How often in life have we used what another person said to validate our expression because we didn’t feel we were enough? We do it with anyone we perceive to be an authority because they have chosen to walk further than we have on some path of experience or other.
For example, a school child may say “the teacher said so”, or likewise invoke parental authority to convince another child of something they want another to accept. As adults we may say that such-and-such a scientist or doctor said something about health, or business expert said something about investment, or sporting hero said something about the physics of baseballs spinning, or priest said something about our ‘souls’, etc, etc.
We can come up with as many examples as there are realms of activity in life. In each case we validate ourselves by using the words or ways of someone we perceive as more credible than ourselves.
It may be true that in a purely worldly sense we don’t have expertise in those various fields because we haven’t put the same effort and focus into them that another person has; and that is the only difference. And so, in my view, to fly those people like a flag instead of using our own authority, propping up our lack of self-worth and filling in for our fearful reluctance to express what we do actually know, is not a true approach.
It’s fine to put forth the possibility that what someone else said is worth looking at and may be gobsmackingly, world-changingly true, as long as we are the ‘marker of truth’ ourselves – we are speaking from the fullness of our self-love and confidence and what feels true to us regardless of who said what.
When it comes to what Serge Benhayon shares (undeniably very shareable!) with the students of Universal Medicine and The Way of The Livingness, I’ve seen people come out with “Serge Benhayon said” spoken with reverence of the truth but not yet of their own deeply felt and known truth.
And I have seen quite the opposite, in a couple of different flavours. One is avoiding quoting Serge in order to avoid being perceived as someone lacking confidence who uses their ‘authority figure’ to prop up their power in an interaction. Another is criticising and rejecting what Serge has said because of the discomfort of having to accept the possibility that it might be true, and not wanting to show that this truth and discomfort are being recognised.
In each of these situations, Serge is being used as a football in a game of personal issues, even being “shot as the messenger.” It is pretty abusive to do that to another human. Serge Benhayon is a great person, offering his own wisdom and experience for us to take up or leave as suits us, and does not deserve the role of a football or bullet-riddled messenger!
I confess to having suffered ‘cringe factor’ sometimes when I heard someone say: “Serge Benhayon said….,” and I had to go deeply into what was going on there. I realised the cringe was in response to the energy behind why the person was saying it – the energy behind what I described earlier about not expressing from the truth within oneself but vicariously from another’s.
Once upon a time some of Serge’s words stuck in the craw of my ‘outer reductionist scientist’ self. But at the same time I could feel those words resonating with the inner-me that knows science in a much more expansive way.
Reductionist science, if done truthfully and for the right reasons (instead of propagating scientific belief and excluding everything else), has some usefulness in the modern world. Something like: “If I don’t understand a system, test it, cut it up and see what it’s made of, then imagine it back together, calculate what should happen, observe what does happen in intact, examples of it, and see if our ideas about it still hold true.” I say “imagine it back together because it’s hard to actually re-construct a functional rat brain once you’ve serial-sectioned it or an atom once you’ve blown it to bits! You can see the limitation… and that’s where our innermost, expansive scientific selves come in.
Once upon a time the part of me that had not let go of the ‘belief’ aspect of reductionist science was a bit rattled by some of the things Serge Benhayon said. But over the years as my own inner wisdom and sense of truth have grown, the things Serge says have gone from ‘rattling’ to ‘hypothesis’ to “darn, that guy’s right again!”
I have come to the point of listening carefully to everything he has to say, and anything that doesn’t jump into my yes-zone immediately gets filed under “good possibility to check out, probably will turn out true if so far is any indication.” Then I test it in my own life. So far, the results have been: “Darn, that guy’s right about everything!” Or at least 99.9% – gotta allow some margin for imperfection in human life!
So if you ever hear me say “Serge Benhayon said…”, it won’t be from a belief just because Serge said it, and it won’t be from needing an authority to fill a lack of self-worth or gain power in an interaction. It will be from a scientific understanding that when a presented truth continues to prove true with time and testing, you can use it as a good foundation upon which to conduct your experiments and your life affairs. It certainly saves a lot of time and failures!
However, I fully embrace the importance of living every moment in the awareness of what we feel and know truly within, not just making assumptions and going along in momentum. And when I say truly, I mean truly, because we do tend to go through life with a lot of habits of knowing and feeling that are not from truth when deeply examined.
It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves.
Then when we quote another person who inspires us like Serge Benhayon, it is a confirmation of a shared truth for all.
Inspired by the blog: Relationships: It’s Now About What I Feel, Not What Serge Benhayon Says
By Dianne Trussell | Bachelor of Science, Honours – majors: Biological Sciences, Earth Sciences, Chemistry & Psychology | 17 years experience in medical and biological university research (primarily neuroscience and cell biology) | co-author of 12 peer-reviewed publications in scientific journals
Further Reading:
About Serge Benhayon
Meeting Serge Benhayon – A Meeting on the Edge of Eternity
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
Expressing from our body and our livingness, inspires others in a simple and beautiful way.
Rather than stating someone else’s truth and trying to stand behind it, it’s perfectly ok to simply say “I don’t know”. Dianne I like your way of testing things out, because then at the end of the process it’s now your own truth.
Absolutely, ‘I fully embrace the importance of living every moment in the awareness of what we feel and know truly within’.
We feel more validated when we can quote another person who we feel has more clout than us. I know I have done it. What you raise in this blog is worth pondering on. It brings up the question of our own self value.
That’s a good way to put it Debra, when we waver on our own authority up comes someone for us to reference for more “clout”.
And it’s amazing just how much more open we are to hearing something when we can feel the other person is talking from their experience/their truth. We might not always be aware of why something rings true to us, but we are often very aware when we can feel someone is simply trying to impress with words or when someone is talking absolute rubbish. We are so much more discerning that we realise.
Great blog Dianne and a very pertinent subject. We often defer to authority, in many places and ways and what I’m coming to understand is at times this is my way of not living and expressing the truth I know, and that is an avoidance of the responsibility of what I know but do not fully live, so when I find myself looking for a quote or expert as backup it’s a great sign for me to stop and feel how I’m expressing and what exactly I might be avoiding … and could it be that I’m the one to deliver what is needed right here right now and not the someone else I’m attempting to defer to? We all have a part to play… are we playing it?
It makes complete sense to me to never take anyone’s word for anything as the absolute truth but to always test things out for ourselves in a scientific own experiment kinda way which then means we discover our own truth from a lived experience not from a memory of something that someone said.
I always enjoy reading your blogs Dianne, and I learn so much from them. I agree it is easy to quote someone as a backup for support of our view but I do see we need to be in the livingness of what we quote and therefore it is our own way.
In that confirmation of a shared truth for all there can be no one authority to look up to or hang on another’s every word. The shared truth is the confirmation of equal authority.
You make a very valid point here – hiding behind another’s authority and what they have said or written is an indication that we haven’t tested and lived what is being propagated; nevertheless, we put it forward, at times like a battle cry to rally ourselves into action. It is, as you describe, a form of abuse – as demonstrated by your example of Serge Benhayon.
The more I experiment and feel for myself the truth of ‘what Serge says’ the less I need to quote him for it is lived and known within me and my body. This is true quotation!
There is nothing more powerful when we express from our bodies, a truth that is lived within and not just an image that keeps us in the illusion of time.
We can use what another said, including Serge, to support our justification. But no matter who said what, if we use if to justify what we ourselves are saying or doing, it is still justification. Truth needs no justification.
Is it possible that when people criticize and reject what Serge Benhayon presents and it is only a presentation, a what if that they don’t actually understand or want to understand what is being presented because it is uncomfortable to feel in our bodies and so we reject what we hear. And that’s fine as everyone is entitled to their own opinion. For me when people then get on their soap box and try to shout down what is being presented then I get annoyed because those people are then trying to dictate to the rest of us what we can and cannot have. And this smacks of control, in much the same way that Religion has been used to control the masses for thousands of years.
Relying on somebody else’s words or deeds offers no evolution at all, as it is our own relationship with ourselves and lived experience that determines the quality of expression and the way we relate with the all.
A timely article to read. As I am coming to know that the authority I hold is ignored and or disregarded when it is not delivered in connection to my essence, my life and my experiences, which is where my authority originates. No amount of study or scientific experiment can bring about this science, only connection to and living from my being as a whole can.
Opening with those words is a dead give away what is about to be shared comes from the head and not from a lived way.
The truth and authority Serge presents with comes from how he lives and it is this that he encourages us to choose as well:
To find the truth within myself by living in a way that is reconnecting and in doing this re-claim who I am and align directly with the same wealth of universal knowledge that is available to us all.
I know that when I speak from the knowing that I feel and hold in my body there is a much better chance others will understand what I’m saying because they have a chance to feel it too from me directly.
Well said Dianne and this article makes a lot of sense. Like you I have heard this at the beginning of many conversations “Serge said…” My usual thing is ‘Oh here we go, whats coming..’
The thing is I have in the past caught myself also wanting or needing to quote Serge Benhayon as if what I had to say did not hold strong without his name being in the words. This is crazy when I look at it now as I have come to realise that the authority in which I choose to express be it in person or in writing does not require any persons name to give me the ok sign and justify what is being said.
Walk the walk and talk the talk seems to work and that means I have made a strong commitment to LIVE the teachings of Serge Benhayon and then with my unwavering consistency I can communicate with authority and there is no need to slip in the name of someone. We used to call that name dropping as we want to be associated with that person. What a load of twaddle and how inauthentic is that eh?
Funny thing is most people feel when we are doing this stuff as it is empty and pointless if you ask me.
The more I live from truth myself the more I am able to reflect that truth back to others from the way I live, and I am beginning to notice how many people pick up on the way we live, and start conversations from that point and the answers have to come from our own experience.
I’ve had many of cringe moments and I’ve also been on the other side when I’ve used another’s word instead of my own authority. The more authority I claim in my own inner truth, the more I speak from my own lived truth.
Invoking an authority over a matter not only helps to settle an issue but also to confirm the reasons behind our not invoking of our own authority in the first place.
This is true of anyone Dianne. I have been part of countless conversations where I have ‘believed’ what they have said in lieu of feeling whether what they were saying felt like the truth or not and then accepting that as truth before I felt it or lived it myself. Observing is a true art and science itself and not jumping to any conclusions just because someone has said this, is part of observation. Serge has presented many important and incredible things, things that I would have never learned anywhere. But I am never asked to believe what he says, but to try it out, test drive it and feel for myself. This is so important because I am re-learning to trust myself without any doubt and stand on my own 2 feet.
People doing academic work are very much accustomed to resort to authoritative quotes and authors to make a point. We borrow from others all the time to construct arguments that may sound good and that outdo others and give any matter a new twist. What I find interesting from my years of experience in the academic world, is how this capacity helps to feel that this is it, that nothing beyond it is needed or possible and that this is the most interesting aspect of life altogether. What it does is to stop you from going deeper with life that is at the tip of your hands, if you just stop and read what it is that you bring to this world and the truth behind it.
To quote Serge Benhayon inappropriately, as you delineate Dianne, is not only abusive of him but also so misrepresentative of him as he has, and always does, say that one must discern the truth for oneself and not take what anyone, including himself, says for granted.
Thank you Dianne for so clearly exposing how abusive and denigrating to oneself and the person quoted when we say ‘So and so said …’, if we have not discerned for ourselves the truth of what is being expressed.
I have to say that in the past and I have caught myself using a term like ‘someone said..’ in order to give some important notice to what I was saying. Instantly I could feel how I was giving my power away to another as I was saying it from the feeling of not being enough myself by saying that, but wanting to try and prove my point which I thought would be more believed if I it came from authorized persons. Interesting learning and for me to observe all areas where I still hold myself back and create situations to give my power away. Time to claim all of my power and not give it away! Thank you Dianne, an absolute confirmation this is to hold my absolute love in every way.
So true Dianne, all that is presented by Serge Benhayon just makes sense and when we scientifically examine it it reveals the truth.
I absolutely love your writing style Dianne – Super powerful but playfully and humorously so. I look forward to meeting you some day in the not too distant future
It’s so true we seem to have this habit of ‘borrowing’ others’ authority to offset our lack of confidence/responsibility. And this often leads to an ugly game of finger-pointing.
I know from my own experience how damaging it is to use or better say misuse the words from someone else and not feel the truth of these words in your own body only to cover up a lack of self worth or to control other one’s behaviour. Like Victoria shared it is abuse and has its effect on everyone involved. Power in words comes from speaking or writing from your own wisdom then love is felt all over.
This is so true, coming from our own experience and love for ourself is much stronger than trying to cover up our self loathing by getting others to speak for us in a sense. We are an authority in life, and when we choose to live something others have proposed we can indeed quote this with our own lived authority.
You have nailed it on the head here Dianne. If we don’t trust in our own authority and lived experience than what rules is the majority or the authority figure. When you gave the examples about at school saying “The teacher said so” is a classic example, from a young age we are bombarded and confronted with what is right and wrong.
I find the times I have grasped for “so and so said’ line, is when I am without my true essence and quality. When I lean on others to back up what I am saying, it feels lazy, a way of trying to avoid the details and patience that is required for the situation.
Using another’s words to validate what we already know ourselves can be both very disempowering and completely disregard our own authority on the matter.
“Then I test it in my own life.” This is so powerful to read Dianne. It has inspired me to really put into practice what I hear in the presentations and books by Serge Benhayon. That is where it becomes magical and also where you can know if it is true or not what is been said. And from there I can as you said share it with the world as a lived truth and not just knowledge.
You are spot on Dianne, speaking from what we know ourselves is essential is we want to offer anything to another that is actually useful in supporting their evolution. Otherwise it is just knowledge without the lived truth of it from our own experience. That just adds to the realms of supposed ‘help’ out there that has not actually helped humanity at all.
Such truth in what you write here Dianne especially in this line today – “And so, in my view, to fly those people like a flag instead of using our own authority, propping up our lack of self-worth and filling in for our fearful reluctance to express what we do actually know, is not a true approach.” You can feel such a difference in our body when you talk from your own authority and then when you use someone else’s authority. It’s like chalk and cheese. As one is true and one is not.
In my experience of attending presentations by Serge Benhayon, never have I heard Serge force information or knowledge on anyone. There is always a choices for who ever is listening to actually accept the teachings or to challenge and rebut them – Serge welcomes it all as it is an opportunity for evolution for all involved and something to work through together.
Personal authority is such an interesting concept – but it’s more then just a concept – it’s actually a reality. Through doing a few Expression Workshops with Serge Benhayon I’ve learnt that we all have an authority on life no matter the subject. The beauty of the lived authority is that there is no right or wrong, just a lived way that accumulates experience that offers us a unique perspective on life. Hearing someone or feeling myself speak from this place, without the need to be right, fit in or having an investment for the other person to agree, leaves such a gorgeous and confirming feeling within.
Serge Benhayon, and his family are showing us that there is a way to live that is staying true to what we deeply know to be truth, and inspiring many of us to reconnect back to the truth we innately know.
We cannot rely on what others know and share if we don’t live it by ourselves and with this everything becomes “a confirmation of a shared truth for all.” The Livingness is exactly this the consistent and constant confirmation of a shared truth for the all.
“It will be from a scientific understanding that when a presented truth continues to prove true with time and testing, you can use it as a good foundation upon which to conduct your experiments and your life affairs.” This is a great point Dianne, that puts science back to the people and don’t make it about some abstract scientific tests, but about what it truly is – the proof of truth through experience.
It would be amazing if schools were to teach the importance of holding on to our truth, our essence, and particularly how not to sell ourselves out to the world, or become hostage to ideals and beliefs.
Living life from truth is something that the majority of us have to re-imprint within ourselves, because as we attend school and begin to explore life in a wider form we start to develop and become dependent on ideals and beliefs to bring us some form of satisfaction to the way we live.
It’s amazing how we try to borrow another’s authority to prove our points. We have lived for whatever long, yet interestingly we often don’t feel confident that we are in a position to express with authority.
Amazing Dianne, so real and true! This blog empowers everybody to step up their own inner-knowing to a higher volume and open their arms for truth. As you say: there is no need for ‘someone said..’ any longer because this truth is confirmed within. It would not make sense to then say it in the name somebody else, unless like you shared it is used to show something to the world and simply call its source.
“When we quote another person who inspires us like Serge Benhayon, it is a confirmation of a shared truth for all.” Very well said Dianne and it is the responsibility of the person who shares a quote to only quote what they themselves are living and therefore experiencing in their own body. Anything else is just recall of a truth that has not been lived yet.
“How often in life have we used what another person said to validate our expression because we didn’t feel we were enough?” And when we do this even if what we’re sharing is truth when it’s not coming from our own livingness others feels this.
Although I never knew why, I knew right from the first meeting that Serge was a man who spoke the truth and it was from this knowing that I kept coming back for more even though my head was telling me that some things didn’t make sense. Thanks for writing this Dianne learning to discern for ourselves is very important over just going with the flow of what someone said.
Hi Dianne – you have exposed many, including myself in regard to not holding our selves and claiming the truth of who we are. Using another to verify or back up what we are saying feels lazy and a bit of a cop-out. Every time this is done we are shifting responsibility in our lives. This has been a great reminder to claim the truth within ourselves and to live that truth and then when asked we will speak from our own livingness and not hold back how amazing we are.
Well said Dianne, Christine I was just about to make a similar response. When we quote others as authority we diminish ours and there is a lack of responsibility or be excused for not living this truth at some level.
A great reminder of how important it is to use ourselves as barometers of truth when it comes to all that we see, hear and feel.
It is indeed a stepping into one’s own authority and power to not rely on what someone else has said but to simply speak from one’s own lived truth which indeed may confirm true wisdom expressed through another.
It’s gorgeous that you describe both sides of the medal: giving power away through citing and through not citing Serge Benhayon. It cracks my lineal thinking mind and the prison of right-wrong-thinking. How freeing it is to start observing the quality and intention in which I choose to act.
I have learnt to speak from my own livingness and not from others words of wisdom to back me up. It is tempting on occasion to reinforce with others words but first we need to be truthful about where we obtained this information!
This is great and feels true to me. Never just quote someone without testing, and living, it ourself first. As it will never have the power of a lived truth.
For a while now I’ve realised that when I want to share an experience with someone I’ve reverted to say ‘I feel’ this sharing coming from an inner lived quality and feels so much more of taking responsibility for what I am offering to another. Where as before attending the many presentations with Serge Benhayon I’d constantly say ‘so and so’ said this or that – very much a shrinking back of my responsibility to express from my lived truth/ experiences and self doubt was huge. (still a work in progress) Amazing blog Dianne and all the following comments are inspirational. Thank you.
Thank you Dianne. I loved reading this again. I have been noticing that I often use what ‘other people said’ as a defense lately. It is very subtle but laced with a communication that I do not trust myself enough to claim what is true for me. When I do this I am giving my power away and it impacts on my relationship with myself and others.
Yes, Dianne, I feel to only quote a truth if it has become my truth otherwise I am an imposter imposing on another.
I couldn’t agree more Dianne, we need to be coming from our own known truth and acknowledge where we received this knowledge before we claim it as our own. With thanks for the reminder.
It is important to feel and discern truth for ourselves and then we can share from this place what it feels to us. Serge shares his truth and asks us to feel into this in order to express our truth. Regurgitating things in parrot fashion is not his way and does Serge and humanity as a whole, a huge disservice.
“It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves”.
Check our deepest innermost instead of Serge said; what you have expressed here Dianne is so very wise, thank you.
Relying upon someone else’s authority is a resource we can all resort to. Often times it works if the people involved have the source of the authority in high esteem. Yet, to claim something on your own authority, expressing from your whole body and holding no reservation, has no parallel.
Thank you Dianne Trussell, this what you had written is very true. And I have to admit that I have used ‘someone said’ to uphigh the situation, myself or other person, but in fact I never claimed my own truth in life. It is important for me now to actually go for the truth I know within myself and stand for that, I also feel that I then do not need any form of ‘someone said’ at all.
Serge Benhayon would never want anyone to say what he said without first discovering for themselves if it is true or not.
Correct Natalie, the first thing that Serge Benhayon taught was how to discern, next it was to connect to truth, not just talk about what he shares in workshops.
When I first read ‘The Way It Is’ by Serge Benhayon I frequently said “What?” as it brought me up against my absorbed beliefs. On my second reading of the book I found myself saying “Possibly” as I questioned where my beliefs came from. On the third reading of the book I could feel the truth of the words as I read them without the smoke screen of my prejudiced beliefs that I had absorbed from others telling me how things were. Serge Benhayon has shown me how to feel for myself what is true and what is not.
I love what you have said here Mary; the progression from “What” to “Possibly”, to finally feeling the truth. I had a similar experience when I read the book, and every time I had a what moment I would simply put it to one side and somewhere down the track I would pick it up again and without fail say – yes, that makes sense. This journey with Serge Benhayon has been one of such learning, such joy and lots of fun, with not one moment of being told what to do or believe, but many moments encouraging me to feel and know it for myself.
It is not the spoken words but the quality of livingness in my body that truly inspires others to feel the light within themselves regardless of their situation.
I agree Francisco, it is the quality of how we are living that most inspires and sometimes fascinates people.
I agree Francisco. I use less words now and let my livingness speak for itself and I know that others are feeling this.
How true this is – I have witnessed people say very little but their livingness expresses to all loud and clear!
I have not come across any teacher or philosophy that so deeply asks you to connect to your own truth – there is nothing I have come across that asks for that level of responsibility. Serge Benhayon is someone who has dedicated his life to feeling his inner-heart and Soul and expressing from there. And with each presentation he always says to feel this for yourself – the thing that I have come to understand is that great teachers live in a way that connects them to universal truths which relate to us all – and in this age of individualism and relativism it can be a hard pill to swallow that someone else has such access to truth and love when we are sold the picture that if we get a good job, fall in love, have children – then our lives will be fulfilling. Thing is, that emptiness feeling grows and grows and if we are not stuffing our face with food or other substances (including media) to numb ourselves, we can feel that yearning for something more in life.. Serge doesn’t make the pill hard to swallow at all – he expresses with such grace, understanding and equality – and at the same time with such power and authority. It is when we feel this quality from Serge and the fact that we have not claimed this for ourselves which is the biggest ouch – but he talks about this.. and anything else that is there to expose and support people through. This guy is the real deal by the very fact that he calls us all back to the same qualities of God which live in us and he can do this because he lives them everyday…
A beautiful testimonial Sarah – I absolutely agree that Serge Benhayon is dedicated to life and has inspired so many people even to ask the question of ‘is there more to how I am living than this’ To even start to see the world in this way and perhaps consider taking responsibility for our choices, is the start to a huge shift in the state of the world today – riddled with preventable illness and disease.
Serge is the real deal, I love what you truthfully share here about Serge Benhayon.
“Darn it “ indeed Dianne, as a reflection of true expression Serge Benhayon is without peer.
Wonderful wise Dianne I love what your share in your powerful and clear blog. I can say from myself that I am not an intellectual person and I always thought that I was less because of this. To allow myself to find my own wisdom that is inside of me is an ongoing thing and my inner knowing is growing every day. While I was making myself small in terms of intellectuality I could sometimes feel that something what was said in name of it was not true. Therefore I love what you wrote: “And when I say truly, I mean truly, because we do tend to go through life with a lot of habits of knowing and feeling that are not from truth when deeply examined.” This is important because only if it is truly lived on a daily basis than for me it is truly and deeply examined.
“It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves.” This is an awesome statement Dianne. The only truth I can ever truly deeply confirm is that of my own true innermost heart, everything else is open to speculation. Our world is living proof of where, hearsay, blind acceptance and quoting others from the mind without true self confirmation in our body, can lead us…….the perpetuation of gross, blatant and widely countenanced lies from generation to generation.
Getting carried away with others momentums I know this one well, feeling that perhaps its an easier route to take and agreeing what another shares (he said, she said) to feel deep inside to what is our truth and taking responsibility for that is more of us expressing and living our truth not that of another. A very inspired sharing Dianne thank you.
Well said Jonathan. Wearing a lab coat or priest’s robes can be seen as no different to leaning on another’s words to gain some traction or authority – if the truth presented and spoken is not from what is lived and known by the person delivering it.
We have surely seen enough of this to know it as fact.
Reading this blog is the greatest breath of fresh air Dianne, thank-you.
You’ve nailed the abuse in such behaviour – abuse both to person and to truth here – when one flies “those people [i.e. what another has said] like a flag instead of using our own authority”. I’ve seen this a-plenty and know myself what it is to use others’ words when I am hurt and don’t want to take the responsibility of communicating truly from me. Such behaviour serves no-one.
With deep appreciation for the deft way in which you have exposed what can go on and our responsibility in this picture, and also the sharing of your own claimed way of expressing truth from what you have thoroughly discerned and felt for yourself. We simply needn’t ever be more than that to make a point.
Ah… what an absolutely joyful read for today, thank-you!
Great point Victoria here in that speaking without the authority of our own livingness but that of another, is not only harming to ourselves but to the other. Whenever we try and make something up to fit a picture I can feel we open ourselves to this harm, but whenever we speak from the wisdom and knowing of our bodies, this is our true authority. To me, our bodies are always the key.
I had never really given this much consideration but when I read this blog and your comment Victoria I was like, absolutely this makes sense. I have used the words of others when I lacked my own authority on the subject (and not as a support to what I am saying) and I can see that it is another form of irresponsibility when we dont want to take full responsibility for what we are saying. I can hide behind other people’s words or use them to test the waters because if the receiver does not like it, well it was not my words. Sneaky and it is as you say, abuse to both the person and to truth. Ouch.
Absolutely agree Victoria, we needn’t be more than our natural selves to make a point!
Yes, I totally agree Victoria that Dianne has nailed the abuse clearly and succinctly. It is an abuse that most often is not acknowledged.
Great blog thanks Dianne,Yes I have found myself coming from my head and using anothers name to reinforce what I express, it leaves me feeling rather less… you can’t beat the feeling of expressing from your body with that whole knowingness and truth and the lovely completeness that this leaves one in.
It’s taken a while for me to get to feeling something from my truly lived experienced of it. It happens when what I know to be true is coming from my whole body, feeling that I’ve walked it somewhere along the way. It’s like a piece of me, making a part of the whole of me and it comes from the minutest part of me. My cells breath it and it has no boundary. It’s expansive and it’s the same truth for everyone. I know I have said plenty of times in the past ‘Serge says’ but I can now feel how empty those words were. Even though they were true words they weren’t truth as truth is only spoken from the body and being. When I said them they came to me, not from me.
“It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves.”- great and very important point you make Dianne. Instead of taking on what another says because they appear to have more knowledge on the subject.
Well said Shami, it really is a question about being willing to take full responsibility, and I feel there is always more depth to go with that for me.
Dianne, I love your blog, and it does make a lot of sense. It’s to the point, written with humour and understanding and clarity. It is not fair on anybody to use them for what they said at some point. Just feeling into this it feels to me that I often haven’t said what I truly felt right there and then, because of fearing that somebody will then take it out of context and come back at me with it, judging it. Time to let that one go. I also wish to acknowledge, that I love every word Serge says, even if I sometimes may have not been ‘ready’ to truly hear it. But it’s for me to really embody the wisdom I receive from him and then share with others, from living and embodying that wisdom to the best of my ability, not just leaving it as ‘great words Serge’. What Serge shares is all about living it, not about lip service.
Powerful words Floris well written, generally curriculums in schools and universities world wide are unvarying and almost monotonous, our role models are chosen from the media. We live in a world full of copies. What we desperately need is more diversity.
“…a brilliant warning of the pitfalls of skidding about on the surface using other people’s names as collateral in our lack of responsibility.” Wow! Love this, Matilda. I completely agree with you.
Well said, Caroline.
I feel there is an element of distrust that we feel in these circumstances, but rather than commit to building consistency in our own expression which allows others to trust us, we defer to someone else’s expression to ‘back us up’ in order for people to trust what we are saying. But doesn’t this just serve to deepen the distrust that is already there? It is really up to us to be as consistent in our expression of truth as possible, therefore the need to bring in another’s expression is not there anymore.
Yes I agree Robyn. Sometimes there is self-doubt for me, so to get another’s “back up” let’s me feel “I’m ok” or “I’m right”. It’s not about being right though, but connecting to the truth within.
Me too, Tamara. Thank goodness we stopped ourselves before we alienated our friends and family too much! Now that is exactly the opposite of what “Serge says”!!
I can relate to times when I’ve used the ‘so and so said’ but then notice that the rest of the information can’t be accessed because it is not my experience. I find that I’ll get questioned more aggressively, or the other person shuts down and there is a sense of getting lost. When I am able to express something in my own words as it has been lived or experienced by me, there is a sense of steadiness and also a no need for anyone to get it. I can refer to the original source as part of the conversation but not as the sole basis for what I am sharing.
When we speak from our experiences another can truly hear. Otherwise it is just noise and knowledge coming at you and you switch off. So many presenters in all fields speak like this and wonder why the participants are not getting the results. It must be lived and then the wisdom can be expressed.
Wise words Gail. When we speak from our experiences it really does let the other person receive the support of what we are sharing. If I share from my head the words can feel a bit empty even if what I am saying is true.
Great point Gail, if the presenter is not living what he presents, the participants walk away empty, thinking there is something wrong with them.
Beautifully encapsulated Gail. “just noise” – yep, bang on…
Brings back memories of thinking I ‘should’ be ‘getting more’ from the noise being spoken, and makes me appreciate all the more, how I have never for one moment felt this way when Serge Benhayon speaks – he speaks from lived truth and his voice resonates more deeply with all that is true within me, more than any other I have ever heard. Fact.
A really powerful sharing with us Diane, one that I sat with for a while to feel the consequence of my past actions. At different times in my life when situations got difficult or I felt pushed into a corner – even from childhood at times I would blame another for that said predicament. ‘Passing the buck’ to not having to deal with the outcome! Since listening to Serge Benhayon presenting and, with time, taking back responsibility for my actions, words and thoughts and my way of living to what I feel is my truth the blame game has stopped. Not putting another on a higher pedestal and allowing myself to feel less able to contribute to life.
A great and revealing read Dianne. I got to considering more what its like when we go into speaking from the head, from knowledge, and maybe from quoting another (particularly someone as amazing as Serge Benhayon) to ‘try’ and ‘prove’ something. What I realised was how forceful, judgemental and arrogant this can be. It’s like we turn something that with an iota of equality and application could be a very simple everyday known and experienced truth (as you describe by checking things out for yourself, and only if there is lived ‘evidence’, claiming them as your own) – but without the application to our own life, it is not yet our lived experience, and cannot be shared from our body, only the words of another, which no matter how true, revelationary and amazing, when not delivered from our body, do not contain truth at all – but is empty words.
The arrogance is that we try and ‘own’ the knowledge, from a place of making ourselves less than it, but identifying with having access to it, and quote it in a way that says others don’t have access, so there is also judgement. The forcefulness is felt in someone being identified with the knowledge and having a need or attachment to proving something.
Unfortunately I speak from experience with this, and it feels equally as awful to ‘dish out’ as it does to receive. I love the way you pretty much describe your daily life as a science experiment – and become more aware, and free, from all you discover – and when you speak from the understandings you come to Dianne, the lived authority and open curiosity to discover more is very gorgeous – and super inspiring.
Dianne, I love your article! It contains so much truth and it`s such an important topic to ponder on. How often I hear people start their sentences with “But Serge said…” “Natalie said…” and I also have done this in the past. But what we share then is hardly ever the truth, one of the Benhayons spoke. It`s their words mixed with what we let in, eg seeking to be heard and seen, justifying our own words, avoiding feelings of insecurity and low self worth and many more, often without even realizing it.
It`s important for us to honestly feel into it, when these words are used. Our body tells us immediately if what is shared is really true and if it`s not, it would be great if we would express that in a loving way to express our own truth.
Great point you make here Caroline. I hear wisdom coming form the mouths of the young people around me daily. My newest teacher is my 5-year-old grandson, and its true his words come without an ounce of meanness.
What great blog Dianne, the old “Serge said “doesn’t work as we can only speak with authority from the mastery of what is lived .Its like the the smoking doctor telling his patients to stop smoking , doesn’t come with true authority. In my opinion thats why people are so disinterested and disillusioned with politicians for they don’t deliver what they are saying with lived truth a lot of the time i.e. just empty words.
‘It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves.’ This speaks volumes to me Dianne. The ultimate responsibility is with checking in with that deepest part of us – if we commit to that and perpetually feel what is happening in and around us we truly evolve.
I have really enjoyed opening up Serge Benhayon’s book, “Esoteric Teachings and Revelations”, at any page and seeing what is there to be offered for the moment. It can work like that, bringing a point of reflection to my life. This is a great way to access the Ageless Wisdom and is so personal yet not self orientated, as it always expands out one’s viewpoint towards life. Each saying is such a great point of ongoing reflection, sometimes as it unfolded for me I have felt to share it with others. I have noticed when I do this from what has unfolded in a very personal way, it always comes across very truthfully, whereas times where I have used it as a quote, it has always left a bit of an empty feeling in the interaction or I have tried to go into explaining it or how it relates to me and it doesn’t flow.
It’s fascinating how us as a society on a whole do not believe that what we have to say can make a difference or be powerful without adding a quote or ‘reference’ into it. I think it comes down to our growing lack of self worth, and the fact we don’t actually appreciate what we can bring to the people around us and the community each and every day… Would we still feel the need to use ‘so and so said’ if we actually connected to and celebrated our own individual expression and power in full?
Awesomely said Susie. And how freeing for EVERYONE – when we no longer need to try or pretend to be ‘more’ (more ‘knowledgeable’, more ‘authoritative’, more ‘aware’…), and we let ourselves be ourselves.
Phew… world communications just took on a whole different tone. Thank-you.
I love what this blog inspires. I can feel how valuable it would be to pause when I am reaching out for dropping a name and saying eg “Serge Benhayon said”. This pause could provide an opportunity for me to feel what there is for me to say, to accept that I am enough in my expression and to say it in my own words claimed in my power. Or it could be that if I find I cannot find the words because I have not really built a lived understanding of the subject, then this provides clear evidence that there is room for me to deepen my understanding by applying it into my life. Thank you. A great insight.
Yes, Golnaz, a pause can be such a valuable moment for us – and thus for anyone we are communicating with… In that pause, we may also get in touch with any hurt we may be feeling that is making us feel like we want to use someone else’s words to gain some traction or authority. What an opportunity this offers, to be more honest with ourselves and others, and responsibly deal with the hurt first within ourselves that can lead us to want to speak in such a way.
There is a game that’s being played when we hide behind someone else. A game that I have played for far too long and one that is futile, as all it does is delay us living our truth. In the end we ALL know what feels true for us. There may be things that get in the way of us living that e.g. Feeling reserved or not being used to standing out or fear of ridicule BUT there is such an empowerment when we live what is true for us. I find I fall in Love with myself more and more when I do and life feels much much easier and is enjoyable.
So true Dianne, whenever I have used ‘Serge said…’, or anyone else for that matter, my words either fall flat, or at best are ‘impressive’ because they might sound wise or appropriate. But truth is, they offer nothing of inspiration to the listener because they don’t come from my own lived experience… and hence are heard as just words. True change comes from true inspiration… where the listener can feel that you have lived what you say, and by virtue of us both being the same in our essence…if you can, so can they.
“How often in life have we used what another person said to validate our expression because we didn’t feel we were enough? …” Isn’t this what we see hundreds of times a day through advertising? It seems people need to see a professional cricketer drinking a beer to know it will taste right; or soapie actor using a cleaning product before we trust that product on ourselves. This is ridiculous and yet it works – more profits rise when celebrities are used to endorse products. Why is this so? We have lost sight of our inner knowing. We do not trust that we DO know what to do in any given situation and so open the door to the outside to manipulate us all the way.
Serge Benhayon could easily step into those celebrities’ shoes and tell people what to do, and yet he doesn’t and never has. Because Serge knows that we DO know; we don’t need him to tell us what to do or say, we just need to be taught that we know in the first instance. We often use the phrase ‘out of the mouths of babes’, which means a young person has said something profound and wise that we weren’t expecting. We think it’s because they have learned it or copied it from an adult, but I don’t think so. I think the wisdom is innate in them already, it’s jsut been tapped in to. Never will we need another to validate our choices because we are already to be trusted.
Serge Benhayon and all the practitioners of Universal Medicine are great sources of wisdom and can enlighten any conversation or group discussion and what they say, we could quote in their absence. But there are two things to consider – are we quoting correctly and are we delivering the quote with the same lived wisdom? It is the belief that they are needed to lead us or their words mean more than ours that stop us from actually taking the responsibility and expressing what needs to be expressed. Their bountifully glorious light is equal in us all, if we choose to live by it.
As soon as we put ourselves as less (or more) important than another we have set up the imbalance that is the source of all division and inequality in life. I feel the service of asking for advice from someone (be that a doctor, plumber, teacher, child) as an equal. Knowing our authority and wisdom and appreciating the work this other has done to arrive at a place where they have specialist information at their fingertips honours us all and establishes a sustainable, unifying foundation for humanity.
Dianne, from reading this, I’ve been inspired to ask myself, where in my life do I/have I deferred to another’s viewpoint so that I can spot opportunities where I can refer to my own wisdom too.
I’ve had a habit of bestowing others with an expertise I think I’ve not got because I had less experience in some way; deferring to others in this way meant I buried my own authority. This began when I was young and realised I understood the world in a very different way to that which was being presented to me at school and home. I found out at school my understanding didn’t have currency so took it upon myself to learn the world’s ways because I wanted to survive.
Always looking outside of myself, to others for answers has meant I walked further and further from my true wisdom which lies within. It wasn’t until I heard Serge Benhayon present on the audience discerning for themselves what he presents as being of truth or not that I started to check in with myself. I was very lost until I started choosing to check in more than check out. Connecting with and trusting I have a wisdom to express is a wonderful work in progress.
Isn’t it funny that Serge presents that we all have the same access to wisdom and we still use him and what he said as our access to wisdom. Looks like we trust more in him than in ourselves.
I once was saying to Serge that I now can feel the love in him – I was so happy and proud about it, expected that he will celebrate me for it – and he said: “Thats ok, you have to start with someone”.
Haha… very true, Sandra. By feeling the love in Serge Benhayon we are reminded that we are this same love. It is then for us to allow ourselves to feel this rather than just defer to Serge, as it seems the majority (if not almost all) of us who know him have done at one point or another. When we do embrace this love within we are then a person that another can feel love in, and so the reflection of love continues.
Inspiring someone by how we live is so different to ‘following’ someone. My experience is that when I am inspired I am taking responsibility for myself and making changes in my life that can support me to live like the person I am inspired by but in my own way. Whereas when we ‘follow’ someone there is no responsibility being taken at all for ourselves therefore no lasting change can occur. The distinction is very clear to me and what Serge Benhayon offers is only ever by way of inspiration.
Love this example Sandra and I agree we tend to give our responsibility to someone else in this case Serge. I have been preaching with words of Serge without having lived what I was telling someone else to do. Giving my power away was so easy. To trust my inner feelings is a process and will deepen the more I live what I know is true.
Karin I can see similar patterns that I have had in deferring to others, because I lacked confidence or felt I did not have enough expertise. What I am realising is that simply expressing what I feel on a topic is enough, even if I’m not an expert. As you say we all have an inner wisdom and we should not negate that in ourselves or in others.
Karin I can really relate to what you are saying about walking away from out true wisdom in preference to the accepted hierarchy of knowledge, intelligence and wisdom we get taught in schools. Those with a degree know more and are to be deferred to. I’m only coming to fully know the sensitivity I have to what is going on around me and that is true wisdom but I have successfully suppressed the awareness and hence expression of this for too many years. I’m looking forward to learning to trust my inner wisdom again.
It is a very insightful point you make monicag2 and has made me stop and ponder where and why I do not honour myself by denying my wisdom.
What you say Diane is true, most students, myself included, have used Serge Benhayon as a crutch during their development, without living it for themselves first.The point that sits with me still, is about the necessity to tweak our livingness as we evolve, I can feel how I resist making changes and it only serves to hold me back as I am not supporting or appreciating the changes I have made. I felt to quote Serge here, but nothing suitable came to mind..
I love this Susie, the world is constantly looking at ways to get to the next level with out the required work. I have used this way of doing (not doing) in my own life and the results have been dismal. The shortcuts don’t truly exist but in the mind of those not prepared to deeply look at that which wants them to avoid the work in the first place.
True inspiration is offered when someone has breathed their own breath, walked their own path in such a way that others want to follow their example and live like them with the same commitment and dedication and love, because they can feel how true this person is.
Expressing from my body and all my lived experiences is far more powerful and evolutionary than when I express from my head using other’s words to try and prove a point.
Same here Fransisco, when I express from my lived experience and from my body, I too find it is way more powerful and evolutionary than when I express from my head.
Great pick up Robyn and Francisco. Both the ‘trying’ and the ‘proving’ both feel so imposing, (loaded or forceful), possibly judgemental, and even somewhat arrogant, and more like wanting someone to see whats ‘right’ than just a simple natural truth from our own everyday experience that is delivered without need or attachment for someone to ‘get it’, or as Dianne highlights, our own identity or worth being tied up in any particular response. There is quite a lot offered in these two comments.
Great point Robynjones. I can now feel clearly in my body if I’ve slipped into a familiar pattern of trying to prove something or get someone to come around to a certain point of view and it is now deeply uncomfortable. I know it’s my mind driving the conversation and not surprisingly it doesn’t flow whereas the truth expressed just resonates in my whole body.
Hear hear Simon – education in truth.
Absolutely Denise – to express from what is truly lived is simply to confirm what we already know, this does indeed come with a confidence.
‘Then when we quote another person who inspires us like Serge Benhayon, it is a confirmation of a shared truth for all.’ This is a lovely sentence, Dianne, as it reminds me that truth is there for all to know – it’s not someone’s intellectual property. By expressing truth we confirm what already exists within each of us.
A fitting tribute to the unifying power of shared wisdom and truth shared. Thank you, Sandra and Dianne.
I too have quoted Serge and others usually because I haven’t fully connected to the truth of what I’m trying to express and therefore can’t quite put it into words. So then a quote can just be empty words to the listener and they will not grasp the depth of what was originally said if it is not being spoken with the energy that it was originally delivered in. Also it often does not come with the same authority as when we speak the truth from a knowing within ourselves. Yet were we to share from our lived experience, like you juliamanbos with your walk, then it can inspire others if they are open to it.
“It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves.”
Such an important point Dianne. When connected to our innermost wisdom is known, unlike taking for granted what people in authority say, without feeling if energetically it feels true.
To say, so and so said something, rather than expressing one’s truth allows for interpretation. This can lead to misunderstanding and the bastardisation of the truth which results in a false truth. The consequence of this leads to argument and eventually conflict as to who are the actual representatives. How many wars have been fought with each claiming to be the upholders of truth?
What you share is great Dianne. Any expression that comes from such a concept is not authentic and has no authority, can be smelt a mile away and feels awful in our own body. When we repeat words that we have not truly felt for ourselves, that don’t come as a natural response from our knowing body, we are not coming from the intelligence of the heart, the intelligence that we all hold.
As I have learnt, there is such a huge difference between living and expressing what we know to be True because it has come from us and using other people’s words to back ourselves up. It is very disempowering to do this for ourselves and I have found it is very disrespectful to the person we are refering to as they are not there to speak for themselves, giving rise for those words to be misquoted or misinterpreted. It is using another for our own gain.
Imagine if teachers opened the lesson with “I’m going to present something to you today, but don’t take my word for it…..” Imagine how that would empower the pupils to be themselves and to claim their own truths. Imagine also the relationship of trust that it would build between pupil and teacher.
Ottobathurst considering that phrase coming from a teacher is music to my heart “I’m going to present something to you today, but don’t take my word for it…..” I could never understand why people kept saying school days are the best years of your life, because although I love learning everything about school felt heavy and imprisoning. That invitation of “don’t take my word for it” which invites you to join in as an equal and build your own relationship with the information presented, just like Serge Benhayon has been inviting when he presents, would make school be so much more fun, interesting and empowering.
Rowenakstewart – what you say about teachers finding it threatening is very true. I would add that there is another factor at play here. Teachers are under such enormous pressure from the government curriculums and external pressures of grades – so much so that now I believe that teachers pay in some schools is related to the performance of the children!! This is so insane and creates such a pressurised environment and IMMENSE tension for the teachers. A hideous way to have to work – and the very last way to encourage any kind of open, flexible debate or nurtured equality between teacher and pupil. It becomes all about forcing the facts in to the childrens’ heads so that they can be reproduced on some exam and boxes can be ticked, protocols adhered to and benchmarks achieved. All at the total abandonment of the individual child and the innate wisdom that they already have. It’s crazy what we are doing to the next generation.
“Children and adults are equal”. “Hurray! Something I learnt from a french school program for children between the ages of 11 and 15 a long time ago, I always wanted to believe it because of the integrity of the person who told me. It’s great to get some confirmation.
Agreed Dianne, ‘I say with no reservation that Serge Benhayon is the greatest teacher I have had in this life, and I will go on learning from him for as long as I draw breath…..’, what he says resonates and makes sense at a very deep level.
So true Coleen. The true evidence is within and can be connected to in stillness, some times we are the stumbling block as we hesitate to to believe in what comes to us.
When I am in my authority what I know from my lived experience flows freely from my body and I can also express that ‘I do not know something exactly and will need to feel into it, or research it’ with the same authority. This is beautifully liberating compared to needing to be right or know everything or shifting my authority to another person.
Yes. It feels ok to me to share what someone else says in the form of a point to ponder. As long as it’s not claimed as my own knowing if it is not so.
Thank you Dianne, your expression here is important because nothing is sustainable if it comes from another’s experience that we attempt to transplant into our own. It becomes like a foreign body that is fought against. We must make true connection with what is presented and your sharing is a pertinent reminder of that. I always find it difficult to remain on track if something is not true and I can at times take some time to assess for myself what Serge Benhayon presents. At other times it is like a light bulb moment of confirmation of what I already deeply recognise and know.
It is the walking that gives our talking power when it comes to truth.
Yes, I love this Eduardo. Right and wrong will never bring us closer to truth – only delay us in taking responsibility and making life about the things that truly evolve us – truth and love.
This is a brilliant blog Dianne, thank you. I can only truly speak with authority if I have come to know the truth of something through my own lived experience. If it is known and lived through the body the foundation is unshakeable.
Serge Benhayon and all he presents continually inspire me.
The part you’ve highlighted Kathrynfortuna is great. I have certainly done this in the past. I find when I share from my lived experience, it’s real and it’s relatable but when I am quoting from someone else’s words it’s because I have not yet understood it or lived what I am trying to express. It’s like I am scrambling for information as back up to prove a point. This blog is awesome, it exposes what I have been doing which I have not given much attention to. It also inspires me to be super aware to not giving my power away and to connect to my body to discern for myself what is truth.
Feeling the truth of words for ourselves, and living what we preach is part of the Way of the Livingness. Living our truth is the pull to God that others feel from one who is living their inner most.
Yes, he has Francisco. Although we are taught from an early age how to remember and regurgitate sayings, facts and figures, what Serge specifically has said time and time again is that this is not living the truth, only saying words that might be true in themselves, but have no power to them unless the truth behind them is lived. And if the truth is lived the words come out differently than how they were first delivered, because they are your words and your truth. Not someone else’s.
This is a dearly important subject matter to me as I can see that for much of my life I have struggled to validate my own feelings and either turned to the point of view of another or shrunken in a discussion. I can feel this happen with my explanations of how much common sense Serge Benhayon makes for me of the world and what goes on, but I know it is my responsibility and a beautiful one at that to work on expressing that in my words from what I live and what I feel.
There is nothing more powerful than an individual claimed expression of a truth. A regurgitated truth from the mouth of one who has not accepted, claimed or lived that truth has zero power, no matter what the words are.
Simple words in down-to-earth language mean so much more to people than any quote because they can relate to your experience and it connects them back to the way they live and they may be inspired to try out something different from seeing what has happened to you as a result of your choices. Stephen, it’s lovely how you see that it is a ‘responsibility and a beautiful one at that’.
Dianne, this is such a powerfull blog. It supports everyone reading it to feel for our selves where we are still “using” another person to validate our expression because we do not feel that we are enough and where we speak from confirming through our own lived experience the truth of what has been said. How powerful to brake this pattern and express from our own lived truth.
Listening to any words in the head keeps them there, bouncing around the head, that was how I used to take in most of my information, by hearing it with my ears. When we feel something within the body, it has a resonance, a vibration, a sense that causes a physical change to us. It’s a totally different experience to embody it and live it.
Like you Gilrandall, I used to take in information by listening from my head. How different is it now to feel words first from the body – this not only brings a greater clarity about what is being said, but feeling in the body first allows a discernment as to whether the words come from truth and hence whether it is something we feel to embody or discard.
Well said gillrandall – this is how most people are taught to deal with anything that is being expressed, to analyse it with the head and as you say the words keep ‘bouncing around’ until we find the ‘correct’ solution or response – as opposed to feeling the words from the body before we respond/express to them.
I appreciate that you have pulled us up to a greater responsibility and accountability Dianne, not to use others quotes (such as Serge Benhayon or others) to prop ourselves up, and to actually test things out for ourselves. Otherwise we are simply repeating regurgitated information with no lived experience in our lives. I have found when I do this people feel my insincerity and generally react (rightly so) to the peals of wisdom (borrowed knowledge) I am spouting.
Yes, Thomas, even though the original quote may have resonated with many, when we speak it as ‘borrowed knowledge ‘ it no longer carries the ring of truth. I have experienced people’s reactions when I parrot information and by contrast the profound stillness in a room when the truth speaks through me. It stops people and can touch them deeply if they let it in.
You have raised and brought light to a most important point Dianne, we cannot afford to be quoting Serge Benhayon if we are only talking the talk and not walking the walk. In other words if we are not living and embodying what Serge is teaching then we are simply parroting what he says, which does great harm to the truths he is sharing with us. If we are living and embodying the teachings then is it really necessary to quote Serge as we have now made the teaching our lived experience?
Thank you Dianne for your great observations, I would expect nothing less from the amazing scientist that you are. I too have observed how we can tend to look for “back up” when we express something difficult or challenging, we feel we are not enough on our own to deliver with authority what is there to be said, so instead we look around for another to support and confirm. I too have been deeply inspired by Serge Benhayon and his ability to express truth no matter what. In a world that is out of control with so much abuse, thank God for someone who is prepared to speak up no matter what, inspiring others to know it is safe to do the same.
I agree Simplesimon. Beautifully expressed with so much truth.
To add to that, it felt degrading in regards to myself AND the practitioner!
Well presented, Diane. I usually quote Serge, and other presenters, like yourself, with the full joy of having felt the truth of what was said. But I remember, once I used a practitioner’s words to prop myself up because I felt the other person didn’t want to believe me or take me seriously, and it felt sooo degrading!
Cathy thats made me consider deeper on the fact that in my understanding of science you have to quote and reference others to bring credibility to what you say. So not only does this happen in day-to-day conversations where if challenged on a topic I find that I can use the name or reference of another to re-buff the challenge or get my point across but its promoted throughout education. Time to re-claim my truth and confidence in that.
Yes, by using others authority instead of our innate wisdom, we are in fact reducing ourselves, ‘We can elevate others at the same time as put ourselves down’.
Thank you Diane for this very informative blog bringing a deeper awareness to all we say an feel and how we express in this.The responsibility we all hold is enormous to connect to our innermost and express from our hearts clearly and simply with no emotions or reactions only from our lived truth. This is Beautiful and confirming.
Great share simplesimon888, that truly is education, and all that you describe is the same education I too have received through workshops, presentations, courses etc from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
What I have come to discover is that when I learn something through an experience, and then share from this experience, it always feels good in my body, whereas if I share something I have not experienced the difference is noticed in my body and normally because I have an investment, and as soon as I have an investment, my expression changes and no longer is my true expression.
That’s true, as soon as we want someone to ‘get it’ we impose something on another and they are likely to close up and not be able to receive what we are trying to convey. It doesn’t feel good in the body – it’s like we have tried to give someone something and we’re left holding it because they haven’t taken it, but we didn’t look first to see if it was something they needed.
I agree Denise, when spoken from my body as my own lived experience the words flow easily, there is a knowing behind what is said, and there is no hesitation in replying to questions asked, as all the answers are already within me. Being my own experience is what gives authority and truth to what I say, and a true confidence in expressing it.
Nearly always I have been able to connect with what Serge Benhayon has spoken of even though at times it has stirred up things that I have chosen to not do or deal with and this can leave me squirming in my seat. There are a lot of aha moments for me in what he presents and if there are times when at first I don’t understand it, when I am honest with myself there is always a reflection for me to feel not long after, that leaves me seeing for myself the truth in what he has spoken of. But of profound confirmation of everything that Serge Benhayon has presented, has been the Science course I have been attending being run by the College of Universal Medicine. It has proven beyond doubt that the universe works by everything working together. The order and harmony in which the universe is forever evolving is reflecting to us true brotherhood. Everything and everyone has there own individual and equal responsible role to play no matter how much we may deny it. As we are all part of this glorious universe, is there any wonder that to go against this amazing and beautiful magnetic pull, causes so much stress and anxiety in our bodies leading to exhaustion, illness and disease amongst us humans on this planet earth.
Beautifully said Deidre.
I too am a student of ‘Modern Science Meets the Ancient Wisdom’, brilliantly presented by Dianne Trussell for COUM and I have also been astonished at the revelations of the nature of the universe, most if not all of which correlate perfectly with the presentations of the Ancient Wisdom by Serge Benhayon, a man with no scientific background whatsoever but clearly living a connection so profound that he is able to transcend academic learning by intimately connecting to the very source of the perceptible creation.
Your reading of the consequences of resisting/opposing this stupendous rhythmic flow that forms ourselves, our world and beyond is to me, spot on.
Great comment Deirdre, I can vouch for the science course also and am learning just how impersonal energy is. I love this “It has proven beyond doubt that the universe works by everything working together. The order and harmony in which the universe is forever evolving is reflecting to us true brotherhood. Everything and everyone has there own individual and equal responsible role to play no matter how much we may deny it.” It is when we fight this and take things personally that we end up in the mess you described so beautifully in your closing sentence that is so worth repeating here.,” As we are all part of this glorious universe, is there any wonder that to go against this amazing and beautiful magnetic pull, causes so much stress and anxiety in our bodies leading to exhaustion, illness and disease amongst us humans on this planet earth.” Well said.
Education in truth, for sure Simon! The best teachers empower the students, and Serge is the most empowering teacher I know and a role model for how true education can be.
“It’s fine to put forth the possibility that what someone else said is worth looking at and may be gobsmackingly, world-changingly true, as long as we are the ‘marker of truth’ ourselves – we are speaking from the fullness of our self-love and confidence and what feels true to us regardless of who said what.” – This is exactly it Dianne, and how obvious is it when people do repeat what they have heard yet have not embraced as their own truth and live it in daily life, one can feel this in both accounts.
Eduardo I love how clearly and simply you have encapsulated what Dianne has stated in your own words from your own truth. It really comes down to the energy behind the words and the intention from that, which is either to advance the truth with ones own unique expression, or to cover it or redefine it from one’s own sense of self protection. I particularly appreciate how Dianne has not made it a blatant should or shouldn’t quote another person, but to be accountable to ones own true expression first.
Using others to validate ourselves has been going on for a long time and it is really great to read a blog about how it cannot and does not work. What I have noticed is that it usually causes a massive reaction in whoever is on the other end of it. It is a deeply dishonest way of relating.
From the first time I met Serge Benhayon I saw how he encouraged people to put his teachings to the test, to try them out for themselves and see and feel if they worked or not. This was new to me as in my life and especially my university training you could barely write a sentence without having to quote someone else that thought like you did! I certainly was never taught to re-connect to my own knowing. So it was refreshing to have someone like Serge Benhayon encourage me to not believe him but to simply try it out for myself and then have it as my own truth whatever I found. This is the way of the future, the true education of the future.
Very well said, Elizabeth. To honour the inner knowing we all have and support us to re-connect to it is definitely the way forward. Universal Medicine presents a true educational model for the future, as you so rightly say.
Beautifully said, thank you Elizabeth.
Wow super powerful Elizabeth. So true that we have been taught to give our power away to look for others to tell us what to think, in science today if you try and introduce a new concept/idea you are shot down and asked for “evidence” and “proof” imagine if science was always like that, I wonder where we would be today – the great philosophers would definitely not stand a chance.
Yes, I agree Kathryn and I love this Dianne. If we deeply feel something to be true, we have the authority to speak it so from our own lived experience. It goes to show just how far we have gone from living and expressing the enormity of what we know within in our daily interactions – and instead have resorted to a life of intellectual recall of knowledge.
Thank you Simplesimon888, you’ve highlighted for me the role education has played in my life to give my power away, to accept that “this is the way it is”, and not test things out for myself. In school anyone who didn’t fit and accept the prescribed “mould” was called a rebel, a bad seed, or a disruption. There was a negative connotation to anyone who refused to swallow and live the prescribed “truth”. In fact, even questioning things got students in trouble. Even being labelled a “free thinker” suggested a person was either somehow dangerous to society or living on the fringes and not to be taken seriously. My education was a breeding ground for apathy, complacency and disempowerment instead of encouraging me to become a kind of scientist of life testing things out for myself. Serge Benhayon is definitely the first person I’ve met that says “don’t take my word for it, you feel for yourself” etc.
I agree Melinda and Simon, I remember in school how confusing it was that my body knew it wasn’t truth, yet was being told it was. It’s this type of education that seeded a lot of self doubt in me. Serge Benhayon is an educator that comes from his truth and allows the student to feel the power they hold in their own body to know the truth. For many students of Universal Medicine in this life it’s the first taste of true education.
Meeting Serge Benhayon has allowed me the opportunity to develop an intimate relationship with myself and what feels true for me, I no longer live my life being complacent to others but have learnt and continue to learn to honour the wisdom within me.
Me too Francisco, and learning how to honour the wisdom within has been an incredible gift in regards to boosting my confidence, self-esteem, authenticity, humility, health, wellbeing and lifestyle. What a gift.
We also give our power away when others bully or say terrible things about us and we take it on as a truth. I know I’ve done that in the sense that I’ve taken on a negative thing that someone has said and given the authority for the truth about me over to them. What a game we play when we give our power away instead of trusting the truth we know within.
Absolutely Melinda – to give our power away definitely is a game, one that I have have played a lot in my life.
This is a great point of reflection you make here Dianne, about flying another’s flag to push a point or with lack of authority and claiming of your own lived experiences. I know from the past that when I did want someone else to get what I was saying from my arrogance, they never got the message because they were too busy trying to deflect the energy coming at them with no lived truth in it. Not very nice to feel.
So true Julie, I’ve had the same experience when trying to prove a point from my arrogance. There is a major difference when the words are spoken from a known truth. Instead of having to deflect energy those listening can align to it.
Beautifully said Simon. I couldn’t agree more.
Oh yes Cathy this blog is indeed a great wake up call. I have been a prolific name user in the past to give weight to or prove a point. So many of us feel and know the power of the conviction and the knowingness from within and yet because of choosing to go under the flag of someone else whom we have decided is ‘superior’ in expression, we end up not expressing with ‘the fullness of our self-love and confidence’ and instead we deliver something that has the right words but as far as the energy behind it is concerned it is empty and missing any true reflection.
Great line Cathy Hackett: ” …disregarding my own power by propping it up with someone else’s”, how often do we use another as a prop to leverage our own currency, credibility, or sense of importance, particularly in the workspace, in other words ‘name drop’. ‘Importance by association’ being totally dishonouring of a person’s own self-value.
Eva what you have shared is true and that really shows the integrity Serge Benhayon holds and commitment for the students to connect to their own power of who they are as you stated Serge Benahyon ‘…….always emphasises that he does not want ‘yes’-students, on the contrary he wants us to challenge his teachings and to take away what he presents and only ever apply or share what is felt to be true to us.
Yes Francisco that is one of the very integral qualities of Serge Benhayon ‘…..has always encouraged others to develop a relationship with their bodies so they can live life knowing what their truth is…’ and that is why Dianne is able to write such an expose.
If this was not true about Serge Benhayon this blog could not have been written.
Absolutely Denise and then there is no need (need being the operative word) to quote anyone said…
This was a most needed expose of ‘Serge Benhayon said…’ and ‘whoever said’…you honestly reveal the underlying play that is going on when we use another’s name to give weight to, or ‘back up’ what we are saying, as if what we are sharing from us ‘is not enough’ and so forth. But the danger here in particular to Serge Benhayon is that is can be misquoted, misinterpreted, misrepresented, not necessarily that being our intention but nevertheless can be the case. I know I’ve done it – ‘Serge said’ and more than once.
BUT as you state Dianne
‘Then when we quote another person who inspires us like Serge Benhayon, it is a confirmation of a shared truth for all.’ and its from our place of our own lived experience and then it becomes a truth…
Yes I agree Karoline, one real danger in using another’s name to prop up, back up our own ‘story’ is it doesn’t fully represent or honour the truth it has been originally delivered in and leaves an opening for it to be misinterpreted, this is deeply disrespectful of the person… as in “Serge said”.
So true, it will never fully represent the truth it has been originally delivered in – something to truly be conscious of.
Spot on Melinda. When we say something from our own authority and claim it as our lived truth, it is a blessing for self and others.
Yes, spot on Anne McRitchie and Melinda Knights, When we share from our lived experience, it is spoken with natural authority, no push and with no need for another to ‘get it’ . It is confirming to hear yourself share what you know as true, and has no expectation or outcome attached.
“I fully embrace the importance of living every moment in the awareness of what we feel and know truly within,” – how differently we experience life when we trust our own knowing, and this is what Serge Benhayon encourages us to do, to be empowered. Thank you Dianne for your enlightening blog.
So many times in the past have I used what authoritative figures including Serge have said to get across a point when I am not actually in the livingness of what I was trying to put across. This can often sound thin in substance, unbelievable and easy to put up an argument and disagree.
Love your honesty kevmchardy. What’s more, by doing this we (I have often done it) are actually pushing the listener away from the truth. Because, even if what we are saying is true, they will feel the lack of livingness of what we are saying, and it won’t feel like a truth to them. This is a big responsibility that we need to accept.
I agree kevmchardy and ottobathurst – it doesn’t matter how ‘true’ the words are, if they are not coming from a lived experience they won’t be received. This is certainly a big responsibility for everyone to acknowledge and to the best of our ability apply in our daily lives.
Well said Kevmchardy, and also when we speak like that it feels like an imposition on the other person which makes them react or fight it as it is simply not coming from our lived experience.
Yes! Agree Francisco. How often have I said something to someone..they haven’t heard it or haven’t changed their behaviour or opinion…but then when someone else expresses exactly the same thing…boom! they hear it. That has happened to me often! Exact proof that they way I was expressing it was loaded in some way, thus even though the words themselves may have been true, the expression of it was not the truth. Fascinating.
Thanks Dianne for writing about this. It feels really important to express this, particularly with the media criticising students of The Way of The Livingness as being brainwashed and unable to think for ourselves. I too have had moments of wanting to ignore what Serge has said – or feeling completely furious about it! – only later to have felt in my body that what he actually presented was true. And I’ve had many moments where what he has presented has been so welcomed, a breath of fresh air, what I’d been waiting my whole life to hear – where every part of my body said ‘yes, this is truth’. I have also been known to quote Serge when I haven’t felt able to stand in my own authority – so it was beautiful to read this blog to remind myself that I don’t need to quote anyone, if I feel it – that is enough.
A great wakeup call indeed, I agree. I tend to quote and use other’s names in conversation when I feel I’m ‘losing the argument’.. If I think what I’m saying doesn’t have enough ‘cred’ to win my point across, then I’ll throw in ‘but so and so said this!’ – it’s a total abuse of power, and I definitely need to claim my own authority too.
I can relate to this! Very empowering to feel that.
Yes Susie I have done a similar thing where I bring in a person of “importance” so to speak to back up what I am saying when I feel I am losing ground in a conversation. For me this is happening because I am lacking confidence. And it is true what you have said Susie “a total abuse of power” instead of claiming the power within.
Absolutely Anne. Isn’t it funny how we quote others thinking they are people of ‘importance’, when they probably are doing the same thing with us. Really we are all equally ‘important’, and equally have the right to claim our point, express and have an opinion.
I need to claim my own authority too Susie. When I think about it the times I feel my authority ‘en force’ I am always in conscious presence, my mind and body is in the same place at the same time, therefore conscious presence is something to develop consistency with in order to claim our authority.
I love what you have presented here, whilst reading I could feel in my body where I have either in the past given my power away to others thinking they know better than me or been lazy and not been bothered to test and feel the truth for myself as you have done. What you have presented is really important.
Hear, hear Vicky I know this one too and more and more am deepening my awareness and appreciation of being open to discern, feel and claim what is true for me. Serge Benhayon just keeps bringing it, do my checks and yep hes right again!
Thank you Vicky – I too have often, through laziness, not bothered to ‘feel the truth for myself’. I have wanted a short term fix and not surprisingly these short term fixes cannot be sustained. As my self esteem and self love grow I am becoming more willing to give myself the time to explore life for myself, and I am learning that this path is sustaining and filling me with wonderment and amazement as I realise and begin to understand all the great wonders of our universe. This way of life is truly living life and not existing on the periphery as I have done for so long. I now have a sense of feeling life as it happens and embracing life fully and joy-fully.
I agree Vicky, I have done the same thing in the past. I have been so shut off that I don’t even bother to ponder upon information that I received as being truth or not. I was living in a way that I wasn’t even hearing what I was receiving, I was just zoning out to a lot of things. I was not willing to see what was actually going on or take responsibility. Now, I am starting to open my eyes as well as my senses to learn to feel for myself what is truth or not. Dianne’s blog is an awesome reminder for me to not give my power away but to know that I have the ability to discern truth and to express it.
… “Serge Benhayon Said…” – find out for yourself 🙂
We are all living life, so we do have the authority to speak on may subjects, although knowledge may be lacking in some areas – e.g. the intricate workings of nerve synapses or the endocrine system. The authority stems from living life and knowing, perhaps even by the smallest margin, that our reality is not congruent with the truth that dwells within, and anyone can do this whether they do the esoteric work or not.
Well said Jinya, it is not only the people who attend Universal Medicine events that have access to greater wisdom. Anyone can choose to feel that we have a greater capacity for love and that we are currently not living anywhere near this capacity. It is quite easy to fall into thinking that the esoteric community has all the answers, when actually the answers are available to anyone should they choose to connect to their inner heart.
This is so true Jinya Mizuno!, no member of humanity is excluded from the truth that dwells within.
A beautiful distinction Alex, between Knowing and Believing!
Dianne Trussell said…………….”Once upon a time the part of me that had not let go of the ‘belief’ aspect of reductionist science was a bit rattled by some of the things Serge Benhayon said. But over the years as my own inner wisdom and sense of truth have grown, the things Serge says have gone from ‘rattling’ to ‘hypothesis’ to “darn, that guy’s right again!”………….and I must say that I personally can very easily fall into the very trap that is being exposed here, of blindly following ‘authority figures’ and accepting their pronouncements by virtue of the fact that they have done a fair bit more research than the man on the Clapham omnibus! However, the reason for that must be that I, like almost everybody else, have developed a protective carapace, after years of exposure to a variety of self-styled ‘gurus’ and con-men and the general vagaries of everyday life as we know it! The massive portal that has opened in our understanding, as a result of the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, has resulted in a slowly developing ability to ‘bypass’ the head and thinking process that we have become so used to falling-back upon, and an embracing of our inner-selves and its massive store of ancient wisdom. When I now say….”Serge Benhayon said so and so”…. the energy behind the statement is not of the self-validating insecure variety but on the contrary, it is driven by a powerful inner force that has been ‘awakened’ by a new-found self-love.
Beautifully put Jonathan and a comment that clearly demonstrates the immense power of by-passing the head and all we have been taught to believe and allowing ourselves to feel the truth resonating in our bodies. We (us and our bodies) are our own universities of wisdom, Serge Benhayon has just been studying in his for a little longer than most of us, (by a few thousand years) so when he imparts information and wisdoms they come from a source that is common to all of us, our physical bodies and their connection with immense and awesome knowing of nature and the universe we live in. By passing the head and feeling the body does allow us to access a tremendous power, which can never be matched by the intellect however much we invest in it.
This is beautiful Jonathan, ‘When I now say….”Serge Benhayon said so and so”…. the energy behind the statement is not of the self-validating insecure variety but on the contrary, it is driven by a powerful inner force that has been ‘awakened’ by a new-found self-love.’ I absolutely concur.
“It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves” – this is pure gold, Dianne. If we settle for less than the truth of what we feel inside and become complacent in our lives, we are not honouring the all-knowing source that we come from, as Serge does and fully embraces every day.
Beautifully said Janet. The connection to this ‘all knowing source that we come from’ is constantly ‘live’. Complacency is not, it is resting the laurels of a connection that’s aready complete, gone. By simply staying connected to this source we can choose to evolve with it.
Dianne, your article just comes in the right moment, when it is about selfworth. To use the ‘Serge said ‘ quote is sometimes wrongly used to confirm selfworth, in truth it is to confirm once attitude to be right versus being wrong and as such it shows there is no selfworth if it is used in the wrong sense.
Dianne – what an amazing blog presented from love with a scientific perspective to read and feel the truth of your words regarding the use of “….. said”.
You are so inspiring to see and listen to on stage – I am ‘glued to my seat’ wanting to hear more about science and physics from you as you make it is so accessible, real and fun and more importantly it makes total sense, which when felt as a resonance in my body (my own very personal science laboratory) I know is true in my own experience and to be further tested in my life to live from it.
a post script – Dianne the changes in you are so apparent and more profound every time I see you. To me, You are total proof of how science explored from Love (as presented by Serge Benhayon) bring mind, body and Soul together in harmonic resonance. You look absolutely gorgeous, emanating such deep grace and your inner beauty shining out for all to enjoy. Thank you – with love and appreciation for all that you bring to the world.
Yes Ariana – and I found that it is because Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon are offering no solutions, no “do it like that and then you will be happy”-bids at all. What they offer is a sharing of lived truth, we all know deep inside and we can re-connect to again. The techniques and methods of Universal Medicine brings no solutions but a change into life so the field of ‘problem/solution’ and ‘wrong/right’ does dissolve and exposed by what it is: an illusion.
Yes why do we need to quote another to make weight of what we are saying. I have been calling out the Serge said for a while now. If you cannot claim it yourself then maybe it is not worth saying.
Dianne this it a great correction and revelation about using another’s truth to validate our own, when we have not in truth lived it yet. I have been guilty of this and as the days pass so too does my authority evolve back to what it once was. Thank you Dianne and you are looking gorgeous in you photo. A testament to the authority of truth and love that you are living.
What you have expressed here Dianne is so true and wise.
Thank you for your analysis from a true scientific and energetic perspective.
“It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves”.
What an awesome purpose for life you have highlighted in this quote.
A lot of people who have their rigid mind made up by protecting some hurt or fear can always find some authority to justify their stance in an effort to shut down anybody who wants to look deeper into it.
The more I observe life, my own behavior, and that of others I have come to realize What Serge says is true, not just because he says so but because there is no better explanation for what I see, so that is how I understand the world.
Yeah I totally agree Kristy. Serge has a way of bringing science and other topics to life – relating it all back to our everyday living so that its not just dead and boring theory and knowledge but something that is alive… Living science.
This article is awesome, and something that needs to be talked about. I totally agree that it is abusive to use another’s name this way if our intent is to be seen to know more or be right on any given matter. A beautiful reminder to feel for ourselves and claim and live that as opposed to being hitched up by another’s wisdom.
Great analysis of the “Serge said….” syndrome. We hear this happening frequently – not just with “Serge said” but with other authority figures, as you’ve pointed out in your article. You’ve given me new understanding about why people say this. Thanks for sharing your analytical brain.
Beautifully said, Dianne and from a true and truth-full scientist; quoting other people, hiding behind their perceived authority to bolster one’s self-worth doesn’t work and I absolutely love your dissection of reductionism, it is spot on!
Dear Dianne,
As always, I love what you have shared here, your way of writting is so clear, practical and real and this certainly gels well with me. As you bring to awareness, we all hold within a wealth of knowledge, when connected to our inner most, that is unique to each of us. To hold back on sharing this equally with others is a huge disservice to ourselves, our friends and family and the world. For to share from the depths of love we hold within can only shine more loving understanding for the world to consider.
Quoting someone to ‘back ourselves’ is not ok. I know in the past I have used this in situations – to back a claim, or discussion. It can be used as a means to be right or control a situation. I now know it is actually abusive because it is using another for one’s own gain.
A really interesting blog Dianne and one that has ruffled my feathers and caused a pause moment to reflect on how I use Serge Benhayon’s name. When I quote Serge to someone and not present it in the energy that Serge does with full understanding in body and in absolute love for all, then it falls dreadfully short of what was being presented in the first place and tarnishes the wisdom on offer. I guess this is how God’s teachings become bastardised.
So well expressed Dianne – avoiding our own authority by hiding behind another’s is actually a form of irresponsibility we slip into when not living our own truth. Knowing and living our own truth is one of the foundational teachings offered by Serge Benhayon, one that is easily warped until it comes time that the shallowness and emptiness not being in your own fullness makes for deeper changes within. I really appreciate your notion of putting things back together and observing the whole once again too.
Dianne you look so radiant and gorgeous in your photograph. You are emanating what you share. We cannot really talk about wisdom unless we have lived and experienced it ourselves. In my experience, I hear what Serge Benhayon presents, it makes sense to my mind and feels true in my body. But it is not mine until I clearly see how it relates to my experience and then I can action the necessary change. This process can take more than a year and then wow, I can live it and keep allowing it to settle and deepen. It makes sense that if I am consistently honest with myself that when I quote someone else it will be received as a truth.
I agree Emma often when Serge presents it takes me some time to embody this, and make the choice to live the next level or deepening that is being offered. I know when it is being presented as my whole body feels it and I love the expansion.
Emma when you say: “it makes sense to my mind and feels true in my body. But it is not mine until I clearly see how it relates to my experience…” – it’s like that for me too. I have come to trust that what Serge says is very likely to be true even if it hasn’t come from my own body yet. Then I love it when I have a: ‘so that’s what he was talking about!’ moment, and I know that the knowing is in my body now, fully claimed and part of me.
Yes, I love those ‘so that’s what he’s talking about!’ moments! Then it feels like it is my knowledge and feels so different when I share it with someone.
Amazing blog Dianne. “Serge Benhayon is a great person, offering his own wisdom and experience for us to take up or leave as suits us, and does not deserve the role of a football or bullet-riddled messenger!” This line stopped me in my tracks as I began to feel the energy behind the way I have used Serge’s name. Often I have been resentful of the fact that Serge has presented a truth that I find uncomfortable to face. I can feel how abusive and cowardly it is to use ‘XXXX says’ when in actual fact I am just running from the truth and underhandedly attempting to gain support for living in a way that is not true.
‘… Serge is being used as a football in a game of personal issues, … ‘ so sad but true. The wisdom and truth he lives by himself and shares, is used a lot to be right or to defend oneself and also in a lot of cases it is misinterpreted and even bastardised.
‘Serge said…’ or even ‘But Serge said…’ Is a term which I have heard a lot and also used by myself. As Diane pointed out it is often misused to validate our own expression which would not be necessary if we just would express what we truly feel and know in our bodies.
I like that Rachel. Bringing the authority that we live with wherever we are at in life and speaking from there has as much weight as anything anyone says.
‘We can only speak from a lived experience.’ This is what I am learning, that it is my experiences that are true and not what i have heard someone else say or someone else’s experiences, i can only speak for myself, when I do speak from my experiences it feels very different, it is a knowing and a fact and i know this in my body and so when I speak what I have felt it comes out very clearly and very relaxed, whereas if i’m saying what ‘Serge said’ or someone else said it feels like i’m trying to convince or persuade someone or give what i’m saying more substance.
Thank you Dianne for so eloquently highlighting what goes on when we quote other people. I had often noticed how this showed a laziness within myself and others to take the time to feel our own connection with the subject and offer our own understanding and lived expression, and how in those situations ‘impressive’ yet ’empty’ quoting another person sounded. However I had not fully appreciated the level of abuse towards the person who is being quoted when it is used to prop ourself up, or mask our issues – and of course it makes total sense. I agree there is a world of difference between this and quoting someone as a confirmation of what we already feel and are aware of and as a celebration of what that quote adds to the awareness. Thank you for this clarification and for calling it out.
A great test Dianne, that as long as we are the ‘marker of truth’ ourselves and can feel or experience it for ourselves from our body, “the possibility that what someone else said is worth looking at”…… “and may be gobsmackingly, world-changingly true” (love that bit). Serge’s experience and wisdom is vast and most definitely worth listening to, over the years I have known him there have been many truths that I’ve come to share, with him and many others also.
Hi Dianne, Thank you for sharing your journey through ‘testing’ to ‘knowing’ something to be a truth. I enjoyed reading how you did so. I have not ever sat and felt the energy underneath ‘he said’ or ‘she said’ and so its interesting to hear what you have felt in this and will be something I will ‘test’ for myself the next time I hear such a comment. Thanks
Well described Dianne. I can definitely feel the difference when someones quotes another and it is based on the sharing of a truth vs when it is shared from the head based on knowledge and that the quoted person knows-more-so-they’re-right. It explains why at times I cringe and my body rejects it and when I am open to what is being shared.
Wonderful blog Dianne. In the past I have often used the authority of somebody else to justify a particular point of view, but it feels so much more empowering to claim my truth and to speak “..from the fullness of our self love and confidence.”
A super read Dianne. I have experienced this, another person saying, “Serge said…” and although I did not feedback this to the person at the time, I could feel it was because this person was not coming from their own authority, so the “Serge said…” did not in fact add the authority this person thought it would.
What I appreciate about Serge Benhayon is that he doesn’t need anyone to believe what he says as truth, he just presents it, always encouraging others to discern what is true from a place of connection. He brings authority to his words from his lived experience without lording this authority over others, and encourages others to equally offer their wisdom and knowledge too.
Awesome blog Dianne, we are all scientists of life and yes anything presented by any one has to make sense in life. To experiment with how we move, eat, sleep, relate to people and so on and feel the results is a science of life, which is a wisdom we can share not just regurgitate.
I love that analogy Alexis. I share quotes in the past because they sounded good, seemed to make sense or offered something I was longing for. Not until developing my awareness thanks to Serge Benhayon did I realize the vast difference between ‘mental energy’ and ‘lived from the body energy’ If truly felt, both in ourselves and if the the sharing is needed at that moment – there will be no wet tissues dropping from the air 🙂
The other thing I feel to highlight from your blog is the importance of feeling and applying whatever wisdom we feel is shared with us. Simply adopting it and not bringing it into a living way reduces it to nothing more then ‘good dinner conversation’. Serge Benhayon has always encouraged us to not take anything he says for granted but to feel and apply it for ourselves first and foremost. Then knowledge becomes wisdom
I used to get inspired by quotes in the past because they sounded good, seemed to make sense or offered something I was longing for. Not until developing my awareness thanks to Serge Benhayon did I realise the vast difference between ‘mental energy’ and ‘lived from the body energy’. If truly felt, one will just bring knowledge, while the latter brings true inspiration.
What great medicine this is Dianne – curiosity and openly applying wisdom to our own life to live for ourselves. Whether we test, deny or consider the possibility, there remains a potential waiting for us to say yes to it. The beautiful thing about Truth is a whole-hearted yes to it creates space for more of the same.
I agree Dianne that there is a process here that is very scientific in a way. Firstly when we hear or read anything we need to discern without any bias (including whoever said it) if it feels true or not using our intuitive awareness and not. Then if we feel it is of some value we can test it out further with our own experience. If we have not done these first two steps thoroughly it occurs to me that the information we have received is not lived but just remembered. Then when we decide to share this information with someone else it comes out as just a remembered quote or reference empty of any love or full understanding or even authenticity!
The ‘marker of truth’ that we have will depend on the degree of truth that we are willing to live. And while it may be tempting to piggyback on another, we can never fool those who live and thus know the true truth that resides within us all.
Liane this is the true truth! Truth is indeed a science and a known one as this is were we are all from.
Rachel Mascord, you are extremely quotable and will be for an eternity. The absolute authority in which you deliver comes from your ability to live what is true and we can’t get enough of that. So it is for all of us when we make love our living way. We become divine carriers for the voice of truth owned by all who choose to speak/live it once again.
Beautifully written Dianne – too often in life we can fall back on ‘they said’ when we don’t feel confident enough to stand for ourself and our own choice. However, often we don’t consider how disrespectful it is to the person we citing when we use them as a safety net. If something feels right to you, claim it as your truth, not the words of another.
True, to use another’s words to bolster our own opinions is not a strong foundation, it does feel like words -experiences require understanding and living to have authenticity. It is something for us all to reflect on and for us to offer ourselves and others understanding as there are going to be times when we feel the truth within but we are still learning to express it.
This paragraph really struck me Dianne ‘It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves.’ It’s easy for me to become complacent and comfortable, and therefore stuck, but I never realize I am stuck until something happens and I get a reminder that actually things have moved on and I haven’t. I love the idea of us all being part of a whole system that evolves. It makes a lot of sense to me.
There is an irony here. I have never met another person who is right as often as Serge so I could just rely on him but what is one of the most common things he presents? To paraphrase, find out for yourself, you yourself know just as well. So Serge is really just a bridge to ourselves and once I found a reliable, quote-worthy source (Serge) that source says that we are just as able.
This demonstrates to me Christophschnelle, just how unselfish Serge is, in that he represents the true meaning and sense of brotherhood.
Naren whilst reading through the reply comments to this profound article – the truth of this sentence ‘leapt off the page’. Thank you!
“The truth that Serge presents is not “live like this” to have a better life. It is “find the truth by living your life”. The betterment of our lives may be a happy side-effect of this, but it is not the goal.
An absolute awesome blog Dianne, as always. Today I really felt when you said :’..when a presented truth continues to prove true with time and testing, you can use it as a good foundation upon which to conduct your experiments and your life affairs.” – This is a great marker to set and practice this daily. Thank you, a blog i will come back to as it offers such great insights.
Everything Serge Benhayon says is a confirmation of everything we know already. It simply is whether we have chosen to live it yet or not – when we have, we can claim it by quoting this most awesome man, teacher and life-long friend.
I agree, ginadunlop, “everything Serge Benhayon says is a confirmation of everything we know already”. No wonder it so makes so much sense when I hear what he says, my body already knows it. I don’t have to believe it, it just is.
Yes Gina, what Serge Benhayon says is felt deeply as a confirmation of something we already know, because he shares from the truth of his living experience, and being a truth we feel it deeply within us, but to truly make it our own, as Serge continually suggests, we must try it out, feel it and experience it as our own truth to be able to claim it, and share it with knowing, so that others will feel it deeply.
Great point Gina, learning to let go of everything I wasn’t meaning all the beliefs, ideals and values I had taken on from my experiences growing up, so I could feel who I truly was the key to understanding myself more deeply. It is amazing when I am talking to people I often here share you not saying anything I don’t know, but I know that is not what i am doing. This incongruency or disconnect is so common and the healing comes through conversations where we are exploring why we aren’t living it.
A brilliant blog, Dianne. It is a great point – when we quote someone it could be a confirmation of a shared truth, or it could just be a feeble Chinese whisper. Serge Benhayon presents the truth he knows through his own livingness and has no investment in whether people get it or not, knowing that the very same truth is equally accessible to ALL of us, and honouring our choices. It is entirely up to us whether to take the full, measured, or no advantage of what has so generously been shared consistently.
This is something that you rarely hear and I too am refreshed by the incorporated view of true science. It’s very interesting to hear and to read about.
Thanks for sharing your understanding of what is really going on when someone quotes another.. there is always a reading to be made on any situation and a discernment to honour upon whether something feels right or true for us, what else matters?..
Loving this blog and your expression Dianne. Sometimes I find myself saying something to my children, or someone else, and it feels empty, it’s not a nice feeling but my body is letting me know that I haven’t embodied the truth of the words that i’m speaking, ouch! Not recently but a few year’s ago I would say “well the esoteric says” lol I was not confident at all about speaking about it – as i’m connecting more to my innermost i’m finding that I don’t need to say much because I can see it’s being felt anyway.
I can relate shelleyjones44 in that if I am speaking from my head and not my body, relaying information that I have heard at a course or read from a book it feels awful and I have to pull myself up on it – stop, reconnect with my body and then continue speaking. Even worse is when I disconnect from myself, people feel that what I am sharing comes from knowledge and then I go into more trying to convince them to understand what I am saying. None of this works or is useful to anyone. The key is to stay with the body and share from our lived experiences.
I know what you mean Shelley as in previous years not being confident in sharing the esoteric. Knowing deep down the absolute gold of what the esoteric offers, yet holding back on claiming this in my life, made it impossible to talk about it clearly and lovingly. As I have claimed it within and am embracing living from my inner heart on a daily basis it is now a pleasure to share with others.
‘Is the intent to support my protection or to be open and evolve together?’ This is a great question Sandra, thanks for the inspiration.
I can relate to what you share here Jinya – On some level I probably felt this, but I had so much investment in doing well that I eventually subscribed to this way of presenting my thoughts academically and conformed to win results and approval. Writing in this way felt very mental and empty – a total shell of myself. When honestly looked at our whole set up is to make us feel less and not worthy of consideration ensuring that we give our power away, which is certainly what I did. Learning to re-claim it is an on going journey as I develop and deepen the awareness of how much wisdom I carry within me already. All that’s needed is the continued development of the livingness and expression of it.
Awesome blog Dianne and great reminder to always check the energy of where we are speaking from.
So true Helen – where are we coming from when we speak to another. Is it a need from them to be a certain way or an investment to be right? Or are we speaking from an absolute knowing that we in fact are all knowing and so is everyone else? How gorgeous! I endeavour to speak from this place and in this energy more often. This blog has brought great awareness.
That is really beautifully written Katerobson and expresses exactly what I feel about Serge and his way of sharing his lived experience are very dear to me too.
When we are presented with the absolute truth it can be a very confronting and uncomfortable, why? Because deep down we know we are not living our truth, and that we have bought into a way of being that is far removed from our natural way of being. No wonder Serge Benhayon ruffles so many feathers!
Thanks Dianne for a great blog. There is nothing like trusting oneself and knowing from personal experience that what one says and feels is the truth even when it goes counter to the general wisdom. However it is not enough to feel and know the truth one must also express it in full. Thank you to Universal Medicine for showing me the way.
Yes Alex, ‘We know a truth in full by living it, living is expressing, expressing is sharing with everyone else’ and as we express in this way we become more and more stronger in sharing from our wisdom and without the need to ‘use someone’ as a name to back us up.
Great to read your revealing article and feeling your authority, truth and humbleness at the same time. I feel caught and sitting with what you are sharing and offering here.
I realize, that I am not used to speak from my authority and lived knowing – because I gave it away to knowledge and hiding behind well accepted opinions long ago. And how important it is, to claim it back, because placing pure knowledge over inner-knowing, makes every conversation a competition. I can feel, what you have exposed here. It is abusive to Serge or the person who we quote, if we hide to feel less, or want to hook the other person with a recognized authority – and it is in the same way abusive to ourselves, accepting us to be less and it is abusive to the conversational partner, as we also see him or her as less and as someone who has to be convinced… what is just following a neediness to be right… and it is also about giving away my responsibility to walk MY talk… wow. A deep issue to ponder on and going further with self-responsibility. Thank you Diane.
Dear Stefanie,
Thank you for your sharing here, everything you say rings very true for me. Especially how judgemental it is of us when we hold ourselves back in conversation. For in doing so we have not let ourselves feel the truth (the inner most) of the people we are with. Instead we are only seeing the way they are living, that may not be in line with their inner most. We then reduce ourselves to communicate with them as their lesser selves, instead of connecting directly to their inner most and then communicating.
Discerning and coming to our own truth-full conclusions, without reaction and defence but with a willing openness, is indeed the way of responsibility and valour that is here needed. Thank you for making this so clear.
You have summed this up beautifully Eva. It is always about our self-responsibility.
Agreed it is very abusive if we want to, ‘ hook the other person with a recognized authority – and it is in the same way abusive to ourselves, accepting us to be less and it is abusive to the conversational partner, as we also see him or her as less and as someone who has to be convinced’. In effect by behaving this way, we are contributing to our own contraction and staying small, this is harming all and this is anti evolution.
Thank you Dianne for such an evolving blog. When Serge Benhayon says something every part of me knows this is true ,real and there is an absolute knowing of this. This is something rarely experienced in life outside Universal Medicine and is to be celebrated for the knowing Serge brings and the livingness of this is what counts and then it becomes our lived experience and knowing also. Thank you for your wise words on what Serge says …Brilliant sharing.
Yes it’s interesting how common that is in education and schools Shirley-Ann.. I’ve been told hundreds of times that an essay, project or presentation is not valid without evidence, so I must find ‘relevant quotes’ to back up what I’m saying in all instances. In other words – my own expression as a ‘child’ is not valid, so please include a different, more reliable source of information.
Yes, having to provide ‘evidence’ as proof that what you said can be validated is rife in educational establishments – also when discussing with science-minded friends, I find. We are our own authority – if we connect to truth. My own lived experience is fact – solid – why isn’t this enough?
Not being able to provide evidence of proof has been used by Europeans since Columbus discovered the Indies and put down indigenous people who had no written language.
It is only since the majority have been taught to read and write and the invention of the technology to develop the World Wide Web that the unlearned poor have the same opportunity as the learned rich to publish whatever they want in print. What we are discovering though is that so much of what has been published by rich and poor alike is “A Whole Load Of Rubbish”! In other words, discern your own truth in all written work, however impressive.
Couldn’t agree more Sue: “My own lived experience is fact – solid – why isn’t this enough?”
I am laughing with you here Rachel – I love your honesty and the way you express as I can certainly relate to what you say here about “Serge said….”. In the early years of attending Serge Benhayon’s presentations I was so bowled over by what was presented that for the first time in my life made sense and rang true but was unable to claim it as my own until the accumulated emotional baggage was exposed and cleared away. Many things have changed (and continue to do so) through making different choices – true confidence and my own expression (“Stephanie said” with nothing less than absolute authority) continues to re-develop and deepen.
“I would choose to live an empowered life, one that is built on true confidence, presence and great love for myself”.
“It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves.” You state here Dianne a universal truth and philosophy of how to live life but how many people actually do? For so many, if not the majority, instead align themselves to an individual or organisation for truth and follow whatever that is presented. When things do not turn out as they want they blame the person or organisation and look somewhere else for answers to only repeat the cycle again instead of taking responsibility to checking for themselves from their own innermost truth as to what is true.
Excellent point Jonathan, and I feel what you are showing here is the basis for many people’s endless spiritual seeking (including my own in the past), always looking to the ‘guru’ or ‘expert’ to answer their deepest questions. This searching will always lead to exhaustion, and in the end the thing that they are really looking for was simply themselves. When we give our power away to someone else without checking in with our own natural intuition, we can really be pulled in any direction, almost like a puppet.
So true Jonathan! Putting people onto pedestals is just a form of Laziness!
Great point Jonathan, it seems to me that most live in a way that takes away responsibility and self worth by handing power away to another. And in most cases the power they give away is happily accepted, unlike Serge Benhayon who teaches self-empowerment, responsibility and handing the power back into our hands.
It’s very easy to fall into the ‘Serge said’ habit, especially when one first comes across Universal Medicine. What I was hearing and could feel was so life changing that I used this phrase all the time to friends and family who hadn’t yet heard it for themselves. Over time however it has become obvious that ‘what Serge says’ needs to be lived not talked about, and then when we express it is from this Livingness of our own truth, not simply an empty repetition. This is what is worth repeating!
Could the use of ‘Serge said’ be a cover – a smoke screen of false authority for those who do not live the Truth themselves?
Whilst we may appear to be all knowing, this may be a charade of name dropping to justify our chosen position and view when it suits us to do so. Reinterpreting love and measuring of truth will never hide a lack of commitment to ourselves for this will be made clear by the choices we leave in our wake.
Yes Rebecca, and what is also worth repeating is as you said, “‘what Serge says’ needs to be lived not talked about,”. Like you it took a little while for me to embody this but once felt there is no turning back!
Over time there is less and less to say and more and more to be. Unless we are being asked and then it depends on the occasion.
Beautiful Dianne, I love how your thought process has evolved and I too now have a very simple filing system for the information Serge Benhayon presents. One is the “Yes I know that too” file and the other is the “Lets check it out for myself” file. And as you say, when we work our way through the second file, we invariably come to the same conclusion as Serge and end saying “yep, he was right, again!”.
Great points, really well made Dianne T! I’m sure we all like to ‘cut and paste’ the quotes of those we perceive as authorities within their spheres, and frequently even plagiarize them! However, in the case of Serge, one feels that he is the messenger or mouthpiece of something immensely powerful and is the propagator not the originator. The fact that he lives and practices everything that he teaches cements his authority and credibility. I really like your paragraph which says……..”It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves………. I am not a scientist, but I believe that it is our duty to always question everything that is presented to us. I think you make a very good point when you say …………..’I have come to the point of listening carefully to everything he has to say, and anything that doesn’t jump into my yes-zone immediately gets filed under “good possibility to check out, probably will turn out true if so far is any indication.” Then I test it in my own life. So far, the results have been: “Darn, that guy’s right about everything!” Or at least 99.9% – gotta allow some margin for imperfection in human life!’
Gosh, That’s true Jessica! We are trained in education that our opinions are not valid unless we can back them up with an established academic, scholar or authority figure. If we don’t reference our ideas, or comments work is not validated. What if education did support students and pupils to back themselves and their personal experiences, what then?
Everyone can feel the difference between a hollow knowledge based on theory, and the deep wisdom from speaking with experience. It reminds me to simply present what I know, and not try and build something false with no foundation.
I so agree with your point Jessica. When I was at school it made no sense to me to have to quote someone else for a point that I was making in an essay or something.
And having built that level of trust and respect, we are more likely to consider that there might be an alternative to our strongly help ideals and beliefs – to be more, to live more and to love more.
What Serge Benhayon embody and present is absolute worth to quote. The question is: am I living in a way that I can hold this quote in its truth and so present it – or do I live less and abuse the quote by repeating it without the background of living it. When I do not live what I talk about, I use the words to set me up. But words should be expressions of truth.
Well said Sandra. Even when I know what Serge has presented is the truth, if I am not living it, it feels awkward to quote.
Hmm. Do we not all get inspired by what Serge says, or what other students of Universal Medicine say? Yes we do – If the words/expressions are made to pull each other up, to offer the next step. I am wondering if I can hold and express a quote in love and truth, as I know it as my next step – like a leading light?
Very true. That leading light is there to pull us up. If I cannot quote something Serge has said because I feel the tension of it in my body, then I know that is what is being asked of me. The leading light guiding me as to what is next.
I love this blog Dianne. One of the many things that struck me was what you wrote about the way in which we avoid repeating what another may have said that is pure gold just because we don’t want to be seem as if we lack intelligence because we have not come up with it ourselves. Serge Benhayon has a way of making things so simple that you can be left wondering how on earth what he is saying was not obvious to you before that moment. It took me a while to understand that when a person can clearly feel and read energy that they are able to present what they are talking about very simply and free from any complexity.
‘How often in life have we used what another person said to validate our expression because we didn’t feel we were enough?’ For me, this opening sentence says it all. And it’s true, when we do this we often reduce ourselves and hope that we are heard.
This blog Dianne is a beauty and shows that there really isn’t any excuse for not walking the walk if you are going to use the talk.
it is of such a great value what you write Dianne and I can completely agree with you that it is so important to nourish and appreciate our own authority in what we know from our own lived perspective. Just quoting something that Serge Benhayon has said without feeling your own truth of it is a) not honouring to ourselves and b) we are harming the one we quote. This is really huge Dianne, I had never realised that before that by doing so that much harm is being done.
When we live without trusting our inner knowing, its understandable that we go searching for this outside. What you’ve shared Dianne makes me consider how most of our systems for learning feed from this idea that we are born ignorant. How completely different it is to comprehend the world from the basis that we have equal access to truth and are born masters of the universe. I loved reading what you said.
Your comment stirred in me how it used to feel when I didn’t trust my inner knowing. I was constantly searching for an authority other than myself to back me up. And I cringe at how much I used to preach and impose on others. Now, with myself as my authority there is an ease in my day and I always know what I need to know (not perfectly and sometimes I let doubt creep in). And I have no need to preach to others, I’m not trying to prove myself. The proof is not in the pudding, it’s in me!
Increasingly aware of how I validate what I share, or cover my lack of expression by quoting another I have come to realise that when I stand in my own authority, supported by my daily choices my expression is full of what is needed.
Great blog thanks Diane.
Dianne says:
“It’s fine to put forth the possibility that what someone else said is worth looking at and may be gobsmackingly, world-changingly true, as long as we are the ‘marker of truth’ ourselves – we are speaking from the fullness of our self-love and confidence and what feels true to us regardless of who said what”.
Hahah Couldn’t resist doing the Dianne says. Enjoyed reading every word of this blog.
Yes Liane this cannot be denied “For the quality of the words we speak are the end product of the quality of truth we choose to live or not.” This says it all to me and explains why the spouting knowledge does not resonate as truth unless it is coming from what we live.
And one more “Serge Benhayon is a great person, offering his own wisdom and experience for us to take up or leave as suits us, and does not deserve the role of a football or bullet-riddled messenger!” – Thank you Dianne, this is so important to realise…and to simply appreciate and respect Serge, and what he lives and brings. He/and no-one else deserves to be a football.
A profound piece of writing, “Very quickly I learnt to keep my eyes on the horizon, and I learnt that the boat took care of its own in regards to line.” I know deep inside this is true – “With one eye on the detail” we may sail smoothly, but I am yet to take my eyes off the forefront, and trust, as I focus on the horizon.
Thank you Dianne, what a gorgeous and glorious photo of you, with your eyes shining bright. Thank you for bringing the authority back to the body, and that it is for us to express our truth, never that of another. It is amazing how far we are away from this simplicity, when we/I notice how I change what I will say, or think I should say something that is acceptable, validated, and what the other wants to hear, – rather than just expressing my truth.
This is an insightful blog in many ways Dianne. It is an offer to deeply explore our own truth and what resonates with us without referring to information that we have ingested that may be true, but we have not yet lived or experienced. It is also a call to responsibility, not only to ourselves, but also to the person or persons that we may be quoting at any given time to confirm what we are sharing with others.
Absolutely exposing of our reluctance if not refusal to stand in our own authority and power – to live the teachings and to express this living Truth.
It’s funny to think back when I first met Serge Benhayon and started attending Universal Medicine courses the countless amount of times I would say ‘Serge says…’ this or that. I had no true knowing of what was said as being true other than a strong feeling of it being that way. Having lived and experienced what was presented over the years, I am now my own evidence and so can speak from the authority of being living proof of many of those things…. so ‘Serge said’ is indeed a rarity now and if used, time has shown me, one day I will have my own proof of that too.
I love what you say here Samantha – “I am now my own evidence and so can speak from the authority of being living proof….” no longer any need to say ‘so and so said such and such’.
I know I have used the “someone said” quotation when I haven’t felt that what I have to say is enough and aren’t feeling self confident, especially in the face of criticism. But this is total illusion because all of it is based on a need to justify. If a choice is true and works, then why do we need to justify it?
This is one thing that I always fall back to ask myself…”why do I feel the need to justify what I am doing or saying?” Countless times, when I have caught myself mid justification, for it shrinks my body, my words come out quicker, I now stop, take note, and realise this is nonsense. Upon doing so, my body expands, my voice comes back to me, and even the people who I was mid justifying to are left free, free from the nonsense I was trying to impose on them or trying to make them get and understand. I am learning it’s a win win situation for all.
“It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors” well said Dianne. This is very empowering to an individual and does explain the fact that sometimes we are making choices which we think are ‘right’ but end up being in error to our true evolution (development). Thanks for such a detailed article. Science, philosophy and religion need to be thought of as one. Being relatable to common sense will be the biggest factor that will enable them to be tools for everyones evolution and a more loving way of being as humanity.
Thats a great point Jessica, well said.
Even if two people say EXACTLY the same words or even if two people write exactly the same words one can be speaking the truth and one can be lying – whether they are aware of it or not. This is where the Serge says or Dianne says or whoever says starts to get even more iffy. If we understand the energetic component then it is not just about the words but the energy that is expressing those words. For example if someone screams at you “I am not angry” you know that the energy is not matching the words!
Great example of how the energy behind the words can be very different to the meaning of the words themselves.
Yes I agree Debra. There is a great article and free audio here: http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/truth-in-words/energy-in-words.html about the energy in words that talks about exactly this.
Absolutely Nicola. It’s important to feel the energy behind words, spoken or written and not just take them at ‘face value’.
Very awesomely written and a testament to the true energetic nature behind words.
Beautiful comment Adam.We do live in a society where science, religion and philosophy have been divided into very different compartments and wearing very different garb.The robed priest is rarely to be seen wandering down the corridors of white-coated lab scientists. As you have indicated there is a place deep within everyone of us where these three are a one-unified emanation of truth, but if we live, bouncing around on the external and outer-reaches of ‘life’, using one of these three stances as an emotional crutch to identify with or hide behind, or to protect ourselves and our hurts as in a fortress, then the three will appear to be different and at odds with each other. We will be caught running aground every time.
Love this Dianne as it reflects back to us all, that our expression ultimately is our own and to take on the words of another without truly feeling, living and knowing it for ourselves can come across as hollow statement. I find the more I speak from my own experience and awareness the more I truly connect to others and the wisdom that is universal flows through me. It is the felt truth of what we speak that others connect to. Awesome article!
Dianne, you have such a practical and simple way of presenting life and truth, which is always profound – everytime – thank you.
I totally agree with what you’re saying here Heather, allowing the science of my own body and feeling the experiences is a great guide for me.
Great blog Dianne. Your sentence :’Reductionist science, if done truthfully and for the right reasons (instead of propagating scientific belief and excluding everything else), has some usefulness in the modern world’ has been very confirming. I have been recently engaged in an exchange on a health and wellbeing site in which a ‘double-blind wishbone test’ scientist has been rathe brutally going for me because I mention energy and am not a qualified scientist but a complementary therapist. I realised that he was using his ‘scientific method’ stance not as a vehicle to be useful in our discoveries about well-being, but as being the only bench-mark with any validity at all. It was interesting to see how this stance was used emotionally, employed as a protective fortress that was held to so tightly that he was skeptical about anything but his own view. No real communication was possible.
When I am struggling with what I have heard Serge Benhayon present I know that sometimes I have gone into reaction and at other times I am simply not understanding but feeling OK to leave it as present, knowing that it will become clearer over time. I have learnt over the years that if it is the former it is merely something my mind is wrestling with but that the body has registered it as a truth. Now I am able to welcome it as it indicates an area I need to work on.
Thanks to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I have for the first time in my life explored the notion of just not taking on board something someone authoritarian says just because they are in a position of power, but instead to deeply feel for myself if it is true. This also goes for what Serge Benhayon presents, but like you Dianne, I have found that from my own trial and tests what Serge presents has always been true.
Dianne I love what you have shared and your authority and lived wisdom is so inspiring. I have discovered and am still developing that when we share and express from our knowing, from what we live, we bring through the truth and love that is in essence universally known by all, offering a point of reflection of the absolute truth of love. This for me is inspiration, when this truth is felt, recognised and known within, as it invites an expansion of what is true, disintegrating the walls of what is not true. Thank you Dianne for all that you bring so gracefully and so powerfully from all that you know is true.
A true formula for life. ” I fully embrace the importance of living every moment in the awareness of what we feel and know truly within.” I love your lived wisdom. Thank you Dianne
Yes I agree Kelly – awesome wisdom indeed. Thank you Dianne,.
Oh! bother Dianne!! I have been enjoying your science course so much that I have started saying ” Dianne Trussell said. .”. I guess that I will have to stop that now and get down to completing my homework! All joking aside, what you say is so true and for those lessons where I have done the homework, the lesson topic e.g. Oneness, As Above So Below and Vibrations have become a living truth in my body so I can now say “ Anne said. . .. .” as my own innermost truth!
I really enjoyed your injection of humour here Anne, possibly because I was a bit stuck contemplating how much I have said ‘ Serge said’.
Totally a richness from someone speaking from their direct experience in life, regardless of how philosophical or what is concluded from it.
I have learned, with Serge Benhayon as an example, that when you walk your talk, and what you walk is the whole truth, others will take parts of that and re-interpret it to fit with what is comfortable for them (and regurgitate that version). Very similar to reductionist science when done for the purpose of fitting with a pre-conceived outcome. Thanks Dianne loads to explore in your blog!
Spoken with the authority of lived truth Dianne. The science of life.
Rather well said here Dianne: “It’s fine to put forth the possibility that what someone else said is worth looking at and may be gobsmackingly, world-changingly true, as long as we are the ‘marker of truth’ ourselves – we are speaking from the fullness of our self-love and confidence and what feels true to us regardless of who said what.”
Selective hearing, selective sharing and selective examining …. all aspects of keeping a firm hold on the “I” in things, and to create “my truth”. Knowing whether we are creating our own version of things requires us to be open to reading ourselves, as does truly listening. No wonder we are hesitant to share what we know.
Absolutely Helen – well said. This is also true for organisations doing research – with regard to selectively choosing what data to use/publish based on the outcome that they want.
Thanks Dianne, I absolutely loved this bit ‘…anything that doesn’t jump into my yes-zone immediately gets filed under “good possibility to check out, probably will turn out true if so far is any indication.” Then I test it in my own life…’ This feels like exactly what I do, and have done…although what I notice when I experiement with something, is that, yes, the outcome is often true of what has been said, but I often choose to leave it as an experiment for some time before actually embodying it. I think this resistance is due to not wanting to feel the truth in the choice I’m making which might stop me from hiding.
Ooh that old chestnut – quoting another to add weight to your individual point of view (whether it be using them in a for or against stance) – who hasn’t done that, I know I have. I love your point about getting to the truth, the whole truth and not having a version that is “my” truth.
Yes I found that at university too – that everything you said had to be referenced to something someone else had written or published. Crazy how as a society we have it set up that our own lived experience doesn’t seem to have any worth when it comes to academics.
Absolutely Fiona – well said
This really made me stop and reflect how often we use the words of another to stand on or behind, such as science says, the latest research shows, I’m not sure where I read this but or in this case Serge Benhayon says, rather than speaking from our own understanding of life that comes via our own lived experience. When we use another’s words without having the energy of it lived or held in our body those words become empty or reinterpreted with our flavour which lessens the expression for both the person regurgitating them and the person receiving them.
I am the expert of my own life and my own body and when I speak form this it comes with an authority, a lived knowingness that is my own observed experience and thus I do not need to stand behind someone else said when it is something I know for sure.
It is an easy trap to fall into using the “Serge said” line because we can sense and feel the truth of what he presents, however as you have described, without our understanding and proof of the lived experience in our own bodies it does not come with the authority of that lived truth and another will hear it as just words that we are parroting from another. We can also distort or reinterpret words to suit or manipulate a situation in an attempt to control an outcome, then truth is always the first casualty in this event, and we do incredible damage, in that others may correctly reject the falseness that we have delivered, but in the process reject the truth of original message and with it the true messenger.
Annie, great explanation of the harm that we do when we speak what we do not know from our own lived experience. Ironically, I can from my own lived experience of speaking in this way, confirm the harm that you describe. The harm can occur irrespective of one’s intentions.
I was speaking with someone yesterday and was very inspired with what he was sharing – which was many things Serge had said. The person himself said that he was only able to share them as they were part of his lived experience. He heard these things years ago, has lived them and so is able to share them with an authority of his own.
I agree Melissa. If we test and experiment what has been presented it then becomes lived and known by us and held in our bodies as a living truth and reflection to others. This is much more real than any “he said” type regurgitation.
This is a great topic and something very important to consider Dianne…how we don’t trust our own inner knowing and authority and hand that over to someone else who is “an authority” or who apparently “knows more”. As a health professional of over 20years experience I am supposed to base my practice on the available evidence. (the evidence says…) The thing with this approach is that it rates lowly the experience I have had with people over that time and what I have learned myself through observing myself and others and our interactions. There is a lot of observations over this time and this is exactly the same for any other health professional. As an example recently I was assisting in caring for a person with a possible shoulder tear. They were in bed, in a lot of pain and had received already a lot of strong pain relief. Common sense and experience kicked in , as well as knowing the patient, as my colleague and I decided to get this person out of bed so the arm could rest and let go in a sling. It worked, instant pain relief. This was a science experiment in action based on 20 years plus experience and I just knew and to me that is as valuable as any evidence and is the evidence.
Dianne what you have shared is really important. It’s only when we truly embrace our own authority and what we feel to be true from our own bodies can it ever be taken as heard or even considered by another.
I love the way you have expressed this point of Dianne’s Sharon. It makes it really clear.
Its funny the moment a topic is expressed without ones own deepest knowing of it, the query of the source of such findings arrises for the listener, when the what then is received is a pass on to another’s authority more often than not its immediately disqualified. As against someone speaking from the authority of their own knowing the truth is immediately felt and no question need arise.
I smiled when I read the title of this blog. Many students of the Livingness including myself, have used this phrase at some time. Even when it is not spoken out loud, it can sometimes be there in an attempt to prop up empty words that I am yet to live. I too have found over the years that everything I doubted, has eventually proven to be true. However, when I speak form my own experience, my words feel clear and strong as I speak only what I have discovered for myself. Then I don’t need to convince anyone, as I know it to be true in my body.
It is so liberating to actually realise that we can trust what we know and feel within our body. We do have a wisdom and knowing in our bodies that supports us.
Thank you for exposing how easily we can give our power away and be played by the mental “know it all” brain. I can definitely relate to having done this throughout life, making some comment here or there, just feeding something along rather than actually living it and claiming it to be true from lived experience. It certainly has a very different feel to it when I have (or felt it in others) committed to sharing information based on my own lived knowing (experience) of it, literally feeling cells go pop in my body and feeling the aliveness of the information as opposed to the dry flat dull feeling of the former, so and so said so, passing on info. Great responsibility for all of us to put this into practice – and super lovely too be able to bring back some truth in our day to day communications, by living it!
aphraskye, I love how you describe the aliveness in our bodies, literally our cells popping when we share from our body’s lived truth. This is so true and is the most amazing thing to feel.
I sometimes trick myself in thinking I am unsure if what I am delivering is from my inner most. Silly huh, when it can be felt beyond measure if I am or if I am not.
I agree, saying “so and so said” is just a massive cop out in responsibility. The responsibility of standing up yourself instead of using someone’s name to avoid standing up for yourself.
Thank you Dianne for sharing this and exposing the need that we often feel to use someone else to justify what we are saying. I have appreciated much that I have heard Serge Benhayon present but he always says to test it for ourselves to see if it is true for us to come to our own understanding or truth on the matter. I love this about Serge Benhayon, there is no preaching, just an offering with the option to take it or leave it.
So true Jessica. I know I can do this as well and it does feel like a cop-out and it is abusive towards the other person because we are using them to prop ourselves up. We are not taught to trust and be confident in our own expression and feel like we need something outside of us to validate that or to back it up.
“It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves.” Georgeous Dianne, and so true.
Great blog, Dianne. Truth can be felt and then lived, rather than just regurgitated as someone else’s words. As Serge Benhayon said, “the body is the marker of all truth” (sorry, I couldn’t resist that).
Captured very truly Diane: “…not expressing from the truth within oneself but vicariously from another’s” – what i got when i read this was a picture of a talking head, disconnected from its body and looking smart, to appear smart though behind the spoken words – whoever/wherever they’re from – all is revealed when it comes to energy.
The head talking and pulling in references to “prove” it’s smart.
“How often in life have we used what another person said to validate our expression because we didn’t feel we were enough?”
Dianne, what an awesome question and a great topic to expose. I am so pleased you have unpicked this detail, to give us the chance to each step up into our own authority.
You have exposed a society belief that authority comes from writing a book, being an academic or having studied at University, being a figure of authority or position of power or even someone well liked or popular for their sporting, music, film, fame or other high achievements.
So what happens to those who have not achieved in this way? The everyday person is just as capable of tapping into the pool of wisdom. Look at the blogs written and comments made here – so incredibly powerful and full of truth.
Your blog sets us free from this mindset, allowing us to live with a deeper appreciation for our own knowing.
I have for sure expressed things that did not come from my own livingness nor from my own authority, from a feeling of not being enough. I have given my power away thinking that I don’t know for myself but we all do, we all have the truth and the wisdom inside.
I agree Maree,
Dianne’s blog certainly does set us free, to honestly and lovingly share from our livingness. It also tugs us to take responsibility for how we share this wealth of wisdom. For to share it in anything less than who we are in full is us reducing ourselves, then others don’t get to feel the fullness of what it is we are offering. This is something that each day I find myself challenged with, for reducing myself, making myself less has been a pattern in my life. Now though, I have begun to stay fully with myself in the knowing that all others are just as beautiful and as unique as me and by doing so I can feel the beauty of who they really are. Conversing in this way brings each of us up a notch, in our choice to live the truth of who we are inside.
That’s spot on Laura! I agree, Diane has made such sense out of something that can get so complex. I love how you explain things Diane and make science so accessible and simple to understand for everyone. This is a beautiful example. Thankyou for sharing your deep wisdom.
I agree Dianne. To quote someone else is to ‘not’ take responsibility for what you are saying. It is like including a clause which says ‘I have an out if it gets too hot in the kitchen’, shifting the heat on to someone else and away from myself. Once something is lived and felt in the body first, then shared, the difference in delivery and energetic knowingness is profoundly different. Opening discussion and awareness around this is great.
‘Once something is lived and felt in the body first, then shared, the difference in delivery and energetic knowingness is profoundly different.’ Very true ch1956. Although I feel truth is being expressed around this subject I feel to add that I also quote because someone has expressed something very beautiful and I want to share that it touched me.
For me too Heather, I love what Dianne has lived and shared here. That anything is only a truth for us if it comes from our body and we have lived it and know it from our body not because someone else has said it is a truth.
Thank you, Dianne, for clarifying this. I know now why sometimes it feels ok to quote Serge Benhayon and sometimes not. It is not about right or wrong, it’s about connecting to me and then knowing if it is needed to quote someone or not.
Dianne this is such a powerful blog – your truth here will have valuable ripples through our community, thankyou for the insights and for your continued confirmation of science in Ancient Wisdom – I love and value so much what you bring to this arena. I agree with Rik, I hope to read more of your blogs and I hope they reach the rest of the world too.
We have all been in the Serge says philosophy.
Serge even says “In philosophy we don’t have to take everything as known, we just have to be open to that it may be known”.
The Livingness is an example. You can read Serge Benhayon’s books and listen to his audio but it won’t make you a student of the livingness. To do that you have to live it and put it in to practice and feel the effects until you know it well and trust it.
This is great Dianne. I love your first sentence ‘How often in life have we used what another person said to validate our expression because we didn’t feel we were enough?’ I certainly have found myself doing this at times. In these moments without the lived authority our words can feel empty and hollow. By contrast, when we speak from our own livingness, there is a richness and a depth from what we know to be true which comes through our expression.
I love what you have shared Diane – and I must admit that I too have been guilty of the ‘Serge said’ in a way that counts on his authority rather than my own authority. But what you share here makes sense, so much so that I am tempted to say ‘Diane said…’ …just kidding!
I loved reading your blog Dianne Trussell, “It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves.”
I am finding more and more how true this is. I am enjoying (mostly, aside from a few ‘fails’) being my own science experiment in this regard. Checking, testing and evolving, so that I can truly say “I know this” from my own authority, rather than “Serge said”.
Diane, very much needed blog you have written here! And you are absolutely right, I agree to 100% and I am looking forward to statements from people and myself truly coming from my authority and not only because Serge said so.
I agree Simon, parenting came to my mind as well when I thought about how many times I have been told to do something and wanted to do the exact opposit! I have found the difference with Serge is that he is not telling, he is presenting, and it leaves space for the listener to just contemplate if they are open to what is being said. I can remember things he said to me many years ago that I am only now either understanding or agreeing with! Clearly a little slow on the uptake, but to be honest, now it is in my body as something I have experienced to be true not just sprouting out of my mouth!
Benkt, this is so true, there is a solidity in what I say when it is presented from a lived experience that is not there when I recall from my memory.
“darn, that guy’s right again!” this made me smile as it has been just like that for me too. There is the information that Serge presents which ‘I switch off from because I am not ready to hear it’, or I’ need longer to digest that’ but there is nothing, to date, that Serge has said that has not proven true after being put to the test.
What a richness I found in your article Diane.You’re basicly blowing up the system of any ideal or belief. And you do it with strength, courage, openness and humbleness. That’s beautiful and inspirational to read. And I love how you write that whenever you’re sceptic or don’t know it for yourself yet, that you’ll take the time to test it. From an openness, to be open to the expansion of what you allready knew. That’s beautiful and inspiring for me to feel that it is not about copying anybody, but stay with your own Truths, for as long as they are True to you, with an openness that there might be more… Thank you.
Great blog Dianne! What is not felt and lived can easily be used as a dogma and therefore totally missing its true origin.
Diane thank you for opening up the awareness of being our own scientific testing. I agree that whatever and however I choose to live comes from what is true in and for my body. How I feel in my body is proof if something is true for me or not. Not because someone told me so. However the wisdom of how to choose this for myself has been very inspired by the truth Serge Benhayon lives.
Thank you Dianne, I love what you have shared here for all; in truth expressing from what is lived and felt in our bodies comes with more power and authority than expressing from our heads where we need to fill in gaps of need and recognition. Great blog
I love what you are suggesting here Dianne, that before we share someone else’s truth and or understanding, we first feel if it’s also true for ourselves. I have been doing this for my adult life for the most part, particularly when it comes to my health, my mothering and my relationships. I continue to champion my own wisdom in favour of another’s, of course notwithstanding that another could and often does have a tremendous amount of wisdom too that is given out.
What a fantastic blog Dianne. The wisdom and truth in your words is a great confirmation that you are living what you’re expressing. There is a lot to ponder on in this blog and an empowering message.
“Then I test it in my own life. So far, the results have been: “Darn, that guy’s right about everything!” ” I love this Dianne. To make the teachings and presentations a real life science experiment is something I am for going to implement in my life. This will be my first science experiment!
I like what you are saying here Dianne. It always comes back to whether we really live what we are talking about or as you say rather use it as a disguise, defense or distraction.
Dianne, such a thought and feeling provoking sharing. I am sure I will be reading this several times as it is very full and powerful from a woman who is truly knowing. Thank you.
Love the authority you bring here Dianne. Simple, real and practical.
Dianne, what you are exposing here is massive and I still use quoting someone, Serge or other in the attempt to give my words more authority and back them up. I never really stopped and deeply considered how dishonouring of myself this is. Thank you for this amazing blog, it highlights so many aspects of this subject, which is certainly worth exploring in detail and bringing awareness to.
We are giving our power away when we choose to say “Serge Benhayon said” and not backing it up from a truth lived within our own bodies. It feels like we can make what someone says ritualistic, a bit like a following of a truth they have lived and perhaps we can see that very openly and without a doubt. It is disempowering to not live from the truth we know within us first.
You write and present with such authority we can start using you: Dianne said…… I absolutely love what you share here. The vast difference between hiding behind another’s words and honoring and speaking from your own wisdom. The sentence that stood our for me:
“It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves.”
For me this can be one of my downfalls. If someone has said something amazing, the truth, I presume he will do that again. So keep feeling and discerning if what I hear is my truth is a great reminder.
Yes Rebecca powerful and empowering quote ‘propping up our lack of self-worth and filling in for our fearful reluctance to express what we do actually know’. it’s the same when we do it for ourselves and go into justification. I catch myself before I justify because I know I have already felt something in me react so it’s a marker to stop and connect first, and I take my time responding.
So true Sandra, it is the intend that makes the difference. Anything apart from expressing freely, surrendered to truth will, take the credibility out of what we say as this will never fully be what we really could express and thereby share in this world.
Yes Angela. Truth is the LIVINGNESS of knowledge that you hear from another source; and act on through your body consistently with the responsibility and respect to the source to which it came from – a soul-full-way-of-being.
What an amazing blog to read Dianne Trussell. I love how you write and how real it is when you describe things — It’s living proof. You are a true scientist of our times and evolving with cyclical movements of this period. A master of truth with your testing and propagation- did I word that right? Here’s one of many quotes that stood out for me “It’s important to always ensure that we feel and check the deepest innermost truth for ourselves to avoid complacency and propagation of errors, and to keep up with energetic shifts as each of us, and the whole system we’re part of, evolves.” I’m all for ‘checking’ and ‘evolving’, and always ‘testing’ — I Love getting to TRUTH like you Dianne !!
Write some more journals or articles Dianne Trussell – amazing to read!
This is a great blog, Dianne, which exposes the energy of our expression, either coming from a place of needyness or from a place of confirmation. Thank you.
What a great topic – It has taken me well into my forties to be able to really give myself the space and back myself and take the care to really express how I feel without rely on other’s opinions. I am learning to be inspired by others but share from my real lived experience.
“…because we do tend to go through life with a lot of habits of knowing and feeling that are not from truth when deeply examined”. This is very true for me. I have had many habits of knowing and feeling that have not been from truth, also many choices that have not been from truth. I like to say: If you want to know how the water is, jump in it and feel for yourself. Truth resided in all of us and it is important that we connect to this, and not just do or say things because somebody else says so.
Absolutely!