Self-care and Learning To Respect My Body

It’s only in recent years when I first began attending courses run by Universal Medicine and listening to Serge Benhayon present on the topic of Self-Love that I began to acknowledge that my body is actually something to be respected and treasured. When Serge talked about all the different ways in which we numb and override what our bodies are telling us, I could feel the truth of this – it all made perfect sense. I could see how some of the choices I had been making – such as drinking alcohol, taking drugs, staying up late, working till I was exhausted and certain food choices – were all ways of living that I considered normal.

I certainly had never considered these were all choices that I was indulging in to override and numb myself from feeling the fact that I had very little self-worth and didn’t feel that I deserved taking care of.

When I stopped these activities and gave myself space to truly feel my body, I became aware of a huge amount of hardness that I had built up in order to protect myself and to not feel what was going on in my body.

It was enlightening and empowering to hear that my body is a marker of truth: if I were to stop all of the indulgences, activities which serve no purpose other than to harm me, and all the ways in which I choose to numb and override what my body feels, then it would be my best friend – supporting me to live the Love that I know I am.

This understanding was a breakthrough for me although I still found it difficult to let go of certain aspects of how I was choosing to live that affected my body, keeping it in a state of tension.

I’m much more respectful of my body now compared to how I used to be but it’s taken me a long time to acknowledge the depth of disregard I’ve had and still have for my body.

My understanding of Universal Medicine’s teachings is that self-love is the key to healing and re-awakening the truth that lies within us all.

Self-love means living in a way that is respectful of myself – making loving choices for my body. This I understand, but I found this to be a simple concept that was/is a stretch too far for me. So long have I lived in disregard that is driven by a deep lack of self-worth, I found that I have a fair amount of resistance to bringing self-love into my life.

I’ve now had to be honest about this and bring myself back to basics – self-care was initially for me a more real and appropriate starting point – and even then I didn’t find it easy to change my approach to the level of self-care I had for myself.

Simple things such as showering, bathing, the way I brushed my hair, the things I chose to eat and drink were already a part of my daily routine of self-care, however when I chose to bring more presence and a deeper level of care to these everyday activities I noticed just how much I lacked bringing any true quality to these moments.

I now have a growing awareness of the choices I’m making on a daily basis which keep me feeling racy – avoiding the stillness that I have felt at times within me. I find myself in a momentum of making these kinds of choices but my body is telling me loud and clear that it’s not happy. It’s uncomfortable but interesting to observe the patterns where I’m still disregarding my body because of external pressures.

For example, when I put pressure on myself at work to get things done, it’s so easy to skip breaks and shorten my lunch break: these are opportune moments when I can check in with myself and re-connect with my body, and by not giving myself this time I feel exhaustion and tension when I do finally stop.

Also, wanting to please others and not honouring how I feel is another great way to deplete myself. What I used to see as others putting pressure on me, I now see that it’s actually me putting the pressure on me to please!

Also I see situations that I’ve put myself in which reflect the beliefs I have about myself, people and life – these all affect my body and I’m learning to observe and slowly change the way I am in these situations.

I’ve observed how believing that I’m not good enough brings in thoughts, people and situations that will confirm that belief.

I’ve become more aware of how I hold myself back from expressing what I feel for fear of what others may think of me! When I see these patterns and feel the stifling effect they have on how I choose to express I can then stop and say ‘no’.

The choice to be true to me, and my body, can at times be a little uncomfortable but I can also make it fun – enjoying the ever-unfolding journey… when I choose to listen to and respect my body!

With great appreciation to Serge Benhayon and all of the inspiring practitioners who have consistently shown me that there is another way to be.

by Heather Hardy, Workshop Manager, Worthing, UK 

Further reading:
Before and After My Self Love Program – Forever Unfolding the Real Me
Healthy Body Healthy Mind

908 thoughts on “Self-care and Learning To Respect My Body

  1. It’s interesting to look at how we can override what we feel by numbing our body with any distraction albeit the tension and over-stimulation that we experience as a result. It just don’t make sense.

  2. What I find interesting is that in difficult times it’s often our level of care for ourselves that we drop first – and that is the one thing that helps us remain steady no matter what.

  3. ‘I’ve observed how believing that I’m not good enough brings in thoughts, people and situations that will confirm that belief.’ This is gold Heather and worth repeating again as I know how this feels and I ddin’t want to take responsibility for the part I played in this, but when I did things began to shift and change over time.

  4. I wonder do I consider my body as my best friend? Do I treat my body as my best friend? – when I put it like this there is work to be done in truly embracing what my body offers me all of the time. I still get caught in putting pressure on myself when there are demands from outside I want to abide by and please others but there is also appreciation for all the changes I have made and how the relationship with my body is growing and deepening.

  5. Thank you Heather. I’ve recently began to connect more deeply to my body and as a result I can feel subtleties that are stressing me, and now I’m listening more attentively to myself I can make changes to address these. The most important part is in the listening to ourselves and learning to respond with love and care to the body.

  6. “I’ve observed how believing that I’m not good enough brings in thoughts, people and situations that will confirm that belief.” So true Heather, what is reflected to us from the world is but a reflection and confirmation of what we already believe and/or feel about ourselves.

  7. When we start to reawaken the truth within our body it responds by restoring itself back to its natural rhythm and opens our awareness to understand and honestly reflect on the way we have been living and the impact our choices are having. Learning to respect and love ourselves takes commitment but with every step and nurturing detail the more we deepen our relationship with ourselves and express from a true quality and foundation we have built for ourselves.

    1. We seem to fight our body more often than listen and honour it. And, not many people understand how precious and amazing our body is.

  8. Just by fulfilling all the demands of all around us we loose ourselves.
    IT always Should be About including ourselves in Every choice we make with all the care.

    1. I can very much relate Willem, I have resisted self-care and self-love for most of my life and sometimes still do due to falling back into old habits. But I can certainly appreciate and see the huge benefits of deepening my self-love and self-care as this supports me in life on all levels. And, the part that avoids any form of love I now recognise is the wayward spirit that runs us.

  9. I have been learning to observe the impact of beliefs and ideals on my experience of life. They act like filters that reinterpret and re-present life to us and hence we don’t really see what is actually present at all. There was a time in my life when I championed the ‘power’ of beliefs, but now, I am making the choice to see what is truly before me and find that it is usually quite delightful.

  10. I could not agree with you more about this topic, self-care needs to be top of the to do list in that it becomes our normal way of life.
    Without perfection I’m relearning how to respect my body and listen to many of the subtle and loud signals it speaks on a daily basis.

    It starts with the most simplest thing and leads to more. Self-care starts by first making the choice to say yes to it.

  11. My best friend…. my body. That tells me the truth all the time, no matter what, that is always there to support me. Perhaps it is time to honour that, to listen, and to give a little love back?

    1. Yes, there is a great deal to be gained by honouring a true friend, particularly when it is one’s own body as it is our bestest best and true friend.

  12. I thought I was taking a good care of myself, incorporating conscious choices to be more caring and loving with myself, but now I am feeling a bit exposed – not because I have got a cold, but the way I am dealing with it seems to revert back to looking for ‘what is right’ which comes from my mind, rather than responding to what my body is asking for. Ouch. It truly is an ever-unfolding journey, continuously learning to surrender into the body.

  13. As I bring a deeper level of respect to my body and deeper level of self care, there is a shift in the quality of how I move with more delicacy from the inside out. We all have this quality within us to enjoy as we release the hardness of protection built up over many years.
    “I began to acknowledge that my body is actually something to be respected and treasured….”

  14. “but I can also make it fun – enjoying the ever-unfolding journey… when I choose to listen to and respect my body!” Yes, we can make it sometimes a bit heavy and serious even though returning to the love we are includes also joy and a lot of playfulness. It seems we have learned at school that being serious and working hard is the only way to grow but actually lightness and playfulness are important factors and without them we cannot truly grow in ourselves I think.

  15. ‘I’ve observed how believing that I’m not good enough brings in thoughts, people and situations that will confirm that belief.’ So true Heather, when we hold ourselves as less we experience life in a more reduced and small way, if we confirm and appreciate our qualities we will magnetically pull people and situations that reflect our loving choice.

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