I have been looking at how I self-care for a number of years now, thanks to my involvement with Universal Medicine. I have progressed through some major milestones: from not knowing what self-care really was, to beginning to care for myself a little more, to incorporating self-care routines and rituals into my daily life, to now understanding and accepting that self nurturing is deeper than taking care of my physical body – the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.
In relation to the fact that I am a woman, I have come to recognise that I can mechanically go through the motion of caring and nurturing myself, but have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman – for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?
In deepening my self-nurturing as a true woman, allowing my soul to express through this body, I have stopped to consider who I am. Not who I am based on what others are doing, being or expressing but who I truly am…
So… who am I?
How would I describe myself, and how is my femininity unique to me?
A couple of people have described me in recent months as sweet. This was not a word that I could relate to but I decided to be open to the possibility that I was sweet. When I looked in the mirror, when I moved my body around or when I spoke I was not getting the sweet thing. I felt awkward at times, tough, hard, and strong, and I would go into comparison with other women. All very different to sweet!
When I heard the word sweet I was also hearing words like delicate, tender and precious. Apparently I was all of these things as well. I would have described myself as strong, athletic, independent, hard etc., making it very difficult initially for me to be able to connect to words like sweet, let alone actually surrender my body to feeling them.
I remained open to the word sweet because I wanted to be able to answer my own question – how would I describe myself?
During this period of time I happened to video myself for something I was involved in and then watched it. In watching this recording I saw how gentle and delicate I am when I move; I could hear a sweetness in my voice and I had a realisation that I was precious. While watching this movie I cried as I was not at all what I thought I was or how I had made myself out to be. The tears also allowed me to connect to a fragility within that was in no way weak or made me feel less than anyone else. I was observing how I express as a woman and there is no way that this can be compared to anyone else.
I watched this video a number of times… I now observe myself more closely in the mirror or when I move or speak and if I doubt that I am sweet and very gentle I look directly into my eyes because they reveal to me my true qualities, my soulful qualities.
I am learning to surrender myself to these newfound qualities and to express them. In connecting to my fragility, gentleness, sweetness, tenderness and delicateness, I can very clearly feel that I am ALL woman. A beautiful, joyful and sweet woman. I can also feel that the self-nurturing and caring ways I have introduced into my life have made a difference and have allowed my self-nurturing to go to a whole new level.
I was inspired to write this article from observing Natalie Benhayon, and all the female esoteric students who are involved with Universal Medicine. I hold a deep appreciation for you all.
By Sally Scott, Perth WA
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
As women we are here to reflect so much to each other – we all hold qualities that are exquisite and reminds others of the same qualities in them too. This we can never forget.
I too used to judge myself a lot and considered myself hardened but recently on watching a video of myself with my son when he was small, I could not but notice how gentle and encouraging I was with him and how beautiful it was to watch how I handled him – this was, like in Sally’s experience, a true healing and allowed me to embrace a part of myself I had been denying.
I totally understand that we can do the movements of self-care but they are just the motions to be seen to be doing. When we actually truely self-care, the body responds so much beautifully and tenderly and it only asks for more to be revealed. As we self-care more, the more is revealed to nurture ourselves even in the minute detail.
Sally I could not agree with you even more that Natalie Benhayon is an inspirational woman to many women and men. She is the pinnacle of self-care and nurturing. A role model from my perspective to what she offers to many of us.
Sally – this is an awesome sharing and I love how said that upon watching the video of yourself you could finally see the qualities you had been denying yourself that others had seen and nominated for you. This is a healing indeed to see it and embrace it!
Sally it’s amazing how we deny ourselves as women. We have been bought up as looking, dressing behaving as one, for some, but we have not even touched the sides as one. Until we meet a woman like Natalie Benhayon. She is an inspirational woman, who represents what a true woman should be.
I have been inspired by her, and I love how I have changed since meeting her. My standards have changed and are continually changing and I know there is more to go. I know one thing, I won’t be changing back to the old ways, the new found powerful woman is emerging and going forth…
Lovely to read how your self nurturing has helped with your divine qualities, ‘ In connecting to my fragility, gentleness, sweetness, tenderness and delicateness, I can very clearly feel that I am ALL woman. A beautiful, joyful and sweet woman. I can also feel that the self-nurturing and caring ways I have introduced into my life have made a difference and have allowed my self-nurturing to go to a whole new level.’
Self nurturing is the quality that brings us closer to who we truly are, as women and an inspiration to others.It only begins with one to be the true reflection.
Sally your sharing shows us how the way we see ourselves is closely linked with the choices we daily make. So being loving with ourselves is a choice that makes our body feels great, open, delicate and precious as we are. Why don’t we choose it more often?
Love having women in my life who have accepted and deeply connected with their preciousness within. They make me realise that the expression of each woman is equally beautiful but with different flavour at the same time. When we as women accept this fact comparison stops being a problem.
Thank you Sally. Your words inspire me to reconnect more deeply to the precious and sweet woman that I am.
Sally reading your blog today has inspired me to do a kind of inventory of my qualities and begin to enjoy these more through the day. I am always spending time with me, so this feels like an opportunity for quality time – pun intended!
As we explore what it is like to be nurturing and self-caring in the True energetic means of these words, then the life we live and the relationship that open up in us is difficult to put into a language that is understandable as we are so much more than our wildest dreams as you have shared Sally.
It is very beautiful to feel how we start introducing doings in order to awaken and connect to the being, and eventually the being becomes the primal that facilitates doings for it to deepen, and this deepening has no end and it just keeps enriching, not to arrive at some fireworks, but to return to a very still place.
When we commit to self-caring and self-nurturing we set out on a journey of re-connection with ourselves and our inner essence and thus have the opportunity to fall in love with ourselves.
I have started to feel a sense of divineness within my body it is hard to describe but I know it’s the very essence of the universe; it is the fabric of the universe. This feeling I have resides in all of us. I know this to be true because we are all made up of the same particles that make up the universe.
For me it brings more detail into how I do things, and whether my movements and choices bring the souls quality through my body.
Thank you Sally, I’ve recently been exploring the difference between the thoughts I have of myself and how I actually feel in my body and being, and these are very distinctly two different things. It seems my mind can think of me in all sorts of faulty ways, perceiving me negatively and as very different to who I actually am. Imagine that, my own mind working to turn me away from knowing and enjoying my true being, considering that the body itself is constantly working towards homeostasis and harmony and preferring to avoid anything disruptive, what is coming through the mind is very out of tune and out of step with the natural harmony of the body.
I love your observation here Melinda – the mind is a strange thing when it seeks to do things that does not appreciate and honour the body it lives in. And yet the same mind can also deeply care for the body when we have aligned to the source that seeks to love ourselves up in a true sense. Hence it is our alignment that then allows one or the other source to supply us with the way to think, believe, behave etc. This is a revelation and one to remember, for it makes all the difference in life and all the choices we make – align with soul or align with the lower spirit?
Thank you for letting us feel the rich qualities that exist. For we need more nurturing in this world..
How we would like to be blinds us regarding how we naturally are. All the efforts to construct ourselves in a specific way stand in the way for us to recognize and be able to appreciate us, the true us. It is us that make it hard for ourselves.
Its really really really important to appreciate every single moment we are expressing from soul. Discounting and dismissing it is pure self abuse.
There is nothing more beautiful than a woman returning to herself.
Interesting how our own experience of ourselves can be different from how others experience us as another. I love how you remained open to the word sweet even though it was not how you would have described yourself as, and how gorgeous it is to feel you keep surrendering to the qualities that have been there all along. Sweet, precious, delicate, tender, sexy, strong, fragile… we are all that.
This is beautiful – what if we are not aware of our most amazing qualities?
‘In connecting to my fragility, gentleness, sweetness, tenderness and delicateness, I can very clearly feel that I am ALL woman.’ I love what you have shared here Sally, these are all qualities that I used to hide as a woman because I didn’t want to be seen as being weak or flaky. I can now feel there is great strength and power when women live and embrace these qualities, we also offer a reflection that inspires other women to equally feel these gorgeous qualities within them too.
Beautiful to read of your acceptance of yourself and your qualities.. when we accept ourselves and start to allow ourselves to live as who we truly are, we can inspire others to do the same. And isn’t that what life is all about.. inspiring one another to be and live all the glory, beauty and joy that we truly are, within.
Absolutely, and doesn’t this keep life simple; accepting, and, living who we truly are and so inspiring others to live their equal amazingness.
Once upon a time if someone had asked me to describe myself I would never have included the words “fragility, gentleness, sweetness, tenderness and delicateness” in the description. But how things have changed since I began to bring a deeper love, self-care and self- nurturing into a life that was devoid of the honouring of myself as a beautiful woman. Today I can feel all these qualities within me and know without a doubt that this is the true me.
It is amazing what bringing consistent self-care and nurturing adds to our life, ‘ I have progressed through some major milestones: from not knowing what self-care really was, to beginning to care for myself a little more, to incorporating self-care routines and rituals into my daily life, to now understanding and accepting that self nurturing is deeper than taking care of my physical body – the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.’
The word self-care is bantered around alot today. But do we really understand the depth that genuine care for our bodies can go to in breaking the unloving patterns of our behaviour and in healing our past hurts.
After reading your article Sally, I feel I would like to view myself on a video, to get a better understanding of who I am and the qualities i bring as a women.
Our eyes see what we have said yes to. The fact that you start seeing something different is just a reflection of a bigger truth you have started to connect to and say yes to as well.
I have been reading blogs on the topic of religion and I found myself once again at this blog. Through nurturing ourselves more deeply and connecting to ourselves more deeply is religion. Re-connecting to the “truer beauty as a woman”; loving and adoring who we are and then taking all of how we are with ourselves to the world we live in…how can this not be religious?
Thank you again Sally for what you have shared here. It’s only a short piece but it’s very powerfully reflective for any woman or man returning to their soul. I also would not have once described myself as delicate or gorgeous, yet the more I discard what I have taken on from the outside world the more the true me is revealed and those qualities that I hold innately as a woman are more clearly felt and then expressed. As a woman it’s an incredible joy to return to my soul and reconnect to the true essence of me. It’s a bit like opening s gift everyday, something beautiful within is there to be felt, explored, appreciated, then expressed and shared.
“have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman” A beautiful stop moment to appreciate all that you are.
Self-care and self-nurturing? In the past I would have no recollection of what this meant or felt to me. Since I found out about the teachings of Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon, I came to feel a different quality to life, one I just needed to be reminded of, as I had forgotten… Another way to look at things and there they showed me a way that was different but yet so familiar. This was about that everything is energy – everything is related.. And that so, we must take care of ourselves, the energy we live from, and so was I introduced to self-care and eventually self-nurturing. Something I till the day today explore every day from within myself more and more.
As I read your article again Sally I can feel how appreciation is a very important part of nurturing, for it helps us observe those nurturing moments and then take them to a deeper level. It also helps us accept that not only are we making those choices but that we can and deserve to make nurturing choices for ourselves.
Thank you Jennifer, I hadn’t made the connection between nurturing and appreciation but it’s definitely there, as we appreciate ourselves we nurture the women within to not just know herself but be connected to and live from all she is.
We learn so many things but we are never encouraged to truly get to know ourselves – but it is one of the most important things in life as we will be with us throughout our entire life.
So true Esther – getting to know ourselves and deeply so, is a lifelong gift and well worth the investment.
Thank you Sally, self care is a vital topic for us all to explore. I have found for me that self care doesn’t just support the body but that it’s a deep communication to the self of having value, of being precious, and it takes so much pressure off the body so that a relationship with me, the being, can be felt and deepened. I appreciated this line “the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.”
This is such an honouring and loving sharing about yourself. It is crazy how we see ourselves so differently to what we truly are and bring and thus it is so very important to observe and listen and see the impact we have on the world and take this as a reflection back. And what a simple tool to watch yourself on a video, to being open to watch yourself with an open heart wanting to find out more about yourself, wanting to getting to know yourself better.
I agree Esther, in terms of getting to know ourselves and appreciating who we are “it is so very important to observe and listen and see the impact we have on the world and take this as a reflection back”.
Yes, I too have had to slowly accept that I’m not the tornado I thought I was. Well, I certainly walked around like a tornado for sometime, priding myself on my multitasking ability and efficiency. What I’ve learnt though, is you can still be efficient and take care of yourself. A revelation really! I am no where near as hard and ‘tough’ as I used to be and I consider that to be a very very positive thing.
It is very beautiful the read this again Sally and realise just how damaging and destructive comparison is. For as soon as we go into comparison out goes our appreciation of the magic of who we already are within, and our opportunity to explore, confirm and deepen our connection to our essence, the light of our Soul. The light we innately are is everything, in equalness with all, as such there truly can never be any comparison.
Appreciation is the road back to the truth of who we are.
Great that you are claiming this, ‘I can also feel that the self-nurturing and caring ways I have introduced into my life have made a difference and have allowed my self-nurturing to go to a whole new level,’ these changes do make a huge difference I have found.
This was great that you had the opportunity to see yourself in this way, ‘During this period of time I happened to video myself for something I was involved in and then watched it. In watching this recording I saw how gentle and delicate I am when I move; I could hear a sweetness in my voice and I had a realisation that I was precious. While watching this movie I cried as I was not at all what I thought I was or how I had made myself out to be.’ Very touching and beautiful Sally.
Sally thankyou for sharing here, I can relate to the experience of others saying how I am in terms of my true qualities, but I myself seeing who I am differently and not in a positive way. I have not seen myself on video but I may experiment with filming myself and allow what I observe to show me who I am, instead of believing what I think. It’s interesting isn’t it that the mind can act in such direct opposition to the body and being, when it’s really there to work in support of what it is part of.
It can be amazing to be open to how others see us truly and how we see or think of ourselves. This article highlights what is often an internal critic that we have not really on our shoulders but inside our heads. There appears to be always a thought of not matching up, not being something or just plain being wrong. How different is life and our feel for it when we take a step back from ourselves and start to appreciate who we are and how we feel. Just consistent dedication to this alone can change how we view ourselves and the world. I wonder how many of us can watch ourselves on video without thinking something critical, this hardness on ourselves translates or goes through everything. It goes through the relationship with ourselves and everything else around us.
You are definitely sweet in your blog Sally and what a quality to own – there is nothing sweeter (pun intended)! Also, I like how you looked deep into your eyes it’s something I should do more of. I certainly receive myself more since UniMed when I stand in front of the mirror. This represents my openness one of the best qualities to claim. A lot can be claimed in front of the mirror they are good value.
Deepening our self-care and nurturing of the physical body supports our connection with our soul as you point out in this blog Sally, and appreciation of this is important.
Being self-caring once obtained and maintained as a daily part of our rhythm will be a mainstay or our foundation for our evolution.
It still takes me by surprise when someone sees a lovely quality in me that I don’t see or acknowledge myself.
I can relate to this Debra which highlights to me how much more there is to appreciate of ourselves, and how powerful it is for us to express our appreciation of other when we feel it. As we do truly thrive on confirmation not comparison.
‘The tears also allowed me to connect to a fragility within that was in no way weak or made me feel less than anyone else.’ We always think that fragility is a weakness, I have found that when I connect to my fragility I can really feel the tenderness and delicateness that I hold within, and there comes a strength from knowing that we are all innately tender from the inside out.
I really got to understand what nurturing is recently. It’s more than putting a jumper on when you get cold, it’s anticipating that you would need a jumper so making sure it’s included in what you take out for the day. It’s reading what we will need for the day and not being ‘left in the cold’ – in more ways than one. Super simple, super considerate and super nurturing.
‘Have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman – for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?’ So true Sally often as women we miss the opportunity to deeply appreciate the beautiful qualities we all bring. For me I have been building this appreciation and acceptance into my daily life and this has been life changing and has allowed me to bring this same love and acceptance to all my relationships – it’s a win/win for all.
Yesterday I heard a recording of my voice. Interestingly before it played I could feel myself starting to brace myself on hearing my voice played back to me, as I have always greatly disliked my voice, because it always sounded hard! Well I got a pleasant surprise, as my voice sounded sweet and light and I laughed a lot, which was a lovely confirmation of how much protection and hardness I have let go off and put a smile on my face.
‘I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman’. This is my experience also, recently I have been feeling just how sweet and gorgeous I am as a woman and also feeling how lovely it is to express my vulnerability, something I could never do in the past because of all the protection and hardness I had went into. So much to appreciate…..
‘if I doubt that I am sweet and very gentle I look directly into my eyes because they reveal to me my true qualities, my soulful qualities’. The eyes never lie, which is why we avoid looking into them to avoid the truth of how we are living and treating ourselves, this was my old pattern. However, these days, with all the changes I have to deepen my self-nurturing and self-love, when I look into the mirror, I see such light in my eyes which is a confirmation of all I have chosen.
Our bodies respond to the reflection of movement from others. The more we connect to those true qualities and move with them, the more people can experience and feel those same qualities within themselves – such is your example with Natalie Benhayon, Sally.
‘the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul’, absolutely, this is also my experience and over the years my self nurturing has refined in so many ways that it is a joy to be in my body.
A gorgeous and delightful blog Sally, your sweetness radiates off the page……
The more we love our bodies the more we get to know just how many awesome qualities we have, it’s a bit like watering a seed and watching it bloom into the most beautiful flower, we simply need to water and enjoy the fruits of what naturally evolves from introducing love into our lives.
Love it – tending the garden of our soul.
It’s such a lovely feeling as you walk to feel how lovely you are. I have been having similar feelings myself and it’s so sweet to feel my own sweetness. And a constant reminder that this is who we are naturally and when we don’t make loving choices, we don’t feel this way. Nothing else results in feeling this other than self-loving choices. Nothing…
This is such a lovely sharing. I choose to live in a certain way, and my movement reflects the quality I live in – but when I say this, I feel it’s a bit of a head statement, I am actually feeling a bit like, well, but I don’t really know what quality is being communicated – and in that, I am sensing a bit of disconnection. I am being reminded that everything is here already, and I am enough already, all it takes is a choice to reconnect.
Why do we so often look at ourselves with eyes that completely miss our essence, I love how video footage gave you the reflection that you had been missing.
‘You are sweet’, when people would say this to me in the past I would not pick it up as a compliment more as that I was less and that needing cared for because could not do life on my own. So I always tried to be the independent woman until I came across Universal Medicine and Esoteric Women’s Health and feel it is a great quality to have, being sweet and have a tremendous love for people, how this can be full of power and strength and never is weak or less.
Sally this is a very powerful message you share here, for not only woman but for us all to consider. Knowing who we truly are can only be discovered through our connection to our inner-heart, where we already are in essence all the divine qualities of the Soul. Our minds alone knows not of this quality and will only leads us to believe that we are less than who we actually are. Through building a loving and nurturing relationship with our bodies we develop a relationship with the love we are, through which we come to know the of the immense beauty we are within.
This is really interesting what you shared about the video. The mental picture we hold about ourselves can be very out dated to the reality of our blossoming. If a rose thought it stayed a bud while the world could se the transformation of a beautiful bloom with fragrance to match, or a chrysalis didn’t know it was a beautiful exquisite butterfly sharing harmony. The natural world is incredibly adaptable to evolving and a great role model for us all.
And thank you for your very beautiful reminder Sally “the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.”
It is so important for women (and men equally so) to take the time to stop and question why we are our own harshest critics and why we don’t spend the same amount of time appreciating all our gorgeous qualities.
Tamara it’s great to ask questions, they can highlight so many things and your question is a very powerful one. It would be interesting to pose this one to a large group of people and find out what they come up with.
It is beautiful when you can let go of how you see yourself and allow yourself to truly see and feel how others see you… and then embrace those qualities knowing there is a gorgeousness in them that is deeply healing for you to express in full and for others to bask in.
We are so blind to many things about ourselves. This is why we have relationships for people to reflects things about us that we may not be aware of.
Thank you sally for this inspirational piece.
It’s crazy how we often don’t see our true virtues, I would have always described myself as sweet, but almost the opposite of you lacked the strength and authority. Now I’m learning that there can be great strength in sweetness, and great authority in love, and there is an amazing feeling of finally being true to myself.
You are not the only one Sally!
Beautiful Sally, self-appreciation is something we rarely allow ourselves as women, particularly of qualities that are so innately beautiful and essential to us. It is often easier to see them in another than in ourselves, but the willingness to do so is life-changing. It is impossible to ignore the fact we are divine once we have felt and seen our own true qualities, and self-negating, self-neglect and lack of self-care become much harder to indulge in after that.
Thank you Sally for sharing your experience. You have inspired me to deepen my self-care and self-nurturing. Also to appreciate myself, to be more aware of my movements, how I express myself and to be aware of my choices. It is deeply confirming to appreciate what we reflect and how we live from love.
As I re-awaken, each day I am realising that I/we are so much more than our physical body and how through the way we are with our body we can access divinity or not.
Wow Caroline, what a beautiful way to remind us of what we can access, divinity and with such deep appreciation of who we are and our body. The choice is always ours whether we choose to access this or not, there is never any pressure as to what we choose but the impact of our choices is always felt.
This is so beautiful Caroline I used to do the same thing but it got lost i n all my busyness, maybe it is time to realise who we really are, thank you for the poignant reminder.
Seeing women deepen their self care and self nurturing with the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine has been such a blessing – Thank you Sally and all.
I love how you simply observed the sweetness in you even though you could not initially feel it. We sometimes need to learn a look a little closer to all what is there and then step by step we can see and feel it too. A beautiful example.
Wow Sally after reading your awesome blog I want to see me on a video as well as it seems to be an other possibility to have a more observing view on oneself.
I’ve observed myself on video and it is so interesting seeing how we are as our own perception is often so different from the reality.
“….the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.” So beautiful – and so true. I used to mechanically care for my physical body, but since staying present, honouring and loving my body I feel a deeper connection with my innermost.
Beautiful Sally, The sweet, delicate little girl is still there when we grow into a woman but so often put on a hard exterior.
Thank you Sally, I can really connect to your sweetness in the way you write the blog and can very much relate to what you are sharing as I too am often very hard with myself and then am quite surprised when I look into a mirror and see the sweet, tender woman – it does not go together with the picture my head tries to make of me.
Dear Sally,
Of late I have been surrendering to the woman I have always been. But I had not fully considered that I am a woman first and foremost, so therefore the rigors of life were impacting my body and the choices I have been making, because even though I was seeing the beauty of the woman I am I was still stuck in doing work, and essentially doing life. Having felt how I give up the beauty of the woman I am to go into all the roles I do was very significant and I know begins a new way in how I be in my life. I feel an incredible strength and solidness in being a woman first and foremost.
I deeply appreciate you sharing your journey with surrendering to and expressing your soulful qualities, it is so beautiful to feel how your commitment to self-nurturing has expanded the full expression of yourself as a woman. Thank you for your gorgeous and inspiring reflection.
Just what is it about any association with that word ‘sweet’ that has women cringing? Is it perhaps because we’re led to believe that as women we need to be tough, resilient and bold to be successful, with the result that any word that celebrates those gentler, more delicate, tender and fragile qualities that are our natural birthright gets confined to the scrapheap?
it is interesting how that what other people see in us, we at times don’t see in ourselves. I liked the idea of the video giving you a reflection of what others see in you and then being able to claim it as you, the tender delicate and sweet woman that you are.
Watching yourself back on a recording is the best thing every, even if most people hate it. It gives a real sense of how you present yourself. I’m not saying to use the recording to self critique but rather use it as an honest reflection to how you were in that moment.
Learning is to be had if this exercise is used with care. As this blog has described.
This is such a powerful blog in an era where women are manning up to become better than men and donning some of their behavioural qualities in the process; where the words tender, delicate, precious and fragile have been reduced to mean flaky, lacking resilience, unreliable and weak.
Thank you Sally this is a beautiful sharing and reminder to appreciate all the qualities we bring – truly inspiring.
How lovely to be able to see a video of yourself and realise that the reality and the negative image you had of yourself are poles apart for you to then be able to deepen your appreciation for yourself. It can make us sad that we can give ourselves such a hard time.
Sally the nurturing and self-care you express is a gift for all of us to reflect upon and realise our own beauty in every little gesture or word. And once I have felt my own sweetness I know there is more to give the world. And on it goes.
I loved re-reading this blog Sally, from the point that nurturing now entails that the body is cared for to support the light within us, to the question of how you would describe yourself and then the self-reflection. When listened to the body never stops telling us about that light that is inside of us, that is us.
“In connecting to my fragility, gentleness, sweetness, tenderness and delicateness, I can very clearly feel that I am ALL woman.” I love this line Sally, and I enjoyed reading about how your earlier perceptions of yourself were not true, as when you watched yourself on video, all your true qualities were felt and seen and confirmed.
Hi Sally, from a mans perspective it is quite pleasant being around women who are connected and expressing from their femaleness
Thank you for sharing this Joe.
What a lovely sharing Sally, appreciating all the qualities you bring, It is so easy to get focused on all the things we are not that we miss the beauty that we are.
That old chestnut of staring hard at the small blemish, and not seeing all the amazing things that we are as well. This total lack of appreciation can keep us imprisoned our entire lives if we don’t start to appreciate ourselves.
I fully agree Simon, it is so easy to get bogged down in the minute detail that we forget to look up and see the beauty all around us. We can strive all we like for perfection but in reality we are not designed to be perfect and so will always inevitably fail at some point. By stopping to appreciate ourselves we can halt this endless journey of seeking the perfect picture and see that we have everything we could ever ask for with us now we just have to make the choice to see it.
I remember the first time I asked the question – ‘Who am I?’ and I had no idea. Life changed and I began to consider myself as someone moving around in the world, making decisions, being a mother and wife. Others reflected back to me via friendship or other relationships a picture of me that I wanted to be ‘nice, friendly, fun to be with’. The self care and self nurturing didn’t figure in the picture I held of my life. The moment that we awaken to the fact that we are more than a physical body moving around in the world, that we are deeply feeling, loving, fragile and delicate is a very precious moment and brings so much to the world. Seeing yourself through the lens of a camera Sally, was a beautiful gift. It sounds like your presence in the world and the presence you hold became very real, you now had something concrete in order to love, nurture and allow to unfold. Your light was always there but now it holds more consciousness and that is a gift to us all.
“The moment that we awaken to the fact that we are more than a physical body moving around in the world, that we are deeply feeling, loving, fragile and delicate is a very precious moment and brings so much to the world.” this line is exquisite ch1956, to be more conscious of our light, our qualities, our true nature, is a gift to us all.
This is an awesome blog, Sally. I often find it difficult to connect to delicateness, sweetness, preciousness, etc too – mainly because I hold them up as desirable in a woman and feel that I am far away from that ‘ideal’. When I accept myself for who I am, accept my strength, I get to feel those elements of my essence too.
‘understanding and accepting that self nurturing is deeper than taking care of my physical body – the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.’ – I love how you have expressed this Sally. I have also discovered the power of self-care and self-nuturing has in developing a body of love where our connection to Soul can deepen. If we are open to it it is a beautiful gift when someone reflects to you the truth that you do not yet recognise in yourself. As it presents the opportunity to deepen in love rather than staying separated by our minds and its then harmful thoughts.
“I am learning to surrender to these new found qualities” too – everything in the world is so stacked against a woman being delicate, sweet and fragile but the more I choose to allow them I find that they aren’t that new – just buried deep finally coming to the surface to be felt, lived and appreciated and not just by me.
Very sweet Sally I was touched as I read your lovely blog. It touched me because I could feel a similarity in not accepting all the woman your are because of having a belief of yourself that was not true anymore. It is like this belief did not want to let go of the old picture of yourself and not allow the body to feel what is really going on. To watch this video was the best reflection for you but only because you allow yourself to see what is truly there.
Beautifully expressed Sally, your blog moved me to tears as I don’t allow myself to feel how precious and delicate I am. Your blog is super supportive for me at present as I can feel this is the next step for me in deepening my self-love and self nurturing in my life.
Lovely to read this morning Sally. For several years now I have been caring, nuturing and honouring and listening to my body, so much so that just like you, I have the awareness that; in deepening my self-nurturing covering all aspects of my life, (food, sleep, relationships, excercise, expression, clearing my house, all equally important) I have created the space in my body for my soul to express through…and I am observing the healing and positive impact my divine expression is having on others…..
So beautiful to read Sally, I am Inspired to feel more of the delicate and gentle woman I truly am. Thank you.
Lovely blog Sally, what we truly are is often much more than we think we are, and in supporting this through truly nurturing and caring for our bodies, we can feel the true nature of our soul.
I realise that it is never too late to reconnect to self care. Even after having introduced a steady rhythm of self care into my days, I feel the necessity to upgrade the level of care continuously.
Isn’t is crazy how we let our inner voices dictate a completely different reality to the one others see of us. How beautiful you were given the opportunity to reflect by watching yourself back through different eyes so to speak.
Oooo Reading this blog was like receiving the sweetest kiss and the most loving hug. Thank you Sally. You have inspired me to connect to my own sweetness, preciousness and delicateness. In fact, I have already begun to feel these things in me just reading your beautiful blog.
Beautiful blog, Sally. The sentence that stood our for me:
‘In deepening my self-nurturing as a true woman, allowing my soul to express through this body, I have stopped to consider who I am.’
Our soul so wants to express through our bodies! Every move we make is an expression that either heals or harms.
Your blog has highlighted the importance of self-appreciation in our day to day living and letting ourselves surrender more deeply to what is already there and what we already have built in a loving way with oneself and with life.
Self-appreciation is key Joshua, it stops me looking outside of myself and looking to others for how I should be. It honours my feelings and confirms the love that I am.
Well said James
Gorgeous Sally, in sharing the truth and beauty of the woman you are, i also get to celebrate the woman i am with you. Thank you.
Gorgeous Sally “self nurturing… – the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.” Inspiring new insights, and “how would I describe myself?” is a question I will work on 🙂 thank you.
I loved this part too ariannekasi – I realised I always see myself in comparison to others. It feels so freeing to consider who I am and what my natural and soulful expression as a woman is.
Sally I love your blog, simple and to the point. There were times in the past where I was often considered as delicate, gentle and even fragile. I did not like these comments thinking it meant that I was incapable of doing much in the eyes of others. I have since learnt that there is as strength in these words and none of them hold us back. Great to know you have acknowledged your sweetness Sally.
There is a beauty, delicateness and absolute sweetness in your writing too Sally. Thank you for expressing the woman you are and allowing others to feel there unique qualities too. I know I am sweet, joyful and extremely nurturing, yet my head can certainly tell me otherwise sometimes.
One of the hardest things for me to feel was my own gentle and tender being which others expressed that they could feel and see in me. As I take more responsibility to honour and care for myself on a deeper level through the loving choices I make, whether it is in the way I move or through what I eat, and stop judging and being critical of myself I can feel the tender, gentle woman that I am.
Thanks Sally, for your beautiful blog.. it is in appreciation of who we are and what we bring, that allows even more of those qualities that are naturally within to come out.. I am slowly learning this too, and what you have written is an inspiration.
” I look directly into my eyes because they reveal to me my true qualities, my soulful qualities.”- Yes, and how confirming it is when we gaze into our eyes, and appreciate the divine beauty and love that we are from within.
Our soul always expresses truth and shows our innate delicate tenderness outwardly so. This is also reflected in our daily ways of nurturing ourselves. Sometimes we judge ourselves and don’t fully claim what we all naturally are. I love that you have claimed your sweetness Sally, I could feel a beautiful silkiness as I read your blog. Thank you.
A beautiful reread Sally and another invitation to and inspiration for spending time just feeling and being with myself to connect more deeply to the gentle beauty unfolding within me and everyone, when we truly stop to allow it. What a gift we bring to the world as we express more fully our true beauty as woman, all beginning with self care and self nurturing.
This is golden Sally, thank you so much. I can relate to so much of this. It was really healing for me to read and feel your transformation back to you. I would have described my self as strong and independent and capable – I have grown to realise and surrender to my delicate sweetness and fragility too. The big thing for me was to let go of the hardness – scared I would dissolve into a puddle if I let myself be fragile. But by going there I have deepened in my love and appreciation of myself in knowing that being fragile is a strength not a weakness. It lets me really be open to all that I am feeling and open to others to truly let them in – so they can feel all of me – not just the parts of me that I think are OK. As I let people see me and feel me fully, I realise and accept that I am pure love and I know they are too – so why wouldn’t I let them in? Like you Sally, I am totally inspired by Natalie Benhayon and Miranda Benhayon to just let go, and when I do, it is such a relief for me and others around me too.
That deep self-care supports the connection to our soul is truly amazing. Thank you Sally.
It’s interesting that we can often run with a really bad story of who we are when this is not who we are at all when we take a reality check. You Sally watching the video of yourself absolutely confirms this. The other thing that you say about feeling the quality of being sweet in your body I am finding is so true. It’s one thing knowing something but feeling it from head to toe and throughout our whole body is another. Definitely taking care of oneself and developing self caring rituals, that we know work for us, definitely opens the door to feeling all of those qualities that you describe.
Beautiful blog, the idea we have of ourself is sometimes very far from who we really are, it is beautiful how you describe that it is in our eyes where there is always the true us.
Your blog reminded me of time when a dear friend of mine suggested that I was a very delicate woman, at the time I nearly feel off the massage table I was sitting on, as it was so far from my truth but a little light went on and ever since then that light has, bit by bit, been shinning brighter as I nurtured my delicate self alive.
Beautifully expressed marylouisemyers.
I can relate to being told that too marylouisemyers and knowing that somewhere deep inside me that was true but I could not relate it to how I was and to how I am everyday so like you a light bulb went on and slowly I have come to accept this is true the more I allow the delicate woman to be seen by me and everyone else.
Beautiful blog Sally, I love how you bring your soul into the picture of caring and nurturing for yourself.
Here here Lieke, a powerful message about the bigger picture of self-care.
‘the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.’
I agree Lieke, bringing the soul in as Sally has done, shows how deeply powerful self-caring and self-nurturing truly is. Sometimes more powerful than we tend to realise
Sally your self-question here made me really stop and take note: “….have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman – for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?” – that beauty is simply deep care, so true. And that this care is what allows us to re-connect back to our soul in its female/male expression. Beautiful.
How awesome that viewing yourself on video allowed you to see the truth of you natural qualities, Sally. And also, how strange that the head thoughts were trying to convince you that were actually qualities very different to this, like hardness and toughness.
You just can’t trust that head, hey? It’s a master of illusion and false belief.
I might try the video thing too…..;)
Isn’t it amazing how we are all these amazing qualities but we don’t naturally notice every single day? And worse than that we often think of ourselves in completely the opposite light. This has really got me thinking whether I appreciate and intimately know all my amazing qualities or not – thank you.
revelatory Sally! “for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?” I like this.
The eyes speak volumes… when I am in self doubt and then I look deeply into my eyes, I can see all that I am – there are no words needed.
Sally I can feel the sweetness and delicateness of you as I read your words. It truly is a magical path to find this loveliness of our true nature within.
Dear Sally, what a beautiful blog! I have also observed you many times and felt deeply inspired by you, how beautiful to read you are now able to view yourself like we do!
Beautiful Sally!It is amazing how impacting is seeing ourselves in action. It is truly revealing and we have no other choice of surrendering to the fact of ourselves and our exquisiteness.
Sally this was just so beautiful to read. Your gorgeous newly found qualities are deeply felt through your expression and are truly inspirational for all women.
‘I decided to be open to the possibility that I was sweet’ Thank you Sally, these words inspire me to be open more to feeling my delicate, tender, preciously and sweet self.
This is beautiful Sally. I can relate to not being able to connect with being called sweet, tender, precious etc. Even though there are moments that I can definitely claim that I am those things, I still have to work at taking the time to really feel that I am all of those and a gorgeous woman as well. Thank you for this gorgeous reminder, I will remember next time I look into my own eyes.
Sweet is often used to describe small children and ( old Ladies) But to be serious it is something beautiful that I feel has that innocence that the two examples above have. Sally I am glad you took the time to consider how this word sweet related to you and found such a lovely gentle part of you that you were not seeing but others could. Thank you for your sharing.
Sally, sweetness is such a gorgeous quality and one we often run away from. I love how you went underneath your feelings to find how you truly were, to discover your sweetness. Often we become many things which are not us and in that loose us, the delicacy that is us. Your blog had me smiling as I feel you rejoicing in your own delicateness and sweetness.
” the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul” I love this line Sally, it made me smile, because I know it to be true.
It’s a super question to ask ourselves Sally; ‘who am I’ ? And as I ask myself this question, I connect with and can feel the natural and gorgeous sweetness I was as a child and a lovely reminder for me (when I leave this and go into protection mode) that all I have to do is to step back into the sweetness within of who I truly am.
A few years ago Sally, watching a video of myself would have been out of the question! It’s still not my favourite thing to do, but I have caught glimpses of myself on video and it is surprising to me to see for myself how ‘womanly’ I am as that’s a word I never would have used to describe myself. I know that if I simply remain open to the possibility that I am actually way more than I think I am, then one day it will be super easy to say for sure the qualities I hold and see them in myself too.
This is gorgeous Sally.. It makes me want to watch a video of myself and see what I then see from myself! I suppose it also makes us realise that if we are open, then what people are saying about us may just be very true but sometimes we forget to appreciate these qualities about us. But just because we forget does not mean the qualities are not there 🙂
So true, Ariel, that it takes for most of us a constant effort to appreciate qualities within ourselves that others see much more readily. I wonder why that is?
What I get from your beautiful blog, Sally, is the knowing that I don’t have to be perfect. Thank you.
I especially appreciate here, how you let yourself ‘be’ with the possibility of being ‘sweet’, Sally. That you didn’t discount it, but opened yourself up to what such a descriptor may mean to you – did it feel true, and was there something in this to connect (or re-connect) with? The re-connection and true seeing of yourself you’ve shared is deeply beautiful.
It was only recently that I felt the depth and power of what true sweetness in a woman can be. This was via reflection from another, but it showed me more also of something within me too. In this sweetness, there was not one iota of ‘nice’ or ‘meek’ – attributes I once would have put in the same basket as being ‘sweet’. Rather, I got to feel the power of a quality of love that could stop a war, a quality of love that with one or two delicate yet powerful words could bring a raging tiger to its knees… There was unwavering strength and solidity in the sweetness this lady holds, and it is something I will never forget.
Wow! That’s a complete re-defining of sweetness, Victoria: “the power of a quality of love that could stop a war, a quality of love that with one or two delicate yet powerful words could bring a raging tiger to its knees… There was unwavering strength and solidity in the sweetness this lady holds.”
You certainly now have me re-considering my experiences and definitions of sweetness!
As did I reconsider what ‘sweetness’ meant to me, and its true power, when I felt this quality that day Coleen. It showed me that there need not be any hardness towards ‘the world’ or others at all, however barbaric… and that the absolute strength of God is in true sweetness, when claimed and embodied in full.
Yep, wow for sure…
Definitely more to write and share on this Coleen!
I feel so inspired by all that you have shared here Sally thank you! The enormity of feeling ‘ALL woman’ is a grace beyond compare.
Thank you Sally. I definitely struggled with all this self-care, self-nurturing stuff but gradually I have come to appreciate as you say “understanding and accepting that self nurturing is deeper than taking care of my physical body – the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my Soul.”
Sally this is beautiful. I too struggled to relate the words sweet, tender and delicate to myself instead identifying more with strong, tough and hard. I have come a long way since then but have been inspired by what you write to be honest about how much I have truly accepted myself as delicate and sweet and how much more I can. To watch myself and how I am and to further appreciate the delicate, beautiful woman that I am.
The sweetness in this sharing is so lovely thank you: “… to feel my soul’s expression through my female body…” I love this feeling.
I can feel the that the changes you have made since honestly looking at yourself have been deeply healing. It matters not the words used like sweet to describe you but to me the fact you have connected to something that has allowed your true self to bless us all.
I love this blog Sally, and I love your embracing of all of you in all your sweetness and natural loving ways. It’s very interesting to look at ‘how we see ourselves’ and so interesting to see how we are truly seen in our essence. Thank you.
So true – in self-care and self-nurturing, the ‘self’ we regard as we are defines the depth of care and nurturing we afford ourselves.
Thank you Sally for sharing your beautiful article, to appreciate and celebrate who we are is to reveal that we truly are lovely beings.
“I was observing how I express as a woman and there is no way that this can be compared to anyone else.” So true Sally – a beautiful reminder for us women to celebrate our own uniqueness.
Who am I? and how would I describe myself? From my experience this changes frequently, depending on how I feel and how I react or not to the world around me. However what I can say is that when I feel ‘me’ it feels natural, I am warm, I am playful and I have no doubts about myself. I feel these questions to ask are important, for if we do not ask them how do we know ‘who we are’? by a mark or experience that says ‘This is who I am’ and anything outside of this mark is a clear indication that something is not right. This completely blows out of the water those thoughts of doubt and unassuredness.
This is great to read, it speaks for many out there I’m sure, me included. And how preposterous that we need someone else to re-introduce us to ourselves! I am eternally grateful to Serge Benhayon, but equally I will never forget or stop failing to see how far we have all lost ourselves in society in general.
Sally, your appreciation is very much felt. It’s really beautiful to read a woman writing about themselves with such love and adoration. More writings like these ladies! So much of writings/songs about women can be about our woes and hurts and whilst these may be things we have experienced, to connect to our hearts and appreciate who we are underneath any hurts is wonderful.
I agree Shevon. So lovely to read and feel Sally’s appreciation and acceptance of her sweetness and delicateness. It is so easy to get caught in a certain mind set or way of viewing ourselves. I love observing people and can always see the delicatness of people behind the mask or hard exterior. There is a tenderness and sweetness to everyone once we let our guard down and allow ourselves to feel.
What really hit home reading your blog Sally is the stuff we may believe about ourselves, or see ourselves as, that simply isn’t who we truly are. I know I have always seen myself as quite weak and pathetic (perhaps a victim!) but the more I learn to care for myself and feel more who I am I realise that this was never true, and perhaps a behaviour I have performed.
I am actually very strong when naturally myself. In fact I don’t feel anyone is naturally weak or pathetic, or unsweet, we have a natural strength, sweetness and beauty.. just underneath.
On a few occasions when feeling really good I have looked in the mirror and thought to myself ”I am really cute” yet I have never really connected that word ‘cute’ with myself in the past. When in a bad mood I can have a long list of bad words to describe myself so why not have an even longer list of all the amazing words to describe me? why just have one or two?
I love that 🙂
A great sharing Sally. I relate to what you say as I have observed people speaking of qualities they have seen in me and I have thought, no not me. But actually I am now acknowledging and appreciating these qualities I have and accepting them more fully so as to recognise and embrace myself this way. Thank you for inspiring more appreciation.
This article really touched me Sally. I know I have often not connected to what others have said about me and what I see is a diminished version. Your article and the comments of others have made me look at this more deeply and ask myself why.
This is absolutely beautiful Sally – thank you for sharing. It’s so easy to believe that we are these tough exteriors that we put on, when all the while there is this tenderness and sweetness within.
Thank you Sally, Your story is the kind of beautiful support I (we all) can use! I am just starting to feel myself as a woman and it is so similar to your unfolding.
“In deepening my self-nurturing as a true woman, allowing my soul to express through this body, I have stopped to consider who I am. Not who I am based on what others are doing, being or expressing but who I truly am…” I can feel the power in this sentence and you, Sally. Thank you for a beautiful article.
Yes very powerful, and thank you, Ariana, for highlighting this: highly relevant for me today that I be, “‘Not who I am based on what others are doing, being or expressing but who I truly am.”
That is awesome!
So sweet Sally. I can totally relate. Recently I had someone refer to me as, and say ‘sweet’ to me, but I could not accept it. I rattled off the words that I felt I was, but clearly shared sweet was not one of them yet. Then a little time later during a walk, my shadow reflected something to me. My walk and my shadow oooosed of sweetness and I realised “wow it is there!” Then I questioned and sat with “What got in the way of me knowing that and feeling that deeply in my body?” Slowly I claimed the sweetness and realised it has and always will be there.
Yes, you are ALL woman Sally and it is lovely to see many women claim this fact – including myself. Thank you.
It’s lovely when we get presented with a way of seeing ourselves that we haven’t considered before. Our soul is right with us encouraging us to see what it knows without question.
Sally, I have had this blog sitting in my inbox since it arrived with the intention of reading it. This morning, when I started reading it, I felt its power in the first paragraph and scrolled down to see who was writing it… What I felt most was not the sweetness for I can feel that easily, it was the spaciousness created by your open unfolding. There is a self acceptance and delicateness expressed and felt here that is truly inspirational. This blog is one of the most powerful I have read and I can feel the surrender of you to yourself. A gift to all women… and men and… everyone. Thank you.
A gift Bernadette that keeps getting better and better. You certainly want to hang onto the gift of self care and self nurturing once it is given to you. Then once you have an understanding of how to live this gift, you can pass it onto someone else. The perfect gift.
I agree Bernadette, truly inspirational indeed. Thank you Sally
Hi Sally, isn’t it amazing that as adults, many still don’t really know who they are in their essence – because that is something we need to discover by turning inward, not looking outside ourselves, not by what we ‘think’ or ‘see’ being reflected back to us, and not by examining how we have been acting. We have to look deeper than all of that. And how better to have that deeper look than as you’ve described in your opening paragraph – through self care and self nurturing. Yes, starting with the physical is perhaps the easiest way in to finding how to be more nurturing of all that lies within. There’s a whole sweet universe in there waiting to be discovered. Thanks for sharing a part of your journey inward.
Thank you for highlighting that it is the journey inward that has us connecting to a ‘whole sweet universe’. So very true and nothing outside of this compares, nothing.
Hi Sally, very beautiful. I love how we can all write a blog that comes from our very much felt experiences, from our moments of connection and clarity and all makes so much sense. I love your delicate and beautiful blog. I can relate so much with what you have written. I have fought against my sweetness and I have always wanted to hide it all cost, I preferred to be seen as sexy, but sweet?! no way! However I couldn’t deny I had this sweetness coming out from my cheeks and my eyes, no matter how hard and clever I tried to look most of the time… Later I came to see that this sweetness was lacking of stillness, as I search for this stillness within me more and more, this sweetness gets transformed into a powerful, delicate and feminine quality in myself. I love it!
I love how you share Luz that no matter how hard you fought against it, your innate sweetness just shone out anyway. Then how you share about bringing stillness to this sweetness which gives it its power. Awesome, thank you.
That’s amazing that you could observe how going more deeply into your stillness transformed your sweetness into powerfully feminine delicateness, Luz!
Hi Sally, this is such a beautiful sharing and I felt the sweetness and fragility it was written in… how much I have covered up sweetness and fragility in me, from the time I became a teenager I identified with being strong, independent etc… denying the qualities within that are my true strength, and an expression that when shared with others also inspires and allows them to be who they are… so many of us in this world have built ‘tough’ personas to get by… Thank You.
Karoline, I can so relate to what you share as I too was the strong, independent teenager. How many young women I observe these days with similar qualities and yet deep within, under that tough exterior they put out, are deeply fragile, sweet, beautiful and delicate women. Our strength and power is in reclaiming our connection to these.
Hi Sally, thank you for what you have shared. I too find have found it difficult to relate to what some people say about me, but through your sharing I am now more open to feeling that this is possible in me too. It has been very healing for me to read. Thank you.
Nicole, this was very healing for me to write and very healing for me to read everyone’s comments. Enjoy being more open to the gorgeousness of you.
“I have stopped to consider who I am. Not who I am based on what others are doing, being or expressing…” This on its own is such an important truth. The question should be hung from sky scrapers all over the world: “Have I stopped to consider who I am. Not who I am based on what others are doing, being or expressing?”. We so need to consider this daily. How different would it be on this planet if this was a theme in children’s education? If this was made the principle in business mission statements, health and safety policies?
You write very powerfully and in your sweetness you are delicate, tender and phenomenally powerful.
Ariana, I can see you shouting this from roof tops and yes what a different world we would be in if we grew up knowing exactly who we were based on our inner grandness. Thank you for the playfulness and power you bring in being you.
To have this as part of education……that would be incredibly transformational – world stoppingly transformational!
Beautiful Sally, thank you. I have always felt your strength and delicateness as well as a deep sweetness. It is lovely what can be revealed within us, and what unfolds when we make the commitment to self-care and self-nurture.
Josephine, as we deepen our commitment to ourself there are grand things that are there waiting to unfold. And as you say it is our commitment to self care and self nurture that allows us to see this.
Utterly beautiful and delicately put Sally, a true expression of you. It is lovely to feel how our reflections are a reminder, an inspiration and a confirmation for each other. Thank you.
We learn so much from much from each other and for that I am truly grateful.
Truly awesome, Sally – thanks for sharing how you got there, including the little hiccups on the way. It always amazes me how different the picture that we hold of ourselves is to how other people actually see and feel us.
Gabriele I am often reflecting on comments people make or say about me. “Is that how they see me, is that me?” – I have realised how I do not accept myself so unreservedly as others do. This is a work in progress and acceptance of who I am something of a focus for 2014.
Hi Sally, thanks for sharing this – it is perfectly timed for me as I am going through a similar process, so it is very supportive to read your experience and the beautiful way you write.
Hi Zoe, enjoy finding who it is you truly are. I shall look forward to hearing about it, blog style maybe?
Awesome Sally. Knowing you – you are very sweet. Yes, sweetness is not a quality that we generally value in this world, but in observing how hard and harsh life and people can be, sweetness is actually a gem. In my experience, it’s beautiful to know and feel that beyond any hard jacket is always a very sweet person.
Shevon, I love how you have mentioned that we are all sweet, even under the most hardest of ‘jackets’. It has been an interesting process for me as I see this in others all the time but struggled to really feel this for myself. Thank you for seeing this in me.
Mary, I agree sweetness does stand out and it is beautiful to see and to feel, in ourselves and in others.
Well said Shevon, no matter what protection we are wearing, we cannot change the immutable fact of our divinity inside. While it may be hidden, it is always there waiting to be connected to no matter what, patiently and lovingly offering opportunities for us to feel the glory inside.
Sally, your blog is awesome and yes, I feel your sweetness, not any hardness. I love how you have so clearly written about the words sweetness, tenderness, fragility. I’ve had to re-learn what these words truly mean too, and it is simply beautify to feel in yourself/myself that I am these words too. They mean so much more that what a dictionary can define them. You are inspiring to me, thank you.
Hi Suzanne, I love how you make reference to us all reflecting these things to each other. You also reflect playfulness for us all and I thank you for that.