Your Breasts… My Breasts… Just whose Breasts are those, Anyway?

  • Why, they’re my breasts – I’m your baby… and if you let me I’ll suck them ‘til I’m 5 years old.
  • No, they’re mine – I’m the soft porn in the ads and the page 3 girls in the daily paper. Those breasts can sell anything!
  • No, they’re my breasts – I’m the X rated porn industry, one of the USA’s greatest exports.

  • No, they’re mine – I’m the bra manufacturer. With every second person being double breasted we support the big ones and pad out the little ones. We’re on a winner!
  • No, they’re my breasts – I’m the cosmetic surgeon; a nip, a tuck, enlargements and reductions… defying gravity is our specialty.
  • No, they’re mine – I’m the cancer industry. The only thing I haven’t got for breast cancer is a reason or a cure.
  • No, they’re my breasts – I’m the politician who gets to use the ‘breast’ word as many times as I like when I’m talking about breast cancer appeals.
  • No, they’re mine – I’m the guys on the construction sites that wolf whistle as you go past – while bravely hiding in the scaffolding.
  • No, those are my breasts – I’m the husband or the boyfriend who wants ‘a bit of a grope’ after a night at the pub or watching porn with the boys.
  • No, they’re my breasts– I’m the mainstream religions: we don’t own the breasts only, we own the whole woman, who is inferior because god told us so, and he made her out of a spare rib.

Whoa! Hang on a second…
I’m a woman and these breasts are mine

“Come on lady! Can’t you see there’s a queue? Get in the line.”


I write now, as the father of three beautiful women, from a sense of wonderment and respect for them and their equally beautiful mother. For over a decade now I have observed them as they have surely repaired their relationship with their own bodies and have flowered into the gorgeous, nurturing, loving women they are today; brimming with a joy that is infectious and readily shared on every level with those with whom they make contact.

The preceding list is but an aspect of that which they have overcome, albeit a very important one, for if a woman can be alienated from her very breasts, her divinely endowed centres of the nurturing essence, then she is already far down the path of separation from self, with all the abandonment and strife that surely follows. As it did!

To be graced to witness the glorious unfoldment of these women from the emotional straitjackets which bound them to the rollercoaster of life as we knew it, has provided a joy that I had forgotten I was capable of feeling: it is a joy that confirms that the life soulfully lived can rise up and soar out of the mire of despair that characterizes the ‘veil of tears’.

Universal Medicine is the organisation that dared to go there: the one group that despite ridicule and loathing, identified that major disconnection, then answered the call by presenting the modality (the Esoteric Breast Massage) and training the dedicated female practitioners to begin the process of reconnection and reclamation of the essence of femaleness in form. And this they lovingly do. This pioneering modality will one day be available to women everywhere, until such day as it is no longer required.

Serge Benhayon, his family, the Way of the Livingness, and the Students one and all, you are the pointers to the future, for you are the future now.

By Andy Baldwin, Retail Assistant, Student, Byron Bay

711 thoughts on “Your Breasts… My Breasts… Just whose Breasts are those, Anyway?

  1. Andy you have written such a powerful blog and it’s a shame that it is not out there in the mainstream women’s magazines. How clever is the energy that keeps the women separated from her breasts so that she cannot connect to her divineness and as you rightfully say the separation from herself and the abandonment she then lives in.

    1. Yes Mary Sanford. A powerful blog that is written from a males understanding which in itself brings even more gold to the gift in the words on this page. Having had a number of sessions with this modality I am now more aware that the more I choose to connect to my divinity the more I bring a reflection to all men to live this in their expression.

  2. What you wrote Andy, shows actually that we as a society are so lost that we even do not understand and appreciate what the real gender qualities can bring to our societies. When the breast of a women are not honoured for what they bring, not only to the women but also to all men we fall short on ourselves personally but also as a community as we are missing an important quality that in fact is the core of our human existence.

  3. Looking at your list, I could feel myself going into a bit of hardness in reaction to that, that I rather quickly abandoned my essence – and I can feel that is the very thing that has been adding to the energy that wants to crush women and what they are here to bring through their body – women stepping away from their sacredness.

  4. Great expose Andy on how we allow separation from ourselves and our breasts. The Esoteric Breast Massage is a wonderful modality that has supported me to be much more connected to my soul. It is very much needed in today’s world.

  5. The difference as a woman between living knowing that your breasts are for sex, babies, men, or illness and living knowing that your breasts represent a nurturing centre, is night and day. Thank goodness Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have been willing to bring the Esoteric Breast Massage to the world. Without it I would not have the incredible gift of living as a woman who accepts me as I am.

  6. When I go through your above list Andy it is no wonder that women who start to claim their breasts for themselves and free themselves from the claims of other people and industries are attacked. That especially women and especially their female organs are occupied and misused should be studied! What lies in the women’s breasts that they are so under abuse and so are never able to present and express their potential. We like to think that we are so evolved and modern – but in fact how far did we come with the true honor of femaleness? Still we have nearly no awareness as a society what the true purpose of women is. Or have we? I guess we must have it, or if not, we would not be able to inhibit the true purpose of femaleness to come out so ‘successfully’.

  7. Andy you are a true role model for all men and a dear friend to all women just by what you have shared which I can feel the absolute sincerity and genuineness in. This is deeply healing for both men and women showing men how to treat women and raising the bar with respect, love and integrity. I really love the last two paragraphs regarding Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, yes they did dare to go there and yes they are absolutely living the future now.

    1. Absolutely agree. Healing tears flow when I read this blog and feel the depth of honouring from a man that is tragically very rare in the world today. And yet – this is a tender and powerful all to all men and women, for who cannot but melt to what has been so humbly called out here. Every man within has a tenderness that transcends any rational understanding we can think and limit ourselves with. A tenderness that is waiting to be activated by the reflection of he and she who lives it.

  8. How is it that there is not uproar about all the ways in which women’s breasts are imposed upon, treated, looked at or touched inappropriately, not to mention all of the complications and damage that comes from this as a result. And yet when there is something out there that is truly honouring and based on the level of integrity that women deserve – it is questioned far more than the abuse that goes un-exposed and un-questioned…?

    1. Sadly because we have become more used to the expression of abuse than we are used to the expression of love. It has become far easier for us to criticise each other than it is to truly appreciate the depth of who we are. This is an alarming wake-up call as to where it is we stand as a global society and thus why we are so very, very sick on so many levels.

  9. Those that ridicule that which has been put in place to truly support us all, are those who have dug their heels firmly in and refused the help to get us out of the mess we are all in because, as sad as it may well seem, they are getting something out of such a way of living that has us expressing far less than who we truly are. One glimpse at the health statistics of women for breast cancer alone shows us that we have not yet ‘got it’ in terms of looking after women so that they in turn can do what they are designed to do which is to nurture others in the truest sense. We as a humanity are starved of this nurturing quality so it would serve us well to take heed of what is here presented. Thank you Andy Baldwin.

  10. As a woman I know what it feels like to be disconnected from my breasts and I also know the opposite, that is what it feels like to have connected to my breasts through the support of the Esoteric Breast Massage. The difference is profound in terms of my health and wellbeing.

  11. This is such beautiful piece of writing and you can feel the deep love and respect for everyone that it holds, I love coming back to read it again. This level of respect and honouring of a women’s body is the way forwards, not because women are better but because the only way to truly unite is if we honour and respect everyone equally for the wonders that we each have the potential to bring to life.

  12. So spot on Andy, the world has been so abusive towards women and their breasts and it seems everywhere has tried to own this. What about women, do they get a say? Do they get to feel comfortable in their own skin without feeling like they will be subjected? Or objectified? Really lovely sharing about your daughters, it’s great to see that true relationships can be fostered and not be hindered by shame, holding back intimacy etc as so many are.

  13. Great blog Andy, and a great expose of how everyone else thinks a woman’s breasts belong to them, with no thought of respecting a woman and her body as part of the whole being.

  14. Love this Andy, not only do you stand for truth of women, you beautifully represent what is is to be a true man.

  15. Andy thank you. Your initial lines on how breasts are viewed and owned shocked me in it’s starkness and yet I know all you speak of and how as women we can be owned by any or many of these. It was only with finding Universal Medicine and the Esoteric Breast Massage that I developed a healthy and deeply appreciative relationship with my breasts, and have learned to drop many of those impositions you capture so clearly here. It’s gorgeous to feel your appreciation here of the women in your life and all of us in what you share here, very, very beautiful.

  16. To build a relation with my own breast which I did with the support of Esoteric Breast Massage was And still is an important part of reclaiming And reconnecting with myself as a woman again. I was holding a lot of deep buried issues in my breasts. I can tell now much more complete with all my beautiful body being a complete part of me.

  17. It’s so interesting and very telling that most, if not all of the messages we receive from society about women’s breasts are designed to disconnect women from this most nurturing of centres in our sacred bodies – with the exception of Universal Medicine who support us to understand and reconnect to these qualities within we so naturally bring as women.

  18. i am so glad you wrote this, I had never thought of it like this, but you are so right- it seems that anyone but the women themselves get to own these breasts for their own needs. Its time this changed.

  19. You are so right Andy — Universal Medicine dares to go where no one dared go before, for no other reason but an unending love for humanity that is beyond the comprehension of most. Restore a woman back to her divine essence and the world is held within her nurturing gaze. It is the beholding the world sorely needs to heal its pain and start to return back from the reckless road it is currently on.

    The EBM modality frees the woman from the assault the world imposes on her from a very young age as a result of the lies we have all bought into. Lies that will tell every young girl and woman from every angle that her breasts are a functional commodity to give her recognition at best and terminal illness at worst. That her breasts are the external part of her female body to cherish and honour so so deeply in the understanding that it is through her breasts that God’s nurturing love emanates and beholds, is lost in a world that is has lost itself.

    It is this that inspired the call for Universal Medicine to go there and bring this amazing modality through – a modality that honours every woman and every man and child as well.

  20. We really miss out when we live disconnected to our breasts and as you have shared so well Andy. When we miss out on enjoying the way we feel in our own skin, everyone misses out.

  21. what you are of course referring to is the fact that very rarely is a woman met as a woman as she is without being pre-judged on her appearance first and foremost. As a man, it takes a lot of reflection to stop viewing women this way, even if you do not allow it to stop you from seeing a woman as your equal, or from appreciating everything else about her. It is a strong programme and one I am afraid few men are willing to challenge within themselves beyond ensuring that their behaviour is kept in check. But its not about education and changing behaviour, or having good manners. All those things help, for sure, but none of them seek to unravel the illusion that there is this difference in being between men and women, when the truth is if you get beyond the appearances and hormones, the actual being of both sexes is actually the same.

  22. Every time I revisit this blog I feel the deep honouring you hold for women Andy and your absolute appreciation of the EBM. Many men I know feel threatened by this modality, as it can expose there lack of true intimacy with their partner.

  23. Every woman including myself now has an opportunity to get to know her breasts again or deeper due to the Esoteric Breast Massage modality. Whether we have experienced it or not does not matter, we are all returning to re-claiming more of who we are as women.

  24. Thank you Andy for this profound teaching and truth. Our breasts ofcourse are ours.. This shows us how we have turned the truth on its head instead of using it where it is meant for – to life by it, to away from it. When we deeply connect we know lies do not exist as a truth but are only trying cover up the one thing that is real – truth.

  25. Yup, my breasts after most definitely mine! This hasn’t always been the case, but thanks to Esoteric Breast Massage I have reconnected to this absolute truth.

  26. Awesome blog Andrew Baldwin . and yes …Universal Medicine is the organisation that dared to go there: the one group that despite ridicule and loathing, identified that major disconnection, then answered the call by presenting the modality (the Esoteric Breast Massage) and training the dedicated female practitioners to begin the process of reconnection and reclamation of the essence of femaleness in form.

  27. You only need to look up breasts on the internet to get an understanding of how we currently approach the female bosom, the sexualisation arena or the cancer care arena. Universal Medicine has introduced a whole new perspective to Esoteric Women’s Health through modalities such as Breast Massage, there is an honouring, respect and deep nurture towards the female body that i have not seen or witnessed anywhere else.

  28. Claiming our body for ourselves seems like a such a huge thing, but it is so necessary, it feels bizarre that we don’t do it and yet we do not, so often we are making ourselves into parts to suit others and giving bits of us away to get recognition. Our breasts as woman are owned if we do challenge it with love, by other needs, wants and demands and also how we use them ourselves, we need to claim back our whole body and make it a whole place of true expression.

  29. I did not realise before coming to the work of Universal Medicine, just how hard and solidified most woman are in today’s society and how our general sense of beauty has in fact been lessened to just being that of what looks great on the outside but not truly full on the inside. A woman is deeply deeply sacred and should be treasured and held as such.

  30. Woman and their bodies are being abused on a prolific scale it is not always the heinous crimes of rape etc, but also the supposedly less obvious comments about breasts, a look in the eye, a gesture, a word, a photo in a magazine, these are abuses of what is naturally feminine. Woman are not here as commodities, possessions, or parts etc, they are here to live free of these impositions and claim for themselves their bodies and share them as they feel is true.

  31. Andy, incredible, powerful and such clear and real message.
    I am a woman, who has been deeply blessed by Esoteric Women’s Health and its modality Esoteric Breast Massage. Simply I opened up my heart.
    So can I say that the below is absolutely true:
    ‘Universal Medicine is the organisation that dared to go there: the one group that despite ridicule and loathing, identified that major disconnection, then answered the call by presenting the modality (the Esoteric Breast Massage) and training the dedicated female practitioners to begin the process of reconnection and reclamation of the essence of femaleness in form.’
    From my own experience I can say : I am now claiming my true right and voice back as a woman – without Universal Medicine I would not have been able to do that. Simply. True. Magnificent.

  32. I look forward to that day Andy when many women hold themselves and their breasts for the purpose they bring. Ohh, I know what you mean about using the word ‘breasts’. I felt how much ‘breasts’ are abused and I’m trying to hold it in as much integrity as I possibly can? I wouldn’t be the extremely sensitive responsible tender man I am today without those women who are claiming back their breasts for all . . I very much appreciate the modality Esoteric Breast Massage.

  33. Wonderful observations Andy it is so powerful that you share this as a father and husband. Witnessing the blossoming of the woman around you is something to be marvelled and celebrated. It is such an amazing modality that continues to deepen the level of integrity required to be a practitioner, it’s quite unusual in this current world where qualifications and ethics can be bought on the internet for a few dollars. I am enormously appreciative to those that have dedicated there livingness to this support for woman.

  34. answered the call by presenting the modality (the Esoteric Breast Massage) ….that is so beautiful and true what you say here Andy. It is the call from humanity that makes heaven bring the modalities through Universal Medicine to support humanity.

  35. …’the glorious unfoldment of these women from the emotional straitjackets which bound them to the rollercoaster of life…’ – Your writing is so powerful Andy and these words and acknowledgement have completely undone the knots have tied up the beauty in women that is there. Deeply appreciated.

  36. No matter what I have been told it does not matter, the day I felt my breasts were mine and claimed them back was the day I felt my own preciousness in my being and it was not just a fleeting knowing but a constant confirmation. Then all of my body parts begin to be reclaimed one by one, until I began to start to know what it actually feels like to be a whole and unfragmented person. This is what being a woman means.

  37. I’m brought to tears every time I read this, because what is undeniable to feel is the depth of connection and dedication that a man has brought to himself and thus to all others. Hurts and separation between men and women, the unspoken walls of separation that we walk around with melt with this article being on the internet – a man’s voice fully claimed and returned to himself, in absolute honour of his brothers – men and women alike.

  38. One day we will get over our immaturity, piousness and subjugation of the female form and embrace the opportunity to heal that is available in a modality such as the Esoteric Breast massage and the powerful reflection that will emanate when we embrace the beauty of women acting truly female in the tender,sacred preciousness that femininity actually represents.

  39. Well-done Andy, this is a topic that needs some airing or exposure and I feel you are ahead of your times, for we all can be involved in nurturing and feeling how sacred our bodies are.

  40. Andy I can feel the respect and appreciation you have for the women in your family. Its very touching.

    1. Agreed Debra – and because Andy has this for the women in his family it cannot be helped that it is to share with every woman he meets. This is the beauty of relationships and the reflection on offer to everyone there after.

  41. It is so simple – we are here to claim and live that which we know is true – with this – we need to
    call out that which we have lived that is not any truth at all.

  42. It is so good to have a man express about breasts from truth, especially because majority of the people, including very much ourselves as women, speak without respect or true care about breasts, seeing them unfortunately as a function or beauty appeal only. What you bring to the front here Andy, how we have to change the tide – we as woman first need to claim back how we hold ourselves as a woman (yes very much with breasts) and not allow any disrespect in our lives. This for sure will change the tide. And also, as you so well said Andy – we need to have a consent in our society of how we talk about women , including all body parts etc. We have all a big responsibility in treating women with respect and absolute care. And for the women to start walking that respect and care ourselves. No need to fight for it – simply walking what you want and deserve in your life – that is : Love & honouring.

  43. And the list at the start of this blog is just for starters…the level of disrespect towards women’s breasts in society is HUGE and totally putting down of the true beauty of women.

  44. I love that this blog is written by a man that understands the true essence of a woman appreciating all that a woman is, and not what society has portrayed and put expectations on her to be. I also love the fact Andy, that your appreciation has grown through watching your daughters grow into the powerful women they are today without the trappings and sexual abuse that society so readily offers.

  45. It is very simple yet profound for a woman to really live the truth of the fact that her breasts are her own.

  46. Your words here Andrew identify the selfishness that’s at the core of so much that we currently do – everything is focused on being better, stronger and getting more. But in truth our body and its constituent parts are here not for me or you but to align and bring through the universe and live, breathe and work for the all. Its like taking a state of the art super computer that powers the internet and using it to print bar codes off to sell peanuts. Yes it can do it – but boy it’s actually designed to do so much more.

  47. Thank you Andy for bringing this subject to the fore and for the appreciation of Esoteric Breast Massage which has been so key in helping us women connect to our breasts again.

  48. Universal Medicine recognised the call and went there despite ridicule and judgements to present the much needed Esoteric Breast Massage as you say Andy, ‘by presenting the modality (the Esoteric Breast Massage) and training the dedicated female practitioners to begin the process of reconnection and reclamation of the essence of femaleness in form.’

  49. I have heard girls as young as 8 say, I do not want to grow breast because people will make fun of them…you can’t tell me that children don’t listen and feel everything that is happening around them. We in society are responsible for a girl not celebrating turning into a woman. We can be role models to shine the light that it is amazing to mature, if we choose to hold ourselves with love and care. Words can hurt, but denying who we are hurts so much more.

  50. It is an honour to read and feel the respect, decency and absolute adoration you have for your daughters Andy – and no doubt this spreads and reaches many a woman as it has done for me now. I feel very respected reading this.

  51. Thank you, Andy for highlighting what is cleary there for us to see that those are accepted lies, a place taken by the emptiness of us all standing for what truth is – what being a true woman is… It at the same times shows us how we have given up ourselves as women in our world today.. But heh, its never too late to change, not by fighting against society – but simply living what a true woman feels to you.

  52. There are many things put in place to stop the sacredness of women being earthed and lived again. This blog allows one to feel the imposing squashing nature of such energy and how we play a part in it. Sacredness is for all and comes from all, do we wish to squash such truth?

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