Self Care and Self-Nurturing as a Woman

I have been looking at how I self-care for a number of years now, thanks to my involvement with Universal Medicine. I have progressed through some major milestones: from not knowing what self-care really was, to beginning to care for myself a little more, to incorporating self-care routines and rituals into my daily life, to now understanding and accepting that self nurturing is deeper than taking care of my physical body – the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.

In relation to the fact that I am a woman, I have come to recognise that I can mechanically go through the motion of caring and nurturing myself, but have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman – for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?

In deepening my self-nurturing as a true woman, allowing my soul to express through this body, I have stopped to consider who I am. Not who I am based on what others are doing, being or expressing but who I truly am…

So… who am I?

How would I describe myself, and how is my femininity unique to me?

A couple of people have described me in recent months as sweet. This was not a word that I could relate to but I decided to be open to the possibility that I was sweet. When I looked in the mirror, when I moved my body around or when I spoke I was not getting the sweet thing. I felt awkward at times, tough, hard, and strong, and I would go into comparison with other women. All very different to sweet!

When I heard the word sweet I was also hearing words like delicate, tender and precious. Apparently I was all of these things as well. I would have described myself as strong, athletic, independent, hard etc., making it very difficult initially for me to be able to connect to words like sweet, let alone actually surrender my body to feeling them.

I remained open to the word sweet because I wanted to be able to answer my own question – how would I describe myself?

During this period of time I happened to video myself for something I was involved in and then watched it. In watching this recording I saw how gentle and delicate I am when I move; I could hear a sweetness in my voice and I had a realisation that I was precious. While watching this movie I cried as I was not at all what I thought I was or how I had made myself out to be. The tears also allowed me to connect to a fragility within that was in no way weak or made me feel less than anyone else. I was observing how I express as a woman and there is no way that this can be compared to anyone else.

I watched this video a number of times… I now observe myself more closely in the mirror or when I move or speak and if I doubt that I am sweet and very gentle I look directly into my eyes because they reveal to me my true qualities, my soulful qualities.

I am learning to surrender myself to these newfound qualities and to express them. In connecting to my fragility, gentleness, sweetness, tenderness and delicateness, I can very clearly feel that I am ALL woman. A beautiful, joyful and sweet woman. I can also feel that the self-nurturing and caring ways I have introduced into my life have made a difference and have allowed my self-nurturing to go to a whole new level.

I was inspired to write this article from observing Natalie Benhayon, and all the female esoteric students who are involved with Universal Medicine. I hold a deep appreciation for you all.

By Sally Scott, Perth WA

218 thoughts on “Self Care and Self-Nurturing as a Woman

  1. Sally I love the wisdom you share here. An area that stood out very much for me was where you explained how nurturing ourselves as women, allows us to feel our souls expression through our womanly body. I will bear this in mind as I go about my day.

  2. How we would like to be blinds us regarding how we naturally are. All the efforts to construct ourselves in a specific way stand in the way for us to recognize and be able to appreciate us, the true us. It is us that make it hard for ourselves.

  3. Its really really really important to appreciate every single moment we are expressing from soul. Discounting and dismissing it is pure self abuse.

  4. Interesting how our own experience of ourselves can be different from how others experience us as another. I love how you remained open to the word sweet even though it was not how you would have described yourself as, and how gorgeous it is to feel you keep surrendering to the qualities that have been there all along. Sweet, precious, delicate, tender, sexy, strong, fragile… we are all that.

  5. ‘In connecting to my fragility, gentleness, sweetness, tenderness and delicateness, I can very clearly feel that I am ALL woman.’ I love what you have shared here Sally, these are all qualities that I used to hide as a woman because I didn’t want to be seen as being weak or flaky. I can now feel there is great strength and power when women live and embrace these qualities, we also offer a reflection that inspires other women to equally feel these gorgeous qualities within them too.

  6. Beautiful to read of your acceptance of yourself and your qualities.. when we accept ourselves and start to allow ourselves to live as who we truly are, we can inspire others to do the same. And isn’t that what life is all about.. inspiring one another to be and live all the glory, beauty and joy that we truly are, within.

  7. It is through a commitment to caring and nurturing ourselves that we build a deeper connection to the love and true quality we hold within our essence and the beauty of our soul.

  8. Once upon a time if someone had asked me to describe myself I would never have included the words “fragility, gentleness, sweetness, tenderness and delicateness” in the description. But how things have changed since I began to bring a deeper love, self-care and self- nurturing into a life that was devoid of the honouring of myself as a beautiful woman. Today I can feel all these qualities within me and know without a doubt that this is the true me.

  9. The word self-care is bantered around alot today. But do we really understand the depth that genuine care for our bodies can go to in breaking the unloving patterns of our behaviour and in healing our past hurts.

  10. After reading your article Sally, I feel I would like to view myself on a video, to get a better understanding of who I am and the qualities i bring as a women.

  11. I have been reading blogs on the topic of religion and I found myself once again at this blog. Through nurturing ourselves more deeply and connecting to ourselves more deeply is religion. Re-connecting to the “truer beauty as a woman”; loving and adoring who we are and then taking all of how we are with ourselves to the world we live in…how can this not be religious?

  12. Thank you again Sally for what you have shared here. It’s only a short piece but it’s very powerfully reflective for any woman or man returning to their soul. I also would not have once described myself as delicate or gorgeous, yet the more I discard what I have taken on from the outside world the more the true me is revealed and those qualities that I hold innately as a woman are more clearly felt and then expressed. As a woman it’s an incredible joy to return to my soul and reconnect to the true essence of me. It’s a bit like opening s gift everyday, something beautiful within is there to be felt, explored, appreciated, then expressed and shared.

  13. “have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman” A beautiful stop moment to appreciate all that you are.

  14. Self-care and self-nurturing? In the past I would have no recollection of what this meant or felt to me. Since I found out about the teachings of Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon, I came to feel a different quality to life, one I just needed to be reminded of, as I had forgotten… Another way to look at things and there they showed me a way that was different but yet so familiar. This was about that everything is energy – everything is related.. And that so, we must take care of ourselves, the energy we live from, and so was I introduced to self-care and eventually self-nurturing. Something I till the day today explore every day from within myself more and more.

  15. As I read your article again Sally I can feel how appreciation is a very important part of nurturing, for it helps us observe those nurturing moments and then take them to a deeper level. It also helps us accept that not only are we making those choices but that we can and deserve to make nurturing choices for ourselves.

    1. Thank you Jennifer, I hadn’t made the connection between nurturing and appreciation but it’s definitely there, as we appreciate ourselves we nurture the women within to not just know herself but be connected to and live from all she is.

  16. I am also appreciating how introducing self-caring and self-nurturing ways into my daily rhythm has made a huge difference to the way in which I now hold and move myself as a woman enjoying connecting to and expressing from my true inner qualities more and more.

  17. We learn so many things but we are never encouraged to truly get to know ourselves – but it is one of the most important things in life as we will be with us throughout our entire life.

  18. Thank you Sally, self care is a vital topic for us all to explore. I have found for me that self care doesn’t just support the body but that it’s a deep communication to the self of having value, of being precious, and it takes so much pressure off the body so that a relationship with me, the being, can be felt and deepened. I appreciated this line “the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.”

  19. This is such an honouring and loving sharing about yourself. It is crazy how we see ourselves so differently to what we truly are and bring and thus it is so very important to observe and listen and see the impact we have on the world and take this as a reflection back. And what a simple tool to watch yourself on a video, to being open to watch yourself with an open heart wanting to find out more about yourself, wanting to getting to know yourself better.

    1. I agree Esther, in terms of getting to know ourselves and appreciating who we are “it is so very important to observe and listen and see the impact we have on the world and take this as a reflection back”.

  20. Yes, I too have had to slowly accept that I’m not the tornado I thought I was. Well, I certainly walked around like a tornado for sometime, priding myself on my multitasking ability and efficiency. What I’ve learnt though, is you can still be efficient and take care of yourself. A revelation really! I am no where near as hard and ‘tough’ as I used to be and I consider that to be a very very positive thing.

  21. It is very beautiful the read this again Sally and realise just how damaging and destructive comparison is. For as soon as we go into comparison out goes our appreciation of the magic of who we already are within, and our opportunity to explore, confirm and deepen our connection to our essence, the light of our Soul. The light we innately are is everything, in equalness with all, as such there truly can never be any comparison.

  22. Making the choice to reconnect with ourselves from our essence we feel our innate qualities and when these are appreciated in full we know and cherish our true worth.

  23. Great that you are claiming this, ‘I can also feel that the self-nurturing and caring ways I have introduced into my life have made a difference and have allowed my self-nurturing to go to a whole new level,’ these changes do make a huge difference I have found.

  24. This was great that you had the opportunity to see yourself in this way, ‘During this period of time I happened to video myself for something I was involved in and then watched it. In watching this recording I saw how gentle and delicate I am when I move; I could hear a sweetness in my voice and I had a realisation that I was precious. While watching this movie I cried as I was not at all what I thought I was or how I had made myself out to be.’ Very touching and beautiful Sally.

  25. Sally thankyou for sharing here, I can relate to the experience of others saying how I am in terms of my true qualities, but I myself seeing who I am differently and not in a positive way. I have not seen myself on video but I may experiment with filming myself and allow what I observe to show me who I am, instead of believing what I think. It’s interesting isn’t it that the mind can act in such direct opposition to the body and being, when it’s really there to work in support of what it is part of.

  26. It can be amazing to be open to how others see us truly and how we see or think of ourselves. This article highlights what is often an internal critic that we have not really on our shoulders but inside our heads. There appears to be always a thought of not matching up, not being something or just plain being wrong. How different is life and our feel for it when we take a step back from ourselves and start to appreciate who we are and how we feel. Just consistent dedication to this alone can change how we view ourselves and the world. I wonder how many of us can watch ourselves on video without thinking something critical, this hardness on ourselves translates or goes through everything. It goes through the relationship with ourselves and everything else around us.

  27. You are definitely sweet in your blog Sally and what a quality to own – there is nothing sweeter (pun intended)! Also, I like how you looked deep into your eyes it’s something I should do more of. I certainly receive myself more since UniMed when I stand in front of the mirror. This represents my openness one of the best qualities to claim. A lot can be claimed in front of the mirror they are good value.

  28. When we choose to build a truer and deeper level of self-care and self-nurturing we naturally open up our awareness to our true inner beauty and innate delicateness.

  29. Deepening our self-care and nurturing of the physical body supports our connection with our soul as you point out in this blog Sally, and appreciation of this is important.

  30. It still takes me by surprise when someone sees a lovely quality in me that I don’t see or acknowledge myself.

    1. I can relate to this Debra which highlights to me how much more there is to appreciate of ourselves, and how powerful it is for us to express our appreciation of other when we feel it. As we do truly thrive on confirmation not comparison.

  31. ‘The tears also allowed me to connect to a fragility within that was in no way weak or made me feel less than anyone else.’ We always think that fragility is a weakness, I have found that when I connect to my fragility I can really feel the tenderness and delicateness that I hold within, and there comes a strength from knowing that we are all innately tender from the inside out.

  32. I really got to understand what nurturing is recently. It’s more than putting a jumper on when you get cold, it’s anticipating that you would need a jumper so making sure it’s included in what you take out for the day. It’s reading what we will need for the day and not being ‘left in the cold’ – in more ways than one. Super simple, super considerate and super nurturing.

  33. ‘Have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman – for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?’ So true Sally often as women we miss the opportunity to deeply appreciate the beautiful qualities we all bring. For me I have been building this appreciation and acceptance into my daily life and this has been life changing and has allowed me to bring this same love and acceptance to all my relationships – it’s a win/win for all.

  34. Yesterday I heard a recording of my voice. Interestingly before it played I could feel myself starting to brace myself on hearing my voice played back to me, as I have always greatly disliked my voice, because it always sounded hard! Well I got a pleasant surprise, as my voice sounded sweet and light and I laughed a lot, which was a lovely confirmation of how much protection and hardness I have let go off and put a smile on my face.

  35. ‘I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman’. This is my experience also, recently I have been feeling just how sweet and gorgeous I am as a woman and also feeling how lovely it is to express my vulnerability, something I could never do in the past because of all the protection and hardness I had went into. So much to appreciate…..

  36. ‘if I doubt that I am sweet and very gentle I look directly into my eyes because they reveal to me my true qualities, my soulful qualities’. The eyes never lie, which is why we avoid looking into them to avoid the truth of how we are living and treating ourselves, this was my old pattern. However, these days, with all the changes I have to deepen my self-nurturing and self-love, when I look into the mirror, I see such light in my eyes which is a confirmation of all I have chosen.

  37. Our bodies respond to the reflection of movement from others. The more we connect to those true qualities and move with them, the more people can experience and feel those same qualities within themselves – such is your example with Natalie Benhayon, Sally.

  38. ‘the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul’, absolutely, this is also my experience and over the years my self nurturing has refined in so many ways that it is a joy to be in my body.

  39. The more we love our bodies the more we get to know just how many awesome qualities we have, it’s a bit like watering a seed and watching it bloom into the most beautiful flower, we simply need to water and enjoy the fruits of what naturally evolves from introducing love into our lives.

  40. “Have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman – for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?” I love your words here Sally, this feels like the key to taking self-nurturing to a far deeper level and when we deeply appreciate and value ourselves we confirm who we are.

  41. Reading your blog Sally I realise how caring for myself is now very much a part of my daily rhythm, but what stopped me in my tracts is the question you ask of yourself “but have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman – for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?” This I have not done in the past, but will now include this super important question as part of my daily rhythm.

  42. It’s such a lovely feeling as you walk to feel how lovely you are. I have been having similar feelings myself and it’s so sweet to feel my own sweetness. And a constant reminder that this is who we are naturally and when we don’t make loving choices, we don’t feel this way. Nothing else results in feeling this other than self-loving choices. Nothing…

  43. This is such a lovely sharing. I choose to live in a certain way, and my movement reflects the quality I live in – but when I say this, I feel it’s a bit of a head statement, I am actually feeling a bit like, well, but I don’t really know what quality is being communicated – and in that, I am sensing a bit of disconnection. I am being reminded that everything is here already, and I am enough already, all it takes is a choice to reconnect.

  44. ‘You are sweet’, when people would say this to me in the past I would not pick it up as a compliment more as that I was less and that needing cared for because could not do life on my own. So I always tried to be the independent woman until I came across Universal Medicine and Esoteric Women’s Health and feel it is a great quality to have, being sweet and have a tremendous love for people, how this can be full of power and strength and never is weak or less.

  45. Sally this is a very powerful message you share here, for not only woman but for us all to consider. Knowing who we truly are can only be discovered through our connection to our inner-heart, where we already are in essence all the divine qualities of the Soul. Our minds alone knows not of this quality and will only leads us to believe that we are less than who we actually are. Through building a loving and nurturing relationship with our bodies we develop a relationship with the love we are, through which we come to know the of the immense beauty we are within.

  46. Choosing to surrender is key to feeling who we are on a far deeper level from our essence, and through self-care and self-nurturing we are able to love and cherish ourselves, accepting and embracing our innate qualities and valuing our true worth.

  47. This is really interesting what you shared about the video. The mental picture we hold about ourselves can be very out dated to the reality of our blossoming. If a rose thought it stayed a bud while the world could se the transformation of a beautiful bloom with fragrance to match, or a chrysalis didn’t know it was a beautiful exquisite butterfly sharing harmony. The natural world is incredibly adaptable to evolving and a great role model for us all.

  48. And thank you for your very beautiful reminder Sally “the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.”

  49. It is so important for women (and men equally so) to take the time to stop and question why we are our own harshest critics and why we don’t spend the same amount of time appreciating all our gorgeous qualities.

    1. Tamara it’s great to ask questions, they can highlight so many things and your question is a very powerful one. It would be interesting to pose this one to a large group of people and find out what they come up with.

  50. It is beautiful when you can let go of how you see yourself and allow yourself to truly see and feel how others see you… and then embrace those qualities knowing there is a gorgeousness in them that is deeply healing for you to express in full and for others to bask in.

  51. We are so blind to many things about ourselves. This is why we have relationships for people to reflects things about us that we may not be aware of.

  52. It’s crazy how we often don’t see our true virtues, I would have always described myself as sweet, but almost the opposite of you lacked the strength and authority. Now I’m learning that there can be great strength in sweetness, and great authority in love, and there is an amazing feeling of finally being true to myself.

  53. Beautiful Sally, self-appreciation is something we rarely allow ourselves as women, particularly of qualities that are so innately beautiful and essential to us. It is often easier to see them in another than in ourselves, but the willingness to do so is life-changing. It is impossible to ignore the fact we are divine once we have felt and seen our own true qualities, and self-negating, self-neglect and lack of self-care become much harder to indulge in after that.

  54. Thank you Sally for sharing your experience. You have inspired me to deepen my self-care and self-nurturing. Also to appreciate myself, to be more aware of my movements, how I express myself and to be aware of my choices. It is deeply confirming to appreciate what we reflect and how we live from love.

  55. I can relate to getting lost in the mechanical movements of self-care and nurturing when I have disconnected from myself and gone into my head to think of ways to do this rather than from connecting to my essence and feeling and moving from the quality of this connection and honouring the loveliness I feel.

    1. Wow Caroline, what a beautiful way to remind us of what we can access, divinity and with such deep appreciation of who we are and our body. The choice is always ours whether we choose to access this or not, there is never any pressure as to what we choose but the impact of our choices is always felt.

    2. This is so beautiful Caroline I used to do the same thing but it got lost i n all my busyness, maybe it is time to realise who we really are, thank you for the poignant reminder.

  56. Seeing women deepen their self care and self nurturing with the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine has been such a blessing – Thank you Sally and all.

  57. I love how you simply observed the sweetness in you even though you could not initially feel it. We sometimes need to learn a look a little closer to all what is there and then step by step we can see and feel it too. A beautiful example.

  58. Wow Sally after reading your awesome blog I want to see me on a video as well as it seems to be an other possibility to have a more observing view on oneself.

  59. “….the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.” So beautiful – and so true. I used to mechanically care for my physical body, but since staying present, honouring and loving my body I feel a deeper connection with my innermost.

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