Self Care and Self-Nurturing as a Woman

I have been looking at how I self-care for a number of years now, thanks to my involvement with Universal Medicine. I have progressed through some major milestones: from not knowing what self-care really was, to beginning to care for myself a little more, to incorporating self-care routines and rituals into my daily life, to now understanding and accepting that self nurturing is deeper than taking care of my physical body – the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.

In relation to the fact that I am a woman, I have come to recognise that I can mechanically go through the motion of caring and nurturing myself, but have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman – for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?

In deepening my self-nurturing as a true woman, allowing my soul to express through this body, I have stopped to consider who I am. Not who I am based on what others are doing, being or expressing but who I truly am…

So… who am I?

How would I describe myself, and how is my femininity unique to me?

A couple of people have described me in recent months as sweet. This was not a word that I could relate to but I decided to be open to the possibility that I was sweet. When I looked in the mirror, when I moved my body around or when I spoke I was not getting the sweet thing. I felt awkward at times, tough, hard, and strong, and I would go into comparison with other women. All very different to sweet!

When I heard the word sweet I was also hearing words like delicate, tender and precious. Apparently I was all of these things as well. I would have described myself as strong, athletic, independent, hard etc., making it very difficult initially for me to be able to connect to words like sweet, let alone actually surrender my body to feeling them.

I remained open to the word sweet because I wanted to be able to answer my own question – how would I describe myself?

During this period of time I happened to video myself for something I was involved in and then watched it. In watching this recording I saw how gentle and delicate I am when I move; I could hear a sweetness in my voice and I had a realisation that I was precious. While watching this movie I cried as I was not at all what I thought I was or how I had made myself out to be. The tears also allowed me to connect to a fragility within that was in no way weak or made me feel less than anyone else. I was observing how I express as a woman and there is no way that this can be compared to anyone else.

I watched this video a number of times… I now observe myself more closely in the mirror or when I move or speak and if I doubt that I am sweet and very gentle I look directly into my eyes because they reveal to me my true qualities, my soulful qualities.

I am learning to surrender myself to these newfound qualities and to express them. In connecting to my fragility, gentleness, sweetness, tenderness and delicateness, I can very clearly feel that I am ALL woman. A beautiful, joyful and sweet woman. I can also feel that the self-nurturing and caring ways I have introduced into my life have made a difference and have allowed my self-nurturing to go to a whole new level.

I was inspired to write this article from observing Natalie Benhayon, and all the female esoteric students who are involved with Universal Medicine. I hold a deep appreciation for you all.

By Sally Scott, Perth WA

188 thoughts on “Self Care and Self-Nurturing as a Woman

  1. “….the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.” So beautiful – and so true. I used to mechanically care for my physical body, but since staying present, honouring and loving my body I feel a deeper connection with my innermost.

  2. Wow Sally after reading your awesome blog I want to see me on a video as well as it seems to be an other possibility to have a more observing view on oneself.

  3. I love how you simply observed the sweetness in you even though you could not initially feel it. We sometimes need to learn a look a little closer to all what is there and then step by step we can see and feel it too. A beautiful example.

  4. Seeing women deepen their self care and self nurturing with the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine has been such a blessing – Thank you Sally and all.

    1. Wow Caroline, what a beautiful way to remind us of what we can access, divinity and with such deep appreciation of who we are and our body. The choice is always ours whether we choose to access this or not, there is never any pressure as to what we choose but the impact of our choices is always felt.

    2. This is so beautiful Caroline I used to do the same thing but it got lost i n all my busyness, maybe it is time to realise who we really are, thank you for the poignant reminder.

  5. I can relate to getting lost in the mechanical movements of self-care and nurturing when I have disconnected from myself and gone into my head to think of ways to do this rather than from connecting to my essence and feeling and moving from the quality of this connection and honouring the loveliness I feel.

  6. Thank you Sally for sharing your experience. You have inspired me to deepen my self-care and self-nurturing. Also to appreciate myself, to be more aware of my movements, how I express myself and to be aware of my choices. It is deeply confirming to appreciate what we reflect and how we live from love.

  7. Beautiful Sally, self-appreciation is something we rarely allow ourselves as women, particularly of qualities that are so innately beautiful and essential to us. It is often easier to see them in another than in ourselves, but the willingness to do so is life-changing. It is impossible to ignore the fact we are divine once we have felt and seen our own true qualities, and self-negating, self-neglect and lack of self-care become much harder to indulge in after that.

  8. It’s crazy how we often don’t see our true virtues, I would have always described myself as sweet, but almost the opposite of you lacked the strength and authority. Now I’m learning that there can be great strength in sweetness, and great authority in love, and there is an amazing feeling of finally being true to myself.

  9. We are so blind to many things about ourselves. This is why we have relationships for people to reflects things about us that we may not be aware of.

  10. It is beautiful when you can let go of how you see yourself and allow yourself to truly see and feel how others see you… and then embrace those qualities knowing there is a gorgeousness in them that is deeply healing for you to express in full and for others to bask in.

  11. It is so important for women (and men equally so) to take the time to stop and question why we are our own harshest critics and why we don’t spend the same amount of time appreciating all our gorgeous qualities.

    1. Tamara it’s great to ask questions, they can highlight so many things and your question is a very powerful one. It would be interesting to pose this one to a large group of people and find out what they come up with.

  12. And thank you for your very beautiful reminder Sally “the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul.”

  13. This is really interesting what you shared about the video. The mental picture we hold about ourselves can be very out dated to the reality of our blossoming. If a rose thought it stayed a bud while the world could se the transformation of a beautiful bloom with fragrance to match, or a chrysalis didn’t know it was a beautiful exquisite butterfly sharing harmony. The natural world is incredibly adaptable to evolving and a great role model for us all.

  14. Choosing to surrender is key to feeling who we are on a far deeper level from our essence, and through self-care and self-nurturing we are able to love and cherish ourselves, accepting and embracing our innate qualities and valuing our true worth.

  15. Sally this is a very powerful message you share here, for not only woman but for us all to consider. Knowing who we truly are can only be discovered through our connection to our inner-heart, where we already are in essence all the divine qualities of the Soul. Our minds alone knows not of this quality and will only leads us to believe that we are less than who we actually are. Through building a loving and nurturing relationship with our bodies we develop a relationship with the love we are, through which we come to know the of the immense beauty we are within.

  16. ‘You are sweet’, when people would say this to me in the past I would not pick it up as a compliment more as that I was less and that needing cared for because could not do life on my own. So I always tried to be the independent woman until I came across Universal Medicine and Esoteric Women’s Health and feel it is a great quality to have, being sweet and have a tremendous love for people, how this can be full of power and strength and never is weak or less.

  17. This is such a lovely sharing. I choose to live in a certain way, and my movement reflects the quality I live in – but when I say this, I feel it’s a bit of a head statement, I am actually feeling a bit like, well, but I don’t really know what quality is being communicated – and in that, I am sensing a bit of disconnection. I am being reminded that everything is here already, and I am enough already, all it takes is a choice to reconnect.

  18. It’s such a lovely feeling as you walk to feel how lovely you are. I have been having similar feelings myself and it’s so sweet to feel my own sweetness. And a constant reminder that this is who we are naturally and when we don’t make loving choices, we don’t feel this way. Nothing else results in feeling this other than self-loving choices. Nothing…

  19. Reading your blog Sally I realise how caring for myself is now very much a part of my daily rhythm, but what stopped me in my tracts is the question you ask of yourself “but have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman – for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?” This I have not done in the past, but will now include this super important question as part of my daily rhythm.

  20. “Have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman – for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?” I love your words here Sally, this feels like the key to taking self-nurturing to a far deeper level and when we deeply appreciate and value ourselves we confirm who we are.

  21. The more we love our bodies the more we get to know just how many awesome qualities we have, it’s a bit like watering a seed and watching it bloom into the most beautiful flower, we simply need to water and enjoy the fruits of what naturally evolves from introducing love into our lives.

  22. ‘the care and nurturing of my physical body supports the connection I have with my soul’, absolutely, this is also my experience and over the years my self nurturing has refined in so many ways that it is a joy to be in my body.

  23. Our bodies respond to the reflection of movement from others. The more we connect to those true qualities and move with them, the more people can experience and feel those same qualities within themselves – such is your example with Natalie Benhayon, Sally.

  24. ‘if I doubt that I am sweet and very gentle I look directly into my eyes because they reveal to me my true qualities, my soulful qualities’. The eyes never lie, which is why we avoid looking into them to avoid the truth of how we are living and treating ourselves, this was my old pattern. However, these days, with all the changes I have to deepen my self-nurturing and self-love, when I look into the mirror, I see such light in my eyes which is a confirmation of all I have chosen.

  25. ‘I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman’. This is my experience also, recently I have been feeling just how sweet and gorgeous I am as a woman and also feeling how lovely it is to express my vulnerability, something I could never do in the past because of all the protection and hardness I had went into. So much to appreciate…..

  26. Yesterday I heard a recording of my voice. Interestingly before it played I could feel myself starting to brace myself on hearing my voice played back to me, as I have always greatly disliked my voice, because it always sounded hard! Well I got a pleasant surprise, as my voice sounded sweet and light and I laughed a lot, which was a lovely confirmation of how much protection and hardness I have let go off and put a smile on my face.

  27. ‘Have I stopped to accept and appreciate that this care and nurturing allows me to feel a truer beauty as a woman – for me to feel my soul’s expression through my female body?’ So true Sally often as women we miss the opportunity to deeply appreciate the beautiful qualities we all bring. For me I have been building this appreciation and acceptance into my daily life and this has been life changing and has allowed me to bring this same love and acceptance to all my relationships – it’s a win/win for all.

  28. I really got to understand what nurturing is recently. It’s more than putting a jumper on when you get cold, it’s anticipating that you would need a jumper so making sure it’s included in what you take out for the day. It’s reading what we will need for the day and not being ‘left in the cold’ – in more ways than one. Super simple, super considerate and super nurturing.

  29. ‘The tears also allowed me to connect to a fragility within that was in no way weak or made me feel less than anyone else.’ We always think that fragility is a weakness, I have found that when I connect to my fragility I can really feel the tenderness and delicateness that I hold within, and there comes a strength from knowing that we are all innately tender from the inside out.

  30. It still takes me by surprise when someone sees a lovely quality in me that I don’t see or acknowledge myself.

  31. Deepening our self-care and nurturing of the physical body supports our connection with our soul as you point out in this blog Sally, and appreciation of this is important.

  32. When we choose to build a truer and deeper level of self-care and self-nurturing we naturally open up our awareness to our true inner beauty and innate delicateness.

  33. You are definitely sweet in your blog Sally and what a quality to own – there is nothing sweeter (pun intended)! Also, I like how you looked deep into your eyes it’s something I should do more of. I certainly receive myself more since UniMed when I stand in front of the mirror. This represents my openness one of the best qualities to claim. A lot can be claimed in front of the mirror they are good value.

  34. It can be amazing to be open to how others see us truly and how we see or think of ourselves. This article highlights what is often an internal critic that we have not really on our shoulders but inside our heads. There appears to be always a thought of not matching up, not being something or just plain being wrong. How different is life and our feel for it when we take a step back from ourselves and start to appreciate who we are and how we feel. Just consistent dedication to this alone can change how we view ourselves and the world. I wonder how many of us can watch ourselves on video without thinking something critical, this hardness on ourselves translates or goes through everything. It goes through the relationship with ourselves and everything else around us.

  35. Sally thankyou for sharing here, I can relate to the experience of others saying how I am in terms of my true qualities, but I myself seeing who I am differently and not in a positive way. I have not seen myself on video but I may experiment with filming myself and allow what I observe to show me who I am, instead of believing what I think. It’s interesting isn’t it that the mind can act in such direct opposition to the body and being, when it’s really there to work in support of what it is part of.

  36. This was great that you had the opportunity to see yourself in this way, ‘During this period of time I happened to video myself for something I was involved in and then watched it. In watching this recording I saw how gentle and delicate I am when I move; I could hear a sweetness in my voice and I had a realisation that I was precious. While watching this movie I cried as I was not at all what I thought I was or how I had made myself out to be.’ Very touching and beautiful Sally.

  37. Great that you are claiming this, ‘I can also feel that the self-nurturing and caring ways I have introduced into my life have made a difference and have allowed my self-nurturing to go to a whole new level,’ these changes do make a huge difference I have found.

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