Byron Bay Lighthouse Walk… Reflections of the Walk

by Monika Korb, Health Practitioner, Byron Bay NSW

We started to do the Byron Bay Lighthouse walk every morning.

At different stages I’ve had the awesome opportunity to feel my body and where I am at with myself in my life, which is reflected in the quality I am and the vitality I feel, climbing to the Lighthouse each morning.

I noticed when I started with my friend, who is very fit and extremely strong in her body, that I was trying to catch up with her. She was always ahead of me and I felt I had to show no weakness: I took her as my measure for where I should be at in my body too.

I used to be very fit and a regular gym person, but after years of doing no exercise or gym my body was not prepared for this ‘full-on’ walk up the Lighthouse steps, which is 7 km up and down from the bottom car park.

As I walked it felt like I was pushing to keep up with my friend, so I felt to allow my body to be my guide.

When feeling out of breath I take a moment and come back to my rhythm with me, with my body aligned.

I don’t look ahead to the stairs I have to climb – I take one step a time. I look at my feet and to the ground and feel my entire body.

Since I am focused only on that, I have no disturbing thoughts coming in that want me to look ahead, how hard it will be, how bad my body will feel, how annoying it is to watch others doing it easily.

I allow myself to climb the Lighthouse stairs in my own way and notice how it still feels enjoyable. I let others overtake if they want.

There are moments I feel that it is too much, that I don’t want to go any further and that I want to quit – so I look and ask, have I pushed myself too much again? Did I lose the joy of the connection to the earth with each step I take?

My walk should be neither struggle, nor hardness or pushing, but a good feeling within my body; a feeling of inner strength, a foundation in my body.

It is absolutely great to feel my body and this aliveness and to re-build my core strength, which is feeding me back during my day. My body feels fit and toned and vital. Doing the walk is a great start to an awesome day being with my body.

And it feels sexy even being over 50 now!

Inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

189 thoughts on “Byron Bay Lighthouse Walk… Reflections of the Walk

  1. Love it, my walk today will be inspired by this blog. Step by step and no need to look ahead. What is ahead will come to me anyway. Walking and surrendering to life…

  2. Thanks Monika – you have reminded me that there is most definitely a way to go about exercising that is all about being in tune with the body and nothing at all to do with pushing on through for the sake of completing something to meet some previously held expectations.

  3. ‘Did I lose the joy of the connection to the earth with each step I take?’ This is a great question . I find that sometimes I have thoughts come into my head while I am on a walk and bringing myself back with an awareness of my feet touching the ground always works. I am back in the present and with the opportunity to feel the whole of me as I move. Soon the Joy returns as if by magic.

  4. Monika, you have inspired me to want to walk the light house walk too. You reminded me why I enjoyed the movement of the body through exercising. The beautiful feeling of my sexy, strong and vitally powerful body. Exercising is a personal relationship. Not a comparison or competition.

  5. It is true that when walking with someone else the temptation is to keep up with each other. Good walking buddies either find a mutual rhythm that works for both or they meet afterwards! It is much better to honour how the body feels than to push beyond what the body can manage.

  6. True exercise done with a commitment to life is an astonishing medicine for the body. Each day at the moment I am ever more amazed at how it supports me and how the body, when it is nurtured and activated in purpose is an incredible machine that is designed to work and work and work…It’s an awesome piece of kit!!

    1. I love this Otto, very true. The more I take care of my body to the littlest detail, tending to the areas that are a bit creaky and stiff or simply neglected, the smoother my body becomes and ‘runs’.

  7. Thank you. I have pushed myself a little of late and I can feel it now as a deep underlying tiredness which I realise I need to honor. I do not have to measure myself by how much I am getting done in a day. I do not need to prove that I can have a late night and that it doesn’t affect me, for in truth it does, and that’s OK. If I work at a steady pace and allow myself to rest when I need to my body appreciates this care and consideration.

  8. I completely endorse what you are saying here Monica, walking in connection with one’s body I find builds me up whereas if I walk with my head full of thoughts I find the walk drains me. You cannot do both at the same time, I can either be with my body or my head and being with my head, I lose connection to my body. It is very simple but our heads have the ability to complicate it and to undo us.

  9. I can get caught up with looking ahead and anticipating possible difficulties that take me away from what I m currently doing. This living in the future robs me of the present. Reading your blog this morning is a great reminder to stay present with myself in every moment.

  10. ‘And it feels sexy even being over 50 now!’ I like the way you finished the blog Monika. I feel that could be the subject of another great blog. I am certainly feeling more sexy, energetic and vibrant in my 50s.

  11. “It is absolutely great to feel my body and this aliveness and to re-build my core strength, which is feeding me back during my day.” I have come to realise how very supportive it is to strengthen my body in areas where I am not so active during the day and what a huge difference it makes to my whole well-being and vitality during the day. Just yesterday I noticed how much easier it is for me to go uphill just by having done one strengthening exercise for my legs over the last weeks.

  12. I love how you simply bring the focus back to yourself and coming from there taking your own body as the marker where you are at.

  13. No matter what your age it is possible to have a self-care routine that includes fitness through walking. The improvements for the body seems like a miracle!

  14. ‘Did I lose the joy of the connection to the earth with each step I take?’ Going for a walk to connect with nature and meet all those I encounter is to reconnect with me but if I walk to reach an end point, or a destination then that becomes the goal and I lose connection to me.

  15. I have noticed with walking how I can just over extend each step the slightest amount and it drains me. I come back to more presence in my body and the step changes, slightly smaller, but aligned with my body so I can again feel rhythm moving through it. Then, I seem to be able to walk forever!

  16. I have walked everyday for ages now and find it so beneficial on so many levels. I recently had 2 weeks where I was putting work first and didn’t make time for my regular walk. Boy did I notice the difference. So I am definitely back walking and walking back to me:)

  17. There is much truth in what you have written regarding using your body as a marker and not looking outwards for those impulses

  18. I love this Monika. I have in the past championed the no pain no gain way of exercising but my body made it clear that this was not truly supporting my wellbeing. Your story demonstrates how powerful it can be to simply move in a way that honours our bodies.

  19. That is the best way to do a walk: “My walk should be neither struggle, nor hardness or pushing, but a good feeling within my body; a feeling of inner strength, a foundation in my body.” Thank you so much Monika for sharing this wonderful insight with us.

  20. Nothing is worse when I’ve exercised in a way that has been all about an outcome or getting through it anyway I can. There is no joy, no connection and no space to take anything in around me. Bringing it back to feeling my feet on the ground or my finger tips on the hand weights etc. supports me in staying present and with my body, and not getting caught up in what is next.

    1. What you are sharing Aimee has also been my experience. Bringing my focus to the activity I am doing, while staying focused on my breath is a key element for me to stay connected to my innermost.

  21. “I don’t look ahead to the stairs I have to climb – I take one step a time. I look at my feet and to the ground and feel my entire body.” In this choice to be with our bodies, we not only learn how to walk to become truly fit and well, we learn how to live to become truly fit and well. Our future is right here before us in how we move into it. And in being with ourselves in each movement, there is an everlasting joy that seeks nothing more than to be who we are.

  22. It is interesting how easily we override the body and try to push some beliefs or ideals onto it and make it perform accordingly. When we honour the body and listen to it we know exactly where the limit is and how much is healthy for us and when we start to strain this precious vehicle of ours.

  23. If we forever look to the horizon to determine the movements we make, we will forever be shaped by that drive to ‘get there’, the desperate outward quest that has us seeking in all the wrong places and further delays the journey home to the place where true wisdom resides – the human form and our deep and steady connection to it and thus to The Universe/God that is forever communicating through it.

  24. In a swimming lesson with Simone Benhayon recently I got to feel how I push myself to do more than is really true for me and how then the quality of what I am doing suffers, it becomes less and I don’t feel so good either. If I go on I am overriding my connection to my own body wisdom and I have to pull in another force to propel me forward. Ignoring my body and listening to my mind that tells me I have to do more to keep up with so and so or because someone I think knows better than me says so, or for whatever reason outside my own knowing and intuition, always lands me in trouble.

  25. A great demonstration of how one step at a time in presence delivers the joy of moving our body – and living our everyday life in the process, whatever that might entail.

  26. I am visiting Byron at the moment and I am going to be doing the lighthouse walk and this is great to read before I walk this as a reminder that i do not need to rush or push myself and I can do this all in my own stride. It is about feeling the body first and in the past this was never the case for me either.

  27. It’s amazing to see men and women over the age of 50 feeling light and energised every day, without stimulation, when the majority of the world reflects the opposite to be, not only normal, but an inevitability.

  28. It is great to bring consciousness to all we are doing and question where we are in it. It is so easy to get caught up in allowing something else run our body like comparison, competiveness or indulgence. The body holds the wisdom and always speaks the truth as long we are connected to our hearts.

  29. By focusing on one step at a time in every level of our life we can remain far more consciously present and connected to what we are doing and have far less interference from what is going on around us – interference that can sometimes cause us to trip up.

  30. It is easy to lose your own rhythm to join that of another when walking together but as you have shown, so much more powerful to choose to remain with what is true for you to create a foundation that is not based on pushing or struggle but rather connection … and allowing yourself to align to what is most supportive.

  31. Thanks for sharing your awesome reflections Monika. Very timely for me as I am about to start a fitness class and my past pattern has always been to strive to keep up with everyone rather than going at my own pace and rhythm.

  32. I’ve recently started to walk a long steep hill daily so can relate to what you have shared. I’ve really noticed how the consistency of my steady walk, being present with my breath and movement gives me a marker of love and steadiness that I can come back to during the day.

  33. Thank you Monika for this very powerful message of how comparison instantly severs our connection to ourselves, our love within, and crushes any opportunity to appreciate simply being with all that we are and enjoying where we are at. The joy of feeling our loving connection to ourselves and our body is a quality that naturally expresses the love we are within, wherever we are.

  34. I have also found that putting one step in front of another without looking ahead towards the goal is the way to go. It allows me to keep up with the true pace and harmony of my body rather than the images and aspirations of my fanciful mind.

  35. I appreciated reading this blog because it exposes in me how in the past I used to play catch up with people all the time. When I would be exercising, if anyone was watching I would really push my body. And even this morning I was doing some exercise and a neighbour opened their curtains and looked in at me, and I could feel my whole body tense. So I sat with this and came back to me and said to myself it is about how I am exercising first, not what other people’s opinions are. It was a beautiful lesson to show me how we can give our power away to others when this is just a game to make me feel anxious .

  36. “My walk should be neither struggle, nor hardness or pushing, but a good feeling within my body; a feeling of inner strength, a foundation in my body” – I love this, and when I apply this to anything in life I can see where I am still holding an ideal, and why I am experiencing so much pain and ache in my body lately. It is gorgeous to feel the simplicity and ease when our focus is just to remain connected with our own body, and whatever gets done – a walk, project, housework… is a bonus, it is a confirmation of joy in movement.

  37. I have been exploring how I walk up stairs and found that I view stairs as a real pain and drudgery to go up and come down them. I have been taking a slight stop at the bottom of the stairs and then making my posture checking my posture and then walking up them with my full presence and it has made a huge difference. before the space around me even felt heavy, now I feel a lot more freedom and flow. The space has been cleared because I am allowing my body to move at its full capacity and it feels awesome. Our bodies really are amazing and show us so much constantly, when we choose to listen and learn from it.

  38. On a walk this morning, I handed myself over to my body to see what it wanted to do… Surprisingly, on the flat, it was pumping and power walking even though my head was still half asleep! On the hills, it slowed down and took larger steps to stretch out my hips and calves. Pretty cool. My body walked me.

  39. Thank you Monica – this is a good reminder for me too to keep the connection with the body in each moment in exercising. It is not about exercise being a ‘chore’ nor a tick box exercise, but it is about exercising just the right amount and in just the right way that is needed for the body at that moment in time.

  40. “My walk should be neither struggle, nor hardness or pushing, but a good feeling within my body” I used to walk with a hardness, especially when I was at work. I can remember the forceful impact on the surface I was walking on and the jarring throughout my body, but I didn’t realise the impact this was having on it. Coming to understand my body more than I ever have and growing the connection I have to me I can no longer walk with this hardness and drive but in a way that supports and nurtures me, and I am loving every gentle step I take.

  41. It is so easy to want to go ahead in time, think about where we are going instead of being in every moment. Something I like to experiment with thank you.

  42. Just coming back to this blog as I was experimenting today at my work at the check out. Scanning product after product I started to feel a rush and wanting to get it done quickly feel coming up in me and then I had to think of this blog. I focussed on scanning one product at the time and It was beautiful, my body relaxed and my contact with the clients was more relaxed and joyful.

  43. No matter the undertaking, taking one step at a time, connected to the body and not looking ahead towards what is still to be done, is definitely the way to go and keeps it all present, joyous and light.

  44. Very cool Monika. And a big ‘yes’ to feeling our innate and gorgeous sexiness, through taking such (literal 🙂 ) steps in honouring your body.
    You have smashed the consciousness, i.e. way of thinking, that has permeated exercise for so very long – i.e. that we should push past our body’s limits, and essentially create pain. You’ve shared how enriching and indeed powerful in terms of our well-being it is, to embrace exercise from exactly where we stand, and not be caught in measuring up to others or outer ‘bars set’ that simply do not honour our body and being. Love all that you’ve shared here.

  45. ‘It is absolutely great to feel my body and this aliveness and to re-build my core strength, which is feeding me back during my day.’ Thank you Monika for such a beautiful reminder of the power of true exercise and how it supports us in so many ways.

  46. Walking is indeed a great way to exercise,and certainly when you do it every single day. Walking in this way brought my consistency and everything what I experienced during walking radiated through other parts of my life.

  47. “There are moments I feel that it is too much, that I don’t want to go any further and that I want to quit – so I look and ask, have I pushed myself too much again?
    It is like a light globe moment for me reading the connection between the wanting to quit and simply asking “have I been pushing too hard”. There is a truly deep love available in caring, listening and responding to what is being felt simply by asking the question. No matter what the answer it is the connection that becomes present when we stop for a moment and feel what is there with-in that was being over-ridden.

  48. What a truly loving question to ask ourselves:
    “Did I lose the joy of the connection to the earth with each step I take?” How many steps do I take in a day that include this simple awareness? Today is going to be a day where I observe how this goes, (haha – the kookaburras are singing their agreement!).

  49. I love the analogy of taking one step at a time and being with that step in full and not ‘looking up’.
    I know the walk you are referring and it is very familiar to me to ‘look-up’ and take in all the steps ahead and feel a little daunted by them. Also what I can feel is that I would want to get a ‘look’ at the light house itself, try and take it all in as much as possible. All leaving myself while at the same time making my body climb. No wonder it becomes hard work. This understanding I can apply to anything. If I’m looking for the end while working through the steps then I’m not with my steps at all- this is what sets up a ripple effect of ill-ease.

  50. This is so true for anything in life – if I am experiencing something to be a struggle, it is not that it is too hard for me, it is me that is being hard, forgetting and disconnecting from the joy I innately am. Sure, certain things can be hard and at times a challenge, but how I experience that is my responsibility.

  51. It is so easy for us to go into comparison and make ourselves feel lesser. I love that you kept checking in with your body so that you maintained your own rhythm. The idea of taking one step at a time rather than looking ahead, and anticipating failure or hardship is a great tool for staying focused with the task at hand.

  52. Fantastic blog of truth – sharing how our own body has its own true pace and that once we follow – truth remains.. We grow by listening to our body – and who would have thought that – but it is so simple. Just connect, breath and come back to you – you will know what to do..

  53. Walking in our fire, in our true state, in our connection to our body and God – is a true blessing that we give ourselves every moment of every day, simply it is at this time in life a blessing because we have stepped away from all of that. But in truth, once we fully accept it again – it will be our absolute normal -which forever expands.

    1. Great Danna. And walking in fire actually feels really normal. From the outside it looks the same, but now we are walking with ourselves, we do the walking instead of thinking of all kind of things and walking on automatic pilot. But if we are not walking consciously with ourselves, who does the walking?

  54. True piece of writing, it is not in how our walk looks – but the feel of when you walk that is going through your whole body. Bouncing through up and down. When this is love – it is felt.
    When this is lacking love – it is felt.
    Hence, we need to be very open and honest to feel how we are walking , in our day, in life in everything we do between a and b and so forward. Giving ourselves the opportunity to feel that which we are and which we are not – so we can make a difference. Change whatever is needed – being and bringing all the love that we are and belong to back in our movements.

  55. Great reflection Monika, we often push ourselves to get where we want to get to without considering our own body, yet when we take one step at a time in full connection with our body, we don’t worry about what’s ahead.

  56. Thanks Monika, you reminded me of over 10 years ago when I too used to walk up to the same lighthouse, and how I came to realise I was pushing myself too much and ignoring my body with this strenuous walk.

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