True Responsibility

I spent most of my childhood and much of my life feeling overwhelmed and burdened by what I thought was true ‘responsibility’. In the culture and family environment I was born into, responsibility was all about family first and taking care of everyone else’s needs before my own. This constant focus on others’ needs first is what I believed true responsibility to be.

Growing up, strong expectations were placed upon me both as a girl and as the eldest child in a family of five sisters. My father and mother worked all day on the family farm and would set tasks for me each day, including looking after my younger siblings.

At the age of four, I found myself a prime carer for two younger sisters, changing nappies and feeding them, and being fully responsible for their care until my parents came back from work. As I got older I had to ensure that the housework was done, and the family’s meals were prepared – all on top of my day at school!

If something had not been done ‘the right way’ or even when others misbehaved, I was made to take full responsibility and as the oldest was made the example – being punished regardless of what the situation was and who was truly at fault.

In this environment I became overwhelmed with a sense of always being responsible for everyone else and with no self worth. I lived in constant anxiety and fear of what could go wrong next. Physically, my body ached and I could not sleep at night. I felt trapped, and in the hardest times, I would go to a place where I felt safe and just cry.

As a result of feeling like nothing I did seemed to be good enough, I became someone obsessed with doing everything ‘right’, a perfectionist in my work, the way I lived and everything I did.

I found myself in a constant state of stress, setting ever-higher standards for myself in completing every job, something I took well into my adult years. When I had a family of my own, all of these patterns and behaviours just intensified. I was an extremely nervous person, always needing to control what went on with everyone in the family, and also in my workplace.

I suffered from depression, and reached a point where I did consider suicide. I was chronically exhausted, overwhelmed, often angry, and constantly unwell.

It was not until I came to the work of Universal Medicine at age 54, and began attending workshops presented by Serge Benhayon, that I began to get a sense of what responsibility truly is. Finally here was a man who made so much sense!

Through Serge’s teachings and the Universal Medicine workshops I have attended, I have come to truly understand that true responsibility starts with myself first and foremost.

As the realisations dawned, that I had chosen to be responsible for everyone and everything around me first, I felt I had made a mess of not only my life, but that of all of my family members. Always helping everyone and fixing things had made me feel good about myself, and needed. It was a way of avoiding the deep hurt I still felt from my childhood.

It was a powerful and deeply humbling moment when I realised that in taking on responsibility for others, I did not allow them to be who they truly are; to live and learn from making their own choices in life.

And so from applying what I learnt from attending Universal Medicine courses, I made a choice to be responsible for myself first. This point marked a ‘turn-around’ in my life. Holding my behaviours in such loving understanding allowed things to change. I am still learning, but I now have tools to work with every day.

Being aware of how I am living with myself and how my body feels is the key to no longer harming self or others through the controlling behaviours I’d lived by.

I find I am so much kinder to myself and that the need for perfectionism is, amazingly, loosening its hold. I notice this in the way I work and deal with even the smallest of things every day.

Knowing the truth of responsibility is the greatest gift I could ever be given. And, it is a gift I give to myself. I do not blame my parents for all that happened, as they did not know any better. What reflection did they have of what true responsibility really is? I feel they did the best they could.

Responsibility is beautiful.

I truly love being me, knowing in my heart that I am committed to making loving choices from which I can learn and grow. To have let go of the hurt has opened up so much joy in my life. At age 60, I have never felt better. I live life feeling pretty amazing every day, and rejoice in knowing and living true responsibility as a beautiful blessing.

Thank you Serge Benhayon, for reflecting how beauty-full it is to be truly responsible.

By Kathy Avram, Melbourne, Australia

Further reading:
The Importance of Self Responsibility
True Change: Self-responsibility Inspired by Universal Medicine

1,510 thoughts on “True Responsibility

  1. It is not uncommon in society that the emphasis of responsibility is put on the expectations of what we do rather than who we are and the way we choose to live our lives. What if this tide were to change? It would undoubtedly change the face of humanity and all the relationships we have with each other.

  2. It is interesting how we grow up thinking that taking responsibility is about focusing on outside ourselves and what we need to ‘do’ to become responsible and from that belief we feel it as a struggle and a big effort in order to achieve it, whereas in truth, it is the complete opposite when we are committed to building a loving connection and foundation with ourselves first it is a natural and joyful impulse to want to be more responsible in how we commit and engage with life and express without holding ourselves back.

  3. The idea of responsibility that most of us a are brought up with is really messy. It ties us up in psychological knots as we try and do and be everything that goes against the true nature and order of life. This blog is a great example of that. Thank God for the clarity that came to you through your meeting with Serge Benhayon and the simplicity that is possible when we start to make loving choices for ourselves, healing our hurts and committed to an ever deepening love for ourselves and others free of the investments the false responsibility feeds.

  4. It is no wonder that we don’t like the word responsibility when the way it comes to us is so often with expectation, burden and a lack of appreciation from others. This seems like a setup for kids to grow up avoiding responsibility and then modelling this burdensome version of responsibility to their own kids.

    1. Fiona I loved what you expressed how we are taught as children about responsibility and how it feels like a burden. Instead of coming from the true meaning of responsibility enjoying the beauty of responsibility, to know how empowering it truly is for self and everyone in equality to learn in their own time and space.

  5. Something is wrong when we learn that the word responsibility means putting others first. Responsibility has to do with servicing: us being in service, hence with ourselves; being in service is a sign of our own evolution first and foremost.

  6. We are often taught a distortion of responsibility that says tend to others feelings and needs first, which does not discern the quality in which we care for others, empty of self love or full.

  7. Responsibility is often considered as a burden but that is the kind of responsibility where you take on tasks of others. True responsibility starts with responsibility to one self, and then the rest of the worldly responsibility will follow. Easily and lightly.

  8. We are sold a lie that responsibility is not fun or enjoyable. We are encouraged to have fun while we can when we are younger. These paradigms create and endorse approaching life and committing to it only when necessary. Yet, from my experience, it is when I commit whole heartedly to everything before me that I feel my most vibrant and best.

    1. Abby I loved what you shared when we are in true responsibility to the all there is no compartments of things but come from the whole of everything we live, express and reflect.
      Coming from a place that everything and everyone is equal in unity.

  9. Kathy, this is such a beautiful turnaround from leaving the old burden of what you felt being responsible was, dealing with the hurts of your childhood to developing a relationship with true responsibility.

  10. It is very important to note the reason we carry out behaviours that do not support another. We always have our own agenda and it is with absolute honesty that we heal ourselves to no longer carry out the lie that was once perceived as helping and assisting another.

  11. True responsibility being about taking care of ourselves first, and from there, being able to support others: if we all committed to making this the focus of our lives, instead of the distractions, involvements and investments in the lives of others, we would have the levels of love and connection in our relationship with ourselves and one another that we crave and are worth.

  12. The truth about responsibility has been a revelation to me too. It actually gives us access to our innate power and is far from the ideas about responsibility I had taken on from earlier in life. Accepting responsibility is actually joy-full and is a key step to take in letting go of blame.

  13. Cultures can bring a level of entitlement to control and bend the truth on what is true responsibility in order to comply with traditional standards. When we bring truth and honour our actions we offer all the refection that one way is not the only way to live.

  14. Thanks to Universal Medicine I have gradually come to realise that my understanding of the meanings of words was far away from their original true meanings and responsibility is no different. By my concept of responsibility I would say that I was one of the most responsible people on the planet, but once I started to grasp what responsibility really is I started to spot many many areas where I would say that I was completely irresponsible. Coming back to absolute meanings of words as we once had thousands of years ago is a very necessary step in banishing the lies that currently dominate our world.

  15. It is interesting how we love to create these struggles like taking on responsibility, where there is no true purpose for it. It gives us the identification of business instead of being open, to a capacity we cannot imagine of its grandness.

  16. It is in fact a way of arrogance to take responsibility for others instead of letting them have their own experience in whatever they choose to do. It actually supports them to be not autonomous and like you beautifully honestly described you were actually emotionally fed by the dependency that gets created then.

  17. This is very beautiful, Kathy.” Being aware of how I am living with myself and how my body feels is the key to no longer harming self or others through the controlling behaviours I’d lived by” – it is that simple. It is about being who we are.

    1. Fumiyo thank you for your lovely expression. We are truly blessed when we allow the body to speak in a way that is loving, showing us our behaviours and patterns for us to learn and come from that understanding to let go of the hurt and appreciate that there is a deep healing for all equally.

  18. Kathy, a very honest and open sharing here about responsibility but also about the need to control things in life so as not have our hurts triggered. The way you have shared this is done with such huge understanding and this in turn can be there for all others to be inspired by and hence work their way through letting go of the hurts.

  19. It can appear so difficult at times to let go of the hurts that we hold, but once we let go of them the freedom that comes from this is amazing. And ironically taking responsibility actually equates with the greatest of freedoms – energetic freedom. Meanwhile, in our society responsibility is seen as something that weighs you down – it is really configured to look like that to prevent us from embracing it and hence growing and evolving.

    1. When we choose to let go of the hurts it leaves us with nothing less than the simplicity and strength we can all live and reflect to others.

  20. We can spend so much time and energy trying to get everything ‘right’,always needing to do more to achieve the goal … even our attempt to de-stress can be done in drive. When we rest back in our body, feel, surrender to our inner essence, and truly let go of any pictures of how thing should be, the strength and power that arises through our body is fuelled by the energy of Love, and Love knows exactly what to do.

    1. Jenny it is beautiful what you expressed – the strength and power that arises through our body is fuelled by the energy of Love and Love knows exactly what to do… It makes such a difference when we allow love to be in the for front in everything we do, which brings joy in responsibility and a loving understanding to appreciate the all in the learning.

  21. I too got caught up in thinking responsibility is about looking after and helping others but I now know it comes back to the way I am with myself and everything that I do. Then I bring this quality to everyone else – which is where my responsibility comes in with the quality of energy I am choosing to bring to everyone else rather than thinking it is about what I can do for them. It makes it super simple when it brings it back to the fact we just have to live the love we are and everything else then takes care of itself.

    1. I love what you shared here James about making life so much simpler by just focusing on the choice to stay connected with our bodies and bring that connected quality to all our relationships. It helped me to feel just how much energy I have wasted in my life either trying to control situations in a way that I thought was actually helping people (and being ‘responsible’) or how I have racked my brain trying to come up with ways that I should be in service to other people, instead of just bringing that quality of stillness to everyone and letting my body lead the way.

      1. It seems way too simple but works. I know how much I want to help others but also know the only way to actually help them is by living the fullness of the love that I am and offering them this reflection as after all we can only truly help ourselves.

  22. Taking things on for others is an abuse both of ourselves and of the other for it does not honour either party. Unfortunately we have made it a norm to burden ourselves in this way and when we begin to make more loving choices there can be a period of unsettlement as the boat gets rocked and adjusts to its new course.

    1. Beautifully shared Liane – when we realise what we have been a part of, and then choose to do things differently. This can indeed rock the boat and an adjustment for all is required and then it is a win win for all.

  23. When we take on ‘the worries of the world’ or being perfect for other people, it would be more accurate to say we’ve decided to live from self. For no matter how generous or well intentioned these acts might seem they’re ultimately selfish acts of abuse. Our true responsibility as you show Kathy is in treasuring us. Thank you.

    1. “For no matter how generous or well intentioned these acts might seem they’re ultimately selfish acts of abuse. Our true responsibility as you show Kathy is in treasuring us.” So very worth repeating. It does not help anyone to be there for everyone and everything else if we are not equally held in this equation, as the equation then does not equal the truth.

  24. We offer such a powerful reflection to humanity when we live and move with true responsibility, it is the missing key for many people so it is deeply inspiring if we make this truth our everyday normal.

  25. When we are connected and are with our self fully nothing overwhelms or disturbs us and from here we view responsibility in a whole new light. It sits in conjunction with purpose and integrity. It is where we want to be.

  26. Great sharing Kathy, and a truly beautiful story. A love story really. Without knowing who we truly are we out-source love and recognition in many and various ways until we come home to who we truly are.

  27. “It was a powerful and deeply humbling moment when I realised that in taking on responsibility for others, I did not allow them to be who they truly are; to live and learn from making their own choices in life.” What a nugget of gold this is. And how different the world would look if we all lived from this understanding.

  28. It is no surprise that we take the things/ roles on, we get born into. Realising and unravelling how much we burdened our true self/ essence and that this is in fact the greatest pain we all feel and carry deep inside, is a huge step. Reading your blog it feels like you took on a way of automatism to be seen and valued at least a little bit by fulfilling what is being asked of you from the outside. Letting go of this automatic response and chore must be for you like getting out of prison and freeing yourself from a pressure not imaginable.

  29. Its so interesting because the world feeds back that this constant low grade anxiety is exactly what its looking for, so they know you will force yourself to fulfil their requirements no matter what, and particularly inspite of yourself and how you are feeling, It robs us of a fundamental right to feel how we feel, and express from there what is true,

  30. This is a great example how the truth of words get bastardised an interpreted into our own version and how very beautiful then to discover and let unfold the true meaning of a word by living it step by step.

  31. Thank you Kathy, indeed responsibility is in fact beautiful, I used to run a million miles from responsibility being scared at what it could bring, these days I say yes to responsibility and have seen my life totally expand and become more joyous because of it.

    1. Sam it was lovely to read your response. It is amazing how we are set up to believe what true responsibility is. What I love is how Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine brings everything to the truth of the true meaning and reflection of how to live the joy of responsibility in the fullness of every day life.

  32. “Always helping everyone and fixing things had made me feel good about myself, and needed. It was a way of avoiding the deep hurt I still felt from my childhood.” – If we can pinpoint what lies underneath a behaviour, issue or wayward relationship, with ourselves or with other people, then it is much easier to shift and choose to build a different foundation.

  33. Allowing others to live and learn from their own choices and imperfections is an essential ingredient to honouring our own self-care that we all need to master.

  34. Responsibility and love are one and the same so the more we embrace the only responsibility that we have which is to be ourselves in full the more love we express.

    1. The fact of accepting the responsibility to be ourselves and nothing but that, includes already our brothers and sisters- a movement outwards and not cycling around us. You then feel, that you are not expressing and living for yourself, that your expression is needed and that we cannot hold back what the other actually deserves to see and experience.That every expression is needed in this world and that the greatest love we can give each other is to show each other who we truly are. Hand in hand with accepting true responsibility is for me first the acceptance of who I am and how amazing every single one in this world is.

  35. I had always felt responsibility to be a burden, being the oldest among five children I was expected to be responsible for the others and if anything went wrong I was to blame, This created in me an anxiety about always getting it right. I am thankful to come to an understanding of what true responsibility is, it is lovingly caring for myself first with the choices i make and allowing others to also be responsible for their own choices and the learning that our choices bring.

  36. The amount of responsibility for others that you were given at the age of 4 is astounding. No wonder you were overwhelmed. And no wonder you believed that you had to put everyone else first. How amazing to come across Serge Benhayon and open to the understanding that our true responsibility is to ourselves first. It puts everything in perspective and serves for our own healing and that of others too. Such a relief to have it the right way round!

    1. Thank you Rebecca for your loving response to the blog. We are truly blessed that Serge Benhayon is a great reflection and teacher of bringing the Ageless Wisdom teachings in truth allowing us the opportunity to live life in true responsibility and not being caught up in our ideals and beliefs of choices from self and others projections or expectations on us.

  37. “It was a powerful and deeply humbling moment when I realised that in taking on responsibility for others, I did not allow them to be who they truly are; to live and learn from making their own choices in life.” This is such a common misunderstanding whereby many feel that by stepping in to assist another it is generally thought that genuine help is being offered. But seeing it from this perspective it becomes clear that self responsibility is being pushed aside instead.

  38. It is amazing how easily it is to focus on others and completely forget about ourselves. For me when I focus on others I can make it look like I am helping them when really I am either not wanting to be with myself or I am wanting them to be a certain way so they fit the picture I have of them which is very imposing and judgemental. The best support I can be for another is simply to live the love that I am without holding back, no fixing, no niceness just love!

  39. ‘It was a powerful and deeply humbling moment when I realised that in taking on responsibility for others, I did not allow them to be who they truly are; to live and learn from making their own choices in life.’ Allowing others to fall if necessary, I have learned, can often be the most supportive thing we can do, or how else can they really learn from their choices? I know from my own experience that it is from my mistakes that I have learned the most, it is from my mistakes that the hurts have come up for healing and it is from my mistakes that I have been humbled and where my impact on others has also been confirmed.

  40. I used to think responsibility was boring, and that I was curtailing to societies demands that did not feel true, a rebel of sorts and yet once I began to look a bit wider and not so narrow in my perspective I released I was shooting myself in the foot, responsibility has nothing to do with dull and curtailing it is empowering, invigorating and essential to living life fully.

  41. Thank you Serge Benhayon for being the true being that you are and living the responsibility we need to live, exactly that reflection we need or each other, each one of us carries the torch of their unique expression.

  42. “Finally here was a man who made so much sense!” Serge Benhayon shines his light to reflect a true way of living.

  43. “Knowing the truth of responsibility is the greatest gift I could ever be given. And, it is a gift I give to myself.” What a contrast this is Kathy to how most of us have understood responsibility to mean, which is more as a burden rather than a gift.

  44. Responsibility is our ability to respond to what our body shows us is the truth. The shackles of duty and obligation are ideals that let us continue to pursue the concept of ‘being good’ at our own detriment. As you beautifully show Kathy our body knows it all.

    1. Joseph, thank you for your great response. When we keep life simple to how our body feels, it shows us the all of how to live life in the true livingness of Responsibility, reflecting to others it is not hard work but a loving way to honour self first and then others.

  45. I know I still find it a challenge sometimes to not dive in and rescue someone by clearing up the mess if they have got themselves in trouble by making unwise choices. But I know that if I do the rescue clean up thing they learn nothing and often repeat more of the same and I feel exhausted or drained by this. so I have learnt to be supportive in a different way by being there for others when they need help but allowing people to make mistakes and clean up their own mess for that is how we learn. I have also started doing this for myself.

    1. Andrew, thank you for your lovely reply. As you said it is easy to get caught up in the pattern of helping others but when you allow others to work through their own choices, it gives them the space to come to their own loving understanding of the ideals and beliefs and how they play out in their patterns and behaviours.

  46. To be burdened with responsibility often can indicate we have taken something on that is not ours solely to do or have taken it on in a way that gives us some form of recognition and identity.

  47. To me this responsibility included too to accept how I lived before did, add to the challenges and circumstances I am in in this life. This is very empowering and a deep realisation that there is not such a thing as victims.
    We magnify all what is unresolved in us from the past.

  48. Serge Benhayon has helped me to come to realise too how being responsible is actually a spherical thing – as in it’s not just towards others or a certain group or person (nor just towards ourself) but including all of us equally…

  49. Perfection is debilitating, time consuming and destructive, learning to accept who I am and that I will never be perfect has been a huge lesson and a lesson that I keep coming back to.

    1. Fiona, Perfection is debilitating and destructive as I have also learned from this pattern and behaviour.
      I have come to the loving understanding that I am already complete and that there is no need to use perfection to receive recognition or acceptance but enjoy to appreciate all that I am.

  50. Yes when we are prepared to bring true self-responsibility to our lives we clearly feel our part in our own misery and at the same time feel empowered to truly address what is troubling us.

  51. I did not have to endure a childhood like yours Kathy and yet I do recognise that sense of feeling trapped on the hamster wheel of like constantly needing the same chores over and over and never seeming to get down to those deeper jobs or other projects that need my attention too, not to mention being more spaciously available to work and earn a living as well. I love the reminder to re-choose responsibility for me first and foremost, and only from there re-evaluate and let go of what is not truly needed.

    1. Shirley-Ann thank you for the awareness, of how we get caught up in the wheel of doing for others, which distracts us from allowing space to connect to what feels true and to go to a deeper level into responsibility bringing the purpose of what is needed in our work and living.

  52. The level of responsibility has many levels. If you complete one level the deeper level arises.
    It is a on going deepening towards living with awareness and responisbility at our deepest level possible here on earth.

  53. How amazing that now at the age of 60 years old you can say that you truly love yourself being you, making loving choices and how you have let go of the hurt and let joy into your life. How many 60 years old women would be able to say this? You just learn and grow beautifully so!

    1. Annelies it is a true blessing that we have Serge Benhayon to reflect how to truly live and take responsibility for who we truly are no matter what age and in that exposes the lies that we have been set up in to go through life living in a way not taking responsibility for self but to look at others and outside of us.Through the reflection of Serge I realised that taking responsibility first for self brought joy and in that allowed to let go of the hurt and there was nothing to fear.

    2. Yes it is amazing to read this and also appreciate that I like many are learning to deeply appreciate ourselves once again in a more loving and caring way of life. What is more is that I achieve much more at the same time as well.

  54. I have read this before and still am completely astounded by it for this is or should not be possible! ‘At the age of four, I found myself a prime carer for two younger sisters, changing nappies and feeding them, and being fully responsible for their care until my parents came back from work.’

  55. It is interesting the way we are willing to assist others no matter what, and yet we struggle to do the basics of self-care for ourselves, it is a huge realization to understand that real change starts with self-responsibility first as it is only then that anything we do carries a quality of true healing and evolution for all.

  56. Recently I’ve noticed how I take on other people’s drama, it feels awful in my body but for another to recognise this too they need a clear reflection to as you shared “to live and learn from making their own choices in life.” By holding myself I not only allow myself to remain steady and content within my body but it opens the space for another to reflect and heal. Very cool.

  57. ‘Thank you Serge Benhayon, for reflecting how beauty-full it is to be truly responsible.’ Ditto Kathy – a most amazing approach on a subject most people avoid.

  58. Thank you Kathy, I was drawn to reading this again today. As a child I had similar behaviours of caring for others and taking responsibility that was much bigger than I could handle, I can feel these patterns are still very much there and seem to trigger when I know someone is not appreciating me for me, but is more focused on what I can do for them. The whole world seems to be geared to place importance on what we do, and not value who we are, yet it is being who we truly are that is our greatest responsibility

    1. Melinda, it was great to read your response. It is very easy to get caught up in others needs feeling that we are helping them but instead we are taking away responsibility for them to learn and in that we are not being responsible for our learning in the opportunities that are before us to be who we truly are.

  59. After reading this blog today I got the sense that you actually can say that depression is because being disillusioned by life in such a way that you believe that taking responsibility for your life is hard and a struggle. In fact our responsibility in life is only to shine the light we all hold to the best of our ability and not to mix up responsibility to be responsible for anything outside of us.

  60. The more responsibility you embrace, the more you see the effect on the world of every moment and the quality you are in that moment.

  61. Being perfect or a perfectionist is a common goal for many, but the underlying drive for it seems often to be one of “being right” to overcome a lack within. We all know no one can actually be perfect, so perhaps a drive for perfection is a message to say “look within and consider whether self-appreciation is present for you in your life, just for who you are”.

  62. There are too many people And especially women who live the pattern of Taking care of others as a way to avoid to feel themselves.
    The carried hurts in the body both physical as emotional.
    This way we never over true care for the other. The quality of what we bring has a push in it from the demand that a need Needs to get fulfilled.
    The key to let go this pattern is to start to make loving movements And one of them Can be the support of Esoteric Healing sessions.

    1. It can also be a worth issue that we as women don’t feel we can accept the care of others or even ask for it, especially if we see our role as just being there and doing for others. If we haven’t been honoured in the gorgeousness of our essence, of who we are, we can lose touch with it believing our value is in what we do.

  63. Responsibility goes with the willingness to be who you are and stand for what you consider to be true no matter what anyone else thinks or does.

  64. When I read this I feel the power of vulnerability, and the ripple effect that cannot but take place when we let ourselves be open and transparent. Which is of course the beauty of the responsibility we are all endowed with – to be open, transparent and fully seen for how delicate and exquisite we truly are.

    1. Thank you Katerina for your lovely response. I loved what you expressed about vulnerability. But as women when we feel vulnerable we see this as a weakness within ourselves and override it so that we do not become open and transparent for all to see, hiding our beauty of what we bring.

  65. “Knowing the truth of responsibility is the greatest gift I could ever be given.” A deeply life changing gift that opens the door to Universal truth and hence a whole new way of life that nurtures our inherently loving nature from the inside out. What a blessing to receive, not only for yourself but also for everyone in your life that you now hold in true love.

  66. It’s interesting how we we can turn the word “responsibility,” against ourselves and that the actions and or movements we use to be responsible when it is not first felt from the body can feel very heavy and burdensome. It truly is amazing to feel the true service that responsibility offers us, as you have so beautifully expressed here Kathy and how a true movement made from our bodies connection can be a spherical expression that holds all equally responsible.

  67. “It was a powerful and deeply humbling moment when I realised that in taking on responsibility for others, I did not allow them to be who they truly are; to live and learn from making their own choices in life” – yes this is so true Kathy and also, many of us would not see this i.e. taking on other’s responsibility also as being disempowering too to those others and to oneself too.

  68. The healing offered in Esoteric Therapies are jaw dropping, and the changes that people report make me wonder why these therapies are not more widely available. Perhaps one day they will be.

  69. True Responsibility is very powerful and can move mountains, but when responsibility is imposed on us we can carry it around like a heavy weight on our shoulders for the rest of our lives. Understanding true responsibility brings a deeper understanding and clarity to many of our ingrained behaviours.

  70. Kathy, this is beautiful and deeply revealing: “It was a powerful and deeply humbling moment when I realised that in taking on responsibility for others, I did not allow them to be who they truly are; to live and learn from making their own choices in life.”

    1. Thank you Henrietta for your response. It is truly a humbling moment when we come from a loving understanding of how much we can impose on others from our ideals and beliefs.

      1. When we impose there is no room for understanding and that is the core of true relationships.

  71. Responsibility feels Ike a loving thing to do now but in the past it always felt too much to handle and so comfort or withdrawal were chosen. When you are fully on board with your body and moving in sync with what’s needed, responsibility is a joy and not even seen as a responsibility, just what is needed.

  72. Reading this has elements of similarity to how I was raised, except the responsibility of the other siblings was not put onto my shoulders as I was the youngest, but even at a young age I could see how this version of responsibility was having it’s effect on my oldest sister.

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