Time to Play

by Jacqueline McFadden

Recently I got a lovely card from a colleague who wanted to tell me how much she had enjoyed the year working together. In the same card, she also wrote: “Don’t be afraid to have fun”. What did she mean? I asked myself. Was I not fun to be around? Was I so serious? When I stopped being defensive, I saw clearly that yes, I was rather serious – actually very serious! For the last two years life had become even more so, (due to health reasons). I then started to realise most of my life had been serious – with having many responsibilities from a young age.

Being a single parent with two children is hard, and can feel like a serious job, especially when trying to be both mother and father to your children. But that was then, and those responsibilities are long gone. My children have their own lives now; yet, I cannot seem to shake this seriousness that hangs around me and follows like a dark shadow.

Why is that, I asked?

The truth is, I have forgotten how to play, how to have fun how to play with others and enjoy life. It feels to me a very long time ago that I knew how to do this… how to have fun. I recollect my childhood and I cannot remember having fun, being silly, playing, playing with others and laughing. That said, every child knows how to play – but I lost that somewhere along the way when I shut down as a child.

What to do? Should I see if there are any courses or workshops on how to have fun? This makes me laugh, considering it is a natural thing for children to play and have fun. On pondering further I see that there have been times when I have had fun recently – albeit only a handful. How can I change this? How do I play with life, how do I remember and reconnect to the magic of life? How do I make playfulness ‘my way’ on a daily basis is my question.

The answer comes: feel and re-connect to the part of me I had lost…

I blanked out most of my childhood, not wanting to feel what was really going on in my family.

This fills me with such sadness that I cannot hold back my tears. The sadness of feeling that my environment did not support me to be me – to be all of the real me.

As soon as I blanked or shut down my ‘child’hood/part I lost the playfulness and fun  and joy I naturally held as a child and slowly over the years, seriousness crept in.

After the sadness came some resistance to letting go of the old, the familiar and the shadow, which I have hidden behind. For if I ‘let go’ I might be seen, and I’m not sure if I will be safe. It all feels a little scary, after years living in the shadow, yet something from inside pulls me to walk out of the shadow and walk in my own light and joy.

The expansion I feel from this pull or call supports me to see that it is safe for me to reconnect to that part that I blanked out – my childhood, and the fun, the laughter, the playfulness that I now wish to express.

In this expansion I see how simple my life has become, which makes me feel joyful and light. Simplicity has removed the dark shadow of seriousness that I walked around in for a very long time.

Keeping life simple, and living a simple life each day, staying humble, and sharing from my heart, sharing all of me and not holding back is how I can play with life, is how I can feel the magic of life all around me, and is how I make playfulness ‘my way’ every single day.

It is time to be seen. It is Time To Play and have some fun.

Deeply Inspired by the teachings of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon

554 thoughts on “Time to Play

  1. It was good to read this blog again, as life can take hold and make things often serious. And in that I forget the light heartedness and playfulness that’s still within. That connection is all that is needed to bring that joy to our life.
    We are made to feel unsafe, it is kind of like a trick to make us believe this all the time, purposefully there to not be in that simplicity and joy. So that we do not reflect this to another.

    So it makes no difference of our ages, colour, creed, religion (and the list could be endless), fun, joy and playfulness can be had at any time of our lives. It never left us, it is us that chose to separate from it…

  2. Jacqueline I love the simplicity of this blog, and agree whole heartily that as children we had fun. If we look at children any where around the world, whether in the rich or whether in the slums, there is laughter and fun to be seen and be heard.

    As adults we lose it, and it is still all there and it is a matter of tapping into this. What would life be like if we allowed this? Yes we still would have to go to work, and all the other things we do that creates life, yet with joy and playfulness, things wouldn’t be so intense. In this way of living, we reflect this to others, then work, life, and play be our everyday living.

    1. Yes I recall the memory as I child growing up in the UK. We used to play a lot outside and anything would be seen as playfulness. I always find when we hear a toddler giggling, it makes us giggle too – its infectious. So lighten up, there is fun and playfulness around us, if we are willing to see it past the supposedly dark cloud that is upon us…

  3. Many years ago, in an evening college course for technical writing, there was a late teenage girl that exploded on me and showered me with disdain for not taking my course work and education serious. We each had to read out loud our outline of the steps we were going to do for research and name the source. I required information from three different contractors that would have to travel to have this meeting. All was fine till I read the last step that was, party with the contractors, source American Express. Time to play is an essential part of us that sometimes is forgotten, but is never lost.

    1. It is true, fun needs to be incorporated in our work environment too without losing the purpose of work. Our family is work, especially if we spend so much time if we work full time, so why not have some social gatherings or celebrations of birthdays and many other events?

      Fun allows us to be of service more…

  4. I know I can relate to having become serious, it seems all too common in many people today, ‘The truth is, I have forgotten how to play, how to have fun – how to play with others and enjoy life.’ Bringing fun into our lives is always a great choice.

  5. Adding to your simple approach to life Jacqueline, we could add the KISSSSS principle, by Keeping Initiating Simplicity So we are Supporting Staying-humbly-Soul-full.

  6. When I am feeling like I have taken care of myself and have ‘been with myself’ in the sense of feeling things and then acting on what I have been feeling, then there is naturally a light way of being that comes with a sense of ease and joy. It is then not an effort to have fun, it just happens spontaneously.

  7. Sometimes I can feel too tired or weighed down by things to want to play, but that is the best symptom to hone in and allow myself to stop, recharge my batteries and then realise that it is not about carrying the world on my shoulders, and that it is truly time to stop and have some fun!

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