The Fragile Man

by Frank Tybislawski, Brisbane, Australia

A NEW EXPERIENCE

Recently my wife and I visited Vietnam to attend a Universal Medicine Retreat and also to explore the country a little. The first location we stayed was Hanoi in the northern part of the country. We made a few trips from our hotel into the main center of town to experience the Vietnamese shopping culture, and of course noticed the chaotic (by our standards) road traffic. Most roads are filled with bicycles, motorcycles, cars, taxis, buses and trucks, with the bicycles and motorcycles making up the majority. There was also a lot of horn beeping, not as an indication of aggression, but it seems more of a courtesy to say ‘beware, I am passing beside you’.

On our last day in Hanoi our hotel booked a taxi to convey us to the airport. About halfway to the airport we were looking out the window from the back seat of the taxi as we crossed over a large bridge. The next moment I heard a loud crashing sound followed instantly by a sudden jolt across my lap, shoulder, and through my neck. After a moment or two I looked forward and realised the taxi had been in a car accident.

A quick check revealed that we had no major injuries, the taxi driver was ok, and the front of the taxi had the bonnet bent up. Now, I should stress that this was not a high speed collision. I do recall the traffic on the main road to the airport was heavy, and had slowed slightly for some reason. I don’t know how fast we were travelling but it must have been less than 40kph, perhaps about 30kph or even less. I saw that I had a graze to the shoulder and waist from the seatbelt, otherwise there was nothing visible, but I felt generally sore and shocked from the sudden jolt. My wife was in a similar condition, but with the addition of a bruised knee. The taxi could not continue; after the taxi driver checked on our well-being, he flagged down another taxi to continue our journey to the airport.

REALISING HOW FRAGILE THE MALE BODY ACTUALLY IS

Thankfully this whole event had no serious physical outcomes, but it did give me much time to ponder on the accident. I decided to take it easy for a few days, with plenty of rest to allow my body to heal, and was greatly supported during this healing process by my Universal Medicine practitioner. Even though I knew my injuries were minor with just some bruising and aching muscles being the result of what I call a ‘slow speed car accident’, the physical discomfort I experienced was not something I felt to brush off. I realised there and then just how fragile the human body is… just how fragile my body is. Any faint image I had of men being tough and able to withstand physical punishment and pain were now surely gone.

STRENGTH IN FRAGILITY

The world presents to us that men should be strong, not show pain, not show fear, not show emotion, but that is just a false façade I and many others have created to fit in with everybody else. I cannot understand how or why anybody would intentionally do something to their body that negatively affects it, or has a significant potential to affect it physically.

With my clarity of just how fragile the human body is also came a great sense that it is therefore absolutely necessary to take care of my body, and to not subject it to anything which can damage it. Even if I think my body will be able to repair the damage, I don’t want to damage it in the first place.

I have a new found recognition of the fragility of my body and therefore a new found respect for my body. With that respect comes a stronger desire to be more nurturing and supportive of my body. That concept isn’t new to me and it is exactly what I have discovered when working with Universal Medicine and its practitioners over the last few years. They have helped me discover the need for respect and self-care for my body, and also the awareness to feel and take note of what is going on within my body.

While I have already been experiencing that with my sleep patterns, food and diet, it now extends more to other aspects I sometimes overlooked:

  • Care of my skin by using protective clothing and by looking after my skin with quality products which both clean and nurture it.
  • Care of my muscles by not over-exerting them and honouring when they feel tired by stopping and resting.
  • Careful choices of clothing to ensure I’m not subjected to cold or wet conditions at any point during the day.
  • Careful choices in what I’m doing and how I’m doing it to ensure there are no physical implications, long term or short term.

Although it was unfortunate to be involved in that car accident, the end result is that I have a much higher regard for my body, its fragility and tenderness. I have gained a strengthened desire to care for and nurture myself in every way possible, which is a beautiful result from an initially bad situation.

Inspiration can come in the most unexpected ways.

Inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

144 thoughts on “The Fragile Man

  1. A car accident no matter how fast or slow is definitely a big impact on the body, even things in life such as the scalp being scratched too hard when hair is being shampooed in a salon or hair being bleached for too long or even a harsh word expressed by someone, all of these things I could feel my fragility towards. The body never lies and we are made with Love and even the slightest bit of lovelessness is felt and has to be nominated to keep the respect this body is asking us to honor. In temporal life, it is not about shutting out everything that feels unloving, as not much in the world is really truly honoring or encouraging us to be loving, but it is to be aware of this and lovingly continue to commit to life in choosing love–so that we can reflect what is love.

  2. Beautiful to read Frank and beautiful to know and feel you as a gorgeous tender fragile man. Thank you for sharing yourself, your wisdom and your experiences in this blog.

  3. It is through self-care and self-love that we come to know and experience what true strength is. For in accepting and embracing our fragility and tenderness we allow a greater quality of who we are to come to life, as such bringing a greater quality of presence to all we do and all we meet. When we live in connection to and in honor of all that we are, it is here that our true strength naturally shines and leads us through life.

  4. Thank you Frank for writing this blog, as it is so important to break that consciousness of the the tough and hard man, that tells man not to take care of themselves and their bodies and allow them to bring harm to themselves in the many ways we all know so well.

  5. Yes it is true, there is such a ideal that men should be strong and be able to handle anything yet their body is the evidence that this is not true. We all bleed and bruise and that shows we are all equally tender and delicate and are worth being treated like that.

  6. Frank this is beautiful to read. Even the fact that you decided to take it easy for a few days after the accident is very self honouring. Many would have brushed it off and soldiered on. And yes our bodies are delicate and fragile whether we are men or women.

  7. ‘I have a new found recognition of the fragility of my body and therefore a new found respect for my body. With that respect comes a stronger desire to be more nurturing and supportive of my body.’ Most people would say and stay with the idea that an accident is only a bad situation not able to look further. When we are honest and open enough to feel, we will feel there is always a deeper meaning why things happen the way they do, so never bad but something to learn.

  8. Beautiful to read your account Frank and to see how you are honouring your precious body now. There are always new levels we can go to with this and ironically it empowers us, both men and women, rather than making us feel weak.

  9. The human body also experiences trauma. Even in an incident like this where there may be no physical injuries, there can be trauma. The trauma is stored in the body and it can be much harder to address something unseen by the eye.

  10. Very beautiful Frank, this applies equally to women also… there is enormous strength in fragility, and when we realise this is our true power, the world will be a very different place.

  11. Men who are willing to reflect fragility and their natural tenderness is asking all men and all women to consider where are we all at? Are we moving in a way that respects our sacredness and preciousness?

  12. Our bodies are fragile, the belief that we are tough and strong can be disrespecting of our innate fragility, ‘With my clarity of just how fragile the human body is also came a great sense that it is therefore absolutely necessary to take care of my body, and to not subject it to anything which can damage it,’ beautiful.

  13. This is beautiful to read, ‘I have a much higher regard for my body, its fragility and tenderness. I have gained a strengthened desire to care for and nurture myself in every way possible,’ I likewise am treating my body with more respect, care, and honouring as you describe.

  14. It is beautiful to feel how fragile our bodies are and treat them accordingly, and live in a way that deeply honours and cherish them.

  15. Inspirational what you took from this moment Frank. We have that in every moment especially in the more traumatic events. If totally honoured our body is waiting to be surrendered to giving us the answer/s. It never ceases to amaze me the power that is within. It is always more, and so much so, that the mind whimpers to hold onto its self-created fortress and what it wants to own. So, I agree, and now have the greatest respect for my body too – “I cannot understand how or why anybody would intentionally do something to their body that negatively affects it, or has a significant potential to affect it physically.” and psychologically.

  16. The capacity of the body to heal is extraordinary and I know I have taken this for granted many times. You remind me that our bodies are precious and worth cherishing and caring for in every way.

  17. Thank you Frank for the inspiration to more deeply care for my body and be aware of how fragile I actually am.

  18. A great reminder Frank of how fragile the human body is and how much we truly need to support and look after ourselves, beautiful how you brought your awareness back to your body and honoured its fragility.

  19. I have noticed the most real and down to earth and open men are the ones who are deeply fragile and respect-full of their bodies and their environment or at least attempting to be.

  20. It is an inspiration for this article to have come from a man, it is deeply needed. One day all men would equally feel and acknowledge this tenderness, who is simply them and live according to it, this is what this article and your livingness Frank together with many others have opened up the way for.

  21. As men, embracing our fragility and being willing to go there is something to be celebrated as it is only then that we get to show the world the truth of who we are – transparency of our beauty within for more to be revealed.

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