Time to Play

by Jacqueline McFadden

Recently I got a lovely card from a colleague who wanted to tell me how much she had enjoyed the year working together. In the same card, she also wrote: “Don’t be afraid to have fun”. What did she mean? I asked myself. Was I not fun to be around? Was I so serious? When I stopped being defensive, I saw clearly that yes, I was rather serious – actually very serious! For the last two years life had become even more so, (due to health reasons). I then started to realise most of my life had been serious – with having many responsibilities from a young age.

Being a single parent with two children is hard, and can feel like a serious job, especially when trying to be both mother and father to your children. But that was then, and those responsibilities are long gone. My children have their own lives now; yet, I cannot seem to shake this seriousness that hangs around me and follows like a dark shadow.

Why is that, I asked?

The truth is, I have forgotten how to play, how to have fun how to play with others and enjoy life. It feels to me a very long time ago that I knew how to do this… how to have fun. I recollect my childhood and I cannot remember having fun, being silly, playing, playing with others and laughing. That said, every child knows how to play – but I lost that somewhere along the way when I shut down as a child.

What to do? Should I see if there are any courses or workshops on how to have fun? This makes me laugh, considering it is a natural thing for children to play and have fun. On pondering further I see that there have been times when I have had fun recently – albeit only a handful. How can I change this? How do I play with life, how do I remember and reconnect to the magic of life? How do I make playfulness ‘my way’ on a daily basis is my question.

The answer comes: feel and re-connect to the part of me I had lost…

I blanked out most of my childhood, not wanting to feel what was really going on in my family.

This fills me with such sadness that I cannot hold back my tears. The sadness of feeling that my environment did not support me to be me – to be all of the real me.

As soon as I blanked or shut down my ‘child’hood/part I lost the playfulness and fun  and joy I naturally held as a child and slowly over the years, seriousness crept in.

After the sadness came some resistance to letting go of the old, the familiar and the shadow, which I have hidden behind. For if I ‘let go’ I might be seen, and I’m not sure if I will be safe. It all feels a little scary, after years living in the shadow, yet something from inside pulls me to walk out of the shadow and walk in my own light and joy.

The expansion I feel from this pull or call supports me to see that it is safe for me to reconnect to that part that I blanked out – my childhood, and the fun, the laughter, the playfulness that I now wish to express.

In this expansion I see how simple my life has become, which makes me feel joyful and light. Simplicity has removed the dark shadow of seriousness that I walked around in for a very long time.

Keeping life simple, and living a simple life each day, staying humble, and sharing from my heart, sharing all of me and not holding back is how I can play with life, is how I can feel the magic of life all around me, and is how I make playfulness ‘my way’ every single day.

It is time to be seen. It is Time To Play and have some fun.

Deeply Inspired by the teachings of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon

501 thoughts on “Time to Play

  1. This is a great blog Jacqueline, I feel we have thought ourselves to not have fun at a young age, as we didn’t get the joy we feel inside reflected by our immediate surroundings. Which feels very sad, as it continues this way when we don’t claim this back for ourselves and reflect something to the children we meet in our lives.

  2. The more we discard the ideals and beliefs we take on as how to ‘be’ and bring simplicity to our life, the more we uncover our natural way of being is very loving and playful.

  3. Am I allowed to be playful and live with joy while those around me struggle, are depressed and hate their lives? This is something I said no to growing up. It created too many problems and issues for everyone around me. I’ve slowly through Universal Medicine learning to observe life and not absorb what others are choosing or what is happening. This has helped me to remain with how I feel inside, and reconnect to a playfulness I let go of long ago. I forget this often but its always there to choose again.

  4. Jacqueline, this is just the message I need to be reading for today. I can so relate to remembering to play. How and when had I forgotten this? We become heavy in life and discarding all that does not need to be there anymore is a great start to lighten up. So beautiful to give playfulness permission and authority back in my life.

  5. Thank you Jacqueline for sharing so openly and honestly it reminded me of a time in my life where I also became quite serious as I felt that was how I needed to be. The seriousness made me feel quite miserable as I am naturally a playful and light person, so interesting when we choose to live in opposition to who we truly are – nobody wins.

  6. “As soon as I blanked or shut down my ‘child’hood/part I lost the playfulness and fun and joy I naturally held as a child and slowly over the years, seriousness crept in.”

    An interesting observation Jacqueline! When we blank out a part of us a lot is lost and we often make that compromise that we loose something so precious just so we do not have to deal with the unpleasant stuff. However as you share it is so worth it to clear things out of the way and access this joy and lightness again that we knew as children.

  7. This blog is a beautiful reminder for me what really counts in life and that in spite or actually because of all the terrible things that are going on in the world it is so important to stay light and playful and in my heart as this is the ‘stuff’ that will bring true change.

  8. I can relate to being too serious for most of my adult life and at times found others annoying for being playful, but one thing this blog has shown me is that we start to see playfulness as an inconvenience because it is asking us to lighten up and to take off the load we are carrying, and that it is healthy to return and re-discover that playfulness we once had as a child has a place even as an adult.

  9. I was fed a big fat lie in that being responsible meant being serious. Those two things are not correlated.

  10. This is a blog that woke me up as well. I have a lot seriousness in myself as well. The seriousness that also crept in after a childhood which I blanked out as well. The seriousness of a life long project of getting it right, be happy and to be at ease with life. But where did all the playfulness go to? I now see that I turned making myself happy, getting my life back on track as a very serious chore! Wake up call. Thanks Jacqueline love these calls.

  11. Restoring playfulness in my life is a key element i am working on – playfully. It is not something that needs to be redeveloped but somethings that was and is always there. It is just like I have put on many many coats that cover it. Time to undo myself from all these unnecessary layers. It takes effort but the main thing I have to remember is not to make it a chore but do it playfully.

  12. I do know that too Jacqueline, that life feels that serious now compared to when I was a child. So I was naturally playful when I entered this world, but something along the way made me become more serious and less playful over time. Interesting though is to look at what seriousness is actually about. To me seriousness is based on fear of doing the ‘right’ thing in order to fulfil the needs of someone else or an organisation. I have to fit in to a system we collectively have created and call society in which we live together, but somewhere we have lost something as I can feel that playfulness could be the answer to make a huge change in the way we live together. Allowing everybody to live there life in their own expression and to appreciate that diversity in expression instead of trying to squeeze everybody into the same shape of ‘seriousness’ that life actually is not at all, would allow and bring back playfulness into our lives again.

  13. Holding onto pictures of how we need to be or how life should be, keep us living with constant tension, angst and seriousness in our bodies as we are constantly trying to be something that we are not. Letting go of this allows us to connect to the simplicity of life and move with more ease and joy in our bodies as we are able to surrender and trust that innate wisdom we all know so well deep within us.

  14. Beautiful to discover you again Jacqueline what a joyful sharing and so important in a world of more and more seriousness and the loss of true joy from within. Playfulness from keeping life simple allows a connection to the real us the playfulness and magical way we all know and are underneath.

  15. I am naturally very playful but reading your blog this morning Jacqueline had me realise that lately I have become rather serious. This has occurred because I have taken on responsibilities that are not my own simply because of a false understanding I have had from a young age about responsibility. It need not be a heavy mantle across ones shoulders but can be approached and embraced lightly too, and with more than a little play mixed in. Timely reading for me thank you.

  16. ‘It all feels a little scary, after years living in the shadow, yet something from inside pulls me to walk out of the shadow and walk in my own light and joy.’ The shadow brings heaviness of taken on responsibility in a way that is not true, it brings a seriousness and we start to believe that life is hard. Now and then I can feel this heaviness creeping in, still a very familiar feeling in my body but I know this is absolutely not who I am so I now have a choice to let go of the shadow and choose the light in me that is there always.

  17. Taking ourselves too seriously can have a very dulling effect. A prescription for rekindling the the fun of childhood is to allow children to teach you how to have fun and play again.

  18. I can feel very well how joy is in simplicity and seriousness is in complexity, when we choose one we automatically recieve the other. It is deeply connected, and it is our choice to see the joy and simplicity over the complexity, that only we create through being serious about life and forget the joy that is there inside.

  19. Thank you for unravelling the seriousness it is so easy to get caught up in. Life is serious in the way of the many responsibilities we have but serious does not mean that we cannot enjoy life and be lighthearted.

  20. I can feel my seriousness at times and know that this is not the true me but the very protected me. When I am connected to myself fully I feel and live the joy. This is something i am working on!!

  21. Fun was not something allowed in my childhood. As children in my family as soon as we started to have fun we were told to settle down before someone gets hurt. The more I develop a deep connection with my true self I have let go of the ideal and belief I had created that it is not ok to have fun and how different this made me feel to others. Letting go of this very isolating feeling I can feel just how I am naturally very loving and playful.

  22. Enjoying life and what each day brings is only possible for me when I am being loving with myself. If I’m abusive of my body with food, or too much work, there is no space for fun or joy. So it is a package that takes a dedication to myself.

  23. “Keeping life simple, and living a simple life each day, staying humble, and sharing from my heart, sharing all of me and not holding back is how I can play with life, is how I can feel the magic of life all around me, and is how I make playfulness ‘my way’ every single day.” Beautiful Jacqueline. i too know i can get too serious -, because of complicating my life. Keeping things simple frees everything up.

  24. ‘Should I see if there are any courses or workshops on how to have fun?’ I laughed out loud when I read this Jacqueline as this would probably have been my response also. I can relate to being very serious about life and feeling it was all a slog. This is slowly changing and I am lightening up about life. There is a lot of fun to be had.

  25. Time to play and have fun, what a gorgeous reminder to enjoy the lightness of play. I have found of late that I have somewhat forgotten to express this lightness, fun and joy choosing instead to focus on the serious, heavy aspects of life. What I am reminded of here is that I have a choice; thank you Jacqueline.

  26. Jacqueline what you have shared is really beautiful and also so exposing: “Simplicity has removed the dark shadow of seriousness that I walked around in for a very long time.” It is a bit weird that most adults always love it so complicated . . .

  27. As adults we can become weighed down by our commitments i.e job, family, home life etc that we lose sight of how truly beautiful it is to live from our bodies connection and the flow in our movements. Re-connecting to our bodies and how we move brings lightness and playfulness and that is simply divine.

  28. Thank you Jacqueline for the reminder that life need not be serious and that actually when we bring playfulness into our lives the issues seem to have their feet taken out from underneath them. Issues can’t sustain themselves when we are light, they can only hang around if we choose to be weighted down by them.

  29. I finished reading with a big smile on my face thank you Jacqueline. I recognize this seriousness in my own life also as a hurt I did not want to let go of in order of that resistance I had to stay narrow and serious.. Whilst , like you share, once we let go we will feel that inner child, and play again.. As actually there is nothing serious about usz

  30. Life can appear serious at times with many responsibilities yet the more steady I am in connection with myself the lighter I feel and the more my natural playfulness surfaces.

  31. How gorgeous that your colleague recognised the untapped playfulness in you and the blanket of seriousness that lay over it. We sometimes need these little nudges to shift a long way of thinking and behaving that does not fit with who we are.

  32. It is so true that we naturally know how to play as children and this is not something that we lose as we get older. It’s like we put it in a cupboard and forget its there. It is so lovely to meet an adult who hasn’t forgotten how to be playful. Having just one playful person in a group can change the whole room, bring lightness even to ‘serious’ situations and allow other people to remember what is patiently waiting in their cupboard to be let out.

    1. So true Fiona, it is gorgeous to meet an adult who hasn’t forgotten to be playful…. it is lovely to be around this playful energy and is infectious and always lifts me if I have gotten a little tad serious, as that old habit likes to creep in when it can!

    2. Yes Fiona, adults who can be playful are gorgeous and a joy to be around with. That is playful in an adult way and not acting childish, which is just a role. The playfulness has to come naturally from our essence, and it can, because that is what we are: playful!

  33. This is beautiful alive and very inspiring thank you. “Keeping life simple, and living a simple life each day, staying humble, and sharing from my heart, sharing all of me and not holding back is how I can play with life, is how I can feel the magic of life all around me, and is how I make playfulness ‘my way’ every single day.”So true and magical to read and know.

  34. It is sad that the world encourages us, almost molding us to shut down to the child within, when it is sometimes through that, that the true expression of the innocence and yet magnificence of our essence lies.

  35. So many of us fall into the trap of believing that living life responsibly is a serious matter. However, if we take the time to stop and truly look at the beauty of nature that surrounds us we can see and appreciate that it is a natural playground calling us to come and play.

  36. This reminded me how I knew as a young child that not laughing with others would keep me distant from others and used it to show how angry I was as a kind of retaliation – but it was always me who ended up feeling even more hurt.

  37. Gorgeous Jaqueline, a beautiful reminder that nothing is ever but only ever waiting for our light to shine on it again.

  38. Great to read once again, as I also had adopted the serious life. But less and less, and your article inspired me to start connecting to that lost childhood part as well, because I know playfulness is my essence.

  39. The joy of our being-ness is something that is in fact natural, as this simple way of being is the way we were as a child. Eyes bright and hearts full of wonder, we brought our joy and playfulness to the world and all we interacted with. The beautiful thing, as you highlighted, is that this way of being is still who we all are within, it remains unchanged. It is only ourselves that have chosen to leave our natural way of being to instead seek another way in the world outside of ourselves which measures, compares and holding us to expectations which will never meet us in the true light of who we are within. And in truth, as we can see and have experienced, there is no fun, joy or playfulness in that.

  40. I love this- I find the same within myself- that I need to not take life so seriously at times and let go and have fun and enjoy myself.

  41. “I blanked out most of my childhood, not wanting to feel what was really going on in my family.” And the interesting part you are sharing here is that we not only blank out that what feels hurtful to us but also everything else, the joy, the playfulness, the ease in which we are with ourselves and others as children.

    1. Spot on Esther. In blanking out most of my childhood, yes I lost connection with everything else too, with my natural ability to be light and playful, and my natural ability to connect with others, and so I felt awkward in my body, disconnected and unable to relate or connect with others.

  42. I do know that too Jacqueline, that life has become serious and full of sorrows, so completely different from when I was a child. Then I lived just day after day and enjoyed every day as much as the other without allowing the seriousness of life that was out there to come into my life. So why can I not live like that as an adult, why do I have to succumb to that seriousness that is all around in schools, our work and society in general? To me it is because I do not want to feel different to all the other people and allowed myself to step into it, the seriousness of the ‘real’ life. But what if this is not true at all, and that how we lived a a child is actually our natural state of being? I am now returning to living that how I was as a child and I can say that this is very possible and although not commonly done by the many, I feel now very comfortable with.

  43. When we connect deeply with our bodies we cannot but feel the joy in our movements and how this creates a ripple effect that magnifies like the ocean where we can let go and be playful and at ease as it is our natural way of being.

  44. I know you Jacqueline, and I see that you have definitely closed off living seriously. You are bundle of joy, lovely to be with. A shining example to me to do and live the same. Connecting back to my childhood, feeling the hurts and emptiness which was there, and now live the full of me and expand.

  45. That feeling of not being safe if we let ourselves be who we are is so familiar, and so sad at the same time. What have we accepted as a form of conditioning and why would we have accepted that along the way?

  46. I agree Jacqueline keeping life simple and living simply in connection with the natural flow and rhythm we feel within our body allows us to enjoy being with ourselves and returning to the innate playfulness we once felt and enjoyed when we were young.

  47. This phrase spoke volumes to me: “Keeping life simple, and living a simple life each day, staying humble, and sharing from my heart, sharing all of me and not holding back is how I can play with life.”
    After a long held belief that playful corresponds with childlike and lack of responsibilities, and being a responsible adult corresponds to being serious, I am aware more than ever that when I am fully walking in the power of the light that I am, oddly enough as well as the immense love and power that I feel, I am also very open to being playful.

    1. Beautiful Golnaz. When we let of those old ingrained beliefs that we took on, so much space opens up within which allows us to be open, playful and joyful and not afraid to shine.

  48. Playfulness is underrated and even judged in the world as not professional and naive, but I would ask those who question the naturalness of playfulness–when was the last time you cracked yourself up? And have you experienced this on a daily basis? If yes, it is impossible to under rate or criticise the absolute treasure of what is playfulness–even better, it’s always there within us.

  49. I had a bit of a shock about 3 years ago at work where I was being playful with one of my team and he thought I was being serious! That was an uncomfortable and exposing experience which showed me that I had abandoned my natural playfulness and joy somewhere along the way, thinking that they didn’t fit in my positions of responsibility both in work and out. What a load of rubbish that is! The more we let ourselves express from those qualities we carry naturally within us, the lighter and more playful we become, and the responsibility we once felt as a burden becomes a joyful expression of who we are naturally so.

  50. Jacqueline I appreciated the connection you made between the loss of playfulness and the loss of being connected to who you truly are. It’s easy to remedy things like seriousness by identifying them and making changes, but true healing is simply in that reconnection to our essence.

  51. ‘Keeping life simple, and living a simple life each day, staying humble, and sharing from my heart, sharing all of me and not holding back is how I can play with life, is how I can feel the magic of life all around me, and is how I make playfulness ‘my way’ every single day.’ Gorgeous Jacqueline, and I agree if we keep life simple there is space for playfulness and it is such a joy to share the love we feel inside with people we meet everywhere.

  52. I often feel such joy bubbling up inside but have held it back if others around me were not feeling so joyfu. But what I am discovering more and more is that the joy cannot be contained any longer and when it is shared its amazing the affect it has on others around you too. Showing our natural joy and playfulness is infectious and allows the space for others to share in that too. When we are serious we are in protection and only sharing a very small glimpse of the real power and inspiration that is bottled up inside every one of us. So let’s play and allow our bodies natural joy and wonder be shared.

  53. Play is synonymous with simplicity and surrender and once we live these in our life ‘Magic’ happens.

  54. When we shutdown to protect ourselves from hurt it is a big learning to come to the understanding that we are in fact shutting down and shutting out the love and the joy. Re-connecting to the love and joy especially the ‘playful’ in us asks that we absolutely open to everything and just hold ourselves in love – the rest will unfold .

  55. Time to read this blog again as I am not feeling the magic….having allowed the shadow of other things to cloud and take over and not keeping things simple….Not a time to self-bash or put down, but certainly a stop moment to reassess, take stock, prioritise, breathe gently, deeply appreciate how light and spacious I feel in my body and give space for all that is already there on my path to unfold graciously, (letting go of feeling impatient!) And a great reminder for me today, to keep life simple, super simple, smile and keep saying Yes to life, and Yes to all my Soul has prepared for me to continue evolving and deepening all my relationships especially the one with myself.

    1. I love this update Jacqueline. I feel it is so important to stop regularly and reassess. Giving ourselves space to feel is key as is appreciation.

  56. I can relate to taking life a bit too seriously at times. It can bog me down, but I realise when I allow this to happen its because I have become too heady and am trying to figure it all out fix everything the way I want it to be. I like your declaration at the end, – ‘It is time to be seen. It is Time To Play and have some fun.’

  57. “Simplicity has removed the dark shadow of seriousness that I walked around in for a very long time “. I love these words, and I can say that I walked in the same heavy way for a very long time. It is amazing how when we live in complication that we often end up burying who we naturally are, becoming serious, losing our joy and not knowing how to play anymore. How beautiful that you have released the complication, embraced the simplicity and revealed the little girl who simply wants to play.

  58. When we take life on, we can become very serious and forget how to just be playful and fun, life can still be serious however there is always space to be playful and joyful, which makes life enjoyable no matter what we may be facing.

  59. I too can put my hand up for having become too serious, even though I can feel I am naturally playful, ‘The truth is, I have forgotten how to play, how to have fun – how to play with others and enjoy life. It feels to me a very long time ago that I knew how to do this… how to have fun.’ This is a pattern for me to let go of, and start to embrace more fun into life.

  60. I can relate with having blanked out my childhood, and so blanked out the naturally playful and joyful part along with that, ‘As soon as I blanked or shut down my ‘child’hood/part I lost the playfulness and fun and joy I naturally held as a child and slowly over the years, seriousness crept in.’ How lovely to embrace your playful and joyful side.

  61. It is a great question and I am with what you came to to be more playful and have fun in and with life — “Keeping life simple, and living a simple life each day, staying humble, and sharing from my heart, sharing all of me and not holding back is how I can play with life, is how I can feel the magic of life all around me, and is how I make playfulness ‘my way’ every single day.”

  62. There is much to expand with when we start to simplify our life and in being in sync with the natural flow and rhythm of our body we reconnect to the natural joy within us when we are simply being our true selves.

  63. There is this natural joy and playfulness in us all until we take on responsibilities without truly feeling the power we have and our ability to stay with ourselves no matter what is going on in our lives. Or, I wonder, is it me taking on these responsibilities and make my life serious to avoid feeling my power and thus my natural joy and playfulness. Anyway, when I stay connected with my body and feel my inner strength there is no heaviness of having too much responsibility as I ‘walk in my own light and love’.

  64. Thank you Jacqueline, I have read this before but today you have got me pondering on the seriousness I still feel, and when I also may have shut down to my own playfulness? Thank you for the inspiration to look more deeply into this. Playfulness is such a natural part of me and when the cloud of seriousness descends it’s like it blanks out my light.

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