By Rosie Bason, Mullumbimby, NSW
I have lived most of my life thinking that I could do everything on my own, that I did not need anyone’s help and I should never rely on others because they will probably let me down. I also really believed that if I did it on my own it would be better. I thought my life was all about me, and not about all of us!
I can laugh at myself when I get really honest. It’s crazy how we can choose to live… and even scarier is the fact that most of the time, we can be unaware of it.
So my experience was that everything was difficult, a struggle, and nothing seemed to ﬂow except on those very rare occasions.
What I experience today is quite different.
I have started to allow people to be part of my life, I have accepted that I do not need to be perfect and I do not need to do it all on my own.
The hard ﬂog without any helping hands is a thing of the past.
What I am experiencing these days is beautiful. When I choose to do a project, and I allow others to be part of it, I get so much support and the project is even grander than I expected because it is not just myself adding to it, but others who are in my life do too.
In the last month for example, with two different projects, I have been offered support, either financially or just from people being there to assist me where needed and to offer their advice or suggestions. I am not used to it, but it feels so lovely. I don’t feel separate and alone on a mission, I feel like we are in it together and the only person that was stopping that in the past was me.
I stopped it because I chose to not let other people be part of what I was doing. I did not open up and trust others. I kept them out and created my own feeling of being alone.
When I let go of the control and get the ‘my life is all about me’ out of the way, I allow room for so much more than I ever imagined. When I allow others to be part of everything, we all get so much more because life’s not just about me, it’s about all of us.