The normal practice when looking for teaching jobs and attending interviews is to prepare yourself as much as you can by collecting as many possible questions which may be asked, practicing your answers by writing them down, having mock interviews to prepare you for what might come, and to have the ‘perfect’ observation lesson planned.
But what if there was another way? What if preparing for an interview was about every choice we make and how we live each day – the way in which we care for, love and nurture ourselves?
I recently had a job interview and chose to prepare for it in a very different way to what I would have done in the past. This awareness to make a different choice has come from being inspired by the presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, who have shown me there is another way – a way to live and be that is truly loving and caring of me and my body.
The week before the interview I was very aware that everything, all the choices I made, from when I went to bed to what I ate, would have an impact on the day.
With this, I chose to focus on being very present with my body, in how I expressed myself through every action, word and thought. For example:
- How I chose to walk – gently and with joy.
- The way in which I dressed – I honored what I felt to wear and how I put the clothes on my body.
- The way in which I drove my car – in presence, focussed on the driving, my body and the road, with no thoughts about anything else.
- How I cooked and ate my food – making sure I chose and cooked food that was lovingly prepared and nourishing for my body.
- How and when I went to bed – preparing for sleep by allowing myself to let go of the day.
- Making sure I honored my body – when I felt to stop and take a rest, be it at work or home.
- Not getting involved in conversations or discussions that I knew were there to try and make me doubt myself and my choices.
With this I allowed no space for self-doubt, anxiety or stress. If any of these did try to sneak in, I would stop, say no, and make a more loving choice, which allowed no room for these self–doubting thoughts.
I prepared my overnight bag a few days before, taking care how I placed everything in it. I made sure I had early nights in the days before so as to prepare for the long drive ahead. I packed the car in the early evening the night before, to leave room and space in the morning for my normal routine, and not allow any anxiety or rush to sneak in. I then prepared lunch and drink for the long journey, and made sure I wound down and very lovingly and gently got ready for bed.
There was not one part of my day or night that was not included in my preparation for this interview. I also learnt to trust myself, by choosing the lesson to teach for my interview that I knew within me was the correct one for exactly what was needed that day, even if it did go against the grain and what other people said. I listened and trusted what my body so clearly shared with me.
So as the day came, I left to go to work in joy; there was no worry, stress or overwhelm, and it was no big deal that I had an interview coming up. It was simply just another part of my day that I would equally be me in, no more or less to any other day.
On the drive up, I made sure I drove in joy and gentleness, appreciating each moment and appreciating the care I had taken with preparing for the interview. I stopped along the way to take a break, stretch my legs, have a drink and enjoy speaking to the people I met.
I didn’t push myself to get there or worry about the time as I knew this would have an impact on the next moment and the next day.
As I arrived at my accommodation for the night, I could feel a little part of me went, “oh no”, as it did not look as good as it did in photos, but immediately I made the choice to not let this expectation I had affect me. I made the room as loving and supportive as I could, then went for a walk to allow my body the space to unwind from the drive and the day.
I could feel there was a little more I wanted to prepare for the interview lesson, but knew I was tired, so instead of rushing and stressing before bed as I would have done in the past, I chose to honour my body and go to bed, knowing I would have space the next morning to do it then.
The next day I went to the interview with not one ounce of anxiety or stress, nor any need to get the job. I was there to be seen, and to express all of me, without holding back who I am, and to have fun with it as well.
The day was amazing and I felt so much joy. Everyone I met was lovely and open and such a joy to be with.
I didn’t prepare any questions or answers, as I trusted myself and my body in the knowing that because of the way I had chosen to prepare for the interview, everything I needed would be within me to answer any questions asked.
I trusted that the answers would come from a knowing in my body, from my truth, my lived experience and not from trying to say the ‘right’ things in my head. There was not one ounce of me that held back that day.
I was offered the job, but honoured my body, as the job and where it was did not feel true for me. This was also part of the process, knowing I didn’t need to panic and accept a job just because it was there.
What this whole experience has confirmed to me is that, yes, we can prepare for interviews and certain aspects of life, but that true preparation doesn’t come from knowledge in the sense of going into our heads with anxiousness and drive.
True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.
With love and deep thanks to Serge Benhayon.
By Gyl Rae, 37, Teacher, Scotland
Further reading:
What causes anxiousness?
A True Commitment to Work, Getting a Job… and Life
The Interview Process and the Power of Everyday Living
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
Last year I attended an interview for a position I had never done before. All I had was past experience of my profession and for the first time in my life, I went in being me. For the first time I went in with an attitude that it didn’t matter if I didn’t get the job as I had no investment or outcome either. May I say it was the best interview I had ever taken in the 30 years of being in the health care industry. We laughed and I took my time in answering the questions, and not hesitating to ask them to repeat the questions again, I actually over stayed my allocated time.
I didn’t get the position, and it was beautiful to feel the rejection, as minor as it was, it was still there. What was beautiful that months down the road, after I had forgotten about the position, I was approached and offered the job as another position had come up and I accepted. With no fear or thoughts of if I am good enough, what am I going to offer etc, etc.
This too wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t been inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. My life is in a different position to where it used to be and I thank God that they are in my life and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Being present with ourselves in every moment is such a wise choice, ‘With this, I chose to focus on being very present with my body, in how I expressed myself through every action, word and thought.’
Being present in every moment keeps you sensitive and aware of your surroundings. Being checked out and not with it, well anything can happen and then we blame everything and everybody and not take responsibility for our part in it…
The only real preparation we can do at any given time is to look after ourselves and our physical body. Now this makes things so much simpler as it is actually quite do-able! Of course we can come up with a plethora of excuses and know this in our minds but to actually put it into practice and live it is often the challenge that can bring us down. The simplicity of it however, is there to support us to put this into lived practice!
Gyl this sharing is super gorgeous as it shows us how we can prepare lovingly so for things like interviews that can be known to be nerve wracking. It does make we wonder why we do not live like this all of the time in a way that honours us all of the time?
I really love this. This is such a great reminder that there’s no real preparation we can do other than keep loving and honouring the body for it to be able to meet whatever comes every day, every moment. When I think about it, it is so simple, practical and normal that it really amazes me how I can sometimes turn it into a challenge.
Keep loving and nurturing ourselves is so supportive, ‘What if preparing for an interview was about every choice we make and how we live each day – the way in which we care for, love and nurture ourselves?’
The body is a great teacher.
Yes, the body is a great teacher. Are we willing and committed students ready to honour and apply what we are lovingly taught?
“… there was no worry, stress or overwhelm, and it was no big deal that I had an interview coming up. It was simply just another part of my day that I would equally be me in, no more or less to any other day.” Beautiful Gyl. I went for a job interview last year and because I had no expectations I felt free to just be myself. To my surprise I was accepted. This was a huge learning for me – to just allow myself to be true to me – in any situation.
To trust and honour ourselves and what we feel is huge and living this way is deeply healing.
The saying goes ‘every moment counts’. Have we ever considered that ‘every movement counts’?
Well said Natalliya – every movement and moment does indeed count! When we move gently and caringly it brings that same quality to our thoughts which of course is a foundational aspect of our relationship with self and others.
Such a great example of a lived way that honours all of you, Gyl. And I love how you incorporated everything into your interview, all of you and how you live.
Such a simple list of things to focus on, to keep yourself present and life uncomplicated. Why not every day?!
Powerful droplet of wisdom. There are no outcomes: the quality we bring to each movement assures what is to be. This prepares us for a future we’re already living in the present. In other words the present is our future.
Being in the future while in the present in the name of preparing for what comes, only helps to generate and perpetuate a high level of motion that does not help us to be best respond to what presents when the time comes.
Yes we can not change how we are in one hour, so our preparedness has to come from how we are living our life every single day leading up to the interview day.
What a beautiful list of things that Gyl focused on, how amazing would it be if we were all taught this way of living early on in life by parents, or at school.
Move in a true way, breath in a true way and all openings for any wayward whispers that you are not enough are non existent, or seen before a crack in the door appears.
This gives preparation a whole different meaning. It is not about plotting and planning, but putting the body in the readiness to respond, so what then is required is going to look totally different.
Yes Fumiyo, trusting that we are enough and what comes through us will be for everyone and what is needed at the time.
Awesome blog Gyl, it reminded me of a similar situation where I was going to be filmed and for a few weeks before I also prepared myself very lovingly and was very nurturing with myself, so when it came to be filmed it just flowed very naturally and simply, makes me wonder why I don’t chose these movements on a consistent basis as it is super supportive.
It’s interesting that we are inclined to take better care of ourselves in the lead up to what we consider an important engagement or experience, but what I am realising is that it is far more healthy to consider every day as important as any other.
That’s exactly what I was feeling Suse reading this, how I can ‘want’ to take better care of myself when something big or important is coming up, yet not put that same level of attention and care into my every other day. Like the difference for many when it comes to weekdays (predominately being work days) and weekends (usually days ‘off’), that on and off switch does more damage then we realise.
Yes Suse, each day and event is of equal importance. This approach brings a depth and steadiness to life: the Way of the Livingness is our preparation for life.
An ‘inter-view’ with yourself for a way to live every day.
“But what if there was another way? What if preparing for an interview was about every choice we make and how we live each day – the way in which we care for, love and nurture ourselves?” How much more ease and lightness could we then bring to our interviews, workplaces and homes if we lived in a way that not only simplified our day to day living via the love and nurturing expressed from our bodies movements but we could also access a wealth of wisdom on tap too. Simply awesome thank you Gyl.
An interview is not just what it seems to be; it is a bath in the consciousness of the industry you work with. There is something you have to show the interviewers and that is how much the consciousness runs through your body; how much you have embodied it and talk, walk and deliver from there. Of course, this is the normal expectation.
And if you do not perform like the circus animal they want you to be, then its a much more difficult decision as they are now having to look outside of their comfort box. But there is no denying quality, people recognise it no question, and that is a far more important aspect of yourself to deliver.
I love this Gyl, it’s moving in a way that closes all doors where evil may enter. Move with the divine and the divine will move with you.
A beautiful description, and prescription, of how to live life all the time, not just for special occasions – living one life.
We are the creators of our own life and in that we have a choice, either we co-create in accordance with the plan and with that serve all of humanity or we create as from our own thinking and the investments in an outcome for our own interest. I can sense that what you describe Gyl is being in co-creation of the all, the truth we all once again will return to and therefore in harmony and rhythm with our body and the whole of our being.
Understanding, as Gyl has written here about, that the way we live is that which prepares us for everything that comes to us… Or not as the case may be
Spot on cjames2012, and I love being reminded of this as sometimes it is easy to look at what has happened and ‘blame’ the outside situation or another person etc, but in fact in and with our movements we have contributed in some way to the situation. But if we have been in and with movements that are truly gentle and caring, then no matter what the apparent outcome is, it is like we are more settled with what ensues.
Today I am appreciating the foundational and supportive nature that loving attention to detail affords us – a factor this blog more than confirms.
The best preparation for any thing we may find daunting or challenging is making our every movement before hand in connection to ourselves and the all. With this connection we fill the space within of love, appreciation and purpose leaving no room for what is not to enter and take us off course to then not present all that we are.
So beautifully expressed Kim and so true. What we fill the space with is what we then reflect out and back to us.
It is beautiful to read about the deep honouring and loving of yourself that are shown in this blog, the presence and tender loving care are such an important part of our daily lives.
As you say, the simplest way to prepare for anything really is to stay connected with your body… our bodies had the most wonderful natural intelligence and resilience when listened to.
True preparation comes from how we live everyday, to being present, tender and loving with ourselves, ‘True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.’ Absolutely.
Lovely for you to confirm that there is another way to live, and so prepare for an interview, ‘What if preparing for an interview was about every choice we make and how we live each day – the way in which we care for, love and nurture ourselves?’
Gyl, I can see how preparing for something like an interview starts way before the day and is not just about knowing what to say, but how you are feeling from within.
Words will just be words, until such time that we live the quality that they truly represent – then they become living words that hold authority when spoken. Life is to be lived in full and not just from the head.
Every moment is a preparation for the next moment, and the next, and the next. How I am in what I am doing right now will determine how I spend this afternoon, my day at work tomorrow, 3 month from now on… This has been presented by Serge and Natalie Benhayon many times, but even so, I have caught myself thinking that I deserved a break from that, and slipping into making choices that were less than loving. Living with this awareness and walking it every day is something that I am working on.
That’s a revolutionary way to prepare for an interview! I’m finding myself in a position where I will soon be attending interviews, so this blog post could not have come at a better time.
This is a completely different way of preparing for a job interview, and it makes so much sense. It isn’t so much about the interview but about how we are leading up to it – the quality of our how we have moved our body leading up to the interview is what matters.
So true Sandra, and actually we can live this every day, being prepared to deal from our essence with anything that comes our way at any moment of the day. Our essence, that inner knowing that does not need any outcome but only lives the truth it is from and connected with.
When living a prepared life all of the time, anything that will come to us will not be a problem as we are connect to that inner source that knows and we can safely rely on as we do in our everydays choices.
This is very true Nico , how one prepares for their own life , is how one is prepared for life.
Gyl what you share here is super supportive and inspiring for anyone going for a job interview or preparing for anything in life we experience on a daily basis. What your blog highlights is when we commit to making these simple loving choices throughout our day we are constantly rewarded back in many beautiful ways allowing any needs or attachments we may have to any outcomes to naturally fall away.
“But what if there was another way? What if preparing for an interview was about every choice we make and how we live each day – the way in which we care for, love and nurture ourselves?”
Yes, this makes so much sense. It would feel second nature and take the stress out of the event so we could truly just be ourselves when going in for the interview.
Beautiful Gyl and life changing. What a way to prepare not only for an interview but for life.
I agree Nikki, we don’t need to wait for an interview or something special we can make these loving and quality choices in each moment.
A great reminder that every single choice we make impacts on everybody and every subsequent moment in our lives. Not just physically but through the quality of our experience
Wow Gyl this is gorgeous to read. What you have listed here is the how to of living a loving, joyful and responsible life every single day.
You could say every point of our life, every step is a preparation for something big. I know we look at ‘big’ events, birthdays, dinners, celebrations, job interviews, marriage etc as being things we need to plan and prepare for and so we give them a certain amount of preparation time. But what if everything you do is with you? I mean after all every step has you with it and so then wherever you arrive, no matter what the heading, all of you, every step and choice will be with you. In this way preparation for anything has no lead time as we are always preparing and so every movement you make is one that support you for what’s next or takes away from you and so you feel less in the next moment. I do get what this article is saying and it’s a great way to prepare for something like this just as long as we don’t see this as an up and down thing, like a performance almost. To be aware that spending time truly present with what you are doing is the best preparation you can do for what ever is next and this never ends or has a start point. It’s an ongoing relationship that begins again after each step, at each point is an opportunity to go deeper and deeper or offer a deeper quality of presence to any moment. As the article is saying, “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.”
Great to read – I am preparing for an interview later this week. It’s lovely to feel the truth of the fact that it is the way we live that will support us through any day. Yes there is preparation to be done but this cannot be at the expense of ourselves.
As we start to really listen to our bodies they will show us the way forward, without a doubt
I love this Gyl, you’ve flipped the normal practice accepted in society on it’s head.
This is a great reminder that we are forever, constantly, preparing ourselves for whatever comes our way. I am typing this comment because of how I did what I did previously leading up to that, and how I am doing what I am doing right now takes me to the next point – and I don’t even have to know what that next point looks like, it is all guaranteed by the quality I have already chosen.
Gyl, I loved this part of your blog ‘I was offered the job, but honoured my body, as the job and where it was did not feel true for me.’ We so often accept a job offer because we worry that there may not be another one, yet when you were deeply honest with yourself as you were to turn this one down. Beautiful to read how you honoured yourself, and at the same time you honoured those who offered you the job by your own honesty too.
If we live in the conscious presence as you describe Gyl, then we are prepared any moment in time to do a job interview, as in fact no preparation is needed when we are fully with ourselves. We then are connected with a wisdom and a knowing that is unfathomable by our mind and will present through our bodies that we have prepared so well for doing its job.
I had an observation yesterday. It is something that used to get me very anxious in the past, but similar to what you have shared Gyl, I planned my lesson, with no need to impress and made sure I did the things I know keep me steady like having a good nights sleep, eating foods that I know support me and doing my exercise in the morning. It went very well.
This was fascinating to read as I knew of and couldn’t help but compare to the opposite of nearly every loving choice you made… which in truth would be the norm for most when preparing for an interview. The difference is remarkable and the love you offered yourself exquisite. When you take the need out of it and make it about being an opportunity to just express all of you, it can clearly be a deeply enjoyable experience. A blog to remember.
I recently went for a job interview which I prepared for like Gyl shares here. For the first time in my life, there was no anxiety in my body. What was there was a joy and openness. I enjoyed everyone I met that day and know from this experience that true preparation is about supporting ones self to be ones self.
“I didn’t prepare any questions or answers, as I trusted myself and my body in the knowing that because of the way I had chosen to prepare for the interview, everything I needed would be within me to answer any questions asked.” A different sort of preparation – great to re-read Gyl.
“True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” We live in cycles and how we are now and what we do now will affect us down the road.
So, choosing to be present, aware, loving and steady to make the cycle work for us in its entirety is just brilliant.
Every choice we make accumulates and comes with us in all that we do…
It’s so true Gyl, when our integrity is held with our commitment to expressing quality and truth we fill ourselves with purpose and leave no space for doubt nor disregard.
Interview in its original sense is “to see each other.” It is to be seen and to see the other one and not I want to be seen this way that is not me but that may me get the job or to trick someone into a job situation that is far from what the person is going to find. So, preparing is about to prepare yourself to be seen and to really see what is on the other side waiting.
Your preparation is a great recipe for life, Gyl. In my early 20’s I remember preparing for job interviews by drinking coffee and smoking cigarette’s in my car and by the time I got into the interview, I was shaking like a leaf and stinking like an ash tray! I thought these things would calm me down but the truth is, that I couldn’t cope with my sensitivity and what I was walking into, the fear of rejection and the fierce jealousy that would often come at me. So I raced myself from the present moment and had very little if any connection with my body. Boy oh boy, how life has changed now.
I love this blog. It turns all the old ways of doing things on their head and just allows us to come back to what is a true way of being with ourselves and the rest of the world.
It’s the beauty and grace of our movements, that connect us to who we are. It’s the true joy of connection that takes us through our day and we see how each moment and movement ripples on into the next to prove that how we live, walk and express really does create a platform for us to simply be all of who we are. It’s the essential key to any part of our day: be it a job interview, chat with the cashier at the supermarket or cooking dinner for our family, it really brings it back to self love, care and appreciation for being ourselves.
Awesome blueprint for living life whatever is happening, taking care of the details and trusting that we will be given the answers allows no room for all the self-doubting thoughts that so often sabotage the best-laid plans. When we are totally in the moment we have no need of plans because we can absolutely feel what is the next true movement.
So inspirational to read of your total commitment to preparing for the interview and subsequently the fact that turned down the job when it was offered because it didn’t feel true in your body. Being dedicated to taking such care of all the details allowed you to let go of the outcome and surrender to the bigger picture. You will have touched so many people’s lives that day and confirmed in your body this deep level of self-care that is an amazing foundation for how you treat yourself every day.
Very cool Gyl. There most certainly is another way.
I have come to realise that it really doesn’t matter what the outcome is but the way in which I go about it, the quality of energy I am in in every moment.
This is a great way to approach an interview, it places the responsibility back on us to live in a way that is honouring and appreciative of who we are and the rest is just a natural flow of that.
This makes me hugely appreciate that what is to come next is always founded on what it is right now, and the power of choice we actually do have moment to moment to determine what our future is.
A beautiful plan to prepare for our interview with the rest of our life.
I love how your willingness to lovingly care for yourself provided you with a steady foundation whereby you were aware of unloving and self-doubting thoughts trying to sneak in, and instead of falling for them you were able to make a clear choice and say ‘no’ this is not who I am. A beautiful reminder that this steady and loving foundation is possible to live every day in our lives, when we choose to honor ourselves and our bodies.
Most people feel anxious, stressed and have doubts when it comes to attending interviews. People who read your blog is supported to know that there is another way. The way you have prepared your interview is deeply loving, honouring of your body and of what feels true. This way is a way we can all be inspired and live by to support us to let go of stress, tension and overwhelm in any situation. We can choose to prepare our day with loving choices, as they impact on how we feel and our choices that followings.
I love the care and dedication in the way you approached your interview. It makes absolute sense that what you have shared ensures that we are our best for the occasion and not just crammed with clever answers and lines to impress. And it prompts me to ask myself since this obviously does work and does bring out ‘our best’ it seems silly for us to not live with such dedication the rest of the time, for surely we deserve to be our best in every single moment.
I just had an interview.
I was a bit a apprehensive about the whole process and felt myself dipping in and out being confident with what I had to say however in the end the more I detached from the situation and spoke clear and calmly the more comfortable I felt.
Quality rather than quantity.
Awesome blog Gyl, I have found it very inspiring. The level of care, attention to detail and presence you pay to your everyday way of living is superb. If we all choose to live with this level of love and care, imagine what our lives would be like, it would be in harmony.
Thank you Gyl, this is a model than can be applied to all of our lives, understanding that all the moments before a moment are contributory to that present moment which then contributes to the next moment. This really shows we are on a continuous cycle with no ‘out’ times. This feels like a simple yet responsible way to live.
Love how you’ve expressed this Gyl. Imagine if we lived all the time like this, and not just when we had to prepare for a ‘big’ day. To live with this consistency and commitment to honouring what we can truly feel, is what sustains us far more than any mental preparation. Looking after our body and nurturing ourselves supports us to feel true confidence through our connection to ourselves and our lived experience. It feels so much more solid and supportive to connect to all that we are, and our lived experiences, instead of being at the mercy of what we can recall or remember.
When we prepare from the body anything before us becomes a breeze of fresh air, when we don’t is when we get into trouble and start to panic or worry as the outcome of such event then becomes our marker of worth. I have had several interviews over the last few months and each time the body has told me if the job was true or not at every stage, sometimes I would listen at the application page, other times I had to go to the interview to feel that it wasn’t true or that I just had to experience that situation to appreciate where I am now. Having accepted a new job now based on how I felt about the job is a new one for me as it may not look appealing on the surface but I am trusting my body, we’ll see what happens.
Preparation from the body not the head – feels amazing.
When we lovingly care for ourselves and prepare for our days and responsibilities equally as lovingly we cannot but inject love into all that we do and share it with others equally.
I’m looking for work, and because I am having moments of feeling so desperate to leave my current job, It’s easy to see the first job as the ticket out. But you’ve reminded me Gyl that it’s important to discern whether the next one is right for you or not. Because if we make a reactionary choice, we simply carry on the cycle that potentially got us where we are in the first place. So honouring all that we are feeling all of the time and creating the space to allow us to feel what’s going on is so immensely important.
Such a great lesson in preparation for anything Gyl. A wonderful way to live, such consideration of yourself in every moment of the day. Amazes me that we are not taught to live like this…so many answers lie in this approach! I love it.
” . . . I allowed no space for self-doubt, anxiety or stress. If any of these did try to sneak in, I would stop, say no, and make a more loving choice, which allowed no room for these self–doubting thoughts.” Gyl that is really an inspiring way to stopp those not loving ways and to treat ourselves, especially to chose this more loving choices is what makes me looking forward to do the same.
What this shows us – in great detail – is that we are far more responsible for what happens to us than we think. When we take the time to prepare for something, we are much more steadier and less reactive. As when we are reactive, blame is often the first thing that comes out of our mouths. Oh the kids, the traffic, the stupid directions etc….the list can go on. But what is so clear from your writing, is that you took the time – over a week – to prepare you and your body – and allowed time to readjust to any expectations (the room) and built confidence in being with your body and trusting the wisdom that comes from that. And you can feel the steadiness that comes from that so less room for any issues to arise and if/when they did, you are much more capable to respond. Very inspiring Gyl.
Very well said Sarah, this is an extremely supportive way to live every day. With this level of care and responsibility Gyl shared, prepares us for life. We are much more able to be steady, unaffected by things outside of us because of our deep connection with who we are, strong, powerful, wise and inspiring others along the way.
I like the practical approach that was applied here of not being attached to an end result but responding to what you felt along the way and from there feeling what your next steps were.
In a way our whole life can be a preparation for the next moment, building the quality in the way we do things all the while.
Absolutely Fiona – this is the feeling I got too. That life is a constant building, and how we arrive at the next moment is indicative of how we were in the last.
I love what you share about preparing for an interview. This is something we don’t learn at university or school when thinking ahead about working life. What stood out most for me was that you had no investment in getting the job and was not attached to the outcome…along with your interview preparation this feels like the most freeing aspect to your experience. What if we all approached our interviews in this way?
Thank you, Gyl. Your sharing makes me realise that with each and every choice we are making every moment, we are preparing ourselves for the next moment – whether that is a job interview, a date, doing errands… whatever. It is about building a body that can be in a movement that would allow us to make a choice that would lead us to evolution, and it is an ongoing, constant unfoldment that may sometime take us by surprise with an exponential leap forward.
if we live every day in such presence as Gyl is writing about, then we would be prepared for anything because we would be living with conscious presence, then when we lived with conscious presence then we are able to feel what is happening around us to such a depth that this in itself is all the preparation that we need.
Thanks for Sharing Gyl! A great blog to read and so timely as I am preparing for Graduate Nurse position interviews in the coming months. The pressure to get a Grad program is intense and everything you have named is being recommended, from preparing interview answers and “putting yourself in the situation” prior but to me I feel to bring far more value to the way I am living so I know that when I get to an interview I will have a momentum of lived love that I can stand on as a foundation, which to me is far more supportive and true then trying to “fake my way through”.
A great blueprint not only for preparing for an interview but as an approach to living all facets of life.
Gyl, this is such an empowering way of being and what a beautiful way to bring yourself to the interview. I can feel that you bought all of you without any anxiety or tension. Gorgeous.
A great way to approach an interview. It would certainly be less stressful if you were prepared ‘yourself’ rather than over-preparing. We can have a certain amount of preparation in regards to the sorts of things we might be asked, it is preparing ourselves and our bodies lovingly that makes a difference and the way we live as a whole is received. I have a graduate interview for a nursing Job soon, and this is an approach I will definitely be taking.
Thanks Gyl. Preparing for a stress free way of doing an interview – can be applied to almost everything else too. I find this super supportive when I get ready in the mornings before going to Uni.
Thank you Gyl I really loved the deep honouring and commitment you gave to yourself in preparation for the interview, and also in choosing not to take the job. Very inspiring.
A great perspective about how it is where we are right now that prepares us for the next step, and the next and the next, and then before we now it we are even more where we wanted to be.
I like that Chris, true evolution
I agree Chris – “before we know it we are even more where we wanted to be.” I am often delighted when this happens.
Gyl your blog is truly beautiful and very inspiring to read. If I ever I have a job interview I will certainly be returning to this blog. This line really stood out for me and is a great reminder for all areas of life ‘True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.’
I am realising more and more that in self-doubt I do actually know and sometimes it is a matter of trusting that knowing and gently, yet deliberately, acting on that and at other times it can be that my doubt is allowing me a pause to consider more realistically, or truthfully, what is going on thus confirming my knowing. The old me might by-pass this step and end up doing something from a belief or an ideal that, in truth, serves no one.
Interview comes from the French s’entrevoir “to see each other.” Yet, nowadays an interview is mainly (but not always) a game of cards so to speak. The idea of double direction is missing but it should not be, since not only the candidate has to offer what the job requires, but also the employer has to convince the candidate that the company is okay for him/her.
Great point Eduardo. Many interviews I have been to have not been about seeing me as a person. And great point, companies definitely should be open and ask the candidate if the company is right for them. This doesn’t happen because companies run for their own gain rather than for humanity.
I had an interview today and had to come back to this blog to remember the truth about interview preparation. I especially appreciate what you share about not being attached to ‘getting the job’. I can see that when I am attached to an outcome it is impossible to express who I really am.
Thanks Gyl for reinforcing the benefit of living in a self caring way and how this lifestyle prepares us for lifes experiences
Thanks again for this blog Gyl, I have just reread it as a gentle reminder of what is truly important as I prepare for a job interview tomorrow. Being true to myself and what I feel, trusting that what is true will unfold and allowing myself to be all of me in the interview is what really matters. The outcome of the interview then becomes secondary to being all of me.
Thank you Lee, I will have an interview soon also. To remember the outcome is secondary to what I bring in every moment before and after is golden advice.
Well l had the interview. l didn’t get the job. However, l feel l did not hold back on who l am. l went for it. My intention was to enable them to feel me as the teacher l am, in my classes and to inspire them, as l do my students.
Apart from a few moments that l felt were forced and rushed with my answer and areas l felt l was trying to impress, it flowed beautifully. As l finished l was confirmed in the fact that l had inspired them. l felt it in myself and one of the interviewers. The other was preoccupied with questions. lt was so freeing for me to walk out feeling “l have done my job”. l allowed them to see me and what l bring. lt was very empowering to feel this experience as no greater than any other and to get on with the next awesome moments that followed on from there in my day.
“True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” Thank you Gyl, this is a true prescription for preparation for life every day.
Gyl this part is most pertinent for me..” With this I allowed no space for self-doubt, anxiety or stress. If any of these did try to sneak in, I would stop, say no, and make a more loving choice, which allowed no room for these self–doubting thoughts.” It’s in being able to say no to these self-doubting thoughts and the stress and anxiety, that I find the most challenging. Here is where every other choice either supports me to do this or not. As you built your body of loving choices you strengthened your ability to say “yes” to more love.
I shall write a note to self with your words Gyl. “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice and trusting what we feel inside.” So much of my life I’ve allowed others to cast a doubt over what I truly felt – then up pops anxiousness which then start a cycle of negative momentums to distract further from truth. A beautiful sharing – very appropriate for me to read today. Thank you Gyl.
When reading your amazing Blog Gyl I can feel your strong commitment to be aware and present and how this empowered you to such a wonderful experience with your interview. Your list how to expressed yourself through every action, word and thought is very inspiring too so thank you for not holding back of what you have achieved.
It is a wonderful feeling to start to trust the intelligence of our hearts and bodies, to understand that we do not need to be prepared with constructed responses but yes we do know exactly what is needed and even more.
I am still coming to terms with this even though I can feel it is true. I can feel that anxiousness and investment get in the way of my ability to express what is truly needed. The constructed responses are pure protection. I can feel how freeing and fun it would be to let go of this and just be myself.
Thank you Gyl, I really loved reading your experience of how deeply committing and honouring yourself allowed you to choose what was right for you, this is such an amazing way of preparing for an interview.” True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.”
I love this Gyl, it is magic and I can feel it sinking deeper into my body each time I read it. “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.”
Yes this is awesome…so simple! So true!
I agree Carolien, this is so hard to do in the beginning because of the lifelong momentum we have running on striving to achieve and never feeling quite enough, so try to do more to make up for it… but to understand it is all about the quality that we bring first and foremost and throughout, and if we bring that presence and quality, then what needs to get produced or completed will naturally happen, and more importantly will be done in the quality that is needed.
Gyl, I love how you describe true preparation and feel that if we live like this all the time we are at any time prepared and equipped to deal with any situation that comes before us
This shows how everything in our life matters and the cumulative affect of the way we live comes with us to each moment. It is like making love. It is not so much the act but the way we live together the day or the week before. All this, whether it is harmonious and loving or not is with us.
Yes beautifully said Fiona. This is worth deeply pondering. The cumulative effect of every action.
Gyl, thank you for sharing this, I have reread your blog today, where you write “The week before the interview I was very aware that everything, all the choices I made, from when I went to bed to what I ate, would have an impact on the day.” I totally agree our choices effect every part of our everyday Living, and what we do today affects tomorrow.
How true Sally, well said. All that has gone before and all that is to come depends on the quality we are right now.
I like how you say ‘do such a number on themselves so that they are a total wreck..’ Because it is true, we orchestrate all the reactions and anxiousness, nervous tension and drama completely ourselves, This blog beautifully outlines the second option which is to focus on the quality we bring to every single moment as it presents, (not worrying about whats ahead or beating ourselves up about what has gone before). Allowing this quality of presence brings a confidence and awareness to each moment that we are otherwise denying ourselves. I have found it takes some practice to break the old sabotaging patterns, but bringing a steady rhythm to our day, as shared here makes it possible, and is so definitely worth it.
Annie, this is huge to expose. That l am responsible for the orchestration. HUGE!!!!
well said Annie and it is huge to make the shift of making life no longer about outcomes and results or what we think we need to be or do but to focus on presence and quality first and foremost.
Gyl this blog is such a support for not only a job interview but for life in general. Imagine if everyone lived their life with the self care and detailed preparation that you followed.
I agree alisonmoir, people world over are struggling with anxious, stress, getting things done, running a home, family, business, and the feeling and often said phrase ” if only I and more time”. What if creating not more time is possible as its a man made thing, but that creating more space is possible which feels like time has actually slowed down, by being consciously present with ourselves, our bodies and each task we are doing – literally one thing at a time, rather that constantly thinking about the next thing or things or something we wished we had done different in the past.
And with that care and presence comes clarity.
Love this Gyl, what if we approached life from this perspective, that presence brings space into time to allow us to observe, understand and become more aware of what is before us in that moment. Maybe in this space wisdom is born or found once again.
Gyl how lovely to read the preparations you made for your job interview. The commitment to yourself is very inspiring, and what I noticed was how joyful you felt and how everyone else felt open and a joy to be with.
Gyl I love your commitment to allowing yourself the care and support to choose exactly what was right for you throughout your interview process and the time leading up to it. This just shows that when we honour ourselves and what we feel in any given moment life flows seamlessly and the life is joyfully rich. Thank you
This is such a great testament of how self loving choices and taking care in our lives has a huge impact on the quality of our expression. There are huge industries based on rating people to a forced and often false sense of empowerment – but what you offer here is a natural deepening quality from within us that we take with us everywhere we go and whomever we interact with inspiring everyone as we go. The preparation you are talking about is the most loving thing we can do for ourself and for everyone.
I agree Golnaz, this is true service to humanity.
Everyone wins. Such an awesome blog.
I had to go through that process a few times recently and felt the same as you Gyle. A friend of mine who works as a manager for a corporate company knows the interview process inside out and wanted to help me out with it, but realised quickly enough, that only my own experience and what I could bring to the job was enough.
Love it Gyl. In living in such a way and developing a relationship with ourselves and life where we take awesome care of ourselves and bring quality and presence to all that we do, we are naturally ‘prepared’ for what we may come to meet in our day. Whether it’s an interview or a ‘performance’ (something I can particularly relate to…), nothing need be any big deal. We simply bring ourselves to it. How gorgeously simple.
This is a great blog that shows when taking responsibility, it can be joyful and it breaks down the stress and anxiousness around job interviews. When we are relaxed and joyful within that reflects onto the interviewer, and so the situation will be. It shows how we can take the lead in letting go of old beliefs to be in a particular way to fit in – into trusting deeply that we are divine, and nurturing this fact with self care and responsibility. So much Love can be with us when we allow it to be.
As I read your words Gyl I am left with a strong impression of how much warmth and support you felt for yourself during your preparations for the job interview. There is nothing quite like the feeling of real confidence when we take care of our bodies and take time to deeply honour what we feel.
Gyl, you show great leadership in your blog here, living and experiencing what happens when we commit to listening to our body and using that as our guide rather than the mind first. I suspect that the answers that you gave at your interview were also in line with everything that you lived and that they were jam packed with so much more, but ones that were felt much deeper and full of truth rather than the typical planned and rehearsed answers.
What a beautiful way to prepare for an interview. I have observed others do such a number on themselves, so that they are a total wreck by the time they end up in front of an interviewer. What you describe is awesome, and I have experienced something similar, thanks to the way I am with myself on a daily basis, I was there in my fullness at the interview and more able to let it unfold, rather than go into all the panic and unnecessary worry. Having trust that all is working out as it should is also a big support.
I like the line ‘true preparation comes from a commitment to the body. The other day I realised as I was driving, I was very worried about being late. I was supposed to be at a meeting at 8:30am, it was at that moment 8:20am and I was still 20 min away from my destination. I had thoughts of ‘oh no, they are probably sitting around the table and it looks bad that I am not there’. Then I realised that I was ahead of myself- as it was only 8:20am no-one would have been around the table yet so the story I had playing out in my head couldn’t yet be true. It was at this moment that I realised that if I kept driving with those thoughts by the time I got there I would be late and stressed. So I decided to stop those thoughts and just concentrate on where I was at, at that moment. When I then arrived at work I wasn’t stressed and felt equipped to handle what was in front of me.
Thank you Gyl for this blog and my understanding from Serge Benhayon presentations is that true confidence actually comes from our presence and at first I had no clue what that meant let alone feel like in my body.
After 10 years I can say that it is a quality held in the body that develops over time through my commitment and consistency in my daily practical things that I do to support and honour my body. This loving and caring way of living helps me to develop stillness inside me and pulls me more towards building more presence and so no matter what life presents that day, I feel equipped.
I am a planner and I find it a natural way to live but if things change I don’t seem to get bent out of shape like I used to in the past because my body has a steady quality that I am living daily and this certainly has an effect on how I react to any situation.
Beautifully said Bina. It does take time to develop such a quality of presence in all that we do, and in simply being with ourselves and our bodies in our day – vs. letting the head run its own show. But boy is it worth it, to feel how we can indeed build such a steadiness and that it can become our natural foundational support (from within) to meet whatever it is in our day that may arise – nothing need be a ‘big deal’, whatsoever…
Wow Gyl! What a bombshell and a game changer. The “new way forward” to prepare for interviews, and really, prepare for everything in life. What I felt from this article was the deep level of responsibility you took with every detail in life to support yourself in the most loving way because you knew this quality would be felt by those you met in your interview. It is beautiful how you have interpreted and responded to the teachings from Serge Benhayon in this way: your way. I am inspired by your level of responsibility. Thank you for the sharing.
I so agree Simone, you hit the nail right on the head. The level of responsibility is also what stood out for me. Really being aware of the utmost detail and bringing all of her to the process. Very inspiring indeed.
There is so much wisdom in this blog. To have the awareness that everything you do, well before the interview took place, will support that moment is amazing. To live in such a rhythm builds a loving foundation from one moment to the next and supports an otherwise usually stressful situation. Job interviews generally create a lot of panic and stress, in the lead up to them, so to be able to completely avoid all that through loving choices before hand is fantastic. Not only did you manage to lovingly support your body, the reflection you would have emanated to the people interviewing you would have been amazing. Living and making choices that lovingly support each and every moment of your day then enabled you to feel into whether this job was right for you, leaving no room for expectations to dictate your decision. It sounds like each moment allowed for the next beautiful moment that continually confirmed what was true for you. Brilliant preparation tips for a job interview and for how to live our lives each and every day.
“True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” Very inspiring to read you blog Gyl!
On reading this great blog again I can see that I have been avoiding the same kind of loving responsibility with a performance appraisal that is due to be done, resisting even enjoying jotting down the, quite lengthy, written part of it. It is a wonderful opportunity to stop and value what I bring to my job and write from appreciation of my workplace itself (I have a great job) and of me. Much more honouring of my workplace, my colleagues and myself.
Thank you Gyl, for showing so obviously, how even the smallest part of our day – be it a gesture, movement, choice or whatever, will influence everything that follows.
How lovely to not be bound and pulled into something just because it has been offered. It is the strength and knowing of oneself that allows us to make those choices for the true reason and not from fear of loss. Great and each time you go through the process you learn a little more about you and what you require in your life to support you.
I agree Gail, I knew the day before, as soon I took the road towards the town I had the interview in, a heaviness was felt, as first I wondered if it was the area I was driving through, but it soon became very clear that I knew it was not true for me to be working here. When I arrived at the town it was an instant huge body felt no, which I had a little wobble with, so went for a walk to come back to myself. The next day I drove to the school got to the carpark and again it was an instant no from my body, even when I went in I knew I didn’t want the job. I could have left there and then but it wasn’t about that for me, it was about the people in the school and the having fun with the kids I got to teach. It was one of the most friendly schools I have ever been in, from the janitors at the door greeting the kids and visitors like me, the office staff being so open, friendly and welcoming, to the pupils, staff and heads all being the same. I didn’t hesitate to share how much I loved meeting everyone, that I really appreciated the real community vibe at the school, and when I declined the job. It was an amazing learning experience in many ways.
Thank you Gyl, this was really beautiful for me to read with the word ‘exam’ inserted instead of ‘interview’. What you have shared here about preparing for an interview may be seen by some as ‘nuts’ as it requires complete trust and allowing that who we are innately is already everything that needs to be there on the day. With exams it is similar – yes there are very real things we need to do to prepare for them, but how we are leading up to it, and the way we complete the exam is actually more important than the content itself. If we spend all the time learning, but burn ourselves out in the process, then when we get to the day we won’t be much use to anyone! More emphasis in education definitely needs to be placed on how we are, not just what we know. It is incredibly important, and will help many with the stress they currently suffer unnecessarily.
This is a hugely important point you’ve raised her Amelia. I remember sitting for university exams where people near me literally threw up in the aisles between the seating. There was nothing whatsoever in the education system that said ‘look after yourself’, let alone as a first priority, nothing at all.
And yet, even amidst such callousness, we can make a true difference in the way we are with ourselves, as Gyl’s blog beautifully illustrates. Enough people do this, and systems cannot but buckle and change.
This is such a beautiful honouring of yourself Gyl. I love the part where you choose not to except the job simply because it was offered. Thank you for sharing.
I loved this part too, it supported me to reflect on how we can make choices that truly honour us no matter what is on offer.
As I am having interviews currently, your blog is very inspiring to me Gyl. Thank you for reminding that the way I live and support myself on a daily basis – it’s quality and consistency – is very important for situations like interviews etc. as it builds a foundation to be with me and to be who and how I am no matter what situation I am in.
What I also recognized with regard to interviews is that for me it is very important to not have „any need to get the job“. Because when I do not have the need or any pressure in me to get the job I feel liberated, much more in my power and can be how I am. The interview then runs on a complete different level.
Beautiful Gyl. With the way you prepare yourself, the people interviewing you got the real you, and not some “best of” version that had been prepped up for the day. There is real honesty in offering ourselves as we are without putting on our best behaviours, both in interviews and relationships.
I love this nikkimckee – sharing the ‘real us’ and not the ‘best of us’. The real us we can be consistent with and even expand to bring more. It also offers joy and vitality to all we do. The best of us has us feeling pressure that we will be exposed as not enough and is exhausting.
Gyl I love your total commitment, which left no space for self-doubt. Your absoluteness for your purpose is truly inspiring. I can feel how it assists to continue to make self-loving and honoring choices. One choice is the foundation for the next choice to be made on. Thank you
Interview preparation through self love, a committed self honouring rhythm and without pre prepared answers – that is truly evolutionary and deeply inspiring. How would the world change if we all approached interview situations in this way, a way that also acknowledges the shared equality of all participants, not the power structure of employer / employee relations?
Great point Coleen, for the employer and the employee are realising that they are actually equals, just fulfilling different job roles.
How would the world change if we approached life in this way 🙂
Indeed this blog is true evolutionary and inspiring. It can help so many people to look at interviews from a different view. I can remember that I had always a lot of stress in this moments preparing for an interview. I have experienced this other way of preparation like Gyl has written, too. I can be totally relaxed and knowing I have everything I need inside of me. Trusting that all will be there with me, the tension and the nervousness is no longer needed. Such a release not having to be scared of an outcome or judgment.
So beautiful coleen24 to be inspired by a self loving approach to life and taking this to all aspects of life including interviews and jobs. Imagine also if people were employed on the qualities that they bring to the role not what they can get done – making it truly about quality.
Indeed Coleen, imagine in fact how the world would change if we approached all situations in all areas of life in this same way – making a commitment to self first and foremost and without any pre-set or attachment to a certain agenda or outcome – simply allowing ourselves to be ourselves in any given moment and any given situation!
It simply makes all the difference when we make every moment in our lives count.
Well said Coleen, equality of all participants is the ideal in the work situation but hardly ever the reality. This would set up a great foundation on which to build equality.
Gyl after reading your blog I felt confident and even enthusiastic about the prospect of a job interview. I have just spent the day doing a course designed to help people get a job. I have come out feeling ill equipped and overwhelmed having heard how the private sector recruit people. There was no comparison between your preparation and how it was suggested on the course that we prepare. Your blog left me with the feeling that I am enough and the course left me feeling inadequate as I am today.
Wow, Gyl, I feel privileged to have read your blog and shared in your deep commitment to both yourself and life. It is how we live in each little detail of life that is so important – not to disregard any moment and to live life in that consistency and dedication. It was truly inspiring and revealing for me to read your blog.
I used to find interviews ready daunting until I realised that yes, I was being interviewed to see if I had the skills to do the job and would fit into the existing team but at the same time I had my own questions of how the team and the company would fit in with me. From then on I could feel that the process was more on an equal footing, as they had to suit what I was looking for also.
We all have our ways of preparing ourselves for an interview, which in some cases can cause us to become more anxious as the day goes by, but what you have described Gyl takes it to a whole new level of support for yourself, which would be felt when attending the interview.
Julie – me too. For me they stopped becoming daunting when I realised there is an order to everything in life, and if I’d be great for this job if chosen. Also appreciating just how lucky they would be to have me 😉
An amazing account Gyl of the perfect preparation for a job interview or for life for that matter. It never ceases to amaze me how much confidence is gained by our the way we live our lives honouring our selves and bodies -our livingness ,its like we align to the truth without perfection of course and then live it = confidence and absolute surety of self without doubts , everything we need is there for us. Magically in fact.
But what if there was another way? What if preparing for an interview was about every choice we make and how we live each day – the way in which we care for, love and nurture ourselves? This makes so much sense, that how we are within everything that we do, is done with our own loving and consistent presence and grace. This then would naturally build into a trusting and magical relationship with ourselves and humanity.
I feel presence is one of the most under-rated skills on this earth. I find when I am present, and my mind is not going crazy, I have more focus, and unshakable steadiness, I’m calmer and more collected, I deal with stressful situations better, my body feels better because it’s not under constant strain from my mind, my relationships greatly improve, I care for myself and others with much more depth, and I enjoy life and everything it has to show me so much more – and that is just the very beginning.
That’s really true Meg. Presence is generally not something that is taught to us, let alone seen as important in life, but something we can start to share with others as we develop it for ourselves.
Yeah – it’s amazing it’s not even considered important, yet it’s totally life changing and would help prevent so many illnesses and diseases, not to mention lessen stress.
Hear hear Meg, presence is essential at all times and makes a world of difference.
Amazing Gyl, this is so inspiring. I love everything you shared, there was so much care, love and honouring of yourself in every step of your preparation for your interview. The way you choose to live is incredible, truly inspiring and an awesome reminder for me. The trust and knowing that you have all the answers within you is so empowering and absolutely beautiful.
Thanks again for this Gyl. The sentence that struck me this morning as I read this blog was “…I had an interview coming up. It was simply just another part of my day that I would equally be me in, no more or less to any other day.” What a lovely way to approach anything “big” in our day. If I am fully with myself in all that I do, then I am me before the interview, I am me during the interview, and I am me after the interview. Whether I get the job or not, I am me, and that is amazing!!
What a gorgeous blog. A perfect testament of how care in every detail and honouring ourselves provides a powerful foundation for our life. “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside” This says it so beautifully.
Wow what a revolutionary way to prepare for an interview, but I also can really understand the importance of living with the responsibility that everything we do has an affect on everything therefore the way I am today will effect my interview tommorow, or that exam, or even the conversation I have with someone. “What if preparing for an interview was about every choice we make and how we live each day” This alone is such a profound and powerful statement to the responsibility placed on every moment that we often ignore or checkout from
I had an interview the other day for a job that I went in thinking ‘Yes this job is perfect for me!’ and I got a proper grilling on all sides. There were three people present, or may be I should say two because the third seem a little preoccupied or disinterested. I wasn’t trying to ‘get the job’ but I presented myself in truth – talking about my strengths and being honest about what I didn’t know. They did their best to create an intense interview atmosphere and I did get swallowed up in it at moments where I felt the pressure to give the ‘right’ answer; when I inevitably spoke from head and my reply was not so strong, not that clear. When I diffused the intensity of the atmosphere with some humour and openness, I felt more at ease in my body, from where the answers came and they came out clear as a bell. I didn’t walk out of the interview feeling that I would accept the job if they offered it to me. Ultimately they didn’t for my lack of relevant experience.
Gorgeous Gyl, and if this level of commitment and responsibility is possible in preparation for an interview, what is possible if this is lived and built on each and every day knowing the profound importance of being you in everything you do.
I agree Kylie, I can really feel how powerful that would be for me and others around me by choosing a new level of commitment into everything that I do.
“True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” This is a gem Thank you Gyl. Since the first read of your blog I’ve felt the inspiration and appreciation for what you shared and it’s great to re-read. I’m feeling how honouring myself as you describe is very important to being prepared for everything that comes up in a day that requires attending to – small or large.
This is what I call true commitment to each and every moment, to what is ahead and to yourself. Awesome to read, Gyl, ~ this takes preparation for interviews to a whole new level. Not to mention preparation for the day, just a normal day. Thank you for the great inspiration.
Making a job interview part of your normal day, not building it up to be a pinnacle moment makes so much sense. I know how easily I can go into anxiousness when something important comes up, so it was great to read your blog Gyl and understand that it is not so much about the interview or special event but an extension of how we are living on a daily basis that stops the anxiousness and self doubt creep in. The fact that you got the job but declined it showed that you were not attached to an outcome but just presented all of you on the day and let it unfold…….”The next day I went to the interview with not one ounce of anxiety or stress, nor any need to get the job. I was there to be seen, and to express all of me, without holding back who I am, and to have fun with it as well.”
“True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside”. What you describe here Gyl is not only preparation for a special event but true preparation for every moment in life.
I agree Anne, this blog is so inspiring and the sentence you’ve highlighted is a brilliant reminder for me.
When I read this I keep coming back to the statement “Preparing For Life (not interview) – Is There Another Way”? YES there is another way of preparing for and living life, and this way is not what we often see around us, but can easily be connected to and lived daily, in our work, relationships and with ourselves. This is what I feel Universal Medicine brings that is so different to any other organisation.
‘The week before the interview I was very aware that everything, all the choices I made, from when I went to bed to what I ate, would have an impact on the day.’ As I explore the possibility of the greater responsibility I can take in every day, this is a super supportive quote to consider the flow of live and its connected-ness. Thank you, Gyl.
I can really feel the confidence that living this way has brought you Gyl. It goes to show that confidence comes from the way we live and not the rah rah of one line mantras to trick yourself into a belief that you are confident, the two are poles apart.
Great observation Matthew. These one liners can only fool the mind, they do not come from the livingness of the body hence the empty feeling they carry and the need to repeat to oneself over and over again as if trying to learn something new.
Thank you Gyl for your hugely inspiring blog. The way you prepared yourself for the job interview for the week before feels incredibly loving and supportive and is a beautiful recipe for how we should treat and be with ourselves each and every day.
I love how all that you have shared can be the ‘normal’ that people everywhere in the world choose for themselves and in relationship to each other and what our world would then feel like and reflect to those being born into it!
Thank you Gyl, for the great reminder that the more I commit to live life with a level of presence in my body everything else gets taken care of and there is no need to have to rely on the head to plan for the future as that gets taken care of by me bringing that level of detail to each moment in everything that I do.
In an interview, we can feel scrutinised and compared to the other applicants for who is right for the job. Being all we are in that situation is all we need to be,and it’s possible that if we don’t get the job, it’s not our ‘fault’ for us to feel not good enough. It could be that the job was not right for us, or the people are not ready to have us in that role. It’s not a reason to feel less.
Gyl, you truly blessed the people interviewing you by the level of care and responsibility you took in preparing for your interview, and left them with something that they said ‘yes’ to. What if we all took this level of care everyday to go to the shops, to work, to school, on a date, etc, etc. Wow, we would create heaven on earth everywhere we went!
I just like the idea of what you say in your Blog so much Gyl, that I want to live my life like that, all the time.
The commitment to self that is described in preparing for an interview, is also on offer for us all as a daily commitment in life. This is known as The Way of The Livingness as presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. It is a whole different way of approaching life with self-care and love.
I love this blog Gyl, a great preparation for life.
Great to read about your experience Gyl, and what if we could apply the way you prepared for your interview to everything in life? Then no one thing would have more importance than another, nor would any person be deemed as more important than another. Living like this we would celebrate each moment and value ourselves and what we bring no matter what we are actually doing, for everything would be done with the same love and care and everyone would be treated as equal.
This is such a comprehensive template and beautiful support for humanity in how to live all of us all of the time, thank you Gyl.
I agree such a great list of practical things to support bringing through what there is to be expressed.
Amazing timing, Gyl, as I have an interview in two days time. This really turns things on their head and takes all the stress and worry out of the interview process. Trusting and honouring what you feel in your body and what really feels true for you in the situation means that you cannot fail, as you have so beautifully described here.
I totally agree Janet. What Gyl has shared removes all the stress and anxiety with “getting” the job.
The way you prepared for your job interview is vastly different than anything I have ever done in preparing for an interview. I can so see the benefits of your way Gyl because really what you described was you taking all of you to the interview. They got to see and feel who you are as a person and that is what really matters.
Yes, and I can imagine that if you had pushed yourself to prepare in the usual way Gyl, or invested in the interview, you would not have been able to feel so clearly whether the job was actually supportive for you or not, as the investment would have clouded your view.
Very true Kylie. It is the same when looking for a new house, making a big purchase…it can be so easy to go into our head over such matters and then we are not present. When not present and when caught in the head, things can become very cloudy indeed.
This is a beautiful sharing Gyl. I can feel the joy in your commitment to being you and to life, and I can feel the joy that you and everyone get to experience because of that commitment. Thank you for presenting such an amazing way to be in every aspect of our day, so that we are always prepared to be ourselves and allow people in to fully see that.
Gyl what you have shared in your blog is really about not only preparation for an interview but preparation for life. Imagine if this was taught in schools, that we did not need to go into our minds or think to prepare, but instead we prepared by committing to our own love and self-care. Wow, now wouldn’t that change the world.
Gyl I can comment on so much of what you have shared but right now I am struck by just how much you cherish yourself.
Gorgeous to read, I have had some exams recently and I prepared in a similar way. I appreciated how much more steady I felt when I concentrated on being present and caring for myself in the days running up to the exams. It gave a foundation that supported me on the day of the exam. It also offered a reflecting that life can be like this the whole time and I can be prepared, present and caring of myself everyday. I have experienced this now and know I put can it into practice by learning to live it everyday.
I love what you have presented here Gyl – going for job interviews in the past has really unsettled me but you have given me more to ponder on for my next experience of being interviewed. “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” Great words here.
Every choice we make has an impact on the next moment, next hour, next day and indeed all our choices come back to us like a boomerang…..there is no escaping our choices.
So true jacqmcfadden04. Our choices coming back can either support us or provide an opportunity for us to choose differently this time round. Thank you Gyl for presenting a different choice to one that many of us have previously made.
Brilliant! This is so true, we ultimately live with all our choices and in realising this has helped me take self-responsibility to whole new level. No escaping for sure and lovingly so.
‘I was offered the job, but honoured my body, as the job and where it was did not feel true for me. This was also part of the process, knowing I didn’t need to panic and accept a job just because it was there.’
As you have shared, the interview is as much an opportunity for us to evaluate and discern whether the job opportunity is ‘true’ for us as it is for the interviewer to see if we are a good ‘fit’. It was awesome to read how you felt into this and gave yourself the space and permission to choose what felt most supportive for you. There was no attachment to having the job after all the gorgeous preparation you gave yourself in the lead up to your interview.
Wow I have never quite considered the extent to which we have the opportunity to discern whether a job is right for us or not, I can see how if you go into an interview with that perspective, of it not only being a one way interview, then there would be far less pressure and so we could actually prepare for the interview in a way that is in line to our true selves.
Yes, interviewing the interviewers to see if the job is right for us… it changes the focus from a desperate sales pitch to seeking something that will support us.
What you describe sounds like how we all should live naturally. It just feels right. How on earth did we end up living in fear, stress and so far far away from this natural connection to ourselves? Your blog is a great inspiration, thank you.
Great question for us all to ponder on Regina.
Great question Regina and because we are living so far from our natural connection this is the reason for all of our misery and pain. Re-connect and we not only restore health and harmony but we restore peace on Earth.
Wow Gyl. This blog is incredibly inspiring. I can feel that every meeting with another is a ‘job interview’ of sorts. Your interview preparation list is fantastic and something that I plan to incorporate into my every day. Thank you.
Hey, that’s a good point Leonne, ‘every meeting with another is a ‘job interview’ of sorts.’ We often don’t realise that we are actually being seen no matter how much we think we might be hiding so why not do our best and bring all of us to everything we do, for each choice we make affects everyone we meet and determines the quality of the ‘job’.
Exactly Sandra – we never know what is around the corner…It pays to prepare to bring all of us and commit to purpose at all times. I often find that the moment I slack off in my commitment to myself, eat something that doesn’t agree with me or disregard myself in some other way I am presented with an unexpected task or opportunity that requires me to be ‘on’ . Always a great reminder that everything we do matters.
“every meeting with another is a ‘job interview’ of sorts” – gorgeous Leonne, well said.
I am realising that every single thing I do matters… even the energy I leave behind at the petrol bowser will affect the person who fills up after me. I don’t even have to interact with another directly to affect them. Feeling responsibility on a whole new level.
That’s powerful Marika ‘It’s like I am part of a constellation that has already been decided and going for the interview is just a formality to confirm what has already been felt.’ But for you to feel this would also be because of the way you are living…
This is a remarkable sharing and I found this statement is a big leap from how we generally are to the different choices you have made in the preparation. You ‘…trusted that the answers would come from a knowing in my body, from my truth, my lived experience and not from trying to say the ‘right’ things in my head. There was not one ounce of me that held back that day.’ This is way we can be living ~ where we trust our bodies, but as you have shared, it is a way of living.
The preparation you committed to prepared you so that all the wisdom from you was expressed. If we go into that stress and anxiety momentum, and preparing with trying to get it ‘right’ we cannot connect to that deeper wisdom and importantly there is NO JOY…each day is another day of the quality of our lives that can be lived, there is so much within us….thank you Gyl, deeply inspiring.
It sure is a remarkable sharing Karoline, and deeply inspiring.
Many in my experience approach an interview as a test and as a marker of their worth. They give their power away to the process, the job and can become crushed if they don’t get the ‘yes’ they have invested in. It is setting ourselves up in every way.
An interview is a sharing of all that we bring. Our lived choices, life and work experience. The most rehearsed interviewee cannot erase their choices nor speak from their living way if they do not walk their talk.
I agree, Deborah, our anxiety and investment in the outcome prevents us from simply being ourselves because we think we have to conform to another’s expectations and lose our true selves in the process.
Absolutely – we play the role of what we believe others want us to be or what we feel we need to become and live up to and in doing so we leave who we are at the door and often not even in the building.
Deborah I wonder if the interview process is a follow on from exams. A condensed period of time when we are ‘tested’ in rather unnatural circumstances on material that is rather irrelevant.
A great question to consider is at what point in our lives have we decided that the outside world is an authority on how we should be and who we should be and what gave us the false idea that we need to be more, live up to something or are not enough in the first place?
A really revealing and supportive comment Deborah. I can see how many people would get caught up in what you describe in your first few sentances. As I approach a time of job applications – what you highlight here will stay with me – there really is nothing to prove and no marker of worth in the process, and I can feel how remaining detached, and/or clocking (and turfing out) any investment at all, will be very settling and profoundly supportive, and no doubt make me a far less imposing interviewee, as I wont need anything from the process, and can just let it be with openness. This is great interview prep – quality of living is actually great interview prep, and when appreciated, it can be allowed to support all the more.
And it works. When others feel the space to be without a push from us or need, there is the opportunity for true connection.
An interview is no different to any other aspect of our day – it will be imprinted with the living quality of who we are all and all that we have lived to that point. This is felt by another well before we enter the room.
Deborah what you have shared about being able to feel everything that another person has lived up to that point will one day be widely accepted. Currently we operate under the false belief that if we don’t tell someone something about ourselves then they won’t find out. Most people think that they can have things that are private and that only selected people know about and yet because we are all able to feel energy then we are all able to pick things up from each other, even if it is currently mostly subconscious. In the not too distant future employers will no longer have to rely on checking out future employees on Facebook as they will simply be able to knowingly feel a person’s lifestyle, even without having them in the same room.
We never get away with living a double life despite what we may tell ourselves.
An interview can be a coming together and connecting – a confirmation of what has already been felt and is known.
And what has been presented here busts so many myths about life being a struggle and stress. In Gyl’s ‘living list’ are all the tips we need for being prepared for everything that our days present.
Gyl, this blog is a real gem. It is a great reminder to me that the answer to living life is to live in the present moment and commit with absolutely everything I have, including letting go of expectations, wanting to control outcomes and self doubt. Then things will naturally flow and unfold in the way that is best for me. Thank you!
I really appreciate all that you have presented in this blog Gyl. I am currently looking at new work opportunities which, at some stage, will result in an interview. So I have put myself on a program of reading your blog each day to connect with this way of preparing for an interview, and also as a reminder or how we can live our life each day in connection and honoring of what is true to us. Thank you Gyl.
This is such a beautiful ‘sharing to humanity’ on honouring and trusting ourselves.
Also absolutely beautifully offered for supporting exactly how I am feeling about approaching what is before me. The tendency is to muse over things in my mind however this only sets up more mussing and trying to work it all out in my head. Gyle thank you, I can feel how the truth of what you share from your body resonates with my body. So to lovingly honour my body in every moment is the divine preparation for any future plans.
Love it, sandrawilliamson.”So to lovingly honour my body in every moment is the divine preparation for any future plans.” How awesome is that! And so simple.
What you share here goes for every event or activity. Every meeting, every contact we have with another is like you wrote: “I was there to be seen, and to express all of me, without holding back who I am, and to have fun with it as well.”
This is a great point Monika, I live this intermittently and I am inspired by Gyl’s commitment to all her moments leading up to her interview. As you say if I applied this way to all the moments and events in my life , what a full life of joy and vitality it would be.
What an amazing dedication to every detail you honoured to support yourself to be you ! Wow.
You give testimony to the fact that preparing for an interview is nothing more or less than living in the most loving and lovely way possible. Such lived quality brings everything that we need for the moment ahead.
The preparation and time taken for a specific purpose, be it an interview, or other event can be applied to any part of our lives, or in fact all of it! The question that comes up for me is why don’t we treat ourselves with this kind of attention and care all the time?
Indeed Naren, everything we do is a constant preparation for the next moment – so as you say why would we choose to not fully take care of ourselves and treat ourselves with love every single moment of the day? What is it about having something in front of us that gets us to do something and take better care of ourselves? Surely we are worth loving fully all of the time irrespective of what we may have to do that day or week.
A great reminder James, ‘everything we do is a constant preparation for the next moment – so as you say why would we choose to not fully take care of ourselves and treat ourselves with love every single moment of the day?’ Absolutely.
Could it be that we don’t take that time because we don’t feel that we are worth the time or love? Or because we expect another to do it for us?
Or maybe because we don’t see it around us, so we don’t want to make others feel uncomfortable by doing for ourselves what they are not doing for themselves?
I agree, we need this sort of attention to ourselves all the time.
I am with you on that one Naren, reading back this blog I actually stopped, a little ouch in a good way, as it I felt why do I not take deep care of myself in this way everyday? What made me feel that an interview was worth this consideration and preparation more so than any other day? But it also goes to show that I do know how to deeply care for myself, so there’s the next step, making this normal, my everyday.
And then there’s how to not get obsessive about being perfectly present in each and every moment, which ends up just being a way to set ourselves up to fail.
It feels like what is the crux of this is allowing ourselves the grace and the openness in our life for this level of care to be, as you say, Gyl, normal. Some days will require more preparation or more care due to the nature of the day than others, but the commitment to care and love for ourselves is our everyday.
Great question Naren – and I love the job interview example as its one we traditionally associate with all kinds of pressure and proving ourselves. So from seeing how Gyl lived this example, we (or certainly I did) say, ‘wow, if that part of life can be lived that way, then what else is possible?’; Every moment preparing to be all of us in the next moment, on micro and macro levels, not ‘going towards’ a future point with pressure, but supporting an open easeful approach.
Good question Naren. I recently had a photo shoot and that morning I took such care with how I got ready for the day. I took extra time to do my hair how I like it and I wore a little more makeup. Normally I don’t do these things to the same extent as they are so time consuming. Admittedly, that morning I did make the comment that it took me so long to get ready. But I actually enjoyed myself and my care with myself was evident throughout the day in how I felt about me. And I wondered that same thing – why do I not take this level of care everyday?
I agree Katie – it’s inspirational (and a relief!) to hear confirmation that looking after ourselves day to day means that we don’t need to over-plan or over-stress for things like interviews. Because we have the solid foundation of taking care and being present with ourselves, our activities then on flow much more naturally, and the people we meet get to feel the same love we have towards us and the things we do.
It is great how you went about preparing for your interview. A lot of people feel much anxiety leading up to and during a job interview and you were able to take this anxiety and stress out of the equation through your way of preparing yourself a week in advance
Thank you Gyl. In any interaction, and presenting yourself, there is nothing more normal than to be yourself. I thoroughly embrace the feeling of presenting as much of me as is possible. Each day is an opportunity to be more of me. As Gyl closes with “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” I agree with this in full. Commitment to this will bring a conscious effort to hold and have a marker in your body that you know. It changes, as Gyl says, the whole routine of preparing yourself – you’re there ready in your body and confident.
So true Rik. Knowing who we are, having a marker of this, and presenting all of who we are in each and every moment means that there is no lack of confidence or over confidence, simply a presentation of who we know ourselves to be.
I agree with you Rik. This is such a wonderful and so very practical approach to preparing for an interview. And most important, A TRUE WAY to prepare for all of life. No stress, just a loving “commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside”. So, so simple, but this is the key for life!
When we live this way, there is no need to “prepare” ourselves for anything. The preparation is the support of ourselves with things like preparing food for the day ahead. But as for ourselves, when we are present nothing more is needed.
Wow … Ive never been great with interviews always felt as if I was totally under the microscope, wanting to give the right answer is a killer so imagine preparing for an interview without the stress and worry of having to get it right or following someone else’s rule book
Exactly Jamie – I used to feel the need to put on a front – that some how know one would like me for me. This way of preparing is completely different and feels so much less stressful and honest.
Lets give it a try Jaime, as it has now been tried and proven
It’s wonderful that you had such trust that “…the answers would come from a knowing in my body, my lived experience and not from saying the ‘right’ things in my head.” Beautiful Gyl.
Gyl, your blog beautifully illustrates how nothing needs to be worried about, instead there is only the quality choice we make each moment. How liberating and stress free when we consider the amount of effort and investment in getting the job, that might normally go into preparing for an interview.
This goes to show the investment we hold in so many situations. Being able to free oneself and detach oneself from these outcomes allows a much truer and freer way of living. There is an allowing, a natural unfoldment, where normally we use power and control to force situations causing unnecessary turmoil and tension along the way.
Hi Gyl, This blog is terrific and what it showed me was in relation to some training I am doing. There are times when I answer with much more than is required and I feel that and there are times I answer with insufficient but I know that too. If I were to truly trust what I am feeling in every moment I would – stop – and adjust the things I felt to. This blog is a ‘how to’ reminder. Love it.
This redefines what a ‘successful’ interview – from the focus being completely about getting the job to it being about meeting people with all your presence.
Now this is the way to prepare for an interview! Whatever we need will be there within us and ready to express if we take the time and care to stay with ourselves in a manner that allows space for our inner wisdom.
Yes Rebecca – when you know the inner wisdom has come through there is far less investment in getting the job!
Your blog Gyl is pure medicine for me. I can relate to everything what you are sharing. You describe beautifully, how to prepare yourself for an upcoming event without getting lost in anxiousness and stress.
Just perfect to read this blog Gyl as I am currently looking for work & have been to an interview & though it was very different as I was not stressing about it & all I did was take great care in looking after me & just take me & all the answers were there as I was so relaxed like I was just doing another thing in my day. Reading your sharing just brought finer details for me to look into for next time.
What I could feel when reading this blog was your absolute love and care you hold yourself in. It just jumps from the page. Plus I loved your parting statement. “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” This is so true and a great reminder that we have that choice in every moment, very inspiring and wonderful reminder!!!
It’s a great point you make Gyl that you were also ‘assessing’ whether the job/employer was right for you… something easily forgotten in not just the usual stress of going for job interviews, but also in the need to have a job, and therefore accept what might not actually feel right.
‘I trusted that the answers would come from a knowing in my body, from my truth, my lived experience and not from trying to say the ‘right’ things in my head. There was not one ounce of me that held back that day.’ You feel so grounded in yourself from all your loving preparation and the consistency with which you have been living. To have that level of confidence and trust in yourself must have felt truly amazing, such a confirmation and validation of you. No wonder they offered you the job, how could they not.
Yes Alison, ‘To have that level of confidence and trust in yourself must have felt truly amazing…’ That’s the key, the confidence is real and did not come from what Gyl achieved outside of her such as external preparation but from her daily way of living in presence and being connected…that would have been felt at the interview…
What a deeply Beautiful blog. Reading the non-investment that you had in getting the job or not, I felt as if this wouldn’t be possible for me. But I can also feel how liberating it feels to not be focussed on any outcome. That feels very empowering. It’s not about yes or no anymore, but only about ‘it’ (anything) feeling True in my body. I can allready feel expanded writing this comment. Thank you Gyl.
To understand that it’s how we get somewhere that is the vital experience, and that the result itself is secondary is incredibly liberating… What a great preparation for living in the fullness of who we truly are.
“it’s how we get somewhere that is the vital experience, and that the result itself is secondary is incredibly liberating” – so true cjames – well said.
Beautifully expressed cjames2012, ‘it’s how we get somewhere that is the vital experience, and that the result itself is secondary is incredibly liberating… What a great preparation for living in the fullness of who we truly are.’ This is what I am finding to be true, that it is our everyday livingness that is important, every choice that we make along the way and the quality with how we choose to be in every moment that matters.
Thank you Gyl, I love how you have shared the importance of the preparation not being so much what we do from a mental and head perspective, but rather how the preparation is about the quality that we chose to be in and HOW we prepare ourselves (as in how/the quality in which we eat/prepare food/move etc – is this done in a rush and a nervousness and an anxiety or is it done with a purpose and focus of care for ourselves. I love how you have said: “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” – this really sums it all up!
Yes Henrietta, it does sum it all and shows how there is way of living that can ‘get the job’ done so to speak that is not ‘from a mental and head perspective’ but from having a relationship with our self/body with presence and love….its a whole different way yet as Gyl share’s and it works, whether she go the job or not, she would not have dropped into enormous disappointment…whatever she felt she would have had the support of her body and self! Amazing steadiness!
Wow, what struck me was your phrase that there was not “…any need to get the job.” How honouring for you and your body. You practiced and showed the world real freedom.
How the attachment to getting somewhere, getting it right and getting the job keeps our focus narrow and our body tight and rigid to the task at hand. It is a true blessing for all to take ourselves to every moment without expectation and without needing an outcome….and to not hold back in sharing the quality of all we bring.
“The week before the interview I was very aware that everything, all the choices I made, from when I went to bed to what I ate, would have an impact on the day.” So true Gyl. This is a whole of life approach with the awareness that everything we do, the way we are with others and ourselves impacts on everything else. I love the way the interview process has brought this into focus for you.
Gyl, this is such an inspirational blog and a true testament to what is possible for us when we are connected to the purpose of what we are doing and why we are here. When we connect to purpose – which for me feels to be about true brotherhood – we cannot but want to do everything we can to ensure our expression is all it can be. The detail you have put into preparing for this interview is something we can all do in everyday life if we choose to. Thank you for showing what is possible in such a real and practical way, and the amazingness that then ensues. You’re awesome!!
The joy you describe in your steps is tangible and your approach to a job interview entirely refreshing. I love the detail you went to whilst preparing for the interview, not a the last minute the night before but in the days leading up to the interview knowing that the momentum you arrived in would make a difference. Simple and practical yet hugely effective.
What I have also learned with interviews is that if I don’t get the job, that this is fine too. Then I know that I am needed somewhere else.
“True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment…” So much wisdom in these words. Thank you Gyl.
This is so wise and absolute commitment. Thank You for sharing and inspiring that there is a way of living without anxiety or stress – and you show here the living example.
Yes Nadine…so many of us only know how stress and anxiety and learn to manage it at best, yet what Gyl offers here is another way as you say ‘…a way of living without anxiety or stress’. It may not be possible to be completely stress and anxiety free but it is possible that they do not run us, drive us…that we live from another quality, that comes from a very caring and loving relationship with ourselves as a starting point.
Amazing Gyl, I admire how you don’t miss a word in expressing the true care you have for yourself. If your body is being looked after in the way you have described it makes absolute sense to me that you would end up feeling amazing in any situation in your life, even a job interview, because all through that job interview you get to be in your body! a body that has been nurtured and loved and I am sure all others around you can feel that. It does not surprise me you were offered the job. Amazing Gyl, keep it up and keep sharing!
Thank you Gyl, your blog has been an absolute inspiration, showing how supportive we can be for ourselves in everything, in contrast to the potential sabotage some of us constantly visit upon ourselves. If I bring that same level of care and attention to preparing for my work day, I am looking forward to seeing what happens.
Absolutely Annie. Do we value ourselves to bring this same quality to our every day and every moment of every day or only when we are ‘on show’ so to speak, in an interview situation?
Your article has been a wonderful confirmation of what I have realised lately and that is how important preparation is. I never really did this much except in my head but now I prepare with my body and enjoy the space it gives me to allow life to be as it will be without me trying to control it in any way. All I really have is a choice and that is be with me or not. There is nothing else to do really.
“True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside”, oh so true Gyl. Your preparation for your interview is what living with true responsibility looks like. If we all applied this way of living, every day, then how the world would change and flow with grace. Simple and uncomplicated. Thank you for sharing, your words are inspirational.
What a beautiful quality to live all of the time. It leaves so much space for honouring yourself and for meeting each person that you come in contact with. It is clearly the way of living that is the most loving.
Could we say it even leaves no space for not honouring yourself? Not in perfection but in a continuous series of loving choices and the enjoyment of oneself.
What a lovely turn around from the usual stress leading up to an interview. It also showed me how important it is to trust that it will all be there for the interview, supported by the way we live, not by having the correct answers.
What a ground breaking blog, Gyl. Also an example that a job interview is just another part of our day, just another activity and just as important as the talk we have when we do our shoppings. If we live each day like this, our lives and the world would be completely different. Without all the tension, anxiousness and stress there is space to be with ourselves and with others.
Yes Monika, An example of how we have inflated job interviews out of all proportion and made them seem bigger than ourselves whereas, as you say, ‘a job interview is just another part of our day, just another activity’. The question ‘how do I prepare for this…interview, meeeting, presentation, whatever’ becomes ‘how do I prepare myself?, what would best support me?, what can I bring’ and simply live it. In this way everything becomes equal and possible.
This sharing with us has a wonderful flow to it. For anyone about to venture into the interview situation this article is priority to read in advance of that, but I feel this is also a wonderful recipe for life. Living in a way that involves making a self loving commitment and “trusting what we feel inside”. Thank you Gyl.
Wow so well said Gyl, think of all the advice that is out there that offers information on how to best prepare for an interview, there are hundreds of books and articles on the subject but none go into the real detail in which have and made it about how we live our life! Thank you for sharing Gyl – great read.
“But what if there was another way? What if preparing for an interview was about every choice we make and how we live each day – the way in which we care for, love and nurture ourselves?” Preparing for anything in our day can be tackled this way. Caring, nurturing and loving ourselves has transformed the lives of so many Universal Medicine students. I love the way you suggest that an interview situation is just another part of the day – no stress required. If we live with integrity and love for ourselves – and don’t become fixed upon an outcome – all potentially stressful situations can then be met with equanimity.
Gyl- Wow-your preparation for an interview was so inspiring,and felt so confirming of who you are. Thank you for showing us there is another way. “preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies
in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.”
Gyl- Wow-your preparation for an interview was so inspiring,and felt so confirming of who you are. Thank you for showing us there is another way. “preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.”
If we live the future now, we will not need to stress when we ‘get there’ for the quality of that moment is already determined by the quality in which we currently move. That is, do we move in a way that invites more space by virtue of the fact that we are moving in accordance to the greater rhythm we are a part of OR do we move counter to this rhythm out of sync and thus ‘shrink’ space and invite the stress in? All that is needed ‘there’ is guaranteed by the quality of what we choose to live ‘here’.
Beautifully said Liane, moving in alignment with the greater rhythms does indeed allow more space and prepares us for all we need in all that is to come.
Gorgeous Liane “All that is needed ‘there’ is guaranteed by the quality of what we choose to live ‘here’.”
I love what you have shared here Liane, and thank you for the lovely reminder that all that I have to do is to commit to the quality that Im bringing moment to moment as this will determine the quality of my next movement, simple.
Gorgeous Lianne. It’s easy to forget that how we are right now and, as you say the quality of each movement, impacts on what is to come. In other words the future is already in the present. And even more, there is no past, present, future, only now! Take gentle loving care of self, now, the rest takes care of itself.
I love this Liane – you have so beautifully shared the key in how we can determine how a future event is going to play out. We have a choice in each moment and what you have shared is deeply inspiring
Very wise words Liane and something to ponder on, thank you.
You have done it again Liane. You have made truth dance with your words. What a blessing.
A great example Gyl of how when we live our lives truly honouring ourselves in every choice we make, that we are are impacting every aspect. It makes life so enjoyable as no longer would we choose to stress about work, interviews or anything that may come up in our daily travels. If we choose to be loving and honouring with ourselves, every moment will be a reflection of that choice.
In the job trainings for interviews which I have experienced through my life, people are prepared to perform the best impress they can deliver regardless of who they truly are or how they truly express. This means you carry a false you to the interview and build a false connection with company and the interviewer. The aim is to get the job but it is not considered that you have to play a role all after in the job. And this is exhausting. The way you did it Gyl is a true way.
Wow – absolutely gorgeous Gyl – rewritting interview preparation manuals the world over in one gorgeous blog. How amazing it would be if we were taught this at school – it would literally change the world – as really you’re not just preparing for an interview, but commiting to all of life, with you fully in it, no push – just presence – what a gift!
Beautiful Kate. If this was taught in schools and children had this as a foundation when leaving school, we would see an entirely different workforce and approach to work.
So true Sara – and kind of amazing because as littler kids we would naturally do this, and wouldn’t even need to be taught, just allowed the space to continue in their connection, but the world and school actually teach us the opposite – to put our body bottom of the list, to put mental activity long before presence – and to not trust but to prepare as in practice and churn out expected answers and outcomes relying on recall and not a simple foundation of who we are and our natural expression from there.
This is awesome Gly. It confirms the saying.. “Its not what you do but how you do what you do” SB. How you have shared about preparing for an interview is transferrable to many other industry job interviews. This is solid practical and inspiring advise, thank you!
Gyl, I just read your amazing blog again. It reminds me how playfulness is the most effective tool to keep anxiety and stress out the door. I love the simplicity of your sharing.
Having spent the days in the lead up to a presentation that I gave over the weekend, preparing myself in a similar way to you have shared here Gyl, I could feel that once the presentation was over, I started to ‘relax’ around being so diligent in my connection with myself. I woke up this morning and asked myself why would I do that? Why would I not choose to live every day as though I was preparing for an interview or a presentation. It doesn’t make sense to do that some of the time and not all of the time. I have since made the commitment to myself, to up the anti and offer myself the gift everyday of a deeper connection to me.
That’s very true Donna. I have been caught out several times where I was faced with an opportunity for truth to be expressed, but the words were not there for me because of the choices I had made immediately before. Every moment of life is a presentation.
Exactly Donna. I’ve been a stop/starter with this at times, taking absolute care and, then taking my foot off the pedal. Taking care this way just doesn’t cut it anymore as now I’ve realised that the consistency is the commitment. This has been like another U turn, or rather an up-turn in my journey with self care.
I can completely relate Matthew. A little bit of self-care here and there doesn’t quite cut it. The consistency has started to become everything and I realise that without it my personal growth is stunted.
I feel you are completely on the mark with your comment.
Love reading that you’re making this commitment to yourself Donna. I had the same thoughts reading through Gyl’s amazing blog …. why is it that certain events prompt me to put in an extra effort. A bit like saving the ‘best china’ for special occasions when isn’t everyday ‘with us’ a special occasion?
I love what you have shared Donna, isn’t it interesting indeed that we aren’t willing to give ourselves that same depth of care and attention after a presentation or interview. It reminds me how common it is is to clean and tidy the house the night before family or partner returns from being away, revealing how we let things ‘slide’ when we aren’t being called to responsibility by another. It’s basically saying that they are worth more.
Great point Donna, it feels so true why do we choose not to live with that level of care everyday and truly build that consistently within our lives. I can feel how true this is for me, definitely something to look a little deeper into.
Beautiful Donna, a great idea thanks.
Donna, that is a great moment of reflection, I have noticed this in other areas of my life too such as cleaning and tidying the house before guests come, making sure I am fully present when I sense a difficult conversation coming up. Why do I not give this level of care to all that I do all of the time?
Gyl this is such a profound sharing considering most people are consumed with anxiety and self-doubt when it comes to an interview. The beautiful way in which you chose to prepare yourself for it was just gorgeous to read and I loved that even after all the ways in which you cherished yourself, that you honoured your body further by not even taking the job you were offered for it did not feel true for you. No expectations, just absolute trust in you being you… and everything else simply falling into place after that.
I agree Samantha ” most people are consumed with anxiety and self-doubt when it comes to an interview” I have definitely noticed this to be the case for myself and others – preparing for an interview in the way Gyl described is so confirming for who we are and just how strong we are that I am sure in the interview we are going to be able give a far more powerful interview than if we ourselves are questioning our ability
I loved what you have shared here Gyl. It is priceless! It is preparation for life itself. Beautifully expressed as I felt the consistency and steadiness in your very writing. Well done you totally nailed it.
Preparation for life itself, is what indeed permeates our every moment.
Thank you Gyl for your amazing blog. It is inspiring to read and we can apply this interview preparation to everything in life, supporting ourselves to be fully present and connected, and then no matter what comes at us in our day, we know we have everything within us to deal with it. It also means everyone we meet gets more of the real us, not some run down nervous, stressed out version that is not us at all.
Absolutely Annie… that is so true, this preparation could be for any part of our life.. even if the big event in our life is not an interview but even something really small like a conversation or any moment that may come up for us that we don’t feel totally equipped for – all we need to do is prepare in this way, regardless of it we know what’s coming or not. Gyl you have inspired me to do this more in my life. Thank you.
I agree, Annie C, this is a truly inspiring blog. Yes this interview preparation is a wonderful example for us to apply to everything that we do in our lives. The most important point is to be fully present and connected with ourselves in absolutely every detail of what we need to be doing in every moment of the day. Something for me to really put into action from today.
I love your blog Gyl and especially all the examples you gave in preparation for your interview. All these examples we can apply to every moment in our lives, in fact it gives a great tool to how to approach all the daily things of living, just awesome. Thank you.
I agree Karina, some lovely practical examples of the choices we make everyday that affect the way we are in subsequent situations. What this brings home to me is that all of life is a choice – we don’t have to do anything, we choose to do it. Very powerful.
Gyl I love this blog and totally agree. I had a lot of interviews to come to a deeper understanding and acceptance of me, of life, and of bringing me to a job. I realised that it was my investment in recognition and survival that fuelled my anxiousness and nervousness. After many ‘unsuccessful interviews’ I gradually allowed myself to trust and observe God provides exactly what everyone requires as a means of providing greater awareness; that it wasn’t about me getting what I thought I wanted, it was about me just being me.
This is beautiful in showing that not everything we ‘want’ is in fact what we need!
You know Gyl that the wisdom held within the words of your blog inspired me to approach a situation, (not a job interview), but nonetheless, a situation where being with a group of people who at times in the past have caused a little discomfort within for some reason. I found that your inspiring blog kept popping into my mind, to remind me, that I only had to present me as me – and the entire event unfolded without strain or that sense of ‘withering’. Thank you.
Every day could be an interview on some level, each new person we meet forms an impression of us, and how better to prepare to leave a lasting one of love than to apply the wisdom of Gyls blog to the way we live. Thank you Gyl, great inspiration.
That is fabulous Roberta, it seems to me that we have the highest expectations and standards that we put on ourselves which stops us just being ourselves, so we never feel that that is enough. Its like a cat chasing its tail, it never gets there and can never stop and see how silly it all is because it’s caught up in the spin, literally !!!
Yes Roberta I feel this blog has the potential to inspire people to not only prepare for a job interview in the most amazing and supportive way but for anyone approaching any situation. The blog really allowed me to feel how every single choice I make supports the next choice. To choose to live a life with a rhythm that honours the body in every little moment is well worth the gorgeous feeling that is left in the body. Comparing the other feelings of anxiousness, stress, aches and pains and all the signs the body sends out when we aren’t honouring each moment lovingly. This blog will stay firmly in my conscious thoughts and encourage me to bring each moment back to staying connected to my body. I love that Gyl’s blog inspired an event to go without strain for you, it just goes to show the power behind these blog writings.
Great Gyl! And a timely read for me. Just this morning I have made a conscious choice to prepare for my day differently. Mixing things up, and feeling into what is needed each step of the way. It’s a hard thing to let go of – the old control – but one step at a time, with no need for perfection. What you’ve shared is so awesome, because it is practical in every way and no one needs to have a special gift to know how to look after themselves. It all comes down to choices.
I absolutely love this ‘I trusted that the answers would come from a knowing in my body, from my truth, my lived experience and not from trying to say the ‘right’ things in my head. There was not one ounce of me that held back that day’ So beautiful to know and live that all we need in any given moment or situation is within us waiting to be connected to. Through care and consistency in our daily living this is easily accessed. Your blog and commitment to yourself Gyl is an amazing testament to this.
When we are present in our bodies in all that we do, there is no overwhelm or anxiety as all that is needed to be dealt with is in each moment. We invite anxiety by going into our heads and racing through the future of what we need to do, if we stay with each moment then that’s all we need to be with.
Wise words Rachael in response to Gyl’s inspirational blog. As someone who had a degree in anxiety, to know staying with myself in each moment is pure gold and so simple once you know how and remember not to let the mind chatter! With loving thanks to Serge Benhayon for all his teachings.
It’s a timely reminder that staying with our rhythm as a foundation for true preperation …. be it for an interview or just in life. I have house guests at the moment and I haven’t honoured my bedtime rhythm and I’ve eaten a bit more and as a consequence I’m feeling a bit tired this morning which is not normal for me. So my body is telling me loud and clear what supports a vital clear me and it is in fact in every detail of our livingness.
It’s strange how we can go for an interview feeling so nervous as if we have something to hide, it shows we are lacking self worth and trust in ourselves. I have been there too, not wanting to feel the rejection if I didn’t get a job. I have more recently felt that if I’m meant to work in a certain role, it will be there for me. Knowing we are enough in any situation is great preparation for every day.
This was an excellent blog to read. Confirming there is a way to be in every moment that supports the next moment of our day. What a great marker of livingness you have bought to your life. Thanks for such a great read Gyl.
Absolute GOLD Gyl! This way of true preparation for an interview feels like it is suited to any situation in life. Your lived experience is very inspiring – thank you.
Gyl wow I loved all the detail in everything you did in the way you were living leading up to your interview.
It just shows that it is the little things that matter and then the big things take care of themselves.
Preparing for an interview does not need to be such a big event, wouldn’t it be amazing if we lived every day of our lives in the way that you lived while preparing for your interview. Inspirational Gyl …
Absolutely Yasmin. The potential to prepare for each moment by how we are in the last moment is always on offer to us. Our bodies are desperate for us to be with them in each moment so they can deliver what is needed for the next.
What a great suggestion Yasmin-just be love and loving in all we do.
Yes Yasmin, that was also a thought I had while reading Gyl’s blog. Why not living everyday in a way that allows to simply be me and supports me in everything I do. Living each step lovingly and consciously.
I recently visited my family overseas and because I’ve done the trip several times, I know it can be very tiring, but doesn’t have to be. So as soon as I booked it, which was only 3 weeks before I left, I started to prepare for it. I made sure leading up to the day I left that I paid extra attention to how I was in everything I did so that my body would be ready for the long trip plus change in time zones. I prepared food for my trip, took my herbal teas and other things I knew would support me on the journey. I had a gorgeous journey over, connecting with people on the plane, and when I arrived, I felt a little tired the first day, but my sleeping rhythm adjusted immediately so I had no jet lag. I continued to support myself really well the whole time I was there, making sure I kept my same rhythm with exercise, food and connecting with people wherever I went. My journey home was equally as lovely, and again, I had a couple of days where I felt tired late in the afternoon, but no jet lag. And so, this confirmed for me that we are so very well equipped to deal with all kinds of events and situations outside of our normal day-to-day lives, such as interviews, moving house, travelling, etc, and that they don’t need to be stressful or exhausting when we see and feel what is ahead, and prepare our body in a loving way so when the event arrives, we are ready for it.
Gyl, I loved reading all the tiny details of how you prepared for your interview and the appreciation you felt throughout the lead up and following the interview. What struck me is just how normal this feels, and that this is how we can live every day.
I agree Sandra, great confirmation.
Thanks Gyl. I have just read this for a second time. I love the line “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice…”. What an inspiring and beautiful way to live and prepare in life.
That is a powerful quote you have picked Lee, I think that should be the dictionary meaning! haha. But this is absolutely spot on. I know whenever I prepare this way, whatever task that is in front of me is a breeze because I don’t have the anxiety, fear, expectations, or I haven’t pushed my body to the limit that I have a meltdown by the time I reached my task. It’s all natural, a part of life that I feel confident to give a go being all of me.
Choosing to do what our body tells us will let us make decisions and take actions that our mind cannot grasp. The incredible beauty and magic of the results unfolding from these same actions will let it become more than obvious that there is something much higher at work than the simplicity of our linear thoughts can portray.
Gyl, this is an awesome sharing I could feel the ease, simplicity and how supportive your choices preparing for this interview was. It is very easy when preparing and planning for such an event to go into nervous energy and anxiety which only ends up in self sabotage as we don’t want to feel any of that, the most supportive way as you have shared here is to focus on bringing a level of presence in each moment and commit to that in full as much as possible and trust the next task will be there to be done.
Hi Gyl, I too discovered that preparation for a big event such as an interview comes from the way I live each moment and of course doing whatever is practically necessary. Then I realised that everything I do requires that presence and care and made a choice to live in a responsible and loving way 24/7. This has brought new levels of joy and steadiness to my life and many other wonders!
Gyl, I loved the absoluteness and purpose in your approach to preparing for your interview. Your blog shows the distinction between this absoluteness and commitment to purpose, and the single mindedness sort of commitment that we can have in how we approach big events or challenges. With the latter comes attachment, and hence little opportunity for us to be able to discern, as you did that the job was not for you.
This is great – I did this recently for a talk I had offered to give to a group of elderly people – I had no idea what I was going to say, just that it was likely to be about computers. The only preparation I did was me – sleeping well the night before, having a gentle morning and trusting that the words would be there. At the venue, I chatted to a few people beforehand, just to get a feel for who was there and what their interest level might be and then I spoke. No-one fell asleep, and several people came and asked me questions after. When I think of all the years I have written down speeches and prepared what I was going to say, preparing me and being open to what comes is so much easier. Your blog has reminded me that every day we can prepare for whatever life throws at us, and that preparation doesn’t just start the day before.
Gyl, thank you for your blog – I recognise how easily I can slip into anxiety and drive at work and so it is inspiring to read how simply remaining connected to, and focussing on what we feel in our bodies, and honouring this in the choices we make, can support us to be truly prepared.
I really loved reading about your self loving choices to support and prepare for your interview Gyl, awesome how there was just no room for anxiety, self doubt whatsoever because of these choices. This stood out for me; ‘It was simply just another part of my day that I would equally be me in, no more or less to any other day.’ To me this is super important because why would an interview be of more value than just anything that happens in our day to day life.
I’ve just read your blog again Gyl. I’ve spent a day being totally committed to listening to my body, really listening, moving and being present with and caring for me. I’ve felt that I’ve been resisting what more is on offer, the stillness in motion, me just being, and trusting…wow. Your blog has brought about something quite significant. Thank you for writing it.
This is so inspiring and I enjoyed reading how much trust you had in your body. Its a very different way of preparing for the interview but it obviously was amazing and worked very well as you got offered the job 🙂
Gyl, awesome to hear about. Imagine if we put that much detail and preparation into everything we did. The whole world would just be incredible. It’s important what your saying here- to not go into the self doubt, simply realise how awesome you are and take time and care for yourself. A job that wants you for the quality you bring would be the best as they are valuing you.
Wow that’s how you prepare for life, for your everyday. Inspiring indeed. You commitment and dedication stunning.
So true Simone, this is what has been highlighted to me, it’s not just about an interview, it is how we can naturally live, without effort, every single day. Then would be no need to prepare for an interview in that sense, yes to some extent in specific practical things, but everything else, food, sleep, movements etc it just is, it is how you live.
Gyl loved the way you prepared yourself for this interview. The week preparation is something we need to do every week not only before an interview. Very inspiring blog.
I am inspired by the dedication you bring to yourself Gyl – by the commitment to be with you, it was you and all of you which you brought to the interview and it was you who was offered the job not what you knew or what you did. The attention to detail of your preparation felt so supportive, tender and utterly lovely. I loved how you did not allow any hiccup or ‘picture’ get in the way, you kept bringing it back to honouring how you felt and trusting that.
Wow Gyl, I just loved reading about all the care you took of yourself leading up to the day. It is so true that if we prepare our bodies, not our heads, things will roll out the way they are meant to. What I could also feel while reading your blog is that sometimes I go to this level of care and planning to avoid feeling anxious about something… and I can get anxious about getting anxious! But that we can choose to live with this care and honouring every day – for no other reason than we are completely deserving of it. If we set that way of being as our foundation, we will always be prepared for whatever comes our way.
I love what you have shared here Gyl Serge Benhayon has taught me the power of presence and how fundamental this is in building confidence too. He is a profound example of how we can live truly prepared it is amazing to see him present and articulate what is there to be delivered with no powerpoint slides, memo cards or written preparation, just an immense trust in the quality lived and felt from his body and you are living proof that this teaching works!
Awesome blog Gyl. This is so spot on. I had an interview this week and I did the same thing, really made extra sure I looked after myself in the week leading up to it and it made such a big difference. I hadn’t had any nerves in the lead up but did get a bit nervous as I walked in. This was momentary though and I know I was myself with them which was great. There was no act, no trying to please, just me answering their questions, looking them in the eye, enjoying how lovely they were to me. And you are right, everything I needed was there for me to say. No nerves needed!
Your preparation for your interview seems like a great way to prepare for every day lived Gyl, stress free and harmonious and spacious. It felt lovely to read your blog, thank you.
Great blog Gyl. The way we are leading up to a certain period in time relates to and affects everything, as your blog suggests. There is no switch to flick on or off anxiety, it is built into our daily life. The examples you gave were great. Talking about preparing food lovingly and allowing enough time. All these small actions lead to a day (and life) without anxiety.
A moment is defined by everything, a moment doesn’t define everything.
Ooh I love the line, ‘a moment is defined by everything, a moment doesn’t define everything’ – is this your quote Luke? It’s true, everything we do and every choice we make is reflected back to us in all our moments. It actually simplifies life enormously when we understand what this means.
Why yes it is Jo, one of my own co-creations ;-).
This simple line does mean a lot when it’s meaning is understood…
Gyl I loved reading your blog. The care and dedication that you put into your self and your preparation is truly inspiring. I feel a deeper level of care and trust is there to be explored within myself, thank you.
This is great to read Gyl. It feels far more authentic and has much more integrity to prepare and present for an interview in this way rather than puffing oneself up into a version of whatever we think the prospective employers are looking for on the day.
I enjoy going to interviews. I find them to be such a great opportunity to talk about me – all my strengths and weaknesses, what I bring to places and who I am as a human being. It’s also a chance to find out about the person / company. I can’t recall ever having a bad interview. Even when I feel that I don’t want the job or that I won’t get the job, I enjoy the process of meeting people and talking with them. I recently had an interview for working in a company that makes traditional globes by hand. It is the only company in the world that makes these beautiful objects. It was quite informal but that isn’t why I didn’t prepare anything. I just trusted myself and it turned out to be a very interesting meeting. The word ‘interview’ can be laden with heavy expectations and fear. The antidote is to go in having no desires, no attachment to outcomes and giving it all that you’ve got.
I love meeting people and having fun with them.
It would be great to have such a rhythm, where going to work felt like this every morning, where there are no Up times and Down times, just solid Joy! I must admit, it is a lot of fun learning how to be in rhythm, in the morning, in the evening and during the day. It is something that I never stop having a relationship with.
Very true Harry. I absolutely love feeling the JOY of going to work and really supporting the customers I’m going to greet. The times I lack this same enthusiasm is when I’m tired, stressed and generally not looking after myself… Amazing how much our relationship with ourselves can impact other people!
Amazing Susie, it certainly does! I also love the feeling of bringing JOY where I go, it is like the whole world is so much brighter.
I love that you didn’t submit to the pressure of taking the job just because it was offered, but felt for yourself if it was true or not – because of the space you had created for yourself by not being invested in getting the job.
What an awesome insight Rebecca. Thank you! Imagine if we all made this way our new normal on the planet. We need to get a ground swell happening. Set the new fad-conscious presence, only this ones for keeps! How many people would be so much happier in the jobs they had chosen by doing it this way. If we don’t have that level of presence so many other factors can come in and cloud our judgment.
I see this just in everyday decisions. When we are still and composed from building a rhythm and momentum that supports this as our regular way, the choice seems so obvious, easy and stress free.
Exactly Irena, one day the understanding that our health is built from the way we live, not just the food we eat and the exercise we do, then we will begin to live in a way that is much more respectful of ourselves and others and builds up a momentum in our bodies that gives us the clarity to make choices rather than have our choices be governed by everything other than ourselves.
Yes, Rebecca I love this too. To not take a job just because it is offered is really showing a trust and knowing of oneself. Living in the way that Gyl describes also shows how it is possible to build this level of trust and care in a relationship with self. With this ability to stay connected everything is possible.
I agree – I recently, and in the past, have turned down a job for the same reasons – that although the job itself seems amazing, in actual fact when I stop and feel and taking everything into consideration its not quite right. And I have found that by doing that, it has opened up my life to do what I really want to be doing.
Since attending presentations by Serge Benhayon I have more awareness of that old relentless ‘voice’ in my head which I allowed to dominate so much of my life. Now I know there is always a choice – to cut it or let it run me. Gyl you express this key point well –
“I allowed no space for self-doubt, anxiety or stress. If any of these did try to sneak in, I would stop, say no, and make a more loving choice, which allowed no room for these self–doubting thoughts”.
Absolutely Stephanie, it might sometimes feel we are overrun and totally dominated by thoughts of self-doubt, criticism and failure but is just that we have so often chosen the energy of bringing ourselves down and it has become so ingrained that it feels like there is no other way. However as Gyl has so inspiringly demonstrated there is a way to bring back the power of choice that we have always had but just forgotten.
Another compelling blog Gyl – as your blogs always are – thank you. This approach to your interview is without doubt transferable to any life event. I have heard those who are preparing for a presentation or a performance say exactly the same thing – that it is all about how they live in the run up to the event rather than any particular technique or strategy they employ to deal with their nerves. This is a far cry from having to take ‘beta-blockers’ as many performers seem to, and there are some much more extreme ‘coping strategies’ than this around too! Thank you for this beautiful example of how to take our Livingness into every day.
Very true Richard, Gyl offers us all a true way to deal with those moments where we might otherwise attempt to irradiate the stress and tension with beta blockers or worse. Choosing to focus on nurture, presence and staying with self in every moment is clearly the way forward, not letting ourselves run away with fabricated scenarios or be afraid of the scrutiny that arises from interviews, performances and presentations etc. Gyl’s experience is living proof that every moment builds towards the next and each day lived like this results in a dependable foundation within us, a place from where we can embrace every situation that arises in our lives with true confidence, awareness and clarity.
I fully agree and feel this was a great example of how to live by being just yourself. I have always loved job interviews, they are a way to get to talk to people on a level which we don’t often have when meeting a stranger and have always felt that prepared answers weren’t real, they were like a charade, it means so much more to be authentic and real.
Thank you Gyl, what I love is that all I have read in your blog has been supporting me in every other ‘preparation’ in life i.e. How I spent my day today and how I am preparing myself for work again tomorrow. Trusting, listening and honouring myself, so gorgeous!
I agree Cherise, the attention to every detail in Gyl’s life leading up to her interview was cherished and I also found it very inspiring.
Thank you, cheriseholt, reading back this blog was confirmation, this is in my body, I can naturally live this level of joy, presence, commitment and love in every moment of every day.
Gyl,
Your beautiful blog here has brought me to a stop. I have begun to very tenderly care deeply for myself, but knowingly do things like overeating that definitely stresses my body. The level of care, love and commitment that you approached the week with before your interview has made me see just how super important every moment and every choice is and has inspired me to step up in a few areas of my life. A big thank you from me.
WOW Gyl, what a great blog and inspiration!!! I love your simple and very easy to read blogs- it feels like an experiment you did very committed and it is amazing how much it changed within your quality of the interview and the whole preparing days aswell. What if we would be so dedicated all the time – to be present and not ahead of things, not getting caught in thoughts, trusting that all is there, no pushing, no holding back in expressing YOU ….?
“True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” Beautiful, Gyl; something I am working towards.
A great example of the fact that connection (to our body and essence) is in fact the best preparation and living from this connection the only homework we truly need. In saying that, if we are living in a way that is honouring of ourselves, we will source what information of background reading that may support us during an interview, however this is done not from feeling ‘not enough’ or ‘not prepared’ but from supporting oneself.
This is a totally different way to prepare for an interview like most people do getting in nervous tension, are insecure what to wear etc. So, your sharing, Gyl, is a great way forward in how you were with yourself firstly, how lovingly you took care for yourself and how this supported your confidence. Great sharing. Thank you.
Gyl what you say about true preparation really feels true. That “it comes from a commitment to ourselves to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice and most of all from, trusting what we feel inside.” It also includes not being attached to the outcome of how we will be received. I so often want people to get me, and to fully understand where l am coming from. To trust and honour me and to see the shining divinity that l am. However, there may be those who do not wish to see that within me and choose not to accept me for who l am, strengths and weaknesses. I must ask myself have l been judging and second guessing myself? Have l appreciated my shining divinity for myself? Why do l crave this validation from others so much? I am realising that when l react to other peoples judgments of me, l must allow that reflection to show me where l am doing it to others.
Hi Irena, you make a great point here, to ” not being attached to the outcome”. What I realise with this that if there is a need for an outcome then I’ve let self get in the way, I am not open to life or God or whatever is needed of me on that day.
hi Gyl, you have simplified life so beautifully so that it flows, it was a pleasure to experience this with you through your writing. When we are being with ourselves, everything that is yet to come is taken care of. This puts an end to anxiety and rushing.
Thank you Susan, that is so beautifully said… “When we are being with ourselves, everything that is yet to come is taken care of.” that’s gorgeous and just shows that we are being looked after all the way, we just need to play our part.
I love the consistency here Gyl, ‘It was simply just another part of my day that I would equally be me in, no more or less to any other day.’ Often I see interviews and such events as big things and more important than other everyday things, so it feels lovely to read how you treated it as another part of your day and that the most important things is the quality that you are in, taking care of yourself and trusting yourself, not going into rushing, panicking or self-doubt, I can feel the steadiness of how you were – very inspiring!
Love what you have presented here Gyl, being loving and caring in every movement and every action changes our whole way of living. When we live this way anxiety and self doubt no longer have a place in our lives and things that would stress us out such as a job interview now just become a normal part of our day.
Exactly so Alisonmoir, ‘Being loving and caring in each movement and action changes our whole way of living’ and is the perfect antidote to anxiety and self doubt.
Thank you Gyl for sharing your livingness ,you have inspired me to ask myself the question , what would it be like to treat every moment as leading up to an interview with God and every moment was an interview with God? My answer, blessed.
The embodiment of preparing ahead because we live in cycles is a great thing since it allows for self-created support that is there for us when it is most needed. It also allows the whole body and being to focus on something we deem important. This also helps to offset whatever comes our way against where we are. So, it is either this self-created support based on the trust that this will be enough or allowing self-created doubts based on the anxiousness that we are not enough.
Before your interview, I love how you recognised that it isn’t about what you bring to a job through what you do, what you know, being seen to ask the right questions, it’s how you are in what you do, it’s about bringing the fullness of you. Your choice to just be all of you in all your glory is so beautiful and very inspiring.
That’s so true Alison. It makes a huge difference when we change how we are in what we do… because anyone (so to speak) can have a job interview, go to work, drive a car, cook and eat their food, stay in a motel, walk and sleep but what Gyl is sharing is the deep love she has for herself in all of the movements she does in her day. This is a superb way to live and clearly it works! I mean.. ending up at a job interview with no anxiousness and just expressing herself fully is awesome!
I enjoyed your blog Gyl, especially how you clearly outlined the ways you prepared yourself. Those points will be really beneficial as a practical everyday way to be more loving for those that may not have attended a Universal Medicine event.
I followed similar steps leading up to a presentation that I needed to do last week and I clearly felt the steadiness within me when the time came.
Such a ground breaking version of the “normal” interview process Gyl, and so very inspirational. I know that I will be reading this again very soon as my position at work has been made redundant and I am preparing myself for my next job, whatever that may be. And as you say it’s all about the preparation, but not just for the questions you are going to be asked, but for how you are living in that moment and all the moments that lead up to the interview. In fact this is definitely the way to live in every moment, every day, and by doing so we are ready for any eventuality.
Thank you for sharing your experience Gyl and what a beautiful reflection for the world that there is another way to live and prepare for interviews—stress free! Can we imagine how this world could be if we looked for jobs, went to interviews, did our jobs, lived our life every day—stress free? And how that would impact the world in terms of relationships between people as well as the statistics of illness and diseases? And the best part is—we all know it already, there is no learning or memorising, but we do have to commit to being present in the body and say no to what does not feel honouring. A whole new—but awesome way to re-learn life.
Good point about relationships – we don’t tend to think of an interviewing panel as being people with whom we have ‘relationships’, especially if we lose the job or turn it down. But every human interaction, even for the brief duration of an interview, is in truth a relationship. And how you are in that interview relating to the interviewers can potentially leave a lasting mark on those people even if they never see you again!
Beautiful Dianne, just by breathing we are in relationship, isn’t that so true? With ourselves, with everyone around us, with all the cells and organs in our body and more.
Hello Gyl, It is inspiring to read the responsibility you took and the preparation you committed to, in preparing for your interview and we can choose this way of being for ourselves each and everyday and then it matters not what the outcome is because we know within that we have remained true to ourself.
After reading your blog Gyl I became more aware of how I simply am not consistent enough with living in a way that the only preparation I need to do for anything is to honour my body because it is with my body, my vehicle of expression that I do everything with. I bring my body with me everywhere I go so it stands to reason that if my body is cared for and loved then that supports my being and I am then ready to be able to deal with anything that comes my way.
Gyl I feel that what you are sharing about preparing for your interview and in fact, every day of life, is the true meaning of ‘ritual’. It is the conscious presence with our body in every moment of thought, action, movement and speech that comes from our true being. It is not forced or superficial, nor coming from intellect, thoughts of profit, appearance, trying to be what we don’t feel inside, manipulation of situations, etc. It is a form of harmony and cooperation with the cycles and space of the universe around us, that allows us to flow with life instead of against it. However it does take commitment and practice until such time as it returns to being as natural as breathing. The beauty of it is the trust that comes: trust in oneself to know what’s right and honour that, trust in everyone else, and trust in the universe, as you have discovered with so much joy including before and during your job interview. Awesome, Gyl!
Awesome comment Dianne ” It is a form of harmony and cooperation with the cycles and space of the universe around us, that allows us to flow with life instead of against it.” but as you say to make this ‘ritual’ – “the conscious presence with our body in every moment of thought, action, movement and speech that comes from our true being” a normal rhythm in our live that takes commitment and practice that is certainly worth investing in.
When we take care for our lives in all its details as you describe Gyl Rae, we are prepared for anything that we will encounter and in that we will be able to bring in everything we are. The other beautiful thing is that we then live from our fullness and not from a need, and, as in the case you describe here, we come on the job interview to bring and share us in full instead of coming form a need for having the job, to get something from them instead. What a big difference this is with what is common practice in preparing for job interviews, new standards are being set.
“… true preparation doesn’t come from knowledge in the sense of going into our heads with anxiousness and drive”. This is very true Gyl, yet it is exactly what I do and have done for such a long time. I have not yet mastered this, feeling perhaps an element of not trusting that I am enough and that I will hold my connection to myself. This is all here now for me to understand and to master. Your sharing on this experience is very supportive.
It was lovely to read Gyl how you prepared yourself in the days leading up to the interview and the confidence that this provided you. Managing nervous tension in these situations is a tricky one at the best of times, but reading the support you offered yourself and the honouring was inspiring.
Gyl, a truly impressive preparation for your Interview. There would be many who being in the same position would be inspired by your sharing.
Gyl I can very much relate to all that you have written as I have just recently been through the exact same process in the preparation for a presentation I gave the other night. In the past, my preparation would of been to practise and memorise what it was that I was going to present. Instead, I chose to do all of the things that you outlined here in your blog, so when it came to presenting, it came from my body opposed to from what I thought I should say. I am learning to trust this process more and more. All the preparation we require is how we live in each moment and then we arrive at the time to deliver something, it is all there waiting to come out from the choices we have made in how we live.
Gyl, this is a beauty full way to live every day in every way. Thanks for sharing such simplicity.
Simplicity is elegance in action.
Gyl, I love that you prepared yourself and not your head for the interview, and not just the day before, but the week before. It is true that our lifetimes get us to where we are now, so every choice we make matters – you have given us some great practical examples of true self-care, thank you.
Yes, Carmel. Gyl shows through this blog that every choice matters, every choice keeps building momentum for the next one. How we are supported to be more of ourselves depends on the type of choice we make whether it is self-caring or disregarding.
This is a great point, to prepare yourself and not your head. One way is to confirm, cherish and respect all that we already are and the other is to seek to be more or be something in measure of what we think someone else might want or may be needed. What if the first way just ensures that we know all that there is to know when we arrive at a point in time and all that we actually have to do is show up ?!
I love this comment Carmel thank you. Prepare yourself and not your head. There’s true wisdom in this.
When we create space we create a place to be and feel prepared…which lessens anxiousness. Space and how we are within this space becomes a seat of our confidence.
I love how you have expressed here Zofia that “Space and how we are within this space becomes a seat of our confidence.”
What an amazing way to prepare for a job interview – and it rings so true because, after all, we take everything we have lived up to that moment into our next moment, every day and every moment of our entire life, and more really.
100% commitment to you Gyl. It was great to read your experience with total and loving care towards yourself. I don’t have an interview coming, but this blog has inspired me to commit to another level of self care.
I agree Matthew, you really get a feeling of great commitment and dedication to herself, a real honouring of herself, in Gyl’s blog. Could this be the key to true wisdom and confidence, not memorising information?
This blog has inspired me to commit to another level of self care in true preparation for everything that is ahead. I may not know what is to come, but I can know exactly who I am and the quality I will be when it happens, when all of life happens.
Thanks for this Gyl, so supportive and timely for where I am at present. The way you describe preparing for the interview for the entire week leading up in every decision that you made and every action and movement is amazing. This is a far greater attention to detail and preparation than most go to. The realisation that everything impacts on the way we are and contributes to how we are in each and every moment, including “big” events like interviews, is profound. I will definitely put this into practice before my next interview.
Gyl, this is awesome, how gorgeously and gracefully you prepared yourself to be in full connection with your inner knowing. Truly inspiring, and as I read your post I felt how powerful it would be to apply that same dedication to every day regardless of what is actually before us. How solid and trusting of ourselves fully would we be then?
So true Katerina. To apply this to everything would build something very solid. Every moment is an interview because every moment is an opportunity to be all of who we are.
Yes, Katerina, I was feeling the same – how amazing would it be if we did that every day? What I could feel is that we would already be prepared – solid and trusting as you’ve expressed.
I agree Katerina living this way would develope a very solid and unwavering foundation of love in action.
Gyl I was with you ALL the way.
True Preparation is not a pushed heady deadline experience but a moment to moment self support system, building and honouring our rhythms and being committed to each and every detail along the way.
Then whatever and WHENever the event may present we are held firm in the arms of our own loving choices.
So gorgeously expressed, Kathryn – “Then whatever and WHENever the event may present we are held firm in the arms of our own loving choices.”
katherynfortuna I love the image of “we are held in the arms of our own loving choices” it feels so loving but also we hold the responsibility of holding ourselves.
Gyl Rae, I am astounded by your mastery of self-doubt, anxiety and stress. You described leaving no room for them, not allowing them to effect you. This command of thoughts is such a paradigm shift compared with the usual going deeper into stress or anxiety, and feeling like you have no choice.
I can’t say enough about just how much this concept has given me too Bernard, what I appreciated was that the more Gyl built her foundation on what was true for herself, the more she was able to easily say no to and discard the thoughts that came to her that tried to bring an unease or anxiousness even a sense of low self worth to her days. This is a remarkable concept for all of us to hear and pay attention to.
This is beautiful Gyl. I love the way you prepared for the Interview, not by stuffing your head with questions that might be asked and possible answers to these questions, but by taking care with everything that led up to the interview in such a nurturing way. I can feel the steady rhythm in it. I also love that you were ‘equally you’ in everything that you did, not making the interview a ‘high’ or ‘extraordinary’ point of the week, but something in which you were equally loving:
‘I didn’t prepare any questions or answers, as I trusted myself and my body in the knowing that because of the way I had chosen to prepare for the interview, everything I needed would be within me to answer any questions asked’. I know this so well, and like you, now totally trust I will know what to say and do in any moment, as I continue to live this way.
I like what you have expressed here Lyndy about trusting in yourself to know what to say and do in each moment, because of the foundation of love and support you have given to yourself. It feels like commitment and consistency is key.
You make such a strong and valid point Lyndy about making everything equal and not committing to one area more than another in our life. When I do this, something slips and often resentment comes in at all the things that I have to do. Whereas when I commit to all areas of my life equally, which I am learning, life is simple, joyful and everything naturally flows.
Trusting that answers will come, thanks Gyl, this is so exposing about what we put ourselves through leading up to a seemingly stressful situation and the truth about what is only ever required. I can recall having this overwhelming thought about what was going to happen with an upcoming, presumed difficult event – it always, every single time, was not as bad as I thought. Still, it took a long time to learn that all that was required is inside me already. I have learnt to take a moment and feel what is there and sure enough, what is required becomes clear, simple. Inspired by the presentations of Serge Benhayon.
I love your comment Mark, on my way through my life there was always an abundance of job opportunities, I never thought of interviews as seeing if I was suitable for a job but if the job was suitable for me.
Thank you Gyl. Your blog is like a manual for preparing for an interview or any important event. It was lovely to read all the detail you included; to feel how it supported you not to go into any anxiety or stress and the knowing you felt as you approached the situation. This is inspirational and very supportive as this is only a relatively new change for me after years of doing it the other way, thinking that it was all about the content and being able to recall it, regardless of what shape my body is in when I get there.
‘…regardless of what shape my body is in when I get there.’ – this is great, Emma. There are still quite a few things in my life that bring up this type of response – a drive to push on and get it done, to learn it, to know it, to do it… regardless of what shape my body is in when I get there. I can feel that there is a lack of trust here – and that by applying some of the things Gyl has mentioned as forms of support, that that can help to build the trust, so I no longer need to go into the drive.
How powerful is the way we live, and the quality the details bring to our lives.
Our body offers so much wisdom if we choose to listen and trust this.
Thank you for the inspiration of making today about every moment.
True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.’ This is absolutely true Gyl, when I loose connection to my body and presence to the action I’m doing, I become anxious and stressed. This causes more disconnection and I can’t trust myself anymore, and the innate knowing I have inside.
Gyl, you are re-imprinting the whole recruiting process. I loved you preparation as it felt so loving and without push or expectation. You have shown us that love and commitment to presence is part of everything we do.
To drop expectations is the best medicine …It is about letting go of controlling your life and others . Not too easy for me sometimes 😉
Thank you for the amazing reflection Gyl, the level of consistency and commitment in your self-care and love is extraordinary. I felt myself reacting to that level of care and self-responsibility, realising that I don’t give that to myself, but would love to, and am working towards that.
Absolutely gorgeous Gyl. In preparing for the interview in connection to who you are, with your presence, you prepared without attachment to an outcome. There was no expectation, stress or need driving you to succeed. Simply committing to and honoring the truth of who you are and the love you are, bringing though a beautiful, confident and loving quality of yourself to every moment. From here you were able to know in truth and in your body what was needed next, including knowing that this job was not for you to do. What an inspiring way to live Gyl. Thank you for sharing that there is truly another way.
Yes, it is lovely to feel that when she does not focus on the outcome, but on the presence in her body and every moment of living that, the outcome is great, even if it is not exactly what one wants, it still feels awesome. People receive that loving energy when they meet you, and not the drive, the need to impress, or the need to be accepted, cause the acceptance is there before meeting them.
Thank you Gyl. Yes, true preparation is being present in every moment and building that feeling of steadiness in the body. And then you never want to leave your self behind in drive and rush again.
Thank you Serge Benhayon for being the inspiration for what true confidence is – simply presence.
What you have said Jenny sums up Gyl’s blog beautifully and I agree, ‘thank you Serge for being the inspiration for what true confidence is – simply presence’. If more people knew this gem, there would be a lot less stress in the world.
What comes across strongly in every act you mention Gyl is a sense of equality. The sum of all these activities, seem to add up to = a real and loving you. And after all isn’t our key job to do?
Gyl your attention to detail and the ways in which you supported yourself is inspiring. This is how we can live everyday and be prepared for whatever comes our way. With awareness presence within we can build confidence in our bodies and let them lead the way, rather than the mind running the show.
Putting yourself, your love and self care first is what stands out for me here. We mostly put whatever is in front of us first, be it work kids, interviews etc, but the approach you have made here and the outcome really works. Interviews are mostly nerve wracking experiences, beautiful to read in such detail of your approach.
I remember exams Melinda, the pressure and stress of having to remember so much information – but it felt so unnatural…
Gyl, given that so many people live in anxiousness everyday, the details you have shared here apply beyond interview preparation and can inspire us in our everyday living. Thank you for sharing.
A great blog, Gyl, underlining how foundational a commitment to consistency is in our lives and how the choices we make in one moment have an affect on the next one and the next, until we’re living in a momentum of our own choices. The dedication and commitment you put into preparing for that one interview made it, when it came, ‘simply just another part of my day that I would equally be me in, no more or less to any other day.’ And choosing not to take the job when offered was a real sign of the level of connection you had developed with yourself in the run up, such that you were able to know that it just wouldn’t be right for you.
This bit has stayed with me this morning:
“With this I allowed no space for self-doubt, anxiety or stress. If any of these did try to sneak in, I would stop, say no, and make a more loving choice, which allowed no room for these self–doubting thoughts.”
It is so true, more loving choices, less space for doubt or sabotage to come in.
Simple, beautiful and powerful blog.
I agree Luz, more loving choices build a foundation within leaving less space for what is not love to come in.
Wow, Gyl. What beautiful preparation and consideration, not just for the day of the interview but for every day leading up to it. Such care and presence with every aspect makes even simple tasks a joy.
You’ve hit the nail on the head Carmin, “Such care and presence with every aspect makes even simple tasks a joy.” I would go so far to say every task a joy.
It was particularly striking in the preparation for the interview to read about not leaving room for self doubting thoughts that would try to sneak in. We can be doing everything right but if we are entertaining these thoughts, it can never be right enough. So making this part of one’s awareness and saying no to such sneaky psychic interference, which is not who we are, is a great addition to our building of confidence and trust in what will unfold.
I too have learnt to prepare for things in this way Gyl, often I will clean the house, clear out clutter, create order if I am doing any training where as in the past I would have revised information so I had knowledge. Now I have got to a place where I know I have a lived experience to share with others that is valuable and that others have lots to share with me so training is a exploration and sharing not a I know this please listen! So much more fun to be had when your in your body!
This blog should be on every HR/Recruitment blog/website around the world so when people google ‘how to prepare for an interview’, this comes up as another way to be. It is also very pertinent for me right now as I enter a new field and the old patterns of having to cram to know things as opposing to let what my body knows to naturally come out. Thank you.
I agree sarahflenley this blog should be available on every HR/Recruitment website as it offers true support to all. Normally when you search for this topic you get the bland possible question and response type articles, all head stuff. How empowering to read the truth that the way we live in every moment leading up to the “event” is one of our greatest assets. This article confirms for me that when we live from connection to our bodies we can access an innate wisdom that is amazing and real and can support us in our every day.
It would be awesome if this blog was on every HR website and if HR managers prepared in the same way!!
Sarah, I completely agree, we can make the interview process so exhausting by ‘trying to impress’ and second guessing what is required of us. To be ourselves is far more sensible as we then end up with a job that fits rather than one that is not true for us.
Gyl this is a beautiful article that shares something for anyone approaching interviews, but also for anyone at all in how we travel through our day with every choice that we make. There is a great level of responsibility in living in this way because you know exactly who you are and through the way you live and the choices that you make, keep confirming this and not letting anything come in to disturb this shows your solidness in those choices and your knowing of you. Super inspiring. Thank you.
I love it, the way we are everyday is the preparation for every moment that comes thereafter. Thank you for sharing your experience and how it truly works, going to an interview without any anxiousness through the knowing of truth in your body is wonderful.
Yes I agree Benkt and what I have discovered is that if I live in that fully committed way every day, then I am well prepared for what life brings and able to respond in whatever way is required in the moment.
How simple Gyl and an inspiring sharing that shows us the potential to live everyday with this level of preparation, commitment and joy. Thank you.
Your committment is very inspiring Gyl, no wonder you were offered the job. It makes sense that the way you are in every moment will be the way in the next – therefore choosing to be fully committed to everything and doing what is needed to stay present and steady will keep you like that in the interview. I also love what you share about just trusting that we already know. Thanks for sharing.
I love the detail with which you describe the days and nights in the lead up to your interview. They’re summed up well by your knowing that: “There was not one part of my day or night that was not included in my preparation for this interview.” Really inspiring Gyl and it comes with the instruction manual too, brilliant. You’re clearly an awesome teacher!
Great blog Gyl thank you for your awareness of the Way of the Llivingness and revealing this revelation to us. And this explains why Universal Medicine Students have an edge over others. because preparing for an interview is about every choice we make and how we live each day – the way in which we care for, love and nurture ourselves, in short how we live our lives.
I love the simplicity of this blog Gyl and the loving choices you made to support yourself with your interview. It is so true, that the more we truly look after ourselves, the less we need to go into our heads about anything, as we begin to feel more and more what is needed from our bodies. This then has a knock on effect in all areas of our lives. Thankyou for your inspiring blog.
I have recently had very similar experience. I had done a few interviews in the last few months, and there came a point when I made the choice to be myself and trust that just that would be awesome. I had two interviews in that new attitude and I got both jobs. They appreciated me, but most of all, I enjoyed very much being with them and what I was sharing. There was a connection that is there still now, and it did not matter so much what I had in my head, but what I live and experience and have to give.
That is so lovely to hear Julia. I guess people appreciate people being real and not putting on the show.
I love that Juliamanbox and Gyl how you experienced the people you were being interviewed by when you were just being yourself, how much lighter the whole experience felt compared to the normal way of putting on a front etc to impress the employer! Turns out being you is impressive!
Exactly! Being you is impressive!
Beautiful julimanbos, what I also read from this is how you held everyone equal so there was no room and or need for role playing. But just people enjoying connecting to each other.
Exactly, that is what I felt, equalness so I met them, my interviewers and I let them see me completely, so in that way I initiated relationship, one that still continues now when I work with them, I feel there is a connection that was established at the interview by me being myself and they meeting me.
Thank you Gyl. Your sharing is just a confirmation, a re-confirmation that I would never forget again: It is not about the mind and plotting how to go through life succesfuly, but our body and how we live in it. It is so simple, yet I come from such a mental momentum of going through life, that I can still feel the resistance to commit to it… But it is totally worth it. It is a true revolution of wellbeing and how to live life and bring back Love and Truth to the Earth.
That’s a great approach to preparing for an interview Gyl; it felt like an extension of your life and an expression that you had built rather than preparing for a ‘show’.
Living from the truth in our bodies is the greatest preparation for anything in life. Nothing can be asked of us than is greater than the truth of our own lived way.
I love what you share here Joshua, “Nothing can be asked of us that is greater than the truth of our own lived way.” This sentence absolutely leaves no space for self-doubt or a need to rely on anything outside of us.
Trusting ourselves is such a key factor. Once we start trusting ourselves we will realize that in fact we do not need outlines to follow or rules to be obeyed as in fact we instantly feel in our bodies what needs to be done next.
This is absolutely gorgeous Gyl. “What if preparing for an interview was about every choice we make and how we live each day – the way in which we care for, love and nurture ourselves?” Yes! I can feel how if I am not taking care of myself in each moment I cannot be prepared for an interview or general day ahead. It brings responsibility to take care of every detail and every moment in my day to make sure the next moment is just as supporting as the one before. It also gives a feeling of trust as I might not know the interview questions but I know how to live each day caring, loving and nurturing myself.
Thank you for this beautiful clear & simple blog to preparing for an interview – something I recently went to as well. It’s a lovely inspiration for the finer details to which you went to, to prepare yourself. So loving & honouring of you.
Wow, you have really laid down a beautiful blueprint for how we can all go about our days living with less stress, anxiety, and strain, and instead trust our body’s natural knowingness, as you have so clearly done in your recent interview. I have had a similar experience with job interviews about a year ago, really enjoying the process for the first time, because I walked into them without any expectation or investment in ‘needing’ the job, but just had fun with talking to the various interviewers and sharing who I was and how I felt with them. It was so refreshing, and I could really feel how they felt too that my approach was very different to what they are used to. It made for a stress free and enjoyable experience on both sides of the table, and I had multiple job offers to choose from. I can see too, Gyl, how every single choice we make during the day to take care and honour ourselves effects other people and the outcomes of this day and future ones as well.
I loved hearing about your experience on yet another simple truth about life… Indeed the best preparation for doing life is to live our true ourselves by being present, loving, aware and having a steady commitment to being with our bodies in every moment and with every choice. More please Gyl.
It is that deep trust that we have inside that gets us through sometimes challenging situations, in your case the job interview. I love your break down of your rhythm and what you did to prepare for the interview. Great tools. Thank you Gyl.
I recently wrote an article similar to this Gyl and really appreciate what you have shared. Some time ago I interviewed for a position at work and was surprised just how nervous the girls were. One broke out in a cold sweat while the other broke out in a rash around her neck and chest. What is being shared in this blog would benefit so many women – I could see these sorts of ‘tips’ being used on internet employment sites and with Employment agencies to support their candidates. A very valuable piece of writing.
I loved reading about how your commitment to you made every moment equal to every other moment. It was all about love and your quality of presence and that was all that was needed. Thanks Gyl.
This is such a gorgeous sharing of how simple we can be in life, not just to prepare for an interview but in all areas if we make the choice to prepare for what’s ahead and be lovingly present in each moment. When I feel anxious, it is usually always because I don’t feel prepared or organised with what’s ahead. Thanks Gyl.
Thank you Gyl, there are so many awesome points you raise in this blog – so appreciate the reminder of the incredible power in choosing to stay present in each moment and – most importantly – to trust what is felt within.
They say preparation is a key to not getting stressed in life, but what I like about your blog Gyl, is that its not just about preparing for one day but that our way of living every moment prepares us for life, and so our rhythm is vital to the next moment, and the next etc.
Thank you Gyl, what an amazing story of life without a fast lane. The livingness you describe in your story is a great reflection, and a true inspiration.
Love your comment Gregbarness888. It is true, there is no fast lane in Gyl’s story which is what makes this way of preparation and everyday living so amazing.
Thank you Annie, our life is one of preparation through our loving choices that simply sets us up for more love for the next choice etc. etc. A continuum of loving choices!
Well said Greg, Gyls willingness to choose to ‘be in her livingness is inspirational.
Thank you Paul, absolutely, the choice to live from the divine platform of the Livingness is so easily seen and felt!
The tips you shared on not getting stressed or anxious for an interview are great Gyl, and they can apply to so many other things. If we look after our bodies and are consistent with it, we begin to trust ourselves and know that everything we do will have that same solid platform/foundation… Then having things like interviews can be seen as just another part of our day, and something guaranteed to go the way it needs to based on how consistent we are each day.
What a lovely description of your focus. I have no doubt you kept that going long after the interview – it sounded so supportive that as you said – it all became just another day.
Awesome Gyl – So many people, including myself, get so wound up for interviews, like you have to sell yourself, when in truth its not about selling anything, but about presenting all that you are and giving them the space, with no attachment, to make a decision.
Gyl I love your examples and your preparations for your interview. You have given me a fantastic template to work from that I will use leading up to my exam.
I was very aware that everything, all the choices I made, from when I went to bed to what I ate, would have an impact on the day. Gyl this is exactly what I needed to hear right now. I am studying and my exam is a couple of months away but I have started going into the doing and trying to fit into their timeline. I am tired and stressed and it is affecting everything I do including my studies. Perfect timing of your blog. Thank you so much.
This is so important what you share Gyl. You give us a new perspective to work and live from. Doing an interview from how you had prepared yourself before is quiet something new for me. What I can feel from this is that we should not worry, but just be ourselves and let everything that you life be there in the moment. This makes so much more sense than to actually try to be best, well answering, and ‘right’. I can feel I have tried to be right in the past (in the interview) and with this I can actually feel how I have been hiding the true me that is underneath all of that. Therefore not going in roles, expectations, thoughts or emotions about an interview, makes you feel more free to be yourself and not hold back who you really are and showing them the real you. Is that not all what we want?!
Thank you for sharing Gyl, this way of preparing makes so much sense. We than acknowledge that by connecting to ourselves we connect to the wisdom that is inside us and is instantly accessible.
It is easy to forget in a job interview that the prospective employee is assessing the employer as much as the employer is assessing the employee. It is much easier and more respectful to present yourself as you are, than to present an image which will in time be exposed in all its falsity. If we take this approach, then there is no stress, or anxiousness, for the anxiousness only comes from needing to feel like you have to be something you are not, or indeed do not even need to be.
Great point Adam. We’ve set it up this way, as if it’s an obstacle course through which to jump the other person’s hoops, limbo beneath their bar, etc. when in truth this should be a relationship that works both ways, equally so. To understand that we cannot live up to the hype consistently that we are taught to present of ourselves, it seems nonsensical to present anything other than oneself, and to go in feeling if indeed this is the right place for you too.
A great and valid point Adam. To not be ourselves creates enormous tension within us and requires an even greater force to override the simplicity of what is already there and waiting to be shared with the world. Hence, there is nothing to prove but very much to express, without reservation and unashamedly so.
What I love about this blog is that you were able to stay true to yourself all the way, even in turning down the job despite the investment you had put in. This shows that your investment was in staying true to yourself and not in getting the job.
Gyl, what a great article! I love your commitment just to stay with you, not go into your head or rush ahead in time. Absolute presence from moment to moment is truly healing and confirming, no need for anything more. Beauty-full.
This is a life changing blog! Thank you so much Gyl for sharing with us what’s possible and that we don’t have to live with stress and anxiety and that life can be lived with joy!
Everything we do affects every moment and every event. By looking at a certain event and how our choices now effect what will be is a great start, but what if it wasn’t just a certain event that can have it’s quality affected by our every moment now but every moment regardless of the activity within it. And from experience and as you’ve shared Gyl it is every moment that supports the next and next. How you walk to the car affects how you drive it, how you drive it affects how you are when you leave it so on and so on. Thats huge and at the same time it doesn’t need massive planning or ‘overwhelm of the all’ just a choice to focus on how we are now because how we are now is going to be built on. Thank you.
A great practical tip for self doubt here ‘With this I allowed no space for self-doubt, anxiety or stress. If any of these did try to sneak in, I would stop, say no, and make a more loving choice, which allowed no room for these self–doubting thoughts.’ and lovely to read how you support yourself not just for an interview but for any day. What I have learnt regarding jobs is if I am supposed to be there then it feels right in my body and if I do not get a job either I am not quite ready for that step yet or it is not where I should be.
What a way to prepare for an interview.
Preparing for an interview with rigerous rehearsal and anticipating all possible questions that might arise only fuels self doubt and fosters the belief that we are actually not enough. The exhaustive preparations are then used as safeguards against our own lack of confidence. This process is also one of making yourself appear to be what the company is looking for rather than just showcasing the real you and what you can bring to organisation.
You can really feel how having presence and connection changes the day and how one moment flows into the next. The order you have described sounds like it was a huge support in keeping you steady and with what was there to be done.
A beautiful description of every day living. Living with this care and love builds awareness in us and we will always be prepared for whatever is coming up during the day. As you say Gyl, all we need to know is in the body and if we support the body the information is always there.
Reading this Gyl I felt, woao why not live all of the time like this… and make every day as important as the next. Very inspiring to feel this.
I love the attention to detail in this blog and it occurs to me that true confidence cannot be learnt or practiced or put on so to speak but that it is something that we build steadily piece by piece, choice by choice in every moment of the day.
In my job preparation is everything but very rarely do I afford myself the time or honour me enough to prepare myself for my day ahead, or situations like a job interview or just meeting up with family. I have learnt lately the importance of putting myself first before job, customers, house, children, dogs etc and the strength I feel from this allows me to be all that I am in every situation.
Gyl this is beautiful and applies to just about everything, every day. You have just outlined a way to go about LIFE and what a welcome remedy to the enormous anxiety and stress most seem to live with on a daily basis. Thanks for the insight into daily life as medicine, management strategy and remedy – all at once!
Thank you Gyl for putting this into words. It shows so clearly how every choice we make influences us and how much we can take our lives in our own hands.
Gyl what you share here is a whole different approach to life – accepting, honouring and surrendering to the deep wisdom held inside the body. In creating the space for this love, wisdom and joy to express, in the deep trust that it is all taken care of if we can live harmoniously. What a contrast to the commonly held belief that life is a stressful, anxious rush!
Gyl I love the feeling of what you have shared. Even though it is very far from what most people’s experience of interviews is, it none the less feels very natural and true. The assurety that you took with you that was borne out of your choices is a solidness that I am sure you take into each and every situation that you encounter.
Thank you Gyl, I enjoyed reading every word of your blog. The way you described preparing for the interview is so different to how most people prepare for interviews and it felt gorgeous how you did it. You focused on bringing YOU to the interview and not just all the knowledge you have accumulated. I cannot help wondering how different our health would be if we all lived this way.
‘True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.’ What a beautiful recipe for preparing for anything we are faced with and if we live this consistently then we have a solid foundation for each day and whatever happens we can trust that we will feel what is the next true action. Thank you for sharing this in such a practical way which is so relatable Gyl.
Gyl thank you for sharing what is a very profound and educational post. It goes against everything we are told yet the certainty, the solidness, the love and the tenderness all in one show what true preparation is all about. What comes through clearly is that without the presence, the care, the honouring first nothing else matters. I’ll be using this as a marker for how I go about being prepared for life.
Everything matters and I love how you prepared for this interview Gyl. A great example of how not to focus on the stress and what ifs, but to stay lovingly and diligently present with everything you do.
Love that Gyl – shows how our behavior trying to control situations brings the possibility of ‘success or failure’ and with that the stress and anxiety.
Gyl, the quality you bring to this interview is just so lovely and beautiful to read. I really can read here how differently you approached a commonly ‘stressful’ situation. I’ve been conducting some interviews lately, and in these I simply observe the nerves and anxiousness that fills the room, which I can easily take on if I let it. Even conducting an interview can be just as nervous if it is allowed – yet we have this perception from both sides that the other person is relaxed and we should be anxious. But as you have beautifully shared here, there is a lot to say about the quality we are, expressing and caring for ourselves all of the time so no matter what the situation – we approach it in calm, in full and with an openness.
Fabulous Gyl that you stayed with yourself and honoured what you needed to do without any stress or anxiety. Beautifully said even though part of me was looking for the ‘happy ending’ of it being the right job for you. However, listening to what was true for you was absolutely perfect.
Gorgeous Gyl, I love the way you prepared for this interview. It was so honouring of you and everyone/everything else. It is no surprise you were offered the job, and this is proof that there is another way…
Just beautiful Gyl, keeping ourselves clear and present brings total trust that we will have the answers when they are needed.
Another stellar blog from Gyl Rae who always brings such an incredible insightful depths of awareness to every situation she lives and then has the grace to share this with us all. Thank you so much Gyl, your blog has given me today a new perspective on life.
Our whole lives can be lived in this very momentum. Imagine what that would look and feel like.
Beautiful sharing, Gyl, thank you. Loved how you were so connected with your self, that even after everything went so well and you enjoyed being with all the people you met, you were still able to discern that taking the job wasn’t the right decision for you. It made me realise that so often there is a lot of momentum at an interview, as a result of anxious preparation, not knowing if we are going to be successful. So much so that if we are offered the job, the first impulse may be to accept, rather than feel into whether we actually want the job or not.
I really enjoyed reading this and it is a great insight you give Gyl of the importance and difference between the reliance upon knowledge and expressing from your lived experience. The former being based upon guesswork and insubstantial while the the latter is true and honest and has a solid foundation if you have made it so as you have so beautifully shared.
Preparing for life every single second of the day feels amazing, I have done it a few times, but definitely not enough, but enough to say living with that commitment and purpose is definitely the way forward.
A beautiful blog, Gyl. “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” What if we lived this every day? How amazing would we – and the world – be then?
An inspiring read Gyl. It is great to read the detail and care for self nurturing with and for you prior to the interview brought such a different quality to the day. An amazing way for preparation for interviews and also a major key for bringing to and living our life from –
“True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside”.
I deeply enjoyed reading your blog Gyl. The love and care you prepared yourself with are exquisite and inspiring. “… I trusted myself and my body in the knowing that because of the way I had chosen to prepare for the interview, everything I needed would be within me to answer any questions asked”. This sums it up for me. Your commitment to remain present and loving at all time, allowed you to have the confidence and trust that all that was needed would have been there. And, it was there indeed, without effort and with great joy. How different to what we have been taught…
I deeply enjoyed reading your blog Gyl. The love and care you prepared yourself with are exquisite and inspiring. “… I trusted myself and my body in the knowing that because of the way I had chosen to prepare for the interview, everything I needed would be within me to answer any questions asked”. This sums it up for me. Your commitment to remain present and loving at all time, allowed you to have the confidence and trust that all that was needed would have been there. And, it was there indeed, without effort and with great joy. How different to what we have been taught…
Amazing preparation Gyl, thank you for sharing this.
This is an article that can really highlight how lost the world is and how much time we spend in our heads and not in our bodies. What an amazing example of living in a way that really supports us being ourselves and not falling for the illusions of what is expected of us, how simple is life then really when lived in this true way.
Thanks Gyl, great confirmation of how we can prepare and how I have prepared myself for a photoshoot today as well. The choices I made up till today. I am prepared, all set, no need to rush, because everything is there in my bag ánd in me 🙂
What a great way to prepare for an interview Gyl, we can focus so much on what may or may not be asked we forget about ourselves in the process and the worry. By looking after yourself and not allowing your anxiousness levels to escalate meant you could simply be yourself and then of course they offered you the job!
This is such a brilliant sharing Gyl! How many of us feel stress, panic and not feeling good enough when interviews come to play. To turn the experience on its head in the way that you have is revolutionary for our times. We can learn much from your experience. Thanks for sharing!
Another fantastic blog Gyl thank you. Everything shared here about preparing for interviews are droplets of Gold that can be equally applied to many other life events including preparation for everyday life itself. The application to everyday life really counts as in any moment we can be presented with so many opportunities to grow. How amazing to not let these moments pass and rather to be living in a way so these moments are unhindered, welcomed and cherished.
Beautiful Gyl, thank you. I have had several job interviews lately and I have not prepared at all. I just showed up and I have had the most wonderful interviews with so much openness, fun, honesty and also intimacy. Like you, I was not invested in needing the job and the interviews felt like have a beautiful chat with a dear friend.
Wow Gyl, I loved reading this, i can feel what amazing preparation this was and it makes complete sense to support yourself in this way, ‘True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.’ It is so common to be in self doubt, anxiousness and drive and ‘trying’ to get it right and say the right thing with interviews that it is really lovely to read how there is another much more true and honouring way.
I am very inspired Gyl to bring the fullness of me to my next interview, choosing presence to avoid anxiety or stress, allowing myself to feel if the job really is for me or that I should graceful look for another job, the ‘right’ one for me, and trust that it will come.
Gyl for years I presented courses on ‘Interview Skills Preparation’ that focussed on knowing self, skills, practicalities as well as preparation. You have turned this upside down by showing that true preparation is something much deeper: gentle, loving attention paid to every aspect of life in the days before the interview. Many people a consumed with anxiety and tension before interviews, and in a headlong spin, will be inspired to find that there is another way.
Thank you Gyl, this is beautiful. In this case it is you preparing for an interview but what you write about, bringing all of you, caring and nurturing yourself deeply, no attachment to outcome, letting go of expectations and living with full awareness, can be applied to every day, every detail of our lives.
A loving sharing Gyl, What youve offered here is that preparation is everything and if we prepared everyday in the way that you did for your interview, what a difference it would make to how we experience life. It is also about you holding your distinct sense of self, choosing your way and not following the norm.
It’s a great place to be when we trust in ourselves and know that we already are enough and have the confidence in ourself in any given situation.
Such wonderfully supportive tips to inspire anyone attending a job interview and for that matter everyday life itself. Thank you Gyl.
“True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice”. The beautiful part to this is that it applies to preparing for everything in life. Meaning if we live our lives like this then we will be prepared for anything that comes to us.
Gyl, a very supportive piece, highlighting the importance of presence in each and every moment.
When you write “With this I allowed no space for self-doubt, anxiety or stress. If any of these did try to sneak in, I would stop, say no, and make a more loving choice, which allowed no room for these self–doubting thoughts.” I can really see and feel how easy this would be to allow these thoughts in. How unsettling and disturbing for oneself and such a distraction from the simple and all important job of presenting oneself in one’s glory at all moments. Good job!
Thank you Gyl, yes the ‘normal’ way of preparing is on its head. Stress and anxiety actually doesn’t allow me to be clearly responsive to anything presented to me… Let alone learn things for exams, tests, etc. Thank you for sharing a completely different way which is fulfilling on a daily basis and not placing events as the epitome of our lives, with complete ups and downs.
In reading this preparation for an interview I felt it was an excellent recipe for preparing for every day. In being beautifully prepared the focus was not on getting the job because of all the stress and effort that had been invested but left you clear to feel whether the job offered was right for you.
So much effort goes into getting a job, preparing ourselves to be able to appear and sound good enough for the job – this often sets us up for a work situation we would later find not enjoyable because we are already molding ourselves into a confined box and faking it to look like we are the perfect candidate, and our true self is somewhat compromised in its process. And if this how a person gets into a job, and how an organisation is formed, and if we think that is a normal accepted way for a person to be actively participating in society – that just explains why so many of us are so exhausted.
Well, if I ever have to go for an interview I’l know exactly how to prepare, what you have done here is amazing and if there was a perfect way to prepare for an interview this would be it. It really is a blue print for not only preparing for an interview but life itself.
Thank you Gyl, when reading your experience I felt it in slow motion – the level of care and attention was masterful and allowed you to truly feel what was occurring and what was needed for you to BE who YOU are. I loved it!
There is a brilliance in how we can prepare for such a thing as a job interview or any daily jobs without getting caught into thought processes and complications. I am learning how much I can just focus on completing the tasks I need to do each day without procrastinating and making it difficult or stressful through that delay. When this is done it opens up space and makes each day much more fulfilling and easy to live.
Thank you Gyl. What a blog. “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” It is amazing what you have shown, how commitment to ourselves in each moment builds for the next, not something we just turn on for an interview or other event.
Beautiful Gyl, what a complete transformation of what is usually such a harrowing experience. I love your last sentence “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” This is a true gift and should be taught to all school and university leavers, because it not only applies to getting a job, but delivering the job too and hence to all aspects of our lives.
I just love what you share here, Gyl. I feel a great sense of trust and surrender in the way you have chosen ‘another way’ and it is very inspiring how you have consciously and lovingly applied it in every practical aspect of how you went through this job interview process – and it is that ‘you’ took to the interview. It’s a stark contrast to the way the majority go along with in their job hunting process which involves lots of stress, angst and emotional turbulence – and this is the very basis of the typical relationship we would have with work.
“True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside”
This sentence says it all Gyl, so beautiful, thank you.
This provides a very loving model for people when preparing for interviews.
Knowing that there is so much more to going to an interview, which is just this example, because you can extrapolate that out to everything we do. That it is in the finer details, how you walk, put yourself to bed, eat you dinner or breakfast. It is just taking the time to stop and take notice of these things. It can really be life changing if you do.
Gyl, what a great blog, I very much enjoyed reading of your dedication to yourself in how you prepared yourself in the week prior to your interview and the wise choices you made moment to moment instead of being seduced into leaving yourself in one form or another. Also the way that this flowed into you being able to let the job offer go when you realised it wasn’t the job for you with no attachment. The interview, which could have been an anxiety-inducing event instead woven into the tapestry of your day to day living and choosing to live with self-honouring and conscious presence. Brilliant.
This is awesome Gyl, and an absolute joy to read each word.
‘Not getting involved in conversations or discussions that I knew were there to try and make me doubt myself and my choices.’ Gyl, what a wonderful choice you made here. I can very much relate to the de-railing quality such conversations can have. Choosing not to get involved with them is wise, loving and super-suppotive.
And isn’t it interesting how often we know exactly how a conversation is going to go, whether it be one that is evolving and inspiring or one that is destructive and compromising…we sense this is not the person to talk to right now, but talk we do if we don’t pay attention to the subtle signs.
I know that I have played “pick-up-sticks” with my life and my confidence all too often, engaging in idle talk with people who like to tear things down. The result has been a degree of damage to my confidence, and the door is opened to self doubt, that I then need to fix. we are so responsible, not for what others say, but for the conversations we participate in, and the way we let them affect us.
I’ve also experienced, and I will confess been a part of, conversations like this that take place on a habitual basis rather than as one-off or infrequent discussions. That becomes horribly destructive and abusive for all. As you say Dr Rachel Mascord it’s all about responsibility.
Yes I can relate to the ‘de-railing quality’ of such conversations and how in the past I have allowed myself to get sucked in and then been plagued with self-doubt. Choosing to support yourself in every moment builds a foundation which gives you the space to make the next self-loving choice and not go there.
Hi Victoria, thank you, I realised as I read this back, that these conversations can also be the ones we have with ourselves, which at times can be far more destructive and harmful, such as critical, indecisive or self doubting thoughts. Very wise to say no to these too, and know them not to be you. We are not our thoughts.
Yes, that’s super-true as well. And they’re the conversations that are far more insidious as they’ve usually been long-running ones that we’ve become so used to we don’t even realise they’re there or, if we do, we don’t pay much attention to their content or what they’re actually doing to us.
Gyl, this is a stunning piece, it feels as absolutely rock solid, as do you. Thank you for sharing with such precision.
Awesome Gyl! I have always enjoyed going to job interviews, and I have had an awareness that study and stress are not necessary, however, I can now feel that Loving preparation is important! And that this is so for all aspects of our lives, not just job interviews!
Good point pernillahorne, loving preparation can be applied to many aspects of life, not just job interviews. It can become a way of living life.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this Gyl, knowing what to do from your body rather than getting caught up in your mind and anxiousness. A wonderful blog for recruitment services to share with all interviewee’s in order to be prepared in themselves, for interviews.
Great suggestion Jeanette!
Or even in schools Jeanette with students sitting their exams.
Yes what an amazing support that would be for students.
Great idea Jeanette. When you receive the interview confirmation details and interview tips from recruitment agencies, this would well serve to be included. The energy that we can go into when we are about to be interviewed is terrible and it is worth being presented that there is another way to be, that doesn’t rely on the need to be liked, accepted, recognised or chosen as the winning candidate!
True Jeanette, preparing for job interviews can be harrowing but doesn’t need to be if we follow the simple steps that Gyl has laid out here.
And how wonderful would it be to receive people for an interview who were prepared in this way. It’s very hard to watch, I would imagine, people who are intelligent who collapse with nerves at an interview. Interviews are such unusual experiences anyway that don’t necessarily support anyone and are not necessarily processes that are enjoyed. What Gyl has shared has offered something unique and could turn what is often seen as highly stressful and very competitive, into something that is just an ordinary part of the day, where we enjoy who we are.
I agree Jeanette. This needs a title well deserved in a Guide for recruiting. LinkedIn is a great place for it too.
Great sharing. An extremely different approach that seems to free your body up just reading it. Thank you
Yes I agree Sarahraynebaldwin. I felt my body expand as I read the way Gyl so lovingly supported herself all along the way. Inspirational. 🙂
Gyl what you offer here is pure gold. I recall approaching an interview in the ‘old way’, with the result that I was so focussed on meeting the criteria that there was no ‘me’ offered to the interview panel. This fact was given to me as feedback as to why I didn’t get the job. The next interview I was just me, and took care of myself rather than stressing to impress, with a positive result. This level of trust cannot be switched on for the occasion, it needs to be consistently lived I now realise.
Gyl, thank you for this insightful blog. I loved especially your list of examples of how you chose to be present in your body -they are very real. I am anticipating some job interviews ahead for myself soon and I will read and re-read your blog so I can prepare as lovingly as you have.
I loved these simple examples too Anne Scott. These are the things we always do each day, and funnily enough are the ones we can more check out on too. Something to make note of here. It’s all about having more awareness anyhow. If you have purpose to these actions, as above, then your body will show you the way through that constant choice to follow your purpose.
Thanks Gyl, it is truly about awareness in each moment.
I can’t tell you how relevant this is for me right now. To honour my body and make decisions from it rather than from my mind is something I am bringing more attention to.
Me too. The belief that thinking our way through things is the answer is becoming more and more redundant. When I know something, I feel it in my body, not as a product of my mind. The feeling is quite different. What comes from the mind I can now feel as shallow and hollow; what comes from the body I feel as solid and profound. I can feel a warmth in my body that goes with what I know from it.
Gyl this is a beautiful blog. “True preparation comes from a commitment to be present, aware, loving and steady with ourselves and our bodies in every moment and with every choice, and most of all, from trusting what we feel inside.” This is true inspiration for me. I well remember my last interview and the stress it put me under. I did get the job but I was exhausted for some time afterwards having gone through the ‘normal’ preparation. Being shown that there is indeed a very different way to prepare and live is invaluable. Thank you for your story.
Wouldn’t life be amazing if we all lived every day of our lives in the way you lived while preparing for your interview.
Yes it would. I’m going to start by applying what has been shared here to my life.
I agree. Reading this blog I could feel this is just for a big event such as an interview but for every day. when we honour our bodies in full without compromise the way that Gyl has shared here, the foundation that holds us every day is unwavering.
So with you Margaret. I was reading and saying this is such an amazing thing to do…but what if….what if ??? we lived like this every single day of our lives. No one day singled out for ‘special’ attention, but every day absolutely special in the care and attention we bring it? What would happen to the anxiety levels that so many of us experience then?
I totally agree, Margaret. I loved reading the detail in your preparation Gyl, and I couldn’t help feeling, what is holding me back from living each and every day like this? Don’t I deserve the care and consideration you so beautifully describe?
Margaret when I read your comment about how it would be if we all lived like Gyl constantly, I got a flash of the chaos, turmoil and pain that life is for so many and understood that all of this comes from the disconnection from ourselves. Our harmonious connection to our self brings a harmonious relationship with life. A disconnected, fragmented, torturous connection to self will bring the same relationship with life.
Yes exactly Margaret… this is a recipe for how to live life every day!
Spot on Margaret, I whole-heartedly agree. We often take special care and attention to the way we are living to prepare for a special event but what if we lived each day as though it were special and took extra care and attention as part of our every-day rhythm?
completely agree. It is lovely to use an interview or other event to bring this into focus, however, once feeling the difference that this can bring, expanding this to be our everyday, even when there is not a big event would be an amazing way to live.
Absolutely Margaret.
I will be using this blog as a reminder to not override or dismiss the small details as much as I can, and develop more and more this way of living. With Serge Benhayon as the living example of this I can see how it is not only possible but indeed is the way.
What a contrast.
Preparing the body for what is required of it, and attending to the details as needed. Trusting that in this, what eventuates will be true and all will be taken care of.
vs
Preparing to prove oneself, to compete using information and talent. Cramming an arsenal to use, with scant regard to the fact that the body lives the sum of every moment.
One demonstrating that we are indeed part of a grand plan and need only accept the responsibility to play our part, and the other showing that if we choose individuality we will strive endlessly to create individually that which already is.
‘We are indeed part of a grand plan and need only to accept the responsibility to play our part’. Such wisdom Helen, that when we let all those other needs go and embrace this one, by as Gyl describes in her insightful blog, paying attention to, and being present in, every detail of how we live our life, everything that is meant to happen as part of that grand plan, will happen.
This is great Helen as it really is about getting the awareness out there. An interview is an equal partnership with both parties and I agree with what you say… as long as the candidate is being herself everything will be taken care of.
Great comment Helen – the angst and constant drive we can carry within us is replaced by a simpler approach when we take responsibility for our part in it, and it is this that opens us up to the bigger picture.
Correct, when we think about getting a job we see that job as just the job. But with what Gyl is presenting is that we have to prepare our body for the whole thing not just the intellect of the situation.
Yes, our confidence comes from our body – it is not an idea in our head. That ‘idea in our head’ confidence is brittle while confidence from the body is very real, something we don’t need to project as everyone around us can feel it.
What a great concept to play with the difference types of confidence and asking what will give us solid foundations.
Yes Helen it is an absolutely stark contrast, and it can be applied to every aspect of our everyday lives. We can always do more to bring quality and presence into our lives.
Wow Helen well said. Grand Plan verses Individuality. We always have a choice.
I love this Helen. This is the approach and philosophy to apply to all of life. We can let ourselves be caught and spiral down a path of struggle and strife with rewards here and there as we seek to chase and make it all about self, or we can accept that we are part of something so much bigger and that whatever it is we choose has an impact on everyone. We can choose to play tiny-tim or huge.
I don’t want to play tiny-tim, that’s for sure. Especially not now I’ve got a real sense of who I truly am – such a struggle to contain everything that can flow through me.. Playing it BIG is the only way – that’s what we’re built for – and then even the smallest of actions have huge importance. No unimportant moments – just as Gyl has shown us.
Awesome Katerina, at what stage do you know your playing it big?
A: When you are not making your thoughts and actions about self. When there is not investment in an outcome. You choose to act on things knowing this is for another. Care, attention, understanding and precision is followed knowing its about everyone not just me.
so true Helen. We live in our bodies every single moment of every single day. What Gyl has offered is a way of supporting ourselves by supporting our bodies…the details will be taken care of in this.
Awesome Helen,
Very clearly laid out like this its amazing the the majority of us choose
“Preparing to prove oneself, to compete using information and talent.”
In my opinion this is where energy comes so obviously into play.
What ever energy we are choosing before a given event e.g:anxiety, stress to fuel or connection and love to propel, determines the next choice, like a domino effect. We think we are making “individual choices” but we are constantly making one choice, through movement and in action to either be with nature and connection or against it.
Helen, yes it really speaks of the way to live, to take that care, and to know that we are part of something greater and our part is to be all we are and lovingly be with our bodies, in support of that greater plan.
In the past I used to lump stress and anxiety into one big basket and feel overwhelmed by it. By stopping and paying attention to the details it is a lot easier to see what the root cause is, I deal with it rather than letting it snowball into something that feels like it runs me.
I can relate to that, and there is something in me still that has that tendency. I learnt a lot of bad habits in my early days as a chef, an occupation entirely unsuited to me in it’s physical demands. I made stress my ‘normal’ and working and living in a stressed manner has been a super-hard momentum to break. Gyl’s article has been important to read as she has carefully stepped out for us, calmly and assuredly, a process and a way of being that is in many regards still foreign to me – in that I am not yet consistent with it, so used to running on adrenalin I am. This is one for me to read and re-read so I get to feel in my body a new way of being.
I agree nicolesjardin, the magic of God is in the details, “take care of the little things and the big things look after themselves”.
Me too nicolesjardin! In fact, looking back, I thrived on stress, drama and overwhelm and seemed to be constantly in it! The more I have begun to take responsibility for my choices and the more care I develop for myself, the less stressed and anxious I have become, and much more able to handle whatever comes to me in life. I suggest that the answer to the question “Preparing For an Interview – Is There Another Way?”, the answer is a resounding YES! And in fact, it’s not only preparing for an interview… there ‘is’ another way to prepare and ‘be’… fullstop!
Yes Angela I agree with you and totally relate. I could feel some of the old stress and drama creep back in lately and it felt so foreign to be pushed by such a strong outside force, absolutely exhausting.
I used to just let things be ignored and they would snowball into this huge weight I carried around through everything I had to do. Pretty silly really – I love what you are saying here Nicole.
Nicole, such a wonderful point, address each detail as you go and not let it become overwhelm or something that runs us. This really turns overwhelm around for me as I can see that it’s something I’ve allowed to run me, and that it’s an accumulation of choices I’ve made where I’ve not taken attended to those details – it brings it into a whole different light. And like Gyl shares here in this blog, it’s those moment by moment preparations we take every day which is how we truly prepare for anything. Such a different way to approach interviews or life – detail and quality in each moment.