You’ll often find me as the one preferring to sit conversing in the corner, or on the side, not on stage enjoying attention or limelight. Not too comfortable being seen by large audiences, and anxious even at the thought of public speaking, let alone doing it. And as for photos – not too keen on those either! Communicating and conversation is thorough enjoyed, though recently my world of communication has been sparked alight after hearing an audio with me speaking on it…
Just like having your photo taken and viewing yourself, hearing one’s own recorded voice is equally revealing: what was I saying, communicating, sounding like and hearing; and how was the quality of my speech, i.e. what was actually coming out of my mouth?
It was easy to hear restriction in my voice, the over extending or pronouncing of certain words; intonation to make a point, convince, or sell [most probably from years of being in the sales profession]; the subtle hook of stimulated excitement causing speediness that creates a distance between me and those I am conversing with. Most pertinently and clearly heard was an unresolved hurt and reaction from a work situation that had been occurring at the time of the recording. Wow! … there was no getting away from hearing these unspoken elements, feeling the quality they delivered…
In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!
No wonder I didn’t much enjoy hearing the audio and felt it didn’t sound like me – “Is that what I sound like?” How could it when I knew I wasn’t living with the spaciousness of a full-me but instead a reduced, speeded up version affected by what had been going on at work with the need to ‘perform’, to be worth listening to, to prove a point, instead of just being the all-natural-unaffected-me.
Maybe it wasn’t my actual voice I wasn’t too keen on, but more the undertone of reaction, i.e. emotion and ‘hearing’ how the way I was living was being reflected in my voice.
What a great opportunity this audio provided in which to accept and appreciate more fully how the way my own life – or anyone else’s – is being lived is but an expression that is then fully heard and received by others.
And that if our voices do contain all our lived-choices then aren’t these choices super-powerful ‘tools’ in regards to clear or effective communication and expression?
Constantly we’re making everyday choices either to live the free, real-us, natural and loving, or as the contrived and engineered versions of us struggling to fit the perception, image or ideal handed down and invested in from things such as our background, upbringing, accent, education, job, title, position and so on – all of which create false senses of worth and therefore offer false or incomplete communications that are far from having healing effects.
With this, it was strikingly evident to me that communication is so much more than being about how we say something or what we say. That the ‘how’ has nothing to do with quietness, loudness, politeness, the great choice of words, but instead that its finesse, or lack of, is constituted by the actual way we choose to live life i.e. with love or not, with recipients receiving from our words and communication effects that are either healing i.e. loving, or the opposite.
What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.
To realise and act on this important fact with conscious attention is therefore a crucial step towards taking greater responsibility in delivering effective communication that has love at its core and as its impetus. Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.
Checking that when we speak are we –
- Simply presenting the love and truth we live smoothly without pull or engaging in friction of reaction? Or …
- Carrying within our speech vested interests, emotion, control, convincing effort, to sound good or intelligent, to get something back, win others round for their approval or acceptance of us?
Listening to the audio it became evident that when we don’t deal with our hurts, upsets, afflictions or reactions at the time, we just end up communicating ‘all-this’ to whoever we speak with, leaving communication and our voice not clear or free. Then people receive from us either –
- The full, spacious and deep resonate sound of an equalising authority-lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area to heal, or
- The emptiness or throaty, tin-sound reduction effect from living an unequal half or measured life bound by constraint, restraint, speediness, arrogance or loud confidence.
When we realize the effect and responsibility we each have living and communicating with lived-love, and as we deepen our livingness towards this, the healing benefits this offers another is tremendous. And so with this, absolutely, why not then take the time to slow down, invite people to be in-time with us, come out from the background, be seen, heard, listened to, and no longer deny people the presence and glory of us there to be captured by photograph or audio and enjoyed by all. Note to self, ahem.
Completely and eternally inspired by the Ancient Wisdom Teachings as presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
By Zofia, Asia
Further reading:
Everyone Is Born With A Beautiful Voice – Singing And Speaking
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
Our voices can give a lot away when we speak, like speaking really fast, or with a higher pitch, or a tone that has threads of frustration or whatever in it. You can also feel the depth and beautiful feel of someone who is speaking from their truth, their whole body is talking and it also ignites fire within ourselves.
How we have been living affects all of us, that includes how we speak and what we say, ‘The full, spacious and deep resonate sound of an equalising authority-lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area’.
Very well communicated about communication. Love is all about lots of communication. You cannot go wrong in the detail and spelling it all out. This way there is an understanding.
Communication is much more than how we say something, but more to do with how we have been living, ‘What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.’ Absolutely.
Its so much more than words that are being communicated when we speak. I enjoyed reading this blog again Zofia.
This is another factor of responsibility we should be considering – our voice is a vibration. As a vehicle of expression, we are responsible for what energy we connect to therefore to be expressed, and our voice carries a unique vibration in which that energy gets expressed.
Awesome blog and perfect timing for me to read this Zofia as I have been listening to my voice recently on some audios and I could clearly feel the times when I was speaking from my mind or trying too hard versus when I spoke in connection with my body. The difference was so obvious and a clear marker of how healing it is when we speak from our livingness rather than from any need or investment.
Not many speech specialists would teach that all your choices and the quality of energy these hold are the keys to true expression.. I wonder if this is also the key to true confidence? Knowing and living with the authority of living true and loving choices offers a solid platform to then present ourselves from no matter what the circumstances.
Thanks Zofia, I enjoyed exploring all you shared here, and appreciated this line about how we can express verbally by “just being the all-natural-unaffected-me.” I know how it feels when I just let myself be me, and how it feels when I’m not connected and I’m protected, needy, or unsettled in some way. We can sometimes forget to appreciate how lovely it is and how much we bring by just being our simple selves, voice included.
“What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” – This is such as great point, that what we are communicating comes with how we have been living and our energetic state of being in that moment rather than just the meaning of the words themselves.
This totally explains why many of us never want to hear ourselves talk. We then have to hear and feel all that we have lived, which can be very revealing.
Yes true but it can also be a great confirmation if we have been living lovingly 🙂
I am tempted to record my voice and listen to what I can hear beneath the words. A similar thing happens to me when I see photos of myself. I will sometimes be shocked and ask myself ‘do I really look like that?’ Lots to ponder on here.
Same for me Debra. I sometimes hear my own voice from a recording and realise what I think I sound like doesn’t match the recording. I think it would be fun to do a voice recording every day of how I am feeling and see if the sound changes in relation to how I feel.
I love what you are offering in this article Zofia, I haven’t really paid much attention to the way in which I communicate or the quality of my sound. It is so great that you highlight the responsibility we all carry with the way we speak and that it can either be harming or healing for the listener. Thank you for bringing awareness to this topic and inspiring me to explore this further for myself.
Its what I am noticing in my own voice and also in hearing voices of others, especially in meetings online where you don’t see the other persons. It is always the way we live that comes through us and our voice will always let us hear how we are with ourselves in the moment and what we have lived upon that point. Your blog is very inspiring to deepen the relationship we have with ourselves because like you say we need ‘to be seen heard and listened to and no longer deny people the presence and glory of us there to be captured by photograph or audio and enjoyed by all.’
Zofia I love how you have expressed the responsibility we hold, every time we utter a word, how often do we stop to truly feel what we have delivered, and why it was delivered that way?
An honest and inspiring blog. Love the attention you bring to the detail here Zofia on the sound of our voice and how the various tones reflect exactly what is being lived – past hurts, frustration, anger, joy, harmony.
“In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!”
Thank you for this great blog Zofia. The voice carries such a potential to either heal or harm and it is something we are all doing most of the time – speaking! It is incredible when you think about it. We could be healing the world the whole time. It doesn’t mater whether we are talking about the price of vegetables or delivering a momentous speech – the only thing that matters is the love and truth in the quality of our voice when we deliver.
People say a picture holds a thousand words – so how many words do words hold? Photos are revealing, and we can see and understand what is behind the smiles by looking at the still frame of movement, the eyes especially are a giveaway of how a person is feeling. Listening to a voice recording is different because it is capturing the actual movement, it’s not just a still shot, it’s energy in movement and therefore a lot more going on that we can read and understand if we listen beyond the words.
Hearing is a bit like seeing. In the same way that we do not really see what is in front of us but a filtered/distorted version of it, the fact that we do not listen how we sound when we speak and hence live in a sort of bubble that is not really aware of our voice and its power operates as a filter/distortion too. That is why pictures and audios are so revealing. Is that the real me?
Great blog Zofia, our voices are a reflection of how we live, and heard by others it is either harming or healing, depending on the depth of our hurts or the depth of our love.
A powerful reminder Zofia of what comes out of our mouths has a lasting affect on ourselves and those around us. I had a few cringe worthy moments this week when my family and I was looking through old family videos. When I heard myself talking or yelling etc. I remembered where I was at in an instant. It was very controlling, protective and full of beliefs and ideals and was awful to feel. We can either weld so much of what we are not or allow all that we are to come from within us out when we express.
What a great blog – I love the way you describe the science of our sounds Zofia. It is true we can react like a animal startled, at the tone and way we actually express. I feel this occurs because we know the true quality and vibration we can bring, but prefer to think this is always happening. The uncomfortable truth is there is a great deal that we say, every day that does not come with the vibration of Love and truth. I am starting to feel having read your words, that whilst it might be confronting to start with, it would be awesome to tune into everything that we put out – because it all illustrates whether we are truly being ourselves, or not.
Everything is a reflection of how we choose to live from day to day. We cannot ‘fix’ the quality of our voice, it exposes every moment of holding back the power we know we are as does our movement and in effect our whole body. We reflect either the love of God or of creation.
Many years ago I used to get very irritated with people who used to speak slower and with quality, and in addition resisting being gentle there always seemed to be an internal struggle, which I can now see as coming from being stubborn and irresponsible, but knowing all the time that was where I was heading and that it was inevitable. Now that I choose the gentleness more consciously and value it greatly I can feel the benefits and the quality it delivers in other areas of my life, including the quality of my voice.
Some years ago I went through a phase where I became super aware of how what came out of my mouth, in particular when I shared in a large groups was of such a lesser quality than what I experienced within and wanted to share before I spoke – I regularly found myself cringing. This revealed to me how much of a disconnect there was between the Livingness in my body and what I thought and felt. Since then I have paid a lot more attention to my body, what I eat, how I move, when I take a break and so forth and the gap has reduced significantly. I am starting to find that I can verbally express what is within and that is very joyful and well received.
The same also applies with how I move because we communicate even more with our movements than we do when speaking and we also say a lot when we don’t speak!
Very true Nicola, we communicate far more with our ‘non-verbals’ than what we say, therefore our movements are super powerful.
A great expose of the awareness that is possible should we choose it and the responsibility we have to not choose to live less than we are in any form… for to do so means that it is only the less that will and can ever be expressed and therefore the more that we deny both ourselves and everybody else.
I love how you share that the quality of our expression comes from the way we are choosing to live. However we might try to create a polished speech for instance, it is still our livingness that delivers it. This is awesome to feel Zofia, thank you.
It takes great honesty and willingness to see and feel a reflection like that as you did Zofia and I am glad that you did as it is a very important topic for us all to look at. How we live does affect our voice and what we are communicating is far more than words – energy.
It’s so true Zofia, we can either express ourselves from our fullness or from our emptiness – I am beginning to realise and accept that there is nothing in between.
“What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” I too have never enjoyed having my photo taken or hearing my voice played back to me after a recording. A point to ponder on deeply. Thankyou for this Zofia.
This is a great topic to cover Zofia – as how we speak, how often we speak and what we speak about are all reflections of how we are living – ie what energy are we choosing to let run our bodies.
It is amazing the difference of quality in pictures of when one connects and knows their true beauty to when one is self-abusive – absolutely amazing. I have seen this in my own as well as many many others within the student body of Universal Medicine.
I am struck not just by the healing benefits for others when we speak our truth but also for ourselves as we communicate from love and let go of past hurts and reactions. The healing power of sound in action.
Even though it has been quite uncomfortable at times over the years to hear another express truth to me about how I have been living or something I have been doing, it resonates so deeply in every cell of my body, and I can not deny that it is absolute and love.
‘Maybe it wasn’t my actual voice I wasn’t too keen on, but more the undertone of reaction, i.e. emotion and ‘hearing’ how the way I was living was being reflected in my voice.’ This is so revealing and such a powerful learning for me as I too have always avoided hearing my spoken voice and cringed when I did. Of course I was reacting to the reaction I could hear and feel in my voice. I have had lots of frustration about how mangled my communication could often be and hurt that people were not ‘getting’ me but this really brings it back to my awareness that actually they are receiving the quality or not of my livingness and the more I express my truth the clearer my communication becomes and any misunderstandings are easily sorted without the need for reaction.
Loved reading this, Thank you Zofia
Zofia you present a great point of reflection here. I know there is a different quality to my tone, pace, and even what I say when I am deeply connected to myself – I feel the voice reflects me. However if I am anxious, distracted, or otherwise not myself this too is reflected in my voice. In fact those who know me will comment on the change, and inquire ‘what is up?’
“What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.”
A great conversation to have with ourselves and listen to the rhythm that we living in.
I love what you share Zofia. What you say and when you say it even if it is honest and true can be misinterpreted or the effect made null and void simply by how you say it as the expression of such variables as your tone, body language and general disposition all collectively have an massive effect on our clarity and our ability to communicate clearly and lovingly.
When I pay attention to it (not always but working on it) I can instantly feel where I am at within myself by where my voice is coming from. What I mean by that is if my voice is up in my throat and coming from my head, I know I am disconnected from the rest of me and therefore not in my full expression. If it is resonating beautifully in my chest, sending vibrations down my arms and legs I know that I am expressing from and with all of me. The quality and feeling of the sound is completely different.
Thank you Zofia for bringing awareness to the fact that how we are living comes through in our voice.
Wow this is a brilliant description of what you were able to read in your voice Zofia, and how it revealed what was happening for you and how you were living. Amazing: ‘It was easy to hear restriction in my voice, the over extending or pronouncing of certain words; intonation to make a point, convince, or sell [most probably from years of being in the sales profession]; the subtle hook of stimulated excitement causing speediness that creates a distance between me and those I am conversing with. Most pertinently and clearly heard was an unresolved hurt and reaction from a work situation that had been occurring at the time of the recording. Wow! … there was no getting away from hearing these unspoken elements, feeling the quality they delivered…’
I’ve noticed a difference in the quality and sound and pitch of my voice that varies depending on whether I am speaking the truth or not. When I speak the truth it comes out strong and with power, and when I am not speaking the truth much weaker and softer – it’s fascinating!
‘Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.’ This is gold Zofia, your whole blog exposes how we communicate can either harm or heal. In the past I know I have also squirmed when I have heard my voice on a recording, if we remain open and don’t judge ourselves there is a lot to learn from the quality of our voice and how we are living.
“Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.” I am sure if more people would be aware of this fact and also that we all can feel the energy behind the spoken words all of the time – most of us would chose to live differently e.g. more self loving, more appreciating themselves and others, more responsible . . .
This is a great article zofia, so much for me to ponder on, such a difference in my voice when I am holding back, as to when I am with myself expressing. I will be much more aware of the quality of my being when i am speaking. A great revealer of how I am living my life.
Brilliant article Zofia. I love it even more this time I am coming back to it and re-reading it. Real quality! The quality of our voice is so revealing of the quality in which we live life. I can feel this morning how tender and full of love my voice is compared to the strained and jagged sound that it was transmitting yesterday. It is a joy to speak and feel the emanation of love. The voice is an extraordinary sensitive revealer of the music or dissonance of our body. There is nothing we can hide!!
Zofia, I am so glad you have exposed this about the voice and all our lived way is in its sound. Expression is everything and everything is known by all. How exposing and confirming. The ability to respond to life with love is on show physically, as it is auditory. Great story Zofia, thank you.
Good article that you have written Zofia and I share many of your feelings around expression. I find it very interesting that our voice illustrates the quality of our life choices
You have brought up so many great points! Our voice carries all of the qualities that we are living in our life, and the need to perform or say something right is holding back our natural expression which is the joy of us! The key I have found is to always be aware of energy and respond to questions and situations by reading energy first.
As well as being aware and responsible for our expression, it is wise to be aware that we are feeling and experiencing the full package of livingness of anyone and everyone whenever they express, whether it be verbally, singing, writing, moving and even not speaking – all these are expressions. We all know how often an angry person can express with a smile or in soft tones and that what is presented is not always as it may first appear. When we don’t discern the true energy we get knocked by what we have allowed in without discerning.
What a wonderful blog Zofia, it is so true what you say. I too remember in the past once hearing an audio of myself and having it exposed to me just how much racy-ness there was in my voice. I had not felt it myself inside, but there was no denying what I heard – it was a shocker. After that I really looked at how I was living my life and became much more aware of the quality and responsibility of what, how and when I expressed.
A great wake-up call here. To note that there is no place to hide, that pretence is futile, because it comes out in our eyes, our walk and also our talk. The way we live and how we feel is reflected and can’t help but be evident in all we do. When we consider just how much we rely on spoken communication to present ourselves, make ourselves understood and express how we feel, then it makes sense that all that we are gets communicated in the timbre, depth and vibration of the voice, even when we think we’re doing a great job of disguising the truth. The body – and by extension, the voice – never lies.
Yes, a wake up call indeed. I feel like I have been offered a great key though, because the level of anxiety we live with as normal could be addressed by taking a moment to see if we are living a transparent life or trying to live to a picture that is not true. Offering a moment of reflection could change our movements sufficiently to offer ourselves more ease within our bodies and thereby lessen the anxiety.
Thank you Zofia, I really loved reading your blog, it made me realise how much I read from listening to another person’s voice, but I am not so consciously aware of how my own voice sounds and feels. It’s time to record my voice and feel into what my voice has to offer me and others.
Our voice is a give-away of the energy we have in our body. Nothing can mask what is going on when we are attuned to the sounds we are making. It is a great tool for realising what is going on in the world, and not taking on its flow, which could be exhausting us and we don’t even know.
Amazing! Our voice reveals so much about the way we are living, and the tone of our voice shows whats really going on inside us. a great tool for when we are out in life and find ourselves “waffling on” about something.
It is amazing when we apply our listening skills our communication skills with our voices/expression also have clarity.
When I hear my voice or when I see myself in a photo and go ‘No’ – it’s not a confirmation of how terrible I sound/look and judging myself, but it is a knowing that what I am being encountered with is the fact that I am living holding back.
I know that ‘Is that what I sound/look like?’ moment of realisation that made me cringe and not want to be captured on photo or recording. There are many who train and perfect the way to present themselves, but there is something very special when someone lets themselves be seen for who they are and speaks from their lived authority.
Zofia this is such a brilliant blog to re-visit, recently I became aware of how I spoke on the phone at times with a tension like I was attached to another understanding me. This awareness has been an eye-opener and allowed me to notice other interactions where I need something from another instead of enjoying and allowing for a true connection with another. This line really stood out for me and is a great reminder for me to take into my day -‘When we realize the effect and responsibility we each have living and communicating with lived-love, and as we deepen our livingness towards this, the healing benefits this offers another is tremendous.’
We simply can’t hide. Everything we have chosen for ourselves can be heard and felt in the sound our voice.
‘… behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.’ Great reminder and inspiration to regularly check in with ourselves through the sound of our voice.
I am becoming more aware of what comes with the words I speak. Even if the words are well chosen not to offend or hurt, what comes out is exactly how I am feeling at the time. I’m realising how important it is for me to be honest about this so that I am not communicating mixed messages i.e. saying one thing but meaning another.
I have been experimenting with my voice in the classroom. I notice when I am competing with the noise of the classroom my voice is harsh and strained It actually requires a lot of force to speak like this. My new thing is to ask for quiet in my normal voice. Although it is quieter, the students actually respond better to it and will stop talking sooner. It is an invitation to listen rather than a command.
This has truly struck a ‘cord’ with me, while reading this blog this morning. Listening to others speak I can feel the different tones in their voices and how some soothe, some revitalise, some agitate etc. Pondering on the power of this will unfold gently what it all has to offer deeply. Your comment Zofia – ‘What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living’ is very powerful in it’s offering as not only the words are exposing but also the actual tones and vibration of the voice itself. Thank you for initiating yet another unfolding for us all.
Re-reading this again, I am struck by how much we communicate all the time. Certainly more than we realise, and people are affected and influenced by so much more than the mere words we are using – its the tone, speed, volume and of course gestures, but more than that its the energy behind it. The intention we are speaking in and with that predicates it all.
I agree, and it brings a level of responsibility that is a little daunting if we are, once again, trying to be perfect! If we can see our expression as the end result of the choices we are making and the movements we are living then it inspires a whole body and whole life approach rather than compartmentalizing it and, essentially, abdicating responsibility for what comes out of our mouths or is seen by others.
Thank you Zofia, the impact our voice has is enormous, sometimes I choose to be aware of this and other times I feel I don’t want to hear how my voice is reflecting the state I am in even when I think can hide what is bothering me it is heard in my voice. We can never not be responsible for what we are expressing and express we do with our whole body and our voice is a very powerful and beautiful part of this.
Inspiring again to read about how our voices reflect everything that is inside us, indeed all that we are comes through our voice, and how amazing it is that we have a marker of connection and truth actually built in, like a GPS or nav-sat of conscious presence.
This is a good point.
Its not that we don’t like the sound of our own voice but we have all the stuff revealed to that we communicate every single day.
This is what we don’t like.
I have to admit in the past I avoided hearing my own voice recording.
“..taking greater responsibility in delivering effective communication that has love at its core and as its impetus. Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.”
This is such a powerful statement and really does up the stake for that word Responsibility. Thank You Zofia for spelling it out and sharing how important our voice actually is and what it means.
Who would guess that a deep buried unresolved hurt can come up when we communicate but from my own experience I have to agree as I know it is true.
Years ago I was recording for radio and the trial was played back and NO I really did not like my voice and I could clearly feel where I was at because it was how I was living at the time – a bit fast paced and my body was hard from protecting myself as the world was crazy and I did not want any more hurt to get inside.
Thank God for Serge Benhayon who really has the tools to clear our hurts and Live a life that is true so we can communicate with true power. I am learning and living in this way now to the best of my ability.
I so enjoyed reading this sharing this morning Zofia. It gently reminded me of when I see others and I ask ‘How are you feeling today’? The response is often ‘I’m fine’!!!! Not because of the words that they use but more of the tone with their voice which, actually reveals so much more. Asking the question again (through their choosing) the truth starts to be shared, body postures change and clear changes in the tone of what they then express is much clearer and honest. I recognise this in myself as I used to be exactly the same once. As you share ‘the way I was living was being reflected in my voice’. Big time.
When we listen to someone else we hear so much more than just the words and so it has to also be true that others hear and feel so much more of us than just the words we speak. Am I speaking from my head or is the truth of all I say coming from my body? This is also true of the words I write.
‘…when we don’t deal with our hurts, upsets, afflictions or reactions at the time, we just end up communicating ‘all-this’ to whoever we speak with..’
This makes so much sense Zofia – how often do we talk with friends about our family or partners and say everything we didn’t say at the time? Our friends or anyone else we may speak to, bare the brunt of our reactions and unresolved hurts. It’s really about dealing with what is presented to us to evolve in each and every moment. Like saying NO to loaded communication and asking that person to say it another way.
‘…when we don’t deal with our hurts, upsets, afflictions or reactions at the time, we just end up communicating ‘all-this’ to whoever we speak with.’ This is why it is our responsibility to watch what and how we are saying things. I used to think it is just the words harming others but it is everything we don’t say that is even more harming.
‘In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!’ – I love this! Our body does not lie and we cannot hide the fact of how we live.
It’s all a giveaway, how we sound, the way we walk or dress or move – it’s all expression that exposes how we are with ourselves.
A very powerful blog, Zofia! Reading the voices of others tells us in fact so much about them as it reflects how they feel, how they live and how expanded or dense they are. We can immediately know if they tell the truth if we really feel the quality of the voice and of course, we can also read very much in paying attention to our own voice. When I am with myself and with my body, I can feel my voice in my whole body like a warm, resonating wave and my expression feels very strong then.
Thank you Zofia for this important reminder that ‘what actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living’. The truth is we can either harm or heal through what we say and how we say it.
“What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” Wow these are powerful and revealing words if we really choose to take responsibility and listen to all you have shared Zofia, thank you.
That way of living, our movements, our breathing and the energy we choose to allow in and through our bodies creates a certain vibration or frequency and that is precisely what is communicated all the time – no matter what the words are.
Yes Simonwilliams8. I have felt safe in focusing on the words. if they are well chosen, my message will get across, but there is so much more to it, and actually the words are secondary to the energy that comes with them. I love science so it makes sense to me that how we are feeling and living will create a certain vibration or frequency within us that then gets communicated through our words.
Hi Zofia that was an awesome blog with an amazing revealing “Boom”. Your wrote: “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” How great is that! We all can feel very clearly how we are living – so there is no way to play a role or to wear a masque – we are all naked – so to speak – no that is not a bad dream that is the reality and we have to deal with it. Now I too understand why I do not like my voice recorded – it is time to face it and not to ran away . . .
“When we realize the effect and responsibility we each have living and communicating with lived-love, and as we deepen our livingness towards this, the healing benefits this offers another is tremendous. And so with this, absolutely, why not then take the time to slow down, invite people to be in-time with us, come out from the background, be seen, heard, listened to, and no longer deny people the presence and glory of us there to be captured by photograph or audio and enjoyed by all.” Beautiful said Zofia.
We need to become more aware of the way with communicate with another in regards to the energetic responsibility but also about our communication patterns how much do we really listen and take time to speak with people.
Zofia, I absolutely love this powerful blog. You have shared so much wisdom and there are many points of truth that are absolute gold. Today (as I will definitely be reading this again) this one stood out mostly for me – ‘when we don’t deal with our hurts, upsets, afflictions or reactions at the time, we just end up communicating ‘all-this’ to whoever we speak with, leaving communication and our voice not clear or free.’ As this for me highlights the responsibility we all have with what we are choosing to share of ourselves. That essentially within our hearts we all have the wisdom of knowing who we and the truth that is there to be shared. And when we choose to connect to this, to our love within and live this in our lives ‘the healing benefits this offers another is tremendous.’ Thank you Zofia as this has been truly healing to read.
Zofia, I feel as if I have just had a most profound lesson on expression, communication and reading what comes out of mine, and other peoples mouths.
Your blog is so insightful, I know I will be revisiting!
“With this, it was strikingly evident to me that communication is so much more than being about how we say something or what we say. That the ‘how’ has nothing to do with quietness, loudness, politeness, the great choice of words, but instead that its finesse, or lack of, is constituted by the actual way we choose to live life.” This struck a chord with me because I can feel the difference in the way I communicate based on what’s going on in my life at the time which in turn is as a result of whether I’ve chosen to honour and nurture myself or whether I have chosen a path of disregard – and understanding that all of this can be felt by another. As much as I try to conceal how I’m feeling at times I know I very rarely succeed.
Zofia this is profound! Blows out of the water the previously preferred modes of hiding behind the ‘I’m shy’ notion of being with life, revealing it is merely a state of holding myself back. Why?! For what purpose is there to keep from myself or the world, all the power that lays within the connection to all I am.
I can relate to this and what I have also felt at times is when others see or hear this (things like your audio) and say its great when in truth you know there was so much more there for you to express but because of how you are living or what you are holding yourself in it hasn’t come out. There is much grandness within all it’s just a matter of getting this out and allowing it to be shared.
Thank you Zofia for this reminder that every expression is equally important and the influence we have by either being who we are or a lesser version because of our emotions. I can relate to how I did not recognised and even disliked my tone of voice when I heard it back in a recording. And of course it is what I have lived upon that point what I get reflected and what I donot want to hear. I will be more aware of my voice from now on and use it as another marker for living my truth.
What great insights into our voice and how we sound is because of how we live, in other words, our choices on a daily basis; can be heard through our voice and how we speak, makes complete sense to me. Thank you for sharing Zofia.
Zofia I loved what you’ve written here. Great to bring attention to. Possibly this is why we don’t like photos of ourselves?… Because it shows us a reflection of how we have been living.
And video is the most revealing of all as it has the picture, the voice and our movements. No hiding there…
A great and very revealing contribution, another confirmation of the fact that nothing is without its very own impact and consequences, that everything happens for a reason and because of something that has gone before or concurrently – absolutely everything matters, down to the smallest detail, whether we like it or not.
A lovely reminder Gabriele; absolutely everything matters, down to the smallest detail. Will take this into my day….
Zofia, I often find that I am listening to how I sound when I speak, I am getting a reflection as I speak, when I speak from the love that I am I can feel it in all my body. It feels like a warm, gentle loving feeling coming out of me, I can also feel the difference when I speak from another place. Your blog bought a much deeper awareness. Thank you.
Zofia, it’s so easy to get caught in the words we speak, but really it’s the quality of how we speak them and I know my voice really does reflect how I feel and actually how I live, even though that’s not something I’ve always wanted to acknowledge (I’ve expected to be able to perform on tap at will, without taking into account that everything comes with that, how I’ve lived, what I’m carrying in my body). And I’ve done it very deliberately by living a reduced speeded up version of me, and not that full one which is spacious, gracious, and wants to truly meet the other; with this way it’s less about outcomes and yet things get done with ease and less effort. So one to remember, voice is no different from touch, if I’ve been hard of course it comes out in how I touch things, but it’s also there in how I speak!
“In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway”! – Me too Zofia!
Recently, I have become more aware of how I feel communicating with others that have ‘standout’ quality in their voices. Reading this blog has allowed me the full understanding and acceptance of why that is.
As I build a deeper, loving relationship with myself I’m choosing to change what and how I eat, walk, paint my nails, open a tin, sit, stand, lay, drive, type, smile and speak. (to name a few)!
Thank you for sharing Zofia, I am inspired not only to stay on track but to use my voice as a marker of my choices.
Thank you Zofia, Great sharing I can so relate, the hardness that I hear in others was also heard in a old phone greeting of mine. The tension just comes thumping through, not supporting and in fact harming.Great to see the amount of awareness and care that can be brought to the simple act of speaking and how much others can be affected or supported by this.
A great question Zofia .. “if our voices do contain all our lived-choices then aren’t these choices super-powerful ‘tools’ in regards to clear or effective communication and expression?” Worth asking, in respect of what choices are we making and how are we making them, that will determine the quality of our interaction with everyone.. I love the level of responsibility this presents as a possibility, not as a weapon to be critical with, but just what level of awareness and responsibility we can bring to this communication, and with everything in life.
Hi Zofia – thank you for bringing this important topic to the fore. Although not thinking about it extensively, from experience I can say when I am deeply connected there is a strong resounding quality in how I am speaking – there is depth with no force. But when I am disconnected it can become weak, light, quiet, and empty – there is no self-fulfilment, so in turn I require this from others (which is very imposing). It’s about claiming me more in life and so when I speak I will be claimed and expressive in myself- more and more.
I Completely agree Zofia, I often listen/use the sound of my voice to see where I am at, in terms of being me and comfortable in my own skin. When something is troubling me my voice is always strained and somewhat harsh – it is a stand out for me and others notice also.
Great blog Zofia. A beautiful reminder of the extent to which those around us can feel, through our verbal expression, the quality of our livingness.
Wow, what a powerful and incredibly beautiful article Zofia. I really appreciate the depth of what you shared and the revelation of when we listen to a recording of our voice or really connect to what comes out of our mouths so much is revealed about how we are living from moment to moment.
What a brilliant and honest blog about an important topic. I have always been extremely self conscious about my voice, feeling very vulnerable and almost scared when speaking to groups. Maybe it has to do with what I feel could be exposed through my voice, as you suggest in your blog. The more in tune with me and my body I am, the more confident, spacious and natural it feels to speak to or with more than two people at a time. This is a great eyeopener and the topic begs for more reflection and awareness. Thank you, Zofia.
I agree Ariana, there are times when I have said something and then questioned where it came from as the words and way I said it just didn’t sound like me. The great thing is once I have noticed this then I will find a different and more gentle way to communicate what it is I want to say.
My judgment of myself naturally extended to my voice, how could it not. Some time ago I read a blog about someone lovingly recording messages for themselves. I was very inspired, and had a go myself. I was very loving and tender in how I did it, because I was aware of my judgment. When I listened to my recording I was blown away by the tenderness and love that I could hear in my voice. It was not what I had expected at all. This showed me that yes, my voice will be hard and dominating if that is the energy that I am in at the time, but it is not who I am, and equally, my voice can be tender and loving, and at times it can be very strong, deep and true.
This is a great idea Catherine; I will try it out and practice reading the energy that my voice is conveying
I will remember to be very loving, tender and honest as I feel the energy.
Thank you Zofia and Catherine for highlighting “what is actually coming out of our mouths”
That sounds like a great thing to do and I will definitely give it a go. How amazing to experience the living and clear energy in our voice rather than the old judgment of how we think it is or has been – when our voice changes with our level of presence and clarity, and quite often one moment to the next.
This is such beautiful loving thing to do Catherine – I am inspired. Funnily enough I had to change my voicemail message to day at work and it took a few goes – to pause feel me and speak with love and authority. Each time the differences can tangibly be felt when replaying. We feel everything.
Wow Catherine, I have never quite considered the extent of which I have judgement over the way that I sound, but what you present here is truly quite profound – that the source of the way our voice sounds come from within the quality of which we are in at the time
Love this Catherine. What a great idea to check the sound and energy of our voices and hear the difference to when we are connected to when we are not.
This blog exposes the truth about the voice and sound……very timely. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living, And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” This is a powerful truth you have shared with us all. I have realised for myself, when I speak from all of me with presence……… my voice speaks from my whole body and I can feel my voice resonating from my heart.
When I am speaking from all of me, it feels like I am at one with my body. There is no separation, like when I am ‘in my head’. Just a gorgeous flow throughout my whole being.