Benhayon but it is the same for all those who have actually experienced sexual abuse. The sad result from this behaviour is that those who are innocent are tainted for life and those who are victims find it harder and harder to find the support that is so needed.
In my experience Serge Benhayon and what he offers, has allowed me to gain the respect for myself that I am worth of. Previously, because of the way I viewed myself, I was in a position where I would have allowed sexual abuse and or assault in its many forms. Thanks to Serge and Universal Medicine, I know now I would not allow any person sexually abuse or assault me. To cast Serge Benhayon as an abuser is so incredibly wrong when he has empowered so many woman to not allow abuse in their lives anymore.
You make a really valid point Nikki, the love and respect that Serge Benhayon shows towards women actually enables them to feel for themselves how worthy they are of being cherished and treated with respect. From this starting point we are therefore then very attuned to what abuse feels like.
What you say is so interesting Nikki, that Serge Benhayon in what he offers has changed your opinion of how you viewed yourself and what you perviously accepted and allowed with regard to sexual abuse or assault. I can say the same for myself about how Serge Benhayon in his presentations has made me aware of just what is morally correct and I thank him for it.
Absolutely Nikki since meeting Serge Benhayon I have felt empowered to not allow abuse in my life which I feel deeply grateful for and consequently appalled that there are those who are trying to smear his name and stop others from benefitting from this empowerment.
Kyla, I recon you could detect a creep form a mile away where others could be fooled. I am also deeply inspired by Serge Benhayon and his deep love and respect for every individual. I have never met anyone I trust more.
Such an important article Kyla and thanks for sharing. This really jumped out at me – ‘just because some (men and women) behave this way does not mean that it needs to be normalised in any way, shape or form.’ So very true.
Kyla, this is such a great exposé on the regularity and widespread incidence of sexual abuse. With this kind of exposure to sexual abuse and the frequency of it for women, it is clear that we would be able to recognise it – even after the event as in your examples, it can still be recognised and called out for what it is. I too was sexually abused, by an osteopath practitioner, so I know what that type of abuse under the guise of treatment feels like. I can categorically say that I have felt nothing but total respect from Serge Benhayon and in fact, it was from knowing Serge and seeing and feeling the way he is with women (and men) that I gained my trust back. To feel the absolute integrity in Serge is to know without doubt that the lies of sexual abuse are just that: vengeful lies.
Kyla the statistics you have written here and your own personal story (and the many other personal stories that I am sure many more women could share) are the real news stories that our media should be publicising and publishing not the gossip and lies and populist rubbish that most of them serve out to keep us in the illusion that everything is fine as it is.
Agreed, everything is NOT actually fine as it is. There is an unwillingness to see what is going on and the gossip and populist rubbish is just one way that we are encouraged not to bother opening our eyes.
I think part of what happens as well is that the moment there is a story with a label like sexual abuse there is such fear of not taking it seriously that proper investigation is not undertaken before the slur is repeated. The perpetrator is guilty until proven innocent. I have to put my hand up and say I would be one of the people who would want to believe the victim in every case, mainly because I find it hard to fathom how and why someone would ever want to fake this. However, I have seen so clearly in this situation how malicious and how damaging the false and malicious accusations can be. I feel like I have taken off a pair of glasses and am seeing some really ugly behaviour lying just under the surface.
Yes Lucy I find that really interesting once something like this happens – when we know the truth and therefore can see absolutely clearly the ugly behaviour that’s really going on, it allows us to start to recognise it, and be aware it’s there in other situations too – – Exactly that; like taking off a pair of glasses.
Absolutely Andrew – ‘1 in 3 women and 1 in 6 men are abused before the age of 18’ – these statistics and your own personal story Kyla are shocking, I agree this should be a real news story, the amount of abuse that goes on is definitely not talked about enough.
Kyla, thank you for your very powerful article. For me it is not jut an honour to know the gentle~man that is Serge, but all the men students who through his presentations are making such different choices and themselves becoming more gentle.
It is such a pleasure to be in the company of them all and gives the chance to break the old mould for male/female interaction.
Incredible blog Kyla. The statistics of sexual abuse are quite staggering and it is shocking to hear that women are abused daily even just walking down the street. Abuse of any kind is not acceptable and what you have expressed here will give strength to so many women and men. Thank you for sharing this amazingly honest and inspiring blog.
Kyla thank you not only for your candid sharing of the sexual abuse you have personally experienced but for your clear and strong message that this behaviour is not normal, not acceptable and to accuse a person of such gross acts without a shred of evidence is a disgrace. I too can recognise a creep when I see one and I can truly say that in 8 years of being a customer of Universal Medicine, I have never experienced any creepy behaviour from Serge Benhayon or any of the Universal Medicine team.
There is definitely an agenda at play, because your last paragraph truly encapsulates the real qualities of Serge Benhayon, a man whose conduct is impeccable. The lies that have been printed on the internet are most definitely written with the clear intent to harm and damage reputations without any regard for the truth or the impact they will have on those they are accusing. Shame of them for showing absolutely no respect for people who have been abused. These lies simply expose the complete ignorance of sexual abuse, the real damage it inflicts and the disgraceful self interest at play here.
Kyla thank you for sharing your journey and your personal understanding of abuse. Those who accuse Serge Benhayon clearly have no such understanding. I have not met anyone more supportive, honest, or with more integrity than Serge.
Kyla, thank you for exposing how prevalent sexual abuse really is, and that it goes way beyond just physical abuse, but is just as harming in non-physical ways of emotional trauma. Also, it struck me how doctors can and do sometimes hide behind their field (such as that creepy Osteopath) as an excuse to do whatever they want based on an arrogant feeling of supremacy over the patient. The way you showed how the accusers of Serge Benhayon are on a mission based on their lack of understanding of sexual abuse and ridiculous claims of Universal Medicine students being ‘brainwashed’ on a massive scale.
Kyla, your article brought back old memories for me of when I have been abused in various ways in my life. I also know what it feels like, the energy around a man (or woman) who are “creepy”. I feel a kind of sticky, warm, cloying feeling, heavy with desire, and there is a scent that is disgusting, and I get a very uncomfortable feeling in my solar plexus.
When I am in the company of Serge Benhayon, I feel a clarity, a lightness, a lack of imposition and need, and a truly genuine gentle quality.
It does occur to me that since the boom of so called sexual freedom, which has brought about a revolution in sexual behaviour, sex is so much more accepted and practised casually, and everything in our society now has an overt sexual inuendo, that maybe people cannot feel that abusive sexual energy as something abhorrent and unusual anymore.
Kyla, your blog is very powerful and exposes the horror of sexual abuse and assault. Those statistics you give are incredible and show that this type of behaviour is permitted in our society. Before finding Universal Medicine I came across creepy doctors, friends of the family, work colleagues and even complete strangers in the Paris Underground. It is belittling for us women. We have to stand tall in ourselves and show with our stillness that this is not tolerated anymore. I could always feel the energy of a creep before anything happened.
On the other hand, Serge Behnayon’s energy has always felt so pure to me. He has a profound respect for women and the treatments offered at Universal Medicine are of the highest of standards.
Thanks Kyla for this very powerful article, I never knew that the percentage of women and men abused was so high. What a crash out of control world we live in. Also a great testament to the integrity of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
Thank you Kyla for presenting the truth of what the world has allowed to look the other way on and make as normal is you can – ignoring the elephant in the room. To attempt to tar and feather Serge Benhayon with this dirty brush as Katerina above has said ‘To accuse Serge of sexual misconduct is utterly disgraceful and shocking – for there is not an ounce of truth in these accusations’.
This is such an important and powerful blog, thank you for writing it Kyla. As women, we definitely know what creepy is and what is not – no question. I have NEVER had any doubt or question about Serge Benhayon in the 7 years I have known him. He has always had the utmost integrity and respect for men and women. He is a true gentleman in every way.
Thank you Kyla, I like many, have had my fair share of creepy behaviour from men and women. When my sisters and I were young it was my fathers drinking buddies, then as I got older it was a boss making comments, which not only embarrassed me but also the other men present; then it was a woman in a health club I used to attend, being touched up in a crowd and on many other occasions. It is refreshing to have a post like yours which highlights the different levels of abuse and that says it is not acceptable at any level.
This blog is so powerful Kyla. I have been working on a project recently to get girls in college to start standing up to this behavior from ‘real men’ as you say, and this article sums up exactly the reason as to why this needs to happen. I find it disgraceful that not only do ‘real men’ think that it is acceptable to say/do the things that you have listed, but it is equally shocking that not many women are standing up to it. A definite change is needed here, and you are leading the way. Thank you.
Great comment Susie and you too are leading the way in your college with your project. It is very important to stand up against such cruel and damaging behaviour and everyone needs to be encouraged to take a stand. It is all our responsibility to change this and both you and Kyla are showing us real ways we can do this. Your project is a remarkable step forward in dealing with the abusive culture in schools and it should be part of every school’s curriculum.
Kyla, thank you for this honest and upfront article. I can absolutely vouch from my own experience of knowing Serge Benhayon that in all his interactions with me and many other women I know, I have experienced the utmost respect. Truth be told, I have never felt as safe as a woman, as in the company of Serge Benhayon. This may sound a bit over the top to some, but it is absolutely my truth.
As you write in your article, so many women, including myself, have experienced abuse and creepiness – we know what this feels like, how gross it is and we’ve all had our own stories with it – why we might have allowed it when we were little vulnerable girls, and how those experiences might have shaped us into being more guarded with men in our adulthood as a result. This was certainly the case for me – I would find it difficult to open up to men and trust them. Now that I’ve become much more connected with myself with a deeper trust for myself I can feel how I can astutely discern if a man (or woman) is being creepy. I can smell creepiness from miles away and I will not let it come near me.
Serge Benhayon and the many other esoteric practitioners have been an amazing support for me to turn around and say NO to creepiness and abuse and not shrink away in any embarrassment or shame, but to say NO, this is not OK and gracefully and firmly walk away. To accuse Serge of sexual misconduct is utterly disgraceful and shocking – for there is not an ounce of truth in these accusations.
Hi Kyla, thank you for writing so clearly what creepy is and what it is not. There is a lot of creepiness in the world out there and the horrible thing is that it is somehow accepted and seen as normal. But it is not (normal) and it affects everybody. I used to be very intimidated by this kind of behaviour whether it was expressed towards me or when observing it being expressed towards others. Accusing somebody of being creepy who is clearly not is quite an insidious and evil act.
Serge Benhayon is definitely not a creep. He is a man who has helped me to see beauty in this world again and not by telling me but by living it. If he had been creepy only once towards me or anybody else and even if it had been only for a flash second I would not have trusted him. He would have been just another person/man talking but not walking his truth.
Kyla, thank you for saying it as it is. Like you I have met many creepy men (and some women) in my 53 years, so much so that I can spot them a mile away. Serge Benhayon does not have one ounce of creepy abusive energy in him and to accuse him of such shows that there is clearly a hidden agenda going on here. I know Serge to be a most loving and truly respectful man who has shown me that we all deserve to be treated with that same level of love and respect. Like others have shared in their comments I also know that I will NEVER ever put up with any form of abusive energy from any man or woman ever again because, thanks to Serge and now many other beautiful men and women, I now know what true regard for myself is and what truly respectful and loving relationships are.
Yes I agree totally, Serge has never had any sort of agenda when I have dealt with him. In fact I actually got a suprise that such a man existed, one that I could let my guard down around and just enjoy dealing with, a man who does not run any sexual innuendo. It was and has been a refreshing change, and he has inspired many others around him to offer this to all women and men.
Thank you Kyla, for standing up and telling the truth in the way that you do. My meeting of Serge Benahyon and my experience with Universal Medicine has been a very important marker in my life. In the past I have used words like respect, love, honour, integrity and even gentleman…yet I have never felt the profound truth in these words by way of reflection in another human being, the way that I have felt them in Serge Benhayon. For anyone to suggest that there is anything contrary to what I have felt and know as absolute truth hurts deeply. For as you say Kyla, so many of us have experienced indecency and sexual misconduct…as women, we are not estranged to the impositions of men even in their most hidden and implied forms…a behaviour that is so embedded in society to the point of being ‘normal’. And when a ‘gentleman’ shows up, someone that brings absolute truth to this word ‘gentle-man’, there are those that want to tear him down to make him seem otherwise (as a result of their own insecurities…just guessing). What has been so incredible to witness, is the consistency with which Serge and many other men I know, continually bring more…a way of understanding, honouring and being with women that is unparalleled to that which I have ever experienced or seen in society…and from which we can ALL learn i.e. if we are open to the truth.
I am a woman who will NEVER put up with, ignore or allow sexual advances or impositions by a man EVER AGAIN. And in knowing Serge and now, many other true gentlemen, I now have a marker of what is possible, of what true ‘respect’ and ‘honour’ means (for ALL, not just women) and I will never throw away words like ‘integrity’ and ‘love’ again…for the truth in these words have created a new marker for me, something that I believe we all deserve to experience. I feel blessed and I am forever grateful.
Well expressed Sara, …”in knowing Serge and now, many other true gentlemen” I also will no longer put up with anything less than the integrity and true respect that we all equally deserve to experience. I also “feel blessed and am forever grateful” in having a marker of what is possible.
Hi Amina, It is truly awful that this current level of sexual assault and abuse is so prevalent that one can merely write a blog on the subject and so many women would comment and confirm this a ‘The Norm’… Much more powerful than the statistics shown in this blog. This is a clear indicator to me that we have much work to do in developing and evolving humanity – cause surely by now women need not be treated like this as part of daily life… one might ask, what can we do?
Well possibly, it starts with getting real about what is truly going on in the world and opening up a dialogue with each other so that we begin to breakdown the ‘normalisation’ that has been established over time and through this sharing and empowering hopefully we naturally start to raise awareness – but also raise the bar of acceptable general behaviour towards women and each other.
We are not living in the Dark Ages, although it often feels as though we left ourselves behind – as all too many basic humans rights are not held up at the highest level of importance across the world and yet we continue to deceive ourselves that we are forging ahead with the next tallest building, biggest airplane or space shuttle and newest electronic technology! If war, rape and plunder are still happening worldwide in all its various ‘modern names’ – surely it points to the very fact that we have not been truly developing but possibly fooling ourselves? And perhaps, we could all use this amazing technology that we have far more efficiently and effectively, if we began to develop ourselves as a responsible and loving world where human rights, nature and the environment were considered to be forever at the top of the list.
Kyla, creepy is one of those words that is felt and known by us all…kids know creepy inside out. As adults we get to experience it in a variety of levels and degrees, all of them imposing, uncomfortable and sticky. I have always been sensitive to creepiness and know that I have gone out of my way to avoid creeps, but Serge Benhanyon has not an ounce of creep in him….having received many hands-on healing sessions from this most respectful of practitioners, I have never felt a twinge of unease in the privacy of sessions with Serge. As Kathleen says, what is being slandered about Serge Benhayon IS creepy behaviour
I totally love your description of creepy adrienne2766 and agree, everyone innately has a creep detector mechanism within which should never be ignored.
How true Toni.
Thank you for writing this amazing blog Kyla. Reading your story reminded me of the many times I have been inappropriately touched and creeped out by men, including health care professionals (coincidentally a doctor and an osteopath). I understand exactly how you have felt and what sexual abuse is. Even just a few weeks ago a man pushed himself against me on a train and it was awful – most women I know have experienced the same. Some even see it as normal.
I have been attending Universal Medicine events and seeing esoteric practioners for the past 3 years and I can say with absolute conviction and certainty that I have not experienced or witnessed any behaviour from Serge Benhayon or any other practitioner that was inappropriate in any way whatsover. On the contrary I have always been treated with a great deal of care and respect by Serge and every practioner I have seen, male and female (and I have had many many sessions – over 100). The allegations against Serge and Universal Medicine are disgusting and I know them to be completely untrue.
Thanks again Kyla for bringing this important issue to light, it is extremely courageous and healing.
Thanks Leonne. It is powerful to hear another voice echoing the experiences that are unfortunately all too common regarding sexual abuse and general creepiness. We are qualified to make an assessment on this matter due to our personal experiences and clearly there is a theme forming and one that does not remotely support this allegation. On the contrary, Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine offer women a safe environment where sexual abuse and any other form of abuse is not only not present at all but never condoned/covered up or allowed in any form – this is a standard unmatched in any organization or industry that I have ever come across or heard of.
Absolutely Kyla – I couldn’t agree more. In fact it is because of the healing work I have done with Universal Medicine that I am able to publicly discuss this issue.
Through your amazing blog I have felt for the first time how ashamed I have been of the misconduct and abuse I have experienced and have fully let this go. This has felt wonderful. In publicly nominating the things that have happened to us we remove the shame and ‘hidden nature’ of abuse. It is very powerful and certainly any discerning person reading this would be able to feel unequivocally that we express the absolute truth.
Hi leonnegrace. I too have had many incidents of sexual misconduct towards me and from a very young age of around 8 I could sense this and call it out. I remember when I was around this age an older man that our family knew and trusted was alone with my two sisters and I and he touched my shirt and said it was pretty. I straight away knew this wasn’t right, grabbed my 5 and 3 year old sisters and marched out of his place. I went straight to my mum and told her what had happened. I said to her “He didn’t do anything that was actually wrong mum but it felt very bad so I took my sisters and came home. I also said that I felt like it was my middle sister that he was actually after.” This actually happened at the holiday caravan park that we holidayed at every year and this old man had been there even working in the park for around 8 years. I must have been loud when telling my mum what happened because he packed up and left the park the next day (after about 8 years of living there).
I have ALWAYS been able to feel a creep a mile away and I can unequivocally say that Serge Benhayon is in NO way a creep or anything but a gentlemen.
It is such a disgrace when women falsely accuse men of sexual misconduct because it creates mistrust of REAL abuse victims when they try to speak out about abuse.
I couldn’t agree more Rebecca.
Falsely accusing someone of sexual misconduct is so absolutely wrong. It is powerful to feel that because there are those that make false allegations – those who seek to bring the truth to light when they are abused, assaulted or creeped out by the energy of sexual misconduct risk not being believed. This is an absolute disgrace.
How awesome and powerful your story is. Even as a child you demonstrated amazing power of expression and the power of speaking out against evil based on what you feel is true. It is no different now as we speak out against the lies that seek to discredit Serge Benhayon.
I love how your story demonstrates that sexual misconduct can be sensed simply by feeling the energy behind what someone is doing. I have certainly felt this is the case. Sometimes just the way a man looks at me can give me a feeling of creepiness. When the man at the train station purposefully ran into me I could feel the energy and intent behind this action. It is this energy that made me feel violated. I run into/ am touched by people on trains all the time and 99% of the time there is no creepiness. The same action with creepy energy turns the experience into a horrible one.
I too can feel a creep a mile off. I stand for self love and love of others. I would never be involved with Universal Medicine if I felt it supported sexual abuse or misconduct of sny kind (even a look). The people/ person making these false allegations must be very lost indeed.
Kyla, speaking on the behalf of all women that have yet to read this powerful and necessary piece of writing you have so eloquently expressed I would like to stand and applaud you! I would also like to stand up and be counted as a woman who is outraged by any accusation or implication that even hints at the suggestion Serge Benhayon has ever conducted himself in anyway less than the quality of impeccably integrity and the utmost regard,respect of women that I experienced for the 10 years that I have had the privilege to know him.
Here is a man, Serge Benhayon, that presents the possibility of a woman regaining her natural state of stillness, power and grace, by simply reconnecting with her Self and learning to self love – by listening to what her body is telling her and choosing to honour her true feelings at all times. Serge Benhayon, has only ever shown true appreciation for women and for what women can bring to humanity.
To attempt to slur the name of Serge Benhayon (and in fact anyone that stands beside him at Universal Medicine), is nothing less than a crime against humanity and an insult to every woman.
I will go as far to say that to attempt to slur Serge Benhayon is in itself very ‘creepy’ behaviour!
Thank you Kathleen, this is awesome. To stand up and be counted as one who is outraged by this accusation is very powerful and I wholeheartedly agree with the last line of your comment.
Thank you Kyla for sharing with such a raw honesty your personal experience. What you have written is so important on so many levels. You have touched on so much… Just how out of control the world we all live in has become, the extent of the mess. And then with such clarity you express the feelings I share, of the radical ridiculousness of what has been expressed about a man whom could not possibly be further from the creepy behaviours you describe and we all on different levels have had experiences with during our lifetimes.
Here, here to Serge, a true gentleman and to many more men I know just like him that don’t stand for or take part in the creepy behaviours.
Thanks for your comment Shannon.
My ‘raw honesty’ may be challenging for some but it allows me to get to the truth of a subject and express all that I have to say on it from my own experiences and hopefully allows others the opportunity to feel it with the clarity that I do.
What a beautiful thing, to be reminded of the sweetness that you are. Thank you Toni.
It’s beautiful to see such a gently, delicate women express so power-fully.
Thanks Denise, your comment is appreciated deeply.
Hear, hear Denise
Kyla – this is such an awesome and courageous piece — part of the insidious manipulation of the hate-bloggers in making these false claims is to try to silence those who will stand by UniMed and Serge Benhayon — And yet you will never be silenced when truth is at stake. Thank you for this post.
The truth is easy to stand up for because it holds you up – it is effortless.
The lies – I imagine – take a lot more effort to continue to endorse and eventually shall wear one out. Thanks Rebecca.
Beautifully said Kyla
‘Hear hear’ so true Kyla, the truth stands for itself and thank you for telling it like it is. I have and hold the greatest respect for Serge Benhayon. The love and integrity he is and the equality he holds one in is truly inspirational.
Rebecca and Kyla, I agree completely with you both. They will never silence those that know the truth.
You go girl, set them straight.
I was so traumatised from sexual abuse that I hated men even looking at me, yet when I met Serge Benhayon I felt no fear, I have learnt to trust men again through Serge Benhayon’s integrity. Serge Benhayon was the first man I met who did not objectify me. It is a sad day when someone can falsely accuse someone of sexual misconduct when in fact the accused has offered much love and understanding to abuse victims.
Well said, nottellinganyone. Your story is a powerful example of the truth of the self-healing around sexual abuse issues that many have experienced/reported with relation to Serge Benhayon or Universal Medicine practitioners sessions and courses. And you are right it is a sad state of affairs that this is allowed to happen at all and an insult to the real victims of sexual abuse.
Such a bright light shone on such a dark subject. Way to go Kyla. Serge is the epitome of the true meaning of what is to be called a Gentleman. The persons responsible for the accusations are clearly driven by an agenda, which is being exposed right here. Awesome.
Thanks Erin, much appreciated.
Thankyou Kyla for so clearly stating that those of us that have been abused are very clear about what abuse is – there are no grey areas.
And just as clearly as we know what abuse is, we also know what is not abuse.
As you so clearly present Serge Benhayon has only ever shown me (and everyone else that I know) the highest integrity and the most profound regard and respect.
Thanks Alison you summed it up so well with:’And just as clearly as we know what abuse is, we also know what is not abuse’ and yes ‘there are no grey areas’. So true.
Yes Alison has summed it up well, we do know what is and what is not abuse. Serge and his family are as clean and trustworthy as it possible to be. I have never met anyone I felt so safe with.
Awesome Kyla!! Thank you for sharing your experience and so amazingly state truth about the ludicrous allegations against Serge Benhayon. As a women, throughout my life I too have felt the ‘creepiness’ of advances from men in both personal and professional settings and not had the strength of my own conviction to honour what I have felt and acted on it. Feeling too stupid or just not listening to what I knew to be true.
It is from knowing and learning from Serge Benhayon, what a ‘true man’ can be, that I feel very differently about not only myself but men in general. Thank you for your direct clear and uncompromising repsonse to what are complete lies about a man who has more integrity and professional responsibility than anyone I have ever known : )
Thanks Raegan. It is great for us all to be able to speak the truth of our experiences with this wonderful man, Serge Benhayon and the other wonderful men of the world. Another voice to dull the lies.
Thank you for such clarity Kyla. Anyone who knows Serge Benhayon will know that such allegations are false and have a malicious intent. It is true sign of the craziness of the world we live in that anyone can make false anonymous allegations against another person and not be held accountable. This state of affairs is something that we all must take responsibility to change.
I agree Doug, we all need to get involved and start the changes to the laws that make this possible. Thanks
I also agree Doug, it’s unacceptable that this has been allowed to happen to such an amazing man. False anonymous allegations of such a serious nature are the real problem here. I feel sad that our society allows this to happen and the accuser to get away with it, it’s indeed time for the laws to change
I agree, Doug. These allegations are indeed a sign that there is craziness rife in the world. From my personal experience of knowing Serge Benhayon, I know absolutely that he has not an ounce of imposing sexual energy or intention in any way shape of form towards others and I have always felt 100% respected whenever in his company. Serge Benhayon is a role model to humanity showing how it is to live a life expressing love in its true form, with all equally so.
Thank you Kyla for speaking up and sharing your experiences.
As you say, we all know when someone is being creepy or inappropriate and when they are not. To try and taint someone or portray them in this way when their behaviour is impeccable, is a underhanded and deliberate attempt to defame their good name and reputation.
And to protect those who have obviously breached a position of trust and care should also equally not be tolerated.
I have never felt uncomfortable in any of my sessions with Serge Benhayon or any other Universal Medicine practitioner. I find them to have the utmost, respect, integrity and sense of responsibility in the way that they conduct themselves.
Society trys to triavlaise lechery, sexual harassment and even sexual abuse or assault, making out its ok to perv on girls and women as they walk down the street, to pinch their backsides or cop a feel even in broad daylight. This objectification of women is not OK and it’s great that you have voiced it so clearly and strongly.
Here here. Well said, Rachel. The objectification of women is not OK. Abuse of a position of trust and care is NOT OK and false accusations of sexual misconduct and deliberate slander are NOT OK.
You are right Rachel, it is somewhat normal in our society for men to perv on women and it is even glorified and championed in our movies, media etc and if a woman has a problem with it she can then be hurled abuse at like she is frigid or scared etc.
Agree Kyla and Rebecca and Rachel, the objectification of women is not acceptable at any level. The most obvious being music videos, but it is the hidden representation which sexualise women – those that sneak under the ‘social acceptance radar’, that perpetuate the hidden and long term damage – supporting the trivialisation of words and actions (like the cat calls and bum pinching) that are, in truth, abusive.
I absolutely agree Kyla, none of these things are ok. I have tremendous respect for you and the absolute strength and power your voice holds in this blog. It’s definitely time we all as women speak out about what’s really going on, and reset the foundations of what is ok and what is not ok.
Hi Kyla well said. Before finding Universal Medicine I had experiences with creepy so called practitioners that were very over-powering in their persuasiveness. Universal Medicine practitioners have the highest integrity and I have never felt uncomfortable or dis-empowered while being treated by them. In fact the complete opposite, I feel completely safe in their company.
I haven’t seen this site you mention nor would I want to give it energy but what I do know is that I have never met anyone that has the integrity and absolute total care and well being for their client more than Serge Benhayon. Through Universal Medicine I now know the difference between a true practitioner and one that has an underlying agenda and I would never allow myself to succumb to these type of people again. It needs to be said and it is great that you have opened up the discussion to expose those that do not have the highest integrity or the persons true well being in mind.
Hi Alison. It is pretty full-on how many women (particularly) that I know that have had creepy experiences with practitioners abusing their power or position. However none of these stories have come from a Universal Medicine practitioner or Serge Benhayon – in fact only the exact opposite is reported and women usually have never felt safer than when they have been treated by a Universal Medicine practitioner. To be clear, there are many wonderful, ethical and professional practitioners of all varieties around the globe that do not engage in any creepy behaviour – this is a fact that we all know well. However, in response to this accusation – the Universal Medicine Clinic has a track record that is second to none.
I agree Kyla, it’s an amazing testament to Serge Benhayon and all Universal Medicine Practitioners that there is not ONE report of any woman or man having a creepy experience, instead there are literally thousands and thousands of reports vouching for their utmost integrity, care and support, it’s such a colossal change from what is considered normal.
Wow Kayla. Your article fairly sings with clarity and accuracy about what constitutes creepy/sexualised behaviour and you are right – we all know what it feels like. It is vehemently unpleasant and I would never choose a treatment from a person that had any suggestion of an inappropriate approach – not now that I know I don’t deserve it, is IS out of place, and that I CAN get up and walk out of any situation in which I feel uncomfortable. A solid round of applause for the strength which you have written this article with. Bravo!
Thanks, Stephanie.
WOW, Kyla thank you for being straight up and naming so clearly what Serge Benhayon is, a true gentleman with the utmost care and respect for women. Your article clearly shows a person and a business operating in a way that holds a deep care, concern and love for humanity. Thank you too for absolutely naming what is not acceptable in our society, that is, creepy behaviour, abuse, assault and violence.
Thanks to Universal Medicine we have been shown that you can live in this world with love. Hence we now have a choice, to sit back and continue to allow behaviours that for so long have felt so wrong to many of us or stand as powerful, strong and beautiful women and say no to anything that does not feel right to us, that is anything that registers as a form of abuse against us.
Hi Sally. thanks for your comment. I agree that it is a wonderful thing to know that we can say no to abuse of any kind, it took me a little while to find that strength and conviction, but now that I have it, I shall never lose it.
It is an important time in the world for women and men all over to be standing up for what they feel is true and to not settle for being treated as less. All over the globe people are getting together to say no to things that have been allowed to slide for far too long, like women’s equality, marriage equality, anti-bullying, gun control, racism and religious slander – we can all get involved in one way or another and stand up for the truth with a love of humanity, which is pretty cool.
Hi Sally and Kyla and everyone – it is also my experience that Serge Benhayon is a true gentlemen in fact I would go one step further and create a new word for Serge and say he is a love-man. I have never seen him treat anyone with anything other than true love and respect. Love is completely non-imposing. He has raised the bar for integrity to a completely new level and inspired thousands of others by showing what is possible.
Kyla, first of all, hats off to the power-house of truth that you are. Wow. You leave absolutely no room for sexually inappropriate behaviour/intent of any kind to be ‘ok’. It’s not, and you have said it rightly so. Your voice deserves to be heard by all women and men (I would especially love to see growing girls & young women in particular hear you speak).
And I agree with absolute whole-heartedness on the clear and obvious agenda behind any attempt to taint Serge Benhayon with such a brush. Never have I ever experienced even the slightest ‘whiff’ of innuendo, intent or action from the real man (thanks for the term) and true Gentleman that Serge Benhayon most definitely is. This in itself has been just one of the many amazing facets I’ve learnt from Serge, in that life can be lived in a way where one’s integrity, ethics and total respect and love for all are absolutely unquestionable. As a woman, this has been a priceless blessing.
Thanks Victoria, I agree. And I would like to add that we are two beautiful women, who are both happily married to amazing men, and we both share similar experiences and opinions of Serge Benhayon – the true Gentleman. Neither of our husbands are threatened by that statement – as they are also true Gentlemen. And we get to live everyday with this level of equality, regard and care from men around us, not just our husbands but brothers, fathers and male friends. Every woman and child should have this and we are not going to be quiet about how good it can be or about the truth of who Serge Benhayon is.
Absolutely agreed. Any slur on Serge Benhayon is completely ridiculous. My marriage has only been enriched by our association with Universal Medicine and the true teachings for living a loving life that it, and Serge, offer. I feel more truly ‘the woman’, and my husband feels more truly ‘the man’, than we ever have – this IS amazing, as is living with the sense that I am worth this level of equality and respect. Were it not for Serge’s work and truly loving presence, I would still be giving myself away in so many ways…
Hi Victoria and Kyla,
My husband also is a true living Gentleman – not just in a movie. I would say he has always had this tendency but he has been inspired by many men associated with Universal Medicine including Serge Benhayon to have the confidence to be a ‘Real man’ in a world where most of us settle for men being much much less than this. How sad that we actually think it is normal for men to be seedy or a deviate.
This is a great point you’ve made here Rebecca. What we’ve accepted as ‘normal’ – that (some) men ‘just behave that way’ is in no way ‘normal’, and should never be accepted as such. We can say clearly that it’s not ok – both men and women can be responsible for this.
I agree whole heartedly with what you are saying Victoria and Kyla. I was very wary of men for many reasons, but never felt anything but completely safe and accepted by Serge and his sons. I was a vulnerable person and quite afraid of being taken advantage of, but with them, I can totally relax and I know Serge is indeed a true gentleman, and incapable of harming another.
I can now discern ill intent from men so much better, I feel much more empowered to remove myself from any dodgy situations. It’s no accident that I no longer find myself under such threats, for I have worked with Serge and other practitioners from UniMed to find a new way to live and love.
Wow powerful words Kyla and who more well equipped to write them! Any imposition on another is wrong and if abusive, is criminal. Why have not the police arrested Serge Benhayon? Because there is not an ounce of credible evidence and when the loud noise doesn’t get the desired attention, go for the lies and attempts to destroy someone’s credibility as a person…The truth is that if they met Serge Benhayon and did not know who he was, they would know for themselves his ‘meeting’ of another is in equality and with deep respect… Whether it be Serge or anyone else, to knowingly slander another is more of a reflection of the unresolved hurt in their own lives.
Thanks Bernadette for the comment, you make excellent points.