Your Breasts… My Breasts… Just whose Breasts are those, Anyway?

  • Why, they’re my breasts – I’m your baby… and if you let me I’ll suck them ‘til I’m 5 years old.
  • No, they’re mine – I’m the soft porn in the ads and the page 3 girls in the daily paper. Those breasts can sell anything!
  • No, they’re my breasts – I’m the X rated porn industry, one of the USA’s greatest exports.

  • No, they’re mine – I’m the bra manufacturer. With every second person being double breasted we support the big ones and pad out the little ones. We’re on a winner!
  • No, they’re my breasts – I’m the cosmetic surgeon; a nip, a tuck, enlargements and reductions… defying gravity is our specialty.
  • No, they’re mine – I’m the cancer industry. The only thing I haven’t got for breast cancer is a reason or a cure.
  • No, they’re my breasts – I’m the politician who gets to use the ‘breast’ word as many times as I like when I’m talking about breast cancer appeals.
  • No, they’re mine – I’m the guys on the construction sites that wolf whistle as you go past – while bravely hiding in the scaffolding.
  • No, those are my breasts – I’m the husband or the boyfriend who wants ‘a bit of a grope’ after a night at the pub or watching porn with the boys.
  • No, they’re my breasts– I’m the mainstream religions: we don’t own the breasts only, we own the whole woman, who is inferior because god told us so, and he made her out of a spare rib.

Whoa! Hang on a second…
I’m a woman and these breasts are mine

“Come on lady! Can’t you see there’s a queue? Get in the line.”


I write now, as the father of three beautiful women, from a sense of wonderment and respect for them and their equally beautiful mother. For over a decade now I have observed them as they have surely repaired their relationship with their own bodies and have flowered into the gorgeous, nurturing, loving women they are today; brimming with a joy that is infectious and readily shared on every level with those with whom they make contact.

The preceding list is but an aspect of that which they have overcome, albeit a very important one, for if a woman can be alienated from her very breasts, her divinely endowed centres of the nurturing essence, then she is already far down the path of separation from self, with all the abandonment and strife that surely follows. As it did!

To be graced to witness the glorious unfoldment of these women from the emotional straitjackets which bound them to the rollercoaster of life as we knew it, has provided a joy that I had forgotten I was capable of feeling: it is a joy that confirms that the life soulfully lived can rise up and soar out of the mire of despair that characterizes the ‘veil of tears’.

Universal Medicine is the organisation that dared to go there: the one group that despite ridicule and loathing, identified that major disconnection, then answered the call by presenting the modality (the Esoteric Breast Massage) and training the dedicated female practitioners to begin the process of reconnection and reclamation of the essence of femaleness in form. And this they lovingly do. This pioneering modality will one day be available to women everywhere, until such day as it is no longer required.

Serge Benhayon, his family, the Way of the Livingness, and the Students one and all, you are the pointers to the future, for you are the future now.

By Andy Baldwin, Retail Assistant, Student, Byron Bay

803 thoughts on “Your Breasts… My Breasts… Just whose Breasts are those, Anyway?

  1. As a woman I can say I had no idea that there was a major disconnection between me an my body. My mother was my first reflection of what a woman was as a young child I noticed that she only felt beautiful when she was ‘dressed up’ to go out somewhere. That she did not feel that beauty all the time and of course that sets up a conundrum within me along with other family situations that made it feel unsafe to be a female. I grew up believing that to be a female was to be inferior to a male. I’m sure my experience of growing up is not too dissimilar to other women so we have set up a society based on false ideals and beliefs that is has a distorted version of what it is to be a truly sacred woman.

  2. Great list Andy, and may I add the sex slave industry is alive and well with parents even selling there daughters for money to the sex trade.

  3. I appreciate all you have written Andy as what you have written is from a man’s point of view. You are laying the foundations now so that those men that come after you can now experience something different because you have challenged the consciousness that rules over us and by writing this blog have exposed the deep rooted harm that has been done to women and young girls all over the world for centuries.

  4. Exposing the sex trade should be coming from what is in mainstream media but as with so many things that are putting disregard within everyone’s reach it gets very little attention other than Loving blogs like this Andy, so thank you. We can all have more awareness of many issues that get swept under the carpet with some getting the occasional airing to make life look like someone is doing a good thing.

  5. Andy this is a brilliant blog, and only yesterday I understood why women’s breasts have been so denigrated it came to me in the shower as is often the case I fully understood that women’s breast are actually where we can feel our power and at the same time fragility, delicateness and stillness. It seems to me that there is a relationship between the womb and breasts more that we are told or taught and when the two align you can feel the power of being a woman it is a very beautiful and delicate place to be.
    But humanity doesn’t want women in their power as this would be a huge game changer for the world and that is why for centuries women have been subjugated and crushed especially by main stream religions because they know that once a woman regains her innate power which is stillness then the spirit that resides in all of us will be exposed in the excessive motion it is choosing. It runs a mile from the stillness because it knows stillness will bring it back into alignment with our soul.

  6. This disconnection from sacredness is the very thing that has created the what and how of the world currently is, hence the ridicule and attack against anything that offers an opportunity for true change that would bring a stop to it. And the list here reveals how diseased we are from that, to a point that we as a race don’t even recognize it as such by large.

  7. What is shared here as to the ownership of breasts by all except the women that have them points to the reason why some react to the Esoteric Breast Massage modality.

  8. Beautiful to re-read this – and coming from a man- thankyou Andy. I’m also volunteering on a maternity ward where I support women re feeding their newborns. Lots to ponder on…

  9. The list and then the following words show the contrast between how women are treated, by themselves and others, because no one can claim anything if we don’t first give it away. And how it feels when we claim ourselves for ourselves.

  10. What a powerful list we have here Andy! Where do women go from here? Thank God for the Esoteric Breast massage to support every woman if they so choose to come back and claim their body.

    1. Absolutely Caroline, with every Esoteric breast massage I receive it is an opportunity to reconnect with myself on a very deep and personal level. Coming back to me is deeply satisfying, I may not always hold the feeling but I know I have a marker in my body as a reference point to come back to.

  11. “Universal Medicine is the organisation that dared to go there: the one group that despite ridicule and loathing, identified that major disconnection, then answered the call by presenting the modality (the Esoteric Breast Massage) and training the dedicated female practitioners to begin the process of reconnection and reclamation of the essence of femaleness in form.” Beautifully said Andrew and so very true.

  12. Beautiful Andy, your honouring and appreciation of the qualities you daughters and wife now offer the world is evident and heartwarming to read.

  13. Thank you Andy for sharing about the imposing beliefs of the woman’s body and in particular of their breasts. By reading the list on the top a deep sadness came up for how disconnected I’ve been of my tenderness and sensitivty as a woman and how I’ve allowed and accepted the restrcitive norms from this society about what I should and shouldn’t be. At this moment I deeply appreciate feeling this sadness and not running away anymore. Feeling deeply supported by the amazing people around me and my practicioner in this process to return to me again, with no pictures, rules and expectations. A choice that brings me joy and the understanding about what this life is about, much more than a ‘veil of tears’ indeed.

    1. Inma as women many of us are disconnected to our tenderness and sensitivity we are using male energy to compete with males which has upset the balance of how we should be living. When I was younger I to felt I had to compete with males in order to be seen and recognised in society. Through the healing modalities of Universal Medicine and in particular Esoteric Breast massage there is an opportunity to reconnect back to the delicateness that is within us all.

  14. Beautiful Andy, the love is felt in the words you write, the observation is real and beautiful because it is so appreciative of the enfoldment of a women living from her essence..

    1. I agree with you Danna everyone who reads this blog can feel the love and honouring of a woman by a man it is beautiful to feel.

  15. I will be forever appreciative that Universal Medicine “dared to go there” and begin the conversation about women’s breasts and their relationship with them. And then to support women to begin to develop this all-important relationship, presented the world with the Esoteric Breast Massage, which I, among many, have benefited so much from. It seems to me that humanity ought to be welcoming this amazingly supportive modality, not criticising it, as a woman in a true relationship with herself, and her body, including her breasts, brings so much to this world

    1. We have degraded and reduced so much in life including the female form, the Esoteric Breast Massage is simple supporting women to return to their natural sacredness – a true support back to the universality we come from.

    2. Yes, I too am appreciative that Universal Medicine presents the truth, even if some people struggle with truth, ‘ Universal Medicine is the organisation that dared to go there: the one group that despite ridicule and loathing, identified that major disconnection, then answered the call by presenting the modality (the Esoteric Breast Massage) and training the dedicated female practitioners to begin the process of reconnection and reclamation of the essence of femaleness in form.’

      1. We are fed so many lies by the pillars of establishment that we have all had a hand in setting up. When these lies are questioned, we the establishment concoct even more lies to destroy the truth of what is being felt by the few that is rippling out to the many. History will show that Universal Medicine dared as you say Andy to go there to expose the rot we are all living in and the shame-full way we treat ourselves and ridicule others.

  16. Agree Brendan, it is great that Andy has started the conversation and exposed the lack of respect and decency many still hold around breasts and women in general.

  17. Thank you Andy, you are deeply honouring of your daughters and of all women in this blog. When we are disconnected to our bodies it is easy to allow all levels of disregard and abuse to enter, the EBM modality supported me immensely to reclaim myself as a woman. The EBM modality is deeply healing and powerful and awakened me to my unique qualities and divine essence.

    1. “When we are disconnected to our bodies it is easy to allow all levels of disregard and abuse to enter”, so true Anna, and honouring all our body communicates can transform every part of our lives including our health and self worth.

  18. Restoring an honoring relationship with my body has been transformational and empowering to say the least. Inspired and supported by Universal Medicine, The Way of The Livingness and the presentations of Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon I now understand and can feel how objectified and abused we as women have been with our selves and have allowed ourselves to be through our separation to our essence within, the wisdom of our body and the cycles that exist therein. Without our connection to our bodies in its wholeness, we lose sense of the sacredness that we natural are and hold and we are left us with an emptiness and need for identification, acceptance and attention to feel some degree of easing the unsettlement. Yet in truth it is one that can never satiate that which can only be fulfilled through our connection to all that we are.

  19. I love the fact that this blog has been written by a man because it shows that men do in fact know the harassment that women experience over their breasts and that they care about it.

    1. I too love that this blog on breasts has been written by a man. Men are very sensitive and tender equally sensitive and tender as women. I also love the appreciation shared and expressed for the women in Andy’s life clearly observing the changes they have made and are making. It is very beautiful.

      1. Caroline I agree this blog also shows that Andy is in touch with his qualities of sensitivity and delicateness otherwise he would not have been able to write so tenderly about his daughters and wife. This shows that men are just as sensitive and delicate as women but are brought up to be the complete opposite of their natural way of being, which leaves society bereft of their true qualities. So we have men and women who are not living their true nature which leaves us all in the constant unsettlement of knowing that there is more to life but not being able to verbalise what that more is, which is the discontent we cannot stop feeling.

  20. Thank you Andy, this is very beautiful indeed. A wonderful way to expose the lovelessness of what we are used to and have accepted as normal, yet that is so utterly not ok. We need to set up a standard that comes from the worth we feel that we are. That is based on the true love inside. And then see what we do want and no longer want and accept.

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