Imperfect

per·fec·tion / pərˈfekSH(ə)n/  the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects.

The idea of being perfect once offered me something finite – a finish, closure, an end. It was something I could strive for and achieve. An expected goal. It was an old familiar feeling and very comfortable, however it was a form of imprisonment.

Freedom from flaws was a hard task, restrictive and near impossible. It was like the Geisha, living a life of controlled gestures, highly skilled and pleasing others.

Striving for perfection is demanding, exhausting and all consuming: driven by an external force of never feeling enough and always keeping it together.

But what if there is no perfection in life and nature – only cycles? Cycles impulse around and around, they are naturally and forevermore expanding and evolving, there is no end to these cycles. There is no stagnation, only change.

Can we measure perfection? Being perfect at a task, by the way we look, by what we do, say or think?

Perhaps we cannot measure perfection because we are forever evolving? This means that there must be change in everything we think, do and express. We are forever expanding and can always go deeper… in our conversations, our movements, in our connection with self.

What if our expression in life will never be perfect and nor should it be; perhaps being perfect is just a concept we have hung onto, thinking that in some way it made us ‘better’ or more lovable.

In the past, believing the idea of perfection pushed me to improve, achieve, to try, and to separate from my natural flow and beauty as a woman. In choosing to try to be perfect it often took me so far away from myself that I felt disconnected from life and my inner feelings.

Being a perfectionist felt like I had no sense of humour; it felt like wearing a suit of armour and having tightly bound feet, restrictive and joyless. It was seemingly protecting me from the hurts of the world, but really it blocked the love within me from expressing outwards.

Perfectionism held me back from being my gorgeous, playful, fluid and powerful self. In many ways trying to be perfect has prevented me from truly connecting with others, never allowing myself to feel unravelled, exposed and free to walk my own path. I have been lost in the illusion that ‘I am only worthy of love if I am perfect’. This simply is not true.

The truth is that I am not perfect and deep within me is a knowing that this is okay… as there is no such thing as perfection.

Imperfection is real, fresh, sexy and alive in its fullness and is ever-changing.

I no longer choose to be a perfectionist. I am unwinding the tightly bound beliefs of this imposition. I am slipping out of the corset and straitjacket of glamour and unhinging the ‘love blocking’ suit of armour. I have removed the facade and taken off the mask. Every day I feel more light and lovely – I am now enjoying appreciating myself without the need to be perfect.

In fact, I feel the true beauty within me that is strong, still, powerful and forever evolving. I now know who I am. I am an extraordinarily beautiful Woman just being myself, and there is no room for perfection in that. I am worthy of the deep love that flows from within me and is expressed out to the world every single day. I celebrate this love and appreciate all that I am without perfection.

Imperfection allows growth and unfoldment, movement and magic in every moment. It has its own Divine order and greater plan, in which I now trust. I am imperfectly perfect.

I am deeply and forevermore inspired by the teachings of Serge Benhayon, Natalie Benhayon, Universal Medicine and The Ageless Wisdom.

By Kathryn Fortuna, Inner Image Consultant

Further reading:
Accepting Your Imperfections and Grandness
Whoops Is One Of My Favourite Words – A Message From the Author

 

1,080 thoughts on “Imperfect

  1. As you say perfection has the implication of completion, hence it is impossible to achieve as nothing is permanent for we are perpetually evolving. However, this does not mean we are not perfect when in Truth.

  2. It’s revelatory and confirming to read this line, especially the bit about never allowing myself to feel unravelled i.e. to be raw and sensitive – ‘In many ways trying to be perfect has prevented me from truly connecting with others, never allowing myself to feel unravelled, exposed and free to walk my own path.’
    I am always feeling a lot and now that I have a known marker of the stillness within, that is continually deepening, most of the time much feels out of place. It’s the integration of the two worlds. The stillness within is perfection and knowing I have this within it becomes my duty to perfect my connection to the best of my ability.

  3. In a session this week a practitioner told me I was perfectly imperfect in most areas and then shared one area I could bring a little more attention to. The thing is that the comment in relation to being perfectly imperfect was a huge compliment – meaning pretty much as good as it gets because there is no perfection on this planet!

  4. It will be a truly glorious day when we all get that there is no perfection – no set, steely images of how it should be that completely stop the divine flow of life and our surrender to the beautiful, pure, powerful Light and Love from which we come. Holding onto perfection literally stops us from evolving.

  5. Yes / we are merely at the influence of ideals and beliefs that keep us limited to the truth. That keep us seeing only superficial, whilst it is actually multidimensional.
    What is being said here is true, I have been playing a game of perfection for so long and now opening myself up to the fact that it does not actually exist on this plane of life. So striving for it is utterly false. “Imperfection is real, fresh, sexy and alive in its fullness and is ever-changing.”

  6. I am still realising every day even more the brutality of the straight-jacket of perfectionism – and how it wounds so many young people at school, and then stays as a life long pattern of imprisonment. It holds the impossible picture than people imagine that they cannot break but must match. But only by smashing that icon can we access the glory of true life – the vitality, the livingness, the joy, the love, and everything that constitute God.

  7. Perfectionism keeps us in a constant spin, always striving for more and never feeling we measure up, learning to let this pattern go is life changing and allows us the space to appreciate and accept the unique qualities we all bring.

  8. There are a qualities that can honour yourself in full and for me it is having ‘perfection’ in my order. This creates steadiness and a flow to life being ready for the what is next. This is done in the knowing that perfection is not possible but having the order holds it in place – perfection in the imperfection.

  9. “Imperfection allows growth and unfoldment, movement and magic in every moment. It has its own Divine order and greater plan, in which I now trust. I am imperfectly perfect.” how beautiful, amazing and expansive it is to be perfectly imperfect. no more pictures ideals or beliefs it is just to be who we truly are within the flow of life.

  10. Over the past few years of attending presentations by Serge Benhayon it has been possible to begin discarding the hard suit of perfectionism. Everything feels much lighter without this massive heavy load and thus aware of an amazing vulnerability, delicateness and a deeper appreciation of being in a woman’s body, from making this choice..
    “I no longer choose to be a perfectionist. I am unwinding the tightly bound beliefs of this imposition. I am slipping out of the corset and straitjacket of glamour and unhinging the ‘love blocking’ suit of armour. I have removed the facade and taken off the mask. Every day I feel more light and lovely – I am now enjoying appreciating myself without the need to be perfect.”

  11. Perfection does feel very stagnant and the tension to achieve perfection feels very restrictive because anything outside of that rigid picture of perfection is not accepting. The most fun and joy I have had in life is when I haven’t cared about perfection and feeling free with my imperfections.

  12. I love how you unravel that there is no perfection as we are continually evolving and thus we are not static but always asked to be ‘more’.

  13. ‘free from all flaws or defects’ … oddly for someone who’s chased perfection I’ve not read it’s definition, and yet reading it today I feel it’s futility, it’s chasing a point in time, locking it in as perfect and in that it becomes staid; there is no flow, no light, no grace, but a prison. So here’s to letting go more of my perfectionism and seeing it’s hold on the way and flow of life that is the natural grace we all are.

    1. Yes, isn’t that with so many things in life we pursue? We pursue them and often with fervour because we are convinced of them being the way to go, but if we stopped and felt we would see that there was a discrepancy in what we really deep down want as to how we are living.

  14. We conflate perfection with something that is relatable to our five senses. What if perfection is an existing quality but one that we cannot relate to it through our limited five senses? What if the issue is not with perfection but with what we are perfection to be (which has nothing to do with what we make out of it)? What if perfection is not a human quality but only a divine one?

  15. Perfection demands such an ongoing, ‘doing’, tense, effort – all of which is absolutely exhausting. Doing a beautiful job on something with love and in the flow of movement may have its imperfections but it feels so much more loving, and it is totally regenerating.

  16. We can’t have perfection because we are constantly evolving and expanding so it only exists when we create a picture of how we want to be. Which is impossible to start with because we are constantly expanding and can’t fit in a box or a picture!

  17. I am starting to understand that perfection is impossible to achieve because it doesn’t exist in the universe and so, no wonder it is so exhausting and debilitating whenever we strive for perfection.

  18. Perfection is like a long-term prison sentence of uncertain duration, only ever relieved by short bursts of light when a moment of assumed perfection momentarily breaks the shackles of judgment and devastation.

  19. We are forever students in a way that leaves us with imperfections deliberately so. We are not here to be here, let alone be perfect in being here. Hence all imperfections are showing us something.. To forever deepening it goes.

    1. Beautifully said Danna. Interesting that we have allowed this word to own us to the degree that we are missing the point, that in essence we are already everything. Our imperfections serve to guide us to live in a truer way, so we can heal and evolve. A blessing for us to embrace, as it is all about being true, being love and as you shared there is no end to deepening our connection to all that we are and all that we are returning to.

      1. Funny to read you commenting on perfection Carola, because today I was listening to your CD in the car and thought that was pure perfection. Before hearing you sing I too knew there was no such thing as perfection but now I am not so sure.

      2. ah ha just read your comment again and got it – of course you sing with love from your essence and anything expressed for there is perfect even if it is not!

  20. ”In choosing to try to be perfect it often took me so far away from myself that I felt disconnected from life and my inner feelings.”
    Absolutely, that is what it does — it makes you focus on achieving something that is not achievable and than you are left by the lack of awareness of the bigger picture, of you in it — and hence we often loose connection to life and our inner feelings (that is such important part of you).

  21. “perhaps being perfect is just a concept we have hung onto, thinking that in some way it made us ‘better’ or more lovable.” I absolutely agree as this is a belief that many children take on very early in their lives – ‘if I am a good boy/girl mummy will love me’. What a weight for a young child to take on and one that could possibly stay with them all their lives. Understanding that there is no perfection was, to me, like throwing off a weighted down coat followed by the most amazing sense of liberation from the damaging restrictions of the past.

  22. Perfection does not allow true freedom as you say Kathryn, as it dictates how we have to be to the dot. And how could that be possibly be freedom. So I like how you say you are imperfectly perfect as when we are in our essence that’s who we are and it is never about completing a picture that we have of how we have to be but living and expressing from our inner knowing and quality.

  23. It’s like in music… If you are locked into perfection, as so many musicians are, there is so much tension there is so much pressure… to the point where, the lead violinist of the Brandenburg Orchestra would repeatedly jab himself with a needle before it came time to do an important solo… Imagine what it’s like to let go of this and to simply have fun playing and singing together… What a contrast

    1. So true, there is a lot of tension when we aim for perfection, it is a constant need to be better and you give a great example how extreme our behaviour can be pushed under this belief of having to be exact to the point.

  24. Yes seeing perfection as an end or completion of some kind is a trap, for perfection is not possible in terms of living as a harmonious human being. Hence we are in the illusion of thinking we are chasing something attainable all to avoid appreciating what is available to us in the present moment…

  25. Kathryn, you share some points that carry such depth of truth that it is unavoidable such as this One: ‘I have been lost in the illusion that ‘I am only worthy of love if I am perfect’. This simply is not true.’
    Many of us carry around with this or certain ideals based on pure lies — look a like truths or made to portray the falsity over the reality.. All once allowed by us — by not standing within our truth and gaining a certain force power in the other (evil). This is not true intelligence — awareness is.

  26. What a forever mouse in the wheel thing perfection is. I remember the continued attempts to hit perfection, the changes, the adjustment, the tweaks, a never ending story of never accepting things or myself for how things are. I’m not a fan of using perfection or even imperfection as the words still carry a particular behaviour and so I am more and more seeing myself as a student, a student of life with a never ending appetite for awareness. In this there is no room for any critique only space to learn from one moment to the next and to continually expand the awareness you have come to from one moment to the next and in this appreciate just being rather then forever doing.

  27. Perfectionism pushes many of us to try and improve ourselves in the belief we are lacking or not enough, instead of accepting who we are and that there will always be some imperfection, ‘Perfectionism held me back from being my gorgeous, playful, fluid and powerful self.’

  28. Perceiving that imperfection as a reflection to support and enable evolution is liberation as to strive for perfection is to be shackled to an impossible dream.

  29. We are forever expanding and can always go deeper, life is never about being perfect, that is simply a trap that can hold us back, ‘ what if there is no perfection in life and nature – only cycles? Cycles impulse around and around, they are naturally and forevermore expanding and evolving, there is no end to these cycles. There is no stagnation, only change.’

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